Especially at that age (around 25 and up) there's nothing wrong with it being a deal breaker as long as the other person is upfront about it and isn't trying to date you to only dump you a few weeks or months later because you don't want to sleep with them. To me it's like a preference like for example height, age, single parent's, hair color, tax bracket and education. I would rather date somebody who knows what they want or at least know what they don't want and are honest about it.
I'm a virgin and the problem is the judgment of others who make you look like an alien for not having sex yet, regardless of how old you are. The problem will always be others and their judgments!
Dont let anyone push you or shame you into doing something you are not ready to do. All that happens when you decide to be sexually active before your time is, you gather a lot of emotional baggage and trauma.
Non virgins are not achieving anything extra ordinary as well, so when they see virgins, they take out their frustration and stress by belittling virgins.
I think that after so many disappointments in love, they want to make you frustrated like them. I don't know if you can call it envy, but if it weren't why would they be so bothered by what you do?
@@freelikeyve what does education have to do with this? There is more than 1 way of being smart... doesn't really have to do with school, or being book-smart.
My baby daughter is 27 she to use a virgin. She has been dating a yg guy her age (long distance) he lives in Cali and we live in Toronto Canada 🇨🇦 this is her 1st boyfriend. I’m proud of her . Her sister is 31 and she is getting married this year . She isn’t a virgin . I say to each their own . I’m it a grandmother yet . So many yg Girls Are too Sexual at such a yg age . Best wishes to this yg lady . God bless ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
She just doesnt want to get her cherry popped. Good for her. She really does value herself, esp when you think there are btches who are sleeping around just for fun.
Why is okay for a male to NOT be a virgin but when a female *also isn't* a virgin, its a deal-breaker? 🤔 If a female NOT being a virgin is a deal-breaker, so is a male NOT being one either!
im 25 and a virgin too, and its normal and nothing wrong about being a virgin! Nothing will change when u "lose" it (you dont lose anything, its a myth) , it just means you have not had penetrative sex yet.
True, and also i found sex was much more interesting to me and made me flush and get butterfly's before actually doing it! When I finally did it was lame, not what I expected at all .. and over the years I've only had a few boyfriends but it's super rare to actually have sex that feels good .. so many times I did it just to shut the guy up but totally not enjoying it, so being virginal is a gift. You do lose something, the mystique!
It is beyond that. your husband will feel proud of you for sure. do not lose it, even when you feel desperate to have s*x. men are desperate to have a pure virgin wife.
When she excused herself and said, "Honestly, he's a bit dull," I was 💯 girl! She's amazing, no need to worry about her virginity, she's got her priorities straight.
If it's because of your values and self control (vs because you tried and tried but couldn't get anyone to want to with you) then I clap for your ability to stay true to values and principles (even when you could have)
This is so admirable. You are a goddess and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You stick to your morals and values, don't let society dictate your body or life
Soon she will neither have a child, nor a husband, and still be a bloody virgin! By age 40, if a woman is healthy, she only has a 5% chance of getting pregnant per menstrual cycle. At the same time, the likelihood of miscarriage climbs with that age. A typical 40-year-old woman about a 40% chance of losing the pregnancy. .......In other words, saving your virginity till 36 is medically A STUPID CHOICE. I think she is leaning on that virginity crap because she has issues that no man wants to deal with.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 36. I’m still a virgin and I’m 31. I’m waiting for the right person. And if I never find the right person, then I’ll be a virgin for life. My faith is very important to me and I will cherish it.
No her behaviour shows she has ridiculous standards and explains why she’s failed to have any previous intimacy. She will end up a lonely old spinster.
@@Mnaoke because these days if a man doesn’t give her instant tingles as she’s told by Hollywood romcoms than he’s an immediate right off. The days of getting to know someone properly are long past. Her fickle attitude also explains why she’s still single.
Actually i really liked him . He's so interesting looking , charming , elegant ,very open minded , very relaxed and sure of himself . These are excellent qualities in a human being. She's beautiful ,sparkling , very attached to her culture . Maybe an indian guy would work better for her . Ciao from italy
Yeah he wasn’t as outgoing as she wanted him to be, but to me personally idk I’m kinda introverted that way at first so to me he came off the same way you described. It was obvious that he wanted more of her to me, the way he looked at her 🍆😂 he gave off those quiet but would give great sex vibes!
Being a virgin is no big deal AT ALL. I’m 35 and still a virgin who never even kissed a woman. I suffer from mild autism so my social skills aren’t the greatest and I tend to stutter when very nervous and struggle with eye contact. If I found a woman who genuinely loved me for me and would look past my autism I’d marry her in a heartbeat but I feel they’re super rare to find.
I believe you will find that person. I am on the spectrum and it took a while to find someone who I could take my mask down with. He often feels the same in society. So both of us being neurodivergent helps. Your person is out there ❤
Good luck bro. I hope you can marry and maybe have kids if you want. Charisma and social skills are almost everything these days. Gets you love, job, friends and what not.
My advice to you is to maximize yourself in all of the ways that you can control. You can't stop yourself from having autism but you can go to the gym and get in amazing shape for example. Work on your style of dress. Work on improving your financial situation in any way you can. Focus on self improvement in anyway you can. Create a life for yourself that the woman you want would want to be part of. This will give you more confidence and help you overcome some of your limitations. Good luck my friend. You can do it.
Huge positive? Come on. Calling it a huge positive reeks of "our females must be kept pure, their bodies are a sacred temple for only me to enjoy". How about.. "it just is?". It's information. It probably wouldn't be an issue for most guys if they're looking for a life-long commitment.
Carlos was dry and a bit boring maybe, but he was actually very sweet and compassionate seeming. He handled Sonali sharing some deep personal/childhood topics pretty well i thought- yes, maybe a bit shocked but he quickly recovered with little chance of making her feel shameful (which she or anyone else should never anyway). Ibhope the best for Sonali qon finding her partner!
She shouldn't even be discussing this on a first date. You shouldn't even know if you want to keep seeing someone on the first few dates. She's putting way too much emphasis on this. Of course she has to worry about those things. One out of five women is assaulted. She says arranged marriages are old fashioned, yet she's a 36 year old virgin. She's rude about this guy. He's clearly anxious.
I agree. I found her rude and judgmental. I'm just like the guy in this video. My emotions are a bit stunted because of autism but I haven't had a particularly boring life but she can't see past the small imperfections and would reject someone like me along with everyone else she ever met clearly. On the polar opposite end of the spectrum, I've had women who have accepted me for who I am and we're happy having a one nighter with me. It's obvious who is more accepting. This woman wants it all which is why she's in a situation where she's a single 36 year old virgin with infertility breathing down her neck and a very significant possibility she'll die childless and alone. She says she won't give her body away to anyone but in reality "anyone" is probably a perfectly decent and respectful man. She just doesn't understand the birds and the bees at all.
@@JustSmileAndWave2023 Yea I’m going on 30 in a few weeks people are either in shock or think im lying when I tell them. So said that they put sex as some big priority. There is more to relationships then sex or “there must be something wrong with you are still a virgin” such a shame what society has turned into.
We didn’t wait until marriage, but my first physical intimacy I had was with my now husband! At that point I was sure that we would end up together, and I felt comfortable to try anything with him. I was 32 :)))
I would think it's not having sex before marriage that is the dealbreaker, not her virginity itself. People who want physical intimacy to be a large component of their romantic relationships probably do not want to abstain for so long or to risk physical incompatibility when the time finally does come. But that is just one group of people-- there are many others who will see virtue in her situation and admire her resolve :)
The real reason? Her age. If she were 22-26, she would've been perfect. But now at this point, she's gotta be open to having sex- not for the sake of having it, but when she vibes and gets along with a guy. Otherwise, she'll be a virgin for life.
He did look very stiff and very guarded. I wouldn’t have gone for him either. Hope she finds the right guy because unfortunately time is passing by. I am 43 with no kids so I know what I am saying. I too don’t know how to date at my age.
Good for her. Its her body and it’s her decision and her decision only to decide who she shares her body with. I too, lost my virginity later than most people. It was a choice. And I absolutely have no regrets. People put too much emphasis on silly things like virginity anyways. Lose it when you feel it’s the right time.
No, loss it when you're married and with your life time partner not with someone who don't value you. Saving one self before marriage should be encouraged these days.
I don't get it sometimes. Some men have a problem with women having a high body count, but virgins are seen as weirdos too. Not everyone can get the same number of times/partners to have sex, it depends how much you want it. Anyway, I'm still part of the virgin club like her. I honestly had to lie about not being a virgin to female acquaintances because nowadays women are more promiscuous and pick on you when you're the "innocent" chic in the group, I'm just trying to prevent getting bullied cause I'm tired of that. Only my closest friends and family members know my secret. They compare me to a "pure unicorn" in a society full of horses. If women are picked on for not having enough sexual experience early, then I'm well aware how men have it worse since the pressure on them is heavier, that's why I try not to judge anyone on their experiences. The struggle is real when you dont live up to the modern, oversexualized Western world. We simply live by our own rules.
Let dumb opinions of other people roll off, and don't change something good about your values because people with less self control pick on you or are jealous
Aroace or asexuals am I a joke to you. (I know not all of them are virgins I'm aroace 22 almost 23 and I'm still a virgin so yeah ) but there's nothing wrong staying a virgin it's fine and I do highly agree with her no stds, hiv, unwanted pregnancies and no regrets.
There are many people over 30 in the world who did not experienced sex life and contrary to some opinions they didnt go mad instead they are healthy and happy and full of life like she is
Really good. Congratulations on keeping yourself pure. That's a tough thing to keep considering how western society pushes you to experience sex at an early age.
You know I wish we knew her date's thoughts? Was being a virgin a deal breaker for him? Would he have seen her again? I'd be curious! She was very quick about whether or not she'd want to see him again.
Speak fo yourself, nyuggah. Ain't nothin better than sploogin all over dem sweet walls and lettin it marinate🤤🤤🤤You probably just ain't had you some good good...blow yo back out, make it talk differently😏. Hit me up, I'm a real nyuggah, young bull ya feel me? I'll show you how to do what it do
I am 36 and virgin and have never even been on a date, nor kissed a guy, never been in a relationship. I guess this makes me a total failure 🤷 and yes I am Indian 🇮🇳 and proud of my culture and values 😎
He seemed like a nice guy but quite wooden compared to Sonali. If you’re waiting for marriage that definitely shouldn’t be a negative thing, be proud of your choice and the right guy will respect that.
She is so freaking cute!!! I am so surprised that she isn't married already! What's wrong with these guys?! Also side note, that guy seemed cool...for some one out there. He needs to loosen up a little. He wants someone with a sense of humor, but he made that very hard for her to even show that side of her.
@@notmyrealname4978 it sounds creepy because you're young, naive and immature. When you grow up, you'll realize real men, strong men of character and value prefer modesty and chastity in their women. There's nothing wrong or creepy about that. It's been like that since the dawn of time, and it'll continue to always be like that. Just because we live in a day and age where people sleep around and hookup culture is at an all time high, it doesn't negate what men will always prefer.
@@anklebreaka03 what she called creepy was your backhanded compliment. You said her being a virgin makes up for the fact she's old. So I guess you should have explained how men of high value prefer young woman
I've only had sex about four times in my life and I'm 37 now and it's been maybe three and a half years since I last had sex with a girl and sex is the last thing on my mind! I don't need sex to be happy
Virgin here at almost 30. I can fully understand how she feels when it comes to dating. People would quickly toss me to the side or would try and debate that they could make me lose my v card to them, which I had to walk away from anyone who felt that way. Thankfully I’m currently in a relationship that’s been going for a year and a half now and I’m hoping my partner can hold his word that he said he can wait until marriage and respect my choice. I hope anyone who is in the same situation never loses hope or gives in to the pressure of society that thinks sex before marriage is the only way to find love and happiness.
Soulmates don’t exist and her inability to compromise is apparent. I’m not saying she should give it up for any guy, I’m saying that she hasn’t found anyone because she wants someone who if *perfect* and they don’t exist.
I don't think she's looking for the perfect guy.As she said, she hasn't had much experience with men.This is her first date.She probably liked some people but as an Indian and woman couldn't approach them.This is the beginning of her dating journey so we can't say she's being choosy.
You're 100 percent correct. You're one of the few people in the comments who actually paid attention to her personality rather than being blinded by the fairytale virgin story. I believe she's like Lolo Jones in that being a virgin has become part of her identity. In order to maintain that there will ALWAYS be a reason why every guy is not good enough.
Sex isnt something that just happens. It is a very intimate thing. You literally show and share your whole body with another person. If someone isnt right for you or if you dont feel like it or dont want to do it. If you arent comfortable, dont do it. Save yourself for better experience. You dont want your first time to be bad.
Damn ! Some of you in the comments didn't grow up with immigrant /Uber strict religious parents who forced you to go to medical school / law school but didn't let you live on campus and it shows ! I'm joking 😂 but in all seriousness , I'm a little younger then Sonali but in university I knew plenty of people who were still virgins based on what I said above , they were lots of different cultures too, European , American , east Asian , African , Indian etc It's not like they couldn't , they just put cultural beliefs and school first . There are alot more people like Sonali out there ! I appreciate her for sticking to her values
Carlos seems like he needs time to warm up….a bit reserved but I bet after you get to know him his vulnerable side will come out and I bet he is a blast…..
WOW!!! NO STDs and/or unexpected children from previous relationships. NO Divorce Courts; NO Child Custody Hearings; NO Alimony; NO BANKRUPTCY!!!! COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!!! Some people just DO NOT REALIZE how Fortunate And Blessed that they are. I AM OVER 55 YEARS OLD AND STILL A VIRGIN!!! I AM EXTREMELY EXTREMELY BLESSED!!! I CAN SLEEP WELL AT NIGHT!!!!
She is proud of her virginity but the fact is it not a big deal. Even if she were to save herself until after marriage, there is no guarantee the marriage will be a happy one or last a long time or she won't catch an uti. She is looking for a wild, fun guy but those tend to not put up with prudeness. It didn't matter he was smart and nice. She chooses this conflict. So it is not her parents fault she is still single. Not many sane, good guys are going to wait until after marriage to find out if she is at least ok in bed. The stakes are just too high. People go out and experience doing a lot of things together, including sex, before commitment. Having a complete picture is what makes people decide to get married! One doesn't buy a house before walking into every room, or buy a car without driving it, or go to a college without a campus visit. Responsible, mature people just don't blindly commit to important stuff. I wouldn't recommend bringing up being a virgin on a first date and asking for a judgement. Every guy will say that is cool to be nice. One is there to have fun and get to know each other's personalities. If there is chemistry, then bring it up if some physical attraction develops. Bringing that topic up unnecessarily risks turning the date into a guy having a conversation with a nun. Or bring it up prior to the date. Guys could then decide if it is worth their time to meet her. She has done ok in life so far. She might be happier staying single. One hope would be to find a rich, nice, widowed husband.
I didn't care for his comment that it's ok because it's what she is at no fault of her own 😮 like being a Virgin is a bad thing.. She's amazing and I truly wish I would of waited for marriage 😊❤
It's really creepy all the comments on a Virgin woman being a plus or a turn on or more respect given etc. Gross and outdated ideology. Same respect should be given to all people despite their sexual experience or lack of. To all the men that think it's hot or a turn on, you are making a human being into a fetish. I respect this woman for her virginity at 36 as much as I'd respect a woman that's had 36 partners. Everyone is an individual so let's start caring more for a person's heart and mind than their sexual experience level, sexual preferences etc.
@@laurentickner3471 I respect your opinion. Out of genuine curiosity, can you tell me why you don't find it acceptable? Is it because of religion reasons? Is it because you think they run a higher risk of stds, thinking it's unprotected? I'm not FOR promiscuity and am not promiscuous myself although I'm also no virgin. I am interested in your viewpoint on this. For me personally, I don't care about someone's experience or lack of. If they are being safe, if they aren't doing it because of low self image or pressure, then why does it matter? Maybe you'll enlighten me me and I'm open minded and don't say that snarkily or sarcastically.
@@tarab7773 It clearly principle and self respect for ones self as a woman. It doesn't matter how it's happening or who it's with it wrong having sex with multiple partners is gross. No woman and I mean no woman deep down is happy sleeping around with different men. It lowers her chances of pair bonding, it lowers her happiness in marriage tend leads to a higher chance of divorce because she definitely going to rate all experience. No woman will be okay if she heard her man used to suck other guys dicks and he's now a change man(Straight). That gross feeling she feels hearing that, that's the feeling men feels knowing a woman has been with lot of guys it gross and disgusting.
The fact that people think this is the real reason she's not married etc by now is absolutely hilarious. There's obviously a multitude of other red flags there that people can't be bothered with/ back off from
That's actually a blessing. Everybody glorifying hookup culture, but the majority of people they lay down with don't give one flying F about them. All they got was a soul tie and new bacteria. I wish I could get my virginity back. Casual sex is overrated.
@@gurpreetbhamra9752 If Im off base here then I definitely dont. Ive had a lot of indian friends and never encountered one who had the same views on dating as this girl.
Being a virgin is not weird. I think she will be disappointed when it comes to finding a soul mate. Soul mate only exists in movies, poetry, books and music.
If being a virgin is a dealbreaker, then, this society definitely has failed and we, as humans, seriously have regressed.
It's not like sex is quantum physics, it literally has to be one of the easiest things conceivable.
But low intellect "people" gonna low intellect.
Some people on this Earth just doesn't wanna be a players?!...😤🙄😒
Especially at that age (around 25 and up) there's nothing wrong with it being a deal breaker as long as the other person is upfront about it and isn't trying to date you to only dump you a few weeks or months later because you don't want to sleep with them.
To me it's like a preference like for example height, age, single parent's, hair color, tax bracket and education.
I would rather date somebody who knows what they want or at least know what they don't want and are honest about it.
It's a huge redflag after 28 and even weirder in 30s
@@alexies9785 Why?
I'm a virgin and the problem is the judgment of others who make you look like an alien for not having sex yet, regardless of how old you are. The problem will always be others and their judgments!
Dont let anyone push you or shame you into doing something you are not ready to do. All that happens when you decide to be sexually active before your time is, you gather a lot of emotional baggage and trauma.
Right. The virgin shaming is real
Non virgins are not achieving anything extra ordinary as well, so when they see virgins, they take out their frustration and stress by belittling virgins.
Sex is overrated
I think that after so many disappointments in love, they want to make you frustrated like them. I don't know if you can call it envy, but if it weren't why would they be so bothered by what you do?
I didn’t wait until marriage, but I’m her age and when she said “I don’t know how to date” I absolutely felt that.
She’s gorgeous and smart. Good for her. I admire that she has ideals & principles & sticks to them.
I didn’t know having sex meant abandoning your education and values at age 36 😂
@@freelikeyve what does education have to do with this? There is more than 1 way of being smart... doesn't really have to do with school, or being book-smart.
@@freelikeyve
Can you point out where she specifically said she "abandoned" her education and values at 36? 🤔
My baby daughter is 27 she to use a virgin. She has been dating a yg guy her age (long distance) he lives in Cali and we live in Toronto Canada 🇨🇦 this is her 1st boyfriend. I’m proud of her . Her sister is 31 and she is getting married this year . She isn’t a virgin . I say to each their own . I’m it a grandmother yet . So many yg Girls Are too Sexual at such a yg age . Best wishes to this yg lady . God bless ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦
She just doesnt want to get her cherry popped. Good for her. She really does value herself, esp when you think there are btches who are sleeping around just for fun.
There was a time when a woman NOT being a virgin was a dealbreaker. What happened? Frankly either situation being a dealbreaker is ridiculous.
Feminism and the sexual revolution happened.
that's society in a nutshell just like beauty standards there's no in-between it's always back and forth
Men want to have səx with women. 🤷🏽♀️
@@geekyotaku8251 Yep, though it’s rather odd cuz more people are in the in-between than not.
Why is okay for a male to NOT be a virgin but when a female *also isn't* a virgin, its a deal-breaker? 🤔
If a female NOT being a virgin is a deal-breaker, so is a male NOT being one either!
"I'm the kind of girl who needs a ring to go all the way." He's thinking "I'm outta here."
But I admire her honesty and being true to herself.
I appreciate she's upfront too, that is so refreshing.
im 25 and a virgin too, and its normal and nothing wrong about being a virgin! Nothing will change when u "lose" it (you dont lose anything, its a myth) , it just means you have not had penetrative sex yet.
True, and also i found sex was much more interesting to me and made me flush and get butterfly's before actually doing it! When I finally did it was lame, not what I expected at all .. and over the years I've only had a few boyfriends but it's super rare to actually have sex that feels good .. so many times I did it just to shut the guy up but totally not enjoying it, so being virginal is a gift. You do lose something, the mystique!
Sex is extremely important,it's not just penetration,two become one
Be proud of yourself. There are people like me that admire virgin girls/ladies. Stay like that and share yourself with your future husband.
It’s because you stank! 😂😂😂
It is beyond that. your husband will feel proud of you for sure. do not lose it, even when you feel desperate to have s*x. men are desperate to have a pure virgin wife.
I am 29 and I am still virgin. I think it can be a positive thing. I hope Sonali finds love soon.
When she excused herself and said, "Honestly, he's a bit dull," I was 💯 girl!
She's amazing, no need to worry about her virginity, she's got her priorities straight.
He's so whack 😂😂
Yeah. It's like talking to a wall. Smh
Go queen! We need more old and unfertile as biology intended
@@452823 omg 😂
I don't think he's dull.He's nice.
As a man. I'm 33 years old and I'm still virgin.
Good for you
If it's because of your values and self control (vs because you tried and tried but couldn't get anyone to want to with you) then I clap for your ability to stay true to values and principles (even when you could have)
Beautiful. So glad to hear.
That’s because you can’t get a woman. Who r you trying to kid?
No mercy for guys on this one dude. You'll be roasted by both men & women.
This is so admirable. You are a goddess and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You stick to your morals and values, don't let society dictate your body or life
It’s very hard to do i respect her so much
@@Nikkisowner0
Its not hard at all. I respect her decision too.
Soon she will neither have a child, nor a husband, and still be a bloody virgin! By age 40, if a woman is healthy, she only has a 5% chance of getting pregnant per menstrual cycle. At the same time, the likelihood of miscarriage climbs with that age. A typical 40-year-old woman about a 40% chance of losing the pregnancy. .......In other words, saving your virginity till 36 is medically A STUPID CHOICE. I think she is leaning on that virginity crap because she has issues that no man wants to deal with.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 36. I’m still a virgin and I’m 31. I’m waiting for the right person. And if I never find the right person, then I’ll be a virgin for life. My faith is very important to me and I will cherish it.
love it!! you are truly admirable.
Im 36 and still virgin... it has some mental wieght i can fell it. But well thats life, Lets all be Wizzards for life!
@@exvex5108 What are you trying to achieve in the end? Intentional or accidental?
@@mrdojob i dont know what exacly you are asking here with that seconda add to the 1st question.
@@exvex5108 Like what caused you to become a 36 year old virgin and what is your end goal?
I’m so glad she was being honest about how dull he was, most of these vids are like “yeah we’ll definitely be seeing each other again.”
Yeah he felt really awkward and shaky
They don't for each other
No her behaviour shows she has ridiculous standards and explains why she’s failed to have any previous intimacy. She will end up a lonely old spinster.
Why is it that when a guy is reserved, he is considered dull?
@@Mnaoke because these days if a man doesn’t give her instant tingles as she’s told by Hollywood romcoms than he’s an immediate right off. The days of getting to know someone properly are long past. Her fickle attitude also explains why she’s still single.
I'm sooo happy at the positive comments. Virgin shaming sucks and can happen to both men and women.
I'm 24 & still a virgin. I am also waiting for the right person as it is my spiritual choice. Sex is literally Sacred Energy eXchange.
I agree
👏👏👏👍😊
“I would like to get married, but I’m opposed to an arranged marriage and I’m also opposed to dating.” That is quite the predicament!!!
She's just a prude. No other way of saying it at 36.
Actually i really liked him . He's so interesting looking , charming , elegant ,very open minded , very relaxed and sure of himself . These are excellent qualities in a human being. She's beautiful ,sparkling , very attached to her culture . Maybe an indian guy would work better for her . Ciao from italy
Yeah he wasn’t as outgoing as she wanted him to be, but to me personally idk I’m kinda introverted that way at first so to me he came off the same way you described. It was obvious that he wanted more of her to me, the way he looked at her 🍆😂 he gave off those quiet but would give great sex vibes!
Yeah, I think there's a lot more to him and his personality. She seems to need more praise about being a virgin, which I think is weird.
I was thinking the same. I’d enjoy talking to him. I think they’re just not compatible.
i liked him too, seems to exude that old fashioned charm, class and masculinity. definitely not compatible with her tho.
Being a virgin is no big deal AT ALL. I’m 35 and still a virgin who never even kissed a woman. I suffer from mild autism so my social skills aren’t the greatest and I tend to stutter when very nervous and struggle with eye contact. If I found a woman who genuinely loved me for me and would look past my autism I’d marry her in a heartbeat but I feel they’re super rare to find.
I believe you will find that person. I am on the spectrum and it took a while to find someone who I could take my mask down with. He often feels the same in society. So both of us being neurodivergent helps. Your person is out there ❤
@@dannyhotemo Thank you for the love.
Good luck bro. I hope you can marry and maybe have kids if you want. Charisma and social skills are almost everything these days. Gets you love, job, friends and what not.
My advice to you is to maximize yourself in all of the ways that you can control. You can't stop yourself from having autism but you can go to the gym and get in amazing shape for example. Work on your style of dress. Work on improving your financial situation in any way you can. Focus on self improvement in anyway you can. Create a life for yourself that the woman you want would want to be part of. This will give you more confidence and help you overcome some of your limitations. Good luck my friend. You can do it.
@@Aalijah_Matyevna I do consider myself charismatic but my social skills are lacking.
A virgin at 36? Much respect ❤️
Hoping you find him and he treats you well.
For me, A Woman who is 36, and a Virgin, Is A Deal MAKER! Let's Get Married! 🤵👰💒🎇🎆🧨🎉🎊
Deal breaker? That’s a huge positive. Good for her.
😂😂
not at 36. lol
Huge positive?
Come on.
Calling it a huge positive reeks of "our females must be kept pure, their bodies are a sacred temple for only me to enjoy".
How about.. "it just is?". It's information. It probably wouldn't be an issue for most guys if they're looking for a life-long commitment.
@@dante6985 it’s still good either way if she’s a virgin not everyone is promiscuous
@@SportsSteadyTv What is the ideal number of partners at that age? Or are you insinuating that it’s a shame that shes dating at her age?
Carlos was dry and a bit boring maybe, but he was actually very sweet and compassionate seeming. He handled Sonali sharing some deep personal/childhood topics pretty well i thought- yes, maybe a bit shocked but he quickly recovered with little chance of making her feel shameful (which she or anyone else should never anyway). Ibhope the best for Sonali qon finding her partner!
she’s absolutely beautiful and she deserves someone who will treat her like a queen ❤
Do you even know what the role of a queen was for?
She shouldn't even be discussing this on a first date. You shouldn't even know if you want to keep seeing someone on the first few dates. She's putting way too much emphasis on this. Of course she has to worry about those things. One out of five women is assaulted. She says arranged marriages are old fashioned, yet she's a 36 year old virgin. She's rude about this guy. He's clearly anxious.
I agree. I found her rude and judgmental. I'm just like the guy in this video. My emotions are a bit stunted because of autism but I haven't had a particularly boring life but she can't see past the small imperfections and would reject someone like me along with everyone else she ever met clearly. On the polar opposite end of the spectrum, I've had women who have accepted me for who I am and we're happy having a one nighter with me. It's obvious who is more accepting.
This woman wants it all which is why she's in a situation where she's a single 36 year old virgin with infertility breathing down her neck and a very significant possibility she'll die childless and alone. She says she won't give her body away to anyone but in reality "anyone" is probably a perfectly decent and respectful man.
She just doesn't understand the birds and the bees at all.
That's great!! I'm a virgin about to be in my 30s, so good for her for saving herself.
So am I. Lol
Me too! 100% Honest
Same here. Wow I am shook. There’s a tribe
@@JustSmileAndWave2023 Yea I’m going on 30 in a few weeks people are either in shock or think im lying when I tell them. So said that they put sex as some big priority. There is more to relationships then sex or “there must be something wrong with you are still a virgin” such a shame what society has turned into.
Good luck hun because you’re going to need it 🤣🤣🤣
I'm 32 I'm a virgin. Even if I never have sex I'll be happy to die a virgin. It's not a bad thing
🤗 You do you!
Same! Except I’m 34.
She is gorrrgeous and that pink suits her so perfectly. May her hopes & dreams about marriage come true & that God will grant her her heart desire🩷🩷🩷🩷
We didn’t wait until marriage, but my first physical intimacy I had was with my now husband! At that point I was sure that we would end up together, and I felt comfortable to try anything with him. I was 32 :)))
I would think it's not having sex before marriage that is the dealbreaker, not her virginity itself. People who want physical intimacy to be a large component of their romantic relationships probably do not want to abstain for so long or to risk physical incompatibility when the time finally does come. But that is just one group of people-- there are many others who will see virtue in her situation and admire her resolve :)
I tried to say the same thing in a convoluted way but you worded it very well, succinctly.
Can't agree more with that.
Now the daiting is meeting though s3x and then knowing you like a person. Because the high value of sexual compatibility
The real reason? Her age. If she were 22-26, she would've been perfect. But now at this point, she's gotta be open to having sex- not for the sake of having it, but when she vibes and gets along with a guy. Otherwise, she'll be a virgin for life.
Also she appears to be very selective. I'm pretty sure some guys wanted her but she didn't want them. It's on her. She's gotta compromise a little.
What an adorable young lady. Any man would be lucky to be in a relationship with her. I hope she finds what she's looking for.
I know A LOT of normal men who would love someone like her. She’s a gem in this age.
She's a good woman that has kept her principles
Good for her and go Girl
She's has kept her value and her Worth and any man who's not an idiot would love value and respect and beliefs and principles.
It’s all praises until she rejects you because of her high standards. You’ll hate a person for the exact reason you like that person.
I see no reason to hate a righteous person. Who only looks for someone who thinks like her
He did look very stiff and very guarded. I wouldn’t have gone for him either. Hope she finds the right guy because unfortunately time is passing by. I am 43 with no kids so I know what I am saying. I too don’t know how to date at my age.
With that attitude and your ridiculous standards I’m not suprised you’re a spinster like her 🤣
🎉
Good for her. Its her body and it’s her decision and her decision only to decide who she shares her body with. I too, lost my virginity later than most people. It was a choice. And I absolutely have no regrets. People put too much emphasis on silly things like virginity anyways. Lose it when you feel it’s the right time.
No, loss it when you're married and with your life time partner not with someone who don't value you. Saving one self before marriage should be encouraged these days.
As we get older our standards gets higher but the dating pool gets smaller. So finding the person becomes more and more harder
Yeah. She was better off dating in her early 20s. Oh well.
I don't get it sometimes. Some men have a problem with women having a high body count, but virgins are seen as weirdos too. Not everyone can get the same number of times/partners to have sex, it depends how much you want it.
Anyway, I'm still part of the virgin club like her. I honestly had to lie about not being a virgin to female acquaintances because nowadays women are more promiscuous and pick on you when you're the "innocent" chic in the group, I'm just trying to prevent getting bullied cause I'm tired of that.
Only my closest friends and family members know my secret. They compare me to a "pure unicorn" in a society full of horses.
If women are picked on for not having enough sexual experience early, then I'm well aware how men have it worse since the pressure on them is heavier, that's why I try not to judge anyone on their experiences. The struggle is real when you dont live up to the modern, oversexualized Western world. We simply live by our own rules.
Let dumb opinions of other people roll off, and don't change something good about your values because people with less self control pick on you or are jealous
@@Dkokay Thanks and you're right-- as usual, some people will always project their insecurities onto others to feel better.
Exactly
Part with those friends that ridicule you on your chastity
This is the definition of high quality woman
Aroace or asexuals am I a joke to you. (I know not all of them are virgins I'm aroace 22 almost 23 and I'm still a virgin so yeah ) but there's nothing wrong staying a virgin it's fine and I do highly agree with her no stds, hiv, unwanted pregnancies and no regrets.
I’m 35 and still a virgin. But hun you can still get a UTI. 🙄
I was going to say the same thing *eyeroll*.
One of my best friends is still a virgin and he just got a UTI a month ago lol....
Yep! I'm a virgin too and I get them all the time!
@@Dollhoarder why do you get UTI all the time?? Lol
What is uti?
@@notsureiL urinary tract infection
The date was like a job interview lol
And that's the problem dating girls over 30 lol
I love her personality and her path in life ❤️
Idolizing celebrities relationship is her problem I think. Not being a virgin. Just my 2 cents.
I'm 33 and still virgin ❤
She said he's dull, but she seems more dull than him. They're personalities just don't seem to mesh well together
There are many people over 30 in the world who did not experienced sex life and contrary to some opinions they didnt go mad instead they are healthy and happy and full of life like she is
Really good. Congratulations on keeping yourself pure. That's a tough thing to keep considering how western society pushes you to experience sex at an early age.
True
What's wrong with sex?
You know I wish we knew her date's thoughts? Was being a virgin a deal breaker for him? Would he have seen her again? I'd be curious! She was very quick about whether or not she'd want to see him again.
She was rude personally. It strikes me as odd how she seems to know it all when she hasn't even gone all the way with a guy.
I love her for being honest and saying he is dull. Cause that’s what i thought too. She’s pretty and her personality shines
But I think she judged him too quickly
How the hell can being a virgin be a negative on a date? She is one in a thousand... God bless her!
Oh my gosh, I love this woman and agree with her beliefs. Wonderful to see a wise woman living out her convictions 🙂
Good for her...im glad she decided to save herself for the right one. She's not missing much anyway 😂
good for her! there is more to life than s3x anyways. if this is a deal breaker for someone then idk what to say anymore.
Speak fo yourself, nyuggah. Ain't nothin better than sploogin all over dem sweet walls and lettin it marinate🤤🤤🤤You probably just ain't had you some good good...blow yo back out, make it talk differently😏. Hit me up, I'm a real nyuggah, young bull ya feel me? I'll show you how to do what it do
♡ love this for her! you go girl! you go do you! don't rush love! the right man will come your way when you least expect it! ♡
I am 36 and virgin and have never even been on a date, nor kissed a guy, never been in a relationship. I guess this makes me a total failure 🤷 and yes I am Indian 🇮🇳 and proud of my culture and values 😎
Don't worry, it's normal in our culture. There's nothing to be proud or ashamed of it.
Im 40 and in the same situation, waiting for marriage, its about discipline and having morals
So true. Super proud of you 😊
He seemed like a nice guy but quite wooden compared to Sonali. If you’re waiting for marriage that definitely shouldn’t be a negative thing, be proud of your choice and the right guy will respect that.
A few dates in, then it's way more accurate to say you're a potential good match
Especially with a blind date
She is so freaking cute!!! I am so surprised that she isn't married already! What's wrong with these guys?! Also side note, that guy seemed cool...for some one out there. He needs to loosen up a little. He wants someone with a sense of humor, but he made that very hard for her to even show that side of her.
Why do you blame the guys and not her?
She wants to stay single. She is the problem.
Why would it be a deal breaker that she's a virgin? That's what most guys would prefer anyways. Ya she's a bit older but at least she's still a virgin
At least she’s still a virgin? That sounds creepy
@@notmyrealname4978 it sounds creepy because you're young, naive and immature. When you grow up, you'll realize real men, strong men of character and value prefer modesty and chastity in their women. There's nothing wrong or creepy about that. It's been like that since the dawn of time, and it'll continue to always be like that. Just because we live in a day and age where people sleep around and hookup culture is at an all time high, it doesn't negate what men will always prefer.
@@anklebreaka03 ew
@@anklebreaka03 what she called creepy was your backhanded compliment. You said her being a virgin makes up for the fact she's old.
So I guess you should have explained how men of high value prefer young woman
@@anklebreaka03 Real women prefer men who haven't slept around all over town either
"I am damn proud to be a prude. In fact, just like how there's a pride flag, I have a prude flag. See, here it is!" WOW SHE IS HILARIOUS
Not really.
😂🤗
@@thedragon5367 C'mon man, keep up the positive vibes 🤡
Yup I am proud PRUDEEE
I am just like her except I am 26. Women like us know we are worth more. You go girl!
this is pretty much normal for so many cultures around the world! good for her
Not at 36 it’s not!
@@wulfsorenson8859 it is in India
@@wulfsorenson8859it absolutely is
@@Србомбоница86 no it’s not. maybe it is for you cigan. 🤣
Good for her 👏 It’s her choice to remain a virgin or not, who are we to judge
Why is this such a big deal in the west?? It's not hard to save yourself....
Love her personality and attitude so refreshing!!! You go girl
I've only had sex about four times in my life and I'm 37 now and it's been maybe three and a half years since I last had sex with a girl and sex is the last thing on my mind! I don't need sex to be happy
This is me now ,I had it with a wrong person so now I feel like I don't need it anymore 😭
Virgin here at almost 30. I can fully understand how she feels when it comes to dating. People would quickly toss me to the side or would try and debate that they could make me lose my v card to them, which I had to walk away from anyone who felt that way. Thankfully I’m currently in a relationship that’s been going for a year and a half now and I’m hoping my partner can hold his word that he said he can wait until marriage and respect my choice. I hope anyone who is in the same situation never loses hope or gives in to the pressure of society that thinks sex before marriage is the only way to find love and happiness.
Soulmates don’t exist and her inability to compromise is apparent. I’m not saying she should give it up for any guy, I’m saying that she hasn’t found anyone because she wants someone who if *perfect* and they don’t exist.
I don't think she's looking for the perfect guy.As she said, she hasn't had much experience with men.This is her first date.She probably liked some people but as an Indian and woman couldn't approach them.This is the beginning of her dating journey so we can't say she's being choosy.
Soulmates exists and she dosent want perfection just to fall in love and make love for the first time on her wedding night. Im the same way
You're 100 percent correct. You're one of the few people in the comments who actually paid attention to her personality rather than being blinded by the fairytale virgin story. I believe she's like Lolo Jones in that being a virgin has become part of her identity. In order to maintain that there will ALWAYS be a reason why every guy is not good enough.
Sex isnt something that just happens. It is a very intimate thing. You literally show and share your whole body with another person. If someone isnt right for you or if you dont feel like it or dont want to do it. If you arent comfortable, dont do it. Save yourself for better experience. You dont want your first time to be bad.
Not a deal breaker but a respect gainer.
Think it’s appropriate to talk about one’s sexual status point blank when first meeting somebody. Puts a lot of pressure on the date.
You're an awesomely multifaceted lady; moreover, the world needs more women like you!
Damn ! Some of you in the comments didn't grow up with immigrant /Uber strict religious parents who forced you to go to medical school / law school but didn't let you live on campus and it shows ! I'm joking 😂 but in all seriousness , I'm a little younger then Sonali but in university I knew plenty of people who were still virgins based on what I said above , they were lots of different cultures too, European , American , east Asian , African , Indian etc
It's not like they couldn't , they just put cultural beliefs and school first . There are alot more people like Sonali out there !
I appreciate her for sticking to her values
Carlos seems like he needs time to warm up….a bit reserved but I bet after you get to know him his vulnerable side will come out and I bet he is a blast…..
Why reveal this on the FIRST date? Being a 30+ year old virgin is certainly not a dealbreaker.
for some people it is 😫😫😫
@@joeroot9142 Not if it was because of self control, vs inability to get someone to like you enough
That's the point of the video tbh.
If it's not a dealbreaker, then why not reveal it on a first date?
@@Dkokay i said what i said and i mean what i say.
28 virgin.. Still counting lolol 🙁😂
Keep yourself for the right man who's ready to marry you and make you his wife.
21 and still counting 🥰
What is wrong with u?!
@@TheBlessedQueen2000 you still a baby,dont rush
She deserves nothing but the best
Virgin....equals....keeper. May you find a pious God fearing husband.
It means she has standards, morals, and class. I've only slept with one woman, and that is my wife.
WOW!!! NO STDs and/or unexpected children from previous relationships. NO Divorce Courts; NO Child Custody Hearings; NO Alimony; NO BANKRUPTCY!!!!
COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!!! Some people just DO NOT REALIZE how Fortunate And Blessed that they are.
I AM OVER 55 YEARS OLD AND STILL A VIRGIN!!! I AM EXTREMELY EXTREMELY BLESSED!!! I CAN SLEEP WELL AT NIGHT!!!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do well ma'am. Hope you get what you desire and expect ❤
She is proud of her virginity but the fact is it not a big deal. Even if she were to save herself until after marriage, there is no guarantee the marriage will be a happy one or last a long time or she won't catch an uti. She is looking for a wild, fun guy but those tend to not put up with prudeness. It didn't matter he was smart and nice. She chooses this conflict. So it is not her parents fault she is still single. Not many sane, good guys are going to wait until after marriage to find out if she is at least ok in bed. The stakes are just too high. People go out and experience doing a lot of things together, including sex, before commitment. Having a complete picture is what makes people decide to get married! One doesn't buy a house before walking into every room, or buy a car without driving it, or go to a college without a campus visit. Responsible, mature people just don't blindly commit to important stuff.
I wouldn't recommend bringing up being a virgin on a first date and asking for a judgement. Every guy will say that is cool to be nice. One is there to have fun and get to know each other's personalities. If there is chemistry, then bring it up if some physical attraction develops. Bringing that topic up unnecessarily risks turning the date into a guy having a conversation with a nun. Or bring it up prior to the date. Guys could then decide if it is worth their time to meet her.
She has done ok in life so far. She might be happier staying single. One hope would be to find a rich, nice, widowed husband.
I didn't care for his comment that it's ok because it's what she is at no fault of her own 😮 like being a Virgin is a bad thing.. She's amazing and I truly wish I would of waited for marriage 😊❤
Huge reapect for this lady and her mindset.. God bless!
It's really creepy all the comments on a Virgin woman being a plus or a turn on or more respect given etc. Gross and outdated ideology. Same respect should be given to all people despite their sexual experience or lack of. To all the men that think it's hot or a turn on, you are making a human being into a fetish. I respect this woman for her virginity at 36 as much as I'd respect a woman that's had 36 partners. Everyone is an individual so let's start caring more for a person's heart and mind than their sexual experience level, sexual preferences etc.
No
No it's gross and disgusting for a woman to have slept with 36 partners, the world needs to get that clear that promiscuity is not acceptable.
@@laurentickner3471 I respect your opinion. Out of genuine curiosity, can you tell me why you don't find it acceptable? Is it because of religion reasons? Is it because you think they run a higher risk of stds, thinking it's unprotected? I'm not FOR promiscuity and am not promiscuous myself although I'm also no virgin. I am interested in your viewpoint on this. For me personally, I don't care about someone's experience or lack of. If they are being safe, if they aren't doing it because of low self image or pressure, then why does it matter? Maybe you'll enlighten me me and I'm open minded and don't say that snarkily or sarcastically.
@@tarab7773 It clearly principle and self respect for ones self as a woman. It doesn't matter how it's happening or who it's with it wrong having sex with multiple partners is gross. No woman and I mean no woman deep down is happy sleeping around with different men. It lowers her chances of pair bonding, it lowers her happiness in marriage tend leads to a higher chance of divorce because she definitely going to rate all experience. No woman will be okay if she heard her man used to suck other guys dicks and he's now a change man(Straight). That gross feeling she feels hearing that, that's the feeling men feels knowing a woman has been with lot of guys it gross and disgusting.
You can respect non virgins while praising virgins
The fact that people think this is the real reason she's not married etc by now is absolutely hilarious. There's obviously a multitude of other red flags there that people can't be bothered with/ back off from
I’m 20 and still a virgin.
That's actually a blessing. Everybody glorifying hookup culture, but the majority of people they lay down with don't give one flying F about them. All they got was a soul tie and new bacteria. I wish I could get my virginity back. Casual sex is overrated.
I think she has some trauma she'll need to work through with a therapist. She seems scared to even get emotionally close, much less intimately close.
*Hahaha, you obviously don't know Indian people.* 😅
Lol typical western comment
@@gurpreetbhamra9752 If Im off base here then I definitely dont. Ive had a lot of indian friends and never encountered one who had the same views on dating as this girl.
I understand her completely. She is gorgeous and deserves the world.
Why would you tell this to a blind date,a total stranger?Weird!
35 Virgin so Proud of it and Im save myself to my husband..❤
I completely respect her. It's nice that there are women who are virgins.
This is what my daughter is doing she's saving herself. Messed up that it's a deal breaker
If she’s still doing this at 36 your daughter has serious intimacy issues
@@wulfsorenson8859 with your dozens of hate comments it seems that you have a major issue with women
@@HelloKitty-kb7ji no hun if you’re anything like the woman in this video it seems YOU have issues with men 🤣
@@wulfsorenson8859 atleast she aint a ran thru
Good for her! Don't give it away to an "actor from NY"! But she probably already knows that!
He was so perfect , calm and composed. Why didn't she like him ?
Because she’s insane.
The dude was boring as hell absolutely zero personality 😴 ...didn't even seem like he's into woman
Everyone prefers different kinds of personalities. I also found him to be too cold.
Was also wondering
He was dry
She" s got a great personality...!! I am sure she ' ll meet her one and only when her time comes )) ❤
Nursing student here! You can definitely get a uti without having sex. 1:07
Whoo, why can't we have more woman in the world like her. Special kinda person for sure 👍
Being a virgin is not weird.
I think she will be disappointed when it comes to finding a soul mate. Soul mate only exists in movies, poetry, books and music.
you’re wrong but okay.
I agree totally with that and keeping ones self before marriage should be encouraged.