Yes. I love that part. Kids, especially teenagers need to be told that. And parents need to stop being scared to be "brutally honest" as Abby or Julie said. Teenagers want honesty. They want to be talked to as adults. They don't want to be told "well, this is the rule and that's the end of it." If parents tell them that the rule is for legitimate reasons, they may not like it, but they will have more respect for it.
Unfortunately in this day we're not even safe in our own homes but I get the risk is greater outside your house but it's sad that we can't feel FULLY safe anywhere, even sending our kids to school🤦🏻♀️🥺
@@NadoriKaija that's weird idk why it was deleted. But I was just saying how I was just responding to this specific family. I know of all people that the home is not always the safest place. But for this family, it's deff safe inside.
In teens, depression is also shown through anger. I used to be the same way as her but finally got the help I needed. So your theory might not be that far off!
The daughter kept saying she didn't know why she was angry and I was like she's mad you changed her family so drastically without asking her. Then she literally said that and I was like, how could mom not know that.
It shocks me that the parents didn't realize that Amanda is suffering from depression. Teens don't become angry out of nowhere. Teenagers especially experience depression by pushing parents away and getting angry.
Parents have to actually "parent" their children. My mother was once told she's lucky to have five such well behaved children. She was insulted. She said "It's nothing to do with luck, it's jolly hard work" None of us would have dared behave the way those kids behave.
16:34 I love how Jo is like "People want to hurt you" and then immediately went to "Alright, bring the kids back :)", It goes to show how she can accommodate to each family and children just by the control of her voice.
Ok But I feel bad for the middle child, Julia She spends so much time switching homes and when she's at her dad's she's the only kid I didn't actually see the parents try and spend some time with Yet, she's all smiley and positive And never really causes any trouble You know, she went through transition too She feels the difference too and needs attention too Yet, she doesn't have any space to express herself and represses everything instead bc there's so much going on already She's a great kid I admire her positivity and calmness
Same. Because she's not rude or throwing fits, I wonder if she gets enough attention. But maybe her Mom is providing that. And maybe she is young enough that she doesn't have the same feelings of jealousy.
That was awesome of you to notice. It’s sad that no one really notices the child that tries to be good. Just because she is quiet doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need attention and one on one time.
Also not really the greatest treatment for separation anxiety, just because shes not screaming and crying it doesnt mean shes not gonna be anxious when he leaves. Don't just tell her she can't cross the line, explain to her why
For teenagers, divorce of parents is the worst nightmare. But being unheard, and feeling unimportant after that is the most hurting after all, its not just about the separation of their parents alone. After watching this, ive learned that its so crucial to make sure the kids know that theyre still loved and important for us even when we're divorced/remarried. Thanks, Jo.
24:36 I don’t think it’s ok to somewhat pressure her into physical contact after Amanda said she doesn’t like to be touched. Parents don’t have the right to always touch you just because they raised you or whatever
Agreed. I don't like hugs. My mum knows that so she'll ask permission first. I really do value that fact and the fact she cares about my autonomy. My mum says she ain't a perfect parent. But no one is, but I think under the circumstances she's done pretty darn well really.
I think the comment section is just here for people to express their own complaints. That's why this show can't run today because of too many whiners, complainers and people upset. This is the process of healing she didn't push her to do it she told her the importance of it. And I see all the time I wish this show was still on it would not make it today.
As soon as the new husband came onto the screen you could see how defensive one of the older girls got, you could just see how much pain there is for her there. I'm so sorry for them
Parents don’t realize there the problem they act as if they don’t care about our feelings. My mom never cares about my feelings and all she does is yells at me.
its weird that jo doesn't recommend therapy for families like this . THere is no way with all these dynamics going on that they were fixed in two weeks. I really hope they sought out family therapy to work out all the many issues presented here.
@@thesilversurfer7136 I agree about putting in the work but that still doesn’t mean all of their issues were fixed in two weeks. They could benefit from family therapy regardless.
@@Funeral_Mannequin no, that’s not separation anxiety, that’s pure manipulation. Once she realized that mommy and daddy weren’t playing into it any longer, she stopped doing it. Had it been real separation anxiety she would not have stopped the behavior. You have to know when you’re being manipulated and stop playing into it.
I definitely felt where Amanda was coming from. Still haunts me to this day how I'd treat my mother at that age and I'd wish we'd both gotten help to work through it back then. My mental health was awful, I had an eating disorder my mom wasn't aware of and I remember I'd fly off the rails if anything were involved with food, I also would've snapped at the chip situation because I felt so uncomfortable eating in front of people and in general so it would've made me livid regardless of time of day if someone commented on food.
It's funny because, this is pretty basic issue in blended families and I'm not sure how the parents never thought that the teens' attitudes were directly linked to it lol
At first I found it funny that Abby was so quiet, she seemed comparatively very chill, then I got pretty sad as I realised that that was her way of dealing with the situation while her sister coped by acting out
I got mad at the mom. Amanda clearly has problems with being shoved aside and not feeling loved and acted rebelious because of it. But all the mom sees is the tone and atitude like .. was she expecting the Child to do all the emotional work alone and forgive her on the spot?? Ridiculous, I wouldnt believe her either.
I was that daughter, it was puberty and depression, and honestly being able to express your feelings with your mom is the hardest thing to overcome. I don't blame the mom, even with some questionable choices and parenting, and I don't blame the daughters for their lack of caring because I remember how hard it was to just express yourself. I also think the middle child who lives with her mom should have been talked to more, because on the outside she might have been okay, but on the inside she might have been hurting from not getting enough quality time with her dad.
I think everyone is sort of in the wrong, I’m a little bit older than them and have some blings I’m not fully related to and have been in the situation of double standards based on who’s biologically related to who, and the girls are right to be angry because those standards are unfair and can create extreme divides, but their also not cooperating whatsoever
I feel so bad for Amanda, when her and the mom throws waterballoons while they say how they really feel, the mom says: "Its hard to be you mom". The mom never says "i feel", she makes it sound like its the daugthers fault, like the daughter doesnt deserve to be loved. No wonder she i so angry and wont touch her mom. The mom is definately to blame here. Amanda explained her feelings more maturely in that situation. No matter how angry youre kids are, you should never make them feel unworthy of love.
I immediately take on all the saddness and such with my girls. I wouldn't ever want to put pressure of "my feelings" on to them. They are 22 and 20 and they have never been and never will be responsible for how I "feel". It is heaping all blame and responsibility on them by saying how hard it is to be her mother. The goal is to empower your children and not burden them.
I couldn't help but wonder...13 years later, the 4 year old ''screamer'' is now 17 years old...has she become completely mute due to the damage to her vocal chords, or did she TRULY stop that non stop screeching?
I wonder if these parents ever just tried calmly sitting their youngest children down and explaining that daddy has to go to work every day to make money so that they can eat and buy toys, that he will always return home every evening, and that no tantrums will make him come home earlier. Parents, like Doctors, seldom explain anything.
Can we just appreciate that little Maeve started to chase her sister down the driveway to help her mum? It’s probably Maeve’s way of saying “I’ll help you,mum, Reese get back here!”
I absolutely understand how the older girls feel. When I was 14 1/2 my brother was born. We have different moms. When he was born I became invisible or at least that’s how it felt.
It's simple why the older kids act the way they do: Their dad was not in the picture, an their mom brought some random guy home they never met and their mother completely changed their lives without even asking the kids if they were ok.
Ofc the teens were Angry! They were pushed aside by there own mother! But you can also tell the mom did not even know what she was doing and was obviously confused and upset
Honestly am mad at this mom (while watching) for *creating* distance with her daughters and then blaming it on them for *feeling* distant. Props to her for facing it, but I frankly if I was the teen would not have budged until she made it up to me. You know like by LISTENING and not just complaining and blaming me for everything that she caused.
This is exactly why I never had children after having my first two...even after divorce ... I chose to have them and I never ever wanted them to feel that they weren't enough for me....and have NEVER regretted that decision!
Gotta say, the first 20 mins watching this I was so frustrated with their parenting and passive threats. I did NOT expect them to get it together like they did. Kudus to them. Especially the repairs and healing from the teenage girls. I wish them every success.
My daughter is 16 & my son is 9. Neither of them have EVER told me they wish I were dead. I also make sure I carve out adequate time for BOTH my kids though. Teens are hard. Especially girls. They’re trying to navigate from adolescence into adulthood and find their place in the world. The last thing they need is to be made to feel like they’re odd person out. My daughter & I talk about everything. Some things I could go without knowing lol but I’m so blessed she confides in me and TRUSTS me! I’ve raised two extremely well behaved, smart, beautiful children. I thank God for that every day.
Seeing Amanda smile at the end with hopefulness made me teary eyed. I wish my family had been willing to put in the effort to change like this. now I 'm an adult having to grow up myself
i’m going to be honest - the big mistake here was not acclimating her two older kids to John’s presence before they married. next mistake was having the two younger children. really not necessary. 3 children between them both was more than enough and each parent could have given their daughters more than enough time and attention to adjust. instead, they got pregnant twice right away.
People with blended families always seem to feel the need to have more kids, because the ones they had before their marriage aren't "both of theirs". Like having your biological material is the most important thing about your child. 🙄
I think Mom should have sat down with her girls BEFORE the wedding and explained that the love she felt to the girls would always be the same even if she loved John.
ms. atkinson was one of my teachers 😂 she brought this up in class, pretty much immediately told us she was on supernanny so she wouldnt be asked about it halfway through the year.
It's bc when they're little it's easy..ish. then they start developing their own personalities, then it gets harder. There's also the birth order that plays into it..ppl like having babies more than they like having kids. If that makes sense
When the moms oldest daughter told her mom that she needs to leave her alone, while her mom was making her food, her mom should have stopped cooking and told her that if she wanted her to leave her alone, she could make her own food.
Julia cracks me up. She clearly lives with her mama haha. Like...it didnt even apply to her because she visits and when she does visit, she is good lol.
The way Amanda talks to the little children is so sad but I've also been that older angry sibling. Hope they can all get along better and communicate well together. This one is getting me in my emotions !
@@FilmerOfBobcats She did say they're annoying. But they have opinions, too. There's a good chance that the little one was angry at Amanda for fighting with the mother, and became antagonistic on purpose
The look in mom's eyes, the girls learned the behavior sonewhere.....she's never going to get the girls respect back. The real story is hidden behind those walls.
I'm 43 and watched super nanny when my kids were younger and her techniques DO work. I still watch it today and also suggest other mothers watch it too because as long as you're consistent with rules, boundaries and discipline and don't get lazy, it will work
I know I didn’t feel save with my mom. My dad wasn’t around enough to associate him with discomfort/pain. If he left, it just meant I was alone with “the mean one.”
The two older daughters were put on the back burner with the new husband and 3 new sisters. No wonder they felt angry and left out. Mistake that this mother didn't run the idea of the marriage by them for their opinions.
@@joannarobinson4625 no excuse? Teens just have to push their emotions down and never feel hurt and their feelings will never matter? Dang, that sucks.
I counted like 10 situations where my lights would've been knocked out for acting up. These are the parents that want to be friends. Imagine begging your kid to let you parent. Lol.
OK well (1) a small child running toward the street more than once, without a 5-star alarm reaction from the parents; and (2) a teenage girl who doesn't want to be touched, even by the hand, seem like really serious issues.
Yeah. The teen daughter pulling away raised alarm bells in my head. I mean, I know nothing about the family or their problems, but I’d have been asking some questions about why Amanda didn’t want to be touched. That isn’t normal behavior especially in kids though I know nothing and am not an expert.
@@kellyolson1952 I wouldn't have wanted to be touched if I was angry either. And then I probably would have continued to avoid touch out of stubborness and awkwardness. Granted, the only reason I hug anyone or shake hands is because I have come to appreciate that it is important to others, not because I like doing it. For the most part, I'd rather make no physical contact with people.
May I present the scene after the “I don’t like being touched” when Amanda is sitting on the couch with the whole family and with her little sister on her lap. She was being petty.
Could be but I kind of see mabye the oldest has neuro divergent issues. Could be on the spectrum. Or could be just teen emotions. Like I myself don't like being touched. It's overwhelming, especially when I'm upset or angry. So watching her, I kind of see it in that view point
I don’t understand though, had the mom never explained why parents worry about kids being out? You’ve got to explain reasons for rules and behavioral expectations.
I just don’t understand how it’s gets this way. We have four children 19, 15, 12 and 4 (next month) and not one of them has EVER acted this way or spoken to any adult like that.
28:31 John: I’m gonna tell you something. Here’s your warning. Here’s your warning. If you go up there again, I told you no counter. If you go up there again. Reese: STOOOOOOOOOOP! John: If you go up there again you’re gonna go in timeout.
When my children were misbehaving I used to pretend to call supernanny. It did the trick. However, when my children watched supernanny they used to comment how naughty the kids were. Ironically my worst behaved child was the one who was most disgusted with the children’s behaviour on the show. 😂
It seems like Dad has focused on his kids liking him more than being an effective parent. Your kids don't have to like you. They have to listen to you. You are not always going to like what your kids do, or how they act, but you always love them. Make sure they know that.
I feel like Amanda maybe just had depression issues, and that’s totally find i had depression issues for years, its something you can come across luckily!
@self345 Ah, that makes sense. Likely because of the production aspect, she didn’t want them making her daughter look like someone she wasn’t. Good on her
So…the one daughter who doesn’t live there is the one daughter with no behavioural issues.
Pretty telling.
I would probably ask for my biological mother to have full custody of me if I was her. Wouldn't wanna be part of the sh*it show, sorry dad,byeee.
@Naylim Sanchez ok….lol
@@londynmurphy8818 ok...lol
@@londynmurphy8818 ok…. .lol
@@londynmurphy8818 rot
When Jo said "here is safe, out there isn't" nothing more terribly true.
Yes. I love that part. Kids, especially teenagers need to be told that. And parents need to stop being scared to be "brutally honest" as Abby or Julie said. Teenagers want honesty. They want to be talked to as adults. They don't want to be told "well, this is the rule and that's the end of it." If parents tell them that the rule is for legitimate reasons, they may not like it, but they will have more respect for it.
Unfortunately in this day we're not even safe in our own homes but I get the risk is greater outside your house but it's sad that we can't feel FULLY safe anywhere, even sending our kids to school🤦🏻♀️🥺
Sadly that isn't true for everyone though. Some teens.....it's equally bad, or even possibly worse.
@@moonsnow1942 Hard to do when it's not visible anywhere.
@@NadoriKaija that's weird idk why it was deleted. But I was just saying how I was just responding to this specific family. I know of all people that the home is not always the safest place. But for this family, it's deff safe inside.
Whenever she isn't angry, Amanda almost always seems emotionally numb. I wouldn't be surprised if she was depressed.
DO you not see how she's dressed. Yea she's depressed
In teens, depression is also shown through anger. I used to be the same way as her but finally got the help I needed. So your theory might not be that far off!
@@rae4166can you APOLOGIZE to her right now like WTH thats so rude
She's profoundly unhappy.
I was thinking the same. If it was my child I would probably take her to therapy
The daughter kept saying she didn't know why she was angry and I was like she's mad you changed her family so drastically without asking her. Then she literally said that and I was like, how could mom not know that.
funny af
Mom just didn’t care!
My current situation right now actually
the anger comes from divorce, new families, new schools, new houses - too many people in one house, stepdads..
And bad communication
The girls totally nailed it...just because mom is now okay, doesn't mean they were.
Mom being oblivious is what ticked them off so much.
The older daughters feel abandoned because they are.
No offence to this lady, but marrying this guy and having more kids ruined what she had with her daughters. They seemed better off without all that.
Step moms too.
I love how juila was like the one that just minded their own business and didn’t really need to be educated, like she didn’t really do any trouble
Ikr
fr
Her mom must be so proud
Because she doesn't live there full time.
@@MasterofScrutiny still, she’s so calm n lovely. it really doesn’t matter if she doesn’t live there full time.
9:05 i love that the older girls are being so honest and actually explaining it. I really wasn't expecting that
It shocks me that the parents didn't realize that Amanda is suffering from depression. Teens don't become angry out of nowhere. Teenagers especially experience depression by pushing parents away and getting angry.
Sadly during that time, depression wasn't really talked about for young people yet.
The more I watch these videos I'm realizing how important it is for kids, of all ages, to spend time with their parents doing things together.
Yes it truly is I loved watching these as I was raising my kids😊
Oh yes definitely
Parents have to actually "parent" their children. My mother was once told she's lucky to have five such well behaved children. She was insulted. She said "It's nothing to do with luck, it's jolly hard work" None of us would have dared behave the way those kids behave.
Same
they shouldnt have so much kids if they cant spend time with them as much as they should
I could just imagine Julia telling her mum about how the Super Nanny is at dad's home and her mum thinking Oh my...
And can you imagine her mother watching the show and seeing all of these private details of her ex and his wife's family life
I can imagine the mom watching the show and seeing all of the flaws of the ex husband and his new family and just sitting there feeling superior lol
@@katherineduke3232 As she should, because her kid is the only one that has manners in that household.
her mom probably got full custody of Julia lmao
@@tatjana4503 facts
Julia’s so unbothered and peaceful I love her lol
16:34 I love how Jo is like "People want to hurt you" and then immediately went to "Alright, bring the kids back :)", It goes to show how she can accommodate to each family and children just by the control of her voice.
It's called 'knowing how to do your job'
Ok
But I feel bad for the middle child, Julia
She spends so much time switching homes and when she's at her dad's she's the only kid I didn't actually see the parents try and spend some time with
Yet, she's all smiley and positive
And never really causes any trouble
You know, she went through transition too
She feels the difference too and needs attention too
Yet, she doesn't have any space to express herself and represses everything instead bc there's so much going on already
She's a great kid
I admire her positivity and calmness
Same. Because she's not rude or throwing fits, I wonder if she gets enough attention. But maybe her Mom is providing that. And maybe she is young enough that she doesn't have the same feelings of jealousy.
Just because we don't see it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It's edited heavily for tv
That was awesome of you to notice. It’s sad that no one really notices the child that tries to be good. Just because she is quiet doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need attention and one on one time.
She has figured it out for herself. She is at peace with her life.
She probably gave up....
No surprise the older ones are so mad, the house rules literally only apply to them, the younger ones can do anything at anytime with no consequence
Also not really the greatest treatment for separation anxiety, just because shes not screaming and crying it doesnt mean shes not gonna be anxious when he leaves. Don't just tell her she can't cross the line, explain to her why
Same with me
@@mcmc3575 0
How would you explain?
Don’t the little ones get time out?
Bless julia she didn’t do anything but imagine how she feels when she has to suffer the consequences that the others do 😭
If you don't break the rules, there are no consequences.
She should live with her mom full time, her dad isn't assertive enough to stop the chaos in his own house, no excuse for that wussy behavior.
@@stoverbooShe didn't break the rules. Her bratty siblings did
@@carolynw3602Agreed
I fell bad for Julia she didn't do anything
For teenagers, divorce of parents is the worst nightmare. But being unheard, and feeling unimportant after that is the most hurting after all, its not just about the separation of their parents alone. After watching this, ive learned that its so crucial to make sure the kids know that theyre still loved and important for us even when we're divorced/remarried. Thanks, Jo.
imagine being the neighbors and having to listen to that screaming every single day...
I would sell the house and move
Alarm clock
living next door to people with kids is torture
Having lived next to shouty families most of my life, its not the best time...
That's what I'm saying too
Oh my gosh, the part where Jennifer took her daughters to the coffee shop made me cry, just seeing them all be happy again was amazing.
The part at the grocery store in the submission reel. Ooooh girlfriend better watch her mouth. too bad I wasn’t there
same 😭 ❤️
Yes communication is so.important
Fr wish my dad was like that
That's true, but her name is Jen
I just have to point out how cool it is that Jo can run in heels. 👠
IKR?
24:36 I don’t think it’s ok to somewhat pressure her into physical contact after Amanda said she doesn’t like to be touched. Parents don’t have the right to always touch you just because they raised you or whatever
Agreed. I don't like hugs. My mum knows that so she'll ask permission first. I really do value that fact and the fact she cares about my autonomy.
My mum says she ain't a perfect parent. But no one is, but I think under the circumstances she's done pretty darn well really.
I think the comment section is just here for people to express their own complaints. That's why this show can't run today because of too many whiners, complainers and people upset. This is the process of healing she didn't push her to do it she told her the importance of it. And I see all the time I wish this show was still on it would not make it today.
@@theurbanfarmlife7311oh the irony
@@theurbanfarmlife7311yes there are too many whiners , people who think they can touch their children despite their discomfort
Are you telling me that you have to ask permission to change your child’s diaper? If you are, never ever reproduce, because you are the problem.
As for the older ones, of course they're angry! Mom shuffled them aside for her new hubby and new babies!
I’m glad someone sees that
@@raindancer1872 Dangggg 😂😂😂😂
As soon as the new husband came onto the screen you could see how defensive one of the older girls got, you could just see how much pain there is for her there. I'm so sorry for them
Definitely. And adding the Mom pushing for relationships without giving anything to them just makes it worse
that's exactly it ..... you can't just expect teens to love your partner as much as you...trust me we don't
I'm only one minute in and am shocked how parents don't realize that they are the problem.
I saw it too. They were trying to be friends and not parents. I see that more and more now and days not knowing that it can harm the growing adult.
Every episode of Supernanny
Parents don’t realize there the problem they act as if they don’t care about our feelings. My mom never cares about my feelings and all she does is yells at me.
@@shelbyreid5136 I'm sorry to hear that. 💔😥💔
@@shelbyreid5136 Yet here you are, with access to UA-cam. Honey, when you grow up, get therapy and fix it.
Does anybody who’s watched supernanny start to feel like jo is the mother the way she interacts with the kids
I totally relate to the older siblings. Once my mom remarried I felt the same way.
Frankly, I don't blame the older daughters for having an attitude problem, especially since they have to hear the little one screaming constantly.
Reese voice sounds like she's ruining it it's hoarse
the older daughters are old enough to step up to and tell the youngh ones whats exceptible and what not .
@@freddykoopmans6985still, as an older sister, it's not siblings job to do the parenting.
Yeah , headaches from all that screaming of course they’re going to have attitude!
@@Angela-ns8ux
that’s literally the title of the video you ídiot….
its weird that jo doesn't recommend therapy for families like this . THere is no way with all these dynamics going on that they were fixed in two weeks. I really hope they sought out family therapy to work out all the many issues presented here.
You can heal pretty quickly if the desire to heal is there. Most people wallow and don't want to do the work .
@@thesilversurfer7136 I agree about putting in the work but that still doesn’t mean all of their issues were fixed in two weeks. They could benefit from family therapy regardless.
@@jaz2407 probably true
They are not broken people, they just need to learn to communicate effectively.
@@mariagordanier3404 Everyone under the sun is broken.
"10 O' clock is really early." I have strict parents that don't let me go out the house. This made my jaw DROP.
The rule for my family was "before dark". 10pm is much too late, especially for the winter 😮
@@StettafireI feel bad for u. I’m happy my parents are understandable I wanna live my life and I can be out for long as long as I keep in touch.😊
Amanda is 14 and her sister is 13. 10 pm is late enough for them both.
Nah guys 10pm is way too late for girls who just became teenagers yesterday. They should be home by 8pm.
I literally never seen the oldest girl smile till she went out for coffee with her mam and sister
Watching Super Nanny is my Daily reminder to take birth control.
And not drink too much "laager"
Hahahaha
And reinforcing why I'm child free
Nice
stick with it girl
The little one only behaves that way because it's ALLOWED, and the parents haven't imposed any consequences for it.
She has anxiety.
@@Funeral_Mannequin no, that’s not separation anxiety, that’s pure manipulation. Once she realized that mommy and daddy weren’t playing into it any longer, she stopped doing it. Had it been real separation anxiety she would not have stopped the behavior. You have to know when you’re being manipulated and stop playing into it.
Agreed
Imagine calling a 4 year old “manipulative.”
this is what happens when you never tell kids no!
I definitely felt where Amanda was coming from. Still haunts me to this day how I'd treat my mother at that age and I'd wish we'd both gotten help to work through it back then. My mental health was awful, I had an eating disorder my mom wasn't aware of and I remember I'd fly off the rails if anything were involved with food, I also would've snapped at the chip situation because I felt so uncomfortable eating in front of people and in general so it would've made me livid regardless of time of day if someone commented on food.
the moms smirk when Jo tells Amanda to let her mom hold her hand tells me everything i need to know and confirms my suspicions about her
Which is??
@@sjohnson65456 gynccujnil
Yup. All I needed to see.
It's funny because, this is pretty basic issue in blended families and I'm not sure how the parents never thought that the teens' attitudes were directly linked to it lol
Because parents never like to admit they’re wrong.
Self centered parents
That’s because they’re too busy with their partner they just stop caring about their kids
@@princesscl67 and self centred teenagers
@@jackjohnson6230 But that's part of the job description tho
The way she's DEMANDING the pasta. I say one thing and my mom will tell me to order the food or make something myself 😂
Haha yes! I would have put everything away and just left the kitchen.
@@user-pw4ch4cl4e ok and tell you if your so grown maybe its time you bring in your own food 😂 that scares the crap out you
@Perine That still in no way excuses the absolutely abhorrent behavior. Nothing wrong with the child feeling angry.
@@user-pw4ch4cl4e 😂😂😂
@Perine The child can feel however she wants. She doesn’t get to ACT however she wants.
At first I found it funny that Abby was so quiet, she seemed comparatively very chill, then I got pretty sad as I realised that that was her way of dealing with the situation while her sister coped by acting out
Jo is so good at being nice and then being tough when needed!
I got mad at the mom. Amanda clearly has problems with being shoved aside and not feeling loved and acted rebelious because of it. But all the mom sees is the tone and atitude like .. was she expecting the Child to do all the emotional work alone and forgive her on the spot?? Ridiculous, I wouldnt believe her either.
Literally. The mother then feigns ignorance with her passive aggressive remarks and expects her daughters to just bow down to this neglect
the daughter is so abusive to the words she uses.
Me too! When they were sat at that picnic table it’s almost like Amanda knows her mom won’t change
I do get the impression that the relationship was completely shattered with that child.
Amanda probably knows the real reason her parents are divorced
I cannot comprehend how this mother did not know that was why her daughters were upset.
Mom was busy crying and feeling hurt. Mom, it's not your turn right now.
@@mmegraham Very astute comment.
I think she does know but deep down she knows maybe she went about it the wrong way she definitely should have handled remarrying differently
Not everyone has emotional intelligence
The mom has no sense. Even the way she talks, so flippantly
It’s good to see Julia actually laughing with the family instead of just being off to the side
I was that daughter, it was puberty and depression, and honestly being able to express your feelings with your mom is the hardest thing to overcome. I don't blame the mom, even with some questionable choices and parenting, and I don't blame the daughters for their lack of caring because I remember how hard it was to just express yourself.
I also think the middle child who lives with her mom should have been talked to more, because on the outside she might have been okay, but on the inside she might have been hurting from not getting enough quality time with her dad.
I know why they're mad. His kids do what they want no consequences while they get yelled at.
oh horse bull
Who yelled at them? All the mom did was whine and cry in her office
I think everyone is sort of in the wrong, I’m a little bit older than them and have some blings I’m not fully related to and have been in the situation of double standards based on who’s biologically related to who, and the girls are right to be angry because those standards are unfair and can create extreme divides, but their also not cooperating whatsoever
@@ElanaVital83 You think she doesn't yell at them when the camera is off?
Hmm there is an age difference
I feel so bad for Amanda, when her and the mom throws waterballoons while they say how they really feel, the mom says:
"Its hard to be you mom".
The mom never says "i feel", she makes it sound like its the daugthers fault, like the daughter doesnt deserve to be loved. No wonder she i so angry and wont touch her mom.
The mom is definately to blame here. Amanda explained her feelings more maturely in that situation.
No matter how angry youre kids are, you should never make them feel unworthy of love.
The parents are the adults. They're the ones responsible
I immediately take on all the saddness and such with my girls. I wouldn't ever want to put pressure of "my feelings" on to them. They are 22 and 20 and they have never been and never will be responsible for how I "feel". It is heaping all blame and responsibility on them by saying how hard it is to be her mother. The goal is to empower your children and not burden them.
Same.
Her mother acts like an angry teenager near Amanda. She lucks basic mother skills.
my mother dose that to my all the time im strugling for me too god
I couldn't help but wonder...13 years later, the 4 year old ''screamer'' is now 17 years old...has she become completely mute due to the damage to her vocal chords, or did she TRULY stop that non stop screeching?
Reese was the favorite and she could tell that’s why she had the attitude
I wonder if these parents ever just tried calmly sitting their youngest children down and explaining that daddy has to go to work every day to make money so that they can eat and buy toys, that he will always return home every evening, and that no tantrums will make him come home earlier. Parents, like Doctors, seldom explain anything.
That's how my parents were they never sat down and really connected with me and talked to me instead they would just ground me and yell at me
Can we just appreciate that little Maeve started to chase her sister down the driveway to help her mum? It’s probably Maeve’s way of saying “I’ll help you,mum, Reese get back here!”
Low key when Jo was talking to Amanda at the park about not quitting I needed to hear that too lol
I absolutely understand how the older girls feel. When I was 14 1/2 my brother was born. We have different moms. When he was born I became invisible or at least that’s how it felt.
It's simple why the older kids act the way they do: Their dad was not in the picture, an their mom brought some random guy home they never met and their mother completely changed their lives without even asking the kids if they were ok.
Ofc the teens were Angry! They were pushed aside by there own mother! But you can also tell the mom did not even know what she was doing and was obviously confused and upset
Poor Julia, the ultimate middle child... so well-behaved, and therefore so ignored!
And most likely to marry young the first guy who asks just to get out of the household.
Just imagine how much pain Jo has to go through every single week
Well, I bet her salary is worth it.😊
She can dry her tears with cash
Honestly am mad at this mom (while watching) for *creating* distance with her daughters and then blaming it on them for *feeling* distant. Props to her for facing it, but I frankly if I was the teen would not have budged until she made it up to me. You know like by LISTENING and not just complaining and blaming me for everything that she caused.
Exactly 😒
My mom and family is like this. My little sister gets everything. I don't even feel loved etc. My parents don't care. Nobody cares. Etc.
@@MusicLoverMN - I know I'm a stranger, but I'm so sorry that's happening to you.
Honestly there's almost always that one unproblematic child who has to deal with their family, I feel bad for julia.
yes and Maeve, they were both sweet angels
This is exactly why I never had children after having my first two...even after divorce ... I chose to have them and I never ever wanted them to feel that they weren't enough for me....and have NEVER regretted that decision!
Gotta say, the first 20 mins watching this I was so frustrated with their parenting and passive threats. I did NOT expect them to get it together like they did. Kudus to them. Especially the repairs and healing from the teenage girls. I wish them every success.
My daughter is 16 & my son is 9. Neither of them have EVER told me they wish I were dead. I also make sure I carve out adequate time for BOTH my kids though. Teens are hard. Especially girls. They’re trying to navigate from adolescence into adulthood and find their place in the world. The last thing they need is to be made to feel like they’re odd person out. My daughter & I talk about everything. Some things I could go without knowing lol but I’m so blessed she confides in me and TRUSTS me! I’ve raised two extremely well behaved, smart, beautiful children. I thank God for that every day.
I actually teared up when the teenage girls and mum hugged after talking through their feelings. So emotional!
Seeing Amanda smile at the end with hopefulness made me teary eyed. I wish my family had been willing to put in the effort to change like this. now I 'm an adult having to grow up myself
6:33 I love how the cameraman is caught up to the child, but doesn’t do anything to stop her lmao
Law of nature - you never interfere with the wildlife.
When Reese was trying to open the umbrella did anyone notice the littlest one cover her ears in anticipation of the yelling soon to come?
i’m going to be honest - the big mistake here was not acclimating her two older kids to John’s presence before they married. next mistake was having the two younger children. really not necessary. 3 children between them both was more than enough and each parent could have given their daughters more than enough time and attention to adjust. instead, they got pregnant twice right away.
Exsctly.
Ikr? Why are some people so hungry for children 🤨
Bingo!
People with blended families always seem to feel the need to have more kids, because the ones they had before their marriage aren't "both of theirs". Like having your biological material is the most important thing about your child. 🙄
I think Mom should have sat down with her girls BEFORE the wedding and explained that the love she felt to the girls would always be the same even if she loved John.
ms. atkinson was one of my teachers 😂 she brought this up in class, pretty much immediately told us she was on supernanny so she wouldnt be asked about it halfway through the year.
Wait what school
I feel so much for those older girls. Mom was so unaware.
People who keep making babies while they can't even handle the kids they already have make me so mad
They have 5 girls when they should have stopped at 3 and concentrated on them more
I’ve only just started watching these episodes again and it’s pretty much every episode where the family has like 5 kids.
I agree 2000%
Gooners should never be allowed to mate and this right here is why.
It's bc when they're little it's easy..ish. then they start developing their own personalities, then it gets harder. There's also the birth order that plays into it..ppl like having babies more than they like having kids. If that makes sense
When the moms oldest daughter told her mom that she needs to leave her alone, while her mom was making her food, her mom should have stopped cooking and told her that if she wanted her to leave her alone, she could make her own food.
gnarly grandma, that's exactly what I would have done! I wouldn't treat my maid like she treated her mom.
if she actually made her own food the mom would probably be upset anyways
She should have been told, if she wanted to be left alone, to go to her room and stay there.
Most definitely!
If the mom did tell that to Amanda, the mom would roast her
WHY WOULD YOU HAVE TWO MORE CHILDREN? You can’t even control the ones you have.
Key word: Family. Not just random folks thrown together.
Julia cracks me up. She clearly lives with her mama haha. Like...it didnt even apply to her because she visits and when she does visit, she is good lol.
The way Amanda talks to the little children is so sad but I've also been that older angry sibling. Hope they can all get along better and communicate well together. This one is getting me in my emotions !
What does she say to them that is bad? She legitimately wanted her chair back and took it back without hitting her.
@@FilmerOfBobcats She did say they're annoying. But they have opinions, too. There's a good chance that the little one was angry at Amanda for fighting with the mother, and became antagonistic on purpose
@@ElanaVital83 that little girl is annoying.
Didn’t she push Reese (or was it maeve) off the chair
Oml
The look in mom's eyes, the girls learned the behavior sonewhere.....she's never going to get the girls respect back. The real story is hidden behind those walls.
The mom's mouth!
I'm 43 and watched super nanny when my kids were younger and her techniques DO work. I still watch it today and also suggest other mothers watch it too because as long as you're consistent with rules, boundaries and discipline and don't get lazy, it will work
Reese's reaction to dad leaving is more of stubbornness than separation anxiety
Why doesn't it occur to anyone she may have been harmed or something and she feels he would protect.
I know I didn’t feel save with my mom. My dad wasn’t around enough to associate him with discomfort/pain. If he left, it just meant I was alone with “the mean one.”
Yes, I noticed the dry face, too, after 30 minutes of trying to get her into time-out.
@@pikazzor4186 that's my thought. Unfortunately it seems mom probably let Amanda treat the little kids however she wanted.
it does not
The two older daughters were put on the back burner with the new husband and 3 new sisters. No wonder they felt angry and left out. Mistake that this mother didn't run the idea of the marriage by them for their opinions.
No excuse
@@joannarobinson4625 no excuse? Teens just have to push their emotions down and never feel hurt and their feelings will never matter? Dang, that sucks.
@@joannarobinson4625 "kids aren't allowed to have emotions"
Ok boomer
@@jadecoolness101 kids can feel emotions but it’s not okay to act out…
no
“That’s DISGUSTING Amanda.”
“I tend to be the nice guy.”
Lmao 🤣
Dhar mann version: kid screams and loses her vocal cords, instantly regrets it
Reese is just preparing for the "I gotta go get milk"
Lmaoo true
Lmao she knows it’s chaos at home and if she could leave she would too-!!!
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Considering the dad didn't *want* to bother to 'parent' I think Reese was onto something.🤣
😂😂😂
I noticed pretty quickly the 14 year old had self harm scars/fresh self harm i hope she is doing better now
Poor girl
Wait when?
@Future Pants it's not usually attention-seeking behavior.
@Future Pants There are ways to get attention that don't involve injuring and scarring yourself. Learn some empathy.
@Future Pants No it's not. You know nothing.
I counted like 10 situations where my lights would've been knocked out for acting up. These are the parents that want to be friends. Imagine begging your kid to let you parent. Lol.
I'd have been picked up and taken to my room and not allowed out until I apologised 😮
Dad doesn’t realize that children need to learn boundaries not just to be respectful and pay attention to their parents but it’s crucial in adulthood
I’m so happy the older daughter got listened to
bro where? Homegirl said "I don't like being touched" and got gaslit into letting people go past her boundaries.
@@jadecoolness101 yeah that part made me so mad
@@jadecoolness101 I feel bad for Julia and the 2 teenage girls they don't deserve that.
Bollocks
OK well (1) a small child running toward the street more than once, without a 5-star alarm reaction from the parents; and (2) a teenage girl who doesn't want to be touched, even by the hand, seem like really serious issues.
Yeah. The teen daughter pulling away raised alarm bells in my head. I mean, I know nothing about the family or their problems, but I’d have been asking some questions about why Amanda didn’t want to be touched. That isn’t normal behavior especially in kids though I know nothing and am not an expert.
It amazing how people raise their kids and manage to have zero relationship with them.
@@kellyolson1952 I wouldn't have wanted to be touched if I was angry either. And then I probably would have continued to avoid touch out of stubborness and awkwardness.
Granted, the only reason I hug anyone or shake hands is because I have come to appreciate that it is important to others, not because I like doing it. For the most part, I'd rather make no physical contact with people.
May I present the scene after the “I don’t like being touched” when Amanda is sitting on the couch with the whole family and with her little sister on her lap. She was being petty.
Could be but I kind of see mabye the oldest has neuro divergent issues. Could be on the spectrum. Or could be just teen emotions. Like I myself don't like being touched. It's overwhelming, especially when I'm upset or angry. So watching her, I kind of see it in that view point
Amanda has that "teenage dirtbag" thing going on. She's so adorable, I love her.
exactly! when I saw that it was filmed in 2010 I thought: 'Ah, explains her outfit.' Maan, everyone looked like that 2009-2013
Am I the only one who thinks that SuperNanny is beautiful 🤩 like stunning 😍
16:03. Jo getting real with Amanda about the curfew rule.
It's good because it's a real wake up call
The tone shift was so harsh but very necessary
@@azytrx ya
Legend
I don’t understand though, had the mom never explained why parents worry about kids being out? You’ve got to explain reasons for rules and behavioral expectations.
Not even 30 seconds in and I’m patting myself on the back for being so responsible in my 25 years of sexual activity. Good job, self.
🤣🤣🤣
Hell no she didn’t. She’s a cold brat.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Word!
I just don’t understand how it’s gets this way. We have four children 19, 15, 12 and 4 (next month) and not one of them has EVER acted this way or spoken to any adult like that.
It gets this way when one or both parents has no sense and doesn't really care about the children
28:31 John: I’m gonna tell you something. Here’s your warning. Here’s your warning. If you go up there again, I told you no counter. If you go up there again.
Reese: STOOOOOOOOOOP!
John: If you go up there again you’re gonna go in timeout.
When my children were misbehaving I used to pretend to call supernanny. It did the trick. However, when my children watched supernanny they used to comment how naughty the kids were.
Ironically my worst behaved child was the one who was most disgusted with the children’s behaviour on the show. 😂
that’s so smart! i can’t believe that the worst behaved was grossed out by these kids behavior must have been an eye opener
I do the same thing.😂
Best comment, I laughed😂, you're so expressive, I could picture the whole scenario 😂
It seems like Dad has focused on his kids liking him more than being an effective parent. Your kids don't have to like you. They have to listen to you. You are not always going to like what your kids do, or how they act, but you always love them. Make sure they know that.
I like how amanda has less makeup at the end, shes happier
I feel like Amanda maybe just had depression issues, and that’s totally find i had depression issues for years, its something you can come across luckily!
No wonder older kids are angry they probably think mum pushed them aside for her new kids n husband n it shows
It was great to see how much Amanda grew emotionally and how the family came back together. I hope the positive changes continue.
Yes so true
I wonder if it gets awkward with the camera guy watching them 💀
Poor Julia, dhe probably dreads going to her Dads bc of all the madness
I don’t think the real truth was addressed…. The parents divorced and the older girls still are angry
Where did you get that from? I'm watching their 2020 update and things seemed okay then.
And the parents are remarried and have two uncontrollable toddlers !
now why r u lying bc they did an update vid last months and are just fine 😭😭
@@danekaulukou-chang6819 where's the update?
@@SoupEaterExtraordinaire I wanna see the update!
I would have liked to see more attention paid to Julia.
Same, I’m sure she’s going through her own struggles with her parents that could be helped with some insight from Jo
Same, middle kid bouncing between houses, she needs some love too
@self345 Ah, that makes sense. Likely because of the production aspect, she didn’t want them making her daughter look like someone she wasn’t. Good on her
@self345 where can we find the update?
Amanda just misses her mum and the old days.
My jaw dropped when I learned the mom never checked in with her daughters before remarrying