When guys or women begin to playing games its best to walk away, let them do what they want to do/don't feed them any attention. Life is to short for that bullshit. Do not involve expectations in the relationship. Most of the time that ruins relationships in general.
True. Some people fees others expectations and tell them what they plan and that creates expectations. Not so easy not to have expectations when someone else is actually telling you what you can expect. If they don't follow through it says a lot about that person's bullshit.
Any sense of game playing should be a turn off. They are showing you that they can't play if fair and be emotionally vulnerable for a relationship. If that's what you want, they are not your person.
You're right I have a guy who plays games with me and I just don't really care if he shows up whatever I'm not making space for him you just can't take people who play games seriously when you take them seriously and you try to figure them out that's when effected
I’ll tell you why women stick around is because they’ve already developed feelings for him and it’s too hard to walk away when you’re in love. Men are so wonderful in the beginning then get them hooked and it’s harder
I meet a total ass hole guy he was avoidant manipulative bad temper selfish and zero in bed, I stop seeing him took a break from dating and recently I meet a kind gentleman that has a secure emotional attachment he travels for an hour to see me every weekend and we connect in meaningful ways. Never allow dysfunctional people to lower your value.
It can be hard to detect a person as a pathological liar when they seem to be so complimentary of you. But think about this … if someone is full of compliments and even ‘I love you’s’ but doesn’t bother to get to know you as a person, and is not interested in who you are, or what makes your soul tick, this is not really about ‘loving and supporting you’ at all. As far as the pathologically lying narcissist is concerned, this is about getting you to give them what they want - things like sex, money, privileges, the ego hit of an attractive partner, or a better lifestyle … whatever it is. The real question here is: Do you feel cherished and seen, heard and held at a heart level by this person, or do you feel sexualized and objectified? Do their words feel warm and genuine, or leave you feeling empty, anxious and manipulated? Do you receive the actions, care, tenderness and generosity with this person that makes you feel deeply cherished? Or do you see the selfishness, lack of care and exploitation from this person that makes it all about them despite what loving words supposedly come out of their mouth? If you are in a genuine relationship with a genuine person, you will feel like you love that person for who they are. If you in a relationship with a narcissist you won’t be able to honestly say ‘My partner is such a wonderful and great guy or girl.’ So, I really hope that these pointers have helped you identify the warning signs of a pathological narcissist. If we want to live a healthy, truthful, safe and authentic life we need to stop lying to ourselves about the people who we are in a relationship with and stop trying to fix or change or tolerate people who have a deficient character despite them saying ‘I’ll change.’ A person’s character is a person’s character, it is the composition of their inner identity. We all can seek, align and connect with people who have high integrity. Please know good people do exist.
Finally a video where I can actually agree with you . I am just going to take the route and work on myself. I am trying to graduate college. I already have a lot on my plate.
Of course a woman is upset if a guy tells he wants a relationship but not with her, and he wants to keep seeing her. He's basically saying she is good enough for fwb and meanwhile he keeps looking for a girl who is worthy of more.
Hi Elliot thanks for the video. How do you know which of the three it is? Is he pulling away because of the context, because I’ve become annoying/cling or because he lost interest?
Inadvertant pun: "please don't take ....a fence." Which goes along with the beware of dog analogy, because sometimes there's a fence for a -good- reason, and it should not be removed under any circumstances.
He needs to take responsibility for his actions and quit blaming women his game playing and so does all men who play mind games with women we do not deserve it
This what I don’t understand when he said he doesn’t understand why women would get upset of pulling away. Have a conversation and shut the shi$ down so someone doesn’t get traumatized that’s what I don’t get. That’s why women read too much into things because nobody is forthcoming. All these hints I’m not a mind reader and I don’t want to assume things 😢. This world is trash
If he can play games with you he is not interested in you and he play games with many more girls at the same time. He is not interested in relationship at all with you.
So I need advice I've been talking to this marine for about two months ,he coming down in November, sometimes we go four days without talking cause hes in syria right now ,so far it's been a week ,nothing he hasn't even been online , and he dropped the I love you way early in the relationship, should I be worried?
I had a guy who would leave my messages on Read show up at my house unannounced . but ignore my ignored my messages. One time I asked him to call me he didn't call me he left that message on read but yet showed up at my house at 3 am next morning. He would tell me he call me when he gets home but then I wouldn't hear anything from him for 3weeks or more. It's funny I would wonder what he thought of me when really HE should have been wondering what I think of him and his outrageous games With a person like this you just can't take anything they say or do serious 🤣🤣
So it’s none of the above and I’m not annoying and I don’t bother him I respond only when he text me so what are you saying .. don’t date don’t date guys don’t even try I mean you make it sound so hopeless.. I mean who do you date then Jesus!
Lol Ellet Scott I noticed u deleted my comment s cause you didn't like to here the truth about your self. u don't like being called. out. cause you know it the truth about u being a big game player
The narcissist ones play games. They get a kick out of it
Exactly 💯
Dropped my head phone in my coffe. Yes the narcisistoc ones with small...
When guys or women begin to playing games its best to walk away, let them do what they want to do/don't feed them any attention. Life is to short for that bullshit. Do not involve expectations in the relationship. Most of the time that ruins relationships in general.
True. Some people fees others expectations and tell them what they plan and that creates expectations. Not so easy not to have expectations when someone else is actually telling you what you can expect. If they don't follow through it says a lot about that person's bullshit.
@@SR77736 agreed.
Any sense of game playing should be a turn off. They are showing you that they can't play if fair and be emotionally vulnerable for a relationship. If that's what you want, they are not your person.
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You're right I have a guy who plays games with me and I just don't really care if he shows up whatever I'm not making space for him you just can't take people who play games seriously when you take them seriously and you try to figure them out that's when effected
I’ll tell you why women stick around is because they’ve already developed feelings for him and it’s too hard to walk away when you’re in love. Men are so wonderful in the beginning then get them hooked and it’s harder
Exactly I totally agree. I actually am experiencing it right now
@daniellem4585when you love someone it’s hard to give them up, they may not love you, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t love them
Most men just want their cake and eat it to from my experience. I'm tired of their wacky behavior.
Men PLAY GAMES....
PERIOD!!!
The ego plays games.
Hiii
I meet a total ass hole guy he was avoidant manipulative bad temper selfish and zero in bed, I stop seeing him took a break from dating and recently I meet a kind gentleman that has a secure emotional attachment he travels for an hour to see me every weekend and we connect in meaningful ways. Never allow dysfunctional people to lower your value.
That’s beautiful and well said ❤
It can be hard to detect a person as a pathological liar when they seem to be so complimentary of you.
But think about this … if someone is full of compliments and even ‘I love you’s’ but doesn’t bother to get to know you as a person, and is not interested in who you are, or what makes your soul tick, this is not really about ‘loving and supporting you’ at all.
As far as the pathologically lying narcissist is concerned, this is about getting you to give them what they want - things like sex, money, privileges, the ego hit of an attractive partner, or a better lifestyle … whatever it is.
The real question here is: Do you feel cherished and seen, heard and held at a heart level by this person, or do you feel sexualized and objectified? Do their words feel warm and genuine, or leave you feeling empty, anxious and manipulated? Do you receive the actions, care, tenderness and generosity with this person that makes you feel deeply cherished? Or do you see the selfishness, lack of care and exploitation from this person that makes it all about them despite what loving words supposedly come out of their mouth?
If you are in a genuine relationship with a genuine person, you will feel like you love that person for who they are. If you in a relationship with a narcissist you won’t be able to honestly say ‘My partner is such a wonderful and great guy or girl.’
So, I really hope that these pointers have helped you identify the warning signs of a pathological narcissist. If we want to live a healthy, truthful, safe and authentic life we need to stop lying to ourselves about the people who we are in a relationship with and stop trying to fix or change or tolerate people who have a deficient character despite them saying ‘I’ll change.’
A person’s character is a person’s character, it is the composition of their inner identity. We all can seek, align and connect with people who have high integrity. Please know good people do exist.
Very well written paragraph. You are so right. You are right when you say how do you feel....cared or manipulated. That says everything
yep totally agreed. almost everything u said fits my ex husband
Finally a video where I can actually agree with you . I am just going to take the route and work on myself. I am trying to graduate college. I already have a lot on my plate.
When a guy tells you every day he loves you your the best thing that happened then pull away of cause we are gonna get upset 😭😭😭
We get upset because we realize we've been played and it was a lie all along. Reality is your friend though, accept it. Move on.
Right!!!!
You can't tell if they playing games consciously or unconsciously.
well, it can't be unconsciously bc he'd be passed out lol.
@@ElliotScottDating love your content and a comedian.
Of course a woman is upset if a guy tells he wants a relationship but not with her, and he wants to keep seeing her. He's basically saying she is good enough for fwb and meanwhile he keeps looking for a girl who is worthy of more.
Its so degrading and hurtful
Hi Elliot thanks for the video. How do you know which of the three it is? Is he pulling away because of the context, because I’ve become annoying/cling or because he lost interest?
Inadvertant pun: "please don't take ....a fence." Which goes along with the beware of dog analogy, because sometimes there's a fence for a -good- reason, and it should not be removed under any circumstances.
Humans are weird lol 😆
Yes , some men will do it.. the psychopath , sociopath and the insecure , the pissed off.
I teleported bread
Awww love you to Elliot😊King of Professionalism
you are WRONG men play games
Can you do a livestream at night when we're tipsy because shit would hit the fan.....
Lol 😂
He needs to take responsibility for his actions and quit blaming women his game playing and so does all men who play mind games with women we do not deserve it
This what I don’t understand when he said he doesn’t understand why women would get upset of pulling away. Have a conversation and shut the shi$ down so someone doesn’t get traumatized that’s what I don’t get. That’s why women read too much into things because nobody is forthcoming. All these hints I’m not a mind reader and I don’t want to assume things 😢. This world is trash
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This guy is definition of these crazy men. Don’t interest, don’t show interest, people prefer that 💁🏻♂️
If he can play games with you he is not interested in you and he play games with many more girls at the same time. He is not interested in relationship at all with you.
So I need advice I've been talking to this marine for about two months ,he coming down in November, sometimes we go four days without talking cause hes in syria right now ,so far it's been a week ,nothing he hasn't even been online , and he dropped the I love you way early in the relationship, should I be worried?
Yes. You might have a catfish.
@@s.holmes613 we video chatted its definitely him, he asked me to even go to syria and we chatted on the phone
Honestly...I wouldn't go to Syria. And if he really likes you he would get back to you when he can.
I told him my passport is expired, hes from Orlando, I guess I will see what happens in November, that's when he supposed to come down
Some guys, no matter if they're in the army, navy, marines or not can be players. You might never realize it at first but...you might at some point.
I had a guy who would leave my messages on Read show up at my house unannounced .
but ignore my ignored my messages.
One time I asked him to call me he didn't call me he left that message on read but yet showed up at my house at 3 am next morning.
He would tell me he call me when he gets home but then I wouldn't hear anything from him for 3weeks or more.
It's funny I would wonder what he thought of me when really HE should have been wondering what I think of him and his outrageous games
With a person like this you just can't take anything they say or do serious 🤣🤣
Can men play these mind games if they like you a lot to TEST you to see if you really like them back?
We think so
So it’s none of the above and I’m not annoying and I don’t bother him I respond only when he text me so what are you saying .. don’t date don’t date guys don’t even try I mean you make it sound so hopeless.. I mean who do you date then Jesus!
This should have more likes. Ijs
Lol Ellet Scott I noticed u deleted my comment s cause you didn't like to here the truth about your self. u don't like being called. out. cause you know it the truth about u being a big game player
I love you too
That's some bull. It's one playing games now. Mostly the time I agree with you. Men play games. I watch this one for months. Just looking
Its uo fade dating couach
Were women not men. You should be able to trust someone’s word.
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