You express yourself so fluently Carlose. Public and motivational speaking could be so easy and natural for you....your ability to speak from your heart and your (intelligent) head is so refreshing and inspiring. I wish the very best for you. May all your dreams and heart's desires manifest with joy and ease. You are beautiful. Peace and love from Dongguan City, China.
Thanks for that. Wonderfully articulated. Watching your video, I see great depth of character. There are people who do good in this world by virtue of being decent human beings.... Carlos, you are one of those. Please keep us updated with your life.
+ORINP76 You do. You just might not know it fully right now. I didn't realize the inner strength I had until after coming out and refusing to hide anymore. Wish I could give you a big hug and let you know that you are loved. Sure, I don't know you, but I would bet there ARE people in your life that love you for exactly who YOU are. Maybe you just don't know who they are yet. Maybe some of them you haven't met. But there is nothing I've experienced in life as rewarding as coming out. It was hard and painful at the beginning with my own situation. I used to think I wasn't emotionally ready to come out when I did. As ugly as it was at times, I have no regrets now. Coming out is YOUR process. You don't owe anyone any knowledge about your personal life so please don't feel like you are lying by not coming out. There is always support for you, even if its only via the internet at times, there is always a positive message to be heard. By being open and honest about who you are, you help share this positive message to those in your life. I'm glad to be in touch if you just ever need to talk through shit. Here's my email - ceech40@gmail.com. Hang in there buddy and don't for one second think that the loneliness is forever. Love you
You are a wonderful person. Yes, the time will come when you fall in love. Your life seems full and rewarding. You do your mentor proud. Good luck and stay positive. You are so well adjusted and giving. Hugs to you and hope you keep us up to date on how things are going.
I've had a similar journey to yours since I came out, and so much has happened... You said a few things that I needed to hear at the moment, and I'm appreciative. You really do need to surround yourself with positive people and also be that positive influence to others. You are quite well-spoken and intelligent, and I'm sure once you're ready to put yourself out there, you'll find a great guy! Positive vibes from Texas, and thanks for sharing!
Great replies to this video too. So cool to see young gay guys so mature and doing all they can to not only be good people but to help others along the way.
This was a timely and critically important vid for me. I sense that you have strengths outside your knowing, chiefly because you can’t - or won’t - access that portion of yourself yet. I hope that changes because you deserve to know how deeply, quietly you connect with other people. This narcissistic world needs you, Carlos, so keep up this monumental work. I send you all the best for continued grace and strength (and no, I’m not religious).
You are clearly a very sincere and thoughtful person with excellent communication skills. Thank you for sharing an update in your ongoing story. Best wishes to you!
Hello, Glad to know you are still making vlogs. I think it's important for others to see that just because one is gay it doesn't mean we are all the same. It seems you show another unique side, and for that you have my best wishes. I'm a bit older and live a very straight life. I don't frequent the bars or club scene. I have never had a relationship. For me...being the best me that I can be has enabled me to help raise a nephew and niece when they needed a parent the most. By profession I am a teacher, have devoted myself totally in educating our young. I've done so much that had I been wired differently, I don't I could have accomplished what I have. I've seen my life more as a trade off. Have I suffered? At times I ponder that since I wonder what having a relationship would be like. At times I feel lonely, but as an introverted guy I feel it has more to do with that, especially living in a large area like Los Angeles. I don't know if you're the type to aggressively pursue someone, but you have the benefit of youth on your side so you have a strong chance of meeting that special person. I wish you the best on your journey. Be well.
Those that don't agree with you doesn't mean they are right you have it pretty good. I'm glad you seem more comfortable with your own sexual orientation or identity. You seem more happy with yourself. I am so glad you are what appears to am activist. The significant other will come in time sometimes when we aren't even looking! Be true to you and own it buddy! You are still beautiful and you are still true to you. Bravo
I told love listening to what you shared. What you shared is a example of positive impact for others who are having a difficult time with their coming out process. Thank you and hugs.
Thanks for the encouragement from your story. You and many others have laid a foundation for people like me to grow on. I've lived a lie for so long that it feels good to stand up in the truth of light. Andy
You are such a sweet, thoughtful, reflective person. You try very hard to see from others perspectives and be respectful. At the end of the day, some people may never change on the topic and, for me, that deeply saddens me. All we can do is show that light in us and hope God can use that to change the hearts of others. I knows it has been years since you posted this video, but it still makes an impact!
Thank you so much for your kind words. I no longer feel like I need to seek a community on UA-cam like I did when I came out 10 years ago (only 2 years before this video) but seeing a comment like this forces me to reflect on how far I’ve come. But I’ll never forget how lonely it was before I came out, and even afterwards until I found my people. Anyway thanks again. Cheers!
There is something wrong with some straight people. They can not help being prejudice for some reason. That reason is usually religion. You seem like a great guy. You are very brave and those with problems with gay people need to get help, not you. It is hard to love yourself when others like family do not. I send hope and admiration for your strength. May you find love and acceptance in abundance from friends around you. Peace.
Man I love your "Her hands were leaves" video. And aside from that you look like Jim Caviezel as well as your voice. Remind me of Jim Caviezel in the movie "The Thin Red Line"
It's fascinating to hear vlogs about people coming out. You haven't done a video in 2 years. I wonder what your life is like now and what your doing. My coming out was the most unproductive thing I ever did. I was 16 and my grades were down. I had been really bashed for being gay in middle school and now had become popular because I was a stoner. They just stopped parenting. Our doctor said I needed therapy which I desperately did and my parents just didn't do anything. I went to a shrink and when I told him I was gay he stopped my in my tracks and said he didn't deal with gay adolescents and referred me to another Dr. My father asked me I really felt I needed a psychiatrist. My father asking if a 16 kid who was flunking out of school, drinking and completely lost if he needed help. I just wonder if he really loved me.
Stephen thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear about your having to go through that. It's not right how people don't recognize how their ignorance shapes what they feel about LGBT people. At the end of the day, all we can do is live our lives unapologetically, which is still hard for me bc I'm used to caring so much about what others think about me. Being gay is a gift. I think straight men are often so out of touch with their emotions bc they spend so much time trying to be masculine, in this involves hiding emotions from the world. We aren't meant to do that! It sucks that in the medical community there are still people operating within a totally different zeitgeist. This is becoming less common. Why? What has caused this apparent shift in attitude towards LGBT people? Coming out. Coming out is still fucking hard. It's taken me even longer to reach self acceptance on a deep level. But bearing witness to the courage of other gay men gave me the permission to do the same. Hoping you are in a better place now my brother!
Don't be too hard on yourself in dealing with hostile people, Carlos. Spend your time making supportive friends and meeting guys who you are interested in. Build your life from the inside out. Join GLBT groups you are comfortable with, sports, political, etc. That's how to make a good life for yourself as an openly gay man.
Hi Carlos, I wanted to reach out to you. I watched your coming out video and the two year update. I saw the look in your eyes as you were making your video. It looked like you were in a lot of emotional pain. I am glad that you did not commit suicide. I dont know you but you have to know you make the world a better place by being here. I know the videos were a long time ago, but I wanted to see if everything turned out okay for you. I have also dealt with being gay and hiding it all my life except for a couple of people who I told. You strike me as being a really descent guy, I know first hand living with the fear of other people finding out and the risk of them turning on you. It struck a chord when you mentioned that straight people right away may think of you as a pedophile. Im older than you are and my generation does not accept it as easily as your generation does. It definitely is a curse, but we were born this way and as you know it is not a choice. I hope to hear a reply from you, but I understand if you stopped checking your channel. Good luck with your life. Tim
I think it’s important to recognize how long it took for you to come out to yourself, and to double that time for others. You expect their understanding and support, maybe it will never come. They can only reflect what their education, and experiences have taught them over their lives. Please also remember that Religion Poisons Everything.
There's nothing wrong with getting angry at homophobic people. It's healthy in fact. I came out at 18 in 1974. We were always angry then. I wish that hadn't been necessary, but we had it rough in those days. I'm glad it wasn't that way for you and younger Gay people. But when the situation calls for it, you should stand. That's what it means to stand. You'll feel better about yourself, and antigay folks need to be confronted. Lastly, thank you for making this video. It will help lots of people.
missourigreen051 no. he wasn't like that. all I said was that he had certain religious views. didn't say too much about the professional relationship we had because there was no reason to in the context of this video. he is ignorant and will likely stay that way with the reasoning behind his beliefs currently. to me though, as long as you're not one of those people who tries to make laws against equality or just flat out makes an effort to denigrate you for being yourself, I don't have a problem with you. yes, it does frustrate me that some people just will not "get it" any time soon. it's usually their loss though
I want you to know it’s not a crime to being who you are being gay or being straight or homosexual to whatever does it say it’s a crime to be who you are and I know that for a certain we do have civil rights in America today and I don’t want you to forget that we have civil rights in this is America people like you deserve your rights to be who you are and it’s not a crime to be gay either so don’t have to worry about it
I've come to think that the whole "It's a choice" thing comes down to people not realizing that sexuality itself is not a choice, but that bisexuality offers a choice. I think the two get confused.
Had to freeze this for moment. Because it almost sounds as if you are living your life, although gay, according to other people’s thought processes. And if you would never fall in love and get married if that happens in your life. This is very confusing. You should be living your life based on your own principles. Simply because it will likely take society two generations to catch up. You cannot wait for that to happen.
Calvin Davis I am just seeing this comment now, about 1 year later. I actually really agree with what you’re saying. I’ve always care too much about what others think, and that certainly comes through in this video, which is now 6 years old. I’m more comfortable with myself than I ever thought I could be! But I still have work to do. This is just what growing up looks like for me. I do appreciate your comments. Take care
The thing I find missing is your gay experiences hopefully you've had some great ones. I feel like you were paying the price without getting enough of the reward.
You express yourself so fluently Carlose. Public and motivational speaking could be so easy and natural for you....your ability to speak from your heart and your (intelligent) head is so refreshing and inspiring. I wish the very best for you. May all your dreams and heart's desires manifest with joy and ease. You are beautiful. Peace and love from Dongguan City, China.
Thanks for that. Wonderfully articulated. Watching your video, I see great depth of character. There are people who do good in this world by virtue of being decent human beings.... Carlos, you are one of those. Please keep us updated with your life.
I always love hearing another perspective on the coming out process. Thank you for this video. Much love!
I am so scared to tell anyone but I am so lonely sometimes I wish I could but I live in a small town with small minds . I wish I had your strength .
+ORINP76 You do. You just might not know it fully right now. I didn't realize the inner strength I had until after coming out and refusing to hide anymore. Wish I could give you a big hug and let you know that you are loved. Sure, I don't know you, but I would bet there ARE people in your life that love you for exactly who YOU are. Maybe you just don't know who they are yet. Maybe some of them you haven't met. But there is nothing I've experienced in life as rewarding as coming out. It was hard and painful at the beginning with my own situation. I used to think I wasn't emotionally ready to come out when I did. As ugly as it was at times, I have no regrets now.
Coming out is YOUR process. You don't owe anyone any knowledge about your personal life so please don't feel like you are lying by not coming out. There is always support for you, even if its only via the internet at times, there is always a positive message to be heard. By being open and honest about who you are, you help share this positive message to those in your life. I'm glad to be in touch if you just ever need to talk through shit. Here's my email - ceech40@gmail.com. Hang in there buddy and don't for one second think that the loneliness is forever. Love you
Love the voice & mind. :-) Stand proud and not be left behind. Calm to your palm. Expressive words. Speak to the herd. Stand proud and shout loud.
You are a wonderful person. Yes, the time will come when you fall in love. Your life seems full and rewarding. You do your mentor proud. Good luck and stay positive. You are so well adjusted and giving. Hugs to you and hope you keep us up to date on how things are going.
I've had a similar journey to yours since I came out, and so much has happened... You said a few things that I needed to hear at the moment, and I'm appreciative. You really do need to surround yourself with positive people and also be that positive influence to others. You are quite well-spoken and intelligent, and I'm sure once you're ready to put yourself out there, you'll find a great guy! Positive vibes from Texas, and thanks for sharing!
Great replies to this video too. So cool to see young gay guys so mature and doing all they can to not only be good people but to help others along the way.
This was a timely and critically important vid for me. I sense that you have strengths outside your knowing, chiefly because you can’t - or won’t - access that portion of yourself yet. I hope that changes because you deserve to know how deeply, quietly you connect with other people. This narcissistic world needs you, Carlos, so keep up this monumental work. I send you all the best for continued grace and strength (and no, I’m not religious).
Really good perspective on relationships. So many people feel like that have to be tied to someone. It'll happen when it happens.
Great video Carlos.
You are clearly a very sincere and thoughtful person with excellent communication skills. Thank you for sharing an update in your ongoing story. Best wishes to you!
Hello,
Glad to know you are still making vlogs. I think it's important for others to see that just because one is gay it doesn't mean we are all the same. It seems you show another unique side, and for that you have my best wishes.
I'm a bit older and live a very straight life. I don't frequent the bars or club scene. I have never had a relationship. For me...being the best me that I can be has enabled me to help raise a nephew and niece when they needed a parent the most. By profession I am a teacher, have devoted myself totally in educating our young. I've done so much that had I been wired differently, I don't I could have accomplished what I have. I've seen my life more as a trade off. Have I suffered? At times I ponder that since I wonder what having a relationship would be like. At times I feel lonely, but as an introverted guy I feel it has more to do with that, especially living in a large area like Los Angeles. I don't know if you're the type to aggressively pursue someone, but you have the benefit of youth on your side so you have a strong chance of meeting that special person. I wish you the best on your journey. Be well.
Those that don't agree with you doesn't mean they are right you have it pretty good. I'm glad you seem more comfortable with your own sexual orientation or identity. You seem more happy with yourself. I am so glad you are what appears to am activist. The significant other will come in time sometimes when we aren't even looking! Be true to you and own it buddy! You are still beautiful and you are still true to you. Bravo
I told love listening to what you shared. What you shared is a example of positive impact for others who are having a difficult time with their coming out process. Thank you and hugs.
Very good speaking ability. Could listen to you all day. Hope you find a stabile and loving person who can appreciate the treasure you are.
You have a great mind. I’m deeply grateful for your sharing
Good video Bud.
Thanks for the encouragement from your story. You and many others have laid a foundation for people like me to grow on. I've lived a lie for so long that it feels good to stand up in the truth of light. Andy
You are incredible. Much love to you
You are such a sweet, thoughtful, reflective person. You try very hard to see from others perspectives and be respectful. At the end of the day, some people may never change on the topic and, for me, that deeply saddens me. All we can do is show that light in us and hope God can use that to change the hearts of others. I knows it has been years since you posted this video, but it still makes an impact!
Thank you so much for your kind words. I no longer feel like I need to seek a community on UA-cam like I did when I came out 10 years ago (only 2 years before this video) but seeing a comment like this forces me to reflect on how far I’ve come. But I’ll never forget how lonely it was before I came out, and even afterwards until I found my people. Anyway thanks again. Cheers!
There is something wrong with some straight people. They can not help being prejudice for some reason. That reason is usually religion. You seem like a great guy. You are very brave and those with problems with gay people need to get help, not you. It is hard to love yourself when others like family do not. I send hope and admiration for your strength. May you find love and acceptance in abundance from friends around you. Peace.
Man I love your "Her hands were leaves" video. And aside from that you look like Jim Caviezel as well as your voice. Remind me of Jim Caviezel in the movie "The Thin Red Line"
Love yourself. Everything else will follow.
I love your sharing. Please let me know how you are feeling now
Good stuff, man. Saw your comment on Iron and Wine's version of Time After Time. Did you ever make a video of how to play it with the DADGAD tuning?
It's fascinating to hear vlogs about people coming out. You haven't done a video in 2 years. I wonder what your life is like now and what your doing. My coming out was the most unproductive thing I ever did. I was 16 and my grades were down. I had been really bashed for being gay in middle school and now had become popular because I was a stoner. They just stopped parenting. Our doctor said I needed therapy which I desperately did and my parents just didn't do anything. I went to a shrink and when I told him I was gay he stopped my in my tracks and said he didn't deal with gay adolescents and referred me to another Dr. My father asked me I really felt I needed a psychiatrist. My father asking if a 16 kid who was flunking out of school, drinking and completely lost if he needed help. I just wonder if he really loved me.
Stephen thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear about your having to go through that. It's not right how people don't recognize how their ignorance shapes what they feel about LGBT people. At the end of the day, all we can do is live our lives unapologetically, which is still hard for me bc I'm used to caring so much about what others think about me. Being gay is a gift. I think straight men are often so out of touch with their emotions bc they spend so much time trying to be masculine, in this involves hiding emotions from the world. We aren't meant to do that!
It sucks that in the medical community there are still people operating within a totally different zeitgeist. This is becoming less common. Why? What has caused this apparent shift in attitude towards LGBT people? Coming out.
Coming out is still fucking hard. It's taken me even longer to reach self acceptance on a deep level. But bearing witness to the courage of other gay men gave me the permission to do the same. Hoping you are in a better place now my brother!
Still haven't come out yet. Keep going strong
Don't be too hard on yourself in dealing with hostile people, Carlos. Spend your time making supportive friends and meeting guys who you are interested in. Build your life from the inside out. Join GLBT groups you are comfortable with, sports, political, etc. That's how to make a good life for yourself as an openly gay man.
Hi Carlos, I wanted to reach out to you. I watched your coming out video and the two year update. I saw the look in your eyes as you were making your video. It looked like you were in a lot of emotional pain. I am glad that you did not commit suicide. I dont know you but you have to know you make the world a better place by being here. I know the videos were a long time ago, but I wanted to see if everything turned out okay for you.
I have also dealt with being gay and hiding it all my life except for a couple of people who I told. You strike me as being a really descent guy, I know first hand living with the fear of other people finding out and the risk of them turning on you. It struck a chord when you mentioned that straight people right away may think of you as a pedophile. Im older than you are and my generation does not accept it as easily as your generation does. It definitely is a curse, but we were born this way and as you know it is not a choice.
I hope to hear a reply from you, but I understand if you stopped checking your channel.
Good luck with your life.
Tim
audio not so good in this one, but still enjoyed listening to u.
I think it’s important to recognize how long it took for you to come out to yourself, and to double that time for others. You expect their understanding and support, maybe it will never come. They can only reflect what their education, and experiences have taught them over their lives. Please also remember that Religion Poisons Everything.
There's nothing wrong with getting angry at homophobic people. It's healthy in fact. I came out at 18 in 1974. We were always angry then. I wish that hadn't been necessary, but we had it rough in those days. I'm glad it wasn't that way for you and younger Gay people. But when the situation calls for it, you should stand. That's what it means to stand. You'll feel better about yourself, and antigay folks need to be confronted. Lastly, thank you for making this video. It will help lots of people.
What do you mean by supervisor?
I mean supervisor, for a job I had at the time. He is a devout catholic
Carlos Echeverria Did he ever fire you for being gay? Because it's legal to do that in America.
missourigreen051
no. he wasn't like that. all I said was that he had certain religious views. didn't say too much about the professional relationship we had because there was no reason to in the context of this video. he is ignorant and will likely stay that way with the reasoning behind his beliefs currently. to me though, as long as you're not one of those people who tries to make laws against equality or just flat out makes an effort to denigrate you for being yourself, I don't have a problem with you. yes, it does frustrate me that some people just will not "get it" any time soon. it's usually their loss though
I want you to know it’s not a crime to being who you are being gay or being straight or homosexual to whatever does it say it’s a crime to be who you are and I know that for a certain we do have civil rights in America today and I don’t want you to forget that we have civil rights in this is America people like you deserve your rights to be who you are and it’s not a crime to be gay either so don’t have to worry about it
Are you on social media?
Dspw0800 insta: tzarlos
I've come to think that the whole "It's a choice" thing comes down to people not realizing that sexuality itself is not a choice, but that bisexuality offers a choice. I think the two get confused.
Do you have instagram?
+Maurits Marijnissen No, why?
+carlose0318 because we want to follow you lol
+oddnamera haha yess
+oddnamera do you have instagram?
+Maurits Marijnissen I do lol
Had to freeze this for moment. Because it almost sounds as if you are living your life, although gay, according to other people’s thought processes. And if you would never fall in love and get married if that happens in your life. This is very confusing. You should be living your life based on your own principles. Simply because it will likely take society two generations to catch up. You cannot wait for that to happen.
Calvin Davis I am just seeing this comment now, about 1 year later. I actually really agree with what you’re saying. I’ve always care too much about what others think, and that certainly comes through in this video, which is now 6 years old. I’m more comfortable with myself than I ever thought I could be! But I still have work to do. This is just what growing up looks like for me. I do appreciate your comments. Take care
You seem like a very nice guy gay guy from NJ
The thing I find missing is your gay experiences hopefully you've had some great ones. I feel like you were paying the price without getting enough of the reward.
Haha that has certainly changed. This was a long time ago :)
@@carlose0318 Glad to hear it handsome!