Coming out to friends and family

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  • Опубліковано 11 гру 2024

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  • @antonio576
    @antonio576 11 років тому +20

    You rock man!!!. Your openness is truly appreciated, you are a really great guy.

  • @b4804514
    @b4804514 11 років тому +4

    Nicely done please make a follow up I liked the way you talked about the lead up and your thoughts before you started telling people. This is really the most critical part - dealing with yourself & how and what that might mean for your future. It does make a difference to some people if they are not be comfortable with it. You talked about that very logically & well thought out. You are going to find a great guy because you are really a nice empathetic person. Can't wait to see more

  • @HobbitHobbit
    @HobbitHobbit 9 років тому +3

    Well done video and excellent story. I am certain this shaped some people coming out that it's okay and there is nothing abnormal about them. Great job!

  • @steezy_jesuss8613
    @steezy_jesuss8613 10 років тому +15

    I just finished watching the whole video and I feel more motivated to come out to my parents & brother , thank you .

  • @weda0604
    @weda0604 10 років тому +1

    So I want to say how cool it is that you speak your mind and such a down-to-earth way. I think sometimes that's the best way to communicate to people. What you say about it getting easier to tell people as time goes on is so true. I think about how I had to build up so much courage to tell people initially. Now I can practically tell people as if we were discussing the weather. I too am not a feminine person nor do I seek a feminine guy to date. I went to school for environmental science but right now I am a PDR technician doing painless Dent removal. Every single day at work I think about how many people have no idea / let alone think that I'm gay. I'm cool with that because it really means that I'm being myself. I'm not influenced by the feminine nature of certain people to follow a stereotype. I'm still a guy like you. Thanks so so much for sharing this!

  • @mikalmos369
    @mikalmos369 6 місяців тому +1

    10yrs later... you can always count on the UA-cam algorithm recommending coming out videos, that you haven't seen, recocomended during Pride month and on National Coming Out day. Great videos...would like to see more and find out where life has lead you.

  • @richardkennedy8045
    @richardkennedy8045 8 років тому +5

    Just now caught your video and I want you to know how proud I am, like you I'm masculine and have never really come out and I'm really proud of all of those people who excepted you, I know all of my straight friends would except me also but it's really to late for me to go there. I've only been a one person person I found my true love at a very young age and I'm old enough to be your grandfather now and we were together for 53 yrs and 3 yrs ago he passed away in my arms , I just want you to know it's possible to have along and healthy life with someone if that's what you want. GodBless You Son 🍀

  • @stevec404
    @stevec404 3 роки тому +5

    Denny: "Dustin, I'm sorry!" Tears. Real brotherly love!

  • @johnsaulle6731
    @johnsaulle6731 7 років тому +1

    such a powerful video. such a brave strong guy. congratulations.

  • @donaldstorm4959
    @donaldstorm4959 8 років тому +4

    was a good video I'm Alot Like You but I couldn't see myself at your age making a video about it you're awesome. if you make more videos I will watch have a good day my friend.

  • @cindylauper101
    @cindylauper101 10 років тому +6

    Such an inspiration. Where are all the guys like this? I didn't know they existed out of my dreams. He's so attractive and obviously is very down to earth. Keep making videos dude!

  • @49612tyler
    @49612tyler 10 років тому +9

    I am prior military and a martial arts instructor I had 4 dojo's at one time and I am gay, alot of people were suprised but the only one that was disapointed was my dad, he is a Baptist preacher and when I told him I did not hear from him for a week and I figured I would never hear from him again and about a week later he showed up, he does not like it but he is getting better now, I realized that if it took me 20 yrs to accept myself I cant expect someone to accept it instatly, give them time they will eventually come around, I think us gay people always think of the worst and are suprised when it doesnt happen, we make it harder in our minds than it has to be. Take care to everyone and love life.

  • @alexjm0530
    @alexjm0530 10 років тому +2

    Your video is awesome....so relate...

  • @kpsran
    @kpsran 11 років тому +3

    I hope everything will turn out great for you. Thanks for sharing your story!

  • @robbiewallace2754
    @robbiewallace2754 4 роки тому +2

    Dustin I accept you. Your an Awesome young man. God bless you🙂

  • @ericzalaznik7742
    @ericzalaznik7742 10 років тому +1

    Great job on this video, your story is very inspiring.

  • @dab7963
    @dab7963 8 років тому +8

    Good for you having the courage to come out. It gets easier as you get older.

  • @dennisdman11
    @dennisdman11 11 років тому +3

    This may sound odd but your an amazing human being . Thanks for shareing this man .

  • @trisshandy
    @trisshandy 11 років тому +10

    That was one awesome video. I hope your family all returns the love and respect you have for them. Also hope you make more vids as you complete your coming out process. btw - do you ever watch Jesse Duke's vids on YT? I think you are his lost brother!

  • @keter1234
    @keter1234 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you... You did a great job. Luv. Ya.

  • @markbryant8603
    @markbryant8603 10 років тому +8

    Very well done. I'm very happy for you. Please make more videos like this because people need to know they can come out and be just fine. Someone will love them no matter what. No one should kill themselves for who they are, just be you. Love you. :)

  • @jasonembree8354
    @jasonembree8354 3 роки тому +1

    There are all kinds of people no matter what spectrum of attraction is and wherever you fit in the masculine or feminine side of the spectrum. It's okay to be yourself. You are you and the people who care about you and want the best hopefully will be there to listen and love you no matter what.
    Great video. Sorry for the late reply. Glad that you felt comfortable sharing your thoughts on here and to your friends and brothers.

  • @Dkzz25
    @Dkzz25 11 років тому +2

    Awesome man, you are inspiring.

  • @crod324
    @crod324 10 років тому +2

    Great Odent's Raven! you're beautiful!

  • @tombaker836
    @tombaker836 10 років тому +5

    Those who matter won't mind and those who mind don't matter. Stand tall, hang in there. Love ya.

    • @jordansmithsook538
      @jordansmithsook538 10 років тому +1

      haha THATS THE SAYING...I tried to say it on a comment and got it wrong...good saying anyway :)

  • @davidturkoski8764
    @davidturkoski8764 8 років тому +2

    Love your bravery

  • @rafaeljay4552
    @rafaeljay4552 11 років тому +2

    ur so cool dude, it's a good explainations about who you are....

  • @lossoflove19
    @lossoflove19 10 років тому +16

    I wish I had more guys like you around me damn.

  • @ErikMulder1
    @ErikMulder1 10 років тому +1

    Be good, be happy.

  • @willrobbinson
    @willrobbinson 4 роки тому

    u are a real person do what u gotta do & come out to the closes to u first & family ect BUT the main thing of all is YOU are still YOU !! if others condemn you find other friends - good luck i mean it take care

  • @jamestruesdale1
    @jamestruesdale1 8 місяців тому

    I love your complete honesty!

  • @likemacamstatus
    @likemacamstatus 11 років тому +1

    Great video

  • @tannereustace
    @tannereustace 3 роки тому

    I like your point about people being scared of things they don't understand--I guess that's kind of true with some people and COVID vaccines! I appreciate you sharing your story--I came out in my high school yearbook quote in 2020 with "I started high school with straight A's...now I'm not even straight! I'm still me, though!" Super scary decision but I'm glad I did it, and seeing other coming out videos helped me. It is people like you who are inspiring people to own who they are, so I thank you immensely :)

  • @gr8god4u
    @gr8god4u 8 років тому +1

    You are loved! 😇 HUGz

  • @Soundillusions94xyz
    @Soundillusions94xyz 10 років тому +2

    very well done.. I'm glad you came out for yourself... I was pretty much forced to come out. It wasn't a bad thing though, my best friend told my mom about 3 years ago, my mom and I were having a lot of arguments and she decided to call my friend to seek some sort of guidance into my issues (depression and stuff), my friend ended up telling her the core of my self-loathing behavior, that I'm gay. My mom started bawling and asked why I didn't personally tell her that, I knew she was hurt, but she wasn't mean about it, she learned how to accept me and I'm happy for that, my dad also knows, he took it perfectly well, and a few friends know, but I can honestly say that without my friend... I think I would still be living a lie right now.... I'm almost 20, and I'm happy my parents know and I don't have to lie to them anymore, it's a huge relief, but a assure you... my problems... are FAR from over...... coming out really isn't the answer to my happiness.... I have so many other things to deal with... I even doubt the purpose of my existence.. but whatever, it doesn't matter Also, I think you're very attractive... hehe... ;)

  • @tedibear1962
    @tedibear1962 11 років тому +3

    I say well done, you are an inspiration to many people out there, I wish you much success in life. People come in all shapes, sizes, color, races, sexes, and we all need to be accepted for who we are. I am proud and out, and tell others, I'm done dealing with the bigots of society, I tell them to deal with life and what ever life brings. Go get em. Be out and proud.

  • @oliverdownunder9397
    @oliverdownunder9397 4 роки тому +2

    You’re authentic and gutsy. I know this video is 7 years old but I still thought you were courageous and real. Love and support from Australia 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🇦🇺🇦🇺🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺😘🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺😘😘🙂😘😘😘🙂😘🇦🇺🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺😘

  • @LaurenceMartin4pix
    @LaurenceMartin4pix 11 років тому +3

    that was pretty fucking moving !! . . glad you're in a good place now !

  • @TPR38655
    @TPR38655 11 років тому +2

    what you were trying to say is why if you had a choice would you take a route in life that can be hard for alot of people. Just relax and say what you want its imporant. Best of luck

  • @oliverdownunder9397
    @oliverdownunder9397 4 роки тому +2

    Oh and btw....your parents have done a great job on all of you. xx

  • @davidwilson5556
    @davidwilson5556 Рік тому

    Your amazing from davie in Scotland

  • @johngreenway2845
    @johngreenway2845 3 роки тому

    I hope you found real acceptance since this video. Your video is important and I am sharing it. Thanks

  • @LauderdaleJoeM
    @LauderdaleJoeM 3 роки тому +1

    Did you ever go Air Force? After USAF basic & tech training, I had an 6 yr Air Nat'l Guard contract that included TDY working in the Pentagon. Best branch!

  • @CleggZoex
    @CleggZoex 11 років тому +1

    I really liked your video. I think its great that everyone was so accepting and loving to you :] I feel the same way as I still am 'in the closet' and I've never been feminine either and in day to day life you wouldn't assume that I was gay. Hope you have a great day ;]

  • @ansuhmayram
    @ansuhmayram 8 років тому +2

    bless you, you have so much insight for a young lad

  • @00thebigkahlua00
    @00thebigkahlua00 11 років тому +2

    Have you told you parents, and if so, can you share how that went? Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @MrCleanboy12
    @MrCleanboy12 7 років тому +1

    wow thank you for the video. u did a great job. your life is much better now im sure. you are adorable btw. i wish i was younger .

  • @ansuhmayram
    @ansuhmayram 8 років тому

    You remind me of Aaron from Emmerdale. Masculine scally that likes lads, prottective over their family, have good friends, and deserve respect.

  • @jasonwalters9594
    @jasonwalters9594 9 років тому +1

    I'm glad you had a good response to coming out. Everyone is not that lucky. I came out to my family and friends. My parents disowned me. My dad actually took a restraining order out to keep me away from him. My sister and brother wont talk to me. My friends have been fairly cool with it and I have cousins and aunts that have been there for me. But it has been very hard. I wish everyone would stop judging people and accept them for who they are. Good luck and support is very important.

  • @richardgaspard7917
    @richardgaspard7917 10 років тому +3

    be sure to give us an update. i am very touched by your story and i am very happy that all of your friends and siblings were accepting

  • @ihaiarongonui8003
    @ihaiarongonui8003 8 років тому +2

    good coming out story your real and str* up... nice... its not easy to tell bothers i havent so much respect!!!!

  • @briznye
    @briznye 8 років тому +4

    i lost count of how many brothers you have, lol. . .

  • @chswim18
    @chswim18 10 років тому +1

    It is always difficult coming out to another person over the duration at the beginning. Definetly understandable about having a life that you don't have to be constantly ridiculed and judged based on orientation. Even though it's 2014, people's mind set may be changing, churches and the armed forces are becoming accepting but it is still a fight for many years to come. But yeah, definetly a good feeling once u blurt it out. I know it was for me at first I was soooo relieved lol

  • @jimiseco
    @jimiseco 11 років тому +1

    Legend

  • @larryguldenzopf8365
    @larryguldenzopf8365 2 роки тому

    Thank you for your beautiful bravery. I to am gay. I believe I have been born that way being gay. I am a twin. Congratulations. I am blessed for the acceptance. The journey is hard ,but being yourself inspires others. Bless you.

  • @christophergreenwood1569
    @christophergreenwood1569 3 роки тому

    Very well said bro and always keep your chin up!!😉👊

  • @douglaswilkinson5700
    @douglaswilkinson5700 6 місяців тому

    Growing up in the '60s and not understanding what these feeling even mean. Therapist diagnosed me as being homosexual (there is a book -- "DSM-5" is the latest edition -- psychologists use to assign an illness with a code) when I was 25 years. Life's been tough.

  • @ajh9187
    @ajh9187 9 років тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your story, ( be proud of yourself ) I love to see masculine gay guys especially really good looking ones. Nice to see you working a blue caller tradesman job. I have worked as a heavy duty mechanic / commercial transport mechanic most of my life. On the downside, being masculine I often hear homophobic shit from people that don't know I`m gay.

  • @Warquote
    @Warquote 3 роки тому +1

    Today I'm coming out to my best friend... And it feels good...

  • @MeanT241985
    @MeanT241985 10 років тому +1

    Nice job and let me add its nice to see a masculine guy on one of these :)

  • @garagemasteronline
    @garagemasteronline 8 років тому +1

    Great job buddy :-)

  • @Gezeehhh
    @Gezeehhh 11 років тому +2

    Dayum you are good looking

  • @jacobadams2485
    @jacobadams2485 4 роки тому +1

    Your so cute

  • @friday1218
    @friday1218 7 років тому +3

    Damn Dustin you're cute

  • @jamesw3148
    @jamesw3148 8 років тому +3

    make more Vida please👌💯

  • @LenHealsU
    @LenHealsU 3 роки тому +1

    That's fantastic with your courage! You're a great model for others. By the way, a bisexual friend of mine told me this, which really helped me: Being Gay is NOT a choice. Being Bisexual IS a choice, i.e., being attracted to both sexes is a CHOICE. You choose either boy or girl. But being Gay, you're only attracted to the same sex (not a choice). Straight people are only attracted to the opposite sex. If a Straight person argues that it's a choice, all you need to say is the following: "You, who are straight, chose to be with the opposite sex. That means you were attracted to BOTH sexes and CHOSE the opposite sex, right?" You'll then hear a pin drop on the carpet, and he or she will be at a loss for words. God does not make mistakes in his infinite wisdom, where a certain percentage of the population is Gay. Why is a certain percentage of the population left handed, while the majority is right handed? Same analogy. Countless Gay, as well as Straight, are loving, caring, sharing, and productive human beings. Period and end of story.

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon9999 Рік тому +1

    Being LGBT is absolutely well, God is by our side 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈✝️✝️✝️

  • @molipaul
    @molipaul 5 років тому +1

    Wish I could have met you when I was coming out...or anytime in life really, especially when I still had hope of finding my soulmate.

  • @jayduc
    @jayduc Рік тому

    No question it's really tough especially when you have known for a long time. Being non-hetero is not a choice, the choice is being honest or hiding it.

  • @Jakethesnake7321
    @Jakethesnake7321 4 роки тому +2

    Best coming out story and yes gay from birth whether you figure it out sooner or later you don’t turn gay

  • @jameswooldridge5457
    @jameswooldridge5457 10 років тому +1

    18:27 Couldn't put it better.

  • @ansuhmayram
    @ansuhmayram 8 років тому +3

    Man ypu're parents could have made this story easier with giving you different names lol
    Denny
    David
    Dustin

  • @ianward9157
    @ianward9157 4 роки тому

    I wish you every happiness. XXX X

  • @DJFreeway-DJDeltoid-DJZales
    @DJFreeway-DJDeltoid-DJZales 2 роки тому

    People that are internally not fully heterosexual have existed in small proportions in every corner of the earth.

  • @duncanmckinnon
    @duncanmckinnon 3 роки тому

    When I told my Dad I was gay he said, 'Never mind, son. You'll grow out of it!'

  • @robbieanson1218
    @robbieanson1218 3 роки тому +1

    I want you to know a lot of my family is welders and they are married too woman and what you said about that young kid that you said that has autism spectrum I want you to know that I have down syndrome and I am going to start ministry known as everlasting life ministries end it is focused on what you just said the ministry that I have is for those of us that is under the act of self advocacy and special needs I am a part of this and I appreciate your story
    And the ministry that I am after is not about religion at all there will be Bible studies and also about my experience with self advocacy and me as being a special-needs man that has his own apartment you should check in with L arch it is a place that you might want to look into

  • @donaldstorm4959
    @donaldstorm4959 7 років тому +2

    A lot of people didn't know I was either I went through puberty in 6th grade and I knew what was going on with myself with knowing that I was gay and everything but I really didn't know what it was at first it was rough didn't have any role models that's what was the bad thing was it was kind of all right I didn't come out until after I came back from the Army couple years after that but I didn't mind not saying anything because well I had dates come over and I slept over if I would have said something to my parents I would have been happening so I enjoyed my privacy it was my thing and I talk to people when I was ready best of my friends and everybody didn't have a clue, it was summer after 7th grade before starting a grade certain people I would see you and then come over to my house I have no problem with it whatsoever my first boyfriend it was awesome unfortunately when I was down the shore at the beach house my uncle stopped by our house my boyfriend was using the pool and using my room I could trust him but my dad found out he was staying at the house it's a three-story house a lot of privacy and my dad found out and I got a bunch of crap for it and I didn't save my boyfriend for a couple years talk to him for a little bit just before I went in the army and I was glad I kept it under wraps, i was put on the spot a couple times when some girls in high school will put the moves on me I would take him out on a date and that was it there was no closeness involved at all couldn't do it, After seventh grade I knew I was gay I need a little education and I got it from a schoolmate he actually describe some stuff to me like sucking dick? I thought that was just an expression I didn't know people really did it, I didn't even know how to masturbate somebody taught me it was a classmate of mine I was never happier then I fully understood what my life was going to be like.

  • @dustins4950
    @dustins4950 8 років тому +1

    I made new channel this Dustin from the video no lie

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon9999 Рік тому +1

    I send all my love and support to all the LGBT people of the world ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all are important and very valuable even though we live in a world that makes you all believe otherwise. Remember always be proud of who you are 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 You all make from this world a better place ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people are a rainbow of love in a world full of hate, but with difference of our straight partners, we all are united over a same flag 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 The flag of LGBT love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 And we all must be united against hate, violence, discrimination and intolerance ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We all are like a great family and we must fight to destroy hate ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Remember, LGBT people is love and love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I don't care about your race, nationality, biological gender, health condition, religion or any other condition ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 If you are an LGBT person you have all my love and my support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You guys are not alone in this fight and all the LGBT people of all over the world needs to understand this messagge, cause just united we will win against hate and we don't have to allow that nothing divide us. Never feel bad of who you are and never allow that this cruel world change who you really are or turn off your light and your shine ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all born that way and remember LGBT people of all the world, at the end, love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @Vapor_Man650
    @Vapor_Man650 10 років тому +1

    So are you in College? Major?

  • @MarcosHenryRiemeltyoutubii
    @MarcosHenryRiemeltyoutubii 9 років тому

    You're spanish, right?

  • @tonybennett4159
    @tonybennett4159 10 років тому +3

    @19grinNbearit81 Sounds like a smart arse comment made after you already know. I've met plenty of straight guys who have characteristics that are far less masculine than this guy. Maybe you want to take the kid down a peg or two because of his youtube name, maybe you're miffed that he doesn't conform to the stereotype, whatever. Chances are he's got more strength and courage than his straight contemporaries, or people who post derogatory remarks behind a pseudonym.

    • @devonguy02
      @devonguy02 10 років тому

      Beautifully said Tony b

  • @sonjacilliers8770
    @sonjacilliers8770 2 роки тому

    I wonder happened to this guy? Is he still on social media? What is this guy doing today?

  • @BrandonBilker
    @BrandonBilker 20 днів тому

    6666666666666

  • @ThomMusician
    @ThomMusician 8 років тому

    I don't think I've ever heard any human being use the word "like" so many times in a single sentence as you do. You must hold the world's record. Like, get a grip on that bad habit the next time you speak. Like, sorry but I have no idea what you are discussing here.

  • @fabians5573
    @fabians5573 7 років тому

    just find a girl and everythings going to normal.