6 Signs Someone is Secretly Insecure
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- Insecurity is a feeling of inadequacy, lack of self-confidence, and inability to cope, accompanied by general uncertainty and anxiety about one’s goals, abilities, or relationships with others. Most of us are painfully aware of our insecurities but avoid sharing them because doing so forces us to confront them and opens up the possibility of people reminding us of them. While we don’t often openly share our insecurities, they can manifest through subtle signs in our behavior. So, here are a few signs someone is secretly insecure.
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Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
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VO: Amanda Silvera
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Don't lie,you came here to find out if you yourself are secretly insecure
Yup
No, to find out if my Dad is really insecure. Which I kind of already knew, just wanted to see how it works in a list format. He’s insecure as fuck.
nah, i came to see if someone ik is, cause I suspected it
I came to see if my bully has insecurities. Pathetic I know, but I gotta, so I can hit points where he would lay off of me a bit. Also after wtachign the video I've realised the guy's a narcissist
Don’t expose me...
You is kind, you is smart, you is important 💕✨💗
No.. Dont give me hope..
😳
Thanks for the laugh 😂 I love The Help
Omg yess Abilene said that in The Help❤️
@@cinnamongirl5266 omg I remember that film
6 Signs someone is secretly insecure:
They're a people pleaser 1:09
They turn everything into a competition 1:33
They get defensive 2:06
They degrade themselves in front of others 2:39
They put other people down 3:13
They exaggerate events and brag about their accomplishments 3:47
Time to go make breakfast :D
Thank u dude
@@Rama_Verma_ Bruhify army?
@@louehyouidiohweloveyouliam4166 yes
Omg i totally misread that as people who have time to make breakfast are secretly insecure until I saw there was no time stamp 😅
@@Rama_Verma_ Np
This make me feel better when I’m sad...
Same here
me too. hope you're feeling better.
Things Insecure People Do That Slowly Destroy Their Lives
They live in fear of judgement. Insecure people always worry about what other people are thinking.
They avoid meeting new people. ...
They don't believe they're good enough. ...
They're not true to themselves. ...
They live in a world with denial. ...
They're doomed to fail. ...
They don't trust others. ...
They look for the worst.
That's me
By the way nice explanation
Damn bro you just described my whole entire existence 😆
me all the way
That sadly sounds like me 😔 that is why I can’t make friends easy
What's the difference between: a people pleaser and someone who just likes to help other people?
the person who likes to help knows his limits and is able to say no
@@dyeculskyy8885 I agree, but how do you know your limits?
This..i personally try to justify my actions by saying i want to be kinder but i myself don't know where my limits are..
@@emilvdv9391 Your limit is specified by the degree you are comfortable or uncomfortable with providing help. So if you feel uncomfortable with providing help; there's your limit and your boundary.
A people pleaser does things for people even if they hurt the pleaser or bother the pleaser.People pleasers are scared if they’re worth it, if they’ll be left, etc.Someone who helps other people is a person who knows when to stop, if someone isn’t listening to you when you try to help, you leave.Its a they problem.People pleasers should find someone who understands them and stops them from getting into bad things, or help themselves by learning their limits.
Before seeing the video imma say I'm hella insecure, let's see how much I relate
Awww nice pic ❤❤❤ which anime is this?
@@SuperStarlight4 thankss but it isn't an anime 😅
It's a character from doki doki literature club
@@camellia1942 oh I know who yeah...noice pic very adorable
@@megh9368 yes it is adorable indeed, thank you:3
Yours is adorable tooo
@@camellia1942 :3 aww thank you
Watching this vid because I know that I have insecurities😭
(2)
Same 😓
No your smart. I am extremely stupid
Your nice. I am weird.
I suck, but you don't
Same :,)
Me too ;-; too many to count
Insecure people often use criticism of others as a way to feel better about themselves. See, people who are insecure consistently feel bad about themselves. And often, they don't know how to feel better in a healthy or productive way. So they often resort to criticizing others👍
"6 signs someone is secretly insecure"
Me: finds out I have all the signs
Also me: pretends I didn't just watch this
also you : confess all these things by commenting this.
@@reyzonx3481 LOL
Me removing from my history
😁
@@reyzonx3481 omg im just from hiding in my corner cause I felt insecure again😭
This channel continously calls me out and I don't know if I like that.
exactly... like it’s interesting to learn from the videos, but sometimes i’m not ready for what I hear😂
How to overcome these traits:
1. Avoid self-comparison because everyone is unique in their own way.
2. YOU are your only competition, be better than the best you have ever been.
3. Learn to accept criticisms healthily as a way to improve yourself because YOU CAN.
4. Love yourself just as who you are, if you love yourself 20% and somebody gives you 30% that's not even half. You need to love you 100% and the rest will carry on.
5. You won't get a brighter life by blowing other people's candles. LET'S NOT GOSSIP IT'S UNHEALTHY.
6. Strive for greatness but at the same time, be humble. "Keep your head held high, but your feet glued on the ground."
Life saver :)
Thank you ❤
Even if that person is a doctor or lawyer, they can still feel insecure. It’s quite sad.
It is not that sad. If you think about it. It means the doctor didn't do the internal work to become a better person. They just did the academic work.
Dr Jordan Peterson is technically a doctor and he should feel insecure although I'm sure he probably does already.
The dislikes r from insecure people who dont wanna be exposed
Why do those handful dislikes make you so insecure that you need to be defensive about it?
That's why I don't use Reddit. It wouldn't react well to my anxiety issues. :D
@@TheCausalParadoxbruh, I was just joking. Why cant u take a joke? So as u say, im not insecure about it. Geez chill. As u see, everyone but u knew I was joking
@@TheCausalParadox Frl
"you insecure, don't know what for...."
Only legend will understand 😂
You're turning heads when you walk through the do-o-or.. 😂
@@saranya.p9470 directioners are everywhere 😂😂
Somewhat Funny but somewhat not cool cause insecurities are something everyone has but at different stages
I haven't watched the video yet, but I just want to say I'm grateful I found this channel 💙
Same😌
I just want to say that I love the fact that the animator represents an insecure person as a cactus.
It does well to capture how defensive an insecure individual can be, and as one being insecure I hate to admit that I become defensive even in the littlest things.
Overall, wonderful video as always
Joke of the day:
Did you hear about the doofus who got a boomerang for his birthday?
*he spent the next two days trying to throw the old one away..*
XD
Lol
Lol
Lol🤣
@The Genderqueer Cringy Emo hehe you can not resist the jokes my friend
@The Genderqueer Cringy Emo UWU
legit thats a good strategy
you ask someone about something, they give you critisism, and then you simply answer with no
no one can one up that one, just like how no one can deflect the emerald splash
An interesting list, I really think they point that people degrade themselves in front of others is one a lot of people miss and is an important telltale sign for many
Attention seekers; just don't respond and leave them void. Because the validation is just never enough.
I'm used to self degrafing humor, i need help
Fun fact: everyone is insecure
I thougt i did not have insceureities, until i found out the i disociate a lot to hide them, together with my true indentity
im not
I thought I'm never insecure until I saw life is not fair. Right amount of hardwork is not equivalent to right amount of success. Like MONEY !!!
ARMYYYY✨💅🏾
@@xenoshikky yes ami
To who ever reads this, I want you to know that no one is perfect and everyone is beautiful in their own way and that you matter, I wish you the best in life ❤️
Thanks for spreading love and I hope you and all be happy ..
My friend is kinda insecure sometimes, and she outs it with a higher, angry (?) tone in disbelief to cover it up! She laughs a lot too after that, then I know I have to check up on her :)
Don't waste your energy on a bottomless pit.
I've had my share of being friends with insecure people too and it's even caused me to be insecure. They judge people, pick on people, gossip and such. I noticed that insecure people check on their flaws and then project it on others. The cycle just continues. I'm more confident. I've stopped texting those friends. If you are struggling with confidence here are some tips!
-don't obsess over the mirror
-if you know you're insecure don't think that is going to help you in life to be hard on yourself. I know that I used to think so but really it was just ruining my mental health
-stop watching negative videos. Some videos point of every wrong and right in others. They dive into drama and that isn't healthy for you.
-gEt a liFe. No seriously. Find some hobbies. Get off your phone for a day. Enjoy the outside (in your backyard ig) just remember that you're the only one who is going to travel with you through life, so be kind to yourself.
-refrain from using self-deprecation jokes. Instead joke how you're an absolute queen/king and how you're beauty makes your mirror obsessed with you LOL not in a narcissistic way but in a joking manner
-look on the bright side of life
-allow yourself to cry. You will feel better after.
Have a good day everyone! 💕🌿💙
Yes insecure people are so nasty
And the energy is contagious
Worse is when they are in group and you are the only one thinking god when can I leave .
I remember in tuition there was this bunch of girls picking on , putting others down and I had to face them everyday until I found two other cool people
And started to sit beside them
I am very scared if people like this ..like it's my biggest nightmare to be in a room with them
Who else here doesn't like pizza? Comment below :3
I love pizza. Tho uhhhhhh..... I like it with 🍍
Pizza is like.. so cool tho daang especially w extra cheese
@The Genderqueer Cringy Emo yes I'm sorry I like pineapple with pizza D:
Me...✌️
you didn't just say that psych i-im heartbroken😔
*6 Signs Someone is Secretly Insecure*
Intro 0:27
They're a people pleaser 1:09
They turn everything into a competition 1:33
They get defensive 2:06
They degrade themselves in front of others 2:39
They put other people down 3:13
They exaggerate events and brag about their accomplishments 3:47
Outro 4:50
Hope this was helpful in some way! :)
Now I can support my friends if some of my friends have it, thanks Psych2Go!
You will meet people like this in your life. Just listen and move on after the conversation.
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Hi.
hey Psych2Go!
Totally unrelated but along the lines of education, could you advise on how to work in the field of psychology at different levels of qualification such as:
No qualifications
Bachelor's
Master's
Phd
Yourself* Np
Very necessary yes omg!
This is genuinely the only channel that I am sorry i can't become a member for. Your quality is so good and your advice is amazing, and videos like 5 tips to improve your life are so helpful to me personally. I am honestly sorry that I can't be a member, and hopefully one day I'll be able to. Please keep making this amazing content, and if you're reading this, have a nice day!
hey psych2go, please make more videos about childhood abandonment issues, Love your content!
I hope I can improve myself! thanks for showing us these signs so we can grow 🥰
Please make videos about teenage mental health and stress management tips, it would be so helpful 💛 cause school has been giving me a hard time lately 😶
I came here to protect myself from insecure people♥️ they project their insecurities onto me and I need to protect myself.
Me who is secretly insecure:
*I'm being exposed*
I also feel insecure to but I learn how to make myself feel better after watching this video ua-cam.com/video/ZguFzyI-CCQ/v-deo.html
Insecurity gang?
@@ihatemice_elf Yes Unfortunately
@@xethrion4758 yay let's start an insecurity gang
(I'm insecure about how I look and how smart I am)
@@ihatemice_elf I’m insecure about My relationships and Achievements
I would love to see a video explaining how to gain a healthier self image & higher self worth 🥰 this channel keeps me going
I already know I am insecure so-
For some reason, my subtitles decided to auto-generate in Vietnamese.
same......sometimes
Me reading the title *secretely insecure*
Also me: laughing in anxiety, pls, secretely insecure? I'm public insecure
Very enlightening.
Now I understand instead of getting annoyed. 😊
Very eye-opening, thanks for the video!
I’m very insecure but I never believe in putting someone down or attempt to one up in conversation. If anything I prefer to be invisible and can’t understand why people would want to talk to me.
I already know I am super insecure. Just came here to hear Amanda's voice
Thanks for this.........this is too helpful
1 and 3 was me. Sometimes being nice gets to the point where others start to use your good nature against you.
I can’t believe that you guys follow Nux Taku! That is so awesome!
I am really insecure.
First sign : High five
I especially agree with the competitive part. A person who is insecure tries to proove his point even when he is not competent in the subject of argument and it annoys me the most
This video came at a perfect time, so concise and spot on. Love Psych2Go!!! ❤️
I have become very aware of my insecurities, I don’t like to express them because I don’t want to bring others into my big little issues, it can be draining for others to listen to or understand or help. It can also lead others to feel sad, confused or insecure too.
And it can take a long time for me to remember how to handle them securely.
I think when you recognize that insecurity can lead to some of these behaviours that you actually don’t like, that’s a good thing. I know to never put others down because it’s not fair and it comes from a place in you that isn’t helpful. All you’re doing is deflecting and not healing yourself.
I don’t know if I put myself down in front of others to get validation, it mostly just my way of expressing not feeling great atm. Since sometimes you really can’t hear people’s kindness.
In the end if you catch yourself feeling like this just know that every insecurity has its own answer of relief.
I like how the insecure person has a cactus growing out of their head
i used to be like this. but thankfully i grew out of that toxic space and decided i should be more contented with who i am :”)
Relatable at #1. Still relate to 3 and 4. The rest describe my childhood self which didn't survive my depression. Oddly enough, I think I'd still choose the depression because it burned away enough that I could start healing the rest.
I always thought I was insecure but I guess I never knew what it really meant because I don't have one of those traits !! However, I do absolutely love this program - it's very useful. 😀😀❤❤ I'm glad I subscribed.
I love the art style its like the one in the last video (which is my fave style) bit with no outlines
The new art looks so cute
And thanks for the information
Well, i don't know about anyone else but i am insecure 😑
I am more of a introvert and insecure
You'll be alright. People who are really insecure are afraid to expose themselves about being insecure. So in your case, your statement is a mature step on the ladder of Self Development. So be nice to Your Self.
@@rolandberendonck3900 ooou thanks very much☺
@@neptunewalker1254 Expressing your vulnerability cq coming out that you are (feeling) insecure is even a sign of strength and courage. So it is time for you to jump in the air and go crazy :D
Affirmation: I am ok
@@rolandberendonck3900 oh well said sir !! Thanks 😊
Thank you for this🥺🥺
Please bring up with the solutions of these mental problems. The way you bring these will help a lot💜💜
thank you for everything
You know you came early when there is no English subtitles😅
I encountered some of them, and I understand, but sometimes it's really annoying. I remember she tell me I look ugly wearing cap lol, but still I accept and Love her because she's my sis hehe, praying that she overcome it, and those people around her . Love YOU sis !
They may not always get angry when you give constructive criticism. They'll dismiss it entirely. My sister was writing a book and had me reading over it as her editor, since I've put a lot of study into story writing, I thought I'd be able to give her some pretty good tips. Anything I'd suggest that she rework she'd always say, "that's exactly what it is, see, I did it just fine" when it didn't convey it right or "yeah, that happens later in the story" when it needed to happen earlier. Once I told her that her plot needed some revising and she said, "oh, I already worked it out completely."even though it still needed revising. I just kinda stopped because she was refusing to listen, and it was pointless to reason with her.
The most insecure thing someone exposes themselves when they say "ya think youre better than me dont cha"?
What’s worse is that they don’t come back and apologise for making you insecure because of their insecurities they just move on if they came back and apologised I wouldn’t have so much hatred over it and I’d have more sympathy but it’s not all insecure people who are like that I wonder if insecure people become secure then come back but i doubt it
Thanks to your fluent English pronunciation and different words, I improve my English and learn new things.
This is so me. I keep trying to improve but people shun me for being needy... none of my associates even try to understand, they just laugh and tell me not to be needy and gloomy. No wonder i decided that 2021 was time for a fresh start where I cut out everyone who did that (meaning I’m now alone 😟. It’s just less painful but does mean I can start to rebuild without their negative drag). A lifetime of being “the nice one” while being abused and used all with no reward other than being allowed to be in their company.... it’s taken me a while but I now see what they are doing and have had enough.
Omg i can literally imagine the person who has all these , gosh there's nothing wrong with feeling insecure but acting like this can just make someone hate you yk 😑😑
I don't know what to say.
I'm not insecure I just know that I'm not perfect but I still love myself and no one is perfect anyways 💜💜
I’m not insecure secretly 😅 I can’t even imagine putting other people down that’s just awful I know how it feels so I’d never want anyone else to feel that way
Thanks so much for this. Narcissistic Listening is what I’ve endured from a few key people in my life. It’s great finally knowing that it actually has a NAME!!! Thanks Psych2Go!!!!
i don't think my insecurities are a secret to anyone...
Ok
I believe battling and curing insecurities is one of the hardest things to do and one of the easiest thing to get. This might be controversial but i think its harder to get rid of insecurity than depression.
In my experience, you can find people to support you through depression but if you're insecure people will only attack those insecurities or they will avoid you or cut you out.
I'll tell you why. As you said, if you're opej about your insecurities it could easily be misinterpreted as attention seeking. If you're not vocal, it may come out as toxic behaviour. People also have very negative reputation when it comes to insecurity.
Insecurity is a battle you have to win alone.
This makes it easier to understand causes of other people's behaviour
I’m definitely insecure about some things but I clicked on this video because of a really toxic ex-friend. I had a feeling they were actually lashing out because of insecurity and now I think that’s the truth. I feel bad for them but I don’t think I could be friends again after what they put me through. It’s emotionally exhausting to deal with someone who exhibits all of the behaviors listed in this video. I just wish I could have helped them better, but they wouldn’t listen. I wish them the best.
There is one more insecurity I noticed 'cause of my friend. I noticed that my friend, althought she doesn't like crowds and is not going to big events often and don't have that many friends and is shy... when she is in a new situation with people she doesn't know then she gets a "feature" and then she is like cheerful, chipper and "full of beans" and jabbers a lot, even in a conversation she has no traffic with it and no idea about it and even says some things where I'm like "omg, no" in my head when she suddendly exaggerates with conjectures, prejudgments and other things, which aren't that necessary. So this was one situation back in the last year. But I noticed it generally at her that she can be really extremly communicative with people she doesn't know, even though she isn't that confident in front of new people. So really the opposite.
unrelated, but I can srsly listen to her voice all night 'til I fall asleep. it's so calming and soothing.
definitely me :)
I know it's me
This was a great video. Subscribed!👍🏾❤️
me: *sees the title*
*secretly checks self - esteem: hmmm, okay good👌
Am I the only one who feels worthless compared to other people, but you secretly release that’s just your mind fooling myself? Why do I always talk myself down, why do I have such a low self-esteem and why do I hate myself if I do one thing wrong (especially if I get the feeling I disappointed other people)......?
At different days or weeks, the insecurity may cause them to repeat what was already said even as soon as yesterday. Or they might feel insecure and say their sentence again because they want you to thought process it
I really like the artist....
I have a suggestion for your next video! Maybe it can be about the hypnagogic state? I'm doing a science project at school, and your videos are VERY helpful. Just a suggestion :)
I HAVE A STORY FOR THIS! but I can’t even understand how this person can feel insecure, for sure, made me feel like shit for that thing he said to me, he is a guy and I’m a girl.
Soo, I have this question about someone in my friend group, who I started to know a bit better and I discovered that he has a kind of toxic behavior, especially when he talks to me.
We are art students of the academy, I LOVE my studies and I'm always excited to meet someone who draws too, so we can talk about it. He is someone who is actually good at art! I don't consider myself a bad artist, but I am EXTREMELY insecure, when I mean EXTREMELY I mean that when someone assumes things about my personality that aren't true, I get so frustrated like “I am the problem, if I talk about drawing maybe it seems like that I vain”
I love drawing and I don't consider myself a perfect artist, but by far ,I've always been told by my teachers that I have good art skills.
This person started to get a but too comfortable with me and started to 1) ignore me when I talk unless my other friends tell him to answer 2) started to judge me and every request I say, for them it's something obvious or stupid 3) they see me as someone “dumb”.
But yesterday, after days of these things we were eating sushi with my other friends and one of them asked me to draw a tattoo on him, the subject was a picture of this friend.
I told this other friend of me “sorry the proportions are not perfect but it was so fun tu do! It's not that bad but it could be better” and he was satisfied!(Remember that sentence)
Then suddenly The bad friend started to draw a tattoo TOO on one of my other friend’s arm, he drew a flower.
He is really good at drawing and I've always told him that, but he never COMPLIMENTS anyone , especially me, when they achieve a success while I do it everytime even with him.
Then…jokingly as I did many times with my art buddies, since we both like drawing and he was drawing a tattoo too I told him “ehy it would be fun to do a drawing match! It's gonna be interesting”😏
He told me things that really hurt me, he said
“Please don't ever do a match about drawing with me cause I will win 100%”
And I told him are you sure? Jokingly
Then he said “anny please lower down your self esteem, fly down you are a bit embarrassing, the proportions of your drawing are all wrong, I am better always “ he didn't say that ironically, but EVERYONE found him arrogant IT WAS FUCKING DRAWN ON AN ARM WAS IT REALLY NECESSARY?
I felt like shit for the whole evening, one of my friends told him that he wasn't that good by doing that comment, I even felt like throwing up for the anxiety after dinner and I just wanted to go home because It made me feel so bad.
The previous days, he said that I wasn't a good graphic designer because I didn't know many car brands (he is not in the graphic designer major) and he said that he didn't trust my judgement but just the others judgment, even from people that don't do graphic design. I Ve always been told that my works were one of the best in my class, but I don't consider myself a perfect graphic designer either!! How!!
I always say “I just like showing the things that I love or when I am satisfied with something I like to show it, but I NEVER CONSIDER myself better than others or I would Never put others down to bring myself up” AS HE DOES
My good friends told me that they don't like his behavior too, and they are kind of scared of him, so I CALMED MYSELF SOO MUCH since i discovered I am not the problem , but I am still so insecure about me. I was about to cry for real, but my good friends comforted me so much I am so grateful to have them since they know I'm so anxious about myself.
They kinda told me that it may be that this person is jealous of me? This person sees me as a obstacle because he found someone with his same skills? Idk
What do you think? Is it a bit narcissist? A bit jealous?
I'm pretty insicure, but smh I just don't get people into it. I'm quite the antisocial type, too... I don't really care for someone's opinion on me if they're not my friend. And I have 2 to 3 friends.
Lucky, i have 0
I have them all, except for the last 2 I'd think.
I hate being mean to people, but if someone rubs me the wrong way I have a harder time being nice to them.
hey dOn'T expose uuusss, we've triEd hard hahahah u.u
???
So I relate to all of these points... never thought it was insecurity, I always believed I just have a horrible personality
@The Genderqueer Cringy Emo geez, thanks
@The Genderqueer Cringy Emo heh I don’t really care I’m terrible at sugarcoating too anyway
My traits:
Everything is a competition,
I will degrade myself everytime.
How do I solve this?
Insecurity is a struggle that people either avoid dealing with or they ignore the fact that they even have and not only causing harm to their mental health but also to other people.
Hello! Good to see you, yes you reading this comment! Thank you for existing, you are amazing even if you think you aren’t
Positive vIbBeSsS yEah! :> Your a good person. I give u praise. :>
@@silvanahaynes1962 ayyyy :)
I truly don't know anyone who has never shown any of this characteristics, a lot of this I would say is what comes with being human, i think every one has insecurities because is part of not being a perfect being
how do they always put out the right topic out
I basically have all of these signs, almost exactly. Apart from spreading rumors/talking bad about others behind their back, that’s other people’s job not mine. But I always feel terrible at the end of the day when I feel I went too harsh and don’t know how to apologize for it or if it even was insensitive. I act like this in school, loving to boast and put down others (jokingly, I hope they don’t take it seriously).
LOOL not me looking around when the first one was already directed at me 🙄
i feel a t t a c k e d
I recently stopped being friends with someone who used to be the dearest to my heart, because she was like this and I couldn’t take it.
I don’t hate her; I have empathy for her, but I just can’t take her behavior. She is mean to me whenever she feels bad about herself.
Are people who bully people no matter the age or where they come from, where they live, insecure?