And to recognize this, men will require high level of cognitive empathy to spot one. Since it's easier for guys to delve in logical calculation with just enough empathy. By that time, differences between what she say and do will be clear as day.
I can honestly say that I truly believe that most men whom have a good head on their shoulders do end up compromising on looks/physical attraction so long as the woman brings PEACE to his life and home.
Looks are definitely important but you’re right, my true desire is peace I’ll take a 5 that makes me smile over a 10 I kill myself trying to make smile
@@improvisedsurvival5967 IME there's a threshold, for a relationship she needs to be sufficiently good looking so I'm physically attracted to her, but after that character is more important for maintaining the relationship.
@@Filthy_Larry Sure, but what's the point if a girl looks a 10, would she want to be with a guy who looks like a 5? No, I don't think so. Really important to set your standards right
Depends how old they are. Early 20's girls emphasize looks and how the guy makes them feel. Women in their late 20's and on start emphasizing stability.
The issue is what you said used to be accurate but the second age is pushing further and further back. You're lucky to find someone who isn't chasing the experience who is any younger than 30 these days.
I personally find it difficult understanding these things i.e. ghosting, social cues etc. Soo I’ve decided to give up on relationships and focus on my own hobbies/interests! 🙏🏻
8:50 I'll just say from my perspective, I think men dont care about the career in the sense that it's generally not going to make you more attractive in the eyes of the guy if you have a prestigious high paying job as opposed regular 9-5 as long as you are attractive and have a good heart. However, once you are with the girl of course it's your job to encourage and suppoort the girl just like she should encourage and support you.
a good heart is very important. heart disease is a nasty thing. having congestive heart failure, valve issues, atrial fibrillation are not a good sign.
Didnt work for me. All the girls i dated agreed to date me because i was kind hearted and they still ghosted or looked for reasons to no longer pursue a relationship with me. I tried my best to be confident, fun, social, kind and fit, dress well etc. I am also 5'10 white and muscular. I should just by statistics alone be in the top 20-30% of guys and i still haven't had a girlfriend, how sad can it get when even having the odds in your favor and still failing. It is depressing.
Most men hate when 90% of the girls say this: ughh hate him being jelous! Her: texting other dudes, flirting in front of us. Srsly, just stay single if you want to use the jealousy card each time you screen for a replacement.
Its even worse when they send pictures and flirting texts to other dudes eventhough they are in a relationship. And they expect us to be cool about it. But they hate when we like a photo of some girl even when we are not in a relationship.
I agree. If they still want to text other men while in a relationship then I'm ok with it. Just don't expect me to stay because I'll be out of that relationship and finding her replacement.
@@mrjjthor 100%. But no just listen 99% of the time I want a guy who will open up and be honest with me. Ok who’s this guy? Ughhh he’s so jelous and insecure the relationship was toxic. 🤦♂️
When I say I don’t care about woman’s career it doesn’t mean I’m not care how your day was or how it goes in general at work. For me it means more that I don’t care what you work with and how much money you making. When I met my current girlfriend she was working as a waitress, couldn’t care less about that.
Yep. As long as you can support yourself and you aren't being depressed/disgusted with the work. Men just don't care if you make 20k a year or 200k a year. However, as a general note, women tend to care about that number in their men. Most women get really unsettled if she makes more than him, even if her income is because of significantly better experience or education. She can be a high power lawyer with a 20 year experience and will definitely classify a retail worker/retail manager as dirt because HE doesn't make more than her lawyer job.
Indeed, the girls seem to have completely misunderstood this one. The man has the classical role of the provider, so we naturally don't care about such side of a woman. However, most of us do care about if a woman can cook and do household tasks and how well-natured she is. Basically, we provide masculine traits and fill such roles, and are looking for the feminine counterparts. And here's where many of the young&beautiful careerist women fall out of the race, to their shocking surprise. You don't want a too self-focused woman who won't even cook for you every now and then. You may find them attractive in the short run, but for the long run, no thanks.
I like when you do these, "Panel" type videos. It's nice to get the reminder that women aren't a hive mind and that there are a variety of tastes and wants.
Most women don't tell the truth, they give an answer that puts them in a better light. Ask women what they believe other women do, then! You'll get their honest opinion. And odds are what they themselves really are doing and the choices they're making. Actions are greater than words. Don't believe what women say, believe what they do.
Seeing girls on interviews with other girls in one room once starts speaking, every girls answers mimics the previous girls response so i disagree with them not having a hive mind mentality.
I will never care about what a woman does for a living unless it benefits me directly (masseuse, chiropractor, chef, fitness instructor, doctor, nurse, etc). Otherwise I couldn’t care less. I also think it’s fascinating to watch women take the fact that a guy doesn’t judge a woman based on her job and turn it into a negative! haha
I've known women who underestimate men, and think that we should be fine as long as we're even getting sex. One of those women actually expected me to be her man. I just couldn't do it. I'm not simple like that.
I had a marriage like that she thought as long as she gives me that she doesn't need to communicate with me i was married to a mute i needed more that just that i can relate to what your saying.
Yeah a lot of Women misunderstand Men - They associate Mens happiness with purely physical and seem to forget that we can also care about emotional contact. Its honestly crazy that being "Masculine" is associated with being emotionless. The Girl Im dating currently literally didn't expect me to actually have emotions or want contact that wasn't sexual... We live in long distance and she assumed that I wouldn't be able to handle it because "All guys think about is sex".
When men say that we don't care about your career, its not to say that we don't care if you have a job or not. It's meaning that we don't care if you have a PHD, we could care less if you're trying to be a CEO, because at the end of the day, none of that is going to help you be a great partner and a great mother to our children. As a man, I'm not trying to live off of your income, so what level of work you're doing, doesn't really mean much, you just need to be doing something with your life that isn't distasteful of course.
But for a woman for the most part its about pristige and social status. Women generally are judged by the company they keep so they don't want to be seen hanging out with what society looks at as a loser or a low status man.
@@johnnythekid4601 Johnny for the woman education and career designates value. Furthermore...what do YOU think puts a roof over her head and food on the table? It's her career
The thing where the guy does not care about her career is not that he does not care how was at work today, it just means that guys preferences arent based on her earning six figures sallary, which is not always the same case with the girls who choose a guy based on that.
It's interesting how all of the ladies said what a guy is looking for a woman is career and goals. You couldn't be more wrong. We are not attracted to the same things you ladies are attracted. We are attracted to chicks who are feminine, kind and compassionate. My mother never earned a single dollar her entire life. I could live my life without my dad, but I can't imagine my life without my mother. Not to say career is not important but that is way down the scale
@@nicksmith-cx1fx Unless one person just has a really great income, it's going to take both people working these days to raise a family. Just the way things are with how the cost of living is today.
@@Murph_gaming Yes I get that and that is fine if both partners want to work. I only wanted to state that to have a great relationship it's not necessary for the woman to have a career. I personally want a partner who will not want to work after marriage. Just because she doesn't have a career doesn't mean her value decreases. Is a mom who raises her children to be good citizens any less successful than the CEO of a company. I don't think so but the feminists have brainwashed women that their fulfillment lies in their career.
@@Murph_gaming agree, but that doesn’t make me attracted to someone. That’s like a minimum, and I would never choose one person over another because they have a better career unless everything else is equal
@@SharkAcademy Exactly. I wouldnt choose the unatractive to me just because she has high sallary job just as I wouldnt reject the one I find attractive who has less payed job.
This group of girls align too closely with Courtney and what she believes in. I have seen the same group a couple of time now. I would prefer a more random cross-section of women to be more realistic. It is basically just listening to a group of girls basically saying what Courtney would say. I want to hear a couple of them that are completely different than Courtney.
But the trouble is that they are near completely ALL modern day feminists & so no matter who the women were, they would all still be saying the same things.
I think these are friends of hers. Pretty much by definition of being friends they will have similar views and opinions as her. How many of your friends have widely different views from you on multiple things?
Opposing political views are exceptional for a friendship. You always have something to talk about, but terrible for relationships: it leaves no room for important chats, and it becomes a lever to hit the other when one is annoyed with the other.
Agree 100%. Friends can have different political views, but a long-term romantic relationship is a different story. I’ve never seen a happily married couple last when the two partners have vastly different political worldviews. If they can’t agree on such critical things as that, it’s gonna cause fractures in the family unit and child-raising approach after a while.
@@jgman467 To some extent, yes. But things have changed now. Social media has made politics so polarizing nowadays. For example, Trump Derangement Syndrome turned a girl I dated in college from a sweet, conservative woman I would have strongly considering marrying into a man-hating feminazi in three short years. She was undatable by the end. Our world views were different to the point we could have never raised a family together. More and more women are becoming like that these days, especially the college-educated ones in certain fields. I just don’t think two people with vastly different political views can sustain a marriage anymore.
When I married my wife she was an exchange student so she had never worked in the US. What mattered to me was she worked hard and she was very disciplined, plus all of her other great qualities.
These interview/one on one discussion segments are super important because it displays natural variation among people. This helps show us men that it is not a good idea to paint a new relationship with the old brush you used in previous experiences. Good stuff Courtney 👍
It's very helpful to see things through the eyes of others. I'm so set in my ways that it's a breath of fresh air to learn what other people feel and think. I don't want a woman in my life. Being single is much more convenient but I do want women to feel comfortable and happy with me. Big help. Thanks as always.
It’s not that men interested in marriage “don’t care” about your career/job, although some certainly don’t, it’s that it’s not a PRIORITY for us. It’s not very important to us.
@@ilikepancakes2368 No, they care more. It’s evolutionarily explainable. Money reflects social status, which is important to them and a marker of female status by their female peers. A trophy for women is status/wealth. A trophy for men is beauty, which is strongly correlated to youth btw. These are generalizations of course, and only one dimension of sexual selection. And i could go on.
@@themirrorflattersnot Well, I would say that women judge men based on beauty too but that really depends. But sometimes beauty and wealth intertwined with each other. If you have the wealth, you css as n improve your looks too since you have access to expensive cosmetics and plastic surgery.
I enjoyed this panel style vid. Seemingly good women giving their honest feedback in hopes of it helping both men and women to have healthy happy relationships.
The last part about what Lina said about how a guy reacts when a girl rejects him is really important. Because if guys act aggressive when they get rejected, girls would be too scared to approach other guys because of a horrible experience done onto them when really they are just saying how they feel when they get approached by a guy 🤷♀
From a dudes perspective, we dont really care about women's careers because having a career isnt a requirement or pre-requasite for us. It's neat if you have one and I feel most dudes would be very supportive, it's just not an important factor when we are weighing our options.
Well said. We can support ourselves and usually another person, so its just not important that you have money. The problem is society tells them to be boss girls and they think "society pushes this=men want this" which isnt true. Its another unfortunate consequence of victim and counterculture.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 There is a difference between a career and a job. A job puts food on the table and covers the bills, and career is a long term plan for employment for which you sacrifice. EG I have a job now, I work as a manager at a drugstore, I am however close to starting my career, that will be as a commercial pilot, that took more education more financial sacrifice, and will have sacrifices down the road it is a long term commitment, my job just pays the bills.
@@nathand.9969 That's only your opinion that a career requires sacrifice. Furthermore there is a huge grey area between a job and a career. Regardless, she's still self-sufficient whether it's a job or career. There are plenty of women with lucrative careers that provide more than just food on the table.
Courtney this is a great channel and I have a couple of nephews who enjoy your content. I can give them advise as a 57 year old "man" but coming from you and these young intelligent ladies it takes it to a "big sister" level. Enjoying your boyfriend's content as well. In fact, just finished buying a watch he recommended...Cheers!
I think your guests have never been told by men what men truly want. I found their understanding highly ambiguous and didn't firmly answer the question. At least not in the same way as them identifying what it is "women want". They can answer that far better. You rarely find a woman seeking out man's advice on how to attract a man. I reckon it would be far different and not the same like your guests say it is. That is in my experience. There are fundamental differences.
The question of what they think guys want really speaks volumes. Alot of the girls mentioned passions, ambitions and careers and when Courtney said guys regularly tell her that's not really what excites them, she herself and the other girls kindof disagreed and insisted that a guy should care...its an interesting response. None of them mentioned physical health and beauty and its pretty high up there for most guys. Or maybe they did but it wasn't shown. Its just one example but guys really care about that: they want a girl who looks after herself, who's fit and eats healthy and gets enough sleep and wears nice clothes and does her hair. How they express those things and whether they'll get them is an entirely different thing, but its something guys really cherish and appreciate. Another thing all guys really really cherish is their inner peace. Whether its having uninterrupted routines or the stability of confirming a date or just his quiet time to think and be alone, every guy values their inner peace so so so highly. They will make massive compromises to avoid drama and ensure it and are miserable without it. His need for intimacy is another common one. For a guy sexuality is a regular part of his life not a special occasion thing. A lot of his inner confidence and ability to manage stress is tied to that aspect of his life. If he's going to not masturbate or see other women but she isn't filling that role for him, its not just unpleasant it really impacts several areas of his life including his communication and attraction to his partner and can even have health risks depending on the person. Again whether he expresses these things well or whether he'll get them is another topic entirely, like all things it has to balanced against her needs and sometimes people are just incompatible and that's okay. But it is something that's super important to guys that the ladies didn't mention. A couple more I'll mention really quickly are fidelity and independence. That's 5 things I mentioned total that are common among men...It feels like girls really don't know what guys want. Its crazy to say because guys are typically straight forward, if they say the want a wallet for their birthday that's what they want, not a jacket, not a laptop. Seriously, just ask a guy and listen, they'll tell you, and they mean what they say. I wish we were better at listening to each other and put the effort into being our best for them, instead of the modern trend of focusing on what we want. No one 'finds' a perfect partner, you find someone you kindof like, someone who isn't invested in you, doesn't know you and has other options. And the journey from here to forever involves regular honest social feedback and adjustment so that way the two become better fitted to each other over time. That's the dance, that's how we become their 10, its making them your focus. Your part in the relationship isn't you, its you in relation to them, and theirs is them in relation to you. How are you different because they are in the picture, is it cooking a little extra because they're coming over, is it going with him to his parents because they're really stressful and even though you don't like it you go because it means a lot to him; that's the relationship, its all that stuff. Girls should know what guys want generally and what their guy specifically wants, and vice-versa. Otherwise how are you going to be that? If you don't become that aren't they just settling for you? Do you want that? Become their 10, listen to them, actually listen to them, enter their spirit, draw them in, that's how you build something real and exciting. Don't be yourself, be the part of you they connect with. If you sing and cook and work at an office and your partner likes theatre, don't make your relationship about food, make it about theatre! Be yourself is bad advice, listen to your partner, grow the relationship, the part you relate on, and relate to them! That's the dance. And anyone can do it, can become kinder and better at communicating! It sounds like a lot, giving honest feedback all the time, adapting to what they want, because it is alot, not everyone's ready for a relationship. On a side note that's why sex is so important, its essentially that. And your reward is oxytocin, the glue that holds it all together. For those that are ready for a relationship, you grow so much in them! Just having someone be a mirror to you like that, especially if they care about what you see - its one of the most fulfilling and enriching experiences you'll ever have. You really do become more than you could've been otherwise if you approach it the right way, if you bring your best. Relationships are hard, even with everything going right its hard, it takes 2 people giving 100% and sometimes that's not enough, if you give any less, you have no chance. But if you do, and you find a match, your 100% will grow, you'll both become greater together than alone. In a perfect relationship 1+1=3. You don't just 'find' a perfect match, you become it to them
I admire the honesty from your ladies, Courtney. One thing to take away from it was the ghosting. Yes, it sucks but people need to chill out with it. Granted, I've freaked out a time or two about it, but I think ghosting just runs it for both parties, ones that get ghosted and the ones doing it
Yes, if ghosting upsets you then you need to develop more options. Scarcity mentality! Does a good salesman start crying if he loses a lead? No, he just picks up the phone and goes onto the next one.
Do you want to be a career woman or a woman with a career. It's a huge difference. I would rather marry the waitress who is fit feminine and kind than a woman who is career driven. To succeed in the workplace requires masculine energy and many of those career driven women bring that same masculine energy into relationships. Yes those women will succeed in the workplace but if it is at the cost of loosing their feminine energy that is a tragedy.
@@jleano609 great analogy! I've been dealing with that and other deeper issues through therapy, which in turn has helped me pass on my take on it and coming to realize that 9/10 times it's got nothing to do with you
@@tommygunn6901 Hope therapy goes well for you. A man has to learn to deal with rejection. As long as you are polite and respectful no woman can reject YOU, she can only say NO THANKS to the relationship. BIG DIFFERENCE!
It was good to know that the girls dosnt have a clue to what men wants. Your hobbies are important but your financial status is not important. What you work with is not as important for us.
I also like these type of questions to your friends format. I have been ghosted twice after dates from online dating sites. A third led me on after a date for two months before telling me she was seeing someone else. I was asking her once every two weeks if she wanted to go on another date with me, but she was always 'busy'.
The fact that a comment was made saying that women and men have the same expectations from the other reflects how far women are from really understanding men in general. Careers to a man are no more relevant than being a housewife. To some guys has no importance at all. Men want respect and a sense of validation Honestly from his partner Reciprocity and to feel loved or at least appreciated. The women who attend to her responsibilities and provides all the above will keep without a doubt her man always happy.
4:00 Lina spoke to my soul! It’s really hard when your significant other is usually great, but when big things happen and they can’t be happy for you or they become jealous, it’s heartbreaking! Dealt with this a TON in my last relationship. It made me feel bad for accomplishing things. It made me nervous to share my successes because I didn’t want my partner to feel bad, since she hated her job so much.
I agree with that entire video! I will say one thing that girls don't think about is but if they focus on their career for too long then you have to have a common ideal of what the balance between motherhood and career is!
Idk, the whole “every 4 years hell in your house” really misses the point. Not a fan of this argument, it suggests that the only thing that matters in politics is fighting about elections. You can respectfully disagree with people. The main issue is what you value in life, which dictates your political beliefs not the other way around.
Just to clarify: the standard, capable, heterosexual male has always desired a female mate who is sexually attractive and responsive, friendly, of a generous, healthy emotional nature, and reasonably submissive and feminine. I don't know any guy who cares what a girl does for a living, her status, or how creative she is. If she's good-looking, sweet, and emotionally healthy, thousands-years-old desires have been met. Biology picked it all out for the sexes.
Gents. Think with your brain. Not your other head. Chivalry is making its come back. Be a gentleman, but not a simp. Remember that. And we have to thank Court for reinforcing that message 🙏🏻
No, men don’t look for the same things women do when it comes to finding a partner. Independence, Ambitious and being career oriented are things women look for in a man. Because those are masculine traits that show a mans ability to lead and provide. Men care about famine traits. Nurturing, Kind, cooperative, modesty and empathy. We care more about your ability to take care of a baby than we do about your careers. Not that we don’t care about your careers at all, it’s just, we care a lot less than you seem to think. I wouldn’t force my wife to stop being a nurse forever, to stay home a sweep the house and watch over the baby. But I would expect her to put her career on a temporary hold in order to do her part in raising a baby. Her part being to nurture and care for the baby while im at work because I believe women are better at that then men are. That’s the type of femininity that the feminist movement should be encouraging. It’s ironic that a movement meant to defend women, calls itself “feminist” while encouraging women to be masculine.
I really don’t understand where women came to these conclusions about what men want. I guess since it’s attractive to them they think it’s going to be attractive to the male as well? I really think women need to understand this concept more. There may be a few overlaps, but career, ambition, drive are not things guys prioritize when looking for a wife.
Most accurate comment so far. It makes those girls look foolish to keep saying that they believe men want the same attributes that women want. Men don’t really want to go on dates with another man, but that’s the implication.
It's not that we, men, don't care about our partner's career. It is that we don't care about her life resume. As long as we can see an honest or integral person, a caring mother for our children, a great companion to make our solo adventures a matter of two, whatever applies for each man, we don't care if she is a PhD or an illiterate woman. We are confident enough in our abilities to provide. We will care about her and cherish our relationship.
I do wonder what these women will say about being ghosted, because my mother told me many years ago that the best way to break up with the girl, or at least somebody you are talking to but don't like, is to just plain disappear. I personally think closure is important, and sometimes discussing issues can lead to a stronger relationship, although, in my experience, I put in more effort than anybody when it comes to building, retaining, and preventing a collapse, although most girls just plainly give up and I'm left alone
I think the best lesson anyone can learn (especially those who fear confrontation) is that some discomfort and pain upfront can prevent far more pain down the road. By avoiding confrontation, you’re allowing the relationship to slowly and painfully bleed to death rather than just humanely ending it quickly.I know that’s kind of a graphic analogy but I think it’s fairly accurate
I will say this.. I'm not in a relationship for a debate either it's political or religious. I just come home and think about what I'm going to discuss with my significant other over the dinner table. All of the girls want a guy in lined with their own current views and don't think about future. When I come home I want to relax and feel comfortable every day. Then I can look for a topic of speech if I want to.
i feel like when men say they don't care about your career they are saying that what you do for a living doesn't matter to them as far as your viability for being a partner goes, not that they aren't interested or interested in being supportive of what you do. For women, a man's career often does play a role on whether she sees potential for a relationship. For men, I think this doesn't play as much of a role
Listen to how women talk about politics and religion. It's all about how they feel about the subject. They embrace whatever makes them feel good, whether or not it's actually true or useful. This is why men have to lead in these areas and women should conform.
I think when most guys say they don't care about a woman's career, it is bc it doesn't matter to them where the woman works or how much they make. not that they won't care about the woman's accomplishments at her place of work or that they wouldn't be encouraging to them for their career. also on the topic of ghosting, something that BOTH men and women do to each other, don't sweat somebody who ghosts you - bc that means if they didn't, they would have just lead you on or the relationship would have been crap from the get-go, bc they aren't an honest person or are too scared to be honest.
There is so much here that I wish I could comment on and have a discussion about. A lot of stuff online is one side yelling (directly or indirectly) at the other side or both sides saying they they have it harder. Because of that I've never really seen good discourse that leads to learning and growth for both genders... This channel isn't like that at all, btw. Just making a generality to point out that it would be nice to bring ideas between men and women together in a unique way. There are women online who will speak for men to help us be understood, but often times you still can tell they don't truly understand our experiences or mindset. I paused this video so many times and just added my own commentary based on things these ladies said. For example, I could explain the "we don't care about your career" comment better than most guys. It's less crass than you might think. It would be useful to know how your panel might tailor their messages after being presented with a perspective they might not have been exposed to before. But, obviously this video is about the thoughts of women who see and interpret the world differently. Tl;dr: It would be interesting to see some civil discussions between the genders. As men who want to improve ourselves, both sides have valuable insights to provide. Women understanding men and men understanding women can only help improve the quality of the advice and perspectives given.
Good point about the career part. When men say they don't care about the woman's career, they usually fail to explain the nuance in it as well. It's not as if a woman with a career is a deal-breaker; in fact she can actually bring good value. It's just that it is measured differently and there are other higher priorities for men. Personally, I tend to prefer women who have a career or profession or are out there working towards something because they understand the struggle to carve out a decent living and/or pursue that activity we love. This makes her more relatable and we really connect on that. I rarely get the entitled types in these women (not sure how it is the US, I hear many complaints). Rather, they are more concerned in how you handle life and responsibility, a focus I respect a lot and (provided she's got the other stuff too :-) ) am strongly attracted to. The difference, is just that while having a good career/ambition/etc by itself may make me more attractive to her, to me this alone won't cut it and her feminine traits are just a step more important. Otherwise I'll just give her the due respect I give to other successful guys but with no attraction attached. It also doesn't mean I won't make allowances in case she can't work and I have to provide for her. It might even be necessary, like when children start to come along. Men appreciate women who can take these differences into consideration and adapt.
Go for it, while you can. I know you have it in you. And I cant promise youll get everything you want, but I can promise nothing will change if you dont try.
I was ghosted once after going out with a girl every week for a couple months. Stung a lot when it happened, but I dodged a bad relationship. I’m so thankful because I’m more cautious and discerning as a result. Thanks for the content!
Awesome video! I think you found some really good women to answer these questions too. I've seen plenty of similar videos with the girls only mentioning shallow things. "He has to make 6 figures, has to be over 6ft, has to be far above attractive etc." Also I've found that ghosting is certainly something that women do far more than men. The creepy stuff you mentioned on dating apps is real too, and that's something a lot of men need to work on. But ladies please, if you've been going on dates with someone and you decide you dont want to pursue a relationship, just be honest about it. Ghosting makes a good man question where he went wrong, and makes a bad man spiteful. Not good for the world either way.
I think what most men mean when they say they don’t care about a woman’s career is that they don’t necessarily care WHAT the career is. I think it’s important for ppl to have goals and passions but if I already make enough to make us both comfortable then why does it matter if ur an engineer or an artist? I think most men (at least the good ones) support their partners passions they just don’t care as much what those passions r.
I agree with having to agree on views and beliefs. People always act like Im the bad guy for thinking those have to be agreed on but it's the biggest representation of a persons values and how they are and those need to be similar to form a relationship that doesnt hold eachother back.
What women want in a guy: Own house, a Ferrari, 300k/year, no kids, good looks, awesome body, nice hair, willing to set them up with a 2k/week allowance, allows them to be a stay at home trophy. What men want in a woman: not be cheated on, talked about behind their backs, and pushes them to their goals. My two cents about a lot of women (not all, of course, there's always diamonds in the rough, which you and your friends seem to be a good group!). Great video!
I didn't think of it like that for dating apps. I think it's still considered ghosting and rude to me if we've been talking for a bit, set up a date, and then I never hear from her again. It used to bother me more, but now I almost expect them to flake. At this point in my life when I get ghosted, I just remind myself that they're not worth the energy if they didn't think I was
Good topic but not one of these women said what they'd bring to the table for a man they're interested in. Most all men want loyalty, respect, submission, femininity, and staying healthy/ in shape. In return we'll be the leader, provider, protector, and cherish her forever.
i don't think you can say most all men. especially submission. also, considering how many men i see with unhealthy tubs of lard, where the only shape they stay in is round, that can't be most all men either.
@@louiscyfer6944 true there are a lot of passive men out there and that's okay. I'm not one. When I say submission it just means to let the man lead, follow basically. Not her on her knees or anything crazy. Submission is a power move by the woman because for her to follow the man must lead. I've been married 18yrs and it took my wife about 3 years to totally let me be the leader of the house. In doing that it places a lot of responsibility on me which is fine. At work she's the boss but when she comes home I take it from there. Also I had to develop my value as the leader physically, mentally and spiritually. You know if you're physically fit confidence is easier to attain then you can build on that. I agree that round guys could lack confidence with woman in order to score points because to get her they may have to give in somewhere.
@@louiscyfer6944 yes Sir. You see I'm referring to Ephesians 5. On the flip side of submission it says husbands/men love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. Both sides sacrifice for the other person. It's struck a good balance in our marriage.
Career means, No grocery shopping, Not cooking, Not cleaning, Not taking kids to daycare, Not picking them up from school, having different days off work from your man, less time together. All of which are amazing acomplishments and lets face it, women are much better at these things than men. We are aware of this and hold you in high regard for this. And as for not caring about career,....we have a provide mechanisim.....your career just disabled it. That's not good, evoloutionary traits must be fufilled, you cant just turn them off. You can exercise certain amounts of control over them, but not utilizing them causes catostrophic events within ones self. No ones silly ideas or opinions are going to change your DNA. Follow your biology. Let's get back basics ladies.
Yeah I think that is something important to point out. When guys say they don't care about a woman's job or career it isn't to say that they'd rather want the woman jobless. It's that a woman making six figures is no more attractive than a waitress. If she enjoys what she's doing and doing the job doesn't take over the relationship then then it is all cool. A man doesn't care about how much a woman makes because he isn't looking to date a man or have another mother. Just do something you enjoy and can enjoy talking about to others.
Women with prestigious, high paying jobs bring issues to the relationship. Men are programmed to provide to their mate, women less so. If they do they start to see their men as children (who they ARE programmed to provide too) which TURNS THEM OFF. If you have a couple both with high powered jobs it can become a power struggle. Who follows who if a job move is on the cards? There are many other examples but ultimately who leads and who follows in the provisioning department? Also pivoting to children can become problematic. Significant income is then given up, at least temporarily. Can your lifestyle afford it? Will the woman delay parenthood and gamble with biology? Will the woman want to go back to work after? If childcare is chosen, it can be expensive - is her salary worth it? Also most men ultimately want their wife to care for the kids. Men are programmed to look for fertility and child rearing qualities in their mate - we implicitly choose a woman as the nurturers of our potential offspring. So if that gets "contracted out", why didn't we just mate with the subsequent child carer in the first place and cut out the "middle woman"!? (Ask Arnie! 😉) Many women don't understand this because they falsely think that money makes a woman attractive - no! You are thinking about what YOU find attractive about a man. There is no blank slate equal-ism in romantic relationships - we are programmed for set roles from the times we were hunter-gatherers on the Plains of the Serengeti. We provide - you nurture. Simple! With all that said - a smart guy doesn't marry a girl who is a bum who presumably only has looks and a functioning reproductive system. Where is her intelligence and drive? What debts does she bring? Will that laziness translate into child-rearing? Is she a natural carer? Both myself and my father were/are white collar engineers. We both married girls from nursing or therapy backgrounds. Other guys in my family and friends of mine married teachers. That sort of dynamic works quite well. These are flexible, female friendly, caring careers where taking extended time off for child rearing is normalized. Not badly paid but not big $$$$. Hopefully you can still cover the mortgage when motherhood comes around. Look for these girls, Gents! They are out there in numbers and they can make good, caring partners and mothers.
It’s not that men don’t care that you have a career or any of that, all of that is great and the cherry on top, but it doesn’t make me attracted to someone or make me want to be with someone who has more of that. Sure, if someone doesn’t have a job or any goals, it disqualifies them, as you said I don’t want somebody who’s just bored in the house all day looking through IG spending money, but that’s it
Face, build, frame, height, that’s all that really matters to women. If you have the looks, they’ll make it easy for you. No game, money, confidence, status, etc. would help if you don’t have the looks.
Apparently dudes be thinking women only go for 6"8' mega Brad Pitt with a six pack when Fat Dave out here getting married xD. Think you need to get some perspective dude.
Politics and morality are NOT the same as one of the respondents claimed; Mary Matalin (hard Republican) and James Carville ((hard Democratic) have been happily married for longer than Courtney has been alive. Political and religious differences are certainly a romantic or even a friendship challenge but are not always deal breakers. It depends, as always, on the individuals in question.
Back when James Carville and Mary Matalin married what's a (centrist) Democrat back then is a Republican today. What I'm saying is the definition of what's a Democrat today has embraced far left values to the point that I don't think a Republican/Democrat couple can make it today.
@@kamala80 Make no mistake; they fight like hell politically ufc mental debate team style but personally, they made an agreement that politics wasn't everything in lfe (amd frankly it isn't).
They all want a guy with ambition until that ambition interferes even mildly with their "couples time" then it's you're never home or you're neglecting me so I cheated on you. If you pull back on those ambitions then it's why can't we have that, why can't we go there, why don't you make more. So they leave you for someone "more successful" or "more ambition." Not saying these women are necessarily like this, they seem like intelligent level headed women but so many seem that way at first, but a very large swath of women are. Lot of women claim they want partners but what they really want is spineless ATM that will continue to pay the bills while they go out & rides the carousel.
It's often been said that opposites attract which can be true, but it only applies to personalities ( introvert - extrovert etc. ) and not beliefs or interests. If the latter are signifigantly. different there's no hope of long term compatibility.
It's not that men don't care about your career if you happen to have one. It's that we don't care what that career is as opposed to some women who won't date a guy unless his career is X, Y, or Z.
I dont want my woman to be "career-oriented" and I dont want her to feel "independent". We want you to be family oriented and interdependent. You are not men, we dont desire masculine traits in you.
To answer shaylees concerns bout politics in a relationship, my parents resolved early on in dating (after settling big life trajectory/family expectation questions) to never talk politics. That said they already matched on lack of religionish and differing political views in the way a 80s dem was dif than a 80s republican.
Politics is not about morals! I STRONGLY disagree with the view that morals and politics are linked. That is the problem with today's society. Making individuals who disagree with you to be immoral. Politics is about solutions to societal problems. Almost everyone agrees to what ails society, we differ in the solutions. Both sides are moral.
As a guy, when I say I don’t care about your career - it’s not to say that I don’t care if you have one or not. It’s to say that you could be a ceo, a chef or a plumber and it’s not going to change whether I like you as a person much. I’m more focused on personality traits. That said, I don’t speak for all men.
Except of those who said "the same thing" and got it wrong, the others didn't even try to answer the question about what men might look in women (they were too busy talking about confidence). Guys don't care at all about your confidence, salaries, hobbies or how many friends you have. Most of it is about whether they see a better version of themselves when they are with you or not. Like what kind of impact you have in their lives (with you VS before being with you).
I have an issue with putting religious beliefs and political beliefs on the same level. It's telling in my opinion that many don't see an issue with this and that there's a supposed correlation between political beliefs and morality. In my opinion, I see a "religious-izing" of political beliefs that liberals and the media are pushing. My religious beliefs are much more important to me than my political beliefs. Speaking of this I just found a deal breaker. If you put your religious beliefs on par with your political beliefs I don't think I could be in a romantic relationship with you.
Couldn't agree more. I was disappointed to see Courtney conflate the two when she posed the question, and even more disappointed to see how these women responded.
@@Fab5Hill33 Courtney is young and has some maturing to do. I don't mean this as a diss to her but I've been where she and these ladies are at. The ups and downs of life plus time has a way of correcting your "vision" if you will.
I live in Canada but hearing what these girls have to say makes me glad I don't live in the US and a bit iffy about chasing American girls if they're anything like your friends here. A handful of them here as a sample represents American girls with having high expectations meaning more pressure. So much to "your partner should enhance your happiness, not be it". Dating a girl like that creates more headaches than happiness. When it comes to describing what people look for in a partner, those in a relationship will obviously bring up their partner's traits. For those who are single, having too specific a criteria makes it harder to find someone matching that when sometimes people don't know what they want until they see it. About the politics point, even though I'm a Canadian citizen and therefore have the right to vote doesn't necessarily mean I have to exercise it since I don't particularly care about politics as do many other people. So if a girl likes A,B,C about me and makes a big deal about D which is "cares about politics" which I don't, I won't change for someone else's likeness. It's human nature to have different interests and if politics isn't one of them, either deal with it or find someone who does but is not like me in other respects. Politics is a touchy subject anyway and if you can't bring yourself to tell the world your views, it proves my point. It's like saying you can't take someone seriously unless they speak English (which not everyone does) or they're stupid and uneducated...makes no sense.
13:00 could you make a video reacting to videos/clips/TikToks where men have unhealthy reactions to being rejected? Pointing out and talking about toxic ways of how men deal with rejection? Women too, but more importantly men, because women usually get asked out more, so there are probably more stories out there.
I do like that a girl has a career. And I think that I would support a woman in her career. I think that it is a requirement that she has a purpose of some type. The difference is that, men would rather pick the woman that treats us right over the girl that has an amazing career and future prospects.
About ghosting, it's for the weak who cannot give a direct answer. Sure it's scary to confront someone with a yes or no. But it's better to be honest with someone. Rather than avoiding the situation because in the long run, you will only hurt yourself more. If you're in your 30s and still ghosting people, then you're still not a mature person. Strong people will be direct with their questions/answers, and not be avoiding messages Now on the flip side, senders, if you hear a big fat "no," stop what you are doing, and leave the other person alone! They made it clear that they are not interested in meeting up with you. Leave them alone, and move on to someone else.
Don't listen to a women's words, listen to her actions.
Yep, and worst with a camera in front
A woman’s words in front of a camera is all cap
Same goes for men, bro.
Rule number 1 of fight club.
And to recognize this, men will require high level of cognitive empathy to spot one.
Since it's easier for guys to delve in logical calculation with just enough empathy.
By that time, differences between what she say and do will be clear as day.
I can honestly say that I truly believe that most men whom have a good head on their shoulders do end up compromising on looks/physical attraction so long as the woman brings PEACE to his life and home.
Looks are important when it comes to sex.
Looks are definitely important but you’re right, my true desire is peace I’ll take a 5 that makes me smile over a 10 I kill myself trying to make smile
Women are beauty object to men. Looks is number 1 and everything else comes next.
@@improvisedsurvival5967 IME there's a threshold, for a relationship she needs to be sufficiently good looking so I'm physically attracted to her, but after that character is more important for maintaining the relationship.
@@Filthy_Larry Sure, but what's the point if a girl looks a 10, would she want to be with a guy who looks like a 5? No, I don't think so. Really important to set your standards right
Depends how old they are. Early 20's girls emphasize looks and how the guy makes them feel. Women in their late 20's and on start emphasizing stability.
It's social media too the downfall of society ( saying as a Female )
The issue is what you said used to be accurate but the second age is pushing further and further back. You're lucky to find someone who isn't chasing the experience who is any younger than 30 these days.
Can you say hypergamy? Alpha seed Beta need
@@Straitsfan Who me?
@@ReneEstrada1991 Women in general, but my comment was intended as a response toward Ken Adams. My apologies for the confusion.
I personally find it difficult understanding these things i.e. ghosting, social cues etc. Soo I’ve decided to give up on relationships and focus on my own hobbies/interests! 🙏🏻
Best thing to do
Chase excellence, not women good sir.
same, I only schedule the casual hooker/escort every week or so and focus on my hobbies/work
@Realtree_Z71 Absolutely. That’s the best mindset! 😌🙌🏻💯
@Гоце Делчев - I know, right?! 😎
8:50 I'll just say from my perspective, I think men dont care about the career in the sense that it's generally not going to make you more attractive in the eyes of the guy if you have a prestigious high paying job as opposed regular 9-5 as long as you are attractive and have a good heart. However, once you are with the girl of course it's your job to encourage and suppoort the girl just like she should encourage and support you.
Very well said! I agree :)
I totally agree with you and I think it´s a fair assumption to say that some women take it too literal and personal
Because it’s socially acceptable for women to have sugar daddy. Not acceptable for men to have a sugar mommy 😂
a good heart is very important. heart disease is a nasty thing. having congestive heart failure, valve issues, atrial fibrillation are not a good sign.
Didnt work for me. All the girls i dated agreed to date me because i was kind hearted and they still ghosted or looked for reasons to no longer pursue a relationship with me. I tried my best to be confident, fun, social, kind and fit, dress well etc. I am also 5'10 white and muscular. I should just by statistics alone be in the top 20-30% of guys and i still haven't had a girlfriend, how sad can it get when even having the odds in your favor and still failing. It is depressing.
Most men hate when 90% of the girls say this: ughh hate him being jelous!
Her: texting other dudes, flirting in front of us. Srsly, just stay single if you want to use the jealousy card each time you screen for a replacement.
yup and they're in a relationship and literally dress to seduce
Its even worse when they send pictures and flirting texts to other dudes eventhough they are in a relationship. And they expect us to be cool about it. But they hate when we like a photo of some girl even when we are not in a relationship.
I don't think alot of women who have spent their whole lives being this way know how to NOT behave like this.
I agree. If they still want to text other men while in a relationship then I'm ok with it. Just don't expect me to stay because I'll be out of that relationship and finding her replacement.
@@mrjjthor 100%. But no just listen 99% of the time I want a guy who will open up and be honest with me. Ok who’s this guy? Ughhh he’s so jelous and insecure the relationship was toxic. 🤦♂️
When I say I don’t care about woman’s career it doesn’t mean I’m not care how your day was or how it goes in general at work.
For me it means more that I don’t care what you work with and how much money you making. When I met my current girlfriend she was working as a waitress, couldn’t care less about that.
👍🏼 well said!
Yep. As long as you can support yourself and you aren't being depressed/disgusted with the work. Men just don't care if you make 20k a year or 200k a year. However, as a general note, women tend to care about that number in their men. Most women get really unsettled if she makes more than him, even if her income is because of significantly better experience or education. She can be a high power lawyer with a 20 year experience and will definitely classify a retail worker/retail manager as dirt because HE doesn't make more than her lawyer job.
@@ElementZephyr and there are very good reasons for that. They are called Babies.
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Indeed, the girls seem to have completely misunderstood this one. The man has the classical role of the provider, so we naturally don't care about such side of a woman. However, most of us do care about if a woman can cook and do household tasks and how well-natured she is. Basically, we provide masculine traits and fill such roles, and are looking for the feminine counterparts. And here's where many of the young&beautiful careerist women fall out of the race, to their shocking surprise. You don't want a too self-focused woman who won't even cook for you every now and then. You may find them attractive in the short run, but for the long run, no thanks.
I like when you do these, "Panel" type videos. It's nice to get the reminder that women aren't a hive mind and that there are a variety of tastes and wants.
I agree
@Stripez what do you mean?
@@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121 I believe he’s implying they aren’t in the same room or setting at the same time to give an unbiased opinion as possible.
Most women don't tell the truth, they give an answer that puts them in a better light. Ask women what they believe other women do, then! You'll get their honest opinion. And odds are what they themselves really are doing and the choices they're making. Actions are greater than words. Don't believe what women say, believe what they do.
Seeing girls on interviews with other girls in one room once starts speaking, every girls answers mimics the previous girls response so i disagree with them not having a hive mind mentality.
Men want to be needed, women need to be wanted. We look for vastly different things.
on point
Great quote
I will never care about what a woman does for a living unless it benefits me directly (masseuse, chiropractor, chef, fitness instructor, doctor, nurse, etc). Otherwise I couldn’t care less.
I also think it’s fascinating to watch women take the fact that a guy doesn’t judge a woman based on her job and turn it into a negative! haha
I've known women who underestimate men, and think that we should be fine as long as we're even getting sex. One of those women actually expected me to be her man. I just couldn't do it. I'm not simple like that.
I had a marriage like that she thought as long as she gives me that she doesn't need to communicate with me i was married to a mute i needed more that just that i can relate to what your saying.
@@paulcooper5748 Sorry about that. I'm just glad that you're not with her anymore if that was her attitude.
@@PRdude Thanks brother i appreachiate that we go through these things sometimes but the main thing we learn from these experiances.
Same bro. My ex girlfriend wasn’t even as affectionate as I wanted her to be so I broke up with her.
Yeah a lot of Women misunderstand Men - They associate Mens happiness with purely physical and seem to forget that we can also care about emotional contact. Its honestly crazy that being "Masculine" is associated with being emotionless.
The Girl Im dating currently literally didn't expect me to actually have emotions or want contact that wasn't sexual... We live in long distance and she assumed that I wouldn't be able to handle it because "All guys think about is sex".
When men say that we don't care about your career, its not to say that we don't care if you have a job or not. It's meaning that we don't care if you have a PHD, we could care less if you're trying to be a CEO, because at the end of the day, none of that is going to help you be a great partner and a great mother to our children. As a man, I'm not trying to live off of your income, so what level of work you're doing, doesn't really mean much, you just need to be doing something with your life that isn't distasteful of course.
But for a woman for the most part its about pristige and social status. Women generally are judged by the company they keep so they don't want to be seen hanging out with what society looks at as a loser or a low status man.
@@johnnythekid4601
Johnny for the woman education and career designates value.
Furthermore...what do YOU think puts a roof over her head and food on the table? It's her career
The thing where the guy does not care about her career is not that he does not care how was at work today, it just means that guys preferences arent based on her earning six figures sallary, which is not always the same case with the girls who choose a guy based on that.
It's interesting how all of the ladies said what a guy is looking for a woman is career and goals. You couldn't be more wrong. We are not attracted to the same things you ladies are attracted. We are attracted to chicks who are feminine, kind and compassionate. My mother never earned a single dollar her entire life. I could live my life without my dad, but I can't imagine my life without my mother. Not to say career is not important but that is way down the scale
@@nicksmith-cx1fx Unless one person just has a really great income, it's going to take both people working these days to raise a family. Just the way things are with how the cost of living is today.
@@Murph_gaming Yes I get that and that is fine if both partners want to work. I only wanted to state that to have a great relationship it's not necessary for the woman to have a career. I personally want a partner who will not want to work after marriage. Just because she doesn't have a career doesn't mean her value decreases. Is a mom who raises her children to be good citizens any less successful than the CEO of a company. I don't think so but the feminists have brainwashed women that their fulfillment lies in their career.
@@Murph_gaming agree, but that doesn’t make me attracted to someone. That’s like a minimum, and I would never choose one person over another because they have a better career unless everything else is equal
@@SharkAcademy Exactly. I wouldnt choose the unatractive to me just because she has high sallary job just as I wouldnt reject the one I find attractive who has less payed job.
This group of girls align too closely with Courtney and what she believes in. I have seen the same group a couple of time now. I would prefer a more random cross-section of women to be more realistic. It is basically just listening to a group of girls basically saying what Courtney would say. I want to hear a couple of them that are completely different than Courtney.
But the trouble is that they are near completely ALL modern day feminists & so no matter who the women were, they would all still be saying the same things.
I think these are friends of hers. Pretty much by definition of being friends they will have similar views and opinions as her. How many of your friends have widely different views from you on multiple things?
@@Surfbird11 🙋
They will never do that because these girls care far more about getting social approval than being honest.
Opposing political views are exceptional for a friendship. You always have something to talk about, but terrible for relationships: it leaves no room for important chats, and it becomes a lever to hit the other when one is annoyed with the other.
Agree 100%. Friends can have different political views, but a long-term romantic relationship is a different story.
I’ve never seen a happily married couple last when the two partners have vastly different political worldviews. If they can’t agree on such critical things as that, it’s gonna cause fractures in the family unit and child-raising approach after a while.
@@michaelstein7510 LOL if he gives her the tingles she will ditch her political views to align with his
@@jgman467 To some extent, yes. But things have changed now. Social media has made politics so polarizing nowadays.
For example, Trump Derangement Syndrome turned a girl I dated in college from a sweet, conservative woman I would have strongly considering marrying into a man-hating feminazi in three short years. She was undatable by the end. Our world views were different to the point we could have never raised a family together. More and more women are becoming like that these days, especially the college-educated ones in certain fields.
I just don’t think two people with vastly different political views can sustain a marriage anymore.
When I married my wife she was an exchange student so she had never worked in the US. What mattered to me was she worked hard and she was very disciplined, plus all of her other great qualities.
I do NOT want someone to challenge me, I get plenty of challenge in day to day life. Let me relax in my spare time
Why are we not asking the main question here:
How many times a day does Lina get asked if she’s Billie Eilish??? 💯😂
RIGHT?!
I had to google this chick and all I can say is WHAT? Lina is vastly better looking and much slimmer.
@@mace2172 true, but that sweatter just kind of reminded me of BE as well..
Looks nothing like her.. bad comparison
*sad Yowie Wowie voices*
Ghosting is the cruelest thing you can do to somebody. Leaving them waiting for a an answer or reply that is never coming is unacceptable.
These interview/one on one discussion segments are super important because it displays natural variation among people.
This helps show us men that it is not a good idea to paint a new relationship with the old brush you used in previous experiences. Good stuff Courtney 👍
It's very helpful to see things through the eyes of others. I'm so set in my ways that it's a breath of fresh air to learn what other people feel and think. I don't want a woman in my life. Being single is much more convenient but I do want women to feel comfortable and happy with me. Big help. Thanks as always.
Whatever dude. No pressure.
It’s not that men interested in marriage “don’t care” about your career/job, although some certainly don’t, it’s that it’s not a PRIORITY for us. It’s not very important to us.
I mean, it’s the same thing for women no? They don’t care about a man’s income as much as they care about the income that comes with it.
@@ilikepancakes2368 No, they care more. It’s evolutionarily explainable. Money reflects social status, which is important to them and a marker of female status by their female peers. A trophy for women is status/wealth. A trophy for men is beauty, which is strongly correlated to youth btw. These are generalizations of course, and only one dimension of sexual selection. And i could go on.
@@themirrorflattersnot Well, I would say that women judge men based on beauty too but that really depends. But sometimes beauty and wealth intertwined with each other. If you have the wealth, you css as n improve your looks too since you have access to expensive cosmetics and plastic surgery.
I've been with the same woman for 41 years it's about caring understanding honesty n Love ....
External beauty is fleeting. Internal beauty is forever. My great grandmother told me that when I was 7 and she was 97.
I enjoyed this panel style vid. Seemingly good women giving their honest feedback in hopes of it helping both men and women to have healthy happy relationships.
The last part about what Lina said about how a guy reacts when a girl rejects him is really important. Because if guys act aggressive when they get rejected, girls would be too scared to approach other guys because of a horrible experience done onto them when really they are just saying how they feel when they get approached by a guy 🤷♀
Scary when politics becomes more important than religion
so true like wtf
The only people who think politics is more important than religion are far left liberals
@@Fab5Hill33 exactly.
@@Fab5Hill33 "far left liberals" yeah because thats not an oxymoron
Politics has become the new religion for the left
From a dudes perspective, we dont really care about women's careers because having a career isnt a requirement or pre-requasite for us. It's neat if you have one and I feel most dudes would be very supportive, it's just not an important factor when we are weighing our options.
Well said. We can support ourselves and usually another person, so its just not important that you have money. The problem is society tells them to be boss girls and they think "society pushes this=men want this" which isnt true. Its another unfortunate consequence of victim and counterculture.
'It's neat you have one*career'....what do you think puts a roof over her head and buys her food? HER CAREER
@@wyleecoyotee4252
There is a difference between a career and a job. A job puts food on the table and covers the bills, and career is a long term plan for employment for which you sacrifice.
EG I have a job now, I work as a manager at a drugstore, I am however close to starting my career, that will be as a commercial pilot, that took more education more financial sacrifice, and will have sacrifices down the road it is a long term commitment, my job just pays the bills.
@@nathand.9969
That's only your opinion that a career requires sacrifice. Furthermore there is a huge grey area between a job and a career.
Regardless, she's still self-sufficient whether it's a job or career. There are plenty of women with lucrative careers that provide more than just food on the table.
Courtney this is a great channel and I have a couple of nephews who enjoy your content. I can give them advise as a 57 year old "man" but coming from you and these young intelligent ladies it takes it to a "big sister" level. Enjoying your boyfriend's content as well. In fact, just finished buying a watch he recommended...Cheers!
Awwww I’m so glad to hear it! Thank you so much 😊
I think your guests have never been told by men what men truly want. I found their understanding highly ambiguous and didn't firmly answer the question. At least not in the same way as them identifying what it is "women want". They can answer that far better. You rarely find a woman seeking out man's advice on how to attract a man. I reckon it would be far different and not the same like your guests say it is. That is in my experience. There are fundamental differences.
Women don’t give clear answers to “what men want” because men will pretend to be that way until they can get laid or trap the woman
Yeah, they either don't know or wanted to appear politically correct. It goes a lot further than "just looks".
The question of what they think guys want really speaks volumes. Alot of the girls mentioned passions, ambitions and careers and when Courtney said guys regularly tell her that's not really what excites them, she herself and the other girls kindof disagreed and insisted that a guy should care...its an interesting response. None of them mentioned physical health and beauty and its pretty high up there for most guys. Or maybe they did but it wasn't shown. Its just one example but guys really care about that: they want a girl who looks after herself, who's fit and eats healthy and gets enough sleep and wears nice clothes and does her hair. How they express those things and whether they'll get them is an entirely different thing, but its something guys really cherish and appreciate. Another thing all guys really really cherish is their inner peace. Whether its having uninterrupted routines or the stability of confirming a date or just his quiet time to think and be alone, every guy values their inner peace so so so highly. They will make massive compromises to avoid drama and ensure it and are miserable without it. His need for intimacy is another common one. For a guy sexuality is a regular part of his life not a special occasion thing. A lot of his inner confidence and ability to manage stress is tied to that aspect of his life. If he's going to not masturbate or see other women but she isn't filling that role for him, its not just unpleasant it really impacts several areas of his life including his communication and attraction to his partner and can even have health risks depending on the person. Again whether he expresses these things well or whether he'll get them is another topic entirely, like all things it has to balanced against her needs and sometimes people are just incompatible and that's okay. But it is something that's super important to guys that the ladies didn't mention. A couple more I'll mention really quickly are fidelity and independence. That's 5 things I mentioned total that are common among men...It feels like girls really don't know what guys want. Its crazy to say because guys are typically straight forward, if they say the want a wallet for their birthday that's what they want, not a jacket, not a laptop. Seriously, just ask a guy and listen, they'll tell you, and they mean what they say. I wish we were better at listening to each other and put the effort into being our best for them, instead of the modern trend of focusing on what we want.
No one 'finds' a perfect partner, you find someone you kindof like, someone who isn't invested in you, doesn't know you and has other options. And the journey from here to forever involves regular honest social feedback and adjustment so that way the two become better fitted to each other over time. That's the dance, that's how we become their 10, its making them your focus. Your part in the relationship isn't you, its you in relation to them, and theirs is them in relation to you. How are you different because they are in the picture, is it cooking a little extra because they're coming over, is it going with him to his parents because they're really stressful and even though you don't like it you go because it means a lot to him; that's the relationship, its all that stuff. Girls should know what guys want generally and what their guy specifically wants, and vice-versa. Otherwise how are you going to be that? If you don't become that aren't they just settling for you? Do you want that? Become their 10, listen to them, actually listen to them, enter their spirit, draw them in, that's how you build something real and exciting. Don't be yourself, be the part of you they connect with. If you sing and cook and work at an office and your partner likes theatre, don't make your relationship about food, make it about theatre! Be yourself is bad advice, listen to your partner, grow the relationship, the part you relate on, and relate to them! That's the dance. And anyone can do it, can become kinder and better at communicating! It sounds like a lot, giving honest feedback all the time, adapting to what they want, because it is alot, not everyone's ready for a relationship. On a side note that's why sex is so important, its essentially that. And your reward is oxytocin, the glue that holds it all together. For those that are ready for a relationship, you grow so much in them! Just having someone be a mirror to you like that, especially if they care about what you see - its one of the most fulfilling and enriching experiences you'll ever have. You really do become more than you could've been otherwise if you approach it the right way, if you bring your best. Relationships are hard, even with everything going right its hard, it takes 2 people giving 100% and sometimes that's not enough, if you give any less, you have no chance. But if you do, and you find a match, your 100% will grow, you'll both become greater together than alone. In a perfect relationship 1+1=3. You don't just 'find' a perfect match, you become it to them
I admire the honesty from your ladies, Courtney. One thing to take away from it was the ghosting. Yes, it sucks but people need to chill out with it. Granted, I've freaked out a time or two about it, but I think ghosting just runs it for both parties, ones that get ghosted and the ones doing it
Yes, if ghosting upsets you then you need to develop more options. Scarcity mentality! Does a good salesman start crying if he loses a lead? No, he just picks up the phone and goes onto the next one.
Do you want to be a career woman or a woman with a career. It's a huge difference. I would rather marry the waitress who is fit feminine and kind than a woman who is career driven. To succeed in the workplace requires masculine energy and many of those career driven women bring that same masculine energy into relationships. Yes those women will succeed in the workplace but if it is at the cost of loosing their feminine energy that is a tragedy.
@@jleano609 great analogy! I've been dealing with that and other deeper issues through therapy, which in turn has helped me pass on my take on it and coming to realize that 9/10 times it's got nothing to do with you
@@tommygunn6901 Hope therapy goes well for you. A man has to learn to deal with rejection. As long as you are polite and respectful no woman can reject YOU, she can only say NO THANKS to the relationship. BIG DIFFERENCE!
@@jleano609 thank you for the kind words! It's always a work in progress
It was good to know that the girls dosnt have a clue to what men wants. Your hobbies are important but your financial status is not important. What you work with is not as important for us.
I also like these type of questions to your friends format.
I have been ghosted twice after dates from online dating sites. A third led me on after a date for two months before telling me she was seeing someone else. I was asking her once every two weeks if she wanted to go on another date with me, but she was always 'busy'.
That's when you implement the three-strike rule.
People who are interested make themselves available, or they suggest a concrete alternate time.
The fact that a comment was made saying that women and men have the same expectations from the other reflects how far women are from really understanding men in general. Careers to a man are no more relevant than being a housewife. To some guys has no importance at all.
Men want respect and a sense of validation
Honestly from his partner
Reciprocity and to feel loved or at least appreciated. The women who attend to her responsibilities and provides all the above will keep without a doubt her man always happy.
4:00 Lina spoke to my soul!
It’s really hard when your significant other is usually great, but when big things happen and they can’t be happy for you or they become jealous, it’s heartbreaking!
Dealt with this a TON in my last relationship.
It made me feel bad for accomplishing things. It made me nervous to share my successes because I didn’t want my partner to feel bad, since she hated her job so much.
It's a proven fact that there is a difference btw what girls say and what they really believe and do.
I agree with that entire video! I will say one thing that girls don't think about is but if they focus on their career for too long then you have to have a common ideal of what the balance between motherhood and career is!
Idk, the whole “every 4 years hell in your house” really misses the point. Not a fan of this argument, it suggests that the only thing that matters in politics is fighting about elections. You can respectfully disagree with people. The main issue is what you value in life, which dictates your political beliefs not the other way around.
Absolutely correct. I do this every 4 years. Respectfully disagree
If you're only voting/watching the political landscape every four years, you've got bigger problems.
different religiuos or political beliefs works when you truly love each other or are actually liberal
To me, the fact that they can not see passed the other persons political view, shows that they are extremely immature and spoiled.
Just to clarify: the standard, capable, heterosexual male has always desired a female mate who is sexually attractive and responsive, friendly, of a generous, healthy emotional nature, and reasonably submissive and feminine. I don't know any guy who cares what a girl does for a living, her status, or how creative she is. If she's good-looking, sweet, and emotionally healthy, thousands-years-old desires have been met. Biology picked it all out for the sexes.
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Gents. Think with your brain. Not your other head. Chivalry is making its come back. Be a gentleman, but not a simp. Remember that.
And we have to thank Court for reinforcing that message 🙏🏻
The issue is most people don't know what Chivalry is - so they dont actually appreciate it... Instead they take Making an Effort as "SIMPING".
No, men don’t look for the same things women do when it comes to finding a partner. Independence, Ambitious and being career oriented are things women look for in a man. Because those are masculine traits that show a mans ability to lead and provide.
Men care about famine traits. Nurturing, Kind, cooperative, modesty and empathy. We care more about your ability to take care of a baby than we do about your careers. Not that we don’t care about your careers at all, it’s just, we care a lot less than you seem to think. I wouldn’t force my wife to stop being a nurse forever, to stay home a sweep the house and watch over the baby. But I would expect her to put her career on a temporary hold in order to do her part in raising a baby. Her part being to nurture and care for the baby while im at work because I believe women are better at that then men are. That’s the type of femininity that the feminist movement should be encouraging. It’s ironic that a movement meant to defend women, calls itself “feminist” while encouraging women to be masculine.
Well said!
@@CourtneyRyan surprised, a lot of feminists would strongly disagree and be very mad at this comment and you for agreeing
I really don’t understand where women came to these conclusions about what men want. I guess since it’s attractive to them they think it’s going to be attractive to the male as well? I really think women need to understand this concept more. There may be a few overlaps, but career, ambition, drive are not things guys prioritize when looking for a wife.
Most accurate comment so far. It makes those girls look foolish to keep saying that they believe men want the same attributes that women want. Men don’t really want to go on dates with another man, but that’s the implication.
Well said sir
It's not that we, men, don't care about our partner's career. It is that we don't care about her life resume.
As long as we can see an honest or integral person, a caring mother for our children, a great companion to make our solo adventures a matter of two, whatever applies for each man, we don't care if she is a PhD or an illiterate woman. We are confident enough in our abilities to provide. We will care about her and cherish our relationship.
I could care less about political beliefs unless that's all she talks about. Then I'm not interested.
Yeah , that would get boring real fast!
different religiuos or political beliefs works when you truly love each other or are actually liberal
I do wonder what these women will say about being ghosted, because my mother told me many years ago that the best way to break up with the girl, or at least somebody you are talking to but don't like, is to just plain disappear. I personally think closure is important, and sometimes discussing issues can lead to a stronger relationship, although, in my experience, I put in more effort than anybody when it comes to building, retaining, and preventing a collapse, although most girls just plainly give up and I'm left alone
Those might be girls that are stuck in the toxic cycle of wanting guys that don’t treat them well. They want the thrill.
Wow Joseph mom was way off giving that advice.
Never put in more effort than the girl - YOU WILL NOT BE REWARDED FOR IT WHEN IT COMES TO ROMANCE.
It would have been nice to know why you didn't like them.
I think the best lesson anyone can learn (especially those who fear confrontation) is that some discomfort and pain upfront can prevent far more pain down the road. By avoiding confrontation, you’re allowing the relationship to slowly and painfully bleed to death rather than just humanely ending it quickly.I know that’s kind of a graphic analogy but I think it’s fairly accurate
I will say this.. I'm not in a relationship for a debate either it's political or religious. I just come home and think about what I'm going to discuss with my significant other over the dinner table.
All of the girls want a guy in lined with their own current views and don't think about future.
When I come home I want to relax and feel comfortable every day. Then I can look for a topic of speech if I want to.
Lina is so chill that if she's "done with you," you know you've messed up big time. I love when you throw in the panel videos!
i feel like when men say they don't care about your career they are saying that what you do for a living doesn't matter to them as far as your viability for being a partner goes, not that they aren't interested or interested in being supportive of what you do. For women, a man's career often does play a role on whether she sees potential for a relationship. For men, I think this doesn't play as much of a role
I don't think Men care about goals and aspirations like women do.
It depends on the person, the goals and aspirations just might be different!
@@CourtneyRyan No, mens don't care at all.
@@gorahott8647 not true. I like when a girl is driven and has goals for themselves because then to me it shows purpose instead of simply existing
It’s amazing how what women say they want, and what they get with time and time again, rarely match up.
Listen to how women talk about politics and religion. It's all about how they feel about the subject. They embrace whatever makes them feel good, whether or not it's actually true or useful. This is why men have to lead in these areas and women should conform.
Always great to see her friends
A collaboration with teaching men fashion would be good in near future
I think when most guys say they don't care about a woman's career, it is bc it doesn't matter to them where the woman works or how much they make. not that they won't care about the woman's accomplishments at her place of work or that they wouldn't be encouraging to them for their career.
also on the topic of ghosting, something that BOTH men and women do to each other, don't sweat somebody who ghosts you - bc that means if they didn't, they would have just lead you on or the relationship would have been crap from the get-go, bc they aren't an honest person or are too scared to be honest.
There is so much here that I wish I could comment on and have a discussion about. A lot of stuff online is one side yelling (directly or indirectly) at the other side or both sides saying they they have it harder. Because of that I've never really seen good discourse that leads to learning and growth for both genders... This channel isn't like that at all, btw. Just making a generality to point out that it would be nice to bring ideas between men and women together in a unique way.
There are women online who will speak for men to help us be understood, but often times you still can tell they don't truly understand our experiences or mindset. I paused this video so many times and just added my own commentary based on things these ladies said. For example, I could explain the "we don't care about your career" comment better than most guys. It's less crass than you might think. It would be useful to know how your panel might tailor their messages after being presented with a perspective they might not have been exposed to before. But, obviously this video is about the thoughts of women who see and interpret the world differently.
Tl;dr: It would be interesting to see some civil discussions between the genders. As men who want to improve ourselves, both sides have valuable insights to provide. Women understanding men and men understanding women can only help improve the quality of the advice and perspectives given.
I enjoy these the best. I like when she asks her friends questions.
Good point about the career part. When men say they don't care about the woman's career, they usually fail to explain the nuance in it as well.
It's not as if a woman with a career is a deal-breaker; in fact she can actually bring good value. It's just that it is measured differently and there are other higher priorities for men. Personally, I tend to prefer women who have a career or profession or are out there working towards something because they understand the struggle to carve out a decent living and/or pursue that activity we love. This makes her more relatable and we really connect on that. I rarely get the entitled types in these women (not sure how it is the US, I hear many complaints). Rather, they are more concerned in how you handle life and responsibility, a focus I respect a lot and (provided she's got the other stuff too :-) ) am strongly attracted to.
The difference, is just that while having a good career/ambition/etc by itself may make me more attractive to her, to me this alone won't cut it and her feminine traits are just a step more important. Otherwise I'll just give her the due respect I give to other successful guys but with no attraction attached. It also doesn't mean I won't make allowances in case she can't work and I have to provide for her. It might even be necessary, like when children start to come along. Men appreciate women who can take these differences into consideration and adapt.
The panel discussions are great! Some of my favorite to watch. 👌🏽
Don't go look for love. Let it find you. In the meantime build your character and qualities.
Go for it, while you can. I know you have it in you. And I cant promise youll get everything you want, but I can promise nothing will change if you dont try.
You have a great pic and being happy 😊
I was ghosted once after going out with a girl every week for a couple months. Stung a lot when it happened, but I dodged a bad relationship. I’m so thankful because I’m more cautious and discerning as a result. Thanks for the content!
Courtney is right. Men don’t care about your money. We care about our money and our time.
Awesome video! I think you found some really good women to answer these questions too. I've seen plenty of similar videos with the girls only mentioning shallow things. "He has to make 6 figures, has to be over 6ft, has to be far above attractive etc."
Also I've found that ghosting is certainly something that women do far more than men. The creepy stuff you mentioned on dating apps is real too, and that's something a lot of men need to work on. But ladies please, if you've been going on dates with someone and you decide you dont want to pursue a relationship, just be honest about it. Ghosting makes a good man question where he went wrong, and makes a bad man spiteful. Not good for the world either way.
I think what most men mean when they say they don’t care about a woman’s career is that they don’t necessarily care WHAT the career is. I think it’s important for ppl to have goals and passions but if I already make enough to make us both comfortable then why does it matter if ur an engineer or an artist? I think most men (at least the good ones) support their partners passions they just don’t care as much what those passions r.
I agree with having to agree on views and beliefs. People always act like Im the bad guy for thinking those have to be agreed on but it's the biggest representation of a persons values and how they are and those need to be similar to form a relationship that doesnt hold eachother back.
What women want in a guy: Own house, a Ferrari, 300k/year, no kids, good looks, awesome body, nice hair, willing to set them up with a 2k/week allowance, allows them to be a stay at home trophy.
What men want in a woman: not be cheated on, talked about behind their backs, and pushes them to their goals.
My two cents about a lot of women (not all, of course, there's always diamonds in the rough, which you and your friends seem to be a good group!). Great video!
I don't care what women's job is, but i'll always support her
I didn't think of it like that for dating apps. I think it's still considered ghosting and rude to me if we've been talking for a bit, set up a date, and then I never hear from her again. It used to bother me more, but now I almost expect them to flake. At this point in my life when I get ghosted, I just remind myself that they're not worth the energy if they didn't think I was
Let the caps begin!
There's so much capping that it might as well be a hat store.
Good topic but not one of these women said what they'd bring to the table for a man they're interested in. Most all men want loyalty, respect, submission, femininity, and staying healthy/ in shape. In return we'll be the leader, provider, protector, and cherish her forever.
i don't think you can say most all men. especially submission. also, considering how many men i see with unhealthy tubs of lard, where the only shape they stay in is round, that can't be most all men either.
@@louiscyfer6944 true there are a lot of passive men out there and that's okay. I'm not one. When I say submission it just means to let the man lead, follow basically. Not her on her knees or anything crazy. Submission is a power move by the woman because for her to follow the man must lead. I've been married 18yrs and it took my wife about 3 years to totally let me be the leader of the house. In doing that it places a lot of responsibility on me which is fine. At work she's the boss but when she comes home I take it from there.
Also I had to develop my value as the leader physically, mentally and spiritually. You know if you're physically fit confidence is easier to attain then you can build on that. I agree that round guys could lack confidence with woman in order to score points because to get her they may have to give in somewhere.
@@Shreadington are you a christian?
@@louiscyfer6944 yes Sir. You see I'm referring to Ephesians 5. On the flip side of submission it says husbands/men love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. Both sides sacrifice for the other person. It's struck a good balance in our marriage.
@@Shreadington
Wow that's manipulative.
'Submission ' in any format is a red flag to avoid
Career means, No grocery shopping, Not cooking, Not cleaning, Not taking kids to daycare, Not picking them up from school, having different days off work from your man, less time together. All of which are amazing acomplishments and lets face it, women are much better at these things than men. We are aware of this and hold you in high regard for this.
And as for not caring about career,....we have a provide mechanisim.....your career just disabled it. That's not good, evoloutionary traits must be fufilled, you cant just turn them off.
You can exercise certain amounts of control over them, but not utilizing them causes catostrophic events within ones self. No ones silly ideas or opinions are going to change your DNA.
Follow your biology. Let's get back basics ladies.
Yeah I think that is something important to point out. When guys say they don't care about a woman's job or career it isn't to say that they'd rather want the woman jobless. It's that a woman making six figures is no more attractive than a waitress. If she enjoys what she's doing and doing the job doesn't take over the relationship then then it is all cool. A man doesn't care about how much a woman makes because he isn't looking to date a man or have another mother. Just do something you enjoy and can enjoy talking about to others.
Women with prestigious, high paying jobs bring issues to the relationship. Men are programmed to provide to their mate, women less so. If they do they start to see their men as children (who they ARE programmed to provide too) which TURNS THEM OFF. If you have a couple both with high powered jobs it can become a power struggle. Who follows who if a job move is on the cards? There are many other examples but ultimately who leads and who follows in the provisioning department?
Also pivoting to children can become problematic. Significant income is then given up, at least temporarily. Can your lifestyle afford it? Will the woman delay parenthood and gamble with biology? Will the woman want to go back to work after? If childcare is chosen, it can be expensive - is her salary worth it?
Also most men ultimately want their wife to care for the kids. Men are programmed to look for fertility and child rearing qualities in their mate - we implicitly choose a woman as the nurturers of our potential offspring. So if that gets "contracted out", why didn't we just mate with the subsequent child carer in the first place and cut out the "middle woman"!? (Ask Arnie! 😉)
Many women don't understand this because they falsely think that money makes a woman attractive - no! You are thinking about what YOU find attractive about a man. There is no blank slate equal-ism in romantic relationships - we are programmed for set roles from the times we were hunter-gatherers on the Plains of the Serengeti. We provide - you nurture. Simple!
With all that said - a smart guy doesn't marry a girl who is a bum who presumably only has looks and a functioning reproductive system. Where is her intelligence and drive? What debts does she bring? Will that laziness translate into child-rearing? Is she a natural carer? Both myself and my father were/are white collar engineers. We both married girls from nursing or therapy backgrounds. Other guys in my family and friends of mine married teachers. That sort of dynamic works quite well. These are flexible, female friendly, caring careers where taking extended time off for child rearing is normalized. Not badly paid but not big $$$$. Hopefully you can still cover the mortgage when motherhood comes around.
Look for these girls, Gents! They are out there in numbers and they can make good, caring partners and mothers.
It’s not that men don’t care that you have a career or any of that, all of that is great and the cherry on top, but it doesn’t make me attracted to someone or make me want to be with someone who has more of that. Sure, if someone doesn’t have a job or any goals, it disqualifies them, as you said I don’t want somebody who’s just bored in the house all day looking through IG spending money, but that’s it
Face, build, frame, height, that’s all that really matters to women. If you have the looks, they’ll make it easy for you. No game, money, confidence, status, etc. would help if you don’t have the looks.
Apparently dudes be thinking women only go for 6"8' mega Brad Pitt with a six pack when Fat Dave out here getting married xD. Think you need to get some perspective dude.
I love this format, Courtney! More please!!
Politics and morality are NOT the same as one of the respondents claimed; Mary Matalin (hard Republican) and James Carville ((hard Democratic) have been happily married for longer than Courtney has been alive. Political and religious differences are certainly a romantic or even a friendship challenge but are not always deal breakers. It depends, as always, on the individuals in question.
Sure, it totally depends! Of course there are circumstances when it works out like anything else.
Back when James Carville and Mary Matalin married what's a (centrist) Democrat back then is a Republican today. What I'm saying is the definition of what's a Democrat today has embraced far left values to the point that I don't think a Republican/Democrat couple can make it today.
@@kamala80 Make no mistake; they fight like hell politically ufc mental debate team style but personally, they made an agreement that politics wasn't everything in lfe (amd frankly it isn't).
Man these girls are amazing like thanks for bringing them on they are awesome I love their advice too 🔥
Happy to do it! ❤️
They all want a guy with ambition until that ambition interferes even mildly with their "couples time" then it's you're never home or you're neglecting me so I cheated on you. If you pull back on those ambitions then it's why can't we have that, why can't we go there, why don't you make more. So they leave you for someone "more successful" or "more ambition." Not saying these women are necessarily like this, they seem like intelligent level headed women but so many seem that way at first, but a very large swath of women are. Lot of women claim they want partners but what they really want is spineless ATM that will continue to pay the bills while they go out & rides the carousel.
It's often been said that opposites attract which can be true, but it only applies to personalities ( introvert - extrovert etc. ) and not beliefs or interests. If the latter are signifigantly. different there's no hope of long term compatibility.
You changed my life for way better. Thx!
This is GREAT.!!...GREAT INSIGHT!!! Thanks for this...Courtney R'!!!
It's not that men don't care about your career if you happen to have one. It's that we don't care what that career is as opposed to some women who won't date a guy unless his career is X, Y, or Z.
We need more panel type videos. Please do more.
I dont want my woman to be "career-oriented" and I dont want her to feel "independent".
We want you to be family oriented and interdependent. You are not men, we dont desire masculine traits in you.
Love your content as always Courtney!! Plus your guests provided some great insight!
To answer shaylees concerns bout politics in a relationship, my parents resolved early on in dating (after settling big life trajectory/family expectation questions) to never talk politics. That said they already matched on lack of religionish and differing political views in the way a 80s dem was dif than a 80s republican.
I always love watching these on my lunch break
Politics is not about morals! I STRONGLY disagree with the view that morals and politics are linked. That is the problem with today's society. Making individuals who disagree with you to be immoral. Politics is about solutions to societal problems. Almost everyone agrees to what ails society, we differ in the solutions. Both sides are moral.
“Almost everyone knows what ails society” I don’t think so at all
So much good content here !! More questions with your beautiful friends Courtney !!
Heart and soul of a lady one look for.
As a guy, when I say I don’t care about your career - it’s not to say that I don’t care if you have one or not. It’s to say that you could be a ceo, a chef or a plumber and it’s not going to change whether I like you as a person much. I’m more focused on personality traits.
That said, I don’t speak for all men.
Except of those who said "the same thing" and got it wrong, the others didn't even try to answer the question about what men might look in women (they were too busy talking about confidence). Guys don't care at all about your confidence, salaries, hobbies or how many friends you have. Most of it is about whether they see a better version of themselves when they are with you or not. Like what kind of impact you have in their lives (with you VS before being with you).
I have an issue with putting religious beliefs and political beliefs on the same level. It's telling in my opinion that many don't see an issue with this and that there's a supposed correlation between political beliefs and morality. In my opinion, I see a "religious-izing" of political beliefs that liberals and the media are pushing. My religious beliefs are much more important to me than my political beliefs. Speaking of this I just found a deal breaker. If you put your religious beliefs on par with your political beliefs I don't think I could be in a romantic relationship with you.
Couldn't agree more. I was disappointed to see Courtney conflate the two when she posed the question, and even more disappointed to see how these women responded.
@@Fab5Hill33 Courtney is young and has some maturing to do. I don't mean this as a diss to her but I've been where she and these ladies are at. The ups and downs of life plus time has a way of correcting your "vision" if you will.
I like a girl that does something, as long as she contributes to bills and doesn't sit on the coach.
I live in Canada but hearing what these girls have to say makes me glad I don't live in the US and a bit iffy about chasing American girls if they're anything like your friends here. A handful of them here as a sample represents American girls with having high expectations meaning more pressure. So much to "your partner should enhance your happiness, not be it". Dating a girl like that creates more headaches than happiness.
When it comes to describing what people look for in a partner, those in a relationship will obviously bring up their partner's traits. For those who are single, having too specific a criteria makes it harder to find someone matching that when sometimes people don't know what they want until they see it.
About the politics point, even though I'm a Canadian citizen and therefore have the right to vote doesn't necessarily mean I have to exercise it since I don't particularly care about politics as do many other people. So if a girl likes A,B,C about me and makes a big deal about D which is "cares about politics" which I don't, I won't change for someone else's likeness. It's human nature to have different interests and if politics isn't one of them, either deal with it or find someone who does but is not like me in other respects. Politics is a touchy subject anyway and if you can't bring yourself to tell the world your views, it proves my point. It's like saying you can't take someone seriously unless they speak English (which not everyone does) or they're stupid and uneducated...makes no sense.
Just say you want someone with no standards
13:00 could you make a video reacting to videos/clips/TikToks where men have unhealthy reactions to being rejected? Pointing out and talking about toxic ways of how men deal with rejection? Women too, but more importantly men, because women usually get asked out more, so there are probably more stories out there.
I do like that a girl has a career. And I think that I would support a woman in her career. I think that it is a requirement that she has a purpose of some type. The difference is that, men would rather pick the woman that treats us right over the girl that has an amazing career and future prospects.
About ghosting, it's for the weak who cannot give a direct answer. Sure it's scary to confront someone with a yes or no. But it's better to be honest with someone. Rather than avoiding the situation because in the long run, you will only hurt yourself more. If you're in your 30s and still ghosting people, then you're still not a mature person. Strong people will be direct with their questions/answers, and not be avoiding messages
Now on the flip side, senders, if you hear a big fat "no," stop what you are doing, and leave the other person alone! They made it clear that they are not interested in meeting up with you. Leave them alone, and move on to someone else.
I like how divisive the first question was between all the gals ahhaha good episode