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I wanted my children to be educated on etiquette, but several people thought it was trivial & silly. My kids actually thanked me as adults because it has helped them with dates, business dinners etc. It warmed my heart.
I like knowing what to do in social settings. I don't like awkwardness when dining out. People who think etiquette is outdated or trivial can be rather boorish.
I used to be the kind of person who thought none of this was necessary, and that etiquette rules were just a means for elites or the bourgeois to exclude others. But, as mentioned above, it's actually really helpful to have a set of guiding principles for social situations that reduces uncertainty (and therefore anxiety) and maximises the chance of making a good impression.
I was taught that having good manners simply means behaving in a way that allows those around you to feel comfortable. If a guest makes a mistake, we are gracious about it. We can pretend it didn't happen, or calmly find a way to assist without embarassing them. Because someone with good manners would never call attentionto a faux pas. 😊
People often think etiquette is snobbery, and while I can understand that perception, it is really about being respectful of other people. It is also about health. Nearly every rule of table etiquette has a health rationale. The placement of the napkins shown here is one example. Once you pick something up and use it at the table, it is never returned to the table surface until the meal is completely over. Knives, forks and spoons are placed on plates or saucers; napkins are placed on the seat or folded over the back of the chair, never on the table surface or on a plate. When you think about it, all of this helps create a social barrier and reduce the spread of infectious organisms between diners.
inkyguy bravo! You nailed it! Etiquette is primarily about respecting others. It teaches how to act properly and respectfully towards other, in a way helping to create a more kind and friendly environment. I think part of the reason why the world has become so hostile and disrespectful is because many people disregard common etiquette rules. I think etiquette must be brought back to our fundamental education. And I love how you summarized it!
I absolutely love this comment. Reading any etiquette book from an older era the height of good breeding was being considerate of others, making social interactions as smoothe as possible for other people
@@vritika8363 would you be willing to share any etiquette book recommendations with me please? I’ve looked into a couple however every single one follows different rules and some don’t go into as much detail as I’d like
Also, etiquete is about enjoying the meal, caring for yourself, takeing care of how you act and present yourself into the world, and of haveing a good time with someone while being respectfull. And i think that eating slowly has an important part in the process of eating and also in our health, because we will get full easyer, we won't gain weight unexpected, we won't chocke on food. When you eat slow and pay attention to the detail you feel more grounded in the present moment.
Most of my peers could never understand why I am enthralled and practice etiquette and refinery, and more often than not, mistook that as a pretentious character and snobbery, however, some find it charming, it stemmed from my childhood and how I was brought up. I grew up with my grandma, although shortlived, she taught me most of what she knows about etiquette and the proper manners of a lady. Up to this day, that foundation is what shaped my character, and how I carry myself in different situations and settings, especially in a room full of spiteful looks who has a different opinion on a particular subject matter. I'm so happy to find such a channel that teaches the same lessons I learned years ago. Young ladies need to understand how empowering it is to know the type of tea you prefer at a certain time, and the type of chinaware and silvers that must be used, and dressing accordingly- those simple things that build up your manners, that's important and empowering.
You can find it charming etc... But for me it's more of a time investment than I'm willing to make. Food is there to be eaten, and every second following etiquette is a second not eating your food.
@@Scottx125Productions even though some people find it “time-consuming”, it’s still a good thing to have. Learning etiquette isn’t just about looking fancy, but it also teach people how to have good manners. No one wants to see people gobbling up food like there’s no tomorrow. That’s just disrespectful and disgusting.
> 0:35 history of afternoon tea - 1840's, dinner 9pm but too late during summer and Anna gets hungry, wants bread, tea and goodies eaten before dinner time 1:34 types of afternoon teas - afternoon tea consists of sandwiches, scones, desserts, and tea served at low/coffee table; high tea consists of meat, desserts, fruits (more like a meal) served at 6pm, Queen tea is just scones, cottage cream, jam, and tea; royal tea is the one with a glass of champagne 2:29 what to wear - not too formal, no long gowns, cocktail dress OK or smart casual is also OK, could be jeans but paired with nice jacket or nice shoes, no leggings no yoga pants no sneakers no ripped jeans, between formal and casual would do 2:58 different types of tea - no coffee (of course)! black tea (fermented), oolong (partially fermented), green tea (not fermented), white tea (rarest, somewhere between oolong and green tea) 3:22 tiers of the types of food - bottom is sandwiches, middle is scones with cottage cream and jam, top is desserts (no cupcakes), also expect cutlery, small plate and knife, cup with saucer and little tea spoon, lemons cut in slices, tea strainer, tea pot, cold milk, sugar and sugar tongs 4:17 who pours the tea? - one person designated to pour, usually the host/hostess, if guest offered to pour tea then honor given to guest; if you are asked strong or weak tea, strong means 3/4 of cup, weak means 1/2 of cup 4:47 condiments - sugar, lemon or milk? Plain if you don't want anything. If sugar and milk, add sugar then milk. If sugar and lemon, add sugar then lemon. Milk or tea first? Tea first then milk nowadays; never add sugar, milk, or lemon in oolong, green, or white tea, if having earl grey don't add lemon; never add cream to your tea 6:37 finger sandwiches - eat them with fingers; eat them first to clear your palate 7:24 scones - originally from Scotland; cottage cream and jam served with them; doesn't matter which one goes first 7:40 desserts - tart or biscuits never cupcake 7:53 when eating with guests - if you don't want sandwiches, wait for party to finish sandwiches first before eating scones 8:07 napkin - place napkin on lap fold in half, leave napkin on chair if going to bathroom to demonstrate coming back, if done afternoon tea fold it in 2 and place left side of coffee table 8:37 how to use strainer - put strainer on top of cup, pour tea into cup 9:09 sugar - use sugar tongs, put sugar in the edge of cup near tea, not in the middle or it will cause spills; stir sugar with 12 to 6 or 6 to 12 back and forth motion until sugar dissolves, when done place tea spoon on saucer behind cup 10:13 how to drink tea (sitting) - never lift saucer up, lift cup move towards me, tilt cup not head, when drinking look into the tea cup not over 10:40 how to drink tea (standing/walking) - one hand holding saucer another hand holding tea cup 10:57 how to hold cup - index and thumb should be holding handle, middle finger should be supporting cup handle 11:53 how to eat scones - take a scone with fingers, open the crack of the scone into two parts, break into smaller parts, add cottage cream or jam before consuming 12:26 how to eat desserts - put dessert on own plate, use cutlery 12:46 leaving - place napkin on left side of plate and leave
i wish people invited me to tea. i'm also young and live in america so it would be very unusual but i wish i lived in a place where every young person took etiquette classes and wore fancy stuff everywhere. i think that'd be fun.
There is probably a tea house in your city. I live in LA and my friends and I in college would get dressed up and go to afternoon tea every so often. It's super fun and you get to some really great conversations. Or, you could easily throw your own afternoon tea at your house and invite your friends to dress up and come over. Really, it's super easy to do if you get the pastries from a bakery.
That happens exactly the same to me! I’m young too and I come from a coffee-drinking-culture country, so whenever I say prefer tea, people just look strange to me 😅. But I love tea and the etiquette that involves it. 🫖
This is very awesome! I randomly got the idea of wanting to improve my etiquette for future fancy scenarios. You are very straight forward with the information and explain it well. Thank you!
I'll be hosting an afternoon tea soon and I am so glad you cleared up all my questions about what to do. This has been extremely informative. Thank you so much for taking the time to really explain everything including what you do if you need to leave the table with your tea.
I have some questions too. 1) how do you add lemon to the tea? Squeeze it in or just drop the slice in the cup? 2) how many sandwiches do most people eat if they are alone at tea?
Thank you for your questions, Regrinds. Regarding the lemon: you would get it sliced on a plate. You would just drop the slice by the edge of the cup, not in the middle, in order not to create any splashes. You can then use the spoon to gently squeeze the lemon while in the cup by pressing on it. A set of afternoon tea usually has a serving for two people. So if happen to eat it alone, you could have 4 sandwiches but really it is up to your appetite. They are very small and should be eaten with fingers only. If they have some sort of sticky filling, you might want to cut it into two with knife in order not to get your fingers dirty. But always pick it and eat with fingers. Hope this answers your questions :)
At my highschool we had a social event every year and we had to have months of classes about etiquette leading up to the events. In grade 9 we had a what I now know was a high tea, I wish I had this video then. I love this so much thank you
"if you have green, oolong or white tea never add sugar, milk or lemon. and if you have an earl gray don0t add lemon to it." ILL HAVE PLAIN TEA THANKS (so i never get it wrong)
You can add lemon to all teas: green, oolong, black and white teas. Some people like Jamila don't add lemon to Earl Grey teas (a type of black tea with bergamot citrus) but a lot of people still do. I personally would never add milk to tea because especially with black tea it dulls the flavour. I'm half Russian and half British though so my mother (British) adds milk and my father (Russian) doesn't so perhaps this is somewhat cultural
@@subusure it's fairly common to add milk and sugar to earl grey tea as it has a stronger more intense flavour than say green tea or oolong tea :) (tbh i'm not sure about the lemon!)
I love this! Oh the memories. As a teenager I invited one of my best friends over for "tea" oh I did it up with tea, cookies and my mom let me use the semi good tea pot and cups. We had so much fun. LOL! Not as extravagant with all the rules but just had fun.
I don’t know how I stumbled upon your channel, but you are fascinating! 😍 I’m so far away from being elegant, but I might as well subscribe and start making good habits.
Thank you so much for this video. I love your voice, it's very soothing to listen to and because I'm not native in english i also had an easy way of understanding everything. Thank you for making this video, so I will not embarress myself once I will have my first afternoon tea, but also I can adept in more day -to-day situation even here in Germany. Thank you very much!
Dear Anna, this is amazing how you are presenting this common etiquettes to the mass people and save from unwanted embarrassment. Your elegancy is amazing. Love from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩
I simply love the way you explain things! So clearly, so efficiently... I always catch myself with a smile on my face while watching your videos. Pure joy...😊🥰
Thank you so much for this! I thought that etiquette was just something for fancy people but this was honestly so warm and welcoming. I'm looking forward to trying out these things, even if I am a broke student haha! x
I looooove this!! It just popped up, and since I drink tea I began watching. I will subscribe!! Not only is it informative but so relaxing!!! Great job!!
An excellent video that provides some intriguing insights, as well as a deep understanding of afternoon tea, all while keeping to the point! I'm so grateful to have discovered your channel!
Jamila, I've ended up on a youtube spree watching *all* of your videos (and I will be sourcing your book too)! I'm a 1940's dancer and I always loved the way people carried themselves back then, with etiquette and respect for both people and the material items around them - which I feel the majority of people are so quick to disregard these days. Thank you so much for providing these videos, they really are both informative and interesting from a self-improvement point of view! Ps, I hope this doesn't come across as condescending - but I *absolutely adore* the way you say "biscuit"!
Her pronunciation of oolong is soooo cute! We actually pronounce it more like “woolong” in Chinese. But who am I kidding? Jamila is elegance herself! Such quality and knowledgeable content!
Yes, I admire her for learning so many languages, and there are bound to be differences in pronunciation. For example, where I am from, salmon has a silent "l" (sah-mun), and biscuit is (bis-kit).😊
Thank you very much for this elegant and informative video. You are very calming & elegant with impeccable manners that I haven't seen since childhood. Nicolas Fairford and you are my go to for manners and practical elegance. You bring it all back to us, the grubby masses in a way that makes us want to use a napkin and drink from a cup that isn't a coffee mug.. haha Thank you.
No puedo creer que encontré este maravilloso canal, lo estuve buscando por mucho tiempo. Yo soy una mujer apasionada por la etiqueta y el protocolo, aunque no cuento con dinero para estudiar esta increíble carrera, deseo educarme por este medio. Gracias Jamila... Kisses from Colombia.
Hi I really like your videos, can you make videos for cream tea, soft tea, high tea, royal tea etiquette videos and how to set up sliverware, attire, food, etc. please thank you
Often with etiquette, you can judge who do really cares and who does not. You did brilliant work Jamila Musayeva. Thank you for sharing your expertise here.
I'm writing a very short story for an assignment and I thought it would be nice to do a dialogue over afternoon tea. Your fantastic video really clarified a lot of things for me! Thank you. Subscribed. ^_^
Your poise eloquence and the quality content of your videos are amazing. Surely you can attract crowds and transform all is us into duchesses . Thank you for your hard work
Thank you very much for making this video. I always wanted to learn etiquette but don't have the money to pay for it and don't even know where to start as I live in the Caribbean. I think it would really help me out on dates and business dinners as well as I always believe that the future is uncertain and I never can tell where I may end up one day that having proper etiquette as a lady would come in handy. I look forward to learning more from your channel and your videos. Please keep up the good work!
Thanks, I really loved the video! I have some questions. 1- is it ok to drink tea while eating? Or should I finish the tea first? 2- do we eat the sandwich with fork and knife or with our fingers? And thank you very much for uploading the video, it was very helpful. Wish you all make more videos ❤❤
Hi Vina. Yes, it is ok to drink while eating but make sure you chew and swallow your food and then drink. You should not have food and tea in your mouth simultaneously. The tea sandwiches are meant to be eaten with your fingers. Use your fingers to pick them up and bite one piece at a time. You can subscribe to my channel to stay tuned :)
Thank you, I've learned lots of new things, but I would like to pay attention to the rule that have been overlooked in this video- when Jamila took the scone, she chose not the one that was closer to her. May be it's not that important when you are alone, but when there are other people, one takes the piece that is closest and doesn't pick the one that he or she fancies better.
We learned the etiquette while still young, the elders say, practice makes perfect, and it would shape up our personality,look good and proper all the time. I watch this video as reference(see if still remember the old learnings). I love it. I am familiar with afternoon tea only, guess still have to learn about high tea and others. Thank you for sharing with us. More power!
It is because the Cream Tea originates from Devon, England. 😊In Devon we put the cream on first, and then the jam. In Cornwall (neighbouring county), it's jam first and then cream. It is the subject of many heated debates here in the UK!
@aussiejubes Interesting and glad to learn from you! I never would have never even considered the option of not putting cream first. I will give it a go and see, I guess. Lol!
Gosh, with Covid 19 you could host a tea for youself/family members. Make the scones etc. You can even make clotted cream, etc. Change from pyjamas, & convenience food. Friends get together on zoom & have afternoon tea....
Where have you got the idea that you can't have lemon in Earl Grey tea? It is the done thing in England, and milk is frowned upon. I have had afternoon tea at the Savoy and they actually offered my husband lemon with his Earl Grey. I also can't imagine an occasion where you would walk about drinking tea (including Ascot!) I don't think anyone would want to risk spilling tea down their dress. You are quite right to break your scone in half but after that you absolutely do NOT break any more off, you spread cream, then jam on each half and pick them up and eat them. I've never really seen anyone use a knife and fork to cut a sandwich, you can hold it with your fingers and cut it with a knife.
I love your videos about etiquette, they are really precious, we can learn a lot from them. please keep making videos about etiquette. greetings from brazil❤️
Liz doesn't have afternoon tea parties - she has garden parties for thousands of people in the gardens at Buckingham Palace and Holyrood Palace. The guests don't even get a seat.
I love this! Jamila you are truly an expert and excellent teacher. Thank you for sharing your valuable wisdom with us!! Not to mention you are a beauty!
I have a question I’ve been pondering all my life: how can I deal with lipstick while eating? I feel so bad leaving stains on the gorgeous white napkins! 😅
there are brands of lipstick which do no transfer so easily. Also, gently dab rather than wipe when using the napkin. For touching up your lipstick you can carry a red "lipstick hankie" in your purse.
shay lɪkes stuff yes, you would do the same thing. If you see a crack, hold it by the sides and open it. If no crack is seen, break with your hands one piece at a time and eat :)
Good question. I love to visit a local tea shop so I’m glad to learn the fine points of etiquette. I’ve always wondered, though, why they serve scones AND cakes because warm scones with butter and jam or clotted cream seem like a very sweet, rich dessert to me! I never want the cakes after sandwiches and scones! Hahaha!
I have just discovered your channel and now I am binge-watching all of it. It's really informative, really love how you explain everything and how elegant your voice is!
Jamila, thank you for your lovely afternoon tea etiquette lesson. In New Hampshire in the United States of America we have a lovely tea parlor. I have taken my granddaughter, I began with my daughters and my lady friends.
I've attended many afternoon teas privately and in restaurants in the UK and I assure anyone watching this afternoon tea is far from as ceremonial and fussy as this nice lady is portraying. So long as you eat with your mouth closed, follow basic table manners and are considerate of the people you are dining with - have your tea sandwiches and cake as you like it. And I have been to afternoon teas that served cupcakes! Restaurants will often provide you with replenishments of food as well - prepare to feel quite sick afterwards!
My dear, you were fantastic in this afternoon tea video ! I do wish I could have been there with you. Such a calm, peaceful moment, really relaxing. In London I used to enjoy afternoon teas at the Ritz and 2 other nice hotels. I went to a boarding schoon in the UK (when I was young) and later worked in London as an interpreter. My " tea afternoons " used to be the moments I wanted to pamper myself. Unfortunately on the Continent it is not easy to find such places. Once I am given a tea bag, the atmosphere is gone. - Stay healthy, all the best.
I am young girl in her late teens but I am really interested in learning proper table etiquettes i am really thankful to you for making this type of content.❤❤
A much appreciated introduction to the etiquette for afternoon tea. I had felt intimidated by what I perceived as challenging formality at an afternoon tea. So I never accepted invitations to attend one before. After watching your introduction, however, it seems that it is rather straightforward and consistent with dining etiquette. With much gratitude.
Adeleye Carew thank you! I am rather new to youtube but I have posted two other videos on body language. Subscribe please and stay tuned for new posts :)
Hello Jamila, Firstly, I would like to appreciate the excellent choice of words. Secondly, please keep in mind to never use negative words when presenting. For instance, you could use mild tea instead of weak tea. There are different preferences of flavour for tea/coffee like mild, medium and strong. Last but not the least, thank you for creating such lovely informative video's so that everyone can learn.
Thank you for your feedback. The black tea is differentiated as weak and strong. It is not a negative term in this case. It is related to the caffeine intensity in the tea.
As a Brit hoping you move state side with my partner who is American I hope to giver the the best of British 4 pm tea with scones cream jam finger sandwiches cakes 👍🇬🇧
Hi Jamila, I'm so glad I found your channel as I'm always striving to put out more elegant, calming feminine energy. I was wondering if might share where your blazer is from? I've been searching for a good one! Thank you!
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I wanted my children to be educated on etiquette, but several people thought it was trivial & silly. My kids actually thanked me as adults because it has helped them with dates, business dinners etc. It warmed my heart.
You are a great mom ☺️
I like knowing what to do in social settings. I don't like awkwardness when dining out. People who think etiquette is outdated or trivial can be rather boorish.
I used to be the kind of person who thought none of this was necessary, and that etiquette rules were just a means for elites or the bourgeois to exclude others. But, as mentioned above, it's actually really helpful to have a set of guiding principles for social situations that reduces uncertainty (and therefore anxiety) and maximises the chance of making a good impression.
I was taught that having good manners simply means behaving in a way that allows those around you to feel comfortable. If a guest makes a mistake, we are gracious about it. We can pretend it didn't happen, or calmly find a way to assist without embarassing them. Because someone with good manners would never call attentionto a faux pas. 😊
Everyone should know good table manners
Jamila is officially the most elegant and put together person I’ve ever seen.
Aww thank you!
She's areal lady.
You are kinda easy to impress, have you not ever seen high society people
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@@Swan.princess So you say Jamila isn't elegant hahaha
Now I'm all ready for the Queens invite ..
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People often think etiquette is snobbery, and while I can understand that perception, it is really about being respectful of other people. It is also about health. Nearly every rule of table etiquette has a health rationale. The placement of the napkins shown here is one example. Once you pick something up and use it at the table, it is never returned to the table surface until the meal is completely over. Knives, forks and spoons are placed on plates or saucers; napkins are placed on the seat or folded over the back of the chair, never on the table surface or on a plate. When you think about it, all of this helps create a social barrier and reduce the spread of infectious organisms between diners.
inkyguy bravo! You nailed it! Etiquette is primarily about respecting others. It teaches how to act properly and respectfully towards other, in a way helping to create a more kind and friendly environment. I think part of the reason why the world has become so hostile and disrespectful is because many people disregard common etiquette rules. I think etiquette must be brought back to our fundamental education. And I love how you summarized it!
I absolutely love this comment. Reading any etiquette book from an older era the height of good breeding was being considerate of others, making social interactions as smoothe as possible for other people
@@vritika8363 would you be willing to share any etiquette book recommendations with me please? I’ve looked into a couple however every single one follows different rules and some don’t go into as much detail as I’d like
Also, etiquete is about enjoying the meal, caring for yourself, takeing care of how you act and present yourself into the world, and of haveing a good time with someone while being respectfull.
And i think that eating slowly has an important part in the process of eating and also in our health, because we will get full easyer, we won't gain weight unexpected, we won't chocke on food.
When you eat slow and pay attention to the detail you feel more grounded in the present moment.
Agreed. Seeing and hearing someone smack there food is not hygienic. I have seen food fall out of folks mouth. YUCK!
Most of my peers could never understand why I am enthralled and practice etiquette and refinery, and more often than not, mistook that as a pretentious character and snobbery, however, some find it charming, it stemmed from my childhood and how I was brought up. I grew up with my grandma, although shortlived, she taught me most of what she knows about etiquette and the proper manners of a lady. Up to this day, that foundation is what shaped my character, and how I carry myself in different situations and settings, especially in a room full of spiteful looks who has a different opinion on a particular subject matter. I'm so happy to find such a channel that teaches the same lessons I learned years ago. Young ladies need to understand how empowering it is to know the type of tea you prefer at a certain time, and the type of chinaware and silvers that must be used, and dressing accordingly- those simple things that build up your manners, that's important and empowering.
I absolutely agree with you!!
You can find it charming etc... But for me it's more of a time investment than I'm willing to make. Food is there to be eaten, and every second following etiquette is a second not eating your food.
@@Scottx125Productions even though some people find it “time-consuming”, it’s still a good thing to have. Learning etiquette isn’t just about looking fancy, but it also teach people how to have good manners. No one wants to see people gobbling up food like there’s no tomorrow. That’s just disrespectful and disgusting.
Totally agree with you.
Good on you, we’re all different and should appreciate the differences!
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0:35 history of afternoon tea - 1840's, dinner 9pm but too late during summer and Anna gets hungry, wants bread, tea and goodies eaten before dinner time
1:34 types of afternoon teas - afternoon tea consists of sandwiches, scones, desserts, and tea served at low/coffee table; high tea consists of meat, desserts, fruits (more like a meal) served at 6pm, Queen tea is just scones, cottage cream, jam, and tea; royal tea is the one with a glass of champagne
2:29 what to wear - not too formal, no long gowns, cocktail dress OK or smart casual is also OK, could be jeans but paired with nice jacket or nice shoes, no leggings no yoga pants no sneakers no ripped jeans, between formal and casual would do
2:58 different types of tea - no coffee (of course)! black tea (fermented), oolong (partially fermented), green tea (not fermented), white tea (rarest, somewhere between oolong and green tea)
3:22 tiers of the types of food - bottom is sandwiches, middle is scones with cottage cream and jam, top is desserts (no cupcakes), also expect cutlery, small plate and knife, cup with saucer and little tea spoon, lemons cut in slices, tea strainer, tea pot, cold milk, sugar and sugar tongs
4:17 who pours the tea? - one person designated to pour, usually the host/hostess, if guest offered to pour tea then honor given to guest; if you are asked strong or weak tea, strong means 3/4 of cup, weak means 1/2 of cup
4:47 condiments - sugar, lemon or milk? Plain if you don't want anything. If sugar and milk, add sugar then milk. If sugar and lemon, add sugar then lemon. Milk or tea first? Tea first then milk nowadays; never add sugar, milk, or lemon in oolong, green, or white tea, if having earl grey don't add lemon; never add cream to your tea
6:37 finger sandwiches - eat them with fingers; eat them first to clear your palate
7:24 scones - originally from Scotland; cottage cream and jam served with them; doesn't matter which one goes first
7:40 desserts - tart or biscuits never cupcake
7:53 when eating with guests - if you don't want sandwiches, wait for party to finish sandwiches first before eating scones
8:07 napkin - place napkin on lap fold in half, leave napkin on chair if going to bathroom to demonstrate coming back, if done afternoon tea fold it in 2 and place left side of coffee table
8:37 how to use strainer - put strainer on top of cup, pour tea into cup
9:09 sugar - use sugar tongs, put sugar in the edge of cup near tea, not in the middle or it will cause spills; stir sugar with 12 to 6 or 6 to 12 back and forth motion until sugar dissolves, when done place tea spoon on saucer behind cup
10:13 how to drink tea (sitting) - never lift saucer up, lift cup move towards me, tilt cup not head, when drinking look into the tea cup not over
10:40 how to drink tea (standing/walking) - one hand holding saucer another hand holding tea cup
10:57 how to hold cup - index and thumb should be holding handle, middle finger should be supporting cup handle
11:53 how to eat scones - take a scone with fingers, open the crack of the scone into two parts, break into smaller parts, add cottage cream or jam before consuming
12:26 how to eat desserts - put dessert on own plate, use cutlery
12:46 leaving - place napkin on left side of plate and leave
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Finally found a youtuber who makes a lot of sense. The whole world should subscribe on this channel! I love how classy you are!
Thank you very much! 🙏🏻
These videos bring me so much JOY! I find etiquette rules so soothing, it's like the world is getting prettier and less chaotic
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She is very well-spoken and elegant, inspires me as a growing girl! Definitely need to work on my etiquette.
Thank you 🙏🏻
i wish people invited me to tea. i'm also young and live in america so it would be very unusual but i wish i lived in a place where every young person took etiquette classes and wore fancy stuff everywhere. i think that'd be fun.
There is probably a tea house in your city. I live in LA and my friends and I in college would get dressed up and go to afternoon tea every so often. It's super fun and you get to some really great conversations. Or, you could easily throw your own afternoon tea at your house and invite your friends to dress up and come over. Really, it's super easy to do if you get the pastries from a bakery.
That happens exactly the same to me! I’m young too and I come from a coffee-drinking-culture country, so whenever I say prefer tea, people just look strange to me 😅. But I love tea and the etiquette that involves it. 🫖
@@AjaychinuShah listen, stfu!
move to the south
@@serinachilders74 never💀
This is very awesome! I randomly got the idea of wanting to improve my etiquette for future fancy scenarios. You are very straight forward with the information and explain it well. Thank you!
thank you very much for your comment! I appreciate it!
Your voice is so gentle as spring breeze. It adds the cozy and lovely atmosphere to the video.
Thank you a lot 😌
@@JamilaMusayeva please can you tell me what was fork like spoon at the side of sliced lemond...?
these videos are soo interesting... i really do feel like i’m in school but learning something actually useful. i’ve watched all your videos now 😄
ORLA thank you dear 🙏🏻
I'll be hosting an afternoon tea soon and I am so glad you cleared up all my questions about what to do. This has been extremely informative. Thank you so much for taking the time to really explain everything including what you do if you need to leave the table with your tea.
Everyone in the comment is invited at my place for afternoon tea. Can't wait for quarantine to be over.😂❤
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I go. 🧏♀️ I can't wait anymore to wear my new clothes, since I'm locked too... 😏
@@luciacaro6382 snap me your new clothes @moonstone33232.
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Comminggg lol
En waar is dat?
I have some questions too.
1) how do you add lemon to the tea? Squeeze it in or just drop the slice in the cup?
2) how many sandwiches do most people eat if they are alone at tea?
Thank you for your questions, Regrinds.
Regarding the lemon: you would get it sliced on a plate. You would just drop the slice by the edge of the cup, not in the middle, in order not to create any splashes. You can then use the spoon to gently squeeze the lemon while in the cup by pressing on it. A set of afternoon tea usually has a serving for two people. So if happen to eat it alone, you could have 4 sandwiches but really it is up to your appetite. They are very small and should be eaten with fingers only. If they have some sort of sticky filling, you might want to cut it into two with knife in order not to get your fingers dirty. But always pick it and eat with fingers. Hope this answers your questions :)
Great questions!
@@JamilaMusayeva can i bring my butler to squeeze the lemon for me?
@@subusure 😂😂😂
This video is the reason I subscribed and I'm actually going to be hosting my own high tea.
Marpat Marver I love doing it too 💜 enjoy!!
When you're going to a date , and your bestie gives you advices 😁💕
Today I gained complete knowledge and etiquette about afternoon tea.
Sonam Singh thank you🙏🏻
Me too.☺️
You deserve more views Jamila . Very well done !! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🥂
Thank you! :)
Well, with the society we've got these days..., who cares about etiquette? Quite a niche subject.
@@i.o.3563 do it for yourself my dear! Not for others, and that way people will start imitating you and thus behaving well
At my highschool we had a social event every year and we had to have months of classes about etiquette leading up to the events. In grade 9 we had a what I now know was a high tea, I wish I had this video then. I love this so much thank you
You are very welcome ☺️
"if you have green, oolong or white tea never add sugar, milk or lemon. and if you have an earl gray don0t add lemon to it."
ILL HAVE PLAIN TEA THANKS (so i never get it wrong)
but what other kind of teas are left then to take sugar milk and lemon
You can add lemon to all teas: green, oolong, black and white teas. Some people like Jamila don't add lemon to Earl Grey teas (a type of black tea with bergamot citrus) but a lot of people still do. I personally would never add milk to tea because especially with black tea it dulls the flavour. I'm half Russian and half British though so my mother (British) adds milk and my father (Russian) doesn't so perhaps this is somewhat cultural
@@subusure it's fairly common to add milk and sugar to earl grey tea as it has a stronger more intense flavour than say green tea or oolong tea :) (tbh i'm not sure about the lemon!)
I love this! Oh the memories. As a teenager I invited one of my best friends over for "tea" oh I did it up with tea, cookies and my mom let me use the semi good tea pot and cups. We had so much fun. LOL! Not as extravagant with all the rules but just had fun.
So soft talking style live dis❤❤❤
Salman Khan thank you!
I don’t know how I stumbled upon your channel, but you are fascinating! 😍 I’m so far away from being elegant, but I might as well subscribe and start making good habits.
Thank you!!.🙏🏻
Thank you so much for this video. I love your voice, it's very soothing to listen to and because I'm not native in english i also had an easy way of understanding everything. Thank you for making this video, so I will not embarress myself once I will have my first afternoon tea, but also I can adept in more day -to-day situation even here in Germany. Thank you very much!
pocket NOODL c: thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻 I am also not a native speaker so there are two of us 😊 You can also prepare your own afternoon tea at home 😉 Enjoy!
What Jamila is saying to us is very informative, and additionally, she has a lovely soothing and reassuring voice.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Dear Anna, this is amazing how you are presenting this common etiquettes to the mass people and save from unwanted embarrassment. Your elegancy is amazing. Love from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩
I simply love the way you explain things! So clearly, so efficiently... I always catch myself with a smile on my face while watching your videos. Pure joy...😊🥰
Thank you!
Thank you so much for this! I thought that etiquette was just something for fancy people but this was honestly so warm and welcoming. I'm looking forward to trying out these things, even if I am a broke student haha! x
You are very welcome, dear 😊
I looooove this!! It just popped up, and since I drink tea I began watching. I will subscribe!! Not only is it informative but so relaxing!!! Great job!!
Thank you very much 😊
WOW never knew there was so much involved to drinking tea, actually quite nice, thank you
An excellent video that provides some intriguing insights, as well as a deep understanding of afternoon tea, all while keeping to the point! I'm so grateful to have discovered your channel!
Thank you! 😌🙏🏻
Jamila, I've ended up on a youtube spree watching *all* of your videos (and I will be sourcing your book too)!
I'm a 1940's dancer and I always loved the way people carried themselves back then, with etiquette and respect for both people and the material items around them - which I feel the majority of people are so quick to disregard these days. Thank you so much for providing these videos, they really are both informative and interesting from a self-improvement point of view!
Ps, I hope this doesn't come across as condescending - but I *absolutely adore* the way you say "biscuit"!
i love everything about this! The lady, the culture, the tea. it's so refreshing!
Bella Ali thank you, Bella! 🤗😘
Her pronunciation of oolong is soooo cute! We actually pronounce it more like “woolong” in Chinese. But who am I kidding? Jamila is elegance herself! Such quality and knowledgeable content!
Thank you!
Yes, I admire her for learning so many languages, and there are bound to be differences in pronunciation. For example, where I am from, salmon has a silent "l" (sah-mun), and biscuit is (bis-kit).😊
Yes, her phonetic bis-cuits is so cute 🥰
Thank you very much for this elegant and informative video. You are very calming & elegant with impeccable manners that I haven't seen since childhood.
Nicolas Fairford and you are my go to for manners and practical elegance.
You bring it all back to us, the grubby masses in a way that makes us want to use a napkin and drink from a cup that isn't a coffee mug.. haha Thank you.
No puedo creer que encontré este maravilloso canal, lo estuve buscando por mucho tiempo. Yo soy una mujer apasionada por la etiqueta y el protocolo, aunque no cuento con dinero para estudiar esta increíble carrera, deseo educarme por este medio. Gracias Jamila... Kisses from Colombia.
Muchas gracias y mucho amor a Colombia ❤️ desde Azerbaijan 🇦🇿
I feel like your advice is very elegant but also very self explanatory. It’s all about being neat and considerate. 👍 thank you for these!
Welcome 😊
I think her voice is perfect for making an ASMR video
She is better at ASMR than all the actual professional ASMRtist, at least for me, I'm mainly watching for ASMR :-p
@@victorchen5663 Oof😂
I am always amazed at and proud of Azarbaijani elegance. Been to Baku twice and it was breathtaking like Ms. Musayeva.
Thank you
Hi I really like your videos, can you make videos for cream tea, soft tea, high tea, royal tea etiquette videos and how to set up sliverware, attire, food, etc. please thank you
Often with etiquette, you can judge who do really cares and who does not.
You did brilliant work Jamila Musayeva.
Thank you for sharing your expertise here.
Thank you for your kind feedback 🙏🏻
I'm writing a very short story for an assignment and I thought it would be nice to do a dialogue over afternoon tea. Your fantastic video really clarified a lot of things for me! Thank you. Subscribed. ^_^
Nova7o9 thank you, dear! I am happy to hear that 🤗
You're lucky
Your poise eloquence and the quality content of your videos are amazing. Surely you can attract crowds and transform all is us into duchesses . Thank you for your hard work
I learned a lot!
I am happy to hear that ☺️
Thank you very much for making this video. I always wanted to learn etiquette but don't have the money to pay for it and don't even know where to start as I live in the Caribbean. I think it would really help me out on dates and business dinners as well as I always believe that the future is uncertain and I never can tell where I may end up one day that having proper etiquette as a lady would come in handy. I look forward to learning more from your channel and your videos. Please keep up the good work!
Thanks, I really loved the video! I have some questions.
1- is it ok to drink tea while eating? Or should I finish the tea first?
2- do we eat the sandwich with fork and knife or with our fingers?
And thank you very much for uploading the video, it was very helpful. Wish you all make more videos ❤❤
Hi Vina. Yes, it is ok to drink while eating but make sure you chew and swallow your food and then drink. You should not have food and tea in your mouth simultaneously. The tea sandwiches are meant to be eaten with your fingers. Use your fingers to pick them up and bite one piece at a time. You can subscribe to my channel to stay tuned :)
Thank you Jamila for sharing such amazing tips to host a afternoon tea. Looking forward to apply them all in my life as well.
Glad to hear
Thank you, I've learned lots of new things, but I would like to pay attention to the rule that have been overlooked in this video- when Jamila took the scone, she chose not the one that was closer to her. May be it's not that important when you are alone, but when there are other people, one takes the piece that is closest and doesn't pick the one that he or she fancies better.
We learned the etiquette while still young, the elders say, practice makes perfect, and it would shape up our personality,look good and proper all the time. I watch this video as reference(see if still remember the old learnings). I love it. I am familiar with afternoon tea only, guess still have to learn about high tea and others. Thank you for sharing with us. More power!
Thank you for the video. Love it. The scone is pronounced Scon as in Gone, the queen pronounce it that way❤.
It's absolutely rewarding to stop, listen, meditate and learn from those who have expertise.
In Australia the cream tea is called a Devonshire tea. Scones, jam, cream & tea ☺️
Interesting to know 😊
It is because the Cream Tea originates from Devon, England. 😊In Devon we put the cream on first, and then the jam. In Cornwall (neighbouring county), it's jam first and then cream. It is the subject of many heated debates here in the UK!
@@MillyMayy I don't know anyone who puts the cream on first here. Maybe we should call it a Cornwall tea haha.
@aussiejubes Interesting and glad to learn from you! I never would have never even considered the option of not putting cream first. I will give it a go and see, I guess. Lol!
@@jen93106 I genuinely want to know how you find it when you do try it!
I’ve watched all of your videos in like 2 weeks, literally obsessed.
I LOVE your channel!!!
Thank you so much 😊
I need to watch it again and again to remember everything (while practicing😅)
Perfect!
Me too!
Thank you so much for doing this video on afternoon tea etiquette! Also thanks for pointing out difference between afternoon tea and high tea !
You are welcome ☺️
Ooo, I'm excited. This has got me wishing to host my own afternoon tea. 🥰
Love your pfp! I finished the first book yesterday, even though I have already read them all
Gosh, with Covid 19 you could host a tea for youself/family members. Make the scones etc. You can even make clotted cream, etc. Change from pyjamas, & convenience food. Friends get together on zoom & have afternoon tea....
@@thecook8964 I don't plan on having one until this is over. :/
watching her videos makes me wanna be so fancy! thank you so much for the lessons on etiquette, i’ll sure be using them whenever i can! 💕
Thank you ☺️
Where have you got the idea that you can't have lemon in Earl Grey tea? It is the done thing in England, and milk is frowned upon. I have had afternoon tea at the Savoy and they actually offered my husband lemon with his Earl Grey. I also can't imagine an occasion where you would walk about drinking tea (including Ascot!) I don't think anyone would want to risk spilling tea down their dress. You are quite right to break your scone in half but after that you absolutely do NOT break any more off, you spread cream, then jam on each half and pick them up and eat them. I've never really seen anyone use a knife and fork to cut a sandwich, you can hold it with your fingers and cut it with a knife.
Thank you for your beautiful videos, Jamila. Your grace and style are an inspiration for any woman.
Great video. Thank you, Jamila.
Gise Viza thank you Gise ❤️
I love your videos about etiquette, they are really precious, we can learn a lot from them. please keep making videos about etiquette. greetings from brazil❤️
Thank you! Will do!
Watching it, in case the Queen invites me to her afternoon tea party🤣
Liz doesn't have afternoon tea parties - she has garden parties for thousands of people in the gardens at Buckingham Palace and Holyrood Palace. The guests don't even get a seat.
I love this! Jamila you are truly an expert and excellent teacher. Thank you for sharing your valuable wisdom with us!! Not to mention you are a beauty!
Thank you very much ☺️
I feel like a rolling potato after watching this video, I have zero class 😂. Thank you for all the information!
Afternoon tea is such a lovely treat. It's a wonderful way to visit e.g. listed buildings and soak up the beauty around you.
Absolutely ☺️
Please answer: what if I have lipstick and it transfers to the cup do I have to wipe the cup after I'm done?
no. Just try to drink from your cup in the same place everytime you take a sip. Do not wipe the cup.
Thanks for explaining from where the tea tradition came... I often wondered how it all started!
Glad it was helpful!
im counting my inexistant mistakes in my imaginary afternoon tea
She explained every single detail in a very delicate way.
There is just something about an elegant, feminine woman.
It makes a man want to be a better person; it civilises us.
With growing Etiquette channel now in YT, you exactly are my cup of tea.
I have a question I’ve been pondering all my life: how can I deal with lipstick while eating? I feel so bad leaving stains on the gorgeous white napkins! 😅
there are brands of lipstick which do no transfer so easily. Also, gently dab rather than wipe when using the napkin. For touching up your lipstick you can carry a red "lipstick hankie" in your purse.
@@bl00dhoney Thank you! I should perhaps look into lip stains rather than lipsticks :-)
Jamila you made my life lot easier than used to be before watching your vlogs.. a big thank you!
What do I do if my scones are triangles? Should I still crack them in half?
shay lɪkes stuff yes, you would do the same thing. If you see a crack, hold it by the sides and open it. If no crack is seen, break with your hands one piece at a time and eat :)
Good question. I love to visit a local tea shop so I’m glad to learn the fine points of etiquette. I’ve always wondered, though, why they serve scones AND cakes because warm scones with butter and jam or clotted cream seem like a very sweet, rich dessert to me! I never want the cakes after sandwiches and scones! Hahaha!
I have just discovered your channel and now I am binge-watching all of it. It's really informative, really love how you explain everything and how elegant your voice is!
1:27. There's Royalty huh. I SEE YOU.
Though she would say, dont confuse royal tea with royalty. 😏
Jamila is the queen 👸 of etiquette ❤️
Thank you! ☺️🙏🏻
i can't believe i opened this video right when 2.59 p.m changed to 3.00 p.m 😆
Jamila, thank you for your lovely afternoon tea etiquette lesson. In New Hampshire in the United States of America we have a lovely tea parlor. I have taken my granddaughter, I began with my daughters and my lady friends.
I am glad to hear that ☺️
Biscuit is pronounced bis-kit not bis-koo-it
Salmon, the l is silent like in the word "half" or "walk"
Grammar police 🤦🏻♀️😁 you guys are under every video.
@@nomado3650 it's my profession lol cannot help myself
@@brandonle00 that's her choice. I didn't force anyone to do anything
This was the first video from you that I have ever watched! I'm so grateful to have found your channel!
Thank you! I am glad you did 😉
I've attended many afternoon teas privately and in restaurants in the UK and I assure anyone watching this afternoon tea is far from as ceremonial and fussy as this nice lady is portraying. So long as you eat with your mouth closed, follow basic table manners and are considerate of the people you are dining with - have your tea sandwiches and cake as you like it. And I have been to afternoon teas that served cupcakes! Restaurants will often provide you with replenishments of food as well - prepare to feel quite sick afterwards!
She's "portraying" high etiquette
not mass manngers ie "eat with
your mouth closed" for toddlers
Great going to try these techniques for my morning coffee.
Thank you very much 🥰🥰🥰
Uyên Dương thank you!
My dear, you were fantastic in this afternoon tea video ! I do wish I could have been there with you. Such a calm, peaceful moment, really relaxing. In London I used to enjoy afternoon teas at the Ritz and 2 other nice hotels. I went to a boarding schoon in the UK (when I was young) and later worked in London as an interpreter. My " tea afternoons " used to be the moments I wanted to
pamper myself. Unfortunately on the Continent it is not easy to find such places. Once I am given a tea bag, the atmosphere is gone. - Stay healthy, all the best.
Its like ASMR BUT BETTER
Thank you Faiz 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am young girl in her late teens but I am really interested in learning proper table etiquettes i am really thankful to you for making this type of content.❤❤
I’m loving your videos, Jamila! however, could you please say “going to” instead of “gonna?” thank you.
Why?
Just curious
A much appreciated introduction to the etiquette for afternoon tea. I had felt intimidated by what I perceived as challenging formality at an afternoon tea. So I never accepted invitations to attend one before. After watching your introduction, however, it seems that it is rather straightforward and consistent with dining etiquette. With much gratitude.
I am glad to hear it ☺️
This is a really good video. Will you be uploading more often?
Adeleye Carew thank you! I am rather new to youtube but I have posted two other videos on body language. Subscribe please and stay tuned for new posts :)
so that's like Russian tea. lovely.
It is an afternoon tea English style. In Russian tea, you would get other treats :)
Hello Jamila,
Firstly, I would like to appreciate the excellent choice of words. Secondly, please keep in mind to never use negative words when presenting. For instance, you could use mild tea instead of weak tea. There are different preferences of flavour for tea/coffee like mild, medium and strong.
Last but not the least, thank you for creating such lovely informative video's so that everyone can learn.
Thank you for your feedback. The black tea is differentiated as weak and strong. It is not a negative term in this case. It is related to the caffeine intensity in the tea.
As a Brit hoping you move state side with my partner who is American I hope to giver the the best of British 4 pm tea with scones cream jam finger sandwiches cakes 👍🇬🇧
Simon Willis it is a great idea! Afternoon Tea is always a good idea! 😉
I just love her etiquettes style it helps me alot ❤❤
Glad to know
Hi Jamila, I'm so glad I found your channel as I'm always striving to put out more elegant, calming feminine energy. I was wondering if might share where your blazer is from? I've been searching for a good one! Thank you!
Thank you for your kind words. This is from Sandro 😊
I’m so thankful I found this channel...it’s everything I’ve been looking for!👑
Thank you 🙏🏻