AFTERNOON TEA ETIQUETTE | The Correct Etiquette to Observe during Afternoon Tea

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  • @ohsostylish60
    @ohsostylish60 3 роки тому +138

    This is so helpful, thank you! I've realised how much I didn't know!

  • @wendywoo2180
    @wendywoo2180 Рік тому +30

    I’m visiting London during Coronation Week and will be having an Afternoon Tea at the Dorchester Hotel, one of my lifelong dreams has been not only to see London but to have an Afternoon Tea in a posh hotel, I’m so looking forward to it, loved this video!

  • @HerMuffiness
    @HerMuffiness Рік тому +15

    You are just lovely and this is so helpful, as I am staying in London at The Savoy this coming May 2023, and I plan on doing at least two teas - one afternoon tea and one high tea. Thank you so much for this helpful video. 😊

  • @countkody
    @countkody 3 роки тому +106

    Im a gent, but truly enjoyed this, presentation it is nice to see someone with the correct information on the web! Keep up the good work! your fan Count Kody

    • @WomanOfElegance
      @WomanOfElegance  3 роки тому +10

      Thank you so much!☺

    • @JeanClaudeCOCO
      @JeanClaudeCOCO 2 роки тому +16

      We may not comment often but we’re watching too because refinement is not a gender specific issue.
      Thank you.

    • @digemsmacks5690
      @digemsmacks5690 Рік тому +9

      Indeed, my lady absolutely loves when I make tea for her and it has kinda become 'a thing' So much so that here I am learning proper techniques and procedure.

    • @chiarac980
      @chiarac980 Рік тому

      non del tutto corrette

  • @aliasmarg8ta127
    @aliasmarg8ta127 11 місяців тому +2

    I've dreamed of having afternoon tea at an elegant place in London. Thank you for this video. It would help me feel at ease when I finally go.

  • @donnawilson559
    @donnawilson559 Рік тому +19

    Lovely video. Just a note though that when placing the knife and fork onto the plate, the cutting edge of the knife should be facing inwards, not outwards as shown. This is done for safety reasons (so the cutting edge is not facing the fingers of the person picking up the used plate) and as a historical tradition of not having a sharp "weapon" facing towards a guest.

  • @heathermetz6576
    @heathermetz6576 Рік тому +4

    Brilliant Video. Every lady (and gent) should take an etiquette class. These videos are very helpful, thank you.

  • @louismitchell9834
    @louismitchell9834 2 роки тому +9

    Dear Vivienne, I'm not a lady, but I certainly appreciate your wonderful and classy videos. I believe the we men could do with advice on etiquette and elegance too. Will you make videos for men in the future? Louis from Switzerland.

  • @steffan683
    @steffan683 2 роки тому +9

    Lol London is such a gem, just recently left there 6days ago. They have one of the best if not the best restaurants, best hotels, best tour/sightseeing great for vacation too. Definitely would recommend.👍

    • @jaluriaja6294
      @jaluriaja6294 2 роки тому +1

      You think so right? …. I haven’t been to London tho but my family and I plan on spending our next vacation there next year.

    • @steffan683
      @steffan683 2 роки тому +1

      @@jaluriaja6294 Mine wasn’t even a planned vacation, I made profits from an investment so I decided to take myself out, toured around London and dined at some of their top restaurants such as The Araki, and Dinner by Heston to name a few. I really enjoyed myself there, you should definitely try it too.

    • @saanvi848
      @saanvi848 2 роки тому +1

      @@jaluriaja6294 London is such an easy place to visit if you speak english, and it is not a lot of different from what people from Japan or the US might be used to. It is one of the most tourist friendly city in Europe

    • @saanvi848
      @saanvi848 2 роки тому

      @@steffan683 That’s great to hear glad you enjoyed you visit, you mentioned about an investments, pls could you tell me more about that?

    • @steffan683
      @steffan683 2 роки тому

      @@saanvi848 Oh yeah so I’ve been working with a broker for about a year now, she owns a trading platform where I copy her trades from and I’ve been making profits. I make 5% of my daily investments, that’s better than my salary lol

  • @marthabeckford5414
    @marthabeckford5414 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much for this video. I will be starting my tea party business for elegant princesses and queens soon in the Caribbean. Would love to get more videos. ❤

  • @user-cv4io3dg5t
    @user-cv4io3dg5t 3 роки тому +88

    Wow!!!! The amount of stuff I learned in these ten mins is unparalleled! Please keep up the momentum and do more etiquette videos just like this one so it’s easier for us struggling ladies to mimic in real life. Thank you so so so so much!

  • @NaaKomley
    @NaaKomley 3 роки тому +13

    I’m definitely taking notes and you look so beautiful as always. 😘

  • @go2yourself
    @go2yourself Рік тому +7

    Wonderful this is what we were taught as social graces growing up ❤😊

  • @Eldenaro
    @Eldenaro Рік тому +3

    Hi there. What a wonderfully educating video! Thank you so much! I hope you don't mind a very small critique with regards to stirring(6:10). I was taught that at no time(especially stirring)should there be any clinking, clanking, tapping or banging of the spoon against the tea cup! High Tea is not a noisy affair. Was this correct or was I misinformed? Regardless, thanks again for sharing knowledge!

  • @enfermagembenfermagemb2251
    @enfermagembenfermagemb2251 2 роки тому +22

    I'm about to turn 25 and decided to be more elegant. Better late than never.
    This video is amazing and helpful. Cheers from Angola

  • @cwp2614
    @cwp2614 Рік тому +1

    From USA and I enjoyed this very much. You have a lovely voice and an elegant way.👍🏽

  • @violetkit9477
    @violetkit9477 Рік тому +1

    In 8th grade i was lucky to attend a ladies etiquette class at school. This video very much reminds me of that. You're a very lovely and elegant lady! Thanks for sharing

  • @gerrimcnenny8079
    @gerrimcnenny8079 Рік тому +3

    Wonderful explanation! So helpful for those of us not accustomed to formal afternoon tea.

  • @elfinmajictime
    @elfinmajictime 2 роки тому +65

    The napkin should be picked up, unfolded and placed on the lap, but not above the table level. A large dinner napkin is folded in half, with the fold facing the body, while the luncheon napkin should be opened completely. Do not wipe your mouth with the napkin; instead, blot it.
    Your napkin should remain on your lap during the meal. If you need to leave the table temporarily, place your napkin in your chair and push your chair back under the table - this signals to the wait staff that you will be returning to the table. When you return to your seat, return the napkin to your lap. At the end of the meal, loosely place the napkin to the left of the plate. Do not refold it - this signals to the wait staff that you have finished your meal. And you NEVER plop the cream onto the scone, you put it on your plate!

    • @antonf9696
      @antonf9696 8 місяців тому +2

      Please Let me ask you a question. With modern etiquette, a napkin by the collar is not allowed. But this was allowed before. You don't know when and why this happened? How to place a napkin on your lap with the edge facing towards you or away from you?! Thank you in advance for your answer. Sorry for my bad English

    • @TheSouthIsHot
      @TheSouthIsHot 6 місяців тому +3

      I vehemently object to placing your napkin in your chair for ANY reason. That is unsanitary and disgusting. People SIT on chairs with their smelly rumps and crotches, and then we are to place our napkins there and then blot our mouths with it? That is a ridiculous rule that needs to STOP!

    • @antonf9696
      @antonf9696 6 місяців тому +1

      @@TheSouthIsHot You are absolutely right, 200%

    • @TheSouthIsHot
      @TheSouthIsHot 6 місяців тому +1

      @@antonf9696 Thank you. It's a very good example of how rules can often be completely arbitrary and senseless, especially rules of etiquette!

    • @lisaray9404
      @lisaray9404 5 місяців тому +1

      @@TheSouthIsHot I agree with you too. I can't see myself putting my napkin is a seat where people's bottoms have been sitting. I usually put my cutlery in the "pause" position, loosely fold my napkin and put it on the right side, then excuse myself. I also tell my dinner partner to please not let my plate be removed if the waitstaff stop by.

  • @verycherry4459
    @verycherry4459 Рік тому +3

    Thank you. I saw in someone else's elegance video the robocop way you showed not to do with the silverware. I have learned something. I also did not know about putting the napkin on my seat if I would like to keep my plate and I need to get up. That one I may have just forgotten. I liked knowing about the proper way to serve and consume the tea and the scones and desserts. I got a lot out of this and I appreciate all of your videos.

  • @g-bgcg
    @g-bgcg 4 місяці тому

    This was very informative and helpful. I really love the drapes in that incredible bluish green color. Stunning. You look lovely in your beautiful dress.

  • @mwihakimukuna3240
    @mwihakimukuna3240 Рік тому +1

    Am glad this video popped up on my phone at the right when am about to have a coffee date at a high end hotel..... Thanks alot Woman of elegance

  • @kamertonaudiophileplayer847
    @kamertonaudiophileplayer847 Рік тому +51

    Unfortunately a tea drinking etiquette is almost lost in US. People prefer coffee from a paper cup. Everything is simplified and people forgot how to enjoy a decent drink.Thank you for keeping the amazing tradition.

    • @krishniarumugam
      @krishniarumugam 8 місяців тому +3

      my pet peeve is tea drunk out of a steel mug/Stanley Cups and also out of large mugs in general.

    • @mobstercrow7515
      @mobstercrow7515 3 місяці тому +1

      @@krishniarumugam If you go to work or class then a reusable metal or plastic cup can be useful. Not all jobs and universities have places to make fresh tea, especially if you are in a hurry to get to each class, or if you have an active job or driving job. I don't understand the hype about the stanley cups though, it's just a very expensive metal cup that functions the same as other cups. There isn't anything special. I do use a metal cup that most likely came from walmart for my hot cocoa though, my grandmothers friend made it for me. My name means Crow in Norwegian so everyone calls me "Crow", she custom made the cup for me and it says "Crow" and has the bird all over the cup. I am the only one that uses it so when company comes over, I always use it. Sometimes if I have an appointment early in the morning I will quickly heat up some tomato soup and put it in the cup. I have POTS so I need to eat a lot of salt so my blood pressure doesn't drop too much, the soup early in the morning before running around a hospital is useful!

  • @puritykai4420
    @puritykai4420 2 роки тому +4

    A new subscriber,you are God's sent to us women.good job vivi

  • @gloriagates6976
    @gloriagates6976 8 місяців тому +3

    Thank you so much this has been a big help for my upcoming Afternoon Tea🎉

  • @mamama3687
    @mamama3687 11 місяців тому +1

    This was probably the best vid ive seen on the subject. Thanks for the info

  • @eviecostello1573
    @eviecostello1573 2 роки тому +2

    Goodness, this is wonderful, I will be on a cruise in December and will be having afternoon tea. You are so elegant. :)

  • @juliedesnick7401
    @juliedesnick7401 2 роки тому

    Such a beautiful image of the setting and the lovely woman! Thank you for the information.

  • @thomastraynor9299
    @thomastraynor9299 2 роки тому +13

    The Langham! I went there with my little graddaughter for her 9th birthday. The pianist played Happy Birthday to Lola and everyone clappped. A memorable day. Wonderful attentive staff.

  • @mrsic2019
    @mrsic2019 3 роки тому +29

    This video was so useful! I was given an invitation to an afternoon tea and i didn't know anything about afternoon tea etiquette. This video helped me a lot to understand what to know before going to the invitation. Thank you!

  • @beverlybenson9981
    @beverlybenson9981 Рік тому +6

    I just came across your channel. Thank you for your video. Very pleasant. My great-grandmother was from Devon. When she came to the States in 1906, she brought with her etiquette about tea time. She would always pour our tea for us. Wonderful memories. ❤

  • @sharonkaysnowton
    @sharonkaysnowton Рік тому +1

    Vivienne, I enjoyed watching your afternoon tea video.

  • @lordrobert12
    @lordrobert12 2 роки тому +2

    I wish Janes Earl Jones could join us for tea!! Thank you!! Nice video!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @mlowe7245
    @mlowe7245 Рік тому +1

    Great advice thank you. What if I'm am served bagged tea? Do I take the bag out of my cup prior to sipping?

  • @annrunacres3982
    @annrunacres3982 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much. It was a real pleasure to learn so much about afternoon tea etiquette. I have three friends which share regular afternoon teas with me, and I shall remember everything you taught us today. Additionally, it was wonderful to hear a well modulated voice, and see such ladylike mannerisms. So lacking these days unfortunately.

  • @carriehooper32
    @carriehooper32 Рік тому

    Thank you! I will be visiting England for the first time at the end of the summer and I am so looking forward to having a proper English afternoon tea.

  • @lisaray9404
    @lisaray9404 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for the video. Afternoon tea etiquette feels almost common sense and intuitive in the way it is done. Being polite and learning manners makes us more elegant and having refined behavior because we are sincerely showing respect towards others. Thank you again! 💖🌹

    • @lisaray9404
      @lisaray9404 5 місяців тому

      One question I forgot to ask, and that is how to eat the scone. I was always taught to break off a bite size piece of bread and butter the piece, then eat it. Would this be the same for scones? Thank you so much.

  • @annsmith185
    @annsmith185 2 роки тому

    Beautiful table! Just lovely🌺

  • @joycelaurence4923
    @joycelaurence4923 2 роки тому +2

    I love the video and I love the way you speak

  • @giftydavis1132
    @giftydavis1132 3 роки тому +27

    Proud of you Missy and indeed you are a natural born Lady of etiquette 👍🏿

  • @leahvisagieshanks4082
    @leahvisagieshanks4082 4 місяці тому

    Brilliant. Thank you for the help. Regards from South Africa

  • @scsophiecowan8634
    @scsophiecowan8634 3 роки тому +6

    Vivienne, you look gorgeous.

  • @africanTHEfire
    @africanTHEfire 3 роки тому +22

    Love the compendium of information !! Detailed and rigorous. Thank you for this so professional a video

  • @salescondoperry
    @salescondoperry Рік тому +2

    Etiquette classes always helped me when dining in public.

  • @boitumelokau
    @boitumelokau Місяць тому

    I enjoyed watching this and learning

  • @vickilindberg6336
    @vickilindberg6336 Рік тому +1

    So informative! Best ever. Thank you.

  • @blgallas
    @blgallas 8 місяців тому +1

    I’m actually going to a ladies tea next week. Thank you.

  • @CherishEachDay2023
    @CherishEachDay2023 Рік тому

    Thank you! Going to my first afternoon high tea at the Empress in Victoria BC this summer so this was very helpful. ❤

  • @Quartz_111
    @Quartz_111 Рік тому +6

    She's so wonderfully delightful

  • @natchasolutions8908
    @natchasolutions8908 2 роки тому +11

    Black Excellence is ALL I see. Bravo ma belle. I love Afternoon tea

  • @brownomega9563
    @brownomega9563 Рік тому +1

    Great message. Lifting of the cup depends on the height of the table.

  • @aafrakomaa7855
    @aafrakomaa7855 2 роки тому +1

    Wow! Thanks for the video

  • @Wisdomabovegold
    @Wisdomabovegold Рік тому

    Raising the standard is always appreciated.

  • @give_good_face
    @give_good_face 5 місяців тому

    You have an amazing and useful channel. Thank you!🫖

  • @elt.214
    @elt.214 Рік тому

    Wonderful video, thanks so very much.

  • @mrsk.4865
    @mrsk.4865 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for this video!

  • @fuzzyx2face
    @fuzzyx2face 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for this useful information ℹ️

  • @cynthiascanlon6391
    @cynthiascanlon6391 Рік тому

    Beautiful and elegant! Thank you!

  • @sockersoppa
    @sockersoppa 3 роки тому +18

    I absolutely love this video, would love to see more etiquette videos from you. I’d watch every single one of them!

  • @dalton6963
    @dalton6963 Рік тому

    Watching from Lautoka. . .neat video.informative indeed.thank u.

  • @AnotherTruth
    @AnotherTruth Рік тому

    This is the a pitta me of elegance and sophistication. Thank you so much for sharing this. I wanted to know how to carry myself through tee time in such an elegant manner. I am so happy to a found your channel. Hence, I have subscribed I hope you have a wonderful day and take exceptional care of yourself.

    • @ladywytch129
      @ladywytch129 Рік тому +1

      Just an assist and no insult meant, it's "epitome."😊

  • @tessobrien8364
    @tessobrien8364 2 місяці тому

    What a absolutely wonderful channel

  • @AB-qo2xq
    @AB-qo2xq Рік тому +1

    Lovely video

  • @Anns_etiquette_channel
    @Anns_etiquette_channel Рік тому +7

    Your videos are so classy and beautifully done.

  • @edwardenglishonline
    @edwardenglishonline 8 місяців тому +1

    Brilliant. Clear. Thanx!!

  • @marilynnjefferson8525
    @marilynnjefferson8525 Рік тому

    Lovely, useful video. Thank you.

  • @madubucheanukwe5108
    @madubucheanukwe5108 3 роки тому +11

    Nothing but splendidness! Thanks for helping ladies out on this delicate aspect...

  • @anatomyofself-lovevsgtrans4304
    @anatomyofself-lovevsgtrans4304 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for this tutorial… I’m attending my first Lady’s afternoon tea party

  • @reneecrotty6910
    @reneecrotty6910 2 роки тому +9

    One of my new favourite channels. Please keep teaching women how to be ladies. Love these videos 🇦🇺

  • @glw5166
    @glw5166 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you lovely lady!

  • @chavak3497
    @chavak3497 2 роки тому

    Lovely.... what is clotted cream. On another video it looked like whipped cream. Yours is very yellow, looking like butter. What could be substituted in the US? Also, what are those sugar lumps? Brown sugar?

  • @fairysoulz4903
    @fairysoulz4903 2 роки тому +6

    This is wonderful. My mom and I attend high tea for mothers day and will again in June. I am so greatful for all your tips!

    • @lucyw.7597
      @lucyw.7597 2 роки тому

      High tea is very different to afternoon tea. it is more of a hot meal.

  • @mrbutch308
    @mrbutch308 2 роки тому +4

    What a refined lady ... truly elegant! A couple of translations for Americans: "Crockery" - china, tea serving; "cutlery" - flatware, silverware, utensils.

  • @constancenunn
    @constancenunn 2 роки тому +1

    A beautiful video...love it!

  • @gabrielleschaffer887
    @gabrielleschaffer887 Рік тому

    what a great video, thank you

  • @KABrown-ub3hr
    @KABrown-ub3hr 3 роки тому +10

    I hope your channel blossoms. What excellent content. Thank you very much for your guidance. This is such a necessary mission.

  • @pradeepdebnath7771
    @pradeepdebnath7771 Рік тому

    Very educative. Thank you so much.

  • @mariadelosangeles2935
    @mariadelosangeles2935 3 роки тому +41

    Please do more etiquette videos. They are an enormous help.

  • @KennethFord-y7c
    @KennethFord-y7c 6 місяців тому

    And she is so beautiful and has a great accent!

  • @paulettelogan5475
    @paulettelogan5475 2 роки тому +1

    Wonderful!

  • @tambreykinley8408
    @tambreykinley8408 6 місяців тому

    Love this so much!

  • @annabodroghkozy1498
    @annabodroghkozy1498 Рік тому

    I just found your channel🙂
    Love it ❤

  • @manelgamaeathige5102
    @manelgamaeathige5102 2 роки тому

    Thank you. Important etiquette.

  • @natt3334
    @natt3334 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this educational video.

  • @worldwidebirthdaycelebrations
    @worldwidebirthdaycelebrations 7 місяців тому

    Wow! Thank you!

  • @younglady2789
    @younglady2789 2 роки тому +10

    Thanks for sharing proper etiquette for enjoying afternoon tea! I will practice at home to be well prepared for public gatherings!

  • @ulsterscot
    @ulsterscot 2 роки тому +2

    Classy and beautiful

  • @serena7418
    @serena7418 2 роки тому +2

    Your dress is gorgeous 😍 where is it from?

    • @WomanOfElegance
      @WomanOfElegance  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you. It's from Hobbs www.hobbs.com/us/season-of-the-dress.html

  • @kristelleknows9967
    @kristelleknows9967 3 роки тому +2

    Could you, if it's not too much to ask, recommend an excellent etiquette book? I intend to purchase one, however I'm not quite certain which one to get and read first. I would be absolutely delighted if you ever answered to my message.

    • @WomanOfElegance
      @WomanOfElegance  3 роки тому +2

      Hi Kristelle thank you for your message. The book I read was by Debretts called 'New Guide to Etiquette and Modern Manners'. Its absolutely brilliant- very comprehensive. Link: www.amazon.co.uk/Debretts-Guide-Etiquette-Modern-Manners/dp/074727715X
      xx

    • @kristelleknows9967
      @kristelleknows9967 3 роки тому +3

      @@WomanOfElegance Greetings, Ma'am Vivienne! Please accept my deepest gratitude for your time and attention. Your book recommendation will surely benefit me and many people. I would like to take this opportunity to express my admiration and appreciation for what you do, which I find both impressive and informative.
      Across all of your social media platforms, you have been consistent in producing content that is not just pleasing and fascinating but is likewise encouraging and empowering. I consider myself fortunate to have discovered you through your UA-cam channel-a gorgeous and decorous woman keen to share her extensive knowledge with the world.
      Without a doubt, you are an inspiration to many, and a significant influence on our journey to becoming an elegant lady.

  • @rebekahdavis5935
    @rebekahdavis5935 2 роки тому

    Do you put a lot of cream on the scone? In the US we usually just eat the whole scone with a latte. I'm curious what is standard amount of cream and jam?

  • @hadizabagudu
    @hadizabagudu 2 роки тому +3

    Please, when you cut the snack with a knife, do you eat it with your fingers? I didn't get that.

    • @lisatiptoes
      @lisatiptoes 7 місяців тому

      Afternoon Tea is supposed to be finger foods. One or two bites.

  • @davidandersen1053
    @davidandersen1053 Рік тому

    Thanks 4 this as I have my first official afternoon tea this weekend 🥪🍵🍰

  • @yvettedean92
    @yvettedean92 2 роки тому +1

    Lovely video 🎀

  • @kaykaythornton9017
    @kaykaythornton9017 Рік тому

    👏🙌🙌🙌Bravo for your video❣️❣️❣️

  • @lakeocean985
    @lakeocean985 Рік тому

    Great lessons!

  • @MarkmanOTW
    @MarkmanOTW 2 роки тому +2

    Very well presented. To see a lady who knows her table etiquette is always a pleasure to see, and dare I say a very attractive (and desirable) quality to see in a woman. It 'elevates' in so many ways. 👋😊

  • @RITAHFITZONE
    @RITAHFITZONE 2 роки тому

    Woow thank you so much Vivian

  • @successfulinspiresandempowers
    @successfulinspiresandempowers 7 місяців тому

    LOVED this video!!!

  • @WhoisMichelleCollie
    @WhoisMichelleCollie 2 роки тому

    Do you have a amazon page for your 3 tier stand?

  • @khaterehlunden5136
    @khaterehlunden5136 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much