Terrible parents, awkward brother talks, and other books I read by Asian authors ✌️ *EAT & READ*

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  • Опубліковано 28 лип 2024
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 907

  • @bbadperson594
    @bbadperson594 3 роки тому +2002

    "good asian food" because food cooked by you is bad asian food???

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +546

      yes.

    • @sharpeststraw
      @sharpeststraw 3 роки тому +23

      @@withcindy hehehe same

    • @phadenswandemil4345
      @phadenswandemil4345 3 роки тому +16

      @@sharpeststraw as a Chinese person with a preference for bland food... relatable.

  • @claireteaspeaks461
    @claireteaspeaks461 3 роки тому +3793

    the way Cindy summarizes the plots of these books makes them all sound rly interesting and then she gives them like 2 stars lmao

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +911

      its my talent

    • @mar8408
      @mar8408 3 роки тому +370

      she could be like "this book is litteral shit" and i would want to read it lol

    • @giovanalaurence
      @giovanalaurence 3 роки тому +56

      SERIOUSLY

    • @lilaboxx
      @lilaboxx 3 роки тому +182

      Sometimes the idea is great but it's poorly executed

    • @lesbiangoddess290
      @lesbiangoddess290 3 роки тому +6

      A talent truly.

  • @cfcriley3818
    @cfcriley3818 3 роки тому +989

    Kinda disappointed that Cindy didn't say "The Green Eyes could get her The Green Card", but I still stan.

  • @victorianmelodrama
    @victorianmelodrama 3 роки тому +1173

    "Tear-stained cookbook"- isn't that just Cindy making Hello Fresh?

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +238

      ok fair

    • @swhedha
      @swhedha 3 роки тому +51

      CRYINGGG

    • @sai-bi2rh
      @sai-bi2rh 3 роки тому +38

      @@swhedha that is why it is tear-stained

    • @qipidap
      @qipidap 3 роки тому +3

      LMAAAOOOOO

  • @sanguine3527
    @sanguine3527 3 роки тому +1364

    ACOTAR gave me the realization that no matter how how weird I perceive my wip to be, if fairy smut can be published than so can my writing

    • @simi6003
      @simi6003 3 роки тому +146

      this inspired me to keep writing chapter 2 of my wip omg

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +232

      same!!!

    • @ultravioletcatastrophe
      @ultravioletcatastrophe 3 роки тому +26

      I've been stuck in a creative hole for the past year and bad writing is the only thing that inspires me to push forward. Now if only I had time to write...

    • @jazwhoaskedforthis
      @jazwhoaskedforthis 3 роки тому +17

      That's the spirit! I also find that reassuring for my own writing. Now I just have to find the stamina to keep writing and organizing things. You can do it!

    • @ww.DuzaFizz
      @ww.DuzaFizz 3 роки тому +7

      @@ultravioletcatastrophe same 😭

  • @GorloftheMonth
    @GorloftheMonth 3 роки тому +1580

    POV: you are Cindy’s captive and you watch as Cindy get used to her new stolen house

    • @tp1861
      @tp1861 3 роки тому +139

      Honestly, I wouldn’t mind, I’d always be entertained at least

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +324

      Shhhh don't tattle

    • @paromitaroy5861
      @paromitaroy5861 3 роки тому +94

      girl what is your pfp LOL

    • @luuuuux_
      @luuuuux_ 3 роки тому +32

      LMAO YOUR PFP I-

    • @ww.DuzaFizz
      @ww.DuzaFizz 3 роки тому +13

      I just saw the profile pic- 💀

  • @audreyfoster231
    @audreyfoster231 3 роки тому +1482

    Something I realized is that no matter what, I associate ACOTAR with Cindy. I can't read any of the ACOTAR books without hearing Cindy's narration in my mind. So basically I can't take any of the scenes, especially the ones where Rhys shakes mountains, seriously.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +526

      my legacy

    • @xRaiofSunshine
      @xRaiofSunshine 3 роки тому +16

      @@withcindy 😂

    • @zabinabid57
      @zabinabid57 3 роки тому +100

      resonating so hard, because i used to LOVE the ACOTAR books and then watching cindy just lifted the veil and basically now i cant read quivering member without thinking of cindy

    • @audreyfoster231
      @audreyfoster231 3 роки тому +41

      I never got around to finishing ACOSF and as I am, I'm not even thinking about the plot, but instead the running jokes surrounding ACOTAR.

    • @dianka414
      @dianka414 3 роки тому +21

      Literally every scene I read now with Rhys, I have Cindy in my head saying “It’s your choice. B/c Rhysand invented feminism” 😂😂

  • @gracelandsfool
    @gracelandsfool 3 роки тому +670

    "reasons why some people should not have kids"
    ...sends the list to my parents

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +104

      oh no

    • @Marie45610
      @Marie45610 3 роки тому +20

      Send a copy of the list to everybody in my family.

    • @mirrorball_12
      @mirrorball_12 3 роки тому +15

      Yes please do the same with mine

  • @TheMetamorphoses2003
    @TheMetamorphoses2003 3 роки тому +463

    POV: You lose braincells as your blind date starts ranting about all the books she read.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +157

      bold of u to think i would ever date

    • @thatb1h855
      @thatb1h855 3 роки тому +4

      @Queen Elizabeth I of England and Ireland im sorry?

    • @kjarakravik4837
      @kjarakravik4837 3 роки тому +11

      @Queen Elizabeth I of England and Ireland You know, I saw Six the musical recently and I think your mom was my favorite character

    • @jazwhoaskedforthis
      @jazwhoaskedforthis 3 роки тому +5

      sign me up

  • @shiningyoonie
    @shiningyoonie 3 роки тому +625

    I love how Cindy always gives very clear and specific reasons why she doesn’t like a book instead of just saying things like “I didn’t relate with the characters”, “I didn’t care for the story” without explaining why. I’m not trying to dismiss anyone’s opinions and feelings but as a viewer, I can’t imagine how the book is like if the reviewers don’t specify why and how they did or didn’t love a book. Like give me details! I need some details to see if I should read a book or not.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +124

      Thank you, I'm glad it's helpful!

    • @sin3358
      @sin3358 2 роки тому +9

      Agreed!!! That's what I love of Cindy's videos when it comes to the books she talks about because I get a very clear view what the book is about. Ik that some stuff she doesn't like I wouldn't mind and some she likes I would absolutely hate so her mentioning those is amazing. I also like that she admits that sometimes she likes books purely cause they're fun even if the story is a cliche romance where the characters had to share a bed

  • @jy-mc5wm
    @jy-mc5wm 3 роки тому +834

    "this novel should be titled: reasons why some people should not have kids" ... so my parents' biography huh?

  • @littlemeowmeow8127
    @littlemeowmeow8127 3 роки тому +315

    therapy is expensive but hearing cindy talk about a book that should've been titled "reasons why some people should not have kids" is free and right here so

  • @teadrinker214
    @teadrinker214 3 роки тому +397

    cindy: ah yes i read evelyn hugo two years ago
    me: :o its been two years?????
    also cindy: i read the kiss quotient in last year's asian readathon!
    me: its been a fucking year time is an illusion life is a social construct

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +88

      time does not exist

    • @murdermcmurderface
      @murdermcmurderface 3 роки тому +9

      Time is a big ball of wibbly wobbly timey wimey stuff

  • @briemayo8412
    @briemayo8412 3 роки тому +367

    I'm so glad you read "Everything I Never Told You". The kids' perspectives were so heartbreaking, knowing that your parents don't love you and the guilt that everyone feels.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +167

      the way the youngest child was basically IGNORED

    • @thevilonesfr
      @thevilonesfr 3 роки тому +7

      How much did you rated it?

    • @briemayo8412
      @briemayo8412 3 роки тому +6

      @@thevilonesfr I rated it 3.5 ☆

  • @missclayman5180
    @missclayman5180 3 роки тому +392

    Perfect timing for update lmao - I was about to do something productive. It can wait.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +112

      We love procrastination

  • @xtangerinax
    @xtangerinax 3 роки тому +600

    there is a Brazilian book called: Conectadas, by Clara Alves, about a girl who pretends to be a man in an online game (we know how much a woman suffers in these online games) and ends up meeting another girl in this game and falling in love.. .is very cute and addictive and I would love for you to read it. I love your videos and find them sorely needed. you are inspiring to me in many ways ❤️🖤🇧🇷

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +112

      thank you!

    • @natanc1227
      @natanc1227 2 роки тому +5

      Petição pra cindy ler conectadas

    • @BBaaaaa
      @BBaaaaa 2 роки тому +4

      @@natanc1227 yess!! She should def read it

    • @oooofoooof4251
      @oooofoooof4251 2 роки тому +1

      is it in english?

  • @marianunes8746
    @marianunes8746 3 роки тому +106

    cindy: talking trash about a book i've never heard about.
    me: omg yes queen totally agreed with u you're so right speaking facts 🛐🤩✨

  • @miquesbookvlogs372
    @miquesbookvlogs372 3 роки тому +173

    The teardrops on her cook book gave war flashbacks to me trying not to stain my college text books with tears 😅😅

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +55

      that is ur own character arc

    • @lorrainly9201
      @lorrainly9201 3 роки тому +19

      LMFAO I shouldn't laugh at ur pain, but its to relatable so I'll hide my own tears and laugh at yours instead😭 sorry bout that

    • @miquesbookvlogs372
      @miquesbookvlogs372 3 роки тому +5

      @@lorrainly9201 it’s okay haha! I made it out alive in the end. 😂

    • @lorrainly9201
      @lorrainly9201 3 роки тому +7

      @@miquesbookvlogs372 Thank goodness, I'm happy for you! Im still working through it unfortunately😭 time will tell if I survive

    • @cfcriley3818
      @cfcriley3818 3 роки тому +6

      @@lorrainly9201 You will

  • @coffeecake1025
    @coffeecake1025 3 роки тому +82

    "so we can eat together" I don't know if you already know, I just wanted to say that something like this is really helpful for people like me with eating disorders.

  • @adeebahz9467
    @adeebahz9467 3 роки тому +239

    Everyday we get closer to stocks with Cindy.....

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +41

      perhaps one day....

    • @snakearekat2634
      @snakearekat2634 3 роки тому +6

      @@withcindy not you succumbing to the capitalist allure😔smh lol

  • @abbyphillips7654
    @abbyphillips7654 3 роки тому +234

    cindy eating gives me immense serotonin.

  • @charles6990
    @charles6990 3 роки тому +94

    I think I almost spit out my drink when you said that this mother specifically was able to tell it was tear stains in the cookbook. The mother should of tried to be an athlete because of them mental gymnastics she needed to assume it was tears. 😂

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +27

      HAHAHA i know right

    • @victorianmelodrama
      @victorianmelodrama 3 роки тому +14

      Plot twist: the book got wet from an episode of pasta straining gone wrong

  • @sima4162
    @sima4162 3 роки тому +78

    It's interesting when she said that her characters wouldn't have a favorite genre of music because they're too busy trying to survive because that in itself is a very strong character trait.
    I see questions like "What would your character be doing if they were in a party?" My character can't stand crowds why would she go to a party at all?

  • @sincereley_michael
    @sincereley_michael 3 роки тому +122

    You know sometimes my brother gets into this philosophical tangents when he's either drunk or pining about his boyfriend but just listening to this video shut him up when he heard about the bride test and now he's afraid of our mother being inspired by this story

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +60

      new form of punishment = making them watch my videos

    • @sincereley_michael
      @sincereley_michael 3 роки тому +12

      @@withcindy yeah! Now onwards Im going to play videos about bride test to shut everyone up

    • @snakearekat2634
      @snakearekat2634 3 роки тому +1

      If you don't mind me asking, what script is your name in? Thanks

    • @sincereley_michael
      @sincereley_michael 3 роки тому +2

      @@snakearekat2634 Pasa Thai. Thai language

    • @snakearekat2634
      @snakearekat2634 3 роки тому +1

      @@sincereley_michael oohI thought it loooked familiar. I've watched a few Thai movies and shows lol

  • @smithy3950
    @smithy3950 3 роки тому +193

    When Cindy finishes Shadow and Bone season 1 is when A Rule of Wolves will be released on Netflix.
    Thanks my for the likes!

  • @IriPanning
    @IriPanning 3 роки тому +60

    When I read ‘Everything I never told you’, I mostly sympathised the mom and my heart broke for her. How hard it was for her to make it to university and how gifted she was and how she never got to achieve her goals. It was a veeeeery painful read for me.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +15

      It sucks how much she was held back

  • @dddggff2223
    @dddggff2223 3 роки тому +143

    I was looking forward to cindy failing to chop up vegetables😚

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +37

      The bane of my existence

  • @katienay3657
    @katienay3657 3 роки тому +44

    I really liked Everything I Never Told You. I actually got something different out of it. I was thinking more about how we hide things from our kids and we think we are helping them by protecting them from what we’re afraid of or pushing our own dreams into them.
    I think it was much more common in the 70s-90s to hurry things instead of talk about them and I liked reading about how that impacts the family.

  • @francesca8413
    @francesca8413 3 роки тому +63

    I cannot think about the parents from "Everything I Never Told You" without being filled with rage.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +18

      the dad was the WOOOORSTTT

  • @irixi5745
    @irixi5745 3 роки тому +123

    I've been exhausted trying to maintain everything going on and trying to be there for my best friend who is struggling with mental health, but this update literally made my day. Thank you so much cindy!

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +42

      hang in there!! hoping things get better for you soon

  • @alise4377
    @alise4377 3 роки тому +79

    Two Cindy videos in one week? Heaven

  • @Angryoyster
    @Angryoyster 3 роки тому +65

    Cindy makes every book sound so interesting, then rips them to shreds right before my eyes. It’s an emotional roller coaster I sign up for (and enjoy 👀).
    9:01 ahahahaha insert I’m an accountant audio here

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +3

      its what im here for

  • @Ms_Ria
    @Ms_Ria 3 роки тому +109

    THIS IS EVERYTHING I FUCKING NEEDED! I already ate but I am so eating for you again while I watch this queen✨

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +21

      Yesss let's eat together

  • @literaryellie
    @literaryellie 3 роки тому +20

    I’d love to see the mail order bride thing more from the girl’s perspective psychologically. I think its a really interesting dynamic that on one hand this man might be treating you well but at the end of the day he literally bought you. And do you feel bad for acting like a “good” wife even if internally you’re (rightfully) at least somewhat resentful or disgusted by them.

  • @zahraaa.j2733
    @zahraaa.j2733 3 роки тому +18

    I really appreciate you putting out these books despite mental health holding you back.
    I know a stranger thousands of miles away may not be able to do much but I want you to know that you're loved and appreciated ❤

  • @bethmartin7583
    @bethmartin7583 3 роки тому +30

    my friend is an acotar stan & i’ve been trying to get her to watch your channel bc i think you might heal her

  • @ramshafarooq
    @ramshafarooq 3 роки тому +15

    18:25 this shit hit me SO HARD. I've always wanted to write novels but i have stopped myself midway through the process so many times because when i would see questionnaires like that or tips like "get to know your characters well" i'd be stumped because i just physically cannot force myself to think of them as human beings created by me, they're just characters, man. i think this whole idea of "you should know your characters like you know yourself" comes from books/universes like harry potter where their author can literally tell you each characters' zodiac sign, menstrual cycle, and digestion problems without even looking at their notes :/ it's just too much pressure on writers

  • @imagenietion
    @imagenietion 3 роки тому +43

    Surprised to find that I miss being held at knife point whole someone talks at me about books. It just ain't the same without that lil bit of fear 😔

  • @AA-wz8xr
    @AA-wz8xr 3 роки тому +28

    Honestly as a Muslim I appreciate the representation and how the book talked about islamaphobia

  • @Chicken-lv7or
    @Chicken-lv7or 3 роки тому +13

    Cindy just release the unedited ACOSF video. You know we’ll all watch it and some might even memorise every word from it. It’ll also save you a lot of time and work

  • @heythere8577
    @heythere8577 3 роки тому +46

    I love it when you show up exactly when I finished making dinner, I won’t feel lonely eating tonight :’)

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +9

      lets eat togetherrrr

  • @tamakikawaii
    @tamakikawaii 3 роки тому +29

    Eat and read, basically my two favorite things. Sending you a big hug, Cindy, I hope you are doing ok.

  • @teadrinker214
    @teadrinker214 3 роки тому +31

    like all of my childhood trauma, i completely forgot the plot of everything i never told you

  • @snailflowers
    @snailflowers 3 роки тому +7

    i think the tears on the cookbook were more so about generational trauma and how the traumatic experiences were passed down through the daughters' relationships with their mothers, from the grandmother to the mother to lydia

  • @audreysong9887
    @audreysong9887 3 роки тому +5

    I actually thoroughly enjoyed “Everything I Never Told You.” I thought it was really well written and I liked the story telling a lot. It was very in-your-face and direct with the messages, but it set the tone for the family’s dynamic and how everything just seemed forced onto the kids. Both the characters’ stories and deliveries were so direct, yet the parents and family didn’t truly know each other. Like with Lydia, no one knew how she was feeling or what she was doing that led up to her death. As obvious as everything may have been, it still went under their noses and I think that juxtaposition plays an impactful role in the relationship dynamics.
    I also liked how it started off with “Lydia’s dead” and then you find out the cause of death towards the end of the book. As you learn that Lydia’s death is ruled as a suicide, you also learn the truth behind her death and that the family and police actually got it wrong. This backwards story telling created a feeling of remorse and I thought it was very clever.
    Yes the parents (esp the dad) were very questionable, but I don’t see a way this book could be as successful with mentally stable parents. And it was kind of cool to read about a minority perspective in the 70’s facing identity problems and how that was projected onto family life.
    I guess it all just depends on what kind of style of writing you like, though. I’ve been wondering and waiting to see if you would review EINTY and I’m kind of sad it only got 3/5 stars 😭 but I do see your points and your opinions are valid.

  • @queene1036
    @queene1036 3 роки тому +26

    Omfg I read Everything I Never Told You in my senior year English class and was wondering if you would read it someday… that day has come and it’s given me everything and more. In short: people should just not have kids please and thanq

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +8

      thats the lesson of the book

  • @bookishbanter7926
    @bookishbanter7926 3 роки тому +37

    Also I really liked your new apartment! Those window seats are perfect for reading 😍

  • @gideon4611
    @gideon4611 3 роки тому +18

    cindy: *explains the plot of the book and makes it sound so exciting and interesting*
    me: oh i should probably pick this up
    cindy: so i rated it 2 stars
    me:...

  • @norwegian9178
    @norwegian9178 3 роки тому +13

    While discussing craft in the real world, you were saying something about characters having a fav song, this reminded me of the way many romance book authors have started adding whole playlists for their books. The books borrow the feelings from these songs to add to a scenario which tbh is very generic and perhaps follows the same western language as the book was talking about. For eg, even when the books have characters that aren't American, most songs would be English songs.

  • @mariapazgonzalezlesme
    @mariapazgonzalezlesme 3 роки тому +82

    "Eat & Read?"
    More like "Eat and DREAD."
    _ayeeeeeeeee_

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +31

      But that doesn't rhyme!

    • @princessoftheworld1107
      @princessoftheworld1107 3 роки тому +7

      Eat and Teeth? Eat and fleet? Eat and meat?

    • @batuhan_a_kocak
      @batuhan_a_kocak 3 роки тому +14

      @@withcindy Everything rhymes if your pronunciation is sufficiently incorrect.

  • @epicswandbooks6531
    @epicswandbooks6531 3 роки тому +9

    Cindy: "I don't recommend reading if you're a stay at home mom"
    Me, a stay at home mom: "Ooh, sounds good!"

  • @aden.e
    @aden.e 3 роки тому +47

    speaking of writing, how is your book coming along cindy?! we havnt had a write with cindy video in awhile. also hope you’re doing okay, appreciate you so much 😁

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +28

      That's going to be my next video actually!

    • @samkathryn4825
      @samkathryn4825 3 роки тому +2

      @@withcindy yay! Have you finished it? I’ve been editing my book for the whole past year and I’m writing the sequel and I love watching your writing blogs while working on them.
      Is your book YA or adult? What do you think separates the categories?

  • @dishadharmraj6986
    @dishadharmraj6986 3 роки тому +62

    Another thing I'm really tired of in book/ movies is how they're trying to escape from an Asian country and live the American dream, it definitely was the case say 10/20 years ago but that has changed a lot, does that mean people aren't there who want to move to a different country absolutely but doesn't that happened everywhere? I'm just tired of our counties being only portrayed as under developed and only having poor people or they show random shot to of our religious festivals show "culture".
    Sorry for the rant but I'm just tired of the same narrative being shown that was kind of valid for the late 90s

    • @jazwhoaskedforthis
      @jazwhoaskedforthis 3 роки тому +12

      Agreed. Frankly I know a lot of people who want to flee the US right now because they're worried about their rights and their survival. But yeah let's keep writing about the American dream, as if it's not a systemic obstacle course riddled with oppression and bigotry. They never seem to focus on WHAT people were fleeing or what those people THOUGHT America promised them, and whether it delivered or not.

    • @lesbiangoddess290
      @lesbiangoddess290 3 роки тому +3

      @@jazwhoaskedforthis PERIOD. The ignorance and the straight up ERASURE of the America the marnginalized people know which is bigotry and oppression. It's getting weird.

    • @lesbiangoddess290
      @lesbiangoddess290 3 роки тому +5

      America isn't that great. Its pretty awful actually. I'd describe it as a 3rd world country in a Gucci belt.

    • @hanamaryam7882
      @hanamaryam7882 3 роки тому +1

      @@lesbiangoddess290 I always refer to it as a very fancy dumpster fire.

  • @mcjordie
    @mcjordie 3 роки тому +6

    I've always struggled with those kind of "get to know your character" type things with my own writing, but never could put that into words why--but I definitely feel like you do with that!
    I got myself a copy of Craft in the Real World bc I heard a lot of good things about it, & after hearing you discuss it, I'm looking forward to reading it even more

  • @jina8960
    @jina8960 3 роки тому +28

    CANCEL THE PLANS we have a classic read with cindy video 😌

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +2

      our monthly activity

  • @samsaraatkis6098
    @samsaraatkis6098 3 роки тому +1

    Having your mom manage your romantic life is the asian representation I didn't think I would see in a rom com.

  • @tokkitokki_
    @tokkitokki_ 3 роки тому +18

    That “Home Fire” book was giving me anxiety lmao. Just less than a week ago I voted for the first time in my country (FOr ThE MoST imPOrTAnT VOtINgS iN hIStoRY) and the advertisements of different political groups throwing shade to each other (for three entire months because fucking campaigns) really had me wanting to break the TV or bang my head against a wall, so I’m sure that book would give me nightmares 😭
    Thank you but no thanks 🤩

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +3

      yeahhhh u really gotta be in the right headspace for it lol

    • @tokkitokki_
      @tokkitokki_ 3 роки тому

      @@danielasilva8765 Mexico 🤪🔫

  • @krisl6537
    @krisl6537 3 роки тому +21

    I kinda feel like Cindy should come up with her own character building quiz. First question should be, is your character a big tiddy liddy? I'd take that quiz laughing the entire time...edit: In all seriousness though, I like your idea of character building shown in the vid, and if you ever get around to the idea, I'd love to take your quiz as an aspiring author.

  • @sxwriter8569
    @sxwriter8569 3 роки тому +10

    I wanna know what SJM's workshops were like, because I felt like at the school we went to, there was this subtly insensitive to not be creative in our workshops, and if you were, you would feel like the outcast. That happened me to last year, and knowing she graduated from the same place years before, I hope she didn't go through the same thing.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +4

      i wasnt aware she had workshops!

  • @ShalomDove
    @ShalomDove 3 роки тому +2

    “I just wanna write my book, be done with it , and go.” I feel that in my soul. I’ve been in a few workshops and writing classes in my time, and I think that a lot of good can come out of them, but one downside is that you lose that sense of being your own first audience for your book. I tend to think way too much about how my writing might be received or interpreted; and I know for experience that too much of that nonsense in your head will keep you from writing at all eventually.

  • @rosettastarlight6239
    @rosettastarlight6239 3 роки тому +5

    Your new apartment looks great! I'm making breakfast and it's honestly really nice listening to you talk about books while eating so it feels like I'm doing it alone. You always make the book sound so interesting and then tear them apart. It really gives an idea of how while the concept is good, the execution could be better 😁

  • @Cmca016
    @Cmca016 3 роки тому +10

    CINDY I got a 10 min ad for making beef brisket and watched that whole thing for you 🥺

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +2

      OMG the sacrifices u have made...

  • @thatseverything3919
    @thatseverything3919 3 роки тому +4

    I love how she opened up this book should be title reason why some
    people shouldn't have kids while I'm in a Walmart near a kid crying perfect timing

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +5

      omg i was in a cafe yesterday and a family sat next to me with a lil kid and that lil kid had a...... smell that i could still smell thru my mask SIGH

    • @thatseverything3919
      @thatseverything3919 3 роки тому +1

      @@withcindy reasons why I don't like children I'm at the witches from that Disney movie

  • @hugsyousotights3231
    @hugsyousotights3231 3 роки тому +2

    i am like 80.6 % sure that Cindy was a debater in hs because i just noticed that she kinds of rates and reviews book the way a debater debates

  • @beans7448
    @beans7448 3 роки тому +1

    okokok so when you were talking about the bride test and talking about the main character not processing his emotions like everyone else because hes autistic (i am too) and thinking he doesnt have any, i struggle with the same thing and i thought it was just me and its really nice to know that theres a reason i shed a whole tear

  • @jasminebell148
    @jasminebell148 3 роки тому +8

    Omg Cindy content twice in a week. What did I do to deserve this???

  • @beckylooney
    @beckylooney 3 роки тому +20

    cindy with the snazzy couch

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +8

      will def film an apt tour :P

  • @thisistheaccountname
    @thisistheaccountname 3 роки тому +319

    I'm still for people needing licenses to procreate.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +103

      some ppl should just not have kids period

    • @hareema4442
      @hareema4442 3 роки тому +97

      The problem with this is that it sounds like a good idea at first glance, but it will end up being extremely classist and abliest

    • @annuclair2219
      @annuclair2219 3 роки тому +31

      I thought you were talking about the app 😭

    • @deedeedan8681
      @deedeedan8681 3 роки тому +33

      Remember kids, thats the exact basis for most arguments in favor of eugenics 😬

    • @sam3564
      @sam3564 3 роки тому +25

      In a perfect world, I would agree. Addicts, narcissists, and socio/psychopaths should straight up never have kids. Our world is too bigoted for that though, and it would just turn into people of color, gay people, and non-christian/catholics being forcibly sterilized (more than they already are in some cases).

  • @DanaDays
    @DanaDays 3 роки тому +7

    okay YESSS with Celeste Ng's books! I knew I liked Little Fires better but couldnt really put my finger on it. But what you said about the nuanced thing is EXACTLY it!!

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +1

      glad to see im not the only one!!

  • @ohword9541
    @ohword9541 3 роки тому +11

    Cindy eating and talking to me about books? Omg, it's what I always wanted 😩🙏

  • @Eukleides89
    @Eukleides89 3 роки тому +63

    I read Everything I Never Told You when I was like... 13 and I thought it was pretty good. Now, as an adult I realize that it's not as good as I remember, but I think part of the reason why everything seemed so blatant is because it was more geared towards a larger, predominantly white, audience who wouldn't get a lot of the internalized racism or projecting of missed opportunities due to parenthood without those themes being slapped in their face. To my memory, the synopsis makes it a lot more thrillery than it actually is to hook in those readers only for the plot to actually be about the issues I mentioned and how the consequences manifest in their daughter ultimately ending up in a lake.
    So anyways, I guess the point is that the book is decent and spends too much time catering to white people.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +18

      Oh that's a good point! I didn't even think about it that way

  • @cowlass6159
    @cowlass6159 3 роки тому +7

    I already love this. It feels like a friend talking to me while I do things. Currently drawing and eating. Its like having lunch with a friend while we do creative things.
    Very fun, love your videos! Makes me feel alot of comfort.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +2

      whatcha eating??

    • @cowlass6159
      @cowlass6159 3 роки тому +1

      @@withcindy Taco Bell. I was supposed to have 4 cheeserollups and one cinnamon twist along with two tacos but they gave me two cinnamon twists instead of my cheeserollups🥲

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +2

      omg i havent had taco bell in forever lol i always got the quesadillas

    • @cowlass6159
      @cowlass6159 3 роки тому

      @@withcindy oh thats awesome! I actually haven't had their quesidilla's before. Maybe I'll try em sometime!

  • @somethingaboutsomeone7641
    @somethingaboutsomeone7641 3 роки тому +1

    The part of the characters, talking about how sometimes they are the result of their situations, is actually what I've been basing my characters from. Some do have favorite foods and music, but those things are from his own culture, who he is and who he was.

  • @soulsynthesissubject
    @soulsynthesissubject 3 роки тому +4

    In every single video I've watched of your's, you sound genuinely excited to talk about books.

  • @samankhalid1279
    @samankhalid1279 3 роки тому +33

    Commenting on a Cindy video is hard because every single comment here is snarky AF and I just cant measure up😂

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +7

      ur presence alone is appreciated

  • @moylop
    @moylop 2 роки тому

    You made me view a lot of things that I think about when writing trough a different perspective and I really appreciate that, sometimes I feel like I struggle trying to get the deeper meaning done correctly and that gets in my way of actually writing which is something I enjoy

  • @jacobd1984
    @jacobd1984 3 роки тому +21

    I never finished Everything I never Told You, but I really should, because it was a pretty solid book up to where I left off. Especially for a debut.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +12

      she def improved with little fires everywhere tho!!

    • @fluorescentadolescent2189
      @fluorescentadolescent2189 3 роки тому +3

      I liked it a lot but all of cindy’s points were definitely true!

  • @bookishbanter7926
    @bookishbanter7926 3 роки тому +19

    Omg you're posting so much, thank you 😭❤️

  • @emmytong8784
    @emmytong8784 3 роки тому +13

    Last night at the telegraph club is a good ready by an Asian author!

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +2

      ive heard great things!!

  • @draacu
    @draacu 3 роки тому

    Had such a bad day and I've been feeling extremely drained lately. I just wanted to hear a favorite UA-camr that explains things well and saw this! Thank you for being a part of my mental escape.

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +1

      yay im glad i could help!!

  • @tp1861
    @tp1861 3 роки тому +55

    I see terrible parents in the title, n I know the video is going to be relatable 😩

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +13

      hahahaha sigh

    • @tp1861
      @tp1861 3 роки тому +5

      @@withcindy Oop-looks like there are so many other people in the comments with parental issues, it’s like group therapy 🤭

  • @hafsaaleem5688
    @hafsaaleem5688 3 роки тому +4

    19:00 okay this actually cleared up the way I felt about a book I recently read. I loved it and it was a full 5 stars for me but I felt a little detached from the characters after finishing it, especially since it was such a heavy story it was hard for me to imagine them outside the book or attribute any additional characteristics to them that aren’t written into the book. That’s soemthing that I’m not used to especially since fandoms of all sorts of media take those characters out of canon and sort of create their very own persona. I really liked the book and all the Characters did in it but I think they were SO defined by their settings and the plot points that it is hard to take them out of context and it had me feeling a little detached. I felt really fulfilled from the story since it wrapped it up so nicely that I didn’t even have to imagine their futures because the book already covered that as well. But I think it’s very okay for the characters to only exist and work in a certain context and that gives me a lot of comfort. If I ever wanted to experience those characters again, I could go and reread the book instead of having to search for a connection to the characters outside the book. Which is what I see so many fandoms do and why they are so attached to the media and why there is such a culture around it. I definitely don’t hate that culture and even participate in it. I love the creativity of so many people chipping in to a character, but I think there are still other ways to emotionally connect to a character instead of projecting(lol) on them which is something that I never thought about before.

  • @demonschnauzer1555
    @demonschnauzer1555 3 роки тому +7

    18:11 Exactly! That's why I can't stand AU fanfiction I'm like... this character is a flower shop owner now? They might as well be a completely different person.

  • @quartzyuploads
    @quartzyuploads 3 роки тому +1

    I am always so excited to watch these videos and get a broader reach in terms of what books to look out for. Cindy always reads such interesting books from a variety of people and it’s so inspiring and eye opening. That writing book sounded very interesting and as a budding writer myself I may end up picking it up. Wonderful video as always ❤️

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much!! I'm glad u enjoy them 🥺

  • @rayclawson1884
    @rayclawson1884 3 роки тому +2

    Two Cindy Videos in One Week!!! It must be my birthday (well it was a week ago). Great Reviews too!

  • @thanysthoughts
    @thanysthoughts 3 роки тому +3

    I still really liked The Bride Test because of how Khai was depicted as an autistic character, but I agree with your points about the immigration issues.
    Also, I am super hyped for Quan's book though. I hope it's amazing. He deserves it after doing all the work for Khai's and Esme's relationship

  • @xandrizzl
    @xandrizzl 3 роки тому +6

    Cindy, Thai food AND everything I never told you!??!? THE TASTE
    ALSO FELLOW THAI PEOPLE REPRESENT

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +1

      pad kee mao is my faveeeee

  • @moonlightjuju
    @moonlightjuju 3 роки тому +1

    i also think that the bride test could be so much better if it wasn't romance novel but it would focus about being an immigrant in different country. so much wasted potential. also amazing vid cindy! hope you're doing great!

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +1

      i think it could still be a romance novel while focusing on those things! if anything it could have strengthened the relationship to see the 2 of them overcoming the hurdles!

  • @AllDaGoodUsernamesWereTaken
    @AllDaGoodUsernamesWereTaken 3 роки тому

    Im definitely adding the books you reviewed in this to my asian readthon reading list! I've been reading Spin the Dawn and Im gonna read the Henna Wars next thanks to you and the useful info you left in one of the links in a previous vid!

  • @omayaha2686
    @omayaha2686 3 роки тому +4

    When you were talking about “The Bride Test”, it definitely reminded me of how I feel about the book called Libertie by Kaitlyn Greenidge. I genuinely was not connected to the main character (AKA Libertie) and there was just no character development at all. There were so many parts that didn’t really correlate to the main plot point. Maybe I just didn’t understand the book? But, the overall book Libertie was definitely not one of my favourites considering I didn’t “connect” to the character! It took me like 3 months to read because I was not motivated to read it at around the 100-150 page mark LOL

  • @jisuuu1882
    @jisuuu1882 3 роки тому +8

    i was about to sleep when a notification of your new video popped up. you know what? sleep can wait

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +3

      hope u get some rest!!

  • @alejandrahernandez709
    @alejandrahernandez709 3 роки тому

    I love Cindy’s videos. So much serotonin 🥲

  • @brianav.9300
    @brianav.9300 3 роки тому

    The analysis, your opinions, and realization with the book, Craft in the Real World, was really refreshing. Thank you for sharing.

  • @mounabelaid1326
    @mounabelaid1326 3 роки тому +3

    Congrats on your new appartment!! Love watching the evolution of your couches ✨✨

  • @stranger9774
    @stranger9774 3 роки тому +10

    is it normal for me to get excited seeing Cindy eat while talking about books?? -im hopeless-

  • @snehapradhan5591
    @snehapradhan5591 3 роки тому +1

    Just wanted to let you know that these videos make me so happy! ❤️❤️

  • @anromeow
    @anromeow 3 роки тому

    I love this format so much for when I'm by myself having a meal, because I can just put this on and not feel like I'm eating alone 🥺💓

  • @bananamilk3916
    @bananamilk3916 3 роки тому +4

    I dont really read that much books but hearing cindy talk about them makes me happy:>>

  • @Frogface91
    @Frogface91 3 роки тому +12

    As a first time mum to a young toddler, the description you gave sounded like an issue with the patriarchy rather than resentment towards her kids (I haven't read the book, so I don't know more details than you mentioned). As much as I love and cherish my kid, I'd be really resentful and grumpy if looking after him was all I did. He really fatigues and drains me, and sending him to childcare so I can work my stressful office job lets a part of me recharge, which means I do a better job of being happy and patient with him. Just my 2¢!

    • @withcindy
      @withcindy  3 роки тому +6

      I think it's a lil bit of both. Patriarchy and expectations of motherhood def play into it but the mother also projects so much of her unfulfilled dreams onto her oldest daughter while ignoring all the other kids. I don't think she resents her kids per se but she def projects and treats them poorly due to her own issues

    • @Frogface91
      @Frogface91 3 роки тому +2

      @@withcindy Thanks, I guessed there was something more, but part of your description really rang a bell with me so I wanted to add my perspective!

  • @noneness
    @noneness 3 роки тому

    I've only recently discovered your videos and am already in love. Can't wait to binge more of your videos ❤️