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Deen + Character + Compatible values + Attraction = Marry Put God first. Teamwork. In sha Allah we shall have ease in marriage. May Allah grant us good spouses and children who are the coolness of our eyes.
Don't get married quick ... Give the assessment period the right it deserves ... The few extra weeks you'll spend assessing the other person can make the difference in 10s of years to come.
I like how you think and I appreciate how you take care of yourself and how you look and dress. It’s very important point that is often left behind in many current influencers.
@@jahanghir528 ah ..here in My country the woman doesnt pay the man but She bring some precious sheets , towels ,blankets ...things for the house in few words. But the man pay for her dress for wedding and for honey Moon.
@@z.a.1237 The man is supposed to pay for all that. These are not real man. What kind of a man wants to sleep but expects the father in law or wife to bring the bed?
Issue is the way polygyny is practiced that results in the breakdown of marriage, not that polygyny itself is abhorrent. This is why it seems to be a huge red flag for the marriage when a man talks about polygyny; he is mostly just going about trying to make halal an affair. There is such a thing as sexual restraint and discipline in our Deen as well. If he isn't satisfied by one, it won't stop with one more. Issue is lust, and lack of spirituality. This should be taught to men as well. There is such a thing as overindulgence in what is Halal. Even in marriage, everything needs consideration, it shouldn't be only about fulfilling needs. Work toward the Higher Self.
The sahabah did practice polygyny and they were the best of people. Why didn't they constrain themselves? Were they Dunya focused and only following the desires?
@@tahirballikaya213 exactly, these type of females always start their argument with " yes its halal, BUT..." then start listing the same western feminist BS points, thereby completely negating the point it's halal...
Few notes on the sister’s comments: 1. You are judging all men because of the actions of few when you claim it’s the practice you disagree with. 2. You said marrying a second wife is the equivalent of having an affair. Affair is a relationship that is secretive and haram in nature (if defined the way it is used in the western world) and it results in haram and heartbreak. Polygamy is good for society and it is the exercise of halal options 3. You said if he isn’t satisfied by one, he won’t be satisfied with a second. In that case, we advise him to get married a third time, and then a fourth time. And we advise him to restrict to 4 at any given moment. 4. I wouldn’t agree with your assessment that all men exercising this option are full of lust and lack spirituality. Take our blessed Prophet (saw) and his ashab (ra) as an example. I don’t know about you, but I believe their polygamous practices did not reduce their value. 5. You urged men to not overindulge in the halal and to consider a higher purpose. Thank you for that advise. It is really beneficial. We ask in return that you, women, have a higher purpose and only worry about the situation of your home, not your co-wife’s home.
If a Person of marital age is still dependent upon the parents to provide nurture and feed you, you are not ready for marriage The selfless act of being responsible for another human is not easy.
It is not about being a complete burden on someone in exchange of just some physical intimacy, it is about working as a team and support the person to stand on his own as soon as possible. Allah(SWT) has promised the increase of sustenance for one who marries. Have at least some faith in unseen and not just what you see in front of you.
In that case poor people should not marry. That is not what Allah commanded. (24:32) Marry those of you that are single, (whether men or women), and those of your male and female slaves that are righteous. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. Allah is Immensely Resourceful, All-Knowing.
@@jamabashir4695 nah i Was speaking about childish married adult children who Fully rely on the parents to feed them and look afternoon them because they are immature selfish and refuse to allow the parents to retire
@@piqueny8872 Ok I understand. If the parents are working and want or need retire then it's their right, at some point it becomes the son's job to take care of them financially.
@@piqueny8872 If a father can provide for his son with out it been too taxing on him and the son has a plan of how to be self sufficient but haven't reached there yet like if he is still studying or he just started working then there is no issue with him marrying. It's better then delaying the marriage since marrying young (as soon as possible) is sunnah.
They didn't ban polygyny in Algeria, just made the conditions more restrictive (both first and the woman to be a second wife must know and be ok with it) along with other stuff such as proof of income of the man etc.
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We have gone so far away from the path that mere hijab and beard now have become the symbol of 'high religiosity', whereas in the past it was just a standard thing regardless level of religiosity. Shame. Shame.
@Ma Khi a hadith of the prophet peace and blessings be upon him. He said leave the beard and shorten the moustache. It's an order. One of these reports is the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar who said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Be different from the mushrikeen: let your beards grow and trim your moustaches.” According to another report: “Trim your moustaches and let your beards grow.”
@@The_Chairperson I don't think you're her wali brother to put me in contact with the sister haha but barakallahufik for the gesture may Allah make the process of finding righteous women and getting married to them easy. Ameen.
And then pushed by big matrimonial websites, and now almost religiously followed by nearly all Muslim matrimonial websites too. This needs to change...
How are u going to find a spouse if you guys aren't in agreement with things that come after deen and good character??? This is not just "some statistical finding"
@@The_Chairperson yeah no. Between having intimacy and praying/fasting, what are you and yohr wife going to do and talk about if you 2 aren't compatible? You just gonna avoid eye contact and read the paper?? 😂
But what if the husband is the one who is incompatible to the wife? Is divorce allowed because he dont satisfy her as woman? I know usually its the woman who doesnt want but there exists the opposite case.
After 12:30 you said "Men are always lower in numbers than women.", which I don't believe to be correct. "Always" is quite a bold statement. Do you have evidence, brother?
Jubair(R) & Asma(R), Zaid(R) & Zainab(R) were exceptional cases. Exceptions cannot be taken as standard examples. There had NOT been many/ overwhelming number of those examples. Back then, it was very easy to get married and also to be separated. People’s lives and situations change due to many reasons; they have to go their own ways. Please st-op confining everything under this term ‘compatibility’.
*Prophet(S) and his all wives(R) were well compatible, if you mean it that way.* Please take this as the example. Please do not take those exceptions as example.
But compatibility is very important. It's not like if another guy is the same like me in terms of Deen and character, were going to share the same future goals and have the same interests and have the same ideas about working and raising children. These things define compatibility.
Many people don't understand that every place marriage is different each locality, so in america marriage is more like white picket fence everybody works and they meet at the middle of the bridge not particularly on the islamic view. So many in the chat mention how can he pay light bill, water bill, and they dont understand that in this capitalist system Riba is tied to alot , so someone can move to a cheaper place in america, we are now in society that is emerged in the accumulation of things things, and they have an idealist view of how america displays it on tv . So i am married for 31 years and realised that you have to identify what makes your wives happy, and what makes her smile. and then do that as much as possible . THE pressure that the society puts on the women today to know relate to her marriage to what does a successful marriage is a misconception and isnt actually true. yes there is romance, love and comfort etc.. but, not all the time in the western way. america has some benefit of it but, not all of them.
Pls do video how to help guys to get mature for marry cuase a lot of them have no interest to get marry. Special for the point that sister Selam raised.
I think it's mostly due to parents competing in having expensive weddings. So it scares young men because of the high expectations. And second point parents make it easy for the sons. They can play playstation and hang around with their boys until 25 and even later. They don't take responsibility and stay a child until they finally get married
@@tahirballikaya213 this is so true ....and when they get married they carry all their childish behaviour into the marriage...forgetting they should be the leader.
I've been talking to a sister. We are very compatible. Her Deen and Character is great. Her goals fit perfectly with mine. She is a Hafidha wears Hijab, prays, fasts, and is submissive. The main problem is my own shortcoming. I dont find her as attractive as I would like. Im teying to talk myself into finding her attractive. Maybe its her slight additional weight or maybe a few dark circles. Is this just the whispers of Shaytan? Should I overlook them? Will I find her attractive later?
the problems you stated can easily be fixed with introducing sports and good diet/sleep into her life, if you can get her to agree to change her habits than i honesty don't see why not if the compatibility is as good as you're saying.
@@editor44576 Make up is not a solution. Should she wearing it all day long, so that her husband thinks she is pretty? I mean, will she be going to bed with make up or wake up with make up? Defently no, that would be a burden. Wearing Make up just that the husband find her attraktiv can be a big burden, an what if she dont want it because she likes it naturally? How will he know it without asking, or should he tell her that she need to youse make up later because he has Problems with her face? He has to find her attraktiv the way she is now, and make up should just be an opprtunity to make her more pretty.
What if you know you do not want children? Is this permissible if discussed? Also I do know many women who suffer from terrible intimacy with their spouse but do not leave the marriage. May Allah reward them.
If she wants to block one of your God-given rights in the nikkah contract then she is already not right for you brother. What rights will she deny you after the nikkah?
Why should you not ask men about their past.? What if they had girl friends for years before getting married to a muslima who cannot accept his previous haram relationships. She will be miserable all her life once she finds out herself. If men want to marry a virgin so do women want to marry a pious guy.
You can make clear that you want to marry a virgin, no problem with that. If the man isn't one he will find an excuse and not proceed. In general as a Muslim we shouldn't uncover past sins that Allah has covered for us. So don't ask about details. Don't forget when a Muslim sincerely repents it is as he has never done the sin.
A Man should work hard for the children, .. they're innocent. The wife, Deen, obedience and respect. Why would you not ask about the past? If shes unchaste,..then you're eating out of another man's trash can on ur wedding night..have some balls Gabriel...its not wrong to require a chaste bride,..its like a Man required to have a high paying job. Its easier for the sister,..she just does nothing :)
@@theterminator6121 They can hate me but it doesn't change 2 facts 1. Islam indicates a chaste first wife 2. Only a Man that has no dignity or would eat out of another Man's trash would marry an unchaste woman - All MEN feel this way, except for Gabriel who's wife has his balls in a jar, and her hand up his butt like a meat puppet doing her bidding, he's the typical Western Husband..a Woman.
@@theterminator6121 Gabriel is a disgrace to Muslim Men, In Afghanistan, we had real Muslims, I was in the US Army 82nd Airborne Division fighting against the Talis', in Zabul province, he'd be wearing a dress and helping the woman organize the cooking, only Men were allowed to fight :) we need better male representation of Islam in the West. These are Sister-Husbands to their wives out to do their bidding to modify Islam into an abomination of Western ideals.
@@sweettea1193 Do you feel superior to village girls? A man *takes* from, wherever *he* *likes,* does not discriminate between city/village. Village girls- their *femininity is intact.* More *sensually* *reactive.* They are *fit,* *hardworking,* *healthier.* *Good mothers.* City ones- you have to detoxify them first, to make them ready. If it is an, *extraordinary* good one, then only deserving of your time.
I noticed that women who can't accept polygamy, it's not about the man marrying ... It's about what here social circle would say about her once she becomes number 2 ... She fears people talking about her.
@@The_Chairperson where in the deen does it say that I will be rewarded more in the hear after if I participate in polygamy over monogamy? Whereas for a lot of women it can take a mental and emotional toll that can impact their deen.
@@sarahosman9030 Mental and emotional situations take some away form deen, make some rather get closer to Allah(SWT) even more, depends what the material is made of. Some look at opportunities as problems, and some convert problems into opportunities. In terms of the reference you are asking for, please keep on studying and your will find the references in due course, at the moment you are not ready for pinpointed references.
Very solid advise for all before marriage: ask 3 questions to your future wife: 1. will you follow me wherever I go? Will you work the farm with me with your hands in all seasons? Will you do as I ask you in normal life? Yes is the only answer. Three things to ask: if she's wearing make-up: will you stop wearing make-up because I like pure nature (a woman wearing make-up wears a mask). If she wears jewelry: will you please do all this iron-store away, I like pure nature (otherwise she will throw away precious sadaqa money for worthless jewelry); if she's got a smartphone: will you please do that away and get a cheap 20 euro phone. Should be yes to all three. Questions for the woman to the man: same about phone! If he wears clothes with brand names: will you stop wearing these and only wear non-brand clothes? If he puts gel in his hair and spends time looking at himself in mirror: will you act as a man please? Fake nails is a no. A woman with long nails is lazy and isn't used to working, ask her to keep her nails short! A woman should have hands used to work, when she's older they should be harsher than soft. Beware of lazy women. Beware of men with a 2m tongue on Islam and who don't wake up EVERY day for their fajr. If a man is getting used to oversleeping in the morning, just get rid oh him and find someone better and vice-versa!
ASma wa Zubair weren't compatible, Zainab and Zaid weren't compatible. ignorant nisa ask is polygyny about sex, reply is normal marriage the same then? PRophet peace and blessings on him said guard your chastity... 10 :00 - ALi wasn't allowed to marry daughter of Abu Jahl... but there was commentary on Abu Jahl... alot of sisters are for or against polygyny, dont' have world view. sadly some sisters say they against polygyny and want to stay single but then watch pxrn. discuss if sister will work or not, does she want to work... RP statement - women marry hope men will change, men want women to stay same. mahr issue. 20 :00 - how and where you live, lifestyle. even in fiqh wife can pay zakat to husband but nto vice versa... sadly women are arrogant if they get a degree... hypergamy. is feminism pouring into ummah, yup. 30 :00 - 33 - question on women watching porn... and types they watch... size maybe psychological... first wives shouldnt pressure brothers to hrt 2nd wives. 40 :00 - you can aska woman about her past possible... and keep it confidence... question on living the witht he in laws, discuss before marraige... its right of woman to get own place, she can get ajr or not of taking care of parents. in Muslim countries, they fo medical tests before marriage. 50 :00 - alot of ppl have rxpe fantasies. if a widow has been intimate, does she leave pxrno? why do some spouses not live together and then live it up away... interrace marriage is allowed in Islam. many parents don't let there kids go up. 1 :00 :00 - polygyny can be about children adn sex, whats wrong with sex oh ignorant ones? its ibada in marriage, should we neglect your feelings also then... ew in malaysia you need court persmission for 2nd wife, and algeria its forbidden, awuthubillah! some women say dont get 2nd wife but she isn't feminine, and men may leave them. sadly massage hxxkers... ignorant Arab nisa say go and mess around with girls but no nikkah, just for that he should do nikkah... 1 :10 :00 - before you can go to Calipha on lack of practice, talks about hanafi fiqh has more ijtihad and different thenhen the other 3. brother Gabriel knows Muhammad Salah, Zakir Naik, Assim al Hakim, Salim al Amry... says support each other. Makes du'a for us!
I wouldn't mind my future hubby having a second wife, and he'll be more than welcome to pay 2 rents on already expensive 2 2 bedroom apartments, 2 sets of water and electric bills, 2 internet bills, 2 sets of property tax, ect, ect. He'll have to work super hard doing overtime at work if he's the average man doing 9 to 5
Assalaam alaykum how are you doing brother. You are amazing brothet masha allah may allah swt protect you from evil eye and bless you. Iam fan of you i listen a lot. Q and a how you answered i agree with 100. Brother to tell you the truth. When it cames women and men. You are not fair. You favorite men i wanna know why jazalhulah khair
Sister, not sure what country you live in but western women are really strong, and more than their men. He is not siding with men but talking about the issues in society. Let’s say hijabis are too soft towards Qaume Lut and other fahisha. They afraid and scared of peoples retaliation or being cancelled. Most of the men are not afraid of any of that. So, it might seem like that he is going against you but know this that no men hates you. We love and respect our pious kind & honest sisters.
@@unknownfem9450 When you are ready to go all the way to get the answer, you will get it, 'wishy-washy' enquiry will get you only wishy-washy answers, neither beneficial for carrots nor for sticks.
*8* . A sanctified institution of marriage; which is the indissoluble union of a man and a woman; in which husband and wife become one flesh, are equal, and are both commanded to love, honor and respect one another. Is that in Islam? Nooo! What are you talking about? In Christianity, of course! Accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. In Christianity you will find love, truth, beauty and eternal life.
Allah is the one and only Lord of the universe, everything in it and everything we don't know. Jesua peace be upon him is one of his great prophets. The only way to the truth is through Islam by guidance of Allah. Read the Quran and prophet Mohammad peace be upon him's teachings.
It Is not about religion. It Is about people. Dont look at these people in comment section as good exemple of muslims. I am muslima and i am really shocked to see how much misoginy and arrogance are in the words of these Brothers. But It Is not about religion. If you read the comments in the videos of " Red pill ( wich i dont understand what does It mean or what is ) men you Will see so much misoginy you cant even Imagine.
@@z.a.1237 Leave Islam and become a Roman Catholic Christian. In Christianity you will find truth, love, beauty and eternal life. All praise be to God.
@@z.a.1237 The 10 Best Things of Islam: *10* . The certainty that God loves you. *9* . Clear moral guidance and rules that exalt the best of our human nature, as we are made in the image of God, such as - do not kill, - do not steal, - do not lie, - do not commit adultery, - do not covet your neighbor's wife or possessions, and - forgive those who wrong you. *8* . A sanctified institution of marriage; which is the indissoluble union of a man and a woman; in which husband and wife become one flesh, are equal, and are both commanded to love, honor and respect one another. *7* .The promise of eternal life in loving union with God. *6* . A command from God to love your fellow human beings -- i.e. to want them good -- and to live in peace and harmony with them all, irrespective of their sexual orientation, faith, race, gender... *5* . A command from God to even love your enemies, i.e. to want them good! *4* . The certainty that God loves every human being as a father loves his children, irrespective of their faith, sexual orientation, gender, race... *3* . A command from God for you not to judge others or punish them, but to forgive them; because if anybody deserved punisment, God will punish them, not you. *2* . Beautiful and rich religious rituals which are celebrations of life, are meant to glorify and give thanks to a loving God, and are thus full of joy and are often accompanied with marvellous chants and wonderful music. *1* . A role model Who you can follow with your eyes closed, because He was pure and committed no sin; so in following Him you can make no error. Well, to be precise: these would be the ten best things of Islam if they were actually things of Islam, but they are not. Not at all. None of them is a thing of Islam. But they are all things of Christianity. These are some of the good things of Christianity. Accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. In Jesus you will find truth, love, beauty and eternal life.
@@thinkingperson2122 actually I was a practicing Roman catholic ( with practicing I dont talk Only about joining the Church but I mean I was a real christian ,following all the commandments in the Table of Moses and living My Life like the Gospel teaches ) and I even was a spiritual guide already from the teenage and teaching the Bible to children. But studying more I realized I was not in the full Truth and I started to search for It until I found Islam Is ThE Truth. And actually in Islam we follow the previous revelations so included the ten commandments etc. The difference is we dont believe in Trinity but in One Only GOD and we dont think Jesus a.s died for the Sins of humanity ( wich remind the pagan sacrifices ) and of course we dont Pray to human beings even they are very good exemples for humanity ( like Miriam r.a. and the so called saints ) ,but honestly i was not praying them even when i was christian. I have Always felt in myself this was wrong and strange ..The Heart was Always monoteistic :). We shoukd not judge a religion from his people ,look at the christian ,99.9 percent of them do Nothing of what christianity teaches.
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What if the husband is infertile and can't have children? The wife could divorce the husband then so she could have children with another man
Look for *Deen and Character,* get married quick, work as a team, everything will be taken care of *in’sha’Allah.*
Deen + Character + Compatible values + Attraction = Marry
Put God first. Teamwork. In sha Allah we shall have ease in marriage. May Allah grant us good spouses and children who are the coolness of our eyes.
Don't get married quick ... Give the assessment period the right it deserves ... The few extra weeks you'll spend assessing the other person can make the difference in 10s of years to come.
I like how you think and I appreciate how you take care of yourself and how you look and dress. It’s very important point that is often left behind in many current influencers.
Clothing and appearance is very important when trying to convince people to view you a certain way.
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1) Discuss polygamy.
2) Discuss job and work priorities of eachother and see if you are okay with it.
3) Discuss mehr and dowry.
It's very important men from the brides side are involved, so that they are not pressured into anything
What Is dowry ?
@@z.a.1237 it is what Hindus use when getting married. the woman has to pay the man.
@@jahanghir528 ah ..here in My country the woman doesnt pay the man but She bring some precious sheets , towels ,blankets ...things for the house in few words. But the man pay for her dress for wedding and for honey Moon.
@@z.a.1237 The man is supposed to pay for all that. These are not real man. What kind of a man wants to sleep but expects the father in law or wife to bring the bed?
Issue is the way polygyny is practiced that results in the breakdown of marriage, not that polygyny itself is abhorrent. This is why it seems to be a huge red flag for the marriage when a man talks about polygyny; he is mostly just going about trying to make halal an affair. There is such a thing as sexual restraint and discipline in our Deen as well. If he isn't satisfied by one, it won't stop with one more. Issue is lust, and lack of spirituality. This should be taught to men as well. There is such a thing as overindulgence in what is Halal. Even in marriage, everything needs consideration, it shouldn't be only about fulfilling needs. Work toward the Higher Self.
The sahabah did practice polygyny and they were the best of people. Why didn't they constrain themselves? Were they Dunya focused and only following the desires?
@@tahirballikaya213 exactly, these type of females always start their argument with " yes its halal, BUT..." then start listing the same western feminist BS points, thereby completely negating the point it's halal...
Few notes on the sister’s comments:
1. You are judging all men because of the actions of few when you claim it’s the practice you disagree with.
2. You said marrying a second wife is the equivalent of having an affair. Affair is a relationship that is secretive and haram in nature (if defined the way it is used in the western world) and it results in haram and heartbreak. Polygamy is good for society and it is the exercise of halal options
3. You said if he isn’t satisfied by one, he won’t be satisfied with a second. In that case, we advise him to get married a third time, and then a fourth time. And we advise him to restrict to 4 at any given moment.
4. I wouldn’t agree with your assessment that all men exercising this option are full of lust and lack spirituality. Take our blessed Prophet (saw) and his ashab (ra) as an example. I don’t know about you, but I believe their polygamous practices did not reduce their value.
5. You urged men to not overindulge in the halal and to consider a higher purpose. Thank you for that advise. It is really beneficial. We ask in return that you, women, have a higher purpose and only worry about the situation of your home, not your co-wife’s home.
@@idisagree8902 dude I don't usually comment but that last point killed me 💀✊ subhanallah!
This video deserves a gold medal
May Allah reward you with goodness in this world and hereafter.
Masha'Allah, appreciate your hard work
If a Person of marital age is still dependent upon the parents to provide nurture and feed you, you are not ready for marriage
The selfless act of being responsible for another human is not easy.
It is not about being a complete burden on someone in exchange of just some physical intimacy, it is about working as a team and support the person to stand on his own as soon as possible. Allah(SWT) has promised the increase of sustenance for one who marries. Have at least some faith in unseen and not just what you see in front of you.
In that case poor people should not marry. That is not what Allah commanded.
(24:32) Marry those of you that are single, (whether men or women), and those of your male and female slaves that are righteous. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. Allah is Immensely Resourceful, All-Knowing.
@@jamabashir4695 nah i Was speaking about childish married adult children who Fully rely on the parents to feed them and look afternoon them because they are immature selfish and refuse to allow the parents to retire
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Ok I understand.
If the parents are working and want or need retire then it's their right, at some point it becomes the son's job to take care of them financially.
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If a father can provide for his son with out it been too taxing on him and the son has a plan of how to be self sufficient but haven't reached there yet like if he is still studying or he just started working then there is no issue with him marrying. It's better then delaying the marriage since marrying young (as soon as possible) is sunnah.
Make a list of the qualities you want in a spouse. Work to make sure you have those qualities. Then go looking for the person
Baraka Allahu feek brother. very important issue that need to be addressed. Good job 👍
They didn't ban polygyny in Algeria, just made the conditions more restrictive (both first and the woman to be a second wife must know and be ok with it) along with other stuff such as proof of income of the man etc.
so they innovated?
At least it is still legal
The mahr should be something simple according to the Sunnah
Jazaka-Allah khairan Sheikh Gabriel.
Jazakallahu khairan . You talk very fairly for both genders.
JazakAllah khair, brother!
For any high earning man, a prenup should be a dealbreaker.
What you mean? The man should request a prenup?
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جزاك الله خيرا.
"Nice to meet you"...🤣that was a good one..
We have gone so far away from the path that mere hijab and beard now have become the symbol of 'high religiosity',
whereas in the past it was just a standard thing regardless level of religiosity.
Shame.
Shame.
@Ma Khi
Have you first already solved-
"Why does it have to be even at all?"?
@Ma Khi it has to be that's it you can either never shave it or just shorten it when it reaches the length of a fist
@Ma Khi a hadith of the prophet peace and blessings be upon him. He said leave the beard and shorten the moustache. It's an order. One of these reports is the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar who said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Be different from the mushrikeen: let your beards grow and trim your moustaches.” According to another report: “Trim your moustaches and let your beards grow.”
@@hmzzrg5045
You are doing
*brilliant,*
take this sister
if you have a spot left,
seems like an excellent match.
@@The_Chairperson I don't think you're her wali brother to put me in contact with the sister haha but barakallahufik for the gesture may Allah make the process of finding righteous women and getting married to them easy. Ameen.
These ‘compatibility’ ideas are based on some statistical findings.
And then pushed by big matrimonial websites, and now almost religiously followed by nearly all Muslim matrimonial websites too. This needs to change...
People on these matrimonial sites go on honeymoon based on 90% compatibility and within 6 months of marriage they run form each other!
How are u going to find a spouse if you guys aren't in agreement with things that come after deen and good character??? This is not just "some statistical finding"
@@falteredbeauty8563
Change
that username please for any future discussion.
Thank you.
@@The_Chairperson yeah no. Between having intimacy and praying/fasting, what are you and yohr wife going to do and talk about if you 2 aren't compatible? You just gonna avoid eye contact and read the paper?? 😂
But what if the husband is the one who is incompatible to the wife? Is divorce allowed because he dont satisfy her as woman? I know usually its the woman who doesnt want but there exists the opposite case.
She can divorce him
i hope Allah opens doors of opportunity to those sisters 😭
She can ask a qadi for nullification of marriage, divorce basically. For numerous reasons
Yes she can leave him
Yes that's her right and if the man doesn't fulfill her rights she can divorce without problems
Jazaak Allahu khairan
in a lot of relationships now the women are the leaders as the men are low earners.
After 12:30 you said "Men are always lower in numbers than women.", which I don't believe to be correct. "Always" is quite a bold statement. Do you have evidence, brother?
This compatibility scheme is doing a huge damage.
Jubair(R) & Asma(R), Zaid(R) & Zainab(R) were exceptional cases. Exceptions cannot be taken as standard examples.
There had NOT been many/ overwhelming number of those examples.
Back then, it was very easy to get married and also to be separated.
People’s lives and situations change due to many reasons; they have to go their own ways.
Please st-op confining everything under this term ‘compatibility’.
*Prophet(S) and his all wives(R) were well compatible, if you mean it that way.*
Please take this as the example.
Please do not take those exceptions as example.
But compatibility is very important. It's not like if another guy is the same like me in terms of Deen and character, were going to share the same future goals and have the same interests and have the same ideas about working and raising children. These things define compatibility.
@@falteredbeauty8563
Follow the man
of
*Deen and Akhlakh;*
he
will
take you to
*places*
you
*never dreamt of!!!*
Yes
Jazakallahu khayr!
Many people don't understand that every place marriage is different each locality, so in america marriage is more like white picket fence everybody works and they meet at the middle of the bridge not particularly on the islamic view. So many in the chat mention how can he pay light bill, water bill, and they dont understand that in this capitalist system Riba is tied to alot , so someone can move to a cheaper place in america, we are now in society that is emerged in the accumulation of things things, and they have an idealist view of how america displays it on tv . So i am married for 31 years and realised that you have to identify what makes your wives happy, and what makes her smile. and then do that as much as possible . THE pressure that the society puts on the women today to know relate to her marriage to what does a successful marriage is a misconception and isnt actually true. yes there is romance, love and comfort etc.. but, not all the time in the western way. america has some benefit of it but, not all of them.
Force marriage, putting couples under pressure, find your own!!
Jazakallahu kheiran
Who is shaykh Saleh he was speaking about at the end of the video btw? Full name of the shaykh?
Pls do video how to help guys to get mature for marry cuase a lot of them have no interest to get marry. Special for the point that sister Selam raised.
U r r8
It’s sad what Mufti menk is teaching young men to be more softer and fmnn
I think it's mostly due to parents competing in having expensive weddings. So it scares young men because of the high expectations.
And second point parents make it easy for the sons. They can play playstation and hang around with their boys until 25 and even later. They don't take responsibility and stay a child until they finally get married
@@tahirballikaya213 this is so true ....and when they get married they carry all their childish behaviour into the marriage...forgetting they should be the leader.
That is not true.u CAN stay without sex masturbation etc if u want to .for all your life.Of course not everyone is able.
Jezklahu kayren
I've been talking to a sister. We are very compatible. Her Deen and Character is great. Her goals fit perfectly with mine. She is a Hafidha wears Hijab, prays, fasts, and is submissive. The main problem is my own shortcoming. I dont find her as attractive as I would like. Im teying to talk myself into finding her attractive. Maybe its her slight additional weight or maybe a few dark circles. Is this just the whispers of Shaytan? Should I overlook them? Will I find her attractive later?
the problems you stated can easily be fixed with introducing sports and good diet/sleep into her life, if you can get her to agree to change her habits than i honesty don't see why not if the compatibility is as good as you're saying.
@@editor44576
Make up is not a solution. Should she wearing it all day long, so that her husband thinks she is pretty? I mean, will she be going to bed with make up or wake up with make up? Defently no, that would be a burden.
Wearing Make up just that the husband find her attraktiv can be a big burden, an what if she dont want it because she likes it naturally?
How will he know it without asking, or should he tell her that she need to youse make up later because he has Problems with her face?
He has to find her attraktiv the way she is now, and make up should just be an opprtunity to make her more pretty.
Please ask a wise imam for a nasiha. The topic is to important to ask for help on UA-cam
Based
Assalamu aleikum.Brother where can we ask you questions.
WOW,Gabriel changed his views on polygamy.He probably asked the scholars.
What did he say before ?
@@shahee6579 That is not allowed for women to put such condition on her marriage contract and in general women should accept polygamy .
Never changed any opinion
Not at all
I was saying what some scholars opinion on this issue is
@@alromaani 🤔okey
مشكور
What if you know you do not want children? Is this permissible if discussed?
Also I do know many women who suffer from terrible intimacy with their spouse but do not leave the marriage. May Allah reward them.
If you know you don't children or can't have them it's essential to discuss. If your goals are not aligned, marriage fall apart very quickly
Why Asma' and Az-Zubayr? They were happily married despite he having a little.
If she wants to block one of your God-given rights in the nikkah contract then she is already not right for you brother. What rights will she deny you after the nikkah?
Why should you not ask men about their past.? What if they had girl friends for years before getting married to a muslima who cannot accept his previous haram relationships. She will be miserable all her life once she finds out herself. If men want to marry a virgin so do women want to marry a pious guy.
You can make clear that you want to marry a virgin, no problem with that. If the man isn't one he will find an excuse and not proceed. In general as a Muslim we shouldn't uncover past sins that Allah has covered for us. So don't ask about details.
Don't forget when a Muslim sincerely repents it is as he has never done the sin.
A Man should work hard for the children, .. they're innocent. The wife, Deen, obedience and respect. Why would you not ask about the past? If shes unchaste,..then you're eating out of another man's trash can on ur wedding night..have some balls Gabriel...its not wrong to require a chaste bride,..its like a Man required to have a high paying job. Its easier for the sister,..she just does nothing :)
You are talking facts but they will hate you for it
@@theterminator6121 They can hate me but it doesn't change 2 facts 1. Islam indicates a chaste first wife 2. Only a Man that has no dignity or would eat out of another Man's trash would marry an unchaste woman - All MEN feel this way, except for Gabriel who's wife has his balls in a jar, and her hand up his butt like a meat puppet doing her bidding, he's the typical Western Husband..a Woman.
@@theterminator6121 Gabriel is a disgrace to Muslim Men, In Afghanistan, we had real Muslims, I was in the US Army 82nd Airborne Division fighting against the Talis', in Zabul province, he'd be wearing a dress and helping the woman organize the cooking, only Men were allowed to fight :) we need better male representation of Islam in the West. These are Sister-Husbands to their wives out to do their bidding to modify Islam into an abomination of Western ideals.
Nowadays a lot of man have done zina and they lie that they’re virgin or they want a virgin although they are not.
Don't you think it's a bit disrespectful to call a Muslim sister trash can.
mashaallah
Monogamy should be the exception not the norm
Most will follow the herd of sheep, only some will understand!
Go marry 4 women then from the villages back home. No one is stopping you
@@sweettea1193
Do you feel superior to village girls?
A
man
*takes*
from,
wherever
*he*
*likes,*
does not discriminate
between city/village.
Village girls-
their
*femininity is intact.*
More
*sensually*
*reactive.*
They are *fit,*
*hardworking,*
*healthier.*
*Good mothers.*
City ones-
you have to detoxify them first,
to make them
ready.
If
it is an,
*extraordinary* good one,
then only deserving
of your time.
Shut up man
@@Crime_pays
*He is spot-on here.*
I noticed that women who can't accept polygamy, it's not about the man marrying ... It's about what here social circle would say about her once she becomes number 2 ... She fears people talking about her.
Cos our people can be brutal, I know second wife sisters, good Muslim women who are treated by the 'pious' like home wrecking hoes
@@Anita1984isuponusSalaam Sister 🎀please don’t use that language, it’s a bad word
@@ndeye.1 Sorry
@@Anita1984isuponus 🩷
Weak in iman if u don t accept polygamy ???
That’s called shaming women into doing something that is not islamically obligatory
@@sarahosman9030 Lack of clarity about this temporary life, and lack of wisdom about hereafter aspirations.
@@The_Chairperson where in the deen does it say that I will be rewarded more in the hear after if I participate in polygamy over monogamy? Whereas for a lot of women it can take a mental and emotional toll that can impact their deen.
@@sarahosman9030 Mental and emotional situations take some away form deen, make some rather get closer to Allah(SWT) even more, depends what the material is made of. Some look at opportunities as problems, and some convert problems into opportunities. In terms of the reference you are asking for, please keep on studying and your will find the references in due course, at the moment you are not ready for pinpointed references.
it's sometimes. some women prefer her husband commit zina rather than getting married again
pun intended in the title?
Very solid advise for all before marriage: ask 3 questions to your future wife: 1. will you follow me wherever I go? Will you work the farm with me with your hands in all seasons? Will you do as I ask you in normal life? Yes is the only answer. Three things to ask: if she's wearing make-up: will you stop wearing make-up because I like pure nature (a woman wearing make-up wears a mask). If she wears jewelry: will you please do all this iron-store away, I like pure nature (otherwise she will throw away precious sadaqa money for worthless jewelry); if she's got a smartphone: will you please do that away and get a cheap 20 euro phone. Should be yes to all three. Questions for the woman to the man: same about phone! If he wears clothes with brand names: will you stop wearing these and only wear non-brand clothes? If he puts gel in his hair and spends time looking at himself in mirror: will you act as a man please?
Fake nails is a no. A woman with long nails is lazy and isn't used to working, ask her to keep her nails short! A woman should have hands used to work, when she's older they should be harsher than soft. Beware of lazy women. Beware of men with a 2m tongue on Islam and who don't wake up EVERY day for their fajr. If a man is getting used to oversleeping in the morning, just get rid oh him and find someone better and vice-versa!
yooooo chill💀💀
I mean, may Allah guide you😌
@@coe710 lmao! For real though. Who even is this the monk of fake humbleness?!?!
Lmao
Dude why do you want your woman to work for you? Be a man and pay your own bills
ASma wa Zubair weren't compatible, Zainab and Zaid weren't compatible.
ignorant nisa ask is polygyny about sex, reply is normal marriage the same then? PRophet peace and blessings on him said guard your chastity...
10 :00 - ALi wasn't allowed to marry daughter of Abu Jahl... but there was commentary on Abu Jahl... alot of sisters are for or against polygyny, dont' have world view.
sadly some sisters say they against polygyny and want to stay single but then watch pxrn.
discuss if sister will work or not, does she want to work...
RP statement - women marry hope men will change, men want women to stay same.
mahr issue.
20 :00 - how and where you live, lifestyle.
even in fiqh wife can pay zakat to husband but nto vice versa...
sadly women are arrogant if they get a degree... hypergamy.
is feminism pouring into ummah, yup.
30 :00 -
33 - question on women watching porn... and types they watch...
size maybe psychological...
first wives shouldnt pressure brothers to hrt 2nd wives.
40 :00 - you can aska woman about her past possible... and keep it confidence...
question on living the witht he in laws, discuss before marraige... its right of woman to get own place, she can get ajr or not of taking care of parents.
in Muslim countries, they fo medical tests before marriage.
50 :00 - alot of ppl have rxpe fantasies.
if a widow has been intimate, does she leave pxrno?
why do some spouses not live together and then live it up away...
interrace marriage is allowed in Islam.
many parents don't let there kids go up.
1 :00 :00 - polygyny can be about children adn sex, whats wrong with sex oh ignorant ones? its ibada in marriage, should we neglect your feelings also then...
ew in malaysia you need court persmission for 2nd wife, and algeria its forbidden, awuthubillah!
some women say dont get 2nd wife but she isn't feminine, and men may leave them.
sadly massage hxxkers...
ignorant Arab nisa say go and mess around with girls but no nikkah, just for that he should do nikkah...
1 :10 :00 - before you can go to Calipha on lack of practice,
talks about hanafi fiqh has more ijtihad and different thenhen the other 3.
brother Gabriel knows Muhammad Salah, Zakir Naik, Assim al Hakim, Salim al Amry...
says support each other.
Makes du'a for us!
She is righteous because she demands polygamy
She is wise and able to see the bigger picture, and not just me me me!
I wouldn't mind my future hubby having a second wife, and he'll be more than welcome to pay 2 rents on already expensive 2 2 bedroom apartments, 2 sets of water and electric bills, 2 internet bills, 2 sets of property tax, ect, ect. He'll have to work super hard doing overtime at work if he's the average man doing 9 to 5
@@sweettea1193
You may be
provided
much
more,
what makes you
special?
@@The_Chairperson talk properly please
@@sweettea1193
What do you bring to the table?
Assalaam alaykum how are you doing brother. You are amazing brothet masha allah may allah swt protect you from evil eye and bless you. Iam fan of you i listen a lot. Q and a how you answered i agree with 100. Brother to tell you the truth. When it cames women and men. You are not fair. You favorite men i wanna know why jazalhulah khair
Sister, not sure what country you live in but western women are really strong, and more than their men. He is not siding with men but talking about the issues in society. Let’s say hijabis are too soft towards Qaume Lut and other fahisha. They afraid and scared of peoples retaliation or being cancelled. Most of the men are not afraid of any of that. So, it might seem like that he is going against you but know this that no men hates you. We love and respect our pious kind & honest sisters.
Monogamy makes you poor
You have a good point but only people of at least some faith will get your viewpoint.
How so? Mind explaining?
@@unknownfem9450 When you are ready to go all the way to get the answer, you will get it, 'wishy-washy' enquiry will get you only wishy-washy answers, neither beneficial for carrots nor for sticks.
Boom
@@alromaani
Not a straightforward 'Boom' Gabriel, there is a discussion on both sides.
*8* . A sanctified institution of marriage;
which is the indissoluble union of a man and a woman;
in which husband and wife become one flesh,
are equal, and are both commanded to love, honor and respect one another.
Is that in Islam? Nooo! What are you talking about?
In Christianity, of course!
Accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.
In Christianity you will find love, truth, beauty and eternal life.
Allah is the one and only Lord of the universe, everything in it and everything we don't know.
Jesua peace be upon him is one of his great prophets.
The only way to the truth is through Islam by guidance of Allah. Read the Quran and prophet Mohammad peace be upon him's teachings.
It Is not about religion. It Is about people. Dont look at these people in comment section as good exemple of muslims. I am muslima and i am really shocked to see how much misoginy and arrogance are in the words of these Brothers. But It Is not about religion. If you read the comments in the videos of " Red pill ( wich i dont understand what does It mean or what is ) men you Will see so much misoginy you cant even Imagine.
@@z.a.1237
Leave Islam and become a Roman Catholic Christian.
In Christianity you will find truth, love, beauty and eternal life.
All praise be to God.
@@z.a.1237
The 10 Best Things of Islam:
*10* . The certainty that God loves you.
*9* . Clear moral guidance and rules that exalt the best of our human nature, as we are made in the image of God, such as
- do not kill,
- do not steal,
- do not lie,
- do not commit adultery,
- do not covet your neighbor's wife or possessions,
and
- forgive those who wrong you.
*8* . A sanctified institution of marriage;
which is the indissoluble union of a man and a woman;
in which husband and wife become one flesh,
are equal, and are both commanded to love, honor and respect one another.
*7* .The promise of eternal life in loving union with God.
*6* . A command from God to love your fellow human beings -- i.e. to want them good -- and to live in peace and harmony with them all, irrespective of their sexual orientation, faith, race, gender...
*5* . A command from God to even love your enemies, i.e. to want them good!
*4* . The certainty that God loves every human being as a father loves his children, irrespective of their faith, sexual orientation, gender, race...
*3* . A command from God for you not to judge others or punish them, but to forgive them; because if anybody deserved punisment, God will punish them, not you.
*2* . Beautiful and rich religious rituals which are celebrations of life, are meant to glorify and give thanks to a loving God, and are thus full of joy and are often accompanied with marvellous chants and wonderful music.
*1* . A role model Who you can follow with your eyes closed, because He was pure and committed no sin; so in following Him you can make no error.
Well, to be precise: these would be the ten best things of Islam if they were actually things of Islam, but they are not. Not at all.
None of them is a thing of Islam.
But they are all things of Christianity.
These are some of the good things of Christianity.
Accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.
In Jesus you will find truth, love, beauty and eternal life.
@@thinkingperson2122 actually I was a practicing Roman catholic ( with practicing I dont talk Only about joining the Church but I mean I was a real christian ,following all the commandments in the Table of Moses and living My Life like the Gospel teaches ) and I even was a spiritual guide already from the teenage and teaching the Bible to children. But studying more I realized I was not in the full Truth and I started to search for It until I found Islam Is ThE Truth. And actually in Islam we follow the previous revelations so included the ten commandments etc. The difference is we dont believe in Trinity but in One Only GOD and we dont think Jesus a.s died for the Sins of humanity ( wich remind the pagan sacrifices ) and of course we dont Pray to human beings even they are very good exemples for humanity ( like Miriam r.a. and the so called saints ) ,but honestly i was not praying them even when i was christian. I have Always felt in myself this was wrong and strange ..The Heart was Always monoteistic :). We shoukd not judge a religion from his people ,look at the christian ,99.9 percent of them do Nothing of what christianity teaches.