EP 039 - Ten Conversations to Have Before Marriage, Emotional Intelligence - Shaykh Navaid Aziz
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- Опубліковано 18 жов 2019
- Ustadh Shabbir is joined by Shaykh Navaid Aziz who discusses the perils of social media, what conversations to have when choosing a spouse.
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Shaykh Navaid Aziz is a Canadian Muslim public figure with a diverse academic and social background. He was raised in Montreal, Quebec where he completed a diplome d’etudes collegiales in social sciences from Champlain College. He then proceeded to the Islamic University of Madinah, where he completed an Associate’s Degree in the Arabic Language and a Bachelors in Islamic Law.
Upon returning home to Canada, Navaid began teaching for Al-Maghrib Institute. He has since transitioned to their Director of Public Relations. During this period, he volunteered as the Islamic Editor for Little Explorers Magazine and began his work as a family and youth counselor. It was also during this time that he established himself as a sought-after public speaker. He has lectured across five continents and over 20 countries thus far.
In 2012, Navaid moved to Calgary, Alberta to become the Director of Religious and Social Services for the Islamic Information Society of Calgary, a position he currently holds. In Calgary his youth counseling work extended further to include helping in the mitigation of criminal radicalization. This included the creating and implementation of holistic youth programming which included civic engagement opportunities, volunteer programs at the local shelters, community cleanups, tree planting days, and blood drives amongst other things.
In 2015, Navaid became the first ever Muslim chaplain with the Calgary Police Services. Through his involvement with CPS he consulted in the development of their world-renowned ReDirect program. In 2018, Navaid also joined the Organization for the Prevention of Violence in Alberta as a programming and intervention coordinator. His focus remains on increasing education, literacy, and dialogue through multiple communities.
Navaid’s free time is spent exploring local eateries, traveling, and hiking the Canadian Rockies. He is also known to enjoy playing basketball and hosting game nights-with Monopoly and Cranium being his favorites.
To read more about Navaid or his community engagement please go to www.NavaidAziz.com
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Assalamu alaikum, I have one humble suggestion. Why don't you guys make short videos clip out of these podcast which speaks about the subject so we don't have to watch the whole podcast? Jazak allah khair
We do. Check the playlist called IlmFeed Podcast Clips
Marriage discussion starts at 22:20
Thank you so much!
Jazak ALLAH khyr
22:17 - 10 Conversations you should have before marriage
23:20 - Question engineering
24:18 - The Past
25:20 - The Future
27:15 - The Deen
30:00 - The Family
30:48 - Finances
31:54 - The Kids
33:24 - Friends
35:10 - Expectations
36:56 - Habits & Hobbies
37:14 - Health
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(Little attempt to point them out here,If mistaken kindly tell me so that I can alter )
1. Do you pray?
2. What's your goal and plan for future?
3.What's your understanding of Deen and where are you now ( How you are maintaining Deen now or to what extent) and where do you want to go?
4. Family ( It's broader aspect to recount such as how the family would run , whether spouse is supposed to reside with in laws or cook for them or how much responsibility spouse is expected to undertake for in laws.
5. Finances. What's is job of your partner? ( You can look through whether the income source is halal or haram) For wife's part, what does she like? To work or to stay at home?
6. Kids. ( about their upbringing, sharing of responsibilities of them , schooling in Islamic environment or public school?
7. Friends. ( You have to inquire who are he/she friends with since "you are likely to be your friends consist of".
8. Expectation. ( about expectation derived from both )
9. Habit and hobby.
10. Health issue.
thanks
Not all heroes wear capes. Jazakallah Khair.
Jazaakillah khayr wa baraakallahu fiik
Another good conversation I thought of was: what is your typical week like?
Asalamualaikum akhi
Your podcasts are amazing
Keep up with the good work
BarakAllah feek
masha allah may allah preserve brother navaid aziz a truly gem of our times masha allah keep the videos coming doing a great job talking to truly inspirational people masha allah !!
Subhan’Allahi wa bihamdihi Subhan’Allahil Azweem❤️
Subhan’Allah❤️
Alhamdu lillah❤️
Laa ilaaha illaa Allah❤️
Allahu Akbar❤️
Laa hawla wa laa kuwwata illaa billah❤️
May peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet his companions and entire household❤️
Ma shaa Allah jazakAllah sheikh...may Allah swt bless you and all of us ameen..by the way sheikh is soo cute and have noor on his face🙂..ma shaa Allah ..stay happy and blessed ameen
MashaAllah, great podcast.
Such a great podcast. I am now getting my clipboard ready to write down my questions for marriage. Jzk :)
I agree and don't at the same time with the Shaykh about marrying a spouse that doesn't pray their 5 (mandatory prayers) because that can cause the other spouse to do the same. Were I agree is that interactions with Muslim people that practice their Iman is very easy when their are a group of people together in 1 place. I also think that the intentions in the prays (ie perfecting prayer) is something that majority of the Muslims are struggling with in this day and age.
Great tips from the legend that is Shaykh Navaid! 😀
Aslmwlkm, sh navaid did a wonderful lecture last year covering these questions and he had a document he shared(unfortunately I no longer have it) but itd be great if you could ask him and upload it. I’m sure many people would benefit
Mashaa Allah !! Well done : as usual !!
Make sure to watch the whole podcast even if you are married: you can still save someone else's life by passing these messages on ^__^
Jazakumallahu khayran wa barakallahu feekum!
JazakAllahu khayran
Watching from the Philippines.
The brother has made good points and given good advice. I am going to have to dis agree with him @ 27:24 . We have to marry people for where they are and have good thoughts that they will become better. Although I think thats what he meant. It may not have come out right.
Ultimate pod cast..
The book mentioned at 43:22
With the Heart in Mind | The Moral & Emotional Intelligence of the Prophet ﷺ
By: Mikaeel Ahmed Smith
Does anyone know where to get it from in the UK?
You can check in qalam.foundation/books
Or meccabooks.com
I absolutely agree with the discussion on social media. I have deleted Snapchat as well.
I disagree with 27 minutes..marrying someone for their potential. There is no certainty that the person will change. How many sisters married a man for his potential and it goes unfulfilled. You have to see them as they are right now and decide if it works for you.
Jazakum allahu khair❤
mashllah
Your video is very cool. I truly think that emotional intelligence can help with anything! #coacheq2020
I watch his Quran tafseer specifically Juzz Amma. Soo goood allahumma barik
Subhana allah, sheikh ibn othaimine said : don’t expect spouse to change marry them for what they r!! So how come a person marries someone who doesn’t pray 5 times!! And see any type of potential in that spouse?!?! Crazy adviiiiice!
Especially in today’s world, where islam doesn’t come first,
The prophet pbuh ordered parents to teach their kids to pray at 7 n hit them at 10 n nowadays someone who’s in his or her 20 /30 not praying for decades; might have a potential!!!! A potential of what exactly!?!? Failing big time?!?!
FreeLebanon#
Why what happened?
Akhi what is the name of book 📙 sheikh Michael
Salam, who should I have these conversations with? I watched the entire video, interesting but trying to figure out the personal application...any advice is appreciated.
with your potential spouse @ 22:50
@@LnahS InshaAllah ok I'll have to find a potential spouse.
@@LnahS how do I find a potential spouse to discuss this with? I've only been a revert for 8 years, so nobody has told me yet, just "have sabar, tawakkul, make dua, coming soon" but no practical advice, now I'm 45 and getting younger, the brothers at the masjid say they really care and are quite hopeful that my sabar & tawakkul pays off, now 8 years on I'm losing hope a little that this is the most effective method. Anyway, never too old to start a family, maybe 5-10 years more to have sabar and hopefully I'll get those years back too.
@@LnahS I think that realising that nobody cares is very liberating
@@johnsala5330 لا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ.
Brother, don't despair of Allah's mercy. Sometimes we want something and it's not better for us and sometimes we don't like something it is better. And Allah knows.
Trust Him. Make loads of dua in sajdah during prayer. Offer Tahhajud, increase your Istighfar.
Contact local people who can maybe help you like the imam of a masjid or similar people. Sign up to religious matrimony websites like purematrimony.com.
May Allah make is easy for you and give you a spouse that shall be the coolness of your eyes. Aameen.
just vs merciful??
what excites about future
where in Deen.. prefer progressive potential
expectations about family
finances wife wanna work??
kids upbringing
friends peeeeeeeett peeves
expectations wife responsibilities
habits.. hobbies..
health
The elder generations 99% of marriages have lasted till death was because they married early, so less tempted zina adultary ect ect
they had the same idea of life
So wife automatically becomes housewife lives with in-laws, had kids, husband worked paid for everything
Same culture same lineage same rules same concepts of life.
These days the youth ummah are more knowledgable so they are following sunnah and fard rather than
Backwards idol forefathers worship made up Ideology.
The new generations are Using intellect, mercy, compassion, communication and the hadiths to determine halal from haram.
This is why it’s become difficult finding an honest god fearing worshipping spouse.
My bad success was not the right word
These days married fail bcuz
Ppl acting like dogs fuck the closes thing in range then catch a disease or get an abortion cry what life is shit and messed up
Die of drugs or overdose or drunk dead or in jail
No The 1st generations married they worshiped idols this why why divorce was taboo back then and. A Husband rape his wife as her being obedient to him! Abuse of every kind was used and played this is why they stayed not happiness but mostly force
However some success some not
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Definition 41:30:00
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It's concerning if someone is not praying 5 times a day. I wouldn't marry off my daughter to such a bum. If he can't fulfill Allah's rights then he's less likely to fulfill hers. It's not even hard to pray, this tells you a lot about someone.
Jeremy H same. This is the one part where I disagree with him. Especially bc as Muslim women we are not allowed to marry non Muslim men. What is the difference between a ‘Muslim’ who doesn’t pray and a non Muslim. So that’s one thing I can’t settle with 😊
@بنت عبد الله
Its not about if they have potential. One either prays or doesn't