you're not the only one. the environment shapes us as we partake in it. anyone who says "you don't need this, you need that" is already crossing boundaries for me and I hear it as their own need for validation.
The environment shapes us as much as we shape our environment, some scenarios are difficult to alter (like someone thinking negatively about you) but that's where you alter your environment by not interacting with it identically to previous experiences. Changing both drastically is best though of course
If I had not moved from my hometown I wouldn’t have built a new character. I was delusional thinking I was great and doing great but I was lacking in a lot of areas in my life and it took a change of environment to wake me up.
@@tonygareth221if you believe in God ask him to show you a specific sign or any sign of where he think would be best for you, where you’ll thrive and then pay attention to the repeat signs. You’ll know.
That said, I agree with the spirit of this video. The desire to be more, though dormant in my original home environment, was a prerequisite for striving for the life I envision for myself.
The new environment prompts the ability of the brain to be neuroplastic, which means the stressors make it easier to activate some of the dormant genes and increases the ability to adapt to the new environment or circumstances. It’s a neat trick.
“Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility.” My dad had explosive anger when I was a kid which made me run away from the situation. This behavior has made me run from anything uncomfortable into adulthood. I have been running for too long and want inner peace no matter where I live.
Last month I moved to the other side of the planet to change who I was and realize my dreams. After a week or two of honeymoon period, I found myself right where I left off, there is no escape, no way around, only through.
This is true . and untrue at the same time . Talking from someone who did it for 2 years. and not going to lie that have been the best years of my life and cured my existential crisis. You can benefit extremely from changing place . Doesn't matter where. metaphorically talking,the change of location allows you to change yourself too. is a net reset for your personality and from the character you've played for so long. you be whoever you want and do whatever you want. you've always dreamt of releasing the charismatic side of you . that's the time for it to shine. and trust me that will. is a fresh breeze of freedom ,and control over what's around you. Then you acquire control inside of you consequentially . and even if you don't . it does give you the fake perception of so . True ,because your fallacies and vices will follow you too and then there you understand what was really pulling you back . Work is needed either way . if you change place or not . One day or another you have to face your skeletons in the closet .
This is the very hard lesson that I had to learn. My stepmother often said "Wherever you are, that's where you are at. You cannot ever escape yourself." Great video man ❤.
Growing up around my family, my self image was largely determined by their opinion of me. When I was with them, I became who they expected me to be. When I moved away, I had an opportunity to see myself afresh. True, some of my old perceptions came with me. But, in time, I was free to evaluate myself without constraints.
Running away is never a solution. Working on the root cause is so much important! Otherwise you will repeat the same pattern in new place too. Great talk!!
Look, I have a lot of pent up anger and nowhere I can scream and punch my pillows in peace without being judged. Sometimes we need our own space to heal.
As much as I agree with Seneca, that’s just partially true. Some humans have a nomadic soul. One can argue, there are psychological components to this status. Aside, I have moved 37 times in my life and it is correct that you always take yourself and your issues with you. BUT…every new place will give you new insights and new growth. We are not trees, humans should wander to develop their true self. Your issues are not solved, but mostly the way you look at them will significantly change. I’ve lived in 4 countries, moved 37 times and visited 79 countries. And yes, sometimes I was on the run from self, but with more insight and wisdom, the running away stopped and I knew when the lesson was learned and the time had come to move on. It is an amazing journey and the growth of my “self” is just incredible. Do I have no problems? Of course I do, some days more some days less. - Yet again, when a cycle of life is fulfilled, move on and find greener gras. And yes, when you have done the inner work, the gras is always greener somewhere else. Namaste and thank you for your wonderful insights.
Wow that’s so beautiful and that’s what I’m trying to do! My very first move away from family my very first place but it takes money and it’s taking too long lol I really want to grow!!! I can almost taste it haha I found peace in Oregon when I lived there years back and I want to move back. I don’t know a single soul, my ex has moved and married and the thing is, I don’t care if I know anyone there I just know I love the environment! It’ll be the first time I moved somewhere not for a relationship with a man but more importantly a relationship with myself ❤
Moving on physically can definitely change your mindset. You just need to follow through if you want to change some part of yourself, but a shift in your environment can absolutely be the catalyst. Don't sit in an awful situation trying to block the bad feelings and pretending it doesn't matter where you are.
A change of scenery might be good in order to start afresh and not get retraumatized by a place where hurtful things happened to us, of course always working on ourselves because we can carry our own demons wherever we may go though.
I am 30 and I have lived on the road as an OTR truck driver since 21. I am quitting this year, believing that there are things in life and within myself that I will have to leave this lifestyle to unlock.
"A mind that is settled a character that it at pease with itself will alway be home wherever it is wherever it is both in location and in time." You have no idea how much i needed to hear this.
In 1991 I closed my eyes and opened the map put my finger on it. I moved there the very next day . 17 years living with opportunity and made many friends . I moved back because I needed family I am now leaving for a summer job In a totally different state. You are who you hang with there are many, many people in this world.❤
This is so powerful!! I recently realized I can be peaceful and joyful no matter what just by not over identifying with my stressful thoughts. Just existing and being conscious is a gift no matter where we find ourselves in life.
Thank you... I can see through this comment of yours too. So simple.... We are our thoughts and we determine their quality... It's being conscious to them.
I am always the one that ruins my relationships with people cuz I always isolate myself and neglect the other person that’s why I need to work on myself more
Don't give up. Seek out other quiet souls. Get out of the house. Learn about Taoism and Zen Bhuddism. Do a kind deed for someone else. Give up alcohol, it's a depressant. @@idratherstayanonimous7020
I was just thinking about how I’m always happier when I’m travelling and it made me wonder if it’s my location that needs changing or if it’s me. tyy for the reminder that we are our home
I came to UA-cam this evening in complete surrender that I'm generally stuck living in the state that I live in, one with no nature, in a city. The second video, which came after the first of yours I watched this evening, is this one. I'm so grateful to you. Keep it coming.
I agree with most of what u said... U can't escape yourself and u shouldn't! U should face your problems and enjoy the company of yourself... However, problems have external and internal factors so sometimes no matter how much u work on it inside, the problem is still there... A change of place solves the problem for a lot of people and a change of mindset does that for a lot of people too... Both factors are important and it depends where your problem is not u being the problem all the time.. Great topic! Keep up!!
For a long time I thought that the place where I lived was the problem, that it was the reason why I couldn't improve. I went to a trip to a different country for two weeks with my sister and nothing changed. My mindset was still the same, my bad habits didn't dissapear, I was still insecure and unmotivated to do anything. That trip helped me realize that I was the problem, that I needed to change myself in order to get a better life. And everyday I'm trying, it's not easy but I keep pushing myself to get out of bed and get dressed and go outside for a little bit. I'm pushing myself to meditate for five minutes morning and night, to stretch and exercise and to keep studying and reading. I'm trying to break from scrolling on my phone, playing video games and eating bad food. One of the hardest things was to stop maladaptive daydreaming, which is something I've been doing since I was a kid. So yeah, some days I fail but I still keep trying to be better. I don't want go give up on myself.
Please don’t give up. I went through this and after a similar battle I’m in peace and happy. I counted on my faith in God as well. It made a whole difference to keep the faith. It was well worth it.❤
Being nice must come naturally. If one pushes oneself to be nice for whatever reason, it simply stresses you out. I find it better to be just and honest at all times. Just to myself and to others. This must be accompanied by good manners, by being gracious and kind, but firm. @morgangrant5180
It's hard to believe but I soo agree with you. I have been overly kind through my life. Now 66 and where did my life go. Why has my soul almost died because I gave so much of myself away. Now I have few people in my life. More me time to heal myself. I have made some solace now. In my garden, feeding the birds, hearing the sea and sitting still within the elements of the natural world.
Crucial lesson to learn: don't ever escape the problems, face them. However, while projecting this approach onto social interactions, might find yourself as an elephant in the room, paradoxically. Most of the people don't cope well with dealing with any problems (especially relationship ones), like is said in the video. I guess most of us live in a smaller, or sometimes bigger, bubble.
I think ultimately everything always starts from within, yes it can be easy to blame our environment for our well-being and seeking an alternative place to gain peace of mind. However, a chaotic environment can be an incredibly difficult place to obtain the strength to realise that it was never the place or people and rather one’s perspective. A new environment can absolutely help build the strength to realise it was always you who held the ability to decide how you feel, regardless of your environment. Everyone is different, everyone has different sensitivities and reacts to things differently, a change in environment can completely change your perspective on life and your perspective is what gives the ability to think in a positive and loving way rather than a negative and fearful way. We don’t control what happens to us but we control how we respond, I feel different environments and people can help shift us into more beneficial responses to situations, but still, ultimately it always has to come from within. I appreciate the video and thought provoking message, much love to you 🙏❤️✌️
If Viktor Frankl could find meaning in the worst of places I believe we all can. I believed for a long time places are not necessarily the drivers of inner contentment. I am currently feeling stuck where I am but I also have some forces keeping me exactly where I am bc I know I will Jist take me with me. I have not figured out how to reach this level of acceptance and contentment. The angst is probably from the dark night of the soul I have been in for some time. I find reading wise words helps me somewhat. Listening to others also helps. I still struggle a bit with actually experiencing these things I am reading about but I also feel this will come. I guess one can be on the right part and still feel be lost lol.
I really want to have peace in my life, in spite of what is going on with my neighbours...it's going to make me lose a lot of my savings to resolve the problem...so at this late date, I'm still learning about stoisism....thank you...
I recommend anyone who sees this to watch the anime series One Piece. It may seem silly at first but the main character really embodies what you’ve mentioned here in that he’s always happy with himself and what he is doing in the present. Is Always on an adventure striving towards a goal. He doesn’t care about the future or what obstacles he’ll face. Since watching the show I use him as a role model for what I’d like to be. This show has genuinely changed my life for the better. when you see his smile you’ll understand
I watched a few episodes and loved that about him, initially I thought he seems like he had a few screws loose, but it grew on me. now I need to watch the full series.
I’ll get back to this video after my tea break but I just wanted to put it out there- beautiful title. Almost tells me what I needed, Just waiting for the explanation
Pretty broad statement that does of course make sense but cannot be fitting for everyone. I live in the city and dream of moving away to the mountains or ocean far away from the hustle and bustle but I am not doing it to run away from myself . But to find the silence that nature brings that cannot be found in urban areas.
It is interesting that I came across your post today, I have been reading “Meditations of Marcus Aurelius “ and have been learning about Stoic philosophy. I also read and study Buddhism and it is very interesting how closely related the two are in the philosophy of life. On your recommendation the next book that I pick up will be Seneca. Thanks for introducing me and all your viewers to Seneca.
Thank you for your thoughts on how we can "outrun ourselves"....I've been there and and am there...thank you for your advise in helping me stay where I am....
I've just returned from a "vacation" to Germany, Italy and Tanzania. Funny thing is I have been familiar with Seneca and this quote for years, I guess I really needed to live it again to hammer the truth of it home. You are 100% on point.
I am comfortable being by myself, but now confident enough. For confidence in the world filled with friends, partners and groups, I feel weird and foreign being by myself. So for confidence, I need a friend. I don't feel confident by myself, esp at crowded places and outside home, like streets, restaurants, parks and all
Hanging with the right kind of people, my wife and I are dealing with this on a number of levels. We make excuses to people we don’t want to associate with, but have trouble moving a level up.
I am in letter 11 I believe. I got the book. Can’t believe only now. Why Seneca. What draws you to his words. What has been your journey to arrive here? I always love listening to life stories and how others arrived at these deep waters makes me feel more determined and resolved in my path. I see myself in your words. I want to escape run away from where I am. I love my little home etc but I feel so restless in my mind. There is angst and a bit of chaos. My heart knows the situations are not out there but here. What if you are not sure what your issue is? I don’t know how to fix this bc I don’t know what exactly is broken. Just a sense of emptiness.
Thank you for your calm demeanour and delivery of these thoughts. It has a profound impact on allowing us, your audience, to deeply understand the thought. It gives us time to ponder and reflect on the meaning of your ideas. There's another channel that I follow that talks about teachings from Marcus Aurelius. Obviously the guy puts a lot of time into editing his videos, but the sheer number of cuts to clips or images that fill up the time is so much and the transitions are so rapid that the audience loses focus! The fact that you are sitting next to your bookcase or a lake or somewhere peaceful, and are so accurate when uttering each sentence makes the video have a very meditative and introspective vibe... I feel that's what you are also aiming to achieve. Please keep this style, as you make videos. Your channel is, in essence, a refuge that we can come to in the ad/algorithm-crazy platform that UA-cam has become.
This message came at the right time for me. It's like you held up a mirror and I could see patterns of my younger self that I see were made in an attempt to protect me, but if I keep moving forward with them they will only stunt me.
I love the part where you say that we can be a silent observer and find the situation interesting, and the situation passes anyway regardless of what it is. I feel like that sentence alone brings so much peace because of impermanence and it opens up a sense of curiosity in me which makes life so intriguing.
I left my country to finally face myself. To let go of the coping mechanisms which were weighing me down - cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, relationships. People might think I moved away to run away from my problems, but I knew exactly what was waiting for me. That core feeling of separation and loneliness, gnawing at me since I can remember. I am finally allowing myself to step into it in order to resolve it. That's what changing the scenery did for me. Of course, that unhealed part of me wants to change the scenery again, but now I'm aware enough to simply observe it and see it for what it is.
I absolutely love this and you. I have trauma that I run from continually so I relate to this and find it so simple and helpful to hear. The one comment I would make is that yes absolutely we can be at ease in any situation if we come to find peace in ourselves but it’s also okay to realize that we are not at home here - this is not our final resting place. I heard a speaker describe the feeling as being “homeless and miserable” in this world. It does feel that way, even while we seek peace in it.
i have found great admiration for you sir, you speak in such amusing ways, and somehow all of these things are what ive been avoiding addressing myself. I see you and your spoken words as greatly influential. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and hope whoever needs to hear you like i did, finds you in due time
Thank you for this! I’ve been making excuses with a friend and feeling bad because I don’t like hurting people. The dishonesty doesn’t sit well with me either 😂
It takes so much inner strength to be different from others... I'd love to hear your thoughts on what it means to be true to yourself, polite and respectful to others (after all, rules of engagement for friendships are more ambiguous and in a way, more restrictive). I agree that changing your location won't change your mind,, but as someone who has moved cities every few years, even as a child I found that the change was a valuable tool for me to change myself. Suddenly I had the power to sever myself from this self I had created, and build up into someone new. I've been living in the same city for 4 years now and do feel some restlessness to wipe the slate clean and start again - at the same time, I feel a sense of frustration at myself for lacking the courage and commitment to myself to do what is difficult right where I am. Tension is a big theme for me
Oh yes - wherever you go, there you are. I’ve lived in two countries and learnt a lot about myself, mainly while feeling lonely. That experience cracked me open and am forever grateful. No turning back. You might be a philosopher, I hold an MA in psychology, now studying Compassionate Inquiry. Presence and attunement are essential. Thanks for your thoughts!❤
I live with my father and I'm scared of him... He physically, emotionally, and sexually abused me as a kid. I've become trapped living with him.... I don't want to live with him because he's truly the source of all my trauma. Why is it wrong to want to leave and live with new people? I don't have just simple average people wounds.. I'm living with someone who told me I need to rely on him... should I stay?
No, brother, you shouldn’t stay. What your father did to you isn’t your fault and it’s not a healthy situation for you to be in. I hope you find the strength to do right by yourself and move on. Just know that there is always someone out there who will be willing to extend a helping hand ❤
Hey there, Please don't stay. I've been where you were, it was hell, until I rediscovered myself. Do not believe him, but believe in you! If you have anyone you can talk to, who can help you, please do so. You deserve to live a safe, happy life ❤
Things are not final, black or white, or always conclusive. If someone always wants to be somewhere else, their soul probably needs that for THEIR development. A change in environment is a huge driver in changing perspective enough to change habits or behaviors. Of course, not everything is conclusive. That means a strategy may work for someone, and not someone else. Different strategies help in different points in one's life also due to a variety of other factors. All this to say, that whereas i agree with you and Seneca to a large degree, a change in scenery may very well factually serve as a catalyst, an inspiration or even a safe space one needs to change their life. Even in the form of the most obvious point many move which is for more opportunities. Source: i just moved 7 weeks ago and its really going great. I did a ton of internal work before moving, but if i didn't move, i wouldn't have been able to practice all I've learned. Moving, and the privacy and peace its given me has been a godsend. Very interesting video. Your speaking style shows that you do layer down into reasoning so i can appreciate that. You get a like from me, buddy!
I wish ppl could hear u, cause I’ve been saying that for so many years and ghosting and blocking “friends” that I don’t want anymore cause it is pushing me down. And ppl say I am mean . Well, I am not mean, I am just taking care of myself
I've cut off some friends recently and That was the right move , but a voice in my head wants me to go even further and to cut off some people closer to me, But honestly this is to far. its really good to have boundaries but, Its not going to solve all my problems I realized I was looking to much externally. Great video man, If we really have gained more inner strength and confidence we need to enter uncomfortable situations with our abundance mindset and put it to the test. If nothing REALLY bothers us as much as it use to we shouldn't have to be so rigid, we can become comfortable where we weren't before.
This was a great video. I have read about being in the present and now and not feeling guilty of the past and stressed about the future in so many books (mostly ancient Indian philosophies). It seems like all great minds figure it out eventually.
That can be right but again its like an excuse for not working hard I am certainly in the same position as you But I don't care I do what I must do eventhough its mostly weird for the ppl around me
Hello, I could relate to everything you spoke - some things about myself, some about the relationship I had, some about my surroundings. I saw a video of David Goggins where he says he takes mental vacations when he is in the bathroom or just taking a break. That intrigued me. With most of the social media advocating that we need to be in a fancy place with luxurious amenities to be happy, I found solace in staying off of it and living the moment I have. Thank you for this message. It helped me have a conversation with myself.
Well done. I'm going to have to read me some Seneca. And, a reminder to me to get back to my moral inventories. Made me a happier person when I took the time to build my own character.
I changed my character only to confirm that I do in fact need to find a new place to live. Good to double check though.
you're not the only one. the environment shapes us as we partake in it. anyone who says "you don't need this, you need that" is already crossing boundaries for me and I hear it as their own need for validation.
advise my ad for vice. Yeah no, lol @@colmrooney414
The environment shapes us as much as we shape our environment, some scenarios are difficult to alter (like someone thinking negatively about you) but that's where you alter your environment by not interacting with it identically to previous experiences.
Changing both drastically is best though of course
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So you did need a change of character? If you hadn't changed character, the change of place may have been lost on you.
If I had not moved from my hometown I wouldn’t have built a new character. I was delusional thinking I was great and doing great but I was lacking in a lot of areas in my life and it took a change of environment to wake me up.
Sometimes I think I should leave but I do t know where or why
@@tonygareth221if you believe in God ask him to show you a specific sign or any sign of where he think would be best for you, where you’ll thrive and then pay attention to the repeat signs. You’ll know.
So much this! I left my home town in my early twenties and only then began to become what I am. Curiosity and ambition bloomed in a new environment.
That said, I agree with the spirit of this video. The desire to be more, though dormant in my original home environment, was a prerequisite for striving for the life I envision for myself.
The new environment prompts the ability of the brain to be neuroplastic, which means the stressors make it easier to activate some of the dormant genes and increases the ability to adapt to the new environment or circumstances. It’s a neat trick.
Being able to spend time with yourself happily, immersed in what must be done, aware of life in every breath is truly bliss.
“Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility.” My dad had explosive anger when I was a kid which made me run away from the situation. This behavior has made me run from anything uncomfortable into adulthood. I have been running for too long and want inner peace no matter where I live.
Ditto well said
Dang same
Last month I moved to the other side of the planet to change who I was and realize my dreams. After a week or two of honeymoon period, I found myself right where I left off, there is no escape, no way around, only through.
I agree. Wherever you go, there you are.
Yes exactly how I find myself 🫶🏼
This is true . and untrue at the same time . Talking from someone who did it for 2 years. and not going to lie that have been the best years of my life and cured my existential crisis. You can benefit extremely from changing place . Doesn't matter where. metaphorically talking,the change of location allows you to change yourself too. is a net reset for your personality and from the character you've played for so long. you be whoever you want and do whatever you want. you've always dreamt of releasing the charismatic side of you . that's the time for it to shine. and trust me that will. is a fresh breeze of freedom ,and control over what's around you. Then you acquire control inside of you consequentially . and even if you don't . it does give you the fake perception of so . True ,because your fallacies and vices will follow you too and then there you understand what was really pulling you back . Work is needed either way . if you change place or not . One day or another you have to face your skeletons in the closet .
Only through. That's a great analysis!
The inescapable status quo.
This is the very hard lesson that I had to learn. My stepmother often said "Wherever you are, that's where you are at. You cannot ever escape yourself." Great video man ❤.
My grandmother would say, •Wherever you go, there you are.
Growing up around my family, my self image was largely determined by their opinion of me.
When I was with them, I became who they expected me to be.
When I moved away, I had an opportunity to see myself afresh.
True, some of my old perceptions came with me.
But, in time, I was free to evaluate myself without constraints.
This is it! Yes, completely agree. Having similar realizations myself.
Trust me, I'm longing for a change of environment. I refuse to compromise my character to fit into the chaos of my current surroundings.
I am too wanna be roommates lol
Running away is never a solution. Working on the root cause is so much important! Otherwise you will repeat the same pattern in new place too. Great talk!!
Look, I have a lot of pent up anger and nowhere I can scream and punch my pillows in peace without being judged. Sometimes we need our own space to heal.
@@Bia-rx8wf Yes, I agree!
Problems don't run away if one runs away, problems remain in the self. Ditto, and iterated by variant syntax structuralist essayists.
I can listen to this man’s voice for hours
A boy waits tor the right moment, a man makes the moment right
As much as I agree with Seneca, that’s just partially true. Some humans have a nomadic soul. One can argue, there are psychological components to this status. Aside, I have moved 37 times in my life and it is correct that you always take yourself and your issues with you. BUT…every new place will give you new insights and new growth. We are not trees, humans should wander to develop their true self. Your issues are not solved, but mostly the way you look at them will significantly change. I’ve lived in 4 countries, moved 37 times and visited 79 countries. And yes, sometimes I was on the run from self, but with more insight and wisdom, the running away stopped and I knew when the lesson was learned and the time had come to move on. It is an amazing journey and the growth of my “self” is just incredible. Do I have no problems? Of course I do, some days more some days less. - Yet again, when a cycle of life is fulfilled, move on and find greener gras. And yes, when you have done the inner work, the gras is always greener somewhere else. Namaste and thank you for your wonderful insights.
nomadic soul like every white girl out there for sure for sure .
Wow that’s so beautiful and that’s what I’m trying to do! My very first move away from family my very first place but it takes money and it’s taking too long lol I really want to grow!!! I can almost taste it haha I found peace in Oregon when I lived there years back and I want to move back. I don’t know a single soul, my ex has moved and married and the thing is, I don’t care if I know anyone there I just know I love the environment! It’ll be the first time I moved somewhere not for a relationship with a man but more importantly a relationship with myself ❤
@@musashi542 Says the white dude LARPing as a Japanese guy...
@@Sinfulscents where are you now?
@@truechamp3404 I’m in central Florida
We take ourselves with us wherever we go
Moving on physically can definitely change your mindset. You just need to follow through if you want to change some part of yourself, but a shift in your environment can absolutely be the catalyst. Don't sit in an awful situation trying to block the bad feelings and pretending it doesn't matter where you are.
exactly.
I agree
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Very well said!
I feel like that title just slapped me in the face
bro us
Wherever you go, there you are. Make peace with yourself.
"I have been to paradise...but I've never been to me..." Randy Crawford, "I've Never Been To Me"
Thank you for this. I've been running from myself but no matter where I go, there I am.
As Bob Marley said 'U cant runaway from Yourself'
Also the more u reject the harder it gets.
Acceptance is k🔑y !
No matter where you go, there you are
massively respect these talks. Ty for your work.
Your environment definitely has an impact on your character but so does your inner dialogue
A change of scenery might be good in order to start afresh and not get retraumatized by a place where hurtful things happened to us, of course always working on ourselves because we can carry our own demons wherever we may go though.
Yeah it is hard to decide. I’m sure we’ll end up getting it right though.
I am 30 and I have lived on the road as an OTR truck driver since 21. I am quitting this year, believing that there are things in life and within myself that I will have to leave this lifestyle to unlock.
Thankyou for this advice, at 43 i am experiencing a sober wake up, life doesnt seem real sometimes.
I get that
"A mind that is settled a character that it at pease with itself will alway be home wherever it is wherever it is both in location and in time." You have no idea how much i needed to hear this.
In 1991 I closed my eyes and opened the map put my finger on it. I moved there the very next day . 17 years living with opportunity and made many friends . I moved back because I needed family I am now leaving for a summer job In a totally different state. You are who you hang with there are many, many people in this world.❤
I love your story. Thank you for sharing
I greatly enjoy your delivery. Your channel is one of the few that I subscribed based on the first video I watched.
This is so powerful!! I recently realized I can be peaceful and joyful no matter what just by not over identifying with my stressful thoughts. Just existing and being conscious is a gift no matter where we find ourselves in life.
Thank you... I can see through this comment of yours too. So simple.... We are our thoughts and we determine their quality... It's being conscious to them.
Alchemy of mind is my largest life hurdle. I'm trying to self-actualize while functioning in survival mode, and it is rather challenging.
I am always the one that ruins my relationships with people cuz I always isolate myself and neglect the other person that’s why I need to work on myself more
😮oh my 😮me too 😊
Same. Yet i can't bear my loneliness.
If you haven't already, it might be worth looking into attachment styles and strategies.
Don't give up. Seek out other quiet souls. Get out of the house. Learn about Taoism and Zen Bhuddism. Do a kind deed for someone else. Give up alcohol, it's a depressant. @@idratherstayanonimous7020
Sitting still is the beginning of discipline
I was just thinking about how I’m always happier when I’m travelling and it made me wonder if it’s my location that needs changing or if it’s me. tyy for the reminder that we are our home
I came to UA-cam this evening in complete surrender that I'm generally stuck living in the state that I live in, one with no nature, in a city. The second video, which came after the first of yours I watched this evening, is this one. I'm so grateful to you. Keep it coming.
Of topic, you are one attractive individual.
He has beautiful hair and luxury skin. He is healthy
LITERALLY ALSO UR SO BEAUTIFUL
Healthy mind healthy body
Off topic, so are yourself
I thought so too. 😊
I agree with most of what u said... U can't escape yourself and u shouldn't!
U should face your problems and enjoy the company of yourself...
However, problems have external and internal factors so sometimes no matter how much u work on it inside, the problem is still there...
A change of place solves the problem for a lot of people and a change of mindset does that for a lot of people too...
Both factors are important and it depends where your problem is not u being the problem all the time..
Great topic! Keep up!!
letter from stoic is indeed a really good book, it helps me cope with cronic depression
People respond to stimuli with or without consciousness...it is a constant work of being...
For a long time I thought that the place where I lived was the problem, that it was the reason why I couldn't improve. I went to a trip to a different country for two weeks with my sister and nothing changed. My mindset was still the same, my bad habits didn't dissapear, I was still insecure and unmotivated to do anything. That trip helped me realize that I was the problem, that I needed to change myself in order to get a better life.
And everyday I'm trying, it's not easy but I keep pushing myself to get out of bed and get dressed and go outside for a little bit. I'm pushing myself to meditate for five minutes morning and night, to stretch and exercise and to keep studying and reading. I'm trying to break from scrolling on my phone, playing video games and eating bad food. One of the hardest things was to stop maladaptive daydreaming, which is something I've been doing since I was a kid. So yeah, some days I fail but I still keep trying to be better.
I don't want go give up on myself.
Walk a little further (farther?) every day.
Please don’t give up. I went through this and after a similar battle I’m in peace and happy. I counted on my faith in God as well. It made a whole difference to keep the faith. It was well worth it.❤
Being nice has destroyed my life
In what ways? People take advantage of you?
Same.
Being nice must come naturally. If one pushes oneself to be nice for whatever reason, it simply stresses you out. I find it better to be just and honest at all times. Just to myself and to others. This must be accompanied by good manners, by being gracious and kind, but firm. @morgangrant5180
Never get tired of doing what’s good. You will reap good fruits
It's hard to believe but I soo agree with you. I have been overly kind through my life. Now 66 and where did my life go. Why has my soul almost died because I gave so much of myself away. Now I have few people in my life. More me time to heal myself. I have made some solace now. In my garden, feeding the birds, hearing the sea and sitting still within the elements of the natural world.
Thank you. Thoughtful and clearly spoken. I’m glad I found this channel, you will have many more subscribers soon.
Crucial lesson to learn: don't ever escape the problems, face them. However, while projecting this approach onto social interactions, might find yourself as an elephant in the room, paradoxically. Most of the people don't cope well with dealing with any problems (especially relationship ones), like is said in the video. I guess most of us live in a smaller, or sometimes bigger, bubble.
I think ultimately everything always starts from within, yes it can be easy to blame our environment for our well-being and seeking an alternative place to gain peace of mind. However, a chaotic environment can be an incredibly difficult place to obtain the strength to realise that it was never the place or people and rather one’s perspective. A new environment can absolutely help build the strength to realise it was always you who held the ability to decide how you feel, regardless of your environment. Everyone is different, everyone has different sensitivities and reacts to things differently, a change in environment can completely change your perspective on life and your perspective is what gives the ability to think in a positive and loving way rather than a negative and fearful way. We don’t control what happens to us but we control how we respond, I feel different environments and people can help shift us into more beneficial responses to situations, but still, ultimately it always has to come from within. I appreciate the video and thought provoking message, much love to you 🙏❤️✌️
If Viktor Frankl could find meaning in the worst of places I believe we all can. I believed for a long time places are not necessarily the drivers of inner contentment. I am currently feeling stuck where I am but I also have some forces keeping me exactly where I am bc I know I will Jist take me with me. I have not figured out how to reach this level of acceptance and contentment. The angst is probably from the dark night of the soul I have been in for some time. I find reading wise words helps me somewhat. Listening to others also helps. I still struggle a bit with actually experiencing these things I am reading about but I also feel this will come. I guess one can be on the right part and still feel be lost lol.
Some places make you crazier. Like a small town in Louisiana 😊😊😊😊😊😊
I really want to have peace in my life, in spite of what is going on with my neighbours...it's going to make me lose a lot of my savings to resolve the problem...so at this late date, I'm still learning about stoisism....thank you...
I recommend anyone who sees this to watch the anime series One Piece. It may seem silly at first but the main character really embodies what you’ve mentioned here in that he’s always happy with himself and what he is doing in the present. Is Always on an adventure striving towards a goal. He doesn’t care about the future or what obstacles he’ll face. Since watching the show I use him as a role model for what I’d like to be. This show has genuinely changed my life for the better. when you see his smile you’ll understand
for those unwilling to watch a thousand episodes, the "gear 5" scene with the drums of liberation pretty much sums up this feeling
Thank you.
I watched a few episodes and loved that about him, initially I thought he seems like he had a few screws loose, but it grew on me. now I need to watch the full series.
I’ll get back to this video after my tea break but I just wanted to put it out there- beautiful title. Almost tells me what I needed, Just waiting for the explanation
Pretty broad statement that does of course make sense but cannot be fitting for everyone. I live in the city and dream of moving away to the mountains or ocean far away from the hustle and bustle but I am not doing it to run away from myself . But to find the silence that nature brings that cannot be found in urban areas.
It is interesting that I came across your post today, I have been reading “Meditations of Marcus Aurelius “ and have been learning about Stoic philosophy. I also read and study Buddhism and it is very interesting how closely related the two are in the philosophy of life. On your recommendation the next book that I pick up will be Seneca. Thanks for introducing me and all your viewers to Seneca.
Thank you for your thoughts on how we can "outrun ourselves"....I've been there and and am there...thank you for your advise in helping me stay where I am....
I like your delivery - calm, deliberate. It helps. Other UA-camrs get this wrong and I don't watch them.
You can’t hide from yourself. Every where you go, there you are !
I've been researching stoicism, to deal with everyday issues....thank you.
Ultimately and in the final analysis, you live in your head.
Well said and hopefully well lived.
When I was 13, I was obsessed with reading Seneca every day. Thank you for reminding me how much I loved him. Great content, keep on going :)
I've just returned from a "vacation" to Germany, Italy and Tanzania. Funny thing is I have been familiar with Seneca and this quote for years, I guess I really needed to live it again to hammer the truth of it home. You are 100% on point.
I am comfortable being by myself, but now confident enough. For confidence in the world filled with friends, partners and groups, I feel weird and foreign being by myself. So for confidence, I need a friend. I don't feel confident by myself, esp at crowded places and outside home, like streets, restaurants, parks and all
I ran away inside myself! Now I realize the changes I can make to heal and allow me to be my best in any location or around anyone.
Hanging with the right kind of people, my wife and I are dealing with this on a number of levels. We make excuses to people we don’t want to associate with, but have trouble moving a level up.
I am in letter 11 I believe. I got the book. Can’t believe only now. Why Seneca. What draws you to his words. What has been your journey to arrive here? I always love listening to life stories and how others arrived at these deep waters makes me feel more determined and resolved in my path.
I see myself in your words. I want to escape run away from where I am. I love my little home etc but I feel so restless in my mind. There is angst and a bit of chaos. My heart knows the situations are not out there but here.
What if you are not sure what your issue is? I don’t know how to fix this bc I don’t know what exactly is broken. Just a sense of emptiness.
Thank you for your calm demeanour and delivery of these thoughts. It has a profound impact on allowing us, your audience, to deeply understand the thought. It gives us time to ponder and reflect on the meaning of your ideas. There's another channel that I follow that talks about teachings from Marcus Aurelius. Obviously the guy puts a lot of time into editing his videos, but the sheer number of cuts to clips or images that fill up the time is so much and the transitions are so rapid that the audience loses focus! The fact that you are sitting next to your bookcase or a lake or somewhere peaceful, and are so accurate when uttering each sentence makes the video have a very meditative and introspective vibe... I feel that's what you are also aiming to achieve. Please keep this style, as you make videos. Your channel is, in essence, a refuge that we can come to in the ad/algorithm-crazy platform that UA-cam has become.
These have been so healing ty
Idk who you are but I needed this. Thank you
I'm glad I came upon this channel, it's like every video fixes one of my problems.
I love you man thank you for every word you just said it hit me so hard
This message came at the right time for me. It's like you held up a mirror and I could see patterns of my younger self that I see were made in an attempt to protect me, but if I keep moving forward with them they will only stunt me.
Thanks 4sharing ,pure wisdom bro ❤
Love you brother! Thank you for this friendly reminder!!❤😊
I love the part where you say that we can be a silent observer and find the situation interesting, and the situation passes anyway regardless of what it is. I feel like that sentence alone brings so much peace because of impermanence and it opens up a sense of curiosity in me which makes life so intriguing.
You dont need to move Out of an active war Zone, you need to Just BE positive. Much philosophY such intellexual
The now is all we have. - Well said! Thank you!
First time listening to you, appreciate your thoughtfulness , heartfelt, and ease of sharing what are often complex issues for many .
I left my country to finally face myself. To let go of the coping mechanisms which were weighing me down - cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, relationships. People might think I moved away to run away from my problems, but I knew exactly what was waiting for me. That core feeling of separation and loneliness, gnawing at me since I can remember. I am finally allowing myself to step into it in order to resolve it. That's what changing the scenery did for me. Of course, that unhealed part of me wants to change the scenery again, but now I'm aware enough to simply observe it and see it for what it is.
A clarifying contribution. Thank you.
Wow this was right on time for me. Thank you so much for this video.
Beautiful! 🙏❤️
I absolutely love this and you. I have trauma that I run from continually so I relate to this and find it so simple and helpful to hear. The one comment I would make is that yes absolutely we can be at ease in any situation if we come to find peace in ourselves but it’s also okay to realize that we are not at home here - this is not our final resting place. I heard a speaker describe the feeling as being “homeless and miserable” in this world. It does feel that way, even while we seek peace in it.
Thank you for your amazing channel. I find your ideas refreshing and enlightening. 😊
i have found great admiration for you sir, you speak in such amusing ways, and somehow all of these things are what ive been avoiding addressing myself. I see you and your spoken words as greatly influential. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and hope whoever needs to hear you like i did, finds you in due time
Thank you for this! I’ve been making excuses with a friend and feeling bad because I don’t like hurting people. The dishonesty doesn’t sit well with me either 😂
Same here... 😅
It takes so much inner strength to be different from others... I'd love to hear your thoughts on what it means to be true to yourself, polite and respectful to others (after all, rules of engagement for friendships are more ambiguous and in a way, more restrictive).
I agree that changing your location won't change your mind,, but as someone who has moved cities every few years, even as a child I found that the change was a valuable tool for me to change myself. Suddenly I had the power to sever myself from this self I had created, and build up into someone new. I've been living in the same city for 4 years now and do feel some restlessness to wipe the slate clean and start again - at the same time, I feel a sense of frustration at myself for lacking the courage and commitment to myself to do what is difficult right where I am. Tension is a big theme for me
It seems to me only so few people understand this nowadays. Everyone appears to just be running towards their next escape.
Great message
Oh yes - wherever you go, there you are. I’ve lived in two countries and learnt a lot about myself, mainly while feeling lonely. That experience cracked me open and am forever grateful. No turning back. You might be a philosopher, I hold an MA in psychology, now studying Compassionate Inquiry. Presence and attunement are essential. Thanks for your thoughts!❤
Smart man, love your tone and speed of voice
I live with my father and I'm scared of him... He physically, emotionally, and sexually abused me as a kid. I've become trapped living with him.... I don't want to live with him because he's truly the source of all my trauma. Why is it wrong to want to leave and live with new people? I don't have just simple average people wounds.. I'm living with someone who told me I need to rely on him... should I stay?
No, brother, you shouldn’t stay. What your father did to you isn’t your fault and it’s not a healthy situation for you to be in.
I hope you find the strength to do right by yourself and move on. Just know that there is always someone out there who will be willing to extend a helping hand ❤
Girl you do not need to stay with anyone, it's not wrong to move environments. Get the hell out of there :)
Hey there,
Please don't stay. I've been where you were, it was hell, until I rediscovered myself. Do not believe him, but believe in you! If you have anyone you can talk to, who can help you, please do so. You deserve to live a safe, happy life ❤
Find anyway out other than suicide, im praying for you brother. Youll get through this
RUNN
Things are not final, black or white, or always conclusive.
If someone always wants to be somewhere else, their soul probably needs that for THEIR development. A change in environment is a huge driver in changing perspective enough to change habits or behaviors. Of course, not everything is conclusive. That means a strategy may work for someone, and not someone else. Different strategies help in different points in one's life also due to a variety of other factors.
All this to say, that whereas i agree with you and Seneca to a large degree, a change in scenery may very well factually serve as a catalyst, an inspiration or even a safe space one needs to change their life.
Even in the form of the most obvious point many move which is for more opportunities.
Source: i just moved 7 weeks ago and its really going great. I did a ton of internal work before moving, but if i didn't move, i wouldn't have been able to practice all I've learned. Moving, and the privacy and peace its given me has been a godsend.
Very interesting video. Your speaking style shows that you do layer down into reasoning so i can appreciate that. You get a like from me, buddy!
I wish ppl could hear u, cause I’ve been saying that for so many years and ghosting and blocking “friends” that I don’t want anymore cause it is pushing me down. And ppl say I am mean . Well, I am not mean, I am just taking care of myself
Where ever you go ,there you are🌞✨️❤️🔥
I've cut off some friends recently and That was the right move , but a voice in my head wants me to go even further and to cut off some people closer to me, But honestly this is to far. its really good to have boundaries but, Its not going to solve all my problems I realized I was looking to much externally. Great video man, If we really have gained more inner strength and confidence we need to enter uncomfortable situations with our abundance mindset and put it to the test. If nothing REALLY bothers us as much as it use to we shouldn't have to be so rigid, we can become comfortable where we weren't before.
This was a great video. I have read about being in the present and now and not feeling guilty of the past and stressed about the future in so many books (mostly ancient Indian philosophies). It seems like all great minds figure it out eventually.
i needed this vid. been procrastinating so much recently. thank u for this reminder!!
🧐 Atmosphere, locations, DEFINITELY make a difference. You can't grow in an environment that no longer serves your higher self.
Then get out or make the most of it. I agree but I can’t leave my town for 2-3 years so gonna make the most of where I’m at.
Very true 💯
That can be right but again its like an excuse for not working hard
I am certainly in the same position as you But I don't care I do what I must do eventhough its mostly weird for the ppl around me
I just said it makes a difference 🤷🏻♀️
Hello, I could relate to everything you spoke - some things about myself, some about the relationship I had, some about my surroundings. I saw a video of David Goggins where he says he takes mental vacations when he is in the bathroom or just taking a break. That intrigued me. With most of the social media advocating that we need to be in a fancy place with luxurious amenities to be happy, I found solace in staying off of it and living the moment I have. Thank you for this message. It helped me have a conversation with myself.
This was really helpful with something I was going through, thank you!
You're one of the most underrated channels on UA-cam. This channel is going to blow up at some point
A single drop in the ocean has value on its own...but no one knows about it...
Sometimes you need a new scenery
you need both honestly
Well done. I'm going to have to read me some Seneca. And, a reminder to me to get back to my moral inventories. Made me a happier person when I took the time to build my own character.