Ego Work: The Ego's Favorite Stories
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2020
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#selfhealers, the ego is a tricky one! It tells you stories all day long, and most of those stories come from fear. Ego work allows us to separate from those stories, understand they are not "truth" + then act in accordance with our highest (conscious) self. If you have any questions, feel free to list them below. As always, thank you for watching, and if this video was helpful for you please do share! -Nicole
Thank you for the videos!!
Thanks for the video I know personally that I deal with stories of the Ego that remind me of all the unpleasant experiences I ever dealt with. Im aware that the Ego stories from these experiences are based in fear and I always ask where is the fear coming from
Is the first step is acknowledging that they are just stories... What is the second step?
So what's the healthiest identity or ego or self concept we can create? In the world of spirituality I have done a regular practice called "ego eradicator" which at times has felt confusing. I can see how eradicating these kinds of beliefs is helpful, but then what's the healthiest way to view oneself that holds oneself in high regard, in respect, without being incorrect or inflated, and that also leaves room for growth and mistakes?
I have a question ....a tricky one....asked it below but not sure u will read it....so asking again...how is it that some days i could observe obj and other days just couldnt...can you help me with this pls.
Isn't it funny to think that we ALL have some form of these negative stories yet think we are alone or special in this? When you realize we all are (including you) doing the best we can, it really lightens things up. TO ALL READING THIS - YOU ARE WORTHY. YOU ARE LOVABLE. YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Soooooooo true, most of us are in the same boat on this one
yesyesyes. you are so worthy and lovabale too!
💯♥️
I was just about to write this 😂
The Dalai Lharma says they don't have a words for low self esteem in Tibet. He said they don't suffer from low self esteem, because of their Buddhist culture we are all worthy just because we've been born human, or something like that, I forget the exact words he used. Apparently Buddhists believe we are all interconnected, everything is interconnected
Thank you for this . I can’t believe how loud my Ego is constantly , it holds me back from happiness so much. Big love
Having a ego is good
🥺🥺🥺 I started laughing when I read the sentences because they’re exactly what it’s in my head 24/7. I’m already on my healing journey. Thank you for making this video. I mean it.
I think the most helpful thing in my 30 years of living has been finding your videos. I've always had anxiety and been diagnosed with multiple anxiety disorders. After finding your videos I've realized how ego-based my "disorders" have been and how entwined it's been with nervous system response. What is social anxiety disorder if not the ego constantly telling me ALL of these things when I'm in social situations (and otherwise) and my nervous system reinforcing all of it. And it has been so helpful to realize that it's all JUST THE EGO. It isn't some big insurmountable disorder. It's just the ego. It's just ego stories. It's just a matter of deep belly breathing, conscious awareness and consistent practice.
Thank you, Dr. Nicole. I cannot thank you enough.
Isn't this the teaching of Buddhist philosophy
Coming across this video right before my second interview with an incredible company. I know that I'm worthy and I have more than enough skills & experience for the job, but damn, that ego being like 'hey... still... you're not as good as you could be and what if they don't hire you because you won't be as good as other candidates.' I am worthy, I am good enough, whether I get the job or not. Thank you Dr. Nicole!
Edit: I got the job!
Congratulations 👏
Congrats on getting the job!!! ♥️
yay congrats!
"Who are you if your story begins to change? Do not be so loyal of your suffering that your healing does not stand a chance"
What resonated the most with me was the statement "the ego believes that it is protecting us". I had always seen my ego as my enemy, my saboteur... However changing that mindset to "the ego simply has a misunderstood perception of you and needs to be taught" actually gives you so much relief, because it's not you against it, it's you teaching it... Thank you for that insight!
I have found that thru therapy and then adding mindfulness meditation, i have really become aware of the ego stories and can create even a fraction of space. Life changing.
I hear you, it's powerful work.
How does one get started in mindfulness meditation
@@mikealan1984 Waking up
In my religion of Islam there is a belief that human being consists of 2 selfs - lower self called nafs- which always has a companion with him from evil spirit named qareen.Qareen means intimate companion who always stays with us and whispers bad thoughts. His job is to always put as down while pretending he is our friend. He whispers unhelpful thoughts, but doesn't want us to know that thoughts come from him.He wants us to believe that he is part of us ..That is ego to me - a lower self which wants to put us down pretending to be protective towards us . But there is s higher self - a soul- called Ruh- which is our true self .Depending on what you will nourish more - either soul or ego will become stronger and prevail. These psychological explanation by this lovely psychologist makes complete sense to me .Don't nourish ego ,nourish your true authentic self and it will become dominant
Thank you for sharing and taking the time ❤️
Thank you for sharing, very interesting
Thanks
Awww love this thank you! How would you nourish your soul a bit more?
Thanks for sharing this!!!
When the lockdown started I thought now is the perfect time to work on my inner self and my struggles. I started meditating and i started identifying them by journaling every day, it was tough and I had no clue what they are and how I'm suppose to deal with them. Until I got acquainted with the holistic psychologist, everything started making sense and I realized I am now on the right track! Thank you so much for everything you share with us💖 you were the light on my dark and foggy road🙏🏼💕
I just realized the "I'm behind" story has been my experience for years. I think "I'm 55 years old and I'm behind where I should be." No wonder I'm chronically behind on my bills. Thank you for pointing this out to me!
Many blessings to you!
Coming to terms with ending of my fantasy filled relationship with a narcassist has left me deep in the throes of ego......deep loneliness and sadness to have to come to grips with the reality that a fantasy could never really love me back. Thank you for this, as painful as it is, it is a necessary reminder to stay the course of healing 🤗
I feel this so deeply, my abusive relationship ended a year ago and sometimes old feelings from it still come to the surface and my ego becomes very vicious in these moments. Hope you’re doing better now ❤️
Losing judgement is a goal. When we judge others we create a story and judge ourselves. With judgement comes comparison comes stories, both ways - the slippery road to misery. It’s when those stories pop up out of nowhere... I look at where it came from, I investigate the trigger, the moment, the phrase, the visual, the sound, the smell. Then it’s a reaction and the story disappears. Practicing living in the moment, being present and journaling has changed everything. My past was severe CPTSD which I know changed the formation of my brain, so repeating what we’re safe patterns through life were inevitable. I’m changing my brain again, with my own experiences not others. I love how clear you are Dr Nicole, very grateful for the knowledge and experience you share. Lots of love to you and all you do. Love Lili ❤️🌞🌻🕊🤸♀️🦘
I love the way you encourage acceptance of those patterns, as there are a lot of therapist that shame people for doing that. But in a sense I never chose to embed them in the first place, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t want to change them. Thank you.
I’ m actually experiencing these kind of stories that makes me feel threaten when i’m in a group of person or with a dominant/ narcissist personality because of the way my big sister was verbally violent and humiliated me growing up in the past even in front of people... I now see that this are stories that i deeply belive in my head and i’ve always tend to escape situation where i’m in a group or with dominant personnality. Now, i started a new job, that require being in a group and i have encounter a colleague that remain me of my sister before and it really trigger me! I’m like reliving the whole traumatic experiences. I now see that this are STORIES that i’m so attach to... it’s a good start to see it...
My friend says "I never allow my ego to speak with my Soul."💖
Thank you. My son is so ego-motivated, and I sent this to him. I see one thing about myself, but I’m way better than I used to be! I’m 67, so I hope I’ve progressed!
This hit home. Not good enough. And I’m behind.
I think it's more than "stories", it's imprints in our psyche and nervous system. I have worked on this for all of my life (since I was a teen), but healing these core wounds is really difficult, unfortunately - at least for someone like me who went through psychological abuse. Even though I have come a long way and I am a very conscious and fairly balanced person, I still struggle with my confidence and get very nervous at times around people who are critical and unfriendly and make me feel "less than". It's not that I don't *think* I'm not good enough, it's more like deep feelings of shame and unworthyness. Deep rooted, as you say. For me, it's a constant feeling of stress in my body. Maybe it's different for different people, but for me the "stories" are relatively easy to handle, but the trauma and stress is not. That said - understanding that other people have insecurities as well has helped me a lot.
Your best video yet. Succinct, audio was great, your presentation. Looking forward to more greatness!!
I love you Nicole! Sending you so much love for all that you have faced these past few months, and you are still showing up for us! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you, Nicole. I doff my cap to you for how you handled the craziness on Instagram last week! Best wishes.
It feels like you took all these thoughts from my brain and put them on the screen
So comforting to hear these VERY SPECIFIC thoughts are so common. The problem for some of us who are very analytical is that we get so good at finding "objective" evidence for these stories. It becomes irrefutable demise.
So the reason I find this video so comforting is that if so many of us catastrophize in very specific identical ways, despite being so different, with different backgrounds, and infinitely different circumstances, then it must mean these are PROGRAMS running on automatic, and not reality.
And THIS is the only way I can tell reality from ego, right now and get to keep my sanity. THANK YOU!!!
Thank you! I've identified recently that most of my issues stem from my ego, so this must be a message from the universe to continue my work. Thank you again for your guidance, great video!
This was very helpful and I’m so grateful you cut to the chase and kept things simple & short. Very excited to explore your channel.
Thank you for adding subtitles!
love this, it helps me so much, thank you. This makes me cry I am so happy to hear it.
I love how you think and FEEL. Beautiful work! Thank you for the service you provide.
Love these videos you do! They’re short but packs a punch. It’s so comforting to hear how these stories are common and that we all have them. I sometimes wonder if there’s something so wrong with me that can’t be fixed because these stories are always playing over in one way or another. Thankfully with resources like these I know that’s now the case ❤️
I really needed this channel! Thank you and thank you UA-cam recommendations!
LOVE this. Thank you for the confirmation and I no longer have to believe this voice!! 😍✅
Thank you for this! I really needed the reminder today!❤❤❤❤
Welcome, Traci! Thank you for watching.
Just worked out and watched this. I feel so healthy and productive. Your work is validating, over and over again. Thank you 🙏🏼
I've been subscribed to your channel for a few months now and I just want to let you know that watching your videos make me feel like I'm talking to my big sister and she'll always have my back. :') thank you for the amazing insights! ❤️
Thank you for this one Dr. Nicole!
I love your videos. Thanks for doing this amazing work with us!❤
Dr. Nicole, I don't want to imagine how different my life would have been if I hadn't come across your work. I hope you know how much you are changing lives around you by simply providing them with your work. I've gone from someone desperately hopeless to someone who wants to try. Thank you so much.
Subscribed. I love and appreciate your approach💓🌺
You are such a powerful and necessary resource ! Thank yo so much for this information
I finally gathered the courage to start watching your videos and make changes to myself for the better. I must say that I did cry at "These stories exist and are painful, but these stories do not makeup who I am." I'm hoping to learn more from you and become a better version of myself. Thank you. 💙
Thank you so much for doing this, I hadn’t realized I did so often on a daily basis.
Thank you for this. And what you mentioned about the stories we tell ourselves, this has been a more present theme in the past couple years for me, as I've grown more aware of how destructive my internal narrative can be.
Thanks for update Dr Nicole
this is so good! Thank you so much
Love this and all your work, my ego tends to go in a little different direction. My ego tells me I'm better than people in the work place, that I am faster, and smarter then the others. I mean my ego definitely does tell me all the ones you mentioned just in the work place I have a entitled, superior ego. Which is interesting that the other areas of my life its putting me down.
Today I'm in a place where I catch my ego and tell it a new story, that I dont know how my co- workers and it's none of my business. 😊
Thank you for sharing this Ego perspective✨🕊"Theres more to me than who I actually am"
Very helpful content, and great audio quality. Thank you 🙏🏽💛
Thank you. This is such powerful information and I am so grateful.
Listening to your videos because I’m feeling extra stuck. Thank you for always saying such kind and insightful things
I needed this today. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am worthy. ❤️
i am 68 and still feel ruled by this even when (at least with some) I am thinking they are not true. But my feelings say they are - and they DON'T feel like stories , especially when they are confirmed by others comments. I just don't know how to get past it.
I hear ya!
Breathe in your soul. As much as you can
We can view our lives as an unfolding story. If some pages of it are disturbing, we don't just ignore them. Acknowledge it then you can edit it. If you don't acknowledge it, it will always find a way to torment you. Then, you can accept the work of Grace that has been accomplished for you on the Cross of Jesus Christ. This takes care of your past and releases you to face your future. Then as the teacher here says, you can set aside the ego stories. What we all need is the inner assurance and confidence to dismiss them and move on to writing the next chapters of our lives. This, I believe, is what many find lacking. This brings an almost unimaginable level authenticity to your experience because whenever the ego stories play themselves again, you will RECKON it as DEAD & resolved.
You have to reprogram your subconscious. Repeating mantras as often as I remember every day and listening to affirmation videos in the background and when I go to sleep have been the most helpful for me in doing so.
Thank you Doc, your videos are greatly appreciated!
This reminder was so important for me. Thank you 😊
Love your work! I use your techniques a lot! Thanks
Thank you so much Nicole for this video! It makes so much sense to me as I feel like it's taking too long to get to my dream career than planned (Mental health nursing) as I'll be doing a nursing course along with possibly doing the 4 years of Mental health nursing and because of this scenario, I feel like I'm not doing anything with my life and when I saw this video is was relieved to know and understand that it's the ego that's doing it not me! 😃
Really needed this today...thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
OMG This message is for me because that's what I have always heard in my head. Thank u Dr.
I really needed this thank you for this enlightenment! 😊
Thank you so much! These past couple of days I've been letting my ego take control of me. Now I know that I should not because they are just stories.
Thank you 💙 In the process of healing
You are so truly amazing 💗 thank you Nicole
Thank you so much for doing this for us.
Just subscribed. This makes so much sense right now in my life. Peace
you are what i've needed, thank you i love you nicole!!!!
Your voice is so soothing🤍 thank you for this!
Incredible video, thank you!!!!!
Thanks for such an amazing and educational video. I really admire your skills to express verbally your ideas so clearly.
This was brilliant!!!! Subscribed!!!
Best explanation on this topic I’ve ever heard 👏
Very Very helpful!! Thankyou 🙏🏽 I am above and more than my experiences...
Loved this video! Thank you.
Just binned my EMDR therapist today after intense work and no change, and now this. I have all these thoughts and often miss them and just get a sinking pain in my torso somewhere, I know this stuff but have never had it framed so perfectly, thank you. But I am a testament to understanding being the booby prize, so I'll check out your website for solutions.
Wow. I love you on Instagram, and I had no idea you were making youtube videos. I LOVE THIS. honestly finding your work has really changed my life... thank you Dr. LePera. Thank you for bringing ego work into mainstream media and normalizing trauma healing
Short and simple...Love the explanation, as these difficult times are upon us and many of us tend to get confused and to think that is only us failing or not doing so well in life. Thanks for this input..
Thank you for this ❤️
It's about time I stop listening and hanging onto every word of the stories I tell myself. Step 1: They are just stories. Thank you!!
Dr. Lepera, your ability to distill your knowledge and experience into these videos is top-notch. I have been on my own healing journey since my mid-twenties after a chaotic childhood filled with chronic little "t" trauma. My consciousness around it began in my mid thirties. Since then a health scare, a horribly stressful work experience and a major betrayal by a friend in the last ten years have awoken me to the absolute necessity of this work. I have been able to make considerable progress to heal the lifelong anxiety I have lived with in the last two years while working with a therapist coupled with the reading, journaling, podcast listening, video watching and practice that I have committed to every day. Thank you for your work!
You are amazing. Thank You so much!❤❤❤
Straight to the point and very informative--thank you so much
Wow, I have almost all of these. There’s self work to be done.
Thank you for the video makes sense I will think about this and acknowledge the information in a new point of view. Have a great week. 😀😺🤟🤙
Your amazing thank you I needed this
This is super powerful.
I've done this my whole life. This is me. Don't know how to get out of it.
Well, it doesn't seem like it's her that will tell us.
@@amarilloatacama4997 to get out of it??
@@jigyasajigyasa7325 Yes. I certainly relate to the sentences, but she doesn't offer any hint to tackle that
Go to her blog page @theholisticpsychologist where she has created a journal promt title 'how to do the ego work'. I have been doing it for straight 3months till now. It's painful but it's life changing.
Nicole I’ve been following you for a little over a year now and you are constantly helping me grow. This healing journey is difficult and my ego is kicking my ass but you are always a spirit guide, I come to your UA-cam channel or instagram page and find the guidance and understanding I need. Every. Single. Time. You keep saving me and I’m so blessed to have been lead to you. Am I the only person who cries while watching these videos?? This is my real life therapy. 💕🌧🌈
BEAUTIFULLY EXPLAINED!! THANK YOU..
I, too, appreciate your videos. I know the 'why' but the healing work is fresh and these stories are so automatic... it's frustrating!! Thanks for your work.
This reminds me and objectively look at my ego voices again. Thank you.
First time on Your channel - thank you thank you for the great sound quality!
My ego stories seem like truth at times but realise now that they seem like this because have been identified with them for so long very repeatitive and behaved accordingly and thus reinforcing stories, I am detaching from these stories more and more these days thank you so much for this video, I love your clear concise videos that really hit the nail on the head with what can seem such a complex confusing concepts
Thank you for this video
Thank you Nicole ♥
Wow. Just stumbled on to your video, early am Wed 6/17. This the best 4:25 min. of my day! Thanks! Also currently working on overcoming narcissistic abuse , which adds to the old ego problem. Recently started trying to meditate 2x/day to counteract symptoms, & this video really hit home. Thanks again, & I'll look up more of your videos. Have a blessed day..
Super video! She's great xx
You came on UA-cam at the right time
Thank you so much
Yes ive been telling myself “im behind i didnt start my business early” or “ im not gonna make it” “he’s doing business better than i am cuz he doesn’t have ADD”. To be honest im scared, im scared and want this to succeed to badly because i love my mission and i adore what i want to do and my purpose. I forgot about ego stories and stuff and wanted to eliminate self doubt immediately cuz it makes me feel stuck. Ill always work my best and never give up. No matter what.
yes. this is what you need to fill.
so that you can continue living