The Dark Night of the Soul (How to Get Through it)
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It’s like dying and entering the next life whilst being alive the whole time
You have entered into a phase of your spiritual development where you’ve been stripped of the false things you used to hold so dear. Your ego is a barrier to the truth that you are a divine being having incarnated into a human body to have a human experience. You could try to go back to your old life and old ways but those would seem empty. The remedies temporary. The relationships shallow and uninteresting. See this part through. You’re being cleared of negative things by thinking of negative things. Stuff that you buried for years is being brought to the surface so stick with it and use it as an opportunity to find out what your soul really wants. Sit down, shut up and listen to what your soul and the Universe is trying to tell you. It does not want you to be in pain. The Universe is all about healing you. True healing takes time, patience and sacrifice. It’s always darkest before the dawn and trust me that…The Light Is Coming.
Thank you so much for existing and writing this❤️✨
@@lillygeorge5008 You are very welcome George. Never lose hope. God loves you. You live in a peaceful and friendly universe. ✌️🙂☝️
@apollw always willing to help
@apollw You won't ever cease to exist, unless you decide to be reincarnated in the next life after death and that will essential wipe your memory or essentially deep sleep for ever until someone awakes you. I know it can be hard to fathom, but all of our consciousness are connected through the spirit of our creator God. We live in God's consciousness. Death is a illusion. I know it's tough to think, but you are a egg made of flesh living on Earth, our host, and when you die, you will shed your shell and be living energy. You WILL wake up in a dream like state after death. You are energy, which your soul. You are much greater than science states. Science is missing a ton of information. It's only basic observations around us. Science is what is making people depressed. Science states you are plainly this or that, and that's it! Modern conventional science takes out the spirit, and ignores the greater philosophy in life. They ignore the inner universe in us all. Only following science makes you a drone..Your consciousness is a electrical field produced by biophoton energy. There is a good source of energy all around you and in you, and that is God. Never lose hope, for there is a afterlife. Follow the love teachings, such as with Jesus, Krishna, and Buddha and you will be okay in the next life!!
Thank you 💝
This whole process makes me wanna run away from everyone and everything and go somewhere far away where nobody knows me lol 😆
Donovan, me too!
Donovan Evans flight response :) I have a strong one too
LOL I wanna go out in the mountains
@@ginanotaro1815 I wanna go to an island where no one lives!
Thank you..I thought thats only me
39 years of pain and isolation, just waking up at 40. My dad took my soul, but getting my light back. Don't worry about the ppl who don't understand.
how you doing these days?
Yeah but the industry is dramatizing the loss so it's amplified by the industry, you know? Be strong yourself and plan your own actions
So happy you're able to recognize what happened and regain yourself again. I hope it's going well.
Hey how are you doing today?
That is exactly where I am. 40 and putting myself back piece by piece. This video literally what I needed to hear. I'm so happy to see so many ppl are on this journey because I do feel very very lonely during this change.
I'm deeeeeeep in this right now. Intentionally isolating from everyone, shedding everything, reacquainting myself with myself, making plans to start completely over. I really do need to work on the self care piece though...
samee girl
I am right there with you.
Ditto
I was there last summer too but I had no choice about it, my sudden anxiety and panic attacks and then grief and sorrow that felt like depression forced me into it. In the summer, when all I wanted to do was enjoy on the beach and hang out with my friends but ended up spending it mostly alone in my room. Worst summer of my entire life! It was so horrible and I’m so grateful I managed to stick through it and get better. It’s a hard path but it’s worth it!
I believe in you :)
Mine lasted about 10 years. I called it a spirit sickness. It felt like apathy. I thought I had lost myself forever. Now 2.5 years into coming back to life, I am starting to believe that I am really changing and growing into a limitless being. There are still ups and downs. But the world is undeniably changing. Take heart.
There was a time for me prior to the dark night of the soul, where I could see puss just squirting out of my soul (in my spiritual eye)...and I could not grasp what was truly about to occur...my soul was so sick but am healing now after years of true misery...it's an eye opener...
Everything needed on eart-h truly comes from the h-eart. Even life in the womb, all begins with the heart.
Soo good to hear this. I'm like 2.5 years into mine right now, and knowing that there's someone out there who has taken 10 years for this and feels that it's been worth it, feels soo much better than I'm still doing the right thing.
13 years in!! So over it.
How to know its not depression
It's heaven, the other side. 26 years I was prisoner in my mind. Hang on. Never quit. Its a daily journey.
Thank you:)
🙏🙏
What are the best practices to do?
@Jamie Boyett guys the illness makes u or convinces u no one cares or notices. Reach out too someone you trust. I live in Ireland and everybody knows my condition. Especially my friends. Real friends. Also have God or even faith helps. U will find coping mechanisms. Let me hear your coping mechanisms??? ❤️🎄🙏
Wanna try something new? Let's first consider the fact that you've been struggling for so long doing the same things and in trying a new thing, you'll be losing nothing but possibly gaining insight you've never known before.
I DARE you to look into the character of Jesus, then when you like what you see, I dare you to befriend him.
My dear, you were never meant to do this life alone, that much I can promise you. Look to your Creator, look to Jesus and He He will welcome you with open arms.
I've been feeling sad and lonely but not in a normal way. It feels so much deeper than that. Like a soul level sad, a soul level loneliness. It feels so deep and intense that I sometimes think that maybe I'm feeling things that have been carried for lifetimes, and not just this one.
Me 2 hope you feel better
Sharon, trust yourself as you experience sadness and aloneness to the depths of your soul. Feel your feelings, accept them. Reach out to someone trained to understand your experience and who is able to support you and guide if you feel like giving up. Remind yourself that joy comes from the mourning. Remind yourself of this even when you don’t believe it. You will get through this. And when you begin to sense the other side is near, your soul will also sense and know forgiveness, compassion, hope, and joy as you’ve not known before. Beauty from ashes, strength from fear, gladness from mourning, peace from despair.” The Book of Isaiah
@@debbiekern3564 beautifull
@@debbiekern3564 aamen blessed you are dear...take care:)
Yeah and it also feels like something is changing so much internally
2018 acceptance • 2019 surrendering • 2020 self love
2016 accept
2017 surrender
2018 self love.
2019 don't really know.
I literally wrote this in my journal a few weeks ago.
2019 was weird as fuck
Goes with your username. Maybe your priorities in life are wrong.
i think humans are more connected than we understand, because this is exactly how my years have been too.
My dark night has been triggered by the fact that I’m being abused . I’ve never felt so alone surrounded by people who don’t make me feel loved or lovable. Thank you for this.
I hope you're better❤️❤️
Sending love I hope your OK 🙏💛
Me too. I saw how it went back to childhood after experiencing being under valued in 4 experiences back to back. I'm in all the feelings now. I affirm I accept this, not like! I don't have to like it nor do I forget it thou I forgive too
It’s okay babe you’ll make it. You’re not alone!!!
@@turkanismail1848 it’s not your fault people cant live up to our expectations but it’ll only grow you more
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this and you will find great strength.”
- Marcus Aurelius
I’ve been thru it,and oh boy,it was a rough ride.10 months later,i am sober,my wounds are healed,i reclaim my physical and mental health,lifting weights,jacked like i am never been before,i developed routine and discipline,i am hungry for knowledge,reading like crazy,study so many usefull topics,science,phylosophy,psychology,even found a new amazing woman,i am a new,much better person and people telling me that constantly,i am living to my full potential,it was all worth it
At age 57 I went through my own dark night of the soul. I had to eliminate ALL the toxic people in my life, they were slowly snuffing my light out. It was hard but I am on the other side now and able to take care of myself in the most loving way I can! My life is soooo much better now, full of joy and love!
Yes I been betrayed by most people on my life and cut off from all them completely, started the healing journey also I'm alcoholic and ex-drug addict and need to get rid of those and now feels a lot easier I hope to get there soon.
You can do it! I am sober 32 years and that was the decision that made all other decisions possible! I am rooting for you!@@h0stile420
@@h0stile420wishing you the best ❤
Just went through this and the power of God got me through into the light. My son died from an overdose and the shedding of the skin and transformation began.
THANK YOU for this video!!! I am a RN and have been soooo depressed and sick last year. I had the worst stomach pains and after a yr of testing nothing was wrong. I was so codependent my entire life and it literally led to a mental breakdown. I joined church, starting praying, started therapy and since the beginning of the year I quit my job, sold my home, changed my phone number. Its too many voices in my ears. I am starting a business now, meditating, going to yoga faithfully and IT IS LONELY. I am on my pursuit of happiness. God bless you!! Sending light and love from Dallas!
I welcome the loneliness, I don't have to entertain other people's insecurities. It feels good to feel the silence inside. It helps me to recognize who feels like an empty hole, of other people's codependencies and unhealed traumas.
I've been in this stage of healing for a year now. How painful it is, but being able to recognize the depth and vulnerability I am experiencing in myself has kept this painful time quite beautiful (not always 😆). My advice I would give to anyone going through this is do not listen to anybody in your life, but also remember that they want you to get better and they may be handling it in an immature way. At points in time I was manipulated which turned the dark night into a hopeless depression. Also keep in mind that its going to be intense. Remember to let it unfold as it intends to. The emotions are coming up from the child within. Be there for her/him. Earlier tonight was one of those intense moments. I had lost all control of what to do. I couldn't even sit for awhile, I was just standing there pretty terrified. That was until I gained the inspiration to sit down and meditate with solfeggio frequencies. This helped release emotions that were trapped in my heart. Anger came out, other strange emotional reactions came up, then a new wave of peace. That's the best part of the dark night. If you can sit with your pain and let it pass, a breakthrough always lies beyond and you come out stronger and more humble and compassionate.
Wow, seriously props to you💫
Wow thank you
thank you so much for this comment.
❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this comment. 💖
My hermit phase started a year ago, 6 months ago I cut all ties of my previous life and have been traveling to discover and align with my higher self. What an adventure!! It has been TOUGH but I am seeing the growth and changes in myself that I have only dreamed of before. I LOVE this journey so much, and I can say now I don’t hate myself anymore.
Where did you go? Who did you meet? So happy for you
@@SisiphoAmelieLeeZinja I’ve been in Peru, Belize, Mexico, India, Thailand, Bangladesh and currently Honduras.
It wasn’t one person specifically, everyone had a lesson for me to learn if I was open to learning. I am slowly getting to know myself through my intersections with others. Absolutely amazing 😄
@@HammzRadio Love it! Enjoy these little moments, they matter.
I hope you write a book!
@@preciousndirangu5004 that’s actually something I have given a lot of thought from the beginning - so there’s a strong chance I will 😃
I have been having such a hard time with my dark night. I’m such an active person I feel like I’m dying being still. Accepting has been the hardest part. I had to say goodbye to almost everyone. Thanks for putting this out it makes me feel like I’m not alone.
Your not alone, be around those who care
The same here 😂😘😘😘 thank you for sharing
🥺 I feel this
I get this
Even when you think you are "alone." You really aren't. Rest in your Being and you will discover a joyful presence, a peace of mind that you have never known before. NOTHING surpasses the ecstatic bliss and equanimity that it can give to you. The greatest gift that you can give to yourself, is YOURSELF!
I am 32 years old. I didn't know what i was experiencing but now i know it's called the dark night of a soul. I wanted to run away and end my life because of what I was going through and went through in life. My angels heard my cry. My twin flame came into my life i couldn't understand who he was either until he made me change my life. I am in a transformation of change and spiritual awakening. I put the alcohol and bud down. I surrender and face my problems. I let my kramic bf go. Im at number 3 on the list. It took me about 4 years to wake up after my twin flame made me realize what i needed to do in my life. I am going through this spiritual awakening for myself and to have a divine loving relationship with my twin flame in the future. I understand know why i kept seeing 111, 1111, 222, 333, 555, and 1010. Trust the process it's worth it.
It's crazy how this psychologist knows more about our spiritual nature then the pastor knows lol. It's wild religion takes psychology and uses what they want and blurs the rest so no one awakens. Religion is evil
This was my 2019.... trust the process 🦋❤️
Same (and most of '18)
Same.
Jesus, I thought I was the only one who thought the worst years of my life were 2018 and 2019. Literally everyone has said the same. What's going on?
@@domtron8873 Synchronicity, there are patterns unknown to us in our collective consciousness
Same I thought I was just on a huge negative life slope
Letting go of the need to know the outcome really has released me of a lot of pain 🙏❤️🌎sending love to those going through this moment . It does get easier I promise x
I'm in that hermit mode - I've done a lot with self improvement and gone to writing circles and retreats - started meditation practice and I love to hike - it's like I have to make myself get out - I got off Facebook one year ago and don't miss it - but I've picked up,youtube videos on narcissism - and a lot of higher conscious videos and self healing
You mention Narcissism - I learn a lot from Dr. Les Carter. He's on UA-cam and has written at least one book.
When I paused...all the people I had been giving my time, my energy, my everything to disappeared and couldn’t wrap their minds around that I could possibly need anything myself. Dark night turned into dark decade. BTW, I paused because my body gave out because I was too stubborn to step away with gentle nudges. Car accidents, son passing away at 31, abusive memories (which when ignored feels like self abuse).Please don’t wait for kaboom when a whisper is wise. Thanks for sharing. Your story touched me and allowed me to accept, surrender, that I am not “crazy or lazy or attention seeking” ...trolls will be trolls. Also, it takes time and self-care, compassion for our own journey, to come back to a place of ease and grace.
I did not wake up with gentle nudges too lol. I did not understand for a long period of time. My body gave out too.
Thanks for pointing this out. I thought I was the only one lol
Thank you for sharing this
Wishing you, and all of us going through this darkness, healing. Peace , light and joy🙏✨
This was EVERYTHING I needed to hear in this moment. THANK YOU. I know I will be revisiting this post continuously. I am in this period now and it is truly HORRIFYING. I am finding myself retreating fully, not even able to handle to noise of tv or social media, work, daily chores, etc. I have retreated from most relationships and am surrendering to the idea of leaving a toxic marriage. I am in absolute mourning. The emotions sit at the surface and take over in bouts of tears, shame, fear, and anger. I am allowing the emotions to pass through and acknowledging my betrayal to myself for the past decade. I look forward to the next chapter in my life after this deeply saddening stage. It is most difficult especially during the holiday season. Thank you for shedding light on this topic, Dr. Nicole❤🌚
Sending love. Keep healing. Maybe take a nice bath with epsom salt(make sure to drink water with pinch of salt for electrolytes) and light a candle and listen to a meditation.
@@SparkingLife111 baths are my favourite. A good place to let the tears roll. Thank you 💕
You are not alone 🙏🙏💞
Sending much love and healing to you.
I am in the same place - keep strong and fight your way back to the light while embracing the shadows. The isolation is a true sign that we are evolving out of our past paradigms, and as much as it can feel long and lonesome, it teaches us how to reconnect with who we are, and to shed those people and places which no longer serve our highest good.
This started for me August 2021. Has been the strangest toughest thing I have ever been through. A real roller coaster inside. My body has also had a pain inside. That hurt right down to the bone marrow. Still ongoing. Also got to see my whole life pass review and got to see a reality I denied. But started to take care of myself. Listen to what I want. Because I've been an uncivil doormat. Did exactly what everyone wants. But realized that there was nothing left of me. Take one day at a time. I disappeared when I was 7 years old. Now I'm getting to know myself again.
I have had similar experience, but for around a decade or more. Victim of psychopaths and social gang rapes. Ongoing. Toxic unbelievable stuff. Evil exists.
I feel like a total ghost, absolutely Terrifiyng.. I feel like a shell and there is no possible way of connecting with the outside world..
We are all going through this with you I know it's scary and not many people understand what this is. I am SENDING LOVE. I have been going through this for 4 years now. I just keep trying to push forward.
@@cliffkonkle3467 thank you. May joy, bliss and serenity fill our hearts again 🙏
Same here😞
@@VicSaidThat you aren't alone.
MrVic144 The word "she'll" that you used is the best description I've heard, yet.
I relate to your pain. We fight for survival and try to hang on to what we think we have to hang on to, but it is only when I let go mentally, emotionally and physically that things like loss, grief, fear, the pain inflicted by toxic people became clear. It’s not easy letting go of hopes and dreams, the way we think things should turn out, becoming the person we are and not the person we think we should be - are all burdens that fall away once we just let go. I now quietly plod through life with gratitude, sit in the sun, nourish my body, enjoy my work day and family life and strangely enough, things still get done.
Damn ok I didn’t know other people were experiencing this. needed to see this. This has validated my entire 2018-2019
Same. I gave myself 2018 to shed & heal & did. not. know. it would take up 2019 as well. I’m really ready to get through this. Blessings to you on your journey
wow. big props for dealing with this without the awareness of what was going on. Couldn't imagine. The internet has been a huge help for me
Oh my god. Same for me. I just realized, Hannah
Samee, i’m still not sure about the healing part tho
I’ve literally been doing this for the past 3 ish years in order to heal from insecurity and not feeling worthy of love. I didn’t know it had a name, i just thought it was a natural healing journey that I felt i needed to do.
Happy to say I’m finally ready for a relationship but there is a deeper level of healing i still must do. Honestly i feel once you start healing, you don’t ever stop. There’s no finish line, you just uncover more layers to yourself that you have to know and surrender and love. Its a wild journey and I’m surprised I’ve done it without guidance, at a young age. I have such a deeper understanding to life and I’m so grateful. ❤️
I have been through this more than once in life and always emerge better than before. Anyone else?
Once you realized who you are you are in an inescapable grasp, sure you might cling and attach onto your old patterns because it gets so painful but at some point you take the plunge, stray from the path into dark woods. SURRENDER! ❤
My 7 years old relationship ended and that bring me in this period. Alot happened in that time. I moved inward. I lost almost all my relationship except two best friends. I changed my career path. I think this time is about to end for me. It has been one and half years, and I'm so so thankful for whatever happened. Yes, it was very hard and painful but the result. I bow down to result 🙏. And the career i changed, very recently i felt protected. Turns out, i was crying for closed door that has nothing behind it.
I'm always gonna cherish you Dr Nicole. 🌸🙏 Wish to get old reading and watching you ❤️
“I was crying for a closed door that had nothing behind it” poetic and powerful 💚
Dick-shakal-Ra?
I’m in the middle of this transformation and this video just helped me so much thank you
Same
tyler solomon check as additional resources @Eckhart Tolle vídeos you will get there books like The untethered souls by Michael A Singer and the Power of Now by Eckhart T will do you great
I'm so glad, Tyler.
Me too!
That is a very good question...I have been in this for 2.5 years going on 3 with no end in sight although at times had glimpses at the light at the end of the tunnel. I experience situations of trauma and even did emdr therapy after a good six years nonstop of high level stress to where I basically lost myself (my spirit). However, everytime I got a little hopeful and when had enough energy to re-enter the world again, I continued to have issues (something was off) so I had more failures. Then the end of last year my two best friends died (both long time illness) plus I had a physical injury never had before which basically left me disabled for months. Then I made new goals to try again then COVID happened as well as a bad experience with a colleague. I think if 'life happens to you' constantly with little moments of uplift, it can continue going but for me it is scary because I can feel deep down it's not doing me good. I've experienced divorce, broken engagements, death before but I had a better support network and quickly got out of it (within two years totally rebounded and along the way felt stronger). This time, there is no lesson, no blessing, no strength just tiredness- even tried reiki and chakra balancing plus was thinking of doing a shamanic retrieval of the soul (even if a placebo affect I will do it!)...I think sometimes as life gets better, we get better. We don't live within a bubble and sometimes, we can't always pull ourselves up by our own boot straps if the laces are not just worn but broken in several places... just don't want this to become my identity. Good luck to you.
I've been in the dark night for a while now and it seems its never going to end. I have isolated myself completely and see no light whatsoever at the end of the tunnel...
Amanda L me too
There is light trust me! I have been there with absolutely nothing, no emotion, nothing to care about...it all comes back better every time xx
@@everyonesalama4447 Thank you so much for this comment! Although I don't see the light yet but stories like yours give me hope ❤
Yeah I never believed it either, and there is no way to show it, but you just have to hold onto that tiny flame burning inside. Best of luck gal xx
I tell you one fact, you can do it. Think of yourself as l. And dark is opposite. You see the dark. Like anything else, dark cant see you. You see this text, this text can't see you. Seeing is energy, spirit power. Dark never win. Been there done that. Even now l see dark, but their effect is minimal to me, without dark we don't see light. There is a saying that says when it's dark enough, only then we see stars. I love and care for you, because love been there, l hope these words can make you realise your holiness in you, the spirit in you.
It has been 3 years, 3 weeks in respiratory isolation and 1 existential crisis in late 2020 when I began my dark night of the soul. It began bed alone struggling to breathe with severe COVID19. I literally had to hit pause on my life. I was forced to reevaluate my life from within. I haven’t yet right in my mind and my body since 2020. I have taken a lot of soul cleansing time alone. Prayer, praise and worship, exercising, fresh air, trauma therapy, checking in regularly with safe people. Healing is a spiritual journey that exposes your shadow self to you. It requires focus and endurance to take on this work. Typically it takes a tragedy or an act of
G-d to force us into the dark night of the soul. It ain’t for the weak.
I’ve been isolating for a while but for the first time in almost 3 years, I feel like I can begin to open up my world again. 🙏🏽
Thank you for this content it’s like a heart hug of validation. 🥰
I'm going through this and dealing with addictions at the same time. Alot going on here and I'm having issues with self care. All I can say is that with all the isolation and loneliness I've been enduring something big is coming out of this. It's unexplainable but feels miraculous on some level even with all the pain.
I have gone back n forth w addictions. Sux.
The saying, “breakdowns lead to breakthroughs” as well as mental breakdowns can be spiritual awakenings. Both those fit for me personally. I hope you are doing well. Good thoughts and prayers to you. This is a hard time, and you’re not alone on this journey, it just feels like it.
Jackie James:Lisa Luby. Hi.
I was forewarned today was a biggie, let alone last 2 weeks, with the neck n dental emerging releases of pain, let alone the last 5 months of being by my self, in my Apt, having to leave yet more people n connections.
I just reread your share above, and It gave me Hope.
One mistake is i dont go out hardly ever, means i dont get a lot of movement, and been scouring the Internet looking at all the bizarre and unkind acts humans are dealing onto each other, as well as Weather catastrophes.
Maybe this has made my depression and single handedly battling addictions worse?
Certainly have done some Zoom Support meetings, meditation ones, etc, seems short lasting. How about you, how are you faring?
I kind of feel shitty having found your videos after 3 years because that’s when I needed them the most when I was going through a very very painful dark night of the soul that I thought I, honestly, wouldn’t make it through. I’ve had to do so SO much tattered and diy healing on my own because for some reason the healers and therapists I worked with NEVER helped and it was just a waste of money and I realized that the only person who could help me truly, was me. I’m a lot stronger and more accepting of my past and have healed A LOT but there are still some things that just have persisted. Your videos are truly healing and I thank God I found you and your content. Truly. You have no idea how special you are. Very few videos online provide such genuine and unbiased unsponsored content. Thank you from every cell in my being and from the depths of my soul. Thank you. 🙏❤️✨
For me this was a culmination of being extrovert and also very agreeable with poor boundaries. In a sense my whole world and identity was shattered when I started realizing that I was drowned in other people's voices and had to have a moment (or a few) of complete silence and solitude to hear my own voice for once. This was really helpful, especially the self care part 🙏 thank you and all the best
They say sunrise is when you wake up. So awoken up its your day.
' drowned in other people's voices'
Thank you for saying it so clearly
It’s a hard process and it’s been about two years and counting. Peace and love to everyone surrendering to a better self
Given that one clears themselves from any form of distraction (becoming inactive on social media platforms, going celibate etc.) for a period of time, then it really seems to enhance the overall experience of acceptance and surrender. I have not felt this emotionally liberated as long as I remember; when all the dark memories surfaced, there was no distraction that could numb the pain but all I could do was face said fear and memories and see things for what they were, not what they feel like. Essentially creating a new, objectively more correct narrative of our life.
I have felt hopelessness since about Sept. I stopped working out, I binge on TV...and am not feeling like myself at all. I finally admitted this to my husband and it felt freeing. I am now mediating everyday, walking my dog outside, and I have definitely surrendered to the process. Thank you for this video as it makes so much more sense and I do not feel alone. I am seeing signs consistently that I am making progress all be it slow but I am grateful to you and your message.
What are the signs that ur making progress? Would love to know so i have hope
@@umchileanywaysso I say this with kindness and compassion. The meditation would be helpful to address changes in the ability to slow down our racing or repetitive thoughts. It helps to notice our ability or inability to think differently, address fearful thinking and ways to work through and shed those thought processes. Getting outside and walking is a huge sign of progress as it is in opposition to isolating on the couch, and binge-watching TV or internet (her description). Exercise affords us fresh air, a surge in beneficial brain chemicals and our body gets to move and see the open expanse of the world outside our home. Hope that helps.
I have definitely been here since March. I go through periods of accepting and acknowledging this work, checking out and binge watching Netflix, and going into old patterns and actions. Interestingly when I go back to those old spaces, my awareness is totally different. Rose colored glasses off. Armor down. It’s super vulnerable and incredibly sobering to observe how I showed up before. I’m struggling with self forgiveness and self compassion. I really am struggling to like myself right now or see any kind of value or purpose. ho'oponopono has helped with the self judgement some. But I feel like I’m getting stuck and losing myself spiritually. Really struggling to swallow the truths around relationships that no longer work for me and how to verbalize that as well since I’ve always been the caregiver and peace worker. This work is so. Fucking. Uncomfortable.
Regardless you are growing, always growing. Growth is painful. Cultivate some faith. ❤
Wishing you peace, love, joy and blessings 🙏✨. I am going through my own lonely journey and it is very painful, but we have to be strong and believe that we will get through this ✨ and come out stronger and wiser🙏✨
So much support out there for all of us in this. Whoever you are and where ever you are, I thank you. We are not alone. Our friends and family might never understand. We can't even begin to try to explain. But all of us here are here for each other.
You are right . I always felt alone. All I wanted was to connect
I know. Me too. I feel closer to people on UA-cam than my “friends” and “family”
The self care part is so difficult.... most days making myself breakfast or even showering is difficult.
Me right now. It's been going for a month, I think I passed the worst of it but there's still some left over. God, the things I have felt... fucking terrible. The memories, the emotions, the shame, just came pouring out. I also had to let go of my constructed identity. It's like when a snake sheds old skin. It's so painful but a necessary process. My ego tried to fight it, but when you say "surrender", that is key.
You're not alone 👌. Same here beyondios.
beyondios same here right now,sending you love!
And I thought something was wrong with me. That I'd be overreacting to the pandemic, that I'd have become oversensitive. Instead, it's my beloved body and stressed-out nervous system asking me for a special time of pause, silence, unfurling and recovery. Thank you so much for that video!
And love to everyone who's in this like me right now. It'll be awesome.
This has taken me about twenty years. Love this! I didn't know this was what they call the dark night of the soul. It takes longer when you have an illness or trauma to work through but once you get to a certain point you get moments of bliss☺⭐🧡 Respect the process
I feel like I'm well and truly about to enter into this phase. As of yesterday, my relationship with my partner came to an end. I feel a deep sadness that it is no more, but I feel like it is what is needed for both of us to evolve. I have also come to the realisation that my 'friends' are probably no more than peripheral acquaintances. It's a peculiar paradox of emotions. On the one I hand, it feels isolating for I see that the bonds I had with them really didn't resonate truly to who I am. On the other, I feel as though my spirit has just taken a deep breath. I'm aware of genuine change within me and it feels right. I also am reminded of what good elements I have in my life, that I am thankful for. Thank you for all of your work, and all of your wisdom that you share.
I started my healing journey after ending a relationship and I’ve never felt so alone. Surrender really resonated with me bc I am letting go of my need to always have someone I am super close with who can “parent” me. I’m now trying to be that person for myself, but it’s hard to watch other people seem to have all of those meaningful friendships/relationships you gave up bc they weren’t fulfilling. It’s very reassuring that there is a term for this period and I’ll try to keep this in mind as I’m moving through it.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 445 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I'm not sure how I ended up coming to find out about "DNOTS." I think it was a message. I've struggled with depression for most of my life. I was doing okay for a bit. Then the dark night hit. I knewww it wasn't normal depression. I recognized it as an existential crisis. DNOTS makes so much sense. My heart and love goes out to all of you going through this. I know it's tough. It's worth it though.
Ye, i have felt that. I think though that eating cashew nuts with a glass of apple juice can push nutrients to the nerves.
I'm amazed by the fact that I listened to this video exactly when I most needed to, it describes exactly what I'm going through right now and although it's scary to lose your old structure but I'm pretty sure that me and everyone else deserves to heal and to live a true, authentic, fulfilling life. Sending my love to everyone who's going through this phase, you're not alone ❤️
Dr Nicole...thank you so much truly for your work. I am in the dark night of the soul, years of holding onto trauma and being stuck in fear its manifested itself into chronic fatigue syndrome and literally forced me to enter into a deep healing hibernation. I’m on day 116 of future self journaling and while the journey is tough I am so filled with gratitude for the changes that are taking place and for the first time in my life I am full of HOPE and excitement for my future not fear. Sending love to all the self healers going through the dark night. Remember the dawn will always follow ❤️
Thank you so much for this !!! This is why mainstream psychology fails people sometimes because we are spiritual beings as well ( no matter what religion I mean, we all have a soul) I have been in this phase. Forcing myself to be social forcing myself to hang on to dead relationships because psychiatrists thinks I'm wanting to play worldcraft in my basement. Or that I should be freaked out of being alone. No I love people, always have always will but I will focus on others when I'm ready. My soul has literally been begging me to let go and go inward. The old me is dying. I'm figuring the new me. My emotions are at an all time high and while if you feel called to hang out thats totally fine. I still socialise. But I have become okay with going within and loving myself and nurturing myself because this is the season. I'm in in my life right now and that is okay ! Honor that !
This energetic shift has filled me with angst and full days of epiphanies. I think being very ill and reliant on care from a toxic abusive family dynamic is breaking me.
marzigeisha - you are not alone! ❤️
@@adiscourse9489 thank you. I have realised as much as this hurts, it means I'm growing super fast. Thanks for being you. I'm her holding space for you xxx
you’re not alone ❤️
@@umvmi thank you 💛 masses of love to you 💛
That sounds awfully hard, I've said a prayer for you. Remember, they can't touch your soul, even if they behave meanly towards you. All the best.
Wow Thank you Nicole. I am in tears....tears of resonance and gratitude! A phrase came to me the other day: 'embrace the heaviness'
Bree Tree Thank you for this insight. :)
I am a go getter and achiever and it's very hard. Had no clue what was happening since I awakened and thought everything should be fine. Time and patience is the answer. Thank you for doing this vid.
That was me in 2019...I did not give myself timeline but for some reason by dec 2019 I felt ready to evolve and restore my soul.now I am so Inlove with myself,I listen to my intuition and I don’t give myself a hard time when things don’t go accordingly.no more chronic anxiety because I trust the universe will provide for me whatever I need ❤️❤️❤️
That’s beautiful. I hope to get there one day
This post is SPOT ON and much need for anyone going through the dark night of the soul.... so eloquently put and easy to comprehend. Thank you 🙏🏾 ✨
I needed to hear this. All of this! This has been my biggest struggle, I am addicted to work and care giving, and my inner child and ego have been in riot mode for awhile. Thank you!
Always good to hear another person, who’s experienced this, express that this is a normal process we need to surrender to when we can. Surrendering to it can be half the battle ❤
I was introduced to your posts during my dark night of the soul....and this post really helped coz I want to be in isolation....it felt good to be validated that it's ok,it's healing.hugs
This was just what I needed to hear so succinctly. Thank you for your precious brevity and infinite clarity! 😎
Three years in!!! Nice to know I’m not alone.
I began to suspect this is related to our jobs.
Eyad Almarhoon it’s related to our identity and inner yearning for truth.
I’m three years in too. We can do this
You are an amazing soul, Nicole. I love all of your work, and feel it is so authentic and genuine. Thank you for bringing it to the World!
Thanks for this! It's such a big difference to hear someone who has the knowledge say this. It's reassuring. It helps us to continue working on ourselves. :)
I feel like I'm finally coming out of 10+ years of dark nights. This all makes a lot of sense, and I can relate to everything you said. Definitely going to watch more of your videos. :)
This was also my life since June, a major transition, transformation and shedding of what no longer served me. I'm so grateful I had the time to really breakdown everything and rebuild my life into what is more authentic and truthful for me. I feel more me than ever before. Your guidance as been a real bright spot and a great tool during this time.
So glad I found this...Deep in this period right now. I’ve been judging myself and the period of isolation I’ve been in
Thank you 🙏🏻 I was feeling so guilty for walking away from certain relationships. I felt a responsibility to be there for them and I was putting myself in a negative mindset for their sake. I’m releasing that guilt and moving forward today thanks to this video. Sometimes we just need to hear that it’s ok to protect ourselves.
Oh yes. I’m on my 20th yr of doing all the things you teach.
I’m grateful to you for teaching on this social media stuff.😁
I can’t believe I found this. It’s like you were talking of my life too. I’ve been through so much of my grieving/healing alone. And there was some instinct that I just had to be patient and surrender. Losing relationships that were 30 years old, has been the hardest for me. But hearing you experienced the same has brought me such comfort. I’m now patiently awaiting the new tribe. Thanking you so so much for putting this out there….and I will definitely be following along. Love to you 🙏🏻❤️😘
Still there its been (3) yrs now. I believe its coming to an end.
Greatful for this. Bless you so much.
Oh my goodness - what a great video! It explained so much of what I’m going through. In particular, it validated the confusing feelings of loneliness that I’m having, even though I no longer want to be with most of the people I’m in relationship with. Surrender is very hard for me, but this helped me see all the little, yet very important, places where I need to give myself a break. Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much for the work you put out, it is bringing such great things into my life. Because of your video, I realized that this is what I am going through right now. It’s so painful and bc I’ve been through such painful things in my life already and now I’m experiencing more intense pain, I feel quite hopeless. But to know that other people are going through it and you telling me that it’s a natural part of healing is so good to hear. I can’t begin to explain just how reactive I am to everything right now. I have an emotional response to everything and it’s so irritating. I just want to feel good. Thank you for making this video, it’s helping me a lot.
I’m currently suffering from depression. I literally walked out of my ER great paying job and didn’t go back. I’m so disappointed in myself. Every day It feels like I hit a wall and my dreams are just a figment of my imagination.
God bless u!💝
Hugs to you. I hope you are ok right now.
I feel you. Know that you are not alone
i feel the same
Omg this is so weird, I’ve been reading up on this all day. Thank you for an amazing video as always!
Jasmine .M anything else helpful youve found? :)
I'm going through this for a while now and i didn't really know it had a name. This is so reassuring and encouraging. It means the world to me. Thank you. I love you so much. Bless your soul and may your life be joyful.
This is so helpful as I am currently experiencing the dark night of the soul. As you know, it can feel like a very isolating experience - and to a certain degree, it is. I just don't have the energy to give to others at this time. So, thank you for your insights and for providing a sense of community, connectedness, reassurance and comfort.
This was the answer that I didn't know that I was seeking. I've been going through this phase not sure what was happening, but you just hit the nail on th head. Living in alignment with myself.
Me too! You are not alone!!
This video is best video explaining what ive went thru last 18 months. Thank you.
🙏🙏 20 months for me so far
Thank you so much for making this video!
This is EXACTLY what I’m going through right now. Something inside of me tells me it is important, so I do want to accept it, but at the same time it’s really difficult for me to deal with the feeling of loneliness. I am also only 22 so most of the people around me are doing the exact opposite. Which makes me doubt my own decisions sometimes, but your video gives me the reassurance that I’m on the right path! So again, thank you very much ❤️❤️❤️
you just explained my life right now... 🙏🏼
I love this ... I was instinctively doing all these things before I realized that I was going through a spiritual awakening
Let me tell you. Its wild. And it can come in phases until you are fully aligned. But I'm so deeply grateful. This is the best description ever. Thank you ❤🥂
Well said!
@@TheHolisticPsychologist I was totally referring to your description 😁
Thank you for this video. It's reassuring to know that I am not alone in experiencing this, and that there lots of other people engaging with this healing journey too. Blessings to us all!
I am so grateful to have found this channel
I just want to say thank you.
My girlfriend kept telling me about you, I've had some weird things happen recently that made me start watching. I wish I would have started sooner, but I'm thick headed and she understands that. So Thank You for doing what you do.
I come back to this video ever so often & I always thought that healing was sunshine and rainbows. It consists of thunderstorms and rainy days too and that’s what I’m trying to accept. That healing is a very complex choice that one makes in order to find their inner peace. At the young age of 19, I thank you for sharing this information to better inform us fellow healers that we are still on the right path despite our struggles and fears💚🦋
Somehow UA-cam or the internet seems to provide things I really need at the moment, and this is perfect for me, describing the process I'm going through and what I need to look at. Many thanks, Dr Nicole.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. After watching this I could finally understand what was happening to me and was given the gift of understanding. I felt today that I was at the end of my rope and you just helped me find a life line.
Nicole you are a real professional in your profession!!! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and opening the door to healing souls. Holistic phsycology, holistic medicine is actually the only true remedy. Health systems are just an emergency with symptomatic treatments, nothing else. Please, continue sharing:)
this is for me. i automatically isolated as much as possible with a family. My spinal surgery and this quarantine were the perfect 'excuse'. As an adult survivor of childhood trauma, I was 100% out of alignment. everything you said is validation that my own instincts need to be my guide.
This came at the perfect timing...thank you for your work Nicole
Oh man did I need this video this morning. Thank you so much. I am deep in this exact process in my life right now, perhaps have been for quite some time, and have finally decided to do something about it. Whatever that means, whatever that may bring. Moving 3,000 miles away, with not much at all. Thank you for this.
Last august, i left a relationship and found myself in an extreme amount of grief and pain. Depression, dreams of this person, detached, and was soon after having bulimia issues. I began hearing tarot readers refer to me experiencing the dark night of the soul. I cant even describe the level of pain going through this. Thank you for the direction and the video, im lost right now.
Make sure you cut off your soul tie if you still think of him!
If you don't know how, you have to dismantle him in your head down to the truth of who he was, not the imagined version that keeps him in your heart and head. Bring it to the bear facts x
Thank you for the clear explanation. I've been distancing myself from a few people due to overwhelm and part of me was feeling like maybe I was turning anti-social. This gave me another perspective.
This was so so helpful! I've been going through this for around a year and a half and I didn't even know that it is a thing called the dark night of the soul! I just felt a relief that it's normal.. thank you so much!! ❤
My goodness. It’s a as if your described the experience I’ve been growing through these past two years. Wow. It’s refreshing to listen to your expression of your experience. Thank you graciously for sharing.