Hi Alexander, could you change the title so the subject of this video is showing? I want to watch this again later or show it to someone and being able to find it again.
I agree. I become unconcerned with these sort of advices. This will only work on low quality women who will look at this and say: "hell yeah, that's right". A good woman will know she's full of crap. So, I don't mind this message getting across other low quality women. It makes our job easier.
A lot of this also comes back to men having standards. Don't be afraid to walk away. There's always going to be another guy willing to tolerate disrespect.
I was engaged and 2 months away from getting married. Left her. I couldn't deal with the attitude, arguments, Nas disrespect anymore. Men need to stop having a scarcity mindset.
It’s not controlling or jealousy to not want your girlfriend showing off their body, it’s actually because those men want commitment. Dressing modestly and not flirting with other men is a signal of how committed she is to the relationship, and by proxy how much she actually loves you. Showing off skin draws attention and is a signal that they’re open to forming a relationship or sleeping with someone else. It’s the equivalent of flirting with someone other than who you’re dating. Is it cheating? Not necessarily. But is it a signal that your relationship is weak? Yeah, it is.
heres the thing, theres nothin wrong with being jealous over ur significant other, it means that the spark is still there, the love is still there, its only natural, the day you stop being jealous over them is the day you lost love for them.
Yeah, and I do disagree with Alex on this case, if your relationship is that weak, you're gonna lose the game as a man if you start being controling now. Best is to be stoic and not care if she dresses that way, she wants attention by other men AND you to react emotionally to it, for you to start getting irrational and lose your poise you've given in to her will. People do exactly what you try to not make them do, that's not just women. Not giving an emotional reaction makes it an uninteresting thing to do, if you're still in a relationship she will care more about your reaction than anybody elses and if men start hitting on her and you're like "It's only because how you dress and I don't like it!" you do come over as insecure. Instead, just not care about how other try to get her and be confident enought to know she will come back to you anyways and show affection when she does... most likely she was trying to get attention in the first place because she didn't feel secure in you and the relationship anymore, so be a man and fix it!
@@easy8077 Aleander Grace's messages seems to be weak in many cases because he still has hope in a relationship with modern women, at the same time that makes him a "good guy". You don't have to try to convince any woman about what is a proper behavior, that's not your job, that had to be her parents job 10 - 15 years ago. If she dresses sluty, you have to tell her that you don't like it, if she tells you that you're controlling her, you only have to tell her "good bye" The best phrase to control a woman it's "good bye"
Clothing is communication. Women understand this as they are naturally more skilled in communication. In fact, clothing is excellent communication for a woman who wishes to keep her options open because there's always plausible deniability ("I dress like this for myself! You're just insecure!") Women understand that to dress in an attention seeking manner will do just that: attract attention.
@do br Male vs female attraction is completely different. Even if a really good looking man were to show of his body the attention he'll receive is nothing compared to what an average looking women wearing revealing clothes will get. It's also a very different kind of attention usually more sexually aggressive and persistent not subtle. So this puts the male in a weird spot where he's constantly competing for his supposedly committed girlfriend. This competition can e get violent at times too. PS: Yes, I know it's long post but there's a lot more nuance to the topic it's not a simple as you think.
In 2021 all women are raised to dress sexy, it’s just normal these days. There is something called social pressure. Im not sure what you guys expect how she will go out with friends and dress conservatively, just so you guys can sleep well. All my gfs could dress the way they wanted, I date a sexy women so I let her be sexy. I never had issues once with cheating. It’s a character trait, not a dressing issue. Dressing sexy these days is just normal. If you state such expectations to a good women, you will lose her quicker than you got her. Trust me.
@do br He probably wore jeans and a full body costume if that attracts women is that intent? If a women where’s less clothing and is in a relationship what does that signify?
Single women keep other women single. Girls night out or trip abroad, wearing hookerish clothes, posting yours scantily clad on pic on IG despite being in a relationship are habits of single women craving the attention of other random men. The woman should crave for attention fo the Man in the relationship and not from other men.
@TradMum same. I had a lot of "friends" like that too. They were miserable and wanted to keep everyone miserable with them. That is why I didn't share a lot of information with those women unless I already felt like a relationship was already over.
It is interesting that on the one hand women will proclaim that men only want one thing, but will simultaneously believe that they're special due to receiving attention based upon their s*xuality.
Most of the women complaining about that are complaining about that in the context of men who just immediately try to have sexual relations with them. Nudity itself isn't inherently sexual.
Girl exposes herself to cheating by dressing provocatively... then blames man for not paying attention to her and stopping her from cheating.... this is super common!
@@technoloverish i love your go to.. So wearing a bikini is too sexy and is flirting. YES.. YES IT IS.. *IF* you are wearing it where noone else is doing that. The reason why it's not considered slùtty at the beach is because everyone there is doing it. SO if 1 person there is doing it it's not that obvious. A girl wearing a bikini at the beach.. hardly gets noticed.. but if the SAME girl wore it to a restaurant.. you would be hating on her for distracting your boyfriend.
@@namewithheld7835 No, though as this channel uses what other animals do as a basis for what's natural and what's moral for us, the logical conclusion would be that we shouldn't be wearing clothes, since other animals don't do.
These are the same women that don't understand why men won't date them when they have an Only Fans. "Wait, you're breaking up with me because I have an Only Fans that you didn't know about?" Imagine my shock.
@@technoloverish I don't know if I'd call myself a Christian fundamentalist, nonetheless I do believe these types of women probably aren't attracting the right type of relationships.
Guys, don't try to explain why dressing up, flirting with guys in nightclubs etc is wrong. You think they don't know? Women understand social interactions much better then we do, she knows exactly what she's doing. So you either have a woman who respects you, and it will be obvious to her why she can't behave like that. Or you are dealing with someone who doesn't - it that case she's just manipulating you, and you will only look like a fool, trying to explain obvious things to her. You will just lose her respect even more. It shouldn't be "could you please stop doing it, it hurts my feelings because of A, B, C and D " but "you either stop doing it or you can find another man, end of discussion". She will either leave you right there, which means she did not appreciate you in the first place, or she accepts it and you gain her respect for being uncompromising. Frankly I wouldn't even do that - she does something unacceptable, you just start giving her less and less attention, she will know why.
To be able to pull this off you have to be completely comfortable being alone. Society tends to shame well off men who don't have a leech to provide for.
@@superoriginalname most people don't care what you think, the only thing they respect is strength. Also, a woman not being able to tell what you think only works in your advantage.
...dont forget shes allowed to flirt with other guys in front of your face and if you complain you are toxic. Ex of mine was empowered to sleep with 3 of my friends (also all coworkers before she showed up and started working with us). Such alpha female yasss queen boss energy to destroy the entire workplace dynamic by collecting my friends DNA as if it was a game of Pokemon Go
@@jasonBGI ya know what? I would almost have rathered that than the mental torment of getting my social circle at the time destroyed. I didnt even chase her at the start. Shevtried her best to get my attention...then when i finally caved she started with all the games
Okay ... so with this logic I'd say I should start dressing slutty, too. At least I'd know then which man is worth to invest all of my time and energy in.
@@JJ-hu4cm Depending on the stage in a man’s life or what they’re looking for at that time, it’s all good. So, please don’t get it twisted, men love women that dress slutty for everyone’s eyes to see… Their just not seen as long term relationship material.
Yea bros. Open Tinder, harmlessly chat with people who happen to be women, have fun. Go to Thailand or Brazil with your buddies, have fun. Go out with your ex-girlfriend to catch up, because she's 'just a friend' now - have fun! Flirt, not because you're cheating, but because flirting is fun - have fun! If your girlfriend has a problem with any of this she's "jealous and insecure". Lol, imagine behaving like a woman.
LOL exactly. These same women would have a full blown mental breakdown if their boyfriend anything even close to similar. Newsflash: when you're in a relationship, you're no longer simply an individual. You can't be a full blown narcissist all the time and do whatever you want. This goes for men and women. This excuse of have fun do whatever you want is childish and idiotic. Anybody who thinks like this woman is not worth your time.
@@Conservative_carnivore yeah. Your girlfriend wouldn’t like you to look at those girls because she knows why are they dressed that way lol… it’s so ironic 😌
Yup. Don't waste time arguing and controlling. Stand by and watch her actions reveal her intentions, then act accordingly. Let her dig her own grave. Arguing will only make her continue doing what she wants covertly, while further hiding her true character. If she asks why you're suddenly pulling back, tell her you're embarrassed.
I am so happy that I started watching your content. Now, whenever I get into an argument with my girlfriend, I can remain calm and make the points that you explain to us instead of getting angry as I did in the past.
The best way to stay calm is to simply accept the consequences of your beliefs and values. What I mean is, accept how other people will react to them. Express them with conviction and don't sway, no matter how she reacts. If she wants to break up, so be it. If she doesn't care about how you feel, then leave her. Most importantly, if you both disagree with eachother on something so important, you aren't meant to be togeather.
@@tromboner6061 Why is this channel not the best for people in relationships? I broke up because I realized that I was not fit to be in a relationship yet. I am fine tbh. Also, Thanks Trom.
Ironically, they always pride themselves as being "empathetic" although I'm not sure they actually know what empathy is, apart from it being a popular buzzword.
If she dresses provocatively, it means she wants to provoke you, cause there isn't enough "excitement" (i.e. chaos) in your relationship. Consider it over.
I always grew up being self conscious about my body, and always covering up my arms and legs. I usually wear edgy clothes that aren't feminine whatsoever, which probably explains why men never approach me. And you know? That's a wonderful thing, me and my boyfriend won't have to worry about unwanted sexual attention
I feel this. I grew up dressing very modestly but at some point it actually got me more male attention instead of less. I eventually learned to appreciate utility, edginess and self expression, not repetition. Who wants to look like everyman's sex bimbo if you can be fit and ready for the apocalypse. And when I want to be "sexy" on a date with my hubby, what's hotter than becoming a terrifying vision of the queen of the underworld?
And if your going to the same party, enjoy all the other girls wearing not a lot and watch what insecurity really looks like - she will post another tic toc video on this.
The viewing of a woma's body to random men is a problem. It's on the same level as a man spending his money, that she believes should only be spent on her, on other women. Not a woman out there that wouldn't be pissed if a guy did that and it prevented her from getting what she wants.
Bingo. It'd be like saying well honey I spend the most money on you and come home to you, so don't be insecure and worry about those other women. Don't be "controlling" of my resources.
But from an evolutionary perspective, dressing modestly is unnatural and human invention. No other animals require females to cover their body and such.
@@technoloverish Yeah but the males in other species mate guard very strongly. They don't allow their female to wonder off to have other opportunities unchecked. In humans if a male mate guards a woman he's "restrictive" or "insecure".
If she doesn't feel powerful as a human person or secure in the relationship, she compensates by trying to feel sexually powerful and demonstrating to the room that she can do as she pleases because she is valuable. It is actually HER insecurities that inspire her to seek this kind of validation. She may just want more of your attention and isn't mature enough to communicate it effectively. But some women love being single and you just have to let them be single. For years I've loved getting dressed up to go out with my husband. Like, too dressed. I love the formality and the mystery of layers and gowns etc. But lately, he's been really into me wearing more provocative outfits when we go out. Things I would never choose to wear myself, even if I were single. I mean, right on the line between sexy and downright trashy. He's not insecure because he knows I literally only dress that way for him and that I'm not going to socialize with men, or anyone really, while we're having an evening together.
Every issue I've seen popularized by feminism, or widely accepted by women, to judge men is a projection of their own flaws, weaknesses, and insecurities. I've gotten to the point where I don't care anymore when I hear certain arguments. Women who do show understanding are so rare.
Trad Mum - Patriarchy was a fair and balanced system, it created the world you live in and everything you use in your daily life. No, it wasn’t perfect. But it at least was better than the gynocentric social order we now live in. Under this men still have all the responsibilities and zero authority, how is that fair? Females want equality and yet want a taller richer smarter man than them. I don’t see any females demanding equality in family court system, do you? “The patriarchy” that you and all other feminists use is not really what patriarchy is but feminists never really cared about facts, truth and reality.
I'm sure that she would readily understand if you dismissed her criticisms of your behavior and attempts to control you and consequently dumped her for her "insecurities".
Seriously, thank you wonderfully unraveling this and articulating it in a way everyone can learn from. I have had this problem and never was able to refute "you're being insecure"
and they keep asking why are men not in relationships... well if it's a one sided road and one party gets to do whatever they want while the other party is essentially in shackles. what idiot would want to be in that kind of relationship
There are several ways I always handle the controlling/insecure manipulation tactic women employ. 1. If I am not really invested in the woman I walk. We are done. 2. If I am invested emotionally I will do something like this....tell them "oh no, you misunderstand me. I am NOT telling you that you can't do what you are telling me I am controlling/insecure about. I am telling you that you won't like the consequences that come from your decision to disrespect me/our relationship. Which leads to her saying some variation of "is that a threat?" My response is "It is a promise. I will never abide disrespect from you or anyone." If you have shown your word is your bond they will KNOW you have given them their walking papers if they continue their current course. The other way I have handled it is to laugh when they call you controlling and say "I don't care. Watch what happens if you continue with your actions. I dare you." Both of those are basically drawing a line in the sand. Never draw the line if you aren't prepared to follow through.
You can be my girlfriend or you can be my friend with benefits. You’re attitude, behavior, and the way you dress will tell me which one you’ve chosen. This same girl will also wonder why she can’t get a man to commit to a serious relationship 🤦♂️
Plenty of women who wear bikinis and such successfully find committer relationships. You're probably only experienced in the context of Christian fundamentalist communities.
@@technoloverish I have no problem if my gf wants to wear a bikini to the beach. Wearing a bikini (or less) out on Halloween and we got a problem. That's just asking for trouble and I'm going to be the one expected to fight every drunken idiot trying to grab her so ... no thanks ... you can deal with the consequences of your own bad decisions I'm not gonna cover for you.
@@evanragland4930 Yeah, I'd agree that wearing something like that for Halloween would be strange, at least in context of our culture. People don't usually dress like that for such an occasion in our culture. However, I wonder if such thing might be more appropriate in a culture in which that was the social norm or something.
Every man in this household had dreamt of the possibility of a non manipulative real honestly loving woman to 'give their life' for but it is these kinds of women that are described in your video (which seemed to assert the image of woman most for them growing up) that have rendered the men asking the question is pursuing a relationship with a woman really actually worth it if there are not extremely clear signs that they found one. It is sad, men and women are people, it use to be that you might find a couple that were both in it for the elevation and love of the other's good. How confidence in that dream has diminished. Let us keep it real ladies and gentlemen.
@@JJ-hu4cm Thank you for your concern. I am very secure being single and I only get anxious when someone tries to change that by offering me a turn. NEXT. Perhaps you had that song by Alex Harvey in mind?
Great topic, Doctor Grace. I had this issue with my wife who was an Asian version of Jessica Rabbit. She would wear low cut blouses to our workplace (we worked at the same company - a large corporation, different departments). Once I caught the cafeteria help leering over her after they finished dishing her out some food. I would try to explain this to her, but her typical response was: "I can't help it that I have big boobs!" The final straw was when she wore a tight blouse with tight jeans and her jeans tucked into knee high leather boots. "So, what street corner are you working at today?". I don't know if it was my comment or if someone had a chat with her, but she dialed her outfits back a couple notches after that. I hope you send your response video to the girl that made the first video. It may give her something to think about. I think many of these women have been indoctrinated with toxic Feminism and don't really know it. My wife certainly was. While we were living apart she caught CoVid and it took her out in jan2021. RIP Michelle Natividad Mascella.
Riiiight... telling young women to intentionally invite extra sexual attention that their boyfriend then has to respond to perfectly, forcing him to navigate potential public confrontations with drunk dudes, etc... that's great advice. 🙄
Good way for the boyfriend to end up in jail or a hospital depending on the outcome of those confrontations. Maybe she likes to have men fight over her for even more ego gratification, that would be as bad or worse. Any sane guy doesn’t go looking for fights but also isn’t going to just stand there if his GF is being brazenly hit on either.
My girlfriend likes it when I tell her to wear something, "cute," or "sexy," or "feminine," or "cool," or whatever. In fact, before we started dating I would comment on her clothing if she wore something nice (we worked together) and, very soon she started trying harder with her appearance. She said she liked the fact that I noticed. And why not? So often girls spend an hour trying to look good, then spend the entire day with beta males who are too afraid of MeToo to show any attraction. If a girl looks good (femine, not slutty), tell her, you're doing no one a service by letting mainstream media solely dictate to them what's hot or not. So, yes, tell your girlfriend what you like and don't like. Tell her that you want to be proud of her when you go out and, likewise, she should expect you to look good for her too, so she can also be proud.
Wow, all these years I'd always thought I was so insecure whenever other guys were checking my girlfriend out. Thx so much for this video. Much love from Singapore Alexander:)
I've never understood why men even bother discussing this kind of thing with women. As if it's our job to train the bad instincts out of them and, like a masochistic Michelangelo, work and struggle to carve a wifey out of a block of slutty marble. Our time and energy is better used finding a woman who already has wifey instincts to begin with. This is why when I found myself in this situation, I simply asked them if they're sure that's how they want to present themselves, that they've truly thought it through and believe that's the right choice, and then I dumped them when they replied yes. Every man has heard the phrase "can't make a wife out of a ", and yet it seems every man tries to do exactly that. Is this because we're all idiots, or the odds of finding a woman with wifey instincts are so low? Or perhaps both? lol
It's because they get attracted to their garden tools bodies and beauty in the first place, and then they pretend to change it, which is indeed stupid because that's what you chose
A little of both, that's why if she chooses you obviously you want her to be high quality.. Most often she is not and like you say is the man who has to put himself first and get out before getting hurt.
Yeah I learned this the hard way.kept thinking eventually something in her head would click , but I realized why is it my job to ask for a women to she me the bare minimum that is respect. It's who she is , and even if she attempts to change to appease you, it's just means she'll eventually do it and or find better ways of hiding her behavior
If you really think "wifey material" is defined by the choice in clothing, I feel sorry for you. As if a sexy dressed woman wouldn't be able to be a loyal, loving partner. Or as if every plain Jane would automatically be sincere, humble and agreeable. Oh, what an easy black and white world it would be, right?
I personally don't care if my GF dresses slutty when she goes out as long as she doesn't cheat and is safe (shares location, goes with friends, keeps me in the loop), but each relationship is different and not even hearing your partner out is major bs
if she wants to dress whatever she wants, you start approaching other women in clubs. simple as that. if she says she just wants to look good for herself, you say you just want to talk to people and have fun.
The difference is that approach other people in clubs is more openly flirting. Simply wearing revealing clothes isn't inherently flirtatious, unless you have religious beliefs that tell you that showing skin is exclusively for marriage or something.
@@technoloverish you can always brush it off as you are being social hand are just having a good time. joke with a few random men at the bar a few times to justify it.if you know the role of males and females, it is not different.
So then guys cannot drive their expensive cars anymore and wear a nice watch and shirts where women can see his muscles? After all, men are attracted to beauty/femininity/sexual attributes and women are attracted to power/success. Im also not really sure what clothes you are talking about. It seems in this comment section that women walk around in victoria secret clothes when going out.
@@JJ-hu4cm a proper comparison would be if a the guy flaunting those cars and money on random women while he is in a relationship with her male and female attraction are different
The most ironic thing is that lot of these "social suggesters" DON't have a boyfriend or a husband but they "suggest' to women with real relationships.Maybe they are jealous and the only way to find a partner is to push other couples to break-up
If a woman does this BS she is NOT wife material. Maybe fun for a while but NOT long term. Used to have a girlfriend like this. She loved the male attention. I ended up kicking to the curb when I realized she had a personality disorder and she refused to take her meds.
I would go out & buy her the skimpiest outfit I could find, give it to her saying wear this darling but don't you ever come back....send her straight to the streets !
This proves ze wants to search for the better deal. A boyfriend for status and wenn there is something better go for it. A boyfriend for these women is like shopping. Today usefull, next day disposal.
Alexander, I realize that recently you are getting closer and closer to other approaches of UA-camrs on this topic. Is it perhaps because you are acknowledging that the "high-quality women" are now becoming unbelievably rare? For example, the title is not "Low-quality women." It is about a revelation, a "truth" about (in general) "modern women"... I understand you anyway.
Whomen dress like this perhaps because their parents didnt educate them well and when they were younger , they didnt get told off by parents about the way they dress ... education is a lot 2 blame ,most people should not reproduce sadly 😂 I saw kids dress unapropiatly ..how do u think they will behave as adults ?sometimes we see the problem but not the root of it
Thought I'd write my perspective from a woman's point of view who values modesty. Personally, I don't like when men or women don't dress classy. Does it make it difficult to find a partner when modesty is generally mocked these days? Yes. However, I think that men or women who value modesty should hold out to find a partner who shares that value. Not only do I think that dressing classy is far more attractive for both men and women, it's also respectful to yourself and your partner. You're a team, and whatever one does reflects on both people. Furthermore, if you're committed to not dressing vulgar, then I also believe men and women who truly love and value their partner should also make the greatest effort to not be ogling other people on social media or in public. I don't mean just naturally looking around, I mean ogling people who dress in a vulgar way if you don't agree that behavior yourself. If you really want a healthy lifestyle, respect yourself and the person you're with in how you dress and how you act, treat each other like royalty and make it a partnership. Then I think you can't go wrong.
The hardest part in encountering this behavior as a man is not feeling responsible for it. From my experience, this has nothing to do with your assertiveness, frame, and value. If you witness this kind of thing, she acts this way in some fashion towards all men - even her father.
Just get black pilled. Women even being with you will never let go of social media, makeup and the feeling of being wanted by other man. It's because when a child is born, parents are making crucial mistake by saying: you're the most beautiful person in the world... no matter what...
In my opinion it's fine for them to think this way... The PROBLEM comes when those men TOLERATE it. That's the problem. What women think and what they say... DOES NOT MATTER, all that matters, gentlemen, is how we choose to act. Let them call us insecure, sexist, misogynistic, toxic, etc... It doesn't matter. You stand your ground, stick to your standards, and if she doesn't give, then leave. Just walk away.
@@sirwizalot7164 all I'm gonna say to that is if 4/5 men gotta put up with such blatant disrespect in order to avoid celebacy then those men got some serious problems and women ain't even close to being one of them.
0:24 LOL that's what we used to say, ironically, when we were making fun of these girls. We've come to a point where THEY are the ones saying it! UNIRONICALLY!!
This and the use of Spandex/Lycra garment items to go to the grocery, in the workplace and anything else, as if it did not give some bad hits in social score or some nasty skin disease in the long run 🧐 🤨 🤔? Sus.
It makes us feeling sexy and desirable. Clothes make people. Dress in sweatpants and greasy oversized shirts every day - and it will make something with you. In the end, it's not about other guys. It's about our position within a group and how desirable our man thinks we are.
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r Nowadays, very few is left to the imagination, and I am not only talking about clothes. How many side stories or sequels of a movie or franchise do we currently have, while no original idea or concept is coming anytime soon? Back to this content, you can feel desirable by other ways than showing skin. Sexy is not necessarily uncovered, if you know what to do and how to do it.
Good content Alexander. But this video brought a question to my mind, that is how would we do as men on the beach where the girlfriend/wife has to show skin by wearing bikini - the traditional costume on beach - being surrounded by other men?
Assuming your cultural background by your name, I guess we are going to have different viewpoints on this topic. For me it's no big deal because it's, as you said, wearing a 1 piece bathing suit or bikini is the "normal" dress attire for this occasion in my corner of the world, and all the other females are doing it, too. Her dress choice doesn't necessarily imply sluttiness unless it's super skimpy, dental floss like thongs etc., so she won't stand out among other females also present. Now if she wanted to go out on a weekend's night showing way more skin than all the other females around, in an environment that involves partying, alcohol and hookups then that's a completely different issue.
Dressing in a revealing manner can have a lot to do with cultural context. In certain cultures, dressing in swimwear is normal and not a sign that you are trying to display being single and fertile. It's very different from her going to a party and dressing sexy because there she's trying to stand out. By wearing swimwear at a beach she's not trying to stand out Of course some swimwear are more sexy than others so you as a couple need to decide what's appropriate
It is about showing respect to a long term partner. I would not flirt with women in front of or out of sight of my long term partner. I would expect the same decorum from her both in dress and actions. It is about respect- any man would be humiliated if a partner of his turned up at an evening event in an immodest dress and flirted with other men and the other men at the party would know this and pity him.
Nice. Adult Halloween costumes are fantastic for single people. Sometimes for couples. But when only half of the couple is trying to get laid, it raises some questions. Deservedly.
Why would intelligent men be complaining about this attitude, if they dump you because you feel uncomfortable when the go out by themselvs with their tits out they are doing you a favor, be thankfull that they are filtering themselves out of your life. I encourage all these women to keep going out and be as wild as they possibly want to be, that way I know that every single one that goes to a night club isn't worth my time and effort.
It’s definitely a good idea to question her statements about wearing revealing clothing around others. I can assume that she does this to showcase her pride, and if her boyfriend objects then, “how dare he rejects my decision!” Clothing is made to enhance the looks of a person’s overall body. And wearing particularly revealing clothing, knowing that it’s attractive for men, can mean that she wants to be flattered by the attention. This is just step one of starting another relationship your boyfriend doesn’t want you to initiate
Revealing clothing isn'r attractive for all men. For instance, on certain European beaches where nudity isn't unusual, people tend not to get turned on by it. Also, some men are gay.
Some men may be insecure about anything, yet in their majority men object "sexy outfits" in their women for one major reason : it shows disrespect to them. Most men don't think that their girl wants to cheat on them when she wants to wear a sexy outfit. They know she does that to drag attention, and even if that is the first little step towards later on cheating at least for some women, men don't think of "cheating" when they see the sexy outfit. They just think it is disrespectful to them, they do not want to be seen dragging a woman that is dressed like a prostitute, it lowers their social value. So it is natural for them to demand from their women to dress appropriately. And the question that lies here is this : is it so difficult, is it so painful for women to dress appropriately? What is the inner need to wear ostensibly sexy outfits that give literal hard-ons to other men? Well.... isn't it obvious? Attention seeking. And yes, in the back of their minds, why not? Some new acquaintance with some interesting man which can lead to some future relationship - this certainly plays in mind for quite many women. Now some women may claim otherwise pointing at "powerful men" and "Alpha-Chads" who are seen going out with women that are dressed in very revealing outfits. What they fail to see though is that these Chads present these women not as their wives and mothers of their children but rather as "girlfriends of the moment", as their conquests. As such they use them as advertisement for themselves. However, them too, when marrying they are the first to demand from their wives to be descent since "Ceasar's wife must not just be faithful, she has to look faithful also".
So are you saying we should make bikinis illegal, for instance? Also, if you're looking at this from an evolutionary perspective, wearing clothing at all is actually unnatural, if anything. No other animals tell females to cover parts of their body.
Always ask yourself "is this the woman I want to have kids with?", if the answer is no than just enjoy her for fun. If she leaves you than look at it as it was fun while it lasted. Never commit to attention seekers unless you're a masochist!!
Women don’t walk around thinking they are a sexual desire. I wear a tight dress bc I can and want and I’m so happy I’m in a relationship where I don’t have to feel shame like this.
She called it "dressing up", until the costume brought her down. It's like she doesn't even hear the words she uses, cuz WTF is only thing makes sense to her.
Quick answer.. If you tell your gf you don't like what she's wearing and she says, she doesn't care what you think; Dump her! That's it. She'd dump you np.. So guys gotta start dumping women more. That's it. Always dump her. Go do what's good for you..
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@@nightlord5102 take consultant with a dermatologist..
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To women, words are power and nothing else.
I'm all for low quality women telling a bunch of other low quality women to dump their men. It saves the lives of those men.
I agree. I become unconcerned with these sort of advices. This will only work on low quality women who will look at this and say: "hell yeah, that's right". A good woman will know she's full of crap. So, I don't mind this message getting across other low quality women. It makes our job easier.
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I know wisdom when I here it! Here here!!
AMEN!
This is an amazing comment seriously. Church!
A lot of this also comes back to men having standards. Don't be afraid to walk away. There's always going to be another guy willing to tolerate disrespect.
Well said.
True !!!
Exactly
I was engaged and 2 months away from getting married. Left her. I couldn't deal with the attitude, arguments, Nas disrespect anymore. Men need to stop having a scarcity mindset.
@@cygnusprime6728 No scarcity bro. They're plentiful.
It’s not controlling or jealousy to not want your girlfriend showing off their body, it’s actually because those men want commitment. Dressing modestly and not flirting with other men is a signal of how committed she is to the relationship, and by proxy how much she actually loves you. Showing off skin draws attention and is a signal that they’re open to forming a relationship or sleeping with someone else. It’s the equivalent of flirting with someone other than who you’re dating. Is it cheating? Not necessarily. But is it a signal that your relationship is weak? Yeah, it is.
They want their part of the deal.
There's a deal, and she doesn't abide by it.
I bet she has a lot to say about what her BF wears.
heres the thing, theres nothin wrong with being jealous over ur significant other, it means that the spark is still there, the love is still there, its only natural, the day you stop being jealous over them is the day you lost love for them.
Yeah, and I do disagree with Alex on this case, if your relationship is that weak, you're gonna lose the game as a man if you start being controling now.
Best is to be stoic and not care if she dresses that way, she wants attention by other men AND you to react emotionally to it, for you to start getting irrational and lose your poise you've given in to her will. People do exactly what you try to not make them do, that's not just women. Not giving an emotional reaction makes it an uninteresting thing to do, if you're still in a relationship she will care more about your reaction than anybody elses and if men start hitting on her and you're like "It's only because how you dress and I don't like it!" you do come over as insecure.
Instead, just not care about how other try to get her and be confident enought to know she will come back to you anyways and show affection when she does... most likely she was trying to get attention in the first place because she didn't feel secure in you and the relationship anymore, so be a man and fix it!
@@easy8077 Aleander Grace's messages seems to be weak in many cases because he still has hope in a relationship with modern women, at the same time that makes him a "good guy".
You don't have to try to convince any woman about what is a proper behavior, that's not your job, that had to be her parents job 10 - 15 years ago.
If she dresses sluty, you have to tell her that you don't like it, if she tells you that you're controlling her, you only have to tell her "good bye"
The best phrase to control a woman it's "good bye"
Clothing is communication. Women understand this as they are naturally more skilled in communication. In fact, clothing is excellent communication for a woman who wishes to keep her options open because there's always plausible deniability ("I dress like this for myself! You're just insecure!") Women understand that to dress in an attention seeking manner will do just that: attract attention.
More skilled at communicating??
Compare women's literature to that of men.
Or poetry!
They aren't even in the same league
@@logisticstransfer2475 Thank you. They talk _more,_ but they aren't better at communicating.
@@sirwizalot7164 everything off their lips is a lie
To attract attention maybe from other women?
When a woman doesn't have a man or she is preparing to replace him, they start wearing more makeup
If she’s in a relationship, why does she want to go to social events without her partner and dress provocatively?
Hypergamy
@@user-rm8by9fm damn this one hurts ngl
Sounds like backup plan
Attention seeking behaviour.
Women are addicted to it.
because it's about her... if she's in a relationship it won't last for long with that attitude.
Showing a lot of skin is just a signal to other men that she's open for business and she's not committed to her partner.
Facts
@do br That may not be her intention but that's what she's signaling to other men
@do br Male vs female attraction is completely different. Even if a really good looking man were to show of his body the attention he'll receive is nothing compared to what an average looking women wearing revealing clothes will get. It's also a very different kind of attention usually more sexually aggressive and persistent not subtle. So this puts the male in a weird spot where he's constantly competing for his supposedly committed girlfriend. This competition can e get violent at times too.
PS: Yes, I know it's long post but there's a lot more nuance to the topic it's not a simple as you think.
In 2021 all women are raised to dress sexy, it’s just normal these days. There is something called social pressure. Im not sure what you guys expect how she will go out with friends and dress conservatively, just so you guys can sleep well. All my gfs could dress the way they wanted, I date a sexy women so I let her be sexy. I never had issues once with cheating. It’s a character trait, not a dressing issue. Dressing sexy these days is just normal. If you state such expectations to a good women, you will lose her quicker than you got her. Trust me.
@do br He probably wore jeans and a full body costume if that attracts women is that intent? If a women where’s less clothing and is in a relationship what does that signify?
If she is not invested in the relationship, dont invest either, enjoy it while it lasts.
She's not yours, it's just your turn for 4000 Alex
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Single women keep other women single. Girls night out or trip abroad, wearing hookerish clothes, posting yours scantily clad on pic on IG despite being in a relationship are habits of single women craving the attention of other random men. The woman should crave for attention fo the Man in the relationship and not from other men.
A fellow Kevin Samuels fan, I see.
I got the crab basket situation in mind.
As a result, misery loves company.
@TradMum same. I had a lot of "friends" like that too. They were miserable and wanted to keep everyone miserable with them. That is why I didn't share a lot of information with those women unless I already felt like a relationship was already over.
It is interesting that on the one hand women will proclaim that men only want one thing, but will simultaneously believe that they're special due to receiving attention based upon their s*xuality.
Most of the women complaining about that are complaining about that in the context of men who just immediately try to have sexual relations with them. Nudity itself isn't inherently sexual.
Girl exposes herself to cheating by dressing provocatively... then blames man for not paying attention to her and stopping her from cheating.... this is super common!
If she dresses se#y .. That's her putting 1 foot out the door.. Let her go.. let her walk away, it's only a matter of time before she cheats
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So wearing bikinis to the beach is cheating, even though from an evolutionary perspective, no other animals wear clothes?
@@technoloverish i love your go to.. So wearing a bikini is too sexy and is flirting. YES.. YES IT IS.. *IF* you are wearing it where noone else is doing that. The reason why it's not considered slùtty at the beach is because everyone there is doing it. SO if 1 person there is doing it it's not that obvious. A girl wearing a bikini at the beach.. hardly gets noticed.. but if the SAME girl wore it to a restaurant.. you would be hating on her for distracting your boyfriend.
@@technoloverish really??.. so you're telling me YOU walk around naked since no other animals wear clothes??
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No, though as this channel uses what other animals do as a basis for what's natural and what's moral for us, the logical conclusion would be that we shouldn't be wearing clothes, since other animals don't do.
These are the same women that don't understand why men won't date them when they have an Only Fans. "Wait, you're breaking up with me because I have an Only Fans that you didn't know about?" Imagine my shock.
Been there haha 😂
@@Nikolebichon damn dude, sorry to hear that..
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There are plenty of men that will date women who have OF and women who wear bikinis. Not every man is a Christian fundamentalist.
@@technoloverish I don't know if I'd call myself a Christian fundamentalist, nonetheless I do believe these types of women probably aren't attracting the right type of relationships.
"Why should I spend all this time effort and money dating you when I could just see you naked for $15 a month?"
Guys, don't try to explain why dressing up, flirting with guys in nightclubs etc is wrong.
You think they don't know? Women understand social interactions much better then we do, she knows exactly what she's doing.
So you either have a woman who respects you, and it will be obvious to her why she can't behave like that.
Or you are dealing with someone who doesn't - it that case she's just manipulating you, and you will only look like a fool, trying to explain obvious things to her. You will just lose her respect even more.
It shouldn't be "could you please stop doing it, it hurts my feelings because of A, B, C and D " but "you either stop doing it or you can find another man, end of discussion". She will either leave you right there, which means she did not appreciate you in the first place, or she accepts it and you gain her respect for being uncompromising.
Frankly I wouldn't even do that - she does something unacceptable, you just start giving her less and less attention, she will know why.
Best comment here, the raw truth... Nothing less, nothing more
Perfect.
To be able to pull this off you have to be completely comfortable being alone. Society tends to shame well off men who don't have a leech to provide for.
I like to tell people, I can't expect them to read my mind
@@superoriginalname most people don't care what you think, the only thing they respect is strength.
Also, a woman not being able to tell what you think only works in your advantage.
...dont forget shes allowed to flirt with other guys in front of your face and if you complain you are toxic. Ex of mine was empowered to sleep with 3 of my friends (also all coworkers before she showed up and started working with us). Such alpha female yasss queen boss energy to destroy the entire workplace dynamic by collecting my friends DNA as if it was a game of Pokemon Go
She’s belongs to the street period.
Bro same happend to me, useless to say I'm single and im making new friend circle
Holy sh**
I hope she didn't get you sick
@@jasonBGI ya know what? I would almost have rathered that than the mental torment of getting my social circle at the time destroyed. I didnt even chase her at the start. Shevtried her best to get my attention...then when i finally caved she started with all the games
@@custardingtoncringleworthy1646 just goes to show that women like her want one thing only:
MORE
Sure, wear whatever you want. Just don't get too surprised if you find your stuff out on the driveway once you get back home.
Men need to stop dealing with sloots like this.
Amen to that!
Okay ... so with this logic I'd say I should start dressing slutty, too. At least I'd know then which man is worth to invest all of my time and energy in.
@@JJ-hu4cm Depending on the stage in a man’s life or what they’re looking for at that time, it’s all good. So, please don’t get it twisted, men love women that dress slutty for everyone’s eyes to see…
Their just not seen as long term relationship material.
@@Thadon33 I don't like it at all. Only behind close doors. I'm conservative
“Have fun” how empowering.
So man, drink and talk to girls in party’s… talking isn’t cheating. Have fun…
Or looking at other women. She shouldn't be so insecure when you check out those women that dress provocatively.
Yea bros. Open Tinder, harmlessly chat with people who happen to be women, have fun. Go to Thailand or Brazil with your buddies, have fun. Go out with your ex-girlfriend to catch up, because she's 'just a friend' now - have fun! Flirt, not because you're cheating, but because flirting is fun - have fun! If your girlfriend has a problem with any of this she's "jealous and insecure". Lol, imagine behaving like a woman.
LOL exactly. These same women would have a full blown mental breakdown if their boyfriend anything even close to similar. Newsflash: when you're in a relationship, you're no longer simply an individual. You can't be a full blown narcissist all the time and do whatever you want. This goes for men and women. This excuse of have fun do whatever you want is childish and idiotic. Anybody who thinks like this woman is not worth your time.
@@Conservative_carnivore yeah. Your girlfriend wouldn’t like you to look at those girls because she knows why are they dressed that way lol… it’s so ironic 😌
@@jsedge2473 facts
The second a female displays herself as for sale, I'll make my way to customer service and get a refund. And, I won't lose a second of sleep about it.
simple as that
return her to the streets where she obviously wants to be
Yup. Don't waste time arguing and controlling. Stand by and watch her actions reveal her intentions, then act accordingly. Let her dig her own grave. Arguing will only make her continue doing what she wants covertly, while further hiding her true character. If she asks why you're suddenly pulling back, tell her you're embarrassed.
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I'm 9 years in and 2 kids... Can I still get a refund? She was high miles when I got her, but I doubled them.
@@calholli If wally world takes returns..sure. give it a shot 🤷♂️
I am so happy that I started watching your content. Now, whenever I get into an argument with my girlfriend, I can remain calm and make the points that you explain to us instead of getting angry as I did in the past.
The best way to stay calm is to simply accept the consequences of your beliefs and values. What I mean is, accept how other people will react to them. Express them with conviction and don't sway, no matter how she reacts. If she wants to break up, so be it. If she doesn't care about how you feel, then leave her. Most importantly, if you both disagree with eachother on something so important, you aren't meant to be togeather.
@K R We broke up recently.
@@dhruvsingh4409 bro..this channel might not be the best for people in relationships. Btw why did you breakup and are you ok after it? Heal quick
@@tromboner6061 Why is this channel not the best for people in relationships?
I broke up because I realized that I was not fit to be in a relationship yet.
I am fine tbh.
Also, Thanks Trom.
@@dhruvsingh4409 if I had followed advice from this channel, I wouldn’t be with my wife, whom I love and am happy with
“Most women have an empathy block, they don’t spend any time considering how a man feels”
cannot be more true
The "more empathy sex" & the "more caring sex"
They are empathetic in their way: they can be more cruel than men, and being cruel implies to know what can hurt the other people.
@@oscaraurelio8869 nice bulshit
The grey up playing with human dolls; they learnt how to deshumanize men.
Ironically, they always pride themselves as being "empathetic" although I'm not sure they actually know what empathy is, apart from it being a popular buzzword.
If she dresses provocatively, it means she wants to provoke you, cause there isn't enough "excitement" (i.e. chaos) in your relationship. Consider it over.
So if she wears a bikini at the beach, it's over?
*girl* : i can go flirt with this guy while my boyfriend is looking, if he tells me to stop thats insecurity and leave him.
@TradMum some women just love to sabotage their gilfriends relationships, dont they?
I always grew up being self conscious about my body, and always covering up my arms and legs. I usually wear edgy clothes that aren't feminine whatsoever, which probably explains why men never approach me. And you know? That's a wonderful thing, me and my boyfriend won't have to worry about unwanted sexual attention
Damn that's my type too lol
I feel this. I grew up dressing very modestly but at some point it actually got me more male attention instead of less. I eventually learned to appreciate utility, edginess and self expression, not repetition. Who wants to look like everyman's sex bimbo if you can be fit and ready for the apocalypse. And when I want to be "sexy" on a date with my hubby, what's hotter than becoming a terrifying vision of the queen of the underworld?
If your gf dresses like that and goes to parties on only girls night, congrats, you are dating the town's bicycle.
Why bicycle?
@@rawcoustic1718 cuz everyone rides it
@@rawcoustic1718 because everyone gets a ride
Tricycle! Lol dump her tell her you just want fwb or go away.
It doesn't matter if she's getting with other guys or not yet dressing that way is her end goal.
Insecure is now just a buzzword. Not putting my hand in a fire doesn't make me insecure, it means I don't take unnecessary risks
And if your going to the same party, enjoy all the other girls wearing not a lot and watch what insecurity really looks like - she will post another tic toc video on this.
This is the way.
The viewing of a woma's body to random men is a problem. It's on the same level as a man spending his money, that she believes should only be spent on her, on other women. Not a woman out there that wouldn't be pissed if a guy did that and it prevented her from getting what she wants.
100% Truth
Bingo. It'd be like saying well honey I spend the most money on you and come home to you, so don't be insecure and worry about those other women. Don't be "controlling" of my resources.
Good example. Imagine a girlfriend's response if you'd buy some women at a bar a pair of shoes. They would accuse you of cheating in a heartbeat.
But from an evolutionary perspective, dressing modestly is unnatural and human invention. No other animals require females to cover their body and such.
@@technoloverish Yeah but the males in other species mate guard very strongly. They don't allow their female to wonder off to have other opportunities unchecked. In humans if a male mate guards a woman he's "restrictive" or "insecure".
They're not ALL "falsely" believing that they have a chance with her; some of them actually DO have a chance.
If she doesn't feel powerful as a human person or secure in the relationship, she compensates by trying to feel sexually powerful and demonstrating to the room that she can do as she pleases because she is valuable. It is actually HER insecurities that inspire her to seek this kind of validation. She may just want more of your attention and isn't mature enough to communicate it effectively. But some women love being single and you just have to let them be single.
For years I've loved getting dressed up to go out with my husband. Like, too dressed. I love the formality and the mystery of layers and gowns etc. But lately, he's been really into me wearing more provocative outfits when we go out. Things I would never choose to wear myself, even if I were single. I mean, right on the line between sexy and downright trashy.
He's not insecure because he knows I literally only dress that way for him and that I'm not going to socialize with men, or anyone really, while we're having an evening together.
That's weird for him to desire other men to think of you upon the inquisitive manner. That's ground for a cuckholdrey fantasies
Every issue I've seen popularized by feminism, or widely accepted by women, to judge men is a projection of their own flaws, weaknesses, and insecurities. I've gotten to the point where I don't care anymore when I hear certain arguments. Women who do show understanding are so rare.
Imagine the implications of women with these internalised ideas, ideals and raising boys, educating making policies.
Giving them the vote was a mistake.
Trad Mum - Patriarchy was a fair and balanced system, it created the world you live in and everything you use in your daily life. No, it wasn’t perfect. But it at least was better than the gynocentric social order we now live in. Under this men still have all the responsibilities and zero authority, how is that fair?
Females want equality and yet want a taller richer smarter man than them. I don’t see any females demanding equality in family court system, do you?
“The patriarchy” that you and all other feminists use is not really what patriarchy is but feminists never really cared about facts, truth and reality.
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Where does The Bible say it's sin to let women vote?
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So in your ideal world, we would make homosexuality between consenting adults a crime?
@@technoloverish I'm going from observations of history, not the Bible.
I'm sure that she would readily understand if you dismissed her criticisms of your behavior and attempts to control you and consequently dumped her for her "insecurities".
Seriously, thank you wonderfully unraveling this and articulating it in a way everyone can learn from. I have had this problem and never was able to refute "you're being insecure"
and they keep asking why are men not in relationships... well if it's a one sided road and one party gets to do whatever they want while the other party is essentially in shackles. what idiot would want to be in that kind of relationship
There are several ways I always handle the controlling/insecure manipulation tactic women employ. 1. If I am not really invested in the woman I walk. We are done. 2. If I am invested emotionally I will do something like this....tell them "oh no, you misunderstand me. I am NOT telling you that you can't do what you are telling me I am controlling/insecure about. I am telling you that you won't like the consequences that come from your decision to disrespect me/our relationship. Which leads to her saying some variation of "is that a threat?" My response is "It is a promise. I will never abide disrespect from you or anyone." If you have shown your word is your bond they will KNOW you have given them their walking papers if they continue their current course. The other way I have handled it is to laugh when they call you controlling and say "I don't care. Watch what happens if you continue with your actions. I dare you." Both of those are basically drawing a line in the sand. Never draw the line if you aren't prepared to follow through.
If your girfriend is putting out the bait, that is always a reason to ask some questions.
You can be my girlfriend or you can be my friend with benefits. You’re attitude, behavior, and the way you dress will tell me which one you’ve chosen. This same girl will also wonder why she can’t get a man to commit to a serious relationship 🤦♂️
Plenty of women who wear bikinis and such successfully find committer relationships. You're probably only experienced in the context of Christian fundamentalist communities.
@@technoloverish I have no problem if my gf wants to wear a bikini to the beach. Wearing a bikini (or less) out on Halloween and we got a problem.
That's just asking for trouble and I'm going to be the one expected to fight every drunken idiot trying to grab her so ... no thanks ... you can deal with the consequences of your own bad decisions I'm not gonna cover for you.
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Yeah, I'd agree that wearing something like that for Halloween would be strange, at least in context of our culture. People don't usually dress like that for such an occasion in our culture. However, I wonder if such thing might be more appropriate in a culture in which that was the social norm or something.
Every man in this household had dreamt of the possibility of a non manipulative real honestly loving woman to 'give their life' for but it is these kinds of women that are described in your video (which seemed to assert the image of woman most for them growing up) that have rendered the men asking the question is pursuing a relationship with a woman really actually worth it if there are not extremely clear signs that they found one. It is sad, men and women are people, it use to be that you might find a couple that were both in it for the elevation and love of the other's good. How confidence in that dream has diminished. Let us keep it real ladies and gentlemen.
Women: How I dress is my business.
Also women: How my boyfriend dresses is my business.
You show how secure you are by kicking her to the curb.
Treat her like it was your turn,and now she's someone else's problem.
@@JJ-hu4cm Thank you for your concern. I am very secure being single and I only get anxious when someone tries to change that by offering me a turn.
NEXT.
Perhaps you had that song by Alex Harvey in mind?
Great topic, Doctor Grace. I had this issue with my wife who was an Asian version of Jessica Rabbit. She would wear low cut blouses to our workplace (we worked at the same company - a large corporation, different departments). Once I caught the cafeteria help leering over her after they finished dishing her out some food. I would try to explain this to her, but her typical response was: "I can't help it that I have big boobs!" The final straw was when she wore a tight blouse with tight jeans and her jeans tucked into knee high leather boots. "So, what street corner are you working at today?". I don't know if it was my comment or if someone had a chat with her, but she dialed her outfits back a couple notches after that.
I hope you send your response video to the girl that made the first video. It may give her something to think about. I think many of these women have been indoctrinated with toxic Feminism and don't really know it. My wife certainly was. While we were living apart she caught CoVid and it took her out in jan2021. RIP Michelle Natividad Mascella.
F for my respects towards your now defunct wife.
Technically, the Bible doesn't say that its sin to wear tight clothing.
@@technoloverish true, but it was a very unprofessional outfit for a corporate environment. I suspect her female boss had a talk with her.
Riiiight... telling young women to intentionally invite extra sexual attention that their boyfriend then has to respond to perfectly, forcing him to navigate potential public confrontations with drunk dudes, etc... that's great advice. 🙄
Good way for the boyfriend to end up in jail or a hospital depending on the outcome of those confrontations. Maybe she likes to have men fight over her for even more ego gratification, that would be as bad or worse. Any sane guy doesn’t go looking for fights but also isn’t going to just stand there if his GF is being brazenly hit on either.
Do whatever you want at others expense and ultimately your own. Empowering.
My girlfriend likes it when I tell her to wear something, "cute," or "sexy," or "feminine," or "cool," or whatever. In fact, before we started dating I would comment on her clothing if she wore something nice (we worked together) and, very soon she started trying harder with her appearance. She said she liked the fact that I noticed. And why not? So often girls spend an hour trying to look good, then spend the entire day with beta males who are too afraid of MeToo to show any attraction. If a girl looks good (femine, not slutty), tell her, you're doing no one a service by letting mainstream media solely dictate to them what's hot or not. So, yes, tell your girlfriend what you like and don't like. Tell her that you want to be proud of her when you go out and, likewise, she should expect you to look good for her too, so she can also be proud.
Ok, you can go dressed like this to the party, but afterwards you can pick up your stuff at my door. Bye!
How many times has a woman said "You're wearing that?" to her husband...?
Wow, all these years I'd always thought I was so insecure whenever other guys were checking my girlfriend out. Thx so much for this video. Much love from Singapore Alexander:)
I'm so glad I've found your channel some years back. You really put things into perspective, Alex. Thank you!
I love it when I hear female perspectives on these matters because they are immediately disqualified 💯%
Is that because you believe the Bible teaches women to be silent?
@@technoloverish what a no-lifer. Commenting under every second comment.
I've never understood why men even bother discussing this kind of thing with women. As if it's our job to train the bad instincts out of them and, like a masochistic Michelangelo, work and struggle to carve a wifey out of a block of slutty marble. Our time and energy is better used finding a woman who already has wifey instincts to begin with. This is why when I found myself in this situation, I simply asked them if they're sure that's how they want to present themselves, that they've truly thought it through and believe that's the right choice, and then I dumped them when they replied yes.
Every man has heard the phrase "can't make a wife out of a ", and yet it seems every man tries to do exactly that. Is this because we're all idiots, or the odds of finding a woman with wifey instincts are so low? Or perhaps both? lol
Both, most definetely 😂
It's because they get attracted to their garden tools bodies and beauty in the first place, and then they pretend to change it, which is indeed stupid because that's what you chose
A little of both, that's why if she chooses you obviously you want her to be high quality.. Most often she is not and like you say is the man who has to put himself first and get out before getting hurt.
Yeah I learned this the hard way.kept thinking eventually something in her head would click , but I realized why is it my job to ask for a women to she me the bare minimum that is respect. It's who she is , and even if she attempts to change to appease you, it's just means she'll eventually do it and or find better ways of hiding her behavior
If you really think "wifey material" is defined by the choice in clothing, I feel sorry for you.
As if a sexy dressed woman wouldn't be able to be a loyal, loving partner. Or as if every plain Jane would automatically be sincere, humble and agreeable. Oh, what an easy black and white world it would be, right?
Ever hear the country song, “she’s acting single, and I’m drinking doubles?”
I personally don't care if my GF dresses slutty when she goes out as long as she doesn't cheat and is safe (shares location, goes with friends, keeps me in the loop), but each relationship is different and not even hearing your partner out is major bs
if she wants to dress whatever she wants, you start approaching other women in clubs. simple as that. if she says she just wants to look good for herself, you say you just want to talk to people and have fun.
The difference is that approach other people in clubs is more openly flirting. Simply wearing revealing clothes isn't inherently flirtatious, unless you have religious beliefs that tell you that showing skin is exclusively for marriage or something.
@@technoloverish you can always brush it off as you are being social hand are just having a good time. joke with a few random men at the bar a few times to justify it.if you know the role of males and females, it is not different.
Then she asks "where did all the good men go" about T-5 years from now when she hits the wall 😄
It’s about respect for your partner, if you show lots of skin then you’re saying “I don’t care, look at me, I’m not committed to him”.
That's only if you're religious and consider nudity to be inherently sexual.
So then guys cannot drive their expensive cars anymore and wear a nice watch and shirts where women can see his muscles?
After all, men are attracted to beauty/femininity/sexual attributes and women are attracted to power/success.
Im also not really sure what clothes you are talking about. It seems in this comment section that women walk around in victoria secret clothes when going out.
@@Chris_mueller a proper comparison would be if a the guy flaunting those cars and money on random women while he is in a relationship with her
@@JJ-hu4cm a proper comparison would be if a the guy flaunting those cars and money on random women while he is in a relationship with her male and female attraction are different
@@buriedomasta3375 she’s just wearing the stuff, he’s just driving it. Or was the topic that she’s twerking or hitting on guys?
I went through this with my ex -- so frustrating! Thank you for doing a video on this.
So is that because wearing revealing clothing violates your religious beliefs?
Wearing revealing clothes is against all sort of religion & Divine Ordinations
The wall is not going to warn that girl from the video...
The most ironic thing is that lot of these "social suggesters" DON't have a boyfriend or a husband but they "suggest' to women with real relationships.Maybe they are jealous and the only way to find a partner is to push other couples to break-up
Misery loves company indeed.
Does this guy have a long-term girlfriend or wife?
Instagram babes? Every hot girl with a boyfriend still posts thirst traps. + Most girls pretend they are single on Instagram
If a woman does this BS she is NOT wife material. Maybe fun for a while but NOT long term.
Used to have a girlfriend like this. She loved the male attention. I ended up kicking to the curb when I realized she had a personality disorder and she refused to take her meds.
So women who wear bikinis at the beach are for the curb?
@@technoloverish Who in the H said that?
You are clearly twisting the scenario and by doing so you PROVE my point.
I would go out & buy her the skimpiest outfit I could find, give it to her saying wear this darling but don't you ever come back....send her straight to the streets !
'empathy block' was a good expression, I think many women live in a life long state of empathy block, something men should be aware of
This proves ze wants to search for the better deal. A boyfriend for status and wenn there is something better go for it. A boyfriend for these women is like shopping. Today usefull, next day disposal.
If a woman isn't dressing to please you , do you really think she cares what you think? Of course not. Catch and Release
Alexander, I realize that recently you are getting closer and closer to other approaches of UA-camrs on this topic. Is it perhaps because you are acknowledging that the "high-quality women" are now becoming unbelievably rare?
For example, the title is not "Low-quality women." It is about a revelation, a "truth" about (in general) "modern women"... I understand you anyway.
I think he is getting closer to the blackpill, which I personally find to be more true and less delusional compared to the other pills.
That sweet blackpill
@@JJ-hu4cm they wear stuff that men want
@@JJ-hu4cm it is about men get ya facts straight
@@JJ-hu4cm you do
Narcissism is endemic among modern women.
By that logic, a woman is jealous and insecure if her boyfriend spends money on other women (dates, OF etc.) while in a relationship with her
Not the same. Those things are arguably flirtation behavior. Simply wearing a revealing swimsuit when swimming and stuff like that isn't flirting.
"Do whatever you want, and have fun. If your boyfriend is insecure, dump him." Paris Hilton couldn't have said it better.
Whomen dress like this perhaps because their parents didnt educate them well and when they were younger , they didnt get told off by parents about the way they dress ... education is a lot 2 blame ,most people should not reproduce sadly 😂 I saw kids dress unapropiatly ..how do u think they will behave as adults ?sometimes we see the problem but not the root of it
Thought I'd write my perspective from a woman's point of view who values modesty. Personally, I don't like when men or women don't dress classy. Does it make it difficult to find a partner when modesty is generally mocked these days? Yes. However, I think that men or women who value modesty should hold out to find a partner who shares that value. Not only do I think that dressing classy is far more attractive for both men and women, it's also respectful to yourself and your partner. You're a team, and whatever one does reflects on both people. Furthermore, if you're committed to not dressing vulgar, then I also believe men and women who truly love and value their partner should also make the greatest effort to not be ogling other people on social media or in public. I don't mean just naturally looking around, I mean ogling people who dress in a vulgar way if you don't agree that behavior yourself. If you really want a healthy lifestyle, respect yourself and the person you're with in how you dress and how you act, treat each other like royalty and make it a partnership. Then I think you can't go wrong.
I edited a typo in my comment the heart went away. Sorry!! Stupid UA-cam. Thank you for the like, Alexander!
"where's all the good men?"
The hardest part in encountering this behavior as a man is not feeling responsible for it. From my experience, this has nothing to do with your assertiveness, frame, and value. If you witness this kind of thing, she acts this way in some fashion towards all men - even her father.
It's just amazing to hear, "stop looking at me like I'm some sex object".
It's kinda hilarious watching his conversion from purple pill, when he jumps straight over red to black🤣🤣🤣
Just get black pilled. Women even being with you will never let go of social media, makeup and the feeling of being wanted by other man. It's because when a child is born, parents are making crucial mistake by saying: you're the most beautiful person in the world... no matter what...
Based blackpill fellow. All men will take the blackpill.
Except that you're just wrong about reality and seeing it through the lens of a self fulfilling prophecy.
In my opinion it's fine for them to think this way... The PROBLEM comes when those men TOLERATE it. That's the problem. What women think and what they say... DOES NOT MATTER, all that matters, gentlemen, is how we choose to act. Let them call us insecure, sexist, misogynistic, toxic, etc... It doesn't matter. You stand your ground, stick to your standards, and if she doesn't give, then leave. Just walk away.
@@sirwizalot7164 all I'm gonna say to that is if 4/5 men gotta put up with such blatant disrespect in order to avoid celebacy then those men got some serious problems and women ain't even close to being one of them.
0:24 LOL that's what we used to say, ironically, when we were making fun of these girls. We've come to a point where THEY are the ones saying it! UNIRONICALLY!!
"I'm dressing this way because it feels good"
Why does showing skin make you feel good?
This and the use of Spandex/Lycra garment items to go to the grocery, in the workplace and anything else, as if it did not give some bad hits in social score or some nasty skin disease in the long run 🧐 🤨 🤔? Sus.
It makes us feeling sexy and desirable. Clothes make people. Dress in sweatpants and greasy oversized shirts every day - and it will make something with you. In the end, it's not about other guys. It's about our position within a group and how desirable our man thinks we are.
@@user-sg8bk2ko4r Nowadays, very few is left to the imagination, and I am not only talking about clothes. How many side stories or sequels of a movie or franchise do we currently have, while no original idea or concept is coming anytime soon?
Back to this content, you can feel desirable by other ways than showing skin. Sexy is not necessarily uncovered, if you know what to do and how to do it.
I'm an Esthetician student and I want to go to barbering school too and do male make overs, so your sponsorship was very interesting to me ☺️
Nowadays everyone knows that garden tools are gonna garden tool...
But yes, is important for men to reinforce ths truths.
Cheating:
Anything a Reasonable person wouldn't want to be caught doing.
First 35 seconds: she's trying so hard not to cry.
Good content Alexander. But this video brought a question to my mind, that is how would we do as men on the beach where the girlfriend/wife has to show skin by wearing bikini - the traditional costume on beach - being surrounded by other men?
Assuming your cultural background by your name, I guess we are going to have different viewpoints on this topic.
For me it's no big deal because it's, as you said, wearing a 1 piece bathing suit or bikini is the "normal" dress attire for this occasion in my corner of the world, and all the other females are doing it, too. Her dress choice doesn't necessarily imply sluttiness unless it's super skimpy, dental floss like thongs etc., so she won't stand out among other females also present.
Now if she wanted to go out on a weekend's night showing way more skin than all the other females around, in an environment that involves partying, alcohol and hookups then that's a completely different issue.
Of course they should show less on the beach as well. There is no logic why the beach should be a special exception.
Dressing in a revealing manner can have a lot to do with cultural context. In certain cultures, dressing in swimwear is normal and not a sign that you are trying to display being single and fertile. It's very different from her going to a party and dressing sexy because there she's trying to stand out. By wearing swimwear at a beach she's not trying to stand out
Of course some swimwear are more sexy than others so you as a couple need to decide what's appropriate
@TradMum I've seen two pieces that are not overly sexy (in my opinion of course)
What about family members whose FB profiles are like this - "lots of skin or shape exposed" ? What do we do?
Not much you can do most that have this kind of ideology don't shake free from it until it's too late or never at all.
"Whateva, I do what I want!" Eric Cartman
It is about showing respect to a long term partner. I would not flirt with women in front of or out of sight of my long term partner. I would expect the same decorum from her both in dress and actions. It is about respect- any man would be humiliated if a partner of his turned up at an evening event in an immodest dress and flirted with other men and the other men at the party would know this and pity him.
Nice. Adult Halloween costumes are fantastic for single people. Sometimes for couples. But when only half of the couple is trying to get laid, it raises some questions. Deservedly.
Why would intelligent men be complaining about this attitude, if they dump you because you feel uncomfortable when the go out by themselvs with their tits out they are doing you a favor, be thankfull that they are filtering themselves out of your life. I encourage all these women to keep going out and be as wild as they possibly want to be, that way I know that every single one that goes to a night club isn't worth my time and effort.
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It’s definitely a good idea to question her statements about wearing revealing clothing around others. I can assume that she does this to showcase her pride, and if her boyfriend objects then, “how dare he rejects my decision!” Clothing is made to enhance the looks of a person’s overall body. And wearing particularly revealing clothing, knowing that it’s attractive for men, can mean that she wants to be flattered by the attention. This is just step one of starting another relationship your boyfriend doesn’t want you to initiate
Revealing clothing isn'r attractive for all men. For instance, on certain European beaches where nudity isn't unusual, people tend not to get turned on by it. Also, some men are gay.
Certainly. I was thinking about the demographic of humans who are interested in the female being
Some men may be insecure about anything, yet in their majority men object "sexy outfits" in their women for one major reason : it shows disrespect to them. Most men don't think that their girl wants to cheat on them when she wants to wear a sexy outfit. They know she does that to drag attention, and even if that is the first little step towards later on cheating at least for some women, men don't think of "cheating" when they see the sexy outfit. They just think it is disrespectful to them, they do not want to be seen dragging a woman that is dressed like a prostitute, it lowers their social value. So it is natural for them to demand from their women to dress appropriately. And the question that lies here is this : is it so difficult, is it so painful for women to dress appropriately? What is the inner need to wear ostensibly sexy outfits that give literal hard-ons to other men? Well.... isn't it obvious? Attention seeking. And yes, in the back of their minds, why not? Some new acquaintance with some interesting man which can lead to some future relationship - this certainly plays in mind for quite many women.
Now some women may claim otherwise pointing at "powerful men" and "Alpha-Chads" who are seen going out with women that are dressed in very revealing outfits. What they fail to see though is that these Chads present these women not as their wives and mothers of their children but rather as "girlfriends of the moment", as their conquests. As such they use them as advertisement for themselves. However, them too, when marrying they are the first to demand from their wives to be descent since "Ceasar's wife must not just be faithful, she has to look faithful also".
So are you saying we should make bikinis illegal, for instance? Also, if you're looking at this from an evolutionary perspective, wearing clothing at all is actually unnatural, if anything. No other animals tell females to cover parts of their body.
When a person depends on other people to determine their worth it's no longer self esteem it becomes someone else esteem.
Always ask yourself "is this the woman I want to have kids with?", if the answer is no than just enjoy her for fun. If she leaves you than look at it as it was fun while it lasted. Never commit to attention seekers unless you're a masochist!!
Women don’t walk around thinking they are a sexual desire. I wear a tight dress bc I can and want and I’m so happy I’m in a relationship where I don’t have to feel shame like this.
Most women say thay want to do that for themselves, while it usually is for how they see themselves in the eyes of others.
This "we are equal" is ruining relationships
Lol it's funny bc my ex got mad at me for wearing short shorts at the pool. I use to go to the gym a lot at that time lol
She called it "dressing up", until the costume brought her down. It's like she doesn't even hear the words she uses, cuz WTF is only thing makes sense to her.
Quick answer.. If you tell your gf you don't like what she's wearing and she says, she doesn't care what you think; Dump her! That's it. She'd dump you np.. So guys gotta start dumping women more. That's it. Always dump her. Go do what's good for you..
Tiege Hanley is your version of RAID SHADOWLEGENDS
Good review. Thanks Alex.
Alphamale x Alexander Grace, nice 👍🏻
That's a collaboration I am actually waiting to see on a video.