When They Don’t Love You Back | Russell Brand
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2020
- Unrequited love is one of the most painful feelings, causing huge lows, sadness and a sense of worthlessness. Here is how I see it and hopefully a helpful way for you to work through it if you're currently experiencing this kind of heartbreak.
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You can’t love someone into loving you. Remember this: they lost someone who loved them and you lost someone who didn’t.
Damn, Larry, you summed it all up with even fewer words than Russell did.
How weird is it still that the one who loved is grieving the most... sometimes i think about what love does with our brain. Why fall in love with someone who doesn' t see you in that lovely way as you see them?
That’s true their loss then not yours great great quote.
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Wow that was so poetic
"All pain is an invitation to burn ego." What an amazing quote.
Yes!! Beautiful indeed. You choose to attend the party or not
@I Coroa A sense of concrete identity. Thoughts, sensations, individuality is all egoic and can be seen as a force of division between people. Instead we should identify with the awareness of this ego. Thus by burning ego one must identify instead with awareness (or maybe freudian superego) and see ego as a shifting, transient thing.
I was going to highlight the same quote.
I Coroa Why does it have to involve another? The work is always within.
I Coroa I agree with you that the separation between the self and the “all” (including other humans) is a falsity.
However, your previous comment assumed a weaponization of sorts of the concept of ego. A weapon used to degrade the other.
In my opinion that’s a very limited view of the concept of ego. A better application of the concept would be in its use to identify our own neuroses and attachments, which in turn could help us further merge with the whole.
Of course, it is just a concept, not right and wrong in and of itself. One that can be used egoically even lol. Just another possible tool.
"Even though I feel really bad now, I will feel better again." Best line ever. Thanks, Russell.
Yeah that hit home. We cant trust that someone wont leave us, but we can trust that we will be okay if they do.
This is brilliant. Very helpful
i understood i will feel bad again
But it feels like forever
"None of the things you are seeking, are in the other person." This is GOLD
But I am not seeking for anything, I just love him.
@@abstract3213 did he leave you? then it has to do with him and nơt with you
I wrote this down... nice to see others touched by this comment.
@Keith 1952 same here man, love getting comments and likes on this post aswell, as it makes me come back to the page and remind myself of that quote every once in a while.
@@abstract3213 Same
The problem with being in love (or infatuated), is that you never actually fall in love with the real person. You find someone attractive but you may not know them very well or at all, so you project qualities you find attractive onto them. Ultimately, so is often the case, you fall in love with someone almost entirely of your own creation who has little to do with the actual person, and this will inevitably let you down.
Yeah what he says about the face changing yet the emotions still exist and how it proves these ideals are within us is true.
That's why loving yourself is important and on top of that expecting nothing. That way, you love people truly as there isnt anything to gain.
But, you may still really love them. You may love the "essence" of their unique Being, behind these projected qualities.
@@1StepForwardToday " BINGO' ... its their essence a 1000 fold....in my case... to be exceptionally beautiful.
You've just described the co-dependent's living nightmare and it rarely ends well. Loving one's self in a healthy manner is key to waking up from it.
you miss great things in your life when you think about someone who doesn't want you
I wonder what I'm missing out on. This is no longer worth my time or effort.
@@blisteredblues1255 missing out on time. Put the phone down, bust out pushups, situps. Go run. Go hike, fish, see the son, the woods. Just get some time to yourself doing what you enjoy and if you don't enjoy it, do it anyway. Time is ticking. You'll be okay, you are not alone for I am there with you in all those feelings my friend. They drive you crazy. Keep your head up.
Yeah, too bad realized this late.
Thank you. I've been living with egoic compulsion about an ex for years. Now I have a path for letting this go.
@@existence.5806 it's never too late. you're still breathing. I suggest you practice gratitude every time you wake up and then see what else you can experience once you remember the gift of life you've been given.
"None of the things you are seeking are in the other person" listened to it 10 times. Because It's nothing but the truth and reality. It's all in our heads and make-believe.
And it's kinda sad when you realize that.
Don't be carried away by all this videos stop wasting your time here , I've tried this so many times and it didn't work until I met a powerful man👱who helped me bring back my ex who left me a 3 year ago and now we are back together through his help.
Wh@tsApp him for help
This was one of my biggest realizations as I’ve been healing from my first heartbreak and proving to myself that I can do the things for myself that I thought he would bring to my life.
Yes, Initially sad; though, quite liberating in time.
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Being able to love someone else is the greatest gift we have and I don't care whether its reciprocal or not because that's not the point. It's about you, not them.
Such a hard jagged little pill to swallow tho..
@@melissaperez9637 That's part of it unfortunately
It is about them and not you, actually. When you love someone it is about them.
Thanks for saying that
I love everyone. I've often wondered how people can turn that emotion off.
I healed from by biggest heartbreak by realizing that it wasn't so much HIM with whom I was in love, as it was that I loved ME as *seen through his eyes* (he made me feel fabulous about myself - until he didn't). Of course, then I knew I could love myself that way. I've been a much happier and healthier person ever since.
Well said
Wow. I love this.
Wow. Resonated with this hugely.
I really hope I get there one day 😔 Dealing with a heartbreak now and not able to cope with it.
really wow. printing this as a reminder 🤍
We don't fall in love with people for who they are, but who we want them to be.
- Don Draper
The Lord Jesus Christ is the only way.
Facts
Real Talk. Had this problem for 2 years. No more...never again.
I don’t agree
Every time God closes a door, he lifts up a dress.
---Roger Sterling
This has really helped me dealing with an unrequited love situation. I want that person so much, but you can't make someone want to be with you. All you can do as Russ alluded to is value yourself, accept it's not going to happen & move on in your life. Wise words mate. Thank you :)
It helps so much knowing there are other people going through the same thing
in that situation right now. And it honestly feels impossible.
Same. I must let them go. It’s hard but I must
I should listen to this 100 times
I passed some very dark moments recently, and yesterday I got rejected by a person I completely opened my heart to, in total honesty
What an incredibly painful experience, I didn't even remember it was this bad
It's been 11 months. I hope you are doing well now.
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Going through this. Feeling for you well get through it
No one broke my heart. I broke my own. So, I get this.
They didn’t really hurt your feelings, they just didn’t live up to your expectations.
Beautiful ❤
so you don't believe in free will and free choice on every second basis? of your life..tic toc..better get on with it
I am sorry that you’re hurting my friend. I can’t in my own way, while recognizing the uniqueness of your situation, feel that entirely.
I'm pretty sure mostly everyone does.....there are cases where people were despicably deceived but for the most part the signs are there, we just choose our emotions to control the situation instead of our logic most of the time....
A man so painfully in love is capable of self torture beyond belief
I feel it too man. Wow!
do not live there..you have free will, free choice..enjoy that thing and make a better choice
Been there, yeah you have the potential to drive yourself right into the ground
Even if it'd make me miserable for a week, I'd still spend an hour with him. Fuck is it hard to fall out of love
right?
"We make other people sacred in the absence of a true relationship with the sacred" 🤯 WOW
"None of the things you're seeking are in the other person. No matter how much you believe that."
Wow. That opened my eyes. Great advice. Thank you ❤
Unrequited love lesson teaches us to love ourself deeply.
Ok
I like that quote
@@theartist6131 it’s not okay
Why? Can u elaborate?
Tabea Aurora u will learn that u r enough and if anyone is not into u it’s ok. They r not the one for u.
“I must have a lot of ego because I experience a lot of pain”
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To feel pain opens the heart, like a flower within , tears water that flower ...
seek that thing that created some thing from no thing..you'll be okay in doing that..xoxo
you best get on with it and figure it out..one life..that is all you get..waste it..or use your free will and free choice to make a change..it is up to you..do not waste your time and energy..do not be a dumbass..
he himself having gone through all that should know better than just saying... let go... stop projecting etc... you fall in love you go into addiction cause you WANT and yuurn for it.. and saying dont do it to in love person or an addict doesnt make much sense... i expected more..
What makes heartbreak so visceral is that you see yourself in someone else, you see how you can be loved through someone else’s eyes, and you want to love that person the way you crave being loved yourself. So when he turns you away, it negates your value. It says : you are not enough.
I just opened up to her and she said she didnt feel the same, which i expected. But just going through it is absoultely killing me. I love her so much i cant imagine wanting anyone else like i want her..
For me, unrequited love was the wakeup call I needed that no matter how much any man pours into my cup (love, attention, affection, kindness), it will never be enough to fill a cracked cup. So I’m choosing to put a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign on my heart whilst I mend my cup with self-love, gratitude and a greater awareness of my intentions and what I can do to fulfill my needs myself.
Some days are better than others, but if my most painful problem right now is that I love someone who will not/does not love me back, that’s a first world problem, and I am blessed.
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You seem very young to be so wise
That's such a good way of expressing your situation. I am in a similar place and never thought to express it that way.
I agree but it"s so hard to not think about them.
pain is relative, not a first world problem
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" None of the things you are seeking are in the other person"
Perfect.
This quote has me so confused. Is he referring to unrequited love. Or all relationships. What should we seek from relationships? What should relationships fulfill? And what do we have to fulfill for ourselves?
a very good point. That person may be seeking the same thing in you or somebody else/something else,
@@iwuverzyou1 I believe he means that feeling of being "whole" and "fulfilled" as if the person of your desires is meant to fill that hole in you but really you need to fill that hole
@@iwuverzyou1 I thought he meant that if that particular person doesn’t want to be with you, then by definition they cannot be the solution you so desperately yearn for
I'm still healing from a heartbreak from 3 years ago and I came across this video, thank you mr Brand
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
Whtsaap him"**
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I watch this video every time I think about & miss my ex girlfriend who cheated on me multiple times. It helps steer me in the right direction
Head up brother if she cheated then she wasn’t the one
"Falling in love makes your tiny self be lost in the hormonal tundra". Russell has the soul of a poet !
He does right , the words accumulated from this video is just overwhelming
Totally scripted lol
My OG used to say "you can either love yourself or love the game. You cant do both. People can't give you what they dont have. And its dismissive to just assume they love themselves. Open your hand. Look around you. Put everything in it that focuses on being valued and values your respect. Ball your fist up tight and slide before everyone else realize you we're ever there."
@@AC-um2mk Is a poem that's gone through multiple drafts any less poetic than a spontaneous thought?
@@cristhianzerimar My point is that he pretends to be earnestly streaming his thoughts but the reality is that it is all pre-scripted and rehearsed. He's someone's puppet.
"Do not impede this revelation by returning to your old illusion." Golden. Needed.
that was key!
Could u explain what it means? English isn't my first language and I don't really understand what he means by that but I really want to🥺
@@Sarah-wo7ld Russel is saying you should protect what you have learned. The fake story you make for your ex lover will only hurt you, and take away progress from what you have learned.
It’s so hard to smile and say I’m doing fine when my heart is broken. But I hope that soon I will be happy again.❤️
Took me 6 months 😂😂 but I’m fine now, better than ever
"All pain is an invitation to burn ego" this statement changed it all for me, thank you
I know of a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you wanna manifest within two days
He was the one who helped me restore back my ex 3 days ago without delay
Just take his number below and WhatsApp him,let him also help you
"None of the things you are seeking are in the other person". 👌
I immediately realize I want... validation... because I don't get my butt in the gym and feel sexy on my own...I want someone to loveee me....but I need to smack my own ass and get into freaking gear. Once I'm hott again I will be choosing. Not crying.
@Wesley Somers then suppose I want something deeper....but I have to accept who I am ....just thought I could do it "more entirely" with Someone's support. 87'
My son was watching Pepe Le Pew as a 5 yr old and said to me "he should find someone that loves him back" 😭 So wise little one!
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
Whtsaap him**
Gosh, yes. To be that young again..but with the wisdom of the last 40 years..
Awww that’s the cutest thing I’ve ever heard!
One thing less talked about in regards to love is how complicated it is because of the differences in what it means to "love" from person to person. Some feel loved if provided for financially, some physically, some through acts of service, etc, or a mix of things. We go through life and relationships without realizing this and continue to blame others for "not loving us" because they don't act in our specific preferred manner.
Great insight!
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@@susanmercurio1060 Thanks!
@@sofr1sofy254 🙌🏻
Crying as I listen to these words.
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days....
He was the one who helped me restore back my ex 3 days ago without delay 🌹🌹
Whtsapp him"**
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I had true unrequited love. I didn’t idealize but I loved them deeply. I’ve been single for over 20 years now. My heart was broken four times. I never demanded love from them. Just walked away when it became too painful. Mind you, they told me they loved me but actions speak louder than words.
Cool story. What have you done to break that cycle? That's on you not them. If this happened four times you seem to be the common denominator. I'm not saying this to troll you. I'm saying this because it needs to be said. Did you do the work needed? Did you love yourself first? Did you ask your self how do I want to be loved? How do I want to be loved? I see this a lot specifically in female patients 35-55. Expectations are out of line with experience. The bottom line is this. Did you fall in love with yourself first? I wish more people would do that work on themselves. If you don't love yourself do the work/things required to love yourself. How do you want to be loved? Not only by others but by yourself. 1/1 then 2/1 then 3/1 and so on and so forth. It sounds like time has made a fool of you. Like it does to most all. But maybe you have something to teach? Maybe you can help others hurdle the self and reflect on the other?
@@youtubedrifter5594 No offense intended toward Elizabeth, but you are spot on
damnnn I relate too much
@Pythia’s Lament he's offered her some advice that she could talk to every friend she has and still never get. He did her a favor, he offered her what she perhaps couldn't see, so wrapped up in her self pity. You think that is narcissism /trolling? He may have just given her what she needs to move on. There's plenty of nastiness on the internet, this isn't it. I dare say you are jaded and at this point see narcissism everywhere. Maybe in your case, the same advice works, maybe it's you, not them.
Life man. Just as you think you found the one, that finally your past rejections, pain, sufferings finally are coming to an end, life just says f*ck you and ruins you completely.
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
Whtsaap him**
you have free will and free choice..that pertains to everything in your life..be accountable..one life..tick tock..get on with it..no blame..no shame..the past does not exist..move forward..it is no ones fault but your own if you dont move forward..one life man..get on with it, with integrity..
@Johnny Courtemanche Well if he doesn’t know it’s a trap? He said in the comment when you feel like you found true love finally then it just becomes another painful let down
@Johnny Courtemanche fr
20yrs on, I'm still in pain. I yearn for him, for us, for our wedding, for our children, for our home, for our grandchildren that never materialised.
This is scary. Too much life spent yearning for someone.
Let go...
@@princessm8977 this is called a soul tie
Wow...that's an entire life of suffering. The agony in all those years. I really hope you can find it in yourself and want to eventually cut that suffering out of your life. Much love to you
Wait did your children materialize though?
I watch this video every single morning to remind myself of my journey. Thank you, Russel.
You are not alone. It will get better brother!
"we only know the part of a person that we are able to know, we only witness the part of a person we are able to receive".
Found that deep too. Like a butterfly hard to hang onto that epiphany.
That's the part that got me too.
Favorite quote for me too
Even that is a form of mercy; God Almighty shows us what we are capable of seeing in the other, Ultimately God Almighty does not want to see us get hurt. Especially if we have a" holographic projection in our mind" which; the other person can actually help create through their behaviours and mannerisms; especially if they want us to believe a perceived reality of them.
I call bullshit..that is so lazy..xoxo
"All pain is an invitation to let go"...Damn, another bomb to my ego. Thanks Russel
basic buddihism
Let go of what?
I’m going through some really dark moments, loving someone who has treated me so terribly. Who doesn’t care and doesn’t ever say sorry for the pain he has put me through. Listening to supporting words and words to help overcome such sadness even from a stranger really helps.
same but switch the genders
1. Even though I feel really bad now, I will feel better again
2. Let go of the false image of your partner
3. None of the thing you are seeking are in the other person
- admit that u don’t know what’s right for u
- the pain is trying to guiding u
4. Get yourself ready to receive the true information, even if you don’t believe
I really needed to hear this out loud as my intuition was already nudging. Thanks Russell, I let go of my ex who kept on leading me on and it wasn't till last week that I was thinking "why am I chasing someone who obviously does not have the same romantic frequency as myself?" It was the fear of pain, but I was already allowing myself to be pulled through the fire. I felt liberated after that and now I have to try to sync the heart to the brain as I still get the blues for missing something that could have been, but obviously was not! I've created a mantra that I tell myself everyday that I am walking away from darkness toward the light. The journey might take a little time, but now I am on the right path. We are in charge of our happiness, not another person.
Has life improved for you ?
@@Dream-Me It has! I still have moments where I miss my ex, especially due to the quarantine and because I care for them deeply... but I know I did what was best for myself and I continue to move forward and have no contact with my ex. I have even started dating people again and I’m enjoying the search for the right person!
@@TheCZO Awww that sounds good. You must be so relieved . I hope I'll get there one day I just want to forget I ever met him ! But not ready to date seriously yet and not sure if I will be for a while!
you need to know your worth..seek your worth, stand strong in integrity..and you could attract the same
Wow, i felt that completely! 👏🏻
Holding Unconditional Love For Others In This Age Is Most Often Unrequited.
Yes
Not my experience at all.
That sounds like a paradox to me. Unconditional love means to love without conditions. So how can that ever be unrequited, since you don't expect anything in return?
@@davegroenendijk6265 Unrequited As In Not Returned In Kind. So You Can Unconditionally Love A Being That is Unaware They Put Conditions On The Love They Hold. That Still Does Not Lesson The Unconditional Love You Project And Contain Within. This Is Especially True If You Hold A Unconditional Love For All, As We Cant Expect Everyone To Be A Perfect Mirror. I Dont Think We Would Want That Anyway So in A Way It Is Paradoxical 😆.
@@davegroenendijk6265 never thought about it that way 🥶🥶🥶🥶
I needed this today and the universe recommended it immediately. Synchronicity isn't mistook for coincidence, this time :) Thank you for being such an important guide
This is the single most powerful video someone can watch who is experiencing a painful heartbreak.
I just saw that I received a notification. I was hoping it was from her, recently she never calls back. It turns out that this notification was something I needed more. Life has its ways I guess.
Thank you Russel 🙇♂️
The Lord Jesus Christ is the only way.
And how are feeling now?
@@lamecasuelas2 Hi Raul, well we broke up last month because we have different goals in our lives. Since then I started meditating more, I started climbing and learning more for my licentiate degree. Too keep it short I am trying to love myself and be independent from other people, because if someone has a relationship first he needs to make sure he loves himself. Thanks for asking and have a good day
@@paulfilip3536 I've been there man, meditation and self-love are not the answer. Whatever problems you have can only be truly fixed when you bring them to the foot of the cross and surrender yourself completely to Jesus Christ. Please, I'm hoping you will listen to me. Do not go down that road of "all paths are just as good as the next", or, "im spiritual, but not religious."
Im not trying to tell you what to think or do, and I'm not trying to convert you. Im trying to warn you. I came out of the new age when I gave my life to Christ. I know the mindset, I've read the books, I've meditated countless hours...its all a deception to lead you away from Christ. I will say it here and now. As someone who used to be part of the new age, I declare openly with absolute confidence that Jesus Christ walked the earth, lived a perfect life and died unjustly for the sins of the world, and was resurrected on the third day. The Bible is God's written word, and the true Jesus is the Jesus of the Bible. He sits at the right hand of God and will return one day.
I will say it again; self love as a means of salvation is a deception straight from the pit. Please heed my warning: modern spirituality is a big lie meant to steer you away from repenting from your sins and putting your faith in Jesus Christ.
If you have any concern or question, please respond to this. Im happy to talk about all this.
@@paulfilip3536 oh that's sounds nice. Like a situattion in which you take a disadvantage and make the best out of It. Take care and peace!
" if you love somebody, set them free ". Never let me down.
I was in my thirties when I finally accepted that my mother didn't love me and that there was *nothing I could do* to change that. It was a very hard pill to swallow, but it did free me from having to suffer "unrequited love," as it were.
The good news is that she finally realized what had gone wrong and we had the very relationship I wanted for the rest of her life.
" We have to let go of our self-centered belief that we know what is right." That struck home really hard for me.
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate🥰🥰
Whatsaap him"**
Practicing self-love helps you heal from unrequited love. It also gives you the courage to risk love again since you know that no matter what happens, you'll always be able to love and accept yourself. The best relationships stem from both partners loving who they are!
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well stated..kudos
On point💝
Russell brand . You hit hard . I’d love to sit down and have a conversation with this man for a couple hours. He truly does make sense
@I Coroa I hear you. I disliked your comment, but that doesn't mean it isn't true.
I Coroa actually Russell has sat down with me for a few hours to listen to me, he’s the opposite of your judgment.
@terry I couldn't agree more. Hell, I'd rather pay #russelbrand for face to face sessions than my shrink
Lol did any of you listen to him...
I Coroa I have faith, I will keep making videos, let’s check back in 5 years and see where we’re at! 🙏🏻
Many of us confuse love with that of "True Love". Our pain comes from a desire to obtain another's affections, but True Love is never a cage or snare. True Love is freedom of choice and never a burden for either party involved. We allow them to be happy even if it is without us, this is when we move from a place of selfish desire to one of true, authentic care for others.
“None of the things you’re seeking is in the other person”
A tough pill to swallow but when you finally come to that realization, you know you deserve better and can finally move on.
Wishing everyone the best in your journey.
It just hurts, it hurts so much. I keep telling myself she’ll never love me but I still feel the pain as if it was new every time. All I came pray for is that it will go away with time cuz this is just so agonizing. It’s the most illogical pettiest feeling and yet it hurts so much. I hope one day I can come back and delete this comment to prove it’s gone. Here’s to the future.
I know that feeling it sucks. Time does make it easier. Every time you tell yourself "she'll never love you" it's like a constant affirmation. Instead stop that thought and change it to "I'm so very loved and lovable"
Going through that now. I keep telling myself if she only saw herself like I see her. But she probably doesn’t care anyway. On to another fool or fools now since she’s basically on every dating app there is.
@@raularango3539 hi man, I’m going through something similar, was with a girl who i was planning on getting a house with, was having a baby, that didn’t work out as expected. We drifted apart so she could have time to heal as she would not accept my comfort nor company. Last week I saw her walking with another man. It could be an innocent act however I feel that the whole “time apart” thing was because of the other person. Who knows I’m hurting bad either way, there isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t think of her. Things are getting better however some days are worse than others. Hope you’re getting there.
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@@ItzJackAttack it's hard. Some days are harder than others. A week goes by and I'm good and then boom I'm just thinking about her. Hope all is well with you. Seems like you had way more invested than I ever did.
it's not real love if you don't get it back. it may be painful but the right thing to do is to move on.
Sometimes they just don't know they love you yet though...in which case you must lovingly guide them to the rivers of love...gently...lovingly...but also intensely...perhaps even invasively
It's real love when you don't expect to get anything back but moving on can sometimes nevertheless be a wise decision.
Scribe13 A reply of wisdom.
I have been in a bad way since the closet members
family died . Love is a precious emotion. I wonder if l will be in love with a man again. Both my grandmas stayed single till they died. But so many people want to order me around. Gosh l thought it was my life, l thought this life was given to me.
@@1STBUCKLEY so, you both got married close to each other and went to each other's receptions? I'd not have put up with you for inviting such a guest. Obviously Love is blind and you married the 'right' person and lived like a blood-sucking leach along with your kids...Poor man. But hey, maybe in another life you'll meet again. And maybe you'll find happiness...
"I must have a lot of ego to resolve because I've felt a lot of pain in my life"
Man, that hit home hard! It's so easy to fall into the self-pity cycle, as I tend to do a lot until I realised I've got an unhealthy addiction to the pain caused by the "I'm not good enough" thoughts, which even though may be triggered by someone else not returning my feelings, ultimately I am the only one repeatedly telling myself that "I'm not good enough" for him, because of the high I get from the pain in this belief. No one else is telling me this. He tells me the opposite. And even though I know his interest and feelings for me are declining more and more, ultimately I know it's me who is causing this to happen by projecting the belief that "I'm not good enough" and ultimately I am choosing to feel hurt by this. I thought I loved myself enough because I spent years enjoying the single life and love spending time by myself. But apparently that wasn't the case, because the moment I got into a relationship and developed feelings for someone all the old insecurities and pain resurfaced back straight away! In other words, I'd only ignored my inner issues and childhood traumas - I hadn't put effort to resolve anything.
Because at the end of the day, if I loved myself enough I wouldn't be hurting so much, no matter what anyone else does.
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It’s not that I needed the other person, but I believed we were meant to be together so that I could comfort her through life.
My love for her was unrequited, and only after I left did I realize she only wanted my attention, not affection.
Trust me peeps....whomever leaves is meant to leave. Doesn't have to be sad if you just see each day as a new possibility for more good people and good things 💕😃💕😎😎
sometimes when they go it is the ultimate blessing!
new possibilities also means more negative shit can happen
When they don't love you, you move on. In turn, you have happiness, tranquility, and love within.
that is stupid...it is a contradiction..you are self destructive..read your post..they move on and your happy? wtf dude?
@@donnakuhl2419 No It's not it's quite good. Why would you want someone who doesn't want you?
@@twister1852 yes i agree if someone don't love you what is the point
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I’m going through my second breakup with my daughters mom currently and really struggling to find the want to let go. I can’t explain the physical relif I felt after watching this video. I greatly appreciate you
Im going through something similar as i type this. Hope your doing well buddy
Hope all is well, currently going through very similar with my child’s father..
This appeared on my feed today. And I honestly dont think ive ever needed to hear something as much as I needed to hear this.
Stopped me in my tracks & made me listen. It hurt inside to hear you talk about me & how I have been behaving. But i needed this. I needed to hear these words & acknowledge that I do not know whats best for me. You are absolutely correct. Thank you.
Love is a drug. We are all addicts. Sometimes we have to walk away.
Toxic love is the drug
Karan you left alone a pregnant woman?
Karan am assuming you never slept with her and it isn't yours otherwise why abandon your offspring?
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Took me 28 years to reach this same realization.. So well articulated.
omg me too sadly
It took me 45 years. Wasted my life away.
@@bumblebee803 mmmmm and i thought 20 ish of mine was bad, my lifes pretty ruined too
@@jhalley95 I know. But now I'm awake and I am on my healing journey and it feels really fantastic. Hang in there.
It took me 29, and I’m 29. Will have to do better moving fwd..
Amazing such compassion. I’ve been struggling with this for 15 months, my heart is broken yet that’s the main reason I don’t go back because I know he didn’t love me. Thank you Russell ❤️
Even when Russell Brand was (Wilding Out) I knew that his knowledge and compassion ran very deep. I believe these videos are a true part of his calling. I would even take it a step further and say that his purpose is in service those in mental and emotional pain. What an awesome gift! 😇🥰
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Unrequited love is a gift in art
or it's so devastating as to be paralyzing, making any 'art' such a trigger that you can't function
This 🙏🏼✨💫
@Karan oh it's stoppedded
I agree the most beautiful songs & poems have come from 💔
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Russel has a uncompromising and beautifully warm honesty about him that i find very refreshing.
I love most of what Russell does but in contrast to the usual witty and thought provoking smartassery, this is such a beautiful dose of truth wrapped up in compassion and comfort. Thanks RB.
So powerful. Understanding more and more every day but this just saved me countless days in trying to make sense of it all. Appreciate the love you’re spreading @Russell Brand
Your best video yet, my friend. It begins, exists, and ends with us. We must face our own delusions of what we think will fulfill us and stop expecting others to give us what we want.
Pipe North so true
Excellent response!
It’s refreshing to see someone open up in such an honest way.
Yes, but at the same time sadly there's zero communication with his viewers.
M mmm I know but can you imagine how time consuming it would be to reply . Wonder if he reads them! not that it matters.
What does it matter if he reads them? We're all here. If these topics generate some reflection on the human condition among us, then it served it's purpose. Otherwise, it's just hero worship and it defeats the point, no?
@@lynby2108 I highly doubt he reads them. And, yes it can be time consuming but he has enough money to get help with it, organize it wisely.
My problem is: I don't want to follow someone egocentric who lives in a bubble. 🤷🏻♀️
@@nycgingercat what does it matter? To sit in front of a camera, only do monologues and show no interest in your viewers reaction isn't good.
To follow someone like that, *that's* just hero worship.
How beautiful is it to see someone taking their own pain and turning it into a resource for others. Thank you amigo.
I understand that you may never see this Russell but you have opened my eyes. You have been on a path that I myself have never been able to even find. Thank you.
I have never been truly loved by a man, even my Father. My Father broke my heart as a child as I realised he didn't even like me nevermind love me. I have done lots of internal work. Men have let me down very badly, I just don't know how to attract decent men so I am 12 years single now and I feel I'm better off than most married people.
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I felt better when my man went to prison. And I think back to wondering why did I beat myself up about losing him. He was the worst part of my life.
Waiting long is better than MARRYING WRONG. ITS A "STEVEN SPEAKS" UA-cam CHANNEL GUY. YOU MIGHT LIKE WATCHING HIM TOO.
I agree. I've never been loved properly by a man. I'm finally done yearning after 37 yrs of wanting love.
Just got dumped from a 3 year relationship and I've been reeling and spinning out for a week. No one did anything one thing wrong but now he wants only friendship. Im still so in love with him. This message is so timely for me. I hope I can see the other side of this soon because he hurts like hell. At 38, I'm so lucky to have never felt heartbreak quite like this. I pray I never do again. Love and blessings to everyone trying to heal.
I'm in the same boat, I'm a similar age and probably the toughest breakup of my life happened three months ago. Some other vids on here that helped me - Breakups dont have to leave you broken Gary Lewandowski, How to fix a broken heart Guy Winch, The Power of breakup Onan Kishan Khullar. You might have found them already. You will get your strength back even though it might not feel like it at the moment, we can use the emotional energy of heartbreak to drive us to create, reassess, make plans and look forward to a better future... go for it it's worth fighting for. Look after yourself good luck to you x
@@katiej343 thank you so very much taking the time to share these and for the well wishes. I will surely check them out. All the best!
I feel your pain...i'm the same, i am 60 and got dumped a year ago after 2 lovely years, nobody committed any crime either..was just not working for her. A year down the line i am still feeling kinda broken whereas she has moved on.. Its an awful thing. Time and being kind to yourself helps they say.
I'm going through something similar...Very fresh and new...I can't tell you how explosive it was. We met each other on every level. Lived an hour apart. She even onve messaged me "are you tired of me yet? Lol". I was so happy with her! Then one day she brought up politics and I tried my best to be as neutral as possible and even change the subject. I even decided to just ask her if she wanted to be exclusive.
We had a decent breakfast kissed, chatted regularly throughout the week, then this past weekend and this entire week has been extremely distant and cold...I feel within my heart that she's done with me. I don't wanna risk loving ever again. I'm tired of this pain. I miss her very much...last week I even purposefully decided not to message her until the end of the day after she messaged most days just to give her space bc we spoke a lil almost daily for months. And now, well two days ago, she said we probably need to discuss some things. I replied in short "okay, and for her to hit me up when she had the time". Kinda left it open ended for her to feel free to reply on her terms.
Been days and not a peep. She's still friends with me on Facebook though for some odd reason...I know I can't crack and speak to her when she's like this...I don't know if she's pregnant, just needs space, is seeing someone else that she's in love with, if she decided she's gay, or what. My mind is totally uneasy about not knowing what she wanted to discuss...And not knowing if we ever will. I just have this sense that she and I are over. And I don't want to risk getting close to anyone ever again.I even apologized in that last message to her I mentioned for waiting so long to message and being stubborn...didn't explain to her it was bc I wanted to approach things with her better than others in my past.
Can anyone offer me advice on what to do to help my mindset? I feel trapped in pain and uncertainty.
@@agent00chimp Communicate! Just ask her plainly what she wants and tell her how you feel. Living in doubt is the worst. And concentrate on making your like better and fulfilling, if you feel like your happiness depends on her, t'is no good.
Thank you Russell!!! You save my life again and again. I listen to you when I feel self doubt and your videos help me to pick up myself from the bottom each time!❤️ I love you with all my heart
Great insight Russell.!!
For me the freedoms came when I began to love myself. I learned to accept my “Mistakes” as learning experiences and removing my focus from dwelling on the things I can not change- the accomplishments began to overcome me. I learned to value each day in itself and that I could choose to be happy. Happiness is not a “feeling” it is a decision.
If you don’t love you- who will? Not in the stuck up-“I’m so amazing” kind of love … but an awareness of who you are- embracing those things you love about you… changing the things that are not working for you and being ok with the growth process.
Pain is a huge motivator for change. At least it should be.
It’s so liberating to be moving out of the insanity definition of doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome.
No more living in replay-
The amazing thing is I’ve learned to love people where they are at and that I only answer for me.
I took the “handle” off of anything that’s not mine to carry.
" All pain is an invitation to let go of ego " 🔥Thankful for these videos
"When they don't love you back" - sums up just about every "serious" (or so I thought at least) relationship i've had.
Right!!???? Or you think you know someone and they just turn into completely different creations all together. Will we ever understand life hey 😅😅😅
@@erikaventer3592 Hey fellow Sa girl :) good to see you here! definitely, i agree! it seems luck hasn't been on our side when it comes to love, I dont think i'll ever get used to this thing called life!!
Trust
One who cares the least has the most control of the relationship
@@erikaventer3592 exactly
I wanna say this video actually helped me through a very tough heartbreak and realization I needed I truly needed to hear this
As someone who just a sudden crush for a person I barely know, thank you. I needed this reality check. I'm 30 and didn't have a proper crush since high school, which made it more weird for me to understand where these feelings are coming from.
It’s difficult but necessary for my own well being to be good to people even when I think they are not reciprocating. One day at a time and not worrying about tomorrow works for me.
Boundaries are very important as well. Having boundaries isn't unkind. It's necessary for wellbeing too.
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Excellent actually. I put every single one of them on the same pedestal despite none of them having anything in common.
Some really good points raised that I'll always hope to remember. It's painful when you finally start accepting it all, but this video does help deal with it and how to think about it moving forward.
Russell is a poet, an artist, and a philosopher. He speaks on all the layers that I feel, the absurd and the sublime.
Whatever we chase, money, status, love. etc., always runs away from us.
When we give up the chase, we get it.
Very insightful and exactly what I needed to hear right now so thank you. I knew this person wasn’t meant for me from the beginning and I continued to allow myself to develop feelings. Almost like I was setting myself up for failure and it’s heart breaking that I did that to myself. Maybe I don’t value my worth as I thought I did.
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Thank you for your vulnerable honesty!! I am in that beginning phase. I knew what he’d do, I took him back and believed his BS damn well knowing how he broke me the 1st time YET I expected a different result, and STILL BLAMED MYSELF!
Thank you
I’m relating to the last part of your comment. Nearly all of this two year relationship I’m in I have believed she’s the one, she’s who I want. This past week she said she can’t do this anymore and asked for some space. I respected it and yesterday she said she wants to really give it a shot. Of course I said yes, but it has left me questioning how strong I really am. All last week I felt pathetic, weak without her and that’s not who I want to be. Whether her and I work out I know I have to be better for myself.
Wow! This guy is really good! The way he says and explains things is not only helpful and informative, but captivating. Its like he makes all the small confusing separate pieces fall together in my head and helps me make sense of the things that I need to do and change.! Thanks Russ!
This had me in tears man… when you said, “I must have a lot of ego because I feel a lot of pain” jeeeez, that hit me hard… made me think of it all entirely differently, thank you, truly🙏🏻
"There is a great discovery to be made beneath that pain"
a beautiful death
"Hearts that are broken and love that's untrue, you're only learning the game. When you love her but she doesn't love you, you're only learning the game." -Buddy Holly (learning the game)
have you ever seen Cinderella part 2?
@@Sam-xr8ne I have not
Absolutely sobbing hearing this because I already know it! When in a dark night of the soul there is no where to go apart from inside! Spiritual assention demands you let go of any outcome and live in the law of assumption when the ego disappears through detachment and pain and you trust in the devine you will always get what you need and not what you want! Big shout to anyone that is experiencing the loss of a soul mate or twin flame connection right now I got you! 💜🙏
Love them to see them for who they are. That's the price of admission. You'll never see how crazied a person is till you love them. So, _understanding_ is a prerequisite to real love & vice versa. Love without understanding, is imagination. Love to understand.
Real talk
That's beautiful.
Its ok if it takes you a few extra months... or years to move on. Not everyone leaves the same imprint on your life.
Tough love is what I needed, timely words Russell 🙏
I had a version of him in my head that would speak to me through his "true inner self" but his "ego" was the physical person who didn't love me back. This entity would soothe me for almost two years. I would see signs that "he" would send me letting me know he will come back one day. Realizing the voice was just how I felt he should see me brought me into a special intense kind of grieving. During this time I was making friends with a lot of schizophrenics who fueled my delusions and hallucinations. All I had was myself the whole time. I was done being insane about multiple things when I came to terms with this reality. I put my love energy that was going nowhere into myself and I'm so much happier about it. You are in control.
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@@layla2786 Oh lol no, my ex and I broke up 4 years ago. I was really young and didn't know that the kind of love he had to offer wasn't what I wanted anyways. I've been in an extremely happy and healthy relationship for almost three years now. Thank you for taking the time to comment to me. Congratulations on your restored relationship.
“Emotional tundra”- his language is beautiful.
This man is a philosophical genius. I absolutely love his perspective on these horrible mental pains we inflict upon our souls.
I genuinely admire this talk… I’ve been through hell and back trying to get love from someone who isn’t even capable of loving them self x
Wow. Absolutely profound yet so easy to understand. Thank you.
Within 8 minutes and 43 seconds you have so simply explained to me the problem I have been experiencing for the last 2 years. No one else could have put it so beautifully and peacefully as you just have. Thank you 🙏🏽
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