3 HACKS to Face FEAR & INTIMIDATION in Street Fights
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- Опубліковано 29 гру 2020
- This week we look at the best approach of how to fight and defend yourself against someone squaring off to you in a street fight. Here are 3 simple self defence techniques that could make a difference to your personal safety. How to Deal with someone trying to Intimidate you for a fight in 3 simple rules.
Section 1. Body Language: How to posture yourself to appear confident. How to stay confident in a fight.
Section 2. Best position and Angle to Adopt against aggressive intimidation: Your Fighting Stance
Section 3. How to build confidence in a fight. Displaying confidence while avoiding eye contact.
How to fight fear and intimidation in self defence depends on how you defend yourself by controlling space both physically and psychologically.
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The best fights are the ones that never happened. Posture and confidence really goes a long way.
I've been ably to avoid EVERY near fight by simply standing... except one, when my friends told the uppity punk he didn't want to do it.
Funny thing, because of that... ive never had to fight
Truer words were never spoken.train for fights so you don't have to 👍
Sometimes posture and confidence will make someone attack you ..if i was arguing with someone and they were acting like they could handle me it would make me want to fight them
Peace through violence training. If you look like you know how to fight, people will be less likely to try picking a fight because they don't want to risk losing a fight.
Not really
My own personal rule #1 is: NEVER allow any potentially hostile elements to get within 6 feet of you. If they insist on doing so then you need to prepare to start throwing hands and feet. I've seen way too many people allow hostile people to breach their personal space and eat a sucker punch afterwards.
Yeah, I saw a video of a young lad squaring up head to head to receive an upper cut that KO him, he was so close he never saw it coming.
I’ve seen that too, people getting right up close face to face then one guy headbutting the other and it’s over
Take flight, when the no fly zone is breached.
I CANT LET YOU GET CLOSE
AMATEUR@@nickpayne5191
With the way things are in the world today, this is becoming my favorite channel.
True
feel the same way bro
yup its a dangerous place out there, where assholes are trying to make you their bitches, so i got many hidden weapons in my edc bag , even my cap have a hidden weapon
In the UK you’ll get busted for carrying a feather duster.
It's dangerous because if humans. In yet we still celebrate ourselves like we're so great when we're clearly not. Everyone stop having kids, people are the problem.
Honestly, from altercations I’ve been in, the best way I dealt with any fear or intimidation was to strike first and hard when the aggressor violated m my personal space. It’s very empowering to watch an aggressor wither on the ground in tears with a broken nose, orbital bone, and jaw just moments after trying to intimidate; humiliate, and victimize. The only good bully is a bleeding one 🩸, and often the only thing they understand.
Mark Sir,
Your comment makes you seem like a straight forward guy and experienced, I've been trying to figure an answer to question for awhile. But every time I lose the question , I get tough guys showing off for social media, sarcasm, keyboard warriors and kids .
My question is this: I'm a Veteran & also a from the Bronx fighting was the norm in Both the Military & Streets where I'm from.
I've never ever lost a fight, where I was defending myself
But I've lost every fight I initiated or was the aggressor ..
Any theory on why that is? Have you heard of such a thing before?
Is there Karma in Fighting you think?
@@Peakfreud May be some truth to what your saying. I’ve lost one self defense encounter and that was a 7 on 1, with me being the 1 😄 Others I faired well. In boxing competition, I did so so, about 50/50. The closest thing I can figure is that when I competed it was sport and I had to function within the scope of rules, plus I wasn’t actually ‘angry or amped up’ like when it’s for real. When it was for real and someone was actually out to inflict great bodily harm on me, failure wasn’t an option and I did what was necessary…. and the encounter was way easier then in a ring boxing someone. I actually took more damage in competition than street encounters. Maybe it was the mindset. Maybe it’s because they are different types and classes of fighters. Or a combination of that. But yes, I was a totally different person in the ring then I was on the street. Ring I was a fighting for glory. In the street I was fighting to not get permanently injured or killed. I totally get where you are coming from, and I’m also a Veteran, non wartime.
@@MarkedInBlack Thanks for your Service.
Yeah, it's something I always wondered about... The psychological aspect.
Everytime I was Wrong in a Fight I lost, but when I was defending myself I always felt more confident
Less fear...
Yeah I don't know much about the sport of boxing sir, but suspect there's mutual respect and you're not trying to kill your opponent.
Thanks for response, I was just curious and who better to ask than an actual boxer.
Those losses taught me not to start fights. I'm like 0-4 when throwing the first punch . But I got jumped in the Mall in New Jersey by some dudes robbing people I fought 4 dudes and held my own.
I fought one dude on the basketball court where I threw the first punch and knocked out cold...🤷♂️
@@Peakfreud what was funny was there was one particular boxer who I fought twice and he beat me both times by decision. I bumped into him off base about a month after our second fight and he was running his yap about how he kicked my ass. I was like “whatever, dude…. a judges decision isn’t an asskicking. It’s a win. An asskicking is a knockout, which you couldn’t get done.” Some people laughed and he bowed up and wanted to fight right then. I tried to deescalate it but he was too amped up to back down and he came in for the two handed shove. I tagged him before he got to shove me, and it was on. He came at me and I whipped his ass within 20 seconds. I don’t think he’s ever been hit without gloves on. He landed a few grazing shots to the head but it didn’t do anything. He was all busted up in the face and a huge knot grew over his left eye. Found out later I broke his jaw, cracked his orbital bone, and gave him a serious concussion…. yet he was undefeated in the ring. I couldn’t beat him in two tries in the ring but got the TKO in 20 seconds in a mall parking lot 😄
@@MarkedInBlack Hahaha I guess there's a huge difference between Boxing & Fighting. ... Good thing you did that to another Boxer, I think you could get in legal trouble if you're a trained boxer fighting a regular dude.
I'm not sure but I heard that somewhere.
"Everybody has a face until they get punched in the plan" - Tike Myson
I broke my back
tpinal
To hell with Mike tyson.
@@davemarshall706... Like him or hate him.... Best boxer ever.
On weed lol
XD
People's first impression of you is so important, if you appear weak then that's could be the trigger for someone to attack you.
Don't be a victim, be confident. Using the 3 p's will help you to do that.
Thanks for sharing Sifu 🙏🏽
What’s the 3 p’s ?
@@ngawangchimeybhutia711 posture position and placement he said that at around 0:29
pp pro
This saved my life. There was this dude pushing me around and all that pre-fight shit i tried to de-escalate the situation (keep in mind this guy bigger and stronger than me so it was hard to face him in the eye) but in the end he ended up walking away. Thank you
Been using these techniques subconsciously for 2 decades , saved me from some very dangerous situations
This is very true even in many social settings. After my father died as I was going into 3rd grade I assumed a "wounded chicken" demeanor and went from a happy child/student to one who was very indrawn. This brought out the worst in those around me. and began 7 years of bullying in school. Prior to my father's death I was confident and never recall any bullying at all. Of course, at the time I had no idea of this dynamic; I was too overwhelmed by the death of my father. I hate bullies BTW ;)
I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I also hope you aren’t still getting bullied. There is no reason for people to bully anyone. Unfortunately some people disagree with this method but, the most effective way to stop a bully is to beat him at his own game.
I Am Sorry For Your Loss. Your Dad Is In Paradise. No More Suffering.
People like to kick you when you're down . Easy target.
Learn to project strength or confidence . If confidence alone isn't doing the trick , then project menace. Also remember predators can hear your thoughts so never think fear thoughts.
@@andrewmoore2019 how you comport yourself goes a long way
I got to a point when I was training hard that I could actually feel people knew I could handle myself. It's a vibe that comes from your orra, spirit, confidence. Now I am 73 years old. I still train but you have to know your limitations too.
You seem like the type of guy that could tell quite a few cool stories about your life.
Spot on m8. I was no hard man.... But wen i boxed and i sat in at around a tiny 10 stone.. The way u move shows alot about us hey
Don pretty much nailed it below with his comment. Sensei, we could really use your talents here in the States. This place is literally going to blow up and could very easily become a great training ground for Fight Science.
I always like the advice that you share, it's simple and effective.
Good lesson...don't be a target by looking weak or distracted. I always try to de-escalate and keep people at a distance so if they are aggressive I can bless them with my POM chili sauce. The best fight is one you don't have to engage in!
I've always said the best way to win a fight is not be there, period
I find nutheads in malls , dept stores, grocery shops who starts arguing over small things like , I was supposed to pick that. I believe you can't avoid places, so learning a Lil bit of self defense really goes a long way.
A lot of schools miss this when they focus on sport aspect
No questions, keep yourself to yourself, someone wants it, they got it, attack is the first line of defence, i used to be an easy target but toughened up by going boxing, 3 times i have been approached in a threatening manor were I've had people start on me for no reason, minding my own business and I've finished them all within about 15 seconds due to the fact on me going psycho on them and as loud as possible and for some really satisfying reason they shit it and didn't fancy it. Funny thing is the bully that was bullying me at work for a while then fronted me outside work for standing up to him even though he was about 10 inches bigger than me then got it in front of other work colleagues(his minons) now doesn't even want eye contact with me and I noticed that everybody at work now wants to be my best friend which is a tad annoying as I fly alone. Pigeons flock together eagles fly alone. Another great upload and positive message from great people in the fight against let's say the unenlightened. 👍👍
Nice. My kind of happy ending 🤣. Reminds me of William Blake, "The eagle never wasted so much time as when it submitted to learn from the crow."
@@hosehuang8565 great reply. You learn something new every day and today I learned about the proverbs of hell. Many thanks.👍
Brilliant it's great to hear what you done. Fear no foe.
Good for you for standing up to your bully...but loneliness has its own pitfalls.....
@@sirbelphegory9828 many thanks but I am not lonely my friend. Solitude practiced over time is very beneficial for your health and for one's desire to become a better human being. AMOR VINCENT OMNIA
Love this guy. Always great content! Thank you again!
Been subscribed for who knows how many years, I believe it's been 4, and these videos always help me get a better sense of how important little details are in confrontations. I wholly appreciate these great videos, I hope you'll be able to make more!
This is another great video. I appreciate the high quality visuals and expert commentary.
Thanks Mark for the info in your videos...very reality-based. As a Wing Chun practitioner, I find your putting those principles into a street application extremely useful. Keep 'em coming. Cheers!
Be careful with keeping your head up though, you don't want to get hit in the neck.
Or chined
No B.S training, realistic and practical 👌 My new favourite UA-cam channel. thank you for all the efforts.
Great lesson. Really love the practicality of your videos. Thank you
I love the locations you choose!
Really happy to come across this channel.
Thank you brothers!
Great video always good points
Good advise, you're the best!
I was a cop for 28 years from a karate background begun in 1981 . I know exactly how good this advice is . I dealt with drunken assholes and bad bastards a lot . People who didn’t give a shit who you were and thought nothing of hurting me . The biggest issue is adrenal dump . Some people learn intense aggression to drive that adrenaline through you and you feel weak and shitting yourself . Learning to deal with aggression is crucial . I always have one main rule . Take the ground and own the moment . He’s aggressive be more aggressive. If he’s got talent he’ll show his wares , if he’s full of shit he’ll fold !
Master, thank you for these videos. Respect and Support from South Itay and Happy Holidays
Thank you very much for this.
Doctor Phillips, on a different note, I'd like to thank you for providing this space where I've had the chance to interact and exchange with some of the coolest 😎 people on-line - Martial Artists, philosophers, and other like-minded individuals. I look forward to next year's content 🤩
Most excellent!
Thank you very much for another useful video. Your videos are practical.
Love all your videos sir. Thank you for your knowledge.
Useful information! Thanks!
Bravo..🏆🏅💯💯 Thanks mate..
Thank you for showing us
Great video, again!
Nice tips!
I enjoy your videos and hope I never have to use what I try to learn. Great work
I love this channel, showing love all the way from Florida
Thank you Sir. Really appreciate your kind words.
Really wish I could get inperson lessons from this guy he so genuine and easy to understand
Excellent as usual. May you all have a happy and safe new year👍😁
Great tips!!!!
Thanks for sharing this information, very informative and helpful
Awesome video Sifu, thanks for sharing. I totally agree. The way you hold yourself and your body movement is critical...a criminal\bully can pick up on that and tell if you are going to put up a fight or roll over in a few seconds . That smooth movement is usually only visible with dancers and\or seriously trained martial artists...like a tiger in motion....every movement precise, controlled and smooth. It screams "Come attack me at your peril!"
I'm still trying to attain that level as I'm nowhere near it lol
Thank you Sir.
Great video thank you.
Thanks lot respect for u sir great there's alot of bullies so yes we don't want to become victims but stay blessed thanks again
I always look forward to the opening and ending for that 😁😁😁!!
#FIGHTBOSS
Awesome channel this
Amazing tips...I try sometimes...but now ill train it consciously all the time...focus on stand and hands position...awesome...Im turn everyday a very hard target...thanks to share this wirh us.
Love Doc Mark videos great videos, I will always remember what my sensi said to there secrets never telling a soul
you'll find that fidgeting seems to attract Intimidators
That’s a very astute point, it sub-communicates nervousness and people out there will jump on it.
Yeah but what you gotta do is act like you got this tick, like the army did an experiment on you that went horribly wrong and be like 'Back up! back up! Mind your business, that's all. Mind. Your. Businss.'
@@BodaciousWickerman whahahaha Belair style 😂😂😂😂
@@JD-vh5hj Yeah bro you know it!
This is a life saving advice.
As always great video
Not really
@@mikal1659 Did you not enjoy it
the best bro
Sensei, as always good info. Sometimes the fight is decided before the 1st punch is thrown.
And I'm diggin' those shoes 👞 too... !!!
Stylin'...
Sifu for Mandurian, Cantonese languages. Sensei is Japanese
@@redcon1570 My 1st instructor was black but he taught Okinawan Ishinru karate. So I basically call any instructor Sensei at this point.
Regardless It's a term of respect...
Great advice 👍 appreciate your knowledge Sir👏
Thank you very much, this is what i really really need to know👍
Excellent pragmatic advice !!
Thank you !!!
Thanks M8!
Nice video as always
Wow, just wow. Recently started following Dr Phillips and absorbing all is wisdom. Trained MMA 7 years, wrestled HS, 31 yrs LE career with many solo fights. His mindset, situational awareness are so applicable to self defense. His "pre-fight" considerations will avoid or win most fights. Seriously, he's minimally in the top 5 of self defense experts in the world. I only wish he lived in the US. I would travel hours to train under him. Even at the rip age of 60 yrs young!
Great tip about being more square on when its real up close so you can use your striking tools.
Square is pure power but you most be ready to move off square to keep your balance during an altercation. Easily you can be inadvertently knocked out of balance through fighting and you wouldn't know it till its too late.
Very good!
In Krav, they always teach us to work our way to their dead space, off to the side. Very good point. Glad you practice it too. 😊
Sir, you are a Great teacher sifu...
Simple is always best. Keep It Simple & Sound KISS !
Appearing strong and confident is a must if you are at least a bit strong and confident, but if you're a weak person and it's easy to see, making yourself confident would probably trigger a bully/aggressor even more
I really like his video's
Mr. Mark your videos help me to "be sure about myself" I am 17 years old and I am a 6 feet long male I am conditioning my knuckles and arms plus I have sharp knees and elbows but I lack of self confidence a lot I have never been in a real fight but the thinking about a fight alone is enough to scare me. I am not a weak guy sir but as the proverb says "if you never had a punch on your face you will think your punch is a hammer" so I am open for any advice and thanks a lot as always for teaching us these essential self defense techniques stay safe happy new year (oh and sorry for bad English)
Young dude, I highly reccomend that you learn break-falls - any self respecting martial artist/Master knows that the ground is harder than a fist, once you lose the fear of being flipped and safely land (maybe not on your feet ☺) you'll walk a little more confident and taller (pun intended). If you have no access to a training studio but have someone you ABSOLUTELY TRUST have them punch you - I know how this sounds, but trust me, YOU NEED TO KNOW HOW YOU'LL REACT. Know yourself. I hope this helps.
@@hosehuang8565 Thank you for the gentle reply sir I will be trying to learn how to fall softly from now 😊 I am trying the wing chun arm conditioning and it hurts so I want to ask should I be resting or ignoring the pain
@@mysecondaccount5386 🤔 I'm not familiar with this conditioning...I'll look it up. For now all I can say is: If the pain is local to the area or muscle you are conditioning, just go lighter, pain tolerance will increase in time. If the pain is crippling and prevents you from even moving or using your arm, you may be doing something wrong. Remember all movements should be natural and almost effortless. Your power comes from Chi and the proper use of your ENTIRE BODY - from your stance, to the tantien, to the shoulders and elbow, down to your breathing. Mention it to your instructor, training should improve your quality of life, not cripple it. I hope this helps✌🏼
@@hosehuang8565 Thank again sir of course it helps a lot the conditioning style I am trying is like you get yourself a partner or a tree 😊 then hit it with your forearms and arm bones (oh and I have no one but myself to train) so how long does it take to make my arms like iron (thanks for your patience btw sir)
1. Join a martial art (mma, boxing etc..)
2. Beginning learning the basics. If its boxing (my fav) learn how to stand, throw a punch, defend etc..
3. MOST IMPORTANT to help you with your issue- Do light soarting. You will feel what it feels like to punch someone and have punches come at you and defend, react etc...
Remember this is light sparring with head gear so you won't really get hurt. Its only practice.
After a while you will gain confidence, get better and can up your sparring.
Be ready, so you don't have to get ready.
Again,
1. Join a gym with boxing or any other martial arts (look them up NOW, call and enroll, don't procrastinate)
2. Train, train, train
3. Light Sparring.
Hope these help you as much as it helped me 👊
Position, Posture and Proximity. 👍👍👍
👍🏼 Doc is doing it doing it right! It doesn't matter what art you train or for how long, THE MENTAL ASPECT makes all the difference. On several occasions I've had to NOT fight simply because I reacted fast and created distance between my would-be-attackers, seeing my response time they backed off. I should mention I'm a short dude so big guys think I'd make an easy target 😉
Happy NEW YEAR Doc and everyone here, be safe. ✌🏼
Your short? Take that to your advantage, you have a lower centre of gravity, use that.
@@DaddySantaClaus 👍🏼 HELL YEAH! No one ever thinks of me as a potential threat. It's fun seeing tall dudes try judo throws on me 😂 Good times
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and expertise on confrontation from growing up around gang bangers me aware of this but appreciate how you break down strategy in various places and using body language just like the environment if in immediate life danger.
I like what he says. Philosophy level of a situation.
Delivering first blow is important ! Determining signals to analyze first strike, very important !!!
muy bueno
Good video
3:13 You might beat up assailants but you still look like the kindest guy ever😂
these guys are... life
you smile your sterile your virile your cool as a cucumber you make encounters look easy luv your vids and i love your advice you clearly know what your doing thanks for the tutorial 👍👍👍👍
Thank you!! Can you make a video on how to defend when you’re a smaller person?
Pretty sure he has already covered this.
Screaming. Not shouting. Not raised, aggressive voices. But horror movie screaming. Right in their face. Right when they get up on you. Works like a charm.
There's an interview on UA-cam of a serial mugger saying he often picks men over women because men would try to silently fight him-not drawing attention to the encounter-and he'd win those fights. But women would scream bloody murder and he'd have to run. If you're a dude, the likelihood is high that you've never tried winning a fight by erupting into the longest loudest unending series of banshee screams you could. But I promise you as someone who used it all the time as a kid and still uses it here and there to this day at bar gigs, it totally works. Your attacker might nervously laugh, often they will immediately take 3 steps back, and absolutely every single person within 50 yards will be staring at nothing but you.
Worry about fight after the fight, throwing hands first and damaging your opponent would be complicated to explain to the authorities in terms of self defense.
✊🏼 ABSOLUTELY
BTW I dig your user icon 😎
yup but kill or be killed....your choice
Perhaps reading "In the Name of Self Defense" by Mark MacYoung will help.
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Happy new year btw
Am I the only one that saw the beginning clip of the 2 women arguing, and thought that they were gonna start kissing? OMG stop watching porn guys, its REALLY REALLY bad for you. Great video as always boys!
Perception. Is projection. That style of positive attitude gets you started on, especially when you ain’t 6”10
About 5 yrs ago, I was walking in a not-so-great area (National City, CA) late at night, wearing a shirt and tie and carrying a brief case. There was a young man, about 20, across the street who immediately crossed over walking towards me as soon as he saw me. I felt (rightly or wrongly) that I could take him. So I stopped, stood my ground, holding eye contact with him as he approached. He clearly saw that I was not afraid, and accordingly walked by, and was so kind as to say, "Have a good evening, sir."
I have partial seizures so any reaction triggers a seizure from mild to uncontrollable. Had it since 9 and am 33 right now. I almost never had to endure fights. I did train a few years in basice karate when I was a teenager. I also can't fully fight as I have crohn's and being punched in the stomach could become life threatening. I respect anyone who has the ability to defeat themselves from an aggressor.
Predators like easy targets , weak targets . 1st rule in jungle is to project strength or menace . Some predators aren't predators at all . Some folks join the predator team if they see an opportunity. Jungle strength works like this . Avoid smiling unless someone cracks a super funny joke , keep a neutral or serious face . Keep composure , don't do drama,excessive shouting or excitement. If confronted don't threaten aggressors or turn away if given a verbal threat . Don't go back and forth arguing with a hostile , get to the point and move on if possible, if you have to swear then swear but don't shout . If the hostile reaches for a weapon or puts his hand on you then it's time to fight . Unless you're a trained fighter never approach a fight like a fight in a ring. Aim with the mindset to shed blood or break bones as early as possible. Make sure you leave with the police not the paramedics or coroner . The best fight is the one that never happens. Learn to read people , avoid bad situations and project strength .
Happy New Year!
Being aware of your surroundings is also vital - 'Zanshin' in old school Karate. I see so many people mostly youngsters glued to their smart phone screens with earphones stuck in each ear hole. With World War 3 going on around them they would remain blissfully unaware! Never mind setting themselves up for muggers and various attackers they remain ignorant of the traffic and have stepped out in front of my car on more than one occassion! When you're out and about stay alert and with good body posture you'll get to your destination.
Hey Dr. Phillips I love that smile! What are you a Doctor of if you don't mind me asking???
Says Criminal Psychiatrist in his channel bio
@@slippery999 thank you
Yep, one time a guy crossed a street walking straight towards me to fight me, i had shopping bags in my hand, just before he got in front of me I put both my shopping bags on the ground calmly.. guess what he did when he got right in front of me
Put his hand out to shake my hand 😂😂😂😂😂
Really? 🤣
@@TheReal_Popming LOOOL yes, it was strange turn of events really
Careful. Some people fake a handshake to give you a headbutt.
@@kle1n that's true but I declined his handshake..
Confidence in one of the hardest things to fake
4:33 a really nice guy 👍
Agression and energy are number one deciding factors i have challenged many when i was alone. They always backed down
It is foolish of me to do this some day my luck will run out . I have almost no experience of fighting . Just an attitude which i am unable to limit when challenged
The limited martial arts experience I have automatically go into a fighter stance when I know that I'm in danger
But I forget about positioning and standing to the side
As for facing fear in start of a violence
It comes from experience,
I have experienced quite a lot of violence I just look them in the eye and they say going if going to kill me you have to work hard to do it
Body language is key
Very good. I think if you can outwardly appear very calm and collected it goes a long way to making the other guy think twice. Why is he so calm yet I’m ready to fight and a bit scared? Okay maybe this won’t have to be a fight after all.... deep down I think most people don’t want a fight, there’ll be a ‘situation’, like someone bumped into your girlfriend or disrespected her. A calm ‘I’m sorry about that’ would be enough to calm a situation. But nothing will stop a fight happening if both people are angry, for they will both get more and more aggressive until it comes to blows. The guy who remains calm, says sorry with dignity, and stops any aggression has effectively won without a punch being thrown. He won a mental battle, not a physical one.