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You're an amazing woman with a beautiful heart Kendall. It's one of the reasons why I became a subscriber. ❤ Thank you for supporting such an important cause and organization. 🙂
Absolutely!!!! This situation is just f***ed up. I don't have a lot of money, but if any cause is worth giving to it's your brother's. May he rest in peace.
His story is so eerily similar to mine and yes he absolutely NEEDS to hear that from a 3rd party over and over and over again. He seems like such a lovely person.
@@Cami-ls1ki Exactly. I used to think that sending an addict to prison would ultimately save their life by forcing detox on them. That's before I learned that it's just as easy to get shit inside as it is outside. Nobody grows up hoping to be an addict. It's a horrible life.
You have to be a special level of pathetic to abuse an infant and pin the blame on a small child. I sincerely hope that the Landin family gets justice for Jacob and can put D behind bars. Justice should never have an expiration date.
My thoughts EXACTLY. I made almost the exact same comment and also said that justice should never have an expiration date, especially in cases on child abuse. There’s evidence! It blows my mind. I wish there was more I could do to help.
Very well said. To be honest, in my opinion I'd add-- that you have to be a special kind of STUPID not to charge "D"-bag with anything and everything under the sun. Definitely a special place in hell waiting for that lowlife.
You can see in this video how Eric was manipulated/gaslighted by a narcissist to alter his own memories and reality as a young boy. He is a victim too. We support all victims !
That hit so close to home for me. My biological mothers ex husband abused my at the time 2 year old sibling and he did the exact same thing and said my other sibling was jealous and had anger issues. He got away with everything and it’s just awful.
Once she felt her boyfriend could not be alone with her son anymore that was the sign she needed to move on, this story is heartbreaking the signs were there and clear 💔 sending Eric healing energy
I think the fact that Eric to this day is made to believe that he just “forgot” abusing his little brother is sick. I felt so horrible listening to him defend himself saying “he was 20lb I was only 40, the crib was this big I was only this big” he doesn’t remember because he didn’t do it. Plain and simple. The mental torture Eric went though, including losing his little brother is so sad ...
It’s so horrible. The thought of losing my little brother (we’re both adults now, but my feelings haven’t changed at all) terrifies me. What Eric has been through sounds like torture. He must be a very strong person to be such a brave advocate for his little brother, especially given the abuse Eric himself suffered. D telling people that Eric hurt Jacob is absolutely horrible, but implanting that possibility in Eric’s own mind is beyond that. It’s cruel, self-serving, sadistic, cowardly and the closest thing to evil I’ve ever heard. Eric is a hero who’s still fighting for Jacob. He’s the kind of big brother all children deserve. I’ve signed.
The ability to warp a child's mind is sickening. I went through a similar incident. I was taken away from my family and the only way I could see them again was to agree to their story. Eventually you believe it, your a child being told by adults to stop lying. Being rewarded when you give in to their "truths" eventually you repeat it because whose going to believe you didn't do it?
Exactly! Even if he did hurt him it could have never been to the extent that the baby was hurt. Someone else must have done that, a child can't injure a baby to the point of death.
@@PixiePrinses Eric wasn’t even there when Jacob was attacked the last time which resulted in his death, he wasn’t even in the same state let alone house. At that point he was living with his father, so no he didn’t hurt Jacob that time and for that matter any of the other times, it was all D.
Everyone keeps saying his mom didn’t know her kid was being abused but she legit saw marks, saw how fearful he was of her bf that she changed her shifts in order to prevent access to her kid. I feel like she knew enough at that point. It bothers me only because of her other son losing his childhood and baby brother…made to think it was his fault. I grew up in a similar situation and love my mom but she still let us down in the face of abuse.
@@brigettetame8553 the mother was in an incredibly abusive relationship (and was almost murdered herself). I don't think that someone trying to survive such a horrifying situation should be criticized. She stood up for Eric even when she knew that it would result in her own beating. Toxic relationships are not black and white and they were all victims of D.
He doesn’t deserve privacy, but it’s for the legal protection of those who speak about the case. It’s tricky when someone has not been found guilty in a court of law to publicly use their name in a case like this because that’s considered defamation of character by libel or slander. Despite what it’s clear “D” is guilty of, to state his name would be putting anyone speaking about the case at risk for legal issues.
Church... over your own grandchild who’s showing signs of abuse... I am completely disappointed in all of the adults in this story. It is so heart breaking to hear what both of these young boys had to endure. Eric is such a clam and well spoken guy.
My 6 month old has gone to church while being babysat dozens of times and never been an issue. That was a shit excuse by someone who just didnt want to watch a baby anymore
I’m sorry but if you have to severely restrict your boyfriends time with your baby because you are worried he might do something , you don’t need that boyfriend period
that is 100% what I was thinking listening to this whole thing. I'm really sorry but that woman was completely gullible. How does she see that kid all hurt even AFTER she sent the apparently guilty party all the way to California and then goes "oh, don't touch him again" GIRL, you failed your kid. I'm sorry, but this is also on her.
@@Daaaanielle yes I was trying so hard to not be mad at the mother but I couldn’t help it , she failed both her kids and sadly one didn’t make it out alive
@@Daaaanielle completely agree and then to get back with him after he literally murdered your child like who on Earth do you think did it? I don't understand how someone could be this brainless. Not trying to be rude I just truly don't understand what on Earth goes through somebody's head when it is blatantly obvious
Yes! I understand that at first, seeing someone give your kids love and affection, as well as bring in another paycheck to help you out must have been so refreshing, but girl! Your kids! The signs are there! He had kids of his own and barely saw them, yet he showers yours with love? Once you or your mom finds a bruise or scratch, he immediately tells you that it is your six-year-old son, but didn't think to mention that to you before, only after the marks are discovered? Your six-year-old son who prayed for a baby brother? Always focus on your kids. Never rush into any relationship that offers financial stability, because what happens when that relationship fails too? Then you're back to square one, struggling, a single mother again, but now your kids have traumatic, abusive childhoods. I feel so bad for her as a mother who lost her child, but this happens way too much ladies!
I don’t care how busy it gets, if your employee is that worried about their child and only have less than an hour left, why wouldn’t you let them leave and go check?
@@amandachesser6709 I know, that got me too. I just don’t wanna blame anyone because there’s no way anyone could’ve predicted this would happen.. I’m sure if they could all go back and have do over they would ya know
Listening to Eric talk about his memories of that time is heartbreaking. "D" clearly gaslit him so hard that even now, as an adult, he doesn't 100% trust his own memories and perceptions of that time. Poor guy.
Yes! This broke my heart :( as someone who was gaslit for years by my mom, I KNOW exactly how he is feeling and why he is feeling that way and it just hurts...
Situations like this make me feel like there should be a required class in High Schools about relationships and how to spot abusive or toxic relationships. Most women (and some men as well) get caught in this "No one else will love me" and/or "Anything's better than being alone" mentality because they simply don't know any better. Abusers take advantage of that mentality and mold it into a manipulation tactic designed to control the victims. Some of this would be avoided if we just taught kids instead of just making them learn everything themselves. Do we really need four years of math that 95% of us are never going to use or do we need a class that could potentially save lives?
They teach all about this in Health and Sexual Education. Red flags, abusive and controlling behaviour, what to do if it happens. Doesn't matter though because middle school and high school kids almost never take it seriously, its always a "why don't u just leave?" Or "That would never happen to me" , instead of actually paying attention and realizing how complicated these situations are. As well as most kids being naive, a lot of people grow up in toxic homes and may not even recognize or "agree" with the listed behaviours being called abusive.
@@zoafoxx1749 part of it is parents in some areas are allowed to opt their child out of health class. Before my son passed of his health issues (born with them), in his 7th, 8th and beginning of his freshman year (he died midway through freshman year) I was always presented a "permission slip" regarding health class. My kiddo passed in 2017, so figure 2014, 2015 in VT that I know for sure they require parental permission for kids to take health. And I'm sure they probably required permission slips before that. When I lived in TX, the area I lived required them back in 2010 and likely before that as well. Two vastly different states but with the same parental permission needed.
This is the most polite way I can say this, but EVERY adult in this case absolutely pisses me off. They FAILED these children. FAILED. Even if the mother has her own issues preventing her better judgement, why not the grandparents step in? Or the father? I just feel utterly devastated for these innocent boys. Poor Eric's whole life has been affected.
I agree 100%, every adult failed both boys. I can relate & this makes me so sick and angry for all children who have suffered while others turn a blind eye. Just Sick, Horrific Injustice.
Agreed.....the neighbors, the social worker, the police all of the other adults not directly related but called up for a reason and none of them continued to pursue justice 😢
It’s going to be hard not to fault all of the adults for this one Kendal… Eric bless your heart. I’m so incredibly sorry the adults in your life failed you and your little brother. The psychological warfare it must have been to have thought you were responsible. You were not. I hope you are able to find peace in your life. Every single adult in this scenario failed. If you’re a parent that doesn’t trust your significant other around your children, what are you doing? I’m not even surprised social services failed, they fail in damn near every single case. But to marry the person who murdered your son is the big slap in the face. I’m sorry, there’s no excuse. And then subject your only living child back into the abuse? That’s not acceptable. I’m sorry but I am so sick of children being abused and forced to grow up young and deal with trauma, 9 times out of 10, for their abusers to say ahhh you had a good childhood. It’s so psychologically damaging. If you’re going to have children, be a fucking superhero. Because that’s what the damn requirements are. Stop giving half ass to these kids that didn’t ask to be here.
@@blondieYorkie that was my thought too. This child has been abused, clearly, and grandma just has to go to church smh. When mom started not leaving Jacob alone with D, she should have ended the relationship smh
None of the adults in his life protected him. Him killing your son, abusing your other child, and almost killing you isn’t enough but grooming your niece is the final straw... I have never been an an abusive and manipulative relationship so I understand it is so hard to see it from their view but that doesn’t make it any less angering.
Right? Imo if you are a single mother and your children are only ever seen by yourself, a friend and a family member and then you get a boyfriend and suddenly your child has bruising that should be a sign. If your boyfriend then accuses your son of harming your other child that should be a sign. It should have been abundantly clear when she sent her son away and the abuse kept happening. She had to have suspected if she wouldnt allow her son near D for a significant time. Yes the system should have done something but she should have as well.
I thought the same thing! Like embarrassment from the NIECE get groomed was what did it?! Everything else is allowed?! Unbelievable and made me sick to my stomach.
Fucking thank you. My mother was just the same and believe me she had options and chances to get away from him and be comfortable, financially stable, there'd be no way he could reach her, she just chose to keep her kids in danger. Multiple times. And lied to CPS. Nah, I'm sorry people but Brenda is not off the hook and neither are mother like her.
That was the last straw probably only because she was mad at him for trying to be in a relationship with someone else that wasn't her, pure selfishness.
When Eric said "I think my mom felt like if she was the only victim, that she could handle or deal with it" I kept thinking "What about Eric?????? the fact that D was hurting him was not enough????? It had to Eric'scousin that set her off????????????????" I am so mad. Omg... I am so damn hurt. Just hurt beyond words.
Seems like it set her off because she couldn't hide it. I feel bad for people in abusive relationships, but he was not her children's father and she had family, AND HE KILLED HER BABY!
Its almost like she only finally left because she got jealous. Her first husband had an EMOTIONAL affair so she leaves him. Her second husband kills her first child, beats her, abuses her other child, yet she stays. The second she finds out he's persueing her niece she finally leaves 🤷 she sounds like she may just be an insecure woman.
I had the same initial response. I think the problem though is that to her knowledge, Erik wasn’t being directly abused. He was threatened into silence and didn’t tell her and there were no marks to be seen. She was so manipulated and gaslighted herself. Though I honestly can’t fully grasp being so blind to it, unfortunately it happens all the time. She likely came from an abusive home and went straight into another. Left that one into a worse.
@@missymae9902 that’s exactly what I thought. Kill my son…cool. Abuse my other son…great. Beat me in front of my children…wonderful. Try to sleep with my niece, that’s where I draw the line. It’s like she was jealous because she seen it as him ‘cheating’. Absolutely disgusting. Sorry but she majorly failed these kids.
@@ryssa8472 What I don't understand is why they didn't press charges on domestic violence, sexual abuse of a minor, etc, the dude got away with everything. I'm so frustrated, pretty much hate everyone in this case. Don't even get me started on grandma going to church smh. They say at some point that the system failed Jacob, I disagree, I honestly think that Jacob's family failed Jacob., except for his brother who was just a child. I'm so angry that I need to go for a run to flush it out of my system.
That was pretty weak in my opinion! I would have threatened his life! You were there when the injuries happened. What did you do? You let that baby done also!
Eric doesn’t need to feel guilty. He was SIX!!!! And an abuse victim himself! He would have been scared and helpless against someone who had immense power over him! He didn’t do anything wrong
Eric is a freaking hero. He literally saved his moms life. Not only that he was prepared to protect her with the weapons in his room. She’s supposed to protect him not the other way around
If you can’t trust someone to watch your kid, then you probably shouldn’t be with him. Kids should be more important than any relationship. I feel so bad for Eric and Jacob.
I was dating someone who said just one thing that made me uneasy. The next day we were finished. It probably should have been the same day. No-one was/is more important than my son
@@isabellabass5346 until you’ve been in that situation you can’t judge, and even then judgement isn’t for you. It’s for the graces of god. When people get obsessive it’s scary, especially when you have children. Part of the psyche feels it’s safer for everyone to appease them rather than anger them. If you’ve never been scared for your life in an abusive situation like that I can’t blame you for not understanding that. But if I were you I would really re think how you go about presenting yourself and your judgement on others. It’s malicious and quite frankly disgusting.
@@MicTheChick22 “the judgment isn’t for you but the graces of god” absolutely not? strongly disagree with you. if she’s going to date a man who she knows is too dangerous to be around her children, she should be open to judgement. No amount of manipulation should override the love a mother should have for her child.
it is so sad seeing how much of Eric’s childhood was stolen from him. Losing his baby brother and best friend, being sent to live with his dad, being sexually abused and emotionally manipulated by D, and having to watch his mother being beaten. My heart goes out to him because he is so so strong, Jacob would be so proud of him.
I really didn’t want to judge her but DAMN! That woman married to child killer!!!!!! She could sent her son away but not stay away from that psycho?! GIRL BYE!✋🏽☠️
Especially mum... why would you, after not trusting your own boyfriend to be alone with your baby, NOT UNDERSTAND HE DEFINITELY KILLED YOUR SON????? Then you married the guy after he stalked you and you stayed with him????
the mother was a victim of manipulation and abuse which kept her with D. She didn’t want to believe that the man she married killed her baby. I definitely don’t think she was an indecent person in this case, but Eric is certainly a hero.
@@elevatedemotions4548 grooming her 14 year old niece you mean. Why does your word choice in this comment section continuously downplay the abuse of a victim, while in turn use sympathizing language in regards to the actions of the perpetrator.
There needs to be a domestic violence registry, there needs to be domestic violence education in schools-red flags to look for, how to get help & safely leave, etc. We need more affordable & safe childcare options in the U.S. We need to get rid of "statute of limitations" for child abuse and murder.
agreed. my aunt's boyfriend got away with killing her, even though her son was a witness, because the police thought he was too sad and also wouldn't hurt anyone. he actually had a past of abuse though. he still lives in my town and it's disgusting
@@blazedbat omg I am so sorry about your Aunt. It has to be even more painful not having any justice for her. I pray for karma for the person that took her from you. So sad 😞
There should also be a law against women allowing their children to be put in this situation she was an enabler .. Iam a women snd this happens way way way too often ... this is a disgrace
I was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. I married this man at 19, and I got pregnant within the first year. He beat me daily…it got to the point he wanted to “abort” our daughter with a crowbar..I locked myself in the bathroom. I went back and he was there when I gave birth. But then he started getting mad at the baby for waking him up. I knew he was crazy enough to hurt my baby..so I applied for an apartment and got it within a month…while he was at work, I loaded my stuff and baby into my car and left… mothers should look at their baby and be strong enough to leave.
Oh hell no! My moms bf wound touch me when I was 9 and I told her and all she did was talk to him and she stayed with him and he kept doing it for years. I got no sympathy for anyone who keeps their kids in that environment period!
I’ll be respectful but truthfully all the adults failed that poor baby. I’m sorry but if you can’t leave your kids alone with a person why are you still with them?
I completely agree and feel his mother is just as guilty. She KNEW the possibility was there and allowed it to happen. Allowed abuse of both her children with head in the sand. I’m sorry but I have a hard time feeling bad when she was aware. Kids are the victims.
really? a six year old comes back from california and he still gets treated like he hurt his brother? this situation is so sickening. men like D will get what is coming to them.
I know right??? Like what? We're gonna take the word of a known abuser while he's trying to blame a CHILD who wasn't .... even in the state?? When he was alone with the victim? I don't understand that at all.
yeah but they changed they way you can prosecute. If you file civilly first. Like the case with Michael Jackson you are to disclose all the evidence presented. As also in the case with MJ the defense withheld evidence for the civil case defense including false testimony in case they came after him to be prosecuted criminally. since then (I think you may fact check me) that they require a criminal suit to be concluded before civil. Im not positive but this is what I have read.
I felt for the mom I really did until she went back to him after he killed her child, married him, bought a home with him, and continued to leave her other living child with D alone again while KNOWING he was abusive and had probably already killed her other child. There’s no excuse imo.
Yeah right?! Up until Jacobs death I was giving her the benefit of the doubt, (although I would never be with someone who I did not trust my children around alone!)... I can understand how manipulative some men can be, and your mental health in an abuse relationship it makes it very hard sometimes to “see” the truth. However after that.. when she went back to him after his death and put Eric in danger. No more sympathy. None whatsoever. I know Eric loves his mother but that is seriously not okay.
So, son gets murdered, another gets physically, mentally and sexually abused.. but the niece potentially getting abused crossed the line now I have heard everything. Poor Eric. You are such a well spoken man, gentle and have a calming presence. Jacob would be so proud of you! Cold justice would be an avenue to go down to see if they could help
Since when is there a statute of limitations on murder? So, a baby killer gets away with it because the powers that be are afraid he'll sue? Outrageous. Poor little Jacob. I feel so bad for him and his family. Jacob and his family deserve justice. I hope the DA listens to Eric and to the petition and finally reopens Jacob's case.
It depends on the degree of murder. There is no SOL for first degree murder. However, there is a SOL for second degree murder, which is probably what the DA was referencing.
@@jilliankushner4541 that’s so frustrating. But with first degree of murder, that’s when there has to be intention, so I would think that child abuse consistently would fall in line with first degree murder, right?
@@christina.lynn97 obviously the DA is privy to information we aren’t, so I’m just guessing they would be looking at this as second degree and that’s why they keep saying it’s past the SOL. I can’t give legal advice as I’m not a lawyer yet, but it would really depend on the facts and what evidence they have :/
Exactly. If it makes you sick to your stomach the thought of leaving your baby alone with your boyfriend for 1 hour, that should be all you need to know about the man you're dating.
I'm still in awe that she left a man that cheated in her but didn't leave a man that killed her son, beat her, and put her kids in danger. I try to understand the psyche of the victim but I feel so sorry for Eric.
That’s what I’m thinking, her final straw is cheating… So when the next guy killed her son that’s not cheating on her so it’s fine? She’s clearly mentally I’ll and loves for love no matter the cost
I was in a relationship with a narcissist. Fear is a major factor in this type of case. She was terrified for herself & for her son. Look at all the cases where a person was murdered or injured severely because of an abusive partner. I was terrified of my ex-husband. I still don’t want him knowing where I live & we’ve been apart for 13 years. I have a lot of trauma from my relationship. To someone that’s never experienced it, it’s difficult to explain. But they love bomb you with the “I’m sorry”’s & gifts & the “it’ll never happen again”’s… they’re so charming that you believe them… sometimes, for a while, it’s better. But then they go right back to how they were before. It gets worse every time. Living in fear is crippling.
I know, right? Calling it cheating is so tone deaf it’s not even funny, even by some remote chance this was her reasoning for leaving. But, I doubt it was. I think the son knows more about his mother and the situation than we will ever know. @@lilamedusa
kind of broke my heart that Brenda only got involved when she saw D trying to make Erics cousin his next victim as if her own sons weren’t victims enough
People like that just have abuse a habit. There is not a chance in hell he has stopped being violent without going to prison or an insane amount of therapy.
Seriously. She only stepped in when he was crushing on another female. She completely ignored the fact that this man was suspected of killing her little baby and the fact that this man was constantly abusing her only living child, as well as her. Idc what anyone says, going back to your abuser (especially under these circumstances) is just straight up weakness and stupidity.
New Mexico’s justice system is completely messed up. So many children harmed and no justice for them. I feel horrible for their family. Eric if you’re reading this I’m so sorry for what you went through. Justice has no expiration date.
My God, Eric is one of the kindest people. The fact that he is willing to consider that any of the things that Jacob was experiencing are possibly attributable to Eric is amazing and incredibly open minded and kind hearted of him. But in all of our hearts I think we absolutely all know that it was "D" who committed all of the monstrous abuse. What a sick man to try and blame a little boy for what he did. Rest in peace little angel, Jacob. No one can hurt you anymore.
On abusive relationships: they are highly addictive, especially when your self-esteem is shattered. Walking on eggshells is very common, too. But if you support child abuse as an adult by inaction you should still be held accountable, with all respect and understanding. Dear Eric, I am sorry what you and little Jacob have been through. I just signed the petition and I hope it helps. Thank you for defending your brother and your family. ❤❤❤
you can be, not sure what the specifics are in the states but in Australia, you can be charged and convicted with manslaughter by criminal negligence, which basically means that where there is a established relationship by law, it requires a duty and standard of care for the person, e.g. parent and child relationship. There was a case that the mother was convicted of this offence because her child was being abused and she did nothing when by law she had a duty, and sadly it resulted in the child's death at the abusers hands.
I can’t believe him grooming her niece was the breaking point... when the son got murdered and the other kid was suffering. My god I hate judging but I can’t believe the adults in this story 😫😭
RIGHT?! She got her feelings hurt because he went after another female but she played “no see” when the proof was in front of her face about her children????
Even with her first husband leaving them with no food or money to points where they literally starved having her young child in that situation but she didnt do ANYTHING until she found out he was having an affair like??
According to what Sarah Turney said on her podcast episode about this case, Eric himself decided that he did not want to release the name of his mother's boyfriend so any of the creators who have covered this or worked with him at this point are just honoring that choice. I do agree with your sentiment though and wonder why or how it is impossible to find out who this man is.
He was never charged with the crime. If Eric released his name and/or picture it could have serious legal consequences for Eric if D decided to press charges. I hope we can get this case reopened and this disgusting human being charged and convicted.
This story is just awful. I have never cried at a video but hearing that this sweet baby screamed when his grandma lifted him up and then again when D had him you know damn well that man did something to that baby. Ugh. Prayers for this family and that sweet sweet boy
I really thought I’d always feel for the mom but I cannot imagine seeing so many red flags and obvious signs of abuse go ignored right in front of her face .. I’m sorry when it come to a kid you need to listen and just go with it if you see any types of abuse whatsoever
Seriously, who hits a baby? You have to be a soulless devil to do something like that. I’m a singleMother and I won’t date because of people like that.
Exactly. So sad. I’m recently single mom to a toddler boy. I’m not looking for dating right now anyway as it’s only been a couple months but the future scares me if I ever want to date to bring people like that around my child.
I'm a single mom also ladies and the statistics of a non-related men in the household abusing your child is twice that of a parent in the household doing it ... it's hard... never give up on love but always watch your babies and believe them
I agree and my daughter is now 17 and son 14 and I have never brought a man to stay over night nor been in a relationship since I split from their dad 6 yrs ago. As an abused child myself I could not trust anyone around my kids so it would be pointless to try to have a relationship in the first place... My time will come once iv raised my kids but until they reach proper adulthood I will put them first... Going on dates and gettin to know someone doesn't have to mean bringing them home or movin in together.... Take time to get to know people! X
im over here so angry at Brenda for even believing her first born would injure her baby and not ever questioning her "bf" no ma'am.. Eric, im so sorry the adults in your life at the time didn't protect you or Jacob
I'm sorry Kendal but having been abused by my step father for 15 years and my mother doing nothing Im sitting here, 25 years later, crying in impotent rage. After I too got into an abusive relationship and had kids and left after 3 years I have been single since. I would have been damned before I let ANYONE hurt a hair on my kids head. This story is so hard for me to listen to. I am actually livid. I'm sick to my stomach. I cannot handle stories where children are abused and everyone just ignores it. OMG.
I am so sorry you went through that and you have every right to be angry. I have never experienced abuse or domestic violence so I’m obviously not equipped with the experience to speak on this, however, I have never understood how a mother’s instinct to protect their children does not overpower their susceptibility to be manipulated by an abuser. I would think that even the slightest suspicion that your significant other was inflicting harm on the most precious people in your world would prompt you to leave and never look back.
I am so sorry. I honestly wish I could’ve known you as a child and protected you 😞 It is so heartbreaking when children are failed by the people around them. And thank you for getting yourself out of that relationship !
I'm trying to be considerate of Eric's feelings. I hope that he receives the therapy and treatment he needs to heal. I want to know what happened in his mother's life that had her attracted to such neglectful and abusive men. Her first husband was neglectful, D was sexually abusive towards her children, killed her son, and yet she went back to him and married him. I'm sorry, I just feel like the mother also let her children down PLUS she left after he started going after her niece. Seems more like a concern about him cheating on her than concern for the child. Something is not clicking with the mother here. And D should be under the jail. He is a monster.
I’m sorry but she deserves to live with that regret and pain in her heart. All the signs in her face and she remained with that man & she left Jacob with him again!! This brakes my heart As a mother! I would kill for my children! The system needs to do better with these abuse cases. So many children fall through the cracks.
1st red flag: he has his own kids that he is not being a good father to. I truly hope this family finds answers and God gives them justice for this little angel ❤️
Let's remember that Brenda chose a man for years. Her son was starving while her ex went around " preaching" this is a woman who clearly can not be alone . I would bet money she only left because she found someone else . This is plain and simple neglect . She only left her first husband because he cheated not because he was starving them or leaving them . Very scary behaviour in my opinion I vow to be not like these people .
@@clarakb14 did I say anything that is not true ? I understand abuse and neglect however I will not make excuses for woman who won't step up for there children . Simple . There is a difference between hurting me an adult who put themselves in that situation and is stuck compared to a little child who can't choose to run or leave. We need to stop this victim mentality of ohhhhh what could of I have done ?
This should be a lesson to put your kid's safety ahead of any man. Trust your instincts. I know the mother probably feels immense guilt but at some point, she has to hold some responsibility for what happened.
right? i don't understand how she didn't just kick him out in that moment. i get that she was being manipulated but you've got to be really weak minded to allow someone to treat your child like that and essentially let it slide. i'm sorry to say that but it's hard not to acknowledge that she does share some of the blame in this story
Fucking thank you! I have 2 children and if they ever acted that way or if I was even suspicious of any adult around them they would be out of our lives
Same! I can't even help myself from confronting teachers about school students stealing my 7 year daughters snack at school! This story is making my stomach flip and I want to quit watching, but I can't. It wouldn't be fair to do so.
Thank you so much for saying this. It’s so upsetting to see some other people defending the mother in this story. I felt like her behaviour in the whole thing was just plain unnatural
It’s really hard to remain respectful towards the adults in this situation. I’m amazed that she left her children’s father over an emotional affair, but continued to put up with this monster. As a mother your priority are your children. If she couldn’t bring herself to leave the relationship she should have shipped her son off with the grandparents or back to his dad. She sent him away when D was accusing Eric of hurting Jacob, but allowed him to stay when he was abusing her in front of him AND leaving her son with him after loosing her 2nd son around this monster. All of this could have been prevented.
What about the boys' dad? He knew about the neglect, received a warning about this monster but didn't file a complaint or tell Brenda about the warning, and he sent back his other son to live with the man who had killed his other kid. Both parents failed epically here. And he wasn't even stuck in a horrifically abusive relationship so like what's his excuse?
@@MuntsonWeekdays don’t blame the father the mother is the one who had primary custody what was he supposed to do ??? Stop trying to take away accountability with the “what about” games 🙄those kids needed their mother to protect them and put them first !!
idk maybe we should blame the person who killed a child instead of the adults doing their best with the situation they had. i swear you people blame everyone but the actual person who did it and is walking free. weirdos
I cannot imagine how hard it is being a single mother. But my stance will always be, protect the children. New boyfriends watching your children? NO. Hell even family members, in my case, watching your children? NO.
The minute a boyfriend said he’d take care of my daughter for the day… when I didn’t ask or need him to, got a feeling in my stomach that something wasn’t right. it was over and told him not to come near us. He ended up stalking me for 5 years. I was right he was a nutter.
@@lemons2135 I’m so sorry you went through that. Thank you for trusting your gut and protecting your child. A lot of times children are failed by their parents and it’s heartbreaking.
@@sidrock2754 i cab understand how someone who is completely alone wouldn’t have the same response. That’s what makes single mothers so vulnerable to these predators
I've been a single parent since my husband passed away. I've dated but not let anyone around my daughter yet. She's met people but not dates and I haven't dated in two years. We are happy and my priority is for my girl, my beautiful daughter ❤❤❤
With all due respect there was way to many RED FLAGS AND THE MOM STILL CHOICE TO LEAVE HER SON WHO WAS CLEARLY TERRIFIED OF THE GUY! THE MOTHER HAS TO TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY AS WELL!!
I understand, I felt the same way. But I’ve never been in an abusive relationship so I cannot say I wouldn’t do the same thing. I just don’t know. I feel like judging doesn’t help. But I also feel so frustrated with her.
@Wendy A. Smithon Allow me to play Devil's Advocate and I do not mean any disrespect whatsoever ~ Put yourself in Brenda's shoes from the get go. Would you honestly make the same decisions and/or choices Brenda did and NOT feel the accountability or blame for them? She shouldn't have "bent her own rules", period, end of story, both children alive and well.
she literally told y'all not to pass judgement, she lost her baby and yes did she make some poor choices that she definitely regards now of course. she was manipulated and abused by "d" and i don't think she really realized he actually did it when she went back to him. i don't understand because i think i would have seen the red flags but we never experienced that and it's easier said than done. she and Eric and poor Jacob are the Victims.
These poor poor children. The adults in this case fully failed them both. In so sorry but, he kills your child He sexually abuses your other child But the last straw is the cousin?! No. No. No. No.
It's so strange that noone talks about the biological father. He most probably had some suspicions about D. after Jacob passed away. He still let Eric live with D. He was literally never there for Jacob and Eric and the mother of his children. I just cant stand these kind of fathers. Devorcing their wives doesn't mean they are not a father anymore.
Exactly, the mom was struggling to care for them on her owns It didn't seem like she had any outside support from family or the children's father. I too question why the father or family didn't get involved.
I think it's cause there's just not enough time for her to get into him. There's so much going on in the household itself. So the most important things are in. Just my thought
@@memyselfandisatou I can never 100% unless it was me because the only one who could say for sure is him and he said he can't remember. He seems way to sweet to have done anything though. My heart goes out to him, Jacob and his mother
Eric is an absolute hero. The horrors he's been through, the things he's seen... and still his strength is radiant. What a guy, honestly... I'm sure his mother is so thankful that he turned out to be so caring, and such a champion for justice. Jacob would be proud of his big brother.
I don’t understand how any human being can hurt a child and a baby like this, ive watched so many of your videos but cases like this are the ones that always get me.
the reason that they hurt the kids is because they regret having them then begin to resent them, so if women feel that way then they should just give them up for adoption, at least they would be safe from these maniacs
I did feel Eric's honesty coming through especially when he admits that he could have been jealous but didn't remember. My heart breaks for him and his family.
Omg I’m so furious with that so called ‘mother’. Sure sibling jealousy exists, but she would’ve seen the signs. She sent her son away and her baby was STILL getting magically injured. Did she believe it was ghosts? She wouldn’t see red flags even if they slapped her in her face. She absolutely failed both her kids.
Amen. It breaks my heart, but I don't have any children because I haven't found a decent man yet. I have experienced too much myself and know how important child protection is.
Rightt.... I do want to be respectful of the affected members of the family but it's just..... Hmmmm.... Quite speechless of what happened, my heart aches for Eric.
i’m absolutely sickened by how many signs this mom ignored, and chose to send her son away instead of this monster. and the fact that she knew he was abusing her son, but only chose to leave once he moved on to her niece. he’s vile, but she’s not much better.
I have zero sympathy for that “mother”. I don’t care if she was being beaten, she knew damn well that monster killed her baby boy and was physically and sexually abusing her son and still chose him over Eric! Still married that POS. Absolutely disgusting. God my heart goes out to Eric. So much trauma he endured. I truly hope he’s healing.
This case breaks my heart, Eric has been through so so much. I experienced my fair share of childhood trauma myself, and from one survivor to another, I want to let you know (if you‘re reading this) that it‘s so so strong that you‘re talking about this and using your voice. I hope you have all the support you need and that you keep on healing and speaking up. Lots of love! xxx
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That's amazing so happy for you x
Kendall love your content as always, wanted to know if you'd cover the ongoing genocide of uighur muslims by the CCP on one of your other channels.
So happy for you!!!
You're an amazing woman with a beautiful heart Kendall. It's one of the reasons why I became a subscriber. ❤ Thank you for supporting such an important cause and organization. 🙂
The story makes me sad because I grew up in New Mexico it hits close to home
Eric,if you are reading this: none of this was your fault. We support you.
Absolutely!!!! This situation is just f***ed up. I don't have a lot of money, but if any cause is worth giving to it's your brother's. May he rest in peace.
absolutely not his fault! he needs love!! it's a lot of brenda's fault.
His story is so eerily similar to mine and yes he absolutely NEEDS to hear that from a 3rd party over and over and over again. He seems like such a lovely person.
@@SobrietyandSolace i’m so sorry you had to go through that ❤️❤️❤️❤️ i hope you’re all well & good now
Periodt
He got away with murdering a baby, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. That’s just fuckin crazy.
Meanwhile, people who posses drugs or use them get put behind bars for 10+ years
It's fucking APPALLING.
@@Cami-ls1ki Exactly. I used to think that sending an addict to prison would ultimately save their life by forcing detox on them. That's before I learned that it's just as easy to get shit inside as it is outside. Nobody grows up hoping to be an addict. It's a horrible life.
And attempted murder
And nobody knows his fucking name?? Why is that being kept from the public??
You have to be a special level of pathetic to abuse an infant and pin the blame on a small child. I sincerely hope that the Landin family gets justice for Jacob and can put D behind bars. Justice should never have an expiration date.
omg well said xx
Agree. Disgusting
My thoughts EXACTLY. I made almost the exact same comment and also said that justice should never have an expiration date, especially in cases on child abuse. There’s evidence! It blows my mind. I wish there was more I could do to help.
Very well said. To be honest, in my opinion I'd add-- that you have to be a special kind of STUPID not to charge "D"-bag with anything and everything under the sun. Definitely a special place in hell waiting for that lowlife.
Amen to that
You can see in this video how Eric was manipulated/gaslighted by a narcissist to alter his own memories and reality as a young boy. He is a victim too. We support all victims !
The fact that “D” tried to blame the murder of the baby on another child is completely sick.
That hit so close to home for me.
My biological mothers ex husband abused my at the time 2 year old sibling and he did the exact same thing and said my other sibling was jealous and had anger issues.
He got away with everything and it’s just awful.
@@desaraecox4017 i’m so sorry that happened to u and ur sibling. that guy was a pos!
@@desaraecox4017 so sorry that you had to endure that. I hope you got help and understand fully you are not to blame.
Sick indeed
@@herpaderp-bp4pe I was thinking the same thing.
Eric’s love for his brother is so apparent and pure. My heart goes out to him, I can’t imagine losing my younger brother
I hope everyone signs the petition it only takes 1 minute!
May as well kill me too
Also losing the one he pray for geez
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Being respectful about Brenda because Kendal asked so. But man the adults in this situation. All of them.
My thoughts exactly....
Agreed. This one baffles me. Very upsetting. My heart goes out to Jacob and Eric.
I swear I was thinking the same thing
Thank you for saying it nicely, unfortunately so many of us are thinking the exact same thing . I know the human condition isn’t great but I mean....
Yup
Once she felt her boyfriend could not be alone with her son anymore that was the sign she needed to move on, this story is heartbreaking the signs were there and clear 💔 sending Eric healing energy
"Why don't you hit someone who can talk" -absolute legendary grandpa quote.
Ik, when i heard that i was like “YEAH!!!!!!”.
He did anyway.. His own daughter
I would have added "and someone your own size!"
This is absolutely something my dad would say...total dad/grandpa quote.
Better someone his size, a two year old can talk
I think the fact that Eric to this day is made to believe that he just “forgot” abusing his little brother is sick. I felt so horrible listening to him defend himself saying “he was 20lb I was only 40, the crib was this big I was only this big” he doesn’t remember because he didn’t do it. Plain and simple. The mental torture Eric went though, including losing his little brother is so sad ...
It’s so horrible. The thought of losing my little brother (we’re both adults now, but my feelings haven’t changed at all) terrifies me. What Eric has been through sounds like torture. He must be a very strong person to be such a brave advocate for his little brother, especially given the abuse Eric himself suffered. D telling people that Eric hurt Jacob is absolutely horrible, but implanting that possibility in Eric’s own mind is beyond that. It’s cruel, self-serving, sadistic, cowardly and the closest thing to evil I’ve ever heard. Eric is a hero who’s still fighting for Jacob. He’s the kind of big brother all children deserve. I’ve signed.
The ability to warp a child's mind is sickening. I went through a similar incident. I was taken away from my family and the only way I could see them again was to agree to their story. Eventually you believe it, your a child being told by adults to stop lying. Being rewarded when you give in to their "truths" eventually you repeat it because whose going to believe you didn't do it?
I wholeheartedly agree with you!
Exactly! Even if he did hurt him it could have never been to the extent that the baby was hurt. Someone else must have done that, a child can't injure a baby to the point of death.
@@PixiePrinses Eric wasn’t even there when Jacob was attacked the last time which resulted in his death, he wasn’t even in the same state let alone house. At that point he was living with his father, so no he didn’t hurt Jacob that time and for that matter any of the other times, it was all D.
I feel so bad for Eric. He seems like a very caring person who clearly loved his little brother.
yes, he is so kind and lovable :c
@katy adrianna Honestly he should stay away from her...wtf what if she chooses a man and he’s dead next? She’s a safety hazard.
She didn’t feel the need to leave him when he was abusing her kid, but freaked out when he targeted her niece… ugh.
I am so disgusted with this whole thing I can't even.
Unbelievable
She didn’t know he was abusing her kid. It wasn’t until he targeted her niece where it finally clicked.
Everyone keeps saying his mom didn’t know her kid was being abused but she legit saw marks, saw how fearful he was of her bf that she changed her shifts in order to prevent access to her kid. I feel like she knew enough at that point. It bothers me only because of her other son losing his childhood and baby brother…made to think it was his fault. I grew up in a similar situation and love my mom but she still let us down in the face of abuse.
same 💀
Neither Eric or Jacob were protected 🥺💔
True.
The mother married the guy anyway...
I'm with you on this 😢 The Mother could of done more
@@brigettetame8553 the mother was in an incredibly abusive relationship (and was almost murdered herself). I don't think that someone trying to survive such a horrifying situation should be criticized. She stood up for Eric even when she knew that it would result in her own beating. Toxic relationships are not black and white and they were all victims of D.
@@emilywilson1247 Not Criticizing! Just saying she had options 🤔
why is "D"s identity being kept a secret? he deserves no privacy.
He doesn’t deserve privacy, but it’s for the legal protection of those who speak about the case. It’s tricky when someone has not been found guilty in a court of law to publicly use their name in a case like this because that’s considered defamation of character by libel or slander. Despite what it’s clear “D” is guilty of, to state his name would be putting anyone speaking about the case at risk for legal issues.
@@_punkybrewster we will cover Eric's legal fees. i want his name out now.
Absolutely agree... Maybe because they know that "D" would probably be hunted down and skinned alive.
@Wendy A. Smithon he can’t get sued if “d” disappears 👀
This.
I hope eric can let go of his guilt, it is obvious he was not responsible.
So do I. It’s not his guilt to carry. He was a victim too.
We love you Eric. Do not, for one minute, feel responsible for anything that happened to that baby boy.
His name was Jacob.
@@lonerebeI I obviously know his name.
@@JocieFox53 Do you? Cause you wrote "that baby". And now have edited your comment to "that baby boy".
Eric is so extremely well-spoken. My heart absolutely aches for him.
Same, same, girl :(
Aww my heart breaks 💔for him
I agree!
"Hes so well spoken"
@@alyssac0 ?
Church... over your own grandchild who’s showing signs of abuse... I am completely disappointed in all of the adults in this story. It is so heart breaking to hear what both of these young boys had to endure. Eric is such a clam and well spoken guy.
Exactly. All of that could've been avoided. Smh
My 6 month old has gone to church while being babysat dozens of times and never been an issue. That was a shit excuse by someone who just didnt want to watch a baby anymore
Facts!!!
Agree 800%
A?so the mom, sorry, but she, the grandma, the dad and the child protective services and police all let this baby down
People who hurt babies, kids and animals deserve to burn in hell.
Inmates agree with you. These monsters get hell in prison
@@carmencapa6945 right their behinds will hurt by the time he leaves jail 😂
Definitely, plus elderly & disabled people
indeed but just living with themselves i’m sure is hell enough
@@pomegranatepoetess8804 most people who hurt those who can’t stick up for themselves don’t feel remorse for their actions
It takes a special kind of evil to blame a small child for that kind of thing... poor Eric. Sending massive hugs
I’m sorry but if you have to severely restrict your boyfriends time with your baby because you are worried he might do something , you don’t need that boyfriend period
that is 100% what I was thinking listening to this whole thing.
I'm really sorry but that woman was completely gullible. How does she see that kid all hurt even AFTER she sent the apparently guilty party all the way to California and then goes "oh, don't touch him again"
GIRL, you failed your kid. I'm sorry, but this is also on her.
@@Daaaanielle yes I was trying so hard to not be mad at the mother but I couldn’t help it , she failed both her kids and sadly one didn’t make it out alive
@@Daaaanielle completely agree and then to get back with him after he literally murdered your child like who on Earth do you think did it? I don't understand how someone could be this brainless. Not trying to be rude I just truly don't understand what on Earth goes through somebody's head when it is blatantly obvious
PERIODDDTTTTT 💯
Yes! I understand that at first, seeing someone give your kids love and affection, as well as bring in another paycheck to help you out must have been so refreshing, but girl! Your kids! The signs are there! He had kids of his own and barely saw them, yet he showers yours with love? Once you or your mom finds a bruise or scratch, he immediately tells you that it is your six-year-old son, but didn't think to mention that to you before, only after the marks are discovered? Your six-year-old son who prayed for a baby brother? Always focus on your kids. Never rush into any relationship that offers financial stability, because what happens when that relationship fails too? Then you're back to square one, struggling, a single mother again, but now your kids have traumatic, abusive childhoods. I feel so bad for her as a mother who lost her child, but this happens way too much ladies!
I don’t care how busy it gets, if your employee is that worried about their child and only have less than an hour left, why wouldn’t you let them leave and go check?
Yeah I straight would've just left...... sorry boss....
What about grandma who had to go to church sooooo bad?
The employer was the least guilty here ...
@@amandachesser6709 I know, that got me too. I just don’t wanna blame anyone because there’s no way anyone could’ve predicted this would happen.. I’m sure if they could all go back and have do over they would ya know
I would’ve just left tbh
Listening to Eric talk about his memories of that time is heartbreaking. "D" clearly gaslit him so hard that even now, as an adult, he doesn't 100% trust his own memories and perceptions of that time. Poor guy.
Yes! This broke my heart :( as someone who was gaslit for years by my mom, I KNOW exactly how he is feeling and why he is feeling that way and it just hurts...
I knew nothing about this case but as soon as she said '' D '' liked eating lots of candy... ahhh so it's this kind of case.
@@breakfastattiffanys741 what do you mean? O.o
@@C0deB1u3 e RV point wing
Situations like this make me feel like there should be a required class in High Schools about relationships and how to spot abusive or toxic relationships. Most women (and some men as well) get caught in this "No one else will love me" and/or "Anything's better than being alone" mentality because they simply don't know any better. Abusers take advantage of that mentality and mold it into a manipulation tactic designed to control the victims. Some of this would be avoided if we just taught kids instead of just making them learn everything themselves. Do we really need four years of math that 95% of us are never going to use or do we need a class that could potentially save lives?
i agree , high school should definitely have a class for mental/physical abuse .
They teach all about this in Health and Sexual Education. Red flags, abusive and controlling behaviour, what to do if it happens. Doesn't matter though because middle school and high school kids almost never take it seriously, its always a "why don't u just leave?" Or "That would never happen to me" , instead of actually paying attention and realizing how complicated these situations are. As well as most kids being naive, a lot of people grow up in toxic homes and may not even recognize or "agree" with the listed behaviours being called abusive.
@@zoafoxx1749 I don't think that all high school students are taught this. Kudos to your school for teaching it though.
I agree, I also think women and men should have to take classes about babies and kids before you’re allowed to have a baby.
@@zoafoxx1749 part of it is parents in some areas are allowed to opt their child out of health class. Before my son passed of his health issues (born with them), in his 7th, 8th and beginning of his freshman year (he died midway through freshman year) I was always presented a "permission slip" regarding health class. My kiddo passed in 2017, so figure 2014, 2015 in VT that I know for sure they require parental permission for kids to take health. And I'm sure they probably required permission slips before that. When I lived in TX, the area I lived required them back in 2010 and likely before that as well. Two vastly different states but with the same parental permission needed.
It’s so sad that still to this day he thinks he needs to defend himself or say “I might not remember” is so sad. Eric you are not in the wrong here!!!
I couldn’t agree more!!! Heart breaking
I’m so irritated that the grandma thought it was so important to go to church instead of watching her grandson
Omg yes all to blame but Eric
The whole lot of them are bongo drums. The adults.
Right... All the adults in this case... Damn..
Thats what I was thinking
But did she know what was going on? Did she really? It sounds like most people in their lives had no idea.
This is the most polite way I can say this, but EVERY adult in this case absolutely pisses me off. They FAILED these children. FAILED.
Even if the mother has her own issues preventing her better judgement, why not the grandparents step in? Or the father?
I just feel utterly devastated for these innocent boys. Poor Eric's whole life has been affected.
I agree 100%, every adult failed both boys. I can relate & this makes me so sick and angry for all children who have suffered while others turn a blind eye. Just Sick, Horrific Injustice.
Agreed.....the neighbors, the social worker, the police all of the other adults not directly related but called up for a reason and none of them continued to pursue justice 😢
I feel sick, hate these useless adults, they didn’t deserve to have children
It’s going to be hard not to fault all of the adults for this one Kendal…
Eric bless your heart. I’m so incredibly sorry the adults in your life failed you and your little brother. The psychological warfare it must have been to have thought you were responsible. You were not. I hope you are able to find peace in your life.
Every single adult in this scenario failed.
If you’re a parent that doesn’t trust your significant other around your children, what are you doing? I’m not even surprised social services failed, they fail in damn near every single case. But to marry the person who murdered your son is the big slap in the face. I’m sorry, there’s no excuse. And then subject your only living child back into the abuse? That’s not acceptable.
I’m sorry but I am so sick of children being abused and forced to grow up young and deal with trauma, 9 times out of 10, for their abusers to say ahhh you had a good childhood. It’s so psychologically damaging. If you’re going to have children, be a fucking superhero. Because that’s what the damn requirements are. Stop giving half ass to these kids that didn’t ask to be here.
Jacob is the one that died.
Jacob is the younger brother who passed, but I 1000% agree with you. All the adults failed this baby and Eric. I hate this story.
I think this is well stated and absolutely agree with you on this.
@@tenillevaz I fixed it. I had Jacob on my mind and was trying to type everything I needed to say. Thank you.
@@dhall75608 everyday children are failed. It’s heartbreaking.
Both Eric and Jacob were both let down by every adult in their lives. This case just break my heart.
What a disgusting case. Not a SINGLE decent ADULT in this story. Pathetic. My heart goes out to Eric and Jacob.
true very true
D’s ex seems like she tried to get the father to look into it. And the grandma looked after him
@@michellenowlan2870 Kinda disappointing that the gma chose church over Jacob though :(
@@blondieYorkie that was my thought too. This child has been abused, clearly, and grandma just has to go to church smh. When mom started not leaving Jacob alone with D, she should have ended the relationship smh
@@blondieYorkie she should have taken him or just skip out on church. My mom is super religious and would have done either of those options.
None of the adults in his life protected him. Him killing your son, abusing your other child, and almost killing you isn’t enough but grooming your niece is the final straw... I have never been an an abusive and manipulative relationship so I understand it is so hard to see it from their view but that doesn’t make it any less angering.
I’ve been in an abusive relationship & I still can admit she’s wrong for staying. I’m also a mom tho so 🤷🏼♀️
Right? Imo if you are a single mother and your children are only ever seen by yourself, a friend and a family member and then you get a boyfriend and suddenly your child has bruising that should be a sign. If your boyfriend then accuses your son of harming your other child that should be a sign. It should have been abundantly clear when she sent her son away and the abuse kept happening. She had to have suspected if she wouldnt allow her son near D for a significant time. Yes the system should have done something but she should have as well.
I thought the same thing! Like embarrassment from the NIECE get groomed was what did it?! Everything else is allowed?! Unbelievable and made me sick to my stomach.
Fucking thank you. My mother was just the same and believe me she had options and chances to get away from him and be comfortable, financially stable, there'd be no way he could reach her, she just chose to keep her kids in danger. Multiple times. And lied to CPS. Nah, I'm sorry people but Brenda is not off the hook and neither are mother like her.
That was the last straw probably only because she was mad at him for trying to be in a relationship with someone else that wasn't her, pure selfishness.
When Eric said "I think my mom felt like if she was the only victim, that she could handle or deal with it"
I kept thinking "What about Eric?????? the fact that D was hurting him was not enough????? It had to Eric'scousin that set her off????????????????"
I am so mad. Omg... I am so damn hurt. Just hurt beyond words.
Seems like it set her off because she couldn't hide it. I feel bad for people in abusive relationships, but he was not her children's father and she had family, AND HE KILLED HER BABY!
Its almost like she only finally left because she got jealous. Her first husband had an EMOTIONAL affair so she leaves him. Her second husband kills her first child, beats her, abuses her other child, yet she stays. The second she finds out he's persueing her niece she finally leaves 🤷 she sounds like she may just be an insecure woman.
I had the same initial response. I think the problem though is that to her knowledge, Erik wasn’t being directly abused. He was threatened into silence and didn’t tell her and there were no marks to be seen. She was so manipulated and gaslighted herself. Though I honestly can’t fully grasp being so blind to it, unfortunately it happens all the time. She likely came from an abusive home and went straight into another. Left that one into a worse.
@@missymae9902 that’s exactly what I thought. Kill my son…cool. Abuse my other son…great. Beat me in front of my children…wonderful. Try to sleep with my niece, that’s where I draw the line. It’s like she was jealous because she seen it as him ‘cheating’. Absolutely disgusting. Sorry but she majorly failed these kids.
I know. I’m disappointed seeing Kendall defend Brenda. I understand the psychology of abuse firsthand… but when it’s your BABY?!? Come on.
“why don’t you hit someone who can talk?!” WAY TO GO GRANDPA
One of the only good adults in this story, I'm just wondering why he idnt take custody of Erich when Brenda moved back in with D
@@ryssa8472 What I don't understand is why they didn't press charges on domestic violence, sexual abuse of a minor, etc, the dude got away with everything. I'm so frustrated, pretty much hate everyone in this case. Don't even get me started on grandma going to church smh. They say at some point that the system failed Jacob, I disagree, I honestly think that Jacob's family failed Jacob., except for his brother who was just a child. I'm so angry that I need to go for a run to flush it out of my system.
@@ssantelha his mom especially failed Jacob, she failed them all.
Hell yeah Grandpa get him..... Men that hit little babies and women are always scared of a real man fighting them...
That was pretty weak in my opinion! I would have threatened his life! You were there when the injuries happened. What did you do? You let that baby done also!
Eric is so strong, I would’ve never talked to my mother again.
Me too. I currently resent my own mother for doing a lot less than this.
Same
Yeah his ability to forgive her and even maintain a close relationship with her is wild to me. I think very few people could do that.
@@katieh9056 Only because his trauma prevents him from seeing the situation and his mother clearly. Unfortunately.
his mother is a victim too. Lets not put blame on the victims and instead lets get justice for jacob.
Eric doesn’t need to feel guilty. He was SIX!!!! And an abuse victim himself! He would have been scared and helpless against someone who had immense power over him! He didn’t do anything wrong
He was older than 6 when dee started with him
@@elevatedemotions4548 abusing*
Survivor guilt partly perhaps?
@@elevatedemotions4548 are you saying that since he was older than 6 when he was abused himself he should feel guilty?
@@boredbunnyx3476 no...im just putting the time line correct...
Eric is a freaking hero. He literally saved his moms life. Not only that he was prepared to protect her with the weapons in his room. She’s supposed to protect him not the other way around
If you can’t trust someone to watch your kid, then you probably shouldn’t be with him. Kids should be more important than any relationship. I feel so bad for Eric and Jacob.
I was dating someone who said just one thing that made me uneasy. The next day we were finished. It probably should have been the same day. No-one was/is more important than my son
@@india1422 that’s awesome!!! You’re a very good mom to put your son first. ☺️
@@isabellabass5346 until you’ve been in that situation you can’t judge, and even then judgement isn’t for you. It’s for the graces of god. When people get obsessive it’s scary, especially when you have children. Part of the psyche feels it’s safer for everyone to appease them rather than anger them. If you’ve never been scared for your life in an abusive situation like that I can’t blame you for not understanding that. But if I were you I would really re think how you go about presenting yourself and your judgement on others. It’s malicious and quite frankly disgusting.
@@MicTheChick22 “the judgment isn’t for you but the graces of god” absolutely not? strongly disagree with you. if she’s going to date a man who she knows is too dangerous to be around her children, she should be open to judgement. No amount of manipulation should override the love a mother should have for her child.
I agree
This might be one of the most infuriating cases I’ve seen. SO many red flags, I feel so bad for Eric, everyone failed him and Jacob.
it is so sad seeing how much of Eric’s childhood was stolen from him. Losing his baby brother and best friend, being sent to live with his dad, being sexually abused and emotionally manipulated by D, and having to watch his mother being beaten. My heart goes out to him because he is so so strong, Jacob would be so proud of him.
Goodness, the mom in this story, just wow! The grandma, double wow! The system didn’t fail these kids the adults did.
This!!! 👆
exactly. you want to go to church but you don't want to take the baby? so yea lets leave him with the abusive boyfriend. like wtf
I really didn’t want to judge her but DAMN! That woman married to child killer!!!!!! She could sent her son away but not stay away from that psycho?! GIRL BYE!✋🏽☠️
@@jamiepender6667 god had her best interest on that one....
Especially mum... why would you, after not trusting your own boyfriend to be alone with your baby, NOT UNDERSTAND HE DEFINITELY KILLED YOUR SON????? Then you married the guy after he stalked you and you stayed with him????
Eric is a true hero. The only decent human being on this story.
He reminds me of Sarah Turney
the mother was a victim of manipulation and abuse which kept her with D. She didn’t want to believe that the man she married killed her baby. I definitely don’t think she was an indecent person in this case, but Eric is certainly a hero.
@@fauna5828 i strongly agree with you
@@fauna5828 soon as she heard he was flirting with the 14 yo neice she snapped out of his manipulation
@@elevatedemotions4548 grooming her 14 year old niece you mean. Why does your word choice in this comment section continuously downplay the abuse of a victim, while in turn use sympathizing language in regards to the actions of the perpetrator.
i hope Eric doesn't believe any of that BS that D told him about his "jealousy" for Jacob. D is an evil man.
There needs to be a domestic violence registry, there needs to be domestic violence education in schools-red flags to look for, how to get help & safely leave, etc. We need more affordable & safe childcare options in the U.S. We need to get rid of "statute of limitations" for child abuse and murder.
Agreed 💯
i agree!!! sex education should include domestic violence education.
agreed. my aunt's boyfriend got away with killing her, even though her son was a witness, because the police thought he was too sad and also wouldn't hurt anyone. he actually had a past of abuse though. he still lives in my town and it's disgusting
@@blazedbat omg I am so sorry about your Aunt. It has to be even more painful not having any justice for her. I pray for karma for the person that took her from you. So sad 😞
There should also be a law against women allowing their children to be put in this situation she was an enabler .. Iam a women snd this happens way way way too often ... this is a disgrace
I was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. I married this man at 19, and I got pregnant within the first year. He beat me daily…it got to the point he wanted to “abort” our daughter with a crowbar..I locked myself in the bathroom. I went back and he was there when I gave birth. But then he started getting mad at the baby for waking him up. I knew he was crazy enough to hurt my baby..so I applied for an apartment and got it within a month…while he was at work, I loaded my stuff and baby into my car and left… mothers should look at their baby and be strong enough to leave.
That is what a mother does
🙏
Oh hell no! My moms bf wound touch me when I was 9 and I told her and all she did was talk to him and she stayed with him and he kept doing it for years. I got no sympathy for anyone who keeps their kids in that environment period!
I'm sorry this happened to you 😔 I hope you're doing well now, sending you much love
@heens x it's all good now. She confronted him about it once we talked more. Our relationship is better now. Thank you 🧡
I’m so sorry this happen to you God bless you
I'm so sorry you had to experience this. You deserved better, it was never your fault, and I hope you are thriving and doing well in your life now.
I'm sorry for you 😔
I’ll be respectful but truthfully all the adults failed that poor baby. I’m sorry but if you can’t leave your kids alone with a person why are you still with them?
FACTS.
Truth. If I can trust you around me child, I can’t be with you. Period.
Wish I could like this comment a thousand times over! There have been times I didn't judge but this is just ridiculous. Shell of a mother. I am not ok
I agree 100%
I completely agree and feel his mother is just as guilty. She KNEW the possibility was there and allowed it to happen. Allowed abuse of both her children with head in the sand. I’m sorry but I have a hard time feeling bad when she was aware. Kids are the victims.
really? a six year old comes back from california and he still gets treated like he hurt his brother? this situation is so sickening. men like D will get what is coming to them.
I know right??? Like what? We're gonna take the word of a known abuser while he's trying to blame a CHILD who wasn't .... even in the state?? When he was alone with the victim? I don't understand that at all.
And women like his mother TOO!
HIs mother too.
he killed her son, abused her other son and herself but she drew the line at him grooming her niece(even tho that is horrible as well).
Just like Eric and Jacobs dad emotional relationship, she draws the line at any woman/girl involved which is heartbreaking to hear
She sounded jealous.
She killed her own son.
They should sue him civilly, if they can’t get him criminally.
This. He needs to be seen. I'm sure they're not alone- but at the very least they can get it on a record.
yeah but they changed they way you can prosecute. If you file civilly first. Like the case with Michael Jackson you are to disclose all the evidence presented. As also in the case with MJ the defense withheld evidence for the civil case defense including false testimony in case they came after him to be prosecuted criminally. since then (I think you may fact check me) that they require a criminal suit to be concluded before civil. Im not positive but this is what I have read.
Who's him in your eyes??
@@adamburdt8794 oh okay! I did not know that but that makes a ton of sense.
@@Jillybug25 D is him.
The sadness you see in his eyes while he’s talking about this Is absolutely heart breaking :(
So heartbreaking.
I felt for the mom I really did until she went back to him after he killed her child, married him, bought a home with him, and continued to leave her other living child with D alone again while KNOWING he was abusive and had probably already killed her other child. There’s no excuse imo.
Judgement passed lmfao..like excuse me ma'm??
i didn’t even make it that far. i stopped sympathizing with her when she decided to stay with a man she couldn’t even trust to be around her child.
@@alexandervelez9507 no shît right wtf???
Yeah right?! Up until Jacobs death I was giving her the benefit of the doubt, (although I would never be with someone who I did not trust my children around alone!)... I can understand how manipulative some men can be, and your mental health in an abuse relationship it makes it very hard sometimes to “see” the truth. However after that.. when she went back to him after his death and put Eric in danger. No more sympathy. None whatsoever. I know Eric loves his mother but that is seriously not okay.
And still stayed with him after he almost killed her...
This woman Brenda left me speechless! Some people should just not have children! 😔😳
@junebug, a license to own a dog but any person can procreate. The the system fails victims everyday... poor angels.
So, son gets murdered, another gets physically, mentally and sexually abused.. but the niece potentially getting abused crossed the line now I have heard everything. Poor Eric. You are such a well spoken man, gentle and have a calming presence. Jacob would be so proud of you!
Cold justice would be an avenue to go down to see if they could help
Since when is there a statute of limitations on murder? So, a baby killer gets away with it because the powers that be are afraid he'll sue? Outrageous. Poor little Jacob. I feel so bad for him and his family. Jacob and his family deserve justice. I hope the DA listens to Eric and to the petition and finally reopens Jacob's case.
It depends on the degree of murder. There is no SOL for first degree murder. However, there is a SOL for second degree murder, which is probably what the DA was referencing.
@@jilliankushner4541 Thanks for the info! I did not know that.
@@jilliankushner4541 that’s so frustrating. But with first degree of murder, that’s when there has to be intention, so I would think that child abuse consistently would fall in line with first degree murder, right?
It's so wrong
@@christina.lynn97 obviously the DA is privy to information we aren’t, so I’m just guessing they would be looking at this as second degree and that’s why they keep saying it’s past the SOL. I can’t give legal advice as I’m not a lawyer yet, but it would really depend on the facts and what evidence they have :/
If you have to restrict the man you’re with from being around your child......MAYBE YOU SHOULDN’T BE WITH SAID MAN!!!
Exactly. If it makes you sick to your stomach the thought of leaving your baby alone with your boyfriend for 1 hour, that should be all you need to know about the man you're dating.
This shows just how desperate some women are to not be alone.
Ding Ding Ding!!!!!!! We have a winner!!
Then she goes and marries him!! I always say women with kids no need for a man, wait untill they are 18 then go get married to whoever u want
@@10113sarah when it impacts your children there is NO EXCUSE.
I'm still in awe that she left a man that cheated in her but didn't leave a man that killed her son, beat her, and put her kids in danger. I try to understand the psyche of the victim but I feel so sorry for Eric.
That’s what I’m thinking, her final straw is cheating… So when the next guy killed her son that’s not cheating on her so it’s fine? She’s clearly mentally I’ll and loves for love no matter the cost
I was in a relationship with a narcissist. Fear is a major factor in this type of case. She was terrified for herself & for her son. Look at all the cases where a person was murdered or injured severely because of an abusive partner. I was terrified of my ex-husband. I still don’t want him knowing where I live & we’ve been apart for 13 years. I have a lot of trauma from my relationship. To someone that’s never experienced it, it’s difficult to explain. But they love bomb you with the “I’m sorry”’s & gifts & the “it’ll never happen again”’s… they’re so charming that you believe them… sometimes, for a while, it’s better. But then they go right back to how they were before. It gets worse every time. Living in fear is crippling.
He was stalking her THIRTEEN year old niece. How is that cheating? You people in this community are so judgemental of victims, it's mind-blowing.
I know, right? Calling it cheating is so tone deaf it’s not even funny, even by some remote chance this was her reasoning for leaving. But, I doubt it was. I think the son knows more about his mother and the situation than we will ever know. @@lilamedusa
there’s really no excuse for this when there’s kids involved.
kind of broke my heart that Brenda only got involved when she saw D trying to make Erics cousin his next victim as if her own sons weren’t victims enough
People like that just have abuse a habit. There is not a chance in hell he has stopped being violent without going to prison or an insane amount of therapy.
Seriously. She only stepped in when he was crushing on another female. She completely ignored the fact that this man was suspected of killing her little baby and the fact that this man was constantly abusing her only living child, as well as her. Idc what anyone says, going back to your abuser (especially under these circumstances) is just straight up weakness and stupidity.
same :/
She didn't know that her son was being sexually abused by him. He never told her about that at least not before she left the D-bag.
@@somethingcleverrrr too bad the murder of her son wasn’t the last straw.
New Mexico’s justice system is completely messed up. So many children harmed and no justice for them. I feel horrible for their family. Eric if you’re reading this I’m so sorry for what you went through. Justice has no expiration date.
Thank you @gnomie51
My God, Eric is one of the kindest people. The fact that he is willing to consider that any of the things that Jacob was experiencing are possibly attributable to Eric is amazing and incredibly open minded and kind hearted of him. But in all of our hearts I think we absolutely all know that it was "D" who committed all of the monstrous abuse. What a sick man to try and blame a little boy for what he did. Rest in peace little angel, Jacob. No one can hurt you anymore.
RIGHT
On abusive relationships: they are highly addictive, especially when your self-esteem is shattered. Walking on eggshells is very common, too.
But if you support child abuse as an adult by inaction you should still be held accountable, with all respect and understanding.
Dear Eric, I am sorry what you and little Jacob have been through. I just signed the petition and I hope it helps. Thank you for defending your brother and your family. ❤❤❤
you can be, not sure what the specifics are in the states but in Australia, you can be charged and convicted with manslaughter by criminal negligence, which basically means that where there is a established relationship by law, it requires a duty and standard of care for the person, e.g. parent and child relationship. There was a case that the mother was convicted of this offence because her child was being abused and she did nothing when by law she had a duty, and sadly it resulted in the child's death at the abusers hands.
I can’t believe him grooming her niece was the breaking point... when the son got murdered and the other kid was suffering. My god I hate judging but I can’t believe the adults in this story 😫😭
RIGHT?! She got her feelings hurt because he went after another female but she played “no see” when the proof was in front of her face about her children????
@@cherrywilson6267 well said it. BREANDA was so weak, needy and stupid to fail 3 kids. If I was Eric i will not talk this mother.
Yea she was purely selfish. Put herself over those poor children.
Even with her first husband leaving them with no food or money to points where they literally starved having her young child in that situation but she didnt do ANYTHING until she found out he was having an affair like??
Im angry!
Why is “D’s” name not listed anywhere!? People need to be aware of this person to prevent him from doing anyone else harm
Yes!!! AND we must see his face. We should know what this murderer looks like! No privacy!
According to what Sarah Turney said on her podcast episode about this case, Eric himself decided that he did not want to release the name of his mother's boyfriend so any of the creators who have covered this or worked with him at this point are just honoring that choice. I do agree with your sentiment though and wonder why or how it is impossible to find out who this man is.
It’s disgusting that that man is still protected after all he’s done by her.
maybe there are legal issues? i am not sure.
He was never charged with the crime. If Eric released his name and/or picture it could have serious legal consequences for Eric if D decided to press charges. I hope we can get this case reopened and this disgusting human being charged and convicted.
This story is just awful. I have never cried at a video but hearing that this sweet baby screamed when his grandma lifted him up and then again when D had him you know damn well that man did something to that baby. Ugh. Prayers for this family and that sweet sweet boy
Agree, it was hard to watch while I’m looking at my 5 month old baby girl bounce in her little swing. My heart truly breaks for him and his family 😔
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I cried when Eric started getting choked up
I started tearing up when Eric’s voice was shaking while talking about his guilt 💔
God that part BROKE me. That poor sweet baby boy! Children being abused will never NOT haunt me. 💔💔💔
I really thought I’d always feel for the mom but I cannot imagine seeing so many red flags and obvious signs of abuse go ignored right in front of her face .. I’m sorry when it come to a kid you need to listen and just go with it if you see any types of abuse whatsoever
When she said they got married after my jaw dropped
Same. I almost always side with the women in cases like these, but I just cannot this time. She failed her children and she was incredibly selfish.
She's an accomplice at this point smh the grandma too
Seriously, who hits a baby? You have to be a soulless devil to do something like that. I’m a singleMother and I won’t date because of people like that.
Exactly. So sad. I’m recently single mom to a toddler boy. I’m not looking for dating right now anyway as it’s only been a couple months but the future scares me if I ever want to date to bring people like that around my child.
I'm a single mom also ladies and the statistics of a non-related men in the household abusing your child is twice that of a parent in the household doing it ... it's hard... never give up on love but always watch your babies and believe them
@@babyanderson9501 exactly it’s sad to here victim shaming coming from their own mom or dad is sad
@@kaitlynm8093 I honestly am not even sure if I could finish watching it
I agree and my daughter is now 17 and son 14 and I have never brought a man to stay over night nor been in a relationship since I split from their dad 6 yrs ago. As an abused child myself I could not trust anyone around my kids so it would be pointless to try to have a relationship in the first place... My time will come once iv raised my kids but until they reach proper adulthood I will put them first...
Going on dates and gettin to know someone doesn't have to mean bringing them home or movin in together.... Take time to get to know people! X
im over here so angry at Brenda for even believing her first born would injure her baby and not ever questioning her "bf" no ma'am.. Eric, im so sorry the adults in your life at the time didn't protect you or Jacob
Yep it’s sad that society puts all the blame on the mothers when the true monsters are the ones to blame. :(
I'm sorry Kendal but having been abused by my step father for 15 years and my mother doing nothing Im sitting here, 25 years later, crying in impotent rage. After I too got into an abusive relationship and had kids and left after 3 years I have been single since. I would have been damned before I let ANYONE hurt a hair on my kids head. This story is so hard for me to listen to. I am actually livid. I'm sick to my stomach. I cannot handle stories where children are abused and everyone just ignores it. OMG.
Im so sorry
I am so sorry you went through that and you have every right to be angry. I have never experienced abuse or domestic violence so I’m obviously not equipped with the experience to speak on this, however, I have never understood how a mother’s instinct to protect their children does not overpower their susceptibility to be manipulated by an abuser. I would think that even the slightest suspicion that your significant other was inflicting harm on the most precious people in your world would prompt you to leave and never look back.
I am so sorry. I honestly wish I could’ve known you as a child and protected you 😞
It is so heartbreaking when children are failed by the people around them. And thank you for getting yourself out of that relationship !
@@Abmarp
Thank you! I am much better now. I have a ton of empathy for children in bad situations though and it gets me riled up! ☺
@@wandering4786
Thank you so much. I feel the same way now. I just wish I could help and protect them all.
I'm trying to be considerate of Eric's feelings. I hope that he receives the therapy and treatment he needs to heal. I want to know what happened in his mother's life that had her attracted to such neglectful and abusive men. Her first husband was neglectful, D was sexually abusive towards her children, killed her son, and yet she went back to him and married him.
I'm sorry, I just feel like the mother also let her children down PLUS she left after he started going after her niece. Seems more like a concern about him cheating on her than concern for the child. Something is not clicking with the mother here. And D should be under the jail. He is a monster.
Jacob could never speak for himself. So glad Eric and Kendall are.
So you think someone’s beating your son and you “restrict time with him” that’s when you cut them off.
Jacob was failed by all the adults in his life. Such a sad and frustrating case. Rest In Peace, Jacob ❤️
I was going to say the same, but I was trying to be respectful. I'm glad someone else did.
Jacob and Erik were both failed.
Cassidi Wilson agreed
Her mom fail that's it. Naive,too low.. women we need to be brave straightforward and follow our guts specifically if u have kids n new bf hmm
victim blaming comments lmaoo.
I’m sorry but she deserves to live with that regret and pain in her heart. All the signs in her face and she remained with that man & she left Jacob with him again!! This brakes my heart As a mother! I would kill for my children! The system needs to do better with these abuse cases. So many children fall through the cracks.
EXACTLY!!!!! I have zero sympathy for her.
@@bjc4204 same here! Nun at all
1st red flag: he has his own kids that he is not being a good father to.
I truly hope this family finds answers and God gives them justice for this little angel ❤️
Exactly!!!
I was thinking the same thing ! There’s no way he can be an amazing step dad while neglecting his own children .
i noticed this too, immediate red flag
The audacity of making Eric think he was ever responsible for any of Jacob's injuries
You should of gave “D”s name he doesn’t deserve to have his identity covered
should *have
He hasn't been acquitted yet, so I think that they don't want to risk the chances of releasing his name.
@@rachel5399 Never mind acquittal; he hasn't even been charged yet, right?
@@scottcharney1091 SERIOUSLY??
Agreed
Let's remember that Brenda chose a man for years. Her son was starving while her ex went around " preaching" this is a woman who clearly can not be alone . I would bet money she only left because she found someone else . This is plain and simple neglect . She only left her first husband because he cheated not because he was starving them or leaving them . Very scary behaviour in my opinion I vow to be not like these people .
Very good points.
thanks kitty for this unnecessary comment that highlights the faults of an abused women with a dead baby
Years of neglect and nobody in the family thought to get the kids taken away? Or stepping in.
@@clarakb14 did I say anything that is not true ? I understand abuse and neglect however I will not make excuses for woman who won't step up for there children . Simple . There is a difference between hurting me an adult who put themselves in that situation and is stuck compared to a little child who can't choose to run or leave. We need to stop this victim mentality of ohhhhh what could of I have done ?
Well said!
This should be a lesson to put your kid's safety ahead of any man. Trust your instincts. I know the mother probably feels immense guilt but at some point, she has to hold some responsibility for what happened.
agreed.
💯💯 agree! hearing the end part was terrible. Of her getting back with him....I would never do this to my children.
definitely.
i would have to agree completely.
She had Full responsibility. She ignored all the signs and left him unprotected over and over again.
"Please don't play with Jacob like that again." WHAT? How about "Get the eff away from my son, get out of this house and never come here again."
right? i don't understand how she didn't just kick him out in that moment. i get that she was being manipulated but you've got to be really weak minded to allow someone to treat your child like that and essentially let it slide. i'm sorry to say that but it's hard not to acknowledge that she does share some of the blame in this story
SERIOUSLY I AM SO PISSED AT THE MOM
Fucking thank you! I have 2 children and if they ever acted that way or if I was even suspicious of any adult around them they would be out of our lives
Right? 👀
Some women are so desperate for a man they don’t care
People that hurt innocent children, animals and elderly are pure evil. They can’t defend themselves. They will answer for it one day..
They can answer for it today. No need to wait for some abstract point in time that none of us living will ever know.
@@Uchihasasuk5 I mean that would obviously be the most ideal route but how often is true justice actually ever served in our lifetime?
@@Uchihasasuk5 even if he did get punished in this life, the punishment of the next will be much more severe
they are less than human and deserve the worst
I know I’m a little late, but Eric. We stand with you. I hope you can live a life free from pain
Literally every single adult in Jacob's life failed him.
Agree!
Absolutely agree
Yep.
Eric too.. :(
AGREED
As a mother I can not fathom thinking someone may be hurting my child, that child dies, then marrying said person you thought was abusive.
Same! I can't even help myself from confronting teachers about school students stealing my 7 year daughters snack at school!
This story is making my stomach flip and I want to quit watching, but I can't. It wouldn't be fair to do so.
Thank you so much for saying this. It’s so upsetting to see some other people defending the mother in this story. I felt like her behaviour in the whole thing was just plain unnatural
That's because you've not been in an abusive relationship.
@@sailysTV No, for an abuse victim, it's very normal.
@Andrew Gibson What? Did you even listen to the story? She WAS a good mother. You're disgusting.
It’s really hard to remain respectful towards the adults in this situation. I’m amazed that she left her children’s father over an emotional affair, but continued to put up with this monster. As a mother your priority are your children. If she couldn’t bring herself to leave the relationship she should have shipped her son off with the grandparents or back to his dad. She sent him away when D was accusing Eric of hurting Jacob, but allowed him to stay when he was abusing her in front of him AND leaving her son with him after loosing her 2nd son around this monster. All of this could have been prevented.
What about the boys' dad? He knew about the neglect, received a warning about this monster but didn't file a complaint or tell Brenda about the warning, and he sent back his other son to live with the man who had killed his other kid. Both parents failed epically here. And he wasn't even stuck in a horrifically abusive relationship so like what's his excuse?
@@MuntsonWeekdays don’t blame the father the mother is the one who had primary custody what was he supposed to do ??? Stop trying to take away accountability with the “what about” games 🙄those kids needed their mother to protect them and put them first !!
idk maybe we should blame the person who killed a child instead of the adults doing their best with the situation they had. i swear you people blame everyone but the actual person who did it and is walking free. weirdos
@@michalapalmer8874 it’s not about blame it’s about accountability
@@Cewdipie im not saying the mom shouldnt be held accountable, what im saying is that comments seems more pointed at the mother then the killer...
I cannot imagine how hard it is being a single mother. But my stance will always be, protect the children. New boyfriends watching your children? NO. Hell even family members, in my case, watching your children? NO.
The minute a boyfriend said he’d take care of my daughter for the day… when I didn’t ask or need him to, got a feeling in my stomach that something wasn’t right. it was over and told him not to come near us. He ended up stalking me for 5 years. I was right he was a nutter.
@@lemons2135 I’m so sorry you went through that. Thank you for trusting your gut and protecting your child. A lot of times children are failed by their parents and it’s heartbreaking.
@@sidrock2754 i cab understand how someone who is completely alone wouldn’t have the same response. That’s what makes single mothers so vulnerable to these predators
I've been a single parent since my husband passed away. I've dated but not let anyone around my daughter yet. She's met people but not dates and I haven't dated in two years. We are happy and my priority is for my girl, my beautiful daughter ❤❤❤
With all due respect there was way to many RED FLAGS AND THE MOM STILL CHOICE TO LEAVE HER SON WHO WAS CLEARLY TERRIFIED OF THE GUY! THE MOTHER HAS TO TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY AS WELL!!
She’s at fault for sure.
I understand, I felt the same way. But I’ve never been in an abusive relationship so I cannot say I wouldn’t do the same thing. I just don’t know. I feel like judging doesn’t help. But I also feel so frustrated with her.
@Wendy A. Smithon Allow me to play Devil's Advocate and I do not mean any disrespect whatsoever ~ Put yourself in Brenda's shoes from the get go. Would you honestly make the same decisions and/or choices Brenda did and NOT feel the accountability or blame for them? She shouldn't have "bent her own rules", period, end of story, both children alive and well.
@Wendy A. Smithon bullllshit theres SOOOOOOO many ways women can get help and support.
she literally told y'all not to pass judgement, she lost her baby and yes did she make some poor choices that she definitely regards now of course. she was manipulated and abused by "d" and i don't think she really realized he actually did it when she went back to him. i don't understand because i think i would have seen the red flags but we never experienced that and it's easier said than done. she and Eric and poor Jacob are the Victims.
These poor poor children. The adults in this case fully failed them both. In so sorry but, he kills your child He sexually abuses your other child But the last straw is the cousin?! No. No. No. No.
It’s because the cousin is a girl. 🤧
Jealousy over losing the abuser's attention? So, so sad. Those poor babies.
i don’t think the mom knew about eric’s sexual abuse at the time.
It's so strange that noone talks about the biological father. He most probably had some suspicions about D. after Jacob passed away. He still let Eric live with D. He was literally never there for Jacob and Eric and the mother of his children. I just cant stand these kind of fathers. Devorcing their wives doesn't mean they are not a father anymore.
Exactly, the mom was struggling to care for them on her owns It didn't seem like she had any outside support from family or the children's father. I too question why the father or family didn't get involved.
I think it's cause there's just not enough time for her to get into him. There's so much going on in the household itself. So the most important things are in. Just my thought
all three parents let these kids down over and over.
@@katelynanneg agree
@@AllyElla1 let's not let "d' have the honor of being called a " parent". He was honestly no better than a pile of dog shit.
We need to start giving a shit about how parents treat their children. They deserve to feel safe even if their parent is a victim as well.
I can give a 99.9% guarantee Eric didn't ever hurt his baby brother, he could've been jealous but I bet he never ever touched or hurt him
I can 100%
@@memyselfandisatou I can never 100% unless it was me because the only one who could say for sure is him and he said he can't remember. He seems way to sweet to have done anything though. My heart goes out to him, Jacob and his mother
Eric is an absolute hero. The horrors he's been through, the things he's seen... and still his strength is radiant. What a guy, honestly... I'm sure his mother is so thankful that he turned out to be so caring, and such a champion for justice. Jacob would be proud of his big brother.
Agree.
I don’t understand how any human being can hurt a child and a baby like this, ive watched so many of your videos but cases like this are the ones that always get me.
Or a mom who thinks her bf could be abusing her baby but continues to let him around the baby.
Agreed
the reason that they hurt the kids is because they regret having them then begin to resent them, so if women feel that way then they should just give them up for adoption, at least they would be safe from these maniacs
I know, this one got me. Gut wrenching. (This comment was for @Ailie Boo only!)
@@ajayjackson7727 I do not believe that this is ANYTHING like what you just described. You need to listen again, and also listen to Eric..closely.
I did feel Eric's honesty coming through especially when he admits that he could have been jealous but didn't remember. My heart breaks for him and his family.
The irony of a preacher not providing for his family
Religious people do the worst things sometimes
It seems like he was just doing it for the prestige, attention and power
I thought the same thing!
@@priscillapie So you just group all religious people into that statement?
As a pastors wife, this immediately disqualifies him from being a pastor.
Omg I’m so furious with that so called ‘mother’. Sure sibling jealousy exists, but she would’ve seen the signs. She sent her son away and her baby was STILL getting magically injured. Did she believe it was ghosts? She wouldn’t see red flags even if they slapped her in her face. She absolutely failed both her kids.
I’m so heartbroken for Eric. His mother kept him in that abusive situation. She failed her babies😔
All I’m gunna say is.... if you are willing to have children you better protect them if it’s the last thing you do 👿
Amen. It breaks my heart, but I don't have any children because I haven't found a decent man yet. I have experienced too much myself and know how important child protection is.
Exactly I live and would die for mines
i don’t want to be disrespectful.. but the adults in this story...
Rightt.... I do want to be respectful of the affected members of the family but it's just..... Hmmmm.... Quite speechless of what happened, my heart aches for Eric.
I agree 100%
100%. The mother. Wow
what an idiot mom amiright?
Okay but like things are always easy in hindsight but when you’re actually in that situation it’s not that easy.
i’m absolutely sickened by how many signs this mom ignored, and chose to send her son away instead of this monster. and the fact that she knew he was abusing her son, but only chose to leave once he moved on to her niece. he’s vile, but she’s not much better.
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Exactly! POS mom
I have zero sympathy for that “mother”. I don’t care if she was being beaten, she knew damn well that monster killed her baby boy and was physically and sexually abusing her son and still chose him over Eric! Still married that POS. Absolutely disgusting. God my heart goes out to Eric. So much trauma he endured. I truly hope he’s healing.
Agree
Cant agree more
This case breaks my heart, Eric has been through so so much. I experienced my fair share of childhood trauma myself, and from one survivor to another, I want to let you know (if you‘re reading this) that it‘s so so strong that you‘re talking about this and using your voice. I hope you have all the support you need and that you keep on healing and speaking up. Lots of love! xxx