187 Setting Boundaries with Emotionally Immature Parents

Setting Boundaries with Emotionally Immature People
Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents provides a 5-part process outlining how to set boundaries with an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP). She also talks about how to reinforce and reset those boundaries when they aren’t honored. Dr. Gibson talks about how to determine the optimal physical and psychological distance with EIPs, including examples. Dr. Gibson states what you can say when an EIP says something hurtful.
GUEST
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.
HIGHLIGHTS
5-Part process in talking to an emotionally immature person:
1. Ask if you can have some time (10 minutes) for the person to listen to you
2. Set ground rules
a. There are some things I need to tell you
b. I’m going to tell you how I’m feeling, and I’d like for you to just listen and understand. You don’ have to do anything
c. Are you willing to do this?
3. Tell them what you need to say following this format:
a. When you ­­­(example), I feel (share feeling)
4. Follow up immediately with what you would like from them
a. Would you be willing to promise me that
i. You won’t use these words (examples)
ii. You will talk to me in private instead of publicly.
iii. You will say this (example) instead of that (example)
5. Would you be willing to try this for me?
GUEST BIO
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.
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[@iw9338]

No, i cannot go deep with any siblings b/c it will be shared and or ised against me 😮❤

[@SonyaStarsSoul]

Really insightful & practical discussion. Thank you both. HSP's seem to have EMP parents more often than not and converging the two is invaluable. Blessings 🙏🏽

[@ChildoftheLIGHT]

Excellent discussion and help. Thank you!
Applies to ALL relationships, not only with parents, for sure.

[@toto-dh9dw]

😊easierr said than done epsecialy when ur parent is conditioned different way.. as kids have no say... and waht kods say is not them someone told them so... but very good despricption.. i struggled with my father 20 years knowimg that he may or may not understand.... and tried to live my lifeso it doesnt passme... it was quite an experiment. Mostly positive...

[@jennjenn02]

Thank you!!! 💜💜💜💜

[@angelamossucco2190]

❤❤❤

[@tnt01]

What are the chances of this type parent fully changing?

[@sunshine-db2zm]

Highly not likely to happen