208 Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2023
- Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People
Dr. Lindsay Gibson, discusses her most recent book, and she offers practical strategies, reflective exercises, and tips for dealing with emotionally immature people (EIPs). We explore topics such as understanding emotional immaturity, healing from emotional immaturity, and developing emotional maturity. We discuss the importance of self-care, self-compassion, and self-improvement. Dr. Gibson offers hope, validation, and empowerment to those who want to build healthier relationships.
GUEST
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.
HIGHLIGHTS
· Emotional immaturity is characterized by a lack of emotional awareness, empathy, and responsibility.
· Emotionally immature people often struggle with communication, conflict resolution, and intimacy.
· Emotional immaturity can be caused by childhood trauma, neglect, or abuse.
· Emotionally immature parents can pass on their behavior to their children.
· The book is structured as a series of 50 questions and answers.
· The book offers strategies, reflective exercises, and tips for improving emotional maturity.
· The book is organized into five parts: Understanding Emotional Immaturity, The Impact of Emotional Immaturity on Relationships, Healing from Emotional Immaturity, Developing Emotional Maturity, and Living with Emotional Maturity.
· Part One explains what emotional immaturity is and how it develops.
· Part Two explores the effects of emotional immaturity on different types of relationships, such as romantic, familial, and professional.
· Part Three offers guidance on healing from emotional immaturity, including setting boundaries, grieving losses, and forgiving oneself and others.
· Part Four provides practical advice for developing emotional maturity, such as practicing self-awareness, empathy, and responsibility.
· Part Five discusses the benefits of living with emotional maturity, such as better relationships, self-esteem, and resilience.
· The book emphasizes the importance of self-care, self-compassion, and self-improvement in overcoming emotional immaturity.
· The book encourages readers to seek therapy, support groups, and other resources for healing and growth.
· The book acknowledges that emotional maturity is a lifelong journey and that setbacks and challenges are normal.
· The book is written in a conversational and accessible style, with anecdotes, examples, and humor.
· The book is aimed at adult children of emotionally immature parents, but it can be helpful for anyone struggling with emotional immaturity.
· The book offers hope, validation, and empowerment to readers who want to break the cycle of emotional immaturity and build healthier relationships.
GUEST BIO
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy and coaching with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of five books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller in parent-adult child relationships, with a five star rating and over 19,000 reviews, over 800,000 copies sold, and translated in 34 foreign countries. She has served as an Adjunct Assistant Professor for the Virginia Consortium Program for Clinical Psychology, leading doctoral student workshops and independent study classes. Her latest book, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People, was released in July 2023. Her website address is www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com. Dr. Gibson lives and works in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is neurodivergent helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Dr, Gibson’s links
Website- lindsaygibsonpsyd.com
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--unapologeticallysensitive.com...
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This is my story!! Finally! This is the best podcast on dealing with Toxic family members, that I have EVER listen to! Thank you from the bottom of my broken heart. NOW I can figure out HOW to heal. I'm actually excited! Even though, both my parents are gone and there never was a resolution, at least, my history is not such a mystery. I am beginning to understand WHY alot of my toxic and painful.memories exist. There's nothing worse than carrying this kind of hurt for so long and not being able. To figure it out.
Oh, thank-you from the inner part of my heart. You are the piece I needed to finally understand how to deal with my mother with love because we all are humans and God's sons and doughters. ❤❤❤❤
I started pulling away from my mom years ago because my energy was being sucked dry. Communicating how tired I was from her life never helped. I have finally gone temporarily NC for some healing and when I told her we’ve drifted apart she was shocked. She was completely unaware of the fact that I had pulled away. She is so wrapped up in her feelings and drama that she couldn’t even tell. It makes me sad to think we never had the relationship I thought we had.
This message has changed my life. And helped me to go easy on my self. TY
I got married with 46 and even with 46 being cought in a trap of old patern is crazy. And, I fought with immature partner for 10 years. Only now I decided to go my own way and without having any deep connection.
Thank you so much for this great podcast. It has given me more understanding and clarity about myself and my relationships.
This describes my parents exactly. To bad they are too emotionally immature to listen to it 😢😂
Almost every part of this conversation rings 100% accurate and the entire conversation is meaningful. My disagreement regards whether someone can make us feel something. If a person is jogging it can make someone feel disgusted, aroused, envious, jealous, intrigued, worried, or joyful. Jogger did not cause any of us to feel any of those feelings. Those feelings come from our perceptions about jogging. It is only abusive or neglectful actions that can cause us to feel some thing and in that case we all feel the same thing which is shame or rejection or fear or terror. Healthy behaviors do not cause other people to feel feelings. Peoples unresolved childhood trauma cause feelings in them in response to healthy behaviors, Thereby causing them to react with emotions that are not relevant to the behavior that they are reacting to but that have to be address *within themselves*.
OMGOODNESS!, Dr Gibson wisdom and sharing has giving me such depth in what is going on with a family member of mine, and also, a close friend whose mother is just destroying her life with immaturity and narcissism Thank you, thankyou Patricia and Dr Gibson💕
I’ve been bingeing anything on Dr. Gibson speaking on this subject, I really had that switch flipped on an understanding of why and how I feel and react the way I do. I am definitely an “internalizer” and my life has been sadly summed up by you lovely ladies. My parents were both likely EIP’s, my mother’s parents were, and possibly my father’s as well. I have been married to someone who fits the picture for nearly 20 years and I have felt completely drained for years. We married at age 22/24 and had our first child when I was 23, then another at 25, and our last when I was 30. I believe the distraction of running after our beautiful children put me in about that age range of where you said people should be properly matured before I truly noticed how deeply the impacts of this behavior on me and the kids is. I sought couples counseling along with our oldest child but my husband picked the counselor (at the time I was just happy he agreed to go!) especially for the sake of our son, whom had been struggling for awhile. We went for about 6 months and it got us nowhere, so we quit and I went alone to another counselor for a year after our son left home. I have hope that this new information will help empower my abilities to advocate for myself and create better boundaries. I pray my kids will be open to listening to this wisdom and contemplate their youths compassionately and somewhat objectively. Still teetering on the edge of knowing what would be best going forward, I wish I had this information years ago! I am so grateful for it now 👏
Patricia Young you sound really nice I like how you start the show all kinda chill small talk.
What a fantastic podcast!
My favourite podcasts. Thank you for sharing your personal stories...they help tramendously❤❤❤
Dr.Gibson, I found you. ⚕️
So helpful
❤ Thank you for your last monologue. It was very meaningful to me and I’m sure too many
Change the wording from "person" to "people", and the discussion might lead to a more global perspective on the effects on the individual person. I think the vast majority of american adults are emotionally shallow and immature which has extremely deleterous effects in the society itself. To disentangle from those close to one is difficult--but imagine disentangling from the general society to enable one to attempt to lead a relatively happy, robust and humanly productive life where cruelty, rigidity, with an entrenched, ignorant ego--essentially an anti-social zeitgeist--
does not hold sway.
Whew, I get it. I traveled to a country where the culture was more community based and united and I felt so much better energetically. I don't know what country you live in but the US in general is not a kind place AT ALL. Feeling alienated from the culture and am pretty alone these days.
Maybe it’s both. Person and people.
Good point about the society. Western society tends to focus on a left brain oriented “success” and misses out on the wholistic aspect of being human.
The avoidance, hyper-control, pretending of no emotions, is collective. It’s interesting, because our emotions are an intrinsic, essential part of who we are
I'm "apologetically insensitive" lol
Haha, thank you for the humor. We have to chuckle at ourselves as we heal. I too am "apologetically sensitive", lol.
Great content, but WAY too many commercials