Hi Barrett - This is Donna Porco - My heart goes out to you. I am 78 - but - been there - done that - felt that same way - cried my heart out at your age!!!! The love of my life decided to leave me when I was 60 after 28 years - I thought my life was over. It was not.............but again - I have sat in that car with rain pouring down and tears streaming down my cheeks. I understand!!! Life - thankfully - does go on - but when we women are going through it, it is unbearable!! My heart is crying for you as you sit in your car - no make-up - rain pouring down - all alone - but I admire you for being YOU!!! For being honest - for showing up on the channel and letting other women know that THEY are not alone in their feelings. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for showing the women on your channels, all sides of you!! As the saying goes - the good, the bad and the ugly!! - which makes you beautiful in the eyes of women who are going through this. Thank you Barrett - and from the incredible words of wisdom from my Mother - I will say - This too Shall Pass. (Thank God!!!)
I relate! It’s like I’m 58, raised the kids, and totally forgot who I was. Can’t seem to find the happy, bubbly person I was, and don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing or feeling or wearing for that matter!! It’s so kind of you to share! Blessings to us all 😊
Hi Barrett, Thank you for sharing. I am 56, going through the same thing. I haven't felt like myself in quite a long time and I am very down in the dumps sometimes. Can't put my finger on why though lol. Hoping this passes for both of us very soon!
I completely understand. I went through this also. Just looking at me would sometimes make me start crying. My physician put me on a mild antidepressant and it helped! You still feel all the feelings but it helps you get through. My prayers are with you
Totally understand, I definitely have those days😔, I’m 57 and there are days where I just can’t get anything accomplished, you are not alone, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable moment, always here for you beautiful friend💚💚
Bless your heart, Barrett. I recall walking in to my doctors office in tears while going through menopause. That was 21 years ago. I did use a compounded medication specifically made for me which helped me through. That was popular back then. As far as grief, I totally understand as I lost my mom 3 years ago. She was my best friend. I was blessed to have her til she was 99. I miss her everyday. Take good care of yourself. We all care very much about you. 😊🌸
I just checked out this channel (I follow your on track channel) and boy do I relate. I retired at 56 without really intending to (I worked in the construction industry and had just had enough so I took a break and thankfully could retire) and the loneliness and sadness was overwhelming. I stopped going for morning walks because I’d come home in tears. “Is this all there is, is this now my life etc”. It was tough. My husband worked on and off as a consultant for another two years and then the pandemic. I really missed having a daily purpose. I was a Project Manager and solving problems and helping people felt good and all of that was gone. Thank you so much for sharing. I felt like I had no right to complain. After all I got to retire at 56 (I’m now 62) but I struggled and didn’t want medication so I pushed through alone with tears, gardening, and finding joy laughing at my dogs. Being outside helped. I will tell you that a new normal finds you. My husband and I embrace our new normal and can enjoy the slower life pace. Thanks again for being real and sharing. It helped validate what I went through.
This is where I've been for about 5 months now. Of course, some days are worse than others and by the grace of God, I manage to make it through each day. You are in my prayers. ❤
Oh, dear Barrett, hormones (and the lack thereof )really do a number on us! I have a number of regrets and they all occurred during that perimenopause stage. Hormones plus loss of my beloved parents. I was kind of a nut job. You don’t need to hear all of our stories but know that You Are Not Alone! So beautiful of you to share your downs as well as your ups. Your advice to stay the heck away from people? Great advice. ❤️
I think acknowledging your sadness or frustration, letting it play out, and knowing that it is temporary and the next hour or day will be better is all you can do in that moment. Allow yourself some grace. I also fought taking medication, but on a middle-aged female doctor's advice, I relented and it was the best thing I could have done. I was an anxiety-ridden fool and the medication changed it drastically. I wish I'd have taken that step several years before. It all started around age 53 pre-menopause. I just turned 60 and never plan to stop it.
Bless you, been there done that. Thankful you are so logical in your thinking and realize it will pass although it doesn’t feel like it at the time. Praying you will feel better soon. Thank you for being you and being honest about your feelings. I’m sure this will help someone that may be going through the same thing and feels like they are alone. They will know that they are not. ❤
Give yourself a little grace. As older women we’ve all been there. Hormonal fluctuations are real. You seem to be taking a very positive approach and mindset in dealing with these feelings. Kudos to you!! Hang in there and I hope it stops raining soon. 😊
I understand, yes I have days like this…I am 57, when I get “funk days” step back- be easier on yourself…take care and know that tomorrow is a new day with brand new blessings it’s gonna get better. Hugs and blessings ❤
I totally feel for you. There are times when the tears just flow... it's me missing my mum, and family.. or just for no reason.. but the tears flow. and I had a partial hysterectomy over 30 years ago. Being so young and having that done, I think messed me up so much. I had been taking Premarin for years but then finding out it can cause strokes.. and going off that - threw my body into another change.... so, I feel for you. I am not taking any time of replacement. So, I let the tears flow for a while - take some deep breaths and try and have a good day. So, I feel for you Barrett... Hang in there, I usually say quite a few Hail Mary's and ask God to help me.. Bless you...
Yes! Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings. They are valid! Do something nice for yourself, a bubble bath; heck, talk a walk in the rain (as long as it’s safe to do so!); get a mani or pedi; park yourself somewhere nice with a book; do you! Hugs!
I understand completely Barrett. Sometimes the grief and hormonal issues come out of nowhere. My doctor put me on the lowest dose of an antidepressant to help me through. I stayed on it for about a year and it helped tremendously. You’ve had a tough year emotionally and physically so you may benefit from something short term if you’re a candidate. We are always here for you. You are the most transparent and real person on YT that I watch. If I lived close to you I’d come and give you a hug but a virtual one is all I can offer and my prayers. I hope you’re already feeling better. Much love from Tennessee. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥰
I am 50. In October 2020 at 47 I had a massive stroke caused by being put on birth control pills to regulate my cycle. I am not perimenopausal yet, I am getting over a really terrible period. Not only the stroke but my age and grieving the life I thought I'd have. I'm now a Gramma to a beautiful baby girl. I'm on Fluoxetine to help. Hrt isn't always the answer, please, PLEASE, please be careful. Had I known then what I know now, I NEVER would've started the pill. I try really hard to be positive and focus on what I can do. Stay strong. 😊
Im so sorry youre going through this. The obgyn wanted me to go on birth control too and I did not. Im sorry that happened to you. BE strong and I hope your recovery is going well.
I'm glad you didn't go on them. I learned after women over 45 shouldn't go on the pill. My recovery is hard but, I'm alive and doing my best. I'm expecting menopause to start eventually. Yippee.
Hi Barrett - This is Donna Porco - My heart goes out to you. I am 78 - but - been there - done that - felt that same way - cried my heart out at your age!!!! The love of my life decided to leave me when I was 60 after 28 years - I thought my life was over. It was not.............but again - I have sat in that car with rain pouring down and tears streaming down my cheeks. I understand!!! Life - thankfully - does go on - but when we women are going through it, it is unbearable!! My heart is crying for you as you sit in your car - no make-up - rain pouring down - all alone - but I admire you for being YOU!!! For being honest - for showing up on the channel and letting other women know that THEY are not alone in their feelings. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for showing the women on your channels, all sides of you!! As the saying goes - the good, the bad and the ugly!! - which makes you beautiful in the eyes of women who are going through this. Thank you Barrett - and from the incredible words of wisdom from my Mother - I will say - This too Shall Pass. (Thank God!!!)
I relate! It’s like I’m 58, raised the kids, and totally forgot who I was. Can’t seem to find the happy, bubbly person I was, and don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing or feeling or wearing for that matter!! It’s so kind of you to share! Blessings to us all 😊
Hi Barrett, Thank you for sharing. I am 56, going through the same thing. I haven't felt like myself in quite a long time and I am very down in the dumps sometimes. Can't put my finger on why though lol. Hoping this passes for both of us very soon!
The feeling of putting a blanket over your head is so real for me.
I completely understand. I went through this also. Just looking at me would sometimes make me start crying. My physician put me on a mild antidepressant and it helped! You still feel all the feelings but it helps you get through. My prayers are with you
Totally understand, I definitely have those days😔, I’m 57 and there are days where I just can’t get anything accomplished, you are not alone, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable moment, always here for you beautiful friend💚💚
Bless your heart, Barrett. I recall walking in to my doctors office in tears while going through menopause. That was 21 years ago. I did use a compounded medication specifically made for me which helped me through. That was popular back then. As far as grief, I totally understand as I lost my mom 3 years ago. She was my best friend. I was blessed to have her til she was 99. I miss her everyday. Take good care of yourself. We all care very much about you. 😊🌸
Bless you! I have days too when I think “What’s wrong with me?” And then I remember it’s the hormones (or lack of.) Somehow that makes me feel better.
I just checked out this channel (I follow your on track channel) and boy do I relate. I retired at 56 without really intending to (I worked in the construction industry and had just had enough so I took a break and thankfully could retire) and the loneliness and sadness was overwhelming. I stopped going for morning walks because I’d come home in tears. “Is this all there is, is this now my life etc”. It was tough. My husband worked on and off as a consultant for another two years and then the pandemic. I really missed having a daily purpose. I was a Project Manager and solving problems and helping people felt good and all of that was gone. Thank you so much for sharing. I felt like I had no right to complain. After all I got to retire at 56 (I’m now 62) but I struggled and didn’t want medication so I pushed through alone with tears, gardening, and finding joy laughing at my dogs. Being outside helped. I will tell you that a new normal finds you. My husband and I embrace our new normal and can enjoy the slower life pace. Thanks again for being real and sharing. It helped validate what I went through.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It also helps me to hear other people have gotten through it.
This is where I've been for about 5 months now. Of course, some days are worse than others and by the grace of God, I manage to make it through each day. You are in my prayers. ❤
Yes, sometimes you just have to go through it, experience it and slowly climb back out of it. Hugs to you.
Oh, dear Barrett, hormones (and the lack thereof )really do a number on us! I have a number of regrets and they all occurred during that perimenopause stage. Hormones plus loss of my beloved parents. I was kind of a nut job. You don’t need to hear all of our stories but know that You Are Not Alone! So beautiful of you to share your downs as well as your ups. Your advice to stay the heck away from people? Great advice. ❤️
I think acknowledging your sadness or frustration, letting it play out, and knowing that it is temporary and the next hour or day will be better is all you can do in that moment. Allow yourself some grace. I also fought taking medication, but on a middle-aged female doctor's advice, I relented and it was the best thing I could have done. I was an anxiety-ridden fool and the medication changed it drastically. I wish I'd have taken that step several years before. It all started around age 53 pre-menopause. I just turned 60 and never plan to stop it.
Bless you, been there done that. Thankful you are so logical in your thinking and realize it will pass although it doesn’t feel like it at the time. Praying you will feel better soon. Thank you for being you and being honest about your feelings. I’m sure this will help someone that may be going through the same thing and feels like they are alone. They will know that they are not. ❤
Give yourself a little grace. As older women we’ve all been there. Hormonal fluctuations are real. You seem to be taking a very positive approach and mindset in dealing with these feelings. Kudos to you!! Hang in there and I hope it stops raining soon. 😊
I understand, yes I have days like this…I am 57, when I get “funk days” step back- be easier on yourself…take care and know that tomorrow is a new day with brand new blessings it’s gonna get better. Hugs and blessings ❤
I totally feel for you. There are times when the tears just flow... it's me missing my mum, and family.. or just for no reason.. but the tears flow. and I had a partial hysterectomy over 30 years ago. Being so young and having that done, I think messed me up so much. I had been taking Premarin for years but then finding out it can cause strokes.. and going off that - threw my body into another change.... so, I feel for you. I am not taking any time of replacement. So, I let the tears flow for a while - take some deep breaths and try and have a good day. So, I feel for you Barrett... Hang in there, I usually say quite a few Hail Mary's and ask God to help me.. Bless you...
I am turning 50 this year. I don’t feel like myself at times, I used to be emotionally stronger, it can get overwhelming. Thank you for sharing this ❤
Yes! Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings. They are valid! Do something nice for yourself, a bubble bath; heck, talk a walk in the rain (as long as it’s safe to do so!); get a mani or pedi; park yourself somewhere nice with a book; do you! Hugs!
Sorry you are going through this. But like you said just wait it out. This too shall pass! 😘😍🥰
I understand completely Barrett. Sometimes the grief and hormonal issues come out of nowhere. My doctor put me on the lowest dose of an antidepressant to help me through. I stayed on it for about a year and it helped tremendously. You’ve had a tough year emotionally and physically so you may benefit from something short term if you’re a candidate. We are always here for you. You are the most transparent and real person on YT that I watch. If I lived close to you I’d come and give you a hug but a virtual one is all I can offer and my prayers. I hope you’re already feeling better. Much love from Tennessee. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥰
Thanks for this channel. 😘🤗🙏
Thanks for being here!
God bless you beautiful. Praying for you 🫶
Thank you for being honest and true. You are truly an inspiration.
❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️ I love your paintings. What a gift to have that talent! ❤️🥰❤️
Thank you so much!
Some days are tough! Hugs!!
My heart goes out to you ❤
Good job, Barrett!🥰
Thinking of you!❤
That the truth about depression
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I am 50. In October 2020 at 47 I had a massive stroke caused by being put on birth control pills to regulate my cycle.
I am not perimenopausal yet, I am getting over a really terrible period.
Not only the stroke but my age and grieving the life I thought I'd have.
I'm now a Gramma to a beautiful baby girl. I'm on Fluoxetine to help. Hrt isn't always the answer, please, PLEASE, please be careful. Had I known then what I know now, I NEVER would've started the pill.
I try really hard to be positive and focus on what I can do.
Stay strong. 😊
Im so sorry youre going through this. The obgyn wanted me to go on birth control too and I did not. Im sorry that happened to you. BE strong and I hope your recovery is going well.
I'm glad you didn't go on them. I learned after women over 45 shouldn't go on the pill. My recovery is hard but, I'm alive and doing my best. I'm expecting menopause to start eventually. Yippee.
Just give yourself the grace and kindness you need, Barrett! This too shall pass❤️🙏
So sorry! I take thc gummies to feel better.
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