Hey guys, this was a tough video to make. Thank you all for listening, especially syrmor. It can be hard to talk about my past experiences and relive them. I don't mind doing it as long as it can potentially help someone who may also be suffering. It's weird looking back at my younger self. I was a young innocent kid who didn't really understand myself or the world. I went out into there, made mistakes, and tried to learn from them. In contrast to today, people that I encounter see me as a tough built veteran guy that looks like he has his shit together, but in reality I am just as vulnerable as anyone else. A few things I have learned along the way that help me out in life: Learn to live in the present and appreciate every moment of your life. If you live in the past you can become depressed. If you live in the future you can become anxious. The only thing that matters is the present. Focus on being present in the moment. Life is made of opportunities and challenges. Build yourself up in all manners of life so you are ready to face any challenge and seize any opportunity that presents themselves. Mental health is an issue that I wish was taken more seriously. We are all in this together. Be kind to one another.
I lost my sister to heroin.. I understand entirely that pain it causes. This video hit so close to home on so many things it hurts, but it's a good hurt, because it's a hurt that makes me feel like I'm not alone.
No. Not 0 help from his parents. -100 help from his parents. He's survived with his humanity in tact in spite of his parents doing everything they could to destroy him and take all of his accomplishments from him as their own. It was worse than receiving 0 help. It was receiving 0 help on top of having a constant obstacle in his way.
They did everything they could to tear him down even after he was building himself back up again. I was so happy to hear that he cut off contact with them. I’ve seen this many times before: Parents who are abusive/narcissistic & when their child accomplishes something without their help in any way, they become jealous (yes, jealous) that their child is receiving recognition for it & want to take the credit FROM them. It’s disgusting & simply a disgrace. Any & every child deserves loving parents, not these dirtbags.
Actually incredibly impressive. He was 17 and homeless, so he joined the military, got himself through college and landed a good job. Not to mention the physical and mental abuse he had to go through.
Cheryl Clark my ex is stuck with her family like that. She’s incredibly fucking smart and amazing but they have torn her down and manipulated her so much that she’s resigned to living the same shitty life they have. They abuse tf out of her and are horrible people and she puts up with it, and has basically thrown away the incredibly future she could have had, because they have her convinced that if she leaves to live her life, she’s abandoning her family. Any time she does good at something they try to tear it down or persuade her to not do it anymore because it’s “not that important.” It’s sickening and I still worry about her all the time
I have the same parents. Luckily I cut them off at 20 after I learned the deeper psychology of those people. 27 now and happy whenever I don't think about them.
Lmao my mom tried to get revenge and ignored me for a whole week because I spoke back at an argument that wasn't even that big. Top 10 epic parents.(she's also a big fucking hypocrite)
@@somethingbs3479 people be like that I count my blessings that my parents aren't crazy sure they have there bullshit moments but who fuckin doesn't on this crazy space rock we call earth
@@jamiepoujade267 yeah, for sure. Imagine being picked up from the "people pound", like a dog. Contracts signed for YOU, like slave days. They're not blood. They're contractually obligated, which is different from caring, different from kin. Every time my parents did something shitty, I'd think to myself, "y'all wouldn't have done this to your actual kid.". On the flip side, I always remind myself, "hey, these people took you in and you're not even their kid.". It means more that they didn't give up on me when they really didn't have to stay past 18. It's a weird mix of love/hate. Lotsa questions that can never be answered.
@shamerspook Its not "The law" its just a bunch of people from different backgrounds putting their hate & pettiness unto kids that don't deserve it.🤷🏻♀️ "Laws" were never meant to protect people, only make more rules. Especially if you're above it all.
Such a common story though. I used WoW and Halo in much the same way. Heroin and meth had our shitty logging town in WA in a death grip. My brother and about 95% of my classmates werent so lucky. Video game addiction can be rough too but.. in a way preserved me so I could even make it to adulthood.
I think most people would be surprised how true this is. I would have hung around with some awful people in middle school and high school if I wasn't in a raiding guild, lol.
That's like a solid 1/4 of parents lmao, a large portion of people who want to have kids don't want to be parents if that makes sense, and like half of people don't know how to actually be a parent at all.
@@darioguerra3065 In my opinion most people who don't want to have kids are either have experience raising kids and don't want the burden, or are intelligent enough to know they aren't qualified for the job, or they are afraid (which is ok).
One big difference though. A dog doesn’t really have the same ability to lash out against people like kids/young adults do. A dog will bite, sure. But a person that’s been beaten. Biting is a best case scenario
@@ewwpoorpeople5684 Being a kid is kind of like being a dog. But only in very specific areas that can be used for metaphorical situations. Try and pick THAT apart, hehheh 😎
"A dog doesn’t really have the same ability to lash out against people like kids/young adults do. A dog will bite, sure. " >dogs cant lash out >explains that they will lash out
They probably set the bar so high for him and in a vague way, that when he was doing his own things, they just got mad and began to act this way to him. It also sounds like they just don't understand how things are nowadays, and are super traditionalist on how school, work and life are
@@Daywalker685 as someone else with shitty parents, it usually comes from the fact they they too didn’t do well in life. They want you to be miserable like they are, it makes them feel better.
@@AutumnFallsOver yeah I feel you. Polynesian parents have that sort of similar experience where the fathers before theres were shitty to the kids. And with that, it affects the fathers on their kids. However alot of poly kids learnt from that, and forgave their fathers cause they understood the tragedy and triumphant that they went through to get into a more westernized country. It's a long story for another time my friend.
i got told this all the time and im pretty sure its what started my mental decline. no conversations, no compromise, just shut up and never question anything. therapy didnt help, only made it worse. suprise suprise, now my only other brother doesn't ever talk to either of them and now they just whine to me about "well we did what we thought was best, why doesnt he see us anymoreee". well..... we tried talking to you but you'd scream at us when it turned out you were wrong or mistaken.. they made us feel crazy and treated us bad kids for years and it took me moving out of state to start healing and even then...
I am very lucky to have parents who instead talks about the actual benefits to *both* me and them if I complied with what they said. It really is incredible to have good parents.
I don't even understand how that saying is so universal with parents that grew in the 80-90s. I'm from Eastern Europe my parents were really stern and devoid of logic every fucking time when we had arguments. I have a better relationship with my mom now but she did what the guys mom in the video did. Which was beat me when I was argumentative . Never with logic always with hard pressed rage. But when you grow up , you're basically stronger than them so they can never hurt you. Which if you're lucky enough you make them apologize or be a bit more stern and they comply like sheep. I have two sides right now. I have this pity and hate because my mom is narcissistic and has been verbally abusive and I have expressed my side of emotions and rage to her till she apologized. Other side is I still love her because she's basically helped me with a lot in life ,although most of the core help was from my really hardworking father and shes less narcissistic and controlling now and they've helped me a lot when I didn't have a job. Hope everything gets better. Be strong everyone
My dad joined the Army for the same reason. My grandpa said he wouldnt make it theough bootcamp. We learned recently that that grandpa got kicked out of air force boot camp.
Alexander Pentlicki That’s quite sad. What I take away from this is your grandpa fell short and wanted his son to be his legacy to the world but still put him down and projected his own “failure” onto his son. I feel bad for your Dad.
The fact that literal children have to join the military to avoid homelessness is sad :( EDIT: or escape a toxic home life!!! there needs to be more options, especially because the military is not an option for everyone
Yea... I don't get how is this USA's fault. His parents are from Italy and Italians are usually a close-knit type of family. I am surprised the parents kick them after he graduated from high school. They usually prefer their children to stay with them until they get married or get a good paying job
Imagine beating someone so hard you hurt yourself, then beating them for injuring you. That is like, saturday morning cartoon villian, comically evil self centered mideval noble level shit
that part hit so fucking hard, my dad used to do that to me as a kid, and it sucks that there’s more people out there who experienced horrifying shit like that growing up.
my parents hit me but not in the way that you would get Flippin injured, they only did those slaps that hurt a bit. I mean damn those parents are monsters like yeah if your kid is being a little shiz hit them in a way you wouldn't hurt or kill them. don't flippin hit them till you hurt your arm and then hit them for making your arm hurt like Jesus that's the definition of child abuse.
I mean part of why they're abusive is they can't take accountability for themselves. Easier to just blame somebody else and maybe vent off him/her/it (for those who abuse animals) than to do something about their fked up behaviors.
It hit home when he talked about being a kid is like being a dog, nearly had me in tears. I've been through the same situation coming from a Mexican background and man is it fucked up. Neither parents will apologize for all the physical and mental abuse they put me through. Ironically it's the reason why I actually dropped from joining the navy specifically. I've got more going for me than any of my family members and yet I'm still a failure in their eyes. My personal advice to anyone is blood always doesn't run as deep as friends and others. You have to find confidence in yourself and learn the only person you should impress is yourself. Be proud of who you are and don't let family get in the way of doing what you feel is right. Took me a long time to realize that but dam does it feel good
Yeah I remember realising that I only felt good about myself whenever my own f**ked up family wasn’t around. That’s when you know it’s time to walk away
After converting to Islam and performing the Shahadah, i found what i was looking for. Not a preachy moment, nothing like that. Its just... idk man, i found what i was looking for. Just took me a few years to realize it. Has certainly helped me mentally.
"Being kid is like being a dog, even if their owner beats them they're still going to come back at the end of the day " that shit hit me too hard... legitimately I have been crying with the video on pause. But I think I needed to hear that. Damn someone hug this guy for me.
Sadly, just like Rafael said, that biological link binds you to them. When they barely did the bare minimum to support and guide him, he really shouldn't give a fuck about them. I was brought up with loving and supportive parents. They weren't perfect but they truly wanted the best for me and my bro. Listening to Mike's experience makes me mad on his behalf.
@Rafael Lopez Canel Man even if my parents dont treat me right, i dont give a shit who they are to me. You have a kid to love it and take care not to trate it like shit
@Rafael Lopez Canel are you kidding me. Bringing a child into this world for your own reasons and then abuseing them once they exist is inexcusable. He doesn't owe them SHIT
He's absolutely right about the addictions caused by prescribing highly addictive medicines for pain pills and such. It's an actual fact and a really sad fact to boot.
The fact that they prescribe them isn't the sad part, the fact that they give them way way too much for no good reason is. When you are under incredible pain the drugs are a lifesaver, its the leftover ones they give you just to inflate your bill that are the super fucking fucked up part
@@AlaskaBoyAlex Exactly. That's one of the reasons my mom became dependant on them. It was very difficult for her to get off of them. It broke my heart watching.
This is really important advice: "I think if someone's just continually toxic, no matter who the fuck they are in your life you should be able to just walk away. Like if it makes you- This is the main thing with mental health is like, *sometimes when you have mental health issues, you need to be selfish with your own emotions.* "
I needed to hear this, I'm 40 and after my little brother committed suicide, I realized I had to stop acknowledging our parent's existence, or I would of also committed suicide. I'm a complete stranger to the speaker, but I want them to know, I'm proud of them, life is fn hard.
The only people who failed are his parents. How pathetic... Some people should not be parents. They have no right to "Care for" precious life. I feel sick hearing this. Good on that man for realizing he doesn't owe them an explanation. He doesn't need to prove hes better because it's already true. That man raised himself right.
I have the exact same parents, although I refuse to call them that. They shall die alone, they deserve it. And when the day finally arrives, I will get myself a cake and beer I don't even care whatever bs I might hear.
Wow. That ending was beautiful. "Sometimes when you have Mental Health Issues, you need to be selfish with your own emotions. Sometimes you dont have the energy to like put up with other people's bullshit. You gotta be able to focus on yourself and if somebody is draining that energy that you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life." 100% REAL.
This is exactly why I choose to not have friends, a love/dating/sex life or any kind of social life at all. My "resilient zone" is EXTREMELY small, I have deep CPTSD and many days, even just seeing other people/hearing other people's voices (without even interacting with them directly) completely exhausts me and sends me spiraling. I don't even watch live action tv/movies/shows because I can't stand looking at/hearing people, especially not at the same time. The majority of the media I consume are books and audio-only educational podcasts, unless I'm watching something that's purely instructional. I get called selfish so much (especially by family members) for keeping myself away from other humans in as many ways and as much as possible, but they don't understand that that's what I need to do to keep myself sane and generally ok.
@@karmakameleon113 It just doesn’t sound as though it’s keeping you sane though. I ruminate about all my social interactions, which makes me anxious, which then f**ks with my sleep, causing more anxiety, then there’s the shame I feel for feeling anxious, then I get angry at myself for feeling shame and anxiety. On and on it goes, like a snake eating it’s own tail
I know I would’ve became evil and vengeful if I was in the same situation. This guy took the energy and used it as fuel for a positive outcome. I would’ve just became consumed by it.
@@MultiKool13 if he wanted to go for life long debt that can't be paid back then yeah go for it. College loans are among the only loans you can't default on and get rid of. Colleges are increasingly becoming less valuable with college degrees mattering less and less because the quality of education is going down as well as a saturation of the job market in most fields. Few decades ago it seemed like an insane idea not to go to college even if it meant taking out loans. Now its more obvious it doesn't always go well anymore, and its getting more expensive.
@@nickmagrick7702 only for electrical and mechanical engineers, I really wouldn't recommend them. But chemical, and nuclear are in high demand, can make a lot of money, and have amazing benefits. Also doctors and physical therapy are great things to go to college for (obviously). But I do agree college is becoming very useless for most people. The real crime though is that nobody told him about trade school, he could've went there for free after he got out of the military, gotten paid while he was in school, and gotten multiple degrees like PTech and Instrumentation, came to the south and made BANK
His parents sound like a couple of narcissists. The fact they kept telling him he a failure, he went to college and graduated but didn't accept it, they wanted to manipulate him into believing he was a piece of shit and would never amount to anything. Yep, sounds like a classic narcissist and I have met many people like that. Best thing is never to talk to them ever again. Focus on your own life and future. Leave them in the past. I know it might be difficult for some people because they are related but it is much better to never speak to them again. It is extremely rare for a narcissist to change.
I feel bad for this guy. Parents are supposed to be your main support and protectors. But it sounds like he's got a good life, good for him. I'm due with my daughter in less than a month. I will always be her main support and I will give her the best, loving life she can have. That means cutting certain people out of our lives, which was hard, but necessary. Do what makes you happy, live selfishly to achieve your goals. I never thought I would be this happy but I am. The struggles in life are worth it. You matter to someone. 🥰
It's good that you'll be there for your daughter and trust me when i say this but, everyone needs their mom or dad to be in their life. My dad doesn't even bother with us and that's why i think so negative but, atleast i have my mom and even though she's not that great she tries her best.
@@hirxken7851 I feel this so hard man Last few months, I've been kind of gloomy and down because I went to live with my mom after living with my dad for awhile. My dad hasn't talked a whole lot since, I ask him to get lunch and it seems like he has some kinda excuse to push it off and not see me. I just want to be in his life still, I don't want to never see him again. There are a lot of things he's done that I don't agree with, but he's still my dad at the end of the day and I love tf outta him man
As a daughter to a not so good father one thing i can happily reccomend is to try and think from the childs view and let them explain things at their own pace; when your child does something wrong please dont get super mad and simply ask in a calm voice why they did what they had done, this can help build trust ive never had with my dad and could help you as a parent. Thank you for reading this in advanced!💞
@@NeonNym You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I think you have a lot of potential to do well in spite of your parent's failures. Good luck.👍✊
Really hits different that his drill instructors from Boot camp are less harsh than his actual parents. Seeing stories likes this that start from agony to redemption really gives me a smile.
That's because DIs eat sleep and breathe with their brothers and sisters in uniform.(Okay maybe not sleep...) They have mutual respect(generally) and they're using that toughness to immediately provide these cadets with the tools necessary to thrive in the military.(Unlike his parents who left him to fend for himself)
Most parents even kick their kids out at 18 and be like "be off on your own now". Like yo i know they need to learn but being a parent doesnt end at 18, its a life long commitment
@@ssj4galactus that's an excuse of letting the kid learn. If the parents care about their children, then they wouldn't kick them out like that unless they're an complete problem. Kicking out your child when he / she are not financially stable is beyond the asshole territory.
It's a really shitty moment for a child when they realize their parents aren't the role models they thought they are... It took me 30 years of my life to realize that I'm not a failure, my parents are. This one hit me hard as it was very relatable. My parents were fucked up in a different way, there was no physical abuse, just mental... but that's a story for another day. It's honestly so heartwarming hearing this guy made it out. Such a weird thing to feel happy for a total stranger.
Shit....a friend of mine recommended this video to me and told me "Hey, you need to listen to this, it sounds a lot like what you went through." Different strokes, but I went through a similar situation, and it's painful to hear that another kid had to go through that kind of abuse as well. It sounds like he's okay now, though. I'm glad. I'm glad I listened to this...
I went through the same shit as a kid too, and the fact that someone else went through similar things as me caught me so fucking off-guard. I really hope that this future generation of young kids has at least some sort of outlet to reach out and receive help.
Crazy, same here. Hadn't met anyone that had the same sort of past. I chose homelessness instead of the military for a while. I long since learned that I did better than my father in many ways, and have a son who I can show the real values in life, and how to be a proper caring father.
Same here. I went through a psychotic narcissistic abusive parent. My mom is a lot like his mom, never worked, expected everything to be done for her. And the family tree is similar too. My mom was from long island, grandpa served in WWII and was an abusive alcoholic. Glad that there's other people who survived/thrived. I love this guy's story because he did well for himself.
The parents were just projecting and trying to make their child seems more incompetent than they are, so they can feel superior. This is actually common in certain community.
NOTICE, in those 'certain communities' they're disproportionately highly successful. Many of those successful kids credit that intense parenting for their success.
@@RobertMorgan define "success". if you think pushing a kid to their mental breaking point so they can have a high-paying career is all there is to success, you're missing the point. a person can be outwardly successful and inwardly an insecure house-of-cards mess in a way that risks derailing their entire life at any moment. you can't justify abusive parenting with this.
It sounds to me like they were just pushing him to do his best. A B average is good, but is it your BEST, really? Is that all you're worth, all you can be, a B? I bet with a little more effort that could have been an A average. I've been there. I've been that kid that everyone told is so great, with so much potential, that should be getting As, and I did for a while, and I could...but that's boring so i slacked, fucked off, hanged with bad people, got expelled. Came back, graduated high school a semester early, making up for the expelled semester, while working 40 hours a week nights. I actually lied to my employer that I dropped out of high school so they'd let me work full time, because I liked the money, lol. That was 2001, and most of that school year, my senior year, was a daze of sleep depravation, homework, and secrecy since i'd started smoking weed at 18 (which I blamed on the stress of 9/11). One would be surprised what they can do when they apply themselves. If I'd had modafinil then like it's available today, whoooo, holy shit, I'd be a WAY ahead today.
@@RobertMorgan True, but even when he joined the military, made a difference and actually made something of himself his mother still treated him as though he did nothing. that is disgusting. what was worse is how she was telling the family members behind his back on how bad and "lost" he was, thus undermining all of his accomplishments and goals to prove himself. This is where I am getting at. How can you defend that? What happened if your parents still bullied you and called you a worthless being after you made the necessary changes to improve your life in society? Now I must agree with you on your point that, yeah, we all need that push in the right direction. we need that shove if necessary. the issue here is that she is still shoving him even after he proved himself in the end. That I cannot excuse. P.S. thanks for your replying and giving your own opinion and even experience. that was really kind of you
@@RobertMorgan I'm on the other scale of this, and although still young unlike you, I still believe I can testify about this. My parents have a great expectation of me. If I got a B in one class, it would be "Nice job, but I wanna see a board full of As." It also helped that my parents were from Vietnam and only finished (a very poor) middle school before coming to the US to avoid the Vietnam War. As a result, they wanted a child who got to learn. My father said to me when I was in 6th grade with my lowest grade of all time with a C when I complained that it was fine: "My dream is for my son to come home with a degree." Damn did that hit me.
“The less I talked to my parents the better off I was” I’m a freshman in college and I’m going through the same thing I don’t have any mental health issues and I’m just overall happier dealing with unpredictable alcoholic psychos everyday was worse then anything
If it’s as bad as you say then you probably have developed some issues - it’s just your mind’s way of coping with the stress of a turbulent home environment where you’re supposed to feel safe and secure.
This dude had it rough. I feel so bad for him. I honestly hope one day that his parents see how much he's done to try and please them. They honestly sound terrible and don't deserve such an amazing dude as their son. And to lie to the family members as well? That's like the lowest of lows. I hope this dude achieves more greatness and ends up being talked about on TV or something so his extended family can see how messed up his parents were to him.
I wonder if at this point his parents just mentally can't accept his success because then they would have to confront the way they acted to him their whole life and get throught the pain of accepting just how terrible they are. Being wrong hurts, especially when you spent time trying to prove you're right, it's hard for me to apologise for being an asshole for 5 minutes, my chest physically hurts when I confront the truth that what I said was wrong. I can't imagine the pain of realising a lifelong mistake.
Going off of that part where they lied to his uncle, I worry that they'd just brag that everything he achieved was because of them (rather than in spite of them). And they'd still call him a failure. Idk them, though... Plus stuff like therapy may help them grow.
He's 100% speaking the truth. My dad crushed a disc in his spine back in the 2000's and doctors got him addicted to opioids and when it wasnt 'getting the job done' he started looking for drugs to fill the void. He's doing better now, but it took a decade to get out of rock bottom.
The part where he mentions “if I make more money than my parents, then I’m not a loser” - hit way too close to home. Thanks for sharing man, you did the best you could with what you had.
Way too many "parents" get away with this kind of shit, and they never see jail time. I had to pause a lot because I kept getting overcome with rage. Personally, I think it's one of the worst things you can do and I sincerely hope every abusive parent goes to their own special hell for eternity, feeling solely the most intense pain that can possibly be felt, so they have some idea what it was like for their poor kids. Thanks for sharing this story.
You know what. I’m proud of this guy. He took crumbs and made it into a loaf of bread. All this just really makes me want to make sure my future home and family is full of love and support.
The military life can be depressing a lot of times, not because we're away from home, but because it's worrisome to know that some of our friends we knew and loved from our childhood, high school, and all the times spent throughout our 'past lives', never truly 'left home' and got into some bad shit. Then those nights when I'd be alone in the barracks/dorms, wondering what it would be like to go back home one more time to enjoy the bonfires we used to have and playing manhunt (hide-and-seek) in the woods at night with my old friends, just like we all did when we were teenagers. Man, I'd kill to have a moment like that with my old friends one last time.
I always wanted to join the military but now I'm having second thoughts, there's a lot of problems that come with joining and as much as I wish I could join, I can't ease into the harsh lifestyle
glad he was able to cut that relationship off with his parents. He deserves people who respect and support him, not abuse and gaslight him. The BARE MINIMUM for parents is to provide for their kids' basic needs like food and shelter until adulthood, it's disgusting when they try act like their kids owe them anything for that.
hi peeps! welcome back to another vid. i'm hanging out with Mike, an ex-navy soldier, about growing up and where life took him. keep up with the channel at twitter.com/SyrmorS
when you realize he turned into a better person BECAUSE of them. That without that experience, he might have turned out better, but maybe different or even worse. Some of the most entitled, horrible people I know had wealthy, coddling, nice parents.
I can relate to him to some degree. My parents are very narcissistic, especially my dad. If its one thing I learned, you owe nothing to your parents if they think doing the bare minimum is grounds for them to abuse you mentally and physically and then call it love.
Never gonna happen. They’re emotionally walled off because of their own traumas from their own upbringings. It’s why the only choice is to walk away. Take a person like that and give them power over another life, and watch them become a tyrant. It’s inevitable. It’s also why I don’t have kids. I went through too much abuse and neglect as a kid, so that would undoubtedly affect my ability to be a good parent. It’s why so many people shouldn’t have kids. Most people are just doing it for themselves, to satisfy their urges. Mental health issues are nothing new, but at least now some us realise now how and why they develop in the first place.
The Mom sounds like a terrible person, this pissed me off so damn much. I am so inspired by Mike, he seems like such a great person. He went through all of that all by himself, at such a young age too. I am 17 right now and I cannot even begin to fathom having to go through any of that. Especially on my own. Thank you Mike. And thank you Syrmor.
Nothing said in this video indicates narcissism, and people who suffer from NPD do not deserve to be erroneously stigmatized by being associated with abuse like this. There are many lovely people suffering from NPD that would never do anything remotely like what we see in this video. "Narcissistic" is not a synonym for "callously selfish."
I wouldn't say they we're narcissistic. Sounds to me like his parents are very unhappy with their lives and the only way they could feel better was taking it out on their kid and pushing him lower than themselves. Then when their kid achieves something, they do some mental gymnastics and try to convince themselves and people around them that they made it happen. Guarantee you his parents we're never loved in their youth and therefore couldn't give that to their kid.
Its crazy hearing him talk about the opioid problem and hearing the impact it had on the people around him and how many doctors were in on it because of the Sackler family’s money and influence, and knowing they basically created the opioid epidemic for profit.
I hate that I relate so much to his life while living with his parents. I'm probably gonna have to cut my parents out of my life when I move out because It's such a toxic environment. Being kicked out, lying to family members about you, making you go to work when you really can't, not apologizing for anything "because theyre your parents", never living up to their expectations, when he said she screamed at him for not being a systems engineer. I related to all of it. And I hate it. Watching this was like reliving my own traumas.
cut them off man. do it. it's a hard choice but you'll only be happier when time goes by. if you don't you'll continue to get disappointed. don't fool yourself. parents don't get better with time. i cut off a parent and a bad best friend. in that moment it was hard, but you'll thank yourself later.
@@Lex_Fur yeah man , I'm really at one of those fork roads , i have this best friend whom i know from my high school years , he is a good person but he really is depressed , pessimistic and dark towards future , he is kinda making me hopeless about my future and my goals , and i'm hesitant to cut him out
Holy shit, I’m so sorry you had to deal with those pathetic excuses of human beings as parents; you are so much better than they ever could be to a severe extent, and my extreme respect to you both for your service as well as your technical achievements outside of the navy. I also hope that you got to share the truth with more of your relatives; those abusive parents deserve to be called out by everyone.
when I broke my shit playing football after the surgery I had pills but never took them for this fkn reason and honestly the pain is bad the first few days but its not that bad so I recommend not taking the pills its not worth
My brother got perscribed a whole bunch of oxy after his tooth got knocked out in middle school but my mom is a nurse and she just had him take 2 tylenol and he was fine.
@@thelittleredhairedgirlfrom6527 i had my wisdom teeth removed and they just gave me a few pills just in case but I stuck to tylenol and I was completely fine.
that whole 'sometimes you need to be selfish for the betterment of your own mental health' thing resonates with me heavily, thanks again for the wonderful conversation syrmor
things like this keep reminding me how fucking lucky i am to have parents who actually care about my wellbeing. that guy is a god damn champion for being able to go through all that with his sanity intact
Wow. This is like hearing my own story back to me. Only difference is I’m Australian. Navy, IT, everything! A couple differences but man it’s so close! I moved to the opposite side of the country but didn’t completely cut ties, because my parents apologised to me after I explained what they did and told them if they didn’t, I would never speak to them again. Wild. I was told by a psychologist once, that some of the most successful people in the world are only in that position because they all they wanted to do was prove their parents were wrong. He’s right in saying cutting toxic people out, is always the healthiest choice, no matter who they are
"WE MADE SURE YOU HAD A ROOF AND CLEAN CLOTHES" "THERE WAS ALWAYS FOOD IN THE HOUSE" if you think that's something you deserve extra credit for, kinda just shows how messed up YOUR parents were and why you think this excuses treating a child this way... kids shouldnt have to think about this stuff
I relate to this too much. My parents did ultimately turn around for the most part though, but they kicked me out when i was 17 and still in high school. I was diagnosed with autism 2 years prior and couldn't work because of the emotional stress. I just wasn't able to always function, which made holding a job virtually impossible. They basically said I was just lazy and unmotivated. Was homeless for a while. it's a long story. That shit really really fucks you up. I will say that they learned more about my disability over time and do a lot for me now and I'm grateful. Even so, there's wounds in that relationship that will never ever heal.
oh man , i'm really sorry to hear that , i feel you , yeah i have ADHD and we're in middle of the worst economical condition in the history of our country(iran) cause of the US sanctions , our currency have fallen 25x , our average salary is 40$/month , it really is dark times at least for me
I got kicked out at 17 as well because my mom was an addict and couldn’t understand normal human feelings. So I turned to the wrong path, I ended up drug dealing and hanging with the wrong crowd. Until I met my wife and ever since the day I saw and met her I knew I had to change my life. Fast forward 1 year she was pregnant with my child. Now fast forward to now I have a nice house, I’m married and I have 3 beautiful kids. Never had my father or mother around and I still made a great life for myself. It’s not about the parents y’all, it’s about the heart you have as a person.
My boy said it right at the end - be selfish for your mental health. If you’re in a really bad place because of someone, cut them out because they’re harming you. I digress, that was a wild ride and thanks for sharing what you went thru
breaks my heart as i realize how truly lucky i am to have had parents who were completely supportive of me growing up and didn't kick me out lolololol. thank you for sharing your story Mike, definitely humbling me and putting me in my place when i have ill feelings towards my own family
"When it comes to mental health, Sometimes you have to be selfish with your emotions" is such a raw sentiment to come from a guy on vrchat with an invader Zim skin. It's something to live by.
hearing stories like this make me really appreciate my parents and all they are going through to help me succeed in life. ive decided to join the marines next year and when i told them they were nothing but supportive to me.
This video hit home, like i get literally hit in my home with my disgusting family. This video was an inspiration, thank you, i needed this because im always feeling hopeless or i just want to commit crimes against them
This is a story that almost brought me to tears. It weird to realize that you always love your parents. Rarely it happens that your parents don't love you. So if your parents don't love you, you will still love them and keep coming back to them even if they will hurt you or yell mean comments to you. Even when your parents are lying in their deathbed, you will sit next to them even if they don't want you to. Or maybe when they are lying in their deathbed they will finally realize how much you care for them. You would even go to their funeral and cry for them, even if they hit you, or yelled at you. This is why you should never take your parents for granted. Always spend time with them.
The doctor's over prescribing problem was brought up In Shameless, when Frank points out rehab is way different than it was in the 90's, the worker explains how doctor's are over prescribing rich suburban kids, and under prescribing black and brown people, causing rich kids to land in rehab, paid by their parent's regardless of how many times they must return
@@bombbud7523 It's compiled information from "Adam Ruin's Everything" (they site the sources throught the episode) on Netflix, "Shameless" on Netflix, and a video that talks about racial bias in medicine and an actual study in 2016 seeing if black people don't feel pain/ feel pain differently
@@josephinehayward8303 Adam ruins everything seems like an idiot though. Not disagreeing with what your saying, just that Ive seen that guys interviews, and Adam seems like a real kook.
@@richardrussel4567 that's totally valid, but he's more like a mascot or actor for research that the writers have done. He's also a comedian who used to work on Collegehumor, so that might explain his kooky behavior
"If somebody's draining that energy you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life" Damn man, earned wisdom for sure.
Such a relatable bunch of stories for me. I chose to take out loans and go to college instead of joining the military but circumstances were similar. I dropped out one semester away from my bachelors because the lack of support eventually built up and I was super burnt out and depressed. I somehow survived on 10/hr for years and finally finished school years later. Twin brother got hooked on heroin and alcohol and I watched him slowly deteriorate into cynicism and apathy. Had many nights with no food sleeping on a mattress on the ground with just a shitty laptop and a half dozen changes of clothes to my name. Walked miles to work every day through the snow in upstate NY with no boots cause I couldn't afford them. Glad those years are behind me, but somehow, they still make me feel tired when I think about them. Screw any parent that tells their kid to "just move out and get your own apartment and job" after high school, that's condemning your own child to incredible misery and suffering in this day and age.
Let me tell you from growing up in the Chi and having this exact situation happen to me; the predators in your city are always looking for the kids who got kicked out. They're right there ready to recruit you. Parents who do this, are absolute scum.
As some one in the military in a similar situation i really relate to this story so much. Folks its ok the let family go if they keep shitting on you. Go live your best life and look out for #1.
Honestly even though his story is really sad and messed up, it's still really encouraging. After everything he's gone through he was still able to make a life for himself with zero help from his parents. My parents are similar in the sense that they treat me like a failure even though they aren't even trying to help me succeed. The fact that he was able to make it all on his own is really encouraging and it makes me feel like I can do it too.
Yep! At his manor trying to convince him not to join. UA S2 was quite amazing for me. I lived the exact story Mike(Navy guy) did in his anecdote. My dad and stepmom are doing the same to me.
Brought up so many memories this guys story actually started making me upset because going through that myself you never wish it upon another person and hearing about him going through it too just sucks to hear :/
I relate to this way too much. Dude, you'll probably never know me, but rn as I am watching this, I fucking love you and will look up to you bro. Right now I'm only a teenager but going through similar things. Thankfully I have no connections to drugs but almost everything else you said, just, damn. I really want to become someone like you bro. You went through so much but you succeeded with no support and even all that shit on your shoulders. To me that is more amazing than any self made billionaire could ever be. Head up dude, you managed to make my day and possibly my life, a whole shit ton better. Thank you Mike
My dad was so jealous of his brother (my uncle) because he had a kid in the military that he'd try to convince me to join the Marines....during the war in Afghanistan. Like they Marines would send out their little ads in the mail, my dad would wave it in the air and say "Look who's hiring!" Then my brother became a cop and he left me alone. I tell him I want to go to school for film making and his response was "Who's going to pay for it? Not me."
One thing that often gets over looked when it comes to finding a career is vocational/technical school. You have other options besides college for building a career. Internships, and apprenticeships are also good. Going tens of thousands of dollars in debt to get an education isn’t the only way to make it in America. Remember that. Much love to this guy❤️
Hey guys, this was a tough video to make. Thank you all for listening, especially syrmor. It can be hard to talk about my past experiences and relive them. I don't mind doing it as long as it can potentially help someone who may also be suffering. It's weird looking back at my younger self. I was a young innocent kid who didn't really understand myself or the world. I went out into there, made mistakes, and tried to learn from them. In contrast to today, people that I encounter see me as a tough built veteran guy that looks like he has his shit together, but in reality I am just as vulnerable as anyone else.
A few things I have learned along the way that help me out in life: Learn to live in the present and appreciate every moment of your life. If you live in the past you can become depressed. If you live in the future you can become anxious. The only thing that matters is the present. Focus on being present in the moment. Life is made of opportunities and challenges. Build yourself up in all manners of life so you are ready to face any challenge and seize any opportunity that presents themselves.
Mental health is an issue that I wish was taken more seriously. We are all in this together. Be kind to one another.
Mike
❤️❤️sending you love & good vibes buddy
Story is hard but I enjoyed it, much love
Thanks for sharing, and I'm glad that you turned out alright.
I lost my sister to heroin.. I understand entirely that pain it causes. This video hit so close to home on so many things it hurts, but it's a good hurt, because it's a hurt that makes me feel like I'm not alone.
He created a life for himself with basically 0 help from his parents. A strong individual.
No. Not 0 help from his parents. -100 help from his parents. He's survived with his humanity in tact in spite of his parents doing everything they could to destroy him and take all of his accomplishments from him as their own. It was worse than receiving 0 help. It was receiving 0 help on top of having a constant obstacle in his way.
What a Chad
They did everything they could to tear him down even after he was building himself back up again. I was so happy to hear that he cut off contact with them.
I’ve seen this many times before:
Parents who are abusive/narcissistic & when their child accomplishes something without their help in any way, they become jealous (yes, jealous) that their child is receiving recognition for it & want to take the credit FROM them. It’s disgusting & simply a disgrace.
Any & every child deserves loving parents, not these dirtbags.
Actually incredibly impressive. He was 17 and homeless, so he joined the military, got himself through college and landed a good job. Not to mention the physical and mental abuse he had to go through.
Cheryl Clark my ex is stuck with her family like that. She’s incredibly fucking smart and amazing but they have torn her down and manipulated her so much that she’s resigned to living the same shitty life they have. They abuse tf out of her and are horrible people and she puts up with it, and has basically thrown away the incredibly future she could have had, because they have her convinced that if she leaves to live her life, she’s abandoning her family. Any time she does good at something they try to tear it down or persuade her to not do it anymore because it’s “not that important.” It’s sickening and I still worry about her all the time
Parents pissed that they birthed a child more competent then them at less than half their age
If i had a kid i would be proud if he/she surpassed me
@@jorgen8630 yea that's how parents should be
I have the same parents. Luckily I cut them off at 20 after I learned the deeper psychology of those people. 27 now and happy whenever I don't think about them.
Lmao my mom tried to get revenge and ignored me for a whole week because I spoke back at an argument that wasn't even that big. Top 10 epic parents.(she's also a big fucking hypocrite)
@@somethingbs3479 people be like that I count my blessings that my parents aren't crazy sure they have there bullshit moments but who fuckin doesn't on this crazy space rock we call earth
"Being a kid is like being a dog."
I felt that.
Me too. Both are considered property by the state.
Try being adopted from birth. It applies doubly then.
@@saltysergeant4284 Really? That sounds so sucky. I really can relate and that's without being adopted so I couldn't even imagine 🙁
@@jamiepoujade267 yeah, for sure. Imagine being picked up from the "people pound", like a dog. Contracts signed for YOU, like slave days. They're not blood. They're contractually obligated, which is different from caring, different from kin. Every time my parents did something shitty, I'd think to myself, "y'all wouldn't have done this to your actual kid.".
On the flip side, I always remind myself, "hey, these people took you in and you're not even their kid.". It means more that they didn't give up on me when they really didn't have to stay past 18. It's a weird mix of love/hate. Lotsa questions that can never be answered.
@shamerspook Its not "The law" its just a bunch of people from different backgrounds putting their hate & pettiness unto kids that don't deserve it.🤷🏻♀️ "Laws" were never meant to protect people, only make more rules. Especially if you're above it all.
Bruh IMAGINE having parents like his, mad props to this guy for keeping his sanity.
I don't need to imagine
@@ryanhearn4075 I was going to original reply with oof but I honestly just feel bad.
@@ryanhearn4075 same dude, and my kids will never be subjected to the shit I had to go through
@@ashtonhashbrown6155 lol np it's fine it's been a while I'm all good had a bad day is all lots of alcohol
I don’t need to..... I’ve already lived a life similar
“World of Warcraft helped be avoid a heroine addiction” what a sentance
Such a common story though. I used WoW and Halo in much the same way. Heroin and meth had our shitty logging town in WA in a death grip. My brother and about 95% of my classmates werent so lucky.
Video game addiction can be rough too but.. in a way preserved me so I could even make it to adulthood.
Renclave yeah I definitely don’t doubt it, I ask used video games as a distraction when I was much younger, not too drugs but just other issues.
I think most people would be surprised how true this is. I would have hung around with some awful people in middle school and high school if I wasn't in a raiding guild, lol.
I think that is every kid to plays video games in high school
Starcraft probably helped me in similar ways.
The world doesn’t have room for people like his parents. Listening to his stories pissed me off so much.
I was fuming by the end. It infuriates me to even know people, especially parents, like this even exist.
That's like a solid 1/4 of parents lmao, a large portion of people who want to have kids don't want to be parents if that makes sense, and like half of people don't know how to actually be a parent at all.
literally r/insaneparents
@@darioguerra3065 In my opinion most people who don't want to have kids are either have experience raising kids and don't want the burden, or are intelligent enough to know they aren't qualified for the job, or they are afraid (which is ok).
Same.
"Being a kid is a lot like being a dog. If an owner beats their dog, it's still gonna come back at the end of the day."
One big difference though. A dog doesn’t really have the same ability to lash out against people like kids/young adults do. A dog will bite, sure. But a person that’s been beaten.
Biting is a best case scenario
@@ewwpoorpeople5684 Being a kid is kind of like being a dog. But only in very specific areas that can be used for metaphorical situations.
Try and pick THAT apart, hehheh 😎
"A dog doesn’t really have the same ability to lash out against people like kids/young adults do. A dog will bite, sure. "
>dogs cant lash out
>explains that they will lash out
That struck home
Yeah but dogs can't outlive their owners and inherit fat $$$ then laugh about it.
Sounds like his parents were upset about his success despite them trying their hardest to make him fail
seems like it
They probably set the bar so high for him and in a vague way, that when he was doing his own things, they just got mad and began to act this way to him. It also sounds like they just don't understand how things are nowadays, and are super traditionalist on how school, work and life are
Why would they want to see him fail, it's so cruel to think like that...
@@Daywalker685 as someone else with shitty parents, it usually comes from the fact they they too didn’t do well in life. They want you to be miserable like they are, it makes them feel better.
@@AutumnFallsOver yeah I feel you. Polynesian parents have that sort of similar experience where the fathers before theres were shitty to the kids. And with that, it affects the fathers on their kids. However alot of poly kids learnt from that, and forgave their fathers cause they understood the tragedy and triumphant that they went through to get into a more westernized country. It's a long story for another time my friend.
The amount of times I heard "I'm the parent. I am always right. You listen to me no matter what" and stuff like that really gets my teeth grinding
i got told this all the time and im pretty sure its what started my mental decline. no conversations, no compromise, just shut up and never question anything. therapy didnt help, only made it worse.
suprise suprise, now my only other brother doesn't ever talk to either of them and now they just whine to me about "well we did what we thought was best, why doesnt he see us anymoreee". well..... we tried talking to you but you'd scream at us when it turned out you were wrong or mistaken.. they made us feel crazy and treated us bad kids for years and it took me moving out of state to start healing and even then...
I am very lucky to have parents who instead talks about the actual benefits to *both* me and them if I complied with what they said. It really is incredible to have good parents.
I don't even understand how that saying is so universal with parents that grew in the 80-90s. I'm from Eastern Europe my parents were really stern and devoid of logic every fucking time when we had arguments. I have a better relationship with my mom now but she did what the guys mom in the video did. Which was beat me when I was argumentative . Never with logic always with hard pressed rage. But when you grow up , you're basically stronger than them so they can never hurt you. Which if you're lucky enough you make them apologize or be a bit more stern and they comply like sheep.
I have two sides right now.
I have this pity and hate because my mom is narcissistic and has been verbally abusive and I have expressed my side of emotions and rage to her till she apologized.
Other side is I still love her because she's basically helped me with a lot in life ,although most of the core help was from my really hardworking father and shes less narcissistic and controlling now and they've helped me a lot when I didn't have a job.
Hope everything gets better. Be strong everyone
My dad joined the Army for the same reason. My grandpa said he wouldnt make it theough bootcamp. We learned recently that that grandpa got kicked out of air force boot camp.
Alexander Pentlicki Am I allowed to ask why he was kicked out?
Matthew Thornton we have no clue lol, we just found out by digging through some old letters he sent to my grandma.
Alexander Pentlicki That’s quite sad. What I take away from this is your grandpa fell short and wanted his son to be his legacy to the world but still put him down and projected his own “failure” onto his son. I feel bad for your Dad.
Dang chill grandpa
Hahahahahaha your grandpa sounds like a loser
The fact that literal children have to join the military to avoid homelessness is sad :(
EDIT: or escape a toxic home life!!! there needs to be more options, especially because the military is not an option for everyone
America America God bless America the country is like a ad the ad looks nice but when you get it it isn't so nice
@@popinmo one of the wisest thing about US i heard
I don't see how this is the country's fault, he had fucked up parents...
Yea... I don't get how is this USA's fault. His parents are from Italy and Italians are usually a close-knit type of family. I am surprised the parents kick them after he graduated from high school. They usually prefer their children to stay with them until they get married or get a good paying job
That was not even close to his only choice lol, the military isn’t even an option for more than 75% of the population let alone the only option.
Imagine beating someone so hard you hurt yourself, then beating them for injuring you. That is like, saturday morning cartoon villian, comically evil self centered mideval noble level shit
i know right
that part hit so fucking hard, my dad used to do that to me as a kid, and it sucks that there’s more people out there who experienced horrifying shit like that growing up.
my parents hit me but not in the way that you would get Flippin injured, they only did those slaps that hurt a bit. I mean damn those parents are monsters like yeah if your kid is being a little shiz hit them in a way you wouldn't hurt or kill them. don't flippin hit them till you hurt your arm and then hit them for making your arm hurt like Jesus that's the definition of child abuse.
I mean part of why they're abusive is they can't take accountability for themselves. Easier to just blame somebody else and maybe vent off him/her/it (for those who abuse animals) than to do something about their fked up behaviors.
@@blacklight1104 i agree with you 100%
Props to him for leaving that. They weren't parents. They were about as nurturing and as supportive as poison ivy.
Pardon me sir, but I'm going to steal that last sentence there.
It hit home when he talked about being a kid is like being a dog, nearly had me in tears. I've been through the same situation coming from a Mexican background and man is it fucked up. Neither parents will apologize for all the physical and mental abuse they put me through. Ironically it's the reason why I actually dropped from joining the navy specifically. I've got more going for me than any of my family members and yet I'm still a failure in their eyes.
My personal advice to anyone is blood always doesn't run as deep as friends and others. You have to find confidence in yourself and learn the only person you should impress is yourself. Be proud of who you are and don't let family get in the way of doing what you feel is right. Took me a long time to realize that but dam does it feel good
Yeah I remember realising that I only felt good about myself whenever my own f**ked up family wasn’t around. That’s when you know it’s time to walk away
After converting to Islam and performing the Shahadah, i found what i was looking for. Not a preachy moment, nothing like that. Its just... idk man, i found what i was looking for. Just took me a few years to realize it. Has certainly helped me mentally.
Crabs in a bucket my man. End the cycle
@doting O how old are you
The blood of the covenant runs thicker than the water of the womb.
I didnt know it was possible to feel so proud of someone you've never met. What a strong human being.
Careful Hannibal you might show too much humanity
fr
"Being kid is like being a dog, even if their owner beats them they're still going to come back at the end of the day " that shit hit me too hard... legitimately I have been crying with the video on pause. But I think I needed to hear that. Damn someone hug this guy for me.
Hope you're doing alright mate.
when your parents get old and need you, know that you dont owe them anything.
Sadly, just like Rafael said, that biological link binds you to them. When they barely did the bare minimum to support and guide him, he really shouldn't give a fuck about them. I was brought up with loving and supportive parents. They weren't perfect but they truly wanted the best for me and my bro. Listening to Mike's experience makes me mad on his behalf.
Visiting the nursing home on holidays is more than they deserve....
@Rafael Lopez Canel Man even if my parents dont treat me right, i dont give a shit who they are to me. You have a kid to love it and take care not to trate it like shit
@Rafael Lopez Canel are you kidding me. Bringing a child into this world for your own reasons and then abuseing them once they exist is inexcusable. He doesn't owe them SHIT
@Rafael Lopez Canel Yeah no, that wasnt a life they gave him, it was literal hell, so no, he doesnt own them a single thing on this god's green earth
I don’t think he realizes how much this helped me cope with an verbally abusive mother, and shutting her out
Happy it helped!
"If someone is draining that energy that you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life."
- Mike
He's absolutely right about the addictions caused by prescribing highly addictive medicines for pain pills and such. It's an actual fact and a really sad fact to boot.
The fact that they prescribe them isn't the sad part, the fact that they give them way way too much for no good reason is.
When you are under incredible pain the drugs are a lifesaver, its the leftover ones they give you just to inflate your bill that are the super fucking fucked up part
@@AlaskaBoyAlex Exactly. That's one of the reasons my mom became dependant on them. It was very difficult for her to get off of them. It broke my heart watching.
@young98 I didn't know about that. That is absolutely disgusting.
@@AlaskaBoyAlex And then refuse to prescribe them in other cases, like women suffering from dysmenorrhea.
Yep that is why we are having a opioid crisis
I like this guy he has many stories sad and good and tells them like they are
He doesnt tell the stories
@@Gladiux0 sorry if you got confused I was talking about the guy symor is interviewing
Willthebinchicken oh ok cool
Thank you
@@mike4088 no problem👍
This is really important advice:
"I think if someone's just continually toxic, no matter who the fuck they are in your life you should be able to just walk away. Like if it makes you- This is the main thing with mental health is like, *sometimes when you have mental health issues, you need to be selfish with your own emotions.* "
hah I wish I could move out but I cant because my mental health is that bad.
I needed to hear this, I'm 40 and after my little brother committed suicide, I realized I had to stop acknowledging our parent's existence, or I would of also committed suicide. I'm a complete stranger to the speaker, but I want them to know, I'm proud of them, life is fn hard.
R.I.P. to your bro
I dont know, but this video just makes me extremely grateful for the family that I have.
Sounds like your parents did a good job.
You’ll likely be a good parent too then 🙂
The only people who failed are his parents. How pathetic... Some people should not be parents. They have no right to "Care for" precious life. I feel sick hearing this. Good on that man for realizing he doesn't owe them an explanation. He doesn't need to prove hes better because it's already true. That man raised himself right.
I have the exact same parents, although I refuse to call them that.
They shall die alone, they deserve it.
And when the day finally arrives, I will get myself a cake and beer I don't even care whatever bs I might hear.
This is y u need a license to get kids
Wow. That ending was beautiful. "Sometimes when you have Mental Health Issues, you need to be selfish with your own emotions. Sometimes you dont have the energy to like put up with other people's bullshit. You gotta be able to focus on yourself and if somebody is draining that energy that you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life." 100% REAL.
People say “you’re not the center of the world” like no, I literally am the center of my world. It’s how life works!
Glad you appreciated that. Hope it helps.
100% at the end of the day all you have is you. It is ok to be selfish in certain situations
This is exactly why I choose to not have friends, a love/dating/sex life or any kind of social life at all. My "resilient zone" is EXTREMELY small, I have deep CPTSD and many days, even just seeing other people/hearing other people's voices (without even interacting with them directly) completely exhausts me and sends me spiraling. I don't even watch live action tv/movies/shows because I can't stand looking at/hearing people, especially not at the same time. The majority of the media I consume are books and audio-only educational podcasts, unless I'm watching something that's purely instructional. I get called selfish so much (especially by family members) for keeping myself away from other humans in as many ways and as much as possible, but they don't understand that that's what I need to do to keep myself sane and generally ok.
@@karmakameleon113 It just doesn’t sound as though it’s keeping you sane though.
I ruminate about all my social interactions, which makes me anxious, which then f**ks with my sleep, causing more anxiety, then there’s the shame I feel for feeling anxious, then I get angry at myself for feeling shame and anxiety. On and on it goes, like a snake eating it’s own tail
This guys story is literally how super villains are born. Props to him for overcoming it man!
@J J Idunno my dude, those parents are pretty close to being some.
I know I would’ve became evil and vengeful if I was in the same situation. This guy took the energy and used it as fuel for a positive outcome. I would’ve just became consumed by it.
The best advantage I have ever had in life has and will always be my parents. Being born to good parents is winning the lottery.
That’s great to hear.
Even if its only one of them.
Honestly it’s better he went to the navy and got his GI Bill instead of taking loans because now he gets to enjoy his money
8:49 little does he know he dodged a bullet by not taking out loans.
Depends on what he wanted to go for
@@MultiKool13 if he wanted to go for life long debt that can't be paid back then yeah go for it. College loans are among the only loans you can't default on and get rid of. Colleges are increasingly becoming less valuable with college degrees mattering less and less because the quality of education is going down as well as a saturation of the job market in most fields.
Few decades ago it seemed like an insane idea not to go to college even if it meant taking out loans. Now its more obvious it doesn't always go well anymore, and its getting more expensive.
@@nickmagrick7702 yes but I'm saying for people who wanna go for the Sciences like Engineers and such it is worth it
@@MultiKool13 even then its becoming more questionable
@@nickmagrick7702 only for electrical and mechanical engineers, I really wouldn't recommend them. But chemical, and nuclear are in high demand, can make a lot of money, and have amazing benefits. Also doctors and physical therapy are great things to go to college for (obviously). But I do agree college is becoming very useless for most people. The real crime though is that nobody told him about trade school, he could've went there for free after he got out of the military, gotten paid while he was in school, and gotten multiple degrees like PTech and Instrumentation, came to the south and made BANK
Damn, I heard my mother's shrill screeching in my head when he mentioned how his mother screamed at him.
Toxic parents scream alike
His parents sound like a couple of narcissists. The fact they kept telling him he a failure, he went to college and graduated but didn't accept it, they wanted to manipulate him into believing he was a piece of shit and would never amount to anything. Yep, sounds like a classic narcissist and I have met many people like that. Best thing is never to talk to them ever again. Focus on your own life and future. Leave them in the past. I know it might be difficult for some people because they are related but it is much better to never speak to them again. It is extremely rare for a narcissist to change.
Zim shares his story of breaking free from the All-mighty Tallest.
"NOOOOOOOOoooo whatever." - Dib
VRChat is the only game where you can hear Zim talking about his war experiences and his friends overdosing
I feel bad for this guy. Parents are supposed to be your main support and protectors. But it sounds like he's got a good life, good for him.
I'm due with my daughter in less than a month. I will always be her main support and I will give her the best, loving life she can have. That means cutting certain people out of our lives, which was hard, but necessary. Do what makes you happy, live selfishly to achieve your goals. I never thought I would be this happy but I am. The struggles in life are worth it. You matter to someone. 🥰
It's good that you'll be there for your daughter and trust me when i say this but, everyone needs their mom or dad to be in their life.
My dad doesn't even bother with us and that's why i think so negative but, atleast i have my mom and even though she's not that great she tries her best.
Hope everything goes well for you and your family
@@hirxken7851 I feel this so hard man
Last few months, I've been kind of gloomy and down because I went to live with my mom after living with my dad for awhile. My dad hasn't talked a whole lot since, I ask him to get lunch and it seems like he has some kinda excuse to push it off and not see me. I just want to be in his life still, I don't want to never see him again. There are a lot of things he's done that I don't agree with, but he's still my dad at the end of the day and I love tf outta him man
As a daughter to a not so good father one thing i can happily reccomend is to try and think from the childs view and let them explain things at their own pace; when your child does something wrong please dont get super mad and simply ask in a calm voice why they did what they had done, this can help build trust ive never had with my dad and could help you as a parent. Thank you for reading this in advanced!💞
@@NeonNym You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I think you have a lot of potential to do well in spite of your parent's failures. Good luck.👍✊
Really hits different that his drill instructors from Boot camp are less harsh than his actual parents. Seeing stories likes this that start from agony to redemption really gives me a smile.
That's because DIs eat sleep and breathe with their brothers and sisters in uniform.(Okay maybe not sleep...) They have mutual respect(generally) and they're using that toughness to immediately provide these cadets with the tools necessary to thrive in the military.(Unlike his parents who left him to fend for himself)
Kicking a 17 year old out is beyond me.
I'm almost 19 and my life is no where close to being manageable yet so I can't imagine being kicked out at 17.
Most parents even kick their kids out at 18 and be like "be off on your own now". Like yo i know they need to learn but being a parent doesnt end at 18, its a life long commitment
@@ssj4galactus that's an excuse of letting the kid learn.
If the parents care about their children, then they wouldn't kick them out like that unless they're an complete problem.
Kicking out your child when he / she are not financially stable is beyond the asshole territory.
@@kush7138 word man
Yeah I just turned 20 and I’ve been living on my own for almost a year and it’s had its hard points. I couldn’t imagine doing it at 17
the way this guy nonchalantly describes how horrible his parents treated him is heartbreaking.
It's a really shitty moment for a child when they realize their parents aren't the role models they thought they are... It took me 30 years of my life to realize that I'm not a failure, my parents are.
This one hit me hard as it was very relatable. My parents were fucked up in a different way, there was no physical abuse, just mental... but that's a story for another day.
It's honestly so heartwarming hearing this guy made it out. Such a weird thing to feel happy for a total stranger.
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bruv, maybe you can contact syrmor and talk about it
Shit....a friend of mine recommended this video to me and told me "Hey, you need to listen to this, it sounds a lot like what you went through." Different strokes, but I went through a similar situation, and it's painful to hear that another kid had to go through that kind of abuse as well. It sounds like he's okay now, though. I'm glad. I'm glad I listened to this...
I went through the same shit as a kid too, and the fact that someone else went through similar things as me caught me so fucking off-guard. I really hope that this future generation of young kids has at least some sort of outlet to reach out and receive help.
Crazy, same here. Hadn't met anyone that had the same sort of past. I chose homelessness instead of the military for a while. I long since learned that I did better than my father in many ways, and have a son who I can show the real values in life, and how to be a proper caring father.
Same here. I went through a psychotic narcissistic abusive parent. My mom is a lot like his mom, never worked, expected everything to be done for her.
And the family tree is similar too. My mom was from long island, grandpa served in WWII and was an abusive alcoholic.
Glad that there's other people who survived/thrived. I love this guy's story because he did well for himself.
The parents were just projecting and trying to make their child seems more incompetent than they are, so they can feel superior.
This is actually common in certain community.
common doesn't make healthy
@@ulrohermit1369 I don't think they meant it that way.
NOTICE, in those 'certain communities' they're disproportionately highly successful. Many of those successful kids credit that intense parenting for their success.
@@RobertMorgan and also produces druggies and suicides
@@RobertMorgan define "success". if you think pushing a kid to their mental breaking point so they can have a high-paying career is all there is to success, you're missing the point. a person can be outwardly successful and inwardly an insecure house-of-cards mess in a way that risks derailing their entire life at any moment. you can't justify abusive parenting with this.
I'm gunna go give my parents a hug for not being like this guys parents...
well deserved
In the end, deep down, we all know who she really was saying 'you were a failure' and it was not towards her son
projection, for sure.
It sounds to me like they were just pushing him to do his best. A B average is good, but is it your BEST, really? Is that all you're worth, all you can be, a B? I bet with a little more effort that could have been an A average.
I've been there. I've been that kid that everyone told is so great, with so much potential, that should be getting As, and I did for a while, and I could...but that's boring so i slacked, fucked off, hanged with bad people, got expelled. Came back, graduated high school a semester early, making up for the expelled semester, while working 40 hours a week nights. I actually lied to my employer that I dropped out of high school so they'd let me work full time, because I liked the money, lol.
That was 2001, and most of that school year, my senior year, was a daze of sleep depravation, homework, and secrecy since i'd started smoking weed at 18 (which I blamed on the stress of 9/11).
One would be surprised what they can do when they apply themselves. If I'd had modafinil then like it's available today, whoooo, holy shit, I'd be a WAY ahead today.
@@RobertMorgan True, but even when he joined the military, made a difference and actually made something of himself his mother still treated him as though he did nothing. that is disgusting. what was worse is how she was telling the family members behind his back on how bad and "lost" he was, thus undermining all of his accomplishments and goals to prove himself. This is where I am getting at. How can you defend that? What happened if your parents still bullied you and called you a worthless being after you made the necessary changes to improve your life in society?
Now I must agree with you on your point that, yeah, we all need that push in the right direction. we need that shove if necessary. the issue here is that she is still shoving him even after he proved himself in the end. That I cannot excuse.
P.S. thanks for your replying and giving your own opinion and even experience. that was really kind of you
@@RobertMorgan I'm on the other scale of this, and although still young unlike you, I still believe I can testify about this.
My parents have a great expectation of me. If I got a B in one class, it would be "Nice job, but I wanna see a board full of As." It also helped that my parents were from Vietnam and only finished (a very poor) middle school before coming to the US to avoid the Vietnam War. As a result, they wanted a child who got to learn. My father said to me when I was in 6th grade with my lowest grade of all time with a C when I complained that it was fine:
"My dream is for my son to come home with a degree."
Damn did that hit me.
“The less I talked to my parents the better off I was”
I’m a freshman in college and I’m going through the same thing I don’t have any mental health issues and I’m just overall happier dealing with unpredictable alcoholic psychos everyday was worse then anything
If it’s as bad as you say then you probably have developed some issues - it’s just your mind’s way of coping with the stress of a turbulent home environment where you’re supposed to feel safe and secure.
This dude had it rough. I feel so bad for him. I honestly hope one day that his parents see how much he's done to try and please them. They honestly sound terrible and don't deserve such an amazing dude as their son. And to lie to the family members as well? That's like the lowest of lows. I hope this dude achieves more greatness and ends up being talked about on TV or something so his extended family can see how messed up his parents were to him.
I don’t think those thick skulled idiots can get shit through their head
I wonder if at this point his parents just mentally can't accept his success because then they would have to confront the way they acted to him their whole life and get throught the pain of accepting just how terrible they are. Being wrong hurts, especially when you spent time trying to prove you're right, it's hard for me to apologise for being an asshole for 5 minutes, my chest physically hurts when I confront the truth that what I said was wrong. I can't imagine the pain of realising a lifelong mistake.
Going off of that part where they lied to his uncle, I worry that they'd just brag that everything he achieved was because of them (rather than in spite of them). And they'd still call him a failure.
Idk them, though... Plus stuff like therapy may help them grow.
@@SpeedyThingGoIn4 of course, you should never rely on people to change
@@freddy4603 That's an interesting point. Kinda... 'err on the side of caution' vibes.
He's 100% speaking the truth. My dad crushed a disc in his spine back in the 2000's and doctors got him addicted to opioids and when it wasnt 'getting the job done' he started looking for drugs to fill the void. He's doing better now, but it took a decade to get out of rock bottom.
@syrmor id love to find an outlet to tell u that whole story
I know the feeling man, same happend to my mom. Lost her a few years ago man.
The part where he mentions “if I make more money than my parents, then I’m not a loser” - hit way too close to home. Thanks for sharing man, you did the best you could with what you had.
Way too many "parents" get away with this kind of shit, and they never see jail time. I had to pause a lot because I kept getting overcome with rage. Personally, I think it's one of the worst things you can do and I sincerely hope every abusive parent goes to their own special hell for eternity, feeling solely the most intense pain that can possibly be felt, so they have some idea what it was like for their poor kids. Thanks for sharing this story.
You know what. I’m proud of this guy. He took crumbs and made it into a loaf of bread.
All this just really makes me want to make sure my future home and family is full of love and support.
The military life can be depressing a lot of times, not because we're away from home, but because it's worrisome to know that some of our friends we knew and loved from our childhood, high school, and all the times spent throughout our 'past lives', never truly 'left home' and got into some bad shit. Then those nights when I'd be alone in the barracks/dorms, wondering what it would be like to go back home one more time to enjoy the bonfires we used to have and playing manhunt (hide-and-seek) in the woods at night with my old friends, just like we all did when we were teenagers. Man, I'd kill to have a moment like that with my old friends one last time.
thinking about this made me cry. thank you for helping me remember some stuff
I always wanted to join the military but now I'm having second thoughts, there's a lot of problems that come with joining and as much as I wish I could join, I can't ease into the harsh lifestyle
glad he was able to cut that relationship off with his parents. He deserves people who respect and support him, not abuse and gaslight him. The BARE MINIMUM for parents is to provide for their kids' basic needs like food and shelter until adulthood, it's disgusting when they try act like their kids owe them anything for that.
hi peeps! welcome back to another vid. i'm hanging out with Mike, an ex-navy soldier, about growing up and where life took him. keep up with the channel at twitter.com/SyrmorS
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@@Silent_oz no
@@syrmor 😂😂
@@syrmor oh ok
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I kinda have parents like his and I feel so sorry, I'm glad he turned into a better person than them.
when you realize he turned into a better person BECAUSE of them. That without that experience, he might have turned out better, but maybe different or even worse.
Some of the most entitled, horrible people I know had wealthy, coddling, nice parents.
I can relate to him to some degree. My parents are very narcissistic, especially my dad. If its one thing I learned, you owe nothing to your parents if they think doing the bare minimum is grounds for them to abuse you mentally and physically and then call it love.
I pray that his parents see this video by some miracle one day. I also hope they realize what scum bags they were to their own child.
Never gonna happen. They’re emotionally walled off because of their own traumas from their own upbringings.
It’s why the only choice is to walk away.
Take a person like that and give them power over another life, and watch them become a tyrant. It’s inevitable.
It’s also why I don’t have kids. I went through too much abuse and neglect as a kid, so that would undoubtedly affect my ability to be a good parent.
It’s why so many people shouldn’t have kids. Most people are just doing it for themselves, to satisfy their urges.
Mental health issues are nothing new, but at least now some us realise now how and why they develop in the first place.
@@CursedWheelieBin They know they were treated like shit, but they do nothing about it. I hate people like that.
The Mom sounds like a terrible person, this pissed me off so damn much. I am so inspired by Mike, he seems like such a great person. He went through all of that all by himself, at such a young age too. I am 17 right now and I cannot even begin to fathom having to go through any of that. Especially on my own. Thank you Mike. And thank you Syrmor.
Sounds like his parents were narcissistic and emotionally abusive
Not to mention physically at the end. Fucking disgusting wastes of flesh.
Nothing said in this video indicates narcissism, and people who suffer from NPD do not deserve to be erroneously stigmatized by being associated with abuse like this. There are many lovely people suffering from NPD that would never do anything remotely like what we see in this video. "Narcissistic" is not a synonym for "callously selfish."
@@AbandonedVoid says this guy🤦🏻♂️☝🏻
Happens more than you would guess
I wouldn't say they we're narcissistic. Sounds to me like his parents are very unhappy with their lives and the only way they could feel better was taking it out on their kid and pushing him lower than themselves. Then when their kid achieves something, they do some mental gymnastics and try to convince themselves and people around them that they made it happen.
Guarantee you his parents we're never loved in their youth and therefore couldn't give that to their kid.
Its crazy hearing him talk about the opioid problem and hearing the impact it had on the people around him and how many doctors were in on it because of the Sackler family’s money and influence, and knowing they basically created the opioid epidemic for profit.
“I don’t have to apologize because I’m your mom” I hate how relatable this is
I hate that I relate so much to his life while living with his parents. I'm probably gonna have to cut my parents out of my life when I move out because It's such a toxic environment. Being kicked out, lying to family members about you, making you go to work when you really can't, not apologizing for anything "because theyre your parents", never living up to their expectations, when he said she screamed at him for not being a systems engineer. I related to all of it. And I hate it. Watching this was like reliving my own traumas.
Hey man, rly hope it gets better for you from here, legit 🙂
cut them off man. do it.
it's a hard choice but you'll only be happier when time goes by.
if you don't you'll continue to get disappointed.
don't fool yourself. parents don't get better with time. i cut off a parent and a bad best friend. in that moment it was hard, but you'll thank yourself later.
@@Lex_Fur yeah man , I'm really at one of those fork roads , i have this best friend whom i know from my high school years , he is a good person but he really is depressed , pessimistic and dark towards future , he is kinda making me hopeless about my future and my goals , and i'm hesitant to cut him out
feel ya homie, cut them out dont get sucked into their pain
i’m so excited to watch this- everything syrmor makes is so emotionally touching.
Yes anime girl in vr chat talking about her only fans is so touching ☺️
MitPicK HAHAHA-
Invader zim guy last video: *ye we exploded into our socks pretty often on that ship*
Smoked Bear y e s .
I'd say it's syrmor documenting. Not to discredit his work, but the value of his products comes almost exclusively from the interviewees themselves.
When he started talking about his parents and how they treated him it physically made me angry
Holy shit, I’m so sorry you had to deal with those pathetic excuses of human beings as parents; you are so much better than they ever could be to a severe extent, and my extreme respect to you both for your service as well as your technical achievements outside of the navy. I also hope that you got to share the truth with more of your relatives; those abusive parents deserve to be called out by everyone.
Not the hero we deserved, but the hero we needed.
when I broke my shit playing football after the surgery I had pills but never took them for this fkn reason and honestly the pain is bad the first few days but its not that bad so I recommend not taking the pills its not worth
Well it depends what pills they've given you.
@@AnonymousUser77254 Exactly. Mike didn't say all medication is bad, he said over-perscribing opiods is bad.
My brother got perscribed a whole bunch of oxy after his tooth got knocked out in middle school but my mom is a nurse and she just had him take 2 tylenol and he was fine.
@@thelittleredhairedgirlfrom6527 i had my wisdom teeth removed and they just gave me a few pills just in case but I stuck to tylenol and I was completely fine.
that whole 'sometimes you need to be selfish for the betterment of your own mental health' thing resonates with me heavily, thanks again for the wonderful conversation syrmor
This guy played his hand the best he could. Respect.
things like this keep reminding me how fucking lucky i am to have parents who actually care about my wellbeing.
that guy is a god damn champion for being able to go through all that with his sanity intact
Wow. This is like hearing my own story back to me. Only difference is I’m Australian. Navy, IT, everything! A couple differences but man it’s so close!
I moved to the opposite side of the country but didn’t completely cut ties, because my parents apologised to me after I explained what they did and told them if they didn’t, I would never speak to them again. Wild. I was told by a psychologist once, that some of the most successful people in the world are only in that position because they all they wanted to do was prove their parents were wrong. He’s right in saying cutting toxic people out, is always the healthiest choice, no matter who they are
I visited Australia while I was in the Navy. I loved it there. Great people.
Bad parents die old, angry, and sad.
"That's the bare fucking minimum you phsyco" god tier quote
"WE MADE SURE YOU HAD A ROOF AND CLEAN CLOTHES" "THERE WAS ALWAYS FOOD IN THE HOUSE"
if you think that's something you deserve extra credit for, kinda just shows how messed up YOUR parents were and why you think this excuses treating a child this way... kids shouldnt have to think about this stuff
I relate to this too much. My parents did ultimately turn around for the most part though, but they kicked me out when i was 17 and still in high school. I was diagnosed with autism 2 years prior and couldn't work because of the emotional stress. I just wasn't able to always function, which made holding a job virtually impossible. They basically said I was just lazy and unmotivated. Was homeless for a while. it's a long story. That shit really really fucks you up.
I will say that they learned more about my disability over time and do a lot for me now and I'm grateful. Even so, there's wounds in that relationship that will never ever heal.
oh man , i'm really sorry to hear that , i feel you , yeah i have ADHD and we're in middle of the worst economical condition in the history of our country(iran) cause of the US sanctions , our currency have fallen 25x , our average salary is 40$/month , it really is dark times at least for me
I got kicked out at 17 as well because my mom was an addict and couldn’t understand normal human feelings. So I turned to the wrong path, I ended up drug dealing and hanging with the wrong crowd. Until I met my wife and ever since the day I saw and met her I knew I had to change my life. Fast forward 1 year she was pregnant with my child. Now fast forward to now I have a nice house, I’m married and I have 3 beautiful kids. Never had my father or mother around and I still made a great life for myself. It’s not about the parents y’all, it’s about the heart you have as a person.
My boy said it right at the end - be selfish for your mental health. If you’re in a really bad place because of someone, cut them out because they’re harming you. I digress, that was a wild ride and thanks for sharing what you went thru
The moment he starts talking about heroin and alcoholism i thought. “Bet he’s from long island too” and was right. Long Island wastelanders represent.
Yep!
breaks my heart as i realize how truly lucky i am to have had parents who were completely supportive of me growing up and didn't kick me out lolololol. thank you for sharing your story Mike, definitely humbling me and putting me in my place when i have ill feelings towards my own family
"When it comes to mental health, Sometimes you have to be selfish with your emotions" is such a raw sentiment to come from a guy on vrchat with an invader Zim skin. It's something to live by.
also it’s not “selfish” cutting out the toxic people in your like parents or partners it’s self respect
hearing stories like this make me really appreciate my parents and all they are going through to help me succeed in life. ive decided to join the marines next year and when i told them they were nothing but supportive to me.
That last part when he was talking about being selfish and cutting people out of your life resonated with me so hard.
The parents make me so angry I feel sick. Mike you blow my mind man, so much love to you to continue on without them.
Hope everyone is doing well during these hard times. Stay safe and happy guys :)
This video hit home, like i get literally hit in my home with my disgusting family. This video was an inspiration, thank you, i needed this because im always feeling hopeless or i just want to commit crimes against them
Hope it gets better for you from here, legit 🙂
This is a story that almost brought me to tears. It weird to realize that you always love your parents. Rarely it happens that your parents don't love you. So if your parents don't love you, you will still love them and keep coming back to them even if they will hurt you or yell mean comments to you. Even when your parents are lying in their deathbed, you will sit next to them even if they don't want you to. Or maybe when they are lying in their deathbed they will finally realize how much you care for them. You would even go to their funeral and cry for them, even if they hit you, or yelled at you. This is why you should never take your parents for granted. Always spend time with them.
syrmor deadass put in one of the captions *joyless laugh*
The doctor's over prescribing problem was brought up In Shameless, when Frank points out rehab is way different than it was in the 90's, the worker explains how doctor's are over prescribing rich suburban kids, and under prescribing black and brown people, causing rich kids to land in rehab, paid by their parent's regardless of how many times they must return
Is this a documentary or something? Can post a link for it 'cause i'm really interested in this now.
@@bombbud7523 It's compiled information from "Adam Ruin's Everything" (they site the sources throught the episode) on Netflix, "Shameless" on Netflix, and a video that talks about racial bias in medicine and an actual study in 2016 seeing if black people don't feel pain/ feel pain differently
@@josephinehayward8303 Adam ruins everything seems like an idiot though. Not disagreeing with what your saying, just that Ive seen that guys interviews, and Adam seems like a real kook.
@@richardrussel4567 that's totally valid, but he's more like a mascot or actor for research that the writers have done. He's also a comedian who used to work on Collegehumor, so that might explain his kooky behavior
"If somebody's draining that energy you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life"
Damn man, earned wisdom for sure.
Such a relatable bunch of stories for me. I chose to take out loans and go to college instead of joining the military but circumstances were similar. I dropped out one semester away from my bachelors because the lack of support eventually built up and I was super burnt out and depressed. I somehow survived on 10/hr for years and finally finished school years later. Twin brother got hooked on heroin and alcohol and I watched him slowly deteriorate into cynicism and apathy. Had many nights with no food sleeping on a mattress on the ground with just a shitty laptop and a half dozen changes of clothes to my name. Walked miles to work every day through the snow in upstate NY with no boots cause I couldn't afford them. Glad those years are behind me, but somehow, they still make me feel tired when I think about them. Screw any parent that tells their kid to "just move out and get your own apartment and job" after high school, that's condemning your own child to incredible misery and suffering in this day and age.
Let me tell you from growing up in the Chi and having this exact situation happen to me; the predators in your city are always looking for the kids who got kicked out. They're right there ready to recruit you. Parents who do this, are absolute scum.
As some one in the military in a similar situation i really relate to this story so much. Folks its ok the let family go if they keep shitting on you. Go live your best life and look out for #1.
Honestly even though his story is really sad and messed up, it's still really encouraging. After everything he's gone through he was still able to make a life for himself with zero help from his parents. My parents are similar in the sense that they treat me like a failure even though they aren't even trying to help me succeed. The fact that he was able to make it all on his own is really encouraging and it makes me feel like I can do it too.
Damn...I feel like I could listen to this guy talk for like an hour...probably the invader zim model the way it's mouth moves is oddly mesmerizing lol
For people also thinking college is 40K a year. Please look into options to study abroad.
Europe is a great continent too and way more affordable.
9:20 Man, Umbrella academy is such a good show, also he's talking about Klaus in the 2nd season.
Yep! At his manor trying to convince him not to join. UA S2 was quite amazing for me. I lived the exact story Mike(Navy guy) did in his anecdote. My dad and stepmom are doing the same to me.
I can just imagine when they're old and helpless, they'll call him and he'll just tell them that he doesn't have any parents
Brought up so many memories this guys story actually started making me upset because going through that myself you never wish it upon another person and hearing about him going through it too just sucks to hear :/
Man.
These stories. they hurt.
Man, you were not the failure, your parents were.
I relate to this way too much. Dude, you'll probably never know me, but rn as I am watching this, I fucking love you and will look up to you bro. Right now I'm only a teenager but going through similar things. Thankfully I have no connections to drugs but almost everything else you said, just, damn. I really want to become someone like you bro. You went through so much but you succeeded with no support and even all that shit on your shoulders. To me that is more amazing than any self made billionaire could ever be. Head up dude, you managed to make my day and possibly my life, a whole shit ton better. Thank you Mike
My dad was so jealous of his brother (my uncle) because he had a kid in the military that he'd try to convince me to join the Marines....during the war in Afghanistan. Like they Marines would send out their little ads in the mail, my dad would wave it in the air and say "Look who's hiring!" Then my brother became a cop and he left me alone. I tell him I want to go to school for film making and his response was "Who's going to pay for it? Not me."
My blood is boiling hearing these stories. Hope you’re doing well
One thing that often gets over looked when it comes to finding a career is vocational/technical school. You have other options besides college for building a career. Internships, and apprenticeships are also good. Going tens of thousands of dollars in debt to get an education isn’t the only way to make it in America. Remember that. Much love to this guy❤️