Those first couple weeks were absolutely mind blowing to me. I couldn't believe other people were just walking around happy, accomplishing things, and not praying to die. So! Many! Decades! Wasted!
@@Seacrestered Everyone has struggles that we don't know about - especially if they don't say anything about it. Someone may look like they're happy and accomplished, but that doesn't mean they are - or that they will somehow notice you need help. If you want help ask for it. Don't be angry that others aren't mind-readers. We all focus on our own lives and unless we love and care about someone very close to us, no we can't help to everyone or have the energy to notice everyone around us. That is what doctors and help centers are for. Ask for help.
This is called nirvana or enlightenment. The sad part is there are a lot of geniuses running around taking these medication to enhance an already normal cognitive abilities and for most of us they are like superhuman, while they were actually rigging the system
Today has been my first day on ADHD medicine as an almost 34 year old woman and I feel as though I was born with superpowers and its only now that anyone's told me how to use them. I've spent all day having no idea how to articulate what this feels like, so I came to UA-cam to see what other people who had been through it felt. I clicked at random and cried because you're saying exactly what I'm feeling, I just wanted to say that validation has been so important at the end of what has felt like the first day of my life.
WELCOME TO THE TRIBE...that was me, 3 months ago. The impact - I'll never forget those first few days/weeks - EVER. I'm 58. I went through a lot of grief and anger, but in a way that I knew would end. I grieved the loss, the wrong diagnoses, the self-medicating, the whole damn lot - then realised I was right where I was...I could accept it...and I just wanted to make every day since absolutely worth living. Welcome to your life; enjoy it. You've earned it X
@@hilarycoombes9994 44 here. Started last February of 2021. Since I took my meds I had no HR issues at work. I was able to hold a really great job for a whole year. Now I am going back go school full time this fall.
I literally cried the first day i took meds. I can actually use my brain. All my creativity and stuff is still there, but i can actually USE it now, instead of just ricocheting around from shiny thing to shiny thing.
i completely understand being scared to be reliant on meds. it's scary to realize how much harder it is to use old coping skills when meds do it way better and without draining you.
Totally! I definitely feel much more positive about it a few more months down the line. I watched a really good video about the idea of being 'dependent' on medication that you may be interested in... ua-cam.com/video/4PTl27tTmfY/v-deo.html
With ADHD we are actually locked out of our human brain, we are unable to understand things at the same level. Think about if you became a chimpanzee when not on meds, it’s more than just coping skills. Of course, it can be done without meds in a lot of cases but the condition steals reality from us
The great thing for me was that after starting medication, I was able to use coping skills better and build more of them. Building these coping mechanisms while on medication eases my anxiety of being reliant. I feel like if I ever need to stop taking my medication I now feel I have a good base to cope with life. Additionally I understand my ADHD better and how to avoid the pitfalls.
Stimulants for ADHD are highly addictive. You either increase the dose and end up getting addicted, or you avoid increasing the dose and have to just deal with the discomfort of dopamine depletion whenever the medicine wears off.
@@echo-trip-1 This is a myth and simply not true! Where did you find research concluding that these low dosages that are prescribed are highly addicting as you claim? Research show that people with ADHD are more at risk of getting addicted to other things such as alcohol, food, shopping, porn, gambling, etc when NOT using the medication, and medication prevents this for the reasons mentioned in the comments above.
@doop445 what you describe is the effect on non-adhd people, it's been studied and measured yes, you feel more concentrated but your performance stays the same. However, on adhd, the increase on performance is measurable and even felt by people around, again, there are studies for that. That's why these medications are not "cheating", as some people imply: if you are not adhd, then you don't benefit from them, so there's no point on taking them. If you are, they have a clear benefit that everyone (people living with the affected) can actually see
I worked with a ton of kids with ADHD over the years as an elementary school teacher. When the medication works, that's really just the beginning. They still have to unlearn old habits and learn new ones. When I first started teaching, medication was stigmatized and other teaching professionals would occasionally tell me that ADHD was actually a "myth". I'm glad so much of the politics around it seems to have dissipated. The stigma and denial often led to unhappy, unsuccessful kids.
What kind of old habits do they need to unlearn? I'm an adult trying to figure things out myself. I am on medication, and while things are easier then before I started medication, I feel there's still room for improvement. One thing I have to be aware of is automatically assuming a new thing will be hard and that I will give up (so why even start...).Is that the kind of thing you mean by old habits?
@rambunctiousvegetable that's not what the study said. It was 30 percent for boys and 70 percent for girls. And boys make up the overwhelming majority of ADHD diagnoses so the median isn't the mean. Regardless, what I think it shows is that age and maturity are important to consider when a doctor is diagnosing ADHD. Are you implying that the disorder is fake? Even the author of the study you mis-cited doesn't believe that.
@@sakhti9962 Sometime kids with ADHD will develop work avoidance strategies, often requiring more effort than the work itself. This can become like a persona, and it can be built into their relationships with teachers and other students. Also, with really bright ADHD kids they will often develop a pattern of completely tuning out the directions and figuring it out themselves, i.e. doing it the hard way. This can even become a point of pride for them, and can be a hard habit to break because they prefer figuring things out entirely on their own. Of course, this isn't always the best way in a classroom, or real life. Sometimes it's just better to read the directions first.
@rambunctiousvegetable Okay. I'm sorry for my tone. I get a little defensive about this topic. Yeah, glasses. I teach privately now, but I'm constantly referring kids to the optometrist, and I explain to every one of my students that you won't know when your vision is bad. But my controversial take on this topic, as someone who's taught for two decades, is that boys and girls should have different start dates for kindergarten. There's a demonstrable difference in their development at that age, and boys are simply behind. We start them too early and retain them too often in k and 1st.
@rambunctiousvegetable I often tell my students a story about my best friend. He noticed in his 40s that night driving had become difficult. He went to get his eyes checked and discovered, due to a cataract, he was completely blind in one eye. He never had any idea until the doctor covered his functional eye. Oliver Sacks' book The Man Who Mistook His Wife for A Hat has all kinds of fascinating stories about the brain's ability to adapt like this. But it takes work for your brain to do it, and it's ultimately exhausting. The idea of starting boys 4 months or so after girls in kindergarten has been an unpopular one since I started teaching that's never had even a little bit of traction. It's one of those solutions that everyone close to the problem loves, but everyone in charge of solving the problem hates. So it goes.
Thank you for your absolute honesty. I’m 60 and have just realised what my lifelong “maladjustment disorder” has been about. I’m grief stricken, but I’m not giving up. Going to get a referral to a psychiatrist and follow through…I’m not dead yet!
I just was diagnosed at 61. Shocking. But post diagnosis, sooooo many things in my life finally make sense. So yes. Follow through and get yourself tested. It really helps. And then of course there’s the medication which for me works. And the above video encapsulates a lot of my reactions!
I’m 60 too and also diagnosed with ‘Adjustment Disorder’ about 10 years ago. Last year after another decade of being ‘lost in space’ reeling from one crisis seamlessly into the next, I looked into ADHD and a therapist wrote to my GP recommending a diagnosis. Still waiting but it’s getting closer, and in the meantime I’ve just started to explore all this stuff on UA-cam. It’s like there’s a whole world full of people who think like I do and face the same challenges and it fills me with both joy and hope. At around 5 minutes in when Rachel says ‘there’s some stuff I need to do today, I’ll do them’ made me laugh out loud with tears in my eyes because I get it, that’s NEVER how my life has been! 😂 And the weekend stuff right after it, and so on, it’s soooo comforting to see such an honest and emotional explanation of the realisation of how life was and how it could be when more ‘normal’. So there’s hope that I may one day see that ‘normal’ thought process myself. So honest and authentic and relatable. Thank you.
Hearing you talk about your brain feeling like a teenager is how I feel. I always struggled with coming to terms that I might need help because I wasn't sure if something was actually hard, or I was just throwing a tantrum. But I'm realizing that my brain has been throwing a tantrum about everything, including feeding myself and bathing for 35 years now. Also your grasping at air comment about doing simple tasks hit home. It's hard to explain to people who don't feel that way. I used to think it was depression, but talking to a therapist they helped me realize I'm pretty happy. Despite the sad feeling I get scrolling youtube videos in a dirty house with an empty stomach. Haha
Your video gave me a lump in my throat. I was on 36mg for a long while and it helped me quite a lot. My ducks were not in a row yet, but they were at least in a group. The first week of 54mg, I wanted to cry, because I think that is what normal feels like. And I've been missing out for more than 30 f#%%* years! I mostly embrace myself and my weird ass brain, but I think we're allowed to grieve the 'missing time' every now and again.
Natasha ❤I very much enjoy your description of the ducks being in a group but not a row - I can relate! Thanks for watching and sharing. Yes on the grieving missed time - I feel angry about it now and then but in a kind of resolute constructive sense, which I think is oddly motivating. Here's to us and our weird ass brains! 😎
@@rachdoesyoutube please be careful. Understand that any disruption in drug manufacturing or supply chain could bring your world to a grinding halt. I had several issues when hurricanes hit and I was not able to get my refills when life was hell. Then there is the part Doctors don’t tell you, which is once you hit middle age, stimulant based ADHD meds put a major strain of your heart. As soon as your heart starts to show signs of strain they will take you off the meds. You will then go through 3 to 6 months of withdrawal hell. When done your mental state and capacity with be reduced to a lower level brain function than you had before you started the meds. You will also have a persistent feeling of being unclean or dirty, it never goes away. Lastly you will have no motivation to do anything. You will find you can’t do the same tasks that you had done for years. You will remember doing those tasks, but the how you did them will elude you. That will cause you to be sad an depressed. I wish I had never taken ADHD meds. I wish I had just changed my diet, exercises more and learned better coping techniques.
@@anthalas9 I'm so very VERY sorry love. Thank you for sharing because I needed to know this. I've been changing my diet, taking supplements, exercising because the meds my doc described had all these side effects and negative complaints from other people took it. But this video made me really want to give it a shot! But this comment told me exactly what I needed a reminder of. I wish you the best.
Very well said, though I really appreciate being reminded of the benefits of focusing on being my best natural self, even if that doesn't perform to hypercapitalism's expectations... there is always the consideration that the 'dysfunction' in ADHD is actually the culture's demands, not the individual's human self. Whatever your choices, be honest with yourself, and good luck. X
@@undergroundmotorsportsaus I would concede your point, if it weren’t for the vast amount of documented experiences of others that have gone that have gone through the exact same thing. And we all describe our experience almost identically. It would seem from that evidence that my experience is more the norm vs not coming off ADHD meds. Ask yourself a few questions, 1. Being how many older people do you see taking ADHD meds? 2. What is the end game regarding your heart and health of being on stimulates long term? 3. Additionally what do you think will be your experience after being on the medications for long term and then we have a national or world wide drug shortage. There are all kinds of support groups for people like me, which wouldn’t be the case if my experience wasn’t the more common outcome. The Cleveland clinic has thousands of pages of people talking about how they are dealing with life after ADHD meds and if your not in to scanning medical journals you can head over to Reddit r/adhd and see the stories there as well.
On the upside, we got to develop skills for "easy things" and now with medication those skills are still with us. We were training with a heavy backpack on us to be able to do easy things all the time. When you get your meds for the first time it feels like the heavy backpack of "superpowers" everyone talks about finally transforms into real wings. You got this.
When I was on concerta, I still HEARD the impulse voices of random thoughts in my head that would normally leave me almost catatonic, but I was able to ignore them in a sense. A random thought didn't stop me in my tracks, I was able to say "Cool story dude, but i'm busy with other things". I love to paint model tanks and 3D print things, normally accomplishing a project can take weeks, months or years. With Concerta it was like "Wait, why on earth would something this simple take me so long?" and i'm able to knock it out in 1-2 days.
I was diagnosed at 35, I have ADD, bipolar, and a general anxiety disorder. I’m on meds for mood swings, and they help, but when I was put on Methylphenidate my life changed. It was like the clouds around my brain just cleared out. That part when I realized that people can just do things, and can feel at ease, was beautiful snd sad at the same time, because I lost so many time, I struggled all of my life, especially when I became a mom. And now I preache about going to a psychiatrist and get diagnosed. And above all: take the meds if needed. Because this is not a personality trait, is a chemical thing, and can be somewhat fixed. So why not do it. We need to talk more about it to get the stigma out of it. I really appreciate your video, girl. You are brave, and you’re going to be fine. Thanks for sharing your life, it helps a lot. ❤
Hey! I'd like to ask a question if you don't mind! Would you describe the feeling in your head as "brain fog"? For the last 8 or so years, I've had this hazy feeling in my brain that is hard to describe. Its a lot like trying to drive somewhere but you're struggling to remember the directions you were given so you end up kind of guessing which way to turn. Almost like my short term memory really stinks. Its become worse as I've aged because as an adult, the world is much less structured and we are hit with an overwhelming amount of stimuli each day
Holy shit the whole explanation on day 19 with the PMS is so relatable. You explained my exact feelings. It’s like a weird paralysis. You are sick and tired of sitting and doing nothing but you also don’t have the will power to do anything and nothing that is passive entertainment like TV seems stimulating enough. So you just sit… This video has decided it for me. I’m going to bring it up to my doctor.
This brought me to tears. I just started my first dose of XR medication today. Won't be on full dosage for 7 more days. I was diagnosed at 9 but Mom said, "NOPE! He's just a kid!" So I ended up running across a video of a psychiatrist reacting to ADHD TikToks. As I watched it I just said out loud, " Isn't it like this for everyone?" My girlfriend responded 'No'. Then I started asking everyone I know, "When I talk to you what are you thinking about?", to which every SINGLE person responded, "What you are saying." I would ask immediately, "What else?", and hear the response, "Nothing". My mind was blown. I would tell them all I work hard to actively listen but it is hard with on average maybe 8-12 thoughts shooting out at different directions and me following each one until I realized it has been about 5 seconds and I wasn't listening to the person, and then I would rewind in my head to what key words I heard and parse together what they were just talking about. I THOUGHT EVERYONE DID THAT! I am 44 years old. I just got diagnosed after a month long task of appointment after appointment. Well, back on task. I took my first dosage today and for the first time ever. I got to work. Started working, and didn't stop until it was time to go home. I did everytask I had on my list instead of 1/4 of my usual list. NEVER ONCE did I stop and say, 'NOPE, I will do that later'. I am amazed at how I don't feel anything, like energy or anything but I never once looked at a task and avoided it. I just did it all without thinking. I never pulled out my phone when in an elevator to check Instagram. I didn't turn on any podcasts to distract myself. I just worked. People would talk to me and instead of my stopping what I was doing and start a 15 minute conversation, I would answer make a joke and get back to my current task AND NOT FORGET WHAT THE F I WAS WORKING ON!!!!!!! I have subscribed and will continue to watch your journey. I am in shock that neuro-typical people experience life like this. By that I mean, without the DREAD of having to start something mundane. Nothing at all was boring today, it wasn't exciting in the least bit but IT DIDNT MATTER!.
Wow. Okay, so the not listening and thinking about 100 other things is also adhd? I'm on my way (hopefully, what if it isn't adhd, am I just a shit person then? AH! Imposter syndrome to the max.) to a diagnosis. I have a test day in August, but my current therapist told me she thinks it's likely it's adhd. I am finding so many little things that people say, hey this is a thing with my adhd, and I'm going "same" almost every time.
I'm convinced i have adhd and after your comment with the conversation how hard for me is to stay focused on person and not fly away, i too was thinking everyone has it. Gotta get diagnosed.
I recently got diagnosed (unofficially though) by a psychologist that I indeed have ADHD (inattentive as far as I know). I always had trouble listening to people and my brain goes wack when more people at once start to talk to me. So many thoughts about other things popup and I can feel my brain being pulled away from the conversation and I can catch myself fading concentration (which wasn't always the case) but bringing myself back to a conversation is nearly impossible. I always feel so rude when it happens, I don't mean to do it, it just happens. Reading your comment gives me hope..
I really appreciate your experience and I really identify! I'm a 54 year old man and always thought that I was "just fucked up". Never knew what was wrong with me until I was diagnosed and the first time I tried the meds I said to my wife "if this is what it's like to be normal, F' you all because this is unfair!" I went through my entire life, from job to job, not ever being able to sit still, except on things I was obsessed with. I will never know what it's like to be able to have a career or anything. Most of my life was spent trying to adapt to my "quirks" and now I know why. I wish I had been diagnosed and had medicated when I was younger!
"I've been tired because I've been doing a lot, not because I'm just tired." Girl, I feel this deep in my bones. Some days I don't want to take my meds cause I don't want to feel actual tired. But then I remember that the mental gymnastics tired that comes from forcing myself to do barely anything is worse. You've articulated it all very well.
I cried watching this. I have felt as you put it “deficient“ my entire life. I have always felt like there’s something fundamentally wrong with me because I cannot just do the things. I always compare myself to other people and feel like things seem to come easily for them while I struggle to simply get the laundry done. I like your analogy of dragging your skull through a bed of cauliflower. I always say I feel like I’m trying to run through gelatin. The neuro-typical person just walks through the air, but I have to slog through gelatin just to barely get by. In the last several weeks, I have come to the conclusion that I (like my dad did) very likely have ADHD. I am 42 years old and I have never felt good about myself. I feel like I fail at most things I try to do, and I feel like I have given up on myself. In listening to different podcasts, reading articles, and watching videos like yours, I have come to realize that I don’t have to give up on myself. You are a shining example of what life for me COULD feel like, and you’ve given me hope. From the bottom of my heart - thank you.
Ohhh Erica. I feel you so much on this 💛 I'm glad to have helped. It's a tough journey (I am very much still on it) but as I keep telling myself, you've gotta break down to rebuild for the better! Keep going 🌞
This made me realize how Inattentive ADHD I am, and that I should probably get meds. I was diagnosed at 10, then parents said I didn't need Ritalin after 1 day of using it, and said I didn't have ADHD because I wasn't hyper. Throughout school into adulthood in my 30s I've frantically dealt with the symptoms on my own thinking I'm an inept person. My brain is always grasping at thoughts, multi-thinking. I constantly forget. I'll see a nearly-finished toilet paper roll 10 times and think "I need to go downstairs to get more" and then as soon as I get up, I've been bombarded with so many other thoughts that I've forgotten the roll again. I've found wet laundry sitting in the washer overnight more times than I can count because I didn't remember it. To complicate things, now I have a toddler that I need to remember to do things for, as well as myself, the cats, my hubby and the house. If meds can help me sanely get through a day without forgetting as soon as I turn my gaze from it, that'd help SO much. I'm going mad over here.
You are not alone. I am just discovering now at age 42. I am a mom of 3 and I homeschool and feel CONSTANT shame that I just can't do all the things "properly". My initial breakthrough came when I saw a video that was "14 signs that you had a mom with undiagnosed ADHD".....and as I watched I thought, "This is me. This is how my kids are growing up and they are going to be such disorganized underprepared adults because of it." I'm in the processs right now of receiving a confirmed diagnosis, but I tick every box and I can see all the signs that went unnoticed in childhood and the ways that I actually had a certain level of support that would keep my symptoms for raging. For instance, my parents were minimalists (before it was a thing - haha) and so I just happened to live in a house totally conducive to having ADHD. It was a clean slate of a house, easy to maintain and so calming to the brain. As a WAHM my house is an absolute shit-show and a source of constant shame and electrified cotton in my brain. Videos like this really have me interested in trying meds to if I can get my life under control.
I'm 31. I feel like you're lady version of me... how you speak, stutter, go down rabbit holes when explaining things... I've been trying to finally get diagnosed. This is reassuring.
You don’t know me but you literally feel how I feel. And I start my meds tomw. I used the ocean and grasping for help but your description is exactly feels.
I always suspected i had adhd. Then i grew up and became a doctor. Almost screwed up this career because of adhd. Now since I'm a doctor i understand adhd so much better than when i first suspected i had it. I self medicated with a different kind of stimulant in med school - a milder one (power of the knowledge of pharmacology) and the medicine worked. So i made my own diagnosis and I'm so much better for it.
It did for me, I had to drop out in the middle of my 3rd year because it seems my coping mechanism could no longer catch up to my dysfunction, I ended up in a very dark suicidal state. Worst part was that I never struggled learning the material, it always seemed like physical logical subjects were easy to grasp, but my struggle was everything else like homeworks, projects and schedules. I think if I wasn’t born so defective I could’ve become a great doctor.
Great video. I'm envious of people who got diagnosed in much younger ages. Myself: Being at the ripe middle ages, feel so angry and sad, because I feel I could have had a much better quality of life in all areas and had significantly less mental and psychological hardship, stress, suffering, struggle and depression, if I'd been able to get recognition, diagnosis and help. 💔 Thank you so much for sharing so openly. This was a great video. I appreciate you and others like yourself, out there smashing the stigma about ADHD and neurodivergent brains and existence. Thank you. 💕
I can’t tell you how much this all clicks for me. I’m crying right now….just beginning the discovery of the fact that I might have ADHD and not anxiety and different meds might help more. I am booking in to see a specialist ASAP after this. 😢 thank you so much for being able to articulate how I have felt for so long. X
Natalie ♥Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. I totally understand where your head is at right now. I was thinking of sharing another video of my diagnosis process and how that all felt, if you'd find that helpful too? Sending love your way!
It's not medicine it's drugs. It's won't cure anything it will just make you high and dependant and will toxify your body. The cure to ADHD is consistent exercise and good diet and essentially getting super healthy. Doctors will never admit this because it's not proven because you can't exactly get a bunch of ADHD people to get in amazing shape as a scientific test, it's not a practical study, people just won't do it so you'll never have a big enough sample size. Fix your lifestyle and you will fix your brain
52 & just diagnosed, no treatment yet (NHS in Spain is good but slow). Suppose we just have to be happy with the idea of better late than never, but the idea of being 50+ until diagnosed does kind of make me sad. Anyway, better days ahead. Rgds
I just stumbled across your channel. I was diagnosed with combined adhd last week at age 35. Watching your video has made me felt seen. The imposter syndrome, the non stop racing thoughts - I truly didn’t know that this wasn’t neurotypical. I’m speaking to someone this week about medication and I am nervous and excited to see what occurs in this brain of mine. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. ❤
Thank you, Rachel! I´m 55 and still undiagnosed, and it´s really very recently that I have understood how much a diagnosis can change my life. Everything you talk about resonates so deeply. It´s clearly not too late. And I´m happy to see that what my generation and those before us had begun to do towards mental health awareness is now showing its fruit with the younger generations, and the way we talk about these things. It´s been a long and painful process for a lot of people, and for generations of undiagnosed and unheard people. I like your channel, keep up the good work 🙏
I'm shaken. This has been like watching those videos where a colorblind person sees color for the first time and everybody cries. Only I am the colorblind one. Everything you describe about how the day just feels hard, all of the systems and provisions that you need just to get through basic life tasks, being always tired for no reason... I feel it in my bones. I've been circling the idea of getting a diagnose, but this settles it. I'm gonna get one. I found the video in my feed after watching a lecture about ADHD before.
My sister said this to me when I started medication. It lika color blind person putting those special glasses on for the first time. She hit the nail on the head with that statement, and it was exactly how I felt/still feel. ♥️
This is the best description I’ve heard of realizing how broken we kinda are, I had no idea! I got my ADHD diagnosis 8 months ago at 43 and was so bewildered, excited, and sad when I realized I could’ve gotten help and functioned somewhat normally long ago. I hope you got your diagnosis.
I'm SO glad to hear you're still taking the medication, and not forcing yourself to suffer through some perceived deficiency. It's very normal for those of us who are neurodivergent or suffering through mental illness to feel scared of being reliant on medication, but your friend was absolutely right: you likely would not feel the same apprehension if it were for a physical ailment without stigma attached. Hoping things are still going well for you! Thanks for being vulnerable & sharing it with us!
My son was greatly helped by the meds since he was in grade school. We tried everything before we put him on them. He is now grown up. Graduated from the university with several deans lists for his studies. As another ADHD person put it he got to know himself in a way that was not possible before. Thanks for your courage posting something quite personal. It is a very valuable video for people considering medication. Thanks.
Is he still on the medication? Or did he stop? The medication will give you the smartest version of you but its not you its the meds... is he married? Children?
OMG! You have described my life in so many ways. I'm undiagnosed at this point in time. I will be seeing a doctor soon because I know something is wrong.
I almost never comment on videos, but I had to let you know this was one of the most helpful and inspiring things I've ever watched. It seems like such a little thing, but as a nearly 37 year old who was first diagnosed at the age of 6, fought with every medication available through high school, and lived a half shambles of an adulthood, your experience has finally cemented the fact that I need more than what I can do myself. Today I am starting the search for a psychiatrist and will be discussing options for medical and therapeutic assistance. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I haven't been evaluated for ADHD yet but I'm in the process of getting it done, yet when I watch this video I can relate to the feeling of being overwhelmed knowing I have things to do and I just can't get my head around how I will do them. It is so frustrating because I can watch other people just do them and can't understand why I can't. I start something with so much enthusiasm and energy and halfway through I would get tired and move on to something else never completing anything I start. It is refreshing to see that being diagnosed and using the medication helps bridge that problem! The tears of joy you got at the beginning and the way you explained how it made you feel is reassuring and good to know. It doesn't change who you are it just gets you motivated enough to go about your business without your brain actively trying to stop you. Great video and thanks for sharing your experience! Side note - I watched a video of a Psychiatrist Dr Stephen Humphries talking about ADHD meds and he says one has to look at them like a pair of glasses and not necessarily as medication but it is nice to see someone talk about how they felt and what it did for them!
Your video has so accurately captured my experience this past week having started Vivanse (a stimulant). So much so, I am going to ask my husband to watch this to save me the energy of trying to put into words the roller coaster of thoughts and emotions I’ve had. At 49yo, it’s been a long hard road and it’s sad knowing it didn’t have to be so difficult all these years. I am so happy for you that you found “the answer” so young….even though it may not feel that way now. Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤ from 🇨🇦
This made me want to cry. I've been on a path of self discovery and I've been trying to find the causes behind some of my mental struggles, particularly my anxiety. I had a friend with severe ADHD who functioned in a very different way from me growing up, so I never really considered ADHD as an option. But the more research I do the more I realize I definitely have ADHD, and this video in particular just broke me. So many of the mental battles that you were struggling to put into words resonated with me in such a powerful way. That "grasping at air" sort of generalized anxiety is something that I fight with all the time, and it only goes away when I've managed to totally immerse myself in a task. The scattergun approach, convincing yourself you don't want to swim, and realizing you could be using coping skills right now but just *not being able to* are all things that have to deal with every day. Every time you described your experience with random noises and arm flapping I somehow knew exactly what you were trying to convey. I'm still wondering where I fall on the spectrum between ADHD, Autism, or some combination of both, but this video took a lot of miscellaneous observations about my experience and clicked them into place together. The jury is still out on the autism (I have a lot of autistic traits that could easily be explained away by ADHD + social anxiety) but I'm going to talk to my therapist and start going down the path of getting medicated. Thank you so much for doing this.
I’m 35 and undiagnosed because my doctor is reluctant to refer me. And my self-diagnosed adhd stops me from being more proactive with pushing for a diagnosis, despite knowing it’s something I need 😅 I cried watching this video, imagining how it must feel to not feel like you’re climbing a mountain any time the smallest task needs completing. Thank you for sharing your journey. I am so happy for you ❤
Watching this is making me cry… my son is on the waiting list to be tested for ADHD and Iv been told I also show “typical” symptoms. Iv been doing my research and now I’m convinced I have ADHD. How you describe your symptoms off your meds are exactly how I am! I always thought this was normal and I just couldn’t cope with life but now I know there’s a reason I don’t cope xx Thank you for your amazing explanation of your life before and after meds xx
I am undiagnosed ADHD thus far, but your description of your internal struggles is EXACTLY what my internal life is like. I have an intake appointment with a psychiatrist at the end of next month. Fingers crossed that I can get some help like this.
@@dvl973 I was diagnosed with ADHD (and ASD) but since I didn’t have a primary care provider (GP if you’re British) I have not been prescribed medication. There also happens to be an ADHD medicine shortage in my area. I finally overcame the Catch-22, so I have an appointment with a PCP/GP this month, so hopefully a prescription is forthcoming. The situation is a little different for my children (their diagnosis came first, which is what opened up my eyes to the possibility that I had it). Because they have their own pediatrician we were able to get them started on medication. It has been life changing for the both of them! My older child had a neurotypical moment the other day when he said, “I wanted to doodle in class, but the medication made me pay attention instead.” My younger child’s confidence has grown tremendously now that she can focus in class. Her grades have improved a whole lot; as has her self-efficacy. I’m really proud of them both for their progress, but it has been an ABSOLUTE NIGHTMARE trying to find their meds and we’ve had to resort to prescription-hopping. Therefore, even if I do get a prescription, I might not fill it; the thought of depriving a child of the ability to be their best self at school troubles me. I’ve squeaked by this far without meds; I can probably wait until the manufacturers ramp up production, but I long to have control over my brain so I can get things done.
I haven’t been diagnosed yet but everything you’ve explained about how you felt is exactly how i’ve felt my whole life. Thanks for sharing your experience, this video has encouraged me to try to get diagnosed and see if I can get on medication.
Your emotions to starting medication has really mirrored my experiences. The grief you feel at realising how easy life could have been and how you’ve been living on hard mode. The anxiety around needing medication and the want to not need it and feeling bad for taking it. Thank you for sharing. It’s healing to not feel alone.
I just started my ritalin medication at the beginning of the month, oh boy is it life changing. This video describes it perfectly. To me, it's on the same tier of life changingness as my kid being born. Like, it's that significant.
I'm nearly 58 years old and have just found out I have ADHD. 😳 Thank you for your video. I've been afraid that meds might take away who I am & like you, I’m pretty fabulous! 😆 There's no way I want to lose that. You've given me hope & eased some of my many fears. 😘
My son actually embraces some aspects of his ADHD as he can hyperfocus on his music for hrs without ever getting bored. However study is absolute torture despite a high IQ. He is also Dyspraxic
Oh. My. Gah. We are the same. I'm watching this video on a "forced break" because I've been enjoying work so much lately I'll keep going until I drop. :) I just wrapped my first 30 days of stimulant medication (after a diagnosis in August at the age of FIFTY - put THAT in your pipe and smoke it) and everything you share is so resonant and on target it's validation to the extreme. THANK YOU for sharing your experience. I now feel like I have a great resource for friends and family who don't totally understand. And I want your rainbow sweater. I wish we were friends. :)
PS. I call it "circular cleaning." And I warn my husband not to look at my process until I am done, because it doesn't look like I've accomplished anything until then.
thank you so much for sharing your experience! I (37F) just got diagnosed with ADHD at the beginning of December. I started taking Adderall XR a few days later. I remember the day I took the first dose and the meds kicked in, I thought "is this how neurotypical people think all the time?! they have complete thoughts, ONE stream of thoughts rather then 5 of them at once?! WOW!" like the meds calmed my brain down so much that the second day I was actually relaxed for the first time in I don't know how long. It was an incredible feeling. Your video was a suggested video on my youtube when I logged in today (thats how I found your video)
Thanks for sharing Amber - ohhh that's so relatable! Looks like the algorithm has been working some magic with this video which I totally didn't expect! ha 😊 But hey if it's finding people that need to hear it - yay!
Thanks for sharing this. I have been procrastinating getting a diagnosis for over a year now (I'm also 30) and seeing this and hearing how you're feeling really hit home. I think the parts where it was difficult for you to describe actually said more to me than the rest. I'm glad you are feeling great now and this was very inspirational! Thank you!
I can relate to everything you’re saying. Even the IBS! Diagnosed too in September at 47 . So much grief for my past, what I’ve lost, and for what is to come. But so happy to finally know what’s wrong and why I’ve been trying so hard for years and getting nowhere. Thank you for sharing ❤
The way I can relate is honestly uncanny. I've been diagnosed last spring and given the same medication, and the way you describe things is *exactly* how I felt, how I'm still feeling about it. The joy and amazement at things being actually easy, the danger of not taking enough breaks (I've had to stop taking my medication for a week because I was sick but would not let myself rest). I've described it to my family as a big bag of stones that I was carrying all day long. And everything was hard to do because I had this very heavy bag that I had to manage, and everybody around me seemed strong enough to carry their bag with no problem and still do everything, and I was the weak one who wasn't able to. I thought the medication would actually make me stronger, and I could carry that bag more easily. Instead the medication made the bag dissappear. And then I realized that the people around me weren't carrying any bag themselves, and I was in disbelief. Like... really ? Has it always been that easy for all of you ? Anyway, I just wanted to say how much I saw myself in what you said. Thanks you for sharing, makes me more sure that everything works as intended. :)
What are you saying makes me tear up! I don't have a diagnosis but I have the damn bag. And it's really heavy. I really didn't thought about being possible to make it disappear. Thank you for this metaphor!
At almost 40 years of age, I got diagnosed just couple days ago! Just today started my 18 mg, and like you said my doctor will increase the dose slowly. I can’t wait to reach where you reached! This video is extremely valuable for people like me, who are excited but also a bit anxious about this new journey! I’ve been battling procrastination along with many issues I couldn’t solve for the life of me for an annoyingly long time, I’m no longer blaming myself, and can’t wait to power thru the struggles and do my best from now on 🙏 thank you so much for sharing everything with such honesty ❤
Thanks Rachel for sharing this video with others who are in a similar situation. I'm 45 and just been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD following my adult son's diagnosis. We are both now considering our next steps so your experience was very helpful. I'd also be interested in hearing how the medication has affected your IBS symptoms. Thank you again and I hope you continue to benefit from your journey post-diagnosis.
Thanks for watching Elizabeth, and thanks so much for the super thanks! (Wow, so many thanks in one sentence 😅) I'll definitely do a follow up on IBS - i've had quite a bit of interest in that.
We as people with ADHD deserve to be able to slow down and focus You're crying because you're grieving and you're happy that you're feeling normal that's good
Thank goodness! I thought I was alone feeling this way on my first day. I burst out crying but not depressed crying but happy crying. It was like every aches and pains I felt going through anxiety and depression was lifted and I could think and function so much better. Thanks for sharing!
Your day 27 when you talk about reaching out to grasp things but they disappear is exactly how I feel my brain works. I'm 48 and waiting for my assessment for ADHD and ASD. This is the first time I've heard someone describe how my brain/thoughts feel. Thank you so much for sharing x
Its really comforting to hear people's stories on these medications because I've always feared it.. sounds stupid I know but I'm scared of potential side effects or it changing my personality, but these stories are super uplifting
This resonated with me so much. I’m 39 and have been reluctant to get diagnosed, but I struggle in the way that you described very clearly and am going to look into getting tested. Thank you for sharing your experience!!!
This WHOLE VIDEO is so relatable. I feel and have felt so much like you're describing....I literally cried twice during this. I'm taking a break from medication due to trying a bunch in the last year and not finding anything that works for longer than a month. I'm 33 and just got diagnosed last year with inattentive adhd and omg medication is AWESOME (if we can find one that works for a long time). When you talked about your brain essentially just never stopping, when you said you didn't know it was possible to just DO things with no internal fight, when you said knowing how you can be on the medication versus how you feel normally make you feel deficient....I relate so hard.
Hi Rachel, first off thank you so much for taking the time, effort and personal exposure to make this video. The more content like this that reaches the world, the better for everyone’s understanding. So thank you. I was diagnosed last week at the age of 40 with severe ADHD coupled with PTSD from it not having been managed and addressed for so long, and the resultant anxiety and depression. I had reached a point in my life where the struggles associated with functioning daily with my symptoms had become too difficult. The diagnosis and treatment was my last hope. I’m now one week into medication and experiencing everything you have described so eloquently and clearly and to hear someone else express the same feelings, emotions and concerns as me so exactly is really helpful. I’d love to talk more if you wanted another voice in your life. This is the start of a very long journey, and I know from first hand experience just how helpful it is having “like minds” in your life. Thank you again and keep on keeping on c
Your comment about being able to do stuff all day, it is an amazing feeling, but it also gets exhausting. I read that ADHD people have trouble recognizing their own emotions, I started to get kinda irritable after doing a lot for months, it took me a while but I realized that it was because I was overworking myself and not taking time to relax and focus on me, play video games, etc. It is amazing to get stuff done after not being able to your whole life, to just see something needs to be done and doing it, just be careful to not overdo it, I know I did. I'm trying to make sure that at least a few days a week I take an hour or two and just play a relaxing game or watch cartoons or something.
Ironically, it was the exact opposite for me. I actually STARTED having more emotions than dread and rage, and am now capable of understanding how I'm feeling, why, and how to process it. I have STARTED taking some time for myself. I have STARTED reaching out to my friends. Because I can actually focus and transition between tasks so much easier, I'm under less pressure because every second isn't filled with just trying to keep my head above water. I'm amazing at just how differently each person reacts to the medication.
@@marcushoward6560 I agree, on medication I'm not angry/frustrated all the time, I've been working on understanding how I feel and why I feel that way. I've been in cognitive behavioral therapy and that's helped a ton.
@Janna Ledferd Advocating for yourself is big. Medication has helped me feel less overwhelmed, more confident in myself, and I've been advocating for myself a ton. I wish I could have advocated for myself years ago and not get walked all over at my work like I have but at least I can do it now.
I’ve never heard anyone else describe the differences between being on medication and being off of it sooooooo well. I can relate to pretty much everything you’ve said here, from PMS symptoms and the restlessness and the way your brain grasps at thin air… thank you for this. I plan to share with my close family and friends so they can better understand!
I’ve recently been diagnosed at 62. What a relief! A couple of things. I think they are starting to realise that women who get pms symptoms (thank goodness that’s over!) might need a higher dose of stimulant just for a few days because of the hormone variation. Symptoms often get a lot worse in menopause with the loss if oestrogen so it makes sense. Secondly, I’m glad you are taking your med regularly. I look back at my life and wonder what I would and could have been if this condition was actually managed. It’s not something I dwell on; there’s no point. I am sooo relieved to feel more at peace and am now actually learning step by step how to refashion my daily life. It’s just great! I’m so thankful😊
How did you get a dx Linda? I’m 61, my niece has just been diagnosed and everyone says I’m ‘classic’ plus I have physical problems due to hypermobility and injuries and really awful menopause (no HRT) so am pretty much housebound (which might well be hEDS but can’t travel to clinic for proper diagnosis). Don’t mean to over share but getting a bit desperate after years of this crap. All the ADHD videos I’ve watched are US-based and referral/medications etc are v different here. Anyway, v happy you’re doing better, if you’re not UK-based sorry to have bothered you!
@@clarewillison9379 Hi Clare. I’m in NZ. Here we go to our GP to get a referral to a psychiatrist. It is almost impossible to get funded under the public system. Consequently, I paid $800 for a 1 hr appointment and the another $255 for a 15 minute follow up. I had to use my savings but it was worth it. Still sorting med doses etc.
@@lmmaude I’m thinking it’s worth it for the peace of mind (being able to explain myself) and fastest route to trying meds. I got very much worse after giving up smoking and realise I must have been self medicating all these years! I hope you can get medication sorted soon, we still have lives to live and a lot of lost time to make up for! Xx
I realise I have ADHD and I am 70. I feel it is too late for me to go and get a diagnosis and medication but I have been amazed at why I have had problems my whole life!
@@suew000 Hi Sue. I don’t think it’s ever too late as the meds work the day you take them. However, it is all to do with whether you are ok with now. At 62 I decided to at least try the meds to see if it would improve my ability to function both at work and at home - it has. However, while it has quiet ended down the whole of my life, I have realised that I need to put in the work to change habits of a lifetime based on not not even trying because I believe I never finish anything. I have some hope back that it’s worth the effort. My latest adjustment with procrastination is to do the task while speaking with someone on the phone or listening to a podcast or music. Somehow I am less frozen. I am keeping a list of the chore and what I call the ‘motivator’! It’s such fun and that list is there to cope with negative self talk. Good luck, whatever your decision.
Thank you so much for your videos I relate so much with everything you’re saying about before you’ve been diagnosed. I can’t wait to stop being victimised by my own brain. Crying with you, thank you so much, I always thought I was just lazy and over sensitive. Always fighting myself and hating myself. One day things might feel easy. Thank you for your honesty, you’re an inspiration 🤗 now to stop procrastinating getting help 🙃
I appreciate you letting us into your personal struggles and showing your attempts at handling them. For anyone who identifies with this but doesn't yet understand what's going on with themselves and doesn't understand why everything is so difficult. This could be a life changing testimonial for them to stumble upon. I'm also on a journey to untangle the mess inside my head and I'm just now realizing after 40 years that there's medication that really does at least help. It's amazing how you can feel and what you can achieve when you aren't constantly tripping over yourself. I can't even imagine how much I missed out on while I was standing behind myself, pushing me through the day. I just thought it was what everyone else was dealing with, but doing a much better job with it. Instead of saying to myself "maybe something is wrong" I'd wonder "why am I a failure"? Guys if you have a relatively good life, but everyday seems so difficult that you can't enjoy and appreciate the things you know you should be grateful for, then you must go have an evaluation, and you have to keep pushing. The first doctor and the first meds you come to might not be what helps, but keep trying. You've kept trying every day to get where you are now. Remember the cliche saying. "It's not how you fall, it's how you get back up". Don't lose hope!
Idk if I have adhd like my therapists says, but that’s exactly how I feel on the weekend! Overwhelmed, scattered, anxious. Basic tasks feel big. I procrastinate, suffer inside, and just try to get through the day. I’m basically ok during the week when I have work to structure my day.
I have just been diagnosed at 52 and am now waiting on an appointment to sort out medication. Your video has been so helpful. I could relate to everything you said, and part of me is literally aching to experience that change. But I already feel these pangs when I realize that some of my struggles could have been prevented, and I assume that will hit particularly hard when I have experienced the difference. Your experience does help in preparing me for that. Thank you so much for being brave and sharing it.
Ah, hahaha. Man, I am laughing. Listening to you talk is exactly how I talk, I have found my people. Our tempo, frequency, pacing, is fucking 100% identical. The over emotional acting out of no where, from being happy and over the top to really serious in an instant. How much do you sing around the house? I think that's the fun part of emotional irregularity about our disorder. Anways, you have some massive balls doing this. Mad respect.
Thanks Kevin! Haha finding your people is the BEST thing. I sing A LOT, probably quite annoying if you live with me 🤣 its usually cause something I'm doing has sparked an association of a song. It's a fun existence!
Thank you so much for making this video! I am also a female who was just diagnosed with inattentive ADHD in my 30s. I have struggled with my mental health for years (really my whole life), but no matter what I tried beforehand, nothing seemed to work. Ive just started my second week of taking Vyvanse and I relate to your experience so much, I feel like I’m finally on the right track! I have had the same mixed feelings about being reliant on medication but not wanting to turn back…and the feeling of wanting to cry because I didn’t realize life was supposed to feel this easy! I’d also like to hear more about your experiences with IBS and menstrual cycle issues as these are things I’ve also struggled with.
Watching this and seeing the relief you felt when you actually wanted to do things after being medicated gave me hope that when I finally get evaluated by the VA in March, I might finally be able to crawl out of this hole I've been digging myself into for years for reasons I could never understand.
What was your “crawling” like? For me it was being unable to study during graduate school for a subject I really loved. Somehow I squeaked through, but I built such a Wall of Awful around my subject that I became a housewife instead of a college professor.
I discovered ADHD two weeks ago and your channel two days ago. I'm twice your age and I just got diagnosed an hour ago! You're a delightful young woman, a brilliant and brave communicator, and after watching six of your videos, you've already help me make sense of my situation and understand the coming journey. Thank you so, so much!!
I am so very grateful to you for sharing your experience. I was just diagnosed with ADHD, aged 48, and will start titration in just over two weeks. Your experience is really reassuring for me and I haven't see a perspective like this from all the other videos I've watched. Thanks so much and good luck!
Me too 48 yr old mom of 10 yr old… diagnosed few months ago. High functioning saved by running 10k weekly from last year plus omega3 and rhodiola. Scared to start the meds.. have them here. …
I have combined type and the medication is a complete life changer. It’s been very affirming for me. I love how you describe it as “ease” - that is such the right word. It’s like the act of doing life doesn’t feel like a constant fight all the time.
I just wanted to say thank you for making this video, Rachel. I was diagnosed at age 29 with combined type in December 2022. I’m on Elvanse / Lisdexamfetamine at 30 then 50 now trying 40. This video was probably the most “seen” or “understood” I’ve ever felt watching someone’s content around ADHD. I’m still really struggling with dosage / side effects & generally how I feel about myself. Your feelings about how “deficient” you feel you are without meds is exactly how I’ve been feeling all of this week which is I suppose was drew me to UA-cam & to your video. I’m concerned about being on the meds long term for health & travel reasons (controlled/banned substance in lots of places) but I really feel I can’t function without them. I’m probably going to have hyperfocus nosedive into your other videos now instead of getting ready for my day 😅, thanks for sharing your experiences. That’s the kind of bravery I aspire to ❤
this spoke to me so much. ive been in search of someone talking about the symptoms and how it feels on and off meds so i can gain more insight into my own struggles and journey towards getting diagnosed. thank you for documenting this, you've helped more people than you'll ever know
35 here and also in a similar time of my life. I recently had the ' being at ease with the day , with things to do ahead of you' feeling thing you were talking about, and when you tried to describe it it made me feel something, You described it without being able to describe it , pretty well :)
Great video! It's so strangely comforting to see someone with all the same quirks and statements that only I seem to have. At least in my world. Have you heard of guanfacine? Its a non stimulant ADHD (actually a blood pressure med) that worked amazingly for a month until my body adapted. I had no idea how unnecessarily hard everything was until I experienced that month. I'm 41 and only just discovered why I've been so frustrated my entire life.
I got diagnosed in December 2022, almost in time for Christmas 😂 it's been life-changing in a positive way and I'd love to hear about your experiences regarding your IBS. I'm so happy for you and seeing you excited but also the ups and downs, I really saw mirrored everything I've felt since starting medication. Wishing you all the best and thank you for sharing your experiences 😊
I’m 60 and I have struggled all my life with organizing and motivation. I always thought I was lazy. Thanks for this video because your description of what it’s like on/off medication has helped me decide to talk to my doctor about ADHD medication.
This was so relatable. I'm still waiting for diagnosis but I test extremely high on the self screening tests, I'm sure my mum has ADHD, both my son and I have ASD but I'm pretty sure he has ADHD too. Every time I see content like this or read stories about people's ADHD journeys, I feel this "Oh my fucking GOD, I thought that was just me!" type feeling. I'm 41 in March and I've spent my entire life struggling so much! I couldn't hold down a job consistently, because I can't even get out of bed most days. I can't do things like brush my teeth, hair and take a shower every day, let alone regulate my sleep, leave the house, do a job, every day. I can't maintain friendships because it's almost like I forget people exist for stretches of time and i'll think we've not spoken for a few days, or a week or so but it's actually been 8 months or a year. I love cleaning and organising but I can only do it when i'm 'craving it' , I can really only do anything if I'm 'craving it'. I got diagnosed with CPTSD and clinical depression (among other things) and I definitely do have CPTSD but I think a lot of the anxiety and depression symptoms are actually ADHD , like right now, I have clothes to fold and put away and a an important call to make but I just can't do it, I got told this is my depression, that it's motivation issues but I WANT to do the thigs, so badly. My brain is screaming at me "Just do it, you lazy, worthless, piece of shit!!!" but instead I'm vastly oversharing in a UA-cam comment. I also have Body dysmorphic disorder and I recently learned that this can be kind of common in people with untreated ADHD ! I'm not going to lie, I'm terrified, If I don't have ADHD then this could just be it for the rest of my life and that's just soul crushing. If I do have ADHD and I get medication that actually helps then that will be so, indescribably amazing , nut I'm going to be so, so, very angry that I have essentially wasted half of my life and spent all of these years hating myself so profoundly because I've been told I'm just lazy, and messy and over sensitive and dramatic and flaky and weird and impatient and rude and unwilling to learn . Some teachers even called me 'willfully ignorant' and stupid... I'm definitely neither of those. I looooove learning and when I can focus on a thing I REALLY focus on it and I will learn everything about it in no time! My mu used to say that if I could 'learn to apply myself' I could rule the world. I'm super creative but surrounded by half finished projects, half written novels, half finished art pieces, almost finished plays, songs, and a thousand different crafts. I was even going to be published in March 2020 but I could not finish the book. It was so brave of you to be so vulnerable online and I'm so sorry for the essay comment but this video gave me so much hope at a time when I REALLY needed it. If I do get my diagnosis and I get on meds, I'm not expecting miracles, I'd be happy with just existing not feeling impossible . Thank you so much for sharing your journey.
the school of thought at the moment is yes, between 50 to 80% of people who are autistic or with adhd are also the other. They even have a name for it now, it is so common, we are Audhd.
Thank you for your detailed comment. Such echoes of recognition. It’s a painful and isolating journey but hopefully this journey we are now on will bear fruit.
I have been struggling for a bit now... probably my whole life, but more distinctly in the last couple of years, and today I stumbled upon a couple of videos and watched them on a whim, and they hit me like a brick wall. I have in recent times slowly started feeling that maybe all was not fine with me, and that something was holding me back and making me ineffective, and these videos, an online test I did, and finally your video, have shown me that I almost certainly have a certain amount of ADHD. Like you, I have been able to function, and to a certain extent, function well, but I have this same voices-in-my-head or monologuing tendency which can make me look at a problem all day but not get it done, and on other days I solve 3000 of them. I will go to my doctor and try to figure out how to proceed, but I am hoping that this is indeed what the issue is, and that there is a medication which can calm me down and let me focus, like I know I can, but so rarely do. Thank you.
I feel like this really helped me to more fully understand and empathize with people who have ADHD, so I am grateful for you sharing and allowing me that clarity/growth. :)
I am so glad I found your videos. I have recently been diagnosed and have been reluctant to start with stimulants. I think this video was pretty inspiring. You are exactly right about comparing ADHD with visible physical ailments and limitation. We would think twice about getting help.
I was on Biphentin and my life was beyond perfect. It was like the movie limitless. I had all my ADHD super powers (1,000 thoughts per second and hearing every sound all at the same time) but the difference is I wasn't disorganized from it all. I processed ALL of it perfectly. I had 5 conversations at the same time in a group of people. It was the greatest. I also didn't get as angry/frustrated all the time because I didn't feel overwhelmed by everything. Sadly, when you get older, they take you off stimulants due to heart concerns..... 😔
I was just reading a newer study that said it might be okay to stay on low doses in older age, accompanied with cardiovascular monitoring. Could you ask your doctor about it?
Not having to constantly brace yourself for the waves of frustration and overwhelm or even panic is one of the things that really caught me by surprise. I wasn't even aware I was doing it, I was constantly supressing those feelings and that takes up so much energy.
I don't have a diagnosis but feel like I relate a lot to ADHD inattentive symptoms. The thing is though, sometimes I have days, or even days at a time where I'm "on a roll" and do things easily. But I get a nagging fear whenever that happens that it's unsustainable and any day I'm gonna crash, which does eventually happen. Then I get thrown out of the loop and it is hard to get motivated again. I think "if I can't do this thing every day consistently, why even try?" which is ridiculous but I get this all or nothing mentality.
Wow, I know exactly how that feels! It's to the point that I recognize when it is happening and I just rush around trying to get as much done before it passes.
I Do This!! I thought it was because of ADD, which I'm certain I have. But now, after diving head first into the topic of autism spectrum, the concept of "inconsistent productivity" really hit home. Sometimes I can get all the things done for a few days in a row and then POOF! All motivation is gone and I cannot get started.
@@rebeccamay6420 A LOT of people who have autism (actually about 1 in ~68 people) also have attention dysregulation issues, largely due to dopamine shifts and other things. There is even talk of an ADHD/Autism overlap to become a subtype. It can be very helpful in specific situations... most of which... are not useful anymore in an industrialized society. Constantly seeking novel things but also only wanting to eat a specific berry with a specific smell and texture? Great for exploring and hunting! And for staying alive when those delicious edible berries near your village look identical to poisonous berries, but they smell different. ... Not great when you can usually just buy cereal that's relatively safe to eat, premade, by the box. And google maps has done the exploring.
Hello Rachel from Canada! I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 52 and can identify with so much of what you have shared in your videos and what some of the other viewers have shared in their comments. It is a very emotional journey to be diagnosed with ADHD. I have felt anger at how my life could have been incredibly different if I had been diagnosed earlier. I have realized how hard I worked and how I pushed myself to try and be "normal" and how I punished myself with self-hatred and feelings of inadequacy. When I was tested, when I learned about the experiences or symptoms of ADHD I thought I would have felt a great relief. Instead I felt exhausted at the thought of trying to figure out how I function as someone who has ADHD and I was not certain how I felt about medication. I have tried a couple of different medications and have noticed some changes that have been positive but I have not reached that level of being able to function without distraction. Fortunately I have a fantastic and supportive physician so I have faith that we will get there one day. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, it was very brave of you. It is nice to know there is a community of people who understand what we are experiencing and are here to share information and support one another. Stay well.
"Being off my meds brings to my awareness the fact that I am deficient". I feel you sister. You're not alone. Very well said. Seeing the person I am with meds versus without has been very humbling for me to say the least. "Grasping at the air" (when you're trying to work off your meds) yeah I hear you there to. Good video thanks for sharing.
The problem I have been struggling with after starting medication is I am now aware of everything that had built up because it was forgotten or just stupidly difficult and it's a different kind of overwhelmed but it's still overwhelming. I have always coped by just doing what I could when I could and so I just kind of grab onto the first thing I know I can do and I'm not necessarily tackling my actual priorities. I wasn't doing my actual priorities before because they are the most depleting tasks I have but it's frustrating to have this sudden capacity to do things and still not direct it where I want it to go.
I totally understand this! It's how I'm feeling now, 5 months in. There's definitely lots of habits to re-wire and new strategies to learn to know where to put the focus and how to do it in a way that's isn't overwhelming. It's a long process for sure!
I felt like that when I started ssri for anxiety, after 3 weeks all the problems, obsessions, compulsions and all that jazz felt so stupid and unimportant, I could at last leave home without overthinking every step, I could concentrate... amazingly refreshing.
Your comment about your brain grasping resonated with me. I've always visualized dark tendrils extending from my brain, flailing about aimlessly in search of some sort of motivation or positive emotion to latch onto to push me through the day. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but the more I learn about it the more it seems to be the answer.
I just got diagnosed with severe combined ADHD at the age of 24 and am on Vyvanse. The way I see it the medication just puts us on an even playing field with neurotypical people. Us taking our medications is no different to someone who needs to take their heart medication. We have a neurodevelopmental disorder and it needs to be treated. Otherwise we are at a greater risk of getting in car accidents, at developing depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation, and of substance abuse (three things that I have been through because my ADHD was left untreated for so long) It is a bummer that we have to take medication daily but a lot of people with other health conditions need to take medications daily. The hard truth is we ARE reliant on our medication and always will be because without it our ADHD is being left untreated. It isn't some weakness or moral failing to rely on your meds, it is a necessity so that we can live our lives in a functional and safe way.
@UC0VJkVnvp6DC4s8zGXg05xQ I think my psychiatrist with 25+ years experience at the most reputable hospital in my city knows more about my mental health and ADHD as a whole than old mate on the internet x And some advice. You'll never convince me (or any other person who suffers from this disorder) that ADHD isn't real. We are the ones who have to live with it daily and have suffered the consequences of the symptoms associated with it. We are the ones who experience first hand the drastic improvement in our symptoms and quality of life when we take our meds. You won't get anywhere with us mate. All you are achieving here in this comment section is a clear display of your ignorance on the subject of ADHD and the arrogance you possess as an individual. I kindly suggest you educate yourself on this topic and think before you comment in the future.
OMG your description of life without meds is how I feel every day -especially when it comes to looking at my to-do list. I feel a wall of dread rise up between me and the things on the list. I look at the mess and want to (mostly do) give up and go to my happy place (watching youtube). I am undiagnosed, but relate closely with things my ADHD friends have said, and even caught myself saying "my kitchen isn't ADHD friendly". Part of me feels like getting an ADHD diagnosis is a bit of a fad atm because everyone seems to be getting it, and I would be just jumping on the bandwagon if I were to go down that road. Then my rational brain stops me and reminds me that I'm being ridiculous. People aren't being diagnosed because it's 'cool' but because they really do have the condition, and if they didn't have it, the psychiatrist wouldn't have diagnosed it so shut up stupid self doubt! You've convinced me that I should talk to my doctor. Thankyou ❤
Ik what you mean about it seeming like a fad and that also plays into the general stigma associated with any mental health.... but I believe there's just so much more awareness now, it seems like a fad bc so many ppl are suddenly learning! And I've heard many psychiatrists say adhd in particular is one of the most overdiagnosed and underdiagnosed , especially the innatentive type, especially female and adults..... bc it was less known when we were kids in school and not having behavioral issues ans some excellent grades so bo one noticed.... but as an adult life changes, structures crumble and are rebuilt based on life changes and decisions so it just becomes so much more of a struggle. Just my personal experience anyway and I think many I've heard speak of and can relate. Either way get your questions answered for you and your own benefit and if you don't want to tell anyone that's up to you too! Just see what's going to help you ❤
@Capri Quarius totally!!! when I was little in th mid 80s, ADHD was something only naughty boys had. but when I got to school.... I wish I had a dollar for every time I was told to stop talking, to get back on task or to sit still. As I got older, I found ways to manage the lack of stimulation and put things in place to compensate for my inattention, like putting the shoe rack right beside the door or car keys in the dish that I empty my pockets into of an evening.
Hi Racheal, This is was literally the best description. I have adhd/asd diagnosed aged 39. So yeah... I get you been a few years now on meds. It takes a while things to do that helped me. Read the following books... driven to distraction and adhd. 2.0. It massively helps. 👍❤️ It takes time get use to the whole diagnosis. I'm still learning 3 years later.
My parents were really against the idea of medicating me growing up, even though I had been diagnosed borderline combined type as early as 5. My mom was worried about my heart and my dad was the old-fashioned "discipline" type. We briefly tried non-stimulants but they only really fixed my behavioral outbursts. By the time I was 18, I had internalized this idea that taking meds meant that I had given up on the battle with my mind and took the easy way out, that I had no self-discipline or mental strength, that I was a loser. At the start of 2022, I had just moved out on my own for good, my apartment was an absolute horror beyond human comprehension, I was missing work from the depression and excessive drinking to cope, I was eating out every day, and as a result I was barely scraping from paycheck to paycheck. I hated it. I don't like being messy, I love to cook, I like being seen by my coworkers as dependable and hard-working, and it all led to some really low points and the occasional thought about a "permanent solution." I recognized that the problem had reached a breaking point and I needed help, and that I'd rather be a loser than dead by my own hand. I started Concerta a few months back. Upped from 36 to 54 this month. I'm not sure it's the one for me and once the Adderall shortage in the USA has died down I'm probably switching to see if it's a better fit. Even still, meds coupled with 3 months of intense therapy have made a massive difference in my mental state compared to where it was before. My apartment is presentable, my fridge is stocked and I cook every day. My account isn't getting overdrawn anymore and I'm starting to actually put some money away. Best of all, I've quickly become much more present and focused at work and I've been taking on more responsibilities that make me feel like I'm making a difference. I'm genuinely optimistic about things and don't treat my slip-ups like they're the end of the world. I'm proud of myself and I'm happier as a person. So TL;DR - I'm thankful for the diet meth.
this is the most real video I have seen since my diagnostic 1 month ago, i felt all of this things, but!!! i feel different seing that this hell I am living is actually normal, i could actually feel myself expressing the exact same words you said, I hate the process, I find myself taking breathing breaks because I feel sometimes I cannot live in my head, but hey you are still here, that gives me hope for my future
I do not mind being reliant on my Adderall. I can't medicate the autism, so I'll do what I can with the ADHD. I get exactly how you feel though... for me it is a deep pain in the soul that I went so long without knowing. It annoys me, in a sense. It makes no sense to feel that way because I am happy with my life as it is and wouldn't change it. But it is still there and it hurts.
One thing to do when timetravel is possible: to hug the me- before-diagnoses (autism and adhd)-and-medication and say 'you are enough. You are doing enough. All the things that don't work, don't work because they are not for you, not because you are not trying enough.'
I’ve just played your UA-cam video in complete entirety. I want to say thank you so much.💐 The way you say it all makes sense to me … I am not diagnosed with ADHD although a close relative of mine is. The battles you have struggled with on a daily basis pre-medication you’re describing my life… I am 50 years old now And gone through the menopause but I was medicated in other ways by drs much of my life. I’ve had one initial consultation answering lots of questions and on the waiting list to see a consultant for ADHD. You’ve really given me a lot of hope. I’ve subscribed to your channel thank you so much for sharing your journey so far
Those first couple weeks were absolutely mind blowing to me. I couldn't believe other people were just walking around happy, accomplishing things, and not praying to die. So! Many! Decades! Wasted!
I feel ya brother 😊
I feel this. Living with constant internal restlessness is infuriating when you realize that other people just don't have to deal with it.
SAAAAAME
@@Seacrestered Everyone has struggles that we don't know about - especially if they don't say anything about it. Someone may look like they're happy and accomplished, but that doesn't mean they are - or that they will somehow notice you need help. If you want help ask for it. Don't be angry that others aren't mind-readers. We all focus on our own lives and unless we love and care about someone very close to us, no we can't help to everyone or have the energy to notice everyone around us. That is what doctors and help centers are for. Ask for help.
This is called nirvana or enlightenment. The sad part is there are a lot of geniuses running around taking these medication to enhance an already normal cognitive abilities and for most of us they are like superhuman, while they were actually rigging the system
Today has been my first day on ADHD medicine as an almost 34 year old woman and I feel as though I was born with superpowers and its only now that anyone's told me how to use them. I've spent all day having no idea how to articulate what this feels like, so I came to UA-cam to see what other people who had been through it felt. I clicked at random and cried because you're saying exactly what I'm feeling, I just wanted to say that validation has been so important at the end of what has felt like the first day of my life.
This made me tear up!! Here's to a future of harnessing our superpowers 💛
Do you feel like it interferes with the cool parts of our neurodivergent brain?
WELCOME TO THE TRIBE...that was me, 3 months ago. The impact - I'll never forget those first few days/weeks - EVER. I'm 58. I went through a lot of grief and anger, but in a way that I knew would end. I grieved the loss, the wrong diagnoses, the self-medicating, the whole damn lot - then realised I was right where I was...I could accept it...and I just wanted to make every day since absolutely worth living. Welcome to your life; enjoy it. You've earned it X
@@hilarycoombes9994 44 here. Started last February of 2021. Since I took my meds I had no HR issues at work. I was able to hold a really great job for a whole year. Now I am going back go school full time this fall.
I literally cried the first day i took meds. I can actually use my brain. All my creativity and stuff is still there, but i can actually USE it now, instead of just ricocheting around from shiny thing to shiny thing.
i completely understand being scared to be reliant on meds. it's scary to realize how much harder it is to use old coping skills when meds do it way better and without draining you.
Totally! I definitely feel much more positive about it a few more months down the line. I watched a really good video about the idea of being 'dependent' on medication that you may be interested in... ua-cam.com/video/4PTl27tTmfY/v-deo.html
With ADHD we are actually locked out of our human brain, we are unable to understand things at the same level. Think about if you became a chimpanzee when not on meds, it’s more than just coping skills. Of course, it can be done without meds in a lot of cases but the condition steals reality from us
The great thing for me was that after starting medication, I was able to use coping skills better and build more of them. Building these coping mechanisms while on medication eases my anxiety of being reliant. I feel like if I ever need to stop taking my medication I now feel I have a good base to cope with life. Additionally I understand my ADHD better and how to avoid the pitfalls.
Stimulants for ADHD are highly addictive. You either increase the dose and end up getting addicted, or you avoid increasing the dose and have to just deal with the discomfort of dopamine depletion whenever the medicine wears off.
@@echo-trip-1 This is a myth and simply not true! Where did you find research concluding that these low dosages that are prescribed are highly addicting as you claim? Research show that people with ADHD are more at risk of getting addicted to other things such as alcohol, food, shopping, porn, gambling, etc when NOT using the medication, and medication prevents this for the reasons mentioned in the comments above.
“I just didn’t know it was possible for things to feel easy” that hits the nail on the head! 8:29
ys because shes on methylphenidate, and as much as she like the feeling she most likely will make no progress
@@doop445 Did u even watch the clip???
Relatable as heck.
Exactly
@doop445 what you describe is the effect on non-adhd people, it's been studied and measured yes, you feel more concentrated but your performance stays the same.
However, on adhd, the increase on performance is measurable and even felt by people around, again, there are studies for that.
That's why these medications are not "cheating", as some people imply: if you are not adhd, then you don't benefit from them, so there's no point on taking them. If you are, they have a clear benefit that everyone (people living with the affected) can actually see
I worked with a ton of kids with ADHD over the years as an elementary school teacher. When the medication works, that's really just the beginning. They still have to unlearn old habits and learn new ones. When I first started teaching, medication was stigmatized and other teaching professionals would occasionally tell me that ADHD was actually a "myth". I'm glad so much of the politics around it seems to have dissipated. The stigma and denial often led to unhappy, unsuccessful kids.
What kind of old habits do they need to unlearn? I'm an adult trying to figure things out myself. I am on medication, and while things are easier then before I started medication, I feel there's still room for improvement.
One thing I have to be aware of is automatically assuming a new thing will be hard and that I will give up (so why even start...).Is that the kind of thing you mean by old habits?
@rambunctiousvegetable that's not what the study said. It was 30 percent for boys and 70 percent for girls. And boys make up the overwhelming majority of ADHD diagnoses so the median isn't the mean. Regardless, what I think it shows is that age and maturity are important to consider when a doctor is diagnosing ADHD. Are you implying that the disorder is fake? Even the author of the study you mis-cited doesn't believe that.
@@sakhti9962 Sometime kids with ADHD will develop work avoidance strategies, often requiring more effort than the work itself. This can become like a persona, and it can be built into their relationships with teachers and other students. Also, with really bright ADHD kids they will often develop a pattern of completely tuning out the directions and figuring it out themselves, i.e. doing it the hard way. This can even become a point of pride for them, and can be a hard habit to break because they prefer figuring things out entirely on their own. Of course, this isn't always the best way in a classroom, or real life. Sometimes it's just better to read the directions first.
@rambunctiousvegetable Okay. I'm sorry for my tone. I get a little defensive about this topic. Yeah, glasses. I teach privately now, but I'm constantly referring kids to the optometrist, and I explain to every one of my students that you won't know when your vision is bad. But my controversial take on this topic, as someone who's taught for two decades, is that boys and girls should have different start dates for kindergarten. There's a demonstrable difference in their development at that age, and boys are simply behind. We start them too early and retain them too often in k and 1st.
@rambunctiousvegetable I often tell my students a story about my best friend. He noticed in his 40s that night driving had become difficult. He went to get his eyes checked and discovered, due to a cataract, he was completely blind in one eye. He never had any idea until the doctor covered his functional eye.
Oliver Sacks' book The Man Who Mistook His Wife for A Hat has all kinds of fascinating stories about the brain's ability to adapt like this. But it takes work for your brain to do it, and it's ultimately exhausting.
The idea of starting boys 4 months or so after girls in kindergarten has been an unpopular one since I started teaching that's never had even a little bit of traction. It's one of those solutions that everyone close to the problem loves, but everyone in charge of solving the problem hates. So it goes.
Thank you for your absolute honesty. I’m 60 and have just realised what my lifelong “maladjustment disorder” has been about. I’m grief stricken, but I’m not giving up. Going to get a referral to a psychiatrist and follow through…I’m not dead yet!
I just was diagnosed at 61. Shocking. But post diagnosis, sooooo many things in my life finally make sense. So yes. Follow through and get yourself tested. It really helps. And then of course there’s the medication which for me works. And the above video encapsulates a lot of my reactions!
Is 33 to old to realise you have it
@@Tom-zg6sb no!! Diagnosed at 65. If I had only
I’m 60 too and also diagnosed with ‘Adjustment Disorder’ about 10 years ago.
Last year after another decade of being ‘lost in space’ reeling from one crisis seamlessly into the next, I looked into ADHD and a therapist wrote to my GP recommending a diagnosis. Still waiting but it’s getting closer, and in the meantime I’ve just started to explore all this stuff on UA-cam. It’s like there’s a whole world full of people who think like I do and face the same challenges and it fills me with both joy and hope.
At around 5 minutes in when Rachel says ‘there’s some stuff I need to do today, I’ll do them’ made me laugh out loud with tears in my eyes because I get it, that’s NEVER how my life has been! 😂
And the weekend stuff right after it, and so on, it’s soooo comforting to see such an honest and emotional explanation of the realisation of how life was and how it could be when more ‘normal’.
So there’s hope that I may one day see that ‘normal’ thought process myself.
So honest and authentic and relatable.
Thank you.
63 and just realizing by watching videos like these that this must be what I have literally “suffered” from my whole life.
Hearing you talk about your brain feeling like a teenager is how I feel. I always struggled with coming to terms that I might need help because I wasn't sure if something was actually hard, or I was just throwing a tantrum. But I'm realizing that my brain has been throwing a tantrum about everything, including feeding myself and bathing for 35 years now. Also your grasping at air comment about doing simple tasks hit home. It's hard to explain to people who don't feel that way. I used to think it was depression, but talking to a therapist they helped me realize I'm pretty happy. Despite the sad feeling I get scrolling youtube videos in a dirty house with an empty stomach. Haha
Mine is an overwhelmed toddler ;)
Your video gave me a lump in my throat. I was on 36mg for a long while and it helped me quite a lot. My ducks were not in a row yet, but they were at least in a group. The first week of 54mg, I wanted to cry, because I think that is what normal feels like. And I've been missing out for more than 30 f#%%* years! I mostly embrace myself and my weird ass brain, but I think we're allowed to grieve the 'missing time' every now and again.
Natasha ❤I very much enjoy your description of the ducks being in a group but not a row - I can relate! Thanks for watching and sharing. Yes on the grieving missed time - I feel angry about it now and then but in a kind of resolute constructive sense, which I think is oddly motivating. Here's to us and our weird ass brains! 😎
@@rachdoesyoutube please be careful. Understand that any disruption in drug manufacturing or supply chain could bring your world to a grinding halt. I had several issues when hurricanes hit and I was not able to get my refills when life was hell. Then there is the part Doctors don’t tell you, which is once you hit middle age, stimulant based ADHD meds put a major strain of your heart. As soon as your heart starts to show signs of strain they will take you off the meds. You will then go through 3 to 6 months of withdrawal hell. When done your mental state and capacity with be reduced to a lower level brain function than you had before you started the meds. You will also have a persistent feeling of being unclean or dirty, it never goes away. Lastly you will have no motivation to do anything. You will find you can’t do the same tasks that you had done for years. You will remember doing those tasks, but the how you did them will elude you. That will cause you to be sad an depressed. I wish I had never taken ADHD meds. I wish I had just changed my diet, exercises more and learned better coping techniques.
@@anthalas9 I'm so very VERY sorry love. Thank you for sharing because I needed to know this. I've been changing my diet, taking supplements, exercising because the meds my doc described had all these side effects and negative complaints from other people took it. But this video made me really want to give it a shot! But this comment told me exactly what I needed a reminder of. I wish you the best.
Very well said, though I really appreciate being reminded of the benefits of focusing on being my best natural self, even if that doesn't perform to hypercapitalism's expectations... there is always the consideration that the 'dysfunction' in ADHD is actually the culture's demands, not the individual's human self.
Whatever your choices, be honest with yourself, and good luck. X
@@undergroundmotorsportsaus I would concede your point, if it weren’t for the vast amount of documented experiences of others that have gone that have gone through the exact same thing. And we all describe our experience almost identically. It would seem from that evidence that my experience is more the norm vs not coming off ADHD meds. Ask yourself a few questions, 1. Being how many older people do you see taking ADHD meds? 2. What is the end game regarding your heart and health of being on stimulates long term? 3. Additionally what do you think will be your experience after being on the medications for long term and then we have a national or world wide drug shortage. There are all kinds of support groups for people like me, which wouldn’t be the case if my experience wasn’t the more common outcome. The Cleveland clinic has thousands of pages of people talking about how they are dealing with life after ADHD meds and if your not in to scanning medical journals you can head over to Reddit r/adhd and see the stories there as well.
"It brings to my awareness, the fact that I am deffficient"
I felt that
On the upside, we got to develop skills for "easy things" and now with medication those skills are still with us. We were training with a heavy backpack on us to be able to do easy things all the time. When you get your meds for the first time it feels like the heavy backpack of "superpowers" everyone talks about finally transforms into real wings. You got this.
Yessss! Love this!
When I was on concerta, I still HEARD the impulse voices of random thoughts in my head that would normally leave me almost catatonic, but I was able to ignore them in a sense. A random thought didn't stop me in my tracks, I was able to say "Cool story dude, but i'm busy with other things". I love to paint model tanks and 3D print things, normally accomplishing a project can take weeks, months or years. With Concerta it was like "Wait, why on earth would something this simple take me so long?" and i'm able to knock it out in 1-2 days.
I WANT THIS!!! I WOULD BE A GAZILLIONAIRE IF I HAD THIS ABILITY!
Amazing...I totally relate...thank you for sharing ❤
I was diagnosed at 35, I have ADD, bipolar, and a general anxiety disorder. I’m on meds for mood swings, and they help, but when I was put on Methylphenidate my life changed. It was like the clouds around my brain just cleared out. That part when I realized that people can just do things, and can feel at ease, was beautiful snd sad at the same time, because I lost so many time, I struggled all of my life, especially when I became a mom. And now I preache about going to a psychiatrist and get diagnosed. And above all: take the meds if needed. Because this is not a personality trait, is a chemical thing, and can be somewhat fixed. So why not do it. We need to talk more about it to get the stigma out of it.
I really appreciate your video, girl. You are brave, and you’re going to be fine. Thanks for sharing your life, it helps a lot. ❤
Hey! I'd like to ask a question if you don't mind! Would you describe the feeling in your head as "brain fog"? For the last 8 or so years, I've had this hazy feeling in my brain that is hard to describe. Its a lot like trying to drive somewhere but you're struggling to remember the directions you were given so you end up kind of guessing which way to turn. Almost like my short term memory really stinks.
Its become worse as I've aged because as an adult, the world is much less structured and we are hit with an overwhelming amount of stimuli each day
@@mindofmyown333yes check out Dr lenz
Holy shit the whole explanation on day 19 with the PMS is so relatable. You explained my exact feelings. It’s like a weird paralysis. You are sick and tired of sitting and doing nothing but you also don’t have the will power to do anything and nothing that is passive entertainment like TV seems stimulating enough. So you just sit…
This video has decided it for me. I’m going to bring it up to my doctor.
This brought me to tears. I just started my first dose of XR medication today. Won't be on full dosage for 7 more days.
I was diagnosed at 9 but Mom said, "NOPE! He's just a kid!" So I ended up running across a video of a psychiatrist reacting to ADHD TikToks. As I watched it I just said out loud, " Isn't it like this for everyone?" My girlfriend responded 'No'.
Then I started asking everyone I know, "When I talk to you what are you thinking about?", to which every SINGLE person responded, "What you are saying."
I would ask immediately, "What else?", and hear the response, "Nothing".
My mind was blown. I would tell them all I work hard to actively listen but it is hard with on average maybe 8-12 thoughts shooting out at different directions and me following each one until I realized it has been about 5 seconds and I wasn't listening to the person, and then I would rewind in my head to what key words I heard and parse together what they were just talking about.
I THOUGHT EVERYONE DID THAT!
I am 44 years old.
I just got diagnosed after a month long task of appointment after appointment.
Well, back on task. I took my first dosage today and for the first time ever. I got to work. Started working, and didn't stop until it was time to go home. I did everytask I had on my list instead of 1/4 of my usual list. NEVER ONCE did I stop and say, 'NOPE, I will do that later'. I am amazed at how I don't feel anything, like energy or anything but I never once looked at a task and avoided it. I just did it all without thinking. I never pulled out my phone when in an elevator to check Instagram. I didn't turn on any podcasts to distract myself. I just worked. People would talk to me and instead of my stopping what I was doing and start a 15 minute conversation, I would answer make a joke and get back to my current task AND NOT FORGET WHAT THE F I WAS WORKING ON!!!!!!!
I have subscribed and will continue to watch your journey. I am in shock that neuro-typical people experience life like this. By that I mean, without the DREAD of having to start something mundane. Nothing at all was boring today, it wasn't exciting in the least bit but IT DIDNT MATTER!.
Wow. Okay, so the not listening and thinking about 100 other things is also adhd? I'm on my way (hopefully, what if it isn't adhd, am I just a shit person then? AH! Imposter syndrome to the max.) to a diagnosis. I have a test day in August, but my current therapist told me she thinks it's likely it's adhd. I am finding so many little things that people say, hey this is a thing with my adhd, and I'm going "same" almost every time.
I'm convinced i have adhd and after your comment with the conversation how hard for me is to stay focused on person and not fly away, i too was thinking everyone has it. Gotta get diagnosed.
Thankyou
I recently got diagnosed (unofficially though) by a psychologist that I indeed have ADHD (inattentive as far as I know). I always had trouble listening to people and my brain goes wack when more people at once start to talk to me. So many thoughts about other things popup and I can feel my brain being pulled away from the conversation and I can catch myself fading concentration (which wasn't always the case) but bringing myself back to a conversation is nearly impossible. I always feel so rude when it happens, I don't mean to do it, it just happens. Reading your comment gives me hope..
I really appreciate your experience and I really identify! I'm a 54 year old man and always thought that I was "just fucked up". Never knew what was wrong with me until I was diagnosed and the first time I tried the meds I said to my wife "if this is what it's like to be normal, F' you all because this is unfair!" I went through my entire life, from job to job, not ever being able to sit still, except on things I was obsessed with. I will never know what it's like to be able to have a career or anything. Most of my life was spent trying to adapt to my "quirks" and now I know why. I wish I had been diagnosed and had medicated when I was younger!
"I've been tired because I've been doing a lot, not because I'm just tired."
Girl, I feel this deep in my bones. Some days I don't want to take my meds cause I don't want to feel actual tired. But then I remember that the mental gymnastics tired that comes from forcing myself to do barely anything is worse.
You've articulated it all very well.
I cried watching this. I have felt as you put it “deficient“ my entire life. I have always felt like there’s something fundamentally wrong with me because I cannot just do the things. I always compare myself to other people and feel like things seem to come easily for them while I struggle to simply get the laundry done. I like your analogy of dragging your skull through a bed of cauliflower. I always say I feel like I’m trying to run through gelatin. The neuro-typical person just walks through the air, but I have to slog through gelatin just to barely get by. In the last several weeks, I have come to the conclusion that I (like my dad did) very likely have ADHD. I am 42 years old and I have never felt good about myself. I feel like I fail at most things I try to do, and I feel like I have given up on myself. In listening to different podcasts, reading articles, and watching videos like yours, I have come to realize that I don’t have to give up on myself. You are a shining example of what life for me COULD feel like, and you’ve given me hope. From the bottom of my heart - thank you.
Ohhh Erica. I feel you so much on this 💛 I'm glad to have helped. It's a tough journey (I am very much still on it) but as I keep telling myself, you've gotta break down to rebuild for the better! Keep going 🌞
Oh man relating hard to this 🤍 Keep going! 🦾
This made me realize how Inattentive ADHD I am, and that I should probably get meds. I was diagnosed at 10, then parents said I didn't need Ritalin after 1 day of using it, and said I didn't have ADHD because I wasn't hyper. Throughout school into adulthood in my 30s I've frantically dealt with the symptoms on my own thinking I'm an inept person. My brain is always grasping at thoughts, multi-thinking. I constantly forget. I'll see a nearly-finished toilet paper roll 10 times and think "I need to go downstairs to get more" and then as soon as I get up, I've been bombarded with so many other thoughts that I've forgotten the roll again. I've found wet laundry sitting in the washer overnight more times than I can count because I didn't remember it. To complicate things, now I have a toddler that I need to remember to do things for, as well as myself, the cats, my hubby and the house. If meds can help me sanely get through a day without forgetting as soon as I turn my gaze from it, that'd help SO much. I'm going mad over here.
That toilet paper thing is sooooo me.
You are not alone. I am just discovering now at age 42. I am a mom of 3 and I homeschool and feel CONSTANT shame that I just can't do all the things "properly". My initial breakthrough came when I saw a video that was "14 signs that you had a mom with undiagnosed ADHD".....and as I watched I thought, "This is me. This is how my kids are growing up and they are going to be such disorganized underprepared adults because of it." I'm in the processs right now of receiving a confirmed diagnosis, but I tick every box and I can see all the signs that went unnoticed in childhood and the ways that I actually had a certain level of support that would keep my symptoms for raging. For instance, my parents were minimalists (before it was a thing - haha) and so I just happened to live in a house totally conducive to having ADHD. It was a clean slate of a house, easy to maintain and so calming to the brain. As a WAHM my house is an absolute shit-show and a source of constant shame and electrified cotton in my brain. Videos like this really have me interested in trying meds to if I can get my life under control.
I'm 31. I feel like you're lady version of me... how you speak, stutter, go down rabbit holes when explaining things... I've been trying to finally get diagnosed. This is reassuring.
You don’t know me but you literally feel how I feel. And I start my meds tomw. I used the ocean and grasping for help but your description is exactly feels.
I always suspected i had adhd. Then i grew up and became a doctor. Almost screwed up this career because of adhd. Now since I'm a doctor i understand adhd so much better than when i first suspected i had it. I self medicated with a different kind of stimulant in med school - a milder one (power of the knowledge of pharmacology) and the medicine worked. So i made my own diagnosis and I'm so much better for it.
I am also a doctor and I have been struggling with ADHD since my childhood.
I'm a nurse and medical profession is such a struggle for me 😑and now I'm going to seek help
@@stonecold8762how are you doing now?do you take medicines?
@@stonecold8762do you have fybromyalgia
It did for me, I had to drop out in the middle of my 3rd year because it seems my coping mechanism could no longer catch up to my dysfunction, I ended up in a very dark suicidal state. Worst part was that I never struggled learning the material, it always seemed like physical logical subjects were easy to grasp, but my struggle was everything else like homeworks, projects and schedules. I think if I wasn’t born so defective I could’ve become a great doctor.
Great video. I'm envious of people who got diagnosed in much younger ages. Myself: Being at the ripe middle ages, feel so angry and sad, because I feel I could have had a much better quality of life in all areas and had significantly less mental and psychological hardship, stress, suffering, struggle and depression, if I'd been able to get recognition, diagnosis and help.
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Thank you so much for sharing so openly. This was a great video. I appreciate you and others like yourself, out there smashing the stigma about ADHD and neurodivergent brains and existence.
Thank you.
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I can’t tell you how much this all clicks for me. I’m crying right now….just beginning the discovery of the fact that I might have ADHD and not anxiety and different meds might help more. I am booking in to see a specialist ASAP after this. 😢 thank you so much for being able to articulate how I have felt for so long. X
Natalie ♥Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. I totally understand where your head is at right now. I was thinking of sharing another video of my diagnosis process and how that all felt, if you'd find that helpful too? Sending love your way!
It's not medicine it's drugs. It's won't cure anything it will just make you high and dependant and will toxify your body. The cure to ADHD is consistent exercise and good diet and essentially getting super healthy. Doctors will never admit this because it's not proven because you can't exactly get a bunch of ADHD people to get in amazing shape as a scientific test, it's not a practical study, people just won't do it so you'll never have a big enough sample size. Fix your lifestyle and you will fix your brain
Just a reminder, you can definitely have both.
THANK YOU. Diagnosed also around Sept 22 aged 58. I have no idea how I've survived this long, frankly. It was like listening to myself.
I’m 59 recently diagnosed and feel exactly the same. God it’s nuts how r brains really work so differently
52 & just diagnosed, no treatment yet (NHS in Spain is good but slow). Suppose we just have to be happy with the idea of better late than never, but the idea of being 50+ until diagnosed does kind of make me sad. Anyway, better days ahead. Rgds
“Like listening to myself”…was this before or after being medicated?
I just stumbled across your channel. I was diagnosed with combined adhd last week at age 35. Watching your video has made me felt seen. The imposter syndrome, the non stop racing thoughts - I truly didn’t know that this wasn’t neurotypical. I’m speaking to someone this week about medication and I am nervous and excited to see what occurs in this brain of mine.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. ❤
Twinsies..I was just diagnosed at age 35. It's a relief, but I am also worried that the meds won't work and will confirm my imposter syndrome.
Thank you, Rachel! I´m 55 and still undiagnosed, and it´s really very recently that I have understood how much a diagnosis can change my life. Everything you talk about resonates so deeply. It´s clearly not too late. And I´m happy to see that what my generation and those before us had begun to do towards mental health awareness is now showing its fruit with the younger generations, and the way we talk about these things. It´s been a long and painful process for a lot of people, and for generations of undiagnosed and unheard people. I like your channel, keep up the good work 🙏
I'm shaken. This has been like watching those videos where a colorblind person sees color for the first time and everybody cries. Only I am the colorblind one.
Everything you describe about how the day just feels hard, all of the systems and provisions that you need just to get through basic life tasks, being always tired for no reason... I feel it in my bones. I've been circling the idea of getting a diagnose, but this settles it. I'm gonna get one.
I found the video in my feed after watching a lecture about ADHD before.
My sister said this to me when I started medication. It lika color blind person putting those special glasses on for the first time.
She hit the nail on the head with that statement, and it was exactly how I felt/still feel.
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This is the best description I’ve heard of realizing how broken we kinda are, I had no idea! I got my ADHD diagnosis 8 months ago at 43 and was so bewildered, excited, and sad when I realized I could’ve gotten help and functioned somewhat normally long ago. I hope you got your diagnosis.
I'm SO glad to hear you're still taking the medication, and not forcing yourself to suffer through some perceived deficiency. It's very normal for those of us who are neurodivergent or suffering through mental illness to feel scared of being reliant on medication, but your friend was absolutely right: you likely would not feel the same apprehension if it were for a physical ailment without stigma attached. Hoping things are still going well for you! Thanks for being vulnerable & sharing it with us!
My son was greatly helped by the meds since he was in grade school. We tried everything before we put him on them. He is now grown up. Graduated from the university with several deans lists for his studies. As another ADHD person put it he got to know himself in a way that was not possible before. Thanks for your courage posting something quite personal. It is a very valuable video for people considering medication. Thanks.
Is he still on the medication? Or did he stop? The medication will give you the smartest version of you but its not you its the meds... is he married? Children?
OMG! You have described my life in so many ways. I'm undiagnosed at this point in time. I will be seeing a doctor soon because I know something is wrong.
I almost never comment on videos, but I had to let you know this was one of the most helpful and inspiring things I've ever watched. It seems like such a little thing, but as a nearly 37 year old who was first diagnosed at the age of 6, fought with every medication available through high school, and lived a half shambles of an adulthood, your experience has finally cemented the fact that I need more than what I can do myself. Today I am starting the search for a psychiatrist and will be discussing options for medical and therapeutic assistance. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I haven't been evaluated for ADHD yet but I'm in the process of getting it done, yet when I watch this video I can relate to the feeling of being overwhelmed knowing I have things to do and I just can't get my head around how I will do them. It is so frustrating because I can watch other people just do them and can't understand why I can't. I start something with so much enthusiasm and energy and halfway through I would get tired and move on to something else never completing anything I start. It is refreshing to see that being diagnosed and using the medication helps bridge that problem! The tears of joy you got at the beginning and the way you explained how it made you feel is reassuring and good to know. It doesn't change who you are it just gets you motivated enough to go about your business without your brain actively trying to stop you. Great video and thanks for sharing your experience!
Side note - I watched a video of a Psychiatrist Dr Stephen Humphries talking about ADHD meds and he says one has to look at them like a pair of glasses and not necessarily as medication but it is nice to see someone talk about how they felt and what it did for them!
Your video has so accurately captured my experience this past week having started Vivanse (a stimulant). So much so, I am going to ask my husband to watch this to save me the energy of trying to put into words the roller coaster of thoughts and emotions I’ve had. At 49yo, it’s been a long hard road and it’s sad knowing it didn’t have to be so difficult all these years. I am so happy for you that you found “the answer” so young….even though it may not feel that way now. Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤ from 🇨🇦
This made me want to cry. I've been on a path of self discovery and I've been trying to find the causes behind some of my mental struggles, particularly my anxiety. I had a friend with severe ADHD who functioned in a very different way from me growing up, so I never really considered ADHD as an option. But the more research I do the more I realize I definitely have ADHD, and this video in particular just broke me. So many of the mental battles that you were struggling to put into words resonated with me in such a powerful way. That "grasping at air" sort of generalized anxiety is something that I fight with all the time, and it only goes away when I've managed to totally immerse myself in a task. The scattergun approach, convincing yourself you don't want to swim, and realizing you could be using coping skills right now but just *not being able to* are all things that have to deal with every day. Every time you described your experience with random noises and arm flapping I somehow knew exactly what you were trying to convey.
I'm still wondering where I fall on the spectrum between ADHD, Autism, or some combination of both, but this video took a lot of miscellaneous observations about my experience and clicked them into place together. The jury is still out on the autism (I have a lot of autistic traits that could easily be explained away by ADHD + social anxiety) but I'm going to talk to my therapist and start going down the path of getting medicated. Thank you so much for doing this.
I’m 35 and undiagnosed because my doctor is reluctant to refer me. And my self-diagnosed adhd stops me from being more proactive with pushing for a diagnosis, despite knowing it’s something I need 😅
I cried watching this video, imagining how it must feel to not feel like you’re climbing a mountain any time the smallest task needs completing.
Thank you for sharing your journey. I am so happy for you ❤
Watching this is making me cry… my son is on the waiting list to be tested for ADHD and Iv been told I also show “typical” symptoms. Iv been doing my research and now I’m convinced I have ADHD. How you describe your symptoms off your meds are exactly how I am! I always thought this was normal and I just couldn’t cope with life but now I know there’s a reason I don’t cope xx
Thank you for your amazing explanation of your life before and after meds xx
I am undiagnosed ADHD thus far, but your description of your internal struggles is EXACTLY what my internal life is like. I have an intake appointment with a psychiatrist at the end of next month. Fingers crossed that I can get some help like this.
@@acmhfmggru lol, what a prick
How did it go?
@@sameir5489 I'm assuming they meant at the end of February, so it probably hasn't happened yet.
Good luck to you, OP!
so how did it go? I am undiagnosed but I'm 10000000% certain that I have ADHD inattentive type.
@@dvl973 I was diagnosed with ADHD (and ASD) but since I didn’t have a primary care provider (GP if you’re British) I have not been prescribed medication. There also happens to be an ADHD medicine shortage in my area. I finally overcame the Catch-22, so I have an appointment with a PCP/GP this month, so hopefully a prescription is forthcoming. The situation is a little different for my children (their diagnosis came first, which is what opened up my eyes to the possibility that I had it). Because they have their own pediatrician we were able to get them started on medication. It has been life changing for the both of them! My older child had a neurotypical moment the other day when he said, “I wanted to doodle in class, but the medication made me pay attention instead.” My younger child’s confidence has grown tremendously now that she can focus in class. Her grades have improved a whole lot; as has her self-efficacy. I’m really proud of them both for their progress, but it has been an ABSOLUTE NIGHTMARE trying to find their meds and we’ve had to resort to prescription-hopping. Therefore, even if I do get a prescription, I might not fill it; the thought of depriving a child of the ability to be their best self at school troubles me. I’ve squeaked by this far without meds; I can probably wait until the manufacturers ramp up production, but I long to have control over my brain so I can get things done.
I haven’t been diagnosed yet but everything you’ve explained about how you felt is exactly how i’ve felt my whole life. Thanks for sharing your experience, this video has encouraged me to try to get diagnosed and see if I can get on medication.
Your emotions to starting medication has really mirrored my experiences. The grief you feel at realising how easy life could have been and how you’ve been living on hard mode. The anxiety around needing medication and the want to not need it and feeling bad for taking it. Thank you for sharing. It’s healing to not feel alone.
I just started my ritalin medication at the beginning of the month, oh boy is it life changing. This video describes it perfectly. To me, it's on the same tier of life changingness as my kid being born. Like, it's that significant.
I'm nearly 58 years old and have just found out I have ADHD. 😳 Thank you for your video. I've been afraid that meds might take away who I am & like you, I’m pretty fabulous! 😆 There's no way I want to lose that. You've given me hope & eased some of my many fears. 😘
I highly suspect I am at 52 as my son has been dx.
My son actually embraces some aspects of his ADHD as he can hyperfocus on his music for hrs without ever getting bored. However study is absolute torture despite a high IQ. He is also Dyspraxic
Oh. My. Gah. We are the same. I'm watching this video on a "forced break" because I've been enjoying work so much lately I'll keep going until I drop. :) I just wrapped my first 30 days of stimulant medication (after a diagnosis in August at the age of FIFTY - put THAT in your pipe and smoke it) and everything you share is so resonant and on target it's validation to the extreme. THANK YOU for sharing your experience. I now feel like I have a great resource for friends and family who don't totally understand. And I want your rainbow sweater. I wish we were friends. :)
PS. I call it "circular cleaning." And I warn my husband not to look at my process until I am done, because it doesn't look like I've accomplished anything until then.
Hey Amy, thanks for sharing your story and watching!! 😊
thank you so much for sharing your experience! I (37F) just got diagnosed with ADHD at the beginning of December. I started taking Adderall XR a few days later. I remember the day I took the first dose and the meds kicked in, I thought "is this how neurotypical people think all the time?! they have complete thoughts, ONE stream of thoughts rather then 5 of them at once?! WOW!" like the meds calmed my brain down so much that the second day I was actually relaxed for the first time in I don't know how long. It was an incredible feeling. Your video was a suggested video on my youtube when I logged in today (thats how I found your video)
Thanks for sharing Amber - ohhh that's so relatable! Looks like the algorithm has been working some magic with this video which I totally didn't expect! ha 😊 But hey if it's finding people that need to hear it - yay!
I'm on day 3. I'm almost convinced us ND folk all live the same life sometimes. Thanks for being so open, made me sob in bits.
Thanks for sharing this. I have been procrastinating getting a diagnosis for over a year now (I'm also 30) and seeing this and hearing how you're feeling really hit home. I think the parts where it was difficult for you to describe actually said more to me than the rest. I'm glad you are feeling great now and this was very inspirational! Thank you!
I can relate to everything you’re saying. Even the IBS! Diagnosed too in September at 47 . So much grief for my past, what I’ve lost, and for what is to come. But so happy to finally know what’s wrong and why I’ve been trying so hard for years and getting nowhere. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thanks for watching and commenting Michelle 💛 Totally relate to all these feelings. Onwards and upwards!
The way I can relate is honestly uncanny. I've been diagnosed last spring and given the same medication, and the way you describe things is *exactly* how I felt, how I'm still feeling about it. The joy and amazement at things being actually easy, the danger of not taking enough breaks (I've had to stop taking my medication for a week because I was sick but would not let myself rest). I've described it to my family as a big bag of stones that I was carrying all day long. And everything was hard to do because I had this very heavy bag that I had to manage, and everybody around me seemed strong enough to carry their bag with no problem and still do everything, and I was the weak one who wasn't able to.
I thought the medication would actually make me stronger, and I could carry that bag more easily.
Instead the medication made the bag dissappear. And then I realized that the people around me weren't carrying any bag themselves, and I was in disbelief. Like... really ? Has it always been that easy for all of you ?
Anyway, I just wanted to say how much I saw myself in what you said. Thanks you for sharing, makes me more sure that everything works as intended. :)
What are you saying makes me tear up! I don't have a diagnosis but I have the damn bag. And it's really heavy. I really didn't thought about being possible to make it disappear. Thank you for this metaphor!
I'm 57, just diagnosed, just about to start meds. Very interested in your bag of stones, I'm quite curious to see how I feel on meds.
@@crazygreenlady7907 Please keep us updated. All the best!
At almost 40 years of age, I got diagnosed just couple days ago! Just today started my 18 mg, and like you said my doctor will increase the dose slowly. I can’t wait to reach where you reached! This video is extremely valuable for people like me, who are excited but also a bit anxious about this new journey! I’ve been battling procrastination along with many issues I couldn’t solve for the life of me for an annoyingly long time, I’m no longer blaming myself, and can’t wait to power thru the struggles and do my best from now on 🙏 thank you so much for sharing everything with such honesty ❤
Thanks Rachel for sharing this video with others who are in a similar situation. I'm 45 and just been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD following my adult son's diagnosis. We are both now considering our next steps so your experience was very helpful. I'd also be interested in hearing how the medication has affected your IBS symptoms. Thank you again and I hope you continue to benefit from your journey post-diagnosis.
Thanks for watching Elizabeth, and thanks so much for the super thanks! (Wow, so many thanks in one sentence 😅) I'll definitely do a follow up on IBS - i've had quite a bit of interest in that.
We as people with ADHD deserve to be able to slow down and focus You're crying because you're grieving and you're happy that you're feeling normal that's good
This has made it sooo clear I have ADHD! I desperately want a diagnosis. Thank you for sharing your video. Xx
Thank goodness! I thought I was alone feeling this way on my first day. I burst out crying but not depressed crying but happy crying. It was like every aches and pains I felt going through anxiety and depression was lifted and I could think and function so much better. Thanks for sharing!
Your day 27 when you talk about reaching out to grasp things but they disappear is exactly how I feel my brain works. I'm 48 and waiting for my assessment for ADHD and ASD. This is the first time I've heard someone describe how my brain/thoughts feel. Thank you so much for sharing x
I've been on meds for a few weeks now and this video is so f***ing relatable
Its really comforting to hear people's stories on these medications because I've always feared it.. sounds stupid I know but I'm scared of potential side effects or it changing my personality, but these stories are super uplifting
They don't have a permanent effect, so you can just stop taking them, if you don't like the effect, or just take them on days where you need them.
This resonated with me so much. I’m 39 and have been reluctant to get diagnosed, but I struggle in the way that you described very clearly and am going to look into getting tested. Thank you for sharing your experience!!!
This WHOLE VIDEO is so relatable. I feel and have felt so much like you're describing....I literally cried twice during this. I'm taking a break from medication due to trying a bunch in the last year and not finding anything that works for longer than a month. I'm 33 and just got diagnosed last year with inattentive adhd and omg medication is AWESOME (if we can find one that works for a long time). When you talked about your brain essentially just never stopping, when you said you didn't know it was possible to just DO things with no internal fight, when you said knowing how you can be on the medication versus how you feel normally make you feel deficient....I relate so hard.
knowing your problem is one thing but knowing you are not alone in this, is empowering, enlightening, and fragile at the same time.
Ooof, I feel that.
Hi Rachel, first off thank you so much for taking the time, effort and personal exposure to make this video. The more content like this that reaches the world, the better for everyone’s understanding. So thank you.
I was diagnosed last week at the age of 40 with severe ADHD coupled with PTSD from it not having been managed and addressed for so long, and the resultant anxiety and depression. I had reached a point in my life where the struggles associated with functioning daily with my symptoms had become too difficult. The diagnosis and treatment was my last hope.
I’m now one week into medication and experiencing everything you have described so eloquently and clearly and to hear someone else express the same feelings, emotions and concerns as me so exactly is really helpful.
I’d love to talk more if you wanted another voice in your life. This is the start of a very long journey, and I know from first hand experience just how helpful it is having “like minds” in your life.
Thank you again and keep on keeping on c
Thank you for this. Makes me feel less alone, like there's people out there who think like me...plus you're adorable.
Your comment about being able to do stuff all day, it is an amazing feeling, but it also gets exhausting. I read that ADHD people have trouble recognizing their own emotions, I started to get kinda irritable after doing a lot for months, it took me a while but I realized that it was because I was overworking myself and not taking time to relax and focus on me, play video games, etc. It is amazing to get stuff done after not being able to your whole life, to just see something needs to be done and doing it, just be careful to not overdo it, I know I did. I'm trying to make sure that at least a few days a week I take an hour or two and just play a relaxing game or watch cartoons or something.
Ironically, it was the exact opposite for me. I actually STARTED having more emotions than dread and rage, and am now capable of understanding how I'm feeling, why, and how to process it. I have STARTED taking some time for myself. I have STARTED reaching out to my friends. Because I can actually focus and transition between tasks so much easier, I'm under less pressure because every second isn't filled with just trying to keep my head above water. I'm amazing at just how differently each person reacts to the medication.
@@marcushoward6560 I agree, on medication I'm not angry/frustrated all the time, I've been working on understanding how I feel and why I feel that way. I've been in cognitive behavioral therapy and that's helped a ton.
@Janna Ledferd Advocating for yourself is big. Medication has helped me feel less overwhelmed, more confident in myself, and I've been advocating for myself a ton. I wish I could have advocated for myself years ago and not get walked all over at my work like I have but at least I can do it now.
I’ve never heard anyone else describe the differences between being on medication and being off of it sooooooo well. I can relate to pretty much everything you’ve said here, from PMS symptoms and the restlessness and the way your brain grasps at thin air… thank you for this. I plan to share with my close family and friends so they can better understand!
I’ve recently been diagnosed at 62. What a relief! A couple of things. I think they are starting to realise that women who get pms symptoms (thank goodness that’s over!) might need a higher dose of stimulant just for a few days because of the hormone variation. Symptoms often get a lot worse in menopause with the loss if oestrogen so it makes sense. Secondly, I’m glad you are taking your med regularly. I look back at my life and wonder what I would and could have been if this condition was actually managed. It’s not something I dwell on; there’s no point. I am sooo relieved to feel more at peace and am now actually learning step by step how to refashion my daily life. It’s just great! I’m so thankful😊
How did you get a dx Linda? I’m 61, my niece has just been diagnosed and everyone says I’m ‘classic’ plus I have physical problems due to hypermobility and injuries and really awful menopause (no HRT) so am pretty much housebound (which might well be hEDS but can’t travel to clinic for proper diagnosis). Don’t mean to over share but getting a bit desperate after years of this crap. All the ADHD videos I’ve watched are US-based and referral/medications etc are v different here. Anyway, v happy you’re doing better, if you’re not UK-based sorry to have bothered you!
@@clarewillison9379 Hi Clare. I’m in NZ. Here we go to our GP to get a referral to a psychiatrist. It is almost impossible to get funded under the public system. Consequently, I paid $800 for a 1 hr appointment and the another $255 for a 15 minute follow up. I had to use my savings but it was worth it. Still sorting med doses etc.
@@lmmaude I’m thinking it’s worth it for the peace of mind (being able to explain myself) and fastest route to trying meds. I got very much worse after giving up smoking and realise I must have been self medicating all these years! I hope you can get medication sorted soon, we still have lives to live and a lot of lost time to make up for! Xx
I realise I have ADHD and I am 70. I feel it is too late for me to go and get a diagnosis and medication but I have been amazed at why I have had problems my whole life!
@@suew000 Hi Sue. I don’t think it’s ever too late as the meds work the day you take them. However, it is all to do with whether you are ok with now. At 62 I decided to at least try the meds to see if it would improve my ability to function both at work and at home - it has. However, while it has quiet ended down the whole of my life, I have realised that I need to put in the work to change habits of a lifetime based on not not even trying because I believe I never finish anything. I have some hope back that it’s worth the effort. My latest adjustment with procrastination is to do the task while speaking with someone on the phone or listening to a podcast or music. Somehow I am less frozen. I am keeping a list of the chore and what I call the ‘motivator’! It’s such fun and that list is there to cope with negative self talk. Good luck, whatever your decision.
Thank you so much for your videos I relate so much with everything you’re saying about before you’ve been diagnosed. I can’t wait to stop being victimised by my own brain. Crying with you, thank you so much, I always thought I was just lazy and over sensitive. Always fighting myself and hating myself. One day things might feel easy. Thank you for your honesty, you’re an inspiration 🤗 now to stop procrastinating getting help 🙃
Thanks for being here!! 💛
I appreciate you letting us into your personal struggles and showing your attempts at handling them. For anyone who identifies with this but doesn't yet understand what's going on with themselves and doesn't understand why everything is so difficult. This could be a life changing testimonial for them to stumble upon. I'm also on a journey to untangle the mess inside my head and I'm just now realizing after 40 years that there's medication that really does at least help. It's amazing how you can feel and what you can achieve when you aren't constantly tripping over yourself. I can't even imagine how much I missed out on while I was standing behind myself, pushing me through the day. I just thought it was what everyone else was dealing with, but doing a much better job with it. Instead of saying to myself "maybe something is wrong" I'd wonder "why am I a failure"? Guys if you have a relatively good life, but everyday seems so difficult that you can't enjoy and appreciate the things you know you should be grateful for, then you must go have an evaluation, and you have to keep pushing. The first doctor and the first meds you come to might not be what helps, but keep trying. You've kept trying every day to get where you are now. Remember the cliche saying. "It's not how you fall, it's how you get back up". Don't lose hope!
Idk if I have adhd like my therapists says, but that’s exactly how I feel on the weekend! Overwhelmed, scattered, anxious. Basic tasks feel big. I procrastinate, suffer inside, and just try to get through the day. I’m basically ok during the week when I have work to structure my day.
I have just been diagnosed at 52 and am now waiting on an appointment to sort out medication. Your video has been so helpful. I could relate to everything you said, and part of me is literally aching to experience that change. But I already feel these pangs when I realize that some of my struggles could have been prevented, and I assume that will hit particularly hard when I have experienced the difference. Your experience does help in preparing me for that. Thank you so much for being brave and sharing it.
Ah, hahaha. Man, I am laughing. Listening to you talk is exactly how I talk, I have found my people. Our tempo, frequency, pacing, is fucking 100% identical. The over emotional acting out of no where, from being happy and over the top to really serious in an instant. How much do you sing around the house? I think that's the fun part of emotional irregularity about our disorder. Anways, you have some massive balls doing this. Mad respect.
Thanks Kevin! Haha finding your people is the BEST thing. I sing A LOT, probably quite annoying if you live with me 🤣 its usually cause something I'm doing has sparked an association of a song. It's a fun existence!
Thank you so much for making this video! I am also a female who was just diagnosed with inattentive ADHD in my 30s. I have struggled with my mental health for years (really my whole life), but no matter what I tried beforehand, nothing seemed to work. Ive just started my second week of taking Vyvanse and I relate to your experience so much, I feel like I’m finally on the right track! I have had the same mixed feelings about being reliant on medication but not wanting to turn back…and the feeling of wanting to cry because I didn’t realize life was supposed to feel this easy! I’d also like to hear more about your experiences with IBS and menstrual cycle issues as these are things I’ve also struggled with.
Watching this and seeing the relief you felt when you actually wanted to do things after being medicated gave me hope that when I finally get evaluated by the VA in March, I might finally be able to crawl out of this hole I've been digging myself into for years for reasons I could never understand.
What was your “crawling” like? For me it was being unable to study during graduate school for a subject I really loved. Somehow I squeaked through, but I built such a Wall of Awful around my subject that I became a housewife instead of a college professor.
I discovered ADHD two weeks ago and your channel two days ago. I'm twice your age and I just got diagnosed an hour ago! You're a delightful young woman, a brilliant and brave communicator, and after watching six of your videos, you've already help me make sense of my situation and understand the coming journey. Thank you so, so much!!
Daviiiiiid! That's so lovely. Thanks so much. I'm glad to have helped 💛
I am so very grateful to you for sharing your experience. I was just diagnosed with ADHD, aged 48, and will start titration in just over two weeks. Your experience is really reassuring for me and I haven't see a perspective like this from all the other videos I've watched. Thanks so much and good luck!
Thanks so much for watching Chris and taking the time to comment! Good luck to you too - we're all in this together!
Me too 48 yr old mom of 10 yr old… diagnosed few months ago. High functioning saved by running 10k weekly from last year plus omega3 and rhodiola. Scared to start the meds.. have them here. …
I have combined type and the medication is a complete life changer. It’s been very affirming for me. I love how you describe it as “ease” - that is such the right word. It’s like the act of doing life doesn’t feel like a constant fight all the time.
I just wanted to say thank you for making this video, Rachel. I was diagnosed at age 29 with combined type in December 2022. I’m on Elvanse / Lisdexamfetamine at 30 then 50 now trying 40. This video was probably the most “seen” or “understood” I’ve ever felt watching someone’s content around ADHD. I’m still really struggling with dosage / side effects & generally how I feel about myself. Your feelings about how “deficient” you feel you are without meds is exactly how I’ve been feeling all of this week which is I suppose was drew me to UA-cam & to your video. I’m concerned about being on the meds long term for health & travel reasons (controlled/banned substance in lots of places) but I really feel I can’t function without them. I’m probably going to have hyperfocus nosedive into your other videos now instead of getting ready for my day 😅, thanks for sharing your experiences. That’s the kind of bravery I aspire to ❤
Thanks for being here and watching 💛
this spoke to me so much. ive been in search of someone talking about the symptoms and how it feels on and off meds so i can gain more insight into my own struggles and journey towards getting diagnosed. thank you for documenting this, you've helped more people than you'll ever know
Thank you!
35 here and also in a similar time of my life. I recently had the ' being at ease with the day , with things to do ahead of you' feeling thing you were talking about, and when you tried to describe it it made me feel something, You described it without being able to describe it , pretty well :)
Great video! It's so strangely comforting to see someone with all the same quirks and statements that only I seem to have. At least in my world. Have you heard of guanfacine? Its a non stimulant ADHD (actually a blood pressure med) that worked amazingly for a month until my body adapted. I had no idea how unnecessarily hard everything was until I experienced that month. I'm 41 and only just discovered why I've been so frustrated my entire life.
I got diagnosed in December 2022, almost in time for Christmas 😂 it's been life-changing in a positive way and I'd love to hear about your experiences regarding your IBS. I'm so happy for you and seeing you excited but also the ups and downs, I really saw mirrored everything I've felt since starting medication.
Wishing you all the best and thank you for sharing your experiences 😊
Thanks Christoph 😊 and thanks for sharing your experiences too! I'll definitely do a future video about IBS.
I’m 60 and I have struggled all my life with organizing and motivation. I always thought I was lazy. Thanks for this video because your description of what it’s like on/off medication has helped me decide to talk to my doctor about ADHD medication.
This was so relatable. I'm still waiting for diagnosis but I test extremely high on the self screening tests, I'm sure my mum has ADHD, both my son and I have ASD but I'm pretty sure he has ADHD too. Every time I see content like this or read stories about people's ADHD journeys, I feel this "Oh my fucking GOD, I thought that was just me!" type feeling.
I'm 41 in March and I've spent my entire life struggling so much! I couldn't hold down a job consistently, because I can't even get out of bed most days. I can't do things like brush my teeth, hair and take a shower every day, let alone regulate my sleep, leave the house, do a job, every day. I can't maintain friendships because it's almost like I forget people exist for stretches of time and i'll think we've not spoken for a few days, or a week or so but it's actually been 8 months or a year. I love cleaning and organising but I can only do it when i'm 'craving it' , I can really only do anything if I'm 'craving it'. I got diagnosed with CPTSD and clinical depression (among other things) and I definitely do have CPTSD but I think a lot of the anxiety and depression symptoms are actually ADHD , like right now, I have clothes to fold and put away and a an important call to make but I just can't do it, I got told this is my depression, that it's motivation issues but I WANT to do the thigs, so badly. My brain is screaming at me "Just do it, you lazy, worthless, piece of shit!!!" but instead I'm vastly oversharing in a UA-cam comment. I also have Body dysmorphic disorder and I recently learned that this can be kind of common in people with untreated ADHD !
I'm not going to lie, I'm terrified, If I don't have ADHD then this could just be it for the rest of my life and that's just soul crushing. If I do have ADHD and I get medication that actually helps then that will be so, indescribably amazing , nut I'm going to be so, so, very angry that I have essentially wasted half of my life and spent all of these years hating myself so profoundly because I've been told I'm just lazy, and messy and over sensitive and dramatic and flaky and weird and impatient and rude and unwilling to learn . Some teachers even called me 'willfully ignorant' and stupid... I'm definitely neither of those. I looooove learning and when I can focus on a thing I REALLY focus on it and I will learn everything about it in no time! My mu used to say that if I could 'learn to apply myself' I could rule the world. I'm super creative but surrounded by half finished projects, half written novels, half finished art pieces, almost finished plays, songs, and a thousand different crafts. I was even going to be published in March 2020 but I could not finish the book. It was so brave of you to be so vulnerable online and I'm so sorry for the essay comment but this video gave me so much hope at a time when I REALLY needed it. If I do get my diagnosis and I get on meds, I'm not expecting miracles, I'd be happy with just existing not feeling impossible . Thank you so much for sharing your journey.
the school of thought at the moment is yes, between 50 to 80% of people who are autistic or with adhd are also the other. They even have a name for it now, it is so common, we are Audhd.
Thank you for your detailed comment. Such echoes of recognition. It’s a painful and isolating journey but hopefully this journey we are now on will bear fruit.
I have been struggling for a bit now... probably my whole life, but more distinctly in the last couple of years, and today I stumbled upon a couple of videos and watched them on a whim, and they hit me like a brick wall. I have in recent times slowly started feeling that maybe all was not fine with me, and that something was holding me back and making me ineffective, and these videos, an online test I did, and finally your video, have shown me that I almost certainly have a certain amount of ADHD. Like you, I have been able to function, and to a certain extent, function well, but I have this same voices-in-my-head or monologuing tendency which can make me look at a problem all day but not get it done, and on other days I solve 3000 of them. I will go to my doctor and try to figure out how to proceed, but I am hoping that this is indeed what the issue is, and that there is a medication which can calm me down and let me focus, like I know I can, but so rarely do. Thank you.
I feel like this really helped me to more fully understand and empathize with people who have ADHD, so I am grateful for you sharing and allowing me that clarity/growth. :)
I am so glad I found your videos. I have recently been diagnosed and have been reluctant to start with stimulants. I think this video was pretty inspiring. You are exactly right about comparing ADHD with visible physical ailments and limitation. We would think twice about getting help.
I was on Biphentin and my life was beyond perfect. It was like the movie limitless. I had all my ADHD super powers (1,000 thoughts per second and hearing every sound all at the same time) but the difference is I wasn't disorganized from it all. I processed ALL of it perfectly. I had 5 conversations at the same time in a group of people. It was the greatest.
I also didn't get as angry/frustrated all the time because I didn't feel overwhelmed by everything.
Sadly, when you get older, they take you off stimulants due to heart concerns..... 😔
I was just reading a newer study that said it might be okay to stay on low doses in older age, accompanied with cardiovascular monitoring. Could you ask your doctor about it?
Not having to constantly brace yourself for the waves of frustration and overwhelm or even panic is one of the things that really caught me by surprise. I wasn't even aware I was doing it, I was constantly supressing those feelings and that takes up so much energy.
I don't have a diagnosis but feel like I relate a lot to ADHD inattentive symptoms. The thing is though, sometimes I have days, or even days at a time where I'm "on a roll" and do things easily. But I get a nagging fear whenever that happens that it's unsustainable and any day I'm gonna crash, which does eventually happen. Then I get thrown out of the loop and it is hard to get motivated again. I think "if I can't do this thing every day consistently, why even try?" which is ridiculous but I get this all or nothing mentality.
Wow, I know exactly how that feels! It's to the point that I recognize when it is happening and I just rush around trying to get as much done before it passes.
I Do This!!
I thought it was because of ADD, which I'm certain I have. But now, after diving head first into the topic of autism spectrum, the concept of "inconsistent productivity" really hit home. Sometimes I can get all the things done for a few days in a row and then POOF! All motivation is gone and I cannot get started.
@@rebeccamay6420 A LOT of people who have autism (actually about 1 in ~68 people) also have attention dysregulation issues, largely due to dopamine shifts and other things. There is even talk of an ADHD/Autism overlap to become a subtype.
It can be very helpful in specific situations... most of which... are not useful anymore in an industrialized society. Constantly seeking novel things but also only wanting to eat a specific berry with a specific smell and texture? Great for exploring and hunting! And for staying alive when those delicious edible berries near your village look identical to poisonous berries, but they smell different. ... Not great when you can usually just buy cereal that's relatively safe to eat, premade, by the box. And google maps has done the exploring.
Hello Rachel from Canada! I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 52 and can identify with so much of what you have shared in your videos and what some of the other viewers have shared in their comments. It is a very emotional journey to be diagnosed with ADHD. I have felt anger at how my life could have been incredibly different if I had been diagnosed earlier. I have realized how hard I worked and how I pushed myself to try and be "normal" and how I punished myself with self-hatred and feelings of inadequacy.
When I was tested, when I learned about the experiences or symptoms of ADHD I thought I would have felt a great relief. Instead I felt exhausted at the thought of trying to figure out how I function as someone who has ADHD and I was not certain how I felt about medication. I have tried a couple of different medications and have noticed some changes that have been positive but I have not reached that level of being able to function without distraction. Fortunately I have a fantastic and supportive physician so I have faith that we will get there one day.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey, it was very brave of you. It is nice to know there is a community of people who understand what we are experiencing and are here to share information and support one another. Stay well.
"Being off my meds brings to my awareness the fact that I am deficient". I feel you sister. You're not alone. Very well said. Seeing the person I am with meds versus without has been very humbling for me to say the least. "Grasping at the air" (when you're trying to work off your meds) yeah I hear you there to. Good video thanks for sharing.
Concerta really helped my PMDD go down to regular people PMS😅 Concerta really helps me, and can relate to your journey!
The problem I have been struggling with after starting medication is I am now aware of everything that had built up because it was forgotten or just stupidly difficult and it's a different kind of overwhelmed but it's still overwhelming. I have always coped by just doing what I could when I could and so I just kind of grab onto the first thing I know I can do and I'm not necessarily tackling my actual priorities. I wasn't doing my actual priorities before because they are the most depleting tasks I have but it's frustrating to have this sudden capacity to do things and still not direct it where I want it to go.
I totally understand this! It's how I'm feeling now, 5 months in. There's definitely lots of habits to re-wire and new strategies to learn to know where to put the focus and how to do it in a way that's isn't overwhelming. It's a long process for sure!
I felt like that when I started ssri for anxiety, after 3 weeks all the problems, obsessions, compulsions and all that jazz felt so stupid and unimportant, I could at last leave home without overthinking every step, I could concentrate... amazingly refreshing.
Your comment about your brain grasping resonated with me. I've always visualized dark tendrils extending from my brain, flailing about aimlessly in search of some sort of motivation or positive emotion to latch onto to push me through the day. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but the more I learn about it the more it seems to be the answer.
I just got diagnosed with severe combined ADHD at the age of 24 and am on Vyvanse. The way I see it the medication just puts us on an even playing field with neurotypical people. Us taking our medications is no different to someone who needs to take their heart medication. We have a neurodevelopmental disorder and it needs to be treated. Otherwise we are at a greater risk of getting in car accidents, at developing depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation, and of substance abuse (three things that I have been through because my ADHD was left untreated for so long) It is a bummer that we have to take medication daily but a lot of people with other health conditions need to take medications daily. The hard truth is we ARE reliant on our medication and always will be because without it our ADHD is being left untreated. It isn't some weakness or moral failing to rely on your meds, it is a necessity so that we can live our lives in a functional and safe way.
Ahhh thanks so much for saying that ❤ I think it's something that me, and lots of people in these comments/ this community, need to hear!!
@UC0VJkVnvp6DC4s8zGXg05xQ I think my psychiatrist with 25+ years experience at the most reputable hospital in my city knows more about my mental health and ADHD as a whole than old mate on the internet x And some advice. You'll never convince me (or any other person who suffers from this disorder) that ADHD isn't real. We are the ones who have to live with it daily and have suffered the consequences of the symptoms associated with it. We are the ones who experience first hand the drastic improvement in our symptoms and quality of life when we take our meds. You won't get anywhere with us mate. All you are achieving here in this comment section is a clear display of your ignorance on the subject of ADHD and the arrogance you possess as an individual. I kindly suggest you educate yourself on this topic and think before you comment in the future.
Did not know all these things were such universal experiences
OMG your description of life without meds is how I feel every day -especially when it comes to looking at my to-do list. I feel a wall of dread rise up between me and the things on the list. I look at the mess and want to (mostly do) give up and go to my happy place (watching youtube). I am undiagnosed, but relate closely with things my ADHD friends have said, and even caught myself saying "my kitchen isn't ADHD friendly". Part of me feels like getting an ADHD diagnosis is a bit of a fad atm because everyone seems to be getting it, and I would be just jumping on the bandwagon if I were to go down that road. Then my rational brain stops me and reminds me that I'm being ridiculous. People aren't being diagnosed because it's 'cool' but because they really do have the condition, and if they didn't have it, the psychiatrist wouldn't have diagnosed it so shut up stupid self doubt! You've convinced me that I should talk to my doctor. Thankyou ❤
Ik what you mean about it seeming like a fad and that also plays into the general stigma associated with any mental health.... but I believe there's just so much more awareness now, it seems like a fad bc so many ppl are suddenly learning! And I've heard many psychiatrists say adhd in particular is one of the most overdiagnosed and underdiagnosed , especially the innatentive type, especially female and adults..... bc it was less known when we were kids in school and not having behavioral issues ans some excellent grades so bo one noticed.... but as an adult life changes, structures crumble and are rebuilt based on life changes and decisions so it just becomes so much more of a struggle. Just my personal experience anyway and I think many I've heard speak of and can relate. Either way get your questions answered for you and your own benefit and if you don't want to tell anyone that's up to you too! Just see what's going to help you ❤
@Capri Quarius totally!!! when I was little in th mid 80s, ADHD was something only naughty boys had. but when I got to school.... I wish I had a dollar for every time I was told to stop talking, to get back on task or to sit still. As I got older, I found ways to manage the lack of stimulation and put things in place to compensate for my inattention, like putting the shoe rack right beside the door or car keys in the dish that I empty my pockets into of an evening.
@@sherrijennings9309 omgosh same.... every single bit, down to the keys and the shoes!!
Hi Racheal, This is was literally the best description. I have adhd/asd diagnosed aged 39. So yeah... I get you been a few years now on meds. It takes a while things to do that helped me. Read the following books... driven to distraction and adhd. 2.0. It massively helps. 👍❤️
It takes time get use to the whole diagnosis. I'm still learning 3 years later.
My parents were really against the idea of medicating me growing up, even though I had been diagnosed borderline combined type as early as 5. My mom was worried about my heart and my dad was the old-fashioned "discipline" type. We briefly tried non-stimulants but they only really fixed my behavioral outbursts. By the time I was 18, I had internalized this idea that taking meds meant that I had given up on the battle with my mind and took the easy way out, that I had no self-discipline or mental strength, that I was a loser.
At the start of 2022, I had just moved out on my own for good, my apartment was an absolute horror beyond human comprehension, I was missing work from the depression and excessive drinking to cope, I was eating out every day, and as a result I was barely scraping from paycheck to paycheck. I hated it. I don't like being messy, I love to cook, I like being seen by my coworkers as dependable and hard-working, and it all led to some really low points and the occasional thought about a "permanent solution." I recognized that the problem had reached a breaking point and I needed help, and that I'd rather be a loser than dead by my own hand.
I started Concerta a few months back. Upped from 36 to 54 this month. I'm not sure it's the one for me and once the Adderall shortage in the USA has died down I'm probably switching to see if it's a better fit. Even still, meds coupled with 3 months of intense therapy have made a massive difference in my mental state compared to where it was before. My apartment is presentable, my fridge is stocked and I cook every day. My account isn't getting overdrawn anymore and I'm starting to actually put some money away. Best of all, I've quickly become much more present and focused at work and I've been taking on more responsibilities that make me feel like I'm making a difference. I'm genuinely optimistic about things and don't treat my slip-ups like they're the end of the world. I'm proud of myself and I'm happier as a person.
So TL;DR - I'm thankful for the diet meth.
This is so beautiful. All the best to you!
this is the most real video I have seen since my diagnostic 1 month ago, i felt all of this things, but!!! i feel different seing that this hell I am living is actually normal, i could actually feel myself expressing the exact same words you said, I hate the process, I find myself taking breathing breaks because I feel sometimes I cannot live in my head, but hey you are still here, that gives me hope for my future
I do not mind being reliant on my Adderall. I can't medicate the autism, so I'll do what I can with the ADHD. I get exactly how you feel though... for me it is a deep pain in the soul that I went so long without knowing. It annoys me, in a sense. It makes no sense to feel that way because I am happy with my life as it is and wouldn't change it. But it is still there and it hurts.
One thing to do when timetravel is possible: to hug the me- before-diagnoses (autism and adhd)-and-medication and say 'you are enough. You are doing enough. All the things that don't work, don't work because they are not for you, not because you are not trying enough.'
I’ve just played your UA-cam video in complete entirety.
I want to say thank you so much.💐
The way you say it all makes sense to me …
I am not diagnosed with ADHD although a close relative of mine is.
The battles you have struggled with on a daily basis pre-medication you’re describing my life…
I am 50 years old now
And gone through the menopause but
I was medicated in other ways by drs much of my life.
I’ve had one initial consultation answering lots of questions and on the waiting list to see a consultant for ADHD.
You’ve really given me a lot of hope.
I’ve subscribed to your channel
thank you so much for sharing your journey so far