What To Do If You Don't Know What To Do. Jocko Willink.
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- Опубліковано 10 бер 2024
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Sometimes You Have No Good Options, But You HAVE TO Make a Move.
How to effectively deal with constant mishaps and frustrations.
How to turn a shabby day into a productive day with momentum.
How to effectively and reliably train your dog.
Pulling rank VS Taking the high ground.
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I’m in the 4th year of caring for my wife with dementia. The only acceptable way out is staying the course. I’m here because I promised to be here, for better or for worse.
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@donkemp8151 - You are a noble man. I hope you have some good support🙏
God bless you.
Stay strong bro, took care of my mom when she was diagnosed with dementia. It was rough trying to care for her and hold on to my job. But I refused to put her in a home, even when she went into hospice she was home with me. It got to a point I was ready to leave my job, cause help was scarce held on till the end. It ain't much I've done right in life, except not giving up on her. Before she passed I told her, " I'm your son." She replied "I know." Made it all worth it
Honour. Integrity. These are very rare traits these days. You are a diamond in the rough
Stay strong my brother. And she would have done the same..... Peace and love
"Failure when you are ALL IN, is not the same as the Failure of not Trying".
True
Too true, failing knowing you could have done more is infinitely worse
@@AlexMakesGames80 people can only fail if they doing a serious try,!
A loser doesnt try a thing at all!
You could roll your ankle, walking from taxi to his appartement!
@@guillaumekeulen219 failure is quite the spectrum in my experience. I’ve wasted opportunities because I was good enough at something to earn them, but too lazy and doubtful to purse them to the fullest. My opinion, someone who tries nothing isn’t even worth thinking about
Amen.
I just got out of detox from methadone. BELIEVE ME I did NOT want to get out of bed..but here I am at work, feeling like shit and going thru the motions. Stay strong y’all ✊
I dont know you, but im fucking proud of you.
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Keep fighting brother, keep fuggin going forward . We need you. 👊🏻
There's always a way to win brother! You got this! From a cancer survivor in Brasil 🙏
Keep going!
This video was recommended to me as i was shitting my pants on the subway
Hey, atleast the subway already smelled similar. You gotta think positive. Lol.
At least you had pants to shit.
why are you on your phone while shitting your pants?
Im your pants and I really really hope you listened
Good.
Everyone have a great work week! God bless all of Ya's ✌️
May He bless you too.
You too!
I’ve been working on my business for 25 years, no loan, & I have a handicap, (No SSI.)lots of suffering. I even lost my Son & daughter through the crooked family court system. I recently have made some serious advancements and the years of doing the work behind the scenes is starting to pay off. The Most High formed me to be a man built for these last days. Constant improvement, & never give up, no surrender.
"There's a way to win, and sometimes you have to take a loss to win."
This has been true across so many contexts in my life, between interpersonal relationships, escaping at 17 to survive, and in business. A tactical loss led to a strategic win, and I got to fight another day.
And thankfully, I'm still standing today.
Sometimes you need to do the right thing, even you know things could turn ugly ( from getting fired to homeless, Jail or getting to be killed)
You lose the battle, but not your Soul!
Sometimes success isn't a blast, it's just a pop, lol.
A phrase that's always stuck with me is "learn to recognize when the only way out is through".
I learned this early on in the army. Ain't no use in looking down, there's no discharge on the ground
I’ve found action cures anxiety which then reveals answers you can’t think of pre-action. Also, I wasn’t in the military, but my Vietnam veteran father taught me how to do an L shaped ambush in my sand box as a kid. He said the important thing was letting the first vehicles/people through before you open up. I used it years later in a paintball match in college when we were defending a path in a forest. Placed my guys in front and along the left side. Wiped out the other team in seconds.
Thank You, Jocko. Going into battle later this week.... Divorce Court... 41 years to end like this?? I'm being told it's going in my favor, but nobody wins this. I am and have been looking to God, he has sustained me; but i wasn't raised for this. Your words give me last- minute positive thoughts. I will survive. Thank you 👍
You will. You can “win” in a way by being kind and gracious regardless. It can be done through divorce. Then your character wins. You will always know you acted honorably. We both ultimately did it through our divorce.
Damn bro you been married 41 years?!?! How's it going for you now? I'm sorry you have to go heads up like that
Zugzwang in chess is basically: You're FORCED to make a move, but every move you make worsens your position even more. In essence, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Or a rook and a hard place...
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@@jasonbushell7080 I like your style.
Zugzwang in German means "tight spot."
It's called "iterative decision making"
Keep making small steps, gather intel to make an informed decision, make the next small step. Don't marry ideas, plans, or schedules
Be ok with setbacks and failures along the way
This is how you learn what to do over time
"Plans are useless, but planning is everything"
"Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing"
I like how Gen. Norman Schwartzkopf said it, "planning is invaluable, but the plans are worthless." He said it while explaining his "hail Mary" decision during the Gulf War. He saw an opportunity and went with his instincts.
Dude where’s your podcast?
I’ve reach my breaking point. I don’t want to do live this life endlessly chasing dopamine anymore. It’s time to change.
same bro. Nothing changes until you decide to make a change.
@@zk_filthwrong. Nothing changes until you make a change. Talking about it achieves nothing
Corny ass people but I agree with the sentiment lol
Sounds like you're quite frustrated. What's up?
Touch grass homie. Go for a walk around the block and leave the phone at home. Then go to a park and just lay in the grass, no phone. Find a hobby that is cheap and easy to start…wood working, painting, a random musical instrument…you got this 😅
to quote the cheshire cat.
alice: which way is it?
cat: that depends very much on which way you want to go.
alice: i don't know where I'm going.
cat: then it doesn't really matter which way you pick! but, if i were you, I'd visit the mad hatter.
alice: oh, i don't know..
cat: you could also consider the march hare? of course, he's mad too.
alice: i don't want to go among mad people!
cat: oh you can't help that... most everyone around here's mad. you might notice, I'm not all there myself...
‘Do something, even if it is wrong’. -Army adage
"Take one on the chin and prove as an example of how you are going take one on the chin" YOU HAVE NO IDEA how hard is that. But man I felt that
As someone with their testicles on their chin, I felt that
@@TheGhjgjgjgjgjg LMFAO XD
Acceptance and have peace with your choices regardless of what it ends up to be.
Hey Jocko, thanks for all the encouragement and positivity. And for your service. We benefit from experience we would never want to live.
"Better to win a hundred battles with the mind than one by attrition" - Me probably.
That's a money quote. What do you mean by "probably?"
i am german but i had to read the comments to understand "Zugzwang" 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly what i needed to hear
It is these situations that reveal (or expose?) one's true character. You have to respond authentically... Almost like a reflex of your soul.
Any hesitation or reluctancy towards your "core truth" = failure.
needed to hear this today!
Thank You Jocko 🥋
I NEEDED to hear this. Thank you!
These videos always seem to be relevant. Thankyou
1:59 'The primary thing to do is to pay attention to your surroundings _____ '
Being present, takes practice; especially if one has built habits of escape and distraction; sometimes because of unresolved guilt, shame, trauma etc. There is an inward heart and spirit journey with God that brings healing & hope and helps one face the outer things through the dynamic of coming into unity with Him.
needed this today
Zugzwang...your pronunciation is so funny. 🙂 greetings from germany
Thanks Jocko!
Jocko is always on putting great energy in the air. #GetBackUpMotivation
I needed to hear this right now at this moment!
I believe there's a term called "rim rocked". In rock climbing it's a situation where you're stuck and can't go up or down. A situation to obviously avoid. I think it's a good metaphor to apply to life. Always keep options open.
It’s not a climbing term. Rimrock is a place in Arizona. Also the name of various hotels/casinos/etc.
@@Tightshipskipski actually it is. It's not really part of rock climbing vernacular but the term does refer to rock climbing.
Thank you!
Thank you for never self censoring and simply saying ‘the Muj.’
I've been thought many fire fights in the last five years with life. I've won every last one of them with ease. Every time i get nervous, i hear Jocko say "relax, formulate a plan". Works every time!
Great insights on turning a bad day around. Mishaps can be a source of innovation. A 'bad' day can reveal gaps in your processes, which, when addressed, can improve you.
This is such a LinkedIn comment
echo immediately remembering the arm lock, both amusing and a great emphasis to his point
It always made me laugh when we'd be in a situation at work and it's picking the lesser of two bad options and my bosses would go "Is there a risk?" I'd be like "yeah, there's a risk going to the john in the morning."
Some days you get not great options. Just the way it goes. Some times that's your doing, some times it's not. You have to be pragmatic about the lemons you're given, and if you're given turds instead of lemons you'd better plant a lemon tree.
Absolutely priceless.
yes! not giving up is a win
There’s always a way to win👊
isnt echo just the sweetest?
I just stumbled upon this and it reminded me of what I just went through in my personal life... it became a war of attrition, taking hits on every side, internally going beyond the boundaries of winning and losing, not seeing any light, relying on my imagination just to find reasons to keep going, inch by inch I realized the best way to for me was to aim high, because the only other option was suicide.. 😢 but some fucking how I found inspiration and just put grip on every detail I could muster... after several months I started gaining traction again.. I made it through, I now know I'm much more focused on the battles ahead.. its fight or die at rare times in life. Always choose to fight!
dude this video helps a lot
i am at that spot right now and have no clue what to do....and i hate it with every fiber of my being! I am tired of upheaval i want stability please!
Good & bad are opposing points of view. Intent, is the line that divides the two,.. what someone perceives as bad, may well be goodness in its purest form to another. Good quality vid (applause)
Thanks guys you helped me think my way out of it. Jujitsu philosophy for the win yet again
Perspective!
Thanks
Good Words
God bless you; I love those moments when you bring some light into my darkness 🩶
Step 0- be aware and work to avoid losing situations
Step 1- accept reality
Step 2- reframe the situation and find the positive and challenging
Step 3- always think long term
Step 4- expand your thinking and try to do something unexpected
Step 5- don't give up
Thanks man
"Positive sacrifice" at 3:40. "Make sure you are thinking from a strategic perspective:.... at 4:30 "Look to do something unexpected." at 5::39 "There are ways to win; find a way." at 10:37.
Compound word.
00:50 👌👌👌
3:30 Opportunities
4:20 Strategy vs Tactical
5:20 The Unexpected
10:45 Take Ls to Win
11:30 Summary
0:50 Camera angle almost made me drop my phone in the toilet.
Perspective change.
Mr. Jocko, Mr. Echo sirs, on the RNC thing, Jon Fitch was a master of getting out of locked in rear naked chokes ... if i remember correctly
😂 Zugzwang, dude that pronounciation 😂
as a german I had a good laugh :D
hahahah hab auch erstmal gebraucht, bis ich das Wort identifiziert hab :D
Didn't recognize the word at all until explanation was made.
Zugzwang bedeutet wie Engpass oder in der Klemme.
I missed the first 2 minutes of this thinking about the pants shitting comment. I don't know what I would do in that situation. Been there though. It's a character builder for sure. I hope it worked out for you brother.
2:34 2:52 3:28 Look for opportunities 4:00Benefits 4:20 Think strategically 5:12 Do something unexpected 7:15 8:40 sub
9:00 Assault 9:45 How much risk is there? 10:30 Theres ways to win 11:20
If you sometimes accept offers unknowingly, you accidentaly put yourself in bad positions
Yes, I did this once to win a chess game. A small Indian boy was crushing me in an end game and there was a group of people around us watching, I prayed 'Please don't let me loose to a small boy in front of all these people', and then a strange choice seemed to present itself, and I did it, not knowing where it was going, then played the game with the seemingly inevitable ending, but then not even realizing it, I check mated him. It was brilliant, not consciously, it was subconscious and everyone clapped and started shaking my hand. The organizer came up and told me it was a good game. My best game coming out of inevitable failure.
I wonder if the small Indian boy knew the difference between "lose" and "loose".🙄
@@jonsmith20766 Cheeky.
The same thing basically happened to me and my friend. I didnt even know i won until he told me lol
"How do we go to mars?"
"Its like jiujitsu, you remember that time i did a headlock"
If you don't know what to do next, just charge forward and cry "Leeerooy Jenkinss...!!"
Took me a bit to figure out he is saying "Zugzwang" in the beginning :D As a native German speaker...
Jocko helped me get outta bed 😅
I guess, the main problem in such situations in life is the emotional reaction of the body/mind/brain and the extreme feeling of desperation and lack of options. So it would be helpful to know how to trick the natural fight/flight & co responses in the first place.
Strangely I can trigger a panic reaction with my thoughts but not the opposite.
I recently got blindsided at work with the information that my supervisor is moving to a new position and my coworker and I will have to run the office. It's a customer service type atmosphere so we can't just get up and go to the bathroom. We have to ask someone to watch our front desk. Someone who won't be able to help anyone. They will just sit here to tell people that someone that can help them will be back
Forced to make a bad move? Good!
Sit back and look at your position and pay attention don't blunder hope for the best and capitalize on any mistakes you can exploit
The whole movie called Mr. Nobody with Jared Leto is about Zugzwang.VERY GOOD movie!!! Must watch
Tks jocko.
Always 04 choices, but in a short or lacking situation... what is the limit between "lesser of evils" and "preemptive attack"?
Godspeed.
Sounds like an Anthony B song. Zug Zwang, zugga zugga zang, Rasta. A canonical Dancehall beat. Like the Smokey tea.
It’s got this swinging beat. Nice high hat punctuation.
Can anyone please share the link to the “contrarian podcast” mentioned? Tks
2 out of the 12 minutes were worth it
Which of these two minutes were useful
@@YABUKIJOE2077 the ones where I wasn't sleeping
Sabotage yourself so you can take a step back. Pause for a moment, and them take a good look around and get a better vantage point of what is going on.
Pretty cool to see you using chess terminology
Did they change the colouring or lighting? It looks great.
Just make a decision at that point because no matter your in the same situation to where even no decision is a decision
if i ever roll with jocko im going straight for the heel hook
Another concept i heard you talk about that comes from chess is desperado say your piece is traped well you can at least go out with taking a pawn not just give it away for free
Loss can be turning point to the big win.
The win will lead to loss.
Play the infinite game.
Play the long game.
This makes the short game loss a stepping stone to the victory in the bigger game.
Edit.
The strangest loss is the loss thats actually a victory because it ends conflict and adversarial positioning creating strong alliances with understanding.
Often pride and misunderstanding prevents this victory because the idiots who made the plan created a mess of mistakes for whatever reason and people are unable to recognize their sunk costs are sunk costs.
But the moment that they discard the written script for the factual reality... there is no loss. Only confirmation of the situation made by confirmed testing and then recognizing the true situation.
Which then makes the sunk costs a investment which tested the value of opposition and alteration of positioning allowing for correct outcomes creates value.
Confirmed value as shown by testing and statistics.
Self deception and propaganda are powerful determinants.
Reality and adaptation to reality are even more powerful and useful.
Yep.
What should Haiti do?
I'm so clueless.
And I'm worried about our southern insular buddies.
G'day Mr. Jocko, I'd appreciate your opinions on the current trend in b j.j. on butt skooting around trying to get the other to buy into their strategy.
Yeah you'll b fine, don't worry about it, just do your work treat people good, all will work out
This mindset or way of thinking is very relevant when investing your money.
make a move even you didn't think about 😅
sounds funny but I believe it is a very valid solution for situations when you are psychologically zugzwanged, so you can move yourself out from a thought pattern or environment that became comfortable.
I'm thinking of firefighting in a mayday situation. Options will vanish fast. Going out a window on the second floor or higher in a flashover situation. I've trained for it but man I don't want to find myself there.
I'm still on plan A.
I never have no moves left.
"Zugzwang" in German means more like "tight spot" or like being "in a pinch", not necessarily a "compulsion" to move.
It's also a chess term and it means no matter what move you make its the same outcome
iam german and i was like "what word" ? dont worry, i know its a tough language. its ZUGZWANG. took me a while but i found out to jockos description.
it's pronounced "zoog-zwaang" - zug is "pull", zwang literally means "force"
When life fucks you ; change the position
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Yep!! I’m there!
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Sac the rook!
Rook takes queen
Knight takes queen
Bishop takes queen
Pawn takes queen
Gang bang
History of the world part 1
1) AVOID future problems by anticipate them
2) make Long-Term strategic move, not Short-Term tactical [[this needs unpacking to explain it]]
3) get creative, surprise with the unexpected