The transaction between me and him took my peace, my joy, my prayer life, self esteem, dignity and brought me loads of humiliation, trauma, shame, torment, torture, anxiety, rage anger and distracted me from my purpose. I MUST REMEMBER THIS.
I heard you say; caring about what a narcissist thinks is like literally caring about what the devil thinks about you. You will never win with the devil. Quit playing yourself!!!
When you break up with a narcissist, you will miss him. However, what you are missing is who he pretended to be. A fictitious character you were in love with. He was emotionally detached the entire time. That’s why he can walk away with such ease. The mind wants closure because A normal good hearted woman cannot understand what just happened to her. And people around her don’t offer support because they think it’s just a typical relationship break up, not covert continuous abuse. So we go looking for intellectual closure on UA-cam for videos. You will never get an apology. You will never get closure from this individual. In fact they are blaming you when they speak with others. Playing victim, hoping to get sympathy and work their way into the next woman’s house heart and home. And bank account and credit. Be careful.
Rebecca-Joy Henson My ex had 4 ex wives he tried to hide from me. They can’t ALL be wrong. Remember he’s the common denominator. Do a background check ... pay for it. That’s how I found out all these marriages, divorces, women and different home addresses and emails and phone numbers. And jobs. No stability. They lie lie lie. The truth is in the stories of the exs . And there’s ex in different states .... Danbury Connecticut , Fairfax Virginia and Gurley Alabama Do credit check, sex offender registry and STD/HIV/HPV tests too . Protect yourself. Forget the charm and romance. It’s a distraction. Stay emotionally detached , you date for data.
NOW YOU BETTER SAY THAT!!!! Yes, our mind wants to understand what is going on. However you can forget ever getting closure. Your closet is the forgiveness you give them so that you can move on and live aa healthy life.
I finally got away from my narcissist! It's been, 1 week!!! It's not been easy to stay away from! This Creature! As odd as that may sound!!! You see! I am codependent!!!!! Pray for my healing 🙏❤️💔
I Pray that you will escape safely. In fact God will make a great Escape for you Run and dont back. Dont Return to that place of hurt . They laugh at me because im staying with family and Friends. Im on the Mends. Jesus provided shelter with Family and friends. I was a hot mess. I put some things in storage and slowly im gathering my Strength back my Confidence back and finding me again.
I dated the narcissist for 4 months and my whole psyche was messed up, so just imagine how the people who dated a narcissist for years! Y’all the real OG’S. Like no.
I’ve been married for almost 2 years & just told him I’m divorcing him.After all the mind games & emotional abuse,I told him F that go try that with someone else I’m not the one.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for three long years and stayed connected to him a year after we separated before I ended it completely. This relationship took me to places and depths that I have never been to before EVER but it was in that low place that God showed me who I was and who he is in my life. God showed me how this man manipulated me and why I fell for it and why I stayed as long as I did. I hate to say this but sometimes we need something unusual to wake us up and catch our attention. I'm finally in a place where I date with purpose, wisdom, and guidance. I have learned to pay attention to warning signs early. I also realized that it's okay to wait on God and his timing.
Agree especially when married. I left him when his sex life went sour, erectal dysfunction he would brag ten years ago in marriage he was the greatest lover women loved him. always bragged about his penis, I would tell him my self worth as a woman is just as good as his. now prostate hard to urinate have to take pills to make him piss better but also lesson his sex drive. that when I said in my thoughts the big pay back his man hood ego has know bragging rights time to discarded his ego and his limp noodle. sorry for being so blunt I had to break him down with his sucken penis more skin then bone lol. cheated now go bad to the whores u bed down with not wasting my time as title wife. I'm out leave his soul to rot away.
I notice that they will always say their exes are crazy or make themselves seem like the victim in all their past relationships. And if they say their ex is crazy, they probably did shit to make him/her that way
No one ever questions what's coming out of ppl mouths. Ppl rather believe the lie and be angry and want to fight someone they don't know. Everytime a person says this person hurt me, cheated, and etc., I'm hearing I hurt ppl I cheat....that gives me enough to RUN....
Exactly my exnarc was perfect eloquent, personable, well composed individual. He never wanted 2 talk about prior relationships. The only one he did was his baby momma. She keyed his car and almost stabbed him. When i asked what he did 4 her 2 get that way he said it didn't matter. That regardless she is responsible for her behavior
I was 12 years a slave. An emotional roller coaster. So much pain I could write a book, the soul tie had me bound and I was caught in a snare. God is healing me through this word from this man of God. I'm so happy Holy Spirit led me to this channel. I believe God for complete healing for my broken soul.
Love Joy Please run the other way and NC this monster. Trust me, they can't change because they're not willing to let that old Sim nature die. They practice lip service just like Satan. I pray you made it out ok. Be blessed.
Listen how ppl talk about their exes, family, and friends it tells you the type of person you're dealing with...narcs will bash a person for eternity....that's a person you have to ask if I piss them off will they tarnish my name too????
“In your heart you really love them, in their hearts you are just an opportunity.” Man oh man. Being married and having kids with a narc is the most exhausting thing in life. To the point where self-harm thoughts have attacked me. ThankGod that I never acted on them and I am in the separation process. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I think that no matter what you call us , we're still human beings and we all deserve to be treated as such. Being a narcissist has nothing to do with your behavior. There are so called normal people (just like you) who call themselves to be good and perfect with everyone else when in fact nobody's perfect.
@@jonathans3326 A narcissist who KNOWS that they are one needs to seek IMMEDIATE TREATMENT, and until then, it is in the best interests of the people around them to run for their lives. No one is perfect, but we ALL have a right to protect ourselves from toxic people. And most narcissist DO NOT treat other people like human beings. It's actually very narcissistic to want people to treat you good while you treat them bad. Pure insanity.
It causes a crippling exhaustion. Ive been in prayer mode without outside influences saying he doesnt know what he's doing and what about the kids. I'm thinking about my kids trying to rid myself of this demonic tie.
After being in a relationship with a narcissist it'll teach you to STOP ignoring red flags and to stop thinking that you can change ANYONE!! You'll stop waisting precious time with the wrong people and believe them when they show you who they are MOVE ON QUICK !!
In the researching this narcissistic characteristic, I realized this stress has been manifesting in my body. Aches and pains; exhaustion; mood swings. After 7 days of NO CONTACT I am begiining to feel better...Im feeling lighter. This video came to validate that I am on track!!
@@soystef I get so anxious and my stomach will hurt. My hair started falling out. Was it difficult for you to get away? Every time I try to get away, I'm sucked right back in.
I am involved with a covert N and have given him all of me from the beginning 3 yrs ago. No matter how much love, affection, and attention I give him, It's never enough. The manipulations, gas lighting, serial cheating, pathological lies, silent treatments, projections, deflections, emotional and psychological abuse, triangulation, and financial abuse for monetary gain. I was used in so many ways...my spirit is broken💔
Marisa Mitchell it's 7 days for me. I just cut it OFF! I feel like I escaped. Ans I feel FREE! I fight the urge to answer the phone but I know I would get caught right back on that hook.
@@mslyne I just cut him off too. Tired of the back and forth. I woke up on the 22nd and changed my number, blocked him on all social media, and blocked him from sending me emails. I've felt free ever since....
to the ladies that truly want to get out.....make him not like you anymore. just do everything totally opposite of what you once did. the way I handled my situation was....#1. I never did really like kissing so I stopped. #2. I stopped looking at him when we went on outings. #3. I made up every reason not to be around him as often.# 4. told him that I have no interest in sex anymore. the list is endless, just make them not like you anymore and I promise after maybe 3 months, getting away will be sooooo easy...you will want to slap yourself for not thinking of this many moons ago. god bless
You are so right. I just got away from a narcissistic relationship by doing everything i knew he hated to make him walk away because i knew he would go into a rage if i made the call.
That’s exactly what I’m doing intuitively😂after 3 months without intimacy I caught him looking for discrete dating online. I said „thank Lord for another reason to back up my strategy“. I believe he is starting to look for another source of supply. I pray he does, so I can leave on piece!🙏🏾
Sad like what if he cheated had kids w different women or the women cheated & got pregnant by another guy..yes we FORGIVE but at a point it's dangerous
This is very true! I’m at that place right now where they are throwing all sorts of spiritual nonsense and saying I’m not the spiritual leader our family needs and I’m tearing our family apart.
1. NEVER let a Narcissist know that you're on to them! 2. PLAN an efficient exit strategy. 3. ONLY tell a select VERY SELECT few whom you trust with your life. 4. PLAY dumb. 5. COMMUNICATE with your attorney (legal aid representative if you can't afford one) and law enforcement under confidentiality. 6. UNDERSTAND that this is for life and you are NEVER going back. 7. NO kids means NO CONTACT. 8. IF you have kids...it will be STRICTLY AND SOLELY GREY ROCK. 9. UNDERSTAND that Narcs are capable of anything and will do anything to protect their image and mask! 10. MOVE forward knowing that you're starting over and you can and will make it!!!
Listening to this on my lunch break at work to heal the silent battles going on in my life. Ive come to the realization that the narcissist is actually the jezebel spirit which means they are demonically influenced individuals who are like parasites and i was the host. I need all the help i can get to break the bond between me & the narcissist. Please keep making these videos that involve a biblical perspective on the topic. Thank you & God Bless you 🙏🏻
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I got the validation I needed and help to move on from UA-cam videos like this. The narcissist never changed but I have. Time to live my life healthy now.
Please pray for my daughter Emily who is suffering really bad from a narcissist relationship and is being destroyed. I pray for God to take her out of this situation. She is such a beautiful kind gentle girl, but is being stripped of all that his good. Bless you all who pray for her.
I still don't understand how someone can be like that 😢..it's hard i have a loving spirit but I said before I listened to this I was sleeping with the devil
I just left today Dont try to reason or understand the narcissist. Run!!!! Run!!! Run!! Thank you sir, you are one of the ones who have saved my life ❤ To God be the glory for things he has done!🙌🙌🙌🙌 I'm free thank you Jesus I'm free! Run, my sister Run, my brother
Ayesha Salam that does not work as it tells them that you have a good source and it will always feed from you. the only way that i learned from experience is to act and behave as them. They want to convert you into them and in doing so you will lose your faith and spirituality. NO CONTACT is best.
Responding from a place of emotions is reacting the way they want you too. The important thing to remember is, in order to keep your sanity, if you are Christ like is to focus on God to validate you, and be led by God as to what you should do, how you should respond and as to how you are to exit. Staying is not an option, however, I do understand buying time until you could make it out of an unhealthy situation. Remember, God in you is bigger than the Narcissist, it’s not that they are powerful, it just simply that in their minds they are willing to risk it all, have no remorse, respect and no real conscious so that’s what makes the situation dangerous because your not dealing with a person that can truly do self inventory or is willing to change. Now, for the ones that think God will change them, he would if they were willing to accept change, but in the mean time, they are not about that life and you have to do what is right for you and your family. Pray from a distance in other words.
I've been no contact for almost a month now after almost 2 years of bondage! I feel free, but I have a long road of healing ahead! Thank you Pastor for this word!
At this exact moment, crying myself to sleep, in my narcissistic lover’s bed, while he is in the living room, drinking and playing loud music, I PRAY for the day I’m completely disconnected from this person. I thank God I found you pastor, and as I’m reading these comments of people who overcame this situation I can’t wait for that to be me. I can’t bare anymore pain. I’m going to use this comment as a mark of the day I decided to set free from this trap that I’ve been calling a relationship for a year. God bless you all... 💕
Today I finally realized that he is a narcissistic and never loved me. He love bombed me for 9months and then his true colors started showing... I’ve never felt so miserable and even lost control over my actions because I got so emotionally involved and I could feel that he wasn’t...! But he just keeps going after me, saying the right stuff, acting, making me believe that he can’t live without me and won’t let me go. Bottom line is, I’m learning to build myself back together, understanding my worth and understanding his debilitation, and taking away his power over me by letting go of my emotions and putting my mind together... again. His glory days are close to an end.
@@jessicaviana6540 hey Jessica, did you get out? How are you doing? I do pray you find tge strenght to get out if you havent already, you aren't married to him and have no kids with him... Which is good, take the lessons n move on up... Love from all the way in kenya east Africa.... Remember God has called us into abundance and not foolishness.. Baraka.
Faith Hill Hello. Thank GOD I’m out! It was extremely hard, but so worth it now... I can’t picture myself in a situation like that ever again. Thanks for the love.😉💪🏽👍🏽
I was with a Nar for seven years and it was so hard to get away. My soul was being sucked out. I felt empty and wanted to die. I was at my end when one morning about 2 in the morning. Something wonderful was in the room with me and I was crying my eyes out. This wonderful something spoke to me and showed me how to get out of this horrible relationship. By the time the sun rose I finally walked out of it and never looked back. I left with no money, no job and no sense of where I was going to be. I ran like a bat out of HELL. I changed my phone number and moved from the state, That was seven years ago. ALSO, That night I gave my heart and soul to GOD and been very happy every since. If you ask God to show you a way out he will show you. He did it for me and he can do it for you too.
I've studied about Narcicist/Jezebels, and Empath/Ahab relationships. But this has Been the Key 🔑 "the breaking of Soul Ties". I am asking for these Soul ties to be broken, in the name of Jesus. To be rebuked, bonded, and sent back to where it came. Thank you for making these Videos.
Someone gave me advice to make a list of the pain I've experienced from rhus relationship. Not to brood over who they are and what they've done, but to remind me why I've left. Because over time you forget the pain and are temped to go back. I'm a missionary in Cambodia and I'm glad to see Christians addressing this. It is totally missed in most relationship counseling.
How??? Mine gets in front of the judge and cries and lies like he wants them. Then when the judge grants him visitation he fills my children head up with more lies.
@@darkskinneicybari1611 mine got visitation then never used it then got to court for child support and claimed that I'm keeping our daughter away, which is a lie
22:10 ‘The Need for Closure is a fantasy and keeps the wound open’... most time people in the church confuse ‘seeking closure’ due to having an ‘alt against your brother’. Some people just need to be left alone... period.. take it as a loss and keep it moving
Are you looking for closure and not getting it? The closure is knowing they are mentally ill. The closure is realizing they are a narc- devoid of empathy, love or light. The closure is knowing the narc has only 4 emotions: envy, anger, jealousy and fear. The closure is knowing this relationship is not of God, there is no peace, no love, no light. It’s demonic. The End
For all of those who cannot go no contact this is what you do per RC's recommendations. No emotional contact. Insulate your mind. Control the conversation. Keep it strictly business. Approach them from a spiritual place. This engages the ruach, holy spirit, to act on your behalf. Denounce the need for closure. You don't need an apology. "The need for closure keeps the wound open."Forgiveness is the closure you need. Begin the process of rebuilding your soul. Keep reading from the KJV!!!!! Thank you for your series on narcissism.
I feel like we all have been with the same person lol glad I left this type of warlock!! deception and lies!! Thank you God for showing me what I was working with!!! No closure needed!! Forgiveness and completely moved on!! What’s worst this man was apart of the church!! They are in our churches folks! Pray and keep moving!!
This is the 2nd day of being away from my husband (narcissist) I'm so thankful for this pastor & this channel!! Praise God for His strength & my weakness. I'm so messed up I need help!
Gypsy julie, Where did u get that info, did pastor say it? I missed it Anyway, that is the crux of my issue with a narc im dealing with..the why. Why why why...endless gyrations in my head on that. I benefitted the narc so much. Im stunned at the discard. Why? Its such a grievous evil.
I jus told my therapist that the "why" keeps coming up. I can't sleep at night, can't focus on my goals, can't enjoy life cus I'm trapped in "why" but she is helping me to get thru that.
I wish I had you in my church. I listened to many other advisors on narcissistic abuse But you released me completely. I could see it all while listening to you. Thank you. God Bless you. I mean it.
Thank God for revelation after doing a 3 day fast. I thank God for getting me out from the narcissistic marriage. I just pray for deliverance for all women who are trapped in such marriages and relationships
God definitely works in mysterious ways. I knew the narcissist was taking advantage of my like for him in a lot of situations but today after leaving his house I felt so drained and belittled that I said I wasn't going to take it anymore. I kept replaying the insults sarcasm ect in my head. I got on utube to watch a movie or something and this video came up. I watched it and I couldn't believe it was just what I needed 🙏💞
This is so true...going through the process of accepting, releasing and moving forward....the power of forgiveness it's for me not him. I refuse to be stuck
My journey through The Land of Being Married to a Narcissist was a the most eye opening revelation that I had ever been through in my life. I'm a believer who really could not get anyone to understand the symptoms of what I was married to. 7 years and roughly 7 professional Clinicians later and A WHOLE LOT OF SEARCHING BOOKS AND FINALLY "YOU TUBE " did I even know what I was dealing with. Bishop Blake's, from the time I found you videos. I kept saying wow, does he know that he is really teaching on Narcissistic Behavior? One day I was your video not that long ago and yo u said the word Narcasstic Abuse. I am on the road to healing and moving awa y and on with my life legally. minus the Abuser. I hope I can be of help to someone going through The Gaslighting the Hoovering and Mental and Emotional abuse I suffered through. They say your trials are not always for you,but help someone else. Well to God be all the Glory then.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I've been going through a lot of The same. Married 17 years 23 years ago we met. I had no idea what was going on withmy spouse until the last 2years and watching videos on Narrististic behavior. I Thank GOD I'm not too late to be saved. I'm working on me now. PRAISE GOD 🙏 for Pastor Blake 🤗
@@tdoesthis7220 I am so sorry that you are going through this, and even more with beautiful little one's.As women when we get sick and tired of being sick tired we make a drastic changes in our lives. Bishop Blake also has other videos on subject of dealing with men who have certain characteristics who prey on women with good intentions and low self esteem . As I stated in my previous enrty not to give "You Tube" any type of plug, however God lead me to various videos. I kept searching on whatever God put into my heart. Emotional Abuse, Mental Abuse, Gaslighting, Also I wanted to search out why I wanted to leave but kept feeling guilty. I thought if I prayed hard enough and kept working hard at being a quote un quote "Good Christian Wife" God would change his heart. I thought I had to stay to honor my vows. Silly me, I finally remembered that once he slept with another he broke the marriage vows, however it was not just once but continually throughout the 7 years of marriage. EVERYONE SITUATION IS DIFFERENT, this was mine. I'm telling you all of this to say. If you are at the point of being done, beat you Tube up, meaning others like you and I have been through this before and they have made a video on it. However word of advice. Try to stick with the Professional Clinicians videos. Now yes you will cone across ones by women and men who are now free and telling their story, I will say this. It will finally make see that, HEY I knew I wasn't crazy. We all have a story to tell that will eventually be the catalyst to help set someone free. I found Bishop Blake just about the second year of my search. finally facing the mess and saying it's time to make an intelligent decision to save myself and start the slow process of leaving. Honestly I'm in the midst of it as I'm typing. You will in time feel better and stronger. Yes also info on leaving with children even if they are small babies. I will send you some names if you like. I hope I did not bombarded you with too much info. This journey I knew was never just for me. I had no one That understood. His charm fooled everyone even me. God came to help set the captives free. I'm new at telling my story openly. I just want to help. You are not alone and even more you aren't crazy and God can and will heal all your pain. Keep watching Bishop Blake listen to him. He speaks the absloute truth from heaven on high. His teaching on walking in and being a Queen and the Do' s and Don't's somewhat started my journey to Freedom.
Thank you so much for this. I am in the process of leaving a 5 year relationship with a narcissist who I have allowed to almost destroy me. I will listen to this everyday until I am healed. Thank you and God Bless you!!
“Desire for closure is the hope the person who broke you will be the person who fixes you. The drive for closure keeps you connected. FORGIVENESS IS THE CLOSURE YOU NEED. “Amen brother and God bless you for this word. THANK U DUDE!
Thank you, thank you for this video! My husband is a narcissist and he has finally broken me totally. I’m ready to move on. You have given me substance to do this. I have to do, in order to survive.
Thank you for this....you have no idea how much the biblical scripture helps me understand more of what I need to do and where I am going. Breaking a 14 year relationship/marriage with children involved is not easy. Genuine Love and faith that God could change him is what I struggle with the most now. We are finally away from him but still feel him and his actions daily. Please lift myself and my children up in prayer. Thank you again.
Thank you for the honest talk! I am in the beginning stages of my exit, and this was divine intervention if ever there was. I have already made the decision to leave, but must work on having a place to land (and funds to pay for it) when I do. Fortunately I don't have young children - our son is 19 and old enough to care for himself. My biggest problem at the moment is that almost all of our / my funds are tied up in marital assets. What I need now is legal counsel, but that also costs money. I'm just biding my time, saving my paychecks in a new, private account and searching for a new vehicle / home. This is by far the biggest challenge I have ever had to undertake. Advice welcome, prayers needed.
Ephesians 6:12 New International Version (NIV) 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the power of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
I was laughing through so many moments in your video because you were reading me like a book!!!!! You've answered so many questions and concerns for this matter. I feel much more confident and secure with moving on from a toxic relationship. Thank you for your wisdom and I give Thee Most High all the glory, worship and praise for leading me here.
Incredible message of the need to escape the narcissist through complete absent of contact. I look at them as soul suckers or destroyers. They are the greatest con artists. You must have a need to save yourself from their abuse not them.
Excellent overview, however for me once I decided to leave my marriage I didn't look for closure from him nor want him back. There were so many emotions and I learned it's levels to divorce also. I knew I had to heal and it was MY responsibility to do that. We do have a young son so yes I have to deal with him, however upon my research you hit the nail on the head I cut ties with him for anything other than our son. I almost NEVER call him he calls me since our son lives with me. I think he got the point, I also laughed when you mentioned "can we be friends" lol because that's exactly what he asked me, I said nope, we can raise our son! He did and said SO many hateful things to me during the separation, I want nothing to do with him. I don't even know who he is? To anyone in a narcissist relationship the BEST advice I can offer is to do research on the personality disorder, the information will arm you with knowledge and the strength to decide what you need to do in your life. Once I learned he would NOT change, I knew I had to go or I would end up so broken I wouldn't recognize who I was someday because I was already miserable. Finally, once you have one you'll be able to detect the Narc signs from anyone else you meet. Again, learn all you can about this disorder and join social media support groups especially if your in the beginning phase of learning about narcissism. Find your PEACE life is too short to settle for less and be unloved and miserable.
Very good message on leaving a narcissist! I'm in the process of working my exit plan. I needed to hear this. From my experience is in my 11 years with a Narcissist, 9 married, you are EXACTLY right!!! Thank you once again! Great scriptural references too... as a Christian woman I needed to hear these messages... my mind was already made to leave but hearing this helps so much.
HEY PASTOR👋🏾 YOU GOT MY JAM BACK ☺️ LET’S TALK, I BE VIBING TO THAT INTRO💯 PASTOR GOD HAS TRULY GIVEN YOU A GIFT, YOU HIT THE NAIL IN THE COFFIN EACH & EVERY TIME YOU SPEAK👌🏾 YOU REALLY HAVE BLESSED MY LIFE BEFORE & AFTER MY DIVORCE. YOUR TEACHINGS GET ME THROUGH ALL OF MY HARD TIMES🙌🏾 THANK YOU SO MUCH❤️
Amen Pastor Blakes, each time I watch his posts always come away with an abundance of wisdom and pure truth. I've been NO CONTACT for a month with the power of the Holyghost. God. Bless you Pastor Blakes I pray and thank God for you. This season of being involved with a toxic demonic narcissist for 3years pushed me to pursue God and I prayed for God to open my eyes to the traps and games men have been using on women, and one day in March 2018 I was streaming on UA-cam and chanced upon Pastor Blakes. I've been listening since.
I am in a very heartbreaking place being extremely empathetic and being weak to trying to find the good in a person who has beat down with this abuse I’ve been in a cloud for days and you are helping me come out of it. Thank you so much these thoughts of mine are hurtful but thanks to you and god I am feeling a bit better. God bless you
I'm so grateful for you because I'm really dealing with a person like this and I'm so ready for my exit. May God bless you and pray for me as I take this step of EXIT
Pastor Blakes, I needed this more than you know!!! I appreciate you and your gifts that you share!! For as much as I hated this situation and eventually hated myself for allowing myself to believe in someone so cold, yet even having a child for him later on, I couldn't stand life and it was then and only then did I seek GOD, and I needed him more than ever and you know what, he has taken me and led me to amazing people like yourself and many others of his kind and I Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! I have a true testimony to share and to help strengthen others that may dealing with the same and like you say "Forgiveness" and prayer will get you through it all!! God bless
You’ve nailed it, Pastor. Yours is the best video about dealing with and recovering from narcissistic abuse. I’ve watched a lot of videos by mental health professionals about narcissists and you’re the first person to address so many of the things you mentioned, such as not using social media. That’s huge. The Bible examples - David and Saul, Jezebel, - the verses, your analogies like the rear view mirror being smaller, were excellent and so relatable. There’s nothing we face or might face that there’s not guidance for in the Bible. It was very giving of you to investigate this soul-damaging experience and form an extremely helpful and informative video.
Thank you for this teaching. I'm right in the mist of this torment. I'm 3 days in with no contact. I pray that I can keep my eyes on Christ. Yes, it hurts to walk away from my marriage. It's been 6 long years that I've endured this madness. From this day, I choose Christ, and to love me first.
Another thing I have very clearly recognized in the many narcissists in my life is that they are capable of only total infatuation or total rejection. Infatuation is their version of love. Rejection is your fully justified punishment by them for being wrong.
Thank you so much Pastor for confirmation of what my life was like with a narcisist. Thank you also for your understanding when no one else did. God bless you and may you continue to shed light on these devils... just empty vessels devoid of any human emotion wherein evil takes up residence.
As I have children with a narcissist I found myself trying to figure out how too have "no contact", then bam the Lord spoke through him with the answer!!!!! Praise the Lord and bless this man of wisdom!!!
I have recently found RC Blake. He is great! I'm posting to let you know about Tina Swithin. She is very helpful with documentation on co parenting. Blessings!
I was mentally abused by my narc husband via telephone and today I feel like I've been stoned, I just want to lie in bed feeling heavy in my head like I've been beaten. I have 2 children with narc and now i plan to escape this when I can break away from him financially. I believe God will release me.
The transaction between me and him took my peace, my joy, my prayer life, self esteem, dignity and brought me loads of humiliation, trauma, shame, torment, torture, anxiety, rage anger and distracted me from my purpose. I MUST REMEMBER THIS.
My exact feeling
That's the way it is
Kim Lee you were dealing with the demons for real
Exactly
My exact feeling here
I heard you say; caring about what a narcissist thinks is like literally caring about what the devil thinks about you. You will never win with the devil. Quit playing yourself!!!
AMEN
Amen again!!!!
OMG
Well said
But the devil has already been defeated and we have victory through Christ Jesus
When you break up with a narcissist, you will miss him. However, what you are missing is who he pretended to be. A fictitious character you were in love with. He was emotionally detached the entire time. That’s why he can walk away with such ease.
The mind wants closure because A normal good hearted woman cannot understand what just happened to her. And people around her don’t offer support because they think it’s just a typical relationship break up, not covert continuous abuse. So we go looking for intellectual closure on UA-cam for videos.
You will never get an apology. You will never get closure from this individual. In fact they are blaming you when they speak with others. Playing victim, hoping to get sympathy and work their way into the next woman’s house heart and home. And bank account and credit. Be careful.
Thats how NEX trapped me. Telling me sad stories abt his exes treatment. Watch out, girls.
Rebecca-Joy Henson My ex had 4 ex wives he tried to hide from me. They can’t ALL be wrong. Remember he’s the common denominator. Do a background check ... pay for it. That’s how I found out all these marriages, divorces, women and different home addresses and emails and phone numbers. And jobs. No stability. They lie lie lie. The truth is in the stories of the exs . And there’s ex in different states .... Danbury Connecticut , Fairfax Virginia and Gurley Alabama
Do credit check, sex offender registry and STD/HIV/HPV tests too . Protect yourself. Forget the charm and romance. It’s a distraction. Stay emotionally detached , you date for data.
@@creatingdigitalassets : ur entire comment is SPOT ON. Date for data. Bingo !
NOW YOU BETTER SAY THAT!!!!
Yes, our mind wants to understand what is going on. However you can forget ever getting closure. Your closet is the forgiveness you give them so that you can move on and live aa healthy life.
Christina Haftman would this narc be able to pretend for 20 years?
I'm leaving my narcissist in the morning I!! Pray for my safe departure! thank you for the video!
I finally got away from my narcissist! It's been, 1 week!!! It's not been easy to stay away from! This Creature! As odd as that may sound!!! You see! I am codependent!!!!! Pray for my healing 🙏❤️💔
@@cynthiadills5191 God bless you.
Cynthia Dills Stay strong!!!!! I believe you can break the Trauma bonds in Jesus almighty name, Amen!🙏🏽❤️ Please remember how they treated you.....
I Pray that you will escape safely. In fact God will make a great Escape for you Run and dont back. Dont Return to that place of hurt . They laugh at me because im staying with family and Friends. Im on the Mends. Jesus provided shelter with Family and friends. I was a hot mess. I put some things in storage and slowly im gathering my Strength back my Confidence back and finding me again.
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I dated the narcissist for 4 months and my whole psyche was messed up, so just imagine how the people who dated a narcissist for years! Y’all the real OG’S.
Like no.
My experience was six months, prayed fasted, God severed it.
Just left after 5 mnths...still hovering....pray it goes away asap!
3 years way too long🤦♀️,the worst things on this earth.
I’ve been married for almost 2 years & just told him I’m divorcing him.After all the mind games & emotional abuse,I told him F that go try that with someone else I’m not the one.
6 months and experienced absolute hell. A confusing and a WASTE OF TIME hell. These demons know how to work it. We must be so careful.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for three long years and stayed connected to him a year after we separated before I ended it completely. This relationship took me to places and depths that I have never been to before EVER but it was in that low place that God showed me who I was and who he is in my life. God showed me how this man manipulated me and why I fell for it and why I stayed as long as I did. I hate to say this but sometimes we need something unusual to wake us up and catch our attention. I'm finally in a place where I date with purpose, wisdom, and guidance. I have learned to pay attention to warning signs early. I also realized that it's okay to wait on God and his timing.
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Kay Tea
Beautiful Thank you ❤🙏❤
Agree especially when married. I left him when his sex life went sour, erectal dysfunction he would brag ten years ago in marriage he was the greatest lover women loved him. always bragged about his penis, I would tell him my self worth as a woman is just as good as his. now prostate hard to urinate have to take pills to make him piss better but also lesson his sex drive. that when I said in my thoughts the big pay back his man hood ego has know bragging rights time to discarded his ego and his limp noodle. sorry for being so blunt I had to break him down with his sucken penis more skin then bone lol. cheated now go bad to the whores u bed down with not wasting my time as title wife. I'm out leave his soul to rot away.
happy to hear there are others with me on this journey. stay strong- bless :)
@@soystef right here with you"....
I notice that they will always say their exes are crazy or make themselves seem like the victim in all their past relationships. And if they say their ex is crazy, they probably did shit to make him/her that way
No one ever questions what's coming out of ppl mouths. Ppl rather believe the lie and be angry and want to fight someone they don't know. Everytime a person says this person hurt me, cheated, and etc., I'm hearing I hurt ppl I cheat....that gives me enough to RUN....
Lol too funny
My Ex Narc says I'm crazy..
Yes Danielle, they will say they hate drama but they are drama.
Exactly my exnarc was perfect eloquent, personable, well composed individual.
He never wanted 2 talk about prior relationships. The only one he did was his baby momma. She keyed his car and almost stabbed him. When i asked what he did 4 her 2 get that way he said it didn't matter. That regardless she is responsible for her behavior
Run for your life people. No more trying to be nice and entertaining these narcs.
I was 12 years a slave. An emotional roller coaster. So much pain I could write a book, the soul tie had me bound and I was caught in a snare. God is healing me through this word from this man of God. I'm so happy Holy Spirit led me to this channel. I believe God for complete healing for my broken soul.
Yes. The bitch is back. I've been kind and patient and he now thinks he can put it in reverse and drive over me again and I better like it.
Love Joy Please run the other way and NC this monster. Trust me, they can't change because they're not willing to let that old Sim nature die. They practice lip service just like Satan. I pray you made it out ok. Be blessed.
Listen how ppl talk about their exes, family, and friends it tells you the type of person you're dealing with...narcs will bash a person for eternity....that's a person you have to ask if I piss them off will they tarnish my name too????
@@morticiajohnson781 there's a beautiful life after this abuse...hang in there...GOD is at work here. Don't give up trust in God....
“In your heart you really love them, in their hearts you are just an opportunity.” Man oh man.
Being married and having kids with a narc is the most exhausting thing in life. To the point where self-harm thoughts have attacked me. ThankGod that I never acted on them and I am in the separation process. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Debbie Colón this is my current situation
I think that no matter what you call us , we're still human beings and we all deserve to be treated as such. Being a narcissist has nothing to do with your behavior. There are so called normal people (just like you) who call themselves to be good and perfect with everyone else when in fact nobody's perfect.
@@jonathans3326
A narcissist who KNOWS that they are one needs to seek IMMEDIATE TREATMENT, and until then, it is in the best interests of the people around them to run for their lives. No one is perfect, but we ALL have a right to protect ourselves from toxic people. And most narcissist DO NOT treat other people like human beings. It's actually very narcissistic to want people to treat you good while you treat them bad. Pure insanity.
I know exactly what you mean
It causes a crippling exhaustion. Ive been in prayer mode without outside influences saying he doesnt know what he's doing and what about the kids. I'm thinking about my kids trying to rid myself of this demonic tie.
After being in a relationship with a narcissist it'll teach you to STOP ignoring red flags and to stop thinking that you can change ANYONE!! You'll stop waisting precious time with the wrong people and believe them when they show you who they are MOVE ON QUICK !!
In the researching this narcissistic characteristic, I realized this stress has been manifesting in my body. Aches and pains; exhaustion; mood swings. After 7 days of NO CONTACT I am begiining to feel better...Im feeling lighter. This video came to validate that I am on track!!
August 25th began my break...I am feeling so liberated!!
Keep going sis you are doing great💕
@@mslyne I'm feeling physical symptoms in my body as well. I'm praying for my deliverance from this narc.
Same thing with me- I inexplicably started holding stress and tension in my body through teeth grinding. Left the relationship amd magically cured! :)
@@soystef I get so anxious and my stomach will hurt. My hair started falling out. Was it difficult for you to get away? Every time I try to get away, I'm sucked right back in.
Don’t waste your pain. Your pain didn’t just bring you hurt, it also brought you lessons and wisdom. Focus on the lessons, on rebuilding your soul. ❤️
Ayesha Salam, Amen
Great advice 🙂
Ayesha Salam Thank you! You are sharing wisdom here.
❤️
“ FORGIVENESS IS THE CLOSURE YOU NEED” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Aman
O Oooh yes AMEN
Agree.. however it would have been nice to receive an apology.
i agree.......
No two words is closure F 'it or
F' them
Your pain didn’t just bring hurt, it bought lessons and strength and wisdom... I love that. Thank you!
I am involved with a covert N and have given him all of me from the beginning 3 yrs ago. No matter how much love, affection, and attention I give him, It's never enough. The manipulations, gas lighting, serial cheating, pathological lies, silent treatments, projections, deflections, emotional and psychological abuse, triangulation, and financial abuse for monetary gain. I was used in so many ways...my spirit is broken💔
I cud relate!😔
Praying for your healing
@@tinaclarkmd thank you! Means alot!
U would get through it happens to all of us psalms 51 cry ,bawl, if u have to it helps that what got me through and God's word
If you can go no contact block and delete
Right on time! Im no contact with my narc for 8 days. I know the lord will help me through!🙌🙌🙌🙌
Marisa Mitchell it's 7 days for me. I just cut it OFF! I feel like I escaped. Ans I feel FREE! I fight the urge to answer the phone but I know I would get caught right back on that hook.
Marisa Mitchell same here broke it off 8/21
@who the son sets free figaro thank you! AMEN!🙏🙌
@@mslyne I just cut him off too. Tired of the back and forth. I woke up on the 22nd and changed my number, blocked him on all social media, and blocked him from sending me emails. I've felt free ever since....
@@nekishabell1032 how have you been since? Do you feel this feeling of freedom also?
Wow!! That’s a good word... “Its a fantasy that the person that broke you, will fix you.” Wowwwwwww... man..😧
I loved that line. However it us sooo true. Amen for the word.
Never saw it like that. I will put this on my refrigerator.
Wasnt that powerful tho..
Powerful!
Kelia Coleman
what do you mean? did the Pastor who is teaching break you?He's shearing a great wisdom to all women who are suffering.
to the ladies that truly want to get out.....make him not like you anymore. just do everything totally opposite of what you once did. the way I handled my situation was....#1. I never did really like kissing so I stopped. #2. I stopped looking at him when we went on outings. #3. I made up every reason not to be around him as often.# 4. told him that I have no interest in sex anymore. the list is endless, just make them not like you anymore and I promise after maybe 3 months, getting away will be sooooo easy...you will want to slap yourself for not thinking of this many moons ago. god bless
Yeah, it's much harder to cut someone off cold Turkey.
Same here! The exact steps! Wow!
You are so right. I just got away from a narcissistic relationship by doing everything i knew he hated to make him walk away because i knew he would go into a rage if i made the call.
@@laurasaavedra1555 They do rage. I did it all wrong.
That’s exactly what I’m doing intuitively😂after 3 months without intimacy I caught him looking for discrete dating online. I said „thank Lord for another reason to back up my strategy“. I believe he is starting to look for another source of supply. I pray he does, so I can leave on piece!🙏🏾
The church in some ways encourage a person to stay in these unhealthy relationships/marriages by stating that God hates divorce.
Sophia Russell oh boy what a truthful statement but no not me I’m gone
Sad like what if he cheated had kids w different women or the women cheated & got pregnant by another guy..yes we FORGIVE but at a point it's dangerous
YES.
This is very true! I’m at that place right now where they are throwing all sorts of spiritual nonsense and saying I’m not the spiritual leader our family needs and I’m tearing our family apart.
@@ryanbradley1549 I’m sorry you have to deal with that on top of the infidelity pain. That is very unfair and unhelpful of the church/family.
1. NEVER let a Narcissist know that you're on to them! 2. PLAN an efficient exit strategy. 3. ONLY tell a select VERY SELECT few whom you trust with your life. 4. PLAY dumb. 5. COMMUNICATE with your attorney (legal aid representative if you can't afford one) and law enforcement under confidentiality. 6. UNDERSTAND that this is for life and you are NEVER going back. 7. NO kids means NO CONTACT. 8. IF you have kids...it will be STRICTLY AND SOLELY GREY ROCK. 9. UNDERSTAND that Narcs are capable of anything and will do anything to protect their image and mask! 10. MOVE forward knowing that you're starting over and you can and will make it!!!
Thank you for your advice
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“Force your life forward” - YES!
I know I'm going to need God more than ever because I really love him but I have to go.
Listening to this on my lunch break at work to heal the silent battles going on in my life. Ive come to the realization that the narcissist is actually the jezebel spirit which means they are demonically influenced individuals who are like parasites and i was the host. I need all the help i can get to break the bond between me & the narcissist. Please keep making these videos that involve a biblical perspective on the topic. Thank you & God Bless you 🙏🏻
Amen 🙏 Sis
Tara Diaz Ck out Rahbinah Rastabah darksided male video..Also Go to Cafe Astrology and get a Birthchart....Mars is the badboy and Jupiter is the Husbands type you need...Hope this hepl💖
Right I am going thru this as well. I feel like I am going to loose it. Help! I am feeling kinda crazy right now.
M I you may be Experiencing " The Dark Night of the Soul...We are in a differ Age Now.The Age of Aquarius and Everyone Be-lies are Falling from the Waste side and The Spiritual Awakening is happening...Why? SO One to get in touch with the Authentic Self💕
@@signatureoflove6091 I am not truly sure what your message means?
I got the validation I needed and help to move on from UA-cam videos like this. The narcissist never changed but I have. Time to live my life healthy now.
Please pray for my daughter Emily who is suffering really bad from a narcissist relationship and is being destroyed. I pray for God to take her out of this situation. She is such a beautiful kind gentle girl, but is being stripped of all that his good. Bless you all who pray for her.
After 28 yrs, I need an exit plan. I literally have to leave my home, city & possibly state to get my life back. 😫 mental illness is real!!!!
my current story
Wow! I am filing but plan to stay in house until complete. Hope I can make it.
Yvonne Transformer it’s can be dangerous to stay because he might get angry at you for leaving
I hope you made it out
Same here
“It’s fantasy that the person who broke you will fix you” wow. Forgiveness yes. Release. Leave them to God. Thanks for this video.
Amen Pastor, just what I wanted and needed...🙏🙂🙏🙂🙏🙂🙏🙂🙏
How you doing Akaysha, heard this is my new video of her. Hope you are well and enjoying yourself 😉😇👍
Good morning i needed this forgiveness and I know you Lord put my heart let go of this
OMG thank-you Lord
Yesss no control of you and let it go
"As long as you wait for another person to fix you, you negate the power of God." Good stuff.
Bishop Blake’s. I went through this last year. This man blamed me for everything. He hated me with a passion.
Same here...it was as if he was searching for something to be angry about on a daily basis and I had to get out. After 17 years, I won't look back 💪🙏
Thank God for your deliverance. Not everyone lives to tell their story. These r very dangerous ppl.
Same there and his mom as well
I still don't understand how someone can be like that 😢..it's hard i have a loving spirit but I said before I listened to this I was sleeping with the devil
He didn't hate you...it's envy he has for anything you have or possess that is better than what he has or possesses. He hates himself.
“The need of closure keeps the wound open.” 🥺✝️
Never fall in this trap. You said it right. It only open the wound
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I just left today
Dont try to reason or understand the narcissist.
Run!!!!
Run!!!
Run!!
Thank you sir, you are one of the ones who have saved my life ❤ To God be the glory for things he has done!🙌🙌🙌🙌 I'm free thank you Jesus I'm free!
Run, my sister
Run, my brother
Wisdom is too high for a fool....... ❤❤❤❤❤👏👏👏👏👏👏👏Thank you so much.
And a fool has said in his heart
There is no God
A fool think the NARC is higher than God
Our father is the MOST HIGH
Anticipate their moves and respond from a place of spirituality rather than emotion. ❤️
Ayesha Salam that does not work as it tells them that you have a good source and it will always feed from you. the only way that i learned from experience is to act and behave as them. They want to convert you into them and in doing so you will lose your faith and spirituality. NO CONTACT is best.
They can be demonic. With death threats on social media. It's much deeper depends on there level.
Responding from a place of emotions is reacting the way they want you too. The important thing to remember is, in order to keep your sanity, if you are Christ like is to focus on God to validate you, and be led by God as to what you should do, how you should respond and as to how you are to exit. Staying is not an option, however, I do understand buying time until you could make it out of an unhealthy situation. Remember, God in you is bigger than the Narcissist, it’s not that they are powerful, it just simply that in their minds they are willing to risk it all, have no remorse, respect and no real conscious so that’s what makes the situation dangerous because your not dealing with a person that can truly do self inventory or is willing to change. Now, for the ones that think God will change them, he would if they were willing to accept change, but in the mean time, they are not about that life and you have to do what is right for you and your family. Pray from a distance in other words.
I've been no contact for almost a month now after almost 2 years of bondage! I feel free, but I have a long road of healing ahead! Thank you Pastor for this word!
HOLD ON WE GOT THIS I'M JUST STARTED MY NC YESTERDAY ❤🙃🙏🙏
After 20 years
The DAD I NEVER HAD THANK YOU 🙏
Pain can also bring insight, discernment and increase the gift of prophesy.
Please pray for me to be able to get away from narc husband of 35 years
praying for you and your strength.
@@lesliemarsh1169 Thank you very much !
+Tish Leigh
you are welcome
Tish I am leaving after 31 years. God will strengthen you.
Tish Leigh Praying for you.🙏🏻 giving you faith to trust in the Lord. This season will pass and you will be a stronger soul.
At this exact moment, crying myself to sleep, in my narcissistic lover’s bed, while he is in the living room, drinking and playing loud music, I PRAY for the day I’m completely disconnected from this person.
I thank God I found you pastor, and as I’m reading these comments of people who overcame this situation I can’t wait for that to be me. I can’t bare anymore pain.
I’m going to use this comment as a mark of the day I decided to set free from this trap that I’ve been calling a relationship for a year.
God bless you all... 💕
Today I finally realized that he is a narcissistic and never loved me. He love bombed me for 9months and then his true colors started showing... I’ve never felt so miserable and even lost control over my actions because I got so emotionally involved and I could feel that he wasn’t...! But he just keeps going after me, saying the right stuff, acting, making me believe that he can’t live without me and won’t let me go.
Bottom line is, I’m learning to build myself back together, understanding my worth and understanding his debilitation, and taking away his power over me by letting go of my emotions and putting my mind together... again. His glory days are close to an end.
Blessings... Hey beautiful are you still in that same space??😶🌈😍
Get out soon x
@@jessicaviana6540 hey Jessica, did you get out? How are you doing? I do pray you find tge strenght to get out if you havent already, you aren't married to him and have no kids with him... Which is good, take the lessons n move on up... Love from all the way in kenya east Africa.... Remember God has called us into abundance and not foolishness.. Baraka.
Faith Hill Hello. Thank GOD I’m out! It was extremely hard, but so worth it now... I can’t picture myself in a situation like that ever again.
Thanks for the love.😉💪🏽👍🏽
Ive escaped and ran to JESUS!!! Ive been narc free 1yrand 9months i just want to thank the almighty if its wasnt for him ive woult had made this far
Bless you for saving you 👍💕🙏
Thank you LORD
Exactly...100 GOD lives in us!
No hoovering wowww😍🙏😇
Congratulations! It is worthy to be celebrated. The goodness of God of what he has brought you through. Blessings
If the spirit tells you no, then the narc has got to goooo! Not today, not ever Satan!
I was with a Nar for seven years and it was so hard to get away. My soul was being sucked out. I felt empty and wanted to die. I was at my end when one morning about 2 in the morning. Something wonderful was in the room with me and I was crying my eyes out. This wonderful something spoke to me and showed me how to get out of this horrible relationship. By the time the sun rose I finally walked out of it and never looked back. I left with no money, no job and no sense of where I was going to be. I ran like a bat out of HELL. I changed my phone number and moved from the state, That was seven years ago. ALSO, That night I gave my heart and soul to GOD and been very happy every since. If you ask God to show you a way out he will show you. He did it for me and he can do it for you too.
His name is Jesus and He loves you very deeply ❤
GOD Bless You
Yes! Run! And don't look back.
Love don't cause you to " Run for your life!"* Thank you Pastor 🙏
That’s a dangerous demonic spirit
mental games is its goal ... RUN 🏃♀️!!!!
*ABSOLUTELY*
*SO TRUE*
*I HAD TO LEAVE A*
*JOB* 🏃
*I WAS DEALING WITH*
*A NARCISSIST PATIENT*
*DAILY MIND GAMES*
Demonic 100%
Amen
Especially when they're physically abusive
I've studied about Narcicist/Jezebels, and Empath/Ahab relationships. But this has Been the Key 🔑 "the breaking of Soul Ties". I am asking for these Soul ties to be broken, in the name of Jesus. To be rebuked, bonded, and sent back to where it came. Thank you for making these Videos.
Amen, and that's right on point truth!
Soul ties broken in the name of Jesus! Amen. Amen...
Amen
What are the soul ties
@@Angel-td3kt you don't know? Smh
Someone gave me advice to make a list of the pain I've experienced from rhus relationship. Not to brood over who they are and what they've done, but to remind me why I've left. Because over time you forget the pain and are temped to go back. I'm a missionary in Cambodia and I'm glad to see Christians addressing this. It is totally missed in most relationship counseling.
When he showed no concern for certian others, the mask slipped. I'm away from him now.
Sometimes even with kids you have to go no contact.. Because the narc will chose to abandon their kids/kid but try to use them to keep abusing you..
How??? Mine gets in front of the judge and cries and lies like he wants them. Then when the judge grants him visitation he fills my children head up with more lies.
@@darkskinneicybari1611 mine got visitation then never used it then got to court for child support and claimed that I'm keeping our daughter away, which is a lie
If they can't get you they don't want to be bothered with your kids sad but true
Absolutely
@@wealldeserveloveandhappine7430 that’s exactly what they do. They are pure satanic energy. I wish mothers had the RIGHTS to PROTECT our children!!!😡
22:10 ‘The Need for Closure is a fantasy and keeps the wound open’... most time people in the church confuse ‘seeking closure’ due to having an ‘alt against your brother’. Some people just need to be left alone... period.. take it as a loss and keep it moving
You must Take it as a lost. Even with family
.. move on and you'll heal daily.
Are you looking for closure and not getting it? The closure is knowing they are mentally ill. The closure is realizing they are a narc- devoid of empathy, love or light. The closure is knowing the narc has only 4 emotions: envy, anger, jealousy and fear. The closure is knowing this relationship is not of God, there is no peace, no love, no light. It’s demonic. The End
K Bhogal Om my God!!! Woooow!!!! So POWERFUL post, thank you so very mutch, I need this now. ...sooo in time 🤗🙏💜💛
Thank you I needed this,I having. A hard time he has a baby behind my back, he has always cheated on me. You'd people always suffer.
PaulinaJohnson MBA Amen.
For all of those who cannot go no contact this is what you do per RC's recommendations.
No emotional contact.
Insulate your mind.
Control the conversation. Keep it strictly business.
Approach them from a spiritual place. This engages the ruach, holy spirit, to act on your behalf.
Denounce the need for closure. You don't need an apology. "The need for closure keeps the wound open."Forgiveness is the closure you need.
Begin the process of rebuilding your soul.
Keep reading from the KJV!!!!!
Thank you for your series on narcissism.
Thank you for the summary
I'm currently in a marriage like that.
I forgot how powerful forgiveness is. Thank you so much!
Unconditional forgiveness is the ultimate closure. Forgive them even for the wrong they’re yet to cause you and move on.Thanks Pastor Blakes
I feel like we all have been with the same person lol glad I left this type of warlock!! deception and lies!! Thank you God for showing me what I was working with!!! No closure needed!! Forgiveness and completely moved on!! What’s worst this man was apart of the church!! They are in our churches folks! Pray and keep moving!!
Closure for me is him gone. Once that happens I will forgive myself.
Absolutely, Forgive & leave them in God's Hand🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Yes
Best advice!
This is the 2nd day of being away from my husband (narcissist) I'm so thankful for this pastor & this channel!! Praise God for His strength & my weakness. I'm so messed up I need help!
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Praying for you 🙏🏽
Praying for you!
The amount of wisdom within this man, wow. On another level
What helps me is to remember that the "why" is the hook that keeps me in pain.
YES 💯!!
Gypsy julie, Where did u get that info, did pastor say it? I missed it Anyway, that is the crux of my issue with a narc im dealing with..the why. Why why why...endless gyrations in my head on that. I benefitted the narc so much. Im stunned at the discard. Why? Its such a grievous evil.
I jus told my therapist that the "why" keeps coming up. I can't sleep at night, can't focus on my goals, can't enjoy life cus I'm trapped in "why" but she is helping me to get thru that.
Gypsy Julie ...this is so true. It’s how the bad forces hook on.
The letter it self "y" has a hook 🤔
I wish I had you in my church.
I listened to many other advisors on narcissistic abuse
But you released me completely.
I could see it all while listening to you.
Thank you.
God Bless you.
I mean it.
💕💕💕
Amen. We must just let it all go
Olanike Adeyosola l
Thank God for revelation after doing a 3 day fast. I thank God for getting me out from the narcissistic marriage. I just pray for deliverance for all women who are trapped in such marriages and relationships
Adonai Meru Amen same here.....
God definitely works in mysterious ways. I knew the narcissist was taking advantage of my like for him in a lot of situations but today after leaving his house I felt so drained and belittled that I said I wasn't going to take it anymore. I kept replaying the insults sarcasm ect in my head. I got on utube to watch a movie or something and this video came up. I watched it and I couldn't believe it was just what I needed 🙏💞
Did you leave?
When I left him, love had nothing to do with it, my love for him went away some years ago.
Yep... Stayed due to fear, of threats and guilt thrown at me to what will become of him or what he may do.
@@Hazel4love I to went thru that as well so I understand
True..by the time I left my narc husband, the love was loooong over...js
I just got fed up and left enough was enough you have to be tired and sick of their bull
Amen!!! My thought exactly...I just got fed up too and left...js
This is so true...going through the process of accepting, releasing and moving forward....the power of forgiveness it's for me not him. I refuse to be stuck
My journey through The Land of Being Married to a Narcissist was a the most eye opening revelation that I had ever been through in my life. I'm a believer who really could not get anyone to understand the symptoms of what I was married to. 7 years and roughly 7 professional Clinicians later and A WHOLE LOT OF SEARCHING BOOKS AND FINALLY "YOU TUBE " did I even know what I was dealing with. Bishop Blake's, from the time I found you videos. I kept saying wow, does he know that he is really teaching on Narcissistic Behavior? One day I was your video not that long ago and yo u said the word Narcasstic Abuse. I am on the road to healing and moving awa y and on with my life legally. minus the Abuser. I hope I can be of help to someone going through The Gaslighting the Hoovering and Mental and Emotional abuse I suffered through. They say your trials are not always for you,but help someone else. Well to God be all the Glory then.
Leith Hendryx i am in need of help exiting with children
Well said. Great advice 🙏
Please excuse the typos and grammatical errors. Explaining my story captured the best of me.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I've been going through a lot of The same. Married 17 years 23 years ago we met. I had no idea what was going on withmy spouse until the last 2years and watching videos on Narrististic behavior. I Thank GOD I'm not too late to be saved. I'm working on me now. PRAISE GOD 🙏 for Pastor Blake 🤗
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I am so sorry that you are going through this, and even more with beautiful little one's.As women when we get sick and tired of being sick tired we make a drastic changes in our lives. Bishop Blake also has other videos on subject of dealing with men who have certain characteristics who prey on women with good intentions and low self esteem . As I stated in my previous enrty not to give "You Tube" any type of plug, however God lead me to various videos. I kept searching on whatever God put into my heart. Emotional Abuse, Mental Abuse, Gaslighting,
Also I wanted to search out why I wanted to leave but kept feeling guilty.
I thought if I prayed hard enough and kept working hard at being a quote un quote "Good Christian Wife" God would change his heart. I thought I had to stay to honor my vows. Silly me, I finally remembered that once he slept with another he broke the marriage vows, however it was not just once but continually throughout the 7 years of marriage. EVERYONE SITUATION IS DIFFERENT, this was mine. I'm telling you all of this to say. If you are at the point of being done, beat you Tube up, meaning others like you and I have been through this before and they have made a video on it. However word of advice. Try to stick with the Professional Clinicians videos. Now yes you will cone across ones by women and men who are now free and telling their story, I will say this. It will finally make see that, HEY I knew I wasn't crazy. We all have a story to tell that will eventually be the catalyst to help set someone free. I found Bishop Blake just about the second year of my search. finally facing the mess and saying it's time to make an intelligent decision to save myself and start the slow process of leaving. Honestly I'm in the midst of it as I'm typing. You will in time feel better and stronger. Yes also info on leaving with children even if they are small babies. I will send you some names if you like. I hope I did not bombarded you with too much info.
This journey I knew was never just for me. I had no one That understood. His charm fooled everyone even me.
God came to help set the captives free. I'm new at telling my story openly. I just want to help. You are not alone and even more you aren't crazy and God can and will heal all your pain. Keep watching Bishop Blake listen to him. He speaks the absloute truth from heaven on high. His teaching on walking in and being a Queen and the Do' s and Don't's somewhat started my journey to Freedom.
Now is the time to be strong. No matter what my hearts feels, I have to obey the spirit. Dont mean the love is gone...
Thank you so much for this. I am in the process of leaving a 5 year relationship with a narcissist who I have allowed to almost destroy me. I will listen to this everyday until I am healed. Thank you and God Bless you!!
“Desire for closure is the hope the person who broke you will be the person who fixes you. The drive for closure keeps you connected. FORGIVENESS IS THE CLOSURE YOU NEED. “Amen brother and God bless you for this word. THANK U DUDE!
Thank you, thank you for this video! My husband is a narcissist and he has finally broken me totally. I’m ready to move on. You have given me substance to do this. I have to do, in order to survive.
Linda Roberts,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
Thank you for this....you have no idea how much the biblical scripture helps me understand more of what I need to do and where I am going. Breaking a 14 year relationship/marriage with children involved is not easy. Genuine Love and faith that God could change him is what I struggle with the most now. We are finally away from him but still feel him and his actions daily. Please lift myself and my children up in prayer. Thank you again.
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Going through this right now!!! Prayers Please!!!
True word, “the person who broke you can’t fix you”. Forgiveness is the closure that you need. I know this to be true personally
Thank you for the honest talk! I am in the beginning stages of my exit, and this was divine intervention if ever there was. I have already made the decision to leave, but must work on having a place to land (and funds to pay for it) when I do. Fortunately I don't have young children - our son is 19 and old enough to care for himself. My biggest problem at the moment is that almost all of our / my funds are tied up in marital assets. What I need now is legal counsel, but that also costs money. I'm just biding my time, saving my paychecks in a new, private account and searching for a new vehicle / home. This is by far the biggest challenge I have ever had to undertake. Advice welcome, prayers needed.
What have they done for you? absolutely nothing but break you... Truth!
Hey Mr. Blake’s I am currently researching this and boom! Your notifications. God is good. 🙏
LaLa Michelle They are the worst
Me too. Lol. Well I wasn't looking physically. My soul just needed direction
Ephesians 6:12 New International Version (NIV)
12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the power of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Thankyou pastor this is so helpful for me
I was laughing through so many moments in your video because you were reading me like a book!!!!! You've answered so many questions and concerns for this matter. I feel much more confident and secure with moving on from a toxic relationship. Thank you for your wisdom and I give Thee Most High all the glory, worship and praise for leading me here.
Incredible message of the need to escape the narcissist through complete absent of contact. I look at them as soul suckers or destroyers. They are the greatest con artists. You must have a need to save yourself from their abuse not them.
After 30 years with a narcissist it’s very hard to not look in the past. This was a good video. Thank you for your wisdom and encouragement.
Excellent overview, however for me once I decided to leave my marriage I didn't look for closure from him nor want him back. There were so many emotions and I learned it's levels to divorce also. I knew I had to heal and it was MY responsibility to do that. We do have a young son so yes I have to deal with him, however upon my research you hit the nail on the head I cut ties with him for anything other than our son. I almost NEVER call him he calls me since our son lives with me. I think he got the point, I also laughed when you mentioned "can we be friends" lol because that's exactly what he asked me, I said nope, we can raise our son! He did and said SO many hateful things to me during the separation, I want nothing to do with him. I don't even know who he is? To anyone in a narcissist relationship the BEST advice I can offer is to do research on the personality disorder, the information will arm you with knowledge and the strength to decide what you need to do in your life. Once I learned he would NOT change, I knew I had to go or I would end up so broken I wouldn't recognize who I was someday because I was already miserable. Finally, once you have one you'll be able to detect the Narc signs from anyone else you meet. Again, learn all you can about this disorder and join social media support groups especially if your in the beginning phase of learning about narcissism. Find your PEACE life is too short to settle for less and be unloved and miserable.
They cannot and will not change, ever. Never ever. No contact! Its a lifesaver.
I truly love how you supplement your message with a prayer...Thank you!
It's hard to leave when the narricist has drained you financially.
I got that right
Very good message on leaving a narcissist! I'm in the process of working my exit plan. I needed to hear this. From my experience is in my 11 years with a Narcissist, 9 married, you are EXACTLY right!!! Thank you once again! Great scriptural references too... as a Christian woman I needed to hear these messages... my mind was already made to leave but hearing this helps so much.
I left and the kids and I are safe. I had to be super strategic but God led us to freedom. Hallelujah
HEY PASTOR👋🏾 YOU GOT MY JAM BACK ☺️ LET’S TALK, I BE VIBING TO THAT INTRO💯 PASTOR GOD HAS TRULY GIVEN YOU A GIFT, YOU HIT THE NAIL IN THE COFFIN EACH & EVERY TIME YOU SPEAK👌🏾 YOU REALLY HAVE BLESSED MY LIFE BEFORE & AFTER MY DIVORCE. YOUR TEACHINGS GET ME THROUGH ALL OF MY HARD TIMES🙌🏾 THANK YOU SO MUCH❤️
Amen Pastor Blakes, each time I watch his posts always come away with an abundance of wisdom and pure truth. I've been NO CONTACT for a month with the power of the Holyghost. God. Bless you Pastor Blakes I pray and thank God for you. This season of being involved with a toxic demonic narcissist for 3years pushed me to pursue God and I prayed for God to open my eyes to the traps and games men have been using on women, and one day in March 2018 I was streaming on UA-cam and chanced upon Pastor Blakes. I've been listening since.
The advice that you gave was perfect! I overcame a narcissistic relationship and those are the exact steps I took!
I am in a very heartbreaking place being extremely empathetic and being weak to trying to find the good in a person who has beat down with this abuse I’ve been in a cloud for days and you are helping me come out of it. Thank you so much these thoughts of mine are hurtful but thanks to you and god I am feeling a bit better. God bless you
I'm so grateful for you because I'm really dealing with a person like this and I'm so ready for my exit. May God bless you and pray for me as I take this step of EXIT
Pastor Blakes,
I needed this more than you know!!! I appreciate you and your gifts that you share!! For as much as I hated this situation and eventually hated myself for allowing myself to believe in someone so cold, yet even having a child for him later on, I couldn't stand life and it was then and only then did I seek GOD, and I needed him more than ever and you know what, he has taken me and led me to amazing people like yourself and many others of his kind and I Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! I have a true testimony to share and to help strengthen others that may dealing with the same and like you say "Forgiveness" and prayer will get you through it all!! God bless
My God! This is life-saving! My life described. I left. It was hard and painful, but I know it was God's best for me.
You’ve nailed it, Pastor. Yours is the best video about dealing with and recovering from narcissistic abuse. I’ve watched a lot of videos by mental health professionals about narcissists and you’re the first person to address so many of the things you mentioned, such as not using social media. That’s huge. The Bible examples - David and Saul, Jezebel, - the verses, your analogies like the rear view mirror being smaller, were excellent and so relatable. There’s nothing we face or might face that there’s not guidance for in the Bible. It was very giving of you to investigate this soul-damaging experience and form an extremely helpful and informative video.
Thank you for this teaching. I'm right in the mist of this torment. I'm 3 days in with no contact. I pray that I can keep my eyes on Christ. Yes, it hurts to walk away from my marriage. It's been 6 long years that I've endured this madness. From this day, I choose Christ, and to love me first.
Wow! This video is so enlightening. The no contact is imperative. I have implemented that today.
Thank you pastor I really needed to hear this. It happens to be my birthday today. I think your talk was the best birthday present ever.
Happy Birthday
Happy birthday
Thank you! God bless you all
@@whatthehell286 happy belated birthday.
Another thing I have very clearly recognized in the many narcissists in my life is that they are capable of only total infatuation or total rejection. Infatuation is their version of love. Rejection is your fully justified punishment by them for being wrong.
Agreed!!!
Interesting infatuation can be narcissism ? that’s a good discussion
Lust
Psalms 54:4 Psalms 55, 56, 57. Leave them in the hands of God .Only God can handle this.
Thank you so much Pastor for confirmation of what my life was like with a narcisist. Thank you also for your understanding when no one else did. God bless you and may you continue to shed light on these devils... just empty vessels devoid of any human emotion wherein evil takes up residence.
The best Biblically based instructions including this very serious matter are right here.
Thank you, Pastor. God bless you!
Thank you Sir.
Positive vibes from South Africa
Nthabi, where are you girl, I AM IN Johannesburg. Mzantsi Queens need to hear this!!!
He's on point 👌
Another on-time word! God’s favor is upon you Pastor. God bless you!
As I have children with a narcissist I found myself trying to figure out how too have "no contact", then bam the Lord spoke through him with the answer!!!!! Praise the Lord and bless this man of wisdom!!!
I have recently found RC Blake. He is great! I'm posting to let you know about Tina Swithin. She is very helpful with documentation on co parenting. Blessings!
I was mentally abused by my narc husband via telephone and today I feel like I've been stoned, I just want to lie in bed feeling heavy in my head like I've been beaten. I have 2 children with narc and now i plan to escape this when I can break away from him financially. I believe God will release me.
Thank you so very much. For anyone skipping this advice because they are Atheist: I am nonreligious and still found much wisdom here.