THE NARCISSIST AND SOUL-TIE RELATIONSHIPS by R.C. Blakes,Jr.

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  • Let’s talk about the connection between the narcissist and soul ties. Sometimes we attract toxicity because we are toxic.
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  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  Рік тому +2

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  • @nicoleperkins2158
    @nicoleperkins2158 6 років тому +1270

    May God free everyone who watched this video and is dealing with these situations. I pray for healing and restoration in Jesus Name

  • @jueileen4599
    @jueileen4599 6 років тому +526

    Lord save me....set me free from this toxicity and demonic forces.

    • @roxannerose5349
      @roxannerose5349 5 років тому +12

      Take you fight into spirutual realm , and when you are in the spiritual realm God takes over your battles .trust me siss on this one. I was there for 6 yers until i found Derek prince a pastor that no longer live among us my he rest in peace .

    • @chasitysanders8830
      @chasitysanders8830 4 роки тому +2

      This is exactly what I needed to hear. This enlightened me completely.

    • @gloriasimpkins823
      @gloriasimpkins823 4 роки тому +2

      Claim it in the name of Jesus Christ Whom the Son sets free is free indeed believe in God He will do it! Be blessed.

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 4 роки тому +4

      @@gloriasimpkins823 This is where I was at for 3 yrs. Jesus set me free but it wasn't quick or painless.

    • @gloriasimpkins823
      @gloriasimpkins823 4 роки тому +2

      @@barbarariley3488 God blessed you to get out of that messed up relationship thank Him and move on He knows that you are better than that , and you spirit was troubled God will for us is to be at peace.

  • @nancypodbesek8936
    @nancypodbesek8936 4 роки тому +300

    The narcissist will always give you a big dose of love in the beginning then start acting like you don’t matter when they have you hooked on their love and probably amazing sex. It was never love it was just an addiction to a fake person! Amazing articulation of their strategies! Thank you for this video!

    • @reneegray6084
      @reneegray6084 3 роки тому +7

      You nailed it. Although the sex wasn’t all that, I only have sex with one person at a time. So he basically deprived me of sex. But yes, he made me feel so special, in the beginning, then he started ignoring me in the home and when we were out. And everybody thinks he such a ‘good man’ social media will show all the ‘fake’ love. He had people so jealous of us. So I started ignoring his social media comments post pictures or anything social. Imma bout to just unfriend him altogether. 👍🏾

    • @crystalphillip588
      @crystalphillip588 3 роки тому +3

      Yes the sex is so good but they will never change

    • @edith324
      @edith324 3 роки тому +1

      get a brain scan first

    • @amberesha3353
      @amberesha3353 3 роки тому +1

      That.narc sex be good dont it lol

    • @truthbetold4350
      @truthbetold4350 3 роки тому +15

      Sex with this narcissist is the most boring selfish sex I’ve ever had with another adult…

  • @buzzingbee6380
    @buzzingbee6380 6 років тому +911

    This is one of the most painful thing I've ever been through.

    • @buzzingbee6380
      @buzzingbee6380 6 років тому +6

      Ava Goodman
      I don't think so he has a younger supply I can't compete with it. She fell hook line and sinker

    • @highlightedreply8838
      @highlightedreply8838 6 років тому +29

      thats soooo true...it doesnt matter if they have moved on ...cuz memba wen THAT new flavor of the month goes dry ....then they come back to "the one" they shudda never left...............

    • @Shadissy
      @Shadissy 6 років тому +57

      The sure will. I left mine. I told him that I was leaving him, because he would never leave me!!! They keep coming back. I left and never looked back. My flesh wanted to reach back, but I stayed prayed up. I rebuked that demon in the name of Jesus to leave my mind, my body. 6yrs later, I still might cry here or there. But I'm better. They can do some real damage to a person. Many have had anxiety attacks, gone on medication. Leave dont let him or anybody - his family know where you are. Leave

    • @Shadissy
      @Shadissy 6 років тому +81

      This is the kind of person that will mess you up and cause you not to want to get into another relationship for the rest of your life. I'm asking the Lord to help me with that. I am full of love, thats what makes me beautiful, I know this. There was nothing wrong loving someone. What was wrong is that he took it and used it to hurt me. I pray for my deliverance.

    • @Shadissy
      @Shadissy 6 років тому +53

      They are so filled with a demonic spirit - out to kill, steal and destroy you. And they will if you dont break free!

  • @1pinky_toewarrior887
    @1pinky_toewarrior887 5 років тому +603

    God please break all soul ties that have tied me to toxic people and that of anyone I have a soul tie with . Break all the bounds with these people. Memories and all .Like it never happened in Jesus name .

  • @a.nicoleministry2939
    @a.nicoleministry2939 4 роки тому +127

    When an empath meets a narcissist is a perfect storm ⛈ 😳 WOW

    • @trogers418
      @trogers418 2 роки тому +6

      Yes, wow is correct ! A perfect storm ! They absolutely drain the empath. Thank God for revealing truth to his people !

    • @sugarplum2308
      @sugarplum2308 Рік тому

      Omg

  • @tymtyqueen08
    @tymtyqueen08 5 років тому +512

    I’m 20 I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 years. I was the empath who also formed a bond through trauma bonding. The narc drained all my happiness and energy. He abused me mentally, physically and emotionally. Very controlling and possessive. After really getting to know him, I realized he had no sense of self, he didn’t like himself, very insecure, empty. He just had a built up persona.. God revealed and showed me SO much stuff. He showed me how evil and demonic he was and his family was. He saved me literally. I had to pray over and over for God to give me the strength to leave this person. I couldn’t so God ended it for me. The pain I went through when it ended was like I was going through withdrawals. My spirit, my soul my everything was longing literally for him. I couldn’t sleep, nothing. I felt so used and drained. I got through it though here I am 2 years later and I’m so blessed. I still think of him almost every day and I’m still working on that. I loved this video & the fact your enlightening others. I definitely subscribed!

    • @sadiefrazier9314
      @sadiefrazier9314 5 років тому +45

      I promise we have the same story, it's so amazing how GOD work things the way he work them. Amen he told you out like he did me.

    • @tymtyqueen08
      @tymtyqueen08 5 років тому +12

      sadie frazier so true God is good

    • @bevelynbrown9359
      @bevelynbrown9359 5 років тому +16

      I'm glad your eyes r open, keep working on u. Until u know all the dating and relationship rules, don't date just hang out with your family and friends.

    • @sophiachin1262
      @sophiachin1262 5 років тому +28

      Hey cancel that it's not complete. Your mind is the battlefield. U must forget him complete. Let God strike him from your memory. Hallelujah. I been thru all that honey. Focus n loose that. U want real love proper love n husband... Right? Focus on that new life submit to God n make it become real.

    • @tiarab6655
      @tiarab6655 5 років тому +12

      kayla monroe that’s crazy same exact story sis woww

  • @sharhughes1086
    @sharhughes1086 6 років тому +209

    That soul tie is very strong it nearly killed me, the Narcissist wanted my soul, once you start to walk on eggshells you lost your self by trying to save the Monster it's chaotic and destructive, You will never have peace or harmony, know resolved issues, it's a rollercoaster ride from Hell, Only God can break that soul tie, I am free I Thank God everyday he delivered me from the enemy, I never experienced such evil in my life, God bless everyone who encountered that kind of evil!

    • @warriorwoman432hz
      @warriorwoman432hz 6 років тому +7

      Shar Hughes, they are tied to the spirit realm through blood, candle magic, or a host of other occult mediums, and they know exactly what they are doing. They are being revealed because their own lives don't matter to the darker powers they serve. As another sistah-queen posted, they have no soul, so there is nothing in there to redeem to the Most High. Any pity towards them is wasted energy.

    • @sharhughes1086
      @sharhughes1086 6 років тому +11

      WarriorWoman your spot except for one thing they have a soul it's just dark and full of demonic forces that's taking control over their soul which they can know longer control. Satan is the driving force behind the wicked they do!

    • @warriorwoman432hz
      @warriorwoman432hz 6 років тому +8

      Shar Hughes, I'm not entirely convinced that a spirit and soul are the same entity. I have shared office space with covert Narcs and they tend to lie and do evil continuously and with a callous disregard that is inhumane. At different times I have tried to warn their victims, but the Narc just went after them harder. And I believe a true Narc knows that he or she is evil, as they have no desire whatsoever for change. I agree with what you are saying, I just think there is a difference between a spirit and a soul.

    • @mimi2781
      @mimi2781 6 років тому +14

      You hit a nerve when you said "once you start to walk on eggshells you lost yourself by trying to save the monster"....I couldn't have said that any better..its so true..I've done it for so many years..in the process of letting go..

    • @brendalenoir2840
      @brendalenoir2840 5 років тому +9

      @@warriorwoman432hz Oh my God l am learning so much! Yes He was tied to demonic forces. Only took, never gave and if he did give anything I had to give it back. So no matter what I gave, he still needed whatever he gave back. The most sick twisted person I ever met! God gives me dreams so He let me know he was leaving. He was the second narcissist, didn't listen to God. Ladies there are red flags, we must pay attention.

  • @kikia.1352
    @kikia.1352 3 роки тому +101

    Having a soul tie with a narcissist feels like an addiction. I've never been addicted to drugs but I can imagine the struggle of someone who knows something is bad for their health but not being able to rid themselves of the desire to have it. This is what its like trying to leave a narcissist. You know they are bad for your health but you find every excuse to keep them around. You even stop hanging with family and friends just to hide the fact you are still involved with them. Yea, its that bad. Well, im a week and a half of being discarded for the umpteenth time and this time im fighting hard daily just to keep him blocked from calling me. I hope I can stay the course and fight the temptation but I still hear that tiny voice telling me I need him. I pray that God continues to give me the strength. You can not fight the urge without God right by your side! I am slowly but surely coming out of a dark place that was leading me to a place I never want to know. My family is fighting hard with me as well to keep me from going back down that road to destruction 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @eliiserose_
      @eliiserose_ 2 роки тому +4

      I hope you stayed strong girl 🤍

    • @elizabethcreated9263
      @elizabethcreated9263 2 роки тому +3

      I can relate. I am two days in of no contact after 16 months of being strung along and broken promises. Overall just confusing of being broken up with then apologized to and loved, pushed away and then “the balls in my court”? Luke 1:37. What happened?

    • @tammiguzman8317
      @tammiguzman8317 2 роки тому +4

      I wish I had the strength. I'm 8 years in and stay for the kids. He doesn't even try to love bomb anymore. I get the asshole all the time since he's aware I've figured him out. Yet his mistress ( his ex he supposedly hated) gets treated like a queen. I've raised their 2 daughters since infants and they are 9 and 10 now and neither of them can stand their parents. So I stay because they need me. But I've noticed so much I was so blind to before. Trust me when I say narcissists come in packs. His whole family are crazy fake, manipulative, even dangerous, as well as his ex. But they come across as so wonderful and never would I have imagined they'd of done things that they've done . But ofcourse I'm the crazy one because they are the best "actors/liars/ blame shifters/ never would hurt a fly " type people In the world.

    • @bigsip37
      @bigsip37 2 роки тому +5

      This is me! I feel the same exact way you feel! This is not easy but at this point I have too stay strong and not look back bc it’s Broken me DOWN, not where ppl can tell my inside is torn UP, but I’m am fighting this thing head on now and facing the fear of losing someone who didn’t even add value to my life anyways! Thanks for sharing and letting others know we are not ALONE! 🙌🏾

    • @nikishamorgan325
      @nikishamorgan325 2 роки тому +4

      @@tammiguzman8317 girl when I say run and forget about them kids, I mean run it only gets worse, let him go back to his queen and they have to figure it out! But your peace and happiness is greater! Let go and pray for those children....I'm sorry I'm not trying to be harsh but get your love back for yourself! ❤❤❤🫂

  • @nancydelacruz3626
    @nancydelacruz3626 4 роки тому +52

    Sometimes because you know God , you keep trying to forgive & heal the relationship, until depression, physical aches pains, becoming emotionally confused, spiritually drained, reclusive, exhausted , that's just a few of the harmful results.... This video is so profound!!! Thank you

    • @rikim1693
      @rikim1693 Рік тому +5

      I agree..They play the role.The enemy knows the power of wrong relationships
      and connections to destroy you

  • @davidhidalgo8522
    @davidhidalgo8522 6 років тому +295

    In order to break the deadlock of a narcissistic abusive relationship, the empath must give to themselves the gift of desperation (GOD). The narcissist comes into our lives to teach us to build those boundaries. To learn to balance our feelings and our thoughts and to learn to discern the difference between frivolity and love. As an empath I always thought that I could fix things in others. That's playing God. In this area I have been agnostic. The gifts of intuition and intuitive thought need to be bridaled by discernment. So balance between our thoughts and feelings can only be achieved by enlarging on our spiritual lives. Understanding spiritual principals and being a disciplined learner of such is the key to freedom. Thank you for your work brother.

    • @danglicous
      @danglicous 5 років тому +9

      If GOD Could Cast Out demons In The Bible He Can Still Do It The devil Is A Pig He Tempted JESUS Who IS GOD In The Human Form Not Once Or Twice But Three Times And What Did JESUS Do He Spoke The Word Of GOD So We Are Suppose To Be CHRIST Like We Are Not CHRIST Let's Start Rebuking Let's Start A Page For Rebuking All Soul Ties In JESUS Name And With His Most Precious And Powerful BLOOD For Everyone Who Is Watching This And Everyone All Over The World.
      And Let Me Start By REBUKING NARCISM From My Husband And From Everyone Watching This And In The World Who Is A Narcassist.
      May GOD COVER All OF Us And Our Families And Friends In JESUS Mighty Name And With His Precious And Powerful BLOOD.
      This Is Not Benny Writing I Am Under My Son's Name
      And My Life Has Been Destroyed But Let Me Tell You The Word Of GOD Has Made Me Stronger Do We Want These Souls To Go To hell These Are demonic Forces No We Don't All This Is True Ignore These People VerballyYes But Pray GOD Can't Change Them Sometimes Faith And Love Are Things They Don't Come Automatically You Have To Chose To Believe AND LOVE.
      AMEN
      P.S.
      The HOLY SPIRIT REVEALED THIS I CAME ACCROSS THIS BY ACCIDENT ABOUT NARCISSIM THERE IS POWER IN NUMBERS LET'S START PRAYING FOR THE DEMON OF NARCISSIM.

    • @heatherfields2275
      @heatherfields2275 5 років тому +1

      Well Put 👍

    • @xenigma35ray21
      @xenigma35ray21 5 років тому +6

      wow.....couldn't have said it better myself!!!! right on!! I do relate to your positive choice of learning from this as well as. I've experienced two of these in a row.....and, I'm trusting the Lord that he has taught me much from them both. And their IS indeed a diff between Spiritual discernment and Soulish intuition.

    • @jevonbivens6399
      @jevonbivens6399 5 років тому +1

      Very well said

    • @justsharing9631
      @justsharing9631 5 років тому +12

      Thank you! It took me awhile to come to this truth. If only I learned this earlier. It's in the asking that we receive. When I truly let go and let God my eyes were open. When I started loving myself and everyone around me I started experiencing the peace that surpasses all understanding. Did my husband change, nope. Yet, God equipped me to with wisdom, knowledge and understanding on how to respond to him. I am no longer the victim. I now take responsibility- (respond-able) how to respond to him and All the wonderful well-beings on this planet. It was not an easy journey, but indeed it was worth it. What you are seeking is seeking you. Walk in forgiveness towards yourself and everyone that hurt you. Love yourself and everyone. Have appreciation for everything, yes even the heart breaking experience. Everyone comes into our lives for a purpose observe without judgment(that's really tough). Stop reacting to everything that is happening in your life take control over your feelings. Stop allowing others to control you. Remember we all have a path in life. Find what makes you feel good and happy. Focus on the now it's the present( it is a gift). Alone time is all I seek for now. It's peaceful, quiet and not demanding. It's in those quiet times you fill those spaces with love, joy and peace. You'll receive more in return. Remember you are worthy and deserving. The only person that I have control over is myself and my thoughts. You'll notice that people only come from their perception of you based on how they feel. So many people like to control so they can feel better. They want you to behave in a way that makes them feel good. Love, appreciation, forgiveness is key. God is leading us we just need to let go and trust Him. Believe that everything is always working out. We are all creating. Why not create the life you desire. God will either remove that person from your experience or they will change. Love, light and blessings to all my wonderful Co-creators. God bless

  • @1427cj
    @1427cj 4 роки тому +207

    God brought me here for a reason at the right time before I said “I Do” 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

    • @kaylamarie1416
      @kaylamarie1416 4 роки тому +4

      Catina Jenkins wow God bless you. I know your testimony is big

    • @yolandawright789
      @yolandawright789 4 роки тому +9

      Wow so many people have went on and married that joker god bless you lady

    • @aqua5185
      @aqua5185 4 роки тому +4

      That's exactly how I feel 🤗

    • @healingonesmindset
      @healingonesmindset 4 роки тому +1

      @@aqua5185 I'm unfortunately 6 years in😔

    • @lindayates1136
      @lindayates1136 4 роки тому +1

      @@healingonesmindset 42 yrs of marriage

  • @lorrainesmith4279
    @lorrainesmith4279 6 років тому +116

    We are in a spiritual battle with these demons.....

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 5 років тому +10

      I pray that these people are freed from Satan's captivity!

    • @sophiachin1262
      @sophiachin1262 5 років тому +5

      Yes long story short God's ppl vs. Satanic agents. God knows the best husbands or wives for His ppl. Stay in God's will these ppl come to kill, steal, destroy or use. Distractions n diversions. If u gone thru it gain knowledge n power n war that wickedness. The devil been defeated long ago these are just life tests & obstacles. Repent n turn to God He will give you your best spouse. U will be delivered and healed.

    • @kelishapatrickable
      @kelishapatrickable 5 років тому +1

      Most certainly!

  • @vanessahauser6467
    @vanessahauser6467 6 років тому +82

    And the worst thing of it all is how they tell everyone that YOU are the bad person , that YOU are the poison. After they sucked out all you have to give and it still wasn’t enough, mentally drained you, they will want to tell the whole world how terrible you are! And they all believe it. And I still wanted him back again and again. This is the worst thing that ever happened to me. This video is a blessing. Thank you !! I will watch it over and over again to never forget !

    • @warriorwoman432hz
      @warriorwoman432hz 6 років тому +2

      Vanessa Hauser, this for sure happens with females working in the same office or professional arena. Women are catty with one another to a point. When a Narc enters the equation, the whole office takes a moral nose dive and people start bickering over stupid stuff. The Narc takes a break, goes on vacation with his/her latest boo-thang, re-appears to everyone as the voice of reason, then the space is calm for a few days. This bliss only lasts for about a week though. It's like a controlled burn in the forest but nobody warned the animals. I have had my whole body scalded in high winds, so these wicked trolls must be vaporized from every aspect of my life. If my 'best' personifies that thing they hate the most, then good--game on!

    • @sherronb3348
      @sherronb3348 6 років тому +4

      Vanessa Hauser ..you're absolutely right Vannesa..it's only 2months for me..I've wasted 6 years with this Narc..all the love balming, gas lighting etc..I feel broken , angry, depressed.. Emotional roller coaster..and we live in the same complex..it's very hard for me..I wish he would EVAPORATE!!!

    • @vanessahauser6467
      @vanessahauser6467 6 років тому +5

      Sherron B it was almost 5 years of my life I wasted for this devil. It’s 2months now of no contact for me as well and I pray every day that he doesn’t show up again so I can heal completely. I am so glad that I finally got it and do not want this toxic person in my life. It took forever but it finally made click in my head and I thank god every day. But sadly i still struggle and I know it will take a long time before I am completely healed. I wouldn’t even wish my worst enemy this experience!!! Truly! May we stay strong 💪🏼 I wish you the best for your new start 🙏🏼

    • @taraspehar6718
      @taraspehar6718 6 років тому

      Yes!you said it right. I'm going thru this

    • @MicMurphy1981
      @MicMurphy1981 5 років тому +1

      I went through the same thing with a female she went around the city that we lived in and dog me out to everyone but in all actuality they made themselves look stupid because they were with us if we were that bad then why would they stay with us that long so we couldn't have been that bad and I know everybody isn't that stupid to believe that we were those type of people and if they are they carry the same spirit that did Jezebel narcissistic carrying

  • @siphokazishiburi1838
    @siphokazishiburi1838 5 років тому +134

    I finally let go of a toxic relationship with a narcissist. I feel like I've finally gained my peace and freedom back 🙌. There are days where I question myself on where I might have went wrong and how I should have changed the way I responded to certain things. The sad truth is we were never supposed to be together in the first place, God even showed me a vision regarding this man and what I saw is exactly what played out throughout our relationship. I felt emotionally drained, worthless and felt like I lost a sense of myself. I couldn't function properly, I was always sad and depressed. My mind could only focus on the failed relationship. A week wouldn't end without me shedding tears. He used to tell me I was crazy and dramatic and the more I internalized the negative words the more I started thinking that maybe there was something wrong with me (its a lie from the enemy).

    • @dashabarrett2574
      @dashabarrett2574 Рік тому

      He’s doing the same thing to me… all I do is question myself and what I did wrong and what’s wrong with me

    • @alnutsa31
      @alnutsa31 Рік тому

      Narcissist do that to everyone! It’s like they are clones ! Made and raised in the same factory . I have read so many testimonies and they all talk about the same type of abuse . They break you to nothing that you loose yourself who you are . I had to go through deliverance , soul tie breaking without this the battle in the mind is unbearable. I used to think where is the pause or stop button to press so my brain can rest . You can only get rest in Jesus . I am going through divorce it’s not easy but Jesus can turn any situation into our good , we just can’t see while we are going through trials . God is good keep hope in Jesus , He will help those who seek him . only

    • @Trisha_23
      @Trisha_23 Рік тому

      Am going through this and it hurts so bad. Am stuck in this toxic relationship for fear of starting over. This is the only person I have ever loved with all my heart and he treats me like trash 💔💔

    • @lorrain4646
      @lorrain4646 Рік тому

      Be advised, you couldn't have said it better...I experienced everything you spoke on. The holy spirit had told me, I was going to be with this person, before we connected. He was a recent widow. I misunderstood the holy spirit, and thought my role was to nurture this man, and build him up. Now, I realize, the spirit was trying to warn me of being with a devil. He literally destroyed my spirit. I am now afraid to talk to men, and the sad thing about it, I consider myself, a good girl.

    • @blu_rey8656
      @blu_rey8656 Рік тому

      Why does It seem like mostly women suffer from the ‘soul tie’ effect?

  • @NewYorkNadia
    @NewYorkNadia 5 років тому +319

    An "empath" is simply a person who is addicted to the vast amounts of hormonal rushes of cortisol and adrenaline/endorphins that are released when dealing with a narcissist. The fighting and the arguing release "fight or flight" hormones (cortisol) and the make-up, honeymoon period afterward release endorphins; a rollercoaster. Once a person's body is accustomed to these heavy doses of hormones, they find it difficult to let go of the relationship. Like any drug addict, they are so physically accustomed to the hormones they have a hard time changing their behavior. This is why empaths constantly seek out the same toxic relationships; they seek out the hormonal rush. They are consciously or unconsciously attracted to mates with the same toxic traits because they know that they will receive the flood of hormones they crave. This is also why empaths find healthy relationships to be "shallow" or unsatisfying: healthy relationships do not flood them with hormones, and while this is a positive thing, it makes an empath feel like the relationship is "empty." It is difficult for empaths to overcome their addiction BUT IT IS POSSIBLE. The first step is realizing what is happening and why: it's a physiological addiction. The second step is to DECIDE to live a healthier life. No amount of advice can change a person who doesn't want to change; while they can help you, no therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist can do this FOR you, you must choose it for YOURSELF. With time, you CAN end the addiction and find real love. But you won't find true love until you can love YOURSELF enough to make life choices that will enhance your life rather than destroy it. The third step is TIME; you must give your body the time it needs to HEAL. You must seek out support and surround yourself with people that truly care for you. You must give yourself the time to get accustomed to the peace that comes from breaking the addiction. This also means NO CONTACT with narcissists and with people who raise a red flag. Their problems are not yours, neither do you need validation from people who are not qualified to GIVE IT; MOVE ON. The fourth step is to find a PURPOSE for your own life. When you are focused on your purpose and become good at what you do, you have neither the time nor the inclination to seek out people who will distract you from it. Empaths suffer from low self-esteem; they are usually people who have been raised by narcissists and are constantly trying to validate themselves to the parents who were unable to give them the emotional support they needed growing up. They replay this scenario in adulthood, and pay a heavy price for it. LET IT GO. If your parents weren't good people, acknowledge it and move on. YOU can be a good guardian to YOURSELF, and you should be. Peace and love to everyone here, I went through this myself and I was able to overcome it. YOU CAN DO IT. I hope this helps.

    • @heatherfields2275
      @heatherfields2275 5 років тому +6

      Nadia Asencio I do Worry about the Empty feelings of New Relationships!!! 😢😞💔

    • @NewYorkNadia
      @NewYorkNadia 5 років тому +34

      @@heatherfields2275 That's because you are comparing everyone you meet to your "idealized" version of your ex; stop doing that. Think about it this way: if this were your last day on earth, how would you feel about every experience you have right now? You'd appreciate every single one, wouldn't you? I think we all would. Learn to appreciate the good people who come into your life TODAY. You're wasting your present living in the past; stop. That past wasn't even good, so why relive it? When I started dating again I kept picking men that looked and acted like my ex; it would take no more than two dates for them to blow up just like he used to. After the third time it happened, I learned, I remembered why I wasn't with my ex anymore. I realized that men who fall into those patterns about him that I "admired" ALSO came with all the issues that he carries around. I also realized that I had grown; the minute one of my dates raised a red flag, I was out of there. That's what finally helped me understand that I didn't actually miss him, I only missed the "idea" of him, the many hopes and dreams we had built together, but because of his disorder, would never be a reality even if I had stayed. I finally gave a nice guy a chance, and it was GREAT. He was handsome, funny, kind, ambitious, talented, and no issues. We dated a few weeks, nothing serious, but the experience freed me from repeating my pattern. There ARE handsome guys out there who are sweet and still masculine; there are men out there who are deserving of your time. Stop pining for a man who didn't know how to value you; life is too short, AND too long, to waste on anyone who can't treat you with the respect you deserve. You got this, lady.

    • @peterpopowycz1058
      @peterpopowycz1058 5 років тому +10

      Thank you for the explanation regarding hormones. You hit the nail on the head with that. It's the rush and the addiction of the push-pull and the intensity of the rush it gives you. looking back I can clearly see how my body reacted.

    • @NewYorkNadia
      @NewYorkNadia 5 років тому +17

      @@peterpopowycz1058 Crazy, right? But also, normal. Human beings are complicated; not only mentally/psychologically/emotionally, but physically as well. We tend to forget that there are massive amounts of hormones and chemicals flooding our bodies and minds, and that these have a profound affect on how we process the world around us and the decisions that we make. However, we can overcome any addiction by avoiding the people, places, and things that cause us to engage in destructive habits. We CAN get our bodies used to living without these rushes, and we should, if the behavior that is causing them is also causing us and those we love unnecessary pain and suffering. When I was weaning off of my last relationship, I only had to remember the many family members and friends that truly love me and that would suffer at the hands of my abuser if I decided to go back to him and allow him to hurt me. It was difficult, and it took TIME, but I did it. You can, too. Never forget that the power you seek to overcome this cycle is already within you. Believe in yourself; I do.

    • @heatherfields2275
      @heatherfields2275 5 років тому +6

      Nadia Asencio THIS THREAD CONTINUES TO HELP AND REMIND ME!!!! THANK YOU 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @chellestephens2098
    @chellestephens2098 6 років тому +310

    When my narc ex saw me getting stronger, and totally transform! Aaaaaand just when he thought he was "the man" well something shifted and he began to have issues in every column of his life. Long story short he was curled up in a lil corner crying talking about how low his self esteem was. We split of course 👏but I've transformed so much my relatives are jus happily blown away, in regards of how much I've "queened up"

  • @missd9144
    @missd9144 4 роки тому +67

    I'm convinced God led me here tonight. I've been struggling and having an internal battle with myself, wondering why I couldn't let this man go. Now I understand. I pray that I'll be emotionally, mentally and spiritually set free. Thank you Jesus for guiding me here🙏❤

  • @traciebrown8455
    @traciebrown8455 6 років тому +178

    Trauma bonding is no joke.

    • @YoYo0204
      @YoYo0204 6 років тому +6

      Tracie Brown you are absolutely right, I'm going through it now

    • @traciebrown8455
      @traciebrown8455 6 років тому +13

      Well I'm praying for you because I grew up with both and I mean both narsassistic parents ,relatives, friends, coworkers and bosses. Not knowing what it was and no one I could relate to about it. That caused me to be codependent and having PTSD and fight or flight. People in the church leaders included are victimized due to narcs. Some are overt or covert. But now because of the Grace of God and Jesus blood I know what it is and being prophetic that was what the enemy used to destroy my anointing. I am diligently going through deliverance and healing to be a vessel for Gods kingdom to help his people in Jesus name. Thanks to Pastor Blake's for helping spread some healing. Don't give up God gotcha. Be encouraged Isaiah 54:17, Psalm 118, Isaiah 41:10, Psalm 23,27,34,37, 51, 53, 63 and 91, 2 Timothy 1: 7, Galatians 5 , Ephesians 6: 10-20. May these verses help give you strength encouragement and hope. God has us all. He's leading us to pages like this for true teaching but remember ask the Holy Spirit for edification and verification. God Bless you my sister you are not alone.

    • @YoYo0204
      @YoYo0204 6 років тому +1

      Thank you so much God bless you

    • @Joni-qf2it
      @Joni-qf2it 6 років тому +4

      I was 56 before I figured out what was wrong with my mother. All my life she was an addict and I was told she was scitsophenic but I believe she is psychotic narcissistic personality. Thank you all for your words and advice.

    • @ci.ci.1998
      @ci.ci.1998 6 років тому +1

      Tracie Brown Heck Nawl!

  • @venusianempress4447
    @venusianempress4447 6 років тому +90

    I feel the most toxic narcasstic relationships is when it's your own MOTHER

  • @feediamond2317
    @feediamond2317 3 роки тому +7

    The sad thing is the narcissists really think that You're dumb and that they are getting over on you not knowing that you're very intelligent and don't believe a darn thing they say when they say they love u never believe it go BY THEIR ACTIONS I ALWAYS GO BY ACTIONS but that soul tie had me stuck so glad its over!!!!

  • @missqlalah
    @missqlalah 6 років тому +84

    Yes Pastor Blakes. This is true. My daughter's father strategically selects the women he dates for his needs & if the woman wakes up & realizes he doesn't love her & thats he's using her, he calls her selfish, attacks her verbally & then will serial cheat. He did it to me & all his gfs.
    There is a saying that says a selfish man is a thief. That is a narc. You never get back what you put into a relationship with them.

  • @janiemiller825
    @janiemiller825 5 років тому +145

    Another good point 👏
    The codependent is starved for love 💕
    The narc is avoidant of love 💕
    The narc throws bread 🥖 crumbs or tiny bits of affection
    Bread 🥖 crumbs so the codependent is never satisfied or full/ always hungry for more .... ****ah ha moment 🤔 💭

  • @tyreeshathomas7092
    @tyreeshathomas7092 5 років тому +137

    OMG, this describes my life and I want out of this mental war.

    • @renitajordan8129
      @renitajordan8129 5 років тому +3

      Tyreesha Thomas me too

    • @bandieboo8102
      @bandieboo8102 5 років тому +3

      Me too. ..i am losing it. What sort of god does this to nice people. ..i have no faith anymore. ..what sort of a god allows this to happen.

    • @hthomas9891
      @hthomas9891 5 років тому +6

      You have to find other friends. Friends that you pick. Don't always let people pick you. Those people target you because your nice. Let them know your not too nice.

    • @siphokazishiburi1838
      @siphokazishiburi1838 5 років тому +17

      @@bandieboo8102 It's not God. Yes, he allowed it to happen but it was not him. Your choice to not wait on God's best led you settle for less than God's best. So you never were supposed to be with him in the first place. God desires for his children to have Godly relationships filled with unconditional love. May he heal you and restore everything that has been stolen from you.

    • @cleohope4209
      @cleohope4209 4 роки тому

      Yes, me as we. I just keep praying on it😒

  • @TL-kt2ye
    @TL-kt2ye 6 років тому +116

    I was sitting in my car crying my face off LITERALLY about my breakup and I was watching a random video and THIS popped up in my feed. JESUSSSSSS JESUSSSSSS JESUSSSSSS! I'm a gallon person and I fell in love with a pint person. I ended it about a week ago and this video was everything I needed. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! My friend recommended your book and I never ordered it, and then I sent her THIS video and she responded...THIS IS THE SAME GUY THAT WROTE THE BOOK I KEEP TELLING YOU TO BUY! WOWWWWWW. LOOK AT GOD! This video was CONFIRMATION. THANK YOU! Ordering book now! I feel like a burden has been lifted off me. Sorry this was so long. This was a #godsend.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @ah6335
    @ah6335 6 років тому +109

    Thanks for the anointed teaching for empaths. We need this. The narcissists are literally capable of killing us if we don't know any better about what they are ☺ God bless you.

    • @brendalenoir2840
      @brendalenoir2840 5 років тому +3

      A H when I first heard of the empath months before his teachings I thought it was like the horoscopes etc. But when I heard RCBlakes teach on it knew it was ok. His teaching for me came as I had just dropped a narcissist before he did his damage. As an empath, as he said I was questioning myself. Next day I heard his message on men and the narcissist. God bless him because he's bold enough to step out of the boundaries of the preacher. Like you I am so thankful God lead me to him.

    • @27ltm
      @27ltm 4 роки тому

      A H praying your better! I know the feeling

  • @lgc3335
    @lgc3335 2 роки тому +13

    “When a relationship ends with a narcissist, for an empath, it is traumatic and leaves a demonic longing for closure and twisted sense of guilt that I have done something wrong and that the narcissist can change” this hit a nail on the head, now they're on gods path and your the demonic spirit smh,

  • @S.K.McCartyMBAMHA
    @S.K.McCartyMBAMHA 5 років тому +124

    Whew! This was spot on Sir! I was the empath and was in relationship with a narcissist ex for 7 1/2 years. So glad that God helped me break free of that!

    • @melissanaeem4897
      @melissanaeem4897 3 роки тому +1

      This is excellent!!! I have finally broken free after 7 years.

    • @justbyougail8820
      @justbyougail8820 2 роки тому

      How did you break it? For me its been 14yrs!

  • @misslewkingdom6390
    @misslewkingdom6390 6 років тому +170

    I’m so glad I’m Single ... I’m learning so much !!!

    • @conchettam6861
      @conchettam6861 6 років тому +5

      Lucrisha W. ME...2...🌸SINGLE AND HAPPY!

    • @maryhudson3420
      @maryhudson3420 6 років тому +2

      +CONCHETTA'S BLESSED me too happy but somewhat miserable. i havent had sex in 7 years and i get sexual urges months apart i try so hard with the help of Jesus and it works for months then the sexual urges comes back. im tired of holding on cause i dont want to hear the words from the Lord depart from me i the lake of fire. for sexually pleasing myself so sorry to bother you this is another topic

    • @misslewkingdom6390
      @misslewkingdom6390 6 років тому +2

      keep up the Great Work urges are Natural

    • @maryhudson3420
      @maryhudson3420 6 років тому +1

      +Lucrisha W yes it is but why do i feel so guilty. thank you anyways.

    • @misslewkingdom6390
      @misslewkingdom6390 6 років тому +4

      Mary Hudson first of all guilt is not from God ask Bishop Blakes the devil wants you to be miserable but be Happy and Joyful and Blessed hold your head up and Thank God for that kind of Self Control !!!

  • @claudiamachado2759
    @claudiamachado2759 5 років тому +89

    Before I knew he was a narc I had a dream where he wanted to be intimate with me (thing that never happened) but when I opened my eyes he was growing fangs like a vampire. The Spirit of God revealed his true nature months ahead of time. Thanks for the teaching. I’m on my way to healing and wholeness

  • @demonkat5
    @demonkat5 6 років тому +115

    can you pray for me? that God will break all soul ties for me and restore me, and pray for my family.

    • @foxyroxy123
      @foxyroxy123 6 років тому +2

      Navatia Wallack .....I learned about soul ties many years ago, I was taught to call back the fragmented pieces of my soul from every relationship I had. So I did and I'm whole now. Pastor is right on with his information. I hope this helps you.

    • @demonkat5
      @demonkat5 6 років тому +2

      Lo Lo it helps a lot. thank you

    • @christineelizabethhorner5829
      @christineelizabethhorner5829 6 років тому

      Navatia Wallack a soul tie or trauma bond is breakable by choice and dedication. You are not powerless to decide who you want in your life or not.

    • @demonkat5
      @demonkat5 6 років тому

      Christine Horner I don’t keep in contact with anyone I have soul ties with anymore

    • @blondiek8934
      @blondiek8934 6 років тому +1

      Navatia Wallack prayer for you now. God free your soul spirt and body.

  • @beverleyhawkins5789
    @beverleyhawkins5789 6 років тому +31

    This spoke to me today! I was in one of the relationships you spoke on Pastor and I spent the longest time trying to figure out WHY I was so connected to this person who treated me with such disregard! When you truly surrender your life to God - he takes away toxic relationships, pain, hurt and disappointment! I am a living witness that you can have life after narcissists! He did it for me, and he can do it for you too!!

  • @sarahstaub5550
    @sarahstaub5550 2 роки тому +25

    I would say I am a recovering co-dependent and definitely an empath. What I've come to know is that a narcissist and co-dependent are shadows of each other. And, until we get the deep healing we need (rooted in abandonment and rejection) we will ALWAYS find ourselves in these MAGNETIC relationships!

  • @ParentsVoice
    @ParentsVoice 6 років тому +168

    Abstinence is the only way

    • @artimusgee9488
      @artimusgee9488 6 років тому +6

      I'm a 35 yo man n my last convo with my father a week ago this is what he said. It's true

    • @artimusgee9488
      @artimusgee9488 6 років тому +9

      Told me to learn to control my mind to refocus away from sexual thoughts. That's tough fiddle

    • @freesiapetals2882
      @freesiapetals2882 6 років тому +2

      swag-gal
      Absolutely, they've been running in different directions when I tell them I'm abstaining.

    • @ParentsVoice
      @ParentsVoice 6 років тому +3

      Freesia Petals yes girl because they trying to convince you to give them the goods on credit or a promise of a future commitment -that usually never comes by he way!

    • @ParentsVoice
      @ParentsVoice 6 років тому +10

      Artimus Gee it's especially nice to see a man keeping his goods to himself. So many men think a woman wants a man whose been ran through and that it makes them look like a boss, but I'm totally disgusted by a man whose had a lot of partners.

  • @BP-fh8np
    @BP-fh8np 6 років тому +210

    My God...
    Cover me Lord, cover me with your blood dear Jesus.

    • @freesiapetals2882
      @freesiapetals2882 6 років тому +5

      B.P,
      May the blood of Jesus Cover and Sanctify you NOW in Jesus mighty name, Amen.

    • @justzee1574
      @justzee1574 6 років тому +4

      God has given you the knowledge to help you identify these people and not get intaglled. In my case, it is my mother which it took me all my life to heal I that God for social media where people like this pastor is shedding light on it

    • @geraldinemiller1473
      @geraldinemiller1473 6 років тому

      AMEN AMEN AND AMEN!!!!!!

    • @dansefureva7664
      @dansefureva7664 6 років тому

      @@justzee1574 How did you break free?

    • @beeproverbs1042
      @beeproverbs1042 6 років тому

      Amen

  • @BBC4.0
    @BBC4.0 5 років тому +68

    You are the only person I’ve seen nailed Narcissism & codependent too the bones

    • @anastasiast.pierre188
      @anastasiast.pierre188 3 роки тому

      Yes however check this out also. There is a lady pastor on UTube that looks at Christian Narcissism.
      She also explains narcissism so well

  • @marilynmoore8353
    @marilynmoore8353 5 років тому +91

    So glad to see a pastor bringing this type relationship to the attention of those who may be suffering a soul bond with a narcissist . One thing people need to understand is this is happening in the church as well . Many narcissist are hiding behind the bible . They know scripture well and want their prey to believe everything is their fault , and use scripture to back it . Thankyou for explaining in such detail . You have brought light to many . God bless you !

  • @hazelkupkakess7842
    @hazelkupkakess7842 5 років тому +159

    A narcissist is a jezebel spirit

    • @lexip396able
      @lexip396able 3 роки тому +2

      💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @skw2882
      @skw2882 3 роки тому

      Yes

    • @SuperCookie011
      @SuperCookie011 3 роки тому

      No, they are not the same.

    • @SuperCookie011
      @SuperCookie011 3 роки тому +1

      @@lovewins8045 Leviathan is the Spirit of Pride; Python tries to constrict your prayer life and isolate; Jezebel has an Ahab, even if it’s not her /his spouse and can be very pious outwardly, but it is an organized network that spares nothing to take down their victims. They look “motherly” but their children tend to be “narcissistic “.

  • @audreyroche3182
    @audreyroche3182 4 роки тому +35

    They are like the devil hating on good as they are jealous and envious of the good in u thank u

  • @missygray4128
    @missygray4128 5 років тому +56

    When I was toward the end of my relationship with a narcissist monster, I did not know at the time why I felt this way, but I knew without a doubt I was going to die or was in the process. Never in my life before, have I ever felt without a doubt I was dying or going to die soon. Its was very creepy and unexplainable at the time. Now I am out, God has wrapped me in his arms and as I begged and prayed for help and protection, God has graciously giving it to me. Even after 4 years of no contacts I still struggle with these horrible "ties" sometimes. I have to constantly pray for protection and for God to change my mind and help me to fight the emotional pain he inflicted on me. I would not have ever believed ANY man could or would have this kind of power over me. Demons do exist, put on your full armor of God! You have to have Gods armor to fight this kind of evil... 🙏💔

    • @purityonthenarrowway
      @purityonthenarrowway 3 роки тому +6

      You explained the exact feeling I have every day! Like I am dying. Not like suicide, but from the pain. I can feel the stress and tension in my body. I need God to help me!!

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 3 роки тому +1

      I was continually suicidal with him. Every-single-time.

    • @lilbirdhates6
      @lilbirdhates6 2 роки тому +2

      Hey I just wanted to reach out to you because it's the first time I feel like another person knows what I know and had to feel what I felt. I kept telling him you are taking years off my life and I just feel like what you are doing is literally causing me a premature death. I am dying or I wish I was dead because you are causing me so much agony that I feel I am in the process of my death! I never felt like anyone would understand what I was talking about if I was to share that feeling with them, so I am grateful that you shared this , and I can at least feel like someone understands what I have been through. I am so sorry that you know this horrifying reality , and I wish it never happened to you or me but it did and now I hope you know that I am with you in this experience and you are not alone! And GOD is with us of course.

    • @Melanatedminimalist
      @Melanatedminimalist Рік тому +1

      Praying for your full healing and let God be your comfort and guide!!!!

  • @eyeoffthetiger2691
    @eyeoffthetiger2691 6 років тому +184

    Great video..I'm in this situation right now. I wouldn't be in this situation if I just followed my instincts. My gutfeeling😩Almost 2 months narc free..No Contact! Thank you🌹

    • @NostalgiaVibes420
      @NostalgiaVibes420 6 років тому +8

      Lynn Htown you got this girl it's been almost a year for me and I tell you it gets easier day by day no contact is the only way!

    • @eyeoffthetiger2691
      @eyeoffthetiger2691 6 років тому +5

      Nikkita Padgett thank you ..yes it only 2 months of NC.. I will get there you are right about family and friends..they could be 🐒🐒🐒🐒 ..can't wait to see progress after 6 months..especially with that soultie bond...thanks for the tips..

    • @eyeoffthetiger2691
      @eyeoffthetiger2691 6 років тому +5

      Naturally Taylormade88 Thank you.. good for you..a year no contact.. ✊ and yes its gonna be easier. No Contact for sure🚫

    • @eyeoffthetiger2691
      @eyeoffthetiger2691 6 років тому +1

      Smiley Murphy thx yes i'm still hanging in there..it's hard sometimes. I'm working on progress..succes with you're freedom as well💯🌹

    • @warriorwoman432hz
      @warriorwoman432hz 6 років тому +2

      Lynn Htown, I concur with the other sistah-queens, absolutely no contact. I had children involved, ages 11 and 16 at the time, but they were old enough to retain contact if they wanted to--no pressure from me either way. They both decided no contact on their own, and at 17 and 23, have become better young men because of it. Coaches, cousins, and other positive men stepped into my children's lives, and I was grateful for their intervention. Happy Father's Day to those men!

  • @winterluv5
    @winterluv5 5 років тому +67

    The "trauma bond", for me, came from having to rely on a person that I could never actually rely. That right there can change a person in ways that even I can't explain!

  • @WhyCee74
    @WhyCee74 5 років тому +21

    It took me getting ill with chronic pain to realise that I'm an empath and my entire family are narcissists. God finally woke me up to realise that I can't help them. I have to help myself. Finally I'm breaking free.

  • @1974Asha
    @1974Asha 6 років тому +237

    126 unlikes? Obviously Narcassists unhappy you've revealed their stratergies!

    • @Tommi717
      @Tommi717 5 років тому +8

      😂😂😂right!

    • @cassiancass2424
      @cassiancass2424 5 років тому +5

      I wish this had a love button lol this is so true

    • @juliaanderson8956
      @juliaanderson8956 4 роки тому +1

      I came across the word "soul ties" randomly in a you tube video I was watching. This is mind blowing!! And speaks VOLUMES in my life as I type this. I always was a pleaser and lived my life to make sure others were happy as well as the the relationships I had. I decided that in 2020 I would remain single and learn to love myself again and find ME. Ur videos on soul ties and breaking them have truely been a sign as well as point me in the right direction to begin my spritual journey today. I am a new subscriber and ur videos are truely the sign and blessing I was missing!!!

    • @monicageller1807
      @monicageller1807 4 роки тому

      Correct...

    • @mollyross3607
      @mollyross3607 3 роки тому

      Ha Ha Ha😂

  • @mssagittariusgang
    @mssagittariusgang 4 роки тому +42

    God gave me the strength to walk away I was dying slowly

    • @tammysnide5389
      @tammysnide5389 4 роки тому +6

      I pray that you have recovered well. Go forward and grow in Gods love.

  • @jessa5444
    @jessa5444 5 років тому +14

    I was with a narcissist, I didn’t realize he do such a thing, we got married and he slowly broke me down to the point were I was left with nothing, he beat me when I discovered his ways and blamed me.. I’m not the only one he’s done this to but I was the first to discover who he truly was, I was in my lowest point in my life, I was so traumatized, he hurt me in every way possible, I did feel like I was gonna die.. it took me so long to get myself back up and it’s been over a year and I’m still struggling getting back up. He has changed me forever but I thank God I didn’t stay bitter. I describe him as a monster

  • @tracyking7682
    @tracyking7682 5 років тому +82

    You nailed the description between Narcissist and the Empath!!!👍🏽👍🏽💪🏾💪🏾

  • @Quantum36911
    @Quantum36911 4 роки тому +7

    You nailed this 100%. I realized this is why my whole life has been stolen from me... I thought it was just my mom, but when I "escaped" from her and went to my dad's, who promised to help me, I found out he is just as bad, even worse because he hides it. It is the final piece of the puzzle, for why I have never been able to find love, because my parents both drained it from me, and I thought I had to give everything of myself to be loved, which never came. AT 52 years old, I'm finally learning to make my needs important too.

    • @madhuridas4745
      @madhuridas4745 5 днів тому +1

      Good Luck 🎉I wish you find Joy, Peace and Fulfilment ❤

    • @Quantum36911
      @Quantum36911 5 днів тому +1

      @@madhuridas4745 Thank you! Things have gotten better! I still feel a lot of grief and sorrow, but I got a job at a trauma center to help people like me. It is very healing. Thank you so much for your kind words and I wish the same for you!💝

  • @bebop54
    @bebop54 6 років тому +14

    trauma bond is an addiction to hope....
    more deadly than any drug....
    thank you so much...

  • @TheFanHitsShit
    @TheFanHitsShit 5 років тому +20

    I think that I'm an empath/codependent/love addict - that's why I'm such a narc magnet 😪😭

  • @mariewalker9097
    @mariewalker9097 5 років тому +148

    Im on a serious healing journey so I've noticed why he blocked me an got upset was bec he realised he cant manipulate me as he did before yes all my relationship were Co dependant I was everyone life saver but im trying very hard to heal an break myself from this behavior

    • @garrysmith9856
      @garrysmith9856 5 років тому +15

      Put God first then your self and Watch how your life begin to change..Selflove and Strong Mindset

    • @Thelifeofgisel
      @Thelifeofgisel 4 роки тому +10

      Omg this made me realize that a guy I used to talk to blocked me because he realized he couldn’t manipulate me anymore 🤔

    • @ratnaghiraw896
      @ratnaghiraw896 Рік тому

      Same here sister

  • @reneealex4146
    @reneealex4146 6 років тому +13

    I lived and have lived 41 years of marriage who called himself a preacher with this narcissistic person I was the empath on January 30th 2018 the narcissist left me homeless because I said I would no longer support or agree with this type of teaching and living there was going on in our home and outside of our home I am so grateful to the most high God for what he did I didn't understand it at first because I was hurt but I understood that God was protecting me possibly saving my life I am in the process of healing and it may take years to heal but he'll I will pray for us women out here who has been manipulated who have been religiously taught that we are to stand by our man well I'm standing by the most high and standing for the most time now glory to the most high God for teaching ❤️

    • @ms.v4138
      @ms.v4138 6 років тому +2

      Renee Alex Wow!!! God is going to use you mightily!!! All was not wasted. God is going to restore you and everything the enemy stole sevenfold. Your testimony blessed me!!! Be blessed.

    • @reneealex4146
      @reneealex4146 6 років тому

      I'm Coming Out ,I receive in the name of YAHSHUA CHRIST and agree with the word of our MOST HIGH GOD YAHAWAH that HE will bless protect and provide for my , blessings to you and your family

    • @ms.v4138
      @ms.v4138 6 років тому

      Renee Alex Amen!!! Thank you!!!

    • @warriorwoman432hz
      @warriorwoman432hz 6 років тому

      I almost never post in comments, but I had to jump on this freedom train. I have spent the last few years praying to get back what I lost, but that has kept me ruminating on how the losses came upon me. I have done the forgiveness work, but I despise having to defend my credibility like I was the thief! I thought it would be different if I moved, but I have trust issues to work through. The YT video on "10 things powerful women do," is a great recovery tool; however I still have a problem with the Proverbs 31 woman. She has too many irons in the fire with no ability to rest or enjoy the fruits of her labor. As a literal Queen, your life is not your own and that's a given. As figurative queen, where is my help? A weary queen meets the silly woman and the harlot in ladies room several times a day, and the mirror tells all three "YOU are the fairest one of all!"

    • @beautyinj6426
      @beautyinj6426 5 років тому

      Im glad you got free, yes narcissists can exist in ministry too. I learned that as well

  • @SunShyne-of3xj
    @SunShyne-of3xj 6 років тому +13

    You are spot on! I am empathic, we draw those who need healing as well. Sometimes you don't even realize it. I am highly sensitive, you can know that they aren't any good, but we rationalize giving them unlimited opportunities. I almost had a mental breaking point, but thank God, I know God!!

  • @melaniedemingo5869
    @melaniedemingo5869 3 роки тому +13

    "You're on top and you're going higher. God has more in store for you." A blessed seed to plant in my heart. Thank you pastor.

  • @bethdunn612
    @bethdunn612 6 років тому +31

    My narc killed himself. The day before my birthday. I don't want to be tied to his soul.... ever. We were divorced for a few years. Sad. Thanks for this. 💗

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 5 років тому

      Mine too. He didn’t have anything cards to play. And, it worked. It fucked my daughter up good.

    • @Dd-po2ij
      @Dd-po2ij 5 років тому

      WOMAN BLESS. U.

    • @ratacataviousbrown4702
      @ratacataviousbrown4702 5 років тому +2

      @@mobutter2879 Good assessment or observation on your part. It really is their last and dirtiest trick. I am sorry for your daughter. As she ages, please explain narcissism to her and this was in no way her fault. God bless.

  • @ericamcneil2672
    @ericamcneil2672 5 років тому +59

    My God 😔😔😔...
    I am trying to heal from this.

  • @fmc2973
    @fmc2973 5 років тому +3

    I have tears falling like a waterfall. I have trauma bond. Lord, please bring healing and restoration to my soul.

  • @erinwheeler6772
    @erinwheeler6772 6 років тому +45

    I wish I wasn't an empath. It feels like curse. Thank you for this video.

    • @gresselinejean-philippe2151
      @gresselinejean-philippe2151 6 років тому +11

      You have to learn to protect your heart and the love... First, try your best to love yourself... You must learn to give all the love that you give to others back to yourself. Trust me, I know.

    • @tonisimpson2399
      @tonisimpson2399 5 років тому

      Pastor
      I have been experiencing every, single thing you have spoken while caring for my godson. He was diagnosed with Bipola. I even experience the Narcissism behavior from his family. I lost friends, money, property trying to help this person. But I knew deep down there was something Way Out of Order, " I also am a Co-depentent!!!
      God is truly speaking through you. I appreciate your obedience!
      Amen!!!

    • @brendalenoir2840
      @brendalenoir2840 5 років тому +1

      Erin I understand! We just got to fight that impulse to give and to accept. Not only men but family and others will take advantage if you let them.

    • @brendalenoir2840
      @brendalenoir2840 5 років тому +1

      @@gresselinejean-philippe2151 I know you are so right ☺️

    • @cadavera6.6.6.
      @cadavera6.6.6. 5 років тому

      @Erin Wheeler, just the other day I was thinking this exact same thing.

  • @shontemartinez7826
    @shontemartinez7826 6 років тому +10

    After my relationship ended with the Narc, I found out I am an Empath & a Codependent, the perfect victim for a narcissist. This is the only good thing that came out of my relationship with this evil person. I now have boundaries and I am learning to take care of me first. It has been a very sad journey but everyday I get stronger. Thank you for your words and wisdom

  • @natalielino7078
    @natalielino7078 4 роки тому +2

    I know exactly what your talking about. I'm going thru this now!!! But God can definitely deliver!!! I'm a living witness to that. I was a crack addict for 18 years and for the last 12 years I've been set free!! THERE'S NOTHING TO HARD FOR GOD😇😇. Thank you

  • @visweetee78
    @visweetee78 6 років тому +18

    I'm ending a marriage with a man I believe to be a sociopath with of course narcissistic traits. When I reflect back to how we met and how fast everything went, the little intricate details make sense. I associate with your description of an empath. However, I'm just now learning this about myself. This is how he was able to latch in to me so easily and it seemed like I had not my soulmate. People need to be warned. A sociopath or narcissist can truly ruin then mental state of innocent/naive person. We have been married for 7 months and within the first month I started seeing a totally different person. It was scary.

    • @heatherfields2275
      @heatherfields2275 5 років тому +1

      Karimah Jackson my husband (ex) is Narc with Borderline Sociopath tendencies. I stayed married to him for over 30 years BUT he began showing signs & manipulating me just a few months after marriage. I REALLY DIDN’T UNDERSTAND What was happening!! It PUTS ONE INTO A STATE OF SHOCK & DISBELIEF.
      I kept having these “that couldn’t have Really just happened” moments, those “I must’ve misunderstood him” moments. 💔😞
      NO. IT WAS TRUE.
      I mistrusted my Instincts & Intuitions. But I was YOUNG when I First met him. Young & Trusting.
      I learned the LONG HARD WAY. 💔🙏❤️

  • @KDADDYSGIRL
    @KDADDYSGIRL 5 років тому +79

    This was really helpful. I couldn't quite understand why I let people continually do me wrong and I​ kept them in my life.

    • @vfree4579
      @vfree4579 4 роки тому +1

      You're not alone but I realize now before my health Youth and beauty are gone and then you wake up old and wondered what happened❗

    • @patriciawhite9509
      @patriciawhite9509 4 роки тому +1

      It's o.k. You will change with God's help. I used to be a chronic empathy for over 50 yrs. 'Friends' and family alike took my kindness for weakness. And abuse me they did. I have changed now.

    • @atlcentralstage7026
      @atlcentralstage7026 4 роки тому

      And me This Case🙄🙄🙄

    • @respectmygangsta3716
      @respectmygangsta3716 4 роки тому

      Right me too smh

  • @carolv2161
    @carolv2161 4 роки тому +7

    Amen!
    I have attracted Narcissists my entire life and I’m learning to Rebuke them in Jesus’ name Amen!

  • @vesselofhonor9017
    @vesselofhonor9017 6 років тому +24

    WOW, this teaching is so clear now!!!because I’ve been listening & learning about an empath & a narcissist. O LORD deliver us from all evils in JESUS NAME 🙏🏽💖🔥🔥🔥

  • @MegaRenee2010
    @MegaRenee2010 6 років тому +66

    First of all Bishop 🙌 Thank you for acknowledging the definition of an Empath! Your the 1st Pastor I've heard to say this🙋

    • @ci.ci.1998
      @ci.ci.1998 6 років тому +1

      Charlotte Right!

    • @erica01161978
      @erica01161978 6 років тому +2

      when he was describing this I was thinking OMG this is me :-(. im so glad he covered this!

    • @MAJORMAN299
      @MAJORMAN299 6 років тому

      Very tru

  • @AM-nc7ds
    @AM-nc7ds 4 роки тому +2

    Narcissism is the biggest blessing of my life. It has fired my heart to help forge my faith and returned me to myself. I believe my soul's mission is to break through these relationships by understanding myself. I have been very toxic and I have been seeking these relationships. Deep within my soul I know I could not have woken up from the illusions of this world, if not for my painful experiences. I needed to learn that even feeling people can be destructive. I needed to learn that ignorance in the name of goodness or Godliness is especially destructive. I needed to learn that I have to learn to pave my own way. I needed to learn that my anger is not always bad, but is a protection of myself. We must learn to tap into God and break this bond to ignorance that controls so many of us. When we are free from this we will be free to give Love and Truth in the world like it needs! We must fight to be free of these things, we will only win the fight by finding God within ourselves and honoring ourselves as Holy. We are made of Love, we are strong enough to defend that Love in ourselves and others. Find You, Find God, Find True Freedom. That's what your narcissist is hear to teach you.

  • @kuimwangi7892
    @kuimwangi7892 6 років тому +23

    "Only God can deliver you", and He has delivered me and I thank God !!! Thank you.

  • @kathleenscaouette5304
    @kathleenscaouette5304 5 років тому +10

    No Pastor Blake..you did not talk too much..I have been suffering for 22 years under the demonic control of a malignant psychopathic narcissist and only have come to realize within the last couple of years what I am dealing with..I felt so much love coming from you that I was brought to tears..I thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking on this awful and extremely painful nightmare that is narcissist abuse..I felt God when you prayed and I know I was led to your channel through divine Grace..I thank God for you..

  • @tierrasade7
    @tierrasade7 4 роки тому +29

    Great content! I’ve come to find that the narcissistic personality is the leviathan spirit. Pride. That’s what needs to be prayed against. I love the breakdown and I would just add spiritual ways to break free. It’s powerful when we can use psychology and faith to move toward healing!

  • @5339kimhall
    @5339kimhall 6 років тому +25

    Pastor Blake's this is very powerful and accurate. Narcassist never totally move on because they see you as an extension of themselves . Especially if you were a good supply. They just start playing musical chairs. The final discard usually comes from you! Thank you God Bless you abundantly:)

    • @Shadissy
      @Shadissy 6 років тому +8

      And when you do the discarded, it devastates them. Narcissistic Injury is what is. They cant handle the rejection, just pulled the mask off them and it painful for them to be exposed like that. You made them feel like somebody, your accomplishments, your great personality. All they did was copy like a chameleon does from you - draining you while loading themselves up with everything you got.

    • @heatherfields2275
      @heatherfields2275 5 років тому

      Towanda W. - YES. YES. YES!!!!!

  • @avilesand
    @avilesand 5 років тому +49

    I appreciate the fact you take your time to address relationships with narcissists, and that you refer to scripture during your discussion. I've listened to alot of great speakers in regards to this subject, but I feel most deeply impacted by your delivery. Thank you! I hope you keep addressing this topic to help people like me, who find it difficult to walk away.

  • @cosmicqueen3616
    @cosmicqueen3616 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, Amen. Today the light came on with regards to a trauma bond and forgiveness ... I left just over a year ago and have been fighting this battle and did not understand it, or put a word to it. "It's not longing... its bitterness" at being so betrayed and hurt in SO many different ways. Wow. Thank you for bringing this to the light. This is such an important message for so many people suffering at the hands of a narc. Bless you. Thank you Lord, you are the Almighty One, the Alpha and the Omega, I praise your name and thank you. I am the righteousness of God through Jesus Christ. With God for me, who can be against me. Amen.

  • @joanningram6312
    @joanningram6312 6 років тому +17

    Was married to a narc for 25 yrs and yes a trauma bond is hell here on earth. Been out 4 yrs now and have learned about what I went through. Many miracles have happened but I still cannot understand the evil. Thank you for all you do sir.

    • @lg8wood
      @lg8wood 6 років тому +1

      JoAnn Ingram I can totally relate...married to one for 17 years...had no clue what I was dealing with. Thank God I am free! There are 2 channels about narcissism that were instrumental in my healing.
      1. Assc Direct
      2. Petra Van Deijl
      Just sharing....God bless.

    • @BrittFulli
      @BrittFulli 6 років тому

      Wowwww 25 years?? Geez !!! So glad you got out!

  • @Jetyfrancis
    @Jetyfrancis 6 років тому +15

    You are preaching to me......married to a narcissist, they all so believe there own lies, and will do and say anything for people to believe his lies.....I am ready to sing my divorce.
    I could tell you so much more about them!

    • @bevelynbrown9359
      @bevelynbrown9359 5 років тому

      Did u file your divorce papers?

    • @fmc2973
      @fmc2973 5 років тому +1

      They do believe their own lies bc once they are found out they justify them. I am divorcing my narcissistic husband of 19 yrs. When he's gone I feel so free. When he's home in my presence my spirit jumps.

    • @thealmighty8320
      @thealmighty8320 5 років тому

      same just divorced my narcissist

  • @cheryltx5399
    @cheryltx5399 5 років тому +5

    This presentation is SO needed from a Biblical perspective. Christians are dealing with this just as the World. Thank you for your hard work. God can deliver, ask Him. If you surrender and submit to God He can heal like nothing else can. Amen

    • @lorrain4646
      @lorrain4646 Рік тому

      Thanks you Cheryl, you are so right. I am a victim of a narcissist relationship. I am so grateful that I have a personal relationship with Christ. Currently healing through this grace. Bottom line,....christians and demonic do not match!!! Hallelujah!

  • @norekoescada3202
    @norekoescada3202 6 років тому +134

    Intermittent reinforcement damages the neurotransmitters in the brain. Honestly you have to rebuild the dopamine levels. You can do it with prayer but if you wanna go it more quickly you would need Wellbutrin & w mood stabilizer. But also God too! But if you wanna speed up the process go to the psychiatrist & start seeing a psychologist and go to church & bible study. Watch RC Blake’s UA-cam videos and listen to only gospel music to rebuild the spirit and do exercise and clean up and be really clean. ❤️💕 this helped me get over my narc instantly. I started becoming unbothered by him. And I just ended up blocking him and now I’m chilin trying to rebuild my life.

    • @Wisesthustler
      @Wisesthustler 6 років тому

      What is intermittent reinforcement and a mood stabilizer? I’m glad you are healed and out.

    • @bornoflovefirst
      @bornoflovefirst 6 років тому +2

      @@Wisesthustler Intermittent reinforcement is when they every once in away respond to what your actual need is. When this happens you begin to 'accept' the bad because you know the good is possible. Wellbutrin is a medication often classified as a mood stabilizing, anti-depressant.

    • @Munkeishia1nOnly
      @Munkeishia1nOnly 6 років тому

      Thank you 😭😭😭

    • @Munkeishia1nOnly
      @Munkeishia1nOnly 6 років тому

      OMG.........

    • @2thankfulnGrateful
      @2thankfulnGrateful 5 років тому +1

      Thank you my sister in Christ!

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 6 років тому +114

    After Being Discarded
    I Still Struggle With Letting
    Go Of The Narcissists.I Know
    In My Heart That This Person Means Me No Good.This Person Emotionally Abused.& Beat Me Dwn So Bad.After 2 Yrs I'm Trying To Get MySelf ToGether.They Are Very Sick Ppl.

    • @lg8wood
      @lg8wood 6 років тому +11

      Demetria Gaines I can totally relate...married to one for 17 years...had no clue what I was dealing with. Thank God I am free! There are 2 channels about narcissism that were instrumental in my healing.
      1. Assc Direct
      2. Petra Van Deijl
      Just sharing....God bless.

    • @msddby8852
      @msddby8852 6 років тому +3

      It's a strugger, especially if they are High Class with money...

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 6 років тому +3

      Megan Holmes I'm Happy For U
      The Only Thing That Hurts Me Is The Person Threw Me Away Like Trash...He Also Told Me 2 Never Text Him Again..It Really Hurts.

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 6 років тому +2

      Megan Holmes My Life Was
      Fine Until I Met Him.I Was Jus Diagnosed With Tinnitus.& Severe Anxiety...Megan When He Td Me 2 Stop Texting Him..Was That 2 Hurt Me.???

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 6 років тому +2

      TheSushiraw U Are
      So Right ..Thank U

  • @silvanaalba8381
    @silvanaalba8381 5 років тому +34

    This video has helped me start the process of true healing and release. Thank you!!!

  • @Nanbebe7
    @Nanbebe7 6 років тому +15

    Lived this nightmare for almost 30 years! Had to free myself by pouring love into myself!

    • @lg8wood
      @lg8wood 6 років тому

      NanTheGoldChild I can totally relate...married to one for 17 years...had no clue what I was dealing with. Thank God I am free! There are 2 channels about narcissism that were instrumental in my healing.
      1. Assc Direct
      2. Petra Van Deijl
      Just sharing....God bless.

    • @Nanbebe7
      @Nanbebe7 6 років тому +2

      Amen- the healing is about forgiving ourselves, the offender and gaining self rediscovery. I actually had a spiritualist work with me last year and its worked wonders. I set my intentions for 2018 for myself and 'Im now walking in manifestation praise God. Blessings.

  • @diannwhitaker6
    @diannwhitaker6 6 років тому +18

    I left my narc husband last year. Hearing your message helped me understand that I don't have a soul ties to him. Thank you.

    • @lg8wood
      @lg8wood 6 років тому +2

      Diann Whitaker I can totally relate...married to one for 17 years...had no clue what I was dealing with. Thank God I am free! There are 2 channels about narcissism that were instrumental in my healing.
      1. Assc Direct
      2. Petra Van Deijl
      Just sharing....God bless.

    • @diannwhitaker6
      @diannwhitaker6 6 років тому +2

      lg8wood I viewed assc direct and surviving to thriving myself.

  • @shelleydavenport8409
    @shelleydavenport8409 5 років тому +7

    OMG I am the Empath & he is the Narcissist!!!! Ended with him going to jail for Agg. Assault.. Praise God I Have a way- making, life sustaining, Author & Perfecter of my Life.

  • @SoMoLove80
    @SoMoLove80 6 років тому +29

    I know this to be truth. I am an Empath that had only attracted Narcissistic Men.

    • @naturebgood1575
      @naturebgood1575 5 років тому +1

      Single and celibate God bless

    • @xenigma35ray21
      @xenigma35ray21 5 років тому

      Sun kissed, who God puts together, man will not separate. Your current suffering is not even worth comparing to the Glory and the good things the Lord has for you in the MAN of God He has waiting for you!!

  • @babysisterburks152
    @babysisterburks152 5 років тому +17

    This ministry is long overdue.
    Together, the acquisition and application of knowledge is powerful!!!
    Educate yourself, become aware, use the strategies (forgive the toxic person for preying on you, forgive yourself for wittingly or unwittingly allowing it, pray for peace, ...), and stay vigilant (watch as well as pray)!
    Pay it forward: help someone else.

  • @Spiderstation5
    @Spiderstation5 4 роки тому +5

    This struck home so much. As a Christian now separated from her narcissist husband this really helped to see why i kept having him back why i had no boundaries and let abuse take over and keep thinking it would change. Thankfully after 19 years i walked away. Thank you so much for this

  • @glorious6779
    @glorious6779 6 років тому +16

    We need preachers like you preaching this stuff in churches. I wish i new this when i was younger. It works the same in the occult churches. Unhealthy churches.
    Brother this is needed. I have done a lot of growing. There is no condemnation tho. God is good and is showing me how to be healthy.

  • @SheWhoComesAtNight
    @SheWhoComesAtNight 6 років тому +31

    Yes, Pastor Blakes! New subscriber here. You are detoxifying many souls today with identifying the Jezebel spirit. Excellent message! 💖

  • @cherylpoulin5650
    @cherylpoulin5650 4 роки тому +9

    This helped me I’m in a sole tie and trauma bond. It’s the most difficult relationship I’ve ever been in.

  • @AngelMercerRealtor
    @AngelMercerRealtor 6 років тому +16

    So glad you made this video. I hope all women who are in this situation recognize the signs that you have pointed out and don't stay in denial.

  • @rhondadortch4145
    @rhondadortch4145 5 років тому +12

    I disconnected myself. Emotionally as well. Never fullfills a true purpose of it all. In any given situation. None!

  • @shelleycurtis3126
    @shelleycurtis3126 5 років тому +3

    You have no idea how much you have helped me. The pain of soul ties has existed for many years. As a woman who never knew who her biological father was/is and the men my mother had were abusive to her & me both emotionally & physically. Thus, I felt rejection from the womb from my father who I never met & later my mother as she chose her men over me! Then to have been molested by 2 different uncles & my stepfather I have had to fight many demons. The suffering is so real & the pain associated with it is catastrophic! It has manifested over my entire life, for decades via drug addiction, being arrested, 2 abusive marriages & several failed narcissistic, co-dependent, love starved relationships. From the bottom of my heart I thank God for you & your obedience ...thru study, books & social media you have saved my life!! I never knew peace until know & I never thought I would ever be TOTALLY free!! I'm no longer in church yet dying inside! God Bless you!

  • @kelleyb
    @kelleyb 6 років тому +34

    I'm in a relationship with a Narcissist, I can't tell you how many times I've tried to get out of it. I almost feel like I don't have a choice. The only way to get out is to pack my belongings and leave the state. Leaving all my family and friends. He's not physically or verbally abusive, but I use to think it was so easy to get out of relationships like that until I found myself in this relationship. Keep me in your prayers.

    • @l.dozier1984
      @l.dozier1984 6 років тому +3

      Kelley Bennett im praying for you, i was in ur shoes 1 year ago today..i packed my bags, moved from ohio to Nashville, while still deeply inlove (i thought) with the narc, leaving everyone i knew behind..😢it was painful and purposeful. I allow this time to let God hold me as i rested and cried out to him..i also attended queenolgy june 2017 and purchase queenolgy..stick with father/pastor blakes. Let him be your spritual father and go back and listen to his older messages..love you 👑😘💪

    • @lg8wood
      @lg8wood 6 років тому +1

      Kelley Bennett I can totally relate...married to one for 17 years...had no clue what I was dealing with. Thank God I am free! There are 2 channels about narcissism that were instrumental in my healing.
      1. Assc Direct
      2. Petra Van Deijl
      Just sharing....God bless.

    • @kelleyb
      @kelleyb 6 років тому +1

      Thanks for sharing and your words of encouragement...means so much...love you! I will most definitely will be sticking with pastor blakes. @LaCurby White

    • @kelleyb
      @kelleyb 6 років тому

      Thank you so much for the information and I will look into both ASAP! @lg8wood

    • @cathyrussell3253
      @cathyrussell3253 6 років тому +3

      you can do it ! whatever you need to do to leave do it ! They suck the life out of you and try to make themselves a God that they want you to worship. l am in the process of leaving mine . packing as we speak . Married 3 and half years and for the last 3 years he checked out of the marriage no communication, intimacy sex nothing ! holy spirit showed me who he is . l am strong because my God is in me he could not break me.. l have grown stronger and l will now help others who are trapped. Trust God and leave and live a good life. May God give you strength, wisdom, and everything you need to to move on. God bless

  • @essential6183
    @essential6183 6 років тому +33

    Hallelujah 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽This is Soooo True !!!! Everyone listen.... this is my story.... Please Pastor too much to text...But yes.... this is my story.... I’m still trying to make sense of it all.Just a little example of what Pastor is teaching when the relationship started I was buying a home, nice car , good credit... by the end of this he relationship 5 years later... I had to file bankruptcy, and he now has A-1 credit. Yes ... True story . Since the relationship ended I’ve studied about relationships and his mom has a Jezebel Spirit, but he doesn’t have a Ahab he’s a Narcissist. All of those years I thought it was love, or some type of special connection that keep him always wanting, and needing me only to find out 5 yrs later I was just a latter for him to reach the top once he got there he stated to me “ I’m running circles around you ... Marathons “..... Wow... This is the same person who live with his mom and had nothing when we met, but a running truck ( not up to date) and I was established and brought him into the level I was at , now he’s up and I’m down and won’t even give me ride to work in his “ New “ truck.... pleas pay attention.. this is so Real.... Don’t Waste Your Time... He doesn’t love you... He loves what you can do !!!! God bless you Pastor as you are helping me make sense of it all and heal.

    • @ms.v4138
      @ms.v4138 6 років тому +7

      Katrice Briggs Wow!!! I can totally relate!!! I've been out that narcissistic situation for almost 5 years and still recovering financially, emotionally and spiritually. The Narc has moved on, married, started a family and progressing in a new career.
      My mother always taught me that it may seem like a person like that is doing good and prospering even after doing evil to people. However, God is just and they will reap what they sowed before they leave this earth. You can't mistreat and use people then taunt them and think good would come of you. They are so deceived and full of pride.
      Hold on, God will restore you better than you were before. He promised to prepare a table of blessings in the presence of our enemies.

    • @blaknbeauty1
      @blaknbeauty1 6 років тому +1

      AMENNNNNNN! THEIR DAY HAS COME!

    • @2thankfulnGrateful
      @2thankfulnGrateful 5 років тому

      AMEN sister AMEN! GOD doesn't like ugly and ain't to fond of cute either!

    • @crystalcason6749
      @crystalcason6749 5 років тому

      I can totally relate to this. I pray you are healing well. God Bless You.

    • @bibizakkour626
      @bibizakkour626 5 років тому

      Katrice Briggs samething here no matter how hard i try i was never good enough he threatens to leave me at any little argument my credit score was 705 less than 6 months it came down to 500 with $33000 debts yet am still not good enough he doesn’t have a job he quit his high good paying job i volunteered to support him until he finds what he likes i have 3 kids he calls my daughter a bitch my son a piece of shit lazy i know kids can be a lot of work BUT!! Me he calls me so many names then saying i don’t respect him but i pay all his bills never rubbed it to his face . He does meth ( drug ) and i found out going through his fon he has an app where he looks for sex with random people swingers couples yet i am still with him when he leaves me i beg and beg for him to come back. I know he isn’t good for my kids and i but i yearn for the little love he gives me

  • @quadavis4
    @quadavis4 Рік тому +2

    This is scary,he literally broke down why I still can’t let go mentally. This is a sign for me to get back into the church

  • @lashondarochell7584
    @lashondarochell7584 6 років тому +12

    Pastor R. C. Blake's you have been a true blessing to me I listened to your teachings for over a year, I must say that GOD finally delivered me from "the spirit of desperation " and I am truly content in who I am In Jesus Christ!!! GOD Bless you!!!!!!

  • @justbelieve2253
    @justbelieve2253 5 років тому +71

    Well said💯 Iam 40 yrs old and the man I was in a relationship is 50 yrs old we dated for a year and a half at 7 months he proposed to me I said yes, at the 16 month mark we had a disagreement very petty one at that I told him we made a agreement every time before we get off the phone to say I love u to one another he always did this one time I said we didn’t do it god forbid one of us passed on cause we all know we are not promised the next second when I said we both should not have done that his eyes bulged fists clinched he said I want my ring back, I could not just remove the ring off my finger their was to much meaning behind so he said iam going to go now and looked at me I gave no response as he walked out my front door he took my only pair of car keys and house key I acted as if I didn’t know but my intuition knew, the following morning I asked him to bring me my keys after going bck and forth he came he said give me the ring u can have the keys so I said it’s ur choice to take it off my hand I stuck my hand out he took the ring off and I got my keys I silently walked away in pain 2 weeks went by not a call of sorry or closure so I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown and sign myself into a hospital I said to myself u lived through so much u are strong u will get through this so then I blocked his number in case he would have gotten out of his stubbornness and called a month has gone by no contact I meditated, I pray, I go to the gym, I go on nature walks, and I researched narcissist and did not even know the entire time he was one, since he’s gone I got my mental clarity back and so many doors have opened for me🙏😇🙌❤️🙌🏾💯✅

    • @bevelynbrown9359
      @bevelynbrown9359 5 років тому +8

      I'm glad you're working on u because I almost lost your mind over a man who didn't deserve u.

    • @yolandacarnes2126
      @yolandacarnes2126 4 роки тому +5

      WHY I feel like I just read a STORY so similar to my relationship, but I PRAY my ending it's not like this

    • @juliamarie8551
      @juliamarie8551 4 роки тому +2

      Just Believe Similar thing happened to me. But, I knew about narcissism. He knew I studied it but he hid a lot from me. One night we had an argument, he then vanished. It was so crazy. I blocked him everywhere. I’m still reeling but with God’s mercy, I’m slowly getting better. He’s childish, selfish and crazy. I feel sorry for his next victim. 🙏🙏

  • @JJ-dk1lr
    @JJ-dk1lr 4 роки тому +5

    I think this was an excellent summary of the damage of the narcissistic individuals to the empaths and the like. I am on my way to healing and forgiveness. Thank you! :)

  • @Tiye4
    @Tiye4 6 років тому +20

    Jehovah God is using you! Thanks, you don’t know how you have helped me!!

  • @fatimahrahman687
    @fatimahrahman687 5 років тому +4

    I've worked thirty years in drug and alcohol addiction, codependency, family counseling and parenting. Your videos are well researched and appropriately delivered for the lay audience. Thank you for your work; our community and world need you! Please review the adversarial relationships among black women who throw away friendships with other women for the sake of a man. Thank you! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @dianemclaughlin723
    @dianemclaughlin723 10 днів тому

    "I've been following your work on narcissism, Bishop, and I find it incredibly insightful. Your teachings have helped me recognize narcissistic behaviors in others, particularly in some religious leaders I've encountered. As a Christian woman healing from past relationships with narcissists, your insights have been invaluable." PLEASE PRAY FOR ME