Or all of sudden they have something they have to do or need to call you back. This way they can go do research on how they will answer you. If they ever do.
@@annerane8118 I havevto do research on how to answer people because I am horrible at answering people on the spot. I have always had a hard time suppressing/controlling my emotions so I end up unablvto think straight. But it doesn't mean I'm secretly lookign for ways to lie or manipulate.
Ms.1111 R Gdm. They will avoid "?'s like the plague, n def. Can't luk U in yur Eyez. 2 me that's the evil in them. The enemy Can't luk God's children in their eyez. Wow! I fig. that out awhile ago. The blood of JeSuS be Against th enemy, tht d'evil/satan/Lucifer. He's on his way 2 a burn'n Hell 4 ever & ever, 4 Eternity. He will Not past go & he Does Not Collect his $200 💵. So we can bind him up in JeSuS "Mighty" Name, Amen.💯 👍 👊
I call it "Relationship Fraud" These "people" are dark souls. Nothing about them or their relationship with you is genuine. They wear a mask to hook you in. Then, when the mask falls off, the abusive games begin. The only way to deal with these" people" and have piece in your life, is to go No Contact. Your mental, physical and spiritual well being depends on it. Knowledge is power. Stay Narc free....❤
Zero empathy. zero insight to his own behavior. Helped others only to tell everyone exactly how he helped them. Hypocrite. Passive agressive & Childish. Would pout. Silent treatment as a way to punish me for holding him accountable. (Does that even make sense?!)
@@Kashmir-lt4cx just say stop giving up your body, loving, sex etc. The actual words are better unless they having to use euphemisms to avoid being censored or something
I recently broke up with a covert narcissists and going no contact. He definitely played the role of nice guy, but was emotionally dismissive, manipulative, etc.
Never lock your life down with a person who grieves you. Spiritual discernment will always pick up on the game. You explain things in a MINDSHIFTING WAY.
The covert one plays the pity party to get into your world. So nice, so into you. Watch out. Listen to your gut feeling. It tells you to get away. Listen closely.
I had a friendship with a covert narcissist. I established early on that I was celibate and was only interested in a platonic friendship. After 3 months I experienced the silent treatment and noticed he had a lot of friends ( supply) I started seeing him less and that puzzled him. Ladies especially, be watchful and abstain from sex when meeting men be smart, decerning. ENERGY DON'T LIE !
I live with a covert narcissist for 10 yrs and just filed for a divorce. Everything here is so true. I would like to add that going with a narcissist for couples therapy is a bad idea as they will use the therapist to show that you are the problem and not them.
My covert narcissist & I only went to couples counseling for 2 sessions! Thats because he then hijacked the sessions for himself! Total disregard of my feelings and issues with our relationship! And then he only went for 3-4 sessions before saying we couldn't afford it. After 33 years of "marriage" I'm divorcing him. Thank you Pastor for your teachings!
"You've taken a snake into your bosom. " That's an excellent description because you're walking around and they're biting you where no one can see. You look down and wonder why you're bleeding. Many small bites over time.
I want to commend this pastor for being one of the few that I have seen to address mental illness. I feel that the church has been very negligent considering how prevalent Mental Illness is in our society and people in the church are no exception. In fact, some would argue that religion/church has a role in adversely effecting a person's mental health. This personality disorder is RAMPANT. I am recovering from my experience with a Covert Narcissist. I am still going through moments of shock, confusion, denial and disbelief. When the mask slipped off and the true identity was revealed, it was one of the most frightening experiences of my life. Realizing the person I fell for doesn't even exist, has been painful. It was all a facade, a twisted game. In hindsight, the manipulation, the controlling behavior, the lying, the devaluing was all there but it caught me off guard because the persona he created was the sweetest person I had ever met. Now I understand that the best way to avoid attracting a narcissist is total self love, self acceptance. never look to anyone else for validation, nor is it your job to fix anyone. Fix yourself. Love yourself.
that's bcos most church's are full of mentally ill ppl. Many are called, few chosen is what this pastor represents, No everyone has the ability to lead truthfully! totally agree with you
Narcissists isolate you from family and friends so when they are abusing you in every way you have no one to turn to after they make you create animosity..
My ex boyfriend....nice guy persona Helpful friendly and Christian in public The opposite behind closed doors So manipulative making sure nobody suspects him Does all these good deeds way in advance to solidify others perceptions Framing you to be the perpetrator. It’s insidious. A wild wolf in sheeps clothing Love bombing to charm disarm and harm He was very secretive ...always hiding his password protected phone And he changes his cell phone with every new woman , and keeps moving state to state Background check reveals 12-15 addressss ! This is what they do. Be warned. They target you online and move to your state. They don’t date locally because they don’t ever want you to run into anyone who will blow their cover . Every ex is blocked and called crazy while they isolate the next girl and get her emotionally Hooked
You described my son's father, and his family is so fooled. So grateful to God for blocking this marriage twice. If you met him, you would think I was crazy and lying. Nope! True wolf.
You are So Right? God will give you direction through The Holy Spirit!!!! No Contact!Stay Away!!! Don't Allow them in any part of your life. I Truly Believe that when this individual (I won't even name it as a person) it's a demonic sourse.) Came down with An hard outbreak of a Shingles Virus .This was God's way of removing this demon from my physical presence! I had just been in a very close contact friendly hugs just a day before this demons outbreak!!!God Truly shook me loose to the Fact: Child of God this is your Great Warning!!!! God has delivered me !!!! Praise My Loving Savior and The Holy Spirit who Quickened My Spirit to All Truth!!!
Bigtime secrecy, passive-aggressiveness, isolation from family & friends, dramalovers, emotional manipulators taking no selfresponsibility, blameavoiders, master of living silent treatments & creating triangulation, promisebreakers & playing unnecessary hurtful games...the covert tactics are simply sad, unfair & destructive. In the end they are the one with the selfdestruct button & they miss out on a honest-loving heart, who loved them - or at least what we believed they were. Wish them well & move on.
I am laughing so hard because I experienced so much of this but God made a way of escape. 6-8 months & it was over. Gloooooray!!! Choose freedom over being an insignificant other.
Rise Up - Le' Body & Soul it’s true. I never had suicidal thoughts until during some of our conversations where I saw vividly suicidal images coming into my mind. Starting to wonder if it was a spirit of suicide acting up.
Yes, happened to me. I mentioned to doctors my feelings and occasional thoughts of suicide due to the mental abuse. My ex husband later used it against me in court to try to take our daughter away from me.
I often had sucidal thoughts throughout childhood abuse and with narcissist husband. One year ago, I cried out Psalm 27 : "The Lord is the stronghold of my life..' I cling to that truth and I am now free of that and have peace of mind. Thank you Lord.
I sincerely feel for all that have experienced the trauma & I know the pain & damage from abuse.. I pray for all the beautiful people that have replied. Aswell as others. I pray for healing, & May you be saturated in Gods love.restoration, & protection .I send you all love & am so glad you all have the knowledge & insight now to have realised that you were a victim of someone else’s cruelty so now you will be able to track a narcissist or any other abuser before they even come near you. I send you love & encouragement as you are going to grow so much from all this. Let’s turn our suffering into passion to. Soar & fire in our hearts to climb the summit unstoppable.🙏🏻
I believe the man I'm am currently separated from is a covert narcissist. For 2 and a half years he didn't tell anybody we were married. When he did tell them, he lied and said we were married May 9, 2016. We were married October 24, 2014. He even put it on his Facebook page as May 9, 2016. He would always make me feel like I'm wrong for telling people the truth. I'm glad I'm divorcing him.
Mine too. We were together 15 years, married 10. Women at his job didn't know he was married. He would hide our daughter's car seat also. I found his profile on dating sites stating longest relationship was 5 years. I guess that was true to him
@@shondawilson7079 My future ex husband had us to sign our separation papers on our anniversary stating it was just another day. He blocked me on Facebook when I asked for my ring back. (I needed to pawn it to have money to move). I offered to give him my ring back but he didn't want it. My thought process is to pawn them because I don't need them anymore. My ex wouldn't tell me I was beautiful saying he didn't need to validate me because I already knew it. But he would tell me everybody else was. Always commenting on women's clothing and body parts. I'm so glad I am divorcing him.
@@pierg1974 Unbelievable one of my ex used to tell me the same, reacting the way as what you described concerning the lack of compliments including the perpetual valorization to the others women's flow , body types or outfits and so one....Boring...It's like a prototype which they were made from...lol
Anyone that has been using & abusing women for sex is a narcissist without knowing it. Rape, sex addiction , spirit of Lust is all narcissistic. Some people are in denial or hide behind a facade or position. I can recognise a narcissist in a second. Very dangerous what happens to the psychological state of the victim that is usually a fatherless daughter without a doubt.
Apologies yes I should have said majority .my apologies. I’m glad to hear those that had a great earthly father . It’s nice to hear & see when a father has raised, protected & cherished his daughter . My hearts goes out to all the people that have been in any type of relationship with a narcissist. It is absolute torment. I understand the pain from experiencing over & over with different people I loved .
It has nothing to do with fatherless daughters. I've been in the narc abuse survivors community for near 3 years and many of the women have their father's, come from good homes, good upbringing, these monsters will infiltrate even well educated people that have masters degrees. They're covert. I've even seen where women's father's will side with the narc bc they've been manipulated too. Let's not forget there are many female narcs as well with many men in emotional/ mental pain from the abuse and men choosing to go into the mgtow community (men going their own way) some because of narcissistic women. Although some can be, but its not about fatherless daughters.
They are excessive talkers, try to lower your self-esteem. Yell and scream, keeps confusion going, then will tell you they have nothing but love in their heart.
“Victims try to fix the one who broke them.” Let’s stop these destructive behaviors, folks. It’s unhealthy. When you realize this is your pattern of behavior-stop it! Get help from a professional, if necessary. You’ll be glad you did. Great info, Sir!
This is about the best video I've heard on Narcissist. It totally describes him and how I was feeling in my spirit. Our relationship lasted 7 months because my spirit was uneasy. I googled the signs he was exhibiting around me to try to understand him, and Narcissist popped up. I started reading the articles, and they described his personality to the T! THIS IS THE BEST YET! Thank you so much for your wisdom Pastor RC Blake!
Same with me. I googled symptoms when dealt with one first time. Grateful for google and you tube on Narcissism content - saving my spirit. Another great preaching by RC ❤
Same with me, started researching and I was like “oh yeah this is what I’m dealing with”. Thank goodness that relationship was short lived. Narcissists are terrible people.
Anxiety & stress come along - they make you feel insecure all the time & that you never feel safe. They promise you security & a dreamfuture together, but they know from Day 1 that they will never step up to their futurefaking promises & their actions do not match up with what they say. Their mindfuck makes you selfdoubt yourself & actually your guts have been whispering you this all along. Listen .. You so much want to believe & trust in them & they mess that up. And then you gotta face a truth you never even knew existed.
“While abusers want to blame the victim, the victim wants to fix the abuser. You are trying to fix the person who is consistently trying to break you”.
All facts! That subtle criticism is aka for a "sneak diss" lol or bringing up a topic thats sensitive to you and making it seem like their referring to others, for example they'll say "People"...when they know their really talking about you and YOU know their talking about you but they will never admit it...Im glad I woke up from this narcissistic mess thank the Lord .
Yes! They call that “dog whistling” because it’s the victim that knows and hears it while nobody else knows what’s really going on. Just like only dogs can hear the dog whistle. Run!!
I have done that to the narc to avoid a blow up argument. Sometimes the only way I could say what I needed to say was by generalizing it! Habitually, confrontation only led to him redirecting the conversation on something I never actually did or him creating a big argument over some old issue to get the focus off whatever I needed to talk to him about.
Yep Queen.Alchemist. and they are 2-faced, I saw where he posted about people not helping if someone has car problems or loses their job, yet he threw it in my face when I lost temp jobs and didn't offer help not one bit during that time! Thank God I didn't need his help.
You are so correct about the anxiety bcuz I felt as if I was walking on eggshells. I also have CPTSD and chronic fatigue from all abuse. My body and spirit were aware.
Jeremiah 10:1-5 King James Version (KJV) 10 Hear ye the word which the Lord speaketh unto you, O house of Israel: 2 Thus saith the Lord, Learn not the way of the heathen, and be not dismayed at the signs of heaven; for the heathen are dismayed at them. 3 For the customs of the people are vain: for one cutteth a tree out of the forest, the work of the hands of the workman, with the axe. 4 They deck it with silver and with gold; they fasten it with nails and with hammers, that it move not. 5 They are upright as the palm tree, but speak not: they must needs be borne, because they cannot go. Be not afraid of them; for they cannot do evil, neither also is it in them to do good. 12 tribes of Isreal do not celebrate your pagan holidays Esau.
@ yep he was acting strange around New Years, saying he was so sick but he was still acting weird, staring at his phone. I.had alreadybforgave hin for cheating in tge past, but I knew something wasn't right I could feel it, then he was secretive about his phone. I felt ignored so I left him and went home. It's been 6 months just this June and it still hurts. He is on his second one since this happen, no telling who else.
I could write a whole book about this specific issue. Covert narcissists function like method actors - they LIVE in their pretense. Judas was just a greedy man who operated in selfishness in the moment, but he definitely repented, which narcissists never do. If you want to look at the covert narcissist, look no further than Satan, for he is the archetype. The serpent presented himself as one seeking the benefit of the woman in the garden, in order to destroy her and her husband (Gen 3:4-5). Paul says he transforms himself into an angel of light (2 Cor 11:14). For them to succeed though, they need their targets to ignore their intuition (spirit). I concur with you on this - NEVER ignore what your spirit tells you. NEVER.
Judas didn't repent or he wouldn't have committed suicide. Narc's threaten suicide in order to mentally torment people who love them. Narcs may commit suicide but their aim is to be the ultimate " victim" and have people feel sorry for them. They end up being their own worst enemy as all demons are. Remember when the demons asked Jesus if they could go into a herd of swine? Then what did they do? They ran off the cliff and drowned. They are their own worst enemy. Anyone who decides to live their life in the way of Satan instead of in the way of the Lord is their own worst enemy. Don't let the narc confuse you. It is always "all about them". They are all about self. Me, me, me!!!
@@ifeelprettyohsopretty806 This is an aside from the main subject, but it would be useful to read the various texts that detail Judas' thinking and actions. Matt 27:3-5 says plainly that he repented (or felt remorse in some translations) when he realized that Jesus was condemned to death. He confessed that his action - the betrayal - was sin. And then all versions indicate that he tried to undo his actions by returning the money. That was especially significant, because the book tells us that the money was his ONLY pursuit in the betrayal. Up until that point, Judas was the perfect picture of true repentance - he felt remorse, he confessed verbally to his sin, and he tried to make restitution to correct it. When he found that even his repentant action could not stop Jesus from being falsely executed, he hanged himself. Understandably, he felt guilty of causing the death of the Messiah, and that he was beyond redemption - in short, he felt hopeless, which is a belief that is a common denominator in suicide. Judas was covetous, deceitful, and the book tells us, a thief. But his repentance - feeling remorse, confessing fault, and making restitution - are all things narcissists NEVER do.
The last thing he said to me was..."You hurt me when you said you didn't want to talk to me anymore". Of course he was playing the victim, when all the time he created the chaos.
Yes, ex hubby never gave compliments only criticisms even small stuff “you didn’t turn the light off upstairs” 🙄. He did try to plant a seed about a body part of mine which I was fine with but as a teen struggled with. The silent treatment was prevalent and discarding. Finally realizing nothing would change and I resented him and when it ended. His Narc rage came through, tried to destroy me! I prevailed although days I felt at my lowest. Life is too short..Never let someone tear you down EVER!
All of this. & even withholding sex telling me how he wouldn’t dare F me crazy cause last I thought he had F me & got me pregnant. He won’t leave, won’t leave me alone, & pretends it’s the baby he’s staying for. I can’t get away & im miserable as hell. I’ve prayed for him & the cycle continues love bomb, devalue, super devalue, discard (silent treatment) back again. Blame me everything my fault I love him but I don’t like him even hate him & it appears he enjoys it & my misery. Once the mask slipped he doesn’t even try to hide it anymore
Danielle Hixon that's how it started with me emotionally. I started not to like him, then I was just removed emotionally. I tried to get the feelings back but I think too much damage had happened by then. They will use anything (the baby) mine said he wanted be in the house with our son...yet you can't treat his mother, your wife right 🙄. Start acting like he no longer bother you, don't react or respond, he's going to notice. Sadly, they do thrive on hurting you (the evil in them), so do the opposite. When he criticizes says "sorry you feel that way". Oh I was trying so hard.. life is too short to be unhappy. Just know prepare before you leave, the narc rage is real!
@@kimberly0717 I’ve experienced the rage he’s crazy. The baby isn’t even here yet (currently pregnant) I feel like he’s cheating but I haven’t caught him in it I’m tryna change my feelings cause I will call him if he’s not home by a time because I don’t want him to be happy having a good time with her then come home tormenting me. I’m gonna try your advice he doesn’t know if he still here don’t the same by the time my lease is up I’m moving out of this state with no heads up or forwarding address
Yes indeed never let anyone tare you down or devalue you to make you feel bad about yourself ,so they can control you.and make you their slave and break you .
@@PrincessDani9320pray to get out , because he's trying to destroy you. My cousin died in this type of relationship get out you deserve way better. Travel ,move work on yourself build yourself up.
Yeah. I experienced the same thing. This person never introduced me anyone in his circle but constantly wanting to come to my home which I never allowed that and wanting to know everything about me. I didn't know hardly anything about his family or friends. Then tells me I do so much for my daughters but he never have his child. Red flags flying all around.
Random fact: At this point I hit the thumbs up button before I even watch your videos because I already know you’re going to Preach and Teach my life in order. lol
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Covert narcissist will do anything in their power to pass for a crazy person. They are never wrong,very defensive, definitely despise an inquisitive person. Call you combative. They think they are better than anyone else but are the most insecure person in the world. Never have I dated someone like that up until last year on and off. From the very beginning, my spirit was never in accordance with that union but I overlooked every red flags possible. We got back on this October,and I had to end this 3 weeks ago because I value my peace than a relationship. These type of people are very dangerous.
So agree! With mine, who was a seaman, I never slept when he was home. I blamed it on snoring or him moving around but that was not it, I could sleep with no earplugs next to my rolling around the bed daughter, but not him without taking a sleeping aid and yamming earplugs into my ears... i felt stressed out. I was always looking forward to him going to sea to do "my life" and not have everything revolve around him. Felt extremely guilty about this as he was lovely and I loved him right?. Little things bothered me and drove me nuts, like small but noticeable acts of unkindness to others. And the lack of empathy (wrote it off as him just being a "guy" -men are not women and all that) -if I had only listened to my Spirit,in stead I saw him as a God send... oh well FREE NOW, but a bit of a broken wing...
@@IT-zx5jc Wow. I forgot all about the ear plugs and never being able to sleep. Its terrible. I have ecxema in my ears now for jamming those plugs in for so many years.
Doris mirelle yes! He said hevwanted a girlfriend, not a warrior, I'm yeh, whatever and he would get defensuvevand act like a child when Inonly expressed my feelings to him and he takes things the wrong way!
Pastor the spirit lead me to this video....I was literally praying on this and boom...here you are sharing the word on this topic. Thank you once again!!
Being raised by a mother who suffers with covert narcissism and an emotionally absent father who was codependent upon her is a uniquely painful experience. You are literally birthed from the womb of iniquity into transgenerational attachment trauma. I can testify that the Word alone healed my toxic empathy and delivered me from the bondage of a deficiency of self-knowledge, and self-love. 🙏🏽🕊🙌🏽
As soon as you said “secrets” it struck a chord with me and my mistakes. I was asking a narc(frienenemy) straightforward questions. Not the best of tact but still. The response “my world don’t resolve around you”. I was dealing with a frienemy. But by the grace of God, the very LAST time. God bless you RC Blakes! You continue to help me and many others. Thanks again 🙏🏿
This brought me some much needed relief from pain after recently separating from my very damaged ex boyfriend who I believe is a narcissist. Always wondering what I did to deserve the psychological manipulation and subtle put downs. I think narcissism can result from childhood trauma and abuse as well as bad experiences in previous relationships that causes the person to act out of a need for control. Anyway, this pushed me closer to closure. God bless you!
I thank God for always being with me because I could of made big huge mistakes thinking I was in good hands, but god kept me I didn't lose anything, I'm still beautiful, I still want love one day, my kids an family an I are so much closer ....I realized I got to be something mighty special to have been under attack like that, I'm not suffering for anything I know without a shadow of a doubt god has kept me because he knows my heart ❣️
These marriages and/or love relationships will leave you believing you’re insane!!! So grateful after 20plus years I’m opening my own eyes. Thank you for your messages!! Very helpful and relatable! ❤️
Pastor Blakes is so so so right. I had experienced all these in a relationship with a covert narcissist before. Had gone No CONTACT with him for almost two years now. The confusion that caused by him has caused me PTSD and OCD( because of mind confusion and brain fog. Was very debilitating initially in the process of recovery.I felt like I have been paralyzed. I thought I would never be able to recover from these trauma, but God is good, somehow He brought me to find out about the truth behind this abusive relationship that this individual is actually a narcissist and the truth and my confession and lots of prayer has set me free, I am still on the journey of healing. I am much much stronger mentally, emotionally, psychologically and physically now and feel that I have the strength to manage life once again which I doubted in the beginning stage of NO CONTACT. SO, my advice, like what Pastor Blakes said , listen to your spirit, if you feel that something is not right, then trust what your spirit is showing you. These individuals are demon possessed, they come into this world to destroy, paralyzed human beings and they are emotion vampires, they literally SUCK SOULS out of normal human being, left victim soulless, emotionally empty shell.
Pastor Blakes, you are truly a blessing thank you for teaching on the Covert Narcissist I have learned so much from your teachings. I'm six months in being out of a relationship with a covert narcissist. Your teaching on soul ties also has been a blessing in keeping my deliverance by not going back to this demonic relationship. I was in bondage for 18 yrs. That is an extremely long time! I've been trying off and on for years to get out of that relationship. Finally I made a decision to let it go! I been praying for God to deliver me and praise God he used you to aide in my deliverance. I'm eternally grateful for your teachings! This person showed up last night at my door. I told him without opening the door that I'm no longer interested. He stood outside the confessing his so called love for me. The love bombing script did not work! So he decided to leave. It felt so good to no longer be moved by his demonic manipulation behavior. I'm free Praise God! I continue to listen to your teaching on narcissism, so I will not and allow the devil to suck me back in! Thank you for your steadfastness in continuing to teach on this subject.
@ Sheila Perritt, please be aware of your surroundings and your vehicle. Your ex will be trying to hurt you in some kind of way, because you are no longer willing to have him in your life. He will seek revenge for exposing him.
This is such an important point... thank you so much for covering this and so thoroughly too! The more subtle our feeling that something is off (even though the outward presentation of the person is ‘near perfect’), the more we must trust that feeling. The red flags lie in the subtleties. It’s all too easy (and so very tempting) to ignore those feelings and put them down to our own issues. If you’re not convinced test it out... put a boundary in place and stick to it beyond his or her initial charismatic persuasion to surpass your boundary. Or disappoint the person with a comment: somewhere between a neutral observation/constructive criticism, and watch their face as you say it! There is a difference between character and personality! What a covert narcissist shows you is a cleverly crafted tailor-made personality that mirrors your hopes, needs and desires. Beneath this outward appearance of the personality lies their character (fundamental habits, belief systems, patterns/issues, mental rationale, motivations, unconscious influences, reactions etc etc), which is a very different animal; the very opposite to how they portray themselves via the personality ! Their character is what your spirit is sensing when something feels off with this ‘seemingly’ wonderful man or woman! Listen to it and test it out! No. 5. Covert narcissists will sometimes compliment you, but if you pay close attention it feels empty and somehow haughty! This compliment is nothing more than a manipulative move for control of your reality. They will build you up and then without warning they will take you down in a most devastating way. This often happens in repetitive cycles until you are so disempowered that your self-esteem is dependent upon their praise and acceptance. This power dynamic is in the realm of mental, emotional and spiritual abuse of the worst kind. This is due to it’s covert nature and slow debilitating effects upon your mental and emotional state, your sense of reality along with your ability to make decisions for yourself and to know what is real. This is the reason why a covert narcissist will try to alienate/separate you from your family and friends... so that you have no access to outside support/guidance or interference - no compass to know which way is UP! A disturbing fact is that a covert narcissist (aside from their acquisition of narcissist supply); will derive mental and emotional stimulation from playing with a persons mind and sense of reality. Soft targets are most loathsome to them because they offer no challenge, no real stimulation. They are seen as weak and are thus worthy of nothing more than punishment and torment. Unfortunately the only stimulation derived here is to see what it takes to break (destroy) a weak person. It’s worth bearing in mind that there are degrees of covert narcissism... a spectrum. That is; they share the same commonalities as highlighted by Pastor Blakes; but some narcissists are more merciless (darker) than others. Meaning their intentions and actions can be far more sinister calculating and immoral than others. Narcissism a vast subject that is as broad as it is deep - and not an easy one to fathom. We are living in a narcissistic society since the birth of celebrity TV and social media which normalises and even promotes narcissism - which means that this work and these messages from RC Blake is now more important than ever! Thank you so much for this important video Pastor, which I find to be very empowering and spot on! With love, light and blessings to you 🙏🏽❤️
I wish it was that simple. You won’t know until you are in it. It’s not about being blind etc. They are masters at what they do and if you are not in a good place it can happen- and it can happen to anyone
Whenever I need to ground myself, I watch this whole video and feel much better. It reminds me of how evil these people can be and how true it all is. Thanks pastor.
There is a bad energy from the covert narcissist that I know. It is difficult not to absorb it. I trust the Lord's help if I need to deal with him. He loves to create upset in others while he is ever so calm. His favorite tatic is the silent treatment.I pray for protection against minipulation and control. Thank you for sharing your insight with us.
I married this person after asking my then best friend to please stop me if I said I was going to marry this guy. When i told her I was about to marry, she just told me she was happy for me etc. My spirit sank all the way down because I knew I was in trouble. My spirit knew but I was powerless to get away. 10 years of spiritual agony later I am trying desperately to get out but the hoovering is so strong! God will help me get free. I don't know how, but I will break free! Pray for me!
Rightnow I’m dealing with detaching myself from undercover narcissists can y’all pray for me I lost my own peace this year trying to help other people and they abused it
Baby....pray and flee. No contact. You're dealing with a straight up demon. They are real I WILL KEEP YOU IN PRAYER CALL OUT THE NAME JESUS WHEN YOU FEEL THIS SPIRIT. NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER..I'm gonna say this again. NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER. NONE!
I honestly feel like my wife of 20+is covert I am trying to now figure out a safe way out Please pray for me and my kids God bless you for what you are doing!!
Buzzing Bee his mother warned me and told me he had his ex like a puppet, his sister told me he changed his woman like he change his draws and that she refuses to build a relationship with me because she does not know how long I’m going to last and his cousin told me keep him on his toes and that he is just like his bestfriend . His bestfriend is abusive and a cheater. The family will warn you indirectly. None of his family supported our engagement, now I know why! 😒
Dainty Des His mother was abusive and psychotic always cruel and mean to me. I was always likes by boyfriends mothers and friends mothers so I was shocked. He said don't worry she's crazy. That was 16 years ago. She never liked me and always tried to break us up. So in my case she's a psychopath and he a narcissist.
Buzzing Bee his mom is nice but none of his family supported my engagement and didn’t want to do it around my family and didn’t include his. Now i know why. His mom only said oh pretty ring but congrats or welcome to the fam
I dated a guy just like this. Came swooping in like Mr. Nice Guy and as soon as he hooked my interest, he started getting shady. His abuse and subtle criticisms got so deep into my head that I beat myself up over it. Extremely dangerous people and this video is so insightful and true that it's scary.
We should not forget to mention that there are so many Narc parents out there who destroy their childrens life. I believe more often than children becoming Narcissists
This is truly the truth. Just know...I met him (narrcissist) in church. He told me that I asked too many questions - he also told me that he could not control me.
Deborah Etheridge just based on your short comment it seems like that guy is a narc all day everyday. Thankfully we can rest peacefully under Gods protection. Stay blessed
Screaming “So thankful to have found this pastor and to be informed I was suffering from the behaviors of a narcissist” Thank God for this knowledge to help me see I am no longer attached to nor a victim of these terrible behaviors!!! Omg Pastor RC Blake’s Jr you have helped me within the 4-5 days that I have been introduced to you just by clicking on a video!
Pastor, I wish I knew you personally. The conversations we could have about this subject, HERE!!! You are doing a phenomenal job dissecting the many layers of these diabolical beings. Thank you so much for continuing to share your insight and understanding. Many blessings to you!🙏🏿💗
So so glad that the covers are being pulled off these miscreants, especially in the body of Christ. God is fortifying the body of Christ each time we hear these messages. And for that I praise Him.
For someone who has recently studied these demons in skin, you sure get it. I'm still clawing my way to heal from a 17 year marriage to a covert narc sociopath. Bless you for this content.
Sacred Light I was married to a covert sociopath narcissist for 20 years. I repent and forgave him. And surrendered him to the Lord. The second I did the Holy Spirit came upon me and healed my broken abused heart of 20 years. I’m now set free. We have a 9 yr old. We co parent. The lord showed me he’s not my problem. It’s not the people. It’s demons behind him. So when I see him. I’m like they buddy how’s it going? How’s your day? I keep it neutral with him. Zero hate, zero discust for him. Why because I don’t want to hurt the Holy Spirit. Because the Holy Spirit is greater then I. I sleep like a baby at night. Because the Bible stays to have peace with all men.
I only come across this particular video four years after it was broadcasted and it is one hundred and ten percent accurate to the the individual i was involved with just over a year ago. Thank you Pastor Blake for your wonderful work, even though listening to to it gives me the creeps still about this particular individual. I'd like to believe my healing journey is still ongoing and i have built so much confidence thus far and put some pieces of myself together. My point is, the way you articulate a "covert narcissist", further confirms that i still have a lot of work to do on myself. Never underestimate your enemy. Bless you sir.
Pastor you are exactly right about how they can make you feel anxious , frustration , self doubt , and on the surface he looks like such a nice guy ! I have been with one for 8 yrs ! He never wants to talk about what I want to. He changes the subject ! I love you too for doing these videos! I have been in hell for such a long time . He says I want to be miserable no I dont ! He makes me miserable! I'm finally seeing all of this NOW ! RIGHT NOW I AM BREAKING AWAY FROM HIM ! Oh yes he has went to my friends and to my daughter told them lies on me ! And he has told me lies ! I THANK GOD FOR YOU DOING THESE PRICELESS VIDEOS !
Thank you Pastor! I’m in this situation with my own mother and it’s horrible. It’s actually the devil working through folks to destroy the destiny placed on our very lives! He wants to abort our mission statement about Jesus Christ and what He’s getting ready to do! Hallelujah. Pastor thanks so much for revealing and destroying the works of the enemy on this day ! Y’all are blessed forever! 🙏🏽❤️👏🏾
Very good stream Pastor Blakes!💯 Thank you so much for this great and truthful information!💯 The narcissists is a tragedy. A sad, somewhat complicated pathetic tragedy. ..thank you for explaining and breaking down the sick and controlling personality of these types of people...💯 You've surely saved me from unnecessary heartache!💯
It's sad I'm 40 years old and just now learning about a person like this, I've wasted 17 years on one person, but I did get 2 kids out it, thank you for ur videos it's really a eye opener for me!
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 They're more dangerous than an overt narcissist. I've learned so much about why boundaries are sooo important!!! It's supremely important to take your time to really get to know people, don't give or do too much too soon, and honor your covenant with God ABOVE ALL ELSE!!! These people are TRICKY. They know how to play the role! But with time you'll see that they don't have the capacity for true empathy, compassion, or consideration of other people's feelings- ESPECIALLY when it does not serve them to pretend to care about your feelings! These people can actually pretend to care and fake sympathy IF they feel it will benefit them. But once you're committed to them and they feel they have the upper hand, you will inevitably see their true nature is self-serving, unremorseful, neglectful, abusive, deceptive, and incapable of being held accountable. They are IMPOSSIBLE to deal with and if you're unfortunate enough to be tied to them through marriage or children, you'll have to figure out how to emotionally disconnect because they will always look for ways to manipulate and destroy you psychologically and emotionally.
Thank you so very much for what you do!!!! Educating on this topic so well and speaking on the father wounded woman!!! These are also the women narcissists prey on.
I’ve dedicated an Instagram to this education and I plan on continuing this work because only God can heal these wounds and there are many avenues of brokenness that narcissists seek in women to kill, steal and destroy and I unknowingly possessed nearly all of them at one point in my life or another. The new age way of healing is victim blaming and absurd entrenching victims in further deception. Strong, honest, intelligent and loving women can be fooled by these demons. It is NOT your fault. 💜 we were preyed upon, stalked and studied. Love to you🙏❤️
my son's father STILL messages my friends...4 years after the discard...he still emails me telling me my friends think this or that...these are really sick people...devil straight from hell...yes, sir
And another thing I noticed about a narcissist nobody likes some and they don't have friends they're not capable of a relationship or frames because most people see them for who they really are and it's a turn off even if you don't know the difference between a narcissist or somebody just trying to get over on you it don't take long to walk away they are one of the most dangerous people you'll ever meet
The battle with the narcissist is a spiritual one it's truly a life altering experience. Being discarded by the narcissist for the final time was a blessing I have no words to Express how grateful I am all I have is my actions going forward
Such a great teaching and you are definitely hearing from GOD. I was in a verbal, emotional, and physically abusive relationship for 6 years. I am so glad GOD opened a door for me to exit and to sealed the door of return. Keep hearing and preaching. So needed
So true, we don't see these converts coming because of the disguise then they hit you with the insults. It's very mind boggling and leaves the victim confused/hurt. Keep spreading the knowledge on these snakes!!
DING DING DING DING❗️❗️❗️❗️. I’ve listened to a lot of descriptions on what a covert narcissist is like, but I’ve never heard one that was so spot on. It’s like you’re in my head and you’re reading my every thought
I dealt with it for almost 11 years. I am getting out as we speak. If you want your soul free, cry out to God. He will strengthen and embolden you to be freed from the Fowler's snare. God bless you.
You are so right. Our spirit is always discerning things that aren’t right. That feeling is so unsettling. I will never ignore my spirit ever again. It’s like they are secretly trying to snatch the rug from underneath you. They also create a lot of distractions to throw you off of what they are doing.
They never answer a question with STRAIGHT answer, they answer with a question and can't sit still nor look you in the eye for more than a minute!
Right! they make u feel wore out being around them
Or all of sudden they have something they have to do or need to call you back. This way they can go do research on how they will answer you. If they ever do.
@@annerane8118 I havevto do research on how to answer people because I am horrible at answering people on the spot. I have always had a hard time suppressing/controlling my emotions so I end up unablvto think straight. But it doesn't mean I'm secretly lookign for ways to lie or manipulate.
That’s totally understandable. I just knew it to be part of his tactics. He shouldn’t take hours or days to comment or answer a simple question. Lol
Ms.1111 R Gdm. They will avoid "?'s like the plague, n def. Can't luk U in yur Eyez. 2 me that's the evil in them. The enemy Can't luk God's children in their eyez. Wow! I fig. that out awhile ago. The blood of JeSuS be Against th enemy, tht d'evil/satan/Lucifer. He's on his way 2 a burn'n Hell 4 ever & ever, 4 Eternity. He will Not past go & he Does Not Collect his $200 💵. So we can bind him up in JeSuS "Mighty" Name, Amen.💯 👍 👊
I call it "Relationship Fraud"
These "people" are dark souls.
Nothing about them or their relationship with you is genuine.
They wear a mask to hook you in.
Then, when the mask falls off, the abusive games begin.
The only way to deal with these" people" and have piece in your life, is to go No Contact.
Your mental, physical and spiritual well being depends on it.
Knowledge is power.
Stay Narc free....❤
Love Fraud!
Noreen Lee Bingo!!!
Exactly...100!
Truth
Manipulationship.
Zero empathy.
zero insight to his own behavior.
Helped others only to tell everyone exactly how he helped them.
Hypocrite.
Passive agressive & Childish. Would pout. Silent treatment as a way to punish me for holding him accountable. (Does that even make sense?!)
Exactly. All clones of this NPD BEHAVIOUR. 3 YEAR OLD CLOWNS
Holy crap. This is dead on!!! They are seriously all the same...
@@Italiana72787 ALL the same pathological lying creep gaslighting shits w multiple sex partners. Yay. My dream man 💝
It NEVER makes sense at all and the crazy part is we are the ones to try and rationalize it. 🤦🏽♀️
@@Italiana72787 - Isn't that crazy? Makes you feel like you are in a twilight zone.
"Not knowing that you've really taken a snake unto your bosom." Yep ... that about sums it up. 👍
Word sis...
Sounds like demons
Tania Thomas ikr!
That was a word
Tania Thomas Gdm. 😯😨Yes, I agree with U.😕😯soo True.😞🙊😒
Preach! Don’t move too fast. Ask questions! Don’t give up the cookie. Resist the devil and they will flee . 55 narcissist gave a thumbs down. Flee!
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Wish we could stop using words like cookie it feels so degrading.
@blueseptember2174 what would the best word be?
@@Kashmir-lt4cx just say stop giving up your body, loving, sex etc. The actual words are better unless they having to use euphemisms to avoid being censored or something
I recently broke up with a covert narcissists and going no contact. He definitely played the role of nice guy, but was emotionally dismissive, manipulative, etc.
Never lock your life down with a person who grieves you. Spiritual discernment will always pick up on the game. You explain things in a MINDSHIFTING WAY.
The covert one plays the pity party to get into your world. So nice, so into you. Watch out. Listen to your gut feeling. It tells you to get away. Listen closely.
YES indeed..
GOD strengthen your children in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I pray..Amen
You call it!
I had a friendship with a covert narcissist. I established early on that I was celibate and was only interested in a platonic friendship. After 3 months I experienced the silent treatment and noticed he had a lot of friends ( supply) I started seeing him less and that puzzled him. Ladies especially, be watchful and abstain from sex when meeting men be smart, decerning. ENERGY DON'T LIE !
I live with a covert narcissist for 10 yrs and just filed for a divorce. Everything here is so true. I would like to add that going with a narcissist for couples therapy is a bad idea as they will use the therapist to show that you are the problem and not them.
Or they simply refuse to go to therapy. Entitlement.
Yes! They totally manipulate the therapist, especially christian ones. That jezebelle spirit loves church!!!
My covert narcissist & I only went to couples counseling for 2 sessions! Thats because he then hijacked the sessions for himself! Total disregard of my feelings and issues with our relationship! And then he only went for 3-4 sessions before saying we couldn't afford it. After 33 years of "marriage" I'm divorcing him. Thank you Pastor for your teachings!
😊 Thanks for the warning.
It's all true. Do not go to therapy with a narcesisst.
"You've taken a snake into your bosom. " That's an excellent description because you're walking around and they're biting you where no one can see. You look down and wonder why you're bleeding. Many small bites over time.
beautiful further insight!
Almost 30 years I been living with a narcissist.He fools everyone.I cry a lot.
slow death by a 1000 tiny slashes
Torture then soothe, torture then soothe...
@AlaskaSun straight FACTS! 💯
They are sick, lunatics walking on earth causing problems for kind people they meet!!!
Right
I want to commend this pastor for being one of the few that I have seen to address mental illness. I feel that the church has been very negligent considering how prevalent Mental Illness is in our society and people in the church are no exception. In fact, some would argue that religion/church has a role in adversely effecting a person's mental health.
This personality disorder is RAMPANT. I am recovering from my experience with a Covert Narcissist. I am still going through moments of shock, confusion, denial and disbelief. When the mask slipped off and the true identity was revealed, it was one of the most frightening experiences of my life. Realizing the person I fell for doesn't even exist, has been painful. It was all a facade, a twisted game. In hindsight, the manipulation, the controlling behavior, the lying, the devaluing was all there but it caught me off guard because the persona he created was the sweetest person I had ever met. Now I understand that the best way to avoid attracting a narcissist is total self love, self acceptance. never look to anyone else for validation, nor is it your job to fix anyone. Fix yourself. Love yourself.
Tomun King, very well said!!
that's bcos most church's are full of mentally ill ppl. Many are called, few chosen is what this pastor represents, No everyone has the ability to lead truthfully! totally agree with you
YES!!
Outstanding insight! This was my exact experience. Thank you :D
All facts!!! You hit the nail on the head!!
Narcissists isolate you from family and friends so when they are abusing you in every way you have no one to turn to after they make you create animosity..
My ex boyfriend....nice guy persona
Helpful friendly and Christian in public
The opposite behind closed doors
So manipulative making sure nobody suspects him
Does all these good deeds way in advance to solidify others perceptions
Framing you to be the perpetrator. It’s insidious.
A wild wolf in sheeps clothing
Love bombing to charm disarm and harm
He was very secretive ...always hiding his password protected phone
And he changes his cell phone with every new woman , and keeps moving state to state
Background check reveals 12-15 addressss ! This is what they do. Be warned. They target you online and move to your state. They don’t date locally because they don’t ever want you to run into anyone who will blow their cover . Every ex is blocked and called crazy while they isolate the next girl and get her emotionally Hooked
sounds like an old friend of mine so sad
Love bombing to charm disarm and harm, yes very much their fake. What had the world become. Sickening.
Amazing !! Sick and demented tormenting demonic soul killing predators!!
Wow!
You described my son's father, and his family is so fooled. So grateful to God for blocking this marriage twice. If you met him, you would think I was crazy and lying. Nope! True wolf.
Spiritual discernment always picks up on the game!
Exactly, energy don’t lie.
Facts
You are So Right? God will give you direction through The Holy Spirit!!!! No Contact!Stay Away!!! Don't Allow them in any part of your life. I Truly Believe that when this individual (I won't even name it as a person) it's a demonic sourse.) Came down with An hard outbreak of a Shingles Virus .This was God's way of removing this demon from my physical presence! I had just been in a very close contact friendly hugs just a day before this demons outbreak!!!God Truly shook me loose to the Fact: Child of God this is your Great Warning!!!! God has delivered me !!!! Praise My Loving Savior and The Holy Spirit who Quickened My Spirit to All Truth!!!
Amen!!! I cut ties with my ex-narcissist! God is so Good!!! Thank you Jesus!! I am free!!!❤️😘❤️
Kenesha Williamson ..amen sister in Christ!❤️
Amen ❤❤
Me too AMEN!
Praise the lord!❤️
Hallelujah!!! I am also free. Praise God
Bigtime secrecy, passive-aggressiveness, isolation from family & friends, dramalovers, emotional manipulators taking no selfresponsibility, blameavoiders, master of living silent treatments & creating triangulation, promisebreakers & playing unnecessary hurtful games...the covert tactics are simply sad, unfair & destructive. In the end they are the one with the selfdestruct button & they miss out on a honest-loving heart, who loved them - or at least what we believed they were. Wish them well & move on.
Amen...100!
Big time secrecy. Spot on.
So true!!
Spot on
I am laughing so hard because I experienced so much of this but God made a way of escape. 6-8 months & it was over. Gloooooray!!! Choose freedom over being an insignificant other.
Zee Wash I’m so glad you’re free. I escaped almost 7 months ago. ❤️
"Choose freedom over being an insignificant other." 🏆
Same. I was listening to this laughing in my car! I was like “WOW” I too experienced this.
The damage can effect the victim to the point of considering suicide.
Rise Up - Le' Body & Soul it’s true. I never had suicidal thoughts until during some of our conversations where I saw vividly suicidal images coming into my mind. Starting to wonder if it was a spirit of suicide acting up.
Yes, happened to me. I mentioned to doctors my feelings and occasional thoughts of suicide due to the mental abuse. My ex husband later used it against me in court to try to take our daughter away from me.
I often had sucidal thoughts throughout childhood abuse and with narcissist husband. One year ago, I cried out Psalm 27 : "The Lord is the stronghold of my life..' I cling to that truth and I am now free of that and have peace of mind. Thank you Lord.
Like a cult. I had thoughts of suicide when I was under my wife’s spell. 6 months free of her and my emotional state is fine.
I sincerely feel for all that have experienced the trauma & I know the pain & damage from abuse..
I pray for all the beautiful people that have replied. Aswell as others.
I pray for healing, & May you be saturated in Gods love.restoration, & protection .I send you all love & am so glad you all have the knowledge & insight now to have realised that you were a victim of someone else’s cruelty so now you will be able to track a narcissist or any other abuser before they even come near you.
I send you love & encouragement as you are going to grow so much from all this.
Let’s turn our suffering into passion to. Soar & fire in our hearts to climb the summit unstoppable.🙏🏻
Control, control, control...at first the control is them "taking care of" you.
Exactly thats for you to think they are this nice person then you see the other side of midnight for however long they pretend to get what they want!
I believe the man I'm am currently separated from is a covert narcissist. For 2 and a half years he didn't tell anybody we were married. When he did tell them, he lied and said we were married May 9, 2016. We were married October 24, 2014. He even put it on his Facebook page as May 9, 2016. He would always make me feel like I'm wrong for telling people the truth. I'm glad I'm divorcing him.
Mine too. We were together 15 years, married 10. Women at his job didn't know he was married. He would hide our daughter's car seat also. I found his profile on dating sites stating longest relationship was 5 years. I guess that was true to him
I wish there was a type of support group for women who go thru situations like
@@shondawilson7079 My future ex husband had us to sign our separation papers on our anniversary stating it was just another day. He blocked me on Facebook when I asked for my ring back. (I needed to pawn it to have money to move). I offered to give him my ring back but he didn't want it. My thought process is to pawn them because I don't need them anymore. My ex wouldn't tell me I was beautiful saying he didn't need to validate me because I already knew it. But he would tell me everybody else was. Always commenting on women's clothing and body parts. I'm so glad I am divorcing him.
@@pierg1974 Unbelievable one of my ex used to tell me the same, reacting the way as what you described concerning the lack of compliments including the perpetual valorization to the others women's flow , body types or outfits and so one....Boring...It's like a prototype which they were made from...lol
pier tolliver, that happened to me too! Ex forever complimenting another woman’s beauty, mostly celebrity women.
If Judas was a true narc, he killed himself not from remorse but because his name was ruined.
There was no way to fool anybody anymore. So it was game over.
Anyone that has been using & abusing women for sex is a narcissist without knowing it.
Rape, sex addiction , spirit of Lust is all narcissistic.
Some people are in denial or hide behind a facade or position.
I can recognise a narcissist in a second.
Very dangerous what happens to the psychological state of the victim that is usually a fatherless daughter without a doubt.
It has nothing to do with a fatherless daughter. My dad was in my life and I was deceived by a narcissist.
Majority yes
Some type of grooming as a child makes you a magnet to a narcissist
Apologies yes I should have said majority .my apologies.
I’m glad to hear those that had a great earthly father . It’s nice to hear & see when a father has raised, protected & cherished his daughter .
My hearts goes out to all the people that have been in any type of relationship with a narcissist.
It is absolute torment. I understand the pain from experiencing over & over with different people I loved .
It has nothing to do with fatherless daughters. I've been in the narc abuse survivors community for near 3 years and many of the women have their father's, come from good homes, good upbringing, these monsters will infiltrate even well educated people that have masters degrees. They're covert. I've even seen where women's father's will side with the narc bc they've been manipulated too. Let's not forget there are many female narcs as well with many men in emotional/ mental pain from the abuse and men choosing to go into the mgtow community (men going their own way) some because of narcissistic women. Although some can be, but its not about fatherless daughters.
They are excessive talkers, try to lower your self-esteem. Yell and scream, keeps confusion going, then will tell you they have nothing but love in their heart.
When you started to talk about wanting to fix someone who has broken you..... Wow. That hit me hard.
Me too...I'm working on understanding why I am this way
Amen...100 do not dismiss intuition...gut feeling...red flags...dreams from GOD warning you!
41:00 Demons don't want to give you compliments. Why bother with these types, they will destroy every aspect of your life and spirit.
“Victims try to fix the one who broke them.” Let’s stop these destructive behaviors, folks. It’s unhealthy. When you realize this is your pattern of behavior-stop it! Get help from a professional, if necessary. You’ll be glad you did.
Great info, Sir!
This is about the best video I've heard on Narcissist. It totally describes him and how I was feeling in my spirit. Our relationship lasted 7 months because my spirit was uneasy. I googled the signs he was exhibiting around me to try to understand him, and Narcissist popped up. I started reading the articles, and they described his personality to the T! THIS IS THE BEST YET! Thank you so much for your wisdom Pastor RC Blake!
Same with me. I googled symptoms when dealt with one first time. Grateful for google and you tube on Narcissism content - saving my spirit. Another great preaching by RC ❤
Same with me, started researching and I was like “oh yeah this is what I’m dealing with”. Thank goodness that relationship was short lived. Narcissists are terrible people.
Anxiety & stress come along - they make you feel insecure all the time & that you never feel safe. They promise you security & a dreamfuture together, but they know from Day 1 that they will never step up to their futurefaking promises & their actions do not match up with what they say. Their mindfuck makes you selfdoubt yourself & actually your guts have been whispering you this all along.
Listen .. You so much want to believe & trust in them & they mess that up. And then you gotta face a truth you never even knew existed.
You have said more than a mouthful my sista!! 💯
“While abusers want to blame the victim, the victim wants to fix the abuser. You are trying to fix the person who is consistently trying to break you”.
Hello No😂
Resist the devil and he shall flee
Sounds like "No Contact."
Cheryl Mcleod this so true. I do this with my husband and it works
All facts! That subtle criticism is aka for a "sneak diss" lol or bringing up a topic thats sensitive to you and making it seem like their referring to others, for example they'll say "People"...when they know their really talking about you and YOU know their talking about you but they will never admit it...Im glad I woke up from this narcissistic mess thank the Lord .
Yes! They call that “dog whistling” because it’s the victim that knows and hears it while nobody else knows what’s really going on. Just like only dogs can hear the dog whistle. Run!!
Wow I never heard it put that way before but thats a perfect example and description.
I have done that to the narc to avoid a blow up argument. Sometimes the only way I could say what I needed to say was by generalizing it! Habitually, confrontation only led to him redirecting the conversation on something I never actually did or him creating a big argument over some old issue to get the focus off whatever I needed to talk to him about.
@@soulprospers4110 wow!
Yep Queen.Alchemist. and they are 2-faced, I saw where he posted about people not helping if someone has car problems or loses their job, yet he threw it in my face when I lost temp jobs and didn't offer help not one bit during that time! Thank God I didn't need his help.
You are so correct about the anxiety bcuz I felt as if I was walking on eggshells. I also have CPTSD and chronic fatigue from all abuse. My body and spirit were aware.
pmgc I had the chronic fatigue syndrome for 20 years from a covert. The minute I left that house. Those demons left.
Be careful people around the holidays narc dont like being lonely, this is the time they hunt for their preyyyyy
Exactly...100!
"THEY ARE NEGATIVE AND HATE THEMSELVES" 100%100%100%
That is so true I met mine in the beginning of November.
Jeremiah 10:1-5 King James Version (KJV)
10 Hear ye the word which the Lord speaketh unto you, O house of Israel:
2 Thus saith the Lord, Learn not the way of the heathen, and be not dismayed at the signs of heaven; for the heathen are dismayed at them.
3 For the customs of the people are vain: for one cutteth a tree out of the forest, the work of the hands of the workman, with the axe.
4 They deck it with silver and with gold; they fasten it with nails and with hammers, that it move not.
5 They are upright as the palm tree, but speak not: they must needs be borne, because they cannot go. Be not afraid of them; for they cannot do evil, neither also is it in them to do good.
12 tribes of Isreal do not celebrate your pagan holidays Esau.
@ yep he was acting strange around New Years, saying he was so sick but he was still acting weird, staring at his phone. I.had alreadybforgave hin for cheating in tge past, but I knew something wasn't right I could feel it, then he was secretive about his phone. I felt ignored so I left him and went home. It's been 6 months just this June and it still hurts. He is on his second one since this happen, no telling who else.
I could write a whole book about this specific issue. Covert narcissists function like method actors - they LIVE in their pretense. Judas was just a greedy man who operated in selfishness in the moment, but he definitely repented, which narcissists never do. If you want to look at the covert narcissist, look no further than Satan, for he is the archetype. The serpent presented himself as one seeking the benefit of the woman in the garden, in order to destroy her and her husband (Gen 3:4-5). Paul says he transforms himself into an angel of light (2 Cor 11:14). For them to succeed though, they need their targets to ignore their intuition (spirit). I concur with you on this - NEVER ignore what your spirit tells you. NEVER.
Exactly...100!
Judas didn't repent or he wouldn't have committed suicide. Narc's threaten suicide in order to mentally torment people who love them. Narcs may commit suicide but their aim is to be the ultimate " victim" and have people feel sorry for them. They end up being their own worst enemy as all demons are. Remember when the demons asked Jesus if they could go into a herd of swine? Then what did they do? They ran off the cliff and drowned. They are their own worst enemy. Anyone who decides to live their life in the way of Satan instead of in the way of the Lord is their own worst enemy. Don't let the narc confuse you. It is always "all about them". They are all about self. Me, me, me!!!
@@ifeelprettyohsopretty806 This is an aside from the main subject, but it would be useful to read the various texts that detail Judas' thinking and actions. Matt 27:3-5 says plainly that he repented (or felt remorse in some translations) when he realized that Jesus was condemned to death. He confessed that his action - the betrayal - was sin. And then all versions indicate that he tried to undo his actions by returning the money. That was especially significant, because the book tells us that the money was his ONLY pursuit in the betrayal. Up until that point, Judas was the perfect picture of true repentance - he felt remorse, he confessed verbally to his sin, and he tried to make restitution to correct it. When he found that even his repentant action could not stop Jesus from being falsely executed, he hanged himself. Understandably, he felt guilty of causing the death of the Messiah, and that he was beyond redemption - in short, he felt hopeless, which is a belief that is a common denominator in suicide. Judas was covetous, deceitful, and the book tells us, a thief. But his repentance - feeling remorse, confessing fault, and making restitution - are all things narcissists NEVER do.
The last thing he said to me was..."You hurt me when you said you didn't want to talk to me anymore". Of course he was playing the victim, when all the time he created the chaos.
Pastor is outing the narcissist and I love it. There is no excuse for us to now function from a position of wisdom. Thanks so much.
Yes, ex hubby never gave compliments only criticisms even small stuff “you didn’t turn the light off upstairs” 🙄. He did try to plant a seed about a body part of mine which I was fine with but as a teen struggled with. The silent treatment was prevalent and discarding. Finally realizing nothing would change and I resented him and when it ended. His Narc rage came through, tried to destroy me! I prevailed although days I felt at my lowest. Life is too short..Never let someone tear you down EVER!
All of this. & even withholding sex telling me how he wouldn’t dare F me crazy cause last I thought he had F me & got me pregnant. He won’t leave, won’t leave me alone, & pretends it’s the baby he’s staying for. I can’t get away & im miserable as hell. I’ve prayed for him & the cycle continues love bomb, devalue, super devalue, discard (silent treatment) back again. Blame me everything my fault I love him but I don’t like him even hate him & it appears he enjoys it & my misery. Once the mask slipped he doesn’t even try to hide it anymore
Danielle Hixon that's how it started with me emotionally. I started not to like him, then I was just removed emotionally. I tried to get the feelings back but I think too much damage had happened by then. They will use anything (the baby) mine said he wanted be in the house with our son...yet you can't treat his mother, your wife right 🙄. Start acting like he no longer bother you, don't react or respond, he's going to notice. Sadly, they do thrive on hurting you (the evil in them), so do the opposite. When he criticizes says "sorry you feel that way". Oh I was trying so hard.. life is too short to be unhappy. Just know prepare before you leave, the narc rage is real!
@@kimberly0717 I’ve experienced the rage he’s crazy. The baby isn’t even here yet (currently pregnant) I feel like he’s cheating but I haven’t caught him in it I’m tryna change my feelings cause I will call him if he’s not home by a time because I don’t want him to be happy having a good time with her then come home tormenting me. I’m gonna try your advice he doesn’t know if he still here don’t the same by the time my lease is up I’m moving out of this state with no heads up or forwarding address
Yes indeed never let anyone tare you down or devalue you to make you feel bad about yourself ,so they can control you.and make you their slave and break you .
@@PrincessDani9320pray to get out , because he's trying to destroy you. My cousin died in this type of relationship get out you deserve way better. Travel ,move work on yourself build yourself up.
Bishop, the Holy Spirit is really using you mighty on this subject.
I just went through this mess with someone.. This man was mirroring everything about me then started to suddenly insult me
Yep!
My story too
Yeah. I experienced the same thing. This person never introduced me anyone in his circle but constantly wanting to come to my home which I never allowed that and wanting to know everything about me. I didn't know hardly anything about his family or friends. Then tells me I do so much for my daughters but he never have his child. Red flags flying all around.
This is what they do!
Random fact: At this point I hit the thumbs up button before I even watch your videos because I already know you’re going to Preach and Teach my life in order. lol
Pastor please pray for me, I'm going through this right now.
Karen Hardy 🙏🏾 I stand with you. I hope you can escape soon ♥️
Sending your prayers 🙏
Trusting our Father God to lead and guide you to a way of escape, heal your heart and break the soul tie and restore you in Jesus Mighty Name.... 💕💕💕
I'm praying for you and PLEASE, PLEASE GO NO CONTACT!!!
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My spirit was telling me that something is NOT right with Nark, I felt intensely uncomfortable with him.
Walk away from these individuals, they're NOT good for you and NOT good to you.
Covert narcissist will do anything in their power to pass for a crazy person. They are never wrong,very defensive, definitely despise an inquisitive person. Call you combative. They think they are better than anyone else but are the most insecure person in the world. Never have I dated someone like that up until last year on and off. From the very beginning, my spirit was never in accordance with that union but I overlooked every red flags possible. We got back on this October,and I had to end this 3 weeks ago because I value my peace than a relationship. These type of people are very dangerous.
So agree! With mine, who was a seaman, I never slept when he was home. I blamed it on snoring or him moving around but that was not it, I could sleep with no earplugs next to my rolling around the bed daughter, but not him without taking a sleeping aid and yamming earplugs into my ears... i felt stressed out. I was always looking forward to him going to sea to do "my life" and not have everything revolve around him. Felt extremely guilty about this as he was lovely and I loved him right?. Little things bothered me and drove me nuts, like small but noticeable acts of unkindness to others. And the lack of empathy (wrote it off as him just being a "guy" -men are not women and all that) -if I had only listened to my Spirit,in stead I saw him as a God send... oh well FREE NOW, but a bit of a broken wing...
@@IT-zx5jc Wow. I forgot all about the ear plugs and never being able to sleep. Its terrible. I have ecxema in my ears now for jamming those plugs in for so many years.
@@KD-qc5fr wow thats amazing, guess I am not alone!
@@IT-zx5jc Definitely not alone.
Doris mirelle yes! He said hevwanted a girlfriend, not a warrior, I'm yeh, whatever and he would get defensuvevand act like a child when Inonly expressed my feelings to him and he takes things the wrong way!
For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.
- Luke 8:17
Don't know the whole Bible but this quote 2 me states what u do in the dark comes to the light, Well Said tho?
Pastor the spirit lead me to this video....I was literally praying on this and boom...here you are sharing the word on this topic. Thank you once again!!
True Pastor. Underlying anxiety, uneasiness and sense of danger. Listen to that feeling.
Being raised by a mother who suffers with covert narcissism and an emotionally absent father who was codependent upon her is a uniquely painful experience. You are literally birthed from the womb of iniquity into transgenerational attachment trauma. I can testify that the Word alone healed my toxic empathy and delivered me from the bondage of a deficiency of self-knowledge, and self-love. 🙏🏽🕊🙌🏽
Never ignore the leading of your spirit!!
Aisha Clark 👍❤️
As soon as you said “secrets” it struck a chord with me and my mistakes. I was asking a narc(frienenemy) straightforward questions. Not the best of tact but still. The response “my world don’t resolve around you”. I was dealing with a frienemy. But by the grace of God, the very LAST time.
God bless you RC Blakes! You continue to help me and many others. Thanks again 🙏🏿
RC BLAKES, JR. your content is a blessing. Anyone who is suffering, prayer prayer prayer is key. Also, set boundaries.
*SosoBrown* agree boundaries are friend, morals, values and standards and self respect. ☮️✌🏾🌄🕊
This brought me some much needed relief from pain after recently separating from my very damaged ex boyfriend who I believe is a narcissist. Always wondering what I did to deserve the psychological manipulation and subtle put downs. I think narcissism can result from childhood trauma and abuse as well as bad experiences in previous relationships that causes the person to act out of a need for control. Anyway, this pushed me closer to closure. God bless you!
Yes...all that but genetics too one or both parents narcissist....
I thank God for always being with me because I could of made big huge mistakes thinking I was in good hands, but god kept me I didn't lose anything, I'm still beautiful, I still want love one day, my kids an family an I are so much closer ....I realized I got to be something mighty special to have been under attack like that, I'm not suffering for anything I know without a shadow of a doubt god has kept me because he knows my heart ❣️
So true. I feel the same way!😊
wow, thank you so much for commenting this. So beautiful!
My narc never gave me compliments when I got dressed!
Story of my life
These marriages and/or love relationships will leave you believing you’re insane!!! So grateful after 20plus years I’m opening my own eyes. Thank you for your messages!! Very helpful and relatable! ❤️
Pastor Blakes is so so so right. I had experienced all these in a relationship with a covert narcissist before. Had gone No CONTACT with him for almost two years now. The confusion that caused by him has caused me PTSD and OCD( because of mind confusion and brain fog. Was very debilitating initially in the process of recovery.I felt like I have been paralyzed. I thought I would never be able to recover from these trauma, but God is good, somehow He brought me to find out about the truth behind this abusive relationship that this individual is actually a narcissist and the truth and my confession and lots of prayer has set me free, I am still on the journey of healing. I am much much stronger mentally, emotionally, psychologically and physically now and feel that I have the strength to manage life once again which I doubted in the beginning stage of NO CONTACT. SO, my advice, like what Pastor Blakes said , listen to your spirit, if you feel that something is not right, then trust what your spirit is showing you. These individuals are demon possessed, they come into this world to destroy, paralyzed human beings and they are emotion vampires, they literally SUCK SOULS out of normal human being, left victim soulless, emotionally empty shell.
Pastor Blakes, you are truly a blessing thank you for teaching on the Covert Narcissist I have learned so much from your teachings. I'm six months in being out of a relationship with a covert narcissist. Your teaching on soul ties also has been a blessing in keeping my deliverance by not going back to this demonic relationship. I was in bondage for 18 yrs. That is an extremely long time! I've been trying off and on for years to get out of that relationship. Finally I made a decision to let it go! I been praying for God to deliver me and praise God he used you to aide in my deliverance. I'm eternally grateful for your teachings! This person showed up last night at my door. I told him without opening the door that I'm no longer interested. He stood outside the confessing his so called love for me. The love bombing script did not work! So he decided to leave. It felt so good to no longer be moved by his demonic manipulation behavior. I'm free Praise God! I continue to listen to your teaching on narcissism, so I will not and allow the devil to suck me back in! Thank you for your steadfastness in continuing to teach on this subject.
@ Sheila Perritt, please be aware of your surroundings and your vehicle. Your ex will be trying to hurt you in some kind of way, because you are no longer willing to have him in your life. He will seek revenge for exposing him.
Thank you for your concern, I will definitely pay attention to my surroundings.
Sheila Perritt Girl, get a restraining order and some mace. Get or update your security system NOW!
This one is definitely crazy. Praying for you.
This is such an important point... thank you so much for covering this and so thoroughly too!
The more subtle our feeling that something is off (even though the outward presentation of the person is ‘near perfect’), the more we must trust that feeling. The red flags lie in the subtleties.
It’s all too easy (and so very tempting) to ignore those feelings and put them down to our own issues.
If you’re not convinced test it out... put a boundary in place and stick to it beyond his or her initial charismatic persuasion to surpass your boundary. Or disappoint the person with a comment: somewhere between a neutral observation/constructive criticism, and watch their face as you say it!
There is a difference between character and personality!
What a covert narcissist shows you is a cleverly crafted tailor-made personality that mirrors your hopes, needs and desires.
Beneath this outward appearance of the personality lies their character (fundamental habits, belief systems, patterns/issues, mental rationale, motivations, unconscious influences, reactions etc etc), which is a very different animal; the very opposite to how they portray themselves via the personality !
Their character is what your spirit is sensing when something feels off with this ‘seemingly’ wonderful man or woman! Listen to it and test it out!
No. 5. Covert narcissists will sometimes compliment you, but if you pay close attention it feels empty and somehow haughty!
This compliment is nothing more than a manipulative move for control of your reality.
They will build you up and then without warning they will take you down in a most devastating way. This often happens in repetitive cycles until you are so disempowered that your self-esteem is dependent upon their praise and acceptance.
This power dynamic is in the realm of mental, emotional and spiritual abuse of the worst kind. This is due to it’s covert nature and slow debilitating effects upon your mental and emotional state, your sense of reality along with your ability to make decisions for yourself and to know what is real.
This is the reason why a covert narcissist will try to alienate/separate you from your family and friends... so that you have no access to outside support/guidance or interference - no compass to know which way is UP!
A disturbing fact is that a covert narcissist (aside from their acquisition of narcissist supply); will derive mental and emotional stimulation from playing with a persons mind and sense of reality. Soft targets are most loathsome to them because they offer no challenge, no real stimulation. They are seen as weak and are thus worthy of nothing more than punishment and torment. Unfortunately the only stimulation derived here is to see what it takes to break (destroy) a weak person.
It’s worth bearing in mind that there are degrees of covert narcissism... a spectrum. That is; they share the same commonalities as highlighted by Pastor Blakes; but some narcissists are more merciless (darker) than others. Meaning their intentions and actions can be far more sinister calculating and immoral than others.
Narcissism a vast subject that is as broad as it is deep - and not an easy one to fathom.
We are living in a narcissistic society since the birth of celebrity TV and social media which normalises and even promotes narcissism - which means that this work and these messages from RC Blake is now more important than ever!
Thank you so much for this important video Pastor, which I find to be very empowering and spot on!
With love, light and blessings to you 🙏🏽❤️
I wish it was that simple. You won’t know until you are in it. It’s not about being blind etc. They are masters at what they do and if you are not in a good place it can happen- and it can happen to anyone
Whenever I need to ground myself, I watch this whole video and feel much better. It reminds me of how evil these people can be and how true it all is. Thanks pastor.
There is a bad energy from the covert narcissist that I know. It is difficult not to absorb it. I trust the Lord's help if I need to deal with him. He loves to create upset in others while he is ever so calm. His favorite tatic is the silent treatment.I pray for protection against minipulation and control. Thank you for sharing your insight with us.
I married this person after asking my then best friend to please stop me if I said I was going to marry this guy. When i told her I was about to marry, she just told me she was happy for me etc. My spirit sank all the way down because I knew I was in trouble. My spirit knew but I was powerless to get away. 10 years of spiritual agony later I am trying desperately to get out but the hoovering is so strong! God will help me get free. I don't know how, but I will break free! Pray for me!
#GodFreeVilinda
Praying for you.
Watch Pastor Blake's detoxing video from narcissist
Rightnow I’m dealing with detaching myself from undercover narcissists can y’all pray for me I lost my own peace this year trying to help other people and they abused it
Please update and let us know you are safe ❤️
Baby....pray and flee. No contact. You're dealing with a straight up demon. They are real
I WILL KEEP YOU IN PRAYER
CALL OUT THE NAME JESUS WHEN YOU FEEL THIS SPIRIT.
NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER..I'm gonna say this again.
NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER.
NONE!
Use the prayer against soul ties by brother Ryan 831 on UA-cam. It's free.
Go gray rock! Shut down your emotion. Starve that demon. Praying for you
Watch “Asheraseven1” UA-cam videos.
100% on point! They are the most dangerous of narcissists. Excellent video on it!
They take pleasure in others pain.
@ and bitches too.
Look up schadenfraude
Exactly what happened to me. The anxiety was killing me and the ex narc demanded I see a psychiatrist or the relationship was over.
Brenda Berrios they like to make you think you’re the problem... that’s a part of their M.O. (modeus operandi) big part-
Boy. Exact words to me too. My God it's comical. They are such disturbed animals
They have the ability to erode your God-given human spirit. Demonizing & destroying human spirits.
I honestly feel like my wife of 20+is covert
I am trying to now figure out a safe way out
Please pray for me and my kids
God bless you for what you are doing!!
This is the best sermon regarding relationships that I've ever heard in my entire life.
Can be opposite as well I met his family right away. His mother Red flag right away but he excused it as she's crazy. Well he's just as crazy
Buzzing Bee his mother warned me and told me he had his ex like a puppet, his sister told me he changed his woman like he change his draws and that she refuses to build a relationship with me because she does not know how long I’m going to last and his cousin told me keep him on his toes and that he is just like his bestfriend . His bestfriend is abusive and a cheater. The family will warn you indirectly. None of his family supported our engagement, now I know why! 😒
Dainty Des
His mother was abusive and psychotic always cruel and mean to me. I was always likes by boyfriends mothers and friends mothers so I was shocked. He said don't worry she's crazy. That was 16 years ago. She never liked me and always tried to break us up. So in my case she's a psychopath and he a narcissist.
Buzzing Bee his mom is nice but none of his family supported my engagement and didn’t want to do it around my family and didn’t include his. Now i know why. His mom only said oh pretty ring but congrats or welcome to the fam
I dated a guy just like this. Came swooping in like Mr. Nice Guy and as soon as he hooked my interest, he started getting shady. His abuse and subtle criticisms got so deep into my head that I beat myself up over it. Extremely dangerous people and this video is so insightful and true that it's scary.
We should not forget to mention that there are so many Narc parents out there who destroy their childrens life. I believe more often than children becoming Narcissists
This is truly the truth. Just know...I met him (narrcissist) in church. He told me that I asked too many questions - he also told me that he could not control me.
Deborah Etheridge just based on your short comment it seems like that guy is a narc all day everyday. Thankfully we can rest peacefully under Gods protection. Stay blessed
Screaming “So thankful to have found this pastor and to be informed I was suffering from the behaviors of a narcissist” Thank God for this knowledge to help me see I am no longer attached to nor a victim of these terrible behaviors!!! Omg Pastor RC Blake’s Jr you have helped me within the 4-5 days that I have been introduced to you just by clicking on a video!
This was something I need to watch. Everything you mentioned is exactly what I’ve been feeling. Thank you 🙏🏽
Pastor, I wish I knew you personally. The conversations we could have about this subject, HERE!!! You are doing a phenomenal job dissecting the many layers of these diabolical beings. Thank you so much for continuing to share your insight and understanding. Many blessings to you!🙏🏿💗
So so glad that the covers are being pulled off these miscreants, especially in the body of Christ. God is fortifying the body of Christ each time we hear these messages. And for that I praise Him.
watching these videos gives me peace about moving away from my narc parents thankfully God has made a way after a long and abusive 29 years
I hollered when he said "you picking up a lil weight there huh" 😭😭😭
Same thing he said to me, then goes and gets another healthy onem smh😂😂
For someone who has recently studied these demons in skin, you sure get it. I'm still clawing my way to heal from a 17 year marriage to a covert narc sociopath. Bless you for this content.
Sacred Light I was married to a covert sociopath narcissist for 20 years. I repent and forgave him. And surrendered him to the Lord. The second I did the Holy Spirit came upon me and healed my broken abused heart of 20 years. I’m now set free. We have a 9 yr old. We co parent. The lord showed me he’s not my problem. It’s not the people. It’s demons behind him. So when I see him. I’m like they buddy how’s it going? How’s your day? I keep it neutral with him. Zero hate, zero discust for him. Why because I don’t want to hurt the Holy Spirit. Because the Holy Spirit is greater then I. I sleep like a baby at night. Because the Bible stays to have peace with all men.
You are 100% right!!!! Everything you said is true! Wow!!!
I only come across this particular video four years after it was broadcasted and it is one hundred and ten percent accurate to the the individual i was involved with just over a year ago. Thank you Pastor Blake for your wonderful work, even though listening to to it gives me the creeps still about this particular individual. I'd like to believe my healing journey is still ongoing and i have built so much confidence thus far and put some pieces of myself together. My point is, the way you articulate a "covert narcissist", further confirms that i still have a lot of work to do on myself. Never underestimate your enemy. Bless you sir.
When you are not being led by the spirit, but moved by your flesh you are doomed in a relationship!
Pastor you are exactly right about how they can make you feel anxious , frustration , self doubt , and on the surface he looks like such a nice guy ! I have been with one for 8 yrs !
He never wants to talk about what I want to. He changes the subject ! I love you too for doing these videos! I have been in hell for such a long time . He says I want to be miserable no I dont ! He makes me miserable!
I'm finally seeing all of this NOW !
RIGHT NOW I AM BREAKING AWAY FROM HIM !
Oh yes he has went to my friends and to my daughter told them lies on me ! And he has told me lies !
I THANK GOD FOR YOU DOING THESE PRICELESS VIDEOS !
Thank you Pastor! I’m in this situation with my own mother and it’s horrible. It’s actually the devil working through folks to destroy the destiny placed on our very lives! He wants to abort our mission statement about Jesus Christ and what He’s getting ready to do! Hallelujah. Pastor thanks so much for revealing and destroying the works of the enemy on this day ! Y’all are blessed forever! 🙏🏽❤️👏🏾
Very good stream Pastor Blakes!💯
Thank you so much for this great and truthful information!💯
The narcissists is a tragedy. A sad, somewhat complicated pathetic tragedy.
..thank you for explaining and breaking down the sick and controlling personality of these types of people...💯
You've surely saved me from unnecessary heartache!💯
It's sad I'm 40 years old and just now learning about a person like this, I've wasted 17 years on one person, but I did get 2 kids out it, thank you for ur videos it's really a eye opener for me!
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 They're more dangerous than an overt narcissist. I've learned so much about why boundaries are sooo important!!! It's supremely important to take your time to really get to know people, don't give or do too much too soon, and honor your covenant with God ABOVE ALL ELSE!!! These people are TRICKY. They know how to play the role! But with time you'll see that they don't have the capacity for true empathy, compassion, or consideration of other people's feelings- ESPECIALLY when it does not serve them to pretend to care about your feelings! These people can actually pretend to care and fake sympathy IF they feel it will benefit them. But once you're committed to them and they feel they have the upper hand, you will inevitably see their true nature is self-serving, unremorseful, neglectful, abusive, deceptive, and incapable of being held accountable. They are IMPOSSIBLE to deal with and if you're unfortunate enough to be tied to them through marriage or children, you'll have to figure out how to emotionally disconnect because they will always look for ways to manipulate and destroy you psychologically and emotionally.
Thank you so very much for what you do!!!! Educating on this topic so well and speaking on the father wounded woman!!! These are also the women narcissists prey on.
I’ve dedicated an Instagram to this education and I plan on continuing this work because only God can heal these wounds and there are many avenues of brokenness that narcissists seek in women to kill, steal and destroy and I unknowingly possessed nearly all of them at one point in my life or another. The new age way of healing is victim blaming and absurd entrenching victims in further deception. Strong, honest, intelligent and loving women can be fooled by these demons. It is NOT your fault. 💜 we were preyed upon, stalked and studied. Love to you🙏❤️
my son's father STILL messages my friends...4 years after the discard...he still emails me telling me my friends think this or that...these are really sick people...devil straight from hell...yes, sir
And another thing I noticed about a narcissist nobody likes some and they don't have friends they're not capable of a relationship or frames because most people see them for who they really are and it's a turn off even if you don't know the difference between a narcissist or somebody just trying to get over on you it don't take long to walk away they are one of the most dangerous people you'll ever meet
The battle with the narcissist is a spiritual one it's truly a life altering experience. Being discarded by the narcissist for the final time was a blessing I have no words to Express how grateful I am all I have is my actions going forward
Hiding many aspects of their life.
Such a great teaching and you are definitely hearing from GOD. I was in a verbal, emotional, and physically abusive relationship for 6 years. I am so glad GOD opened a door for me to exit and to sealed the door of return. Keep hearing and preaching. So needed
So true, we don't see these converts coming because of the disguise then they hit you with the insults. It's very mind boggling and leaves the victim confused/hurt. Keep spreading the knowledge on these snakes!!
DING DING DING DING❗️❗️❗️❗️. I’ve listened to a lot of descriptions on what a covert narcissist is like, but I’ve never heard one that was so spot on. It’s like you’re in my head and you’re reading my every thought
My husband is a Narcissist its very painful
I dealt with it for almost 11 years. I am getting out as we speak. If you want your soul free, cry out to God. He will strengthen and embolden you to be freed from the Fowler's snare. God bless you.
Get out
Leave..save yourself.
You are so right. Our spirit is always discerning things that aren’t right. That feeling is so unsettling. I will never ignore my spirit ever again. It’s like they are secretly trying to snatch the rug from underneath you. They also create a lot of distractions to throw you off of what they are doing.