Use the Magic Word with Your Strong-Willed Child
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2024
- Your strong-willed child may present some challenges at home. You are not alone if you have one. Cynthia Tobias suggests that you use the magic word with your strong-willed child.
The author of You Can't Make Me says the magic word will work 8 out of 10 times, which is pretty good right? That's because it lulls your strong-willed child into compliance before he or she knows what's happening.
As a former cop, Cynthia says that giving and taking orders are just part of the job for law enforcement and military types, but that doesn't always work so well with your strong-willed child who is determined to do things his or her way. She encourages you to try the magic word just once and see if it works, ok?
For more from Cynthia check out her book You Can't Make Me, But I Can Be Persuaded: bit.ly/3FMqQ8q.
00:00 - Intro and Knock Down Drag Out Fight
01:10 - They're Shocked
02:00 - I Have to Destroy You
02:52 - There are Consequences
03:42 - You're Given An Order
04:08 - I Die On Every Hill
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Totally works...100% used it on my college students..
Love how she ended this with…”just try it once, ok.” Haha
yup and i actually said okay and caught myself lol
Simple, yet politely way of taking care of people.
Wish I knew this sooner. By saying, "OK"?, it's giving the other person a choice in the matter. And seems like when they have a voice in the decision too, they feel obligated to do what they're told. Rather than just taking a command.
Going to be trying this in the daycare I work at! I feel like I’m at my wits end because “disciplining” at home is no longer a thing, and putting 30 kids in a room whose parents believe “they do no wrong” is a challenge 😅
I forgot I have listened to this before. I have to agree that Cynthia is onto something. I need to talk to her personally as my coach (lol). I have a 5 year old grand daughter that I help out with at least once a week or more & often stays all night. Love her to pieces but she is very strong willed like her dad was (my son) and I do my best to bring out the best in her and yet make her behave kindly. It’s challenging and her older brother is just the opposite, easy going & well mannered….He even struggles to please her & gives in to her. I’m seeking ways to cultivate her strong personality into a positive adult. I know this can be such an asset to her as an adult if we help impart Godly values in her. 🙏🏻
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It actually works. I just tried it on my 3 and 4 years old. 😂
I have heard that saying ok all the time is the wrong thing to do- can’t remember why now. However, I do find myself doing this and I’ve always thought it works with both my kids (and my husband)! Very interesting and helpful, thank you.
Okay!!
This is the complete opposite of what I was taught in child development.
I’m going to try this with my daughter! Thank you so much. ❤️
Ok ✅
One of my children is strong willed, but beyond reason and extremely volatile in his moods. He is only 10 but not afraid to break things in the house or physically attack other people and refuses to go to school. I think he needs professional help and medication.
This is exactly what I’m dealing with. 10 yr old boy, but we homeschool. So so hard. Praying for you because I can relate.
Dealing with 7 year old here
Worked.
ok! : )
I wonder what the magic word is in our home language.
Does this work on husbands?
Why does an adult often feel like they "lose" when they can't get a child to do what they want..(?) That's just childish.