God criteria is set. That you marry in the Lord! That's for men and women now just because you are to marry in the Lord. You have to use common sense and good judgement. I think too many times we get off base and try to spiritualize everything in our life as Christian's and that is not healthy! Whom you choose to marry is your choice but you should take time to get to know that person, good-bad-and ugly! As, people of God we have our flaws and you choose to accept a flawed person as you are flawed and choose to love them. God isn't a match maker! That is a big misnomer amongst believers.
Amen. Do not compromise your faith in order to be in a relationship. If you want to be in a relationship with someone who does not seek God or desires to follow His commands, that is not the person God has for you. I know this from experience. I was in a relationship with a woman who did not want to seek God wholeheartedly, therefore the relationship did not last very long. Listen, a person who does not follow God WILL bring you further away from Him. The only reason why my relationship with this woman lasted as long as it did was because of my own selfishness. Do not let your desires distract you from the plans God has for you. Seek Him first! Only true peace comes from God. I hope that this video reminded you of who should be the #1 in your life, it did for me.
Might be a dumb question, but can you please give me examples of standards that should not be compromised? Coz i know relationships require compromise, but what are specific standards I should stand my ground for?
Wow wow wow Praise God for this Encouragement!!! These were Always my Convictions. And, man does the devil send ppl who mean well to talk you out of it! Discern the Spirits! Hold to your Convictions! Wait, wait WAIT on the LORD👑🔥☝🏾🙏🏿☄️ God’s Best, God’s Finest✨🙏🏿
Isa. 8:17 reads, "even when God is hiding His face from you, wait on Him and hope in Him." It's so easy to wait for rain when you see clouds covering the sky. The real challenge and test of faith is waiting and hoping for light amid total darkness. Didn't mean to compare singleness to darkness but you get the idea. Keep keeping on.
Wow! I’m in the same boat as you are. I’ve been waiting for the right person to cross my path as well. I have grown in the Lord soo much that I too am not the same person I was 10 years ago and I’m trusting in him to bring me the right girl in my life that centers her life around his love. So when I do meet her the relationship will have a solid foundation on the Lord that when any life storm comes we won’t be shaken. The relationship should be as easy as drinking water. I’ll pray for you to find the right man to share your life with.
I married the man I thought God had for me and I was 30 years old. My now ex husband was a Godly man but walked off the narrow road. 16 years of marriage and he cheated. How long was the affair, I don’t know but I’m glad I’m not married to the man anymore. An affair is not something that can be forgotten, the pain and betrayal runs too deep. Years have now passed and the most wonderful man I had ever imagined came into my life. It’s hard to explain how we just clicked, it was like we have always been together but haven’t. I prayed God would present me with the right man to give my heart to one last time and I have. I’m scared of feeling the deep hurt I felt with my ex but I have to learn that I can trust another man, the right man. I thank God for the man he brought into my life everyday and my prayer to everyone is to do what Ally says and wait. The man God has for you is looking for you right now. I won’t lie and tell you it will hit you like a ton of bricks because it won’t. What you will find is a similarity that you’ve never known before and I believe that’s from God. Be blessed✝️
Laura W please take a look at this video. ua-cam.com/video/w6jvJwiu0JQ/v-deo.html There are more videos on this subject in that UA-cam channel. There is still hope, the only way out of hurt is to forgive and forget the past. Don't beat yourself up for the past mistakes. First you have decide to forgive him, then ask God to heal your soul from this wound, for God to reverse every damage to your faith and walk with God. You need a revelation from God on why this happened there might be a deeper spiritual reason or a backdoor used by the enemy against you.
I am 36 never married and went on two dates with a guy . he was a nice man very polite … but I felt no affection for him more than a friend and besides I cringed inside when he kissed me hello or goodbye. I have been praying for my God ordained husband.... I started thinking maybe I should have faith that he is it. I asked an advisor on what to do... I asked should I have faith in God this will turn into something.. or do the right thing and be honest what I feel thank hi for the lovely time but we would only be friends... I went with the latter as advised and what my heart knew n= this wasn't a test in waiting but in discerning... nice as he was I cut him lose b fore we got to involved and only offered friendhip. It wouldn't be good for me to lead him on and unfair to him.. he should have someone who reciprocates those affections to him
You're seeking a man based on physical attraction alone, that's lust. You're 36 and not married, maybe you need to ask God to change your standards because physical attraction should not a requirement. If he's got a good hear after the Lord. Also your 36 so all the men that would make you feel attraction are not going to want to marry you, they will pump and dump at best. Stop lusting after men, go after a man's heart and use Biblical criteria to make the decision.
I think wanting a man to shave and not have beer stains on his shirt and tell crude jokes not to take care of himself like this guy is not an unreasonable desire. If I didn't at least take care of myself. I wouldn't want a man to want me. but I think taking care of yourself should not be divorced from the equation, taking care and respecting yourself is attractive to me. I think you need to go after a man's heart bt how does he take care of himself? that indicator of his self esteem and how he will take care of children too
Thank you beautiful sunshine always 💛 💖. Ur so Genuine and Honest. I can see that in you. Wow ur like no one else. I love that about you!!!! Enjoy your day today 😊. 😊
This word is right time so often we do compromise and end up miserable, but when we wait on God his blessing has no burdens. God bless you woman of God continue to speak on Gods behalf and be bold for his sake
So true! I've done this before. I kept lowering my standards and I knew it was wrong yet I doubted myself that I had too many standards be cause my ex convinced me that I had too many boundaries. For example, he once said to me that if we didn't have sexual chemistry together then our relationship was doomed. Luckily I never gave in. Unfortunately I was too chicken to get out of the relationship the same day he said that to me.
Ally people tell me exactly the same thing! It's crazy because I had this conversation with my coworkers last week. They don't understand why I have the standards that I do. People tell me I will be single forever if I don't start lowering my standards. Thank you for this😘
lowering your standard can have so many sections. lowering your standard maybe in how u relate with others, maybe your faces is not friendly to others, you can adjust that kind of standard. But flirting around because you are looking for Mr right is totally wrong or getting involved in all manners of immoralities, fornication etc is what annoys God and provokes God.
lyublyuisusa I had the same conversation at work today, with co- workers and they don't understand my desires are from GOD , and they keep asking me to lower my standards 😂😂, Not going to happen ! Thank you for this video ! I'm not alone.
Right?? I've been told by one person that the man I want isn't out there and by another that I need to lower my standards or I'll be living alone with a bunch of cats eventually...I can tell one of them is brainwashed and the other is the type to go for any man who's interested in her. It's sad!
I'm so glad that there are people who are thinking and relying on God like i do... I'm from Austria and there are very few Christians in my live because the society here thinks strongly they don't need standards from God or God at all, and sometimes i feel a little bit lonely because i don't really have this Christian friendgroup. Bless you, the Lord gave you so much wisdom, keep doing what you doing! 😘😘
I lowered my standards a couple of times and the same people who told me I was too picky then turned then around and told me I wasn't being picky enough and I'll just date anyone. I find that most people when you're single only have negative things to say to you about your situation. They are either like you're too picky or you're not picky enough or you're not looking or you're looking too hard or you shouldn't want anyone at all because you should be just looking at serving the Lord and if you just serve the Lord and not look they ask if you want to be with someone and then when you say yes, they say well maybe you should be more focused on the Lord if you want someone. It's a never ending circle and never ending nightmare with these people who act this way and most of them who are the worst about it are family and Christians.
Gods Remnant Goodness! I'm sorry to hear that and I feel you. It can get overwhelming hearing anyone and everyone's opinions and it can make your mind noisy, unclear. But guess what? Their opinions don't matter, God's does. God overrides everything. Let him guide you.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I agree, I've been married twice and its because I didn't wait on the Lord, and I didn't allow Him to pick my wife for me, nor did I allow Him to build me into the man of God that I'm suppose to be to God 1st and for the wife that God is preparing for me. I am working on building my relationship with Him and allowing Him to mould me into the man of God He created me to be. I thank the Lord for having mercy on me and waiting for me to say yes to His will. I would like to have a woman that says yes to God 1st and always, I don't mind taking a back seat to God, a God loving/fearing woman is so beautiful, especially one that is walking in her gifts and in the area that the Lord created her for. Sorry for being long winded, be bless everyone, love you all.
i really needed this i lowered my standards and ended up getting taken advantage of physically and mentally i lowered my conviction because of my current boyfriends ex and what they had done that i was unaware of until we started dating so i ignored the convictions that god had put in me and we did some things we should not have and now i realize that and once he got what he wanted he lost all respect for me and the relationship has never been the same since i felt so stupid for letting it get that far all these videos about standards have helped me to realize that god has something better for me and i will be breaking up with my boyfriend soon because not only have i lowered my standards for myself but i have compromised so much in my relationship i realized i was finding my identity and happiness in him and he wouldn't even call me his girlfriend he would say "friend" or "precious" but when other guys would come around and tell me i was pretty then he would and he would get mad and argue with me and that's not the way it should be through the relationship i felt so empty and broken but after i end things with him i feel like i will be free and i will wait on the one god truly has for me and not go searching for him and get hurt and abused and taken advantage of in any way
I've comprised my standards and went through the pain of that comprise to much in the past 6 years. Allyson, I'm so glad you have posted you're videos GOD is using you to speak truth into my life and I've learned from you. I pray God would bring me a woman like you who's heart is with God and speaks of God the way you do. I would be happy honored to have you in my life. But that would take a miracle. You are such a gem. Beautiful inside and out. Thank you Allyson.
Am a man and listening to you, I am really inspired and spoken too since most people don't understand the purpose of marriage, and your so heaven blessed. Thank you for this wonder truth
Omg, so true. I've been lowering my standarts lately but inside my heart I know God prepared me someone special. And mom always tells me to wait. Thanks a lot for your words))
There was a time where I had to lower myself in a relationship that was going nowhere. In due time God made me realize the patience of waiting, no matter how long the road is I'll keep his faith no matter what. Bless you 😇
Wow Ally! It's so refreshing to see a young woman stand strong for God! I'm a 53 year old man who came to know the Lord through drug addiction at 32. Been faithful ever since. I'm still waiting for my deepest desire ( a Godly mate) I have yet to meet a woman with stedfast convictions like you. That's why I'm not married yet because I won't compromise and It's still not God's time. Even if He doesn't do it for me I won't bow down! Keep up the faith, you just encouraged me more than you will ever know!
If you lower your standards and do what you know is wrong, you'll be miserable in your relationship and you'll break up eventually. Been there done that. Thanks for this reminder sis.
Amen , I was married to a wonderful Christian woman for 15 years and the Lord took her home in May of 2015. I didn't wait on the Lord and got into a relationship a year later with a none Christian. I can say from experience that what you are saying is true. Now I am waiting on The Lord to bring me the right woman and if he wants me to be single the rest of my life so be it. Hold to your standards.. God Bless You!
It doesn't matter what people think or say.You have a good heart that is close to our Father.Hearing your convictions was very refreshing like fresh rain on the morning grass.You restored alittle of my confidence in the younger generation.Thank you
Allyson...... girl.......I love you to pieces! When I tell you God is using you to minister to me....so many of your videos have encouraged me and quite frankly brought me to tears. Thank you!
O.K., God you got me, I surrender my overwhelming frustration beyond measure, "So; Hope deferred truly does and has made my heart sick!" But when that thing (that someone) that God ordained individual appears I am choosing to believe she will appear as a TREE OF LIFE! Today, I have been spiritually inspired by your handmaiden "Allyson Rowe" she has stirred my heart, melted my anger and has rebuked with all boldness by frustration. So, now again being broken, wounded, and put back on ice, I will praise and worship "My GOD" KNOWING THAT YOUR DOETH ALL THINGS WELL ! Selah, Frank from Tulsa, Ok. drinking from the cup in your hands, I REST
SPOT ON SISTER!!! Thanks so much, Allyson! YOU GO GIRL! LOVE THIS!! They tell me the same thing, you're too picky....."you need to compromise, Liberty" EH (BUZZER) WRONG ANSWER! IF I WANTED TO BE MISERABLE AND BE WITH SOMEONE GOD DIDNT APPROVE OF AND DO US BOTH an injustice then I'd compromise, but since I AM WORTH IT AND I WANT GODS BEST I WILL WAIT! I'm 40 yrs old and havent had sex for 10 years I AM WAITING TIL IM MARRIED AND I WILL NOT LOWER MY STANDARDS TO RAISE SOCIETY'S LOVE YOU ALLY! praying for you too!
I just found your video and it made me smile. I have been told by my own daughter that I'm never going to be married if i don't start changing my standards. Lol, that's just crazy. I'm not going to marry whoever asks me. Marriage is sacred and i need to be absolutely certain that God is saying " this is the man i chose for you". This video just confirmed it. Thank you and be blessed.
Amen to God’s timing. I admire you for your faith Ally, I am in a similar place on my journey and I will continue to prepare myself for the godly woman that he has for me and allow God to manifest himself in me and guide me everyday for the rest of my life. Thank you for your beautiful messages, may God continue to bless you and may he place the man that he has prepared for you in your life when the time is right 🙏🏼
Love the comment about compromising your conviction having long term effects on the relationship: women need to hear this-Go does not believe in compromise-He wants His good, perfect and pleasing will for us-and those standards are NOT HIGH they are HOLY-Amen! Thanks for sharing sis!
Very true, I am in my 30s and so sick of hearing ppl asking why I am not married yet. I even had this jerk say to me that my time is ticking and time is running out as an insult to my age after rejecting him.W hat is funny is he also in his 30s and hasn't had a partner in 5 years. There seems to be a stigma that if you are a WOMAN- there is something wrong with you if you are not married!! But if its a man, ppl don't think much of it!! I have been in long term relationships and I was miserable cuz I was mistreated so poorly by men. I stayed for the sake of not being alone instead of waiting for God's timing. I felt more alone even though I was attached. You are so right that we can get mad if we brought it upon ourselves instaed of being more patient and waiting for God's approval on the right guy. Right now I am single and have a non Christian guy pursuing me hardcore. He is nice but I am just doing my own thing, waiting for a good Christin guy instead. I am getting old but I rather wait for the right guy even though I am one of the last of my friends not to be married. The only thing I regret is that at my age, I am likely not able to have children.
Don't underestimate God, sister. God will give you the desires of your heart. Just wait on Him and watch what He'll do for you. That includes children too. Man doesn't open the womb, God does. Be blessed, girl. Much love and peace 💛
Sister, there is something called marital delay, that is targeted against our destiny. Every godly marriage will be attacked by the devil. Take a look at your situation in the perspective of spiritual warfare. Understand where you are coming from, investigate your origin. Search and destroy every ungodly foundation. That's a better way to prepare. Don't ever say that you can't have kids beyond 30s. Every child is a gift from God. God is involved in the conception process, He ties the spirit into the seed of married couple, which is why they come to life. I have seen people who had 15 years of barrenness give birth to children by the resurrection power of God. Avoid unbelievers, but it's a clue that you need to discover the tares that the devil has sown into your life. He has done so in every believer's life. Everything in the physical realm has a significant parallel root cause in the spiritual realm.
Might be a dumb question, but can you please give me examples of standards that should not be compromised? Coz i know relationships require compromise, but what are specific standards I should stand my ground for?
Honey. The devil is a lier!!! Yessss this killed me and blessed me at the same time !!! My goodness preach sis! Standards are mandatory ladies because if you don't have then you will accept anything that "looks good" and in return got a wolf in sheeps clothing!!! Then we haft lowered n lost who we are trying to make up for the lack of the wolf! No mam even in marriages we marry people n not really knowing who we are marrying then when there true colors show after they got you we crumble n feel stuck ugh crazy yes sis stirring me up
I’m watching this video 2 years later, but somehow feel this message is for me. I replayed it 5 times and was saying in my car “say it again girl!” 😂😂😂 thank you for sharing Ally!!!
Wow this just popped up on my feed and it’s amazing seeing you now as an amazing wife and mother. God is great! He only wants the best for us. Thank you and Thank God for this timely reminder ❤
I needed to hear this. I really did, Ally. Whenever I’ve jumped the gun I’ve got myself into a mess. I am hidden now & waiting upon god to change the season of my life whenever he says I am ready.
I didn't wait long enough. Two failed marriages later. Both of which I take most of the blame for. Good words sister and like wisely mentioned before "If you can't find one stay single" that's what I'm doing now. God bless you all.
Loved this video! I am and have been waiting for the right guy in my life. I am 21 and my friends always say that i am too picky and that i will have to change what i want in order to find a guy that wants me. But i know my worth and I will not settle for anyone not worthy of me and who isnt what God wants for me! :)
I needed to hear this, so powerful and definitely calls me to wait on the Lord for my God given wife, according to the desires He placed in my heart. Definitely want a happy marriage and not just to say I am married.
I'm just now seeing your videos and just wow! They've really opened my eyes to what God is telling me. I really needed this message and all the messages you put out for singles. I may only be 17 but I'm known to be impatient, but I know I can trust God and wait on Him because He has what's best for me in His plan. Thank you for your message!
Amen don’t settle need to be equally yoked. Btw Allison I would be super grateful to get to know you your definitely the type of woman I’ve been praying for. It would be a blessing to be able to get to know you and help you make a massive positive impact on the world together!
This is what I call divine appointment! thank you needed to hear this more than ever! All the glory be to God I don’t want no other woman but my wife! Who I haven’t met yet But I know she is awesome, funny, and fears the Lord!!
May God bless your heart, that exactly what I get from people too.Well done sister for waiting and trusting the Lord. I refuse to lower my standards too, it's also governed by God and his standards are high sister.
I'm Muslim but I find your videos really inspiring. I've been desperate to find "the one" and get married. After watching this video, I feel relaxed and I understand more the importance of being patient. I hope that God blesses us in his time with the right man. Thank you Ally!
I needed this. Showed up in my feed. My ex/ daughters father wants me back after he’s been out “talking” with other girls/women. THATS NOT the kind of husband I want! A man who leaves me to see what’s out there knowing what kind of pain and heartache I was going through? Knowing how much j missed him and only wanted him? Then when I get through the pain he wants to come back cause he misses me and now wants us to be a family?!? Am I wrong or selfish that I don’t like settling for this kind of behavior towards me? Even for my little ones?? We have a baby and a 2 year old. I feel angry toward him about this
Lol, at first I thought this was you saying you are going to lower your standard's. But you nailed it. He is not the god who settles for less. I love that you went as far to point out that people should stop complaining about the counterfeit, and consequences of their own actions. Besides, if we want what he has in store for us, we should be willing to wait. Some days I find comfort in knowing That I am His bride, and it is Him I am waiting to see. This world is not my home. But I still have hope for a future. ☺
Preach! I whole heartedly agree! Even if I have (more) grey in my hair when HE decides I am ready, I WILL WAIT! I have not waited in the past and God has allowed me to see the error of my disobedience but no more! I am too precious to settle!
better to be solo in Christ (hence never alone) than lonely in the wrong relationship or marriage -
Paul said that in a since....that would be good if the person can contain themselves but if not then it is better to marry.
Keep your standards high and right ladies. Be encouraged beautiful women
Glamour_head amen!🙏🙏🙏
That's why you women won't date a man under 6' foot tall.
Same goes for guys.
Not just women
TMvsTRvs NFvsTrolls HAHAHAHAHA,I knew it was coming.I got curious about her standards too.
God criteria is set. That you marry in the Lord! That's for men and women now just because you are to marry in the Lord. You have to use common sense and good judgement. I think too many times we get off base and try to spiritualize everything in our life as Christian's and that is not healthy! Whom you choose to marry is your choice but you should take time to get to know that person, good-bad-and ugly! As, people of God we have our flaws and you choose to accept a flawed person as you are flawed and choose to love them. God isn't a match maker! That is a big misnomer amongst believers.
Amen. Do not compromise your faith in order to be in a relationship.
If you want to be in a relationship with someone who does not seek God or desires to follow His commands, that is not the person God has for you. I know this from experience. I was in a relationship with a woman who did not want to seek God wholeheartedly, therefore the relationship did not last very long. Listen, a person who does not follow God WILL bring you further away from Him. The only reason why my relationship with this woman lasted as long as it did was because of my own selfishness. Do not let your desires distract you from the plans God has for you. Seek Him first! Only true peace comes from God.
I hope that this video reminded you of who should be the #1 in your life, it did for me.
Thank you brother for this witness
Might be a dumb question, but can you please give me examples of standards that should not be compromised?
Coz i know relationships require compromise, but what are specific standards I should stand my ground for?
You will find a good hudband. I know it.
TheAmazing Jon and she did!
Wow wow wow Praise God for this Encouragement!!!
These were Always my Convictions.
And, man does the devil send ppl who mean well to talk you out of it!
Discern the Spirits! Hold to your Convictions!
Wait, wait WAIT on the LORD👑🔥☝🏾🙏🏿☄️
God’s Best, God’s Finest✨🙏🏿
Isa. 8:17 reads, "even when God is hiding His face from you, wait on Him and hope in Him." It's so easy to wait for rain when you see clouds covering the sky. The real challenge and test of faith is waiting and hoping for light amid total darkness. Didn't mean to compare singleness to darkness but you get the idea. Keep keeping on.
Noah Asfew I love that metaphor God bless
Been there done that. HE IS THE BIGGEST REGRET OF MY LIFE!!!
Quote of the day from Allyson Rowe: "God is worth waiting for."
God is the one who waits for us...not us for him🙏💜😇
Wow! I’m in the same boat as you are. I’ve been waiting for the right person to cross my path as well. I have grown in the Lord soo much that I too am not the same person I was 10 years ago and I’m trusting in him to bring me the right girl in my life that centers her life around his love. So when I do meet her the relationship will have a solid foundation on the Lord that when any life storm comes we won’t be shaken. The relationship should be as easy as drinking water. I’ll pray for you to find the right man to share your life with.
May God exceed your expectations 🙏🙏
you have no idea how badly I needed this. thank you thank you thank you!
Alex Kelly If you compromise, you lose.
She is so beautiful and wise isn't she... Wow wonder if she's had fornication
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This is so true. God's timing is always perfect.
I pray that one day to find a woman with these beliefs who is beautiful from the inside out.
I married the man I thought God had for me and I was 30 years old. My now ex husband was a Godly man but walked off the narrow road. 16 years of marriage and he cheated. How long was the affair, I don’t know but I’m glad I’m not married to the man anymore. An affair is not something that can be forgotten, the pain and betrayal runs too deep. Years have now passed and the most wonderful man I had ever imagined came into my life. It’s hard to explain how we just clicked, it was like we have always been together but haven’t. I prayed God would present me with the right man to give my heart to one last time and I have. I’m scared of feeling the deep hurt I felt with my ex but I have to learn that I can trust another man, the right man. I thank God for the man he brought into my life everyday and my prayer to everyone is to do what Ally says and wait. The man God has for you is looking for you right now. I won’t lie and tell you it will hit you like a ton of bricks because it won’t. What you will find is a similarity that you’ve never known before and I believe that’s from God. Be blessed✝️
Laura W please take a look at this video. ua-cam.com/video/w6jvJwiu0JQ/v-deo.html
There are more videos on this subject in that UA-cam channel.
There is still hope, the only way out of hurt is to forgive and forget the past. Don't beat yourself up for the past mistakes.
First you have decide to forgive him, then ask God to heal your soul from this wound, for God to reverse every damage to your faith and walk with God.
You need a revelation from God on why this happened there might be a deeper spiritual reason or a backdoor used by the enemy against you.
I am 36 never married and went on two dates with a guy . he was a nice man very polite … but I felt no affection for him more than a friend and besides I cringed inside when he kissed me hello or goodbye. I have been praying for my God ordained husband.... I started thinking maybe I should have faith that he is it. I asked an advisor on what to do... I asked should I have faith in God this will turn into something.. or do the right thing and be honest what I feel thank hi for the lovely time but we would only be friends... I went with the latter as advised and what my heart knew n= this wasn't a test in waiting but in discerning... nice as he was I cut him lose b fore we got to involved and only offered friendhip. It wouldn't be good for me to lead him on and unfair to him.. he should have someone who reciprocates those affections to him
You're seeking a man based on physical attraction alone, that's lust. You're 36 and not married, maybe you need to ask God to change your standards because physical attraction should not a requirement. If he's got a good hear after the Lord. Also your 36 so all the men that would make you feel attraction are not going to want to marry you, they will pump and dump at best.
Stop lusting after men, go after a man's heart and use Biblical criteria to make the decision.
I think wanting a man to shave and not have beer stains on his shirt and tell crude jokes not to take care of himself like this guy is not an unreasonable desire. If I didn't at least take care of myself. I wouldn't want a man to want me. but I think taking care of yourself should not be divorced from the equation, taking care and respecting yourself is attractive to me. I think you need to go after a man's heart bt how does he take care of himself? that indicator of his self esteem and how he will take care of children too
he doesn't need to be don juan but a man and this goes for women too should at least take care of themselves and personal hygiene. i
TRUTH.....Pray for your husband to be while you wait!!!!!
Thank you beautiful sunshine always 💛 💖.
Ur so Genuine and Honest.
I can see that in you.
Wow ur like no one else.
I love that about you!!!!
Enjoy your day today 😊. 😊
This word is right time so often we do compromise and end up miserable, but when we wait on God his blessing has no burdens. God bless you woman of God continue to speak on Gods behalf and be bold for his sake
Confirmation. Thanks woman of GOD❤
God is dead you moron.
Nope . . . I am single & I know my worth . I will gladly stay single ! I too have grown and am worth it !
Wow this is so me, people think my standards are too high but I know he's the one who put those convictions in me
Exactly sis: your standards reflect God's best for you-don't settle
Even if it doesn't happen, there's nothing wrong with making Jesus your spouse. Food for thought, ladies!
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So you could not find a mind to put up with your shit ?
AMEN!
Its simple: You need to find Jesus in your husband.
I am 56 & have been divorced twice. You speak the TRUTH!! GOD Bless You!
If you want to find him. STOP LOOKING. AND HE WILL APPEAR
“Im really feisty so I have to rely on the Lord to hold my tongue” 😭😭😭😂
So true! I've done this before. I kept lowering my standards and I knew it was wrong yet I doubted myself that I had too many standards be cause my ex convinced me that I had too many boundaries. For example, he once said to me that if we didn't have sexual chemistry together then our relationship was doomed. Luckily I never gave in. Unfortunately I was too chicken to get out of the relationship the same day he said that to me.
“I waited for you. I allowed the Lord to keep me hidden for you.” LOVE THIS! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Ally people tell me exactly the same thing! It's crazy because I had this conversation with my coworkers last week. They don't understand why I have the standards that I do. People tell me I will be single forever if I don't start lowering my standards. Thank you for this😘
lowering your standard can have so many sections. lowering your standard maybe in how u relate with others, maybe your faces is not friendly to others, you can adjust that kind of standard. But flirting around because you are looking for Mr right is totally wrong or getting involved in all manners of immoralities, fornication etc is what annoys God and provokes God.
lyublyuisusa I had the same conversation at work today, with co- workers and they don't understand my desires are from GOD , and they keep asking me to lower my standards 😂😂, Not going to happen ! Thank you for this video ! I'm not alone.
Right?? I've been told by one person that the man I want isn't out there and by another that I need to lower my standards or I'll be living alone with a bunch of cats eventually...I can tell one of them is brainwashed and the other is the type to go for any man who's interested in her. It's sad!
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Disprove away idiot this should be good !
I'm so glad that there are people who are thinking and relying on God like i do... I'm from Austria and there are very few Christians in my live because the society here thinks strongly they don't need standards from God or God at all, and sometimes i feel a little bit lonely because i don't really have this Christian friendgroup. Bless you, the Lord gave you so much wisdom, keep doing what you doing! 😘😘
Yes cant be more true!! Keep your standards high ladies!
I lowered my standards a couple of times and the same people who told me I was too picky then turned then around and told me I wasn't being picky enough and I'll just date anyone. I find that most people when you're single only have negative things to say to you about your situation. They are either like you're too picky or you're not picky enough or you're not looking or you're looking too hard or you shouldn't want anyone at all because you should be just looking at serving the Lord and if you just serve the Lord and not look they ask if you want to be with someone and then when you say yes, they say well maybe you should be more focused on the Lord if you want someone. It's a never ending circle and never ending nightmare with these people who act this way and most of them who are the worst about it are family and Christians.
Gods Remnant Goodness! I'm sorry to hear that and I feel you. It can get overwhelming hearing anyone and everyone's opinions and it can make your mind noisy, unclear. But guess what? Their opinions don't matter, God's does. God overrides everything. Let him guide you.
VERY , GOOD ADVISE !
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I agree, I've been married twice and its because I didn't wait on the Lord, and I didn't allow Him to pick my wife for me, nor did I allow Him to build me into the man of God that I'm suppose to be to God 1st and for the wife that God is preparing for me. I am working on building my relationship with Him and allowing Him to mould me into the man of God He created me to be. I thank the Lord for having mercy on me and waiting for me to say yes to His will. I would like to have a woman that says yes to God 1st and always, I don't mind taking a back seat to God, a God loving/fearing woman is so beautiful, especially one that is walking in her gifts and in the area that the Lord created her for. Sorry for being long winded, be bless everyone, love you all.
i really needed this i lowered my standards and ended up getting taken advantage of physically and mentally i lowered my conviction because of my current boyfriends ex and what they had done that i was unaware of until we started dating so i ignored the convictions that god had put in me and we did some things we should not have and now i realize that and once he got what he wanted he lost all respect for me and the relationship has never been the same since i felt so stupid for letting it get that far all these videos about standards have helped me to realize that god has something better for me and i will be breaking up with my boyfriend soon because not only have i lowered my standards for myself but i have compromised so much in my relationship i realized i was finding my identity and happiness in him and he wouldn't even call me his girlfriend he would say "friend" or "precious" but when other guys would come around and tell me i was pretty then he would and he would get mad and argue with me and that's not the way it should be through the relationship i felt so empty and broken but after i end things with him i feel like i will be free and i will wait on the one god truly has for me and not go searching for him and get hurt and abused and taken advantage of in any way
I've comprised my standards and went through the pain of that comprise to much in the past 6 years. Allyson, I'm so glad you have posted you're videos GOD is using you to speak truth into my life and I've learned from you. I pray God would bring me a woman like you who's heart is with God and speaks of God the way you do. I would be happy honored to have you in my life. But that would take a miracle. You are such a gem. Beautiful inside and out. Thank you Allyson.
I was given a warning before I got married to wait and I didn't listen and ended up in a 15 yr long abusive marriage
Am a man and listening to you, I am really inspired and spoken too since most people don't understand the purpose of marriage, and your so heaven blessed. Thank you for this wonder truth
I’m speechless 😮. Thank you so much for those beautiful words. You are so beautiful and God bless you 🥰🥰❤️
Beautiful sister you are right on
You are a young lady full of wisdom!! Yes! God is the standard for EVERYTHING....PERIOD!!
Omg, so true. I've been lowering my standarts lately but inside my heart I know God prepared me someone special. And mom always tells me to wait. Thanks a lot for your words))
There was a time where I had to lower myself in a relationship that was going nowhere.
In due time God made me realize the patience of waiting, no matter how long the road is I'll keep his faith no matter what.
Bless you 😇
I love this message! Thank you Sister Ally! So encouraging.
Wow Ally! It's so refreshing to see a young woman stand strong for God! I'm a 53 year old man who came to know the Lord through drug addiction at 32. Been faithful ever since. I'm still waiting for my deepest desire ( a Godly mate) I have yet to meet a woman with stedfast convictions like you. That's why I'm not married yet because I won't compromise and It's still not God's time. Even if He doesn't do it for me I won't bow down! Keep up the faith, you just encouraged me more than you will ever know!
If you lower your standards and do what you know is wrong, you'll be miserable in your relationship and you'll break up eventually. Been there done that. Thanks for this reminder sis.
Sooo true!!!Thank you sister...God bless ..I needed to hear this..
Amen , I was married to a wonderful Christian woman for 15 years and the Lord took her home in May of 2015. I didn't wait on the Lord and got into a relationship a year later with a none Christian. I can say from experience that what you are saying is true. Now I am waiting on The Lord to bring me the right woman and if he wants me to be single the rest of my life so be it. Hold to your standards.. God Bless You!
Thank you! GOOD JOB THAT! Well said!
Amen.🙏i receive it..i love hearing the truth
It doesn't matter what people think or say.You have a good heart that is close to our Father.Hearing your convictions was very refreshing like fresh rain on the morning grass.You restored alittle of my confidence in the younger generation.Thank you
Allyson...... girl.......I love you to pieces! When I tell you God is using you to minister to me....so many of your videos have encouraged me and quite frankly brought me to tears. Thank you!
O.K., God you got me, I surrender my overwhelming frustration beyond measure,
"So; Hope deferred truly does and has made my heart sick!"
But when that thing (that someone) that God ordained individual appears
I am choosing to believe she will appear as a TREE OF LIFE!
Today, I have been spiritually inspired by your handmaiden "Allyson Rowe"
she has stirred my heart, melted my anger and has rebuked with all boldness by
frustration. So, now again being broken, wounded, and put back on ice,
I will praise and worship "My GOD" KNOWING THAT YOUR DOETH ALL THINGS WELL !
Selah, Frank from Tulsa, Ok. drinking from the cup in your hands, I REST
I know this video is 3 years old but I really needed to hear this right now. Thank you, love and prayers to you and all who are struggling ❤
SPOT ON SISTER!!! Thanks so much, Allyson! YOU GO GIRL! LOVE THIS!! They tell me the same thing, you're too picky....."you need to compromise, Liberty" EH (BUZZER) WRONG ANSWER! IF I WANTED TO BE MISERABLE AND BE WITH SOMEONE GOD DIDNT APPROVE OF AND DO US BOTH an injustice then I'd compromise, but since I AM WORTH IT AND I WANT GODS BEST I WILL WAIT! I'm 40 yrs old and havent had sex for 10 years I AM WAITING TIL IM MARRIED AND I WILL NOT LOWER MY STANDARDS TO RAISE SOCIETY'S LOVE YOU ALLY! praying for you too!
I just found your video and it made me smile. I have been told by my own daughter that I'm never going to be married if i don't start changing my standards. Lol, that's just crazy. I'm not going to marry whoever asks me. Marriage is sacred and i need to be absolutely certain that God is saying " this is the man i chose for you". This video just confirmed it. Thank you and be blessed.
Amen to God’s timing. I admire you for your faith Ally, I am in a similar place on my journey and I will continue to prepare myself for the godly woman that he has for me and allow God to manifest himself in me and guide me everyday for the rest of my life. Thank you for your beautiful messages, may God continue to bless you and may he place the man that he has prepared for you in your life when the time is right 🙏🏼
Love the comment about compromising your conviction having long term effects on the relationship: women need to hear this-Go does not believe in compromise-He wants His good, perfect and pleasing will for us-and those standards are NOT HIGH they are HOLY-Amen! Thanks for sharing sis!
You spoke to my soul sister!! Thank you so much for this!
This is so true ! Thank you for speaking this truth!
Very true, I am in my 30s and so sick of hearing ppl asking why I am not married yet. I even had this jerk say to me that my time is ticking and time is running out as an insult to my age after rejecting him.W hat is funny is he also in his 30s and hasn't had a partner in 5 years. There seems to be a stigma that if you are a WOMAN- there is something wrong with you if you are not married!! But if its a man, ppl don't think much of it!! I have been in long term relationships and I was miserable cuz I was mistreated so poorly by men. I stayed for the sake of not being alone instead of waiting for God's timing. I felt more alone even though I was attached. You are so right that we can get mad if we brought it upon ourselves instaed of being more patient and waiting for God's approval on the right guy. Right now I am single and have a non Christian guy pursuing me hardcore. He is nice but I am just doing my own thing, waiting for a good Christin guy instead. I am getting old but I rather wait for the right guy even though I am one of the last of my friends not to be married. The only thing I regret is that at my age, I am likely not able to have children.
Don't underestimate God, sister. God will give you the desires of your heart. Just wait on Him and watch what He'll do for you. That includes children too. Man doesn't open the womb, God does. Be blessed, girl. Much love and peace 💛
Sister, there is something called marital delay, that is targeted against our destiny. Every godly marriage will be attacked by the devil. Take a look at your situation in the perspective of spiritual warfare. Understand where you are coming from, investigate your origin. Search and destroy every ungodly foundation. That's a better way to prepare. Don't ever say that you can't have kids beyond 30s. Every child is a gift from God. God is involved in the conception process, He ties the spirit into the seed of married couple, which is why they come to life. I have seen people who had 15 years of barrenness give birth to children by the resurrection power of God. Avoid unbelievers, but it's a clue that you need to discover the tares that the devil has sown into your life. He has done so in every believer's life. Everything in the physical realm has a significant parallel root cause in the spiritual realm.
Santosh Kalaiselvan there is no devil silly fool!
Might be a dumb question, but can you please give me examples of standards that should not be compromised?
Coz i know relationships require compromise, but what are specific standards I should stand my ground for?
I am a virgin at almost 31 years. I am waiting on the Lord though I have been tempted to get a wife from the world. God hears you. God bless you Sis.
God's best is the best.
Honey. The devil is a lier!!! Yessss this killed me and blessed me at the same time !!! My goodness preach sis! Standards are mandatory ladies because if you don't have then you will accept anything that "looks good" and in return got a wolf in sheeps clothing!!! Then we haft lowered n lost who we are trying to make up for the lack of the wolf! No mam even in marriages we marry people n not really knowing who we are marrying then when there true colors show after they got you we crumble n feel stuck ugh crazy yes sis stirring me up
Bless you sister 🥰🥳
So encouraging! Preach sis. God bless you!
I am so thankful I found this channel. Praise God for your transparency!
Thank you Lord 🙌 Thank you Allie
WOW I needed this word! Thank you for obeying
Wow what an awesome message.
Amen !!!! Thank you for this message !!!
Thank you Allison, as I hold my standards very high, because I AM waiting for Him!!!
I’m watching this video 2 years later, but somehow feel this message is for me. I replayed it 5 times and was saying in my car “say it again girl!” 😂😂😂 thank you for sharing Ally!!!
it's very encouraging to see a woman pursuing the heart of God so courageously. your words bring a holy conviction to my heart. thank you
Kingdom Men, we stand firm in this......I refuse to settle!!
2019 still standing firm as I wait. Refusing not to settle. This is not my story but GOD's love story!!
Wow this just popped up on my feed and it’s amazing seeing you now as an amazing wife and mother. God is great! He only wants the best for us. Thank you and Thank God for this timely reminder ❤
I needed to hear this. I really did, Ally. Whenever I’ve jumped the gun I’ve got myself into a mess. I am hidden now & waiting upon god to change the season of my life whenever he says I am ready.
I didn't wait long enough. Two failed marriages later. Both of which I take most of the blame for. Good words sister and like wisely mentioned before "If you can't find one stay single" that's what I'm doing now. God bless you all.
Oh my! I cannot count the times I've seriously heard the same exact things! Thank you!
Amen Amen !!!!! Set the standards even higher girl ! Because God's Children should never settle for less
Praying for you, great lady. Thank God for your influence. Blessings
Loved this video! I am and have been waiting for the right guy in my life. I am 21 and my friends always say that i am too picky and that i will have to change what i want in order to find a guy that wants me. But i know my worth and I will not settle for anyone not worthy of me and who isnt what God wants for me! :)
i'm sick of people telling me i'm asking for too much , i'm sick of it , and i'm losing hope i hate it soo much
Hey, I am married, and I agree.. don't low your standarts, don't compromise!! Powerful! It's true! ❤️
I needed to hear this, so powerful and definitely calls me to wait on the Lord for my God given wife, according to the desires He placed in my heart. Definitely want a happy marriage and not just to say I am married.
the realest talk today if only everyone thought the same we would be happier xxxxx
Stay encouraged Allie. Keep living the vibrant and blessed life God has given you. Girl....live in His joy always :) :) :)
I'm just now seeing your videos and just wow! They've really opened my eyes to what God is telling me. I really needed this message and all the messages you put out for singles. I may only be 17 but I'm known to be impatient, but I know I can trust God and wait on Him because He has what's best for me in His plan. Thank you for your message!
Amen don’t settle need to be equally yoked. Btw Allison I would be super grateful to get to know you your definitely the type of woman I’ve been praying for. It would be a blessing to be able to get to know you and help you make a massive positive impact on the world together!
This is what I call divine appointment! thank you needed to hear this more than ever! All the glory be to God I don’t want no other woman but my wife! Who I haven’t met yet But I know she is awesome, funny, and fears the Lord!!
Yes you said it. Key word, I want to be "happily married"!!! Guess it's worth waiting for and staying true to my convictions.
Such an amazing word!!!
May God bless your heart, that exactly what I get from people too.Well done sister for waiting and trusting the Lord. I refuse to lower my standards too, it's also governed by God and his standards are high sister.
I'm Muslim but I find your videos really inspiring. I've been desperate to find "the one" and get married. After watching this video, I feel relaxed and I understand more the importance of being patient. I hope that God blesses us in his time with the right man. Thank you Ally!
Yes brothers don’t settle for leftovers. You’ll find that nice young one.
THIS IS SOOOO GOOOOOOOOD. had me giving a standing ovation alone in my room at 1am. AMAZING
Amen, the wait is very hard but it’s worth it to stay strong.
woah!! loved loved loved this! God bless you, Sister! I so needed to hear this. great exhortation !
I droped my phone while watching your great words
I needed this. Showed up in my feed. My ex/ daughters father wants me back after he’s been out “talking” with other girls/women. THATS NOT the kind of husband I want! A man who leaves me to see what’s out there knowing what kind of pain and heartache I was going through? Knowing how much j missed him and only wanted him? Then when I get through the pain he wants to come back cause he misses me and now wants us to be a family?!? Am I wrong or selfish that I don’t like settling for this kind of behavior towards me? Even for my little ones?? We have a baby and a 2 year old. I feel angry toward him about this
it's always good to pray for the right partner, good things take time, God's time.
Thank you.. it's nice to know I'm not the only one that thinks like this. God bless
Lol, at first I thought this was you saying you are going to lower your standard's. But you nailed it. He is not the god who settles for less. I love that you went as far to point out that people should stop complaining about the counterfeit, and consequences of their own actions. Besides, if we want what he has in store for us, we should be willing to wait. Some days I find comfort in knowing That I am His bride, and it is Him I am waiting to see. This world is not my home. But I still have hope for a future. ☺
Preach! I whole heartedly agree! Even if I have (more) grey in my hair when HE decides I am ready, I WILL WAIT! I have not waited in the past and God has allowed me to see the error of my disobedience but no more! I am too precious to settle!
Oh my gosh, this exactly what people have been telling me. Thank you so much. I have been struggling this recently.