We Know Each Other Better Than We Know Ourselves | {THE AND} Claire & Stanley

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    Claire (she/her) and Stanley (he/him) are fiancés. During their 7 years together, they have been able to turn every obstacle into an opportunity for growth and improvement. They still sometimes struggle to understand each other’s love language, but they manage to handle their issues as a couple through deep listening, patience, understanding, support, and an immense amount of love for one another. They have always been huge support pillars in each other’s lives, and they’re navigating through their individual conflicts relying on each other’s strength and unwavering commitment to their relationship. Claire and Stanley have cultivated a deep bond built on mutual respect and admiration. With patience, love, and a shared determination to overcome any obstacle, they continue to grow and evolve both individually and as a couple.
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    EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR | Topaz Adizes
    CO-PRODUCER | Pulkit Datta
    DIRECTOR OF PHOTOGRAPHY | Kat Hennessey
    BTS/DIT | Nicholas D’Agostino
    SECOND CAMERA | Ben Hallman
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    We Know Each Other Better Than We Know Ourselves | {THE AND} Claire & Stanley

КОМЕНТАРІ • 46

  • @starsandsandandstuff
    @starsandsandandstuff Рік тому +176

    i love this because she actually accepts the criticism in such a healthy way without any deflection. just two very emotionally mature people making human mistakes and learning how to navigate life and love

  • @naut_nigel
    @naut_nigel Рік тому +70

    Learning that their love exists even in Claire's insecurities has taught me so much about what it looks like to love someone who has those feelings.

  • @voyageswithshyeasha1398
    @voyageswithshyeasha1398 Рік тому +54

    Really appreciate how Vulnerable and reassuring he was towards her. ❤😊

  • @wanjiwanji
    @wanjiwanji Рік тому +38

    This was so wholesome. I really enjoyed seeing what it's like to have a vulnerable conversation where each person is holding space for the other and really listening... the eye contact, the nodding, the little pauses to intentionally word their answers... so wonderful. I hope Claire finds her purpose and gets to be fulfilled in that way 💛 Wishing you all the best in your business too!

  • @dnd1007
    @dnd1007 Рік тому +10

    Glad she's open to hearing him, because neediness and taking others for granted are healthy relationship killers.

  • @airbornemike380
    @airbornemike380 6 місяців тому +11

    She is unbelievably beautiful. Just wow!
    Great couple.

  • @jnnfr3337
    @jnnfr3337 10 місяців тому +6

    They are such a beautiful couple full of so much love. I love how honest they are with each other and how receptive. Even in her criticisms, he is filled with so much love. I wish them the absolute best. And he is correct - she is beautiful and talented and so honest with herself and empathetic.

    • @TheSkinDeep
      @TheSkinDeep  9 місяців тому +3

      We've seen a couple of your comments and they're all lovely, thank you for spreading love and positivity, we love you ❤️

    • @jnnfr3337
      @jnnfr3337 9 місяців тому

      @@TheSkinDeep Thank you! My partner and I purchased two of the card decks and they are wonderful.

  • @Hannah.hkp6
    @Hannah.hkp6 4 місяці тому +2

    The ease in communication they have and you can tell they properly listen to each other is just incredible and so refreshing to witness

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому +14

    It's so hard to be in that situation. My ex broke up with me over that. The slight neediness that comes along. It's so nice that he is kind enough to see it, and be ok with it. But also it's beautiful to have at times... Imagine for him the opposite, her and him being so busy on their purposes that they don't really feel intimacy or need at all. It's a tricky balance. It will shift on and off at times. Especially if someone is a team member supporting the other person big thing - which is also fair enough. Not all people need to have separate careers. But he is feeling burdened emotionally. Purpose comes and goes.

  • @CC-sm3qm
    @CC-sm3qm 5 місяців тому +6

    Stanley: If Claire struggles with insecurities, you don't have to take on the job of "convincing" her to make her see her self worth. Just love her. Let her see her worth in her own time frame. Same thing with her purpose. If finding her purpose now feels like it's forced upon her, now that becomes ANOTHER thing to feel insecure about. Take the pressure off both of you and just love her. Also, could you hire someone to talk to the strangers in the business? If you hate an aspect of your biz and it brings you to tears, outsource it. Take that pressure off yourself. And the trip...if you weren't able to take off the BossMan hat, and Claire needed you to wear the MrRomance hat, should she have gone on the trip? Seems like that would have been a great opportunity for her to explore more of what she likes to do, alone or with a friend, and find what makes her heart sing (which could lead to a feeling of purpose). That way you could tackle business.

  • @mariazeligowska160
    @mariazeligowska160 Рік тому +3

    Love in their eyes made my cry

  • @l_karuhanga
    @l_karuhanga 5 місяців тому +2

    I relate, so much, with this- having been in the guy's shoes. Even if he does have a point, it's not fair to his partner and subconsciously creates an ultimatum and can at the same time crush the other person's self esteem.
    Worst of all, he might realise when it eventually does happen, that that was never actually the issue all along.
    My partner asked me, 'if nothing changes, would you be happy?'. My answer was no, and at that point, we both knew we should call it.
    That said, they are measured in how they communicate, and that's such a strong suit.

  • @can_you_guess_my_new_username
    @can_you_guess_my_new_username Рік тому +14

    I swear that my ex knew me better than i know myself. He had a different vantage point of seeing, observing and getting to know me.

  • @bdoubleu68
    @bdoubleu68 5 місяців тому

    I’m so invested in this couple. They are all we should be. 🖤

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому +8

    Well then that's enough, if all he sees is the amazing person, then there shouldn't be any question she is amazing. What else should she have to do. Sometimes when I look at my insecurities they have just been in vulnerability with a partner (they're not actually there), or they've been in a hard time when I couldn't get work, or they have been an old word that someone said to me with my weight as a kid. They never lasted. Sometimes insecurity is just fear. It's not insecurity, it's a beautiful vulnerability towards life, and a level of introversion in a competitive world. It's very very normal.

  • @jdeniseu
    @jdeniseu 10 місяців тому +8

    This was definitely a hard one to watch.. all of the other ones I smiled or cried but this one was just like ouch..

  • @ndianne88
    @ndianne88 11 місяців тому +20

    I get weird vibes from this, she seems like a very good person that is capable of taking criticism and not deflecting but owning it, he seems irritable, resentful, he talks of her insecurities a lot, seems to me and i might be wrong of course, but he does not want to have her involved in whatever he is doing, he acts like she annoys him, she clearly has need that he dismisses because of "all of the OTHER things that he does" he doesnt help around the house based on what he said himself, BUT he provides so hes off the hook and she's indebted. He was harsh on her and its hard to see why!

    • @multiversemon
      @multiversemon 10 місяців тому +5

      Was looking for a comment like this, it rubbed me the wrong way what he said about her timing of finding her purpose, as if she needs to hurry up and just find it already when everyone’s journey is different and you can’t control other people’s timelines

    • @thevia1976
      @thevia1976 10 місяців тому +4

      I thought it was only me who felt this way. I'm happy a few persons agree on this.
      Two wonderful persons individually, a handsome couple, who should go their separate ways.
      He's holding on to her because she radiates a beauty that is soul deep and outwardly attractive. She's irreplaceable, and he knows it. But she's not quite the "perfect one" for him.
      They were both honest with each other, and I hope she's taking notes. It's easier to call off an engagement in an amicable way than to end an unhappy marriage on bad terms.

    • @thevia1976
      @thevia1976 10 місяців тому

      I found this video of them in a previous interview 2 years ago.
      ua-cam.com/video/OFvXqhh0zTE/v-deo.htmlsi=sb-iK3rOn0wnU3J7

    • @scarletwilson2562
      @scarletwilson2562 8 місяців тому

      I agree.

  • @hausofhanna5254
    @hausofhanna5254 Рік тому +2

    That was very wholesome

  • @mantawoman_
    @mantawoman_ Рік тому +7

    They both have lovely eyebrows

  • @Andrey_Bodrey75
    @Andrey_Bodrey75 5 місяців тому +1

    Какая красивая пара - вместе и по отдельности!👍❤️

  • @whitneybrown4067
    @whitneybrown4067 Рік тому +6

    This is Gonna b so Lovely🔥🔥🔥👍n Happy Wednesday😀….

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому

    She seems beautifully confident to me

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому +25

    BUT he's also doing the business for himself!!! He needs to acknowledge that. He might be an employee or do something else. But part of him is doing that business for himself. Not JUST to provide for her

  • @BrandonJThaPlugTV
    @BrandonJThaPlugTV Рік тому +2

    To Find A Woman That Can Communicate And Not Deflect Everything Is A Blessing!

  • @Bobloxe
    @Bobloxe Рік тому +7

    I would love to see a video on an age gap relationship as I am currently talking to someone and I would like to see how do they effectively navigate life within their relationship.

    • @AccidentalAlexia
      @AccidentalAlexia 11 місяців тому

      Omg me too. I just had a thought about this and I then immediately saw this comment

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому +3

    It seems like it's about money... I'm sure she also does lots of things to make life good for both of them. He could just be by himself, but then he might be lonely (or not). I wonder if they have kids. It's interesting this modern era and how people perceive these things.

  • @franupoko4160
    @franupoko4160 Рік тому +2

    Omg cool Claire and Stanley from the Attention Seeker 🥳

  • @mariadaguiateles4199
    @mariadaguiateles4199 2 місяці тому

    Há possibilidade de colocar a legenda?
    Eu não sei inglês.

  • @지수-r4w1f
    @지수-r4w1f 2 місяці тому

    원본 출처 : the skin deep 채널 the and 영상

  • @Pi-d1s
    @Pi-d1s Рік тому

    Would love if you cud bring MAtt bomer and Jonathan Bailey from fellow travelers 🤞🏻 costars to now forming such a deep friendship

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому +3

    I wish she could have her side more, less questions making her seem crap

  • @sueoyl
    @sueoyl 3 місяці тому

    Who is this couple? Aussie?

  • @LaraBouris
    @LaraBouris Рік тому +7

    Nooo....You are not who you are JUST because of him - and that includes the shyness - your ego is telling you that. But you would shine and see yourself a new if you were to be single (even if it's scary and the world seems really big). You are shining separate to him as a being, beyond job titles and anything. Just by existing - it's plain to see.

  • @Joel_Seoul
    @Joel_Seoul Місяць тому

    12:20

  • @anyutka19
    @anyutka19 11 місяців тому +2

    and they're not married yet because....?

  • @TruePathLiving
    @TruePathLiving Рік тому +3

    That was beautiful..just wish they both put God first though.

  • @kotieboatz6042
    @kotieboatz6042 Рік тому

    so fucking boring its on x 2 speed its like watching fucking paint dry

  • @jalansendiriterus
    @jalansendiriterus 5 місяців тому

    Anyone know their instagram?