Advice for LGBTQ+ Teens

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  • "You are valid and loved and exactly who you are whether you're visible or not."
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 494

  • @SeventeenMagazine
    @SeventeenMagazine  4 роки тому +140

    What advice would you give to LGBTQ+ teens around the world?

    • @lemqnshark
      @lemqnshark 4 роки тому +37

      Everything will be ok, so many people love you, come out when you're ready and if anyone doesn't support you, cut them out your life. Your family doesn't accept you? This comment section is your new family. Your friends don't accept you? They're not your real friends and I'll be your new friend 🥺 I love you so much and if you ever need anything, reply to this or dm me on instagram (the same as my user on this) Everything will be ok, I promise 🤍

    • @avastars3393
      @avastars3393 4 роки тому +27

      I am bisexual and i am too scared to come out. So I feel you .

    • @luenthusiast
      @luenthusiast 4 роки тому +19

      First thing first, accept yourself. It can be hard when you're in an environment that is toxic for you. You have the right to feel this way. You're not wrong, or guilty or anything. Give yourself some love, you deserve it all ❤

    • @chrisilkley
      @chrisilkley 3 роки тому +4

      Don’t get into a relationship if your not ready

    • @chrisilkley
      @chrisilkley 3 роки тому +3

      @Aoxics they sell them normally at Amazon if your interested in purchasing one for yourself,

  • @yep1tsm3
    @yep1tsm3 5 років тому +924

    I'm in the closet with the door slightly open and I really want to come out because it looks so exciting and colorful out there.

    • @Maya-ht9tm
      @Maya-ht9tm 5 років тому +34

      Yepitsme You put it into words hun

    • @crimsonkiten5882
      @crimsonkiten5882 4 роки тому +26

      I'd recommend testing the waters with the person/people you're coming out to before coming out. If you know they love you very much but are homophobic I'd see if they'd change their beliefs for me. If they wouldn't, remain in the closet until you are safe. I personally sent a gay meme to come out. You do you,hun

    • @michaelc.5809
      @michaelc.5809 4 роки тому +7

      Felt this 😔

    • @yep1tsm3
      @yep1tsm3 4 роки тому +15

      @@crimsonkiten5882 Recently got a notification for this. I actually came out to my parents a month after I made the original comment!

    • @choerryluv_
      @choerryluv_ 4 роки тому +5

      I came out the first of this month. For me it went well- I’m going to say it is a lot better and I more feel a lot more confident and better about myself. Before I was shy and really sad all the time ( not saying I was depressed ) but you do it when you are ready! I wrote a note and it was a lot easier- just saying it worked for me! You got this 💕

  • @emmaleighgrace7632
    @emmaleighgrace7632 6 років тому +1043

    i live in such an unaccepting homophobic environment surrounded by homophobic people everywhere i go and it's just so unsafe to come out. i see people with accepting parents and friends or straight people and just sob because why are they allowed to love who they want but i can't??

    • @chimkin1903
      @chimkin1903 6 років тому +141

      pack your bags, im your parent now

    • @chimkin1903
      @chimkin1903 6 років тому +85

      but seriously things will get better. i know it's hard to believe right now but it really will be okay eventually.
      even if your immediate family doesn't accept you, you'll still have friends that do, and people on the internet do, people walking down the street do, your teachers do, so many people do love and accept you for who you are, you just have to look closer for it. i know it can be hard because you're living in such a judgemental household, but you have to believe me when i say there is more bad than good.
      look for the good. you'll find it in so many people.
      starting with me. hi, i accept you. i love you, you are valid. it will be okay. i promise.

    • @willbowling8084
      @willbowling8084 6 років тому +44

      EmmaLeigh Grace Yeah I do too. The south is so bad. We have homophobes, sexists, and racists. I want to move so far away. My parents tell me they love me but the way they act towards gays is tragic.

    • @annikaewing960
      @annikaewing960 6 років тому +10

      EmmaLeigh Grace this is the exact situation I am in. It’s sucks!

    • @giantmoisthorsec0ck864
      @giantmoisthorsec0ck864 5 років тому +20

      Just hide until about 19 then get yo own place then go wild I did the same but I move 5 states over 😂 and if people ask about family I just say no have no siblings and my parents are dead then they won't bother you to come out to them and meet my extremely homophobic parents

  • @Incidental104
    @Incidental104 5 років тому +592

    I am flighting for gay rights in my school my teacher once said "in my 25year career i never seen a teen as brave as you"

    • @evandennis2110
      @evandennis2110 5 років тому +20

      Mikayel Միքայել ah yeah, flighting for gay rights, so you can fly?

    • @thepriceofsalt9003
      @thepriceofsalt9003 5 років тому +23

      @@evandennis2110 that's double the achievement, lmaoo

    • @KeroStar_gaming
      @KeroStar_gaming 4 роки тому +10

      Evan Dennis people like you, I admire. Fighting for what’s right.

    • @jello6916
      @jello6916 4 роки тому +4

      Cool

    • @nordenexx3936
      @nordenexx3936 4 роки тому +1

      @@KeroStar_gaming *flighting

  • @mathistan2504
    @mathistan2504 6 років тому +590

    So I came out to my mom recently hoping she'd accept me. Finding out how wrong I was, that hurt like hell. I took my safety gor grsnted that day and now I'm deeper in the closet thean ever.
    Edit: It's been a year...wow. First of all, thank you for all the love and support you've all sent my way. As for my parents, I've kinda made peace with the fact that my mom will be in a state of eternal denial, my dad will never know lest I get kicked out of the house. Believe me when I say that his mind cannot be changed, truth be told it's taking all I've got just to keep my head on my shoulders.

    • @kandycrusher5358
      @kandycrusher5358 6 років тому +36

      Mathis Tan im sorry to hear that i hope youre staying with a trusted friend and you are safe just remember theres nothing wrong with who you are hun❤🧡💛💚💙💜

    • @yourmother8290
      @yourmother8290 5 років тому +10

      Hey, I know it’s been a year, but I hope you’re doing good. Stay safe ❤️

    • @thepriceofsalt9003
      @thepriceofsalt9003 5 років тому +13

      one year late but judging by your username, you're Asian, and quite possibly Chinese. as a fellow chinese who is lesbian, i'd like to say, you're not alone in this, please always be with people you're comfortable with and people who accept you and will be able to protect you and help you if anything drastic happens. i hope you'll be able to live freely and happily in the near future.
      i don't even know if I truly came out, because on my 13th birthday immediately after i blew out my candles my parents forced me to talk about the person i was "becoming" because they suspected i might be gay, and even then they thought that my being gay meant that i wanted to be a boy, my father said he would disown me and my mom thought that lgbtq+ people had gone thru some kind of trauma or had mental illnesses to "become" "unnatural", even though she had a cousin who was currently dating a woman (and doted on me a lot). they wanted to educate me on a matter they had no knowledge, no awareness of. they made me cry and feel unsafe on my birthday, and refused to let me consume my cake in peace unless i talked about it, and it was the fact that they forced me even in my tears to listen to them that i felt i did not deserve to live anymore that there was no point. It was one of the lowest periods of my life.
      then the year i turned fourteen i suddenly felt this tightness in my chest one afternoon, and i had to say it, had to ask my mother at least. i cried for half an hour before i could ask if she would hate me. i did not say blatantly that i was gay, but she couldn't look at me, didn't comfort me, just tried to deny it and play it off. it was so inconsequential that i felt there was no point after all, that if i fall in love i'd never tell them, i'd run away, never ask for anything. not love, not acceptance. i think that all we want is understanding and acceptance, but our parents don't care for our feelings and the impact of their words. just keep yourself safe and SANE and never let them direct the path you take in life. one day they'll realise they were wrong all this time.
      sending you all my love ❤❤❤

    • @poullun9050
      @poullun9050 4 роки тому +2

      Oh that's heartbreaking, just remember every cloud has a silver lightning)))

    • @rqmereda5330
      @rqmereda5330 4 роки тому +6

      This will happen to me one day, and so im scared that my parents will not accept me anymore the moment they know the truth

  • @that_cat21
    @that_cat21 6 років тому +137

    It’s nice to hear that it’s okay to stay in the closest for a while just to figure things out. I’m out to three friends as “not straight” and “probably bi”, one of which is bi, one is pan and the other is straight - but the person that my pan friend came out to first and who is honestly such a nice and understanding person (tbh she’d say the same about me) - and it does feel good to have someone to talk to.

  • @acroissant3721
    @acroissant3721 4 роки тому +192

    Every time I start to feel like my family is ok with the LGBTQ+ community, they say some homophobic sh*t that throws me deeper into the closet...

    • @Mr_Valentin.
      @Mr_Valentin. 4 роки тому +8

      Lol, poor girl... They do be like that sometimes...

    • @kylieelizabeth8757
      @kylieelizabeth8757 4 роки тому +4

      same

    • @themysticomni5469
      @themysticomni5469 3 роки тому +2

      Yup

    • @kittycatrittycatalt9523
      @kittycatrittycatalt9523 3 роки тому +1

      So damn true

    • @anyways3114
      @anyways3114 3 роки тому +2

      I had that feeling to although probably were softer jokes. But when I tell my dad, that was the reason I dindt come out sooner he said BUT THEY ARE NOT MY KID, THAT DOES NOT APLY TO YOU
      That taught me too, that heteronormative agenda is something that everyone goes with cause its easy to do when it diesnt involve them

  • @drecksilexi
    @drecksilexi 6 років тому +315

    Sigh... My mom outed me to my WHOLE family. Fml

    • @jo-yg4oj
      @jo-yg4oj 5 років тому +17

      Hello, my name is GAY Blep exactly why I don’t wanna come out

    • @jo-yg4oj
      @jo-yg4oj 5 років тому +11

      I mean my mom told everyone when I got my first period

    • @minecarft6460
      @minecarft6460 5 років тому +1

      Eggo Queen oof

    • @itsikabitch9005
      @itsikabitch9005 5 років тому +7

      Willy Stroker People don’t deserve to suffer over a questionable ancient book. And you don’t deserve entitlement to anything for complying with said book.

    • @leeakers4106
      @leeakers4106 4 роки тому +3

      @@WillyStroker6969 Can't tell if this is a joke or not. Either get a new sense of humor or get a life.

  • @cm6152
    @cm6152 3 роки тому +16

    I'm 16 and I'm a closeted lesbian. I live in a very small close-minded town and words can't describe how alone I feel at times. It's horrible having to hide so much of myself from the people I'm closest to. Every time I'm around my friends (especially when we're talking about dating) I feel like I'm holding my breath but hyperventilating at the same time. Everyone else has had their first kiss but I haven't even held hands with anyone. I feel like I'm missing out on so many experiences that I would have had if I was straight. I'm not wishing I wasn't gay, in fact I'm fully comfortable and accepting of myself and identity, but life would be so so so much easier and enjoyable than it is now if I could just fit in.

    • @lucvalor
      @lucvalor Рік тому +1

      I feel exactly like you

  • @twentynepizzasatthedisco7577
    @twentynepizzasatthedisco7577 6 років тому +163

    I want to come out to my best friend but she tells her mum everything and i know she'll tell her mum and her mum might tell my mum so im gonna wait till i come out to my parents (that'll be a loooonnnggggh time)

  • @arsonhycan
    @arsonhycan 4 роки тому +112

    Opens with “you are valid”
    hA jokes on you, I expired two years ago!!

  • @raven_rays2702
    @raven_rays2702 5 років тому +117

    Ever since I came out, LOADS of people in my class came out too!

    • @isabellabrowne4346
      @isabellabrowne4346 4 роки тому +3

      Omg same!

    • @victoriat8922
      @victoriat8922 3 роки тому

      @@moonlightbabe7918 That's horrible. But ya know what? Any guy that would insult you just because you chose someone else wasn't worth your time in the first place.
      (I also find it funny they called you a cumslut when you chose a *girl* 😂)

    • @hat7475
      @hat7475 3 роки тому

      @Omar Hernandez ok homophobe🤼👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

    • @chew-your-meat-kids571
      @chew-your-meat-kids571 3 роки тому

      @@victoriat8922 what did they say?

    • @victoriat8922
      @victoriat8922 3 роки тому

      @@chew-your-meat-kids571 I don't totally remember, but I think it was just that they'd chosen a girl over a guy who was propositioning them, and the guy got angry and insulted them.

  • @O_O7z
    @O_O7z 5 років тому +85

    I came out to my mom recently. And the next thing I know she recorded love simon for me. She is a really religious Christian. I am too. But for her to do that spoke louder than any words.
    It's a step in my direction. And I'm so grateful to her for it. I worried so long and next thing ya know. Honestly, It still makes me happy as hell.

    • @d.i.n.g.u.s
      @d.i.n.g.u.s 4 роки тому +1

      Evil Cat I wish I had a mom like that.

    • @kelliefranklin723
      @kelliefranklin723 4 роки тому +1

      Evil Cat aww god bless you and your mom 💜🌈

    • @_its_jayla_jam1733
      @_its_jayla_jam1733 4 роки тому

      Evil Cat I love Simon!!!

    • @willows5395
      @willows5395 4 роки тому

      I cried on the scene where he was talking to his mum

  • @dylanobrienswife9891
    @dylanobrienswife9891 3 роки тому +6

    I’m 14 and I’m non binary and pansexually. My mom,dad and stepdad are raging homophobic but I’m closer to my mom and coming out makes cry bc we never had the best relationship but she wants us to get closer but I know if I tell her she wouldn’t be supportive. My mom,dad and stepdad told me they don’t support it before I found out so it’s hard knowing my mom wants a closer relationship even tho she won’t accept me if I tell her but this makes me happy knowing a whole community accepts and love me for who I am

  • @Fatima-ue6jt
    @Fatima-ue6jt 6 років тому +93

    I'm extroverted and outgoing. I'm an artist. I'm going to be a freshman at the end of this summer. I love kpop and.... I'm queer. I have a girlfriend, but I'm one only foot out of the closet. I live smack dead in the middle of Texas. ( not literally but I'm Texan ) The middle school that I went to was pretty accepting or more accurately the students were. So I was pretty open about my sexuality, but now I'm going to high school and I'm scared that I have to go back into the closet. You see, I was born in/ am being raised by strict Muslim family. Which basically means my parents will never accept my sexuality no matter what and I know that I will be disowned the moment I come out to them. Tho, my entire family isn't homophobic. I've come out to my little sister and she was like "I could care less about your sexuality I still hate you the same." She's a hoot. Also, I have an older bisexual cousin (who's out to everyone but her parents) When I told her about my worries and how I wanna come out, she told me to hold my horses. Said I should stay very closeted and told me how she was almost outed in high school and that I had never experienced life-threatening or like seriously outrageous homophobia. She told me that some people are fake and they'll try to use my sexuality against me. I believe her and I know she wants to protect me but I don't want to leave my girlfriend or "act straight." What do y'all think I should do?

    • @gideong8627
      @gideong8627 6 років тому +13

      You should ALWAYS be yourself, I'm kind of like you with only a foot out the closet and I haven't experienced homophobia. You should definitely stay with your girlfriend, even if you decide to hide your sexuality in high school, just tell everyone else you're friends. No matter if you come out or not, you'll get through this and there's ALWAYS people to support you. I love you and wish you the best of luck in high school 💙❤️💙

    • @shadia9219
      @shadia9219 6 років тому

      Fatimmy Nii can we be friends?

    • @Fatima-ue6jt
      @Fatima-ue6jt 6 років тому

      shadia panda lover
      yea sure!

    • @Fatima-ue6jt
      @Fatima-ue6jt 6 років тому +6

      Tommy Greenan
      thank you, I've meet a few of the people I'll be going to high school with and they are very supportive so I came out to them. I'm still with my girlfriend but I think we'll stay on the DL for now.

    • @hollygreen2416
      @hollygreen2416 6 років тому +10

      Hey. I’m a lesbian in high school and this sounds tough. I definitely don’t think you should come out to just everyone, especially not your family if you feel unsafe. Telling just anyone that you are gay can spread, and sadly you could get bullied, so I would say keep your relationship and your orientation on the hush. It’s going to hurt and you’re not going to like it. But safety really comes first. Good luck 😊

  • @juliaballard550
    @juliaballard550 4 роки тому +21

    I'm bisexual. And I knew this at a very young age. Thank God my patents were understanding. Even if you don't have support...we love you

    • @Gusielog
      @Gusielog 4 роки тому +1

      I am quite young (11) and I honestly thought my parents would be completely fine with it, but they told me that I am too young to know and that it is just a phase

  • @BoilingHotTea
    @BoilingHotTea 4 роки тому +16

    When coming out I was met with a "Yeah It's pretty obvious" ackk fml.

  • @gemth9853
    @gemth9853 6 років тому +27

    I'm 11 but I have a crush on this super straight guy, I just keep closed. My mum knows that I am confused but what I do know is that just ignoring the hate and putting it in a plastic box under the shelf is the best idea. A homophobic bully turned out to be gay and he is only a year older than I am whilst writing this... I am moving into secondary school and watching this video has really helped my self confidence.

    • @d.i.n.g.u.s
      @d.i.n.g.u.s 4 роки тому +1

      WelshLad you, my friend, inspire me. Had I been this intellectual when I was eleven, i would know what to do with my life. I sincerely would like to give you some advice, but it’s a lot to do in comments, I’m gonna be honest, I’m a freshman in highschool, and it sucks man. I have a crush on an Asian dude. He denied me, of course, but the thing he told me makes me cry. He told me, in broken english because he was an exchange student, his brother came out to his parents, and he is currently dating another guy, he told me it took his brother 6 years to prepare. It’s hard. If you ever wanna message me lil bro, I’m open to dm on WhatsApp or something. Drop me a line! 5169726327. I’m not a perv. I’ll send proof if ya want, I just wanna tell you what I didn’t do to prevent you from making the same mistakes. It would mean a lot.

    • @droptimistic
      @droptimistic 4 роки тому

      I was in the same situation pal, hope everything gets better

    • @chew-your-meat-kids571
      @chew-your-meat-kids571 3 роки тому

      Are you British :o

    • @whahagahsnhsbwhsbz2917
      @whahagahsnhsbwhsbz2917 3 роки тому +1

      you’re probably around 13 right now, and that’s just a year younger than me. i’m so proud of you and honestly it blows my mind how mature you were, when i was 11 and i would sometimes think, “do i like her?” (i’m a girl) i would shove it away and think i was overthinking. you’re amazing and valid.

  • @pyrske1903
    @pyrske1903 4 роки тому +19

    I’m a bi 15 year old, who is absolutely terrified for the moment I say something. I am currently in an existential crisis, and have been panicking for the past few days. I know it will go, but i just want to be accepted by my family.

    • @Gusielog
      @Gusielog 4 роки тому +4

      I’m a bi 11 year old, I told my mum how I was feeling, and she basically told me that I am too young to know and it is just a phase. I am also having an existential crisis.

    • @bigyvarghese7007
      @bigyvarghese7007 3 роки тому +3

      It's gonna be okey....One day your gonna be able to live life your way...please hold one.....I'm so proud of you ❤️❤️

  • @bitescratchkill6849
    @bitescratchkill6849 6 років тому +399

    oof i dont think im gonna formally come out because almost everyone in my family is part of the LGBTQ+ community

  • @kylaportee4286
    @kylaportee4286 5 років тому +60

    Ohh God help me
    My parent didn't know that I'm lesbian, Please
    I want them to accept me,
    Please tell them!🙏

    • @peachy3135
      @peachy3135 4 роки тому

      Kyla Portee I’m a boy (still gay) I feel the same

    • @peachy3135
      @peachy3135 4 роки тому

      Goodluck

    • @bigyvarghese7007
      @bigyvarghese7007 3 роки тому

      Hope it all goes well ..I'm so proud of you ❤️❤️

  • @crimsonkiten5882
    @crimsonkiten5882 4 роки тому +8

    I legitimately expected my dad to reject my sexuality but he was honestly one of,if not,the most accepting

  • @forgor4410
    @forgor4410 3 роки тому +7

    I'm in a goddamn schrodinger's closet - no one can tell if I'm gay or just a really good ally.

  • @townspersontree5429
    @townspersontree5429 5 років тому +42

    So I’m a lesbian and I have to tell a guy who asked me out to homecoming that I don’t want to go with him. How do I do this with out coming out?

    • @fluxxhunter1742
      @fluxxhunter1742 4 роки тому +10

      Tell him your to good for him lol

    • @droptimistic
      @droptimistic 4 роки тому +13

      just tell politely him your not interested

    • @tuturu2258
      @tuturu2258 3 роки тому +8

      Ik this is extremelly old but maybe someone else will see this lol: u can just say youre interested in someone else and are planning on asking them without specifying the gender

  • @HolyLesGod
    @HolyLesGod 6 років тому +12

    ssooooo, I'm pan and non-binary, and that's sucks in my household. I never had a good relationship with my mother or father, we never really bonded and formed that trust, but a while back I started building up trust with my mother and ended up coming out to her when I felt comfortable enough that she would be okay with it. the thing is I told her not to tell my father because I rarely talk to him and knew he would not be okay with it, (he wasn't). And she told him right after, which caused all that trust to go down the drain along with any help I had with my Depression. My father started getting mad at me and telling me that I was wrong, confused, and that I was a female and that would never change, and that he would not have a non-binary in the house. That ended up causing me to relapse into some harmful habits that I had just stopped before that. It has been a couple of months and I haven't said anything else about it and I don't plan on it. I honestly can't wait to move out and get away from him so I can finally be myself and love who I want. I'm surprised he hasn't kicked me out yet, but I kinda want him to because I know I have a friend that would let me stay at their place until everything was sorted out.

    • @potatoeater3638
      @potatoeater3638 6 років тому

      Stay strong and safe, I hope you get all the happiness you deserve. I know what it feels like when your parents don't support you, I'm also not out to my parents, but I'll tell them when I get I'm med school and move out.

    • @naraciasreincarnation380
      @naraciasreincarnation380 6 років тому +1

      Idiotcosplayer Music.Edition NO WAY IM PAN AND NON BINARY TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO also I’m sorry it’s soo saaaad I don’t get how people can do that!!!!! I give you all my good vibes ☺️☺️❤️❤️

    • @ahhhwowowow7488
      @ahhhwowowow7488 5 років тому

      I'm genderfluid and gay (only into girls) but I'm mainly nonbinary. Stay strong. I believe in you. Yoy are stong and you have a future. You amazing and you'll be so glad when your open with ppl who except you for the amazing person you are.

    • @gabriellerwe
      @gabriellerwe 5 років тому

      Idiotcosplayer Music.Edition I’m pan aswell 💖💛💙

  • @marialyocampo907
    @marialyocampo907 7 років тому +259

    I need to ask you something and I want you to be totally honest with me, it might be awkward after this but I have to know how you feel. I have kept this in for a long while and it's about time I was straight up and just confront you about it, I hope this doesn't ruin the friendship we already have, I just need to know and I can't see any other way to get over this, it just doesn't seem fair to me if I don't get an answer, I want you to tell me truthfully no matter what you say, I just want an honest opinion... Do you know the muffin man??

  • @j-hopessprite4768
    @j-hopessprite4768 5 років тому +3

    Well, I’m only 10 years old and I know I’m young. But I haven’t came out yet.. it’s really terrifying coming out. My dads a homophobic and I don’t know if my moms supports it but my mom is nice, I’m gay. It’s hard coming out. But it’s good to be who you are. Don’t let people stop you! If people make front of you, ignore them. Love yourself 🏳️‍🌈

  • @NicholasAaronRutter
    @NicholasAaronRutter 4 роки тому +4

    i feel completely accepted and im really happy with life, but im just lonely alot because theres not a lot of other gay kids accessible to me so it gets lonely. luckily i have amazing friends. i hope everyone is happy and safe ❤️❤️

  • @noahzeitlin6850
    @noahzeitlin6850 6 років тому +3

    I’m so lucky to have everyone that I am close to accept me. There are still some people in the school that don’t accept me as gay. It hurts having people talk in such offensive language but I still have my friends and family to take care of me. You will always no matter what find someone who accepts you. Even if you don’t find them right away.

  • @oworeo
    @oworeo 3 роки тому +3

    i was very afraid to come out as gay when i was little, surroundes by religious environment where people are openly homophobic and transphobic including my own family, after graduating and getting out of my house, i just express myself as who i am from now i am

  • @random_weirdo8929
    @random_weirdo8929 3 роки тому +3

    I came out to my mom the other day and I had no clue what her reaction would be she said that its a choice and now I have to smile through the pain because she doesn't get it and trust me I've explained to the best of my ability

  • @rse8732
    @rse8732 4 роки тому +9

    Thanks for the advice I'm a lesbian teen and my life is so hard being a lesbian people want me straight but I'm not..so thanks for the advice!

    • @JessieArt
      @JessieArt 3 роки тому

      me too :( ppl around me force me to be straight

  • @eriotosama
    @eriotosama 2 роки тому +2

    My advice: as a loser nobody who to this day has no friends, is old and bitter, I suggest you weigh your options. Do you live in a conservative or liberal area? Are you white (yes white gays have it way easier prove me wrong)? Are your parents the kind of people who will accept or disown you? Do you have resources (lgbt centers) that actually care about your well being and not just say they do? If you find that it isnt safe to be out after contemplating these questions, you need to stay closeted until u can leave and live on your own.

  • @laurenperez8078
    @laurenperez8078 5 років тому +5

    This video was extremely helpful, inspiring and amazing. Thank you to all the beautiful and amazing people that took there time to make and create this video and to the speakers as well. Great video!!

  • @ryomahoshi643
    @ryomahoshi643 3 роки тому +4

    My parents were just like: “As long as you don’t become super religious we’re fine if you’re bi.”

  • @theussalamat4346
    @theussalamat4346 5 років тому +15

    Thank you! I'm realy in a tough situation now. It's hard growing up in a culture that hates you specially in your own family. My mother is to religuos and have expressed how she can never accept lgbt sand my father also expressed how it's ligal for some countries to punish gays. Oh the irony right? Been thinking of running away for years now.

    • @imagineaworldlikethat4081
      @imagineaworldlikethat4081 3 роки тому

      Don’t run away, please. Stay safe. Don’t come out yet until you live on your won. I am hoping for the best. Please know one say very soon you will be very safe and able to love who you love.

  • @00RaveRat
    @00RaveRat 3 роки тому +2

    I just a really bad argument with my mom about how she treats me and it made me want to leave the home at 14, or at least just sleep until im ok.
    So this just helps so much and im so happy you guys are saying these things
    Im dealing with gender disphoria with being transgender and its hard because of how much I need to explain myself to my family and the deadnaming and the she/her pronouns

    • @00RaveRat
      @00RaveRat 3 роки тому

      @@superbloom_3 ty!

  • @laurenperez6885
    @laurenperez6885 5 років тому +5

    thank you for sharing this video! it is extremely motivational and inspiring. thank you once again to the creators and to the beautiful souls who spoke ❤️

  • @trashii3737
    @trashii3737 5 років тому +6

    I’m in tears, thank you for this video x

  • @jacksepticeyesupergay711
    @jacksepticeyesupergay711 Рік тому +3

    Don’t come out in a very homophobic environment, sometimes it best to stay safe wait till your older and can move to a safer place…

  • @sharma.sonuofficial
    @sharma.sonuofficial 4 роки тому +4

    I have really been going through so much anxiety lately and so much emotional stress lately couple thst with a unsafe environment it seems like this will never end but i want this to end and finally feel free 😭

  • @420friendlydude3
    @420friendlydude3 5 років тому +5

    I believe we're all going to be okay stay strong my gay teen friends ❤️

  • @bread8095
    @bread8095 3 роки тому +1

    I need this right now, I don't even have accepting friends there is no one I know who is. It's just- I needed this.

  • @LandonPrizeIverson
    @LandonPrizeIverson 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much, my parents were so accepting.

  • @infinity.4977
    @infinity.4977 3 роки тому +6

    I teared up
    This video helped me to come out

  • @isabelladiaz6547
    @isabelladiaz6547 5 років тому +2

    I’m so happy to live in Toronto I’m 17 bi hooking up with people have a loving family loving friends no bullies guys if you do what you love and make choices that makes you happy things will be good no matter what take care of yourself get out of your comfort zone real people will stay by you at the end family or not love yourself we only have one life live it for anybody going through a rough time leave a comment and I’ll respond with happy messages

  • @ohhey802
    @ohhey802 4 роки тому +6

    i came out when i was 10
    well technically my sister outed me but i , myself, came out when i was 11

  • @rimut230
    @rimut230 3 роки тому

    When I came out, it was an awful experience. But it taught me that I am valid and no one can tall me otherwise. It taught me that i need to stand up and protect myself on my own. Because only I can protect me.

  • @mr.colebert3672
    @mr.colebert3672 5 років тому +1

    I’ve always never given a fuck, but coming out to my parents was hard. But in school I was just like “I’m gay wasssssssuuppp”

  • @Chaos__incarnate
    @Chaos__incarnate 2 роки тому +1

    thank you so much, I needed this

  • @ahmer4021
    @ahmer4021 5 років тому +2

    I'm not lgbt but I'm here to support everyone

  • @VaSleep
    @VaSleep 3 роки тому +2

    U right but
    Closet is still pretty warm and cozy

  • @laurenperez8078
    @laurenperez8078 5 років тому +6

    THIS VIDEO IS SO AMAZING! OH MY GOSH.

  • @galaxygacha4683
    @galaxygacha4683 4 роки тому +4

    To everyone in this video; thank you for the advice

  • @dylanb1636
    @dylanb1636 6 років тому +2

    i feel like my enviroment is not safe but not dangerous and i feel inspired and so happy and grateful for my life but i feel like who cares if someone is this or that and like idek man just like whoop whoop i have no words for emotion shutting down

    • @ahhhwowowow7488
      @ahhhwowowow7488 5 років тому

      I know how you feel. My environment is kinda the same.

  • @webelong1635
    @webelong1635 3 роки тому +1

    As a teen, I really need someone to talk to but I have no clues to whom should I talk to.
    Now, I am using weBelong app for connecting and venting with other LGBTQ

  • @Maggotz4bra1nz
    @Maggotz4bra1nz 5 років тому +3

    I’m here hugging my pillow smiling like an idiot

  • @rishikajj
    @rishikajj 3 роки тому +3

    I live in India and it is a bit homophobic but my generation (gen z ) is very accepting I came out to a couple of people and my brother and legit they said :ya why did you make such a big deal and almost 50 ended up coming out to me to but I am not sure about my parents and older people, but the worst was my cousin who is 21 she said that I am to young ( I am 12) and that I confused and influenced by the thrill of it and I just want attention this broke my heart because I love her reallllly look up to her . so pls tell should I tell my parents, I like try to drop hits like telling them gay India facts and honestly what is gayer than wearing RAINBOW rings and bisexual flag rings.

  • @TVc0l0rb4r5
    @TVc0l0rb4r5 4 роки тому +4

    Laughs in closeted because my parents say im too Young to decide my sexuality

  • @cayleighbyrnes
    @cayleighbyrnes 7 років тому +5

    My mom is lesbian and I get mad when people say something about lesbian or gay or trans

  • @aknurlukpan8542
    @aknurlukpan8542 4 роки тому +1

    It feels so horrible to be raised and surrounded by a homophobic environment as a lgbtq+ person. Constant rejection of non-heterosexual sexual identities and them being called “mental illnesses” crushes you while you are in the closet. It’s scary to think about my future because I feel like I will always be stuck in this environment and never find a way to escape. When I hear stories supportive families and friends, one half of me is happy to see people who accept their loved one but the other half of me is jealous of them -why can’t my family and friends be like that?

    • @Gusielog
      @Gusielog 4 роки тому +1

      That is f***ing awful!
      Stay strong 🏳️‍🌈 ❤️

  • @Jessica-yy1fs
    @Jessica-yy1fs 3 роки тому +1

    Here is some advice don't harasse people to accept you. I does put a lot of dirt on the lbtgq name. It has before. (Please take this advice! It will help!)

  • @cayleighbyrnes
    @cayleighbyrnes 7 років тому +21

    And some of my friends are trans

    • @nightcrow3920
      @nightcrow3920 6 років тому

      ____ GymBugCayleigh ____ that's cool ....but, i always wanted a gay best friend :>

    • @lasamisalagne7377
      @lasamisalagne7377 5 років тому +2

      night crow well I want a gay bf lol
      (I mean... bi, pan etc are ok too, but he should like boys cuz I'm a boy)

  • @spacecowgirl2575
    @spacecowgirl2575 4 роки тому

    Really hard for me at the moment, I’m a closeted lesbian going to a private Christian high school that’s basically a living hell since some of the teachers will have class discussions about homophobia and I just have to sit in the corner and pray they don’t call on me since I don’t know how to respond in a way they would find accepting, and it sucks hearing things like “I would disown my child if they were gay” and other offensive things in the hallways and just wanting to change who I am.

  • @someonesomeone25
    @someonesomeone25 3 роки тому

    Reminder: its fine to be gay, lesbian, bi, pan, straight, trans, cis, ace, allo, poly, NB, objectum, demi, grey, ficto, or anything else except harmful or insincere. You are valid and great as you are. And if you ever change then thats valid and fine too.

  • @maya-wr7cw
    @maya-wr7cw 3 роки тому +2

    I want to come out but my dad is Homophobic and my mum will tell everyone I smile thinking about them being excepting. But realize they probably don’t

  • @cnand8381
    @cnand8381 6 років тому +15

    This looks like buzzfeed
    Great Video anyways

  • @user-dus10e
    @user-dus10e 3 роки тому +1

    Everyone should be expected for who they are it does not matter if you specify as a dinosaur because i will love you for whoever you are

  • @ryangreenwood7353
    @ryangreenwood7353 3 роки тому

    Don't listen to the haters, you are perfect the way you are, being LGBTQ+ is not a choice and there's nothing wrong with that no matter what people say. Unfortunately some people will be unaccepting and ignorance can hurt but your part of the rainbow family, we accept you for you. Don't let negative comments get to you, keep pushing through and show people your happy for being yourself. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈

  • @moga_7735
    @moga_7735 4 роки тому +2

    that moment when a girl in your class got you out from your closet without you wanting to:

    • @JessieArt
      @JessieArt 3 роки тому +1

      never related to a comment more-

  • @owlcorner5592
    @owlcorner5592 5 років тому +1

    This is really helpful, i am lucky with my friends that i have 8 LGBTQ+ friends and in my friend group se all talk about it and there is 2 girl relationships in it as well. Some of them Know about me and have ben really sup portove and helpful. Unforntuantly home isnt like that i havent came out to them yet. My Family including is mostly christian but theyre not homophopic but my mum doesnt believe in bisexualty and always goes on about it not existing.

  • @minorOMG
    @minorOMG 3 роки тому +2

    What sucks is that I came out and now I hate myself because I'm being told it's disgusting, not right, against the bible, etc. Sooooooo.......

  • @alittlelightning1098
    @alittlelightning1098 5 років тому

    I still don't know how I could've dealt with this situation any better but I need to get it out, about a year ago I came out to my mom as gay through a slip of words, she was surprised but she dealt with it well, but then she told me that I had to tell my dad within a week or else she would tell him herself because she does not like to keep secrets in our house, we both knew this wouldn't go over with him well since he wanted everything but this for me for a long time since he's a devout catholic, I still told him about 3 days later, this happened almost a year ago like I said and there have been nights where I have slept in my car out of fear, stayed over at friends houses for a few days at a time, I've cried and screamed and the only things he says to me now are small snide remarks that pierce through me like knives, all my friends just say "screw him" or "you shouldn't care, it's not your fault" and I get that, but previous to me telling this we had an okay relationship, when I was younger he would let me stay up and watch star wars with him and eat whip cream, he used to take me to the air and space museum where we would make a bunch of weirdo airplanes out of paper, it was dreamlike, he gradually grew away from me as I got older because of our difference with political perspectives, he's gotten a lot closer with my two brothers because of it, it's like they are his rebound, even though I keep up good grades, do my chores and participate in school activities like I should, it's all because of one little thing that he won't recognize me as his daughter. But I'm happy! When I see that my brothers are happy I'm happy, but it comes at a cost, I can barely if ever talk to them, they're great, kind boys but they've grown apart from me because they can tell that dad gets upset when they talk to me, they completely stopped talking to me about 2 months ago, the last thing the youngest said to me "Just leave" and the oldest "God loves you" they truly are my fathers dream and my nightmare. 1 and a half years and I'll be safe

  • @inductedEmu
    @inductedEmu 4 роки тому

    And I’m telling you it’s going to get even worse because you can’t see your own consequences and that’s why I prove every single time people even show you how much they hate you but you don’t see you that way but hey you’ll learn of they day

  • @kermitthefrog3890
    @kermitthefrog3890 6 років тому +4

    Thank you so much! 🤗❤❤❤

  • @aichi337
    @aichi337 3 роки тому

    this advice is valid for everyone

  • @1xq015
    @1xq015 3 роки тому

    I came out on my 14th birthday i told them i was gay and they accept me and said "We know" and "I love you".

  • @justwantmyspaghettinoodle3742
    @justwantmyspaghettinoodle3742 4 роки тому +3

    My crush thinks I am homophobic but I think I am pan or bi.

    • @lynnsey4927
      @lynnsey4927 4 роки тому

      you may be bi, pansexual has a transphobic and biphobic meaning and isn't actually real. have an epic day :D

    • @justwantmyspaghettinoodle3742
      @justwantmyspaghettinoodle3742 4 роки тому

      lynnsey uwu | wait? Pan is real right? I don’t want a fight but it even has a flag? You also have a great day!

    • @meowden
      @meowden 4 роки тому +1

      @@justwantmyspaghettinoodle3742 pan is very very real and if you identify with it, use it!! some people feel as though it is transphobic or biphobic, but I assure that you that it isn't. if you want, research! look on youtube and other platforms about the difference!! just stay kind and thoughtful, but always listen to yourself too :-)

    • @Summer_turtle_
      @Summer_turtle_ 3 роки тому

      @@lynnsey4927 ?????

  • @Jetterblu
    @Jetterblu 3 роки тому

    Video:starts
    Me:starts crying already

  • @Ev-nk4wk
    @Ev-nk4wk 3 роки тому

    Ok, no one asked, but I’m saying this anyway. I haven’t been in the closet for too long yet (at least I think..) but every time when my parents talk about dating guys and stuff (lol) I would always mention “hey, what about my future girlfriend?” I just kept hinting and seeing how people around me think about the lgbtq+ community, and after time goes by, I think those who support it probably already know that I’m not straight XD I don’t think there’s anything for me to come out anyway, like I’m not gonna go to my mom and be like “ mom, I wanna be with girls but I still like guys, you know what it’s all about the personality and preferences”

  • @kv4855
    @kv4855 4 роки тому

    This video helped me thx for making it I'm bi and I love the LGBTQ community

  • @sophiecoates2292
    @sophiecoates2292 4 роки тому +2

    My mom outed me to my dad and it's not the same with him I'm scared that she'll out me to my entire familly

  • @olly1793
    @olly1793 4 роки тому

    I’m still not sure what label I am as well and it’s being driving me crazy to the point that it gave me headaches but I’m learning that I don’t need to label it straight away and it’s no one else’s business but mine

  • @collinmclain6185
    @collinmclain6185 3 роки тому

    In school I don’t ever think I will come out but to my family it’s different I know they won’t think of me different but I might think of myself differently

  • @andrewramirez7168
    @andrewramirez7168 5 років тому +2

    Hey thabks if your reading this my parents are anti lgbtq+ and this really helped

  • @timmeyer9191
    @timmeyer9191 3 роки тому

    There are many people that question their sexuality, and many of them come out. However, when someone says they have homosexual feelings, are we accepting them as homosexual without question because we do not want to be seen even slightly homophobic? Are we possibly missing out on helping individuals deal with inner turmoil because we don't want to be called repressive?
    I think leadership in the LGBTQ community could be doing more to help individuals identify if their homosexual feelings are genuine or if they are the result of something else.
    When someone is brave enough to come forward and admit to having homosexual feelings, as their friends and family, we should not encourage them to repress these feelings. We should not encourage them to act of the feelings either. We should encourage that person/loved one to talk to a licensed professional and explore the origins of these feelings.
    The professional can help them identify if the feelings are A) genuine, B) the result of trauma/abandonment, or C) the result of peer/media pressure. Some will discover the feelings are genuine, and others will not.
    Some people question their sexuality, but they need to question where their homosexual feelings come from too.

  • @caoimhelovesmashedpotatoes838
    @caoimhelovesmashedpotatoes838 4 роки тому +1

    my bff outed me to my other friends today. i wasn’t ready to come out to them bc i’m afraid they’ll tell my family.

    • @JessieArt
      @JessieArt 3 роки тому

      that sucks. you should get a new bff

  • @aloisplushie3787
    @aloisplushie3787 4 роки тому

    That moment when you where outed before you really knew who you are and are ready...

  • @danni7578
    @danni7578 3 роки тому +1

    I wrote a coming out letter, but I have no idea when I should show my parents it, but I am scared that it won’t go well

    • @mysoundofficial1047
      @mysoundofficial1047 3 роки тому

      hows life going now?

    • @danni7578
      @danni7578 3 роки тому

      @@mysoundofficial1047 it’s going well, came out to my friends and partner as a trans girl. Still In the closest to my parents however and scared of being outed to them

    • @mysoundofficial1047
      @mysoundofficial1047 3 роки тому

      @@danni7578 oh but at least ur friends know it

  • @imagineaworldlikethat4081
    @imagineaworldlikethat4081 3 роки тому

    Hate how my mom outed me a couple years ago to my dad even though she’s in complete denial so is my dad but as long as I love myself I’m good. One day I’ll come out of the closet fully.

  • @baywasthesuper1463
    @baywasthesuper1463 3 роки тому +1

    Awww thank you i feel a lot better.but my parents doesen't accept me as a lesbian. IM HEART BROKEN

  • @maxd.1730
    @maxd.1730 5 років тому +1

    I love this. Thank you

  • @bongrips4jesus364
    @bongrips4jesus364 5 років тому +1

    Seattle isn't What it seems I'm in middle school in 7th grade and there's a lot of homophobic kids at my school/schools i live about 20 miles south of Seattle Washington and I get bullied for being gay everyday by kids at home and at school

  • @rdtx2049
    @rdtx2049 4 роки тому +1

    I didn't believe. But I promise it gets better. Trust me.🤗

  • @moonlightbabe7918
    @moonlightbabe7918 4 роки тому +1

    I get scared the I'm not really bi/(possibly lesbian)? And it ends up just being a faze but I don't want it to be. I can honestly say I want to be a lesbian and date women. I just want to be out of high school 🥺

  • @Phntm-yn4ih
    @Phntm-yn4ih 4 роки тому +1

    I came out to my parents and brother a couple of weeks ago and they were so understanding. But there is always one.
    A kid in my year is always calling me faggot. Sometimes it makes me want to kill myself because there is no one who relates to me. I just need support. Xxx❤️❤️

  • @tristannerpin5307
    @tristannerpin5307 4 роки тому +2

    I think I’m either gay or bi and I’m not sure what to do

  • @justasadenbylookingatmemes4623
    @justasadenbylookingatmemes4623 4 роки тому +3

    I need advice and this seemed like good place to ask for some I guess. So, I'm Pan and I want to tell my parents but I'm trying to figure out what my parents will think so today I asked my mom what she thinks of the LGBTQ+ community. And uh... She said she thinks they're a bunch of attention seeking idiots and they want their business to be everyone's business and... She doesn't support gay marriage or anything like that.
    So.
    I have no idea what I'm gonna do now.
    Help. 😞

    • @arsonhycan
      @arsonhycan 4 роки тому +1

      Just a sad girl looking at memes at 2am
      I feel you man, pretty similar situation for me. I try to find support with my friends rather than my family since they’ve shown they aren’t supportive. If you have even one friend who you trust and think will accept you it helps a lot. I think we just have to tough it out being in the closet around family, but maybe that’s just me.

    • @justasadenbylookingatmemes4623
      @justasadenbylookingatmemes4623 4 роки тому

      @Syjil Hycan Thanks for the advice! I've only really told my friends from theatre about being me being Pan and none of my other friends know. I don't really know what they think about LGBTQ+ and I just don't bring it up just in case. ( In only told my theatre friends because literally all of them are in the LGBTQ+ community)

    • @arsonhycan
      @arsonhycan 4 роки тому

      Just a sad girl looking at memes at 2am
      Glad it helped! I’m no expert but I know everyone needs support and I’m glad you have friends to accept you! 😊
      (P.S. I love your username lmao XD)

  • @avageorgia5808
    @avageorgia5808 5 років тому +5

    I'm scared to come out to my parents they are highly anti-lgbtq+

    • @firedragon6647
      @firedragon6647 5 років тому +4

      If you feel too scared you dont have to do it right now. You can wait untill you are sure in yourself and if they really love you they will suport you. Try to explain to them but if you are ready.

    • @obyeshorts1087
      @obyeshorts1087 5 років тому +1

      Ava Georgia please don’t come out, no one is forcing u.

  • @bl6973
    @bl6973 4 роки тому

    I’m not gonna come out to all of my friends because there’s this one asian mom chat group their kids (my friends) will probs tell. I do have 2 pan friends so that’s comforting.