Women And Money (REAL TALK)
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- Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
- I want to get really specific about the insidious forces that hold women back financially, based on my real, lived experiences. I think that many of you will be able to relate, so I'm putting myself out there in the hopes that it will make you feel heard and less alone. If you've ever felt marginalized because of your gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, or whatever, I feel you. So grab a cup of tea and let's have some real talk!
P.S. Sorry my upload was a day late! This video took me a long time. Hope you enjoy it :)
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**BOOKS I RECOMMEND 📚**
I Will Teach You to Be Rich (hilarious how-to book on personal finance for millennials)
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The Little Book of Common Sense Investing (Jack Bogle's classic advice on index funds)
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InvestED (step-by-step, millennial-friendly advice on how to pick stocks like Warren Buffett)
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Unshakeable (this book = courage. blast ALL the fears & misconceptions you have about investing)
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Rich Dad Poor Dad (#1 selling personal finance book of all time... need I say more?)
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Think and Grow Rich (the ultimate book on money mindset and wealth consciousness)
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**MY FAVORITE MONEY TOOLS 🖤**
YNAB (I literally can't live without this budgeting app, so obsessed)
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Wise (like Venmo but for international currencies - I use this app a LOT for my life in Mexico)
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Ledger Nano S (crypto storage hardware wallet, because "Not Your Keys, Not Your Crypto"!):
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Hi Rose. I’m a 54 year old dad. I’m currently trying to educate my son (17) and daughter (14) about money. Your videos are a great resource to help me with that.
On top of that I’m opening my daughter’s eyes to what true independence means. That is, never be reliant on a man. I will be sure to get her to watch this.
I’m always looking for strong, smart female role models. You are firmly on that list.
Thank you.
you are teaching your daughter to be a piece of sh1t? how nice. i wonder what you are teaching your son.
I could listen to Rose allllll day.
Rose is so articulate with her delivery and I’ve learned soooo much. We love you Rose👏🏽🙌🏽👌🏽👍🏽
Love you too 🥰 Thank you for your support!
My wife immigrated from Asia as well and always faced with language barriers, being asked if she speaks English even though she has an ivy league degree, she learned to be very direct and straight with people! Now she earns more than me and is an expert investor...
I recently started to listen to your content because you seem very genuine and humble. Many if not most financial content feels like it’s all about themselves. It almost feels dirty, like I’m enabling their ego driven narcissism. Also I have to have my guard up and put more effort on filtering because they are just throwing their agenda at you. I do believe you have to take everything in the social media with a grain of salt. But those that are trying sell their agenda (whether they realize that they are doing that or not), I’d have take with good dose of salt. But I listen to them as well because I try to listen to all kinds of people to hear different opinions.
I’m glad you are posting this type of content. It helps me understand the perspectives of my wife and daughter better. This will be a video I will be sharing with them.
Thank you, that means a lot to me 🙏🏻☺️❤️ Totally get what you said about ego driven financial content... and fear/based persuasion tactics. I definitely felt that as well and I’m glad that you feel my content is different ❤️
This content is recycled intersectionality garbage. She’ll have you reading Bell Hooks nonsense before long.
Her investing advice is no different than everyone else’s on here. I read her little books and they are trash bullet points thrown together after doing 1 hour of research online. I also watched this grifter push the magic formula book (horrible book by the way) on her subs without a care in the world. She claims to be this stock trader, but where are the receipts?
Chris, then why are you in the forum? No one is forcing you to watch this content. I think her content is meant to be simple and easy to understand. I don’t think she is gearing it towards the experienced investors/traders.
rose, you are a role model. so many young girls/women and men alike needed to hear this. we all perpetuate these microaggressions because of comfort and with an unwoke perspective. it's about damn time we challenged it
This was a very personal and real video. Thanks Rose!
"You can't be what you can't see" - love that quote so much :)
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That really resonated with me also! It's so true, and I'm so grateful for people being brave enough to make videos like this now.
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Preach it Rose 🙌🏼. I’m playing this video for my 9 year old daughter. It’s always easier to build strong children than fix broken adults.
I respect you so much for starting this amazing channel and being unapologetically yourself throughout the entire process. I love watching finance videos from a handful of male UA-camrs, but when I see your videos, it hits so much closer to home - gives me a real sense of "Oh, I can do this too."
You're an inspiration :) I have worked in tech and am learning how to invest so I know what it's like to be a woman in traditionally "male" fields. The microaggressions , the negative assumptions of my competency, the dismissals of my opinions, the interruptions - it's been a lot, over so many years. So many men I've talked to about this get defensive and say "well, _I_ don't treat women badly, why do I have to feel guilty" and are content with doing nothing, not realizing that doing nothing is a tacit approval of the current system. You are so brave for speaking out, knowing that you're going to get hate for it. I hope that one day I have the ability to further progress women's issues the way you do!
It sure felt uncomfortable making polarizing content like this, but I felt it was necessary. And now that’s it out there, it feels so refreshing. It’s funny how when you’re just standing in your truth, hate comments don’t sting. You are braver than you know!
Rose, it makes me so sad to hear that people are being unkind, especially about something as trivial as your hair! You look badass and I love your hair! Keep doing what your doing, we’re all rooting for you.
From another marginalized, female, business owner 💕
Thank you 🥰🥰 Rooting for you too lady!!
@@ronallan8680 Dude....have you heard the complaints male UA-camrs have made about their trolls/critics? They can be quite sensitive about it too. Rose wasn't even complaining, she was merely pointing out that a stranger using her hair color, instead of her content and financial background, to judge whether or not he could trust her, is rooted in cultural biases about what traits are more valuable in a woman (looks, instead of substance). That belief is sexist, and unjustly holds many women back professionally.
Just like how your comment generalizing UA-camr sensitivity along gender lines, is rooted in preconceived notions about women and emotions. Check your own implicit bias Ron.
@@ronallan8680 Ummm perhaps this vague study you mention was real... But is harassment men on the internet get sexist? Is it any form sexual?
Mostly no. If women on the internet would only get messages like "You suck and you're gay", they wouldn't talk about it. Men get that all the time and it doesn't affect them (unless they're as sensitive as these women you speak of...)
The first female self-made millionaire in America is an African American woman named Madam C. J. Walker born in 1867. She was orphaned at 7. You can do whatever you want despite what the presenter says. Blaming external circumstances for your situation is for the mentally weak.
@@jadelightsword is it just me or is Rose deleting comments.
Where's the comment you were replying to? What were you replying to?
Imagine being so hungry to criticize a stranger, but so lacking of ammunition, that you resort to belittling their hairstyle. Keep up the excellent work, Rose!
In his 2012 re-election run, an ad for President Barack Obama claimed "Women (are) paid 77 cents on the dollar for doing the same work as men." That rated Mostly False.
But Obama retooled his words in his 2014 State of the Union address, saying women "still make 77 cents for every dollar a man earns." That rated Mostly True.
The difference in Obama’s two statements is subtle but important. The 77-cent figure derived from a federal government measure does not apply to men and women who do the same job. Instead it refers to the average disparity between what men and women earn, period. All women’s earnings compared to all men’s earnings.
Your audience deserves the truth.
omg I paused your video at 4:55 to read those comments.. I am enraged! Who do these people think they are?! Girl, your willpower must be level 1000, I would have gone off. Love your channel, keep doing you!
Thank you!! Indeed... one needs thick skin on UA-cam. All good though, 99% of people who watch my videos are wonderful and supportive, like you 💕🥰
I did the same. Disgusting. As a white guy who has benefited in this world only because of my sex and skin color, I totally get what Rose is saying. So many people are messed up in this world and Rose is not one of them. Super smart with helpful videos. Keep doing your thing Rose!
Investing, Personal Finance as a white guy myself, I say your privilege is only in your mind. My success is from hard work and never quitting, same as everyone one. Some are born with more and that’s life; however, it does not determine whether or not they are successful. You sir are a self loather, keep it to yourself and not to your race or gender.
@@Trump-jv8xf Awe. So uneducated but you think you are smart. That is cute. No one is saying you don't work hard and/or never quit. That shows everyone on UA-cam that you kind of miss the whole point. Yikes.
@@Trump-jv8xf I disagree. Being a white cis male is a privilege on its own. You may believe you reached all of your success because of hard work and I'm not here to tell you otherwise, but it's not *just* because you worked hard. Tell me, how many women of colour do you have around your workspace? How many women of colour do you see in higher positions? and then think about all the women of colour you see in your free time. Do you think all of these women aren't working hard enough? That they're too lazy, too stupid and/or self loathing? You may be a hard working person, but privilege isn't a 'you' problem. It's a society problem and you and I Sir, we are the society.
I absolutely LOVED everything you brought up, Rose! Your points made me realize I don't have to feel bad about being in school debt, but take action now and pay it off. Keep empowering your subscribers! We're all in this journey together. :)
Honestly one of my favorite vids of yours, Rose! Really glad to see you unapologetically talking about these important topics and bravely sharing your lived experiences. It’s these types of videos that inspire and empower others.
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YOU SPEAK MY MIND ROSE!! This is exactly what has been on my mind over the past year and also why I started my channel. It pains me to see my girlfriends not care about this stuff and also not knowing where to look because they don't see people like them talking about it! you inspired me to get my finances in check and honestly my life has turned around in just a year. Really hoping I can do this for those around me too. thank youuuu xxx
This channel has better information on trading and finance than any other UA-cam channel I've seen and I've seen quite a few. Now I'm learning things from you I never anticipated as I consider myself a feminist. You are so good at taking these concepts and making them approachable and relatable. I am very grateful for your content. Please don't ever stop 🙏
I know what you said is 100% true. I never dissed a woman attorney because I know that if I did she'd have me for lunch. I saw some guys embarrassed by such sexist attitudes. On the flip side, I spent 2 days a week caring for our daughter and some ladies at my church thought it was so cute that I was babysitting. I was offended said "No; you wouldn't say that to my wife." My wife found a tee shirt for me that said: "Men don't babysit, we parent!" I have enjoyed the lessons you've laid out in these videos and hope you continue to supply them.
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I'm a man and have worked in the Financial Service industry. I can imagine how hard it was for you working on Wall Street. A lot of times it seemed like a frat house at the workplace and was uncomfortable even for me.
pfffff, what a boring comment !
@@orangefield2308 like anyone cares what your opinion is. Pfff
@@xtctrader1467 pffff who cares
I always look forward to your videos. Don't listen to the haters and creeps. You do an amazing job and I love how real you are. We need more women out here like you helping educate. You're like the older sister I never had but wish I did. Also, appreciate you even more since I'm half korean! Love ya sis❤️
So cool you view me as an older sis ☺️ Love you too! 🇰🇷💕
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@@itsrosehan "tendency for men to look at women as se-x objects" look at your nice instagram pole page, where you are dancing with cheeky butt thongs, notice men don't have sports like that, and we don't talk about seen as s-x objects, etc
@@orangefield2308 It's only natural that opposite (sex) attracts. Rose is attractive, period. Men need to learn how to express compliments in a genuine and respectful manner, in a plutonic way. Look can be deceiving, after all.
@@kwok-keungchow800 yeahh, didnt address last comment above !
One thing I learned in my 30s is to do the right thing and stop caring what other people think.
Amen!! Now that I’m in my 30s I’m totally doing that too. Doesn’t it feel great?? 😆
@@itsrosehan 31 here! I swear it's like some kind of epiphany lol. It's my life and I live it how I desire. 😁
Wait until you get to your 40s - omg I really do not care - tell people what you think then move on. Love my life. Life gets miles better with age.
Almost 50 and you care a lot less. 😉
@@WISERandHAPPIER Are you both wiser and happier now? :D
I appreciated hearing "subconscious" bias rather than "unconscious" bias. I believe this an invaluable distinction, not often made, and I think it resonated with me quite a bit.
I do believe empathy will save us humans. Watching this was insightful. Society has played a fast one on us, humans.
Lmao it will, but even here in this comment section, my empathy has been labeled as "mansplaining".
Empathy can easily become partiality and predetermined guilt. "Lived experience" doesn't necessarily mean reality. The suspicion can lead to a self fulfilling prophecy as everyone becomes cynical of each other.
Well put
yeah, it's disgusting how these women think.@@jesustyronechrist2330
rose, i have seriously felt such a connection with your videos since i found your youtube channel only a few days ago, and there's something just about how you explain investing that is so relatable and easy to digest that also really pushed me to enroll in your index fund millionaire course! your content has given me so much empowerment as a young, single female with my money and my confidence with how i choose to invest and spend it. seeing those screenshots of those comments people say is really heartbreaking. it's just mind blowing that there can be well educated, experienced, intelligent women that understand and know money, but some people literally!! can't get it through their heads!! i just want you to know you are absolutely an inspiration for myself and certainly many, many other women out there. especially that you are out here giving representation to not just the female community, but the asian community as well! ALSO - i absolutely ADORE your pink hair, and those people who think or say otherwise literally are grasping for straws to find something to critique you on because they know they don't have a leg to stand on lol girl keep it up!!! we're all rooting for you 💕
This was NECESSARY! I’m so glad that Rose, a badass woman of colour in finance, is talking about this! I relate 100% and so does every single woman in the comments. I’m so grateful - hope she knows she is SEEN rn.
Thank you!!! I feel very seen 👀🥰❤️
Definitely, first thing now let's take control of our own financial futures.
Never noticed the pink hair, I focus on the content. Your a bright women, you prove that the best people rise to the top no matter what.
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As a soon-to-be first-time parent to a beautiful daughter, wife and I are always talking about this topic. And especially as asian-americans, we are disheartened with what is going on in this world. Thank you for cover this.
Rose, you are transforming my life. I only listen to women teach me about money because I was born in 1960 and men sure didn’t bother. Like so many of us back then, we were kept away from money and men controlled all the finances. Women were not trusted with money or considered not intelligent enough to handle it. Wives were given “pin money” and children given allowances. We were never encouraged in math or science because it was understood we would never need it, except basic measures for cooking and sewing.
I’m finally a small business owner and I’ve got lots of savings and investments and a lot of that is the education I got from you. I feel cheated by patriarchy in my life and I never saw women even begin working in business outside of secretarial roles until the 1980’s - but it used to be worse. My grandmother couldn’t even vote until she was in her late 20’s.
Not enough women talk about this and it has to stop.Women must be financially strong or they must depend on men in situations that can be abusive or otherwise miserable. We must stop this cycle of learned helplessness with women and money.
You are a trailblazer and a very important example for all women. Thank you for helping me turn my financial life around and giving me the education and confidence to take control!!
For the record, I do like the pink hair. 👍🏾
Definitely one of the very few financial UA-cam channels I've recommended to friends and family. Good job Rose. 🤙🏾👍🏾
Rose, I am really glad I found your channel. You come across as very knowledgeable, genuine, honest and you communicate so well. You are helping me as well as my family. Thank you!
Everything about this 💯🔥 i just got an "unapologetic" tattoo which is my daily reminder to take up space
LOVE that!!! #unapologetic
omg. GOAL
Here’s some macro aggressions for men backed by stats:
Women go to college at a 60/40 rate
Women file divorce 70% of the time
Women receive custody 80% of the time
Women receive alimony 90% of the time
Men commit suicide at an 80/20 rate
Men die at war and at work at a 98% rate
I would argue that for the last 50 years America has not had a patriarchal society and it’s part of the reason we are in societal free fall. Being a strong and independent woman is fine so long as you have a government (taxpayers) behind you later in life. That’s not going to happen for many in the us the way birth rates are trending.
The real reasons why many women can’t get ahead financially boils down to three things:
1.) Impulsivity. Women are more prone to this because you have governments or families willing to help you when you falter. Men don’t typically get this and learn the hard way.
2.) Poor mate selection. Having kids with a bum is a guaranteed way to poverty. Not having a strong father in the home has accelerated this.
3.) Debt. Women own 67% of college debt and most consumer debt. You can’t build wealth when you keep giving it away to others because of poor planning or impulse control.
Good luck with your channel. I won’t support nonsensical SJW ideologies that advance societal decay and increase division between the sexes. Mansplaining over.
Miss Rose, you rock. You, along with Jaspreet Singh of Minority Mindset, are my go-to's for financial literacy. It doesn't even matter that you're Asian. You both simply know your stuff and sharing your wisdom.
I love both these channels too!
Amen Sis! Thank you Rose. You’re opinions and expertise are valued and you are helping so many people, including women everyday ! Get it
Rose, my daughter, like you, teaches me some life lessons I have somehow missed.
Bless you!
As an Asian American, I had similar experiences growing up when it comes to racism and the feeling of not belonging.
Your videos inspire many people especially women! Keep up the great work 👏🏽
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Thank you for posting this Rose. Glad to support another WOC especially in the world of finance.
"you can't be what you can't see." THAT'S RIGHT ROSE! So proud of you girl hell yes. Thank you for you and all this wisdom, we love to see it.
Really happy to see the supportive comment section here, and I hope it keeps these conversations happening! I recently watched Laura Shin's roundtable on women in crypto and the reactions were absolutely disgusting. Appreciate the community this channel is fostering and hope it allows more connections to be drawn between wealth and identity.
Also, way to shoot your shot, Rose! lolol
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This type of content is polarizing, but I’m happy to do it so that the community I attract is truly MY people, people like you ❤️
And thanks for letting me know about Laura Shin’s round table, will have to check it out!
Rose, this is an incredibly important message for all the women (and men) at this moment in time. If someone doesn't agree with this video, they are simply insecure with the reality of our society. Thanks for going out there and sharing!
Psychology today actual wrote a really amazing article about how men are more likely to be internet trolls and it's actually linked to loneliness, which also explains why more men (typically white men) are more likely to commit suicide. A lot of men who spew vile and hate are actually fighting their own demons. Many feel disrespected and ignored in the real world and they come on the internet to troll people who have attained knowledge they could never possess or women they feel entitled to have that would never want them. I'm not excusing their behavior but many of them are simply miserable. Please just know that you are amazing and your content is so necessary. I love that you're an Asian woman doing your thing.
The strongest women I've ever meet have always took accountability for their own actions and lives.
Its easy to be a victim when you don't do nothing and make excuses. Honestly, take all of these micro agreesive things you said put it in a man's mouth and he'll be told to "Man up and do something about it"
Excuses are what they are, excuses and yeah im with ya today's era there is no excuse for women or any one really in America. MY mother grew up in the 60's and time she retired she was no longer the driver for her company she was part owner...Excuses bore me honestly..
Women have been in charge of the household finances in my family for over 3 generations on both sides, so at least pre1900. Great grandmother in early 1900s was a mayor and later ran a old folks home at 80. I grew up with the mentality that nothing stops you no matter what others say. You define you and that's your responsibility. Others don't know better or are disrespectful and lazy. All must prove themselves in their journey.
I’ve been watching your channel for more than a year now and you are killing it lately! Thank you for calling ish out and teaching us about money and personal finance. Keep doing you! 💜
I’ve learned that people’s insecurities will try to sap one’s happiness. So, I’ve learned not to take things personally from those who I’m not personal with.
this comment clearly indicates you don't get her points about microaggressions. you can't just "shake off" or ignore a bad feeling when you get comments of the same nature and dismissiveness because of your sex that do NOT only occur online but also in person. sure, microagressors and haters are insecure, but it is PERSONAL because she gets judged simply based on her existence as a WOMAN and not by her character or the content of her work.
@@michinnunapaen you’re absolutely right, you can’t just “shake off” feelings. Feelings are 100% real and inevitable and you’re entitled to them. But, do you HAVE to take it personally, or could you perhaps learn to deal with it differently so it doesn’t take control over your happiness, and learn to accept the inherent ruthlessness of humans in this world, while doing your best to elicit change?
Incredible!!! I experienced microaggressions this past week at work as a woman and felt HORRIBLE for days. This gives so many words to what I am feeling and helps gives me power to separate myself from those toxic words. THANK YOU for sharing and your practical advice!!!
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Thank you Rose for speaking about this topic and being vulnerable! It’s important we talk about this!
Rose you are simply amazing in every way. Thank you for all the knowledge and VALUE you contribute to this community. Thank you for putting a voice to what we as women go through. Much respect 💜💜
Wow! I'm standing up applauding!! Rose, you are in another level, for sure! Finances aren't only about money, for sure. That you said was really insightful, you are a great woman; I'm happy to be here and learn something from you! Keep the amazing work!!
Note: your shinning pink hair is beautiful and I think it represents a kind of freedom. Anyway, congrats!! 👏👏👏👏👏
Thank you! That means a lot to me! ❤️
I like how they sweetly hustle out men out of their money😆😆😆😆
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The pink hair is awesome - Life is too short to be bland. I’ve been challenging myself to dress in brighter clothes and my crazy color car makes me happier and subsequently more bold.
Yeah, ladies really have it rough, period. I subscribed to your channel because I wanted to gain the knowledge you mentioned. Never had it crossed my mind to move on to another resource or channel because you're a woman. As a man raised by a divorced mother, older sister and a grandmother I have seen the strength, courage and intelligence of women in general. I tend to look in people not at people. Sure, I can see you're a woman but there's much more there than that so I await the knowledge you have to share and appreciate you pouring your heart out.
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I feel you. I’m Taiwanese and Italian. I finally accepted how awesome I am at age 40. Took too long.
You are amazing, Rose. I am in awe of you, your message, the confidence you share it with, your knowleadge and passion. You're changing the game!
Thank you for making this video. Every now and then I find myself accepting these microaggressions simply because they are accepted by so many others. It takes someone (many someones) to voice opposition to society's general acceptance of these patterns to create change. I was never taught about money other than save save save. Your videos have helped me discover new ways to make my money work for me! Instead of being afraid to invest I now have an M1 pie, a HYSA, and a Roth IRA. Before, everything was in my Wells Fargo savings account which made me somthing like 15 cents a year. Thank you for all of your book recommendations and for sharing your knowledge.
Thank you for sharing this. I am a 52 year old man. I follow several financial channels. I have learned more about finances from you than I gave my whole life. Thank you for what you do.
I’m honored! Thank you ❤️
Growing up as a mixed minority was definitely hard when your made to fill unwelcomed. Even as an adult when you're told financial investing should be left to better people. Well these better people failed me for years. After learning the basics and finding a great mentor. She was able to direct me in the right direction and with in 5 years I have built an amazing nest egg I didn't think possible. Thank you to people like Investing with Rose, and Val my mentor we all can build our dreams bigger then we can imagine.
Yeah, it's weird, segregation might be in the past by law, but families and communities still do it low key.
The world is imperfect and will be. Stop tagging people and playing a victim. Stay strong on your way in pursuing your goals. Work on building the greatest version of yourself. Be honest to yourself and recognize your own mistakes. And you will succeed in your sense of success. Everything you have presented happens to everyone and with everyone. Your reaction depends on what you focus on and how experienced and wise you are. If you have a problem in your life - deal with it (not just talk about it). Sometimes people are too sensitive and over emotional about things, which really do no have any negative or even positive influence in their lives. You should stop generalizing everything and start living your genuine life. And remember: money is a tool....your mental picture about something is an illusion you have created...
Thank you for making this video and putting this point of view into perspective. Love your content, Rose! I definitely struggled with these feelings in the workplace/society and its nice to hear that I’m not alone.
Thank you so much! ❤️
Respect and admire your courage to have this conversation. As a father of three daughters who are all now young adults, my message throughout their childhood was always to work to acquire the tools and knowledge to be self sufficient and not reliant on anyone else. What I really liked about this video is your admission that gender and maybe some racial bias' are not necessarily intentional and a product of our human nature and flaws in society and culture. Until we acknowledge these bias' exist and and understand how they effect our attitudes and decision making, we cant eradicate them however, through your willingness to discuss these topics on your platform, you are contributing tremendously to their eradication. Keep up the great work.
1. Wage gap has been debunked a bazillion times.
2. Equality of opportunity is what we should strive for than equality of outcome. You won't see a 50-50 in literally every field, there will be fields that are dominated by men, and some by women. It has everything to do with male and females being physiologically different (different, doesn't mean unequal).
3. Glass ceiling, mansplaining etc. are quite often used as cop outs to avoid fair arguments on a case by case basis. This video, rather than promoting equality, reeks of self-validation and promotes justification for failures. A man is not selected for a CEO position, 'because' he is male. He is selected because he is qualified. If a female is qualified for it, but still isn't selected, then yes, I agree, that is a problem of inequality. Tagging everything that men say, that doesn't reflect your own opinion, as mansplaining is backward and ridiculous.
4. Money is not the only source of validation. The whole reason the family system is crumbling in the western world, is because of the mentality that every work is to be validated by money and somehow being dependent is demonic and dangerous. You put two individuals who are independent and you expect the marriages to succeed? You want a business partner instead of a life partner? Being in the house, cooking and cleaning for YOUR OWN husband, to enable him to being the breadwinner, a successful go-getter and fulfilling all your and family's needs IS a healthy relationship, as well. It shouldn't be criminalized. The best you can say, is that, it didn't work for you, instead of propagandizing it. Dependency is what makes a successful marriage because both partners need each other - physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually. It's not just goods and services.
5. The only thing I agree in this video, is that the fashion industry is incredibly demanding and fooling both men and women, by setting and evolving beauty standards constantly to make both feel plugged in and insecure. That is their way of advertising and selling products. If you feel beautiful inherently, why would you ever obsessively buy products? However, both men and women are suckers for social validation and hence perpetuates this as a vicious cycle.
I remember as a kid thinking it was unfair that men were addressed as Mr. ,regardless of their marital status, yet women were either Miss or Mrs. which let everyone know if they were married or not. Who's business is that anyway; some stranger you just met? As soon as Ms was introduced into everyday language I started using it. I use it to this day despite being married for 4 decades!
Another way I have tried to level the playing field is when I am voting. I do keep up on the national level but when it comes to voting in judges, local political appointments, etc.,I do not know much about them. In those cases, I ALWAYS vote for the woman candidate. I have shared this with many of my friends and they have decided to follow suit to give women a fighting chance.
Hi JP - thanks for sharing your perspective and experience; I did not realize the implications of using Miss/Mrs.
Thank you for being so open and sharing your experience rose. I know this was hard and I thank you for this. You are a leader!
This is literally the greatest video I have ever seen in the history of ever ROSE YOU ARE a BADASS CALL THEM ALL OUTTTTT
Rose, thank you so much for making this video. What you’ve said here is so true! Our little girls need to be taught they have something to contribute, they bring something to the table - they need to sit at the table! Thank you for this.
So a guy telling you you're hot is an issue? Unbelievable. There's going to come a day where you're going to wish someone would look your way. There's going to come a day where you wish someone would just say you're beautiful. Sounds like a not problem to me.
My generation loves being a victim, even the ones wort over 6figurez
Thanks for posting this Rose. I did not know about micro aggressions, but like the way you explained it and realize it happens a lot around me and even at work. Keep being you!
Edit: I believe you are ahead of the curve on these topics! This video needs to be shared. I will be showing my wife when she wakes up. Way to go Rose!
Being raised by my grandmother and seeing what she went through made me the person I am today. She wasn’t allowed to have a say in anything, even decisions that directly affected her. My grandmother would cry to me sometimes, feeling helpless. I vowed to never be like her. She would always tell me to go to school, do well and be independent. ( her mother had 3 girls and could only afford to send 1 to school, my grandmother wasn’t the one chosen and her sister was a failure) I listened to my grandmother and currently make 6 figures in healthcare. I cannot imagine not being the author of my own life. I’ve learned so much from you Rose, you are a blessing.
Thank you for sharing your story! Your grandmother was a strong woman, born in the wrong times. But times are changing 💪🏼💫💫
Wow Rose, what an eyeopener. Thanks for sharing, you really cleared up a lot of things. I'd say this last year and a half has been a pretty tough and life changing one for you, and that's not talking about the pandemic. Seems like you're going mobile soon, so hopefully we'll get to follow along on your adventures. Cheers.
I have to admit, I don't actually care when it comes from a guy. I've met all sorts and I've always bested them at their own game, even if it was exhausting. However where it does hurt is when it comes from another woman. There is nothing worse than watching one woman tear down another woman for absolutely no valid reason. It's something that I have witnessed in families, work environments and social events. Nothing makes me doubt myself harder than when it comes from another woman. I believe to a large degree that it would also help, if women would rally behind each other and have each other's backs.
Using the word mansplaining is a micro aggression against men.
It’s not so shut up.
💪 Great work Rose!
On the flip side of one of your points - Male here, working full time in middle management, and happily married to a loving wife; I have on more than one occasion had eyebrows raised to me when I have requested cooking books as birthday gifts... apparently that’s weird for a man to enjoy recipe books! The sooner these attitude fizzle out, the better!
Keep doing what you’re doing!
Fantastic video, Rose. Thank you for sharing and thank you for all the work you do providing high-quality educational content.
Thank you Rose for verbalizing all these negative things women experience. Thank you for every single word!
I've gifted a cookbook and lotion/spa-day items to the bride and a Leatherman to the groom...
Anyway, I don't know about all the stats that you mentioned, but I definitely understand some of the struggles you brought up. It's so weird for people to push back against something they've clearly never experienced before. Just because they haven't noticed it or haven't been around it, they think it doesn't exist.
And for the people who have experienced it, it's hard to notice it sometimes because it's "just the norm."
It's going to take generations to see real change but I'm happy you're part of the progress.
Being offended for receiving a cookbook if not an issue with the one gifting, it's a problem for the recipient.
Interestingly when I got married I got an apron and cookbook from guys. Still appreciate it actually.
@@MoMo-00 I kinda agree, TBH. Sure, it technically is an micro-aggression, but... That's like getting offended if you're a woman and they'd hand you something pink over something blue.
I mean who cares, just take the thing and don't think too much about it because the other person didn't either.
@@jesustyronechrist2330 and here we go with the mansplaining. this is the perfect example. if you're not a woman you don't need to comment on our experiences since your opinion is unwarranted and unwanted.
@@jv-kb9dr Bruh you just assume my gender?!?!.
So empathy is not allowed either...? You don't want any man to even try to empathize because you don't "want their opinion"?
Oh man, you're gonna have a miserable existence being that entitled.
Yes, yes, yes! This is exactly why I subscribed to your UA-cam channel; why I signed up for your Automatic Millionaire course. You are absolutely one of my role models. Thank you for this video.
Rose, just keep ignoring the haters! You're doing a great job, your hair is fire, and you've honestly helped me some much in the past two/three years 😭
Seriously, you have no idea. Thank you, and keep it up! I look forward to learning more from you 🙏🏽
Thank you for being vulnerable and for calling those toxic people out! Microaggressions are a topic that needs to be addressed more
OMG, those room/camera shifts that transition into little fact breakdowns - total Good Eats/Bill Nye vibes - LOVE lol. Love having strong Asian/Korean women to follow, especially financially - so much easier for me to follow and relate.
What other strong Asian/Korean women do you follow? Share share! On YT I like Jenn Im and Weylie Hoang
@@itsrosehan Yasss, Already follow Weylie and Jenn
I'm a dude, and this was yet another fantastic video. I appreciate you getting a little more personal and really giving real life examples. Fantastic advice.
I’m a white guy learning financial literacy, saving, investing, and financial independence from BIPOC women. I’m learning so much. I’m so grateful. It’s wonderful. ❤️
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You are so inspirational to me Rose! I grew up in the type of poverty that most don’t know still exists in America and I had a very misinformed view of investing. I thought it was only for the very rich Wall Street men. Your channel single handedly gave me the knowledge and confidence I needed to open my very first retirement account in December. ❤️
I can also relate to the struggles of being a woman in today’s society. I was just talking about mansplaning yesterday! It’s a good point that it’s not usually intentionally belittling and that why it’s all the more important to help people be more aware of what they say.
Its so lame that you have had to deal with all this. I totally appreciate your videos and thanks for helping me understand and take control of my investing.
I completely understand your message. I grew up as an Asian-American in Construction Management where the industry is predominantly white, especially in management. I’ve had multiple friends say I’m lucky to be Asian in this time of age where society is trying to close the racial income gap. They forget that I joined the military to afford for a state college where I got my degree in Civil & Construction Engineering Management. I’m sure with your background it had to be difficult. I understand your frustration on the wealth gap and your need to speak up. Very inspiring of you. 👏 P.S. I’m a foodie and love to cook too 😇
Education is crucial but action is paramount!!! Thank you Rose 🌹 I am from a family of women and I have 3 amazing young women!
Ugh the fact that you had to defend your hair. The audacity of people.
In any case, thank you for sharing what you’ve been through! I can relate to many of your examples.
Really powerful video to bring awareness to women. I love all the statistics you’ve included as well. Thank you for the energy you out into making this 🤗
I love you ☺️💕
Wow, what can I say? Another amazing video, Rose.
Sorry to hear about your harsh experiences/challenges. But trust me, I’ve had my share of being mistreated in the work world as an African American male in IT field. Several days I felt like I was out of place, but here I am 21 years later!
While I am yet still on a 9-5, just know that I am grateful, as I’ve learned soooo much from you in regards to investing/managing money. You, along with a few others have put me on pace to where it’s only a matter of time before I walk away from my 9-5 financially free.
Thank you so much, Rose!!!
*On my channels I actually get most negative comments from other women. Most men are generally just positive towards my videos while if any women leave a comment it is most often to let me know what I am doing wrong.*
looks like someone missed the memo on patriarchy and how it damages women
@@jv-kb9dr Sorry.
Wow, just now finding your channel and binging your videos. You are so inspirational and an amazing role model. Thank you for keeping it real while uplifting us!! You’re the bomb
Thanks for bringing these topics for us, Rose. You really inspire me about the woman I want to be in future :)
Dear Rose, Wow! I can't think of any other word that describes how incredible, truthful and eye opening your video is. Nor t can I think of anyone else who has put it all together as you just did. We all know these words of advice in bits and pieces over our lives but never get to put them all together like you just did. I'm in awe. You have my total respect and thanks for this video. This video should be mandatory watching in every classroom in America.
Thank you! For this! First one born in United States. Parents are from Mexico Sometimes I feel like am too American to be Mexican and am to Mexican to be American. I know how you feel
Just own it you got a lot going for you
I hate how every time women talk about women's issues we're always made to feel as if we're "complaining", "being dramatic", "overreacting", and "being emotional" or my personal favorite: we'll get accused of being "misandrists" and "man-haters" for pointing out men's male privilege in a patriarchal society that employs misogyny as its religion.
“You are more than welcome to quietly unsubscribe.” Love it and you, Rose. It’s disheartening to know how long the sexism and misogyny has been going on AND will continue. However, when we have to bring the fight, we have to. P.S. Was trying to think if I could rock the pink hair but you said $700. So no, going to pay down some debt instead! 😁
sexism and misogyny when it's not to your benefit. keep that attitude up sweetie i hope you dont need a man never again.
Thank you for bringing the systemic lens to this conversation. Patriarchy hurts men too. I can sense a huge shift in women being more engaged & more confident with money. I work in FS (advice) and can honestly say there are humble men in financial services that don't patronise women, do seek them out. Arrogance & patronising talk is such a turn-off. Great video, well delivered! Certainly share in your vision for a just, safe, progressive world that works for the needs of all genders.
Thank you Rose for making, sharing and posting this video. It’s so important and informative to every individual wanting understanding our parts in society. I’ve been sharing it with my friends. 🙏🏽🖖🏽☺️
I came across your videos recently, and I find it sooo refreshing to see a woman, who also just happens to be asian like me, talking about finance because nearly every video I’ve watched on finance was always with white men.
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Thank you very much for this talk, you said a lot of things I hadn't been paying much attention to but I really needed to hear. For example, I had never heard about micro aggressions, but they make a lot of sense now! You also reinforced my desire to create a UA-cam channel to share my journey towards financial independence 💪
I loved your message. I asked my high school teacher, ' when do we learn about making money and investments?' he told me to go to college....
Education is the key, like you said, ' money is not taught in schools' and neither is equality. Cheer leaders and jocks is the only thing important to most in high schoolers, (and being popular) when it should be money (long term income) and a healthy life (stress free) for you and your partner.
My family NEVER talks about money, sex or religion. Our parents are only doing what there parents showed them, cycles take a long time to change.
P. S. I love your pink hair, worth every penny.