They start a nasty argument to cause a breakup so they can get with someone they’ve been wanting to be with. When they’re done they expect to just come right back to you while claiming they are not a cheater so they aren’t a total dog.
and then they try to project total dog back onto you yes (am so done with angry toxic person) and for that reason i am out They be trying to pull you back into that dynamic but that dynamic is pure poison ...go no contact...run
When you first meet them, you allow them into your life but they have withheld tons of information about their heinous nature and past victims. So it's easier for them to get in the door the first time. Later they may get back in due to a trauma bond. But if your eyes open to who they really are you will never allow them access to you again.
Now I realise everything that's happened to me, I'm absolutely hurting bad.I was in an abusive relationship before but now it's happened again. It's actually worse being abused by a narcissist than the relationship before which was more violent. Because a narcissist hides it all whereas the other abuse didn't hide anything.
Same here but I had a terrible feeling in the pit of my stomach Will never ignore my intuition again Spent almost 2 years with this lying cheating manipulator MONSTER
I lasted 4months with my girlfriend narcissist, never heard of a narcissist before and Im 68 years old, still learning about women, I think I will just stay single.
There's a lot of great people out there. You only live once.. I've read 5% of people have some sort of this crazy problem though.. if they can't take a no let them go..❤
This nation is full of misogynists so I don't believe that men are victims of women or children personally except in very few cases and if the man is a misogynist he got what he gave. Just my opinion however 😊
Imagine someone who has always been confident in his ability to control other people's feelings, suddenly faced with the harsh reality that his grip on them has been lost, forever.
Narcissists love control /manipulation, as a Sigma male I spotted it straight away. Insecurity is the root cause of this behaviour. It's exhausting and stressful , silence stops them dead in their tracks. Throwing a tantrum is childlike behaviour. All they want is a financial provider and a servant to do all the chores.
I'm 54 and I never realized what a narcissist was. This video really gave me insight and closer. I was in an awful relationship for maybe a year. Everything she's saying is spot on. I'm so glad I'm not with him anymore. Now I'm with someone who truly loves me and treats me with respect. We've been together for 17 years 😊
6 months later and my nervous system is just starting to get back to baseline. My weight and appetite is coming back as well. It's shocking how much her behavior had on my overall health.
I've been narc free for 8 years keep going trust me it gets better. You will be better the 3rd version of you will be the best version, because now you will see narcissist from a far.
Well done! For me, the first 7-8 days were the absolute worse. As a man I felt like lying on the floor and just crying all day. Then I started to feel better when I began to listen to various other experiences from people all over the world from UA-cam and podcasts. Its amazing how they seem to be reading from the same book these narcissists. Thank God I'm free from her manipulative, lying, ways. and I learned a lot about myself as well.
@@desborneoneil2375MAY THE DIVINE FORCE MAY BE WITH YOU JEDi ! You are already strong, the path is difficult but transfer the pain energy on masculine energy. Gym, learn, earn, invest. ❤
Bro, I know exactly how you feel... I've totally lost any hope to be in a real loving relationship. I've lost faith in humanity. Life has changed drastically in general for everyone and their mindset. I wish I knew about Narcissistic behavior earlier. I missed all the bright red flags. Be well
After you leave they will try everything to get you back and if it doesn’t work, then they will try to take your life. I’ve survived it. My mother didn’t. Run far away
Man your so right she invited me over one night then when I arrived ignored my phone calls and then calls the cops and tells them she thinks someone is trying to break in and she’s in fear for her life and luckily the cops who arrived weren’t trigger happy assholes and once I showed them the text messages I filled her story full of holes they ended being upset with her and let me walk away and that was my sign this woman was willing to endanger my life … survivor here aswell blind sided by this I’ve never dealt with someone like that ever in my life but I’ll just let Karma do its thing atleast I’m finally free !
This is very true for me. My narc was my childhood sweetheart. I know now she was never who I thought she was, she was an abusive cheat and a liar, but when you're young and in love you're blind. I built my whole life round her, we had the big white wedding, bought a house, started trying for kids. But life wasn't perfect and neither was I, I began to struggle a bit after a suicide in my family and a few other things, fell into a depression and wasn't being the perfect husband. So instead of trying to get through it with me, she just found someone else, kicked me out (on the anniversary of the suicide, no less), moved him in and carried on as if nothing had happened, smear campaign to cover her tracks, the whole works. I lost everything. It utterly destroyed me, I felt like my whole life was just worth nothing. I knew there was no way back once I discovered the affair so I went and filed for divorce, then arranged to go and see her to speak about what would happen next. It was all very civil when we spoke, but I worked out quite quickly that she didn't believe I had really seen a lawyer. Over the course of the conversation, she slowly realised I was serious, and when I stood up to leave, she stood in front of the door, burst into tears and said "this isn't what I want. I don't want you to go." It broke my heart to do it, but I told her it was too late and left. In the weeks that followed, she discarded everything we'd agreed and became as unreasonable as possible, which eventually cost her thousands in the settlement - I had pretty much given her everything but because of how she was acting I went no contact and told my lawyer to take what I was entitled to. She didn't want a smooth divorce, she wanted to fight. I couldn't understand it at the time. Years later, just after she had remarried the man she left me for (her new soul mate) and had 2 kids, she suddenly showed up in my life and broke down again. "I've dug myself into such a hole I don't know how to get out of it." Then, another few years later, she phoned me out of the blue late one night and asked... well, practically told me to take her back. I said no. She slammed the phone down, went back to him and is still there. She's tried to wheedle her way back in a few times since, but I'm totally no-contact now. Last I heard from her was 2016. I'm 46 now, single, no kids, I've pretty much wasted my whole life on this person and I'm still not properly over it. It's taken me a long time and it's hard to grasp, because when she left she did such a good job of destroying me and making me feel utterly worthless, but I've slowly started to make sense of it. She thought she could do what she wanted and I would always be there. She thought having an open affair would make me snap out of it and become the husband she wanted. When she realised that wasn't the case, she wasn't capable of admitting she'd done something terrible or apologising. The only thing she could do was try to cause more pain in the hope of getting a reaction. When she didn't get it, she went further. Then further. It sounds terrible but I think even her kids and her marriage were a big part of that "hole" she dug for herself. She really thought at some point she would push far enough and I'd come back. Not that I think I was "special" to her. It's just that she can't stand that I walked away. She thought I couldn't live without her and I'd do anything to keep her, no matter how badly she treated me, and it's cut her to the core that I'm really gone because it's made her realise that SHE isn't special. I just wish it hadn't taken me half my life to realise it.
Hello are stories are close you sound so strong. Although I have been NC and off social media I just heard she is engaged only after year of discard and I am blocked. Anyway are stories are similar and unfortunately I lost everyone close to me. We worked together and unfortunately starting to think old friends are happy for her even though they witnessed her destruction of me. Long story short was wondering if you called text me. Just having difficulty. I actually to someone I hate my life. 😢
@weird_al77 I want to applaud you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience in the comments. You did a great job expressing your thoughts in a fluent manner that felt like I was reading different chapters of your life. Thanks for breaking each point into paragraphs so it didn't come off as ranting, but a healthy emotional release of a life learned lesson from a difficult experience. I can definitely relate to a lot of things in your story and sometimes it does feel like wasted time. But I believe God's Timing is Perfect and it's never too late to learn from your setback and make way for a grand comeback. Their loss and now someone else's gain. Keep sharing your experience with others on their journey and be truly blessed and happy in all you do in life!
This is so true. I just got out of a relationship exactly like this. The last two years of a seven-year relationship were absolute hell for me-constant ghosting, manipulation, and emotional chaos. By what felt like divine intervention, I stumbled across her journal. In it, she admitted she was planning to leave me as soon as her compensation case was finalized. She felt trapped, worried I’d expose her because I knew firsthand her entire claim was fabricated. That never sat right with me, but I ignored it. During those last two years, her interest in me steadily declined. Messages became delayed, rushed, and she’d push me out the door on Sundays so she could have her space. The only time she showed real attention was when she needed something-whether it was help with shopping, appointments, or housework. The biggest red flag? She nearly ended things when I was asked to help out at a location next to her house for four weeks. She completely freaked out when I suggested staying at her place during that time, insisting I stay at my own unit. It was obvious she had someone else lined up. I had unknowingly become her "handbag"-only there when she needed something. In the last few months of our relationship, I started confronting her red flags. I pointed out how she only wanted me around when I could help, how the intimacy had faded, and especially the lies about her compensation case. Then, on September 28, 2024, she ghosted me again, but this time I didn’t chase after her. I stood my ground and did exactly what this video advises: I ignored her. I made a post on Facebook, indirectly venting about how loyalty only seems to matter when you're needed, and how it disappears when you’re no longer useful. Within an hour, she tried contacting me. I ignored the calls and texts. Now she’s in panic mode. She’s saying she just wants to be friends and isn’t romantically attracted to me anymore, but that I shouldn't be angry with her. She knows that I know the truth about her fraudulent case and that if she cuts ties completely, I could expose her. Honestly, I’m not fully healed yet. This was the first time I ever fell in love with a narcissist, and I was so blinded by love that I didn’t see how much I was being used. But now, I’ve learned, and I want others to recognize these signs before it’s too late.
Thank you. I love it when you say: when you’re done! You’re not coming back. I have reached that threshold. That’s it ! When you’re done, you’re done ! That’s it - you’re not coming back! Oh - thank you! So clear ! So powerful ! Celebration time has come! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🍾🥳🍾🎊🍾🎊🍾!
This is me trying to recover and protect myself from an entire family of Narcissists!. This is making me think I’m the Narcissist because that’s how they’re all treating me!
Narcissistic people never apologize, unless it's a backhanded apology to guilt trip you to think it's your fault for their disrespect and bad behavior, cause Narcissists can't deal with accountability, cause nothing is their fault. That's why they project and then gaslight you and throw the spotlight on you while they slither away like a snake 🐍 into the shadows and leave you exposed. I know this cause my mom was a Narcissist and I've dealt with all these things. Narcissistic people are overwhelmingly frustrating and confusing people who steal everything including your peace and then they lie all the time. 💯
Yea I had never heard of narcissism before, so I was blind when I met this beautiful girl. I thought it seemed kinda weird how fast we moved, very early on she was telling me how much she loved me and wanted to marry me and everything else I wanted to hear. I'm 53 years old so I thought I was the luckiest mo fo on earth. I was married for 27 years and at the time I had been divorced for 4 years. But oh yea i found out all about narcissistic people and how there evil people. God bless everyone out there. Be careful who you meet.
Just felt the wrath of a narcissistic women recently too! Wildest 3 weeks of my life. Hopefully she leave me alone after I return her items she left at mine. The worst thing is they make themselves appear to be the kind of person that you want to invest in emotionally, then when you do, they attack your emotions and have studied enough about you to say things that will hurt/ cut deep. Stay safe kings, lots of crazy in this world!!
@@realdeal8225 exactly bro. We were together for 7 months. She moved in an the whole thing. So yes I know exactly what you mean. I went no contact like everyone advices. She tried to contact me a couple times but I did not respond. Haven't heard from in 5 months. God bless you bro.
Thank you for the video. My ex- narcissist gf is coping hard. She's still trying to call me every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day! She's probably trying to hoover. But I blocked her. I'm so glad to get out of that toxic relationship. 💚
This is what my narc ex is saying about me...I keep trying to call him because he flunked with my mind and heart and I want to have my say and shout at him for his disgusting treatment of me...
@@jillevans4586 don’t call or text about how he made you feel. That just gives them more power. He probably will ignore or may not respond which will cause you more pain. The best remedy with these individuals is to forgive yourself, take any accountability that needs to be taken and block them. I never knew how much relief would come after blocking a narcissist.
Walked away from the cheating, lying narc ex in April And went no contact straight away, played all the tricks in this video, 4 hoovering attempts and I rejected each one…..I think she now knows not to try again as she cannot face another rejection as rejection is her worst fear.
Thank you for this video, Anoushka. I had a hard day today after months of doing well. It was a like a ghost neural network trying to re-ignite all over a single bad memory. Oh my, healing is like layers of an onion. I will not give up, I will keep doing the work. Great video, you are a literal God-send.
Im so sorry to hear that you had a hard day yesterday. Yes the journey is up and down, but there is healing that will happen. It is exactly like an onion but keep moving forward, for you. And in the process you will discover new parts of you 😊
@@anoushkamarcin thank you so much for the encouragement, I take it to heart! I have really been enjoying your lives, you are right, great vibes. I missed yesterday though and felt the absence. Going to try to attend regularly bc it helps so much. Have a good day!
Thank you for what you’re doing Anoushka. I’ve been going through hell with a narcissist and didn’t know what to do. The algorithm gifted me you and similar videos and gave me a community I feel valued in and given me my power back. I’ve went full no contact as hard as it was and eventually my abuser reached out to me with flying monkeys. I stood strong watched hours of your and similar content and refused to bite. It resulted in her throwing a tantrum and threatened my life in a text message. I reported it to the police and asked for her to stop and delete my number and never contact me again. The police didn’t take me seriously and actually felt like they sided with her. I felt lost ashamed and alone. So I came back to these videos and again found comfort solitude and peace. A week later the next flying monkey appeared, the new jealous supply. After continued drunk drug fuelled classless, low life, degenerate harassment from them now both I again contacted the police. This time they’re taking it seriously and her actions and your videos and help have allowed me to see her for who she truly is, what I can expect and what I need to continue doing. A community gives us strength and I value you and the help you provide. Thanks for showing me my true value.
Most people who have been with a narc will experience flying monkeys. These flying monkeys are narcs themselves (misery loves company) or they manipulated these people with a certain narrative. You are bad blah blah and they are good. Police don't do anything. I had proof too of stalking (videos and pictures) they still didn't do anything. Mind you, I have been in no contact from the so called ex for 12 years. Moved on with my life, yet the gang stalking never stopped. I learned about their behaviour. I will recommend you reading a book called NO Contact from H G. Tudor. He is a self aware narcissist and revealed all the secrets behind their behaviour. Relationships he has used his tactics with and why he used it.
So true that the narcissists make us hate them. I hate my ex and will never return to the devil. He cheated, lied, abandoned me with many silent treatments then had the nerve to ghost me. Even wort he popped up after ghosting me and I did not give him the chance to hoover me. I walked away and never going back because I dispise him after he ghosted me. I hope he rots in hell.
I lasted 7 months in this toxic relationship. Thought the world of her. Just couldn’t take it any more. Such a one sided relationship. Doesn’t know the meaning of reciprocity. So difficult to walk away and not have contact with her. One of the hardest things I have done. It’s been 6 weeks and she still tries to contact me. It’s very difficult. This series of videos helps along with all the comments. Thanks.
What did it take for you to get a divorce from your Narc My narc won't even sign the papers and keep running back in forth from Nevada to Minnesota. I really want out of the marriage. Please help me if you could. Thanks in advance..
This has answered so many little nagging questions that have been lingering as I've been listening, learning and reflecting on my own experiences with narcissists. My arsenal is now complete and I am galvanized. Thank you!
Ideally, don't get that far into a relationship with them in the first place, I was lucky, the last one that tried to reel me wasn't very successful. I wasn't much attracted to her and noticed some silly things she was telling when we first met, so I didn't get attached much. The insincere mirroring and love bombs should also make you suspicious than anything else, stroking your ego, but you should really be keeping your guard up.
@@anoushkamarcin No need to apologize, since it's your not at fault, I grew up with people like this around me, didn't understand when I was a kid, but I do now. She gave so many clues away, trying to hurt me and make me jealous was a major one, she even looked at my face to check how I was reacting - it's deliberate, didn't work, all it did was she me what kind of person she really is. Your right, run away, get out of dodge ASAP!!!!!!
They sure do jump to the next person, within days if they hadn’t been grooming someone behind your back. Where as we take massive timeouts from relationships after our experience to self reflect and learn more about how to better ourselves. They learn more manipulative tactics through us, unbeknownst to us.
@@LovingLightx I had women trying to mess with me while I was going through all that and still married. It was flattering but made me feel sick due to the fact that they knew I was married. I waited awhile to start hanging out with the other sex again and when I did, it still felt wrong, even though I was single. I honestly don't think I'll ever get married again.
@@LovingLightx when the truth came out about who she is, she then went out and got herself a nice DUI with my last name attached to it. Good times. Forgive me if I don't care about that level of relationship anymore.
My ex, after I told him I needed him to leave, so I can heal. As he was packing his truck, he actually said, "I don't even understand what's happening right now." It's amazing how little they actually realize what they've done. Maybe it's pretense, but he actually seemed confused.
While very painful, that's literally the best outcome. I have such mixed emotions, on one hand I'm just waiting for her to call me back, on the other hand I never want to see her again.
While very painful, that's literally the best outcome. I have such mixed emotions, on one hand I'm just waiting for her to call me back, on the other hand I never want to see her again.
Just can't be with them the constant up's and down's the lack of intimacy the lack of understanding the friendship's they keep, the silence the lies, the deception none of these build healthy relationship's so why would any healthy minded person want to live in this messy unruly destructive relationship time to let go and let God deal with it. God hold's the Power and the Glory In God I Trust God can break the chain's that bind us hallelujah amen ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏✨
Deception, lack of intimacy, lies, silent treatments and other punishments, gaslighting, projecting their insecurities and bad behaviour, triangulation
I am so done with Mr Gemini. He cannot break me though he has tried desperately hard to destroy me. Jog on with your side pieces, no more lies and you cannot steal from me anymore. I am walking to freedom and peace
I gave 38 years and have lost my children. I am so grateful I found God and now I'm fully awake. Imagine trying to say sorry for manipulating your babies you carried for 9 months and taking them out of your life. I am far too good for him! Thank you Anoushka, difficult to listen to but well worth it.
I was done anyway but the final nail in the coffin was when the police turned up at my front door in a dawn raid because he'd been looking at child 🌽 😢😢 Im so gutted and disgusted
So then they're just going to eat, drink and be merry toast up party. Go to the next club, go to the next event and just try to forget about you because they'll be around a lot of beautiful people, handsome guys or beautiful ladies and that's the way they call themselves. Not thinking about you anymore. But meanwhile they do have to get some quiet and alone time and that's when you come across their head and then that's when they got to do that drug or the drinking or eating to fill that void. But believe me they're hurting somewhere. We just don't see it
Their biggest mistake is presuming you never had a breaking point , let alone the strength to ever walk ! You instantly get downgraded to NOTHING ! Everything you ever shared is written off , and you are the new public enemy number one . They will begin the smear and seek revenge . Luckily other people aren't QUITE as easily fooled , and will see through their hate campaign , helped in part by the ever growing awareness of NPD ! ❤💪💋
Yeah they're like you're done. You're done. You're done. You know they want you dead😢 And so many women go through domestic violence and don't make it through. I was stalked by my ex-husband. It was so scary. I disappeared, changed my last name and try to make another that he still showed up and at my door and found me. I went to a shelter. He still managed to call me. He use another woman's voice act like she was my sister and then he got on the phone. And oh my gosh that terrified me and I didn't want to tell my family everywhere. I turned it feel like you was showing up because he remembered all the places that we used to go together so he would show up there. So now you have to change everything you do so you don't even see this person. If you're in the same city with them. I mean this gets so satanic and it's unbelievable. It's like a damn movie. It's just sickening
Once you have GONE from them. Remember you are in control. Narcs are the one who actively look for supply. They always are the one to go to people because they NEED people. Don't blame yourself if you keep going back. You need to actually be at a point within yourself when THIS time it's too much (worse than before) so I'm off and done. You need to SAVE yourself because you can. They can't and won't change.
This is so true. In the end, the moment will come where they overplay their hand and you will break. And that’s it. GAME OVER. And if you go back for round 10000000000000 it’s on you
Finally got my first actual crush post narc abuse cycle. I still need to talk to my therapist to see if I should pursue it just yet but honestly I'm ready to ask this person to have a rice bowl or something with me and just talk for about 30-60 mins and see how we vibe, and I'm prepared to accept no for an answer as well. I guess I'm moving on with my life. They wanna meet new people for new supply, and I wanna meet new people to form healthy connections and make friends and maybe have a healthy romantic relationship.
Well well well. She is now creating fake accounts to stalk me and then deletes em when I don't answer them immediately. I realize her power over me was xesual.nothing else. I'm at another level now and she lost control over me. There must be women who can love and not use and abuse.
Bang on this is what my son is going thou me as a dad it really stresses me out what she has done to him I love my 2 boys I brought them up on my own as a single dad and did t want to see him like this it breaks my heart and she couldn’t care less a bout him just what she can get narcissis are nasty people who only care a bout them slef
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a nightmare and my dad was stressed out when I was going through the same thing. I hope everything works out for all of you, so you can heal
A friend of mine pointed out how manipulative this girl was, so I started manipulating her to unfold the cards, little by little. In the end I triggered her when she realised I had her figured out. Mind you, I knew this person for years, so there were nice moments and I used to care for her. I went nuclear on her, the other day because I snapped after 3 months since she unblocked me. She tried to test the ground 10 months after the discard, so I exposed her. Don't recommend it. It can escalate.
Does anyone else's ignore you days at a time like a punishment or play the victim. When you try to discuss how they make you feel this person just makes it seem like your crazy or a bad person for feeling hurt when your put last or they stay on the phone but you seem to be bothering them ?
First person that treated my kids like that mattered so it hurts alittle extra... now I mean he doesn't show them or anyone what he shows me . Everyone thinks he's this great man who helps others , he's kicked me out every home I tried to make it work with him in. I never have been the type to let someone talk to me crazy but I'm always the one saying sorry putting in effort to show him he will tell me rude things but never says it nicely and he swears it's him just being honest and he did nothing wrong he doesn't even think how i feel when he speaks seeing me cry doesn't phase him he act like I'm so sensitive to everything ,I am a woman but then calls me manly in the sane breathe. IM NOT SURE IF HE IS A NARCISSIST OR WHAT . I need helps to understand
When someone's fantasy is destroyed, and they're forced to face reality, it can lead to unpredictable and even dangerous behavior. For some, clinging to illusions feels safer than accepting the truth, and when that illusion shatters, they may lash out in frustration or denial. It's crucial to protect yourself in these situations. Maintain strong boundaries, stay grounded, and prioritize your safety-both emotionally and physically. Not every battle is yours to fight, and sometimes the best move is to step back and let them confront their reality on their own terms.
You are right no matter how bad theyve done to you they have the strength to tell you you will never forget them...thats frue I will never forget her and what she had done to me If I forget I will allow her to come back. We forgive them but never forget.
I’m @ my breaking point & I am finally DONE DONE ! 11 years wasted of my life. I actually gave him so many chances to CHANGE & I WASTED my BEST years on him. Sadly we have a child & he’s already manipulating her .
I have a criminal protection order against my ex husband of 31 yrs for assaulting me Dec 5th . I kicked him out immediately and filed for divorce 6 days later. He couldn’t respect a regular restraining order. Called 58 times, 326 texts and showed up at the door 4 times. I got hi for intimidation. I’ve been divorced for 2 months yesterday. We have a family together. It’s been very difficult but I’m happier than I have been in a long time. I’ve been incredibly ill for a decade and I’m regaining my health ❤
Thank you, so much I got a better understanding of how these people think and it unfortunate because they are causing people so much harm. I just want to thank you again, because I truly believe that pain shared is pain lesson.
I know a person that left a narcissist because of a family situation,and 4 days later the narcissist started a relationship with a woman they met in a bar,And would call the x daily when new women wasn’t aware,assuring his love but just wanted to see where this new relationship goes so hang there until I come home st
When my ex narcissistic monster realised they lost in trying to get away with stealing wealth 👀 gang stalked began. the death spells began.. paid a gang to off me.. when all this failed.. they tried to get back... and God Said No, Not a Chance in hell.. I will stay single until true love comes my way 🤗 Amen 🙏🏾✝️🙊🌹❤️💛💚
Shes now starting to accuse me of sexual abuse of our 6 year old, since now I dont react when provoked, answer her calls or texts unless a direct q about our son, and ive lost 50lbs in 3 years, bought a house while she is still in the divorce apt I pay for via child support and alimony. Alimony ends in Jan. Yipee!
@j.r.134 thanks! Its gotten much better. No contact, no reaction works. Got to let go and no, no is coming to save you, and been miserable, doesnt help. It takes time, exercise, healthy eating, and forgiveness to free yourself from the parasite that colonized your mind. Happy new year
Nothing could be more accurate than the fact the she spoke about in the video that as soon as we start to move forward and let go of them, they come back or atleast try to hoover and become someone as 1% good and this has happened with me many times and I got back in. As soon as I started my life well, stopped thinking about that person and was okay with my life, she popped up like a notification 😂 and this happened 2-3 times but now we haven’t been talking for 2 months and she’s giving me silent treatment and I’m also at distance…
@@michelledale3334 she has many supplies I know some of them personally but this time I confronted her and it was badddd😂 it hit her so hard that maybe that’s why she’s not coming forward lol
I'm done,I think he knows it,he got released from hospital showed out with nurses not wanting to wait on wheel chair,9 days in hospital getting heart surgery was to long for him, blamed me,I took him home wanted to unpack for him and clean his house,he told me No and to leave his house,I called him that night and txt no answer,that was last Friday, haven't called or txt him since,i do wanna know how he doing,but im sticking to my dision,i will not call him to check on him,he got to call me first
I’m still around , I’ll see what will be , I’m learning and keep my eyes open . But anything will happen I’m ready . It’s a sad thing that the end is not I’m expecting for . I’m hanging around , I still feel that connection in him . He said one time someone must give in . So he is playing game and will see .
A few months after the narc discarded me and threw me away while spending every waking moment with the new/old supply, he said "you never asked me to cone back, not once." I told him why would I you have wanted this for many many years so I am giving you your out. I don't know what he thought was going to happen after he abandoned me. Like you said, the threshold was reached. The train ride through bizarre-o-world needed to stop so I could atleast tuck and roll.💩
@@JanetMitchell-y8i unbelievable for him to say that!!! What goes through their minds?? Mine said similar, I walked away due to her cheating and lying and she said I was so cold to her when she reached out the first time…….what did she honestly expect??!!! They think you will just sweep it under the carpet and it’s all forgotten
1000% Truth. I had a woman so I believe out of 6mnths hassle Me for No meet. Yet all she wanted to do was text. Went from free spirit love bombing to one word communication. 2brief. phone calls. and whispers. I showed up to meet and geuse what ? excuse to no meet.
Oh no! They ain't got to look for new people. They already made so many new friends when they were in a relationship with you and so when you weren't around people saw you two together. So then he talked about you like oh she's giving me problems or he's giving me problems. But I'm just trying to hang in there for the family or you know whatever excuse he's trying to use that he's saying I'm hanging in there with her. But if I find somebody better you know you know what I mean. Maybe me and you could talk. You know. Can I get your number. And then that's how the other person gets sucked in and he has so many or she has so many old friends that their bedroom buddies so they're sleeping around with them when he's sick of you and that's that's what they do. I'm telling you so it's just roundy aroundy dosey doe just a foolish game and never grown up and it's just pathetic
They start a nasty argument to cause a breakup so they can get with someone they’ve been wanting to be with. When they’re done they expect to just come right back to you while claiming they are not a cheater so they aren’t a total dog.
and then they try to project total dog back onto you yes
(am so done with angry toxic person)
and for that reason i am out
They be trying to pull you back into that dynamic but that dynamic is pure poison ...go no contact...run
Yess they do🎉NO MO
That's perfect what mine did. And for them it's completely normal. Meanwhile u can't get your head around what they did and how they go about it...
That's exactly what happened... It's evil.
This happens at least 3 times a day. I need help
When we are upset with their behaviour, they never take us seriously. They only realise we were serious when we are gone. It's bizzare.
And also make you feel guilty and at fault for being upset
Yup
A child will always realize they can't have candy once the shop is closed
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When you first meet them, you allow them into your life but they have withheld tons of information about their heinous nature and past victims. So it's easier for them to get in the door the first time. Later they may get back in due to a trauma bond. But if your eyes open to who they really are you will never allow them access to you again.
No contact with my ex narc. Blocked my phone number & social media
People of the Lie
Mask of Sanity
It just gets worse if you get back with them. It sends them a message they have control over you.
I agree with this 100%. The understanding of this is such an important part of healing.
Actually, some of them upfront tell you all of their red flags. Mine surely did
I really was fooled into believing he was the one.I was blind to see it for what it really was and im still in shock .
😢
You dodged a bullet ........ in the long run
Now I realise everything that's happened to me, I'm absolutely hurting bad.I was in an abusive relationship before but now it's happened again. It's actually worse being abused by a narcissist than the relationship before which was more violent. Because a narcissist hides it all whereas the other abuse didn't hide anything.
@@lisafalcone603 I know exactly how you feel. I'll say a prayer for you. God bless you.
Same here but I had a terrible feeling in the pit of my stomach
Will never ignore my intuition again
Spent almost 2 years with this lying cheating manipulator MONSTER
I lasted 4months with my girlfriend narcissist, never heard of a narcissist before and Im 68 years old, still learning about women, I think I will just stay single.
I have heard that around the 3 month mark that you can start seeing who they really are more easily.
@@persiamotorman Some are better than others wearing the mask.
4 months here too 😂
There's a lot of great people out there. You only live once.. I've read 5% of people have some sort of this crazy problem though.. if they can't take a no let them go..❤
This nation is full of misogynists so I don't believe that men are victims of women or children personally except in very few cases and if the man is a misogynist he got what he gave. Just my opinion however 😊
Imagine someone who has always been confident in his ability to control other people's feelings, suddenly faced with the harsh reality that his grip on them has been lost, forever.
Its so sad when there is a strong love for a person and you know its not going to work.
The person you love doesn't exist in the first place.
@@Stedemnwhy not mate
@@JoshuaOliphant-k1y because they have given you a false persona that you fell in love with. It's not really them.
There is no love with a fake. He or she
Is not who you think they are. You fell in love with a fraud.
Narcissists love control /manipulation, as a Sigma male I spotted it straight away. Insecurity is the root cause of this behaviour.
It's exhausting and stressful , silence stops them dead in their tracks.
Throwing a tantrum is childlike behaviour. All they want is a financial provider and a servant to do all the chores.
What is a sigma male?
I'm 54 and I never realized what a narcissist was. This video really gave me insight and closer. I was in an awful relationship for maybe a year. Everything she's saying is spot on. I'm so glad I'm not with him anymore. Now I'm with someone who truly loves me and treats me with respect. We've been together for 17 years 😊
"As a sigma male" what does that mean?
Wrigt" sigma male" in youtube,so you know.
Absolute Facts
6 months later and my nervous system is just starting to get back to baseline. My weight and appetite is coming back as well. It's shocking how much her behavior had on my overall health.
The anxiety attacks and the love bombing every time u had enough plays on ur mental and ur nervous system..
I've been narc free for 8 years keep going trust me it gets better. You will be better the 3rd version of you will be the best version, because now you will see narcissist from a far.
Trauma can be a great teacher. The lesson you have learned will help you in the future.
NO CONTACT FOREVER NO MATTER WHAT💪💪💪💪💪🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Going on 13 years no contact 💪🏼💯
Me me me I am done he made me hate him 🤪🤪🤪 now I’m working on repairing my nervous system!
Good, so pleased to hear you are putting yourself first and repairing your nervous system 😊
@@Namelessly554 I'll say a prayer for you. God bless you.
@@DannySainz-o4g thank you
Same here😢
Yes🎉Dont EVER LOOK BK
185 days demon free!
Well done! For me, the first 7-8 days were the absolute worse. As a man I felt like lying on the floor and just crying all day. Then I started to feel better when I began to listen to various other experiences from people all over the world from UA-cam and podcasts. Its amazing how they seem to be reading from the same book these narcissists. Thank God I'm free from her manipulative, lying, ways. and I learned a lot about myself as well.
@@desborneoneil2375 Thank you! That's great you are on the other side too! 🩷🙏
They are indeed Demons. No joke. They are filles w Malevolence
@@desborneoneil2375MAY THE DIVINE FORCE MAY BE WITH YOU JEDi !
You are already strong, the path is difficult but transfer the pain energy on masculine energy. Gym, learn, earn, invest. ❤
2 months, proud of me 😎
Bro, I know exactly how you feel... I've totally lost any hope to be in a real loving relationship. I've lost faith in humanity. Life has changed drastically in general for everyone and their mindset. I wish I knew about Narcissistic behavior earlier. I missed all the bright red flags. Be well
I felt that way too. I was gonna just stay single. Finally found the right one! I wish I knew before now that he was a narcissist. Good luck 👍
After you leave they will try everything to get you back and if it doesn’t work, then they will try to take your life.
I’ve survived it. My mother didn’t.
Run far away
This is the actual truth!!! I experienced it, myself!!! I'm so thankful God helped me out of that insanity 🙏 🙌 ❤🎉
Di the person involved with your mom stalk her before taking her life?
@@crystalclimenhage7159 She was a neighbor that lived across the street from us.
Man your so right she invited me over one night then when I arrived ignored my phone calls and then calls the cops and tells them she thinks someone is trying to break in and she’s in fear for her life and luckily the cops who arrived weren’t trigger happy assholes and once I showed them the text messages I filled her story full of holes they ended being upset with her and let me walk away and that was my sign this woman was willing to endanger my life … survivor here aswell blind sided by this I’ve never dealt with someone like that ever in my life but I’ll just let Karma do its thing atleast I’m finally free !
Sounded like was way committed to the relationship that you were to me🤷♂️
This is very true for me.
My narc was my childhood sweetheart. I know now she was never who I thought she was, she was an abusive cheat and a liar, but when you're young and in love you're blind. I built my whole life round her, we had the big white wedding, bought a house, started trying for kids. But life wasn't perfect and neither was I, I began to struggle a bit after a suicide in my family and a few other things, fell into a depression and wasn't being the perfect husband. So instead of trying to get through it with me, she just found someone else, kicked me out (on the anniversary of the suicide, no less), moved him in and carried on as if nothing had happened, smear campaign to cover her tracks, the whole works. I lost everything. It utterly destroyed me, I felt like my whole life was just worth nothing.
I knew there was no way back once I discovered the affair so I went and filed for divorce, then arranged to go and see her to speak about what would happen next. It was all very civil when we spoke, but I worked out quite quickly that she didn't believe I had really seen a lawyer. Over the course of the conversation, she slowly realised I was serious, and when I stood up to leave, she stood in front of the door, burst into tears and said "this isn't what I want. I don't want you to go." It broke my heart to do it, but I told her it was too late and left. In the weeks that followed, she discarded everything we'd agreed and became as unreasonable as possible, which eventually cost her thousands in the settlement - I had pretty much given her everything but because of how she was acting I went no contact and told my lawyer to take what I was entitled to. She didn't want a smooth divorce, she wanted to fight. I couldn't understand it at the time.
Years later, just after she had remarried the man she left me for (her new soul mate) and had 2 kids, she suddenly showed up in my life and broke down again. "I've dug myself into such a hole I don't know how to get out of it." Then, another few years later, she phoned me out of the blue late one night and asked... well, practically told me to take her back. I said no. She slammed the phone down, went back to him and is still there. She's tried to wheedle her way back in a few times since, but I'm totally no-contact now. Last I heard from her was 2016. I'm 46 now, single, no kids, I've pretty much wasted my whole life on this person and I'm still not properly over it.
It's taken me a long time and it's hard to grasp, because when she left she did such a good job of destroying me and making me feel utterly worthless, but I've slowly started to make sense of it. She thought she could do what she wanted and I would always be there. She thought having an open affair would make me snap out of it and become the husband she wanted. When she realised that wasn't the case, she wasn't capable of admitting she'd done something terrible or apologising. The only thing she could do was try to cause more pain in the hope of getting a reaction. When she didn't get it, she went further. Then further. It sounds terrible but I think even her kids and her marriage were a big part of that "hole" she dug for herself. She really thought at some point she would push far enough and I'd come back.
Not that I think I was "special" to her. It's just that she can't stand that I walked away. She thought I couldn't live without her and I'd do anything to keep her, no matter how badly she treated me, and it's cut her to the core that I'm really gone because it's made her realise that SHE isn't special. I just wish it hadn't taken me half my life to realise it.
👍👍👍
Hello are stories are close you sound so strong. Although I have been NC and off social media I just heard she is engaged only after year of discard and I am blocked. Anyway are stories are similar and unfortunately I lost everyone close to me. We worked together and unfortunately starting to think old friends are happy for her even though they witnessed her destruction of me. Long story short was wondering if you called text me. Just having difficulty. I actually to someone I hate my life. 😢
You are lucky 🍀 she didn't drive you to suicide..
Wow I’m at a loss for words I hope you get everything you deserve she never deserved you in the first place well she made her bed let her lie in it
@weird_al77 I want to applaud you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience in the comments. You did a great job expressing your thoughts in a fluent manner that felt like I was reading different chapters of your life. Thanks for breaking each point into paragraphs so it didn't come off as ranting, but a healthy emotional release of a life learned lesson from a difficult experience.
I can definitely relate to a lot of things in your story and sometimes it does feel like wasted time. But I believe God's Timing is Perfect and it's never too late to learn from your setback and make way for a grand comeback. Their loss and now someone else's gain. Keep sharing your experience with others on their journey and be truly blessed and happy in all you do in life!
Hope after 4 months of no contact, he already realised i wont coming back never...❤
This is so true. I just got out of a relationship exactly like this. The last two years of a seven-year relationship were absolute hell for me-constant ghosting, manipulation, and emotional chaos. By what felt like divine intervention, I stumbled across her journal. In it, she admitted she was planning to leave me as soon as her compensation case was finalized. She felt trapped, worried I’d expose her because I knew firsthand her entire claim was fabricated. That never sat right with me, but I ignored it.
During those last two years, her interest in me steadily declined. Messages became delayed, rushed, and she’d push me out the door on Sundays so she could have her space. The only time she showed real attention was when she needed something-whether it was help with shopping, appointments, or housework. The biggest red flag? She nearly ended things when I was asked to help out at a location next to her house for four weeks. She completely freaked out when I suggested staying at her place during that time, insisting I stay at my own unit. It was obvious she had someone else lined up. I had unknowingly become her "handbag"-only there when she needed something.
In the last few months of our relationship, I started confronting her red flags. I pointed out how she only wanted me around when I could help, how the intimacy had faded, and especially the lies about her compensation case. Then, on September 28, 2024, she ghosted me again, but this time I didn’t chase after her. I stood my ground and did exactly what this video advises: I ignored her. I made a post on Facebook, indirectly venting about how loyalty only seems to matter when you're needed, and how it disappears when you’re no longer useful. Within an hour, she tried contacting me. I ignored the calls and texts.
Now she’s in panic mode. She’s saying she just wants to be friends and isn’t romantically attracted to me anymore, but that I shouldn't be angry with her. She knows that I know the truth about her fraudulent case and that if she cuts ties completely, I could expose her. Honestly, I’m not fully healed yet. This was the first time I ever fell in love with a narcissist, and I was so blinded by love that I didn’t see how much I was being used. But now, I’ve learned, and I want others to recognize these signs before it’s too late.
Thank you. I love it when you say: when you’re done! You’re not coming back.
I have reached that threshold.
That’s it !
When you’re done, you’re done !
That’s it - you’re not coming back!
Oh - thank you! So clear ! So powerful ! Celebration time has come! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🍾🥳🍾🎊🍾🎊🍾!
This is me trying to recover and protect myself from an entire family of Narcissists!.
This is making me think I’m the Narcissist because that’s how they’re all treating me!
Narcissistic people never apologize, unless it's a backhanded apology to guilt trip you to think it's your fault for their disrespect and bad behavior, cause Narcissists can't deal with accountability, cause nothing is their fault. That's why they project and then gaslight you and throw the spotlight on you while they slither away like a snake 🐍 into the shadows and leave you exposed. I know this cause my mom was a Narcissist and I've dealt with all these things. Narcissistic people are overwhelmingly frustrating and confusing people who steal everything including your peace and then they lie all the time. 💯
Yea I had never heard of narcissism before, so I was blind when I met this beautiful girl. I thought it seemed kinda weird how fast we moved, very early on she was telling me how much she loved me and wanted to marry me and everything else I wanted to hear. I'm 53 years old so I thought I was the luckiest mo fo on earth. I was married for 27 years and at the time I had been divorced for 4 years. But oh yea i found out all about narcissistic people and how there evil people.
God bless everyone out there. Be careful who you meet.
Just felt the wrath of a narcissistic women recently too! Wildest 3 weeks of my life. Hopefully she leave me alone after I return her items she left at mine.
The worst thing is they make themselves appear to be the kind of person that you want to invest in emotionally, then when you do, they attack your emotions and have studied enough about you to say things that will hurt/ cut deep.
Stay safe kings, lots of crazy in this world!!
@@realdeal8225 exactly bro. We were together for 7 months. She moved in an the whole thing. So yes I know exactly what you mean. I went no contact like everyone advices. She tried to contact me a couple times but I did not respond. Haven't heard from in 5 months. God bless you bro.
@@DannySainz-o4gGood for you!!! You nipped it in the bud!!!
Yep they will chew you up and spit you out like used gum
@@realdeal8225oh there horrible aren't they
Thank you for the video. My ex- narcissist gf is coping hard. She's still trying to call me every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day! She's probably trying to hoover. But I blocked her. I'm so glad to get out of that toxic relationship. 💚
This is what my narc ex is saying about me...I keep trying to call him because he flunked with my mind and heart and I want to have my say and shout at him for his disgusting treatment of me...
@@jillevans4586 Stop calling him. It feeds his ego.
@@jillevans4586 don’t call or text about how he made you feel. That just gives them more power. He probably will ignore or may not respond which will cause you more pain. The best remedy with these individuals is to forgive yourself, take any accountability that needs to be taken and block them. I never knew how much relief would come after blocking a narcissist.
I realised after 10 yrs😕love makes us blind.
Yes
Me too.😢
I'd say it's more attachment makes us blind.
Walked away from the cheating, lying narc ex in April
And went no contact straight away, played all the tricks in this video, 4 hoovering attempts and I rejected each one…..I think she now knows not to try again as she cannot face another rejection as rejection is her worst fear.
It is
Was it a trans women? It's extremely rare for a biological female to abuse a male in a misogynistic society
I wish mine narcissist finally get it that there is no return, he is obsessively stalking me for years
@@MatrixofLife stay safe
@@TimJeffries-b2j thanks
I think she is finally done with me ! THE END ! her ego was beyond massive. great vid.
🚺 narcs are like buses ........
Thank christ
Thank you for this video, Anoushka. I had a hard day today after months of doing well. It was a like a ghost neural network trying to re-ignite all over a single bad memory. Oh my, healing is like layers of an onion. I will not give up, I will keep doing the work. Great video, you are a literal God-send.
Healing is not linear and it takes time. God will give you the victory ✌
@@ParalegalSolutions-b3y thank you so much for this reminder; I believe and receive this for sure ❤
Im so sorry to hear that you had a hard day yesterday. Yes the journey is up and down, but there is healing that will happen. It is exactly like an onion but keep moving forward, for you. And in the process you will discover new parts of you 😊
@@anoushkamarcin thank you so much for the encouragement, I take it to heart! I have really been enjoying your lives, you are right, great vibes. I missed yesterday though and felt the absence. Going to try to attend regularly bc it helps so much. Have a good day!
It happens in business also. They retaliate when they can’t use and abuse you anymore
They don't know love. They only know punishment.
Absolutely a man-child
Family is one reason ,build Narc and dark empaht
True, very sad😢
@tsholofthat not trueelohuma7496
@@KathleenLambert-jz3fl so true!! Mine said he will train me one way or another.
True…my ex thought I’d never leave him. Finally did 3 years ago. He is still a POS and lies all the time. So glad I’m out!
Thank you for what you’re doing Anoushka. I’ve been going through hell with a narcissist and didn’t know what to do. The algorithm gifted me you and similar videos and gave me a community I feel valued in and given me my power back. I’ve went full no contact as hard as it was and eventually my abuser reached out to me with flying monkeys. I stood strong watched hours of your and similar content and refused to bite. It resulted in her throwing a tantrum and threatened my life in a text message. I reported it to the police and asked for her to stop and delete my number and never contact me again. The police didn’t take me seriously and actually felt like they sided with her. I felt lost ashamed and alone. So I came back to these videos and again found comfort solitude and peace. A week later the next flying monkey appeared, the new jealous supply. After continued drunk drug fuelled classless, low life, degenerate harassment from them now both I again contacted the police. This time they’re taking it seriously and her actions and your videos and help have allowed me to see her for who she truly is, what I can expect and what I need to continue doing.
A community gives us strength and I value you and the help you provide. Thanks for showing me my true value.
Most people who have been with a narc will experience flying monkeys. These flying monkeys are narcs themselves (misery loves company) or they manipulated these people with a certain narrative. You are bad blah blah and they are good. Police don't do anything. I had proof too of stalking (videos and pictures) they still didn't do anything. Mind you, I have been in no contact from the so called ex for 12 years. Moved on with my life, yet the gang stalking never stopped. I learned about their behaviour. I will recommend you reading a book called NO Contact from H G. Tudor. He is a self aware narcissist and revealed all the secrets behind their behaviour. Relationships he has used his tactics with and why he used it.
So true that the narcissists make us hate them. I hate my ex and will never return to the devil. He cheated, lied, abandoned me with many silent treatments then had the nerve to ghost me. Even wort he popped up after ghosting me and I did not give him the chance to hoover me. I walked away and never going back because I dispise him after he ghosted me. I hope he rots in hell.
Mine made me hate him to, I'm trying to get past that. I'm sure they will rot in hell 👿👹🤡💩
KP YA HD UP QUEEN
Maybe you hate them bc your a narcissist to.
I lasted 7 months in this toxic relationship. Thought the world of her. Just couldn’t take it any more. Such a one sided relationship. Doesn’t know the meaning of reciprocity. So difficult to walk away and not have contact with her. One of the hardest things I have done. It’s been 6 weeks and she still tries to contact me. It’s very difficult. This series of videos helps along with all the comments. Thanks.
The confusion of being in their radar is very unnerving.
Got big plans that don't include them
Just got divorced from the Narc after 2 years of seperation and no contact
Same...
Don’t go back, don’t give one centimeter 🆓
Gray rock .. ❤ ..
What did it take for you to get a divorce from your Narc
My narc won't even sign the papers and keep running back in forth from Nevada to Minnesota. I really want out of the marriage. Please help me if you could. Thanks in advance..
@@todyhymon5110 You can get a exparte divorce if you ex is not signing the papers and not appearing before the court.Just consult your counsel
This has answered so many little nagging questions that have been lingering as I've been listening, learning and reflecting on my own experiences with narcissists. My arsenal is now complete and I am galvanized. Thank you!
They piss off all the assets! They make you the villain they LIE to everyone. You will fear for your life at some point.
Ideally, don't get that far into a relationship with them in the first place, I was lucky, the last one that tried to reel me wasn't very successful. I wasn't much attracted to her and noticed some silly things she was telling when we first met, so I didn't get attached much. The insincere mirroring and love bombs should also make you suspicious than anything else, stroking your ego, but you should really be keeping your guard up.
Im sorry that you went through this. Yes you are right, the lovebombing and stroking of ego is a huge red flag and should keep our guard up.
@@anoushkamarcin No need to apologize, since it's your not at fault, I grew up with people like this around me, didn't understand when I was a kid, but I do now. She gave so many clues away, trying to hurt me and make me jealous was a major one, she even looked at my face to check how I was reacting - it's deliberate, didn't work, all it did was she me what kind of person she really is. Your right, run away, get out of dodge ASAP!!!!!!
I'm convinced they live in another reality.
Yes
Obvious 😅, psychos
They're all delusional.n
They just jump to someone else and wreck their life too
They sure do jump to the next person, within days if they hadn’t been grooming someone behind your back. Where as we take massive timeouts from relationships after our experience to self reflect and learn more about how to better ourselves. They learn more manipulative tactics through us, unbeknownst to us.
@@LovingLightx I had women trying to mess with me while I was going through all that and still married. It was flattering but made me feel sick due to the fact that they knew I was married. I waited awhile to start hanging out with the other sex again and when I did, it still felt wrong, even though I was single. I honestly don't think I'll ever get married again.
@@LovingLightx when the truth came out about who she is, she then went out and got herself a nice DUI with my last name attached to it. Good times. Forgive me if I don't care about that level of relationship anymore.
Oh they use a sledge hammer too not nice
absolutely true.
My ex, after I told him I needed him to leave, so I can heal. As he was packing his truck, he actually said, "I don't even understand what's happening right now." It's amazing how little they actually realize what they've done. Maybe it's pretense, but he actually seemed confused.
You are lucky he didn't pitch raging fit..
They are confused because they are controlled by legions of demons.
lol. Yes
Mine never came back, just silently stalked me online, which he eventually stopped.
While very painful, that's literally the best outcome. I have such mixed emotions, on one hand I'm just waiting for her to call me back, on the other hand I never want to see her again.
While very painful, that's literally the best outcome. I have such mixed emotions, on one hand I'm just waiting for her to call me back, on the other hand I never want to see her again.
I have survived a Narcissist… every word you have said in every video I have watched is SO true
Just can't be with them the constant up's and down's the lack of intimacy the lack of understanding the friendship's they keep, the silence the lies, the deception none of these build healthy relationship's so why would any healthy minded person want to live in this messy unruly destructive relationship time to let go and let God deal with it. God hold's the Power and the Glory In God I Trust God can break the chain's that bind us hallelujah amen ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏✨
Deception, lack of intimacy, lies, silent treatments and other punishments, gaslighting, projecting their insecurities and bad behaviour, triangulation
I am so done with Mr Gemini. He cannot break me though he has tried desperately hard to destroy me. Jog on with your side pieces, no more lies and you cannot steal from me anymore. I am walking to freedom and peace
I gave 38 years and have lost my children. I am so grateful I found God and now I'm fully awake. Imagine trying to say sorry for manipulating your babies you carried for 9 months and taking them out of your life. I am far too good for him! Thank you Anoushka, difficult to listen to but well worth it.
Hopefully they find a suitable situation and aren't motivated to return.
Hopefully 🙏🏻
I was done anyway but the final nail in the coffin was when the police turned up at my front door in a dawn raid because he'd been looking at child 🌽 😢😢 Im so gutted and disgusted
I did love you,
What did I love?
I rarely got a simple touch.
I will stand tall,
I will find me;
There is nothing to miss,
I guess I loved blindly.
Oh wow. Yes. Never getting a simple touch.
This cuts deep ✂️ 😢
The hoovering never stops. It's unbelievable. It's a bummer because I feel like we broke up all over again.
@@BuckeyDooDoo block them.
My narcissist was already in a relationship with the new supply, so they didn't go through those phases... At least to my knowledge
He owned three cars ...........
Fuel ⛽
6 years narcissist now 5 years free :)
we don't give something to the narcissist....he or she takes from us.
So then they're just going to eat, drink and be merry toast up party. Go to the next club, go to the next event and just try to forget about you because they'll be around a lot of beautiful people, handsome guys or beautiful ladies and that's the way they call themselves. Not thinking about you anymore. But meanwhile they do have to get some quiet and alone time and that's when you come across their head and then that's when they got to do that drug or the drinking or eating to fill that void. But believe me they're hurting somewhere. We just don't see it
True
Thanks for your kindness and understanding it goes a long way.
Their biggest mistake is presuming you never had a breaking point , let alone the strength to ever walk ! You instantly get downgraded to NOTHING ! Everything you ever shared is written off , and you are the new public enemy number one . They will begin the smear and seek revenge . Luckily other people aren't QUITE as easily fooled , and will see through their hate campaign , helped in part by the ever growing awareness of NPD ! ❤💪💋
I bet his actions showed that he was way committed than you were....
Yeah they're like you're done. You're done. You're done. You know they want you dead😢 And so many women go through domestic violence and don't make it through. I was stalked by my ex-husband. It was so scary. I disappeared, changed my last name and try to make another that he still showed up and at my door and found me. I went to a shelter. He still managed to call me. He use another woman's voice act like she was my sister and then he got on the phone. And oh my gosh that terrified me and I didn't want to tell my family everywhere. I turned it feel like you was showing up because he remembered all the places that we used to go together so he would show up there. So now you have to change everything you do so you don't even see this person. If you're in the same city with them. I mean this gets so satanic and it's unbelievable. It's like a damn movie. It's just sickening
Narcassist women, there are so many.
Bless You Anouska!! STRAIGHT TRUTH!!
Once you have GONE from them. Remember you are in control. Narcs are the one who actively look for supply. They always are the one to go to people because they NEED people. Don't blame yourself if you keep going back. You need to actually be at a point within yourself when THIS time it's too much (worse than before) so I'm off and done. You need to SAVE yourself because you can. They can't and won't change.
This is so true. In the end, the moment will come where they overplay their hand and you will break. And that’s it. GAME OVER. And if you go back for round 10000000000000 it’s on you
Thank you. I feel Im strong enough and will get through this.❤
SPOT ON. So accurate it’s scary!!
They aren’t regular toddlers, but demon possessed toddlers
Finally got my first actual crush post narc abuse cycle. I still need to talk to my therapist to see if I should pursue it just yet but honestly I'm ready to ask this person to have a rice bowl or something with me and just talk for about 30-60 mins and see how we vibe, and I'm prepared to accept no for an answer as well. I guess I'm moving on with my life. They wanna meet new people for new supply, and I wanna meet new people to form healthy connections and make friends and maybe have a healthy romantic relationship.
Most appreciative..
Well well well. She is now creating fake accounts to stalk me and then deletes em when I don't answer them immediately. I realize her power over me was xesual.nothing else. I'm at another level now and she lost control over me. There must be women who can love and not use and abuse.
Desperate hovering is made difficult with a restraining order in place!
Yup! Here too. A criminal protection order, since a regular restraining order didn’t work. 3 yrs he has to stay away from me after 31 yrs of marriage
Bang on this is what my son is going thou me as a dad it really stresses me out what she has done to him I love my 2 boys I brought them up on my own as a single dad and did t want to see him like this it breaks my heart and she couldn’t care less a bout him just what she can get narcissis are nasty people who only care a bout them slef
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a nightmare and my dad was stressed out when I was going through the same thing. I hope everything works out for all of you, so you can heal
@@tabithaperry4570 thank s for replying
A friend of mine pointed out how manipulative this girl was, so I started manipulating her to unfold the cards, little by little. In the end I triggered her when she realised I had her figured out. Mind you, I knew this person for years, so there were nice moments and I used to care for her. I went nuclear on her, the other day because I snapped after 3 months since she unblocked me. She tried to test the ground 10 months after the discard, so I exposed her. Don't recommend it. It can escalate.
Does anyone else's ignore you days at a time like a punishment or play the victim. When you try to discuss how they make you feel this person just makes it seem like your crazy or a bad person for feeling hurt when your put last or they stay on the phone but you seem to be bothering them ?
First person that treated my kids like that mattered so it hurts alittle extra... now I mean he doesn't show them or anyone what he shows me . Everyone thinks he's this great man who helps others , he's kicked me out every home I tried to make it work with him in. I never have been the type to let someone talk to me crazy but I'm always the one saying sorry putting in effort to show him he will tell me rude things but never says it nicely and he swears it's him just being honest and he did nothing wrong he doesn't even think how i feel when he speaks seeing me cry doesn't phase him he act like I'm so sensitive to everything ,I am a woman but then calls me manly in the sane breathe. IM NOT SURE IF HE IS A NARCISSIST OR WHAT . I need helps to understand
Perfect timing. ❤
Good show Anouska, straight talking real talk❤
When someone's fantasy is destroyed, and they're forced to face reality, it can lead to unpredictable and even dangerous behavior. For some, clinging to illusions feels safer than accepting the truth, and when that illusion shatters, they may lash out in frustration or denial. It's crucial to protect yourself in these situations. Maintain strong boundaries, stay grounded, and prioritize your safety-both emotionally and physically. Not every battle is yours to fight, and sometimes the best move is to step back and let them confront their reality on their own terms.
You are right no matter how bad theyve done to you they have the strength to tell you you will never forget them...thats frue I will never forget her and what she had done to me If I forget I will allow her to come back. We forgive them but never forget.
How can these people exist?
By sad and weak so must destroy above people😂
Emotional vampires, get the book
No contact with narcissists and the biggest no contact you achieve is with your own ego friends❤. Follow your own heart and intuition
I’m @ my breaking point & I am finally DONE DONE ! 11 years wasted of my life. I actually gave him so many chances to CHANGE & I WASTED my BEST years on him. Sadly we have a child & he’s already manipulating her .
I feel like they got this hold over me
Get out before it's too late.
I have a criminal protection order against my ex husband of 31 yrs for assaulting me Dec 5th . I kicked him out immediately and filed for divorce 6 days later. He couldn’t respect a regular restraining order. Called 58 times, 326 texts and showed up at the door 4 times. I got hi for intimidation. I’ve been divorced for 2 months yesterday. We have a family together. It’s been very difficult but I’m happier than I have been in a long time. I’ve been incredibly ill for a decade and I’m regaining my health ❤
My goodness. So sorry. Be strong ❤
@ , thank you 😊
You're a monster
Thank you very much ❤❤❤
Thank you, so much I got a better understanding of how these people think and it unfortunate because they are causing people so much harm. I just want to thank you again, because I truly believe that pain shared is pain lesson.
We all bleed the same colour blood. Unsure why they think they are better than others.
I know a person that left a narcissist because of a family situation,and 4 days later the narcissist started a relationship with a woman they met in a bar,And would call the x daily when new women wasn’t aware,assuring his love but just wanted to see where this new relationship goes so hang there until I come home st
Word for word this is how it went it’s disgusting how natural it comes and even more disgusting being on the receiving end
When my ex narcissistic monster
realised they lost in trying to get
away with stealing wealth 👀
gang stalked began. the death
spells began.. paid a gang to off
me.. when all this failed.. they
tried to get back... and God Said
No, Not a Chance in hell.. I will
stay single until true love comes
my way 🤗
Amen 🙏🏾✝️🙊🌹❤️💛💚
Shes now starting to accuse me of sexual abuse of our 6 year old, since now I dont react when provoked, answer her calls or texts unless a direct q about our son, and ive lost 50lbs in 3 years, bought a house while she is still in the divorce apt I pay for via child support and alimony. Alimony ends in Jan. Yipee!
Wow. Thats messed up. So sorry
@j.r.134 thanks! Its gotten much better. No contact, no reaction works. Got to let go and no, no is coming to save you, and been miserable, doesnt help. It takes time, exercise, healthy eating, and forgiveness to free yourself from the parasite that colonized your mind. Happy new year
Nothing could be more accurate than the fact the she spoke about in the video that as soon as we start to move forward and let go of them, they come back or atleast try to hoover and become someone as 1% good and this has happened with me many times and I got back in. As soon as I started my life well, stopped thinking about that person and was okay with my life, she popped up like a notification 😂 and this happened 2-3 times but now we haven’t been talking for 2 months and she’s giving me silent treatment and I’m also at distance…
She has new supply probably
@@michelledale3334 she has many supplies I know some of them personally but this time I confronted her and it was badddd😂 it hit her so hard that maybe that’s why she’s not coming forward lol
Amazing video.
Thank you
I'm done,I think he knows it,he got released from hospital showed out with nurses not wanting to wait on wheel chair,9 days in hospital getting heart surgery was to long for him, blamed me,I took him home wanted to unpack for him and clean his house,he told me No and to leave his house,I called him that night and txt no answer,that was last Friday, haven't called or txt him since,i do wanna know how he doing,but im sticking to my dision,i will not call him to check on him,he got to call me first
Great video ❤
I was always going to be there, but she gave our kid away to her mom that lives 6 hrs away
Thank you. Excellent!
I’m still around , I’ll see what will be , I’m learning and keep my eyes open . But anything will happen I’m ready . It’s a sad thing that the end is not I’m expecting for . I’m hanging around , I still feel that connection in him . He said one time someone must give in . So he is playing game and will see .
Thank you 💕 so much another great video
Thank you ma'am ❤
A few months after the narc discarded me and threw me away while spending every waking moment with the new/old supply, he said "you never asked me to cone back, not once." I told him why would I you have wanted this for many many years so I am giving you your out. I don't know what he thought was going to happen after he abandoned me. Like you said, the threshold was reached. The train ride through bizarre-o-world needed to stop so I could atleast tuck and roll.💩
@@JanetMitchell-y8i unbelievable for him to say that!!! What goes through their minds?? Mine said similar, I walked away due to her cheating and lying and she said I was so cold to her when she reached out the first time…….what did she honestly expect??!!! They think you will just sweep it under the carpet and it’s all forgotten
1000% Truth. I had a woman so I believe out of 6mnths hassle Me for No meet. Yet all she wanted to do was text. Went from free spirit love bombing to one word communication. 2brief. phone calls. and whispers. I showed up to meet and geuse what ? excuse to no meet.
Thank you,have a great day ❤
Oh no! They ain't got to look for new people. They already made so many new friends when they were in a relationship with you and so when you weren't around people saw you two together. So then he talked about you like oh she's giving me problems or he's giving me problems. But I'm just trying to hang in there for the family or you know whatever excuse he's trying to use that he's saying I'm hanging in there with her. But if I find somebody better you know you know what I mean. Maybe me and you could talk. You know. Can I get your number. And then that's how the other person gets sucked in and he has so many or she has so many old friends that their bedroom buddies so they're sleeping around with them when he's sick of you and that's that's what they do. I'm telling you so it's just roundy aroundy dosey doe just a foolish game and never grown up and it's just pathetic