Feeling LOST in your 20s? Advice I wish I had..
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- I had no direction in my 20s now I'm almost 40 and here's what I wish I knew back then.
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Im 23. 2 years off meth. I'm not interested in coding or being at a computer much at all BUT your content is still super relatable as I try to become a nurse.
im trying to become a lawyer,good luck bro
Congratulations stay of it.
Congrats on staying sober, its never easy
Good job 👏 2 years is an amazing achievement- keep going !
I’m last year biomed but I now suffering from mental illness and I’m failing my last year. And if I fail I resit but I get capped at 40% in the uk making my degree almost useless for what I want my life currently sucks but it is what it is. I know meth ain’t the same but your not the only one whose having a bad time so good to know your not alone
The one thing that demotivates me the most is the voice in my head that tells me "even when you get there, you still won't be happy, so why bother putting in the effort anyway"
I learned this from Dr. Scott Eilers here on UA-cam… If you don’t feel happy either way, why not just do the healthier option?
Happiness is different from contentment. Happiness is a temporary and fleeting feeling we get from accomplishing a short term goal, whereas contentment is being able to live with the choices you’ve made and feel fulfilled going down the path you’re going down.
The ticking of life’s clock makes you feel like you have to do everything all at once, but that impossible in a lifetime.
Find your purpose . Prayers and meditation.
@@ryanbryancyanbecause the less healthier option is easier.
Its about the journey not the destination
Im 26, was an opioid and heroin addict for 7 Years. Clean since 1,5 years and Fullstack Spring Boot Developer since 7 Months. But still struggle with relapses every few months and still not feeling "healed". But there is no other direction than to keep fighting for me.
God bless you I'll pray for you tonight
god bless you sir
How do you feel now, sir?
@@imdurgesh9430 Its getting better slowly everyday. I think a new Hobby I am passionate about helps also lot
Try one more thing bro. Try Jesus bro. Try him for a month. Your life will change after.
How?
Just get the Bible app, read the book of Romans in the msg translation. Only read one verse a day.
Sit and ponder on what you’ve read when you are done.
I promise your life will change.
I just turned 24 this month and this is exactly how I feel. Been in a panic and stress because I feel like I’m Running out of time. All I do is go to work and home, that’s it. No friends , no relationship , no sense of direction on what I wanna do with my life. Feel like I’m so behind
In the same boat bro :/ shit sucks
Same your not alone
I have this same problem, it sucks I wanna feel like I have more in life then just work
Same, work, home, tired of the same routine
Hi
I wasted a lot of my 20s working and working and working it didn't get me anywhere, single, no career , living with my parents
Ur fucked
I’m going through this exact same thing rn
@stevenratton6032 I'm sorry to hear that. Someone told me that maybe i will bloom in my 30th ! I hope you do too. May Allah guide us to the right path 🙏
Im in the same situation. I can guarantee your priorities have been wrong. You didnt save, you gambled your money away, drank them away, smoked them away etc.
Am i right?
@rogermoore3991 wrong , I gave it to my family because they are in need ! I'm a Muslim i don't do these kind of sins !
I just happened to be born in a house without a supporting father. Also, I'm in a third-world country where you have to work your ass off in a call center for 300 dollars a month . And I'm unable to find a partner who can help . It's just destiny
21 here, didn’t go to college but seeing all my high school mates going to college and already graduating or other friends that didn’t go to college knowing what they want being the same age as me does something to me and feels pretty shitty. I was directionless up until late February of 24, gonna finally start doing what I think is best for me. Let’s see where life takes me by the end of the year. Good luck to you all out there, you’ll find your path just keep pushing through. May God bless you all
I am twenty one as well! I took the college route & still feel lost. I am glad youu are taking steps for change. I am doing the same since my recent break up & also found a career that I believe I will enjoy 🥰. Good luck, youu got this, & God has youu 💗.
@@Dee_Dee794 oh wow I’m also going through a recently break up at the start of the year. Glad to hear you found something for yourself. Good luck to you on your career journey
Im 20, dropped out of highschool when I was 17 but honestly that doesn’t matter because I have a clear vision of what I’m going to do in the future. God lives within you. You are God. And as long as you put in the work and manifest, you’ll attract anything you want. I’m already living the life I want even tho I don’t have it rn. It’s the feeling of having it, it’s what’s going to help attract the life you want.
i'm 21 and i've always wanted to be an artist and a musician. i didnt go to college. right after high school, during the pandemic, my dad started getting sick due to parkinson's. i was at home working and saving money, and 3 1/2 years of this went by. during this time i watched my parents' dynamic more closely and realized my dad was very controlling and manipulative. in the middle of it we moved states and i was hundreds of miles away from my friends that were helping me through it.
i just watched him get worse and watched my parents make each other miserable, and had no hope for myself or my family. now my parents are divorced and my dad's in an assisted living home with professional carers, and it's just me, my mom, and my little sister at home. i feel like my head's still spinning from all of it and i compare myself to my friends graduating college and i feel so behind. i'm also just now learning how to drive and that's been challenging. i feel like every day's just a stumble in the dark.
it's nice to read your comment and remember that i'm not the only one feeling this way, and i admire your resolve to make a change. i wish you the best, this will be a better year for both of us :)
@@swaveknight I wish you the best in your future, I’m glad you found what’s best for you and I hope you succeed in life!
Never thought I'd be getting life advice from johnny sims
Bro😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
damn🤣
Tbf, he is a well rounded individual, lol.
Lmao wtf lost in your 20’s we are in 2024 of course most are lost it took us 2000 years to get here
Wow. A video that actually adds value that isn’t just trying to sell me something? A video that offers advice I can actually implement the second after watching? I can’t believe it! Thank you sir!
Im 20 rn. I feel lost and procrastinating a lot. I am living with my parents with no savings, no job, no friends, and mostly no skills. I thought after I graduate from high school this year I could easily follow all the goals that I wanted to achieve but turns out life is not always like that. We cant get anything we wanted. I didn't go to college because of financial difficulties and i don't have anyone to support me for all the expenses. I have no one to talk to because all my life I have never experienced what its like to have best friends and i cant even talk to my family since were not used to talk with each other. I feel worthless. But after watching this video I am starting to realize that I shouldn't be afraid to take risk because it is better to try than doing nothing and regret later. I am finally decided to continue and look for every available opportunities while I am still young and I'll always be positive no matter what life throws at me.
Same brothere
Can we be friends...?
Bro I'm at the same situation. Would love to connect with u bro !
Same goes to me...
y'all so relatable....i think we can be friends!!
I'm 35 years old and just started an apprenticeship in mechanical engineering.
I didn’t know you could do that, like no college required?
@@TherealBigblue22It's a training scheme, so I go to college once per week, which for me will be a Friday. The other 4 days I work for a company. You just need to accept that you will be on bad money for at least the first year and then from the second year on, at least in the UK you are entitled to national living wage for your age group, so not too bad.
@@4BCJesus yeah that’s pretty slick learn and work and learn working not bad
@@4BCJesus I'm in the U.K. too, could you please provide some more info on where to find these types of schemes?
@@zwalker2000
www.gov.uk/apply-apprenticeship
Or go into your local college and have a look at their apprenticeships. Get yourself signed up to your college and have your name down for apprenticeships, go to their open evenings and meet people and talk to people there, they will help too. They will contact you and see if you are interested when they become available. Depending on your age, it might take a year or 2 to find one. That Gov site is very good though. My advice would be to fire off CVs to people, fill in the forms and maybe try and get the companies number and ring them. Good luck.
Brother, I’m 24 years old, and I feel so alone and scared of life at times. There days when I feel highly motivated, and my actions reflect that and I accomplish things and behave in ways that I’m proud of, but the uncertainty of the consequences of my behaviors always frightens me, the questioning if “am i on the right path?” But hearing your story really puts into perspective that action with the intent of learning and growth is always greater than inaction. And to act and fail is better than to not have acted at all. Thank you for this video. I can’t say I’ll never feel down, alone or scared again, but this video pushed me a step further today. Thank you.
''am i on the right path?'' the truth is no one knows, but why would you stop because of this silly question?
mid 20s been watching your vids for a little while now. I am similar to you in the sense I am a HS dropout and grew up in a unfortunate household. these videos are very valuable.
I appreciate this man and everyone in the comments willing to share. You realize you’re not alone, some people struggle earlier in life and later. I’m 29 I’ve been saying I was 30 since I was 27 because I felt like it was a mile stone and in severe decline it just felt like a blur that I really messed up the cut off. You get this idea that you are the only one you’re just not. Everything is figure out able. You may have doubts again in the future that’s ok. Keep pressing like a mantra.
I'm 25. I'm a patient advocate at a hospital and get paid good money. I always wanted to be in the film industry but working full time dwindled my inspiration for making short films again. Thank for you planting the seed that'll motivate me again to do what I love.
As a rapper, I work at a hotel & same thing. But not letting that stop me bro
Lmao wtf lost in your 20’s we are in 2024 of course most are lost it took us 2000 years to get here
@@isauc3alot lay off the meds fam
Thank you I am 20 year old in early 20s one precious thing I learn from a video is my cost of failure is nothing so I must do whatever I never had done and explore different different branches of life tree
One thing I heard from a mail lady when I went to the post office that stuck with me “you have to be young and dumb so you can become old and wise” like he said you aren’t failing if you learned something
I'm 29. And this video was GOLD
What is your situation?
Thank you for sharing this man 🙏
Have grit and don't give up on yourself, amen 🔥
I’m 26. this month makes it a year of being out of prison. Went in when I was 23. lost a lot of hope in achieving my goals. Lies were put against me and the justice system failed to see my innocence. recently I regained hope learning from the experience. I learned you have to play the cards you are dealt, smart. love your videos. They are really inspiring.
Lmao wtf lost in your 20’s we are in 2024 of course most are lost it took us almost 2000 years to get here
@@isauc3alotquit it dude
@@isauc3alot I was never lost. I compared myself to a lot of people, especially on social media. Thought I fell too far behind thus my ambition being destroyed. But continue your hate buddy
@@JayStepperTTV this comment wasn’t just for you , don’t be selfish, “get your head out your a** “lmao
29 and hella directionless 🙈 but I'm breathing, taking life day but day and trying not to fxck up my life any further. Great advice though, thanks Dorian!!
Bro same.. I’m 29 and broke as hell.. trying to find something that is worth my time
Dedicated 6 years to a beautiful woman who grew apart from me. The thought of a family was so important to me but she moved up in her career and I stayed the same cause I was comfortable. She eventually “choose herself” which meant she wanted to find something else. Gave up the opportunities and sacrificed them for her and I regret it now. Going back to school, getting healthy, making new friends and gaining new skills.
Rooting for you man
I’m not really one to comment under UA-cam videos, but I wanted to take the liberty to pay my regards to your efforts. I somehow connect with every single word you convey, which gives me a sense of sincerity coming from your side. It feels like you’re an older brother who genuinely wants good for us. Thank you.
Thanks for your honesty and authenticity Dorian!
24. Barely getting my shit together. Got into a good music school (first semester) and I want to be a teacher and conductor. Studying with a famous opera singer. At 18 I had no idea what the hell I wanted to do. I never had guidance. Most of my teachers said I’d be a loser. Sometimes I feel so lost and discouraged but things take time. I’m also 4 hours away from all my family and friends for the first time living on my own. It sucks and it’s scary but I’m here for a reason.
You're going to go down a deep and dark path trying to pursue music lmao. You'll have to learn the hard way when no one's hiring for your ideal job.
dont listen to drunken panda, if you work towards your goal without stopping and stick to it you'll make big achievements, the key is to not give up.
@@XDrunkenPandaX I said I wanted to be a teacher right? In my state they’re paid more than normal teachers even in the small towns and yes there’s openings.
@@highwayboyjon9517 regular teacher sure, there are alot of jobs. music teacher? No chance lmao
@@XDrunkenPandaX you’re not in the music world so your opinion is useless.
This is the whole idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable. If you make sure to step out your comfort zone every day, doing so will give you satisfaction and in the end build a resilience towards the uncomfortableness, often times small things can translate to some of the biggest moves in the future. If you get used to stepping out your comfort zone and you get used to failing it will only make doing new things that much easier and that much more beneficial for you. I try to tell my ‘anti social’ friends that its possible no matter who or what you claim you are , go out and step out your comfort zone even if its just saying hi to a crush.
Can confirm this. Don't get me wrong, I still don't have my life fixed, but having suffered from bad depression, self-esteem and anxiety from the age of 13 all the way into my adulthood - until I almost killed myself when I was 24 - stepping out of the comfort zone makes a huge change. Starting with just going outside daily and sweating balls when I take my dog for a walk and some strangers stop by to pet her(not even kidding, this would geve me severe panic attacks), to saying hi and trying to make small talks with cashiers, to going to the gym, going back to work from office and so on.
I still remember the first time I went to work from office after Covid. My voice was muffled and I was choking from anxiety, and all I could think was "Holy shit, everyone is listening to me speak right now". But the thing is, you adjust quickly, and every next challenge is that much easier after a while. You absolutely have to build resilience If you don't have it already.
I'm now getting my driver's license at 27, something I've been terrified of for years. But in the end I was so mad at myself that I just decided to save some money, go out there and apply for driving lessons. Naturally, I was sweating balls when I went to the first lecture, but by the time I sat behind the wheel for the first time, I was like "Ehh, whatever, lets just do this."
I'm about a week away from the final exam, when I'll be driving for real to get my license. I'm not even stressed about it.
Main lesson learned: JUST DO IT.
@@ragingsaviorkami9862 Very cool story bro. You inspired me to step out of my comfort zone. I will talk to a stranger tomorrow!
@@truongquangduy6090 Wow, I'm glaf I motivated someone! Did you do it? :D
@@ragingsaviorkami9862I just wanna say that I'm 25, never had a job, haven't talked to my friend from school since school, don't have any friends, have a crippling fear of driving, scared of taking risks and failure, overweight and unhealthy, etc etc.
But I'm tired of this stagnant life I'm living. Just doing nothing day to day. But I wanna change that, and your story was quite motivating. Motivation is my biggest problem. It why I dropped out of high school even though everyone told me I was smart and could do it. I'm going to change that. I want to be proud of the life I've led. Sorry if this was just a bunch of rambling. Honestly, my life isn't nearly as hard as others. I never got into drugs, or drinking, or troublesome relationships. But I have a lot to work on and I intend to do it.
@@ragingsaviorkami9862 did you pass the exam bro?
It was about 30 for me, but then unfortunately was injured quite badly and spent first half of 30's in a not so great state. I then learned to code and just landed software gig and now I guess i'm finally getting things in order.
19 years old here and I have always felt much older. Now it feels like I want to go to the next stage in my life which is getting out of the house and building something for myself and my girlfriend. Just to realise I am at my first year of studying and still have multiple years to go. Just feeling stuck in life rn, trying to just stay fit by going to the gym almost every day and really trying to get off of my nicotine addiction and drinking/smoking weed habits. While at the same time you gotta enjoy life right? Hope things will get better and I will start to enjoy the basics of life (again) Thx for reading have a wonderful day🤙
Definitely quit drinking before it gets amplified as you get older😅
Thanks for the advice on hard work and risk taking!
21 with no job, no friends, no driving experience, dropout, and struggling with physical & mental issues… but yet everyday as i bed rot at home all day i always imagine how my life could be in the next 5 years like im self awareness that right now given my living situation that this is the perfect time to start my own life by slowly learning how to drive, getting a car, finding a stable job, meeting new people, and just earning my freedom to do what i always imagined but… the fear of taking risk and having to take more responsibilities scares me like im always overthinking the negatives and i know it’s myself holding myself back…! like deep down inside the real me knows if i take those risk it will be beneficial in the long run even if it’s bumpy the whole way and i know it’s true since i already experienced certain life events and succeeding for a bit!
thank you for this message and it just verifies the real self inside of me that im always ignoring, now i know for sure that i should take more risk and even if i fall down i can always recover quickly since im young and have so much free time on my hands
I’m the same age as you and I also don’t have friends or my drivers license (I have my permit though). I used to be so scared to drive, but I’m slowly getting over it. You got this :)
Update: I finally got my drivers license yesterday (8/1/24)! I still need to drive more and get used to it cause I still get nervous 😭 but I’m glad I got out of my comfort zone and took the risk
@@luvvrenithe bed rotting is so real:(
@@luvvreni you got this too! just gotta keep up the consistency and you’ll get there soon enough, just have to be patient with yourself 👍
I'm going through the same situation as well . The problem for me is figuring out how to get the ball rolling with life and finding the motivation to pull myself out of my comfort zone. Hopefully I'll find my spark soon ( >.
my advice at 31 is get living, dont rot in one place if you're doing so
Thank you
As a 31 year old… great advice. Thank you.
Where to go what to do?
@@Dtrader0anything stop looking for answers go fuckin find em!!! Get out there
I'm 21, I live in Ukraine. My own counrty locked me inside its borders. I received an internship abroad, but couldn't cross the border for obvious reasons. Sucks so much. I wish i could get living but i just can't right now
you are going to be a positive change in my life,just two videos already i see myself in you...personality traits
26 years. 32 days sober.
Well done! Seriously that's great.
Hey how are you?
Thank you so much!!! 112 days sober today. So grateful,thankful, blessed.
@@rileyhacking4668 Keep going! We need more support for others in this cruel world, From a complete stranger, You've got this.
dope as hell dude, congrats!
It's all about that! Take the risks to live a life better!
25 years old. Just lost my job. I have 2 college degrees but yet I feel like a failure. So much I want to do, and that I know I can do. But it’s just hard for me right now.
do what you can
Stop caring so much. Ask yourself what is the lifestyle you need to have to be your ideal self. Just act towards that goal. Luck is preparedness plus opportunity. You will be ready when the situation arises.
Some here bro. It’s tough sometimes
Shit will happen you just be you
i can somewhat relate to this. i recently graduated from uni with a dual degree. the problem is there are no decent jobs that are hiring right now, with the exception of highly seasoned devs/experts. i have at least 2 years combined with internship and programming experience, but it hasn’t got me a foot in the door and it’s been very frustrating. it’s easier said than done, but we need to accept failure while also remaining hopeful and committed to bettering ourselves. i wish you all the best
I always knew I was holding myself back. I wouldn’t get a girlfriend because I already imagined the rejection in my mind, I wouldn’t take school seriously, instead of using gaming as a hobby I used it as an escape to ignore my responsibilities. I’m getting better, and I’m glad to see that I’m not the only one. I’m still young (21) I got plenty of time. This video is very inspiring, helps me push forward. Thank you.
THIS WAS THE TYPE OF VIDEO I NEED AT A PERFECT TIME THANK YOU
Thank you man. I was feeling so lost and my goal is Computer Science as well. I graduated with another degree but I'm gonna go for an online Bachelor's. Wish me luck everyone!
27 and directionless would be the title to my autobiography 🤣
Even tho I have some great great qualities, its so easy to feel far behind in life, thank you :)
Agreed same boat
there's no such thing as being far behind if you're trying to figure things out along the way, keep your chin up brother.
Best thing is your not starving
Lmao wtf lost in your 20’s we are in 2024 of course most are lost it took us 2000 years to get here
@ItsPerennial out of all the comments here what made you reply to mine?
For me I had direction in my 20’s and then lost it when I hit my late 20’s
I had a degree, working in my field, living on my own. But I hit a point where I asked myself what it was all for, I had no steady girlfriend, no kids, close friends were scattered across the US.
At first I thought I didn’t like my work, but then I realized I didnt like my time outside of work.
I left my job a year ago, moved across the country, staying with my parents and working a tips job. It was fun for a bit but then I realized all my friends were almost 10 years younger than me, they wanted to live life day by day. Just hangout smoke weed and work all the time. And that wasn’t me.
Now I have to get focused and finish what I started.
this is well said. i’m actually in a middle of feeling lost. confused about which career path that i should be doing or take. thank you for the heads up!
At 25 I had an epiphany and my life changed. I got my trucking license and did long haul trucking making almost what your friend made and also as a high school dropout. (No diploma still)
I left last year because I was never home living in Canada and I got out of shape very fast (usually go gym everyday for all my adult life) and I realized quick that lifestyle wasnt for me even though initally I wanted to buy my own truck and start my own business eventually.
Now I am 28, back to square one and feeling lost and at a age I shouldnt be. Thats what led me to this video.
I tried alot of things gained alot of skills and failed or left alot of things in my life all in pursuit of finding what works for me.
I still feel lost but this video made me feel better about it at least.
Just completed my degree..had a solid developer job. Did everything right.. Still feel Lost. What i have learned is you can go from 0 to hero and then from hero to 0 even faster
What happened bro? You have a valuable skill, you can use it for your benefit
Yes bro you have skills whether you can use it or lose try to get something from what you know
@@Monikareels Doesn’t matter if you have skills if you still don’t feel fulfilled. it’ll take time for him to feel complete either way with his skills using them and doing something worthwhile and timeless with them.
29… I’ll be 30 this month. Don’t let the past make you!! Just live and learn brothers!!! I’m finally starting my career and on a great path making more money and networking with amazing ppl!
Well done! What career are you in?
@@connorw360 LEO
Man I’m grateful for finding your channel I’m 24 and feel like you’re the older brother I’ve never had
I'm 27 in an Eastern European homeless shelter. I'm lucky to have internet and a phone. At 22 I was an intern in a tech company as a frontend dev. It doesn't work out for everybody. I tried and grinded for 3 years to make it, ended up addicted on amphetamine and MDMA to be able to study as much as I can to catch up to the real programmers and it ruined my life. I'm not that guy who study every stack and uni sh!t, grit isn't enough, this is the truth. You are talented and an entrepenuer inside. I could never record my face giving advice or start a company. I suck at business and wages here are so low you just can't make ends meet alone by yourself. I lost my passion after realizing the soul sucking reality of the corporate cubicle work, paired with their greed to manipulate you into doing 3 positions for the wage for 1. I wish others to achieve their IT dream, but I'm one of those self made devs who silently failed.
You have so much of your life left to live. It's not failure unless you give up. You can still make it, don't give up.
@@cowboyup6744 Thank you for the encouragement, I genuinely glad I have some in these tough times. I may give up on webdev, but not on life itself. I don't have what it takes. If I did, in these past 5 years I should have been achieved my goal. Have a nice day!
may I ask what's your plan for the future might be?
@@nhatan2511 Survive the coming economic collapse in th west
fair@@cowboyup6744
9 months later, this video is resonating with me at the right time. I needed to see this video YT algorithm is insane.
I’m 23 and I work a car battery manufacturing plant as a simple operator and I just became realtor right as soon as I turned 23 (back in December 2023) I still feel somewhat lost here and their but I recently started to change my diet cutting out free sugars for good ones and doing what I can to gain my confidence back and take control of what I eat and take control of myself again and I’m hoping this helps out along in my career and hopefully push my mind to grow some more. I’ve been trying to implement good habits… it’s still hard and I still feel empty and especially lost but man I appreciate this video. I just tell myself to keep going and good things happen to those who wait
Lmao wtf lost in your 20’s we are in 2024 of course most are lost it took us 2000 years to get here
Very helpful man and this is my first video from you!! I’ve been finding myself and I feel like I’m about 65% there after just turning 23 a week ago and I just can’t wait to be 100% there learning to discipline myself soon to get to where I plan on peacefully being in life!! Thank you!!
I loved the guy-with-the-trucks story because it hits VERY close to home. I had a friend who similarly was one year older than me and it looked like he was 3x as successful as I was. The worst part is that he would show up and tell me about how well he did in a random videogame. He literally beat me both in the virtual and in the real world.
Reminds me of the movie tron lol
Im 24 and I'll be graduating next week. Tbh i really don't know what to do after my graduation ceremony. All i know i want to be financially stable. I wanna do it, i will do it
Thank you man. This was comforting. I’ll be sure to not just float in the comfort but to actually listen to this advice and act on it.
Dorian Develops you beautiful bastard. I am 19 and I feel directionless. I dropped out of university and lost my job and was unemployed for a while. I recently started working again which is good but I'm not earning enough and I just feel like garbage almost all the time because I know I could have done better. My goal is to work in IT in some capacity because I love computers and most of all I love software. I would love to help people with software problems, whether it is physically walking to their computer and fixing the problem for them, or what ever it may be. I just want to get in to IT so bad and this video has helped me so much. I will forever be grateful for the words of wisdom man because I finally found my drive for greatness. I will make something out of myself I promise.
Messing up early might be a blessing in disguise! Just learn & grow as much as you can and you’ll get a head start bro. I’m 23, gonna be finishing university by the end of the year & sometimes I wish I had dropped out around 19 to start pursuing something I was more passionate about. I’m confident able to land a decent job with my BA. Look into product management & quality assurance, super lucrative fields that you get into it with cheap course certifications / self-taught UA-cam knowledge instead of a degree. They work in the software field too
My man, you told us the truth. The only video in youtube that actually helps who are in 20s. Thank you
Excellent framing, very relatable.
I'm a 27 year old women and unfortunately in the times where I know I have to get my shit together, I suffer from great depression & PTSD. Everything I have started, I didn't finish. I worked as a DJ, event manager, booker, audio book speaker, dancer.... Finding myself today falling for flowers. God help me to stick with something. Discipline, continuity and resilience are traits that are so hard to learn when it is a very strange thing to you.
27 and can relate ❤
turning 30, I can relate, too!
Look into microdosing pscilosibin mushrooms it has greatly helped me
30 years old here and still rent, no wife or girlfriend, no kids, no degree (but have 3 certificates from community college in IT), and don't have a job at the moment. Hoping that by 38 I finished my degree, have a girlfriend/fiance/wife, have a good job, and own a house. Also, I've worked a bunch of minimum-wage jobs between 17 and now. In Colorado, luckily, the minimum wage went up to $13 an hour, but not everywhere has that luxury.
Hello, Do you still live in Colorado do you like the state still do you live there?
@@lj9970 yes i still live here though the jacked up prices of literally everything here is making me consider moving to another state. i love the views here but not the people really.
Im 21,day 1 off weed I dont know how many times I tried before tho, maybe almost 100 if not more, studying to become a nurse but I dont really like it, had been swimming for 2 years but this year went bad cause I took all kind of unnecessary advice such as " dont try to hard" " life is a journey" and I work as a nurse and cleaner while studying, I live with my boyfriend and honestly life is not easy dealing with mental health. But I really appreciate this man for hiw wise words, actually many gurus I listened to for countless hours didnt provide such real advice or a clear understanding of what means to better yourself and the struggles of it. Good luck in your journey to you and to all of you put there, peace and lets make a better future for ourselves. Peace
I went out to Kansas when I was 20 to learn some DIY skills and when I came back to Colorado I started a new business using the skills I learned at that job working for a family friend.
Love this! Thank you Dorian 💙👊
Thanks a lot, was much needed. Right now 21 but feeling like everything is going downhill
don't worry it can always get worse. As you get older things like your health will get worse. People's belief that you can change and improve will be lost. Employers look for young people not older people. Your time to build interest is lost when you're older.
this is really great and helpful, 21 trying to figure out how do to all the things I want. thanks so much
24 here, do things anything but do not stay stagnant hop job learn new things and quit when you stop benefiting and stop learning when you feel stuck upgrade. Since I was 15 I’ve worked and only switched jobs when I found better pay and only took a pay cut when I wanted the experience and knowledge that came with the new job but whatever you do never get stuck learn enough about money read books I’m 24 and spent all that time not knowing what I wanted out of a career but had a burning desire to be financially wealthy and able to provide for those who have provided for me. At 24 I’ve learned all I needed to upgrade to the biggest leap yet and got the balls to risk it on a valuable skill I believe will let me run my future full throttle. Truth is never stop figuring it out you’ll never figure it out but that’s the trick your always finding the new way forward is the way to go keep moving never stay still never get stuck
I can’t even figure what’s wrong with me this time 😂 always had my little periods of confusion but would always get past it, 25 years old, started a business about 7 years ago. I was full of ambition. I started that business with nothing, not even knowledge. And taught myself the skill, practicing and failing of course, and now I’m really good at it. I love doing it, there’s nothing else I’d rather do for money… but this year I just got completely burnt out. I really tried in the past 12 months to see some progress and I went crazy behind the business, but still, approaching the 12 months, I wasn’t really in a better position, just extremely tired and drained. And now I’ve lost my drive for it. I don’t know what I want to do with it now. Either keep it on a small scale or go big, but I’m stuck now… I hate to say it, this has never been me, but its like I just don’t care about the outcome anymore. Which I am aware I could use to my advantage, but the motivation or desire just isn’t there anymore… I do not know what’s going on or what’s next
This hit me hard. Thank you for making this video.
I'm really glad I found this video, thank you ❤🩹
28 in the exact same position he said, just now starting to get my shit together and actually trying to do better, I've always had dreams and goals in music but was always a heavy procrastinator and anxious about it, and spent a lot of my early 20s drinking, doing drugs and trying too hard to live in the moment, thinking I was working on my future when I really stalemated myself, I need to hear all of this
why is it always 20s and not 30s that's still young, I started my whole life over at 39 and I'm successful today at 50
Thats amazing to hear. My mother restarted her whole career in her forties. It's never too late to self-improve.
Youre the older brother i never had thanks for this video im 23 years old still lost this kind of guided me
23. Feel shitty in life. Hating every moment.
Facts bro. Stat strong.
You got this man i believe in you
I am 24. I don't have job living with my parent. 😅 but i am understand over thinking is not good that's why i am trying to be happy every day😁💙🫶.🤙
this man motivated me (a smoker of 8 years) to finally quit weed.
He earned a new fan - a new subscriber.
Weed is not a problem if used in moderation
@@brandonkuhh9143 Well, I used to smoke it Too Much. I would pack a 0.3g bowl once every 15 minutes, shit got to the point where I didn't feel the strongest bud in the whole country. Which is fucked if you ask me. Today, I'm 7 days sober. Feeling pretty aight, compared to the first 5 days.
Thank you for breaking down recover in a BJJ standpoint. One thing I learned from a fellow classmate was invert, invert into guard from a better position!!
I’m 21 and this really motivated me to push harder, love the content bro
Loved this video brother. 25 years old and I have been learning so much these past few years, but it comes with a lot of changes due to adult life, getting used to a lot of new things as well as finding what you like, own decisions, friends, what to focus on.... I get why my mom said adult life is very complicated, but knowing you are learning and moving forward makes you feel alive.
Became a realtor at 21, lost direction felt lost, became a firefighter at 23.. planning on getting back into real estate
22 and I'm watching this.
It's all good Sancho u ain't alone either doing drugs is not a best opinion to make it ur hobby cuz that's what am going thru
I didnt know what to major in university nothing seemed interesting so i majored in business administration cuz its good to know those things
Im 19 and really dont know how 2 get my money up rn i left my old friendships Who hold me Back i was feeling Directionless now i thanks 2 this video i feel more confident
I'm turning 22 this year and feel so lost sometimes.
21 but I'ma be 22 soon 😳
Close to 27 here. Dropped out of the equivalent of college in my country. Worked as an electrician for 1 year and left the company (really horrible place). Failed to start 2 businesses and last year I went back to work for somebody in the apparel decoration industry. After 1 year I changed a lot in the production side ( that's what I love doing, making stuff). Asked for a raise and I now earn more than the median income in my country. I asked to become a partner if an investment in 1 piece of equipment goes well and hopefully next year I will be one. I still feel lost and don't know if that feeling will ever go away.
Gonna update in 1 year I hope with better news.
I know this is an older video now but I'm in the exact position you were in your 20s and a video has never captured my attention like this one, I'll be thinking about your advice and coming back to this for awhile. Thanks for helping people out with this.
As a 24 year old who finished a really good university in Netherlands, I was worried that university is a waste of time and that the earlier I begin learning actual skills, the better... It turned out almost completely true, as after graduating this september I still can't find a job and will start learning something else online... Don't regret going to uni but regret doing the wrong course
I’m 21 and been looking for years for help or just anyone that knew something that I didn’t. I’ve felt so lost man I can’t even tell you. Every day I feel out of my mind. This is the first night I’ve sat down and actually tried to help myself because I have no one now. This helped me so much just now man. Everything you said always exactly my situation. You was speaking to your younger self man. You not alone. I’m in the exact situation and I appreciate you for posting and speaking on this. Forever in your debt.
I'm 27 and still have no idea what I am doing, and I think about to get fired from my job.
24, just graduated college from English Translation ( which has nothing to do with learning or translating English, you just memorize theories.)
I'm freaking lost too. I feel y golden perioed of learning and career path choosing is fading away and I can't decide how nor I hae the money to learn new skills
I am 27 too and I am in the same situation
Im 21 I and I stress myself out thinking all I’m doing is waste my time, it’s everyday in my mind, what am I gonna do? How much more time I’m going to waste?
Im 27 too, I got kicked put of my public health career at school last year. I was 6 classes away from graduating. I was cancelled and I know it was unfair. Im studying and taking nursing classes because I mostly have science classes but devoting time into this career is making me more depressed and angry everyday. It takes time away from my music writing, from going to the gym, and from cooking healthy meals. Before the semester I was working with my dad getting paid $500 a week and I was managing life like that, I was more happy because I had time to do the things I wanted to do. Now I don’t have time and im constantly reminded that im studying nursing because public health was unfair to me. The worst thing is I busted my ass in fall 2023 and I got $2,000 from financial aid for the spring but I decided not to enter school in the spring and I had to return that money which was a bonus for getting good grades in the fall. Now in the summer I have to pay $70 instead of getting those $2,000 that were mine to begin with. I hate this school dude, each day im closer to dropping out and pursuing my personal goals more and more, I feel they can turn into work goals, I don’t need a certificate, just the common knowledge.
Hi 5 bro i have two jobs and i want one to fire me but they wont 😫
Thank you for this 🙏 really good advice especially the part about failing forward
this video means a lot to me.thank you very much❤
I hope everybody in the comments gets to achieve their dreams! Success is often connected with frustration and failure.
I’m 21, I’m trying to succeed as much as possible in many areas. I even try my hardest to be the best person I could be even though I fuck up with relationships. Thanks for the video 🙏🏽
1:38 loosing the opportunity to have opportunities coudn’t describe it better
21 currently and never felt more lost in my life. trying to get my life together by going back to school, but ive got a bunch of bad debt from bad decisions. not trying to stress over it but im gonna lock in and get my degree see where it goes from there
Thank you. I hope to come back after a while and thank you again. I needed that badly, your sincere brother from Kuwait
this video is honestly what i needed to hear thank you
I’m 29. I feel like this song in “The Wiz”: I can’t win.
Life passes us by. Whatever you do, it never seems enough. I’ve tried to achieve stuff like getting a masters degree in fucking Philosophy, moving to fucking Peru because let’s do the most challenging stuff ever so maybe I can be proud of myself. But no. Couple weeks ago, I was talking to my sister about being afraid to turn 30 and, instead of saying “I’m scared of getting old”, I had a Freudian slip and said “I’m scared of dying”. If we weren’t so scared of death, we wouldn’t care about figuring out our life and achieving stuff. If I ever go to heaven, my sole wish will be to forever be 24 even though it wouldn’t make sense anymore, but still, I’d fulfil a lifetime of wishing for it.
Turning 20 this year. From the outside, I'm doing really good in school and in college, but on the inside I'm so confused and lost. The things I love to do, I'm scared that it'll either amount to nothing or it's something that won't benefit me financially. There's a small part of me that wants to go out and talk more, experience more, but I'm just scared. We really are our own enemy. I need and want to change, I just don't know where to start
I'm 24. Happily married, having a home built this year, and having twins at the end of the year. While I'm very blessed for everything I have, I also have taken on a lot of stress that I never thought I would feel this early. My advice, were all struggling and that's how life is. You won't improve without pressure and hardships.
I appreciate this video, I’m 23 turning 24 in a week and I know mentally I’m on the right track, it’s a warm feeling knowing that I can do what people older than me wish they would’ve did. Gives me a sense of confidence to do just that. Time definitely does go by faster the older we get. Again, thanks for the video! 🙏🏽
Reading the comments and it sucks a lot of us feel a sense of being behind. I’m taking a risk and leaving my accounting/bookkeeping job the end of this year and starting my own mobile notary business. I am slacking on digging my face in that notary book but I am trying and forcing myself because nobody will save us but ourselves so if anybody sees this, if you can take a risk TAKE IT because WERE YOUNG! (if you can of course) and I’m scared but I’m more scared of being stuck and comfortable and not trying. Also I’m keeping God in the center of my life as always! God bless all my fellow 20 year olds!!!
Over year sobor from drugs and alcohol next month god Is a blessing and can't wait to see what holds for me in the future a man
I'm 22 and still finding the right path for me. All of my friends have found out their ways and what they want to achieve in their life. And here I am feeling stuck. I don't know what I want to do and what's right for me but I know what I don't want to do. My mom always scold me for being useless. Although I am working right now the salary is not high. But I give my mom half of it. She always compares me with others daughters. I feel shitty. I feel worthless. I really want to be happy. I just want to live peacefully. I really hope I find something I can and want to do.
I'd had a lot of struggles early in university because I was so directionless. Job hopping around led me back to university after I really got passionate about software engineering. It does suck because I had full scholarships originally for college and could have gotten my degree pretty much debt free, but I blew my chance and had to get student loans anyway after going back. The loans suck, but I was able to get through it and it's better than working some of the crappy jobs I used to work before my degree.
Turned 22 yesterday, even in college and with a full time job I still feel lost and like things aren't gonna work out.
I’m in my 40s. My 20s were confused and poor. Of course now I’m wishing I had started investing in the S&P. I would have retired by now.
What’s s&p
what’s s&p
S&P 500, look into an ETF called SPY
@@liuvel1817s&p 500 . Basket of company’s for stock
U shoulda bought bitcoin, shoulda bought real estate smh
23 and quite lost here. I needed this video, adding it to my watch later for when i feel like i'm losing my way again. Thanks Johnny Sins, you're the GOAT
And there's people like me who know exactly what they want to do, putting in every ounce of effort into it and still end up not getting what we want.... it hurts
Keep going
That's a really stupid advice.... it doesn't feel good and it doesn't get better
Check and see what you’re doing wrong. If you’re not doing anything wrong, keep going, and at the right time everything will fall into place. Also don’t try to rush the process.
I am 25 and have been in my first entry level job since January as a contingent worker at a large company. I have become so depressed and angry that even coworkers I’m quite sure can tell I’m miserable. I barely even have energy to interact at work. I hate it so much every single day. Doesn’t help that I have severe anxiety and PTSD.
This is wut gives me sm anxiety...."u have time" I'm 23 now but I keep hearing ppl tell me that as tho there's a certain age where it's too late and life ends. I want to believe u can try and do anything at any age. Rn I'm pursuing music and yoga teaching.....but I have so many other passions