The way the world is makes it easy to not regret starting a family, I’m 34 and made the decision after a 12 year relationship that it’s just not for me. Only time I feel truly at peace is when nobody is around
@@kevinwilliams8637 Because kids brought up in homes with a garden etc, a stable place to live, raises the likelihood they will turn out better than kids who don't. They should in my opinion, go before single people "buying up" houses, to store their funkopop,mechanical keyboard collection, or whatever bs hobbies people that have nothing going on fill their houses with. Like Boogie298, a complete waste.
People think I am weird I want to be single, no kids and live alone. I like it like this. No one bothers you and all the money you make goes only to you.
I’m 54 and have been married, divorced twice, and been in relationships thereafter. I thought the only way I would be happy was to be in a relationship. Since 2020 I have been single and the happiest in my entire life!☺
Almost a mirrored experience of me😊. I'm happier not having to deal with the personalities of someone else, only mine. People are full of drama, and their drama has a way of making the life of someone else miserable. 👏🏾👏🏾
@luckystar8590 - it takes a while to get to "happy" as a single person, but it can happen. I'm working toward that and really want to achieve contentment on my own. Congrats.
I’m 47 and single and happy. I literally get into arguments with people about my choice to stay single. I found that a lot of folks are scared to be alone and hear their own thoughts. But I love it so much it ruffles peoples feathers. 🤷🏽♀️
@jessicab331 normalise what. Relationships are not for everyone. Humanity as a whole cannot conform to this, so there's nothing to be worried about. This lifestyle is only for some, and I thank the universe I live in times where I have this choice.
@@gillbenjamin47 romantic relationships maybe not… but humans aren’t meant to be alone… it’s not normal… and all this social media shii is giving ppl a false since of community.
@jessicab331 It's not normal for many, but life runs a course that no one can predict. There are many reasons why people may end up alone. It's NOT for everyone, and you are right, many are probably jumping on the bandwagon like fools, that's why one has to know thyself and be true.to oneself ALWAYS.
I'm a 64 year old male. I love living on my own. I like doing my own thing when i want. I'm not waiting on anyone and no one is waiting on me. I'm alone but not lonely.
@@jonkas4542 Congratulations and good for you, I am glad you realized that. You don't need a spouse/lover and children to feel complete and fulfilled. I salute you for this.
In my 20s I just wanted to meet someone and live together. Never happened because I didn't want that person to be just anyone. Now I'm 56 and it's the LAST thing I want!!! I'd just find it so suffocating
Wow. The timing of me seeing this video couldnt be more perfect, I was with a narcissist for 4 years, and when we stopped seeing each other, i found the love of my life, and because i was trauma bonded, i ended up ruining things but i realized my mistake and did all i could to make sure i got her back
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not
I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
I agree. A lot of people confuse being alone and self-sufficient with loneliness or feeling lonely. It cannot be further from the truth. I see this as a way of a superior man.
I'm 47, own my home paid in full, no debt, never married, no kids. I look much younger than I am because a wife and kids have not aged me. Life is great.
@chchaouqui4826 no you don't. Thats a lifestyle one chooses. I don't care to invest in todays vvomen as they give nothing in return, and it's all financial risk. Legacy argument means nothing, as I bet you don't even know a thing about your great grandfather or his father, or his father before that. Lol
@@joesolo7719 we are from different culture with different background , in the western world people doesnt know the real value of a family , they are so materialist , they care about monney a lot lol , what she gonna give me in return , the answer: peace and love 😌
I actually love this I’m a women but it’s so interesting to hear a man’s perspective I think we need to normalise this being okay and it’s actually important there is a big distinction to being alone vs being lonely thank you for sharing !
Im 48 married and have an 8 years old daughter. I completly get why people dont want kids nowadays. Its not easy, completly drains your wallet and you lose hrs and hrs of sleep. You literally sacrifice your life and time to raise a little one. My personal experience has been that my daughter is a blessing and is the only person in my life that I love with all my heart.
Im 30. I have never wanted marriage or children. I constantly get told in subtle or not so subtle ways that I should want these things. Its infuriating! I dont feel lonely. The only thing that makes me feel alone is literally this - the fact that I feel no one understands the fact that im not interested in living my life in this conventional way that people tell you is the key to happiness. My decisions are never validated. I am constantly challenged on the fact that I may not want these things that everyone else seems to want. And yes I dont feel a “void.” I legit like doing stuff on my own. I go to restaurants by myself and having a meal with myself is highly enjoyable to me. Maybe even equally or more enjoyable than with a partner. The lack of loneliness is what makes me apathetic about finding someone. It’s not that I *wouldn’t* if it felt right, but im also completely ok with never partnering up because like you said, there isnt a void im trying to fill with someone else.
It’s not for everyone! I’m 50, married 3X & no kids. Divorced 12yrs now & ❤ living alone. As an only child, I’m more comfortable alone & was uncomfortable/unhappy trying to achieve status quo (ie marriage/kids)
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I don’t think every entire person in the world needs to be married and/or have children, especially if they don’t want to; we all have different goals and desires- it’s good to share these thoughts so some people don’t feel alone in those wants👍
I'm 39 and don't want kids or a marriage, been single for years. Sometimes I think I'd like to have someone around but ultimately I prefer to be alone too. It's refreshing to know I'm not the only one
WOW! Thank you for this. PLEASE do another video on this topic. So refreshing to hear someone else with the same opinion as me!!!! I'm 56 and have always lived alone, never had a partner and don't even look for one! It just doesn't enter my head. I'm happiest when I'm by myself. People drain me. I don't feel lonely at all. I suppose I'm lucky enough to know a lot of people who I could call to meet up with, but I prefer being by myself. I don't have kids and never wanted any. I don't think I've ever heard another UK guy who feels the same as I do! ❤
As a divorced guy (my divorce was 31 years ago) with no kids and have been living alone ever since (although I do and have dated) I'll say this. DON'T CHANGE A THING. You're living most mens' dream. I'm DEAD serious. You'll find yourself with LOTS of money and LOTS of peace. I'm serious when I say I'd bet the majority of men would switch with you in a heartbeat. The older you get, the more you'll see you are in a great place.
i have just turned 40 and single and alone and love it, love being by myself, doing the things i enjoy and spending time with my dog, people are just hard work, cruel, very rude these days and just not nice to be around, love people lie you and many others who are doing what they want for themselve!
Most people lie to themselves and then they lie to others. It's how they function. I don't accept this as a way of being, although I appreciate sometimes it's necessary to be tactful. However I rebel against any man who expects me to be responsible for their happiness when they have no idea how to do the work for themselves. That said, I'm open to relationships but not live-in ones. It's just familiarity breeds contempt and I am sick of people who are projecting their issue on others instead of dealing with the former and not lying to themselves.
33 yo, married for 8 years but when im around my wife i feel lonely. No common grounds anymore and only conversations we have is about other people. Only positive thing are my two beautiful young sons.
Right there with you. 55, single, no kids, never wanted kids. Enjoy being alone, but not opposed to dating if it happens. Definitely not proactive though. I went into a life of minimalism around 20 years ago. Got rid of my car 15 years ago, bought a studio apartment in a CO-OP, no consumer debt at all, just a few more years of mortgage. I work for myself, don't earn much, and don't need much. Less is more. As I've aged I've come to realize friendship is more important to me than romance, etc. I avoid stress like the plague.
@spiritsanddecibels - That's exactly my mindset...I'm single and now I'm trying, as I write this, to live the life of a minimalist. I already got rid of my car several years ago, but I still have some more things I need to rid myself of...it's a process, but I hope achieve your lifestyle by early next year.
AMEN !!! 59yrs old , never married and no kids . I know friends and relatives think I am gay (and I hate that) ...They act like they are supposed to feel sorry for me . Mean while they are living pay check to pay check and have bad credit . 👎👎👎
Thanks! Just got out of a relationship. I’ve been given women my time for 24yrs. And I think now this last relationship has gotten me to think, that I deserve a few years of alone time by myself, to focus on my internal health and Journey. It’s easy, but gets tough sometimes. Good to see that I’m not alone in this, and I can keep pushing on. Good luck to all the men that are on there journey as well.
We are socially conditioned to fear being alone. Those that are comfortable with solitude will find the positive benefits of doing so. including non-dependency, empowerment, freedom, developing self awareness, and the understanding of the self. Through solitude we can developing courage to let things go that are not serving our interests or adding to the quality of our life. We develop a independent inner strength that does not rely on other peoples approval, courage is developed to accept being disliked by following our own different path. Overall solitude brings freedom and more control of who or what affects our life. Its a time of dropping stress, drama, and toxic people, allowing only those that appreciate our qualities and others that we cherish.
Ah ha, a well stated and brief video. Great job! I had a 40+ year marriage that ended in divorce 7 years ago at age 68. Just grew in different directions and were no longer happy together. Only in the past 2 years have I come to enjoy living alone. Peaceful, much less drama, no need for permission from anyone. Have learned that being alone does not = loneliness for me as a man. It's very freeing. Thank you.
I've had my share of relationships & female fun pre-40, but never wanted children or to be married & decided to go solo 40+ & do my own thing. Age 59 now. No regrets. Already retired & financially secure (retired in my early 50's). Plenty of hobbies, interests & rescue animals/charities to keep me busy & engaged.
44, single and never married, debt free, and im doing well. All my life i was searching for this mysterious person that would add more joy, i spent many days depressed because of the void. As time went by i started taking solo trips, dating myself, and strengthening my discernment. I wasted years being unhappy for no reason, the special person is us. Self discovery really help me to understand that i was not lacking love, its always been here in my heart. I wish i didn't waste years discovering this, many blessings to you all. All you need to be at peace and truly happy is a perspective. 😊
Wow. I am a 28 years old woman, and I’ve silently made the decision to spend my life alone on purpose. My life has been surrounded by broken relationships. If you asked me to name three successful marriages or relationships in my life, I’d probably couldn’t, but I could name a hundred bad ones. I’m currently going through a breakup, and even though I’m grateful for the experience I’m realizing that most of us don’t even get to experience a relationship with ourselves first. It’s truly a bittersweet moment for me because even though I am sad, I’m excited to be alone! I have big plans for my future, and I’m so happy that I get to fall in love with me every day, all day.
@@AndreyVillamil-be8nxMale philosophers claiming throughout history that only men are privy to human experiences and can think them, is why we’re in this mess in the first place🙄 The fact that you cannot perceive that shows that you have no clue about the philosophical concept of consciousness. Women, like men, are sentient beings that have the same human experiences as men and are able to be conscious of humans’ inherent loneliness in this cosmos. In front of the consciousness of death, we are all aware of our aloneness
Same here. I'm romantically alone being a woman at 40 but I'm not lonely. I'm helping raise my nephews and helping my aging parents. I no longer seek the "right one" because I'm old and it's been a long time since they made crystal clear to me that I would never be included in that "game". And that's okay. Better be alone than being stuck in a miserable relationship just for the sake of checking some social boxes. I'm happy that you are following the life you like and want.
After a while many of us realize the reality of companionship never quite lives up to the idea of companionship. Wmn always want to be excited/entertained/impressed. Friends drift away so often. Sometimes it's better to just stop relying on others to be there and avoid the disappointment/heartache altogether. Maybe the highs aren't as high, but the lows aren't as low either.
Agreed ...not all women. I am a minimalist who has *immensely* enjoyed just being in the presence of the man I love: a trip to the museum (that HE insisted we take), falling asleep on each other on the train ride back, watching episodes of The Walking Dead ..I have no interest in living with him. I have children that need their space. I take care of my own children. It really is just him ...just his presence that does it for me. And since we're not around each other everyday, spending time together is a treat, a privilege. I wouldn't have it any other way. 🙂
Exactly how I view life, all decisions have their pros and cons, but I feel drained being around people constantly. Also, I do not want the responsibility of making someone else happy and keeping them entertained, and the stress involved when I'd fail in that responsibility.
Same here. I'm alone, but not lonely, because I have me laddies around and I'm with the best person in world all the time - myself. I never argue or nag at myself and I love myself the most. Reads somewhat narcissistic, I know, but at least I have my well deserved peace.
I started to feel this way at about 25 years of age. I had already been in a couple of relationships and had a son. After reaching 30 without being in another real relationship people started to ask why was I staying single. I had no real answer other than I liked being single and not having to answer to anyone else. I want to cook when I want to cook, go out when I want to go out, stay up to 3am when I felt like it. I never yearned for companionship or felt lonely. I never needed a companion to go to the places I wanted to visit. I am 50 years old and still feel the same way. My son seems to be just like me....a happy loner. I don't apologize for it.
"A happy loner" is a great term, i also realized years ago that i'm an Introvert, took me a while to accept it but now i'm cool about it, especially since i found out loads of famous people are introverts (Keanu Reeves for one), i've even told people close to me i'm an introvert, takes me a while to get used to new people in my life.
I'm feeling the same way more recently, being alone in terms of romantic relationships is really addicting, the skys the limit when you're alone and it's a lot easier to fly under the radar and just live your life stress free
I love being by myself. I also love having a partner. I’m by myself because the men I’ve experienced try to possess me, and I don’t like that. I don’t like to feel like I can’t leave peacefully if I want to leave.
Great video, interesting perspective. You seem very comfortable and content with yourself and your life. In the end, that is all that matters. Good luck bro.
I would rather be single and happy and married than unhappy I know as I experienced both this man makes sense, and one is not alone when one enjoys one's company
Hello Luke. This shouldn't even be an issue. We shouldn't feel like we need to justify ourselves. I am woman, single, and I have troubles convincing my friends I don't actually feel alone much as I am mostly by myself. I actually did feel lonely when I was in relationships where I didn't feel understood. I don't actively look for 'the one' for sure. I feel it's not very likely I find someone who's right for who I've become as a person, but I stay open to that possibility as much as I try to stay open to every meaningful experience in life. It doesn't define the direction of my life, though, I highly value my life as it is. Hugs from Milan,Italy .
Same, i'm in my 50s and 25years ago I felt depressed as I watched friends and family find lover's and become parents. I started to wonder what was wrong with me, it was a real mind fu*k at the time, nearly destroyed me. Now I'm older, wiser and set in my way's I've surpassed the desire for needing a woman in my life. I still notice beautiful women but I also notice their manipulative way's and I've no time for that nonsense. I'm content, fit and organised.
I admire you're character and attitude. I'm in the same position as you but I'm 42 but I wish everyday that I had a wife and family. Its what would make my life complete. I'm just an introvert who struggles to make lasting connections with people. It ruined my life.
Good stuff. Soooooo many people believe that being alone and being "lonely " are synonymous, they are not. I have found after many years that I am my "best friend". Stay up people.
I'm 25 with my own house, car and business. I've never had the feeling of longing for a relationship because I want to focus on achieving all my goals in life.
I used to feel like this but then I got diagnosed as autistic and ADHD aged 40 and realised I would love to have a partner to share and enjoy things with. They'd just have to be autistic too because I am very particular about things, need space and alone time, don't want children etc. I'm totally open now to experiencing all the things I hold within with another soul (love, happiness, contentment, joy, peace). The only reason I isolated and ended relationships up until this point was because I was so misunderstood and couldnt get along in relationships with neurotypicals who just didnt think or see things the way I do. Game changer! Being around other autistic and ADHD people is like someone finally turned the light on❤🎉
I feel like a lot of people just aren't made for relationships/creating a family but they fall into a depression because society expects them to do focus their life on that. The problem is that society expects everyone to be made for having a relationship and children. People who aren't made for those things just have to learn to accept that fact.
Personally, I find it WEIRD the reactions that people have to people like us who are comfortable with the solitude. For example, I have many friends who are married and have families. They don’t realize that they do it, but they constantly complain about married life and how they miss being single. And then other times, they give me the “when are you getting married” speech. They treat it as if it’s outside the realm of possibility they people are just comfortable with solitude. I get the desire for female companionship like anyone else. I have never been unlucky in love. I meet women. I set boundaries from the offset that I am looking only for casual companionship. They’re ok with it, until they aren’t. Then we both move on. It’s been the easiest thing in the world for me. I don’t want to take care of someone else, financially or otherwise. I spent my entire life doing it with my family and I decided that whatever time I have left on this earth, I am going to be selfish and only do things that I want to do. A luxury I never had.
Personally, I had been searching for a loving husband, but upon reaching 42, I realized that life was moving forward. After being inspired by a movie, I decided to pursue parenthood. Although the pregnancy was unexpected, and the father chose not to participate, I elected to keep the baby. This decision has brought me immense joy and fulfillment. I encourage you, brother, not to be too selective, as children can be a precious gift. No regret.Hopefully, I will be working on my second soon.
@@Becxx88 who cares about waht ? Babies - yes I care about them ... I getting the impression you don't and are more interested in the child maintenance ?
It's facinating to see people get mad at you in the comments for living YOUR life the way you want to. Crazy part is your lifestyle does not damage or disrupt anything. I feel the exact same way at 25, and have been since i was 15, im good off a wife and kids.
Wow. Glad to see so many comments of people in the same situation. Im 40 divorced once and no kids. I dont feel lonely but definitely feel the pressure of is something wrong with me so its nice to have a community of people who are in the same boat.
@@forbiddenfruiteffect i think we’ve been conditioned to believe that being alone is “not ok” so when we feel content being alone, we feel shame because we’ve been made to believe that yes, something is wrong with you if you enjoy being alone.
Hey man you can live your life as you want and seek out your passions as you have been but you could always leave yourself open for the right person to find you instead of you trying to seek them out you wont have to sacrifice anything and if it never happens it's not like you would have done anything differently. Maybe you will naturally through hobbies connect with someone who you really enjoy spending time with. But I agree no need to stake your own happiness or time trying to seek that out and attach that to your emotional well being on it but on the same coin no need to completely shutout what the world might surprise you with if you stay open to it.
Although I’m 56, divorced 9 years ago after a 20 year marriage, in a loving companionship for 3 years, I love being independent and on my own doing my own thing, my own life, my own home 🏠. I look after myself first and try and have the best of everything whilst giving back whenever I can . I think you’re in the best possible position being single with no kids..you don’t realise how much energy, cost and stress is involved when you settle down - these days with social media and the high cost of living, you have to be 1000% committed to marriage/kids if that’s your choice otherwise stay single and be free 😊
I haven't been in a relationship since 24. I'm 39, no children, no friends with benefits, yes have some assests, elderly mother now living with me. Not the life I imagined when I was a teenager. When you tell people 'no children' they certainly look at you differently....
Yes sis we certainly do exist. I say we are rare breed and there's reason for this only God and the universe knows why. Im certainly not apologizing for being this way. I don't give my time and attention to just anybody you gotta earn it. Much love sis!!!😊🙏🙏🙏
I was married for a long time, and I don't regret it at all, but after 6 years of being single, I don't think I'll ever do it again. Never say never, but a lot of the shit that you put up with to maintain a long-term relationship is no longer acceptable to me. I have someone I can travel with if I want companionship, and that's a decent trade-off. I've been to top-notch resorts worldwide and seen sad couples who can't stand to hear each other breathe or chew. Being in Paradise, definitely not having sex or maintenance sex at best? Nah, not doing it. I'd rather golf, tbh.
...and i thought it was just me ...i'm 62,lived alone most of my life ,have a nice flat , a great job,and keep myself in shape ... gave up credit cards,so my debt is Way Down ,gave up my car many years ago ,and always keep a daily promise to myself to Never hold on to stress...people are always shocked about my age ,as they say i look much younger ...still like to have fun with the ladies ,but they are far from my main focus in life ...all in all ,i'm doing OK ..
You look good & healthy. Don't care what others have to say, instead do what makes you happy. Everyone is different & has different purposes in life. Embrace being unique and live your life! ❤️
Luke...stay single. You are one of the lucky ones. Do not marry. Over half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce and the man loses most everything. Don't do it.
@@heymoe1179 I am proud of you for putting intentional and critical thought in the decision to get married and have children. You realized it is not a good idea, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
@chadguindon6909 The kids were great...but the man always gets the shaft in a divorce. Never enter into a contract where one party can void it at any time and get rewarded for doing so.
41, single, never married, never wanted kids. I did think i want someone as a wife but all my past relationships have showed me fhat in the long term, its pretty much fhe same in all relationships. I love my alone time.
I fully support you my brother to be alone is 100% healthy , you need your permanent self zone than to have someone who is going to irritate you when you say right she says left. My brother if you can count a persentage of people who are devorcing is extremely big because people realize that to stay with another person is not healthy, is nice to see a person for that particular time and go away not to live with her . Brother i support you to be alone is healthy.
ah man, getting older sucks. I'm just approaching 30 and it's starting to become more and more of a reality to me how screwed up this entire society is. Nobody can agree. Everybody is set in their own ways. Everyone has bad habits/characteristics and things to work on. Life changes, the things you want change, the people you wanted around you 10 years ago now feel like they were never meant to be in your life. You can only depend on yourself in this life. This is the reality...
I am 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I am a natural introvert and could NEVER have a spouse/lover and children. Having those things are selfish because you are too scared to age and die alone. Well, I would much rather age and die alone than with horrible people.
Nurses beating us to death will not be nice, and no one will look up for us. Sorry but your assumption you will not die with horrible people is fallacious and in fact it is selfish to expect other people kids to care.
People who have kids aren't necessarily selfish, but many believe that those children owe them, and when those children don't look after them as they are aging, they become bitter. I don't think anyone should have children with the expectation that those children will take care of them in their elderly years. I also think that a majority of people are afraid to be alone because it's stigmatized in certain societies, and even going out on a Friday evening can be challenging as a single person.
Same here. I'm 47. Living by myself. No kids. Mortgage paid off. No credit card debt. Life is great 👍
The way the world is makes it easy to not regret starting a family, I’m 34 and made the decision after a 12
year relationship that it’s just not for me. Only time I feel truly at peace is when nobody is around
What's the point of a mortgage if you don't have a wife and kids?, makes no sense.
@@coffeepot3123why does one have to have a family to own their own home?
@@kevinwilliams8637 Because kids brought up in homes with a garden etc, a stable place to live, raises the likelihood they will turn out better than kids who don't.
They should in my opinion, go before single people "buying up" houses, to store their funkopop,mechanical keyboard collection, or whatever bs hobbies people that have nothing going on fill their houses with.
Like Boogie298, a complete waste.
But your lonely
People think I am weird I want to be single, no kids and live alone. I like it like this. No one bothers you and all the money you make goes only to you.
There is a whole group of us😁
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Exactly.
Selfish hey. 😁
@tracybrovan3997 key words: no one bothers you ppl who aren't like us dont get it unfortunately
I’m 54 and have been married, divorced twice, and been in relationships thereafter. I thought the only way I would be happy was to be in a relationship. Since 2020 I have been single and the happiest in my entire life!☺
Almost a mirrored experience of me😊. I'm happier not having to deal with the personalities of someone else, only mine. People are full of drama, and their drama has a way of making the life of someone else miserable. 👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you for sharing that! Much appreciated.
@luckystar8590 - it takes a while to get to "happy" as a single person, but it can happen. I'm working toward that and really want to achieve contentment on my own. Congrats.
Same here, greetings from Mexico!
Ulol, kasi may mga ka fuck buddy lang kau e
I’m 47 and single and happy. I literally get into arguments with people about my choice to stay single. I found that a lot of folks are scared to be alone and hear their own thoughts. But I love it so much it ruffles peoples feathers. 🤷🏽♀️
You're not weird. There's loads of us now. Best to be true to self
Absolutely! 👍
Tryna normalize this bs😂
@jessicab331 normalise what. Relationships are not for everyone. Humanity as a whole cannot conform to this, so there's nothing to be worried about. This lifestyle is only for some, and I thank the universe I live in times where I have this choice.
@@gillbenjamin47 romantic relationships maybe not… but humans aren’t meant to be alone… it’s not normal… and all this social media shii is giving ppl a false since of community.
@jessicab331 It's not normal for many, but life runs a course that no one can predict. There are many reasons why people may end up alone. It's NOT for everyone, and you are right, many are probably jumping on the bandwagon like fools, that's why one has to know thyself and be true.to oneself ALWAYS.
I'm a 64 year old male. I love living on my own. I like doing my own thing when i want. I'm not waiting on anyone and no one is waiting on me. I'm alone but not lonely.
How many girls you’re subscribed to on OnlyFans?
'' I've been single for awhile now, and I have to say, it's going very well. Like... it's working out. I think I'm the one.''
Same boat. 53, never married and no kids. Half my life ago, I hoped to someday have a family. Never happened. But nowadays I have no regrets.
@@jonkas4542 Congratulations and good for you, I am glad you realized that. You don't need a spouse/lover and children to feel complete and fulfilled. I salute you for this.
Cope
In my 20s I just wanted to meet someone and live together. Never happened because I didn't want that person to be just anyone. Now I'm 56 and it's the LAST thing I want!!! I'd just find it so suffocating
I congratulate you.
Yep in this economy, it all speaks for itself 😮
Wow. The timing of me seeing this video couldnt be more perfect, I was with a narcissist for 4 years, and when we stopped seeing each other, i found the love of my life, and because i was trauma bonded, i ended up ruining things but i realized my mistake and did all i could to make sure i got her back
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not
I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I agree. A lot of people confuse being alone and self-sufficient with loneliness or feeling lonely. It cannot be further from the truth. I see this as a way of a superior man.
I'm 47, own my home paid in full, no debt, never married, no kids. I look much younger than I am because a wife and kids have not aged me. Life is great.
no She-Devil has sucked the life force out of you!
For god sake get over it and for women marriage and divorce can be a death sentence look at the news on any given day @@michaeljames4630
Life is short you have to try everything . We live one life you have to enjoy the experience of marriage children , as any experience in life ....
@chchaouqui4826 no you don't. Thats a lifestyle one chooses. I don't care to invest in todays vvomen as they give nothing in return, and it's all financial risk. Legacy argument means nothing, as I bet you don't even know a thing about your great grandfather or his father, or his father before that. Lol
@@joesolo7719 we are from different culture with different background , in the western world people doesnt know the real value of a family , they are so materialist , they care about monney a lot lol , what she gonna give me in return , the answer: peace and love 😌
I actually love this I’m a women but it’s so interesting to hear a man’s perspective
I think we need to normalise this being okay and it’s actually important there is a big distinction to being alone vs being lonely thank you for sharing !
Im 48 married and have an 8 years old daughter. I completly get why people dont want kids nowadays. Its not easy, completly drains your wallet and you lose hrs and hrs of sleep. You literally sacrifice your life and time to raise a little one. My personal experience has been that my daughter is a blessing and is the only person in my life that I love with all my heart.
No wrinkles at 44. Looking good 😂 Less stress does have its upsides
Lmao😂,bro could pass for 30
Yeah he looks younger than me at 23 honestly
Black don't Crack. God bless him!
That's fucking racist
He needs to give Ivan Dixon his mustache back.😅
The “right person” first and foremost, is within oneself 😊
Congrats mate, u avoided lots of drama and saved lots of money thanks to ur decision. 👏🏽👏🏽
Im 30. I have never wanted marriage or children. I constantly get told in subtle or not so subtle ways that I should want these things. Its infuriating! I dont feel lonely. The only thing that makes me feel alone is literally this - the fact that I feel no one understands the fact that im not interested in living my life in this conventional way that people tell you is the key to happiness. My decisions are never validated. I am constantly challenged on the fact that I may not want these things that everyone else seems to want.
And yes I dont feel a “void.” I legit like doing stuff on my own. I go to restaurants by myself and having a meal with myself is highly enjoyable to me. Maybe even equally or more enjoyable than with a partner. The lack of loneliness is what makes me apathetic about finding someone. It’s not that I *wouldn’t* if it felt right, but im also completely ok with never partnering up because like you said, there isnt a void im trying to fill with someone else.
It’s not for everyone! I’m 50, married 3X & no kids. Divorced 12yrs now & ❤ living alone. As an only child, I’m more comfortable alone & was uncomfortable/unhappy trying to achieve status quo (ie marriage/kids)
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I don’t think every entire person in the world needs to be married and/or have children, especially if they don’t want to; we all have different goals and desires- it’s good to share these thoughts so some people don’t feel alone in those wants👍
I'm 39 and don't want kids or a marriage, been single for years. Sometimes I think I'd like to have someone around but ultimately I prefer to be alone too. It's refreshing to know I'm not the only one
Im 39 in one month. The same situation
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WOW! Thank you for this. PLEASE do another video on this topic. So refreshing to hear someone else with the same opinion as me!!!! I'm 56 and have always lived alone, never had a partner and don't even look for one! It just doesn't enter my head. I'm happiest when I'm by myself. People drain me. I don't feel lonely at all. I suppose I'm lucky enough to know a lot of people who I could call to meet up with, but I prefer being by myself. I don't have kids and never wanted any. I don't think I've ever heard another UK guy who feels the same as I do! ❤
As a divorced guy (my divorce was 31 years ago) with no kids and have been living alone ever since (although I do and have dated) I'll say this. DON'T CHANGE A THING. You're living most mens' dream. I'm DEAD serious. You'll find yourself with LOTS of money and LOTS of peace. I'm serious when I say I'd bet the majority of men would switch with you in a heartbeat. The older you get, the more you'll see you are in a great place.
i have just turned 40 and single and alone and love it, love being by myself, doing the things i enjoy and spending time with my dog, people are just hard work, cruel, very rude these days and just not nice to be around, love people lie you and many others who are doing what they want for themselve!
Most people lie to themselves and then they lie to others. It's how they function. I don't accept this as a way of being, although I appreciate sometimes it's necessary to be tactful. However I rebel against any man who expects me to be responsible for their happiness when they have no idea how to do the work for themselves. That said, I'm open to relationships but not live-in ones. It's just familiarity breeds contempt and I am sick of people who are projecting their issue on others instead of dealing with the former and not lying to themselves.
33 yo, married for 8 years but when im around my wife i feel lonely. No common grounds anymore and only conversations we have is about other people. Only positive thing are my two beautiful young sons.
Thanks for posting! Wish more men would be honest or share what they been through.
@ off course, being honest is important. Im lucky that my wife is a good mother for our children. Gotta be grateful for the good things.
Right there with you. 55, single, no kids, never wanted kids. Enjoy being alone, but not opposed to dating if it happens. Definitely not proactive though. I went into a life of minimalism around 20 years ago. Got rid of my car 15 years ago, bought a studio apartment in a CO-OP, no consumer debt at all, just a few more years of mortgage. I work for myself, don't earn much, and don't need much. Less is more. As I've aged I've come to realize friendship is more important to me than romance, etc. I avoid stress like the plague.
Exactly how I view life, best of luck to you.
@spiritsanddecibels - That's exactly my mindset...I'm single and now I'm trying, as I write this, to live the life of a minimalist. I already got rid of my car several years ago, but I still have some more things I need to rid myself of...it's a process, but I hope achieve your lifestyle by early next year.
You are right to avoid stress, stress is a big killer, can trigger cancer, i refuse to get stressed over anything.
I avoid stress too like the plague.
dont need much = freedom and peace. me too brother!
Thank you for this, as someone looking for "the right person", the counter perspective is quite valuable to me.
Same, 39 years old, no children, never married, and I am very happy
AMEN !!! 59yrs old , never married and no kids . I know friends and relatives think I am gay (and I hate that) ...They act like they are supposed to feel sorry for me . Mean while they are living pay check to pay check and have bad credit . 👎👎👎
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Keep going man, I'm always curious to hear other people who live alone like I do talk about it.
Thanks! Just got out of a relationship. I’ve been given women my time for 24yrs. And I think now this last relationship has gotten me to think, that I deserve a few years of alone time by myself, to focus on my internal health and Journey. It’s easy, but gets tough sometimes. Good to see that I’m not alone in this, and I can keep pushing on. Good luck to all the men that are on there journey as well.
We are socially conditioned to fear being alone. Those that are comfortable with solitude will find the positive benefits of doing so.
including non-dependency, empowerment, freedom, developing self awareness, and the understanding of the self.
Through solitude we can developing courage to let things go that are not serving our interests or adding to the quality of our life. We develop a independent inner strength that does not rely on other peoples approval, courage is developed to accept being disliked by following our own different path. Overall solitude brings freedom and more control of who or what affects our life. Its a time of dropping stress, drama, and toxic people, allowing only those that appreciate our qualities and others that we cherish.
Ah ha, a well stated and brief video. Great job!
I had a 40+ year marriage that ended in divorce 7 years ago at age 68. Just grew in different directions and were no longer happy together. Only in the past 2 years have I come to enjoy living alone. Peaceful, much less drama, no need for permission from anyone. Have learned that being alone does not = loneliness for me as a man. It's very freeing. Thank you.
I've had my share of relationships & female fun pre-40, but never wanted children or to be married & decided to go solo 40+ & do my own thing. Age 59 now. No regrets. Already retired & financially secure (retired in my early 50's). Plenty of hobbies, interests & rescue animals/charities to keep me busy & engaged.
It’s amazing how little money you need and how early you can retire without a woman in your life.
💭@@TruthsSake
@@TruthsSakeThat’s because most husbands want the women to quit working. Can’t have it both ways.
“Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.”
― Erich Fromm
This is actually the best life. Congrats on figuring it out.
44, single and never married, debt free, and im doing well. All my life i was searching for this mysterious person that would add more joy, i spent many days depressed because of the void. As time went by i started taking solo trips, dating myself, and strengthening my discernment. I wasted years being unhappy for no reason, the special person is us. Self discovery really help me to understand that i was not lacking love, its always been here in my heart. I wish i didn't waste years discovering this, many blessings to you all. All you need to be at peace and truly happy is a perspective. 😊
Same. At first it felt daunting, now I couldn't think of anything worse than bringing some one to a movie for example.
Wow.
I am a 28 years old woman, and I’ve silently made the decision to spend my life alone on purpose. My life has been surrounded by broken relationships. If you asked me to name three successful marriages or relationships in my life, I’d probably couldn’t, but I could name a hundred bad ones.
I’m currently going through a breakup, and even though I’m grateful for the experience I’m realizing that most of us don’t even get to experience a relationship with ourselves first.
It’s truly a bittersweet moment for me because even though I am sad, I’m excited to be alone! I have big plans for my future, and I’m so happy that I get to fall in love with me every day, all day.
Just be sure not to fall into narcissism and take it a bit too far. Best of luck stranger
A fellow introvert
You are a woman, you can't be alone even if you wanted to. Being alone is a philosophical concept only men understand.
@@AndreyVillamil-be8nxMale philosophers claiming throughout history that only men are privy to human experiences and can think them, is why we’re in this mess in the first place🙄 The fact that you cannot perceive that shows that you have no clue about the philosophical concept of consciousness. Women, like men, are sentient beings that have the same human experiences as men and are able to be conscious of humans’ inherent loneliness in this cosmos. In front of the consciousness of death, we are all aware of our aloneness
❤️🌹👌👍🙏
Same here. I'm romantically alone being a woman at 40 but I'm not lonely. I'm helping raise my nephews and helping my aging parents. I no longer seek the "right one" because I'm old and it's been a long time since they made crystal clear to me that I would never be included in that "game". And that's okay.
Better be alone than being stuck in a miserable relationship just for the sake of checking some social boxes. I'm happy that you are following the life you like and want.
Same here, I'm 35 and alone but not lonely.
I'm 41, no kids and no partner and no wish to change it. I travel alone and do what I want. This is the only thing I don't regret in my life. ❤
After a while many of us realize the reality of companionship never quite lives up to the idea of companionship. Wmn always want to be excited/entertained/impressed. Friends drift away so often. Sometimes it's better to just stop relying on others to be there and avoid the disappointment/heartache altogether. Maybe the highs aren't as high, but the lows aren't as low either.
not all women😅 some are simple, don’t enjoy parties and like a quiet, simple, minimal life whilst others enjoy more- just like some men👍
That was well said.
Agreed ...not all women. I am a minimalist who has *immensely* enjoyed just being in the presence of the man I love: a trip to the museum (that HE insisted we take), falling asleep on each other on the train ride back, watching episodes of The Walking Dead ..I have no interest in living with him. I have children that need their space. I take care of my own children. It really is just him ...just his presence that does it for me. And since we're not around each other everyday, spending time together is a treat, a privilege. I wouldn't have it any other way. 🙂
Exactly how I view life, all decisions have their pros and cons, but I feel drained being around people constantly. Also, I do not want the responsibility of making someone else happy and keeping them entertained, and the stress involved when I'd fail in that responsibility.
I relate 100 percent to this. Alone over 10 years. I like being alone. Completely ok doing things on my own and having to answer to myself.
Same here. I'm alone, but not lonely, because I have me laddies around and I'm with the best person in world all the time - myself. I never argue or nag at myself and I love myself the most.
Reads somewhat narcissistic, I know, but at least I have my well deserved peace.
I started to feel this way at about 25 years of age. I had already been in a couple of relationships and had a son. After reaching 30 without being in another real relationship people started to ask why was I staying single. I had no real answer other than I liked being single and not having to answer to anyone else. I want to cook when I want to cook, go out when I want to go out, stay up to 3am when I felt like it. I never yearned for companionship or felt lonely. I never needed a companion to go to the places I wanted to visit. I am 50 years old and still feel the same way. My son seems to be just like me....a happy loner. I don't apologize for it.
"A happy loner" is a great term, i also realized years ago that i'm an Introvert, took me a while to accept it but now i'm cool about it, especially since i found out loads of famous people are introverts (Keanu Reeves for one), i've even told people close to me i'm an introvert, takes me a while to get used to new people in my life.
thanks for sharing your story. Greetings from a happy loner
Im 41 and u look younger than me, no eye bags no wrinkles no grey facial hair, I'd say you made the right choice 😂👊🏾
same here. just turned 50 in September, never married, no kids. way too much deception and double standards in modern dating.
Happy Birthday
@@BrianRenardDavis thank you Brian 🏁🏁🏁
Such a powerful message thanks for putting this out there!”
Same 37 never married no kids and I love being alone. It’s a lot of us out here.
I'm feeling the same way more recently, being alone in terms of romantic relationships is really addicting, the skys the limit when you're alone and it's a lot easier to fly under the radar and just live your life stress free
Freedom. Peace and quiet. truth. Problem solving . Also side note. The rocket lava lamp is a cool piece.
Same. 45. Nice to see you, thank you for sharing your perspective.
I hear you bro. 51 here. Been single for 9 years. Also alone, but not lonely. All good 👍
Being alone is amazing
Lol
You look great for your age brother. You look 30 easy. Keep it pushin 💯
I love being by myself. I also love having a partner. I’m by myself because the men I’ve experienced try to possess me, and I don’t like that. I don’t like to feel like I can’t leave peacefully if I want to leave.
You just need "the right person"...
I’m in the same situation, I like my independence and I’d rather be on my own than with the wrong one
Loneliness happens to people who are, and have been, deprived of the opportunity of ever having to come to terms with themselves.
One of the best comments here.
43 here and I’m on the same boat mate. Freedom and peace of mind are sacred.
Have a great year!
Great video, interesting perspective. You seem very comfortable and content with yourself and your life. In the end, that is all that matters. Good luck bro.
I realized being alone is probably best for me. I've learned a lot about human nature along the way. Very painful.
I would rather be single and happy and married than unhappy I know as I experienced both this man makes sense, and one is not alone when one enjoys one's company
47F here and I'm exactly the same. Never married. No kids. No debt. No mortgage. I'm happy!
Hello Luke. This shouldn't even be an issue. We shouldn't feel like we need to justify ourselves. I am woman, single, and I have troubles convincing my friends I don't actually feel alone much as I am mostly by myself. I actually did feel lonely when I was in relationships where I didn't feel understood. I don't actively look for 'the one' for sure. I feel it's not very likely I find someone who's right for who I've become as a person, but I stay open to that possibility as much as I try to stay open to every meaningful experience in life. It doesn't define the direction of my life, though, I highly value my life as it is. Hugs from Milan,Italy .
I like your perspective. Stand by your convictions. Do what's right for you. Best of wishes for the new year.
Same, i'm in my 50s and 25years ago I felt depressed as I watched friends and family find lover's and become parents. I started to wonder what was wrong with me, it was a real mind fu*k at the time, nearly destroyed me. Now I'm older, wiser and set in my way's I've surpassed the desire for needing a woman in my life. I still notice beautiful women but I also notice their manipulative way's and I've no time for that nonsense. I'm content, fit and organised.
I still love women and enjoy sex, don't get me wrong. A man has urges! I just don't need a woman.
@UA-camWillCensorThis I agree if the opportunity for sex happens with a woman you have chemistry with of course, why not?
@@UA-camWillCensorThis you're not supposed to have sex unless you're married though!
I admire you're character and attitude. I'm in the same position as you but I'm 42 but I wish everyday that I had a wife and family. Its what would make my life complete. I'm just an introvert who struggles to make lasting connections with people. It ruined my life.
If you desire a wife and family you're not anything like me but I wish you luck in your search.
Good stuff. Soooooo many people believe that being alone and being "lonely " are synonymous, they are not. I have found after many years that I am my "best friend". Stay up people.
I'm 25 with my own house, car and business. I've never had the feeling of longing for a relationship because I want to focus on achieving all my goals in life.
You're still a baby.
You said there is no hole or void in your life and I can’t help but smile for you. ❤
I used to feel like this but then I got diagnosed as autistic and ADHD aged 40 and realised I would love to have a partner to share and enjoy things with. They'd just have to be autistic too because I am very particular about things, need space and alone time, don't want children etc. I'm totally open now to experiencing all the things I hold within with another soul (love, happiness, contentment, joy, peace). The only reason I isolated and ended relationships up until this point was because I was so misunderstood and couldnt get along in relationships with neurotypicals who just didnt think or see things the way I do. Game changer! Being around other autistic and ADHD people is like someone finally turned the light on❤🎉
Good for you. I'm not autistic. We each have our reasons.
Yeah, no man is an island
You're a woman. Literally all you have to do is just exist and you will get a relationship. It's way different for men.
I feel like a lot of people just aren't made for relationships/creating a family but they fall into a depression because society expects them to do focus their life on that.
The problem is that society expects everyone to be made for having a relationship and children. People who aren't made for those things just have to learn to accept that fact.
"The right person"
The great lie they tell you to sell diamond rings and cake.
Personally, I find it WEIRD the reactions that people have to people like us who are comfortable with the solitude. For example, I have many friends who are married and have families. They don’t realize that they do it, but they constantly complain about married life and how they miss being single. And then other times, they give me the “when are you getting married” speech. They treat it as if it’s outside the realm of possibility they people are just comfortable with solitude.
I get the desire for female companionship like anyone else. I have never been unlucky in love. I meet women. I set boundaries from the offset that I am looking only for casual companionship. They’re ok with it, until they aren’t. Then we both move on. It’s been the easiest thing in the world for me. I don’t want to take care of someone else, financially or otherwise. I spent my entire life doing it with my family and I decided that whatever time I have left on this earth, I am going to be selfish and only do things that I want to do. A luxury I never had.
Personally, I had been searching for a loving husband, but upon reaching 42, I realized that life was moving forward. After being inspired by a movie, I decided to pursue parenthood. Although the pregnancy was unexpected, and the father chose not to participate, I elected to keep the baby. This decision has brought me immense joy and fulfillment. I encourage you, brother, not to be too selective, as children can be a precious gift.
No regret.Hopefully, I will be working on my second soon.
you're advocating bringing babies into the world without a father ?
@garethwilliams4467 you don't know me you just assumed go to orphanage and you will understand
@garethwilliams4467 who cares
@@Becxx88 who cares about waht ? Babies - yes I care about them ... I getting the impression you don't and are more interested in the child maintenance ?
You don't know me first of all and next time before you make comment about this take a chance to visit the orphanage and uplift the lives of others.
It's facinating to see people get mad at you in the comments for living YOUR life the way you want to. Crazy part is your lifestyle does not damage or disrupt anything.
I feel the exact same way at 25, and have been since i was 15, im good off a wife and kids.
Thank you Luke for sharing your truth with us. You remind me of someone i know. Bless you.
Wow. Glad to see so many comments of people in the same situation. Im 40 divorced once and no kids. I dont feel lonely but definitely feel the pressure of is something wrong with me so its nice to have a community of people who are in the same boat.
@@forbiddenfruiteffect i feel this too! Like im like is something wrong with me for not wanting these things??? O.o
@samarathatworld4429 yeah I guess society makes us feel that way even though they sometimes don't explicitly tell us on the face
@@forbiddenfruiteffect i think we’ve been conditioned to believe that being alone is “not ok” so when we feel content being alone, we feel shame because we’ve been made to believe that yes, something is wrong with you if you enjoy being alone.
@@samarathatworld4429 right
Social media and the movies also feed it into us
Many people get married for cultural reasons and have only lied to themselves that they want marriage. Nice to see videos like this
Hey man you can live your life as you want and seek out your passions as you have been but you could always leave yourself open for the right person to find you instead of you trying to seek them out you wont have to sacrifice anything and if it never happens it's not like you would have done anything differently. Maybe you will naturally through hobbies connect with someone who you really enjoy spending time with. But I agree no need to stake your own happiness or time trying to seek that out and attach that to your emotional well being on it but on the same coin no need to completely shutout what the world might surprise you with if you stay open to it.
I am open. Things can change.
Although I’m 56, divorced 9 years ago after a 20 year marriage, in a loving companionship for 3 years, I love being independent and on my own doing my own thing, my own life, my own home 🏠. I look after myself first and try and have the best of everything whilst giving back whenever I can . I think you’re in the best possible position being single with no kids..you don’t realise how much energy, cost and stress is involved when you settle down - these days with social media and the high cost of living, you have to be 1000% committed to marriage/kids if that’s your choice otherwise stay single and be free 😊
I haven't been in a relationship since 24. I'm 39, no children, no friends with benefits, yes have some assests, elderly mother now living with me. Not the life I imagined when I was a teenager. When you tell people 'no children' they certainly look at you differently....
Hi brother. This resonates with me. I understand completely
I don't blame you. I was married 21yrs and my ex wanted another woman. It's better to be alone and at peace.
Rough.
It’s also not for me either! I love being alone too. People can’t believe that people like us exist but here we are living the way we want to live 🎉
Yes sis we certainly do exist. I say we are rare breed and there's reason for this only God and the universe knows why. Im certainly not apologizing for being this way. I don't give my time and attention to just anybody you gotta earn it. Much love sis!!!😊🙏🙏🙏
Damn you cute
I was married for a long time, and I don't regret it at all, but after 6 years of being single, I don't think I'll ever do it again. Never say never, but a lot of the shit that you put up with to maintain a long-term relationship is no longer acceptable to me. I have someone I can travel with if I want companionship, and that's a decent trade-off. I've been to top-notch resorts worldwide and seen sad couples who can't stand to hear each other breathe or chew. Being in Paradise, definitely not having sex or maintenance sex at best? Nah, not doing it. I'd rather golf, tbh.
I'm 54, and i can relate. I have a husband and 4 cats n thats it. Thats enuff. ❤
Huh?
44. I live alone. 1 kid 21 years old living in a different state. Right now I don't really want a relationship.
...and i thought it was just me ...i'm 62,lived alone most of my life ,have a nice flat , a great job,and keep myself in shape ... gave up credit cards,so my debt is Way Down ,gave up my car many years ago ,and always keep a daily promise to myself to Never hold on to stress...people are always shocked about my age ,as they say i look much younger ...still like to have fun with the ladies ,but they are far from my main focus in life ...all in all ,i'm doing OK ..
You look good & healthy. Don't care what others have to say, instead do what makes you happy. Everyone is different & has different purposes in life. Embrace being unique and live your life! ❤️
Smartest way to go in todays society to be honest!
Luke...stay single. You are one of the lucky ones. Do not marry. Over half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce and the man loses most everything. Don't do it.
@@heymoe1179 I am proud of you for putting intentional and critical thought in the decision to get married and have children. You realized it is not a good idea, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
@chadguindon6909 The kids were great...but the man always gets the shaft in a divorce. Never enter into a contract where one party can void it at any time and get rewarded for doing so.
41, f, never married , no kids. Not looking to manage another human being. Want to be friends?
Maybe
41, single, never married, never wanted kids. I did think i want someone as a wife but all my past relationships have showed me fhat in the long term, its pretty much fhe same in all relationships. I love my alone time.
Deep...,. unique but not alone in your philosophy and I am in my early 70's😅
Nice video bro 😎. Your peace is the most important thing you can control. 💯
I’m 46 married with a son, trust me brother no matter if your in a relationship or not your still ALONE, I’m happy in myself just like you.
I fully support you my brother to be alone is 100% healthy , you need your permanent self zone than to have someone who is going to irritate you when you say right she says left. My brother if you can count a persentage of people who are devorcing is extremely big because people realize that to stay with another person is not healthy, is nice to see a person for that particular time and go away not to live with her . Brother i support you to be alone is healthy.
ah man, getting older sucks. I'm just approaching 30 and it's starting to become more and more of a reality to me how screwed up this entire society is.
Nobody can agree. Everybody is set in their own ways. Everyone has bad habits/characteristics and things to work on. Life changes, the things you want change, the people you wanted around you 10 years ago now feel like they were never meant to be in your life.
You can only depend on yourself in this life. This is the reality...
Getting older is great for me. I'll do a video on it at some point. Good luck.
I am 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I am a natural introvert and could NEVER have a spouse/lover and children. Having those things are selfish because you are too scared to age and die alone. Well, I would much rather age and die alone than with horrible people.
Nurses beating us to death will not be nice, and no one will look up for us.
Sorry but your assumption you will not die with horrible people is fallacious and in fact it is selfish to expect other people kids to care.
People who have kids aren't necessarily selfish, but many believe that those children owe them, and when those children don't look after them as they are aging, they become bitter. I don't think anyone should have children with the expectation that those children will take care of them in their elderly years. I also think that a majority of people are afraid to be alone because it's stigmatized in certain societies, and even going out on a Friday evening can be challenging as a single person.