He owned and lived in a bus. He travelled around the USA and visited every VA hospital in the nation. He was a great actor and a wonderful human being.
@@billwendell6886 Look at the bright side. We have Trump because these days being a zero integrity piece of scheiss does not disqualify you from anything including the most important job in the nation.
@@billwendell6886, yeah… you’re probably right. I guess it depends on how one defines patriot. Simply waving the flag and saying ‘we’re #1!” Ain’t it. G’day, mate.
It is easy to rationalize and accept you've failed yourself, but having to face letting down everyone who had hopes and expectations for you is much worse.
@@triumph_cv He didn't need to comfort her. She was the one putting the pressure on him. The ending is still to Hollywood and doesn't represent reality for a lot of men.
If they were thinking about it enough to roll a major motion picture on the subject, I have to wonder if it was actually just as relatable. The older I get the more I find things maybe haven't changed as much as people want to think they have. Humans will be humans after all.
@@WayneMarion and what are you basing that on? I’m going to tell you something that your parents never told you and should have….you are unintelligent and need to rectify that soon…I’d be more explicit but UA-cam will censor me
it never got this dramatic or heartbreaking but 1 night after being repeatedly rejected at salsa class I thought I am not enjoying this let me spend my time else where
My mom is my world, she always joked Im her favorite daughter (I'm her only daughter lol) but I'm worried 😢 I can't handle the world with her May God bless them
If I recall… his “friends” were part of the problem. And we can all relate to feeling like this. Our inner dialogue, a constant refrain of “what’s wrong with me?” He was the quintessential “nice guy” who was unlucky in love… until he wasn’t. ❤️
Parents want you to produce offsprings because they don't want their dna to vanish. But you are a failure and you will never have kids. IF your parents wanted to increase their chances of passing their genes, they should have made more children, not only one. But they made only you because rising children is hard. It may be hard, but chances of your child dying before reproducing is very high because of many obvious reasons. Life is a probability game and your parents were too dumb to understand that and now all they can do is to supprot the consequences, wich are their DNA dying with you. I am sorry if you expected a happy ending but it is what it is....
His family and friends knock down the girl that he does like. Then Marty realizes that the only one who has to like the girl is HIM. His life improves once he lives for himself, not his family.
Family isn't everything. Seeking their approval isn't everything. Every time I sought advice from a family member, it never worked out well. I eventually stopped seeking advice from them. They may love you, but they don't always know what’s best for you. That's where you have to trust your judgment, and make the best decision possible. It can't be any worse.
thats a slippery ideal though. "live for yourself" is a few short mental jumps from "only my own happiness matters" and while the former is a good ideal the latter is barely disguised hedonism
@@sovietunion7643And you can very easily bounce back yo the other extreme. Slippery slopes are not a problem. Not seeing them and not being able to avoid them is a problem.
I'm alone at 49 had many chances in my 20s but was too shy and simply missed that window while my friends all got married and had kids, im resigned to the fact that I will always be alone
I know the feeling. We have to do more than just work though. Find good hobbies, build a social network outside of social media (church ect). We will be fine.
A simple yet moving film about ordinary people, not mega-rich models, stock brokers, and influencers. No explosions, no car cases, no CGI, no aliens. Refreshing and, nearly 70 years later, people can still relate to what Borgnine's character was feeling.
You guys are getting really weird about it. “No tattoos, no swearing” 😂 you like movies about unicorns and the tooth fairy as well? Some people like gritty movies some people like the whimsical stuff. There’s nothing wrong with either of them so get off your high horse.
"So I'll die without a son." To be an unmarried man in an Italian family, and not a priest was a mark of shame and worry on that family in those times. Borgnine is brilliant at showing pain in subtle ways. His call to Mary Feeny in the movie and that rejection he conveys is incredibly believable.
WOW!! TY for adding that!! I didn't know. EB was later on the TV show McHale's Navy- and any number of films- But I loved him, adore his work in the Wild Bunch!!
He said in an interview that he knew he had the role 'sewed up' when he did an informal read of this scene for Delbert Mann and Paddy Chayefsky, and they started crying. 😢
As one who knows your pain...I can suggest this...go see, the Philippines. I am sure as I have done this myself...you will be selected by a woman you feel is wayyy out of your league. She will choose you, it will be a whirl wind experiance and you will never feel the same way about yourself. Ever again. As I said...I know this...first hand. All you have to do, is pack and fly. You will be changed forever.
In 3 weeks I'll be 67. Single my whole life, no kids. This hits hard. Life isn't so glamorous for millions of us. If only Mothers would JUST back off and let their son's become who they want to be, NOT who THEY want them to be!
I wish I would have had the freedom to have become myself. I always tried to please others including my mother. It got me nowhere except into an inescapable trap I'll never get out of.
I can relate to your comment. My mother was seriously ill for many years. I was her only care taker from my early 20's until I was 45 when she passed on. It is isolating to be a caretaker for an elderly person. I went to a church singles group, in my 30's, and everyone wanted to know what I did for a living. They were trying to determine what I earned. I worked part time, at a department store for a minimum wage, so I could be available to take Mom to doctor appointments and take care of her housework. I didn't make enough to pay for lunch at a nice restaurant. There were 5 women for every man in the room. Not one man wanted to even talk to me. I was an old maid and it was obvious. The men were all looking for someone with earning potential. Someone young and pretty with a full time successful job. I sat down next to a man who was by himself. He looked lonely too. I thought maybe we could strike up a conversation. He got up and walked away when I tried to talk to him. I never went back. I am in my 70s now. Still alone. I've gotten used to it. It's okay to be alone. A lot of women I know my age are widows. Some are divorced. They live for the once in a while phone call from their kids. But their kids don't have time for them. You can see the pain in their eyes. The world is full of lonely people. But it was really hard in my thirties. I'm okay with it now. You learn to adjust.
Interesting, overwhelmingly I have seen men belittle other men for doing this, not women. Overwhelmingly any woman I know likes the idea of a man who's willing and capable of taking care of not only himself but someone else? That's fucking rare.
Never believe that ! You got it! Believe in yourself! Start taking care of yourself and workout out and eat healthy and have a positive mindset! There is someone for everyone!
Ernest Borgnine truly was a great actor, but he was also a really decent guy... Back in the 90s, he and his son stopped in their motorhome for fuel at my dad's Service Center in Spring, Texas. Mr. Borgnine actually walked in to the cashier's building himself to pay for the diesel. All of the guys in the shop recognized him from about 150 feet away and walked over to say hello... And he obliged everyone for a good twenty minutes. It's unimaginable today, that any current "Star" could or even would do anything like that. Both he and his son were very nice people.
Not true about today's celebrities. Just the huge fake ones. But so many actors enjoy meeting people and lingering and chatting. It happened to a friend of mine when Casey Affleck walked into the store she worked at in Berlin.
Best thing I can tell you is work on yourself everyday find something you like he’ll walk it’s helps believe me every joy of life gets taken away don’t let it get worse and I’m only 41
0:50 “Some stupid woman who I didn’t even want to call up” That’s when the rejection and loneliness gets to be too much… when you try to hang out with someone you’re not even that into, you just need someone… but then even they reject you… that’s when you give up and embrace the loneliness.
I've known this heartache all my 58 years. I gave up on women 30 years ago, tired of not only being rejected but burned. The only peace & joy I have is being left alone and accepting the hand I was dealt. The only good women are not interested, taken or dead.
@@Sun2day-f6fThat’s true. The other day I told my husband the guy next door said hello and we commented about the loud thunder. My husband said he ignores people because you never know what mood they’re in. I don’t get angry or hurt when I’m ignored.
@RevLeigh55 This woman reminds me of my mother constantly pushing if you're not married, you're nothing. I'm a widow for 19 years. And dating is horrible even after a few long-term relationships. The 19 years I've been a widow, it really is not worth it. I am happy bing single, enjoying my three sons and my two dogs. Society brainwashes us that we need a partner, a husband or we're not gonna be happy.
Whatever people say about the guy, I was a nobody, met him at Dragoncon in 2008, when i met him again at the same con in 2012, he stepped past the two young ladies fronting his table, held his hands to me, and smiled, and said "Brother Tim"! my nerd friends were floored -- as was I, he remembered our conversation, like it had been the day before, he died, like a year later.
Glad you got to see Enie then. I remember going to DragonCon and seeing him but was afraid to pay the 75 bucks for meet and greet because i just lost my job. I still regret it being a huge fan. My distant cousin worked with him on Marty.
The issue is, if you truly belive that your ugly, and that's what you feel. And if you feel that your ugly, then that's what you see. Trust me, I know that feeling very well. Granted I got much better over the years, but there were many years that I felt just like this character. That's why people love this scene, as it's very relateable for many men.
I lost my virginity at 40 and even then paid for it. Women seem to think men have it easy. Only the hunky and wealthy ones! Thankfully in my 50s I found a woman who appreciates me and am happily married. There are still some decent women out there.
I can relate, after a while it gets ridiculous to continue. But I fully understand that you can’t win if you don’t enter. So I’ll be a loser, somebody has to be.
Idk how old this movie is but this dude just described exactly how I feel at age 32 in 2024. I had a few gorgeous girlfriends but we never made it. “Whatever women like I ain’t got it.” I’ve had that thought almost word for word and abandoned hope just like he has… I never told anyone about the pain but his reaction is the physical enactment of what I’ve done on the inside. Incredible work.
My mother is the same. Insists on me being handsome, smart, and charming. But it's like Marty said: "Whatever they want, I ain't got." and I'm fine with it. You learn to live with it. Is it painful? Yes. But you learn to endure it.
Find inner peace. Meditation or rest help a lot. Slow walking in nature. Helping nature and others, Anonymously. Thankfulness for simple things. Having a meal and a warm pleace to sleep. As JRR Tolkien wrote: Handsome is as handsome does. Wish you all the best 🍀
I’m 70 and unfortunately that’s the story of my life. I’ve lived it alone and will end it alone. I’ve helped so many, yet no-one has ever been there for me when I’ve needed help - they just leave me to cope alone. What a sad legacy for someone who has given so much. My epitaph will read: Unwanted, Unloved, Forgotten.
I remember as an eight year old kid sitting along a parade route in Milwaukee, a clown coming up to us who even through his make up I could tell looked exactly like Earnest Borgnine. I told my mom...." Mom!....I think that was Earnest Borgnine! " My mom laughed at me and the thought of what I had just said. I found out about 30 years later, that that was in fact, Mr. Borgnine. What a good man he was. Cheers.
It must have been surreal experience for Ernest Borgnine to win the best actor Oscar over fellow nominee, Spencer Tracy, who he co-stared in "Bad Day at Black Rock" also in 1955. He respected Spencer so much.
Tracy advised Borgnine not to take the part in "Marty", saying that it would be a little black & white movie that no one would ever see. At the Academy Award ceremony, as Borgnine walked to the stage to accept the Oscar, he passed Tracy, and Tracy said "you never listen to me, do you?"
True but becaause Marty put himself out there and invested in someone that alot of other guys wouldn't have. Alot of guys (and women too) are lonely af but they have too high expectations when it comes to physical attractiveness. Marty discovered someone with a good heart, and he valued that more than looks (not that his gf was a huge dog or anything, but she was as overlooked by most shallow men as he was by shallow women)
Great comments. I have had loves in my life. When I was young I thought I couldn't be happy unless I had a romantic connection. It wasn't until much later I knew I could be, and was, happy being single. My dear (younger) friend is stuck in the relationship cycle and is not happy. Makes me sad for her. My worry used to be that I don't want to be alone when I'm old. I realized I won't be because I have a great friends network. Many other single moms that I'm tight with. We are there for each other. Also... A very tight relationship with my son. I know he will be there for me. 💕
"Language has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone." -Paul Tillich
Man I know we're talking about him but it must be so heartbreaking being a mom and see your son so sad, lonely and angry at life/himself. Not being able to help him.
Marty is my spirit animal. I feel his pain when it comes to suffering from loneliness and being neglected. Hoping to find happiness and all you keep getting in return is more hurt and pain from heartbreak and rejection. This movie has a message I really wish some took to heart these days.
I remember getting dragged up to the stage at a wedding reception by this gorgeous columbian mutual friend, then she just turns around and walks away from me to dance alone. I never attended another wedding again and lost friends over it. It was just too humiliating.
When you cross that line with your own mother, confessing this type of pain, it's there that you truly hear the tragedy of your life. This pain is now out in the open and it's like a new pain emerges, a type of heartache that is met with the sympathy of your own mother. I've been there and it's a very terrifying place, your mind starts to wobble, the pain feels like it's out of control, that it could take your life if you were to really get to know it. You're body feels all this regret, envy and frustration like a surge of poison that seeps through you like madness.
It's sad that they can't make movies like this anymore. Just a simple story about life, great performances, heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. No studio would take a chance on this.
I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ernest Borgnine, and though it had nothing to do with Marty, I couldn't help but take a moment to compliment him on this movie, which I have alway loved. He was as gracious as you would expect, a true gentleman and one hell of an actor.
This is a great film. Shame it's not really as well known as other great films from the era. Historically speaking, around three-quarters of men don't get to reproduce, so scenes like this are extremely relatable for most men. Many of us have had to have this hard discussion with our own mothers. That we're the end of the line. I count myself fortunate to have one who understood and accepted it.
One of the hardest things for a good man to accept is that women are not attracted to honor or human decency. None of Marty's shallow friends had his level of trouble with women.
My bachelor days were like this and I hated every moment of it. Thankfully I found somebody who deeply loves me and she and I have two beautiful daughters
I remember feeling like this. I got my heart broken so hard by putting myself out there, I didn’t want to risk it again. I remember sitting on the edge of my bed, crying. My mom came in and I had the same reaction as Marty. The very next January, I put on my proverbial blue suit and went out begrudgingly, and that’s when I met my beautiful husband. This feeling though, it the pit of despair. You feel so hopeless, invisible, unworthy. Yet, you have to keep finding ways to get yourself out there despite those feelings. ….
I wouldn't call myself ugly on the outside, but definitely feel like I have an ugly past. I know what it feels like to be unwanted. But what's amazing about my baby is she doesn't see me that way. She sees me as the most beautiful man in the world inside and out 😭😭😭😭 there's somebody out there who will appreciate you I promise
Why wouldn't they.... women are human too and come in all sorts of messed up. If men and women decided to see the human in each other we'd get along a lot better.
@whatever1068 You make a valid point, however we're inherently different by nature, I think it's hard for the opposite gender to understand the pain that the other side experiences.
Caucasian young men in the 60s decided they didn't want to do that anymore. They didn't want to put on suits and show a girl they could dance. The girls finally stopped trying to twist their arms. What replaced it was avoidance (like Marty) or mosh pit jiggles, pickups, heavy drinking and drugs. No indication that the guy couldn't dance of that he thought he looked g-y. He felt confident just sitting or leaning and watching the parade. In the late 70s the music industry tried to restart the couples dancing in the non latin sector by showcasing popular actors like Travolta, Bacon and Swayze in movies. Young men rejected it again in the 80s. I think Xanadu killed it. Too elaborate and a bit too effeminate with the young men in the film. By then 20 years had passed and such clubs were long gone or being torn down.
@@STho205 You forgot the rise of discos in the '70s & '80s.. That was a real trend toward dance clubs. Studio 54 and all the copycat places around the country.. Don't distort history.
@@DexterHaven which became a hive for club girls and gay men. The US disco trend lasted about 10 years centered on 1977, and was mostly replaced by the comedy club return.
@@STho205That was about the time they split one paycheck into two for double the workforce. Most of these social-clubs where led and organized voluntarily, making it Impossible to sustain due to most working more hours for less. But hey, atleast consumption is up.
@@denisdelinger3265 Statistically, over time, only 5% of Men have reproduced. While you have twice as many female ancestors as male. Matter of fact its on par with sperm to egg ratio.
He gave a free talk at the la noho library-standing room only all ages-he exuded warmth kindness sincerity and love for all-no ego-said he got paid $500 for “Marty” - what a film-what a guy-genuine -his smile lit up the room-amongst all else he talked about buying his RV to see America & it was wonderful to feel the love he had for his family - need more like him
Marty, I know every last word of that. It's my life, too, and I imagine there are millions like me. We don't fit the profile, and if we actually do find someone, they won't stay. I've pretty much quit, and for quite some time. Ernest Borgnine deserved his Oscar for playing this role.
sax dolls are like 300 bucks on temu. wannantalk unworthy? chicks with a body count higher than they can count. stop chasing andnjust treat yourself. consider it the new normal. because in a decade, it will be. men with be done with they over va.ued come dumpsters.
A man can only fail so many times before he realizes he was never meant for anything or anyone. Humanity has always pass judgements based on looks and status and never what's in a man's heart even when we are honest with ourselves. I suffered heart ache since a was ten and it hasn't stop even now that I'm thirty-seven. I tried and I failed and a man can try only for so long.
The egos have taken over. There is no humility (humbleness) in actors, let alone any of the rest of Hollywood, today. Only a truly humble person can deliver a humble performance. And only a truly humble person can truly love, like Ernest Borgnine.
Formula Movies are made by mega studios to make money . That’s why I watch independent films, foreign films that deal with people, their emotions and the artists that translate their vision onto the screen.
This movie was moving and real. It felt so sad that he was alone and everyone wanted him to “ find “ someone BUT then when he finally finds a girl All the ppl in his life tried to discourage him for their own selfish reasons. He finally realized he HAD to choose happiness for himself Disspite his friends and family. A true life lesson
I've lost count how many women have told me I'm kind, gentle, romantic, considerate. I've been told I make them feel loved, appreciated, how they like I can make them laugh, they like I remember what they talk about even if they thought I didn't hear it, and they like how I ask about their day and then listen to everything they have to say. The last woman I pursued put her fingers on my cheek and softly commented "you're so good to me," but you know what? every single time, I'm not what they're looking for, I'm rejected like I'm not good enough, they lie to me to avoid being honest, but I find out they lied anyway it hurts, it hurts a lot, because I end up wondering what's wrong with me that no woman out there would be interested in me or think I'm good enough. I end up wondering why I'm so ugly. It hurts.
Hits me right in the soul. Every girl I've ever chased has left me heartbroken and second guessing my worth. The worst part? They all ghost me...I try and reach out and get stonewalled. So eventually, I stop trying and start trying to figure out what I did. Only to never know. There's only been one girl that ever told me what I did. She reached back to me, she was scared off because I actually listened to her and for Christmas got her a gift she casually mentioned she always wanted. It was a little stuffed moose. She ghosted me for a while, then apologized out of the blue. We're good friends, but there was nothing romantic left to pursue. Nowadays, I don't even bother. Why put myself out there for more heartbreak, more loneliness, more depression. I'm already depressed what feels like 50 weeks out of the year...
Boy is that the power of art reflecting/portraying realities! Being on the phone as a 47 yr old guy frustration dumping recently to my 77 year old mother on the phone. "You don't understand!" I exclaimed. She replied; " I do understand ". Then as the conversation continued she proved she didn't understand. I don't look like a "Marty" on the outside but feel the suffering of one. on the inside.
The character of Marty is only supposed to be in his mid-30s. It's amazing how society can make you feel like you have no chance at finding your person after such a young age! And I felt the exact same way at 34, and met my now-husband at 35. If you want to find someone, you don't have to give up.
My husband was 37 when we met. His whole family thought he'd never marry. They never liked me much but that didn't bother us. 40 years later most of them are gone and we're still married.
Years ago I read that the producers of this movie expected it to flop; expected to use it as a tax write off. Then it's Oscar nominated. I wonder if they liked that or were pissed off.
I watched this movie a few years ago on TCM. The plot is so simple but kept me riveted. When folks say they don’t make them like they used to, this is what they mean. The best story telling doesn’t need a whole lot of flash and bang. Marty is absolutely the best of story telling.
This scene breaks my heart everytime I see it. I totally sympathise with Marty, more so then any other scene. I had nearly the same conversation with my Ma, in my late 20s, after a second friend of my became engaged. I couldn't do it anymore. I couldn't do the online dating, the speed dating etc, where no one was interested in me. 10 years later, I met my future wife. I still remember the dark days when I pictured myself being alone forever. I started getting used to the idea. As friends married and became fathers, I was the go to Godfather and I was starting to get used to it. Then I would be out and see others in love and enjoying life with someone and I would be sad again. Some very dark moments went through my mind. This film is brilliant and should been seen by more people to understand that everyone has a right to love and be loved.
When I add up the years of all my long-term relationships, it comes to about 30 years. I'm solo now. I went from one relationship to the next without any real time-out. After my last one ended, a voice inside myself said, "You need some time to be on your own for a while before the next one." With some effort on part, along with some time, and to my utter surprise, I came to embrace the solo lifestyle. Man oh man, I absolutely LOVE it! I have no desire to get into a relationship again. And the more time that goes by, the more and more I love solo living even more so. I learned that ALONE vs. LONELINESS are two different things. Alone is just the physical thing of having no one around. Loneliness is a mental state. You can feel totally lonely when you are in a roomful of people, or you can feel totally at peace and content when you are all by yourself. 😃
Very true. Dating in 2024 is much different than in 1954. It makes things easier but it took the personal element from it. Women dont love themselves anymore. They don’t respect themselves anymore. They’re not discreet anymore. They don’t leave anything to imagination anymore. They expose themselves in every single way on facebook, instagram, tik tok, etc. if a woman is doin that, what type of men they’re gonna meet? Creeps. Kinda sad.
Even then, social media would reject him, mostly because he’s a 30 year-old man, white, straight, fat, short (Ernest, and thereby Marty, was 5 foot, 9 and a half inches tall) and lives at home with his mom. Modern society standards would have excluded Marty, even on social media.
@@ghanasoul The majority of people in poverty r womenn and children and males now outnumber womenn in the world because of males committing femicide. Male tyranny and crimes against humanity need to be addressed. Until then enjoy the male loneliness epidemic and declining birth rates. 🐱🥂🐻
He owned and lived in a bus. He travelled around the USA and visited every VA hospital in the nation. He was a great actor and a wonderful human being.
We have Gary Sinise now. When Hollywood didn't cancel you for being a patriot.
33rd degree Mason..
@@seeburgm100a good for him.
@@billwendell6886 Look at the bright side. We have Trump because these days being a zero integrity piece of scheiss does not disqualify you from anything including the most important job in the nation.
@@billwendell6886, yeah… you’re probably right. I guess it depends on how one defines patriot. Simply waving the flag and saying ‘we’re #1!” Ain’t it. G’day, mate.
“Loneliness is the safest place I know”
Fvck. That is some heavy dope.
Very true. 😢
Unfortunately our comfort place, will also be our prison.
Sadly I can relate
@@soberminded7716 bro you spittin
What hits hard is that his loneliness hurts him, but seeing his mom sad because of him and being powerless to do anything hurts him far more.
When he pats his mom's hand at the end to reassure and comfort her... So heartbreaking
It is easy to rationalize and accept you've failed yourself, but having to face letting down everyone who had hopes and expectations for you is much worse.
The performance was worth an Academy Award.
@TennesseeHomesteadUSA
Yep, and he got it!
@@triumph_cv He didn't need to comfort her. She was the one putting the pressure on him. The ending is still to Hollywood and doesn't represent reality for a lot of men.
More relatable now than what it was in 1955.
Yes indeed.
If they were thinking about it enough to roll a major motion picture on the subject, I have to wonder if it was actually just as relatable. The older I get the more I find things maybe haven't changed as much as people want to think they have. Humans will be humans after all.
@@bryanmack4054
Whatever makes you feel better but, then was nothing like now. Nothing.
Only in 1955 there wasn't social media, dating sites, email, texting, video games and all the other connections/stimuli that we have nowadays.
@@WayneMarion and what are you basing that on? I’m going to tell you something that your parents never told you and should have….you are unintelligent and need to rectify that soon…I’d be more explicit but UA-cam will censor me
“I ain’t got it” … I felt that hard
Millions of us do....we just don't make the news
Me too.
there are women picked over 2
it never got this dramatic or heartbreaking but 1 night after being repeatedly rejected at salsa class I thought I am not enjoying this let me spend my time else where
@@Fatelvis2 I’m sure there are. Loneliness doesn’t care about gender, age, geography, etc.
The moment my mother died is the moment I knew I would never be genuinely loved by another woman again for the rest of my life.
Hope you are doing ok
My mom is my world, she always joked Im her favorite daughter (I'm her only daughter lol) but I'm worried 😢 I can't handle the world with her May God bless them
I'm sorry bro. I pray that the statement will not be true and I pray God blesses you.
The world seems a little less safe, doesn't it?
SAME
Borgnine is so great in this heartbreaking scene. He deserved the Oscar he received.
Absolutely. When a scene is so well acted it's relevant and poignant even today you know it was a special performance
I believe he got the Oscar due to that scene 🎬. It was raw, brilliant. He laid his soul bare. What do you want from me? Heartbreaking ❤️🩹 💔
How about the Poseidon Adventure?
If they still made them like this, I'd still be going to the movies.
There was a "normal" movie few years ago. I liked it so much to watch. Manchester by the sea
Me too
@@jamescromwell5013 Never saw Manchester movie yet, and the town is near me.
Back when acting actually mattered.
@@DexterHaven It' a nice movie.
Very relatable. To all my fellow lonely people out there, man or woman, I wish you all the best and may you find happiness.
Put on the blue suit, and just go. ❤
No
@@vivcole3812 You'll feel worse if you don't even try.
If I recall… his “friends” were part of the problem. And we can all relate to feeling like this. Our inner dialogue, a constant refrain of “what’s wrong with me?” He was the quintessential “nice guy” who was unlucky in love… until he wasn’t. ❤️
I just can't connect with other human beings.
parents want you to get married because they don’t want you to be alone when they’re gone
Not sometimes, almost all parent felt that way dude
We ALL die alone
What do you mean "Alone when they're gone"? I've been alone since I came off the teat.
Parents want you to produce offsprings because they don't want their dna to vanish. But you are a failure and you will never have kids. IF your parents wanted to increase their chances of passing their genes, they should have made more children, not only one. But they made only you because rising children is hard. It may be hard, but chances of your child dying before reproducing is very high because of many obvious reasons. Life is a probability game and your parents were too dumb to understand that and now all they can do is to supprot the consequences, wich are their DNA dying with you. I am sorry if you expected a happy ending but it is what it is....
Err, no mate. They don't want you to be alone because that means you're a failure, which means they are a failure. It's pretty selfish actually.
His family and friends knock down the girl that he does like.
Then Marty realizes that the only one who has to like the girl is HIM.
His life improves once he lives for himself, not his family.
Great assessment... very true
Family isn't everything. Seeking their approval isn't everything. Every time I sought advice from a family member, it never worked out well. I eventually stopped seeking advice from them. They may love you, but they don't always know what’s best for you. That's where you have to trust your judgment, and make the best decision possible. It can't be any worse.
I lost it all because of this... trying to have both. I lost her love... families approval... my future... it all feels empty now
thats a slippery ideal though. "live for yourself" is a few short mental jumps from "only my own happiness matters" and while the former is a good ideal the latter is barely disguised hedonism
@@sovietunion7643And you can very easily bounce back yo the other extreme. Slippery slopes are not a problem. Not seeing them and not being able to avoid them is a problem.
I'm alone at 49 had many chances in my 20s but was too shy and simply missed that window while my friends all got married and had kids, im resigned to the fact that I will always be alone
Same.
That is ok
I know the feeling. We have to do more than just work though. Find good hobbies, build a social network outside of social media (church ect). We will be fine.
Stop humble bragging about all the chances you had in your twenties. Some of us are older than you and never even had a chance. ☹️😁
A simple yet moving film about ordinary people, not mega-rich models, stock brokers, and influencers. No explosions, no car cases, no CGI, no aliens. Refreshing and, nearly 70 years later, people can still relate to what Borgnine's character was feeling.
I still watch it to remind myself of what good movies used to look like!
@@mattdaugherty7865 exactly !!
no tattoos, no swearing, no drugs or gunfights.
You guys are getting really weird about it. “No tattoos, no swearing” 😂 you like movies about unicorns and the tooth fairy as well? Some people like gritty movies some people like the whimsical stuff. There’s nothing wrong with either of them so get off your high horse.
@@magesalmanac6424 Careful. Don't fall off your horse.
"So I'll die without a son." To be an unmarried man in an Italian family, and not a priest was a mark of shame and worry on that family in those times. Borgnine is brilliant at showing pain in subtle ways. His call to Mary Feeny in the movie and that rejection he conveys is incredibly believable.
Just be quiet and watch a movie. Stop commenting and critiquing and analyzing. Jee whiz
This is a good comment
this is a very interesting point thank you for your input ( don’t mind the first guy in the replies )
The negative guy is in a weird way like Marty's mom and friends. Trying to keep him psyched out for no real reason other than their own misgivings.
@@itsnotatoober Just scroll through the comments and stop commenting rudely to people for no reason. Jee Whiz
Good movie! Borgnine deserved the Oscar he got for that performance.
Ernest Borgnine received the Best Actor Oscar for Marty in 1956. It’s an excellent film about life.
WOW!! TY for adding that!! I didn't know. EB was later on the TV show McHale's Navy- and any number of films- But I loved him, adore his work in the Wild Bunch!!
He said in an interview that he knew he had the role 'sewed up' when he did an informal read of this scene for Delbert Mann and Paddy Chayefsky, and they started crying. 😢
Totally agree.💕🙂
@@timisaac8121how many times have you watched the WB?
Millions of people have never married for the reasons he states. Life can be lonely, but it's better than a bad marriage.
They say that but if you've never had anything, not even a relationship, you'd find yourself begging for one anyway
This is a moving evocation of social pressure. As a lifelong bachelor myself, I relate.
As one who knows your pain...I can suggest this...go see, the Philippines. I am sure as I have done this myself...you will be selected by a woman you feel is wayyy out of your league. She will choose you, it will be a whirl wind experiance and you will never feel the same way about yourself. Ever again. As I said...I know this...first hand. All you have to do, is pack and fly. You will be changed forever.
People don't understand how hard it is, and everyday I feel sad because no one out there loves me.
@@greyowl750 whereabouts ?
@@greyowl750
I'm a local guy in southeast Asia and there are no women who choose me. You just got the white privilege and it's unfair.
@frog6054 I'm sorry man. Keep hunting. Here in Canada, I'm a average dude too..gotta do back flips to talk to them here too.
In 3 weeks I'll be 67.
Single my whole life, no kids.
This hits hard.
Life isn't so glamorous for millions of us. If only Mothers would JUST back off and let their son's become who they want to be, NOT who THEY want them to be!
Same here, 65. The longer I live, the more it seems life is just work to pay your way and dealing with whatever problem comes up that day.
I wish I would have had the freedom to have become myself. I always tried to please others including my mother. It got me nowhere except into an inescapable trap I'll never get out of.
You let your momma run your life?
@@lond2835 everybody but you runs yours
I want to be your friend if u want... 🤗
I’m alone and taking care of my mother. Women have insulted me for this. Very relatable.
May you be blessed.
Only people in pain would do such insult.
Compassion to you and to your mother.
And also to those who are not (yet) compassionate.
I can relate to your comment. My mother was seriously ill for many years. I was her only care taker from my early 20's until I was 45 when she passed on.
It is isolating to be a caretaker for an elderly person. I went to a church singles group, in my 30's, and everyone wanted to know what I did for a living. They were trying to determine what I earned. I worked part time, at a department store for a minimum wage, so I could be available to take Mom to doctor appointments and take care of her housework. I didn't make enough to pay for lunch at a nice restaurant. There were 5 women for every man in the room. Not one man wanted to even talk to me. I was an old maid and it was obvious. The men were all looking for someone with earning potential. Someone young and pretty with a full time successful job. I sat down next to a man who was by himself. He looked lonely too. I thought maybe we could strike up a conversation. He got up and walked away when I tried to talk to him. I never went back. I am in my 70s now. Still alone. I've gotten used to it. It's okay to be alone. A lot of women I know my age are widows. Some are divorced. They live for the once in a while phone call from their kids. But their kids don't have time for them. You can see the pain in their eyes. The world is full of lonely people. But it was really hard in my thirties. I'm okay with it now. You learn to adjust.
Interesting, overwhelmingly I have seen men belittle other men for doing this, not women. Overwhelmingly any woman I know likes the idea of a man who's willing and capable of taking care of not only himself but someone else? That's fucking rare.
“Whatever it is that women want, I ain’t got it.” Ain’t that the truth.
Never believe that ! You got it! Believe in yourself! Start taking care of yourself and workout out and eat healthy and have a positive mindset! There is someone for everyone!
Money.
@Dana_inc that's not true. Men are loved as long as we provide something.
All they want and care about is money or looks and if you don’t have one or the other you won’t have a women
Yeah men care about looks, women care about money, and looks too sometimes. It's transactional from both sides.
Ernest Borgnine won the Best Actor Oscar for this! 1956.
It also won Best Picture that year.
Ernest Borgnine truly was a great actor, but he was also a really decent guy... Back in the 90s, he and his son stopped in their motorhome for fuel at my dad's Service Center in Spring, Texas.
Mr. Borgnine actually walked in to the cashier's building himself to pay for the diesel.
All of the guys in the shop recognized him from about 150 feet away and walked over to say hello... And he obliged everyone for a good twenty minutes.
It's unimaginable today, that any current "Star" could or even would do anything like that.
Both he and his son were very nice people.
Met telly savalas in a Greek diner, go figure, in new hyde park LI in the 70's. Nicest guy.
Not true about today's celebrities. Just the huge fake ones. But so many actors enjoy meeting people and lingering and chatting. It happened to a friend of mine when Casey Affleck walked into the store she worked at in Berlin.
I think you'd love Keanu Reeves then.
Don't know about that, I met Morgan Freeman in 2008 and he was a humble man and good.
@@organboi Lol, the first thing that sprung to mind when you mentioned Casey Affleck was "I'm the king a' Dunkin' guy!"
I’m 37 and it hurts how much I can relate to this movie scene
Best thing I can tell you is work on yourself everyday find something you like he’ll walk it’s helps believe me every joy of life gets taken away don’t let it get worse and I’m only 41
@@luisvilla799I am married and trust me, NEVER sacrifice your freedom.
Me too
I am a little older and I can relate to it too :(
I hear you man
0:50 “Some stupid woman who I didn’t even want to call up” That’s when the rejection and loneliness gets to be too much… when you try to hang out with someone you’re not even that into, you just need someone… but then even they reject you… that’s when you give up and embrace the loneliness.
Truly shows you how alone you are in the world. How undesired I truly am.
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Marty was a great movie that many men even today can relate to. Especially if you are Italian. Ernest Borgnaine was perfect for this roll.
It was originally a live TV play, with Rod Steiger...he also was perfect.
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“I don’t wanna get hurt no more”. Yep, that messed with me more than I was expecting
I've known this heartache all my 58 years. I gave up on women 30 years ago, tired of not only being rejected but burned. The only peace & joy I have is being left alone and accepting the hand I was dealt. The only good women are not interested, taken or dead.
He just summarised what the bottom 80% of men go through.
A mother like her will never understand his position.
Salute to you Ernest Borgnine, RIP.
I'm middle aged, my dad is in his 80's, they invited me for dinner, to introduce me to a lady in her 80's. Jesus Krai-Ist!
Yikes
There's no bottom 80% this is just some men's rights cope
Mother in general, not like her....also they love unconditionally. Men have to work on themselves
True
This story is even more relevant in todays society than it was back then. People are more connected electronically but not personally these days.
@@henrywallacesghost5883 very true, we're in the midst of a male loneliness epidemic.
@@triumph_cv and nobody cares. But it is okay if you just work on yourself and live your life.
@@Sun2day-f6fThat’s true. The other day I told my husband the guy next door said hello and we commented about the loud thunder. My husband said he ignores people because you never know what mood they’re in. I don’t get angry or hurt when I’m ignored.
@@bertroost1675 that's the plan. Learn to make your own happiness 👍
As the saying goes……you meet a lot of people with television but there’s no real connection.
I’m also done trying. It’s liberating.
Me too! Been married more than once. Divorced and widowed. Then burned by narcissistic guys. Not worth it anymore.
@RevLeigh55 This woman reminds me of my mother constantly pushing if you're not married, you're nothing. I'm a widow for 19 years. And dating is horrible even after a few long-term relationships. The 19 years I've been a widow, it really is not worth it. I am happy bing single, enjoying my three sons and my two dogs. Society brainwashes us that we need a partner, a husband or we're not gonna be happy.
C'mon, have you tried going out in a blue suit yet? Do it the old lady... ;)
Whatever people say about the guy, I was a nobody, met him at Dragoncon in 2008, when i met him again at the same con in 2012, he stepped past the two young ladies fronting his table, held his hands to me, and smiled, and said "Brother Tim"! my nerd friends were floored -- as was I, he remembered our conversation, like it had been the day before, he died, like a year later.
Glad you got to see Enie then. I remember going to DragonCon and seeing him but was afraid to pay the 75 bucks for meet and greet because i just lost my job. I still regret it being a huge fan. My distant cousin worked with him on Marty.
@@slackjaw4270whenever I went to conventions, this was always the thought that I may never see them again and just spend my money to see them.
The woman playing the mom was good too. Sometimes you don't recognize how good the actors that are played off of are.
back in those days many were from the theatre, and black and white film is excellent for humans; photo or film.
I’m thinking of Psycho, the “we all go a little mad sometimes” scene. Its Anthony Perkins scene and Janet Leigh just has a few lines but she’s so good
He is not ugly at all.
@@unsinnkim3690not just the 40s but also in today's world
@@unsinnkim3690 I think he said he was 34 in the movie
Yet to most folks, he just doesn't have it... I know that feeling all too well.
The issue is, if you truly belive that your ugly, and that's what you feel. And if you feel that your ugly, then that's what you see. Trust me, I know that feeling very well. Granted I got much better over the years, but there were many years that I felt just like this character. That's why people love this scene, as it's very relateable for many men.
@andrewmartinez9613 this was the 50s.
As a 43 yr old virgin who never even kissed a girl I must say this scene is the truth of my existence!
I lost my virginity at 40 and even then paid for it. Women seem to think men have it easy. Only the hunky and wealthy ones!
Thankfully in my 50s I found a woman who appreciates me and am happily married. There are still some decent women out there.
Yeah like he say's don't give up on it?? Every pots got it's lid.❤️
@@alanprior7650 congrats dude.
Loneliness will kill anyone's spirit for life. Truly sad
I don’t want to get hurt no more 😢poor man
I can relate, after a while it gets ridiculous to continue. But I fully understand that you can’t win if you don’t enter. So I’ll be a loser, somebody has to be.
@@leftyoverton4347 i used to say the same thing. "someone has to be the loser".........it gets better
@@Erock5168 what do you mean with that?
@@Angczrs1 exactly what it says. Im not trying to be a smart ass just being honest
Idk how old this movie is but this dude just described exactly how I feel at age 32 in 2024. I had a few gorgeous girlfriends but we never made it. “Whatever women like I ain’t got it.” I’ve had that thought almost word for word and abandoned hope just like he has… I never told anyone about the pain but his reaction is the physical enactment of what I’ve done on the inside. Incredible work.
Such a lovely, uplifting movie. Borgnine said that little pat on ma’s arm was a gesture he used on his mother.
Yeah..."I'm not mad at you, Ma...I'm just mad."
Great comment. Never knew that.
My mother is the same. Insists on me being handsome, smart, and charming. But it's like Marty said: "Whatever they want, I ain't got." and I'm fine with it. You learn to live with it. Is it painful? Yes. But you learn to endure it.
Yup and you get gaslighted by the people you are around with if you asked why can’t you get a girlfriend and they say, it’s your fault.
I’m “living” it too
Fr, moms be gaslighting us all into thinking we had girls running our way because of how handsome we are.
But all I see are girls running AWAY from me
Ernie you were wonderful ❤
The hardest fact to face in life for some men is the fact they'll never be loved by anyone, never have friends, and no one will ever help you.
Find inner peace.
Meditation or rest help a lot.
Slow walking in nature.
Helping nature and others, Anonymously.
Thankfulness for simple things. Having a meal and a warm pleace to sleep.
As JRR Tolkien wrote:
Handsome is as handsome does.
Wish you all the best 🍀
Superb acting by Mr. Borgnine. Thank You for your brave and selfless service in WWII. RIP Mr. Borgnine.
He played with the pasta a little too much, though, too idle, not natural. Brando would have done it different.
I’m 70 and unfortunately that’s the story of my life. I’ve lived it alone and will end it alone. I’ve helped so many, yet no-one has ever been there for me when I’ve needed help - they just leave me to cope alone. What a sad legacy for someone who has given so much. My epitaph will read: Unwanted, Unloved, Forgotten.
I think a lot of people experience this - there are a lot of selfish and uncaring people in the world.
I won't forget you. This message hurts; to think that someone with so much to give has never received. I'll never forget it.
This movie is so relatable. I really don’t got what really want.
I remember as an eight year old kid sitting along a parade route in Milwaukee, a clown coming up to us who even through his make up I could tell looked exactly like Earnest Borgnine. I told my mom...." Mom!....I think that was Earnest Borgnine! " My mom laughed at me and the thought of what I had just said. I found out about 30 years later, that that was in fact, Mr. Borgnine. What a good man he was. Cheers.
It must have been surreal experience for Ernest Borgnine to win the best actor Oscar over fellow nominee, Spencer Tracy, who he co-stared in "Bad Day at Black Rock" also in 1955. He respected Spencer so much.
@@brockjennings didn’t know this. Thanks 🙏
Tracy advised Borgnine not to take the part in "Marty", saying that it would be a little black & white movie that no one would ever see. At the Academy Award ceremony, as Borgnine walked to the stage to accept the Oscar, he passed Tracy, and Tracy said "you never listen to me, do you?"
Has a happy ending for him. For the rest of us men in the real world it won't end so happy
We must carry ample reserves of happiness within ourselves, because outward circumstances so often fail us.
True but becaause Marty put himself out there and invested in someone that alot of other guys wouldn't have. Alot of guys (and women too) are lonely af but they have too high expectations when it comes to physical attractiveness. Marty discovered someone with a good heart, and he valued that more than looks (not that his gf was a huge dog or anything, but she was as overlooked by most shallow men as he was by shallow women)
@@Georgina-lv9btit also helps that Marty is a fictional character in a fictional story
Single and happy. Being alone is not the same as loneliness. My peace and freedom are my joy.
@@petetj333 once you learn to love yourself, a lot of joy can be had in going to the gym, pursuing your hobbies, and traveling... Alone and in peace
Agreed.Very bad idea for your entire happiness to be totally dependent on the continuing presence of other people.
Great comments.
I have had loves in my life. When I was young I thought I couldn't be happy unless I had a romantic connection. It wasn't until much later I knew I could be, and was, happy being single. My dear (younger) friend is stuck in the relationship cycle and is not happy. Makes me sad for her.
My worry used to be that I don't want to be alone when I'm old. I realized I won't be because I have a great friends network. Many other single moms that I'm tight with. We are there for each other.
Also... A very tight relationship with my son. I know he will be there for me. 💕
I didn't ever feel like I knew who I was until I lived alone. Now I couldn't imagine it any other way
"Language has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone." -Paul Tillich
I'll be 70 soon and even as a kid this movie made a big impression on me.
Relatable words man. I faced those facts, chased enough women, and got my heart broken enough.
Man I know we're talking about him but it must be so heartbreaking being a mom and see your son so sad, lonely and angry at life/himself. Not being able to help him.
Marty is my spirit animal. I feel his pain when it comes to suffering from loneliness and being neglected. Hoping to find happiness and all you keep getting in return is more hurt and pain from heartbreak and rejection. This movie has a message I really wish some took to heart these days.
I remember getting dragged up to the stage at a wedding reception by this gorgeous columbian mutual friend, then she just turns around and walks away from me to dance alone. I never attended another wedding again and lost friends over it. It was just too humiliating.
Better to be lonely sometimes than sorry all the time.
@@vannshuttleworth4738 or miserable with the wrong person
Must be something in between the two,
Absolutely.
Very true.
Chris Rock said it best: "married and miserable or sad and lonely"
When you cross that line with your own mother, confessing this type of pain, it's there that you truly hear the tragedy of your life. This pain is now out in the open and it's like a new pain emerges, a type of heartache that is met with the sympathy of your own mother. I've been there and it's a very terrifying place, your mind starts to wobble, the pain feels like it's out of control, that it could take your life if you were to really get to know it. You're body feels all this regret, envy and frustration like a surge of poison that seeps through you like madness.
It's sad that they can't make movies like this anymore. Just a simple story about life, great performances, heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. No studio would take a chance on this.
He won the Oscar for this role.
@sjr100 They can't, because the people who made it are dead, and have all proven irreplaceable.
It’s just dumbed down crap today. Modern audiences have lost their humanity.
Agreed. How many comic book movies does the world need?
My labby boy watches westerns with me Saturday, a few hours of The Rifleman, and other movies.
A big night of heartache. Boy, can I relate.
I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ernest Borgnine, and though it had nothing to do with Marty, I couldn't
help but take a moment to compliment him on this movie, which I have alway loved. He was as gracious as you would expect, a true gentleman and one hell of an actor.
This is a great film. Shame it's not really as well known as other great films from the era.
Historically speaking, around three-quarters of men don't get to reproduce, so scenes like this are extremely relatable for most men. Many of us have had to have this hard discussion with our own mothers. That we're the end of the line. I count myself fortunate to have one who understood and accepted it.
There is so much truth in this very short clip.
One of the hardest things for a good man to accept is that women are not attracted to honor or human decency. None of Marty's shallow friends had his level of trouble with women.
My bachelor days were like this and I hated every moment of it. Thankfully I found somebody who deeply loves me and she and I have two beautiful daughters
I love being a bachelor and love every minute of it
Are they your daughters, or did they come with the package.
@@bowieupland6112 mine.
00:18 "I've been there a hundred times"
Its insane how relatable it is to this day. This may never get old, sadly. Its truly a human experience.
I remember feeling like this. I got my heart broken so hard by putting myself out there, I didn’t want to risk it again. I remember sitting on the edge of my bed, crying. My mom came in and I had the same reaction as Marty. The very next January, I put on my proverbial blue suit and went out begrudgingly, and that’s when I met my beautiful husband. This feeling though, it the pit of despair. You feel so hopeless, invisible, unworthy. Yet, you have to keep finding ways to get yourself out there despite those feelings. ….
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@@tomfields3682yea and Im sure u have 50 simps lined up and dating 3 a day God forbid u end alone cause ur a woman right
I wouldn't call myself ugly on the outside, but definitely feel like I have an ugly past. I know what it feels like to be unwanted. But what's amazing about my baby is she doesn't see me that way. She sees me as the most beautiful man in the world inside and out 😭😭😭😭 there's somebody out there who will appreciate you I promise
happy for you
Its much much harder for us men
Parents are alike. They want the best for you but they never ask what you want. Sometimes peace and quiet, is enough.
I always saw Borgnine portray bullies and tough guys. I had forgot about this film; such was the versatility of this very talented actor.
I teared up a bit watching this because I feel the same way he does. I even stopped trying to talk to girls. The only thing I get is heartache
Women will never understand the amount of pain men like this go through.
Why wouldn't they.... women are human too and come in all sorts of messed up. If men and women decided to see the human in each other we'd get along a lot better.
@whatever1068 You make a valid point, however we're inherently different by nature, I think it's hard for the opposite gender to understand the pain that the other side experiences.
Amen brother!..after 53 years I know I'll die alone and I'm okay with that...
That scene made my heart ache. For him and his Mum.
Back in the day when Dance Halls and Social Clubs were in nearly every community.
Caucasian young men in the 60s decided they didn't want to do that anymore. They didn't want to put on suits and show a girl they could dance. The girls finally stopped trying to twist their arms. What replaced it was avoidance (like Marty) or mosh pit jiggles, pickups, heavy drinking and drugs. No indication that the guy couldn't dance of that he thought he looked g-y. He felt confident just sitting or leaning and watching the parade.
In the late 70s the music industry tried to restart the couples dancing in the non latin sector by showcasing popular actors like Travolta, Bacon and Swayze in movies. Young men rejected it again in the 80s. I think Xanadu killed it. Too elaborate and a bit too effeminate with the young men in the film.
By then 20 years had passed and such clubs were long gone or being torn down.
@@STho205I didn't think it was white men who stopped I thought it was the second wave feminism of the 60s.
@@STho205 You forgot the rise of discos in the '70s & '80s.. That was a real trend toward dance clubs. Studio 54 and all the copycat places around the country.. Don't distort history.
@@DexterHaven which became a hive for club girls and gay men. The US disco trend lasted about 10 years centered on 1977, and was mostly replaced by the comedy club return.
@@STho205That was about the time they split one paycheck into two for double the workforce. Most of these social-clubs where led and organized voluntarily, making it Impossible to sustain due to most working more hours for less. But hey, atleast consumption is up.
Being married and having children is not necessary. But Being kind to yourself always is.
Loneliness is like a curse the more you try to avoid the more it engulfs you 😢
One day you stop caring and accept that you're one of the 95%
Huge exaggeration but yeah
@@denisdelinger3265 Statistically, over time, only 5% of Men have reproduced. While you have twice as many female ancestors as male. Matter of fact its on par with sperm to egg ratio.
Whilst most Hollywood movies are very unrealistic, the movie Marty is as real as it gets.
He gave a free talk at the la noho library-standing room only all ages-he exuded warmth kindness sincerity and love for all-no ego-said he got paid $500 for “Marty” - what a film-what a guy-genuine -his smile lit up the room-amongst all else he talked about buying his RV to see America & it was wonderful to feel the love he had for his family - need more like him
AND he got an Oscar for it!
That's real acting. Characters had personalities and vulnerabilities. Pretty powerful stuff. Unlike a lot of modern movies.
Marty, I know every last word of that. It's my life, too, and I imagine there are millions like me. We don't fit the profile, and if we actually do find someone, they won't stay. I've pretty much quit, and for quite some time. Ernest Borgnine deserved his Oscar for playing this role.
Story of my life. Whoever knew someone would be so unwanted and unworthy?
The reason the majority of people in poverty are womenn and children is because of males tyranny. There's always people with bigger problems than u.
sax dolls are like 300 bucks on temu. wannantalk unworthy? chicks with a body count higher than they can count. stop chasing andnjust treat yourself. consider it the new normal. because in a decade, it will be. men with be done with they over va.ued come dumpsters.
Now that’s an actor. A man who could only do that if he could empathise. A light in a dark world. Blessings to him
A man can only fail so many times before he realizes he was never meant for anything or anyone. Humanity has always pass judgements based on looks and status and never what's in a man's heart even when we are honest with ourselves. I suffered heart ache since a was ten and it hasn't stop even now that I'm thirty-seven. I tried and I failed and a man can try only for so long.
Only so much BS a man can take.
"Better to be alone than in bad company."
Where are the Earnest Borgnines' today? Such a great actor.
The egos have taken over. There is no humility (humbleness) in actors, let alone any of the rest of Hollywood, today.
Only a truly humble person can deliver a humble performance.
And only a truly humble person can truly love, like Ernest Borgnine.
Formula Movies are made by mega studios to make money . That’s why I watch independent films, foreign films that deal with people, their emotions and the artists that translate their vision onto the screen.
This movie was moving and real. It felt so sad that he was alone and everyone wanted him to “ find “ someone BUT then when he finally finds a girl All the ppl in his life tried to discourage him for their own selfish reasons. He finally realized he HAD to choose happiness for himself Disspite his friends and family. A true life lesson
I've lost count how many women have told me I'm kind, gentle, romantic, considerate. I've been told I make them feel loved, appreciated, how they like I can make them laugh, they like I remember what they talk about even if they thought I didn't hear it, and they like how I ask about their day and then listen to everything they have to say. The last woman I pursued put her fingers on my cheek and softly commented "you're so good to me," but you know what? every single time, I'm not what they're looking for, I'm rejected like I'm not good enough, they lie to me to avoid being honest, but I find out they lied anyway
it hurts, it hurts a lot, because I end up wondering what's wrong with me that no woman out there would be interested in me or think I'm good enough. I end up wondering why I'm so ugly. It hurts.
Shoutout all the dudes who are this but without the close relationship and conversation.
Hits me right in the soul. Every girl I've ever chased has left me heartbroken and second guessing my worth. The worst part? They all ghost me...I try and reach out and get stonewalled. So eventually, I stop trying and start trying to figure out what I did. Only to never know. There's only been one girl that ever told me what I did. She reached back to me, she was scared off because I actually listened to her and for Christmas got her a gift she casually mentioned she always wanted. It was a little stuffed moose. She ghosted me for a while, then apologized out of the blue. We're good friends, but there was nothing romantic left to pursue.
Nowadays, I don't even bother. Why put myself out there for more heartbreak, more loneliness, more depression. I'm already depressed what feels like 50 weeks out of the year...
Women are monsters
One of my favorite movies, I wish I could find a man like Marty
This movie is so relatable. I never understood what others had that I lacked. This packed a punch when I first saw it. It still does.
Boy is that the power of art reflecting/portraying realities! Being on the phone as a 47 yr old guy frustration dumping recently to my 77 year old mother on the phone. "You don't understand!" I exclaimed. She replied; " I do understand ". Then as the conversation continued she proved she didn't understand. I don't look like a "Marty" on the outside but feel the suffering of one. on the inside.
The character of Marty is only supposed to be in his mid-30s. It's amazing how society can make you feel like you have no chance at finding your person after such a young age! And I felt the exact same way at 34, and met my now-husband at 35. If you want to find someone, you don't have to give up.
My husband was 37 when we met. His whole family thought he'd never marry. They never liked me much but that didn't bother us. 40 years later most of them are gone and we're still married.
Years ago I read that the producers of this movie expected it to flop; expected to use it as a tax write off. Then it's Oscar nominated. I wonder if they liked that or were pissed off.
It had been aired as a 1953 TV Play starring Rod Steiger so many expected nobody would pay to see it.
I watched this movie a few years ago on TCM. The plot is so simple but kept me riveted. When folks say they don’t make them like they used to, this is what they mean. The best story telling doesn’t need a whole lot of flash and bang. Marty is absolutely the best of story telling.
Loneliness is a crowded room.
This scene breaks my heart everytime I see it. I totally sympathise with Marty, more so then any other scene. I had nearly the same conversation with my Ma, in my late 20s, after a second friend of my became engaged. I couldn't do it anymore. I couldn't do the online dating, the speed dating etc, where no one was interested in me. 10 years later, I met my future wife. I still remember the dark days when I pictured myself being alone forever. I started getting used to the idea. As friends married and became fathers, I was the go to Godfather and I was starting to get used to it. Then I would be out and see others in love and enjoying life with someone and I would be sad again. Some very dark moments went through my mind. This film is brilliant and should been seen by more people to understand that everyone has a right to love and be loved.
When I add up the years of all my long-term relationships, it comes to about 30 years. I'm solo now. I went from one relationship to the next without any real time-out. After my last one ended, a voice inside myself said, "You need some time to be on your own for a while before the next one."
With some effort on part, along with some time, and to my utter surprise, I came to embrace the solo lifestyle. Man oh man, I absolutely LOVE it! I have no desire to get into a relationship again. And the more time that goes by, the more and more I love solo living even more so.
I learned that ALONE vs. LONELINESS are two different things. Alone is just the physical thing of having no one around. Loneliness is a mental state. You can feel totally lonely when you are in a roomful of people, or you can feel totally at peace and content when you are all by yourself. 😃
Amen Jim, Im with ya!
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Absolutely and Amen to the lonely in a room full of people.
Well said.
You're coping. You didn't want this.
The UA-cam algorithm knew I needed to see this today.
Didn’t see the gut punch coming, so powerful.
A lonely guy today would just turn to social media. He would never make it to the ballroom.
Very true. Dating in 2024 is much different than in 1954. It makes things easier but it took the personal element from it. Women dont love themselves anymore. They don’t respect themselves anymore. They’re not discreet anymore. They don’t leave anything to imagination anymore. They expose themselves in every single way on facebook, instagram, tik tok, etc. if a woman is doin that, what type of men they’re gonna meet? Creeps. Kinda sad.
Could you imagine the ballroom of today? Empty souls in a toilet.
Social media is today's ballroom.
Even then, social media would reject him, mostly because he’s a 30 year-old man, white, straight, fat, short (Ernest, and thereby Marty, was 5 foot, 9 and a half inches tall) and lives at home with his mom. Modern society standards would have excluded Marty, even on social media.
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The majority of people in poverty r womenn and children and males now outnumber womenn in the world because of males committing femicide. Male tyranny and crimes against humanity need to be addressed. Until then enjoy the male loneliness epidemic and declining birth rates.
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