7 Types of Fake Friends

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  • Do you suspect you have fake friends in your life, but you're not sure if he is a fake friend or she is a fake friend? Friendships are an important part of our lives, but bad friendships can hurt our mental health. Are you having trouble recognizing toxic friendships?
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  10 місяців тому +305

    Hello Everyone! We are thinking of doing stories. What are your thoughts?

  • @sc0urgesclaws
    @sc0urgesclaws 10 місяців тому +1352

    I love the fake friend content. It not only made me realize how fake some of my ex friends were, but also helped me stop doing things that make me a bad friend.

    • @lisal.1114
      @lisal.1114 10 місяців тому +28

      I apreachiate u for choosing to learn and grow on the inside and the outside🌶🍒🥑😇

    • @Err_404_
      @Err_404_ 10 місяців тому +15

      @@lisal.1114yeah how good 🍑🍒🍉🍇🍒🍉🍇🍋🍒🥑🍌

    • @KommonSenze.
      @KommonSenze. 10 місяців тому +7

      The latter is the main reason I watched, but also where to potentially draw the boundaries on who I consider a friend or just someone I talk to.

    • @snehaparanjpe9850
      @snehaparanjpe9850 10 місяців тому +11

      your comment is so wholesome.

    • @aeghr
      @aeghr 10 місяців тому +11

      ​@@lisal.1114right 🍓🍒🍎🍉🍑🍊🥭🍍🍌🍋🍈🥝🍏🫒🍐🫐🍇🥥🍅🌶️

  • @FemboyKaiSaku
    @FemboyKaiSaku 10 місяців тому +405

    if you have fake friends, please distance from them as soon as possible. 8 years with fake friends that i stayed with, and now struggle with severe anxiety from all those years. Definitely myy biggest regret, dont waste your life with bad people

    • @Akaria-chan
      @Akaria-chan 10 місяців тому +12

      True.

    • @puzzlehead340
      @puzzlehead340 10 місяців тому +8

      Agree! The sooner the better. It took me a couple of years too. Now I constantly worry about people thoughts and intentions....

    • @ynwsheddy
      @ynwsheddy 10 місяців тому +3

      Relate! 2023 is the year to change dat shit
      no more bad vibes
      no more bad energy around
      only positive auras
      positive attractions
      and positive vibes
      stay bless! Jah love

    • @just_zero22
      @just_zero22 10 місяців тому +6

      True. Fake friends resulted me in unable to trust anyone and thinking that everyone that I talk to is a “fake friend".

    • @nagratna793
      @nagratna793 10 місяців тому +6

      I will tell u the signs..bc I m someone who don't easily mingle keep to myself i saw people who are dramatic dramatic ones wants you to join them for talks they want to initiate it's always one way and mostly they doesn't care your side of story .it's always about their house family night outs food luxury blah blah...another one is taking the charge .this one is maniac and wanna dominate in everything..let it be deciding a party spot . holidaying movies..you can't cross them coz somehow they ll be loud and they act they know almost about everything..third types are toxic ..they will get closer to you for few days and soon after the job is done they completely sideline you and latch in to someone else..and ll make sure that makes you feel indifferent and bad .i feel these three types none would love to be with..I am a little passive aggressive and cold hearted person so i remain unflinching..but it does affect th
      sensitive people for sure .and pls trust that these groupism and friendship, ganging up are overrated...real happiness is in your family ..and yourself ..

  • @masteroox
    @masteroox 10 місяців тому +370

    "Fake friends are like shadows. They always seem close to you and follow your every situation, but when darker moments in your life will happen, they're nowhere to be found. Almost like they were never there.
    But if you'll find yourself some real friends, live with supportive people, even in darker times the light will be with you, and those "shadows" won't even notice you. You'll just became shadow for them."
    - My wiser older brother.

    • @keekz510
      @keekz510 10 місяців тому +8

      So a fake friend is a hokage?

    • @kevinsmith3476
      @kevinsmith3476 10 місяців тому +12

      Wanna trade brothers?

    • @aliendeathrocker
      @aliendeathrocker 7 місяців тому +4

      Your older brother sounds really cool, thanks for sharing his words, it meant a lot to read them. ❤️

    • @user-ug2fu8mj2j
      @user-ug2fu8mj2j 4 місяці тому

      Dang yiur older brother is smart.

    • @f1onqqq
      @f1onqqq Місяць тому

      UR BRO IS SMARTT OMG

  • @shanazmohamed2487
    @shanazmohamed2487 10 місяців тому +622

    0:32 freeloader
    1:09 one-upper
    1:44 drama magnet
    2:13 the gossip mongers
    2:48 the fair-weather friends
    3:19 the one way friend
    3:56 the negative nellies
    hope this helps ❤
    Have a blessed night or day wherever u are ❤❤❤

    • @sakonan4883
      @sakonan4883 10 місяців тому +23

      When most of your friends have been this…

    • @Veins1
      @Veins1 10 місяців тому +5

      "Guard Your Mental Health: Spotting 7 Fake Friends"

    • @pd_heart
      @pd_heart 10 місяців тому +5

      @@sakonan4883 ive commonly had one-uppers and drama magnets, and one fair-weather friend, not very fun to deal with... they're not in contact with me anymore!

    • @sakonan4883
      @sakonan4883 10 місяців тому +3

      @@pd_heart that’s great. I personally cut contact with some of them.

    • @yukio_saito
      @yukio_saito 10 місяців тому +3

      Thank you for tracklisting 🙂

  • @KhoiruunisaRF
    @KhoiruunisaRF 10 місяців тому +29

    There's no such thing as perfect friends, but if they drain your energy more than give you energy, then probably better to avoid them.

    • @LugiDergX
      @LugiDergX 4 місяці тому +1

      Finally a smart person here. Thank you. Nothing is all that black and white as so many of these videos try to make them seem. While I guess I appreciate this video for how much it helps others, NEVER trust the "therapists", "doctors", "professionals", etc. the most, just because they have their "education". The real education are the life experiences we get. The best judgement is usually the one we can make ourselves. I have to say that for a lot of these types of fakes friends listed here, in this video, a LOT of them stem from people's own issues and insecurities. And some, aren't even fully true. The best friend you can be, is to be an open minded friend. Willing to consider all or as many sides of any given topic as possible. Don't leave a person doing something, even if they seem like a fake friend to you just because. Not without talking to them about it first and trying to understand their side too. That's the best kind of person you can be for others.

  • @2257arthur
    @2257arthur 10 місяців тому +114

    When I was in high school, I was so scared to be alone that I hung out with a group of guys I thought were cool. No matter how hard I tried to be a great friend, it always felt like a one way street when they'd exclude me from stuff, use me when they needed something, and talked bad about me behind my back. I feel ashamed of engaging with these "fake friends" in my youth and now 25 yrs old, I still feel worried that my mistakes have allowed me to miss out on so much that others with true friends get to experience.

  • @r-7498
    @r-7498 10 місяців тому +63

    Real friends will be ready to correct you when you do wrong and lift you back up when you're feeling down.
    If you don't have any good friends, become that good friend. Keep your head up and stay strong 💪

    • @mr.vargas5648
      @mr.vargas5648 10 місяців тому

      Facebook has made people fakes. There are no genuine people anymore just fakes.

    • @rural_girl555
      @rural_girl555 8 місяців тому +1

      become a good friend for what?
      trying to be a good friend is a waste of time either you attract self centered people, narcissists, neglectful people or all the above. Or NO friends
      rather just find good friends instead of becoming one or else you'll waste your time
      like my efforts are only reserved for those i personally think would deserve it.
      Tired of having other ppl robbing my time and attention being self centered, only taking about their interests. But when i talk about my interests, they become indifferent to them.

    • @Kavtix
      @Kavtix 2 місяці тому

      @@rural_girl555you just haven’t found your people that reciprocated back. True ones will acknowledge your efforts and will support your back. I’ve luckily befriended those who could not fit in with other groups and we have great chemistry and try to be as genuine as possible

  • @juliadeoliveirasp
    @juliadeoliveirasp 10 місяців тому +159

    I've been, myself, the "One-Upper" my whole life and, even noticing, I never understood why I do that. I'm talking with friends and, in a minute, everything turns to be about me and my problems, my achievements. I feel bad doing this, but can't stop. Thanks to this video, now I know it's because of the self-esteem problems. Like, the need to feel valuated. Gonna tell this to my therapist.

    • @heatherkaye8653
      @heatherkaye8653 10 місяців тому +27

      My goodness thank you for your vulnerability!

    • @firerams_and_arisinglion
      @firerams_and_arisinglion 10 місяців тому +2

      uhh yeah lol thats everyone lol the worlds a competition lol.

    • @QueenCshee
      @QueenCshee 10 місяців тому +6

      I’m struggling with that too,now with the awareness it won’t be a struggle.

    • @ThePromisedFall
      @ThePromisedFall 9 місяців тому +12

      Whats important is that your realizing your faults and attempting to improve yourself :D

    • @Tax17-17
      @Tax17-17 8 місяців тому +3

      It’s great that u decided to say this aloud,I tend to do it too, but I also feel like it’s cause my friend always tries to downplay me or out do me at everything

  • @kay-marie1076
    @kay-marie1076 10 місяців тому +28

    Most of my family members make me feel that way too. Family members are included in these scenarios too!

  • @madhardcorenick
    @madhardcorenick 10 місяців тому +39

    You forgot one more, the friend that changes their attitude towards you when they're around others. They are all nice and sweet when you are on your own with them. However, immediately become a jerk when they're with their other friends towards you.

    • @MisoChan.
      @MisoChan. Місяць тому

      Yup. Like I have this bestie named- calling her J, She would always be nice and kind to her other friend, but when J is talking to me, she is like "Ugh, can you stop annoying me? I've talked to you a lot!" When she talked to her other friend more. :(

  • @BlueOstinato
    @BlueOstinato 10 місяців тому +20

    I don't have any friends any more. I'm 33 and it just seems impossible to make any new friends now. It feels like everyone is "set" in their friendship groups now, and you just can't develop those friendships when you're older it seems. I've tried everything from the gym, to hobbies and classes, to even join a friend making app but it just isn't happening. I'm alright being alone most of the time, but sometimes it would be nice to have a friend. It gets lonely sometimes.

    • @freconsbo
      @freconsbo 4 місяці тому +2

      Please don't say that. 33 is still a young age. And I can attest that what you're feeling is a widespread issue. Even people much older than you are struggling with this.
      Don't give up hope and focus on self-love first. Friends may come from a place you never expected. Like this comment section, for example. Sometimes you don't even need to try too hard... 🙂
      By the way, cute cat. Is that yours? What's his/her name? 😃

    • @BlueOstinato
      @BlueOstinato 4 місяці тому +1

      @@freconsbo Thanks for replying! You're right of course. Its my mother's actually! She's called "Tabby" :) A very friendly cat. What brought you to this video, same issue?

    • @freconsbo
      @freconsbo 4 місяці тому +1

      @@BlueOstinato Tabby looks friendly and fierce! Please send her my regards... 😁👍🏻
      Yeah, sad to say, I'm no stranger to these fake friend types. 😅

    • @freconsbo
      @freconsbo 4 місяці тому +1

      @@BlueOstinato Btw, if your day ever feels too lonely to bear, don't hesitate to reach out (by replying here), okay? You're not alone, buddy! 🙂

  • @stqrlly
    @stqrlly 2 місяці тому +5

    Fake friends basically just drain your energy. It’s like you hold their hand, making sure you don’t let go, while on the other hand, they hold your hand carelessly. They let go when you need them the most.

  • @Merely.Finite
    @Merely.Finite 10 місяців тому +6

    Honestly, this feels like all of my friendships and relationships. Even from family. I go alone solely cause I’m tired of being hurt.

  • @iPLAYtheSTATION
    @iPLAYtheSTATION 10 місяців тому +23

    I've had to cut off some "friends" before. My mental health improved after doing so.
    One group, I had to walk on eggshells around them all the time. They always looked for reasons to be uncomfortable or offended by things. For example, someone shared a photo of their new gaming PC, and someone else got offended because they couldn't afford such things and that they "need to show restraint and not flaunt stuff like that."
    Another group was so obsessed with sharing negative news, ragebait, politics, and other people's drama. They constantly nitpicked and magnified flaws of people they didn't like.
    If you have people in your life who just bring you sadness and negativity and have no plans on changing, cut them off. You will be glad you did. Surround yourself with positive people. ❤

  • @lusiana_ren
    @lusiana_ren 10 місяців тому +16

    My former class was full of gossip mongers. I always tried to trust them, only to be backstabbed by them. I always felt uneasy, but couldn't really explain why. It wasn't until I came to a realization and distanced myself from people that I became more calm.
    I also had dealings with a drama magnet, but it was more like they would blow up over the smallest things... Only to then belittle and shame me when I needed to rant. It was draining.
    I cut all of them out of my life, and I'm thankful for it.

  • @craigpatterson2592
    @craigpatterson2592 10 місяців тому +32

    A majority of people that I met while I was still in high school fit into at least one of these categories that were discussed in this video. I'm glad that I no longer have to worry about encountering them everyday and in some cases, never again (or for a long time at least).

  • @RODENT950
    @RODENT950 10 місяців тому +36

    Great reminder that you have to be careful who to trust. I just kicked out two fake "friends", and it was a real freedom when you don't have to deal with them anymore, But you have to remember that people change over time. 😊

    • @mr.vargas5648
      @mr.vargas5648 10 місяців тому +2

      One big red flag is if you feel manipulated if you feel that you probably are being manipulated. Trust your gut always.

  • @billd66
    @billd66 10 місяців тому +44

    In the words of Joan Jett, "You don't lose when you lose fake friends."

    • @LugiDergX
      @LugiDergX 4 місяці тому

      How sweet, huh.. If it only wasn't so fake, just like those fake friends. You DO lose and you lose a lot. You lose a part of yourself. Of your trust in others, self-confidence, maybe even self-esteem.

  • @Nanjo_Honoka-san
    @Nanjo_Honoka-san 10 місяців тому +51

    This’ll actually help me in the future when I want to make friends. Well in the past I got fake friended twice, So I figured this video will help me maintain my friendships and let go of the bad ones.

    • @firerams_and_arisinglion
      @firerams_and_arisinglion 10 місяців тому

      everyones fake to everyone lol thats the definition of civilization lmao.

  • @Transilvanian90
    @Transilvanian90 10 місяців тому +14

    I used to have someone I called my best friend who turned out to increasingly be a one-way/fair weather friend. I hit a rough patch when a family member died and it had consequences on my career and that's when this "friend" chose to end our friendship all of a sudden. It was a year ago and I still hate how betrayed I've felt since.

    • @Novastar.SaberCombat
      @Novastar.SaberCombat 9 місяців тому +4

      Yup. That's just how it goes. Most individuals want people who are "perfect" and never have any problems. Whenever anyone shows signs of weakness, struggles, or non-common traits, the fake people ALWAYS bail. Always.
      Ultimately, 90% of humanity is simply using one another to get what they want. They've ZERO legitimate interest in others. The moment they detect that no more resources, information, nor "usage" can come from having them around... they'll cut 'em loose. :) Again, it is what it is.

  • @Billy_Lenzzz
    @Billy_Lenzzz 10 місяців тому +175

    After watching this video, I realized my “ friend “ acts exactly like all of these. She always tells me about drama even though I asked her to stop, especially with gossiping. I had told her a secret and she told everyone she knew and I was then mocked. She would always ignore when I was going through something. It’s quite upsetting, but this video made me realize I shouldn’t be friends with her anymore. Feel free to vent or share a similar if you want, I hope you guys have good friends :)

    • @sweaterweatherlady
      @sweaterweatherlady 10 місяців тому +7

      I had a tumultuous friendship in middle school for similar reasons. Glad you're seeing it now rather than layer. I didn't realize mine was a problem until after she moved away, and neither of us had social media at that time.

    • @Billy_Lenzzz
      @Billy_Lenzzz 10 місяців тому +5

      @@sweaterweatherlady oh goodness! It does seem rather similar. I’m glad you’ve gotten through yours. :)

    • @natalielefebvre1628
      @natalielefebvre1628 10 місяців тому +3

      I have a friend like that . And other ditch me . If u friend gossip about her . She will gossip about you. .
      It doesn't take genius to figure out
      I mentioned it, and she replied to me , "I don't care, so u have to accept it if u want Maitland friend or u live. we all think that we are good friends to a point.

    • @GladysHunnam
      @GladysHunnam 10 місяців тому +6

      Tell her sayonara (goodbye forever), she deserves it.
      I had a friend that was like the number 7 and I realised that she was toxic and not a good friend yeeears after I stopped talking to her. This video would've come in handy years ago, to open my eyes sooner

    • @Billy_Lenzzz
      @Billy_Lenzzz 10 місяців тому +1

      @@natalielefebvre1628 I’m so sorry! I’d just leave her, you’ll find true friends soon! Keep your head high :)

  • @readyrex
    @readyrex 10 місяців тому +15

    I had a few negative friends. They were friends of a friend who moved. We played on Xbox for a while, but when summer break came along, they stopped talking to me. One of my friends who also played with them said they didn't want to talk to me because I wasn't funny. I haven't talked to them since.

  • @user-rs3ev3tn8o
    @user-rs3ev3tn8o 10 місяців тому +5

    I got a fake friend who constantly tries to bring me down and tell me that im crazy.i dont trust friendship anymore

  • @Demisearts
    @Demisearts 10 місяців тому +50

    I think it is also important to take these with a grain of salt, since Everyone is different, people with Shizoid PersonallityDisorder will often appar uninterested or simply not emotional available, then there is peopple with emotional dysfunctional where they react completely opesitte from what they feel or people with autisme can also seem to try to "up-do" you when thy try to relate etc.

    • @Akaria-chan
      @Akaria-chan 10 місяців тому +4

      Yes.

    • @charlottetaylor4471
      @charlottetaylor4471 8 місяців тому +2

      Also, no-one's perfect and a lot of us have moments where we're selfish, distracted etc etc.

  • @betaBeta-cx8yp
    @betaBeta-cx8yp 10 місяців тому +23

    I clicked on this expecting that I only wanted to listen to this to watch out for the next school year for people like this. But what I did not expect was that I could be easily described as this, specifically the drama magnet and the gossiper. Now realizing this and how much of a red flag it is so I’m starting to plan out how to reduce and avoid being those types around precious friends both from present and future while still being and feeling myself and not bottle things up only to later cause more distress.

    • @NightMystique13
      @NightMystique13 10 місяців тому +5

      The fact that you recognize yourself means you are open to growth. Good for you!

    • @betaBeta-cx8yp
      @betaBeta-cx8yp 10 місяців тому +1

      @@NightMystique13 Thank You!

    • @LadyGoddessSephiroth
      @LadyGoddessSephiroth 10 місяців тому +1

      I'm so glad you're self-aware enough to recognize this is something you need to change. I'm proud of you. Keep working on yourself. ❤️

    • @betaBeta-cx8yp
      @betaBeta-cx8yp 10 місяців тому

      @@LadyGoddessSephiroth Thank you so much for this! It helped motivate me a lot! You have my thanks once more❤️

  • @pimpkins0831
    @pimpkins0831 10 місяців тому +52

    This is such a great timing. I've been struggling with some friends lately and I have no idea wether or not it's good for me to fix the relationship. So thanks!
    P.s: Turns out I'm on a "Fair Weather" situation, life is beautiful :D

  • @KadeofCavarsh
    @KadeofCavarsh 10 місяців тому +4

    As I watch this I had a thought strike, it is very important to recognize these fake friends however; when one becomes really comfortable in a relationship or friendship it is easy to become this type of person as well without realizing it.
    Be mindful and vigilant when you are dealing with your personal relationships and remember to be your friends' cheerleader as well as them being yours

  • @huskyminjoon3787
    @huskyminjoon3787 10 місяців тому +4

    i have a fake friend, and it was pretty disappointing, especially after we had been friends since kindergarten. she had found these girls and decided to be friends with them, which was fine, but in that whole class year and the next, we had barely talked, and whenever I asked to be partners with her in a project, she constantly said " sorry, no, I’m gonna be partners with [ girl ] " and, I realized that if she wasn’t going to speak to me, then why bother talk to her anyway.

  • @Edd25164605
    @Edd25164605 10 місяців тому +11

    Thank you.
    I learned this in my youth.
    I devoted my time to being there for those who needed me when nobody else was there for them.
    Yes, things might not go MY way,but to help others was almost as good

  • @lemon_kid4527
    @lemon_kid4527 10 місяців тому +6

    I really feel guilty because I feel like the freeloader "friend" my friends always buy me things and I don't have money and can't afford to buy them things so I just feel extreamly guilty because the most I can offer is mental and emotional support which feels like it isn't even repaying them!

  • @Moth-Prime
    @Moth-Prime 10 місяців тому +3

    I just want to say that your voice is so soft and gentle and that it has helped me when I am having bad anxiety

  • @laurene7523
    @laurene7523 10 місяців тому +4

    I've known many of these, and been a few. Please don't stop making these videos. They're very helpful.

  • @universeberry1
    @universeberry1 10 місяців тому +14

    this couldve been nice before spotting my fake best friend who turned the entire friend group against me

    • @Magp1exd
      @Magp1exd 10 місяців тому

      THIS^^^^

    • @LugiDergX
      @LugiDergX 4 місяці тому

      .. Wow, yeah.. I had a guy like this too. To this day, I think what they had done and blamed me for is really them trying to deflect their own fault and put it on me. Sure, one of the things they accused me of was true and it was horrible what I did. But the other, was really not. The worst part of it all though, is that to this day, because of this one guy from a couple of years back, I keep losing friends I have had, because they spread both of these bad things about me around, one of which being entirely not true. No one who has heard from them what I did and supposedly "did", has ever cared to listen to my side of the story. They just.. Left. Those are the true, fake friends. And I really despise a lot of them. I hold a deep grudge for them, especially that one guy who keeps doing this stuff to me. I can only hope they just leave me alone and stop ruining my life for once someday.

  • @ankitatheunicorn3670
    @ankitatheunicorn3670 10 місяців тому +6

    DONT FORGET THE ONE WHO WANTS TO BE UR #1 BESTIE AND HATES UR OTHER FRIENDS-😭

  • @FeralShadow
    @FeralShadow 10 місяців тому

    This video has been helpful to make sure my circle hasn't been draining on me. I do have a hard time seeing the drama magnet as a fake friend. More like a friend with terrible social habits and self awareness. Rest of video is spot on!

  • @rbxlana_yt
    @rbxlana_yt 10 місяців тому +1

    I spotted number 4 once, I told one of my childhood best friend private things, and when I look at them from afar, it feels like their spreading the secret.
    Also great video, keep up the amazing content!

  • @brandy3573
    @brandy3573 6 місяців тому

    I'm glad this channel exists! Thank you for helping people navigate life and each other!!

  • @Bi0-degradable
    @Bi0-degradable 8 місяців тому

    Thank you so much Psych2Go, I have struggled with a gossipmonger for a while now and hence struggled with trust but felt bad letting that friend go. Because of this video I have realised that they are a fake friend and not worth my time, thank you

  • @MrCrazysnoopy
    @MrCrazysnoopy 10 місяців тому +3

    Me having social anxiety and miss reading cues. This will really help me out. I am that type of friend that is your friend but I don't really go out too much. So i'm always worried that I become a fake friend

  • @Purple_skye2612
    @Purple_skye2612 10 місяців тому

    I love how supportive your entire page is it’s taught me so much and know my life feels so much peaceful and amazing kbowadays well not really but I can get through hard spots 😊

  • @nillikthomas1069
    @nillikthomas1069 10 місяців тому +9

    Thank you now I know which is my fake friends 😞

  • @RayPeng-07
    @RayPeng-07 10 місяців тому

    Thank you for this episode. A while ago I asked about such type of content, so I am glad it appeared x3

  • @LunesLunacy
    @LunesLunacy 10 місяців тому +7

    This topic is a bit hard for me as all of them are true but sadly, those are the only people I've met from the start and until now, I have none. Sad but that's reality. Thanks for the message in the end as well as these videos. They really help.

    • @tablescissors67
      @tablescissors67 10 місяців тому

      You may be suffering from CPTSD and/or an empath and are accidentally attracting and permitting these type of ppl into your life. I humbly suggest researching those topics and narcissistic abuse. It opened my eyes a great deal. And helped with an understanding of the importance of boundaries.

  • @Yoongireve
    @Yoongireve 10 місяців тому +13

    I clicked on this so fast bcs this is exactly what I've been wondering for the past month

    • @thatw31rdkd90
      @thatw31rdkd90 10 місяців тому +4

      My friend were so toxic and i wished I knew all of these things sooner

  • @sarahbauerlein4353
    @sarahbauerlein4353 10 місяців тому +2

    Had friends of 20 years and called them sisters but when life went downhill and I started letting them into the truth of my situation, they accused me of always being negative with them and wanted to hear "about the positives" in my life. This was at a time where homelessness loomed and I struggled to feed my family.
    It's not that I was talking too much about negatives, its that they couldn't handle being supportive and available during crisis.

    • @aliendeathrocker
      @aliendeathrocker 7 місяців тому

      That must have been such a painful and difficult experience to go through when you were already in crisis. I'm so sorry they weren't there for you, especially when you once considered them sisters, my heart goes out to you, that's so sad. I hope you're finding much better friends now, you deserve them and I hope that things are better in your life, too.

  • @ibstayfly
    @ibstayfly 10 місяців тому +4

    Facts Facts and more Facts periodt 💯. Thank you for this video

  • @skwishymrshmelogaming4234
    @skwishymrshmelogaming4234 10 місяців тому

    Recently ive realized that most, if not all of the friends ive ever had were fake, and its kept me in a pretty dark place. Ive started to feel jealous for ppl that have friends, but then get mad at myself for that, bc it doesnt feel right. Ive spent my whole life trying to get ppl to care, that knowing i failed that, hurts to see others succeed so easily. Wut can i do? All my joy came from my “friends”

  • @_kenz_o
    @_kenz_o 10 місяців тому +1

    I had a "best friend" that has all of these qualities, becareful when you choose friends guys. hope you all find real good friends. have a good day.

  • @taidainthejar7573
    @taidainthejar7573 10 місяців тому +9

    In terms of the “one-way friend”, especially for us people on the spectrum. Don’t end up like me. Don’t let those few people who you asked to hang out with or be there for you in a dark moment or for some reason grew apart with you stay in your head rent free. True friends KNOW and will find a way eventually to catch up and know they need to get back to you and reply. And yeah, everyone is busy or has some things going on but eventually you’ll be able to tell who’s just never gonna reply. They may be active on social media at least a little bit but at some point you’ll have to accept you’ll never get the closure you need to move on from the feeling of being abandoned. Some of us spectrum people are sensitive and get lonely very easily… just know when to give up on someone who’s ghosting you, even though it’s hard

  • @ObviValeri
    @ObviValeri 14 днів тому +1

    There is 8: the one that says they never talk behind your back and supports you but be mad at you for small reasons in the past

  • @magneticnorth88
    @magneticnorth88 10 місяців тому +1

    Experienced a fair few of these in romantic relationships in the past! Great video reminding me that the decision for it to remain ended was the right one

  • @Kira-nl3fj
    @Kira-nl3fj 10 місяців тому

    I think I got 4 or 2 signs of these.I will subscribe because I'm thankful that you are sharing these signs

  • @Tax17-17
    @Tax17-17 8 місяців тому

    This video hit me when u reached negative nellies, no matter what I do my friend would say something encouraging but it has something condescending immediately after, it’s been happening for years and when I address it he gaslights his way out. He even tries one upping, its such a narcissistic tendency but he will never admit it

  • @A55a551n
    @A55a551n 10 місяців тому +28

    Timestamps
    1). The freeloaders 0:31
    2). The one-uppers 1:06
    3). The drama magnets 1:41
    4). The gossip mongers 2:12
    5). The fair-weather friends 2:48
    6). The one-way friend 3:19
    7). The negative Nellies 3:55
    Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

    • @sbplankton_1999
      @sbplankton_1999 10 місяців тому +1

      Nice work, a55a55n17.

    • @A55a551n
      @A55a551n 10 місяців тому +1

      @@sbplankton_1999 thanks for the compliment

    • @sbplankton_1999
      @sbplankton_1999 10 місяців тому

      @@A55a551n only if a true friends we need

  • @rimmalikover9724
    @rimmalikover9724 10 місяців тому +1

    Middle school friend crisis. Some of my friends were like that. I feel like a therapist/immature psychologist around them

  • @miyuki4715
    @miyuki4715 10 місяців тому +1

    Ngl though, here in the Philippines, drama friends are the best because it shows that they value your opinion and always goes to you when they are feeling down because of their lover being trash. It's exhausting when it happens alot but it's fun.

  • @ChanSoo-ko1bt
    @ChanSoo-ko1bt 10 місяців тому +1

    The fair-weather friend hurts so much. Like you've expected them to be there

  • @WilliamWilliamWilliamWill
    @WilliamWilliamWilliamWill 10 місяців тому

    I really love that type of videos ❤️
    Plz make more of em

  • @ashleyanimatessstuff
    @ashleyanimatessstuff 10 місяців тому +1

    Love the Mean Girls Thumbnail, really relates to the topic of the video

  • @Mizukage_MidnightBlu
    @Mizukage_MidnightBlu 10 місяців тому +3

    I had a lot of one way friends, I was always reaching out, it also applies to family too. I was always the first to reach out and if I don't for a while they blackmail me by saying why don't I communicate more?, why don't I reach out? And I am like communication is a 2-way street, not a monologue. The emotional blackmail was so real.

  • @joshyycute5823
    @joshyycute5823 10 місяців тому +2

    This is the kind of fresh content I'd love to watch more

  • @WolfyloverAlyssa
    @WolfyloverAlyssa 10 місяців тому

    Thank you for this video! I’m trying my best to stop being a one-upper. I’m trying to be a better friend. Thankfully it’s working :). Although, one of my friends is a freeloader, one upper, and a drama magnet. I love them but sometimes they can be a bit too much for me.

  • @lotemnagar6821
    @lotemnagar6821 10 місяців тому +1

    Once I had a friend that cut all contacts with me when I was at my lowest and in a massive crisis

  • @marissaneduncheliyan8536
    @marissaneduncheliyan8536 3 місяці тому

    Ive had too many one-way friends in my life that I can’t take it anymore that now I feel so detached from society

  • @slime_creeper439
    @slime_creeper439 8 місяців тому +1

    Yep. It happened to me a lot in high school. Now that I learned a lot about fake friends. I stand up for myself as a college student. I stop talking to someone if they don't even try to communicate with me. I have one college friend that is good at communicating with me it's to the point where that other person starts the conversation. The ones in high school just talks to me once and then they don't want to talk to me like I'm a stranger.

  • @cervvix
    @cervvix 10 місяців тому +1

    i often find myself getting very confused around people…who are nice, yet there rude? it confuses me, because i think it’s just me, or maybe they had a bad day…because there nice the next day.
    this is still toxic, and my therapist told me…i should start paying attention to not there words…but there actions. sometimes actions speak louder than words. ❤

  • @Nuna_heart
    @Nuna_heart 10 місяців тому +4

    Recently an old friend of my childhood friend group joined our group chat , I don't hate her but ever since she joined I felt a weird imbalance in the group

  • @Limestone727
    @Limestone727 10 місяців тому +3

    I’ve never really thought too much about it, but i never realized how many freeloaders are my friends. Thank you psych2go :)

  • @Othmaun
    @Othmaun 10 місяців тому +8

    We have a famous poem in Arabic: If you honor the generous, you will make him your king,
    And if you honor the mean, he will rebel
    Generousity for me filters people...

  • @charlietheghost4321
    @charlietheghost4321 10 місяців тому +2

    I used to have a friend where during the summer we were best friends, we were inseparable, but then as soon as school rolled around they completely ignored me and avoided me, then summer would come around, we would be besties again, and the cycle continued. Eventually that friendship became far too painful to keep holding on to and I would say that that probably happened 4-5 times before I started distancing myself, luckily we both moved pretty far away from each other so that made it easier, but I still have really bad abandonment issues because of him

  • @jujuoof174
    @jujuoof174 8 місяців тому

    Great tips!

  • @Romantic_Juliet
    @Romantic_Juliet 10 місяців тому +2

    Finding some real friends are REALLY hard nowadays...

  • @anjablume9664
    @anjablume9664 5 місяців тому

    I needed this video because i have friends but they always leave me out and replace me

  • @personthing.
    @personthing. 10 місяців тому +1

    Wow, I've actually been through multiple friendships like these. I guess I must have realized they weren't the best friendships, because I'm not still friends with any of them.

  • @SqueeaakyB00ts
    @SqueeaakyB00ts 10 місяців тому +2

    I’ve been slowly realizing that I have both a “fair weather” friend and a “one upper” friend in my life.
    They’re actually best friends with each other long before I met them, and they seem genuinely happy together, but when I’m invited it only seems to be for paid gigs for the Fair Weather and One Upper constantly overshadowing any conversation I try to have with Fair Weather. I felt so isolated, and it actually turned me into a Negative Nelly around them because I just don’t have positive experiences with them.
    I’ve distanced myself from Fair Weather since (and my wallet is thanking me!) but One Upper still tries to ask why.

  • @NecroMemer
    @NecroMemer 10 місяців тому

    My entire family fits these descriptions… solitude is bliss.

  • @AmarisFrede
    @AmarisFrede 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you! 💖

  • @codyshi4743
    @codyshi4743 6 місяців тому +2

    It's better to have no friend than to have a fake friend.

  • @Mermaidd0ll
    @Mermaidd0ll 10 місяців тому

    Now this is a good topic to talk about and I love how you guys made the thumbnail look like that picture from the mean girls movie 😂

  • @kimhorton6109
    @kimhorton6109 10 місяців тому

    After being disappointed by variations of the kind of people listed here I find I am much happier going my own way. It has its drawbacks but many fewer let downs.
    Growing up we were an Air Force family and moved at least every five years, often less. It wasn’t hard to make connections as kids, find ways to earn a little money mowing the small lawns, washing windows and so on. It could be I kept people at the superficial level because we knew we weren’t going to be permanent friends.

  • @kareno6904
    @kareno6904 10 місяців тому +4

    Yes this is true , they only appear if you have something they want , can help them in anyway , or see you so they can look down on you and feel better blut themselves .. And my drama magnetic who shouts cries and shouts cos she so stressed all the time .. I try to chill her down, mm fairweather also too am afraid.. I do sometime needs support .. as I give I become empty !! Love to all harm to none 💜🏆 4

  • @crow3370
    @crow3370 10 місяців тому +1

    If there's anything I learned over the years it's when things get real then you know who haves your back

  • @RainbowSparkles
    @RainbowSparkles 10 місяців тому +1

    Wow this video really showed me about my so called "friend"
    She was the only friend i had at school. But after seeing this video, i notice that nearly half of the things are true about her... 😔💔
    Wishing everyone a true friend ^^💜

  • @CineShinya
    @CineShinya 8 місяців тому +1

    What about the friend that clings into you, seeks for exclusivity, relies on you on everything but when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend neglect you completely?

  • @theabelstick3495
    @theabelstick3495 10 місяців тому +1

    I'll be sure to remember these patterns. School is starting soon for me

  • @infinity1502
    @infinity1502 5 місяців тому

    ILY thank you sm for giving advice ❤ and I like the character design too❤🎉 😎🥰

  • @sallydames5867
    @sallydames5867 10 місяців тому +1

    Past fake friends suffer without me now yet still try to grab my attention lol

  • @miamor-asmr
    @miamor-asmr 10 місяців тому +1

    I loved this video, one of the people in this world i love most is my best friend but sometimes she feels like a one way friend, whenever i share my ideas on a project and say i’m excited about it the next few days she will say she had the same idea and act as if i didn’t tell her that idea was mine. That happens often from big events to little ones. What kind of friend would this be?

  • @abbies1stspam
    @abbies1stspam 10 місяців тому +4

    I’m so happy that I posted! Love ur vids 😋

  • @ruthdavin9134
    @ruthdavin9134 10 місяців тому

    All so true. Thanks

  • @ibsarrahman2378
    @ibsarrahman2378 10 місяців тому

    Your voice is so soothing, I can literally fall asleep listening how my friends are fake

  • @danielkjh8
    @danielkjh8 7 місяців тому

    I'm glad none of my friends i regularly talk to are anything like this

  • @anonyus002
    @anonyus002 3 місяці тому

    I've got a friend who is almost all of these mixed up. Uses me, is not there for me when I need it etc. I loved the video btw!

  • @kitarrah1422
    @kitarrah1422 10 місяців тому +2

    My ex-best friend was the Freeloader and One-way friend mixed together. I was almost always the one to reach out to her. And she never wanted to hang out, unless we were going shopping and/or going out to eat, where she could guilt me into paying for everything. If I got a gift card for somewhere, she would be like "Let's go spend it!" She used me and then would be MIA for awhile. It took me so long to see her for what she really was.

  • @misst1928
    @misst1928 10 місяців тому +2

    The fair-weather friends say they can't deal with never-ending drama even if it was just one thing, when one of my kids got kidnapped by the babysitter a l l of my friends and the majority of my family accused me of being nothing but drama.

  • @raymondmartinez1263
    @raymondmartinez1263 10 місяців тому +1

    Every single friend you ever make in life, even family will have at least some shades of these traits, sure they’re being labeled “fake traits” but it doesn’t mean that they’re not worth keeping as a friend which are important bc as an adult you will very rarely ever make friends again

  • @eccololo
    @eccololo 10 місяців тому

    So true. Bravo 👏.

  • @shwheat6315
    @shwheat6315 10 місяців тому

    same bro. i have chosen the wrong friends before which made me very sceptical who the right person is

  • @Matthias.Halliday
    @Matthias.Halliday 10 місяців тому +1

    Ngl I’ve just stopped talking to new people because of my previous experiences with trusting people