So proud of your bringing this vital material to the TEDx stage, and I loved how you related your experience with organic chemistry with human love chemistry!
The vision to move toward intended plans together is a great idea. The rest is mostly about removing habitual roadblocks: to be curious, learn emotional intelligence and safety (specifically men - this is a huge problem for women), and take pleasure in life elsewhere, first. While the lack of all of that are real roadblocks most couples experience, if you've worked through all of that, then what? I guess the takeaway is that most people haven't worked through that.
That was tremendously simple, and indeed very clear. and oh so hard to do. it's up to each of us to look ourselves in the eye, and either accept and love who we see or make the change that's necessary, while in the third option i suppose you are content enough with your choices and decisions to be both accepting and unchanging.
I’m with 100%. This video seems to represent the worst instincts of Ted Talks. I put it on 2x speed and still only made it about 8 minutes. Her style is flowery and her substance is nothing at all. For a former chemist, this is an accomplishment in disappointment.
She got standing respect for her work. They understood, i understood. That was very easy & phenomenal solution. Just one need to washout brain washed filmy methods & capitalists false advertisement to sell their products. Have to think of other way, the way she taught us.
Soooo... She knew nothing about psychology or human relationships and decided that traveling world and getting a 1 year certificate from ICF would give her everything that she needs to understand the complexities of human psychology and relationships... GO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST!!!!
This all sounds good but am I did only one who is tired of that fact that it has to be a man who has to do all the searching and adjusting in order to make his wife feel motivated to be intimate again. Frankly I is a mega unattractive double standard.
@@rrhines3151 please provide with where she even uses one example of how the woman could help doing it. She didn't even mention what she learned to do. I am all ears
@@rrhines3151 You didnt listen properly then. She was very clear in the intent of what she was saying. Just one facet as to why it was absolutely nonsense, a true Ted phenomena of the last 10 years.
this whole thing has only one sentence that makes sense, the one that says "„when you abandon yourself in order to get love it's an unspoken transaction that creates resentment not attraction"-and that happens within the first minute of the talk. But this abandonment could not only be like that mentioned above (if ii do everything that makes her happy then ...) -is it really the thing that makes her happy???. Someone can also abandon himself phisically (lack of sport, getting obese and then diabetic...) or just giving up everything to "be with her/ the family" but no one asked him to sacrifice himself -and no way to sacrifice his BODY and HEALTH.
All this verbiage is nonsense btw. None of it means anything, it's not practical. Just leave. You might regret it at first but when you realise there are others out there who ARE willing to engage in something reciprocal with you you'll realise the mistake was settling.
Meh. No new advice here. And this has the same problem as couples' therapy. The answer is always about what the guy needs to do, like it's all his fault. She didn't say a word about "two sets of three things" the female partner needs to do.
Me too, but I should have paid attention to what was below the neck. Then, she started to talk, I found out was was above the eyebrows, and quickly got over it.
There may be substance to what she says, but if so, she hasn't presented it here. She has spent 14 minutes dropping hints and selling just-so, feel-good stories, which gives the impression that she's a grifter selling snake-oil to men with more dollars than sense. Did some people who interacted with her get some benefit and consider her counsel money well-spent? Maybe. Who knows? How could that be ascertained? If they did, that experience was not well-related in this talk. The impression given is that this woman is a charlatan. She makes lots of unsubstantiated assertions. She introduces two "key concepts" "emotional safety" and "spark" and doesn't go to any effort to even define them well. She emotionally fingerpaints with expressive language. She gratuitously tosses around intelligent-sounding buzzwords and jargon but doesn't build any kind of conceptual framework with them. She's self-congratulatory, and also flatters her audience. She says NOTHING of substance, and her delivery is not even smooth. There is no meat in this talk to discuss in her presentation. There's nothing there in what she says to be either correct or incorrect, to be analyzed as being either consistent or contradictory. The "client experience case" that she relates is not supported with evidence or even a reasoned argument The story merely implies that she knows something valuable but does not substantiate that claim. She's selling mystery and feelings and patter, and an abstract snake-oil having no "medical properties" at all.
It's great to work on your relationship but the underlying issue is that at the end of the day, you are still relying on one person to meet your physical needs. If it works out great, but if it doesn't you need an additional lover. Expecting one person to meet all of your needs is unrealistic and a little unfair to your partner...especially if they can't do it. You just need to be loving and transparent.
So proud of your bringing this vital material to the TEDx stage, and I loved how you related your experience with organic chemistry with human love chemistry!
2:00 Creating foundation of emotional safety; spark
4:00 Human bonding
8:00 Relational Chemistry
11:00 Self pleasure practice; start leading
This woman seems very pleased with herself and offers no solutions
It's not a DIY video with 7 step instruction.
I disagree she talks about emotional bonding, and create spark, with 3 steps for each
Lots of great starting points to go deeper with my current relationship as well as general thinking
The vision to move toward intended plans together is a great idea.
The rest is mostly about removing habitual roadblocks: to be curious, learn emotional intelligence and safety (specifically men - this is a huge problem for women), and take pleasure in life elsewhere, first. While the lack of all of that are real roadblocks most couples experience, if you've worked through all of that, then what? I guess the takeaway is that most people haven't worked through that.
So grateful for this talk. I’m extremely fond of the romance and nuanced play of my relationship but we struggle.
That was tremendously simple, and indeed very clear. and oh so hard to do. it's up to each of us to look ourselves in the eye, and either accept and love who we see or make the change that's necessary, while in the third option i suppose you are content enough with your choices and decisions to be both accepting and unchanging.
Amazing information! Fingers crossed it helps all relationships who desire a more fulfilling one! ❤❗️
I was really hopeful for solutions but got generalized nothings.
I’m with 100%. This video seems to represent the worst instincts of Ted Talks. I put it on 2x speed and still only made it about 8 minutes. Her style is flowery and her substance is nothing at all. For a former chemist, this is an accomplishment in disappointment.
If a wife Friendzones her husband, it's a preview. If a woman gives marriage advice, it's confirmation
She got standing respect for her work. They understood, i understood. That was very easy & phenomenal solution. Just one need to washout brain washed filmy methods & capitalists false advertisement to sell their products. Have to think of other way, the way she taught us.
She's cute though.
😂😂i hate it when that happens.... and she probably actually feels like she accomplished something
When fortune cookies are more specific than this woman's anecdotes and advice you know that she is doing this to gain a bigger client base
An Entire Year Getting Run Through.
She Was "Coaching" Them.
A shallow generalization of a possibility.
Practical help? Zero.
Very helpful!!
Great talk! Thank you Jessica for doing this amazing work in the world 🙌
Unfortunately it was all a He but very Less of She . can anyone talk about how and what a women needs to do to bring that spark back
This is awesome. Thank you! ❤
Soooo... She knew nothing about psychology or human relationships and decided that traveling world and getting a 1 year certificate from ICF would give her everything that she needs to understand the complexities of human psychology and relationships... GO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST!!!!
Such a great talk! Thank you!
This all sounds good but am I did only one who is tired of that fact that it has to be a man who has to do all the searching and adjusting in order to make his wife feel motivated to be intimate again. Frankly I is a mega unattractive double standard.
I didn’t understand it that way. I believed both partners needed to learn more about the other to achieve a mutually satisfying relationship.
@@rrhines3151 please provide with where she even uses one example of how the woman could help doing it. She didn't even mention what she learned to do. I am all ears
@@rrhines3151 You didnt listen properly then. She was very clear in the intent of what she was saying. Just one facet as to why it was absolutely nonsense, a true Ted phenomena of the last 10 years.
Yes!!! So good Jessica! You’re an Inspiration. Great talk! ❤
She boldly quit her job because her husband would pay the bills lol. What a noble journey 😂
Just lost 14 minutes
Great talk!
Wonderful Talk ❤
Good work!
this whole thing has only one sentence that makes sense, the one that says "„when you abandon yourself in
order to get love it's an unspoken
transaction that creates resentment not
attraction"-and that happens within the first minute of the talk. But this abandonment could not only be like that mentioned above (if ii do everything that makes her happy then ...) -is it really the thing that makes her happy???. Someone can also abandon himself phisically (lack of sport, getting obese and then diabetic...) or just giving up everything to "be with her/ the family" but no one asked him to sacrifice himself -and no way to sacrifice his BODY and HEALTH.
It reminded of the other Ted video where the guy speaks random words
I thought it was Klingonese !
Random makes more sense !
In what way did your year-long global trip "say 'yes' to what scared me"?
What an excellent presentation! Is this available in text format?
Happy Spouse, Happy House! 👩🏼❤️💋👨🏻
Happy Wife, Happy Life😄
@@flintyrocker2138 No wife, happy life*
Thank you sh❤ares interesting talk
Brilliant!
Can I have this in SPANISH????? Please
THANKS
Pretty basic rehash of well known ideas pitched to desperate men for enormous amounts of money.
Ain’t that the truth
I'm so distracted by the glitter.
Alllllll righty then
All this verbiage is nonsense btw. None of it means anything, it's not practical. Just leave. You might regret it at first but when you realise there are others out there who ARE willing to engage in something reciprocal with you you'll realise the mistake was settling.
Wow! ❤
Well, again it is the man who came to her with a problem, not the woman.
1.25x
My wife is disabled, and always in pain. I can never get her to be aroused or want me. 30 years together. Help.
Wrong comment section😂
Not to hurt you but, if yhe can't run away, what's even the matter? Just take her! ^^
Lame
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Meh. No new advice here. And this has the same problem as couples' therapy. The answer is always about what the guy needs to do, like it's all his fault. She didn't say a word about "two sets of three things" the female partner needs to do.
I wanna girl 😢😢
She may be super knowledgeable on the subject, but she failed to engage/captivate the audience unfortunately.
Pretty though - smile!!
I only clicked on the video because the woman is pretty 😍
Me too, but I should have paid attention to what was below the neck. Then, she started to talk, I found out was was above the eyebrows, and quickly got over it.
There may be substance to what she says, but if so, she hasn't presented it here. She has spent 14 minutes dropping hints and selling just-so, feel-good stories, which gives the impression that she's a grifter selling snake-oil to men with more dollars than sense. Did some people who interacted with her get some benefit and consider her counsel money well-spent? Maybe. Who knows? How could that be ascertained? If they did, that experience was not well-related in this talk.
The impression given is that this woman is a charlatan. She makes lots of unsubstantiated assertions. She introduces two "key concepts" "emotional safety" and "spark" and doesn't go to any effort to even define them well. She emotionally fingerpaints with expressive language. She gratuitously tosses around intelligent-sounding buzzwords and jargon but doesn't build any kind of conceptual framework with them. She's self-congratulatory, and also flatters her audience. She says NOTHING of substance, and her delivery is not even smooth. There is no meat in this talk to discuss in her presentation. There's nothing there in what she says to be either correct or incorrect, to be analyzed as being either consistent or contradictory. The "client experience case" that she relates is not supported with evidence or even a reasoned argument The story merely implies that she knows something valuable but does not substantiate that claim. She's selling mystery and feelings and patter, and an abstract snake-oil having no "medical properties" at all.
Want to marry 😮
Fos
😅😅😅😂😂😂
It's great to work on your relationship but the underlying issue is that at the end of the day, you are still relying on one person to meet your physical needs. If it works out great, but if it doesn't you need an additional lover. Expecting one person to meet all of your needs is unrealistic and a little unfair to your partner...especially if they can't do it. You just need to be loving and transparent.
What is an erogenous zone?
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