@@jimreeves8221 im sorry I went rude with the joke, but since when is straigtness needed to be accepted. Its most abundant type of orientation and still the only one that has a biological purpose. So yeah, most valuable for humanity if you look at it from that standpoint. Other forms should be accepted but dont even try to reverse the cards, because you'll be shown your place. Thats what I wanted to say.
Lmaooooo the woman living in a gay compound with her ex and their partners and the partners exes is the most stereotypical lesbian thing I have heard in a hot minute 😂😂😂 (also what a sweet bond they have omg 😭)
I actually had a lovely therapist who knew my dad irl and understood my issues with my mom because she was my therapist both for several years in my teens and then by complete chance in my late thirties. I got such insight into my relationships with my parents and gained knowledge that helped me in our relationships. Dad recently died but I feel peaceful about how we related at the time. Mom and I are good friends and I went over 1000 miles to visit her six months ago. But I did need years of therapy to understand how we interacted and that it was not because I was a bad child.
Totally yes, went through years of therapy to come to terms with my parents not being as perfect as I thought they were. They were human and made mistakes
Both of my straight parents also involved me way too much in their relationship problems from a young age and they still say they feel like it was the right thing to do "for me". Kids aren't their parents therapists but I'm glad these two have been able to establish boundaries and get to a healthier place.
@Victoria Nicole yes idolize a person who just smokes weed all day and was arrested in a car chase. 9/10 musicians are shitty people. Music is all emotions and zero logic
Yeah... Though most of my parent issues occured when I moved out of home into a different state. Was speaking to my dad once and he started complaining about my mother and how he would "break up with her" if they didn't have a 6 year old child between them... Like... Don't tell me your relationship is practically over when I live away from home and rarely talk to you guys. It just adds more stress into my life. Also makes me sad for my sister who still lives with them.
i think it highly depends on ur viewpoint lmao i dont see teenage yrs as a positive thing whatsoever, as an era, in general. but thats just my take on it, im open to it changing, and it's these things that make me on the fence ab kids overall. these r just v highly openminded, accepting, Western liberal, "anything goes as long as i know and ur safe" sorta parents. but i think i'd just have higher expectations, and yet still want that trust. maybe bc thats how i was, and maybe bc i want it to be even better than myself, grander than my own experiences that mean dogshit yeah
some parents say that you can tell them anything buuut they can't handle it once you open up to them their reaction will be so dramatic that u prefer to keep shit to yourself.believe me every child/teenager and even adult dream that he can be transparent with his parents without judgement and without loosing their affection and respect ,nevertheless oftentimes parents make the situation about themselves ,about their needs, their desires and dreams for u that you shattered when u turned out to be something other then what they wanted u to be.., that's why tennage years are hard cause u start to resist your parents plan for u .some parents get over it and chose their children, others choose to bannish u from their life and to give u the cold treatment ,worse they threaten that if they had a stroke or a heart attack it s you're fault cause you ruined their vision. A lot of parents didn't make their own dreams come true so they put all their expectations on us and when you decide to do otherwise they take it very personal cause deep down you killed their own dreams. Oh if only they u could know the damage that they cause with their attitude 😭
I agree... looking back to when i was a teenager i wish my parents would just communicate clearly with me and had some trust in me... i think a lot of the mistrust comes for bad communication or lack of it
@@bcaye A lot of the time it’s because a relationship where you can do that wasn’t established growing up. I had authoritarian parents where it was all about respecting them rather than talking about your feelings
@@bcaye Well my mom is really close minded person that thinks children has to do everything or think everything that parents say. I think it's Asian culture to just listen to your parents no matter what. So I grew up not expressing myself.
@@kiki13450, I'm sorry, that must have been awful. My father could be very authoritarian but I was never afraid to discuss anything with him, he could be reasonable.
@@ewawiercioch1831 i think coolbeans15 meant at 6:42 the parent called Jordan out and said “and your nothing” referring to her not having any partners. it was just a joke haha
Interviewer: I just want to know if you would play this whth your whole family. Jen: Heck yes, Meg, my ex, her partner, my girlfriend, and you, and your nothing. damn that one was a violent
I always feared I would turn out like my mom if I ever had kids, but being aware of my behavior and the way I treat/talk to others now assures me that I'll be at least better than my mom. It's only up from here and I'm open to learning and being emotionally and mentally open. In the future if I decide that I want kids, I will talk parenting classes to be the best parent to my kids. We'll do better :)
CUT is honestly one of the best sex-positive channel by far! i can't think of any other channel that allows people to have unfiltered, open-ended, honest discussions for them to express themselves and for their viewers to relate, laugh and learn so much! love you guys, keep doing what you're doing!!
It is also one of the most biased. Their “straight men kissing other straight men” video was trying to push the idea that not kissing your male friends is homophobic and fragile masculinity
I’m 43 years old. My moms are 63 years old. Times were different. People were more close minded. My moms were happy I was straight(ish). They didn’t want me to face the adversity they faced. I was never embarrassed or ashamed to have gay parents. It was an easy way to find “my kind of people”. I did have to take a lot of shit about it throughout school, but that was on all the assholes… not m moms.
I empathize SO much with what she said about oversharing and codependency. My mum has always done the same. I currently live abroad and she still tries to do it. I am happy they have a healthy relationship and there’s no guilt tripping into making the daughter think she HAS to take care of her mother. They both seem beautiful.
Yeah, i was impressed that there actually seemed to be some sort of repair: respect for the adult child's boundaries as adults. I'm 30 and my mom still guilt trips, lectures, gaslights me if I talk about what I need in the present.
She's absolutely right about teenagers. You set things up right when they are kids with an emotionally accepting relationship and when they are teens it's the best thing ever
Wow Jen is the kind of positive and encouraging, accepting mom I wish I had growing up. And her and her daughter being able to have such a open conversation is incredible. I am not close with my mom so I have always been disappointed I didn’t get to experience a mom like this
The part about teenagers being nightmares just reminded me about how my parents overreacted/became overly upset at every little thing that I wanted to do/happened to me (ex: wanting to go to a restaurant with my friends, not doing well on a test, asking for money to go to the mall) which led me to being distant, emotionally stunted?, and secretive about my otherwise simple, somewhat boring, and vanilla life. Im pretty straight-laced and my parents, especially as a teenager, made me out to be a villain when I wasn't even asking to party/smoke. For them, it was because they were protective and scared for me & of course wanted to be overly involved. For me, it made me anxious to be open with them when I would get yelled at, told to stay home, or called stupid. This didn't happen all the time, but it was enough that only in recent years (mid twenties now) have they become more lax and reasonable. This is also because I only tell them as much information as they need to know about my life lmao, it otherwise gives me immense anxiety to deal with their overreactions. Sorry for the venting, but if anyone else felt this way as a teenager, I hear you. I loved hearing these two OPENLY talk with each other in such a calm manner that made me wish my parents were more like that with me.
Same. I'm always so jealous of teens who can tell their parents everything like they tell their friend. I'm happy for them, but also jealous. I can't talk to my mother about boys, or the relationships my friends are in, or how some male teachers hit on my girl friends. Then when some other mother tells my mother about these things, she asks me why I didn't tell her, and I don't know what to say cause I know she would react differently if I had been the one talking about all that. They're just protective, I get it. But still. Let me live a little
I feel the same way. I like how you describe what I've been feeling because I've always had a hard time expressing it into words. I'm 19 and I still live with my parents. They're still pretty strict but also calmed down at the same time. I realized how much fear I had from my parents when one day I went out with friends and got home later than usual. On my way home, I was so anxious and thinking about my mom and how angry she would be once I'm home. To my surprise, my mom didn't even care when I got home. She was chill. It's just sad how my brain automatically defaults into saying "you're fucked, mom's gonna be mad once you get home" instead of being excited to come home and share what I did during the day. I was definitely conditioned to think like that because of how my parents were to me growing up. Writing about this makes me really sad.
Same!! I’m 25 and still living with my parents, im still trying to finish college and it’s very hard to find a stable job. I struggle with anxiety and depression (mostly caused by how my parents tried to grow me up) since I was 19 and that really is the hardest battle, but being with my parents who are so judging (they usually makes you feel judged without even talk) is really making my life’s a hell. They ALWAYS make me feel guilty for everything. If I spend more time (more than what’s “normal” for them) with my boyfriend they get mad or frustrated and transmit all these negative energy that push my mental illness to the highest. I feel so guilty and anxious 24/7 mostly because I know that I keep disappointing them by not finishing (yet) university, I always see a bit of disappointment when they look at me… I wish I had this kind of relationship with my parents, that would’ve solved like 70% of my mental problems
When she was talking about teens, she took the words right out of my mouth. SOOOO many people in my family tell me I’m going to hate when my son is a teenager but honestly they’re just scared to open up to their kids and engage in activities they don’t like. They don’t see their kids as teens that are almost adults but “kids trying to be adults” so there’s a disconnect to their own child’s autonomy and thinking they’re protecting them but really just showing their child they have no interest in their life. To think that making your child do things they don’t like or find uncomfortable their whole life and ignoring them when they gain their own interests just because you don’t like it is wild to me fr. My parents did the same thing to me and now everyone is shocked that I’m able to be successful by making my interests my source of income. Don’t underestimate your teens and trust they know what to do with their own lives and if you can’t trust them you didn’t raise them well enough to be prepared and that’s on you.
The parent is showing that being oneself is what we should all do and I am so glad there is no assumptions or finger pointing. Great parenting skills!!
The part about teenagers is very accurate. It all comes down to the parents and their parenting methods, as well as how much they try to restrict their kids. My mother was so pushy and demanding when I was a teen, and she always thought I was up to no good and didn't trust me. It didn't help that she was never really emotionally available and was always uninterested in being there for me the way I needed her to be.
4:23 absolutely! My parents and I have an AMAZING relationship because they didn’t hover parent. I am myself. I was never “rebellious” but I had my own secrets and doubts. It’s normal. Teenagers are great- we just have terrible reputations.
I have a great relationship with my teen daughter. My best parenting "hacks" are honoring her boundaries and setting apart time for her. I don't need to know everything. I need to know that she's safe, and that anyone involved is safe or relevant adults are involved. As a result, she and her close friends all tell me a lot. Information told to me is in a vault. I'll keep their secrets to keep them feeling I'm safe to come to.
when the parent was talking about how teenagers are a lot better than what society has made us all believe they are even though 1 we’ve all been one and 2 it’s definitely the way that the parents react to the kids behaviors during their teen years when lead to this really negative depiction of teens. i know and I’m sure others have reflected on this too before, that if my parents were more open and not so reprimanding then I would have definitely been more open with them too but this is so important for everyone to learn so we can do this for our future children.
5:16 is literally my relationship with my mom right now. i love her so so much & she’s so amazing but she always tells me that i’m her best friend, it’s just a lot.
This video it’s just not only about love, acceptance and respect. But you can also learn something from it. I love how they’re open and comfortable to each other💗
I hope I can cultivate a relationship with my future kids that allows us to have conversations like this. I have authoritarian parents so I can’t even imagine talking to them like this…
My Mom has been married to a woman since I was in 2nd grade, (24 now) and my 2 sisters and I are straight. I don't think having LGBTQ parents affects your own sexuality. Also not embarrassing either, but all 3 of us got the " well if your moms gay then your gay" shit growing up, and also couldn't bring both my moms to basketball n stuff .. but that's the good ol South for ya.
The thing about teenagers is so true. I feel like there’s so much fear about teens secretly doing drugs and having sex but none of my friends have this issue. If you build trust with your kid you’ll be fine. The hard part with teenagers is supporting them empathetically through all of the little problems that feel like the end of the world when you’re a teenager.
Growing up with a mother that is lesbian, i felt everything she said. The question about being embarrassed is such a tough one to answer but i think she was spot on. We love our parents through and through ♥️
"teenagers are the best as long as you stay open" such an amazing reassuring statement. parent of 3 with my oldest being 7, not gonna lie, I've been dreading the teenage years. crazy how a short couple sentences reminds you where you should place your priorities.
There's a generational thing here people watching this aren't realizing. I'm 38, straight, my gay dad is 72. I didn't grow up at a time when you politically schooled ignorant people, but at a time when you kept quiet when a classmate said he'd beat his uncle's ass if he heard his uncle was gay. Even then, I was incredibly unusual in terms of how open I was about my dad being gay.
Currently love my 15 yr old son, he is amazing, he is funny & he provides entertainment every night w/ watching him play baseball & helping him train. He thinks I’m corny when I say he is my favorite baseball player of all time, but it’s true! It’s so surreal having a kid who loves the game you love & is a 15 year old Freshman having college scouts watching him already, just because he is an above average pitcher. The most difficult teenage thing with him is reminding him although he is hanging out with his friends, he doesn’t need to be cussing. If it begins w/ an F, even the fake cussing because it all means the same, no baseball lessons. I know he is going to cuss, but I want him to limit it. I have one side of my family that smokes, drinks way too heavy, every sentence has a cuss word & it’s embarrassing in public, especially since there are kids always around. The other side moderately cusses, but live normal lives, are educated, drink in moderation & I would like him to live a similar life. He uses his manors at all times, doesn’t get in trouble at school, & other kids’ parents adore him. Teenagers aren’t bad, they will test your patience, but always keep the door open for communication for anything & it’s good to have some form of friendship w/ your kids, but don’t let it go to far that they run all over you, you still have to be in charge.
I would LOVE this daughter to write a book about how she was brought up and taught by her parents! I feel like it could help a lot of people understand a really interesting and good side of parent/child communication. I was enamored listening to them talk. As someone who grew up in foster care, 10+ placements from 4-18, my adult realtionships have been quite different.
I really love this one. I have two moms and am also around the same age as Jordan. Hearing their conversation about topics that I have also gone through in my life was really interesting :)
I’ve always felt fortunate that my parents from a young age treated me as an adult and expected me to behave as one. They were always open with me, told me the truth and asked me to do the same. Never once judging each other or getting mad. Feel so blessed.
Jordan was probably a good teenager because she had nothing to rebel against! Her parents were honest and open, they probably treated her with respect and empathy do to their position in the world as queer people
Im so happy that Jordan felt comfortable telling Jen that their relationship was leaning on codependency when she was younger. I love when families can grow and maintain healthy boundaries !!!$!$
My “father” was gay but he was also super into drugs.. abusive.. in and out of jail/prison.. and he had HIV.. (my childhood was in the late 80’s early 90s) I used to pray and tell god I didn’t hate him bc he was GAY .. I hated him bc I thought he was a monster of a person! I never believed he would go to hell bc of his sexual orientation but bc of all the horrible things he did.. either way he is dead to me but again not bc he was gay. I used to be so jealous when I saw happy healthy gay men! Some were flamboyant and I wished my dad was “one of those gays” he was complete opposite he tried to be overly masculine so people wouldn’t know. He used to make us tell people his live in lover was “my uncle” it was just so messed up! I pray people can have the freedom to be themselves because hiding in the closet not only damages the person in there but it can ruin so many innocent lives!!! Just marrying and having kids to fake a lifestyle only later to come out and say you knew since you were a child you were gay?? I can’t accept that! It’s tragic for everyone and unnecessary!!!! Just be you! Own it never- hide it!
Would love to see this with a gay dad and a straight son.
Yesss that’d be so interesting
Yess for sure
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“Jordan grew up to be straight and we love her just the way she is and she’s perfect” 🥺❤️
@MONIC LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO
And there comes the time where you need to accept straight people fow who 👏 they 👏 are 👏yazzz
We've put so much effort to make her gay and she just would not listen.
@@simkesims6345 what
@@jimreeves8221 im sorry I went rude with the joke, but since when is straigtness needed to be accepted. Its most abundant type of orientation and still the only one that has a biological purpose. So yeah, most valuable for humanity if you look at it from that standpoint. Other forms should be accepted but dont even try to reverse the cards, because you'll be shown your place. Thats what I wanted to say.
Lmaooooo the woman living in a gay compound with her ex and their partners and the partners exes is the most stereotypical lesbian thing I have heard in a hot minute 😂😂😂 (also what a sweet bond they have omg 😭)
Gay compound omg 😭😭😭
somebody NEEDS to make this into a sitcom 😂
no seriously! 😭 i also have lesbian parents and my mom was living with 2 of her exes when she first dated my other mom!
Do you think they have a vegetable garden
They have multiple gardens
WOW THAT STATEMENT...
"EVERYONE NEEDS THERAPY AFTER 21 TO TALK ABOUT THEIR PARENTS"
Damn relatable and kudos to the parent saying that as a parent❤️
My mom has always talked like that and it's really validating in a weird way
*parent not mom
I actually had a lovely therapist who knew my dad irl and understood my issues with my mom because she was my therapist both for several years in my teens and then by complete chance in my late thirties. I got such insight into my relationships with my parents and gained knowledge that helped me in our relationships. Dad recently died but I feel peaceful about how we related at the time. Mom and I are good friends and I went over 1000 miles to visit her six months ago. But I did need years of therapy to understand how we interacted and that it was not because I was a bad child.
Totally yes, went through years of therapy to come to terms with my parents not being as perfect as I thought they were. They were human and made mistakes
I disagree, my parents are great, but I can understand some people have trauma from their parents.
Both of my straight parents also involved me way too much in their relationship problems from a young age and they still say they feel like it was the right thing to do "for me". Kids aren't their parents therapists but I'm glad these two have been able to establish boundaries and get to a healthier place.
@Victoria Nicole yes idolize a person who just smokes weed all day and was arrested in a car chase. 9/10 musicians are shitty people. Music is all emotions and zero logic
Can relate to this big time.
I can relate to your experience ! Strength to you 💪🏼
Yeah... Though most of my parent issues occured when I moved out of home into a different state. Was speaking to my dad once and he started complaining about my mother and how he would "break up with her" if they didn't have a 6 year old child between them... Like... Don't tell me your relationship is practically over when I live away from home and rarely talk to you guys. It just adds more stress into my life. Also makes me sad for my sister who still lives with them.
Same I felt that. Her mom reminds me of my dad and it caused so much trauma
The talk about teenagers was sooo on point!
True ! The more you restrict someone, the less they are to obey. Let them do their own experiences
i think it highly depends on ur viewpoint lmao
i dont see teenage yrs as a positive thing whatsoever, as an era, in general. but thats just my take on it, im open to it changing, and it's these things that make me on the fence ab kids overall. these r just v highly openminded, accepting, Western liberal, "anything goes as long as i know and ur safe" sorta parents. but i think i'd just have higher expectations, and yet still want that trust. maybe bc thats how i was, and maybe bc i want it to be even better than myself, grander than my own experiences that mean dogshit
yeah
some parents say that you can tell them anything buuut they can't handle it once you open up to them their reaction will be so dramatic that u prefer to keep shit to yourself.believe me every child/teenager and even adult dream that he can be transparent with his parents without judgement and without loosing their affection and respect ,nevertheless oftentimes parents make the situation about themselves ,about their needs, their desires and dreams for u that you shattered when u turned out to be something other then what they wanted u to be.., that's why tennage years are hard cause u start to resist your parents plan for u .some parents get over it and chose their children, others choose to bannish u from their life and to give u the cold treatment ,worse they threaten that if they had a stroke or a heart attack it s you're fault cause you ruined their vision. A lot of parents didn't make their own dreams come true so they put all their expectations on us and when you decide to do otherwise they take it very personal cause deep down you killed their own dreams. Oh if only they u could know the damage that they cause with their attitude 😭
Are you agreeing from experience?......I only ask because I'm excited to hear people agree with this as a parent with two young children.
I agree... looking back to when i was a teenager i wish my parents would just communicate clearly with me and had some trust in me... i think a lot of the mistrust comes for bad communication or lack of it
I'm so happy that they can openly talk about things. I really wish I could be open with my mom.
That's sad. Why can't you?
My mom is a good friend and source of advice in all things.
@@bcaye A lot of the time it’s because a relationship where you can do that wasn’t established growing up. I had authoritarian parents where it was all about respecting them rather than talking about your feelings
@@bcaye Well my mom is really close minded person that thinks children has to do everything or think everything that parents say. I think it's Asian culture to just listen to your parents no matter what. So I grew up not expressing myself.
@@marlaamolly, that is too bad.
@@kiki13450, I'm sorry, that must have been awful. My father could be very authoritarian but I was never afraid to discuss anything with him, he could be reasonable.
I love how they respect each other so much
@Victoria Nicole tf
These conversations are so insightful.
“And your nothing” PARENT HOW COULD YOU CALL HER OUT LIKE THAT 🤣
I think Jen's nonbinary
*parent
@@ewawiercioch1831 that makes sense. She called the other parent as “mother”, but introduced them as a “lovely parent”
@@ewawiercioch1831 Thank you for letting me know
@@ewawiercioch1831 i think coolbeans15 meant at 6:42 the parent called Jordan out and said “and your nothing” referring to her not having any partners. it was just a joke haha
See how well life works when you don’t constantly lie and gaslight your children… great parenting!
Lie and gaslight about what exactly
Shes talkimg about her own situation.
Yess seriously this is wonderful and so open
@@cringegod5415 everything
Interviewer: I just want to know if you would play this whth your whole family.
Jen: Heck yes, Meg, my ex, her partner, my girlfriend, and you, and your nothing.
damn that one was a violent
emotional damage
@@palashverma3470 lmfao
Lmao!
“You and your nothing” LOLOLOL
Killed me 😭😭😂
Scare your teens and they'll hide from you. The parent seems so good at their job. It makes me want to be a mother some day.
I always feared I would turn out like my mom if I ever had kids, but being aware of my behavior and the way I treat/talk to others now assures me that I'll be at least better than my mom. It's only up from here and I'm open to learning and being emotionally and mentally open. In the future if I decide that I want kids, I will talk parenting classes to be the best parent to my kids. We'll do better :)
CUT is honestly one of the best sex-positive channel by far! i can't think of any other channel that allows people to have unfiltered, open-ended, honest discussions for them to express themselves and for their viewers to relate, laugh and learn so much! love you guys, keep doing what you're doing!!
It is also one of the most biased. Their “straight men kissing other straight men” video was trying to push the idea that not kissing your male friends is homophobic and fragile masculinity
@@rithvikmuthyalapati9754 Its not in many cases, in some it might be. We never know why someone says "no", but we should always respect it.
Just an unbelievably amazing parent
Right?! I freaking love them. This may be one of my favorite episodes ever. So open and transparent
I agree with the teen kids. My kids were amazing. Not one problem. Both are respectful adults now. Love it
How cute and accepting. I'm not jealous at all.
I’m 43 years old. My moms are 63 years old. Times were different. People were more close minded. My moms were happy I was straight(ish). They didn’t want me to face the adversity they faced. I was never embarrassed or ashamed to have gay parents. It was an easy way to find “my kind of people”. I did have to take a lot of shit about it throughout school, but that was on all the assholes… not m moms.
I empathize SO much with what she said about oversharing and codependency. My mum has always done the same. I currently live abroad and she still tries to do it. I am happy they have a healthy relationship and there’s no guilt tripping into making the daughter think she HAS to take care of her mother. They both seem beautiful.
Yeah, i was impressed that there actually seemed to be some sort of repair: respect for the adult child's boundaries as adults. I'm 30 and my mom still guilt trips, lectures, gaslights me if I talk about what I need in the present.
She's absolutely right about teenagers. You set things up right when they are kids with an emotionally accepting relationship and when they are teens it's the best thing ever
Ah her little speech about teenagers was just amazing and more parents need to be that way.
*their
Wow Jen is the kind of positive and encouraging, accepting mom I wish I had growing up. And her and her daughter being able to have such a open conversation is incredible. I am not close with my mom so I have always been disappointed I didn’t get to experience a mom like this
Jen uses they/them not she/her. They use "parent" and not "mom" x
That parent-child relationship is so healthy! Love this episode!
The part about teenagers being nightmares just reminded me about how my parents overreacted/became overly upset at every little thing that I wanted to do/happened to me (ex: wanting to go to a restaurant with my friends, not doing well on a test, asking for money to go to the mall) which led me to being distant, emotionally stunted?, and secretive about my otherwise simple, somewhat boring, and vanilla life. Im pretty straight-laced and my parents, especially as a teenager, made me out to be a villain when I wasn't even asking to party/smoke. For them, it was because they were protective and scared for me & of course wanted to be overly involved. For me, it made me anxious to be open with them when I would get yelled at, told to stay home, or called stupid. This didn't happen all the time, but it was enough that only in recent years (mid twenties now) have they become more lax and reasonable. This is also because I only tell them as much information as they need to know about my life lmao, it otherwise gives me immense anxiety to deal with their overreactions. Sorry for the venting, but if anyone else felt this way as a teenager, I hear you. I loved hearing these two OPENLY talk with each other in such a calm manner that made me wish my parents were more like that with me.
Same. I'm always so jealous of teens who can tell their parents everything like they tell their friend. I'm happy for them, but also jealous. I can't talk to my mother about boys, or the relationships my friends are in, or how some male teachers hit on my girl friends. Then when some other mother tells my mother about these things, she asks me why I didn't tell her, and I don't know what to say cause I know she would react differently if I had been the one talking about all that. They're just protective, I get it. But still. Let me live a little
I feel the same way. I like how you describe what I've been feeling because I've always had a hard time expressing it into words.
I'm 19 and I still live with my parents. They're still pretty strict but also calmed down at the same time. I realized how much fear I had from my parents when one day I went out with friends and got home later than usual. On my way home, I was so anxious and thinking about my mom and how angry she would be once I'm home. To my surprise, my mom didn't even care when I got home. She was chill. It's just sad how my brain automatically defaults into saying "you're fucked, mom's gonna be mad once you get home" instead of being excited to come home and share what I did during the day. I was definitely conditioned to think like that because of how my parents were to me growing up. Writing about this makes me really sad.
SAME. And thanks to therapy and mindfulness I am actively undoing that cycle in parenting my kids. The buck stops here!
Same!! I’m 25 and still living with my parents, im still trying to finish college and it’s very hard to find a stable job. I struggle with anxiety and depression (mostly caused by how my parents tried to grow me up) since I was 19 and that really is the hardest battle, but being with my parents who are so judging (they usually makes you feel judged without even talk) is really making my life’s a hell. They ALWAYS make me feel guilty for everything. If I spend more time (more than what’s “normal” for them) with my boyfriend they get mad or frustrated and transmit all these negative energy that push my mental illness to the highest. I feel so guilty and anxious 24/7 mostly because I know that I keep disappointing them by not finishing (yet) university, I always see a bit of disappointment when they look at me… I wish I had this kind of relationship with my parents, that would’ve solved like 70% of my mental problems
The exaaact same happened to me - same examples, everything. I started to unlearn it only in my thirties thanks to my partner.
Great one! Next one should be straight son and gay dad
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You called?
or gay son and straight dad
I cried. This was so wholesome and positive
When she was talking about teens, she took the words right out of my mouth. SOOOO many people in my family tell me I’m going to hate when my son is a teenager but honestly they’re just scared to open up to their kids and engage in activities they don’t like. They don’t see their kids as teens that are almost adults but “kids trying to be adults” so there’s a disconnect to their own child’s autonomy and thinking they’re protecting them but really just showing their child they have no interest in their life. To think that making your child do things they don’t like or find uncomfortable their whole life and ignoring them when they gain their own interests just because you don’t like it is wild to me fr. My parents did the same thing to me and now everyone is shocked that I’m able to be successful by making my interests my source of income. Don’t underestimate your teens and trust they know what to do with their own lives and if you can’t trust them you didn’t raise them well enough to be prepared and that’s on you.
The parent is showing that being oneself is what we should all do and I am so glad there is no assumptions or finger pointing. Great parenting skills!!
The part about teenagers is very accurate. It all comes down to the parents and their parenting methods, as well as how much they try to restrict their kids. My mother was so pushy and demanding when I was a teen, and she always thought I was up to no good and didn't trust me. It didn't help that she was never really emotionally available and was always uninterested in being there for me the way I needed her to be.
I'm crying they're the best and she raised a wonderful daughter omfg
I am sure that if they were to play Truth or Drink with that entire household it would be a riot!!! 🤣
I'd watch the sh*t out of that video
Nope-The other parent😂
Aww, come on Maggie! 😂 -Rachel
4:23 absolutely! My parents and I have an AMAZING relationship because they didn’t hover parent. I am myself. I was never “rebellious” but I had my own secrets and doubts. It’s normal. Teenagers are great- we just have terrible reputations.
I have a great relationship with my teen daughter. My best parenting "hacks" are honoring her boundaries and setting apart time for her. I don't need to know everything. I need to know that she's safe, and that anyone involved is safe or relevant adults are involved. As a result, she and her close friends all tell me a lot. Information told to me is in a vault. I'll keep their secrets to keep them feeling I'm safe to come to.
As a newly out lesbian & a new mom I’m thankful for little clips like this
i’m so proud of you
@@TheMilouna 🥺 that means so much. Thank you!
Omg I love the family dynamic so much!!!! Not just the two of them but the other mom and their partners living together sound so mature and cool 😭❤️
when the parent was talking about how teenagers are a lot better than what society has made us all believe they are even though 1 we’ve all been one and 2 it’s definitely the way that the parents react to the kids behaviors during their teen years when lead to this really negative depiction of teens. i know and I’m sure others have reflected on this too before, that if my parents were more open and not so reprimanding then I would have definitely been more open with them too but this is so important for everyone to learn so we can do this for our future children.
“30 seconds, we’re talking about queer sex?” This is funny cuz queer sex always lasts between 30 minutes to 5h
Oh boy 😂 They don't know we know. I have sessions lasting 6+ hours. And I was really wondering how to describe it.
Whaaaaaat
First comment I searched for ! So true, it is long lasting and we talk and debrief for even longer 😆👌🏻
@@camilaperezrojo7394very tempted to say that's how she moans but - - X'D
100%
Living with your divorced partner and providing a home for her own new partner is the most lesbian thing I've ever heard, and completely charming.
My mom found out once I was an adult she was queer, and this made my heart warm as hell.
She grew up good bc she had a good parent, not all teenagers get that kind of guidence, that’s the problem!
OMG MY COLLEGE SELF DEFENSE TEACHER!!! Y’all changed my life!!! ❤️ both genuinely kind people.
This parent is a gem. "That being said", it's wild how open they are 😂
*Edit: I am learning
*parent
*parent please respect pronouns as they/them
Before the next person corrects me, show me since when did a NOUN became a PRONOUN.
@@rockpooladmirer parent is noun. What the parent's gender?
@@susanzmi2943 I respect pronouns, but how is parent a pronoun? If they had no child, would their pronoun still be parent?
5:16 is literally my relationship with my
mom right now. i love her so so much & she’s so amazing but she always tells me that i’m her best friend, it’s just a lot.
This video it’s just not only about love, acceptance and respect. But you can also learn something from it. I love how they’re open and comfortable to each other💗
I hope I can cultivate a relationship with my future kids that allows us to have conversations like this. I have authoritarian parents so I can’t even imagine talking to them like this…
I'm sure you will be a wonderful parent!🥰
It's possible.....
The family situation they think is so odd is great. That is wholesome and inclusive. My family is odd. Inclusive but really odd
This is such a wonderful conversation between parent and child. I would love to see a longer video between the two of them and more videos as well
It's kinda funny and sad how the parent keeps making that
I love how she didn't even need to consider being ashamed of her mom...that was super sweet
I love Jen as a parent and the relationship she has with her daughter. Just wonderful ♥
I am proud that our kids and us have conversations like these. We love them and who they love. 🏳️🌈
They have such a kind and gentle bond you can tell there’s a lot of trust here. I wish I could’ve had a bond like this with my parents.
i love their relationship. so cute. and i couldn’t stop admiring the daughter’s hair!!! obsessed!
Great video of child and parent. These grown-up reflective conversations are nice.
My Mom has been married to a woman since I was in 2nd grade, (24 now) and my 2 sisters and I are straight. I don't think having LGBTQ parents affects your own sexuality. Also not embarrassing either, but all 3 of us got the " well if your moms gay then your gay" shit growing up, and also couldn't bring both my moms to basketball n stuff .. but that's the good ol South for ya.
Sadly, some people are still so ignorant or just plain mean... But hey, I'm still hopeful they'll learn someday. All the best to you and your family
Never clicked so fast 😅. Gay father and straight son would be cool next
@Victoria Nicole noice ig
A straight son and a gay dad would be a fun dynamic to watch.
The thing about teenagers is so true. I feel like there’s so much fear about teens secretly doing drugs and having sex but none of my friends have this issue. If you build trust with your kid you’ll be fine. The hard part with teenagers is supporting them empathetically through all of the little problems that feel like the end of the world when you’re a teenager.
Growing up with a mother that is lesbian, i felt everything she said. The question about being embarrassed is such a tough one to answer but i think she was spot on. We love our parents through and through ♥️
Wow I definitely have parent envy. Such an awesome relationship there. So mature, loving, supportive, fun.
the renting your rooms to your exes and their partners is such a wlw thing LMAO😭
This is just lovely! So nice to see parent and kid who communicate and feel good about each other and the relationship that they have!
This is the relationship I would want with my parent
Sameeeeee
The parent is so expressive with their facial reactions, I love it
I like their energy. It's open and still serious while at the same time letting the kid lead the way. That's refreshing. I appreciate queerness :)
"teenagers are the best as long as you stay open" such an amazing reassuring statement. parent of 3 with my oldest being 7, not gonna lie, I've been dreading the teenage years. crazy how a short couple sentences reminds you where you should place your priorities.
[daughter of queer divorced parents] : now they are roomates
me : 👁️ 👄 👁️
There's a generational thing here people watching this aren't realizing. I'm 38, straight, my gay dad is 72. I didn't grow up at a time when you politically schooled ignorant people, but at a time when you kept quiet when a classmate said he'd beat his uncle's ass if he heard his uncle was gay. Even then, I was incredibly unusual in terms of how open I was about my dad being gay.
parent:"You and your nothing."
Me:💀💀💀
Beautiful - great daughter - great parent 💗🙌🌈
It’s amazing that queer parents are so supportive of their straight kids. I know it may not be accepted by everyone, but it’s okay to be straight.
being straight *is* accepted by everyone
@@haiIeyy r/woosh
@@JeremyMYG honestly couldn’t tell, a lot of people now a days genuinely have this mindset
Hahaha
"sTrAighT" 😩
Currently love my 15 yr old son, he is amazing, he is funny & he provides entertainment every night w/ watching him play baseball & helping him train. He thinks I’m corny when I say he is my favorite baseball player of all time, but it’s true! It’s so surreal having a kid who loves the game you love & is a 15 year old Freshman having college scouts watching him already, just because he is an above average pitcher. The most difficult teenage thing with him is reminding him although he is hanging out with his friends, he doesn’t need to be cussing. If it begins w/ an F, even the fake cussing because it all means the same, no baseball lessons. I know he is going to cuss, but I want him to limit it. I have one side of my family that smokes, drinks way too heavy, every sentence has a cuss word & it’s embarrassing in public, especially since there are kids always around. The other side moderately cusses, but live normal lives, are educated, drink in moderation & I would like him to live a similar life. He uses his manors at all times, doesn’t get in trouble at school, & other kids’ parents adore him. Teenagers aren’t bad, they will test your patience, but always keep the door open for communication for anything & it’s good to have some form of friendship w/ your kids, but don’t let it go to far that they run all over you, you still have to be in charge.
Saw this pop up on my notifications and had to check it out
Lol same
I would LOVE this daughter to write a book about how she was brought up and taught by her parents! I feel like it could help a lot of people understand a really interesting and good side of parent/child communication. I was enamored listening to them talk. As someone who grew up in foster care, 10+ placements from 4-18, my adult realtionships have been quite different.
Not gunna lie I didn’t expect to be so early
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Same lol
Neither did i
Ok? You want a cookie or something?
me neither
Damn, imagine having these genuine and open conversations with your parent.
4:40 THIS!!!
I wish i could have conversations like these with my grandparents 🤷🏾♀️
Seems like they have a great relationship. That’s beautiful to see
That was such a great episode. You should make it a series
I really love this one. I have two moms and am also around the same age as Jordan. Hearing their conversation about topics that I have also gone through in my life was really interesting :)
"You and your nothing" cracks me up
I love every facial expression
"And you and your nothing" 😭🤣 When your parent roasts you for being single
I’ve always felt fortunate that my parents from a young age treated me as an adult and expected me to behave as one. They were always open with me, told me the truth and asked me to do the same. Never once judging each other or getting mad. Feel so blessed.
They were both so charming and fun to listen to I found myself disappointed that the video was so short! Lol well done!
“You and your nothing” PLEASE 😭🤣🤣 ahahah lmaooo
Why am I getting Jamie Lee Curtis and Lindsay Lohan vibes from these two? I love them
“You and your nothing…” MY MOM TELLS JOKES JUST LIKE THAT OMG
This might be the first video on UA-cam (and history of humankind) to show the conversation between a straight kid and their queer parent.
5:48Her responses have me shocked I don’t think she realizes she has such an amazing mom 🥹
*parent
Oh! I love this family dynamic! As a kid of a gay mom who lives with both bio parents it’s really rad to see😊
you should do one with straight parents and queer kids
I love the extended queer family all in Jen's house! That actually sounds dreamy!
Try this segment with adults and their polyamorous parents. Just a suggestion
These two have insane chemistry!
That’s every child of divorce’s dream: your parents living side by side in different apartments so you see either parent whenever you want.
Jordan was probably a good teenager because she had nothing to rebel against! Her parents were honest and open, they probably treated her with respect and empathy do to their position in the world as queer people
Im so happy that Jordan felt comfortable telling Jen that their relationship was leaning on codependency when she was younger. I love when families can grow and maintain healthy boundaries !!!$!$
My “father” was gay but he was also super into drugs.. abusive.. in and out of jail/prison.. and he had HIV.. (my childhood was in the late 80’s early 90s) I used to pray and tell god I didn’t hate him bc he was GAY .. I hated him bc I thought he was a monster of a person! I never believed he would go to hell bc of his sexual orientation but bc of all the horrible things he did.. either way he is dead to me but again not bc he was gay. I used to be so jealous when I saw happy healthy gay men! Some were flamboyant and I wished my dad was “one of those gays” he was complete opposite he tried to be overly masculine so people wouldn’t know. He used to make us tell people his live in lover was “my uncle” it was just so messed up! I pray people can have the freedom to be themselves because hiding in the closet not only damages the person in there but it can ruin so many innocent lives!!! Just marrying and having kids to fake a lifestyle only later to come out and say you knew since you were a child you were gay?? I can’t accept that! It’s tragic for everyone and unnecessary!!!! Just be you! Own it never- hide it!
Such a wholesome relationship! I love both of them!
“Me, my partner, my ex, her new partner, you..and your nothing”
Damn THEY REALLY DID THATSHZHHZ
I love this one! Jen is hilarious and I enjoy the relationship she has with her daughter. ❤️