Treating your Ex Narcissist like an experiment

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  • @everett552
    @everett552 Місяць тому +46

    No part 2's, no sequels and definitely no going back! Done is done! The ex narc is dead to me. Stay gone and no contact!! ✌️✌️

  • @Twany1954
    @Twany1954 Місяць тому +25

    The worst thing people do when they dated someone like this from what I read is go right back into a relationship for it to happen all over again with someone else. Study, study, study, heal, heal, heal and once you feel confident try it out. I’ve read about this JUST BE CAREFUL❤️

  • @smartsurvival2605
    @smartsurvival2605 Місяць тому +20

    He knows I figured him out.

  • @jenfeler
    @jenfeler Місяць тому +20

    "There's always another round in their mind." Yes Joe, everything you said, thanks again. ❤

  • @smartsurvival2605
    @smartsurvival2605 Місяць тому +15

    If you could see what he has become, you'd either be sickened, or laugh.

  • @smartsurvival2605
    @smartsurvival2605 Місяць тому +21

    He's too much of a coward.

    • @evyjay
      @evyjay Місяць тому +7

      Yeah the weakest ones just slink away. Mine who was a doctor hadn't had any contact with his ex wife in the 2 and a half years since she walked out, went no contact, and filed for divorce. He had a few rages about her, reliving the narcissistic injury, a couple times went into victim narrative about her, and just once exposed the actual shame and failure he felt, buried somewhere. They were a perfect match on paper, and were of the same uncommon ethnicity here in the states. I can't even imagine what she must have gone through to walk like that after 3 years of marriage, 7 years together, but I put in just 9 months with him and had to do the same. Highly doubt I'll hear from him again, I think he was comorbid aspd/sociopathy though, my prior dealings with grandiose rats didn't prepare me for the malignant covert!

    • @smartsurvival2605
      @smartsurvival2605 Місяць тому +2

      @@evyjay Mine raged about his ex too. He wouldn't shut up about her, I had to keep telling him to stop. Every single time we would be together he'd say something negative about her, how she ruined his career, and would tell me unsavory stories, probably none of it was true. He never could let go, now he's probably doing the same thing about me.

  • @chiquititans
    @chiquititans Місяць тому +14

    Thank you, Joe. This was immensely helpful, reassuring and supportive. I know exactly what to expect now and I act accordingly. Takes practice to become emotionally detached, but it's possible. I got out of that rat cage and its version of reality and put myself back into the perspective of an observer. The feeling is quite liberating.

  • @scottoz7891
    @scottoz7891 Місяць тому +15

    They ARE Very unique creatures. Stay Educated AND Dedicated. Break the Trauma Bonding...❤❤..

    • @DA-ee1xi
      @DA-ee1xi Місяць тому

      These fools are so unique that... They're all the same.
      Another layer of narcissistic delusion, right there 😂

    • @amandajohnson-williams7718
      @amandajohnson-williams7718 Місяць тому +5

      I dont personally think of them as unique creatures, as they all play the exact same game as other Narcs. They're all the same ... not very unique at all. They learned from the same rule book as each other. They are Clones in reality.

    • @Deity697
      @Deity697 Місяць тому

      Ok but you using emotions instead of logic that why they exist now but riddle me this how can a dumb mf trick a smart or normal person ✌️ I'm done on it

  • @user-mu8cg2xy3u
    @user-mu8cg2xy3u Місяць тому +6

    My Pinocchio
    His nose gets longer with each lie 😂

  • @Seanus32
    @Seanus32 Місяць тому +7

    The only hoover I'll be accepting is a Dyson. Thank you...

  • @PabloMuerteUno
    @PabloMuerteUno Місяць тому +16

    Exactly. Case study

    • @ghostrecon3834
      @ghostrecon3834 Місяць тому +3

      Yeah, essentially. I learned so much about psychology through dealing with that monster.

  • @EmmaCroft73
    @EmmaCroft73 Місяць тому +8

    Thank you again, Joe for your videos. I was in an entanglement with a narcissist half a year ago and during an initial four months of no contact, gained so much education from your channel. After the four months, I received an initial grand hoover with many follow up hoovers, calls and voice messages left by the narcissist. I had learnt so much by then that it enabled me to side step a round two with him. So thank you again most sincerely. Your voice is so calming that I listen to you at night. Looking forward to seeing more of your great AI art too on IG! 😘😃

  • @learningcuisine
    @learningcuisine Місяць тому +10

    Hello Joe - your teachings are the anti-dote to various poisons of Narcissism. Bow down to your knowledge and your yet-another great lesson.

  • @Sheik2791
    @Sheik2791 Місяць тому +4

    Experiment is called abomination 😂❤

  • @shawnmarie1912
    @shawnmarie1912 Місяць тому +5

    For the last 9 years i knew he was a malignant narcissist . Oooh the experiments, yup, fun sometimes, for me anyway. Thanks Joe !

  • @kp153
    @kp153 Місяць тому +2

    They also try to make their karma yours too, especially when they figure out you’re never coming back to their energy. When you remove your energy and transfer or pull your energy back from them karma it hits them full and harder in the face. That’s why no contact is so important, if you can manage that and heal. You gotta get out of the way and starve that slimy energy of theirs back to hell.

  • @amandajohnson-williams7718
    @amandajohnson-williams7718 Місяць тому +3

    I experimented as youve suggested, and yes i witnessed him pull away just when i needed his support, so i knew not to expect supporr at these times. Luckily for me i was primed growing up in a narc childhood home. This just helped me to gradually withdraw to the point i could go no contact.

  • @IsabellaShy
    @IsabellaShy Місяць тому +1

    You nailed it with the Twilight example, haha. I used to watch it again back in time, and I also figured out how he was the Edward, and me the Bella, lol.
    Also especially on New Moon, how Bella feels empty and depressed from his abandomnent. Yeah that's how I felt. I'm so glad I finally moved on from him, and now he is drinking another one's blood.
    He clearly knows I don't stand anymore his behaviours, so, I'm glad he will not hoover. Don't want any kind of contact from him.
    (cute laugh there 🤭)

  • @Sarah_sunshine14
    @Sarah_sunshine14 Місяць тому +5

    Love your laugh…made me giggle 😂….great video ….helpful as always Joe…🙏🏻❤️❤️

  • @DRUMofTRUTH
    @DRUMofTRUTH 15 днів тому

    This is exactly what I’ve done! I’ve set the stage of me being unpredictable…. Then I discarded her…. And I even went so far to call her father and ruin her PERFECT image in her family… I’m telling ya she will come back! I know it

  • @lassinediawara7331
    @lassinediawara7331 Місяць тому +2

    Thanks Joe. I don’t think i will just let them go if they come back. As the saying goes vengeance is a dish best served cold.

  • @user-iq4jh8jo3o
    @user-iq4jh8jo3o Місяць тому

    I’ve been played so many times so there’s no win, but yes, I savored the predictions I made about what was going to come next. I got good at it thanks to people like you. Very therapeutic, thanks!

  • @penibeni1085
    @penibeni1085 Місяць тому +1

    My son's wife, right after they got married, she told him she didn't have to have sex with him everytime he wanted it. 😢 he's still with her. He's stuck but won't admit it. She'll take him for everything he's worked for.

  • @susanmiller6870
    @susanmiller6870 Місяць тому +4

    This is a genius approach!!

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 Місяць тому +2

    I am positive Mr. narc not coming back , so no chance here to try this experiment, i think even i could i wont do it anyway , it feels wrong for me personally, BUT i just love to watch your new videos, to enjoy a beautiful images and your VOICE ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗❤ 20.3K !!! 👍👍👍

  • @helenmcclay2622
    @helenmcclay2622 Місяць тому +2

    Ptsd, & phds in pathology... you just wanted a boy/girlfriend. I loved him.

  • @Xenophanes198
    @Xenophanes198 Місяць тому +2

    I blocked her and changed her name in my phone to The Illusionist

  • @prunelle9051
    @prunelle9051 Місяць тому

    4 years ago, that's exactly what I said to myself after getting the knowledge. I was feeling like he was an experiment. He did everything text book. The stalking, the rage, the calls, the messages, everything, but this time, I was ten steps ahead. He's now a gutter vampire with a pack of the same kind. Hehe.

  • @hellenique9533
    @hellenique9533 19 днів тому

    I made it clear from the beginning that IT was being psychoanalysed. Its response was; ‘psychoanalyse me! It would be my pleasure!’ IT wasn’t happy when After multiple Hoover attempts, I stated that the Experiment was Over! It claimed that I would always be piece of its soul! I don’t believe in soulmates. They ticked all the boxes. They will always be hollow! My soul was always intact! Never ignore the signs-your body always alerts you!

  • @GRIZZYHENDRIX
    @GRIZZYHENDRIX Місяць тому +2

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 EPISODE

  • @dropintheocean9952
    @dropintheocean9952 Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing.

  • @JosephtheDreamer-h3r
    @JosephtheDreamer-h3r Місяць тому

    I figured them out and it's a beautiful thing

  • @mikehealey6309
    @mikehealey6309 Місяць тому

    Genius!!

  • @Atheistbatman
    @Atheistbatman Місяць тому

    My last narcissist (covert/somatic) I realized was just a distraction from my exwife and the 10yrs of rape….frigid except when I was asleep…and the my acceptance of that at the time was just “chasing my mothers love” that never was.
    Got it figured out but I’m still f’ed up

  • @laraparks7018
    @laraparks7018 Місяць тому

    I started calling my ex figment 😮

  • @josephsoileau8465
    @josephsoileau8465 Місяць тому +4

    whoops! I did this!

  • @trinitristant3527
    @trinitristant3527 Місяць тому +1

    🙏💙

  • @klyn9619
    @klyn9619 Місяць тому +1

    🐁..
    Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶

  • @marasoltanis3596
    @marasoltanis3596 Місяць тому +2

    I love you

  • @calmpills-intentionaleffor7042
    @calmpills-intentionaleffor7042 Місяць тому

    I have done just that, when I finally found out what was going on I stuck around for a while and wrote an entire book.