It has been 1 year no contact as of yesterday and I feel great! Yesterday morning, I said to myself ‘I forgive you’ and I could feel the last of the anger I was holding onto lift off my shoulders. I realize forgiveness is not about condoning what was done to me, but it’s more about returning to neutral. I recognize the abuse for what it was and choose to not make it apart of my identity. Your videos have really helped me gain the perspective I needed to get to where I am.
They really did change you! They created fog and damp view...but thats temporary. I believe it caused a death in you...just to find the real you and totally aligned you with you're destiny. They caused an amazing awakening.
Ironically, the words of the Devil itself, "All is not lost, the Unconquerable Will" has never been more appropriate for me. Irregardless, never looking back for him.
This is 100% spot on. My narcissistic partner changed me so much and made me look at life with a bleakness and despair. It was only after the discard I started to revert back to the person I used to be. After I started healing and told her to leave she got very petty and tried to subtly torment me
I absolutely hate that I have had to go through this process. I feel as if some people never will. I know I’ll eventually heal. It just sucks. Thank you for the insight and advice in your videos, Joe.
No you will be so grateful eventually when you realise how much you have learned,and grown ! Just keep saying” I’m Done” Let them go and enjoy the journey as you heal and become better than before,without them! Allowing them to come back will drag you back down,so guard your heart and the boundaries are to protect you from them! It’s time to learn to love yourself in a healthy way and learn to discern good from evil, by listening to your intuition,or gut feeling! Be more observant and listen carefully,say less and choose the company you are interested in and give yourself alone time to think and weigh things up!❤️
Every time I listen to videos like this, not just from you, but others on UA-cam, I always wonder how the narc knows what you are doing. Its not like we were friends on any social media. All he ever had was a flip phone. Im not aware that that changed, but I wouldnt know. I have zero contact with any friends he/we ever associated with. I moved and he doesnt know where Im at. No I am not over him after he left me in Oct of 2020...but I am healing and recovering despite that fact. "I miss him and still love him" in my heart..but accept the fact in my head that it was only a fantasy that I loved, not a real person.
My breakup with my narc ex was not long ago, but I feel like I’m already in a much better place than ever. I’m healing old childhood trauma, going back to old hobbies and activities I haven’t done in years, talking to a qualified therapist, finding new activities to do that I’ve never done before - I’m even taking the first steps in pursuing my dream career! She doesn’t know any of this yet. Part of me wants her to know I’m doing much better, and it’s because I don’t have her miserable negativity in my life anymore, but my biggest most logical part of me realizes she’s pure poison and her knowing anything about me is like the Eye of Sauron is watching me.
@@GaryRSpicer you’re right. She found out about my dream career at least. And then she blocked me on all social media! I told my therapist it was a blessing in disguise, he replied it was just a blessing.
@@dervish108 absolutely. My ex covert narcissist is pregnant with my baby....but obviously there has been no contact. It's a devastating experience in my adult life. Can't communicate in a healthy way with someone who deploys unhealthy communication styles. God bless you man.
@@GaryRSpicer this was easily the most devastating experience in my life, and I had lost my mother one year prior. Absolutely not capable of communicating in a healthy way. She’s only communicated to me angrily or emotionlessly since the final discard. A far cry from the charming, affectionate woman I fell in love with during the euphoria stage, that apparently never existed. Good bless you, too!
Oh Joe.😮🙌. Your message is always so healing as you affirm the dynamics of these relationships and how they affected us-but that piano music at the end of your presentation-it was the cherry on top of the most delicious message. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Thank you for being you and sharing your beautiful insights with all is us. ❤️🥰
That kind of happened. It’s a bit more complicated than that because I had other challenges later clearing out my circles. But keep looking back at that relationship where I was at my top shape of mind frame just in vulnerable position. I can’t believe people actually survive these people. I can but if the person is in a vulnerable position and sort of hanging out because of it then that’s dangerous. I don’t want to revisit the the whole thing but it seems to help with confidence building afterwards. Like this comment is going to open doorways to consider wring my future or sometimes it helps if there’s something still bugging you. There’s probably no way to get caught up in this after you find out what happened. Just really immature people wanting to be centre of your attention and others. Like wow!!! I was carefree in life now it’s so much easier now picking up signs from the jump and that’s also a confident builder afterwards.
The amount of 3rd party people he’s used to try to use to gain information about me it’s exhausting, especially online trying to be private and being this hyper vigilant. It’s kind of anxiety inducing too when I realized the lengths he went and still does to try to pry the doors I’ve closed to him open. But, I’ve rather have that anxiety than open myself up to him and his flying monkeys again. It’s been over till the day I die. No contact forever.
You got this! That only means he's having a hard time accepting its done. His abandonment, control and anxiety issues won't go away bc they're constantly triggered by you. Stay indifferent towards him, he's not power just bc he's persistent! It just means he's miserable and disturbed... continue to stand ur ground and give them all no reaction at all. Keep pushing, get a restraining order through court if u need to as well
@@empressb444 yes to all this! The thing is he’s hoovering by proxy (aka using 3rd party sources like people, scam calls, texts, fake emails and fake online profiles and yes, he’s even gone to witches. He practices dark magic) and that’s harder to prove in court than if he does all these things directly. He thinks he’s very clever but I can see behind the many masks he wears behind the people and resources he’s using to try to get to me. He won’t succeed. My hope is karma finds him sooner than later, so he can finally stop bothering me.
so grateful I severed it, it took a few hoovers to make it stick but I did it. I have kept a few messages from the ex to prevent amnesia, the best one is when the ex realized she had lost control...crocodile tears, screaming, 'don;t you know I love you? don't you fu(king get it!" as always Joe, good one.
I really love❤ the new style to your video today and with the beautiful pictures & the calming music!🎶 Thank you always for your effort, dedication & care for those that have been affected by the Narcississt/Cluster B's & had to build ourselves back up! You always are keeping us vigilant & on our toes! The Narcississt truly does teach us in a way about our own flaws & hard lessons we learn from being with them. I believe we also teach them lessons like, they won't ever find someone like us, after they discard us. It's hard to find caring, loving, genuine, empathetic people in the world. Especially, people who don't have mental disorders, baggage, addictions, criminal/jail history, etc. After experiencing this first-hand with a Cluster B, I'm a whole new aware, discerning, careful, person, every day of my life. I have been healing for a little while now, in the third version of myself! The strongest & galvanized version, resistant to toxicity, & no longer naive. The lessons I've learned & experience will stay with me the rest of my life. I will keep working on myself and focusing on my own life & career. I have a much more of a positive outlook & hope for the future than I ever have. I had to met the Narcississt/Cluster B, there was no other way. Now, I know what they're about & I know myself so much more now. Thank you, Joe, you have hugely contributed to my healing 🙏💙🤗 Have an Awesome Day! 😊✌️
Content and how you produced this is excellent. Music at the end works well for what you do. Your content has always been on par… now, the video as a whole is up. I’m so glad to see your obvious growth in this. And as always, I thank you for all you do
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I don´t care - I focus on my healing. I am out of that hell and will never go back into it. That is for sure. NO CONTACT!
I can't be the same person i was before. I don't want to ever be a naive pushover ever again. I have my ex narc to thank for this.
In the end it's comes down to self respect
exactly. I threw naivete out the window.
Once our eyes are opened to narcissism, we are changed forever bc we have a navigation system installed now, we are less vulnerable.
Lock and bolt the door forever and find your happiness. 6 month's no contact 😊
An encounter with one of these people damages your ability to trust irrevocably.
Their Envy escalates....stay silent, reveal nothing. Off social media. Privacy, bounderios....no response. Safety. Works....they will get bored.
It has been 1 year no contact as of yesterday and I feel great! Yesterday morning, I said to myself ‘I forgive you’ and I could feel the last of the anger I was holding onto lift off my shoulders. I realize forgiveness is not about condoning what was done to me, but it’s more about returning to neutral. I recognize the abuse for what it was and choose to not make it apart of my identity. Your videos have really helped me gain the perspective I needed to get to where I am.
Yes it’s bad to be the subject of narcissistic abuse but it’s worse to be the narcissist.
They really did change you! They created fog and damp view...but thats temporary. I believe it caused a death in you...just to find the real you and totally aligned you with you're destiny. They caused an amazing awakening.
8 months into healing, I'm finally drawing again! A very detailed hummingbird 😊
Ironically, the words of the Devil itself, "All is not lost, the Unconquerable Will" has never been more appropriate for me. Irregardless, never looking back for him.
The lesson here.
Never ever give up
Never turn your back on God Almighty, he will allow you to a reprobate mind (Narc)
This is 100% spot on. My narcissistic partner changed me so much and made me look at life with a bleakness and despair. It was only after the discard I started to revert back to the person I used to be. After I started healing and told her to leave she got very petty and tried to subtly torment me
Hang in there! You are being assertive and they don’t like it,being vulnerable makes you an easy target! Let them go!
I absolutely hate that I have had to go through this process. I feel as if some people never will. I know I’ll eventually heal. It just sucks. Thank you for the insight and advice in your videos, Joe.
No you will be so grateful eventually when you realise how much you have learned,and grown ! Just keep saying” I’m Done” Let them go and enjoy the journey as you heal and become better than before,without them! Allowing them to come back will drag you back down,so guard your heart and the boundaries are to protect you from them! It’s time to learn to love yourself in a healthy way and learn to discern good from evil, by listening to your intuition,or gut feeling! Be more observant and listen carefully,say less and choose the company you are interested in and give yourself alone time to think and weigh things up!❤️
Every time I listen to videos like this, not just from you, but others on UA-cam, I always wonder how the narc knows what you are doing. Its not like we were friends on any social media. All he ever had was a flip phone. Im not aware that that changed, but I wouldnt know. I have zero contact with any friends he/we ever associated with. I moved and he doesnt know where Im at. No I am not over him after he left me in Oct of 2020...but I am healing and recovering despite that fact. "I miss him and still love him" in my heart..but accept the fact in my head that it was only a fantasy that I loved, not a real person.
My breakup with my narc ex was not long ago, but I feel like I’m already in a much better place than ever. I’m healing old childhood trauma, going back to old hobbies and activities I haven’t done in years, talking to a qualified therapist, finding new activities to do that I’ve never done before - I’m even taking the first steps in pursuing my dream career!
She doesn’t know any of this yet. Part of me wants her to know I’m doing much better, and it’s because I don’t have her miserable negativity in my life anymore, but my biggest most logical part of me realizes she’s pure poison and her knowing anything about me is like the Eye of Sauron is watching me.
She will know. But keep moving forward.
@@GaryRSpicer you’re right. She found out about my dream career at least. And then she blocked me on all social media! I told my therapist it was a blessing in disguise, he replied it was just a blessing.
@@dervish108 absolutely. My ex covert narcissist is pregnant with my baby....but obviously there has been no contact. It's a devastating experience in my adult life.
Can't communicate in a healthy way with someone who deploys unhealthy communication styles.
God bless you man.
@@GaryRSpicer this was easily the most devastating experience in my life, and I had lost my mother one year prior.
Absolutely not capable of communicating in a healthy way. She’s only communicated to me angrily or emotionlessly since the final discard. A far cry from the charming, affectionate woman I fell in love with during the euphoria stage, that apparently never existed.
Good bless you, too!
😂😂😂😂 oh well 🤷🏽♀️
lol all the miss is the gets they used to get. u never mattered.
I am happy staying in a darc empty and lonely place. I am creating a renewed sort of light again only for myself... Thank You!!:))!!👍💐🌷♾️🌟💗🌞
Oh Joe.😮🙌. Your message is always so healing as you affirm the dynamics of these relationships and how they affected us-but that piano music at the end of your presentation-it was the cherry on top of the most delicious message. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Thank you for being you and sharing your beautiful insights with all is us. ❤️🥰
They love to punish.
That kind of happened. It’s a bit more complicated than that because I had other challenges later clearing out my circles.
But keep looking back at that relationship where I was at my top shape of mind frame just in vulnerable position.
I can’t believe people actually survive these people. I can but if the person is in a vulnerable position and sort of hanging out because of it then that’s dangerous.
I don’t want to revisit the the whole thing but it seems to help with confidence building afterwards. Like this comment is going to open doorways to consider wring my future or sometimes it helps if there’s something still bugging you.
There’s probably no way to get caught up in this after you find out what happened.
Just really immature people wanting to be centre of your attention and others.
Like wow!!!
I was carefree in life now it’s so much easier now picking up signs from the jump and that’s also a confident builder afterwards.
The amount of 3rd party people he’s used to try to use to gain information about me it’s exhausting, especially online trying to be private and being this hyper vigilant. It’s kind of anxiety inducing too when I realized the lengths he went and still does to try to pry the doors I’ve closed to him open. But, I’ve rather have that anxiety than open myself up to him and his flying monkeys again. It’s been over till the day I die. No contact forever.
You got this! That only means he's having a hard time accepting its done. His abandonment, control and anxiety issues won't go away bc they're constantly triggered by you. Stay indifferent towards him, he's not power just bc he's persistent! It just means he's miserable and disturbed... continue to stand ur ground and give them all no reaction at all. Keep pushing, get a restraining order through court if u need to as well
@@empressb444 yes to all this! The thing is he’s hoovering by proxy (aka using 3rd party sources like people, scam calls, texts, fake emails and fake online profiles and yes, he’s even gone to witches. He practices dark magic) and that’s harder to prove in court than if he does all these things directly. He thinks he’s very clever but I can see behind the many masks he wears behind the people and resources he’s using to try to get to me. He won’t succeed. My hope is karma finds him sooner than later, so he can finally stop bothering me.
so grateful I severed it, it took a few hoovers to make it stick but I did it.
I have kept a few messages from the ex to prevent amnesia, the best one is when the ex realized she had lost control...crocodile tears, screaming, 'don;t you know I love you? don't you fu(king get it!"
as always Joe, good one.
Thanks!
Thank you!!
I really love❤ the new style to your video today and with the beautiful pictures & the calming music!🎶 Thank you always for your effort, dedication & care for those that have been affected by the Narcississt/Cluster B's & had to build ourselves back up! You always are keeping us vigilant & on our toes! The Narcississt truly does teach us in a way about our own flaws & hard lessons we learn from being with them. I believe we also teach them lessons like, they won't ever find someone like us, after they discard us. It's hard to find caring, loving, genuine, empathetic people in the world. Especially, people who don't have mental disorders, baggage, addictions, criminal/jail history, etc. After experiencing this first-hand with a Cluster B, I'm a whole new aware, discerning, careful, person, every day of my life.
I have been healing for a little while now, in the third version of myself! The strongest & galvanized version, resistant to toxicity, & no longer naive. The lessons I've learned & experience will stay with me the rest of my life. I will keep working on myself and focusing on my own life & career. I have a much more of a positive outlook & hope for the future than I ever have. I had to met the Narcississt/Cluster B, there was no other way. Now, I know what they're about & I know myself so much more now.
Thank you, Joe, you have hugely contributed to my healing 🙏💙🤗
Have an Awesome Day! 😊✌️
🤗❤
Thanks for sharing your wisdom and education! ❤
they hate people being happy
Joe, I really liked your new opening. Very nice!
Content and how you produced this is excellent. Music at the end works well for what you do. Your content has always been on par… now, the video as a whole is up. I’m so glad to see your obvious growth in this. And as always, I thank you for all you do
I’m grateful for your videos. Everything you say I understand
Excellent, thank you!
Love this, thank you 🙏
This is so true thank you ❤
Excellent! Thank you, Joe!
Thank you.
Enter the flying monkey....
When your own inside light returns, it's the most amazing feeling in the world. It comes back and yes you are forever changed. 🤍
Thanks
Thank you!!
it’s not what you think…
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Ty 🕊️✨💪🪽🫶
how do i win-never go back.
What happens if they can't regulate depression?????
They self medicate
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