What UNSERIOUS generational curse are you breaking?
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I’m SICK of opening up the sour cream container and finding beans! This ends with me. 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
I'm not saving random cords and remotes😂
I just fell out!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm with you 💯!! I'm lock and lock storage all day!!
I too do not reuse food containers as storage containers. And won't. 😌
You try to make ahome loaded baked potatoe...beans in the sour cream container and mfkn RICE in the butter container!
I don't put leftovers in Cool Whip containers. I use glass containers with air tight seals. My mom calls me boujee for this. 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂Love it! We not saving used fish grease in the Crisco can no more. My Grandmother 👵🏾 rolling over in her grave! I still wash dishes by hand ✋🏽 🤷🏽♀️
Come thru glass tupperware and mason jars!!!!!
Hey Sis! So we just gone be boujee then. Cause the Pyrex and Anchor dishes with the air tight lid is a must.
Yes! I freed myself of this one too!
Screaming
Waking my kids up gently! Not banging on the wall, ripping their covers off, or yelling their name. My anxiety as a child started with that among other things.
You have something there. There is way too much hollering at our children. I applaud you for thoughtfulness.
Yes to this! My Mom changed the narrative for me!🫶🏾🙌🏾 Originally, she would wake me up yelling, etc. My behavior at school would ALWAYS reflect how I was woken up. When she changed, so did I!!
I heard this phrase from a coworker who had 2 small girls at the time🤓
That's wonderful! Believe it or not, my Mom used to sing us awake every morning!
"Good morning my darlings, rise and shine, it's going to be a wonderful day!"
That gave me a calm, loving and understanding wake up. It helps me now, even.
Thank you for your determined promise to your children. Ashley that's cool!
This isn’t unserious babe ❤
1. Dogs live INSIDE
2. We dont keep a drawer full of restaurant menu flyers
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Growing up my mom only made black cherry kool aid and I always said when I grow up, I'm gonna drink whatever koolaid I want. Then recently I had the opportunity to drink a glass of black cherry koolaid...it was DELISHUS! I get it now Mom. I get it 😊
I made koolaid SO MUCH in my childhood 😣 I have adult children now and I have not spent one DIME on a packet since I left home! IF my children got it , they drank it somewhere else 😒I was just SICCUD 😂
I don’t pressure my 6 year old to keep her clothes clean while playing. Aint no way she should have to worry about keeping that lil shirt from Target clean 😂😂
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👏🏾 yesss! And I let my daughter swim as much as she wants, with no care about her hair getting wet.
Exactly why they have play clothes
thank you. I used to work in daycares. parents would bring kids dressed in dress up clothes (think quincenera dresses for little girls) and then getting mad at us for not keeping them clean. smh. a child's job is to play and get dirty, and so we did our best to keep the clothes clean, but at the end of the day, these are children
😂😂😂
Stereotype:Being late I hate it I must be early
Telling boys they can't cry
Calling little girl grown instead holding the adult accountable
OMG. All of this!!! 👏🏾
Yes
I’m always early, my mom instilled this in me and attendance.
All of this!
So I had to break the being on time and being early because my friends decided oh you on time you early you can always help set up when it's an event No I can't I came to enjoy the event not help you set up I get paid for that That's what I do for a living😅😅😅 So now I just make sure that I'm about 30-40 minutes late and that the other girls can help set up Is your party You knew what time it started You should have been already ready for your guest
“Parents didn’t talk about sex until you was 6 centimeters dilated. Just hold the baby at this point.” 🤣 EJ you kill me!!
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Girl it's true!! At 16 I just told my mom I was pregnant. 🤦🏽♀️
@@shonb989 🤣 my mom got pregnant at 16 so I guess she figured we all know about sex at that age lol
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I'm convinced ny dad still thinks I'm a virgin even with two kids.
My husband taught our Black children how to swim and I signed them up for swim lessons. I have mostly daughters. I don’t care if their hair wasn’t laid all the time while they learned. My two oldest children are certified lifeguards.
Hardly anyone in my family knows how to swim. A few have lost their lives because of it
Yes to water safety for us. My dad was tossed in a pool. He vowed to teach me.
I learned "black people dont swim" age 13 when we move to cali from arizona. blew my mind. most of my family can swim. my mother and my oldest son were the only non swimmers but they got in the pool and jacuzzi. I actually rescued my mother when i was about 8 or 9. I was on the jr swim team training for jr olympics. why dont black people swim? whoever posted about the couches...YAASSSS sit on the furniture. I always hated the "DONT TOUCH IT ROOM/FURNITURE/DISHES or the good dishes good glasses when company comes over. I dont have company so use them glasses right there.
My sex talk from my mother (which I never brought up) was, “don’t open your legs for no man!” The end. When I have children there will be an actual discussion.
Facts! My mother always said “where you catch your cold, you blow your nose.” I hated that phrase so much.
@@JoaquinsMomma
could you break this saying down for me? 😭
@@AlatOnDemand if you get pregnant, stay with him. Don’t come home.🤣🤣
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"My child will not have perfect attendance, we prioritize mental health" 🎉🎉🎉 love it
Hopefully they find a job that will also prioritize mental health because most of these places want proof you're on your deathbed before you can call in sick.
Thissssssssss
@@DarlingNikki2There are jobs that are now implementing mental health days.
And there is so much you can learn outside of school. I pulled my son out of school just so we can see the total solar eclipse, and guess what? We're doing it again next year.
This is my house. Let my kids stay home after a difficult day. That schoolhouse still be there.
One serious generational curse I’m breaking, is letting other people’s fears prevent me from living my best life!😒💯
THIS!!!! I missed out on going away for college and also teaching overseas because of this!!!
Okayyyy!!!! People get comfortable with the same narratives. I want to live out of the country and I don't care what others think.period. 🤷🏽♀️🙎🏾♀️😂
Yesss and amen. 🎉🎉🎉
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Your comment hit hard! Yes! All of this!!!
I gave my children an explanation for when I said no instead of, "Because I said so." I also throw away used cooking oil.
about the oil: oooo I'm tellin!!!
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I still save oil 😮😅😅😅😂😂 just a little though in a cup 😊
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The oil must go 😂😂
The thunderstorm one: Growing up we had to turn off the lights, the tv and had to sit in complete and utter silence until it was over. If you made a sound, you got “cussed out”! I no longer do this. I have everything on and also look out the window just to watch the thunder and the lightning 😊😊 And another one that I’m breaking, been breaking it for years: I shop because I can, because I like to, because I have the money to. It’s not “retail therapy”, it’s not “self care”, it’s something I enjoy doing and it makes me happy. And another thing, I’m married but I also enjoy going out to eat ALONE, going to the movies ALONE because I happen to like myself and having a spouse/significant other didn’t stop me from enjoying time with ME!
I have actually lost a TV (due to shortage) thinking I was grown watching TV in the middle of a storm. I knew better 😭😩
Telling little boys not to cry when they hurt themselves.
I'm not cooking holiday food just because it's a holiday, I might want something else😂
Yes and yes
🫡 yessss!!!
😮!!!
You know what…. That part
Yes, because sometimes Chinese take out be hitting on the holidays.
I went through my mother's stuff after she died, and she had a bunch of obituaries and wedding programs. It was good information about people's family tree.
Hey!!! My uncle has our family's obituaries in laminated binders 😂
Yes!
Exactly! So useful! It’s all written out who is who!🤷🏽♀️
That’s why I like them!
@@strcklnd22 I do too! 😂😂
I apologize to my kids when I'm wrong or overreact, and we talk about how i could have handled it better. And then.. i try to implement that next time.
Amen! I do too
Same here. We made a no yelling or screaming household. Better for all involved.
Same. My daughter doesn't appreciate it though 😂😂😂
@@enmodelife I look at it this way, if I give my kid a healthy childhood, they have no reason to thank me because they have no idea what they're being protected from. And I'm fine with that (though as we go through the teen years, I definitely plan to work on expanding their knowledge of broken family systems and the effects that can have on the kids raised in them, starting with me and my partners childhoods)
I don't expect my kid to have any deep reverence for the way I parent, mostly I just want them to have such a healthy childhood that any unhealthy relationships that pop up in their later life are immediately recognizable as 'off' even if they can't pinpoint why..
I thought we were talm bout not serious curses 😭
Despite the fact that my family had a working dishwasher in my childhood, I did not properly use a dishwasher until I was 19 working in a preschool. Mom and dad said it would make the bill more expensive and we stored plates and extra pans in there. The kitchen worker called off and I had to prepare meals for 4 classes consisting of about 85 kids in total, and do the dishes after. I was hand washing the dishes and using the dishwasher for storage until a senior coworker came to me and pulled me aside. She asked, "Baby, you were raised in a Black family huh? You can use the dishwasher, help yourself" 😭😭 I am so embarrassed by that memory (my wrists were screaming), but I never looked back after that
It actually does raise the water bill when you think about it. A sink full of water is less than running two to three cycles of dishes. But yes, I've been there a few times before😅.
Oh my this was so funny 😂
We always got the “I don't trust the dishwasher,” line. Whhhhhhyyyyyyyyy
@@brittanyparker-vaughan2881😂
I have not properly used one until recently. I’m 37
I don't force my kids to eat stuff they don't like either. My cousins would try to force my kids to eat stuff that they're not used to. One cousin hates eggs so I said what if someone forced you to eat eggs everyday even if they make you gag? That's so insane. Especially since we all grew up and became fat. That's from our mothers force feeding us.
Yes my children don't like salmon so good I don't have to spend all that money on salmon.
@@Rochelle-tf6siI'm dead 😂
I leave the refrigerator door open for more than 13 seconds. Sometimes for a whole minute!😄
That’s when you would hear: “Are you paying the light bill?” Or if you stood inside the front or back door a second too long you’d hear “Were you born in a barn?” I’m guilty of the last one. Okay, I’m guilty of the first one, too. I strategically contemplate what I need out of the fridge before I open it. Hi, my name is Patty and I have a problem 🙋🏾♀️
😊🙋🏾♀️Me, too.
My refrigerator starts beeping if left open! That makes me nervous! 😂😂😂
Lol, I use my refrigerator to light up the kitchen to not have to turn on a full light. Shit it's my refrigerator and lights, lol. I'm letting all the cold air out.
@@stephaniewilliams4470 Right? I close it after so long bc I don’t want to hear that beep. It’s almost up there with the seatbelt beep in the car! No!
I don't wait until Sunday to cook a good meal if I feel like throwing down in the kitchen in the middle of that week 😅
Damn straight 😊😂
I never thought about it but now that you mention it growing up in the 1960s, our Sunday meals were always jazzed up and we ate on the dishes in the China cabinet. Do people still have two sets of dishes? The fancy ones were wedding presents displayed in the China cabinet and used for dining room meals and the mismatched ones with nicks from the dishwater racks were used we ate at the kitchen table.
Yeah you might not make it to Sunday
Yeah, I broke that one 20 years ago
The same with me and holiday meals. I once cooked a whole Thanksgiving dinner in May. I'm not waiting 6 months for turkey and dressing if I want it now.
I live in my living room. I’ll eat and sleep in my living room. Growing up, our living room was a shrine-couldn’t go in there.
HELLO!!! 👍🏾😉
@blackbutterfly8338 🎯
A family I used to babysit for as teenager 50 years ago had a policy of no walking on the plush living room carpet. The mother liked to see the suction lines left by the vacuum cleaner.
@@bernadettedevereaux8694 OMG, not those lines! 😆
My favorite part of my home!
I have a son and I taught him at an early age that it was ok to cry because his feelings were legitimate and relevant ; he was also allowed to defend himself/explain his side of a situation without fear of punishment even if the complaint was brought by an adult . He knew that he always had a voice and it was respected.
I love this so much 🥹
The biggest one for me is not caring as much about chores as my mom… how many of y’all parents considered the kitchen dirty if one spoon was in the sink?! And I also have several beverages, boxes of cereal open at a time too - SCANDALOUS! 😂
My mom used to wake my sisters and me up at night to 'clean' the kitchen because of one spoon. And now they [my parents] are the ones leaving everything they used to make and eat supper after the kitchen has been cleaned in the sink. And well everybody eats a different cereal in my house.
Yup I'ma take my cup to the kitchen when I get up not just because I'm done. 😤
the once the kitchen is clean i can’t feel that cuz my parents say just clean up after yourself and ain’t no problems 😊
I tell my kids I love them every time I talk to one of them because that wasn't normal in my household even though we knew we were loved.
OMG same!!! Last week my ten-year-old said I say I love her too much and give her way too many kisses 🤣 Tryna to reign it back in. She gonna miss me when I'm gone
YAAAAASSSS🎉🎉🎉
Well that’s not an “unserious” generational curse. I love that you are changing that for your children, though!
@@DR-rw7esawww❤
That's a good one!!!
Not having kids out of wedlock 😅
“unserious”
Not having kids, full stop
@emily how is having kids a generational curse lol? When people are actually struggling with infertility... I'm not saying everyone should have children, but the ability to have children shouldn't be a "curse"
That’s… that’s pretty serious lol
@@whatsinaname2288I agree with Emily. Having children is definitely a curse 😂. If I could rip out my uterus I would.
Definitely not making my kids clean their plate. I’m not on that and they don’t have to eat everything. I tell my sons it’s okay to cry. I definitely give my children time to have a voice as long as it is respectful. I was shut down and now I’m grown trying to find mine.
I feel like this is serious.
I love it.❤
Same sis. Saaaaame. Because my son has so many food allergies and I’m at my wits end trying to find stuff he can still eat that tastes good. So if he don’t like it. That’s okay, let’s stick with what we know till we find something new.
That last part..😞 Me too..
Same!
I did the sexplanation early on with my son. Showed him pics of genitals with STDs and everything. Also explained babies, how they are made, delivered etc etc. no “surprise” grandchildren for me!
I was in Walmart yesterday, minding my BB business 😊 A lady (mid 40's) started cussing a little girl ( maybe 10) OUT!! Now I'm looking; got my full attention cuz why?! That baby laid frozen corn on her hamburger buns 🙆🏾♀️ Y'all BIG curse words, not lil ones🤏🏾. Child just standing there looking. 💡Maybe show her why she shouldn't do that. You coulda put the bread in the seat of the basket, NOT in the bottom. Hell, you coulda switched out the bread , making it someone elses problem & walked off 🤷🏾♀️😂 Stop cussing these babies out for nothing. #BreakingGenerationCurses
And the church, the community, the elder mothers, teachers, strangers, and everyone else who cares about children's precious spirits said, A-MEN!!!!!!" Thank you for that comment. ❤❤❤
If I accidentally do or say something that makes my daughter sad or mad, I apologize. My father watched me do that when she was maybe five, and called me a doormat in front of her. All I could say was, "WOW." Luckily, she thought that was hilarious
I don't have a child but I do this with my 4 year old sister , it's very helpful with fostering emphaty in them and just in general it's a good thing .
Tbh. If she's mad or sad that doesn't necessarily mean YOU did anything wrong. The reason for the feelings needs to be evaluated before an apology. If it happens automatically you are being a doormat that will easily be manipulated as she ages.
@@idwtbam Did you miss the part where she wrote, "If I accidentally do or say something that makes my daughter mad"? @PeiPeisMom your father probably has good intentions, but he doesn't know any better. Apologizing to your child when you've hurt her is actually better for your relationship and teaches her about accountability, vulnerability, and honest communication.
@@darkfeather6857 Apologies are great. And they do teach accountability WHEN an apology is warranted. Automatically apologizing is conflict avoidance at it's worse and is what doormats do. Your emotions are never anyone's fault. Everyone is accountable to, not necessarily to his or her emotions, but to his or her reaction to those emotions. If a person feels fear at the sight of another it could be because of the other person, unconscious bias, both, or something else entirely. It will still ultimately be the fault of first person if he or she shots the second person. That's accountability. We all need to check our emotions when they arise. More often than not we have some self-evaluating to do. If someone says something about us we know beyond a shadow of a doubt isn't true we write off as ridiculous. When there's a shred of truth feelings are more likely to arise. And those feelings are not the fault of the "criticizer." Criticism is nothing but an observation that clashes with our self image.
❤this right here!!
That whole ketchup thing happened to me last night. Made fries and didn't realize we didn't have ketchup🤦🏻♀️.. popped open the drawer full of condiments and we were ready.🤷♀️😁
I'm sorry, companies give out free food and we wanna waste it? Nah. 40% of food already wasted. We got that drawer PACKED
@@weirdmyst7963 🤣🤣🤣Exactly
Yeah I'm sorry I gotta keep those, I'm cursed on that 😭😭 I love Zaxby's sauce and they always give you extra for no reason. When I bake some fries I bring those out and I'm so happy
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That's called being resourceful.
I hate it, but my husband is keeping ALL of the extra packets……. I hoard the extra napkins in my car, because I always end up needing them, so I guess that’s the same thing…..
A college degree and being a homeowner is breaking the generation curse.
Say it louder... I'm right with you
It does but so many people broke generational curse of being homeowners and making a living without it.
The post is about unserious generational curses.
That's a serious one. I'm going to be a bit controversial...but I'm also breaking the curse of telling my children that for their lives to amount to anything meaningful, they must have a college degree and decades of debt to get a mortgage in the suburbs.
I was the 3rd generation of women to go to college, and my family has been homeowners going back at least 4 generations. That meant lots of hours working, and very little time spent at home and passing down truth, real history, and self sufficiency apart from this toxic society's system.
My grandma was a nurse, my mom's an MBA, I decided to "just" be a homeschooling homemaker. I also dream to have a modestly sized home on acreage to homestead that's quickly paid off, rather than a big house on a small lot I may never pay off. I think my children will be better off for it.
@@shonda79able another comment is around some where.
I use EVERY part of my house. There is no 'pretty' room where you can not touch or sit on something. I grew up where the living room wasn't to be used (for the most part) and only for company 😂
For me, there’s a lot of generational curses, that’s ending with me. Most of em, my kids are not gonna understand and appreciate until they get older. 1. I will not be the only person, that cleans. If it’s 4 people that lives here then all 4 should be cleaning. My 9 year makes him bed, clean his room, takes out the trash. My 6 year old, she tries, but we still gotta work with her. 2. We will clean everyday. I refuse to spend every weekend cleaning all day. My weekends are for relaxing, catching up on some errands, maybe do some laundry, but that’s it. 3. I give my kids explanations for everything. If they do something wrong I tell them why it’s wrong. 4. The importance of a college education. I will always support any goals and dreams my kids decide to pursue, But they will also, pursue higher education. 5. I am teaching my kids to be more self sufficient. Cook, clean, take care of themselves, be self aware, be observant, finances, credit, loans etc.. my kids will learn to be independent, and not rely on others.
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@graccieltoure565
I read quite a few of the comments and I will say sincerely and with all honesty, I agree 10,000% FULLY with your approach. Your children will be mature responsible adults who will always hold themselves to high standards and know the meaning of personal accountability in all areas of their lives. I’m not criticizing the others however,it’s just that I,for the most part, did as you’re doing with yours and my now grown children, thank God, turned out good, not perfect😄 but an asset to society. Wish you continued success. Take care.👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Hey EJ, you know what’s upsetting to me….Ms. Jackie’s lunch box hasn’t been found 😭😭 #justiceforjackie
And Robert has been no help whatsoever! 😂
@@pattywilliams788 because he stole it! 😂
I thought they found it!!! The burgundy one... Right,???😂😂
@@jasminem8666 he totally stole it!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 well you better help look then.
“If you heard me, find me.”
Yes!! That’s me with my kids.
I've broken the generational curse of putting meat in every pot of green vegetables. Judge me if y'all want to, but Yah made greens, lima beans, and peas without ham hocks and smoked turkey necks, so we can eat it that way! Seriously though, I didn't think it was possible to eat plain vegetables until I stopped eating so much meat as an adult, now I'm glad my children know what the vegetables taste like on their own (and we grow it, too).
Me too. I don't need that meat but my catering orders still want it.
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Sis!!!! I made a big pot of sauté Kale & Cabbage with seasonings, olive oil & a little vegetable stock. It was amazing!!!!! Got lots of compliments. BUT... almost everyone asked where was the meat. 😐
Yayyy. Sounds good. I can make yummy beans veggie style, yet I have to develop the art of making greens taste spectacular without smoked turkey wings. How to?
@@craythachef7774 nice. Can you share how to cook greens to perfection without smoked turkey wings?
A lot of the ones EJ mentioned hit home for me. But, I promised myself I would never stay at a job I was unhappy at or that was low paying, long term just because of the stability and comfortability. I have mostly lived up to that. There was a 4 year period where I needed a specific job due to the hours (It was basically a 4 day work week, really 3.5, low stress, though not great pay, but also had room for voluntary OT). That was 2 years more than I originally planned. Still, by staying, I ended up at a remote job that paid 2.5 times more in the same line of work.
Why was that a generation curse? I grew up noticing that most of my adult family members had this mindset of getting a "good job" that they often hated. It usually had good benefits and paid the bills, but wasn't well paying. I knew that you always needed to progress forward and not be afraid to leave. Staying just keeps you in a financial trap, unless you can and do move up in the company. My stance has not changed. In fact, I see more and more people do what I did, with better success. Don't stick around being overworked, underpaid, and underappreciated. They will not reward your hard work the same way the open market will.
The fear of traveling or getting on a plane. Also, "fussing" at children for being children. Giving children a voice and not in a disrespectful way, allowing them to talk to me, as their mom. They are grown and I am kept in the loop (sometimes too much 😅), as needed and dependent upon subject matter.
Come on now, somebody in the family gotta save all the obituaries. Where else you gonna look when you're trying to remember Earline's youngest boy's name? Or what year grandmama and grandaddy got married?
Or whose name wasn't in the children's list... Just sayin'🙈
My husband just quoted a quote that we saw on Facebook or Instagram that said black people the stove like is not a night light, I beg to differ like EJ said, how are you going to see the robbers 🤷🏾♀️
My father is the obituary keepsake person, even if he miss that funeral because he wasn't aware because we have such a large family he is going to locate an obituary for that person as well 😂😅
@@katiesmith2985 ❤
This made me sad for some reason. Realized a lot of the older generation is already gone and many are on their way out. My mom is the family historian, I could never do it like she does, but when the time comes, I’ll be ready ❤ I was a quiet child, so the older women who talk as if I wasn’t there 👀😂
I wish I could break the "sitting in silence and pretending not to be home curse" when people knock on your door unannounced, but it's ingrained in me.
LOL! Uh uh, that's a solid one, I can't break it cause...why you didn't call first?? I'm in here wearing pj's.
That’s in the Bible. Calleth before ye cometh. Lest not ye be stucketh. It’s in the book of Doodarightthing.
Yessss! I don’t do unexpected visitors, period!! I will watch you on my Ring and not respond to you!!😂
@@Redbeezy504 lolol😆
Nahhhh, I'm not trying to break that one!! Do not show up unannounced!!
Allowing the kids to come back in the house when it’s hot outside! It used to be “Either you’re in or you’re out”. The next gen will never know what it’s like to have to drink water from the hose out back 😂
Lol, you just unearthed that hose water taste in my memory. Hot hose water! 😂
I introduced my 9 year old to drinking out the hose this summer. I was like let the water run first baby, or it'll burn your lips! He was like...this water is GOOD!😅
We used to use the hose to sprinkle water on our faces to look like sweat droplets and act like we were dying. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t
Word!!!!
@@wendystephens4327 that’s actually hilarious 😂
I took my little cousins bike back to Wal-Mart when a part broke. It was under warranty. I replaced it. I saw one of my husband's relatives and they were like "Your buying a bike before Christmas?" I was thinking to myself people get delivered. It doesn't have to be a holiday to get new toys and shoes.
My husband used to be on my case about saving plastic bags and started throwing them away. He realized quickly that we needed those to line all those lil trashcans around the house. Now he save em too.
My husband tried to make me save plastic bags but I despise plastic bags. I hate the way they feel, the sound they make, and how they smell when they're old. Plus they just look so ugly to me in the trash cans. I just started buying mini trash bags. It baffled him to no end. Then he found out my mom is the same way about plastic bags. She'll keep a few but throws the excess away. My white husband was raised to keep all the plastic bags.
We eat in our living room...
Put our feet up on couch...
Go into the kitchen in our pajamas...
Eat breakfast in our pajamas
Sit on the bed in "day" clothes lol
Run the washer and dryer at any time of the day
So many curses being broken lol 😆
I still want sit on my bed with street clothes. To many nasty stuff on buses, etc.
Everything but the sit in the bed in my street clothes. Lol I can’t do that. It’s gross. No shade to you though.
No hold on there Nelly, I was swagging and surfing with you real hard…right up until you swerved into the dirty ravine of outside clothes on the bed. No ma’am, No Sam, No Pam…no outside clothes on my bed…I be damned 😂😂😂😂😂
@@astablack1535 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@astablack1535 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I feel you lol
Saying goodbye for an hour before you actually leave a function/gathering
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I’m trying to stop this 😂🤣
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The not soaking the pot overnight and the not saving obituaries had me clutching my pearls. I have my small folder, in my jewelry box, with my “dead people trading cards”. Because like you said EJ, memories! 😂
I'm the unofficial family historian. "Dead People Trading Cards" is what my collection of obituaries is going to be called from now on!😉
Dead people trading cards. I'm dead.
@@dedmond28 same
@@IsisOya so are they
I am CRACKING UP over this....tooo hilarious!!!
I explained to my son when he was younger, if you are hurt you can cry. I also explained not to keep crying over it, cry then shake it off. When I say hurt I mean physically. If it is an emotional hurt let's talk about it.
I don’t hold onto towels or sheets until you can see through them. Once they get to worn out to be functional they have to go.
I can sit in my living room AND eat/drink in there! I’m grown grown.
I let my kids say ‘lie’. I’m convinced that the only reason we couldn’t cuz we would call them on their ish cuz we saw what happened and knew they were in fact lying.
Lol...this one! It was as if 'lie' was a bad word. I still taught my children to never say I'm lying but they can question me.
“Lie” being a “bad word” is crazyyy. I vividly remember as a kid singing along to “bye bye bye” in the radio and getting yanked up because I said “ain’t no lie-“ like???
🎯thats the exact reason we couldn't say it!! I remember getting in less trouble saying real cuss words. 😂😂😂smh
We couldn't say "lie"...instead, it was "not telling the truth" or "telling a story." And you could say "having a baby"...couldn't say pregnant.
Stupid $#¡+
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Maybe this is the reason why we now have kids calling their mothers liars in front of other adults (teachers and administrators).
We also talk about our past rather than acting like we had none 😂.
That part!!
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This is such a big one, bordering on "serious" generational curses, I swear.
Yes please!!! We need to stop acting like we so perfect. Let these babies know that we understand what they're going through. We weren't born adults is what I tell my kids.
@@rlhumphrey3678 Yes! Thank you.
I don't tell my children not to close their doors. Sometimes they need room to calm down and gather their feelings. Or just have some peace from whoever and whatever.
I give them space to be upset with me, and voice what made them upset. I think that's one of the reasons some of us can't communicate, and don't have conflict resolution. Out parents never allowed us to have back and forth dialog with them.
Generational curses I keep: saving twist ties, turning the dish washer liquid bottle upside down so the tiny remnants of liquid are available to use, then filling that bottle up with water and using it until every ghost of liquid is used. Generational curses I've broken: allowing children to leave food on their plates (but they are excused from the table at that point), staying in the bath or shower even once the thunder storm has started, ironing everything in sight including husbands' undershirts.
I don't have a can of used grease sittin' on the stove.
This should have been included in the top five broken curses. If I close my eyes I can see that coffee can on my mother’s stove. She never threw out bacon grease.
Both my husband and I came from families that saw debt as a part of life. Nope! We're on a mission to make all the debt go away. (At this point, it's just our mortgage).
🤸🤸🤸🤸 yes MA'AM!!!!!
Good job y'all!
I don’t season my tub with Ajax all day before I clean it 😂
Okay, you whillin! Next you’ll tell us you don’t let the fabulouso/bleach sit in the toilet for minimum of 1 hour.
@@TrueOrigins1618 lol I just figured out I can’t do that in my new toilet. It now has a blue tint. I wonder if bleach will fix that?
Whooooaaaaaaa 😂😂😂😂
My tub is currently full of Ajax since this morning 😂
@@Fancyfee 🤣😂😂😂
Washing ziplock bags and reusing them. Throwing away broken cups and not trying to repair them.
Chile, I'm Grown and I still TURN OFF TELEVISIONS DURING STORMS bcuz though my Mom has passed on, God Rest Her Soul, I still hear her voice when we were kids saying, "Y'all Cut that tv off and get somewhere and get quiet while God is doing His work!" I can see my Mom being Poorie Tang's Parent if I don't turn off everything during storms, a pip may come from Anywhere 😂😂
I don’t have a bag full of bags, but I do have a snazzy bag holder container from IKEA 😂😂😂
Mine is from Walmart.
Lol I need to get one. I got plenty plastic bags 🤣🤣🤣
Your are delivered ma'am😅😅😅
Yep, me too. Lolol
I haven't bought a waste basket liner (those 4 gallon bags) since 1998.
That dishwasher one touched my soul 😂
My mom didn't get a dish washer until after all of her kid left home. That's how serious she was about not doing her own dishes.
@AlabamaPowell 😂🤣 listen we had one my entire childhood and it was used to store dishes. Never turned it on 🤦🏾♀️
@@D_Tahnee😂 oh my gosh, I thought I was the only one. We washed all the dishes but for whatever reason we put them in the dishwasher. Mom refused to use it. She said it would run up the electric and water water bill.
We had one for 8yrs… we used it for storage all 8 🥴😂
Yes, my friend questions me about why I use my dishwasher saying "Black people don't use dishwasher".
I buy name brand food... the exception is only if the generic one tastes better 😂
That part!!!
That almost never happens though, haha. I can't buy off brand food I just can't!
The only things you absolutely cannot buy off brand are Heinz ketchup and Kraft dinner; everything else it’s whatever is on sale. 😅
Facts!!!!!
Same and I prefer Aldis pancake mix and ranch over name brand.
I had an honest talk with my son about sex. He was in the single digits at the time. I let him look through a children’s book about it and ask questions. My mom was horrified when she found out.
I think you did a good job
I could see that happening between 12-13 but to each their own
I personally don't know what age is best but I feel it's better a little too early than a little too late. Stay ready so u don't have to get ready 💯
Yes!
naw i got curious about sex and so did many others of my peers at around the age of 8 or 9. prolly because talking about was so taboo. i think you did the right thing. better to be aware of it and its consequences a little earlier haha
I use the dishwasher OFTEN, not just on Thanksgiving. 🙌🏾
I will throw away every container with no lid.
I will be able to drive a red car.
I will only eat vegetables that I like on the holidays.
That red car.. makes your insurance high and the police more aware of ya! 😂😂😂
I have a cherry red car. Growing up in South LA in the nineties with the association of red and gang violence that was such a no no. I liked the color and had a hard time working though why I was so resistant to buying it. Now I love it and feel just a bit more free.
@@Mom.3 yes!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Enjoy your red car, baby!!! 😊
No body on earth gonna take my junk drawer or my extra plastic bags!!! 😜🤣🤣🤣🤣 loved this one EJ
I hollered at the closing of the kitchen once it’s clean. I live alone and I close it to myself. 😂 I feel you, EJ.
Bahahaha same! I just moved out two months ago and that’s exactly what I do. I will never stop 😂
It's not a restaurant. Why are you closing anything down? What if you wanna watch a movie @ midnight with a fresh out-the-oven brownie a la mode? You can't bake after twelve??? I feel stifled. I can't!
😂😂 I Close The Kitchen While I'm Cleaning It But I Know They Coming Afterwards To Get Whatever.. I'm Just Satisfied It Was Cleaned 😊.. Couldn't Do That Growing Up For Sure!!
😂😂😂 I need you not to close the kitchen to yourself.
@@CC-si3cr after the brownie a la mode is made fresh out the oven, now it’s after midnight and I’m sleepy, because itis AND I gotta wash a dish?! 🥹🥹🥹 nope.
My mother in law was upset because her daughter was sitting on the couch she let her have😳. I was like “what else is she supposed to do with it?”.
That obituary one hit hard. I just lost all of my valuable belongings to a storage auction (employees actually stole my stuff). The one thing hurt me the most is they took my entire clear bag of obituaries including personal items from majority of Ancestors. They saw it was obituaries and still took it. Cherishing obituaries is the only generational curse, off that list I'm still connected to.
I save them b.c they help put together the family tree
Bags still have me in a chokehold too, EJ. 😂
Those are free trash bags for your small cans and I tie diapers up in them when babies are at my house. Two Walmart sacks hold the smell in.
@@pigalottafattenton5003 and while I'm cooking! It's so convenient to have one or two hanging from the cabinet so I can throw in the skins from the onions, etc etc.
CHOKE👏🏾HOLD👏🏾....YA HEAR ME 😂😂
I got paper bags, plastic bags, reusable bags, portable cooler bags, that I don't use. I ain't throwing those bags away.
I do not want deliverance 😂
Just an explanation about the couch thing: My grandmother (I grew up in the 1960s-'70s) had a special living room that was used ONLY when company came over -- usually out-of-town family. Unless special company was there, we grandchildren were not allowed to even ENTER the living room, which held her "good" furniture. And the couch -- I kid you not -- was bundled up in a see-through PLASTIC cover. It squeaked when the visitors moved around while sitting on it. But that couch was kept clean!! (My grandparents had a den where they watched TV and allowed us heathen grandchildren to enter when we visited from just up the road. 🤣) ... I have no plastic covers on my furniture!
Omg mine did too. It was my grandmother’s white room.
😂Yes😂 This was my Grandma 💯♥️U better not be sitting on her "Good Furniture" 🆗😫😫😂♥️🙏🏾
We were allowed in every Saturday morning to dust and hoover😂😂😂
“The parlor”
THIS!! Im 34 and my granny is in her mid 80s. About 10 years ago the plastic covers came off the good furniture.. us kids were shocked LOL
She said, “it’s too late, hold the baby” 😂
I’m definitely turning on my heat and AC whenever I need to cuz I refuse to be uncomfortable in my house!
I always tell people “we gon’ use the LORD’s Light!!” Instead of turning the lights on 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂❤ hold the baby
The kitchen one, its closed - DO NOT make a mess. I don't want to see crumbs on the counters when I wake up when I left that kitchen clean. We fighting.
Some of these are not curses but generational gems that we still need to hold on to 😂 coz who knows when you’re gonna need a bag or some extra ketchup!
Hahaha EJ said she ain’t delivered from the monsters yet! “How you gone see the shadows of the monsters?” 😂😂 this is hilarious.
I want the Lord to kill all the monsters.
I will get out of my bed in the middle of the night to turn that light on. Nope! 😂😂😂
Yes and why did she say the shadows were “loose!” 😂😂😂
That’s like sleeping with the bedroom door open to me,
might as well just give the monsters, the random unexplained fires, and robbers your streaming password & let them eat all your snacks out the fridge while you at it 😂😂😂
I sometimes walk up to a window during thunderstorms and say out loud "Hey, Sugarplum (it was my nickname for my grandma), Im standing in front of a window during a storm!". My grandma would always insist on us turning off the tv, getting off of the phone, no showers or toilet and staying away from windows during storms. I swear this lady thought lighting was going to come up through the toilet and strike one of us in the rear 😅. Rip ya goofy lady and miss you so much!
That's actually all the things that scientist recommend everyone not do during a thunderstorm, except watching tv, even though there's a low chance of any of that stuff happening.
@@AfroPrincessDiaries , fair enough. There is always a possibility of something happening in any situation.
Great nickname for your grandmother! I never met either of mine (both gone before I was born), so hearing of the sweet memories of others gets me right here:❤❤❤! ☺️☺️
I'm sorry about your loss. How old was she when she went on to Glory? 😏 😁 😏
(Implying she didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday. Lived a great many years. No disrespect intended.)
Looking back on this, granny kept us all SAFE! We do need to get somewhere and SAT down during a storm. If something happens, I seriously need to know where my children are in the house.
Hey cousins!
Im saying hey cousins because it seems we are having group therapy in the comments. And it seems we have similar curses and trauma and need to talk! And EJ is the group leader! Yes lord, break all these generational curses!
😂😂😊 Hey Cuzzin!!.. I So Agree.. I Too Am Tickled Pink About These Curses!!
I grew up in the South in the '80s/early '90's but I was never required to say "Ma'am" to any of my elder female relatives including my mom and grandmother. However, I learned that in certain social situations it was expected, like at school or church, so I obliged when outside of the home. Also, we no longer eat collards and black-eyed peas on New Year's Day. We also don't drink out of old jelly jars.
Talking to my future kids about mental health and not minimizing their feelings and turning everything into a damn trauma contest about who had it worse🙄
Instead of calling my kids from upstairs, I get my own remote control. 😂
What's the point of even having kids then, lol?
The curses that I'm breaking are:
1. Donate or throw away clothes that I'm no longer using, they will not stay with me for months to years while being untouched
2. When I say no, that is my final answer. I have made a sound conscious decision as a grown up adult person. I will not change my mind or allow you to change it because you don't like my answer. It is not my job to make you happy. I will not chase you to keep a relationship.
3. I will not continue to stay in a toxic job or a job I do not like for the sake of a paycheck
4. I will not go to any company events and/or family events (including funerals) to preserve my sanity and to stay away from trifling people
5. I will enjoy my childfree by choice lifestyle my entire life and will not care if people get upset that I choose to not have kids. My body my choice. You are not part of my character development.
6. I will go on vacation to places anywhere I choose for myself anytime I can for me. Not out of circumstances or obligation but for fun, for me, and only me.
7. When I need help with something, I will voice it out to someone I can trust. When I want to leave, I will leave, I don't care if it makes you feel bad, I want to go home in peace.
8. I will enjoy being selfish because I have spent too much of my life caring for others who don't care for me back nor respect me as person and a coequal. I will not shamed into giving them my energy that they will exploit. Because I don't want to will be my answer, but if I have to lie for my safety, I will. I will still be a good considerate person to all as a decent human being but I will have limits into what I choose to do with someone who is disrespectful to me or just about anyone.
9. I don't owe you a smile and I don't owe you my business and my personal life.
10. I will also be respectful to other people's boundaries and considerate towards others. I have to do my job of being a good person to others, as I would want them to be a good person to me.
You is Free.. Sis
Wow reading y’all’s lists is blessing me
“You is smart, you is kind and you is important “…😩😂🤣☝🏽👏🏽
8-10...
Well Said 🙌🏾
I let my son drink some juice while he eats 😆
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This the one!! I drink all throughout my meal…cause I be thirsty! My husband still eats all his food first.
Ok !! When I was young you could never drink with your food I definitely broke that rule with my Daughters
Omg😂😂😂
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On Saturdays, I had to finish all my chores before I can eat breakfast or leave house. I learned real quick get them chores done the night before 😂😂😂
Yes, I implemented giving my daughter two mental health days per school year. She could stay home, no questions asked. And I must say those not letting pots soak overnight are just bragging overachievers. 😂😏
Making my bed everyday, not doing chores on Saturday before I go out, not washing dishes before I go to sleep and buying takeout after coming in from grocery store.. LOL
I'm throwing away the Checkers cups along with the pickle jars! I have MATCHING glasses now!😂
THIS 😂😂😂😂
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Yeah but glass jars are good for storing stuff! 🤭
@christinalafleur3813 let me have my breakthrough and be free. This deeper than that!🤣😂🤣😂
@@dpurplepalm alright sis! I support your transformation. But I’m keeping all of my glass jars; I make homemade seasoning. 😆😆😆👌🏾
I agree on the eating thing, EJ. I think if you make your child clean their plate, it teaches them to over eat. Teach them to take out what they think they can finish.
As a child I'd get whooping for not finishing my food. When I eventually blew up to 285 lbs, I'd get berated for letting my weight get out of hand. Chiiile...🥴
Or maybe we can teach kids how to portion out the amount they want to eat. Tell me how much you want if I’m making plates.
@@zancooper3876 That makes more sense.
I don't think it teaches them to over eat. I think a lot of folks forget that our parents did certain things because they were reacting to their situation. If your parents struggled to keep food on the table, telling you to clean your plate was about them dealing with the uncertainty of being able to keep their families well fed. Basically, they were dealing with financial issues and weren't sure how long they would be able to provide their kids within the reach of a healthy meal regularly.
It fascinates me how a lot of young black folks today want their parents to understand them and their needs, but they never seem to make an effort to understand their parents and their parents' needs and the situations their parents were dealing with raising a family at that time. Empathy goes both ways.
@@candacen7779 I get all that and don’t disagree. My parents were depression age people and that affected their behaviors and decisions the rest of their lives. My parents did NOT make us clean our plates, but many did and still do. Lessons can always be learned. There are some old school ways that are still best, and some that can change for the better. Your statement is right on point!!! When folks are in survival mode, “feelings” are not the priority.
If you ever get into genealogy and do your family history (or another family member does) then those obituaries are invaluable. Also, soaking pots softens cooked-on food and makes them easier to clean!
I'm not keeping a drawer full of keys, batteries or remotes I cannot use 😂😂
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾The light above the stove is THE HEARTH of the house 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I used mines so much the little bulb went out. I didn’t even know they could go out
Brioche!!! My mother had 2 suitcases FULL of funeral programs and asked me to send my daughter over to alphabetize them! I felt attacked this whole video! Please keep doing what you do!!
Lol
I knock on my daughters door and give her a chance to answer before I bust in. Now if she got her headphones on and she don’t hear me then that’s not my problem 😂
You let your daughter actually close her bedroom door? Oooo, I'm tellin'! 😂
That Pot is STILL in the sink soaking 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
The fact that I was speaking to this screen like "how you NOT gonna do that?" But that obituary one, baaby, you not going to heaven, 🤣🤣🤣
My stove light is staying on, sometimes I don't clean the kitchen at night so it don't have to be closed....and yes I do wash my own dishes. Yes I save all my family obituaries...it helps with family history. Our younger generation needs to know where and who they came from. SAVE THOSE OBITUARIES
"If you heard me, get to me...find me." 🗣Big facts, EJ!!! AND, they must say "yes" when responding. We don't tolerate "huh?" Or "what?" 💀😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Not saving butter 🧈 containers as food saving containers. Hell no, they all gotta go! 💁🏾♀️🤣🤣
😂😂😂 I don’t even know where to start!!!😂😂😂😂
I apologize to my kids and admit when I’m wrong. And I tell them it’s okay if they are angry with me. They know that their feelings matter to me and I respect them.