Why WOMEN DON'T APOLOGIZE: understanding the nature of the problem
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- Опубліковано 29 січ 2023
- I'm 40 years-old, and I can count the number of apologies I've received from women over the course of my life on one hand. Surprisingly, this is not due to the fact that I have always interacted with virtuous, high-quality, well-behaving women. For whatever reason, women seem to find it particularly difficult to apologize to men -- and this is really too bad. In this episode, I'll discuss the nature of the difficulty, and why it would be in women's best interests to apologize more often.
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Accountability and responsibility are a women’s kryptonite. Is never their fault . They act like children but hate to be treated like such .
"Im sorry you feel that way" is my favorite female "apology "
My wife, who passed from breast cancer 10 years ago, was Catholic. I would take her to confession maybe once every one or two months and I would wait in the car for her. She came out out one time and said she was sorry for some big blow up we had a few weeks prior. I asked her what prompted this change and she said she confessed that she had sinned with anger and was wrong and the priest asked her if she apologized to her Husband and she said no and I guess he talked to her about that. After that she began to apologize whenever she did something wrong against me, (she hardly ever did anything wrong really) She was a really good Christian woman and exceptional wife and helped me with many of my faults and struggles and I miss her a lot.
They don't apologize because they truly don't believe they did anything wrong and the reason is because they base decisions on feelings and in their mind feeling a certain way is never wrong, even if actions or outcomes based on those feelings are.
If your woman is a narcissist, any apology is just another manipulation. They never mean it.
The fact that you basically have to teach GROWN WOMEN to apologize after bad behavior says everything you need to know about them.
I once had a girlfriend who though very sweet and thoughtful, would create unnecessary drama from time to time. It seemed as though she would just get bored and want to upset the apple cart a bit . I sat her down and explained to her that if she was going to create more stress in my life that it wouldn't work out. I told her she needed to bring value to the relationship and behave as though we are on the same team. I will never forget what she said. She said, "I am sorry and I apologize. I will work to realize when I am doing that, but I also hope since you are older and more experienced than me that you will correct me on the spot." The next thing I did was ask her to marry me a few months later. No joke
The woman's reasoning :
I'm a 64 years old man and this is the first time I'm hearing this from another male. My mother's side of the family is large and mostly women. They've gaslighted me my entire life and figured this out in the last 10 years. Thank you.
It doesn’t cost women nothing to apologize, it costs them their ego…
we live in an era where something so basic like accountability needs a psychologist to break it down
Every woman's apology is followed by a "but" and that makes it no longer an apology
"I think of a man and remove all reason and accountability." Wiser words were never set to a movie script.
I have literally never ever heard my sisters or mother say sorry.
Women really underestimate just how appreciative we would be if they said sorry just once.
I nearly lost my mind trying to get my ex to have accountability and just apologize when she was wrong..Needless to say I left her alone. Life has been much better not having to explain to someone how to be a decent human being
Once upon a time, a man asked a beautiful woman to marry him.
Problem is that women don't think their actions are wrong.
I have dated a woman who learned to apologize to me maybe a few months or so into the relationship. I told her that while she never saw her parents apologize to each other, we were going to set a different standard and always seek reconciliation through apologizing as promptly as we could do so sincerely. Not just a hurry up and apologize to get through the hard part of it.