Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi Jones | TED
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- Опубліковано 1 січ 2018
- Luvvie Ajayi Jones isn't afraid to speak her mind or to be the one dissenting voice in a crowd, and neither should you. "Your silence serves no one," says the writer, activist and self-proclaimed professional troublemaker. In this bright, uplifting talk, Ajayi Jones shares three questions to ask yourself if you're teetering on the edge of speaking up or quieting down -- and encourages all of us to get a little more comfortable with being uncomfortable.
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Being yourself can be a revolutionary act.
However being yourself too much is not good.
Amen!
So sovery true!!
R Karlsson wow trueeeee
@@rkarlsson6460 why ?
"When it's time to say these hard things:
1. Did you mean it?
2. Can you defend it?
3. Did you say it with love?"
This part is important. Thx for highlighting it.
Yeah totally important
Dope, love this.
The best part of the talk! Otherwise I felt the talk was a bit fluffy/derivative. Her delivery was nice though.
Yes but I think we need to put a little less pressure on how people say things, because even if you say something perfectly with love it still can be misinterpreted and taken negatively.
It's just as important for people to work on how they receive things and not just place the burden on the other person.
I’m reading her book Professional Trouble Maker now and she mentions how she tried to talk herself out of this TedTalk but did it anyway. So proud of her!
Guess it is beautiful, I'm planning to read it now after hearing this talk
I needed this.
It’s crazy how everytime we are about to step up there will be a demon inside luring you into how your comfort zone is nice and how it would be a lot of work and why we shouldn’t go for it
Important to talk back and be like “just shut up no one cares” to the voice in your head
Oh wonderful. Thanks for sharing that! I am definitely supporting her, as we have so much in common character wise. lol
“In a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell”. This sentence hits different 💛 feeling knowledgeable by watching these amazing TED talks during quarantine 💛
Did you speak out against quarantines?
@@userman44 why did u assume she's against quarantine
"In a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell!" What a beautifully simplistic manifesto.
bad guy billie eilish
sounds kinda obnoxious
Seems like going around yelling would just make you an a-hole. 🧐
@@cxa011500 not yall missing the point, it is a metaphor
@@phole1100 say that to men who yell or act violently when they lose a game
I love how she conducted this session. Perfect amount of humor, references and inspiration. The topic has been spoken about often, but her delivery of the topic was rather convincing and was very relatable.
Exactly. Neither did she go out of topic like many TED talks
Most writers are excellent presenters. They understand the need for charisma and energy, and of course all of that is backed up by a solid well written and naturally spoken script
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Yap yap yap
WHO ELSE IS WATCHING THIS IN 2020? This is so timely
For school and this is helping with life damn.
Me tooooooo! I am always changing.
I do watching this @michofalltrades.
Actually found this after searching for my latest video to see where it was in search! Awesome find and great message in this video. Very inspiring.
YES
"When the world expects us to be silent, we choose to yell because getting uncomfortable can only guarantee our comfort." I'm truly inspired, thanks Jones.
❤
“Bridges that aren’t based on truth will collapse.”
I love it👑
The Electric Leaf
The Electric Leaf i read that “ fridges that aren’t .............
Love you !
Facts!!! Reminds me of "what's done in the dark will come to light."
So Social Justice is screwed.
1. Do you mean it
2. Can you defend it
3. Did you say it with love
3 questions to always keep in mind when speaking up about something.
Jenny Saint
You saint yaaasss!
Wonderful comment ❤
Jenny Saint #lovelovelove
Preach
Jenny Saint fear is not winning
Jenny Saint God bless You.
This woman is very powerful. She conducts herself in a manner of which many people couldn’t imagine themselves doing. I really love it when she said that she chooses to yell in a world that wants us to whisper. Motivation at its finest. Thank you
"People and systems count on our silence to keep us exactly where we are"
My mother always said "A closed mouth don't get fed"😁
DANGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
Well said!
Well said! 🔥🔥
Fine mother I will starve my self to death does that seem better for you?
the squeaky wheel gets the oil
-Fight or flight.
-Get comfortable w/being uncomfortable.
I hear these all the time dealing w/social anxiety.
2018 will be my year. Conquering my fear.
"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
:D
BOO!
I always wanted to be the cowboy hero. That lone voice in the wilderness, fighting corruption and evil wherever I found it, and standing for freedom, truth and justice.
And in my heart of hearts I still track the remnants of that dream wherever I go, on my never-ending ride into the setting sun.
:D
You got this cam 👌🏽
I struggle with social anxiety myself, I thought I would never get over it. But after pushing myself out of my comfort zone again and again, I am breaking down that wall and have accomplished social things I thought I never could. I believe in you! Push yourself out of that comfort zone and you’ll be amazed at the person you really are capable of being.
When she said "comfort is overrated" felt that wholeheartedly ❤️
The outfit, the SHOES, the message, the story, simply AMAZING. Luvvie, you are rocking it!
I love how she talks. Eloquent and fluent and funny and laced with gold. Bless
“Fear has a very concrete power of keeping us from doing and saying the things that are our purpose”
“My silence serves no one.”
"Being yourself is a revolutionary act" wow that truly got me.
"And for some reason I was wearing business casual." LOLOLOL! So funny and motivational. Strong ladies put your hands up! 👏👏👏👏
@Yang Xiao business casual is clothing you wear to an office with a slightly casual atmosphere. Think button down shirts and khaki trousers. It's not very good for outdoor activities!
She had me at "Professional Troublemaker"
Me to loving it a😍♥️🙏
Professional Troublemaker
wow, this talk is one of the greatest one that I clicked on UA-cam.
Her message seems obvious but somehow it hits me deeply because in the past I was kind of speaking the truth even it hurt me terribly.
The checkpoint that she mentioned is also very important before we speak out loud
1. Did you really mean it?
2. Can you defend it?
3. Did you say it with love?
This can help us to say truthfully without offending others.
“People in systems count on our silence to keep us exactly where we are” #powerful
6:05 -> "I believe in Shea butter as a core value."
This statement alone deserves a 👍🏾
Congrats Luvvie👏🏿👏🏿
She is brilliant. 😀😁
I wish I could hit thumbs up a lot more than just once. I needed this. I'm quiet and shy. Not any more. Thank-YOU!
Bless you. I hope you become stronger.
I can tell you are a good person already.
I also need it really because of the same reasons but i thought its only me like this
JBL Creations amen. God bless you
just got destroyed by a mock paper, and came home and saw this. It put a lot in perspective for me, and inspired me to look towards the bigger picture
Her speech is so encouraging that I start to try to define myself to the fear.
As someone who's always concerned what other people think, her words were really empowering, I aspire to be her. To be like her is like a paradox, give zero fqs to opinions, but care so much on other's needs
Yoooo why is she TALKING TO ME?! 😩😩😩 She is beautiful btw 😍🙏🏽
ME 2 SIS..
Hellooo!! She is talking to me as well! and yes she and those cheek bones are everything!!!
SlowClass Kai ISN'T SHE?! I FELL OUT. I FELL OUT. 😂😂😂😂❤️❤️😍😍😍
Yes she is! (to both your question and your statement) Do what you gotta do queen!
Beautiful dark skin sister with a powerful mind.
I got chills during the whole speech. Her energy is overwhelming - and i mean that in the best way. Wow.
‘’People and systems count on our silence to keep us exactly where we are.’’ Love it!
“In a world that wants us to whisper I choose to yell” ❤️
This is a great talk, and I encourage everyone to 'be the domino' as she puts it.
I would however also encourage everyone reading this to investigate yourselves.
It is very easy for those in a privileged position to not investigate our own beliefs and values, what we advocate, believing we already know it all. I know this from my own experience.
I held racist beliefs, yet I didn't see them as racist. I held sexist beliefs, and I did not see these as sexist either.
It is difficult to confront your own bigotry, it isn't something immediately clear because it is covered by a veil of "That's just how it is".
What ripped me out of this mindset was listening to others. Women, black people, trans people speaking up about the various harmful power dynamics they face.
Hakasedess All of our beliefs are difficult to purge. They make us do all kinds of things we don't want, skipping work or cheating on diets. Racist or sexist non-sequitirs need not be placed in a special category. Instead, the more that we see ourselves as believing any unnecessary nonsense and purging those beliefs, the more we can purge them all.
Indeed.
Bigoted views are in a particular spot because the overwhelming majority of us do not want to admit we hold them to begin with.
Most racist views are not regarded as such by the people holding them. It's important to be open to the idea that one could be racist, but unaware.
Hakasedess It is useful, even necessary, but need not be the first domino! Just knowing that what we know is probably wrong... As Lao Tsu said, "Darkness within darkness, the gateway to all wisdom." Socrates also said to assume that you know less than you believe you do.
I disagree. I've always been right about everything, so why should I bother seeking out others' opinions? Seems like a waste of time if you ask me.
Spoken like a bigot, I'm sorry to say. Someone being honest and true with themselves would, had they truly been enlightened, come from a place of understanding, not condemnation. A truthseeker seeks understanding first, the brave will speak with this understanding to test it. Truth sets you free, not conformity.
This exact video is What slowly brought me out of my depression and allowed me to be myself . Love her for sharing this
I cried hearing this. I get so much backlash for my words cuz I speak out. This encourages me to know that just cuz there is backlash, doesn't make what I did wrong.
To anyone who is reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you're constantly stressing about gets better.May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and doubt exit your mind right now. Clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life!In Jesus Precious Name,Amen
Thank you ❤
Amen in Jesus name! Bless you! 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
❤
Thank you for kindness.
I needed this today! "Comfort is over-rated."
Her energy radiates the entire conference and of course through my phone screen. Powerful.
This is definitely one of my favourite TED talks! She has such a presence I stopped doing what I was doing and immediately gave all my attention to this video. It even made me cry a little. Amazing.
This is so encouraging! I'm going through a situation where I've had to speak up for myself and make my rights respected. It's been uncomfortable all the way, but I'm not afraid of the consequences!
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Best Ted Talk Ever!
Today onwards, be the domino! be the change!
Yeah, better than expected but hardly the "best" one ever!
ted
Ever?
EVER!
that's quite the hyperbole
what a smart, witty and funny woman! Thanks for giving me some inspo
I mean this is about one of the most powerful talk I have ever listened to here on UA-cam and I am glad I did. It takes a lot to be Nigerian and take a stand in a public place. And yes, capricons rock! That thing of always wanting our feet on the ground? So true! Thank you for the inspiration, sis.
The synchronicities that parallel my own life listed in this video are amazing. Chemistry was the first class in my whole life where I failed an exam. It is also the reason I switched from a pre-med degree. I am terrified of taking a vacation by myself, putting my writing out there for others to judge, and public speaking. I love sky diving and dolphins! I am also a Capricorn. My take away- the universe wants me to start doing the things that make me uncomfortable! Thank you for this amazing video!
Silence keeps us where we are.
Fenekedés
I met her several times! We hung out at a conference or two. She is a cool person! This was a great Ted Talk on Fear! Good to see her on this platform!
😊😊😊
Amazing!! ...at 49yrs old I really needed this Word of Truth, Tears! It's never too late
Watching and listening to someone who faced fear directly and intentionally really makes me feel at ease like there's someone and many out there who are living life up and not just be scared within their comfort zone and actually let themselves free from this boundaries we create ourselves, I think it's beautiful, like it's ok to feel fear and keep going anyway and it'll turn out alright in the end . Thankyou so much.
She just articulated everything I feel! I’m a Capricorn too! Although when she jumped out of the plane my heart went into my stomach. I’m not there yet.
Your stand out word being "yet"!! 😏
I'm less scared of jumping out of a plane than I am of confrontation 😅
I wanna try it but I'm scared
damn, she dropped so many "damn" moments. This is why I love ted talks.
Her energy is beautiful
Almost 3 years later from when I first discovered this TED talk & I am still moved by Miss Jones. You are so inspiring and I truly admire your honesty and grace. This is so great! 💗💐
"People and systems count on our silence to keep us exactly were we are."💯
"...being yourself can be a revolutionary act."💯
I just had a dream about people that I went to school with who are doing great things in the world, and a Ted Talk with Luvie pops up on my phone. I'm so proud of Luvie...my fellow Illini.
This TED Talks is amazing! I love it when she says "Being yourself can be a revolutionary act" because it's so powerful. My silence serves no one. Thanks Luvvie
I pray for my daughters to love themselves and be so comfortable to speak up about what they are passionate about, and making a difference. This is a message I will not hesitate to share with my girls. You could not have said it any better. This video was inspiring, encouraging, challenging, and helpful. Thank you for not keeping quite, shutting out fear and choosing to make a difference. Blessings to you. - Jovanna Heaston
Why did it take me soooo long to watch this? ❤️❤️❤️ Yes to all she said!! She’s gorgeous! 😍
I wondered the same today
She's phenomenally strong ♡♡♡
She's beautiful in every sense of the word!!
Right..🤣🤣 This has been recommended to me so many times but i guess i was ready to listen today.
Yes!
2019 listeners hit the like button
She has really blessed me
Hahah.. 2020
Brilliant.. you go girl… her entire speech can turn into bunch of t shirt quotes that the world needs tomorrow ❤️❤️❤️
I saw myself in some of her speech: what others are thinking in their heads, I'm saying it out loud. I used to be afraid of that but now, I feel great about being my authentic self. Thank you for the strength!
"My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you. But for every real word spoken, for every attempt I had ever made to speak those truths for which I am still seeking, I had made contact with other women while we examined the words to fit a world in which we all believed, bridging our differences." - Audre Lorde
That was good, I also like her style
This woman is me, and I am her. Same experiences, and she has done something that I have wanted to do, yet I put it off for 4 year's. I have since decided that this is the year. I love it! Congrats sister! Keep up the phenomenal work! I salute you!
Was it the year?
In an often "don't stand out" world and having a drive for justice and truth, I will listen to this consistently for the strength of solidarity. Thank you for your courage to speak. You've helped many more on their paths to do the same, I'm sure of this, because you've done it for me!
"Being yourself can be a revolutionary act." Love. It.
An amazing woman indeed . The thing is when people are too quiet ,and the rest too loud , there's no room for unterstanding . I am often both . Those 3 questions I will start use them too ,such a great way to start 2018 .
I am so sorry for the racism and discrimination ...beautiful hearts &mind have no color ☺
Just watched this on my lunch break and wow...just wow. A short, but very powerful and insightful talk by the magnificent Luvvie. Silence is compliance. Don't just be a voice for yourself; be a voice for others.
Seeing this right at this moment is everything to me.
“Being yourself can be a revolutionary act.” 💯😍💯
got me feeling like I was in CHURCH!!! YESSSSS!!!! SPEAK LIFE INTO ME!!
I so appreciate this vid and Luvvie Ajayi Jones. I've often found myself being the one person speaking out. It can be exhausting and very unnerving being the first domino. Speaking of which, wow does the description beneath this vid get it wrong! It says that Jones " isn't afraid to speak her mind or to be the one dissenting voice in a crowd, and neither should you." In her Ted Talk she literally says precisely the opposite--that she is often afraid, but does it anyway. She never says "you shouldn't be afraid to speak out." She says it's hard and scary but try to do it anyway (which is the definition of courage, BTW--Jones is courageous, and inspires this particular middle-aged white guy! 🙂).
ok, now I need to buy this book. She is just so amazing!
This is my favorite TED talk
I get uncomfortable if I'm TOO comfortable for TOO long haha. Great talk!! In unrelated news, your outfit is killer
WOW! Me too.
2 years later and the first time i've seen this and 1. Your a whole vibe, 2. You are talking to me and 3. Thank you
Love how she gets to the point. Some people just tell a long unnecessary story before they get to the point. Plus she talks very genuine
the BEST TED ever, thank you very much for this ...
1- did you mean it
2- can you defend it
3- did you say it with love.
"Perfect" ...
I'm a Professional Trouble Maker.
Everybody's Well Being Is Community Business.
Being Yourself Could Be A Revolutionary Act.
“In a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell”.❤ This hits hard ... A talk that always resonates.
YT was recommending me this video for YEARS but today I was finally ready (to get comfortable with being uncomfortable). Thank you Luvvie for the message and TED for the platform
At 72, I've given up being the "silent" revolutionary. When I was younger, I voiced support for a newly graduated black female with a degree in health care administration. I was a manager under her at the time, but her position was desired by the staff pharmacist. He lied about my position. No one ever bothered to ask me about it, including the young lady. I lost my job over it and eventually so did she. A couple of years later, she stopped my husband on the street to apologise. The polnt is that we must commit ourselves to listen to each other, every day and in our courts, truthfully without the bias of racism or sexism. I spent most of my life thinking that I was protecting myself and my family, but many people will do anything for a buck. They won't care when the result is murder, destroyed health and financial stability of a family or anything else. They're own personal goal (s) is the only one that matters. Getting the dominoes to fall correctly takes concentration, education and timing.
Kathryn Shaw wow.
Thanks for this. I had a similar circumstance as you.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
"In a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell." Powerful
I’ve never related more to a speech. Clapping and yelling yes ma’am as I drive down the road. As someone terrified of change and to speak my truth for so long, I finally woke up one day and decided I needed a change. It’s been terrifying, every day is a challenge, but once you start you can’t go back. Thank you so much for this.
I love this as a Capricorn too, I feel our love for being on the solid ground literally and metaphorically helps us be uncomfortable for the greater good.
I needed this on this day at this moment so thanks
"In a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell." Girl power!
This is beautiful, powerful, and inspiring. "People count on our silence to keep us where we are." I feel like this can be said for many of the companies I have worked for and work at now. Unless you stand up and push for the respect you will be walked all over. Thank you for this TED Talk and I will be purchasing your book in the very near future!
What an incredible speech. Love it! "Being yourself can be a revolutionary act"
"In a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell"- Luvvie Ajayi
I feel like she took the words right out of my mouth. It's awesome how when you feel something and meditate on it people and circumstances fall right in place like a path. She is inspirational and I am motivated to continue to be me because of beautiful souls like her.
I applaud her authenticity and the courage to share it with the world!
Got assigned this video for a class and I cannot say how many times I have gone back to rewatch it. I absolute love this Ted Talk
She's beautiful... 😮😮😮
Very much.
She is. That short cut looks so good on her.
her eyes!
She is GORGEOUS!
What about commenting on what she said??
Love this talk...silence is too dangerous... be the first domino
“In a world that wants us to walk around being representatives of our selves, being yourself is a revolutionary act.”
"People and systems count on our silence to keep us exactly where we are" ... This hit hard!
Lovely presentation 👌
I am inspired. This is me, I was tired of the consequences of being the voice that no one else wants to be. Thank you for the reminder to continue my purpose.
Wow! she is Amusing, About positive people, good moral fun, psychological comfort
Happiness from the heart of dignity
Personality, and interactions with people towards positive
Also you can look up to some amazing talks on TED here its like I would recommend these too
yourdailywire.com/11-most-inspiring-ted-talks-youtube-videos/
This brought tears to my eyes. She is such an inspiration