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When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
My ex-husband narc called me an angry black women for having boundaries. He was also mad because I filed for the divorce 91 days into our marriage when I realized he was a Christian covert narcissist. Chris you are right about everything you said in this video.
I believe they all say the same things because it is the devil placing these thoughts in their minds with accompanying feelings. Most people have no defenses against "feelings." They also claim everyone else doesn't like you too, you chase all your friends away." When the truth is they are working at gossiping about you so your friends will not like you anymore.
1. She doesn’t get me 2. She wasn’t supportive 3. She’s a @!$/He’s just a jerk 4. They certainly don’t care what I’m dealing with 5. Whatever (they write you off quickly) 6. What the F@$! Is wrong with her 7. What can I do to get them back? 8. Why do I always pick the crazy ones! 9. After all I did for her, this is how she treats me! 10. They have trust issues/they are just too sensitive 11. What kind of person gives up on someone so easily?
@stever507 , They have Jezebel, Leviathan, Python spirits. Yes, monitoring spirits as well, in many of them. Empowered by the enemy. But they know what they're doing & are charged up by the evil they do. They constantly need to extract "supply" (from their victims).
Of course they did. There’s nothing new under the sun and the Bible warns us about these type of people. If their heart is set on themselves, they will never change
@@danielbotello4753 dang man learning all this is crazy ...thiught I was the only one ....when I'd confront her lovingly she'd just say, " I'm not talking about that now "....7 years later ....nothing ....but I've been out for awhile now....I'm sorry brother I know its brutal beyond belief
They spin it on you and say you are the problem.they pick at words and say u need tow top saying when it’s about what they mess up. It’s always u u are crazy you are mean and they are wonderful to you
My soon to be ex is narcissist he just wanted to string me along never wanted to work it out. He always called me a petulant child and I don't act like an adult. This so true and so sad. Trying take our boys from me and all ever want was to be a mom he knows that. God is holding my worry and stress and giving it to Him I love Jesus Christ and he saved me!
Wow That is exactly what I went through Praise God for his hand stretched out and pulling me out God delivered me and I am forever greatful I couldn't imagine if I never got away it would have been so much tormoil Thank u for this vid I appreciate u ❤️
The narcissts I know triangulatie, attack, divide and conquer. All the horrible things they do to you & others…. You can expect the script to be flipped, you did all those horrible things now & they are the victims trying to help everyone. So, they are hero’s now.
My late ex was a narcissist. He always made me feel worthless. I couldn't have the things for myself or our children. He controlled the money. It was my fault if he couldn't sell anything. (Salesman for a window company) I gave my all, yet it wasn't good enough. I felt that when he got Parkinsons, he was being punished for his vanity. He had a hard time believing he had Parkinsons. He went downhill fast. Family attributed that it was my fault he had it. He died on the worst possible scenario, and nobody believed me. I'm still trying to get my mind straight after 32 years of abuse.
Soo unusually true...its a long 36 yrs of tortures My narc husband was sooo sick with an autoimmune condition at the age of 45 He suddenly changed to his old yrs when kids were around 10yrs ...more narc ways n alcoholic abuses I felt he was demonic...cos he got better n we (wife n kids got autoimmune conditions)😮 We never harmed or hurt him ...but took care of him n made him stronger But was it worth it ?..cos he doesnt want to care for us ....n said he is waiting for our death ...even covid failed to harm us😮 He IS a true narc😢
My "mother" was the WORST type of narc: the COVERT NARC. She played the victim role well and nothing my father or I did was ever good enough. She coveted luxurious things: automobiles, furs and jewelry and got them for herself. My dad and I existed to serve the "queen". After dad died, I was accosted by "mom" and her extended crime "family". They all got together like mob bosses (who all hate each other) and caused me the most horrible and cruel harm. GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY FROM NARCS! DON'T EVER CONTACT OR VISIT THEM OR YOU WILL BE SORRY!!!!!
They love bombed you in the dating stage and once married they devalued you and begin to discard you. Deceptive web of ignorance.. They have no desire to be married, extremely negative.
@@Kris_Reece please do. My daughter is an empath and she got sucked in by a covert narcissist and he’s ruined her mental and physical health. She’s the mom of 3 small children and doesn’t know how to navigate leaving because she doesn’t want him having anything to do with the children. He already doesn’t, but you know the courts will say they have to have 50/50 custody. She is trying to protect the children at her expense.
What I heard from my ex’s mouth was “ it’s my way or the highway “ and it was truly meant. My family of origin and friends beliefs are that I owe them, and if I don’t share that belief, then I don’t exist. I never had the chance to set boundaries, I’m just ignored. Now I suffer from bitterness and resentment for not realizing I was used as a indentured servant to everyone.
When I finally felt so low, I felt that God was extending grace to me and was sheltering me in the palm of his hand so I could grow stronger. He helped me find peace inside and stilled my spirit to not respond to the victimization. Finally, I was able to find a couselor who helped me end my marriage and start over. Life is so much better now.
You had me at #1! I hear that all the time! And his name of choice for me was "c*nt". "B*tch" comes up every now and then, but nothing like the good ol' "You don't get me! You're a f***ing c*nt!"
Funny fact : they deny absolutely everything in their life & when you deny them the opportunity to come back into your life - it literally throws them into a full pledge tizzy !
I don't think so. They are having too much fun at the expense of others. They enjoy that they can hurt other people. It's a joy to them. If someone doesn't do their bidding, they will bawl and squall at the top of their lungs in self pity, but they love the attention that they get from that, so even that is a win for them.
@@bonnieblood3983 Sooner or later they'll tell on themselves and people will figure them. When you lie eventually you won't be able to keep your story straight. You tell one person one thing and another person something totally different.
@@jodizellmer994 Here's the thing that gets me, other people still tell me they like the narcissist. He's a liar, cheat, pervert, and several other things that rank real high in scum behavior, yet people say they know, but he was always nice to them. He was kind, helpful, etc..., maybe I should have tried harder.🤦🏻 They still welcome him into their homes, invite him for family parties, etc..., I was almost destroyed by this thing, yet people protect him, after all, I was probably too much to deal with. Poor guy, his wife was always depressed. You know, without him in my life, I am never depressed. When he was in my life, I was always depressed. I have dropped a lot of people. I am not going to associate with anyone who tries to tell me how much they like him, when truly, it's all a facade that they are seeing.
Now that my mother is entering the middle stages of dementia, shes even more nasty and cruel to me. I have been trapped into being her caregiver, and at 53, I have my own health issues. She doesn't care, she won't let me go.
😢I am so sorry. I am going through the same thing. Both my son and I have many autoimmune issues, I believe brought on by my covert narcissist mother and ex husband. My father passed away from Parkinson’s in which my mother made his life even more torture. Endless complaining at him as though he could help having Parkinson’s!Unfortunately I never could get my dad to get away from her and then he was doomed. I’m an only child and my mom says you have to take care of me. I’m staying away but the imbedded guilt is still hard. For my son and I’s sanity we have to keep away So just be careful don’t let her beat you down. I’m 56 so I’ve been dancing the dance like you for a long time. We gotta step away ❤✝️🙏😇
😢😢that’s exactly my situation with my father right now! I’m determined to get out and be independent I’m the scapegoat so I’m treated the worst it’s only going to get worse as the aging process sets in I was sabotaged and made into being a caretaker / servant it’s disgusting 🤢
@@Not-the-usual-BS His scapegoat!! A true clear reason to leave that role once for all...fake back like him telling your health doesn't permit to do anything more..talk to a professionnal who can listen to you and your feelings needs to not get sick because of him!! Make hugh distances.... Take care...🕊
Dementia is a bad one to be around. I kept house for Dementia patients. They're scarry. What's happening is their brain is shrinking. It's very painful for them to go through. Prayers for you and your strength to overcome your obstacles.
#7 The narcs in my life don't WANT me back because I called them out. They blocked me and gave me silent treatment. The last thing they want is me back. Saves me having 'the hoover'.....
ogh yes and when they cheat they blame you for their sins... no apology and just abuse, mental abusers,. low self esteem but high ego .. a real evil person like three siblings i know in my dead husbands family all three had demons in their heads,
Thank you so much for your word, it helps me to fix myself where I'm doing wrong. And I pray to God to fix me first and show me what I'm doing wrong. 🙏📖🕊️
Honestly I have come to the point where I do not care what they (husband and his siblings) say about me. I need to move on and find peace and have some closer.
Are meant to be kept and respected out of love..boundaries are for both people for a healthy relationship..not one-sided..one taking and withholding isn't Christ like...let God not give you mercy and grace you don't deserve..there needs to be deliverance and prayer to these people! We need to start casting out them ourselves! I pray that those in a marriage..pray pray without ceasing..and all others see red flags..run..in the family setting..only deal on your terms and reasonable all else..dust your feet..no more wasted parasite energy...
Kris , i agree with the majority of the things you said here. Not all and here is why. I am a Empath and I know I am. I am extremely giving and loving. I have exhausted myself in this past relationship, mentally , physically, emotionally, financially. Huge life lesson. However, I often use that phrase "whatever" when I am fed up. I am not a narcissist, but trust me, when I have had enough, I have had enough and I can sometimes use phrases that seem narcisstic but I am not. I do every day self introspection and studied both empath and nassistic behaviors. I just wanted to clarify this.
Thank you for all your videos, and God bless you. Due to all the trauma, it is challenging to concentrate with the background music. Will you please consider removing the music?
When I stand up for myself and seem a little angry about what just happened, I'm accused of having anger issues and I become the problem. I'm supposed to feel like the asshole for feeling the way I feel and reacting the way I do in response to the way they behave. Ninety-eight percent of my life I am calm and chill, 2% of the time I have to stand up for myself with a little bit of assertiveness. Those are the moments that I'm told I have an anger issue. Screw you Narcissist!!! I don't have an anger issue, I simply have an issue with the way you behaved. You can't hurt me or make me feel small, you can only piss me off for trying.
That's because the narc will do ANYTHING and say anything to you about your behavior before EVER admitting what they do wrong or say wrong. It's always turned around on us. I do however apologize to my narc brothers if I know "I've" been out of line. Probably only validates his behavior more, but I feel I should always own up to my own wrongdoings no matter what.
How do I know if I am a toxic person? I wish to be Christlike. I wanna love as Jesus Loved and be a help to people. Sometimes I feel as though I may have tendencies due to Childhood pain. I love people but I need space.
The Narcassist ..... Isaiah 26:10- Let favour be shewed to the wicked, yet will he not learn righteousness: in the land of uprightness will he deal unjustly, and will not behold the majesty of the LORD.
I'm also struggling with a narcissist husband. I'm still standing for him as a wife and plea to God to deliver my husband from that evil spirit. I believe in God's willing miracle will happen. May God give us the strength that we need until that miracle happens 🙏🏼🙌🏻
Man this video resonated with me. He expects me to take him back and give him chance after chance. He once told me he wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire...
So, my mum is not a N . She doesn't have all that you said, just a couple, and she only said that certain time, not all the time. Maybe the other party is the N ? They blamed each other. Mum even blocked her...My family just sxck. God created?
I guess there os many types of narcissists. Someone elses video about smear campaign was really different and talk was More manipulative. Since victim could be very brutal if talking about the ex. So who would people believe, The one who cant say anything good or that one, who seems concerned even allí the bad things he/she did. :(
I feel that is hard to tell who the narcissist is in some relationships. I feel that no matter how I feel about something it either isn’t a good enough apology or if I sit and take the accusations silently I am still damned no matter what I do! There is never any clear abuse that I am guilty of. And perceptions of my behaviour are ABSOLUTELY wrong (and I am not lying to myself). This is about my daughter who as soon as she could walked acted like the cuckoo in the nest barging in front of her shy elder brother and trying to win at everything in sports (her motto was “I win!”). She says I favoured my son whereas I feel she constantly demanded special treatment. She is highly intelligent but seems to lack empathy (or shuts out overly empathic feelings to protect herself). I really believe calling every difficult person a narcissist is a real cop out! It is creating more victim mentality that I have ever seen in my lifetime. When a person doesn’t get what they want (all the time) they throw that epithet at the withholder(s) and accuse them of being a bully when quite the reverse is true! Relationship dynamics are far more complicated that a narcissist label for all the problems in it!
I agree. There is often a backstory where one HAS been given up on too early in the family. The toxicity centers around improper concern for a child. My older sister probably considers me the narcissist, and i agree i check some of the boxes, but i came by it honestly! My older sis was very difficult, not a loving sis, ignored me and told her friends to ignore he, waa rude as hell to my parents, my dad was physical with her but she and my shallow materialistic mother goaded him mercilessly, i would bite my arm to keep from screaming while fighting went on, even when my sister left at 18. I bought my parents a self help book at age 10, was a latch key kid, alone a lot, watched tv all summer, etc. Stands to reason i would become an insecure overthinker excusing everyones behaviour yet no one trying to understand mine. No communication anywhere.
You are killing me softly with your song because so much of what you described here, was a part of my childhood upbringing too. I am also an insecure over thinker who excuses unacceptable behavior. But, no longer Frodo! I am working on me; day by day.
This girl whom I have a love/hate relationship with is in India for a series of surgeries. After each surgery she'd go out touring around the country and partying. Since she asked a group of us to pray for her I felt compelled to tell her to calm it down and let her body heal. She managed to cause some internal injury which needed additional surgery. Since I am so dumb and can't see the wisdom of her ways she de-listed me on fb. Now I have no idea what her condition is. She knows everything, so of course I'm wrong.
Hives! I felt so sorry for her when I first saw the hives and she told me no one has ever taken her serious. I'm the first one to do so. Now everytime I leave, she gets sick and boom I'm back because I feel sorry for her. If I disagree with her rudeness, she physically treats me differently and when I say that's not okay especially if you're the one who hurt me, 10mins later, headaches into hives. I hate it. I hate myself and I'm the only idiot stuck here as if I have invisible chains around me... Everytime I pray, she takes me 10 steps back and now I have a lukewarm relationship with Jesus and physically in a state of emergency due to the adrenal failure.
REBUKE that demon in the name of Jesus!” in the name of Jesus Christ , our Lord and savior , I rebuke thee “. you can say this in your head . it doesn’t have to be out loud . It works ! God Bless .
I really Like your Videos, very helpful. Thank You so much. Do you mind when you are talking Not to use Background Sounds, very irritating and difficult to listening to you then.
This is my husband he is a demon and said he wants my soul and my children souls. Not since this happen I AM A BORN AGAIN Christian covered in the Blood of Jesus!!I am currently looking for a place to live .m. God is always good this post is June 2023
If anyone with a good heart and years of trying to fix a narcissist, knows Dr. Reece is speaking the truth. Maybe 40% applies to your situation. But 80% applies to mine. I love my wife enough to never personally attack her, but I just wish there were better ways of helping people that are like this. There have been times where she seemed to genuinely acknowledge an issue, but only to repeat the same behavior a day later. It seems extremely difficult for them to acknowledge any sort of problem. Then they accuse of blaming them, when clearly the “ink is all over there hands”. I try to take accountability for my part in an argument for example, yet that doesn’t matter to a narcissist. They will give such a partial apology, sometimes apologizing for something that was barely an issue, while you are left deeply hurt by the actually problem like name calling or other hurtful acts.
You see, you said I was the meanest, rudest person in the world to you(their exact words). You have given so much to people, helped so many, and put up with so much junk from everyone in your life it just seems so unfitting for you to have to spend another day with the likes of me. I am leaving your life so you don't have to put up with all of my meanness, rudeness, and inconsideration. Bye👋😊 Reailty: I gave up everything for them. My family, my friends, EVERYTHING! Everytime they had an issue, I believed their side. I stuck up for them all the time. Then, one day, I took a picture of my newborn son's cleft and sent the picture to my mom, who had not seen her grandson. That was IT! All the consideration for their special diet, all the changing of how I word things to suit their sensitivities, all the people I cut off for them, all the years I stuck by them, ALL of it crumbled away. They have accused me to my husband, to the rest of their family, taken things that others said and did that offended them and attributed them to me. When I have pinned them down on something, they slip like an eel sideways. I am through! The only reason I am still around them is because I am bound by covenant to their brother, who is being played like a cheap fiddle.
Good grief! This is exactly correct!! I think mine finally decided he was going to divorce ME… (The divorce I initiated has been final for 2 months now.)
Thank you. This is so helpful in the recovery process as even counselor's don't seem to fully understand narcissists. I left after 28 years of marriage and absolutely everything you have said is true.
"They confuse forgiveness with trust" no matter how many times you previously forgave them and trusted them they will tell you you are unforgiving and that you expect them to be perfect when all you want is for them to stop hurting you.
Over time the trew person shines right trew. As I’d say yu can’t change who yu are no matter how long yu try it’s comes fright trew yu so be real yur self anywhere yu go no rates and graces just yu I do if yur not liked that’s ok. But iv known a man that wore a mask for 14 years it’s funky off and it’s very hurtful 😊
Who are you to judge thy neighbour, she talks as if she's perfect, everyone has sinned we've all been hated at some point, I rather pray for them than criticise them
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I supported financially my narcissistic brother while he was in prison. He didn't even let a PEEP out of who he really still was while incarcerated! Must be some code inside to never rock the boat that is going to save you! When he came out I let him live on our property for about 5 months. It was a rocky sea. And I did think he owed me for helping him all those years and thousands of dollars. Even though he ALWAYS says how grateful he will always be to us. I know he's grateful because a narc will let you do things for them ALL DAY LONG!! He did treat me like crap especially when he got back to smoking weed. It was hell.
And they go back and forth making you cray-zee He still call and uses Skype and WhatsApp. Because I blocked him on my phone…. Just tried this morning again leaving a nice email. He at 74 has a baby mama - poor woman has no idea what she is in for …. He should be in jail for terrorism. So glad I am free!
New to your channel 🎉 thank you for sharing on a Faith Base Side of this issue. To God be the Glory I went from broken to healing on my way becoming whole again. In the Mighty and Matchless name of Jesus 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Reminds me of Blame it on the Rain song by Milli Vanillin: You said you didn't need her You told her goodbye (goodbye) You sacrificed a good love To satisfy your pride Now you wished that you should had her (had her) And you feel like such a fool You let her walk away Now it just don't feel the same Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something) Gotta blame it on something Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin' Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah You can blame it on the rain Should've told her you were sorry (sorry) Could have said you were wrong But no you couldn't do that, no, no You had to prove you were strong Oh-oh, if you hadn't been so blinded (blinded) She might still be there with you You want her back again But she just don't feel the same Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something) Gotta blame it on something Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin' Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night Whatever you do don't put the blame on you Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah Come on and blame it on the rain 'Cause the rain won't mind And the rain don't care You got to blame it on something
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When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing.
They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves.
When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection.
Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
wow. I feel so validated. I feel like I can put my head up
But not for long ....cos people also hound u ...they believe the narc😢
I pretty much stand my ground with them and tell them the truth whether they like it or not..stay strong...
Its sooo hard when u see ur kids are tortured by the narc
This was spot on ! My son married a narcissist. She won me over with her charm & deception and then chewed me up and spit me out!
Me too I’m going through it now. I really thought she loved me.
Any concern for your son tho ...remember he was married to her ...just like i was ...So he is hurt way more than you...dont you think
@@earniewaterman6511 definitely
My ex-husband narc called me an angry black women for having boundaries. He was also mad because I filed for the divorce 91 days into our marriage when I realized he was a Christian covert narcissist. Chris you are right about everything you said in this video.
Lucky you, got out after 91 days.
I believe they all say the same things because it is the devil placing these thoughts in their minds with accompanying feelings. Most people have no defenses against "feelings." They also claim everyone else doesn't like you too, you chase all your friends away." When the truth is they are working at gossiping about you so your friends will not like you anymore.
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They were NEVER your real friends then. Even if you were guilty; your real friends will forgive your flaws.
Hive minded or appears to be hive mind- like because so similar or exactly the same phrases
Yes, demonic spirits are behind it
That's true.
SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH EVERY TOXIC PEOPLE I ENDED UP BEING ALONE WITH GOD AND SO MUCH PEACE AROUND ME WHICH MAKES ME HAPPY
1. She doesn’t get me
2. She wasn’t supportive
3. She’s a @!$/He’s just a jerk
4. They certainly don’t care what I’m dealing with
5. Whatever (they write you off quickly)
6. What the F@$! Is wrong with her
7. What can I do to get them back?
8. Why do I always pick the crazy ones!
9. After all I did for her, this is how she treats me!
10. They have trust issues/they are just too sensitive
11. What kind of person gives up on someone so easily?
Thanks. Blessings
He got angry with me if I didn't agree with him.
They truly live in a Barbie world where they are Ken-like perfect. The more i learn on this topic the crazier it gets.
Sadly, yes, there's many layers to this distortion. thanks for watching
This is exactly why I don't trust many people. 😑
They have some kind of Jezebel , Monitering spirit
@stever507 , They have Jezebel, Leviathan, Python spirits. Yes, monitoring spirits as well, in many of them.
Empowered by the enemy. But they know what they're
doing & are charged up by the evil they do. They constantly need to extract "supply" (from their victims).
Of course they did. There’s nothing new under the sun and the Bible warns us about these type of people. If their heart is set on themselves, they will never change
It sure does. Narcissists can change if they're willing. Most are not willing
It's a true mind bender when she goes to church actually more than me ....the lack of empathy and forgiveness baffled me for 20 years
@@greghayes7933 same here. I called her out on it then she found another person
@@danielbotello4753 dang man learning all this is crazy ...thiught I was the only one ....when I'd confront her lovingly she'd just say, " I'm not talking about that now "....7 years later ....nothing ....but I've been out for awhile now....I'm sorry brother I know its brutal beyond belief
@@Kris_Reece they are evil not sick evil
They spin it on you and say you are the problem.they pick at words and say u need tow top saying when it’s about what they mess up. It’s always u u are crazy you are mean and they are wonderful to you
Yep.
My soon to be ex is narcissist he just wanted to string me along never wanted to work it out. He always called me a petulant child and I don't act like an adult. This so true and so sad. Trying take our boys from me and all ever want was to be a mom he knows that. God is holding my worry and stress and giving it to Him I love Jesus Christ and he saved me!
I like how she emphasized , "all said" that never met, but can all speak the same language; and some don't believe in demons?
Next week's video is about the demonic spirits behind narcissism. 👍
Hive minds controlled by a spiritual principality of demons.
Wow That is exactly what I went through Praise God for his hand stretched out and pulling me out God delivered me and I am forever greatful I couldn't imagine if I never got away it would have been so much tormoil Thank u for this vid I appreciate u ❤️
The narcissts I know triangulatie, attack, divide and conquer. All the horrible things they do to you & others…. You can expect the script to be flipped, you did all those horrible things now & they are the victims trying to help everyone. So, they are hero’s now.
My late ex was a narcissist. He always made me feel worthless. I couldn't have the things for myself or our children. He controlled the money. It was my fault if he couldn't sell anything. (Salesman for a window company) I gave my all, yet it wasn't good enough. I felt that when he got Parkinsons, he was being punished for his vanity. He had a hard time believing he had Parkinsons. He went downhill fast. Family attributed that it was my fault he had it. He died on the worst possible scenario, and nobody believed me. I'm still trying to get my mind straight after 32 years of abuse.
you are FREE !
Soo unusually true...its a long 36 yrs of tortures
My narc husband was sooo sick with an autoimmune condition at the age of 45
He suddenly changed to his old yrs when kids were around 10yrs ...more narc ways n alcoholic abuses
I felt he was demonic...cos he got better n we (wife n kids got autoimmune conditions)😮
We never harmed or hurt him ...but took care of him n made him stronger
But was it worth it ?..cos he doesnt want to care for us ....n said he is waiting for our death ...even covid failed to harm us😮
He IS a true narc😢
My "mother" was the WORST type of narc: the COVERT NARC. She played the victim role well and nothing my father or I did was ever good enough. She coveted luxurious things: automobiles, furs and jewelry and got them for herself. My dad and I existed to serve the "queen". After dad died, I was accosted by "mom" and her extended crime "family". They all got together like mob bosses (who all hate each other) and caused me the most horrible and cruel harm. GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY FROM NARCS! DON'T EVER CONTACT OR VISIT THEM OR YOU WILL BE SORRY!!!!!
They love bombed you in the dating stage and once married they devalued you and begin to discard you. Deceptive web of ignorance.. They have no desire to be married, extremely negative.
You say what you want Kris spot on all true cheers 👍
Hi Kris, can you do a video on the difference between being an empath vs being codependent?
Great suggestion!
@@Kris_Reece please do. My daughter is an empath and she got sucked in by a covert narcissist and he’s ruined her mental and physical health. She’s the mom of 3 small children and doesn’t know how to navigate leaving because she doesn’t want him having anything to do with the children. He already doesn’t, but you know the courts will say they have to have 50/50 custody. She is trying to protect the children at her expense.
What I heard from my ex’s mouth was “ it’s my way or the highway “ and it was truly meant.
My family of origin and friends beliefs are that I owe them, and if I don’t share that belief, then I don’t exist.
I never had the chance to set boundaries, I’m just ignored.
Now I suffer from bitterness and resentment for not realizing I was used as a indentured servant to everyone.
When I finally felt so low, I felt that God was extending grace to me and was sheltering me in the palm of his hand so I could grow stronger. He helped me find peace inside and stilled my spirit to not respond to the victimization. Finally, I was able to find a couselor who helped me end my marriage and start over. Life is so much better now.
You had me at #1! I hear that all the time! And his name of choice for me was "c*nt". "B*tch" comes up every now and then, but nothing like the good ol' "You don't get me! You're a f***ing c*nt!"
Right on!
Funny fact : they deny absolutely everything in their life & when you deny them the opportunity to come back into your life - it literally throws them into a full pledge tizzy !
yup!
Unless they have a Golden Child that wants your part of the inheritance. Then it's crickets.....
@@reesedaniel5835 yup 😒
Thank you Reese! Everything you shared is on point
They must be in terrible pain to treat others without compassion. Got no time for it, their loss. ❤
I don't think so. They are having too much fun at the expense of others. They enjoy that they can hurt other people. It's a joy to them. If someone doesn't do their bidding, they will bawl and squall at the top of their lungs in self pity, but they love the attention that they get from that, so even that is a win for them.
Tracy Newton: The narc's only pain is your joy/pleasure. YOUR pain is their pleasure.
@@bonnieblood3983 Sooner or later they'll tell on themselves and people will figure them. When you lie eventually you won't be able to keep your story straight. You tell one person one thing and another person something totally different.
@@jodizellmer994
Here's the thing that gets me, other people still tell me they like the narcissist. He's a liar, cheat, pervert, and several other things that rank real high in scum behavior, yet people say they know, but he was always nice to them. He was kind, helpful, etc..., maybe I should have tried harder.🤦🏻 They still welcome him into their homes, invite him for family parties, etc..., I was almost destroyed by this thing, yet people protect him, after all, I was probably too much to deal with. Poor guy, his wife was always depressed. You know, without him in my life, I am never depressed. When he was in my life, I was always depressed. I have dropped a lot of people. I am not going to associate with anyone who tries to tell me how much they like him, when truly, it's all a facade that they are seeing.
Now that my mother is entering the middle stages of dementia, shes even more nasty and cruel to me. I have been trapped into being her caregiver, and at 53, I have my own health issues. She doesn't care, she won't let me go.
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😢I am so sorry. I am going through the same thing. Both my son and I have many autoimmune issues, I believe brought on by my covert narcissist mother and ex husband. My father passed away from Parkinson’s in which my mother made his life even more torture. Endless complaining at him as though he could help having Parkinson’s!Unfortunately I never could get my dad to get away from her and then he was doomed. I’m an only child and my mom says you have to take care of me. I’m staying away but the imbedded guilt is still hard.
For my son and I’s sanity we have to keep away
So just be careful don’t let her beat you down. I’m 56 so I’ve been dancing the dance like you for a long time. We gotta step away ❤✝️🙏😇
😢😢that’s exactly my situation with my father right now! I’m determined to get out and be independent I’m the scapegoat so I’m treated the worst it’s only going to get worse as the aging process sets in I was sabotaged and made into being a caretaker / servant it’s disgusting 🤢
@@Not-the-usual-BS His scapegoat!! A true clear reason to leave that role once for all...fake back like him telling your health doesn't permit to do anything more..talk to a professionnal who can listen to you and your feelings needs to not get sick because of him!! Make hugh distances.... Take care...🕊
Dementia is a bad one to be around. I kept house for Dementia patients. They're scarry. What's happening is their brain is shrinking. It's very painful for them to go through. Prayers for you and your strength to overcome your obstacles.
# 9 All the time!
#7 The narcs in my life don't WANT me back because I called them out. They blocked me and gave me silent treatment. The last thing they want is me back. Saves me having 'the hoover'.....
ogh yes and when they cheat they blame you for their sins... no apology and just abuse, mental abusers,. low self esteem but high ego .. a real evil person like three siblings i know in my dead husbands family all three had demons in their heads,
You’re great!
Thanks for sharing, God Bless!
Oh my gosh this is my husband’s attitude exactly. Fyi I left him, but of course still getting hit
Yes 👍🙌👍 about time someone goes behinde the mask
I swear you spoke to my mother. Thank you
😮 Mine as well!
My mom and sister here.
Clowns from Hell!😈🔥No contact!!!
Thank you Minister Reece God Bless you. Amen ❤️🙏🏾😇
"Your crazy"
"You need to go see a psychiatrist "
"Your not going to have children now"
"You can't be happy with your pregnancy"
This was good.
Thank you so much for your word, it helps me to fix myself where I'm doing wrong. And I pray to God to fix me first and show me what I'm doing wrong. 🙏📖🕊️
This is also what I said to Jesus in my prayers. If i'm wrong, correct me. I harbor hurts and bitterness because of the abuse. I became toxic too.
True video. My narcissits sistet told me those words and the attitude that goes with them. I stau no contact with her. Only Jesus. God bless
Honestly I have come to the point where I do not care what they (husband and his siblings) say about me. I need to move on and find peace and have some closer.
I have to seriously depend on the Lord for my focus and affirmation. Without Jesus I would be a total mess but I keep my eye on The Prize!!
My husband's favorite comment was, promises are made to be broken.
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Are meant to be kept and respected out of love..boundaries are for both people for a healthy relationship..not one-sided..one taking and withholding isn't Christ like...let God not give you mercy and grace you don't deserve..there needs to be deliverance and prayer to these people! We need to start casting out them ourselves! I pray that those in a marriage..pray pray without ceasing..and all others see red flags..run..in the family setting..only deal on your terms and reasonable all else..dust your feet..no more wasted parasite energy...
Kris , i agree with the majority of the things you said here. Not all and here is why. I am a Empath and I know I am. I am extremely giving and loving. I have exhausted myself in this past relationship, mentally , physically, emotionally, financially. Huge life lesson. However, I often use that phrase "whatever" when I am fed up. I am not a narcissist, but trust me, when I have had enough, I have had enough and I can sometimes use phrases that seem narcisstic but I am not. I do every day self introspection and studied both empath and nassistic behaviors. I just wanted to clarify this.
And I just found out that he said ' she is so annoying!'
They can't see. Their hearts and minds are blinded. They make excuses for everything they do. They believe their own lies
Thank you for all your videos, and God bless you. Due to all the trauma, it is challenging to concentrate with the background music. Will you please consider removing the music?
I had to stop listening because of the musikk too.
When I stand up for myself and seem a little angry about what just happened, I'm accused of having anger issues and I become the problem. I'm supposed to feel like the asshole for feeling the way I feel and reacting the way I do in response to the way they behave. Ninety-eight percent of my life I am calm and chill, 2% of the time I have to stand up for myself with a little bit of assertiveness. Those are the moments that I'm told I have an anger issue. Screw you Narcissist!!!
I don't have an anger issue, I simply have an issue with the way you behaved. You can't hurt me or make me feel small, you can only piss me off for trying.
That's because the narc will do ANYTHING and say anything to you about your behavior before EVER admitting what they do wrong or say wrong. It's always turned around on us. I do however apologize to my narc brothers if I know "I've" been out of line. Probably only validates his behavior more, but I feel I should always own up to my own wrongdoings no matter what.
That’s aweful Jesus enlighten this world 🙏🏽
You came into my life at the right time. Thank you for your content. You are doing a great work. ❤
How do I know if I am a toxic person? I wish to be Christlike. I wanna love as Jesus Loved and be a help to people. Sometimes I feel as though I may have tendencies due to Childhood pain. I love people but I need space.
The Narcassist .....
Isaiah 26:10- Let favour be shewed to the wicked, yet will he not learn righteousness: in the land of uprightness will he deal unjustly, and will not behold the majesty of the LORD.
No that doesn’t talk of the narcissist specifically, even though narcissists can be included. And this channel isn’t a Christian channel.
Please help what is the best solution for living with a narcissit husband? Can they ever be delivered or the best is to leave them??
I'm also struggling with a narcissist husband. I'm still standing for him as a wife and plea to God to deliver my husband from that evil spirit. I believe in God's willing miracle will happen. May God give us the strength that we need until that miracle happens 🙏🏼🙌🏻
Man this video resonated with me. He expects me to take him back and give him chance after chance. He once told me he wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire...
eeek ! stay away from that evil pisser !
So, my mum is not a N . She doesn't have all that you said, just a couple, and she only said that certain time, not all the time. Maybe the other party is the N ? They blamed each other. Mum even blocked her...My family just sxck. God created?
💯 %truth 🐍snakes
I guess there os many types of narcissists. Someone elses video about smear campaign was really different and talk was More manipulative. Since victim could be very brutal if talking about the ex.
So who would people believe, The one who cant say anything good or that one, who seems concerned even allí the bad things he/she did. :(
???? Can you help one who actually recognizes the situation and tired of the negative outcome that always comes with being this way.
@@tglbm thanks brotha man, I hear ya.
I feel that is hard to tell who the narcissist is in some relationships. I feel that no matter how I feel about something it either isn’t a good enough apology or if I sit and take the accusations silently I am still damned no matter what I do! There is never any clear abuse that I am guilty of. And perceptions of my behaviour are ABSOLUTELY wrong (and I am not lying to myself). This is about my daughter who as soon as she could walked acted like the cuckoo in the nest barging in front of her shy elder brother and trying to win at everything in sports (her motto was “I win!”). She says I favoured my son whereas I feel she constantly demanded special treatment. She is highly intelligent but seems to lack empathy (or shuts out overly empathic feelings to protect herself). I really believe calling every difficult person a narcissist is a real cop out! It is creating more victim mentality that I have ever seen in my lifetime. When a person doesn’t get what they want (all the time) they throw that epithet at the withholder(s) and accuse them of being a bully when quite the reverse is true! Relationship dynamics are far more complicated that a narcissist label for all the problems in it!
I agree. There is often a backstory where one HAS been given up on too early in the family. The toxicity centers around improper concern for a child. My older sister probably considers me the narcissist, and i agree i check some of the boxes, but i came by it honestly! My older sis was very difficult, not a loving sis, ignored me and told her friends to ignore he, waa rude as hell to my parents, my dad was physical with her but she and my shallow materialistic mother goaded him mercilessly, i would bite my arm to keep from screaming while fighting went on, even when my sister left at 18. I bought my parents a self help book at age 10, was a latch key kid, alone a lot, watched tv all summer, etc. Stands to reason i would become an insecure overthinker excusing everyones behaviour yet no one trying to understand mine. No communication anywhere.
I so get you!
@@marthacarlson6106 thx for response!
You are killing me softly with your song because so much of what you described here, was a part of my childhood upbringing too. I am also an insecure over thinker who excuses unacceptable behavior. But, no longer Frodo! I am working on me; day by day.
Its sooo pathetically true that they lie to which everyone believes as the truth 😮
N our truth becomes lies😢
It never seems to end
This girl whom I have a love/hate relationship with is in India for a series of surgeries. After each surgery she'd go out touring around the country and partying. Since she asked a group of us to pray for her I felt compelled to tell her to calm it down and let her body heal. She managed to cause some internal injury which needed additional surgery. Since I am so dumb and can't see the wisdom of her ways she de-listed me on fb. Now I have no idea what her condition is. She knows everything, so of course I'm wrong.
Hives! I felt so sorry for her when I first saw the hives and she told me no one has ever taken her serious. I'm the first one to do so. Now everytime I leave, she gets sick and boom I'm back because I feel sorry for her. If I disagree with her rudeness, she physically treats me differently and when I say that's not okay especially if you're the one who hurt me, 10mins later, headaches into hives. I hate it. I hate myself and I'm the only idiot stuck here as if I have invisible chains around me... Everytime I pray, she takes me 10 steps back and now I have a lukewarm relationship with Jesus and physically in a state of emergency due to the adrenal failure.
REBUKE that demon in the name of Jesus!” in the name of Jesus Christ , our Lord and savior , I rebuke thee “. you can say this in your head . it doesn’t have to be out loud . It works ! God Bless .
Omgah I went thru this. I chose to stay as far away as I can, I'm at peace now. What's sucks is they are in the family. I just ignore, it's amazing!!!
They say WHATEVER they think will make you look "bad" and them look "good". They lean on these flimsy clichés, and somehow people believe it 😂😂😂
I really Like your Videos, very helpful. Thank You so much.
Do you mind when you are talking Not to use Background Sounds, very irritating and difficult to listening to you then.
This is my husband he is a demon and said he wants my soul and my children souls. Not since this happen I AM A BORN AGAIN Christian covered in the Blood of Jesus!!I am currently looking for a place to live .m. God is always good this post is June 2023
If anyone with a good heart and years of trying to fix a narcissist, knows Dr. Reece is speaking the truth. Maybe 40% applies to your situation. But 80% applies to mine. I love my wife enough to never personally attack her, but I just wish there were better ways of helping people that are like this. There have been times where she seemed to genuinely acknowledge an issue, but only to repeat the same behavior a day later. It seems extremely difficult for them to acknowledge any sort of problem. Then they accuse of blaming them, when clearly the “ink is all over there hands”. I try to take accountability for my part in an argument for example, yet that doesn’t matter to a narcissist. They will give such a partial apology, sometimes apologizing for something that was barely an issue, while you are left deeply hurt by the actually problem like name calling or other hurtful acts.
You see, you said I was the meanest, rudest person in the world to you(their exact words). You have given so much to people, helped so many, and put up with so much junk from everyone in your life it just seems so unfitting for you to have to spend another day with the likes of me. I am leaving your life so you don't have to put up with all of my meanness, rudeness, and inconsideration. Bye👋😊
Reailty:
I gave up everything for them. My family, my friends, EVERYTHING! Everytime they had an issue, I believed their side. I stuck up for them all the time. Then, one day, I took a picture of my newborn son's cleft and sent the picture to my mom, who had not seen her grandson. That was IT! All the consideration for their special diet, all the changing of how I word things to suit their sensitivities, all the people I cut off for them, all the years I stuck by them, ALL of it crumbled away. They have accused me to my husband, to the rest of their family, taken things that others said and did that offended them and attributed them to me. When I have pinned them down on something, they slip like an eel sideways. I am through! The only reason I am still around them is because I am bound by covenant to their brother, who is being played like a cheap fiddle.
Good grief! This is exactly correct!!
I think mine finally decided he was going to divorce ME…
(The divorce I initiated has been final for 2 months now.)
Thank you god that no weapon formed against me shall prosper.
Thank you for blessing my womb with a child💙🧿
Thank you. This is so helpful in the recovery process as even counselor's don't seem to fully understand narcissists. I left after 28 years of marriage and absolutely everything you have said is true.
"They confuse forgiveness with trust" no matter how many times you previously forgave them and trusted them they will tell you you are unforgiving and that you expect them to be perfect when all you want is for them to stop hurting you.
I have heard all these same comments from every person I have ever come in contact with at one time or another, even myself.
Over time the trew person shines right trew. As I’d say yu can’t change who yu are no matter how long yu try it’s comes fright trew yu so be real yur self anywhere yu go no rates and graces just yu I do if yur not liked that’s ok. But iv known a man that wore a mask for 14 years it’s funky off and it’s very hurtful 😊
In the narcissists' stories they're always the hero or the victim.
Thank you 🙏🏽✨
I’m with one as of today Saturday April 29th and may 1st imma be done with his butt.
Gee I watched this and thought maybe I married a psychopath instead.
Who are you to judge thy neighbour, she talks as if she's perfect, everyone has sinned we've all been hated at some point, I rather pray for them than criticise them
Thank you for everything
But… the music is annoying
Run away and stay away. A leopard doesn’t change its spots.
THERE DRAMA THEY THRIVE FROM DRAMA MY SON IN JAIL BECAUSE OF HER AND HE'S NEVER BEEN IN TROUBLE BEFORE
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Will they write off a new supply they move in with? If so when?
that you are a narcissist ... you finally owned up ... but what have we to do with YOUR confession?
So they mirror your valid experience with them
Super duper helpful and insightful.
She left me. Did you tell them you punched me. Wth
Oh no emphathy
But they are at church every time the door opens.
I supported financially my narcissistic brother while he was in prison. He didn't even let a PEEP out of who he really still was while incarcerated! Must be some code inside to never rock the boat that is going to save you! When he came out I let him live on our property for about 5 months. It was a rocky sea. And I did think he owed me for helping him all those years and thousands of dollars. Even though he ALWAYS says how grateful he will always be to us. I know he's grateful because a narc will let you do things for them ALL DAY LONG!! He did treat me like crap especially when he got back to smoking weed. It was hell.
And they go back and forth making you cray-zee
He still call and uses Skype and WhatsApp. Because I blocked him on my phone…. Just tried this morning again leaving a nice email. He at 74 has a baby mama - poor woman has no idea what she is in for …. He should be in jail for terrorism. So glad I am free!
New to your channel 🎉 thank you for sharing on a Faith Base Side of this issue. To God be the Glory I went from broken to healing on my way becoming whole again. In the Mighty and Matchless name of Jesus 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Reminds me of Blame it on the Rain song by Milli Vanillin:
You said you didn't need her
You told her goodbye (goodbye)
You sacrificed a good love
To satisfy your pride
Now you wished that you should had her (had her)
And you feel like such a fool
You let her walk away
Now it just don't feel the same
Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something)
Gotta blame it on something
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'
Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night
Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah
You can blame it on the rain
Should've told her you were sorry (sorry)
Could have said you were wrong
But no you couldn't do that, no, no
You had to prove you were strong
Oh-oh, if you hadn't been so blinded (blinded)
She might still be there with you
You want her back again
But she just don't feel the same
Gotta blame it on something (gotta blame it on something)
Gotta blame it on something
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'
Blame it on the stars that didn't shine that night
Whatever you do don't put the blame on you
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah
Come on and blame it on the rain
'Cause the rain won't mind
And the rain don't care
You got to blame it on something
Im sure the narc i deal with has behind my back said I think im a prophet of God when thats the farthest thing i would ever think about myself. 😂
Yes it really is. ❤❤❤
Sweetness mmm 😘🍸👜
Learning a lot .