I see people commenting how things brings people to tears - I wonder if anyone else has the same reaction as me; stomach ache, anxiety and a feeling of physical sickness 🤮
Start cutting off their supply. Let them grow up. You take care of you. If they guilt you for it, call you selfish, remember it's them who's selfish because they put themselves first, and expect their child to put them first too.
Same here...i am made responsible for my siblings,parents and now even my siblings kids...and i am unmarried.. i can't even think of getting married as i find it tooooooo difficult to get another responsible in life...
My mom always blamed me(scapegoat/black sheep) for everything. Not my brother who was the golden child. (both him and mom are narcississts) My mom used to always say I did things to anger/upset her on purpose. And here's the best one. She used to blame me for things I Literally had nothing to do with-saying I had "jinxed her." And now I'm in my late 20's moved 10 hrs away and my mom keeps trying to guilt me into moving back because she "needs me" apparently. Saying I've taken on the role of the mom now... She lives her life acting like she's elderly and has one foot in the grave. (she's only 61) But I'm just now learning that her happiness and well-being is NOT my responsibility. I'm learning self-love and how to enforce my boundaries. I choose myself first now. Never looking back.
Mom had agoraphobia and then I wasn't allowed to have a life. I was over punished with rage and physical abuse when I was bad. I was screamed at and physically abused when she couldn't handle her life up to 22 years old. I was kicked out during abuse at 7 and 18 and even now from the home I'm renting from our family trust. My dad left when I was 11, the one I did get comforted by. I was afraid my whole life of how people thought about me or what they need from me. Never authentic, I was prey by default in my dating and marriage relationships. I under function during stress. I fell like I've been her crutch and kept in the closet while she lived her life and she only tended me enough to keep me around and chained to her. I have no self care. I have trauma abandonment experiences and guilt over wanting out of relationships when I want to leave something that isn't for me. Hard time saying no, when I don't want to do something. I've been abandon literally by siblings and my husband, my mother now that I'm setting boundaries on how I'm being treated and not owning their emotions. I've been taken out of the family trust because of it and given notice to move. I've been radically honest with myself. Practicing radical forgiveness. Self care is still hard for me and receiving help or asking for help make me feel guilty and obligated.
Both my parents had severe clinical depression from when I was very young.my Father coped by becoming more and more distant, prompting my mother to turn to me to meet her emotional needs. She would often buttonhole me crying for hours, even telling me about her marital problems which of course became my responsibility. It goes without saying that at 46 I've been single most of my life. there's no way in hell I'm cursing another generation with this. Thank you for your video.
Thank you so much Jerry. Some of these sentences effected me and sank deeply. Especially that parentified children learn that everything is their responsibility. And that to fix the the outside problem I believe I need to fix myself. So it's a neverending trial and work and it creates a prison sentence.Its way too much pressure and responsibility. I think what you under by feeling guilt, is the guilt of letting them go, of moving on. Why do only some siblings feel that guilt and responsibility for their parents but the others feel free of guilt?
This is me..... just meee... i don't really take it to myself but my parents put it on me.. all the blame that my siblings aren't doing well is said to be because of me.. they hold me responsible for their lives.. its soooooo tiresome.. i can't even sit and talk to them as we don't share the same wavelength. . Adulthood has been destroyed with the pressure given since my childhood. Anything I say , their response is I gave you birth ,I took the pain of raising you ,fed you etc etc .. its even worse .. so i really can't confront them.. it hurts even more with their answers
This is making me cry. I recall being left home alone with my other four siblings, sometimes for hours or almost the entire day. My parents weren't addicts or physically abusive, I guess perhaps dysfunctional? The house was always a mess and we were forced to clean and didn't really have a childhood to go places all the time, but I can tell my parents tried. I was the oldest, and had to look after my siblings when my parents were gone. This unfortunately led to a house fire when my siblings were playing with matches while I was sleeping, but everyone's OK. I feel I have emotions, but feel detached and cold in relationships and in raising my daughter. I don't hold my parents completely responsible because they are damaged, but I do feel that my childhood played a role in where I am today
I would be very happy if only my childhood were parentified. My whole life is Parentification. My mother is disabled almost deaf . My whole life is a enormous dispair. I am do tired i cannot event imagine having my own family. It makes my scared
This is so true, you then start to feel bad for instance when you didn't rescued/healed toxic relationship on your own only. Like it was in your power to make someone love you more or inspire them to make more effort. We are not that omnipotent. Woah! That is actually very liberating! Thank you Jerry.
Wow, you've just described me! It's so validating to hear people talking about what I went through as a child (but didn't know at the time obviously), and an explanation for my troubles as an adult. Thank you for sharing.
I haven’t even watched the whole video yet and I know this is my life. I have had pressure on me since I was very young child. Both of my parents being sick added to the dynamic as well. They constantly try to make me live in a mode of guilt. It is very hard and draining, I feel best when I cut them off but then I start to feel guilty when they start gaslighting me.
Also, my parents got divorced when I was 9 and refused to co parent. It made me have to grow up quickly and be the communication between the two of them. It made me feel so helpless. They expressed all of the business between them to me and my sisters and it really put too much pressure on us to bare. To this day nothing is the same. The intimate family connection isn’t there even between me and my sisters. Things just don’t feel natural. It’s like we all grew up and began to separate from the past that held us hostage.
I don't allow anyone to love me, so no one can take it away in the first place. It might sound so sad, but since I accepted that I can't accept love.. I am more happy than ever.
Thank you x 100. I have seen many UA-cam videos on narcissism but your videos nail it. Seriously. I have had many years of therapy and have really worked on my self the past 25 years . Which , as you know, alienates me from my family. (my two brothers and my mother). I am the identified 'crazy one.' I have found so much of my truth (finally !) in your videos. Both my parents were narcissistic. My father committed suicide 40 years ago. My mother ....everything was about her. She passed away a year ago. Again thank you so much.
I'm a Parentified child. I'm actually okay with it because my mother passed recently, and the adults i'm currently with, they've failed me and my younger brothers. My therapist kept telling me I'm parentified. I finally looked it up.
Came here for other reasons, but I wonder if there's a version of this for friendships resulting in having bad friends as a child. I'm no longer in those kinds of friendships, but the thoughts/feelings/withdrawn love thing hit home.
I can relate to so much of this video but it is all grey and blurry. I could not please either my mom or my step-father. No matter how perfect I would do something. It seams like Alanon is about detachment. I did finally find a place in ACA literature that mentions detachment but I would say that ACA really dives into the affects of growing up with dysfunction.
I use your clips to help clients break through emotional blocks. When they hear their own situation in your words, the tears flow and the realization of the lack of nurture in their lives becomes aware to them. Thank you for this excellent video Sir.
Wow! I didn't realize that I was parentified. Us as siblings carried all our parent crap! My GOD my life was never my own! We were conditioned to be happy with what we got no matter what! They set us up to fail!
oh my God, thank you so much sir, this was such an eye opener...I mean I knew about my past and how it wasn't ideal but I've never had it put out in front of me like that with all the effects it can have etc. I really appreciate your effort in sharing this with the world. Keep up the great work, it is helping and making a difference.
I can completely relate to this. You explain things in such a straightforward yet loving way. Listening to you gives me hope Mr Wise! Thank you so much
Thank you so much. My mom lost her mom as a child and was raised by a tyrant. I believe that's the reason she became codependent, married my father (a narcissist and drug addict) and raised me to be codependent. I had to grow up fast and it has caused problems for me. I thank you and other YT resources for valuable input and suggestions for how to get beyond this.
This had me in tears! Thank you so much..you described me and all of my "issues" and struggles to a T. Now i know whats wrong with me, just the confirmation i needed! Truly helpful. Thankyou.
thank you for all your videos I have sent your videos too many of my friends and also too my therapist in England. you are such a lovely man and I really appreciate you taking the time out to help others.
Ii am just at the beginning of therapy for Complex PTSD and other labels i have learnt to past traumas. Just nice to come across your videos while i am trying to heal.
I wasn't raised, I was groomed to be a caregiver. I remember riding my bike through 3 feet of snow to do all the grocery shopping for my mom and myself. It got to the point where I was running all her errands and even reading her mail until I was 28 years old. My biggest regret was not running away sooner.
Thank you so much for sharing! I am learning a lot about myself, why I act the way I do and essentially why I am who I am today. You've described my childhood pretty well. This was eye opening for me as well. It isn't until someone breaks it down for you that it hits you and you begin to realize & put the pieces together.
Oh thank you thank you for this video! I have said or thought these most of these things about my childhood but have a hard time believing myself on an emotional level, so the validation and clear explanations are really helpful.
What about when the child is so used to being parentfied that they actually seek to take care of everything for the parent. From helping mom choose a dress to bankrupcy and credit card consolidation. To also buying a carpet in another city and driving it 8 hours to their parent.
Thanks a lot! Some things were familiar to me from "parentification resources", but you describes it more closely. Its so sad. Everybody should take their own responsibilities for their own health, and not making it someone else's, in some cases, intrafamilial multi-generational. Damn
This describes my sister to a certain extent. But she exploited her role. She was greedy and selfish and mean. Then right when my mother needed her the most she dropped the ball. She wanted the perks of the role, but didn't really bother too much about the responsibilities, foisted on her as they were. I think she was thrust into this role, but she handled it by turning into a narc and took the perks without the responsibilities. She didn't really work hard, or even baby sit me, her younger sister, but was just the princess in the house. But true she was made the mother of the house.
Will you do a video on giving your power away? I heard you mention it on one of your videos and would love to understand your conception of it. Thanks for your work!!! It's helping me greatly.
If you are guilty as a parent for doing a lot of these things not realising how unhealthy it was at the time. How can you undo some of the damage your adult child maybe experiencing because of this?
Thank you for making this video. A lot of what you said rang true for me. Something just occurred to me and that was that when I was a child, I remember always hating when someone treated me as a child. I think it was because II really had to function as the head of the house. I was an adult in a child's body in a way. I was wondering if you or anyone else that is reading this can relate to that. Did you feel annoyed when someone treated you as a child , If you had to act and behave as if you were the adult? I don't know if I'm explaining what I'm trying to say very well or not, but hopefully you get the gist of it. And thanks in advance for anyone who can answer that for me.
Yes, very much. And I always felt I was falling behind. Felt like I was so much older than siblings or cousins just a couple years younger. I didn't feel I had the right to be a kid and judged myself harshly.
mallory -- Please talk to our Eternal Father about it. He can fix anything !! I believe that He will even do time travel for us. But you have to pour your heart out to Him and include Him in your daily life.
have you spoken about the children of ACOAs? I'm 26, married with two children of my own and taking care of my ACOA mother. On the one hand, there are some narcissistic traits, but it's hard to tease out what is a result of her childhood and what is coming from elsewhere.
My bf's mom has parentified him and husbandified him (i think this is because she is severely severly bpd amongst other stuff).... she rather she knows it or not treats him more like he is her father or husband than her son. She is 52 yrs old but acts like she is 8 or 12 or so. She says she is an adult but she doesnt act and think like one she may look like an adult but she isnt one for lack of better words. A lot of what is said in the video can relate to and or describes my bf's mother to a t.
What can I do about an covert narc father who stole my identity ? I can't afford to move and a need a good lawyer that knows how to deal with abusive manipulators . His flying monkeys and enablers live in my neighborhood . They also lie all the time and gas light me . They also follow me everywhere I go cause the narc parent has to know where I am 24/7 . Unfortunately I live with my mom who has bad health . So I have to stay home and take care of her . Even she can be a little narcissistic just like my father . I feel like I am stuck in this abusive relationship . I don't know how to get out . No one seems to care they just want to abuse and use me as well .
The "man of the house" is often just a "man *in* the house", meaning that he has all the liabilities and responsabilities of a parent without the authority of a husband.
Wow! I didn't realize that I was parentified. Us as siblings carried all our parent crap! My GOD my life was never my own! We were conditioned to be happy with what we got no matter what! They set us up to fail!
I see people commenting how things brings people to tears - I wonder if anyone else has the same reaction as me; stomach ache, anxiety and a feeling of physical sickness 🤮
THIS IS LITERALLY MY LIFE
My parents depend on me so much that I don't have my own life. I don't know who I am living for. It makes me depressed.
Start cutting off their supply. Let them grow up. You take care of you. If they guilt you for it, call you selfish, remember it's them who's selfish because they put themselves first, and expect their child to put them first too.
I am the same.
Same here...i am made responsible for my siblings,parents and now even my siblings kids...and i am unmarried.. i can't even think of getting married as i find it tooooooo difficult to get another responsible in life...
My mom always blamed me(scapegoat/black sheep) for everything. Not my brother who was the golden child. (both him and mom are narcississts) My mom used to always say I did things to anger/upset her on purpose. And here's the best one. She used to blame me for things I Literally had nothing to do with-saying I had "jinxed her." And now I'm in my late 20's moved 10 hrs away and my mom keeps trying to guilt me into moving back because she "needs me" apparently. Saying I've taken on the role of the mom now... She lives her life acting like she's elderly and has one foot in the grave. (she's only 61) But I'm just now learning that her happiness and well-being is NOT my responsibility. I'm learning self-love and how to enforce my boundaries. I choose myself first now. Never looking back.
This was my life in a nutshell. Its really sad when u realize how much of your childhood was stolen from you.
Mom had agoraphobia and then I wasn't allowed to have a life. I was over punished with rage and physical abuse when I was bad. I was screamed at and physically abused when she couldn't handle her life up to 22 years old. I was kicked out during abuse at 7 and 18 and even now from the home I'm renting from our family trust. My dad left when I was 11, the one I did get comforted by. I was afraid my whole life of how people thought about me or what they need from me. Never authentic, I was prey by default in my dating and marriage relationships. I under function during stress. I fell like I've been her crutch and kept in the closet while she lived her life and she only tended me enough to keep me around and chained to her. I have no self care. I have trauma abandonment experiences and guilt over wanting out of relationships when I want to leave something that isn't for me. Hard time saying no, when I don't want to do something. I've been abandon literally by siblings and my husband, my mother now that I'm setting boundaries on how I'm being treated and not owning their emotions. I've been taken out of the family trust because of it and given notice to move. I've been radically honest with myself. Practicing radical forgiveness. Self care is still hard for me and receiving help or asking for help make me feel guilty and obligated.
Wow thank you so much!!! This is fantastic! All kinds of lightbulbs going off. Emotional parentification... Of course!
Both my parents had severe clinical depression from when I was very young.my Father coped by becoming more and more distant, prompting my mother to turn to me to meet her emotional needs. She would often buttonhole me crying for hours, even telling me about her marital problems which of course became my responsibility. It goes without saying that at 46 I've been single most of my life. there's no way in hell I'm cursing another generation with this. Thank you for your video.
Thank you so much Jerry. Some of these sentences effected me and sank deeply. Especially that parentified children learn that everything is their responsibility. And that to fix the the outside problem I believe I need to fix myself. So it's a neverending trial and work and it creates a prison sentence.Its way too much pressure and responsibility. I think what you under by feeling guilt, is the guilt of letting them go, of moving on. Why do only some siblings feel that guilt and responsibility for their parents but the others feel free of guilt?
One word to describe this video is:Excellent.
Thank you so much Sir
This is me..... just meee... i don't really take it to myself but my parents put it on me.. all the blame that my siblings aren't doing well is said to be because of me.. they hold me responsible for their lives.. its soooooo tiresome.. i can't even sit and talk to them as we don't share the same wavelength. . Adulthood has been destroyed with the pressure given since my childhood. Anything I say , their response is I gave you birth ,I took the pain of raising you ,fed you etc etc .. its even worse .. so i really can't confront them.. it hurts even more with their answers
This is making me cry. I recall being left home alone with my other four siblings, sometimes for hours or almost the entire day. My parents weren't addicts or physically abusive, I guess perhaps dysfunctional? The house was always a mess and we were forced to clean and didn't really have a childhood to go places all the time, but I can tell my parents tried. I was the oldest, and had to look after my siblings when my parents were gone. This unfortunately led to a house fire when my siblings were playing with matches while I was sleeping, but everyone's OK. I feel I have emotions, but feel detached and cold in relationships and in raising my daughter. I don't hold my parents completely responsible because they are damaged, but I do feel that my childhood played a role in where I am today
Please go see a therapist if you are cold and detached from ur daughter. Break the cycle
It really does feel selfish to self care
Story of my life, my old life. Ty this was excellent. You have this way of connecting the dots for us and thank you
I would be very happy if only my childhood were parentified. My whole life is Parentification. My mother is disabled almost deaf . My whole life is a enormous dispair. I am do tired i cannot event imagine having my own family. It makes my scared
This is so true, you then start to feel bad for instance when you didn't rescued/healed toxic relationship on your own only. Like it was in your power to make someone love you more or inspire them to make more effort. We are not that omnipotent. Woah! That is actually very liberating! Thank you Jerry.
Wow, you've just described me! It's so validating to hear people talking about what I went through as a child (but didn't know at the time obviously), and an explanation for my troubles as an adult. Thank you for sharing.
Unhealthy guilt should not guide our decisions :) I like it
yeah that was great ;how often I have done that
My goal is to be a mediocre person. Love it! Yes! 🤣🤣🤣
deep insight, much appreciated Jerry.
I haven’t even watched the whole video yet and I know this is my life. I have had pressure on me since I was very young child. Both of my parents being sick added to the dynamic as well. They constantly try to make me live in a mode of guilt. It is very hard and draining, I feel best when I cut them off but then I start to feel guilty when they start gaslighting me.
Also, my parents got divorced when I was 9 and refused to co parent. It made me have to grow up quickly and be the communication between the two of them. It made me feel so helpless. They expressed all of the business between them to me and my sisters and it really put too much pressure on us to bare. To this day nothing is the same. The intimate family connection isn’t there even between me and my sisters. Things just don’t feel natural. It’s like we all grew up and began to separate from the past that held us hostage.
I don't allow anyone to love me, so no one can take it away in the first place. It might sound so sad, but since I accepted that I can't accept love.. I am more happy than ever.
Thank you x 100. I have seen many UA-cam videos on narcissism but your videos nail it. Seriously. I have had many years of therapy and have really worked on my self the past 25 years . Which , as you know, alienates me from my family. (my two brothers and my mother). I am the identified 'crazy one.' I have found so much of my truth (finally !) in your videos. Both my parents were narcissistic. My father committed suicide 40 years ago. My mother ....everything was about her. She passed away a year ago. Again thank you so much.
I'm a Parentified child. I'm actually okay with it because my mother passed recently, and the adults i'm currently with, they've failed me and my younger brothers. My therapist kept telling me I'm parentified. I finally looked it up.
Wow, again I am blown away and anxious as I recognise the state.
Did you visit the inside of my brain and make lecture notes from your findings? Kidding, but wow, it's like you're transcribing my inner life.
Came here for other reasons, but I wonder if there's a version of this for friendships resulting in having bad friends as a child. I'm no longer in those kinds of friendships, but the thoughts/feelings/withdrawn love thing hit home.
I can relate to so much of this video but it is all grey and blurry. I could not please either my mom or my step-father. No matter how perfect I would do something. It seams like Alanon is about detachment. I did finally find a place in ACA literature that mentions detachment but I would say that ACA really dives into the affects of growing up with dysfunction.
I use your clips to help clients break through emotional blocks. When they hear their own situation in your words, the tears flow and the realization of the lack of nurture in their lives becomes aware to them. Thank you for this excellent video Sir.
As far back as I can remember I've always felt like the mom and my mom was the child.Also mom to my younger sister.
Wow. Just Wow. How is this not the utmost important video on youtube ?
Wow! I didn't realize that I was parentified. Us as siblings carried all our parent crap! My GOD my life was never my own! We were conditioned to be happy with what we got no matter what! They set us up to fail!
oh my God, thank you so much sir, this was such an eye opener...I mean I knew about my past and how it wasn't ideal but I've never had it put out in front of me like that with all the effects it can have etc. I really appreciate your effort in sharing this with the world. Keep up the great work, it is helping and making a difference.
I can completely relate to this. You explain things in such a straightforward yet loving way. Listening to you gives me hope Mr Wise! Thank you so much
This is my life.
debbietristan100 mine too.
Mine too!!
at 61 I have to begin selfcare : I have no clue how
Cheers... more power to you
Thank you so much. My mom lost her mom as a child and was raised by a tyrant. I believe that's the reason she became codependent, married my father (a narcissist and drug addict) and raised me to be codependent. I had to grow up fast and it has caused problems for me. I thank you and other YT resources for valuable input and suggestions for how to get beyond this.
Paper Mario I️ had the same thing happen to me, my mom lost her parent when she was 8 and then was raised by a tyrant.
This had me in tears! Thank you so much..you described me and all of my "issues" and struggles to a T. Now i know whats wrong with me, just the confirmation i needed! Truly helpful. Thankyou.
thank you for all your videos I have sent your videos too many of my friends and also too my therapist in England. you are such a lovely man and I really appreciate you taking the time out to help others.
Ii am just at the beginning of therapy for Complex PTSD and other labels i have learnt to past traumas. Just nice to come across your videos while i am trying to heal.
I wasn't raised, I was groomed to be a caregiver. I remember riding my bike through 3 feet of snow to do all the grocery shopping for my mom and myself. It got to the point where I was running all her errands and even reading her mail until I was 28 years old. My biggest regret was not running away sooner.
Yes.... now I need to stop over-caregiving and stop trying to fix everyone!
Great video and deep insights. Thank you very much.
That why in ACOA and Alanon they tell you to focus on yourself.
Tweeted.🐥 Your vids are so helpful. Plus, you're looking great too Jerry!
Cheers. ✌️🍁
Thank you so much for sharing! I am learning a lot about myself, why I act the way I do and essentially why I am who I am today. You've described my childhood pretty well. This was eye opening for me as well. It isn't until someone breaks it down for you that it hits you and you begin to realize & put the pieces together.
Oh thank you thank you for this video! I have said or thought these most of these things about my childhood but have a hard time believing myself on an emotional level, so the validation and clear explanations are really helpful.
What about when the child is so used to being parentfied that they actually seek to take care of everything for the parent. From helping mom choose a dress to bankrupcy and credit card consolidation. To also buying a carpet in another city and driving it 8 hours to their parent.
Then step one is for the child to realize that they need to stop :)
Thanks a lot! Some things were familiar to me from "parentification resources", but you describes it more closely. Its so sad. Everybody should take their own responsibilities for their own health, and not making it someone else's, in some cases, intrafamilial multi-generational. Damn
This describes my sister to a certain extent. But she exploited her role. She was greedy and selfish and mean. Then right when my mother needed her the most she dropped the ball. She wanted the perks of the role, but didn't really bother too much about the responsibilities, foisted on her as they were. I think she was thrust into this role, but she handled it by turning into a narc and took the perks without the responsibilities. She didn't really work hard, or even baby sit me, her younger sister, but was just the princess in the house. But true she was made the mother of the house.
How do you know my life?
Wonderful video - your presentation of the information was so easy to absorb. Many, many thanks.
Great...thank you
This explanation is the best out there. Very helpfull. Thank you!
Thank you
Will you do a video on giving your power away? I heard you mention it on one of your videos and would love to understand your conception of it. Thanks for your work!!! It's helping me greatly.
Mission Impossible Ha!
If you are guilty as a parent for doing a lot of these things not realising how unhealthy it was at the time. How can you undo some of the damage your adult child maybe experiencing because of this?
This video was so helpful. Thank you.
Thank you for making this video. A lot of what you said rang true for me. Something just occurred to me and that was that when I was a child, I remember always hating when someone treated me as a child. I think it was because II really had to function as the head of the house. I was an adult in a child's body in a way. I was wondering if you or anyone else that is reading this can relate to that. Did you feel annoyed when someone treated you as a child , If you had to act and behave as if you were the adult? I don't know if I'm explaining what I'm trying to say very well or not, but hopefully you get the gist of it. And thanks in advance for anyone who can answer that for me.
Something else I just thought about was this:
Wow... this is exactly right.
I do not remember ever being a child, nor have memories about myself as a child. Susan, there are many of us. Jerry knows his talk.
Yes, very much. And I always felt I was falling behind. Felt like I was so much older than siblings or cousins just a couple years younger. I didn't feel I had the right to be a kid and judged myself harshly.
If id known this i wouldnt have thrown my life away last year. i cant get it back. my life is tragic now
mallory -- Please talk to our Eternal Father about it. He can fix anything !! I believe that He will even do time travel for us. But you have to pour your heart out to Him and include Him in your daily life.
What do you do when a parent refuses to admit this?
resonate
Whoa!!!!!!! Do you have a Phd? Medicare will only pay for therapists with a PhD. I NEED this kind of counseling, like NOW
have you spoken about the children of ACOAs? I'm 26, married with two children of my own and taking care of my ACOA mother. On the one hand, there are some narcissistic traits, but it's hard to tease out what is a result of her childhood and what is coming from elsewhere.
Does asking for money every time she knows you have some count!?
My bf's mom has parentified him and husbandified him (i think this is because she is severely severly bpd amongst other stuff).... she rather she knows it or not treats him more like he is her father or husband than her son. She is 52 yrs old but acts like she is 8 or 12 or so. She says she is an adult but she doesnt act and think like one she may look like an adult but she isnt one for lack of better words. A lot of what is said in the video can relate to and or describes my bf's mother to a t.
Rock Chick look into Covert Emotional Incest-it will absolutely blow your mind!! These people are sick!!
power is addicting
What can I do about an covert narc father who stole my identity ? I can't afford to move and a need a good lawyer that knows how to deal with abusive manipulators . His flying monkeys and enablers live in my neighborhood . They also lie all the time and gas light me . They also follow me everywhere I go cause the narc parent has to know where I am 24/7 . Unfortunately I live with my mom who has bad health . So I have to stay home and take care of her . Even she can be a little narcissistic just like my father . I feel like I am stuck in this abusive relationship . I don't know how to get out . No one seems to care they just want to abuse and use me as well .
@Jane Smith Thank you
Must be perfect 24x7x365 infinity
Wow, about :08 in : Killing me softly with his song!!!!
The "man of the house" is often just a "man *in* the house", meaning that he has all the liabilities and responsabilities of a parent without the authority of a husband.
welcome to no fault divorce land
17:07
volume bad on this one
You are not an avocado 🥑 you can’t make everyone happy 🤣 remembering that helps 😅
I hate my mother. She's dead and I still hate her.
Wow! I didn't realize that I was parentified. Us as siblings carried all our parent crap! My GOD my life was never my own! We were conditioned to be happy with what we got no matter what! They set us up to fail!
Wow, again I am blown away and anxious as I recognise the state.