Jordan Peterson Teaches a Shy Kid How to Communicate
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2022
- More than merely exchanging information is required for effective communication. It's all about deciphering the emotion and motivations underlying the data. You must be able to clearly communicate a message as well as listen in such a way that you grasp the entire meaning of what is being said and make the other person feel heard and understood.
Effective communication appears to be a natural instinct. But, all too frequently, something goes wrong when we try to communicate with others. We say one thing, but the other person hears something completely different, resulting in misunderstandings, dissatisfaction, and conflict. This can cause issues in your relationships at home, school, and at work.
Jordan Peterson Teaches a Shy Nerdy Kid How to Communicate
This kid thinks he’s a bad communicator but he hit the nail on the head with his observation and then knew exactly how to ask it. He’s on the right track.
you're wrong, that question was prepared, a prepared speech doesn't indicate you as a good communicator
Kid? He's a grown man with a beard.
@@skiddzjust1389 well, anyone who's saying anything is prepared at some point of their life... Just a matter of perspective 🤷
@@user-lz2mt5nc9e Maybe Graham is 67 years old and a very good communicator... Can't criticize him.
That's a kid'll win prizes
Deep conversations with the right people are priceless
true
Dialogos
Jordan Pederson conversations are deep and lifechanging to uniquely insecure and ignorant people.
So true. Not only is it priceless, it clams a lot of that insecure anxiety you hold on for years.
Deep is not a must
"You aren't delivering a speech to people. You are speaking to individuals.' That is so powerful.
The actor of old superman series said same on comiccon in Prague
Why I love Jordan Peterson is because he gives great, actionable answers. No hocus-pocus 'good vibes' speech about 'just be confident' or 'be yourself', but an actual answer that you can follow and put into action!
Especially after listening to some Guru's who sometime leave us with quite abstract answers to figure ourselves out for later, Jordan gives really clear connection of understanding our concern, laying down the abstractions, giving action points and everything with it! Absolutely amazing articulation!
He offers theoretical answers and then moves on to apply those concepts in a practical example. Don't forget he was a university lecturer. A very good one, too.
That's why he is one of the best communicator
guys what does guru mean
Inspiring
- Practice is important.
- To become great at articulation, you need to both read a lot and write a lot.
- Preferably write 15 minutes every day. Do this for 10 years and you straighten out your thinking a lot.
- If you want to speak effectively, you need to know way more than what you're speaking about.
- When you do public speaking, you're not speaking to a group. You always speak to one individual. Pick one in your mind.
- Don't talk to a thousand people: Talk to a thousand individuals, one at a time.
- You don't 'deliver a talk' to an audience. You have a conversation with them.
- Having the goal to be a great communicator is a great start.
- It doesn't matter what you do, whatever you do, you are 10 times better at everything if you are a good communicator.
- If you're a very good negotiator, everyone walks away from the negotiation happy. And that comes from communicating effectively.
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Have now just sat in on a communication class and didn’t have to take notes😀
Loved the talk to the individual not people, a highly under-valued sentiment
Let me tell you this advice WORKS. I basically never bothered to study when growing up really at all, and over the years I isolated myself playing video games and got to the point I couldn't formulate sentences properly, because I didd't have much to talk about, and my lack of speaking to people made me worse over the years. But one day I decided to start reading and every time I had a sleep after the read (I read on a night), I used to wake up every morning and my words would just flow from my mouth... It's weird but it's true.
I've noticed that too. Now, I admit I don't read books usually, but reading comments or just listening to videos like these, obviously not the same as reading books, but I have been more flowing and articulate afterwards. Could be because of other factors like getting good sleep etc but you know what I mean.
Have you been reading fiction or nonfiction? If both, have you noticed a difference between the two in terms of how they affect your articulation?
Nothing weird about it. I dont do any thing yet everything is given. Apparently until I learn to do something...
I read all the time, stuff online but not books, does that still count? lol
I feel this.
Advice to shy people:
Sometimes in your life you feel like it is easy to talk and communicate. sometimes not.
When you feel it is goes for you smoothly, just talk as much as you can and try to consolidate this ability, feeling and mindset. After some time you will become better at speaking and engaging people.
Great advice
thank you so damn much for this post
what a WONDERFUL man he took a simple question, and turned it into a 5 minute in debth answer that a layman could understand. he didn't say anything unachievable by anyone, yet explained exactly how to get there , without insults, without accusations. hell he even had time to compliment the man on first appearances. and his view on how to talk to groups was inspiring. if i could keep this in mind, i wouldn't be afraid to talk to 1000 people, because i wouldn't be..i'd be talking to ...one.
•read
•write (what you think)
•practice
•keep practicing
•have something to say
•pay attention to who you're talking to
•engage
Communicate, and do it well
Succinct.
Roman's 11:25 For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles (MOST modern day Europeans/Caucasians/ etc) be come in. (Yes there are some black “dark skinned” gentile people as well but the main gentiles ruling this world behind the scenes are in fact “white” gentiles. Gentiles are known for being practitioners of lawlessness although not ALL gentiles are lawless but rather Most as a whole.
Part of the blindness is that we would not know who the true Father of Jacob(Israel) was and that we would worship false gods of [wood and stone] partially referring to worship of the cross(wood) and the “idol” of christianity the “jesus” that hangs on the cross tends to be made of (stone). Worship not literally meaning to bow down and speaking in gibberish nonsense tongue waving hands up and down, but rather worshiping meaning “To Submit To/Obey”. The speaking in tongue that some Christians do is nonsense, speaking in tongue only refers to the ability of being able to speak in a language or many languages to spread your message across multiple nations. Smh
Deuteronomy 28:36 TMH shall bring thee, and thy king which thou shalt set over thee, unto a nation which neither thou nor thy fathers have known; and there shalt thou serve other gods, wood and stone.
Deuteronomy 28:64
And TMH shall scatter thee among all people, from the one end of the earth even unto the other; and there thou shalt serve other gods, which neither thou nor thy fathers have known, even wood and stone.
Just as important as "what's his name," is "what is not his name."
However, it is 100% certain that his name was not Esus Crios aka “Jesus Christ”, the idol of the Celtics who the Catholics sing at Easter in the Vatican, aka what all surface level “Holy Bible” readers (Commonly identifies as “Christians”) refer to the Anointed One as.
We have been tricked, deceived as a result of the curses of the law (Deut 28-64)...wake up and stop following the lies of the Gentiles that govern this world. True Israel is awakening.
I am no historian but I love researching and proving all truth. It was the so-called "Holy" Roman Catholic Church that banned us from reading certain books. Do not trust the Adversary's agents of deceit and destruction. The Catholic Church is not a good moral compass. Catholic meaning Universal.
They literally crusaded all over the world, had TMH’s people murdered, burned women alive, and made laws against poor people (peasants) from having translated Bibles and books of education in the past.
Who are they to condemn a book for any of us to read? They are certainly in no position to order us and they are most certainly NOT our Creator nor the Savior.
Do not trust those who come in sheep's clothing but are rather ravaging wolves. It has been told of us to be as harmless as doves AND as wise as serpents. For one to be wise, You must research and READ, and educate yourself, AND prove ALL TRUTH. The only one to lead you is The Most High. Pray for insight but don't trust when LIARS tell you NOT to read something but approve of what you “Should”!
It is good that we pray for you, and I do hope you pray for me as well. However, the decision is ours as to whether or not we fully submit to his will.
The Most High wants us to submit to his will through our own decisions. That is why the Messiah says if any man comes to me, let him deny HIMSELF. That is why the word also says to be transformed by the renewing of OUR minds. That’s why it says every man will have to give an account for what he hath done.
It is personal accountability and the sooner we accept this, the closer we will become to actually making the decisions that will make us submit fully to his will
And for those of you who deny the existence of The Most High or don’t take the ancient scriptures seriously, you need to seriously wake up. Biblical prophecy is literally unfolding right before our eyes. This is not a game.
A few notable mentions: Women wearing makeup should repent and change no debate, people who smoke weed (sorcery) should repent and change no debate, people who eat upon the flesh of animals… should reconsider. Everything is going according to prophecy, even ‘they’ have to move accordingly.. Go and sin no more and put in work for the kingdom. He that endureth to the end, the same shall be saved. We’re living in end times yall. APTTMH!
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take valium it worked for jordan, no consequences only more money jesus saves
Have something to say as in KNOW your topic.
And talk to an audience as you would talk to one person. Audience is a bunch of individuals.
‘Step one: never answer a question with less than 800 words’
-Jordan peterson
😂
lol, good one
2. Constant hand gesturing
3. Mimic a Sesame Street character's voice .
This answer is certainly true. If you're not used to hearing such answers, you might get overloaded with information. Many such answers follow a common pattern: laying out the foundation for the answer, that is, articulating the background assumptions, then examining the thing at hand and finally, drawing conclusions about it.
If you can sort out what's about the assumptions, what's about the analysis and what's about the conclusion, then you can understand even quite complex answers.
@@excitedaboutlearning1639 Yes Very True. People who Really Answer the Questions and Not just Get Over it and Save their Faces.. do the same.
Those who ask Only for the Sake of It.. don't see the value of the Answer.
Can't believe no one in the audience clapped at this answer. It was brilliant, insightful and extremely useful for everyone and anyone. Amazing to listen to this man, always.
every single answer Jordan has to a question has the weight of a thousand peoples advice, with the ability to help pave a better life for someone, somewhere in the world. i wish each helpful and insightful thought Jordan puts into the world effects someone positively because there is so much to take from it.
One thing I would add to his excellent advice: if you are young, allow for the fact that you are young and still learning. Respect yourself as a young person on the way to being a highly accomplished older person. I am 80 and that's how it looks from here. The beautiful courage of young people sometimes takes my breath away.
You’re 80 and watching jordan peterson on UA-cam?! That’s awesome!
@@armando1829 oh yeah life-long learners. Or may be just viewers(do we find something new at that age? 😅) but I like the spirit.
Yes, give yourself a chance.🏵️🙂
@@amit-mishra woah, woah, you don't stop learning or thirsting for knowledge at an old age, there's not like a lifetime databank - if you want and many do you could go on learning forever - what, do you think old people get tired because they are old - old people would be splitting atoms and studying particle physics and quantum computers and going on road trips to sky-diving establishments and getting laid as often as they could - whilst flying an exec jet and making brownies in the kitchen after tackling the latest software coding course before a political debate on climate change passing by the local maiti club for a pina-colada - yep, you don't stop with age, you just grab all you can. And, at the same time you admire and encourage the young 'uns for when you are young life is beautiful, and we cherish that thought and wish you well and great fun in your adventures and hope you party hearty and stay out of danger or at least fight like a lion or run like an antelope - most times it is a good idea to do one or the other very well indeed, it's advisable, unless you are an excellent, but excellent negotiator.
Good luck and have fun but hey, it does not stop there, you will keep on learning and discovering and learning. Life is never boring, my Lord!
This is a touching comment, I think about this a lot as a young person and it's genuinely great that you feel that towards the spirit of knowledge 😊
How to communicate:
1. Read more, write to synthesize your ideas, & practice (know way more about the topic than you have to say}
2. Talk to individuals in the group and get feedback by engaging individually
3. Aim to be a better communicator
4. PRACTICE
Step#3==>Step#1. Aim is first! Then you will choose better things to read etc.
PEACE
Did he say which books to read?
i agree! entirely accurate
Where the shy kid at?
I like how he Geizes a one word answer, that nails it, he then give him a tool ( reading&writing), and how to add it into your day, and then he brings in examples, then comes back to the person asking the question and ends his monologue with the first word and therefore with the same answer. This is actually pretty well done
Peterson was always on a "different level", but in 2022 he hit "the next level".
Recovering drug addict. That is great Mr. Peterson. Keep it up.
@@jobuckley2999 *recovering medical drug
You let Peterson come across as an illegal drug user. Take his advice and be a better communicator
@@jobuckley2999 dark night of the soul and he comes out better
This video wasn't filmed in 2022
@@ecproth9296 a drug addict is a drug addict, wether it was prescribed or not. they are both equally worthy of compassion. one form of addiction is not less tragic than the other.
You can see how he places a lot of emphasis on the points he wants people to remember
Isnt that normal for a person who is used to speak in public. That is standard
@@philkeh sure it is a basic thing but if you want to communicate well that's a great thing to keep in mind
@@philkeh might not be standard for a shy pers0n
@@philkeh probably, but why are you saying it like that?
It's nice to experience the cultural ripples where some of his schools of thought are gaining traction.
0:30 Practice
0:38 Read a lot and write down what you think
2:42 Have something to say and next thing pay attention to who you are talking too
3:17 We don't deliver a talk to an audience, you are actually engaged in a conversation with an audience
3:44 learn how to communicate
4:24 You can think, you can write, you can speak, you've read something, the economic value of that is incalculable
In this interview, Jordan Peterson's speech is consistently meaningful, devoid of small talk or empty phrases. The depth of wisdom packed into the 5 minutes content is impressive, covering what to practice, when, how, and why to do so. This video offers a valuable short guide for anyone looking to improve their communication skills.
How to communicate according to JP
• You need to have 10x the knowledge of the topic you're going to talk about. And then articulate yourself and pin point things that need to be said.
• It's intimidating to talk in front of 1000 people, but it's easier to talk to 1 person. So focus on 1 person and speak. That also gives you feedback, whether they're bored, engaged or asleep, in that case move on to the next person.
• Write. Writing 15 minutes a day will streamline your thoughts and make articulating your thoughts easier for you. Do that for 10 years daily and you're set.
• PRACTICE!
Good luck my friend 👍🏼
Many people just don't think before they speak, they trip up. Jordan I love how your mind constantly searches for the right word at the time, and even how you will go back and correct yourself. It's always perfect👍
Best speaking advise I've heard. You're not talking to a group, you're talking to individuals.
Interesting to hear. My favorite high school teacher was one of the wittiest people i had ever met. He was my english teacher of course. I asked him how i could get as witty as him and he told me to read. Nice to see consistency.
My dad always used to say that 50 years ago. He said read good writing it will make you more articulate, smarter, a better writer, and a confident speaker because you have the knowledge and information that is hard for people to refute.
Read books daily....use Feynmans technique. Communicate with everyone around. Be humble and polite. Respect everyone
Respect everyone...
Yeah nah
@@tronix2x goes a long way...even I hate it, but time makes us do unusual thinga
That Kid asking the question is on a good way. Really thoughtful and seems very aware and focused.
Other than practice, here's the gist of what Dr. Peterson was saying:
- View communication skills (like any other skill) as input and output
- Be well-prepared for communications first by managing your input, understanding the talk subject very well and broadly
- Make sure your communicative output is not to a whole audience, but to specific individuals in the audience, one at a time.
- One last precious statement from him was about the "incalculable economic benefit" of being able to think, write, speak, and read as a liberal art's bachelor graduate, but I think it applies to any human being with a brain, a will, and a heart as well.
Ooh so you can minute take. Well done
To pay attention, as mentioned by Peterson, is really key.
Russell Brand talked about how as a shy or anxious person, the best way to communcate effectively or to be confident while doing it, so on - is simply try to be helpful. It makes you really listen to what others have to say, whilst also not being overly focused on how others percieve you. Corona messed me up mentally, and this really helped my anxiety. I finally managed to get a job, and just talking to strangers made my anxiety go away. On top of that, reading and writing is obviously immensly important too, just to be able to say what you wanna say.
Easy to understand and solidly based in his own lives experiences.
Laura powers what a beautiful name. I was close to having a girlfriend named Laura barrera when she asked me if i wanted to have sex with her but i ran as i am a cowardly male i ran from a very attractive white redheaded female and i regret that i ran because i didnt know what to say or how to react. I was such a pathethic male back then oh how emasculated i used to be god damn the united states!
Writing maps of meaning for 20 + years teaches you a thing about writing
Roman's 11:25 For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles (MOST modern day Europeans/Caucasians/ etc) be come in. (Yes there are some black “dark skinned” gentile people as well but the main gentiles ruling this world behind the scenes are in fact “white” gentiles. Gentiles are known for being practitioners of lawlessness although not ALL gentiles are lawless but rather Most as a whole.
Part of the blindness is that we would not know who the true Father of Jacob(Israel) was and that we would worship false gods of [wood and stone] partially referring to worship of the cross(wood) and the “idol” of christianity the “jesus” that hangs on the cross tends to be made of (stone). Worship not literally meaning to bow down and speaking in gibberish nonsense tongue waving hands up and down, but rather worshiping meaning “To Submit To/Obey”. The speaking in tongue that some Christians do is nonsense, speaking in tongue only refers to the ability of being able to speak in a language or many languages to spread your message across multiple nations. Smh
Deuteronomy 28:36 TMH shall bring thee, and thy king which thou shalt set over thee, unto a nation which neither thou nor thy fathers have known; and there shalt thou serve other gods, wood and stone.
Deuteronomy 28:64
And TMH shall scatter thee among all people, from the one end of the earth even unto the other; and there thou shalt serve other gods, which neither thou nor thy fathers have known, even wood and stone.
Just as important as "what's his name," is "what is not his name."
However, it is 100% certain that his name was not Esus Crios aka “Jesus Christ”, the idol of the Celtics who the Catholics sing at Easter in the Vatican, aka what all surface level “Holy Bible” readers (Commonly identifies as “Christians”) refer to the Anointed One as.
We have been tricked, deceived as a result of the curses of the law (Deut 28-64)...wake up and stop following the lies of the Gentiles that govern this world. True Israel is awakening.
I am no historian but I love researching and proving all truth. It was the so-called "Holy" Roman Catholic Church that banned us from reading certain books. Do not trust the Adversary's agents of deceit and destruction. The Catholic Church is not a good moral compass. Catholic meaning Universal.
They literally crusaded all over the world, had TMH’s people murdered, burned women alive, and made laws against poor people (peasants) from having translated Bibles and books of education in the past.
Who are they to condemn a book for any of us to read? They are certainly in no position to order us and they are most certainly NOT our Creator nor the Savior.
Do not trust those who come in sheep's clothing but are rather ravaging wolves. It has been told of us to be as harmless as doves AND as wise as serpents. For one to be wise, You must research and READ, and educate yourself, AND prove ALL TRUTH. The only one to lead you is The Most High. Pray for insight but don't trust when LIARS tell you NOT to read something but approve of what you “Should”!
It is good that we pray for you, and I do hope you pray for me as well. However, the decision is ours as to whether or not we fully submit to his will.
The Most High wants us to submit to his will through our own decisions. That is why the Messiah says if any man comes to me, let him deny HIMSELF. That is why the word also says to be transformed by the renewing of OUR minds. That’s why it says every man will have to give an account for what he hath done.
It is personal accountability and the sooner we accept this, the closer we will become to actually making the decisions that will make us submit fully to his will
And for those of you who deny the existence of The Most High or don’t take the ancient scriptures seriously, you need to seriously wake up. Biblical prophecy is literally unfolding right before our eyes. This is not a game.
A few notable mentions: Women wearing makeup should repent and change no debate, people who smoke weed (sorcery) should repent and change no debate, people who eat upon the flesh of animals… should reconsider. Everything is going according to prophecy, even ‘they’ have to move accordingly.. Go and sin no more and put in work for the kingdom. He that endureth to the end, the same shall be saved. We’re living in end times yall. APTTMH!
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@@topdog5252 It wasn’t that long
indeed. _100%_ correct dude
I love this. I have such a difficult time speaking. I’m not articulate. My mind processes the words quicker than my mouth can say them so I skip words or say simple words. Anxiety also doesn’t help. Reading is helping me. I’m going to take his tip of writing my thoughts down after reading. ❤
I’m glad this helped!
Hey, have you improved that by now? And how much?
@@mma188 Wanna know too!
How is it going? I'm pretty interested in how fat you've got!
“Mind processes the words quicker than my mouth can say”…couldnt relate more💯
Talking to yourself also helps. Like actual conversations where you’re articulating your feelings and thoughts. Helps a lot
Nice clip. Because Peterson gives practical advises that we can apply directly. Nice job
Roman's 11:25 For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles (MOST modern day Europeans/Caucasians/ etc) be come in. (Yes there are some black “dark skinned” gentile people as well but the main gentiles ruling this world behind the scenes are in fact “white” gentiles. Gentiles are known for being practitioners of lawlessness although not ALL gentiles are lawless but rather Most as a whole.
Part of the blindness is that we would not know who the true Father of Jacob(Israel) was and that we would worship false gods of [wood and stone] partially referring to worship of the cross(wood) and the “idol” of christianity the “jesus” that hangs on the cross tends to be made of (stone). Worship not literally meaning to bow down and speaking in gibberish nonsense tongue waving hands up and down, but rather worshiping meaning “To Submit To/Obey”. The speaking in tongue that some Christians do is nonsense, speaking in tongue only refers to the ability of being able to speak in a language or many languages to spread your message across multiple nations. Smh
Deuteronomy 28:36 TMH shall bring thee, and thy king which thou shalt set over thee, unto a nation which neither thou nor thy fathers have known; and there shalt thou serve other gods, wood and stone.
Deuteronomy 28:64
And TMH shall scatter thee among all people, from the one end of the earth even unto the other; and there thou shalt serve other gods, which neither thou nor thy fathers have known, even wood and stone.
Just as important as "what's his name," is "what is not his name."
However, it is 100% certain that his name was not Esus Crios aka “Jesus Christ”, the idol of the Celtics who the Catholics sing at Easter in the Vatican, aka what all surface level “Holy Bible” readers (Commonly identifies as “Christians”) refer to the Anointed One as.
We have been tricked, deceived as a result of the curses of the law (Deut 28-64)...wake up and stop following the lies of the Gentiles that govern this world. True Israel is awakening.
I am no historian but I love researching and proving all truth. It was the so-called "Holy" Roman Catholic Church that banned us from reading certain books. Do not trust the Adversary's agents of deceit and destruction. The Catholic Church is not a good moral compass. Catholic meaning Universal.
They literally crusaded all over the world, had TMH’s people murdered, burned women alive, and made laws against poor people (peasants) from having translated Bibles and books of education in the past.
Who are they to condemn a book for any of us to read? They are certainly in no position to order us and they are most certainly NOT our Creator nor the Savior.
Do not trust those who come in sheep's clothing but are rather ravaging wolves. It has been told of us to be as harmless as doves AND as wise as serpents. For one to be wise, You must research and READ, and educate yourself, AND prove ALL TRUTH. The only one to lead you is The Most High. Pray for insight but don't trust when LIARS tell you NOT to read something but approve of what you “Should”!
It is good that we pray for you, and I do hope you pray for me as well. However, the decision is ours as to whether or not we fully submit to his will.
The Most High wants us to submit to his will through our own decisions. That is why the Messiah says if any man comes to me, let him deny HIMSELF. That is why the word also says to be transformed by the renewing of OUR minds. That’s why it says every man will have to give an account for what he hath done.
It is personal accountability and the sooner we accept this, the closer we will become to actually making the decisions that will make us submit fully to his will
And for those of you who deny the existence of The Most High or don’t take the ancient scriptures seriously, you need to seriously wake up. Biblical prophecy is literally unfolding right before our eyes. This is not a game.
A few notable mentions: Women wearing makeup should repent and change no debate, people who smoke weed (sorcery) should repent and change no debate, people who eat upon the flesh of animals… should reconsider. Everything is going according to prophecy, even ‘they’ have to move accordingly.. Go and sin no more and put in work for the kingdom. He that endureth to the end, the same shall be saved. We’re living in end times yall. APTTMH!
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@@thebiblicalawakening4662 the Bible was ripped from the corpus hermiticum almost word for word in some sections. I hate to break the news to you but you're completely insane.
for sure. completely spot on.
Along with lots of reading and writing, stand in front of a mirror and practice a conversation over and over. Old sales technique. In sales, the idea is to have a response on hand for every objection. As a formerly very shy person, I found the technique useful for everyday conversation. It helped me stop stammering.
Dr Peterson has helped me to be confident and now I can present myself better in front of others. I practise how to speak to others before having a conversation.
Was deathly shy until adult hood. Had to throw myself on stage literally, which fixed this entirely somehow. I impulsively joined an stage acting class, and I think what helped is the fact that we all had to memorize lines to perform, which garnered a group confidence in performing such, so I felt no reason to worry. When performance night came it was cake, the crowd had no effect on me somehow. And keep in mind, I spoke to absolutely no one for most of my life prior.
Was like this somewhat untill junior high. Taking speech and drama classes really helped improve it. Still needs work but nothing comes instantly.
People working in Advertising take acting classes to improve their public speaking.
@@nataliam9764 yep, I got into advertising afterwords funny enough, it helped a ton with talking to clients
Wow, how interesting!
I also used to be shy but hearing speeches and podcasts improved by speech significantly and now i'm approaching people and being more extroverted more often
language really is our best tool
Agree. Was really inarticulate and shy when I was young. Obsessively read, wrote down notes etc. prior to meetings. Overtime, I grew more articulate and confident. It didn't happen overnight but over 10 years.
"You want to know 10x more than what you're talking about" This is excellent advice from personal experience
I was a really shy kid that didn't like socializing at all (I still don't at times). But when I studied history at the University, and absorbed all that knowledge I began to notice my speaking became very formal and my sentences well constructed.
Before speaking I construct a sentence from countless examples from books in my head, and as dr. Peterson said, that is a skill that is completely overlooked in liberal arts today.
My first experience of speaking in a group setting was when I delivered my dad's eulogy. After that, I had no problems, but wow, what an emotional experience.
the part where he talks about writing out what you think really resonated with me. I tend to be socially anxious and avoidant, so at the very least if im not around people who can listen to what i have to say, i can get it out of my head onto paper and look at the thought more objectively, which helps me get perspective on my personal distress and obstacles.
I just want to express my feelings. Even though this is a short video on how to communicate properly but it did get its job done I am always thankful I was just born at the right time with a vast amount of access of information across the globe.
Dr Peterson has the passion to teach willing human beings to engage in themselves to engage with others and learn💜🙏
I learn from listening to Jordan. I try to emulate how he speaks and his inflections. Also yes ! try to write and read everyday
And that's exactly what Jordan does, he takes notice of who he's talking to every time! Without fail!🥰
Every word coming from Jordan Peterson is diamond! Cant appreciate how jam packed his words are!
*know 10x more about a topic than what’s in your presentation* this is gold.
Facts
It wasn't necessarily 'aimed' at a 'Shy Nerdy' kid on how to communicate (which was the reason I clicked on this video btw as one of them) but the targeted audience was basically anyone voluntarily willing to improve one's competence in effective communication.
A more suiting title may have been: "Jordan Peterson Teaches How to Communicate and Why"
Thank you for the nicely clipped Video
It's easy for him to express his thoughts in a good manner in which we communicate to him subconsciously without knowing because he preach what he practice to himself. It's a good way of giving advice, to do your own thing and share it with other when necessary.
I stopped listening/reading Dr Peterson on a drive home from Vancouver because it made me look at myself too hard at the time. This was a few years ago now and I can take my hard eyes again. I am really enjoying the content and where it brings me. Thank you🙏
Rigorous honesty will humble each one of us because we fail even adherence to our own standards, much less to God's. But there's Jesus' work on behalf of us all. Just look to Him and cast yourself upon Him for mercy and redemption.
@@edwardwalsh5477 To who?? Dr Peterson?
I'm messing with you. I'm not at all religious, nor shall I become. Ever. Jesus is just all right with me though. All the best my friend
@@chrisriehl1696 Glad you're not interested in religion. Others have been repulsed by what they see in consequence of serious introspection into their own lives so they may adopt religion as a cover. But don't overlook the man unjustly upon the cross who declared to a convicted, pleading criminal that, "Today you shall be with me in paradise." NO religion or ritual AT ALL. What authority! Just as locals early in His ministry noted that he did not teach as other rabbis but as one having authority.
Please realize, that your body did not come from nothing, nor will you (as a whole) exit into nothingness. Inquiry into the claims of someone having moral, scientific, biological, logical and theological mastery could be an important priority; better than denying failure (you're already getting there) or running from acknowledged failure nor trying to make your own cover (as in religion). Keep looking into not even "Christianity" but into Christ as seen through the experience of St. Paul (read Romans thru Titus - letters to Christians) who PERSONALLY met with Him on the road to Damascus where you might (figuratively) meet Him as well. As the nature of God (the Father and Holy Spirit) is spiritual, we can be blessed by His presence whenever and wherever we live should we do not diss Him or ignore or stiff-arm Him. Please seize the opportunity while it remains.
I can vouch for this. I used to have very little social skills. Then I realized that I wasn't going to get very far in the world like that. I figured that the best way to learn anything is through practice, so that's what I did. And after years of powering through the awkwardness, my efforts have payed off.
Like any other skill, I'll always have room for improvement, but at least now I'm an effective communicator.
What did you do to improve? Like what did you practice in... please help me, I'm exactly in the same position you are in at the beginning
@@muhammedfadi2078 just talk to people. Literally. Whenever you're in a position to talk with someone, consciously force yourself to start a conversation. Even if it's just small talk or thanking your waiter at a restaurant.
Your brain is designed to be able to communicate with other humans, so as you get more experience you will subconsciously improve your communication skills. Your brain just needs more data to go on, so you have to slog through the awkwardness long enough to get more experience.
You can also try talking to people online in text form because you can gauge their reactions with less risk. This can't be a replacement for in-person experience though, because it's not exactly the same. And you can't get feedback from their body language.
@@muhammedfadi2078 you can also take a writing class. It will help you learn how to condense your thoughts into words and structure your sentences better.
And reading books can help by expanding your vocabulary.
It's crazy how much I feel like I needed to hear this.
I’m glad it was helpful 😋
This man explained it the best way ever.
I could listen to Jordan speak for ages, always something to learn. What a great role model
This is also great advice for content creators, communicating your ideas well will make you better at engaging with you audience, ty JP
Easy to hear , Tough to Listen , Tougher to practice .... I hope everyone Practice what he said... including me
💯!! Thank you for sharing this video. I hope that this video is seen by many of our children wondering what skills to develop in life.
This man is brave enough to ask Jordan such a question, without any slurring is already showing his communication skills are on point.
Love that banner, truly communicate like a god, by being incredibly vague, or matter of fact don't even say anything and just let people assume what you think! Truly, god-like communication
One great thing about Dr. Peterson is he doesn't gush at people. He could have told the student, "You're doing great!" which is encouraging, but it's not what he was asking. Dr. Peterson answered the actual question.
Straight to the point! Great advice
my goosebump pops up when i heard him said 'when i talk to the group, i talk to each individual one at time' this is so powerful and it's like a lightening suddenly enlight my night, makes me know how to be less self-conscious in front of public. it really helps me!
"Dr. Peterson, your insights on communication are invaluable. The idea of knowing '10 times as much as you are saying' and engaging with individuals rather than a group resonates deeply. It's a reminder that effective communication is not just about speaking, but also about listening and understanding. Your emphasis on the importance of reading, writing, and a liberal arts education in fostering these skills is a much-needed perspective in today's world. Thank you for sharing your wisdom."
My favorite contemporary thinker.
the amount of respect i have for this guy has always been in a positive trend
I really thank you for uploading this video. It really means a lot.
Great question, great answer, great conclusion and ending to a conversation. This is legit. I read one of his books all the way through. It was difficult because it resonated so well with myself but after completing his book. 12 rules to life it really helped me communicate more effectively and direct and objective. Now I am networking more and increasing my value through education, my network with communication, and my value to all the people I surround myself with. It is definitely a journey, not a race to the finish line. Just start somewhere and dont rush it.
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. I do see it that forex and crypto trading is one of the profitable money exchange services that elevates investors and their financial status.
I will advise you to seek the help of a professional because it’s really hard to create a strong professional portfolio. This will help you to achieve your goals and long term financial objectives
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Most people today have been having a lot of failures in forex and crypto because of poor orientation and bad experts.°
Well you need someone with the knowledge and skills,someone that can manage your account and trade on your behalf.try expert Emily Jason
"IF YOU ARE REALY A GOOD NEGORIATOR; EVERY BODY LEAVES THE NEGOTIATION THRILLED"
This is so very extremely unbelievably deep and right!
As someone who is not that much of a good communicator, l find this very helpful. I've been going up and down UA-cam trying to find advice/information on how best l can achieve my goal (which is being articulate) l have to say this is by far the most enlightening piece of advice.
I have really bad social anxiety and Jordan Peterson has helped me overcome it way more than any therapy I went to
Such a long, brilliant answer to such a short, simple question. This man is a treasure
I'm not a shy person, but one of my novel character is a shy person so this will actually still help. Thanks, Jordan! Thanks UA-cam!
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1.09 So much Information knowledge is essential for good communication, so reading is must
3.55 Importance of being good communicator❤🧡
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Amazing video! Thank you for sharing.
Reading and writing helped tremendously in my communication skills, my creative speech tripled.
Jordan is such a great guy. I don't understand how anyone can hate him. Truly a role model.
Because facts are like the tip of a spear to some people. That's my opinion on why people hate him.
Because there’s reality and fantasy. The people that hate him want to do whatever they want and believe whatever they want. Jordan Peterson however pulls people back to reality and that is uncomfortable for them and so they hate him.
Because he said “no, I’m not doing that” and actually could articulate why and back it up with non controversial arguments. There is nothing more annoying than your opponent being reasonable.
He's a licensed doctor who told someone to kill themselves on Twitter. Jordan Peterson is an unhinged lunatic
To communicate is a graciously gift
God has been bestowed on us as human
JORDAN is a wonderful man.i love you .
This makes so much sense. I used to be a better speaker when i was in school compared to now because when you’re writing, you’re also rehearsing it while doing so. Whereas now, i just talk without thinking much.
Dr. Peterson is definitely a great example of how to communicate.
I love the spacing of the markers on the whiteboard
It's true that the hardest thing in business or in relationships is to know what the other person wants, so learning how to negociate and how to communicate that "negociation" is key in every social interaction. I mean in every financial activity that doesn't involve another person directly, you can make a lot of money from without relating to them or ever having to run into a human being, but if you want like minded people that act as a virtous circle around you, or even successfull intimate relationships than you have to master the aspects of socialization. Which can be so easy at times when your mind is clear but you have to stop yourself and your emotions from getting out of control the rest of the time and to constantly recalibrate inside to stop running on auto pilot, it's trully a new way of life, that's probably why he says do it for 10 years, because then it's deeply wired in your physiology.
“Speak to individuals not to the group” this just transformed how I view public speaking. 😮
I respect the placement of the markers behind Sir Jordan.
And what a great dialogue!!
I love this man.
Imagine if what he's teaching that's actually of proper use was common place. Would you still?
@@einarabelc5 Not sure what you mean.
Summary:
Q: How can I communicate/articulate better?
JP:
Inputs -
1- Practice
2- Read a lot (Know 10X more than you have to talk about)
3 - Write for 15 mins / day
Outputs:
1- speak to people individually in a crowd
2- take expressions as feedback from crowd and modulate
How is writing an input?
@@AEONIC_MUSIC it gives you time to organize your thoughts around simple principles and values and allows you to deepen and choose your vocabulary before you speak it out loud. Most people who talk don't even know what they're talking about because they did not take the time to become truly lucid on the subject matter that interests them in the moment.
@@rexjantze296 You are unable to answer AEONIC's question because you don't know what you are talking about.
It is very simple. An input is something that goes in. An output is something that comes out.
Listening and reading are input.
Speaking and writing are output.
Please take the time to understand this. Every additional piece of understanding will help you towards thinking clearly, which is a necessary condition for speaking and writing clearly.
@@omp199 Traditionally writing is an output, but in this case Rex is correct. The writing is not the end goal, the end goal is talking to an audience of people. You could throw away or burn what you wrote, it wouldn't affect the outcome.
Writing as referred to by JBP is more of a tool to synthesize one's disparate thoughts on the same topic and ideas from different texts one has read into a coherent set of ideas which can then be cohesively conveyed to the audience while speaking. Thus it is a form of input.
@@xn85d2 Nonsense. "Input" means it goes in. "Output" means it comes out. That's it.
The distinction between the two words has nothing to do with "end goals".
What you are saying is every bit as nonsensical as saying that if you go on a roller coaster and vomit as a result, the partially digested food does not actually come out of your body, on the grounds that vomiting was not the end goal of your ride on the roller coaster.
Coming back to this gold session after many months🔥👌🏼
Welcome back 🙏
I always type down my thoughts as I would usually forget about it the next day. It kind of helps me communicate better and I do all of the things that helps me without knowing that it helps until now.
I've learned so much from him, and he always gives practical advice that you can put into action right away.
Impressive practical advice from an expert applied philosopher!
This is something I have been looking for. Thanks so much for curating this
Use great ideas to build yourself into a man of strength and character, a man of your word, skilful and with a purpose that serves the ones around you.
If you enjoy topics about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
It's very nice to see these kind of videos where i can learn about how to communicate better with people where i lacking from long time, Actually im the person who is coming to youtube every day to learn something about personality development and bunch of other good videos and communication skills videos are my top rated videos so that i can just go to any random video and watch the video and takes the notes from it.
And thanks to you for this video because in this video i learned how to be good communicator and that is PRACTICE, yes i agree that practice can make man perfect.So i hope im going to practice as much as i can to learn how to communicate with people in a better way.
Thank you.
Great video and the tips really do work, so I encourage everyone to follow up on them if you want to get better. This is coming from an introvert.
Such a helpful video...👌👌
Thank you very much for uploading this video
I know this practice is full proof! I wasn’t very good in school and I came to Christ at 22 years old and started reading the Bible and I learned a lot of words that I never heard or even used in my life. I began taking notes and studying more and just reading and writing passionately and religiously. I’m 29 now and I’m very confident in the words I use. Some people use them sloppy or ignorantly and you can tell most of them don’t know what words mean. So reading and writing and just having that extra knowledge about “your stuff” goes a long way with time and dedication.
Great video!
Nice clip. You have chosen a good part of his talk and deliver it to us, thank you 🤝 🙏🏻. But it's better not to mention God at the title (because God is incomparable) better to write "communicate with confidence"
The Best Oral Communicators of our time. Dr.Peterson has a way of making his Seminars,Interviews and General Open Discussion Topics seem not only relative but timeless. I Suggest buying his book on the 12 Laws of Life. Read one law every day for a week and apply it. Thank Dr.JP
I really recommend you listen to Robert Sapolsky too. An absolute genius in the realm of biology, has written many amazing books that touch on things Dr.Peterson covers too (even if they are at odds about some things), but above all, in this context, a wonderful orator.
I wholeheartedly agree with Jordan Peterson’s advice, which is that reading and writing make you a better communicator, English is not my first language but I allot time out of my day to read non fiction books, this serves two purposes, first it enriches my vocabulary (keeps my mind sharp like my knife) and second, I obtain the knowledge from the book I am reading, people underestimate the benefits of reading and writing, it is by far the best technology we as humans possess, nothing comes close to it.
Speaking of practice, one of the best things for me when it hard come to learning to communicate is bring in a customer service role. When i was a teenager, i didn't know how speak speak well, or even listen well, but spending several years listening to customer needs, and communicating options and working out solutions with all sorts of different, i feel like a completely different person than i was back then. I moan about those jobs quite a bit, but this is one thing about them that I have been very grateful for. Not being able to communicate is kind of a terrible feeling.