My narc mother and my ex husband did everything they possibly could to prevent me from living my best life. And they succeeded up to a point. Thank God i am not too old to turn my life around and be the person i am meant to be. 🤗🙌🙏
All the time,all the years,all the emotion spent wasted on a lifeless,loveless soul ..it sickens me to think of it Looking back,I wonder how I could have been so blindly ignorant.My lesson,never marry out of pity...never marry a mamas boy🙏🙏🙏🙏,let alone a control freak.ty Andrew
I married momma's boy. He and momma and his sister all ganged up on me. I got wise to them right off. I ignored the momma and daughter, bided my time and got out of the sham marriage ASAP. Dump the dope ASAP
I wish God would be more forthcoming with answers and reasons. I pray and pray and it just seems like the only sound i hear is my tears of sorrow landing on whatever is below my face. My thoughts slowly changing to wishing that I was never born. Edit: Where did I fail? Where did I go wrong? What did I do wrong? Am I a bad person? I tried so hard, but I just wasn't good enough.
Growing up with a narcissist mother, she put a lot of responsibility on me despite my age and the fact that it was her responsibility!! I grew up thinking that I was helping her, but in fact, I was being used, abused, and manipulated. Thank you, Andrew ❤🎉
Sorry to hear this. Born into narcissism. Me too. But it gives us a super-power. We can tell the difference now. It makes us better people. And thank God we are not like them.
I got so tired of the confusion, I told them I’m done… before I even studied narcissism…. Somebody who cares about you isn’t going to leave you in states of confusion.
Imagine being surrounded by only creatures like this since you were a child with multiple attacks at the same time. And this continued later at school, on the street and at employers until you are so ill that you have to apply for benefits, also resulting in constant threats and coercion.
I would have to write a book to cover what I COULD have done with my life. At 17, was enlisting in the army, took the asvab, passed very well, and suddenly I was getting married. At that time period, I still wanted to be an archaeologist, and play music. As soon as he and I began dating, he was the reason that one by one, every thing I thought I would do, began to be a thing of the past. What a strange life it's been, when compared to what I thought I would live. It's like drifting in space.
Sometimes strange people and circumstances are simply the things we go through on our journey to be, who God has called us to be. We could not preach on the things we do not know. Your story is important to other peoples souls to heal. Look now to the lessons learned. Share to other lost souls. It took my entire life to figure it out. That’s why we went through it, to spare others that time to be the best they can be.
This sound like my story. I was set to enlist and the next thing I knew, I was married. I knew as I stood there taking my vows (which I took seriously) that I was making a huge mistake.
Thank you so much Andrew ❤️You are a blessing for people like us who have been tormented by a narcissist. You give us hope and strength with your wisdom, knowledge and support.
Another thing I realize looking back is that my X was more narcissistic when he had more people admiring him. He was almost humble when he'd lose a job, wreck his truck or lose a friend.
For some narcissists, that's when they switch to the "vulnerable/covert narcissist role" where they feed on pity/sympathy/justice by proxy instead of admiration/envy. :( They cycle between the two. Always manipulating, whatever the circumstances.
Yes! My sister & I would notice that after our covert narcissist mother had given us the silent treatment or had been extremely nasty to us, something bad would happen to humble her & she would need our help & suddenly she would be sweet & endearing to get what's she needed & then she would go back to her old manipulative ways.
Definitely! - There was one particular regular social occasion/activity in our life that I dreaded above all others. It was where she was surrounded by her most admiring/enabling people and she made the very most of it for recruiting her flying monkeys, triangulation/gaslighting/attention-seeking and more general acting-up. Was I glad to ditch all that in the end - it had just worn me down.
blessed, healing and growing everyday!!! even bad days are good days when you are healing. Love and virtual hugs to everyone. I feel your energy and sending it back to you !00%.
My life slowly ground to a halt in terms of focusing on myself and my own goals. Id been criticised so much i stopped doing anything for me, i froze and shutdown for a time until i got rid of the tyrant wrecking my life!
Thank you I’ve been listening now for a couple months. It’s helped me beyond anything else I’m getting ready to go no contact! God give me strength! It’s crazy to miss someone who only hurts you and puts you down and takes and takes!!! Can’t wait to start feeling human again!
No! he can no longer tricked me like before. Im so done. Ive learned so much from your video. So thank you! I changed my phone number, changed my email. I just cut him off. I wont fall for his decieve. Im still healing though and it feels so good to be finally free and seeing the truth and his real color! I can finally smile and not look back at all.
It’s true. I have been distracted most of my life. It was confusing and exhausting. I was undermined and sabotaged……. I finally figured it out. It was soul crushing. I am healing now. Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. It truely is lifesaving. ☘️ May the lord bless you and keep you for all the days of your life! Happy St. Patrick’s Fay! ☘️
Every video you put out, I tear up. I think, how I put myself in a vulnerable situation. It also hurts to know that I am NOT alone. All of these poor, suffering souls 😢
"Hey do you still have that belt that I had from the 1980s can you just send that to me I been thinking about it. I been missing that." HAHAHAH man you killed me with that one. Spot on.
As they say SPOT ON! Very helpful! The context very helpful! The examples, many I have experienced? Keep on doing it. You are helping me learn. I need you to be so direct and so explicit. I get so confused that I forget the situation! The DISTRACTION! It’s HORRIBLE!! Thanks for the advice. Thanks for putting it in a clear way.
Thsnkyou for this reminder Andrew...Yes, I nearly got taken down for the count. I escaped my N'ex the day after Valentines day (15/02/2024) he's gone through all ends of the spectrum from nastiness, threats, anger to trying to entice me back to him. Then his truth shows this evening until I let him know I have all the screenshots from our conversations 💪 🤥🤮😡
As always Andrew you are right on! It took me to get to 60 years old how i have been distracted by these narcs! Starting at 18, and he pushed to get married, after 15 years of walking on eggshells to avoid his tantrums and having 4 young children i said enough, but as soon as i was out of the marriage another narc caught me for 20 years! My life is not how i wanted it to be.. but now i know to never let it happen again. Thank you Andrew for your daily messages!
Now they isolate me. They know I thrive on love and affection. Now they starve me of my life source in an effort to eliminate me permanently, hoping I will eventually jump the cliff, while they themselves carry on with their lives as happily and joyfully as always. I served my purpose, now I am discarded. That is their sinister plan to get rid of me as they know I don't have the strength to cope and I don't have an escape route either. I'm stuck! These people treat you beyond ruthless and they are incapable of feeling any remorse.
The relationship was a distraction to 21 years of my life. Not anymore. This was a learning experience, blessing, and realization of my value and worth.
Andrew-you are no doubt-a very kind, loving, caring man. I want you to know, that personally, many of the hurdles I've faced have been so much easier because of what you've taught me. I used your advice to gather my strength & FINALLY discarded him. I'm sure it was an intention goal of his & he attained it ‼️HE KNOWS he messed with me too much‼️ I BLOCKED EVERYTHING today & he KNOWS IT‼️He is a Sociopathic predator! F***ing PSYCHOPATH 🤬He will NEVER, EVER get to me again! EVER‼️My head is clear, no more trauma-bond, no more "luv", no more fake-a** sh**! At least now, I will have ☮️ PLEASE forgive my rage. I'm really grateful to you and all the wonderful advice you share with me and all the others in this community. Sincere LOVE from Michigan ❤❤💪✨️😘
My friend I just wanna thank you again because coming to your channel. Dayley helps me navigate this landscape of Horror especially defeating when you have them glimpses of that person within you realize they really really aren’t there. It’s just a game of charades. Thank you again.
There are just so many people out there like this. It's not your fault. Not the first time. We got taken advantage of preciously because we are good people- we are warm, kind, good common sense, smart, and contributing to the greater good. All those are good things. It's hard to think that others are not like this so we project our good attributes on people that are cold and manipulative and domineering. But now we know because heroes like Andrew speak the truth.
I encouraged the x narc friend of 35 years to get her Phd,later she said i was jealous of her accomplishments...went NC,blocked ,she called several times before the block,i said to myself why would she want anyone jealous or envious of her as a friend?,i would not. Projection at its fullest,,The Bible says that jealousy is as cold as the grave..meaning many have landed in the grave because of envy and jealousy..I surely do not want to be accused of getting rid of anyone..
I’m proud of myself Andrew for listening to you because so many times my ex husband would want me to unblock him, he would send emails saying how he always prayed for me and my children, etc but I did not fall for his game. I just didn’t respond because I did not want to open the door I shut so tightly on him.
You are a saviour Andrew! I mean the level of hoovering to get our attention can't be explained in words. Thanks for opening our eyes. A normal person leaves after trying once, twice, thrice, prioritising self respect. But them hoovering again and again itself means they messed things up in the first place, and their other supplies aren't working properly, and so now they want you back. Boundaries are imp!
Black Beauty is one of my favorite books, about the struggling and suffering of kind hearted animals (carriage horses) who were used and terribly abused. Perfect nickname for Andrew raising awareness about narcissist abuse and helping victims/survivors!
Sorry, I am commenting as I watch lol. So true, they distract you away from your goals, yourself, they steal your time. Has anyone noticed that the narcissists are exhibit "silly" behavior? Some things they do you are like wow-that's really immature and ridiculous.
Thank you Andrew for addressing the masterful mind games these people play. They have a PHD in mind games. A simple comment of a few words can throw a healthy person completely offline. It's unhealthy sickness walking around pretending to be a human.
I really dislike the mind games, and the distractions. This mosquito has been working on this through my phone for a week now... theyve been acting like a spoiled kid who wants constant attention... It's not happening tonight!!!! I am drawing a line in the dirt and they better not cross it. I just reached my limit. And the narc is going into time-out.
Yea I put my life in hold and was always helping them , the jabs at me constantly lowered my self worth, the jeckle and Hyde personality swings confused me, the rage fits would make me totally freeze on the spot. I'm healing now but afraid of people, I am very introverted and avoid socialising. Thankyou for helping us Andrew with knowledge on these monsters
Sadly I can relate. The confusion and instability created by the constant doing, go here there. There was never a moment just yo be. I became a passenger in my own life. I lived only his life. I got sick, and absolutely the abuse ramped up. Caught in the Web of narcs him his mother and siblings...😢
They have zero intentions to support you...their so immature..so yah when u figure it out..asap..its best to just stop .."whatever ur providing for them..." their either controlling or manipulating others with little to no empathy. Crazy Mean Existence. GREAT TALK ANDREW🙏💜💚
The other day I saw a comparison like your car analogy in regards to the narcissist/sociopath. The narcissist is like a box with expensive, beautiful wrapping paper. You open up the box-and there is nothing inside. Thank you Andrew-your videos bring comfort.
Wow, what an AMAZING video! I am new to your channel, Andrew, and I'm blown away by how much I'm already learning from your videos. Thank you so much for making these videos to help uninformed people, like me, learn about the psychology and behaviors of dealing with a narcissist. Namaste🙏
Awwww I love you so much Andrew. You've been saving me and providing clarity for well over a year.. this one tho had me in happy/sad tears all at once with how articulate you are regarding the narcissists we stuipdly fell way too hard for. They suck, they are dumb, and possessed by evil.
I feel I can resonate with this video a lot.. narcs and toxic ppl always seem to cause distractions at important times.. I strongly feel that the narc derailed me after I finished my first uni degree.. it was a generic degree that wouldn’t have led to a professional job apart from graduate programs offered by employers down here (but this can only be done within a specific timeframe and off course I’ve now missed that timeframe).. my mental health deteriorated shortly after finishing so I couldn’t look into that.. I kept studying instead but couldn’t concentrate either.. I blamed the pandemic but the narc also increased his bad behaviour and this made me unable to eventually study or work.. I didn’t know know what was wrong with me apart from being aware that my environment was definitely causing it.. until now.. I realise it all now and your videos still help me reflect on many incidents that I had forgotten about and it enlightens me sometimes because it’s still a light bulb moment.. thanks for this video.. its very unique.. these distractions are set to derail ppl from LIVING LIFE.. and keep them in existential mode only.. thanks again 💜🪻
Thanks Andrew, you've had some really good shows lately. I was saddened to find that I need to let my kids learn their lessons the hard way, yet grateful for the guidance.
When I was in nursing school back in 2008 I remember SO VIVIDLY he would start fights with me before a big exam. I was working so hard studying nursing school took over my life and he really distracted me and he made school so much harder for me. When i graduated he was not pleased that I didn’t give him glory thanking him for his support
You help so much, it seems like everytime my mind thinks of something, you end up making a video on it, you have answered so many questions and help put things in perspective. You explain so well, it's the small things we miss. You speak truth, a work in progress. Thank u so much for making these videos!
Andrew, Every video i watch of yours educates me ... It resonates with me.. i am able to process & use the knowledge to get stronger..heal & move forward ❤ You are such a blessing.. 🙏 ❤
These videos found me at such a perfect time. 12 years with my ex and then 12 years with my daughter, and her daughters, one just like her. I now identify the cycle. My breath is taken away, I had figured most of this out, but this is affirmation. Thank you
Yeah, me trying to extinguish fires caused by narcissists in relationships in order to restore peace between family members .. I can write a book on that...
As always beautiful scenery Andrew! And the birds in the background 😍 I look forward to your messages and they help me to remember that I was once in the FOG 🌫️ now I am at the top of a mountain and can see the FOG from a new perspective. I am grateful for you Andrew and for this community!
Thank you Andrew ❤ I was caught up in 'his world' and therefore my own hobbies were pushed to the side like they didn't matter. I draw and paint, but was too exhausted to even think about doing any art after helping him In his business each day. Since leaving him my art has never been better and my time is once again my own. 😊
This is a great video Andrew. Very insightful. 100% true. I resonate with everything you have said. Love your background. It most definitely looks like a beautiful night there 🙂 God bless 🌟
This was a guy who said he was going to be the love of my life! Ha more like the nightmare of my life! It was only a few months but as the time went on I became crazy and I do mean crazy, distracted, devalued, upset, angry and frustrated. A year later after I left he hoovered me through a flying monkey. Never go back never respond. At the same time I got a hoover from a high school x boyfriend. They never give up! Stay strong, listen to Andrew, get the message! Live your best life! 😊
Quite an impressive show of your knowledge, based on experience, with a bit of humor thrown in! Had to laugh at all of the "choes/errands you ran down. The never-ending to do list. LOL. Truly insane! Thank you Andrew!
I didn’t know what a lot of stuff was and my storey now that I know is just getting funnier and funnier all the time. I had suitors that were all narcissists and now looking back I can see all the tricks and the guy I was dating saw it all plus the story is jut very long. He tried telling me but I couldn’t understand it. Hoover is a distraction. That helps. It also helps just finally getting the big picture of what a narcissist is. I have a role and it’s not a loving caring stable partnership. I liked another one and just going to try and not get distracted. I am so glad I just dated that one person but I did live a narcissistic relationship and went through a lot! Great video. Tough to take in but getting better at seeing everything. They sound like they have a tough life. Thanks!
They never want you to feel comfortable and happy, its a relentless never ending list of criticisms and complaints aimed in your direction ugh!!
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My narc mother and my ex husband did everything they possibly could to prevent me from living my best life. And they succeeded up to a point. Thank God i am not too old to turn my life around and be the person i am meant to be. 🤗🙌🙏
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You are very kind, thank you ❤🙌🙏@@SusanW-lc8rp
Hope they are enjoying each other's company 😮
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik i am narc free and very happy. Hoping you are too and living your best life. 😊💞
Hoover is a set back !! Keep looking forward 🙌🙏
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All the time,all the years,all the emotion spent wasted on a lifeless,loveless soul ..it sickens me to think of it Looking back,I wonder how I could have been so blindly ignorant.My lesson,never marry out of pity...never marry a mamas boy🙏🙏🙏🙏,let alone a control freak.ty Andrew
I married momma's boy. He and momma and his sister all ganged up on me. I got wise to them right off. I ignored the momma and daughter, bided my time and got out of the sham marriage ASAP. Dump the dope ASAP
I feel you, I usually feel the same. Don't blame yourself. You only got into the trap because you are an empath
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No regrets! You are so strong and enjoy every day moving forward. See the beauty of life without toxic people. We are so blessed ❤
God has a purpose and the devils sent to kill steal and destroy . Lord my eyes are on you
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@@Jav-in-G-likedandsubbed we wouldn't need God or appreciate God if we don't go through pains in life
I wish God would be more forthcoming with answers and reasons. I pray and pray and it just seems like the only sound i hear is my tears of sorrow landing on whatever is below my face. My thoughts slowly changing to wishing that I was never born.
Edit: Where did I fail? Where did I go wrong? What did I do wrong? Am I a bad person? I tried so hard, but I just wasn't good enough.
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Growing up with a narcissist mother, she put a lot of responsibility on me despite my age and the fact that it was her responsibility!! I grew up thinking that I was helping her, but in fact, I was being used, abused, and manipulated. Thank you, Andrew ❤🎉
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I feel you. Being parentalized is abuse and causes lifelong trauma.
I experienced the same…. It feels good (although it’s bad) knowing im not alone in that experience. I feel for you, I understand
@@Lulee693 thank you. Blessings to you 🙏
Sorry to hear this. Born into narcissism. Me too. But it gives us a super-power. We can tell the difference now. It makes us better people. And thank God we are not like them.
I got so tired of the confusion, I told them I’m done… before I even studied narcissism…. Somebody who cares about you isn’t going to leave you in states of confusion.
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Imagine being surrounded by only creatures like this since you were a child with multiple attacks at the same time. And this continued later at school, on the street and at employers until you are so ill that you have to apply for benefits, also resulting in constant threats and coercion.
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Wow,thank you
I would have to write a book to cover what I COULD have done with my life. At 17, was enlisting in the army, took the asvab, passed very well, and suddenly I was getting married. At that time period, I still wanted to be an archaeologist, and play music. As soon as he and I began dating, he was the reason that one by one, every thing I thought I would do, began to be a thing of the past.
What a strange life it's been, when compared to what I thought I would live. It's like drifting in space.
I truly hope you continue to pursue those very worthy pre-narc goals or whatever is important to you at this time in your life.
I say that all the "time" I could have been anything I wanted to be, they stole it from me.
Sometimes strange people and circumstances are simply the things we go through on our journey to be, who God has called us to be. We could not preach on the things we do not know. Your story is important to other peoples souls to heal. Look now to the lessons learned. Share to other lost souls. It took my entire life to figure it out. That’s why we went through it, to spare others that time to be the best they can be.
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This sound like my story. I was set to enlist and the next thing I knew, I was married. I knew as I stood there taking my vows (which I took seriously) that I was making a huge mistake.
Thank you so much Andrew ❤️You are a blessing for people like us who have been tormented by a narcissist. You give us hope and strength with your wisdom, knowledge and support.
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Exactly. They drive you crazy. You are lost in the forest and you don't know which way to go. You can't see the right way.
Excellent topic 😊!!!
So true
Hello Mr. Andrew, I'm still in a struggling, but your topics are very helpful...thanks for all you do. Hello from Savannah, GA
I'm still trying to locate some therapy...it's been almost 4 years...and it's still terrible...trying to get past this
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“Tiny Little Brain” “Used Car” 😂🌻
Belt from the 80’s 😂 and the shoe😂 Beautiful bells ❤😘🌻
Reminds me of Lemieux from Slapshot lol
When I think about the time and energy wasted. Time I could have been helping others and enjoying my present life. Pity him.
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Thanks for the message can you please turn on your Closed Captions?
6.45-"They definitely didn't love you" bells chime...think about THAT
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Another thing I realize looking back is that my X was more narcissistic when he had more people admiring him. He was almost humble when he'd lose a job, wreck his truck or lose a friend.
For some narcissists, that's when they switch to the "vulnerable/covert narcissist role" where they feed on pity/sympathy/justice by proxy instead of admiration/envy. :( They cycle between the two. Always manipulating, whatever the circumstances.
Yes! My sister & I would notice that after our covert narcissist mother had given us the silent treatment or had been extremely nasty to us, something bad would happen to humble her & she would need our help & suddenly she would be sweet & endearing to get what's she needed & then she would go back to her old manipulative ways.
Definitely! - There was one particular regular social occasion/activity in our life that I dreaded above all others. It was where she was surrounded by her most admiring/enabling people and she made the very most of it for recruiting her flying monkeys, triangulation/gaslighting/attention-seeking and more general acting-up. Was I glad to ditch all that in the end - it had just worn me down.
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blessed, healing and growing everyday!!! even bad days are good days when you are healing. Love and virtual hugs to everyone. I feel your energy and sending it back to you !00%.
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My life slowly ground to a halt in terms of focusing on myself and my own goals. Id been criticised so much i stopped doing anything for me, i froze and shutdown for a time until i got rid of the tyrant wrecking my life!
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Man, seeing how evil this is! So glad you are sharing.
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Thank you I’ve been listening now for a couple months. It’s helped me beyond anything else I’m getting ready to go no contact! God give me strength!
It’s crazy to miss someone who only hurts you and puts you down and takes and takes!!! Can’t wait to start feeling human again!
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No! he can no longer tricked me like before. Im so done. Ive learned so much from your video. So thank you! I changed my phone number, changed my email. I just cut him off. I wont fall for his decieve. Im still healing though and it feels so good to be finally free and seeing the truth and his real color! I can finally smile and not look back at all.
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It’s true. I have been distracted most of my life. It was confusing and exhausting. I was undermined and sabotaged…….
I finally figured it out. It was soul crushing.
I am healing now.
Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. It truely is lifesaving.
☘️ May the lord bless you and keep you for all the days of your life! Happy St. Patrick’s Fay! ☘️
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Yes, he appealed to my own narcissism and love for mountain adventures. The ideal playmate.
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He never hoovered. He knows that I know. 😎He is ashamed.
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Every video you put out, I tear up. I think, how I put myself in a vulnerable situation. It also hurts to know that I am NOT alone. All of these poor, suffering souls 😢
"Hey do you still have that belt that I had from the 1980s can you just send that to me I been thinking about it. I been missing that." HAHAHAH man you killed me with that one. Spot on.
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I know, right! Andrew was good with those one liners, lol😉
As they say SPOT ON! Very helpful! The context very helpful! The examples, many I have experienced? Keep on doing it. You are helping me learn. I need you to be so direct and so explicit. I get so confused that I forget the situation! The DISTRACTION! It’s HORRIBLE!! Thanks for the advice. Thanks for putting it in a clear way.
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Thanks Andrew i dont feel so alone others are dealing with this besides me
Thsnkyou for this reminder Andrew...Yes, I nearly got taken down for the count. I escaped my N'ex the day after Valentines day (15/02/2024) he's gone through all ends of the spectrum from nastiness, threats, anger to trying to entice me back to him. Then his truth shows this evening until I let him know I have all the screenshots from our conversations 💪 🤥🤮😡
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As always Andrew you are right on! It took me to get to 60 years old how i have been distracted by these narcs! Starting at 18, and he pushed to get married, after 15 years of walking on eggshells to avoid his tantrums and having 4 young children i said enough, but as soon as i was out of the marriage another narc caught me for 20 years! My life is not how i wanted it to be.. but now i know to never let it happen again. Thank you Andrew for your daily messages!
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Now they isolate me. They know I thrive on love and affection. Now they starve me of my life source in an effort to eliminate me permanently, hoping I will eventually jump the cliff, while they themselves carry on with their lives as happily and joyfully as always. I served my purpose, now I am discarded. That is their sinister plan to get rid of me as they know I don't have the strength to cope and I don't have an escape route either. I'm stuck! These people treat you beyond ruthless and they are incapable of feeling any remorse.
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I'm going through this now. It's devastating
Been on the channel for a couple of months still getting 💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡💡moments! Thank you Andrew❤
I didn’t know how deep I had fallen until I got out dandy I am very grateful I got out. My heart cries as I write
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The relationship was a distraction to 21 years of my life. Not anymore. This was a learning experience, blessing, and realization of my value and worth.
my 50th Born Day was all but forgotten. that hurt.
Make a plan,leave ,you are unappreciated, if you stay,next BD leave a week before treat yourself to an exotic vaca.
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Happy Belated 50th Birthday @patsy! 🎉
Aww thankyou :)@@VeganLife-mn1jp
The hoover is a test, when they test if you still are controllable.
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Andrew-you are no doubt-a very kind, loving, caring man. I want you to know, that personally, many of the hurdles I've faced have been so much easier because of what you've taught me. I used your advice to gather my strength & FINALLY discarded him. I'm sure it was an intention goal of his & he attained it ‼️HE KNOWS he messed with me too much‼️
I BLOCKED EVERYTHING today & he KNOWS IT‼️He is a Sociopathic predator! F***ing PSYCHOPATH 🤬He will NEVER, EVER get to me again! EVER‼️My head is clear, no more trauma-bond, no more "luv", no more fake-a** sh**! At least now, I will have ☮️ PLEASE forgive my rage. I'm really grateful to you and all the wonderful advice you share with me and all the others in this community. Sincere LOVE from Michigan ❤❤💪✨️😘
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Love you analogies! I had no idea that this was narcissistic behavior. I am so glad I left ❤🎉😊
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My friend I just wanna thank you again because coming to your channel. Dayley helps me navigate this landscape of Horror especially defeating when you have them glimpses of that person within you realize they really really aren’t there. It’s just a game of charades. Thank you again.
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Stability and peace disturb the narcissist 😞🤷🏼♀️🙈
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The belt from the 1980s 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 so true Andrew
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💯 That is why you are so tired post narcissists relationship , they energy vampires ..
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There are just so many people out there like this. It's not your fault. Not the first time. We got taken advantage of preciously because we are good people- we are warm, kind, good common sense, smart, and contributing to the greater good. All those are good things. It's hard to think that others are not like this so we project our good attributes on people that are cold and manipulative and domineering. But now we know because heroes like Andrew speak the truth.
Thank you! A hoover is a distraction of the past.
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Thank you Andrew for also explaining that the narcissist is the one constant .
I watch every single episode you post.
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Complaining for the room. Yes.
This is a very powerful video!!!!! 20 years now looking back I see this all clearly. Constantly distracted so now I am refocusing in my peace 🙏🏽
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Wow nice backdrop Andrew ❤ have a wonderful evening and night. 😊💜💜
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I encouraged the x narc friend of 35 years to get her Phd,later she said i was jealous of her accomplishments...went NC,blocked ,she called several times before the block,i said to myself why would she want anyone jealous or envious of her as a friend?,i would not. Projection at its fullest,,The Bible says that jealousy is as cold as the grave..meaning many have landed in the grave because of envy and jealousy..I surely do not want to be accused of getting rid of anyone..
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you are the best Andrew, thank you once again
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I’m proud of myself Andrew for listening to you because so many times my ex husband would want me to unblock him, he would send emails saying how he always prayed for me and my children, etc but I did not fall for his game. I just didn’t respond because I did not want to open the door I shut so tightly on him.
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You are a saviour Andrew! I mean the level of hoovering to get our attention can't be explained in words. Thanks for opening our eyes. A normal person leaves after trying once, twice, thrice, prioritising self respect. But them hoovering again and again itself means they messed things up in the first place, and their other supplies aren't working properly, and so now they want you back. Boundaries are imp!
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andrew is looking very sharp tonight andrew i have a nickname for you black beauty black beauty was a beautiful horse thanks for tonight's video 😊
Black Beauty is one of my favorite books, about the struggling and suffering of kind hearted animals (carriage horses) who were used and terribly abused. Perfect nickname for Andrew raising awareness about narcissist abuse and helping victims/survivors!
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All the pieces of a 14 puzzle are slowly putting into place
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Sorry, I am commenting as I watch lol. So true, they distract you away from your goals, yourself, they steal your time. Has anyone noticed that the narcissists are exhibit "silly" behavior? Some things they do you are like wow-that's really immature and ridiculous.
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Thanks Andrew Ive been watching you since you were in Costa Rica! Wealth of information! God bless you❤
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Thank you Andrew for addressing the masterful mind games these people play. They have a PHD in mind games. A simple comment of a few words can throw a healthy person completely offline. It's unhealthy sickness walking around pretending to be a human.
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LOL. Great comment! They are just the worst!
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Andrew is the greatest!
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The narcissist just wants you to be their slave. The world revolves around them and no one else. ❤️🙏
Yes! Constant turmoil! 🙄🙈Ugg!!!
I really dislike the mind games, and the distractions. This mosquito has been working on this through my phone for a week now... theyve been acting like a spoiled kid who wants constant attention... It's not happening tonight!!!! I am drawing a line in the dirt and they better not cross it. I just reached my limit. And the narc is going into time-out.
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email only...Check it once a week....or not!
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The "spoiled kid" is suffering from arrested development. Just get up and walk away. You cannot cure the mentally deficient. It's above your pay grade
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Yea I put my life in hold and was always helping them , the jabs at me constantly lowered my self worth, the jeckle and Hyde personality swings confused me, the rage fits would make me totally freeze on the spot. I'm healing now but afraid of people, I am very introverted and avoid socialising. Thankyou for helping us Andrew with knowledge on these monsters
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Thank you Andrew,,,this Resonates deeply with me,,,they will Distract you off your path/purpose,/life mission,,🤗❤️🙏🕯️🕊️🌊🌳
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Sadly I can relate. The confusion and instability created by the constant doing, go here there. There was never a moment just yo be. I became a passenger in my own life. I lived only his life. I got sick, and absolutely the abuse ramped up. Caught in the Web of narcs him his mother and siblings...😢
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You are on point. Your an eye opener for most of us. Thank you.
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So true. So entitled. They are never happy. Always active. Just an empty box. Like Bundy.....filled with ashes.
They have zero intentions to support you...their so immature..so yah when u figure it out..asap..its best to just stop .."whatever ur providing for them..." their either controlling or manipulating others with little to no empathy. Crazy Mean Existence. GREAT TALK ANDREW🙏💜💚
The other day I saw a comparison like your car analogy in regards to the narcissist/sociopath.
The narcissist is like a box with expensive, beautiful wrapping paper.
You open up the box-and there is nothing inside.
Thank you Andrew-your videos bring comfort.
Wow, what an AMAZING video! I am new to your channel, Andrew, and I'm blown away by how much I'm already learning from your videos. Thank you so much for making these videos to help uninformed people, like me, learn about the psychology and behaviors of dealing with a narcissist. Namaste🙏
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Beautiful background for your message..love hearing the birds. I live in Minnesota and its bone dry and not at all like spring.
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Right on time brother. I just rejected a Hoover this week.
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Awwww I love you so much Andrew. You've been saving me and providing clarity for well over a year.. this one tho had me in happy/sad tears all at once with how articulate you are regarding the narcissists we stuipdly fell way too hard for. They suck, they are dumb, and possessed by evil.
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beautiful the freaking freaked narc is freaking me too
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Thanks Andrew. I've been there. You speak the truth.
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Stunning background.We now need to distract ourselves from falling into toxic relationship with empty people who are characterless
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Great video Andrew!!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace..
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Thanks Andrew for your information, and have good Day 🙂👍
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I feel I can resonate with this video a lot.. narcs and toxic ppl always seem to cause distractions at important times.. I strongly feel that the narc derailed me after I finished my first uni degree.. it was a generic degree that wouldn’t have led to a professional job apart from graduate programs offered by employers down here (but this can only be done within a specific timeframe and off course I’ve now missed that timeframe).. my mental health deteriorated shortly after finishing so I couldn’t look into that.. I kept studying instead but couldn’t concentrate either.. I blamed the pandemic but the narc also increased his bad behaviour and this made me unable to eventually study or work.. I didn’t know know what was wrong with me apart from being aware that my environment was definitely causing it.. until now.. I realise it all now and your videos still help me reflect on many incidents that I had forgotten about and it enlightens me sometimes because it’s still a light bulb moment.. thanks for this video.. its very unique.. these distractions are set to derail ppl from LIVING LIFE.. and keep them in existential mode only.. thanks again 💜🪻
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Thanks Andrew, you've had some really good shows lately. I was saddened to find that I need to let my kids learn their lessons the hard way, yet grateful for the guidance.
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When I was in nursing school back in 2008 I remember SO VIVIDLY he would start fights with me before a big exam. I was working so hard studying nursing school took over my life and he really distracted me and he made school so much harder for me. When i graduated he was not pleased that I didn’t give him glory thanking him for his support
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Andrew is the best!!! 😊❤️
He really is! You can hear his compassion for survivors, and those who sadly didn’t survive the abuse, in his every word.
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Thank you for the beautiful video🌸Please have a pleasant night and sweeet dreams, Andrew ❤️🌸🥰
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You help so much, it seems like everytime my mind thinks of something, you end up making a video on it, you have answered so many questions and help put things in perspective. You explain so well, it's the small things we miss. You speak truth, a work in progress. Thank u so much for making these videos!
Thanks as always my friend!❤
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Thank you, Andrew so much! I needed this, this morning, I resisted the Hoover!❤🎉
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Every video i watch of yours educates me ...
It resonates with me.. i am able to process & use the knowledge to get stronger..heal & move forward ❤
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These videos found me at such a perfect time. 12 years with my ex and then 12 years with my daughter, and her daughters, one just like her. I now identify the cycle. My breath is taken away, I had figured most of this out, but this is affirmation. Thank you
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Yeah, me trying to extinguish fires caused by narcissists in relationships in order to restore peace between family members .. I can write a book on that...
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❤Thank you Andrew ❤you help me heal❤
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LOve this video Andrew !
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As always beautiful scenery Andrew! And the birds in the background 😍 I look forward to your messages and they help me to remember that I was once in the FOG 🌫️ now I am at the top of a mountain and can see the FOG from a new perspective. I am grateful for you Andrew and for this community!
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I was caught up in 'his world' and therefore my own hobbies were pushed to the side like they didn't matter.
I draw and paint, but was too exhausted to even think about doing any art after helping him In his business each day.
Since leaving him my art has never been better and my time is once again my own. 😊
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This is a great video Andrew. Very insightful. 100% true. I resonate with everything you have said. Love your background. It most definitely looks like a beautiful night there 🙂 God bless 🌟
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This was a guy who said he was going to be the love of my life! Ha more like the nightmare of my life! It was only a few months but as the time went on I became crazy and I do mean crazy, distracted, devalued, upset, angry and frustrated. A year later after I left he hoovered me through a flying monkey. Never go back never respond. At the same time I got a hoover from a high school x boyfriend. They never give up! Stay strong, listen to Andrew, get the message! Live your best life! 😊
Quite an impressive show of your knowledge, based on experience, with a bit of humor thrown in! Had to laugh at all of the "choes/errands you ran down. The never-ending to do list. LOL. Truly insane!
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I didn’t know what a lot of stuff was and my storey now that I know is just getting funnier and funnier all the time.
I had suitors that were all narcissists and now looking back I can see all the tricks and the guy I was dating saw it all plus the story is jut very long. He tried telling me but I couldn’t understand it.
Hoover is a distraction. That helps.
It also helps just finally getting the big picture of what a narcissist is.
I have a role and it’s not a loving caring stable partnership. I liked another one and just going to try and not get distracted.
I am so glad I just dated that one person but I did live a narcissistic relationship and went through a lot!
Great video. Tough to take in but getting better at seeing everything.
They sound like they have a tough life.
Thanks!
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I NEED your words! TY!
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Wow!! This is a good video Andrew so right on the dot!
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They are absolute pros
The "think about this" side-eye is trade or service-marked, right? Thanks from Indifferenceland
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