Gameitup Tothemax So sad, I hope you find someone deserving of your love and find your happiness again. No one deserves this abuse . Don’t ever believe those devaluing lies they have said about you, narcissists are and always were beneath us, reclaim your power .We can experience joy , give and receive love , we aren’t dependent on others to support ourselves we were always the one with the power , their power is only in their ability to con us , once you’ve seen through the con they’re powerless.
I was too exhausted and drained to be primary source but I'm hurting. No contact 4 months. Narc is bringing new supply to all the places we went. Don't stalk their social media. It's too painful
This is brilliant. I've just finally gone no contact after 4 months of doing all the wrong things after being discarded. My ex just kept me in the background with random, nonsense texts until I wasn't needed anymore because of the new supply. I'm determined now to stay away. They're so destructive.
I hear you saying "Don't get revenge. Just walk away. He does not deserve any mental energy." Don't think about him at all. Don't ask friends about that guy.
In 4 days it has been exactly a year since I started to try to go no contact. I failed every time because I always left one avenue for contact open. Tonight, I have finally blocked all means of communication. I’m finally ready to close the door on the past and move forward. Thank you HG, your videos have literally saved my life through the hardest year of my life.
For me, to know that the narc is on the same path with the new supply has given me the chance to heal. Now I can move on. Building a wall of knowing the facts is the only way to protect yourself.
Dearest HG: I am in my own hellish Fight Club. Fighting mainly with my own emotions now. It is so tough. It really is an addiction. Ironically, I used to not understand why people had such difficulty detoxing from harmful drugs. Maybe I looked down at them as well. In fact, I did. Now, look at me.
I wish you the best. It is hard at first. Try to focus on all the hurt and the lies and the manipulation that he or she inflicted upon you. Be real. Focus on what made you cry or feel uncomfortable or disrespected. That was the reality. You loved/cared and he or she did not. Focus on those negatives because eventually you will NOT want to contact that person and if he/she contacts you have those negative things first in mind so that you don't respond. This is what has helped me. If one of my three narcissist ex-boyfriends contacts me I shall NOT respond because they hurt me. They manipulated me, they gaslighted me and didn't appreciate nor allow me to be myself. They don't deserve me in their lives nor my love! This is how you MUST think. GOD bless you. STAY away because they will NEVER change!
This is the best work you have done in a long list of great works. Teaching the understanding is one part. Teaching the healing is the best part. Thank you
Was just thinking how unfair it is that the best course of action is no engagement to expression of all the pain caused no combating that this person is expressing how horrible you are. Was blessing to reach to listen to something and this popped up! I know I'm better off that I was playing a loosing game. Stay away from the narcissist. I'm proud of my progess
Love that you mentioned the “arm around” the new source in pictures. This pose denotes Ownership imo. Seen it quite a few times from Narcs. It’s almost a Narc “Tell” haha
Thanks HG. Our discussions have been exceptionally helpful in calming the storm of hurt and pain while injecting some understanding into a situation which seemed insane. Knowing the truth isn't as cathartic as I'd wish it were, but I feel as though I can finally breathe. Thank you.
If this is HG Tudor attempting to fool me...He did a fantastic job especially in the last 2/3 minutes of this piece. This is the most convincing of all his publications to me. We as survivors will come out but Narcs have to live in that dark hole for the rest of their lives. Thats Revenge enough for me!
You have an excellent and powerful voice. Thank you for the videos they help me feel more peaceful. dealing w/ the trauma these people leave you with is challenging. They use people and say the most awful rejecting comments. I do yoga twice a day in the attempt to cleanse myself of their painful discard to remind myself I am worth it. Sending all those effected by these people love and healing ❤️
Whitney G Peterson when l lost him l loose myself and l couldn’t help it l was terrified and helpless but now l understand and time helps but still after months hurts but even though l loved him and still love him l don’t trust him anymore and don’t think his coming back after the damages he left behind he doesn’t even care l think so l trying everyday and morning are difficult but lm working hard to get well and rebuild the ruins
do yoga, go to nature, meet people and do practice self love. Organize your life, find what you love to do, to be with, and you will see how you wont even remember they once existed
You are the best!! I have listened practically to all of your videos & I always look forward to the next one .Just understanding ...the perspective & mindset the narcissist has on life .It is so sad that the narcissist never wants or can experience Love 💕.Thank you HG for the brutal truth on all you describe it’ s so freaky how you speak about exactly what I endured he was a Greater like you.I was with him for 25 years & discarded him. He remarried quickly a women 30 years younger then himself.He still Hoover’s about every 2-4 months& he’ s married less then year. P.S.I do love your voice can only imagine what you look like. I am sure you have broken many hearts❤️ . However I am truly grateful & appreciate all you do..XOXO 😘😘
Myself, I am passionate, Greek and have a short fuse. I was hurt deeply. He was playing games. Finally I lost it and humiliated him publicly. Never heard from him again. I understand Mr Tudor that he may come back. Thanks to you, I know that no contact is the way to go. You being I will call a former narcissist, are a godsend. You have a soul. You and Sam Vaknin. ♥️
My first NARC was the greater, second one midranger once you go through it, as the only way out - you ARE the happiest person on this planet Thank you for sharing your wisdom HG Tudor xxx great job xxx Magda
HG, thank you for helping me understand. I was just watching "getting away with it and what to do about it" for the hundredth re understand and this article popped up. Thank you for continually helping me understand.
I thank u H.G Tudor Luv ya I'm so proud of ur work since ur first day deciding to go this route to redeem urself thru exposing narc in n out n mindsets n why's. God bless u much abundantly
Thank U HG! U helped me heal from the pain and suffering I endured for 7 months! U R helping so many people to understand this kind of abuse! I look forward to UR continued, FANTASTIC videos! ☮️♥️😀
Hello teacher😃😃😃 This message was Epic with a firery🔥🔥🔥🔥 flame of truth that can never put snuffed out. Brilliant your teaching are. Thank you. I will place this video in my archives. I am a super Nova Empath.😀😀😀🤣🤣🤣🤒🤒🤒🤒😠😠😠😠🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Totally regard your work since it opened my eyes what the heck i been dealing with owe you that thanks for advice im half way there emotionally detaching and moving forward although it has to be cut through step but still finding it hard as i was 1000% pure and gave everything i had😔 but hopeful will get there
Thankyou needed to hear this today. Ex narc boyfriend hoovering me after nearly 2 years of no contact. He is blocked but comes up in my spam folder! Its strange but i always get a feeling hes going to get in touch and he does! Xmas eve blank txt, today a message supposed to be sent to his daughter! 😂😂😂 i will never answer him thanks to you H G👍
@Knowing the Narcissist HG I've been going a month now...NC. Still finding the bond so difficult to break...I'm strong, then emotional, then strong again. Then emotional. Each time I become emotional I find myself on UA-cam trying to reinforce the logic and push out the emotion. While listening to you just now, and this is the second time I have watched this particular video because of it being so soon after NC and I know he has moved on with new source... immediately. I hear what you are saying, and, somehow I feel that this work is changing how you see some things...perhaps you are able to see both sides now even tho you cannot feel certain emotions. I really feel that you DO understand. I know what you are and you know what you are...I just wonder if it has changed the way you interact with people now that you are more aware...in other words perhaps you are more diligent in pushing away those who are emotionally fragile and highly susceptible to someone such as yourself as you're very highly intelligent and aware of the motivations and psychology of people...as well as charming...do you find yourself seeking the company of those who can provide you with more of a healthy exchange who are less likely to be manipulated by yourself as well as keeping your traits in mind when interacting with others. I appreciate your candidness in your videos. It is difficult to hear but the truth hurts. And since I am a truth seeker, I have learned that I still need to hear the truth even if it is not pleasant. Thank you...and forgive me for the lengthy post...
Where your attention goes, your energy flows. Narcs want your energy because they can’t tap in to a source of their own. Cut them off. Stop playing the games. It’s all a game for them AND now us. Level up.
“You do not need to know anything about the narcissist.” - Yes, I agree. But what if I just cannot be sure whether the person actually was a narcissist? I come out of a complicated relationship situation, with having made stupid mistakes myself, which made me i inclined to relativize respective red flags. After combatting my own gut feelings for a year, I was eventually being discarded and immediately replaced, witnessing the person doing the exact same things with the new supply and going to the exact same places as we did in our honey moon phase. I suffered brutally but pretended to be okay. Then the provocations became even more blatant and I was sent pictures from their romantic holiday trips and the joy of the other person of being in a power position was obvious. I am in the fifth month of no contact ever since then, and I can see many symptoms of BPD and NPD in that girl, but I can also find alternative explanations for lots of the things. I couldn’t bear staying in contact after what had happened, but I just fail to be certain this person was actually toxic and that she deserves to be ignored by me like that. I believe to be strong and radical enough to pull through no contact without looking back, but not as long as I just cannot be sure it is justified and that my ex girlfriend is indeed a toxic individual. What to do?
I asked the guy I was involved with if he was dating and he said, "I'm not seeing anyone regularly. I'm being drained by my work". This gave me closure and that worked for me. If I think of contacting him again, I just remember this, what he said, he's obviously dating other people and probably all the time when he was back in his country. It makes me sick to think of it.
HG thank you so much for your videos! They have helped me so much! I've been involved with a greater narc like yourself for 13 years now, he's a very influential high powered attorney. I didn't know he was a narc til last September when I discovered he had a new girlfriend that he's kept secret for over a year. He's got others too that I'm discovering. He told me all about how he picked up another one and even admitted about the new PS but now he denies having that new one, he even bought her a new condo etc. I'm an empath and this has been just tearing me to shreds inside. I'm now trying to get away but he says he owns me. Why doesn't he want to admit about his new girlfriend, why is he hiding her and why keep me? What's going on with him? How do I get away? Thx...
Maryanne Gustafson I wish somebody would help you or respond back to you your story is kind of like mine I'm kind of interested to know because I haven't been with mine that long just a year-and-a-half but when he left me he told me I was the most beautifulest woman I've ever met a lot of fear from the most have the most beautiful soul and I gave him hell that he could love somebody he said that he needs to work on himself so we can love somebody know he left me for another woman because he's very spiritual at least at least three to five times a week we were having sex and there's no way that he's going without it so my point is cuz I know he left me for somebody else in the same thing he's not admitting that he left me for somebody else is hiding her I don't know if it's protect for them to protect their relationship which I know eventually down the road with its 50 years and now he'll leave ER so I'm past all that I mean what she's getting off already got which really wasn't nothing sometimes I think I was just may be addicted to the sex if anything with him because he was boring and never one to do nothing and I had to do everything and they're not fun people and if you look at it is great sex really worth being with someone if you don't have other things going on too we had everything in common everything is just sad what happened between the two of us but he's saying for me to get my emotions in check and then in two or three months from now we can be friends that's what he saying and he wants to keep her around and try to triangulate me with her as friends I was with him a couple weeks ago he broke up with me on February 17th so it's been 6 weeks now since you said goodbye but I talked to him five times and I've even been around him and he's still denying it I'm going to tell you what I think is happening he wants to keep you and the new girl he wants to keep both of you would have you against each other and competing for his love I'm not going to fall for it though after the last time I slept with him which was a couple weeks ago and I was desperate and he said it would be the last time but then three weeks ago he invited me to come over to his house and have sex all night he even said that I pissed him off because I told him I was going to slap him when he said he didn't have he don't want for the caissons anymore and that he want to change his life around What a Sad ass excuse to get rid of somebody he might be a narcissist and you might be evil but he's also weak ass pathetic little punk who was 11 years younger than me I could have had my older son whoop his ass but I didn't so anyways I was in this desperation because I saw his new supply drop him off I didn't see her but I know it was a female I don't know if you met her in school because he's a registered nurse and he's trying to get more credits to get paid higher as a nurse I don't know if you met her at the club because we used to go to the club a lot and inside a crying 5 days later he discarded me which is now a month-and-a-half ago he was already seeing someone else even told me he wasn't going to get rid of me right away but now it was the best time but then you still wants to be friends I talked to him two weeks ago so to finish this long story up I apologize I told him I don't know if I wanted his friendship and usable if you call me make sure all your emotions are gone and then we can start being friends again I have heard from this guy right here and other narcissistic experts and on Coral and all the experts that being friends with them is only going to get me in trouble sex money whatever I would love to be friends with him because he doesn't deserve me I'd like to see how is life unfolds but if we stay a part of their life so keep destroying us a narcissist is not going to let you stay in their life unless you're benefiting them so if a narcissist says that they want to be friends they want to be friends all right they still want to suck
Please help my to understand myself , I don't want to get back with the narcissist but why is it that im hurt seeing the narcissist happy with the new supply.
Neutrality, acceptance and reason are higher vibrationally than the emotions narcs have. Transcend. Vibe high. Listen to Bob Marley “Positive Vibration” song.
Spot on. I got snagged by a couple Hoovers, phone and text only BUT then I was able to play along a bit.. let him get comfy and then drive the silver spike in, of course with plausible deniability. His confusion and rage were quite enjoyable. He'll call again- I'm going to be stuck in his craw forever because of what I was able to do to him 😈 He is enraged at my unfazed, yet polite demeanor that quietly screams lack of respect- he knows I'm laughing at him while behaving as if I care. My lack of response to his attempts to make me jealous is a real sore spot for him and he's positively furious that he has no power over this older, less attractive woman who was so easily able to call him on his sht. I went through the horrible shock & trauma and I was deeply hurt by him but I treated him like a vaccine and got better and better at using his tactics on him. I know his weakest spots 😊. The other thing his is SO enraged about is that he never got to take a free ride on my musical talent. That's what he wanted most. Shucky darn! Thanks HG
After 4 past hoovers spanning 6 months, I discarded him from the constant cycle of abuse and disrespect. I wounded him and now he moved house 80 miles away. (But we have a small town and he mentioned moving due to no one liking him and our town was against him) I needed to break away from him. My question is will he move back someday and hoover to get revenge on me? I think he is a lower middle. He the cry baby victim type with a temper but has never hit me....however he gets mad quickly and is never content.
Hi H.G,., Thank you for your work. I have listened to many of your videos. My ex Narcissist is a Greater, just like you. I feel like I am inside his head when listening to your videos. This last video describes my last 2 and 1/2 years exactly with him. He gathers a lot of fuel from his family and community. He is in professional and leadership positions. He has a new Primary Source. He threw her in my face with great pleasure 6 mos.ago. You said the Mid-Range and Lesser have that chasm and emptiness and are not happy and do not have joy. What about the Greater with all his fuel sources, especially his grand children? Is he happy without me? Does he have contentment because he has the new Primary, family and an intimate religious community? He has tried to hoover a few times since the discard. Nothing since 2 + mos. ago.
Narcissists never feel happiness. No matter where they lie on the spectrum. Remember that fact. They mirror. They fake. The void is still there and they always feel it. That's why they always seek attention somehow. It doesn't matter where they lie on the spectrum. Including psychopaths who lie at the top of the Narcissistic spectrum. Never happy. Always empty. Watch "American psycho" with Christian Bale.
I live in a really small town. her family stays here and shes been hanging around ALOT at the place I use to work. She discarded me on Christmas day with a "I'm done" and disappeared. I've come a long way in 3 months and look better and moved on. She's seen me a few times in the last two weeks and when she sees me its like shes seen a ghost. She attempted a whatsapp message hoover on the 4th of April like nothing had happened - "I've been thinking about you and if you okay. I saw you drove past me this morning and I decided to message you. I know its a stupid thing to do and you don't have to respond if you don't want to". Honestly feels like shes become a stalker now. It's more frustrating than anything else.
My ex narc and I still work at the same company. She has new primary source which she makes sure that I see all the time. Have been applying no contact since 12/18. She has been glaring into my eyes since January and since February she has been able to be at the same place in the company as I am at. That could be at break room or outside in the alleyway towards company parking lot. I see this as if she is trying to make me break no contact. She seems happy with new source. Why should be hoovering me now?
Nehemias Ruiz I think this is risk you take when dating people you work with, it’s messy when it doesn’t work out. I’m not sure if it’s just a narc thing.
She wants to be able to win. Dont give in until she gets to the point of where shes calling you and you know for sure she is hinting st wanting to be with you. Then if you wanna go all randy saaavage set up plans to meet at an old favorite restaurant and stand her up haha. 😂
I really enjoy your videos but sometimes have a hard time hearing them ( this one is especially quiet). Could you please try to make the sound/volume better? Thanks!
HG Would you consider making a video dealing with the Super Nova Empath cheating on a Greater? I have watched numerous videos on narcissism and have only found one video dealing with cheating on a narcissist.... your video. I enjoy your work. Thank you for sharing truth.
I love your videos, but there is something I must highlight. Unless your subconscious mind is healed, applying logic will only cover the wounds for some time, but these wounds will exist and deepen in time. Logic alone CANNOT HELP ANYONE, ON THE CONTRARY IT CAN PROVE DISASTROUS in the course of time. Divinity, Jesus Christ in other words, is the only way to find true healing. Your invaluable information which keeps us posted on narcissism is something that we should all be grateful for, but as an expert that you are, you must know that unless our subconscious mind is healed with the intervention of the divine, we are doomed to repeat the same same pattern in our next relationships.
Can you do videos on how to interact with the narc when you are divorcing or divorced with kids involved? Thank you! I can’t go grey rock/no contact with kids.
Mr Tudor why do they not appericate good looks good woman he is 48 she 26 young girl who like to be on Facebook and he tries to give me money I wanna leave him alone
I can't seem to not need n want my ex fiancee narc of 5yrs n I wana 4 sum reason wanna win his heart back bcuz I cheated n lied to him n he found out n I hurt him n broke his trust Only reason 4 me doing all that tho is bcuz of consistent verbal n physical abuse
I’m going to share that when I had my ExN go to a retreat for abusive husbands that he wrote my positive traits were “ happy, funny and content.” So that’s what I know he wanted from me and also hated about me. See?
I am no longer addicted to loving a man who cannot love. Yes, he hoovered me. I am done. The best response is no response. No contact.
Gameitup Tothemax So sad, I hope you find someone deserving of your love and find your happiness again. No one deserves this abuse . Don’t ever believe those devaluing lies they have said about you, narcissists are and always were beneath us, reclaim your power .We can experience joy , give and receive love , we aren’t dependent on others to support ourselves we were always the one with the power , their power is only in their ability to con us , once you’ve seen through the con they’re powerless.
I was too exhausted and drained to be primary source but I'm hurting. No contact 4 months. Narc is bringing new supply to all the places we went. Don't stalk their social media. It's too painful
Once you know you go - 100% true!
This is brilliant. I've just finally gone no contact after 4 months of doing all the wrong things after being discarded. My ex just kept me in the background with random, nonsense texts until I wasn't needed anymore because of the new supply. I'm determined now to stay away. They're so destructive.
basically we have to reprogram ourselves. force and i mean force your brain to "purge and dump". As usual spot on HG.
I assure you, the narcissist is NOT happy.
Yes they are fuked in the head, sik
I hear you saying "Don't get revenge. Just walk away. He does not deserve any mental energy." Don't think about him at all. Don't ask friends about that guy.
This is one of your best videos yet and so helpful. Thanks for that.
Grossest people on the planet. Sick, sick individuals
In 4 days it has been exactly a year since I started to try to go no contact. I failed every time because I always left one avenue for contact open. Tonight, I have finally blocked all means of communication. I’m finally ready to close the door on the past and move forward. Thank you HG, your videos have literally saved my life through the hardest year of my life.
For me, to know that the narc is on the same path with the new supply has given me the chance to heal. Now I can move on. Building a wall of knowing the facts is the only way to protect yourself.
Dearest HG: I am in my own hellish Fight Club. Fighting mainly with my own emotions now. It is so tough. It really is an addiction. Ironically, I used to not understand why people had such difficulty detoxing from harmful drugs. Maybe I looked down at them as well. In fact, I did. Now, look at me.
I wish you the best. It is hard at first. Try to focus on all the hurt and the lies and the manipulation that he or she inflicted upon you. Be real. Focus on what made you cry or feel uncomfortable or disrespected. That was the reality. You loved/cared and he or she did not. Focus on those negatives because eventually you will NOT want to contact that person and if he/she contacts you have those negative things first in mind so that you don't respond. This is what has helped me. If one of my three narcissist ex-boyfriends contacts me I shall NOT respond because they hurt me. They manipulated me, they gaslighted me and didn't appreciate nor allow me to be myself. They don't deserve me in their lives nor my love! This is how you MUST think. GOD bless you. STAY away because they will NEVER change!
Run with the wind....
And do not stop
This is the best work you have done in a long list of great works. Teaching the understanding is one part. Teaching the healing is the best part. Thank you
Was just thinking how unfair it is that the best course of action is no engagement to expression of all the pain caused no combating that this person is expressing how horrible you are. Was blessing to reach to listen to something and this popped up! I know I'm better off that I was playing a loosing game. Stay away from the narcissist. I'm proud of my progess
Love that you mentioned the “arm around” the new source in pictures. This pose denotes Ownership imo. Seen it quite a few times from Narcs. It’s almost a Narc “Tell” haha
I've been 7 months no contact,why does he still pop in my head for no reason I get random thoughts of him all through out the day
Thanks HG. Our discussions have been exceptionally helpful in calming the storm of hurt and pain while injecting some understanding into a situation which seemed insane. Knowing the truth isn't as cathartic as I'd wish it were, but I feel as though I can finally breathe. Thank you.
It does work. And I have been making great strides in my recovery. Thanks.
If this is HG Tudor attempting to fool me...He did a fantastic job especially in the last 2/3 minutes of this piece. This is the most convincing of all his publications to me. We as survivors will come out but Narcs have to live in that dark hole for the rest of their lives. Thats Revenge enough for me!
You have an excellent and powerful voice. Thank you for the videos they help me feel more peaceful. dealing w/ the trauma these people leave you with is challenging. They use people and say the most awful rejecting comments. I do yoga twice a day in the attempt to cleanse myself of their painful discard to remind myself I am worth it. Sending all those effected by these people love and healing ❤️
Received multiplied and returned to you
Whitney G Peterson when l lost him l loose myself and l couldn’t help it l was terrified and helpless but now l understand and time helps but still after months hurts but even though l loved him and still love him l don’t trust him anymore and don’t think his coming back after the damages he left behind he doesn’t even care l think so l trying everyday and morning are difficult but lm working hard to get well and rebuild the ruins
do yoga, go to nature, meet people and do practice self love. Organize your life, find what you love to do, to be with, and you will see how you wont even remember they once existed
@@GEMEINDE_OEKOLAMPADE i trust you are right... Can't wait for this moment to come...
Best thing you can do is go no contact and not look back. The abuse gets worse and worse
You are the best!! I have listened practically to all of your videos & I always look forward to the next one .Just understanding ...the perspective & mindset the narcissist has on life .It is so sad that the narcissist
never wants or can experience Love 💕.Thank you HG for the brutal truth on all you describe it’ s so freaky how you speak about exactly what I endured he was a Greater like you.I was with him for 25 years & discarded him.
He remarried quickly a women 30 years younger then himself.He still Hoover’s about every 2-4 months& he’ s married less then year.
P.S.I do love your voice can only imagine what you look like. I am sure you have broken many hearts❤️ . However I am truly grateful & appreciate all you do..XOXO 😘😘
Thankyou! Spot on.... You have become person who clearly see an narrcistic personally and an empath too...
I've listened to most of your videos and found them extremely helpful. This one is by far my favorite. It's a masterpiece! Congrats HG!
Myself, I am passionate, Greek and have a short fuse. I was hurt deeply. He was playing games. Finally I lost it and humiliated him publicly. Never heard from him again. I understand Mr Tudor that he may come back. Thanks to you, I know that no contact is the way to go. You being I will call a former narcissist, are a godsend. You have a soul. You and Sam Vaknin. ♥️
Awwww HG this was such a lovely pep talk…..thank you 🫶🏻
Fantastic insights and powerful reading. Your words are such a soothing source of healing. One of your best!
My first NARC was the greater, second one midranger
once you go through it, as the only way out - you ARE the happiest person on this planet
Thank you for sharing your wisdom HG Tudor xxx great job xxx Magda
Still questioning my reality. Devastated. Depressed. Scared what he'll do next.
HG, thank you for helping me understand.
I was just watching "getting away with it and what to do about it" for the hundredth re understand and this article popped up. Thank you for continually helping me understand.
Excellent! Thank You! Have you seen the Netflix series ‘Dirty John?’ No body seems to mention or notice he is a psychopath.
I thank u H.G Tudor Luv ya I'm so proud of ur work since ur first day deciding to go this route to redeem urself thru exposing narc in n out n mindsets n why's. God bless u much abundantly
There is no replacing me these videos are chilling and demonic these narcs are a nightmare i can find a much better partner
Pray they found another IPPS while you are trying to escape. If they do have something else run far and fast.
Why does it hurt so bad I can't look in the mirror and look because I feel like a failure
Thank U HG! U helped me heal from the pain and suffering I endured for 7 months! U R helping so many people to understand this kind of abuse! I look forward to UR continued, FANTASTIC videos! ☮️♥️😀
Thank you HG your videos are tremendously helpful.
This is one of your best videos. Thank you!
Glad you are back ! I missed you !!
Your videos really put things into perspective!!!!
Thank you HG. Thank you.
Another great video HG.
Thank you...
My exN would hug my girl friends for 2 nano seconds to long for normalcy - so I started not bringing friends over and eventually ended up isolated.
Thank you HG .
“Crowned the IPPS.” Yeah, crown of thorns!!!!
If it wasn't for his alienated daughter, we would never mention her again. Fearful she is permanently lost.
This was very helpful. Thanks HG.
Hello teacher😃😃😃 This message was Epic with a firery🔥🔥🔥🔥 flame of truth that can never put snuffed out. Brilliant your teaching are. Thank you. I will place this video in my archives. I am a super Nova Empath.😀😀😀🤣🤣🤣🤒🤒🤒🤒😠😠😠😠🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Totally regard your work since it opened my eyes what the heck i been dealing with owe you that thanks for advice im half way there emotionally detaching and moving forward although it has to be cut through step but still finding it hard as i was 1000% pure and gave everything i had😔 but hopeful will get there
This is how it is!!!!! I just sent it to a friend that cant loose from the grip 😱🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Thank you...this is what I needed to hear.
HG Tudor, Thank you very useful information.
Applied your work and walked away now advice some more to move forward and save myself from the greater conspiracies thanks
Thankyou needed to hear this today. Ex narc boyfriend hoovering me after nearly 2 years of no contact. He is blocked but comes up in my spam folder! Its strange but i always get a feeling hes going to get in touch and he does! Xmas eve blank txt, today a message supposed to be sent to his daughter! 😂😂😂 i will never answer him thanks to you H G👍
Thanks H.G.,
GUESS WHAT?
IT WORKED FOR ME.
Lenora Fernandez it worked for me
Absolutely, it once again is what I initially thought it was...dumpy and frumpy.
I don't call them "greater" just extreme.
Absolutely, it once again is what I initially thought it was...dumpy and frumpy.
I don't call them "greater" just extreme.
Thank you HG for another helpful video
@Knowing the Narcissist HG I've been going a month now...NC. Still finding the bond so difficult to break...I'm strong, then emotional, then strong again. Then emotional. Each time I become emotional I find myself on UA-cam trying to reinforce the logic and push out the emotion. While listening to you just now, and this is the second time I have watched this particular video because of it being so soon after NC and I know he has moved on with new source... immediately. I hear what you are saying, and, somehow I feel that this work is changing how you see some things...perhaps you are able to see both sides now even tho you cannot feel certain emotions. I really feel that you DO understand. I know what you are and you know what you are...I just wonder if it has changed the way you interact with people now that you are more aware...in other words perhaps you are more diligent in pushing away those who are emotionally fragile and highly susceptible to someone such as yourself as you're very highly intelligent and aware of the motivations and psychology of people...as well as charming...do you find yourself seeking the company of those who can provide you with more of a healthy exchange who are less likely to be manipulated by yourself as well as keeping your traits in mind when interacting with others. I appreciate your candidness in your videos. It is difficult to hear but the truth hurts. And since I am a truth seeker, I have learned that I still need to hear the truth even if it is not pleasant. Thank you...and forgive me for the lengthy post...
Another good one. HG!
I am a Toaster no more.
Where your attention goes, your energy flows.
Narcs want your energy because they can’t tap in to a source of their own.
Cut them off. Stop playing the games. It’s all a game for them AND now us. Level up.
“You do not need to know anything about the narcissist.” - Yes, I agree. But what if I just cannot be sure whether the person actually was a narcissist? I come out of a complicated relationship situation, with having made stupid mistakes myself, which made me i inclined to relativize respective red flags. After combatting my own gut feelings for a year, I was eventually being discarded and immediately replaced, witnessing the person doing the exact same things with the new supply and going to the exact same places as we did in our honey moon phase. I suffered brutally but pretended to be okay. Then the provocations became even more blatant and I was sent pictures from their romantic holiday trips and the joy of the other person of being in a power position was obvious. I am in the fifth month of no contact ever since then, and I can see many symptoms of BPD and NPD in that girl, but I can also find alternative explanations for lots of the things. I couldn’t bear staying in contact after what had happened, but I just fail to be certain this person was actually toxic and that she deserves to be ignored by me like that. I believe to be strong and radical enough to pull through no contact without looking back, but not as long as I just cannot be sure it is justified and that my ex girlfriend is indeed a toxic individual. What to do?
Thank you for this HG, the information here is invaluable.
Brilliant video...HG
I asked the guy I was involved with if he was dating and he said, "I'm not seeing anyone regularly. I'm being drained by my work". This gave me closure and that worked for me. If I think of contacting him again, I just remember this, what he said, he's obviously dating other people and probably all the time when he was back in his country. It makes me sick to think of it.
Exposed mine now she is gone.
HG thank you so much for your videos! They have helped me so much! I've been involved with a greater narc like yourself for 13 years now, he's a very influential high powered attorney. I didn't know he was a narc til last September when I discovered he had a new girlfriend that he's kept secret for over a year. He's got others too that I'm discovering. He told me all about how he picked up another one
and even admitted about the new PS but now he denies having that new one, he even bought her a new condo etc. I'm an empath and this has been just tearing me to shreds inside. I'm now trying to get away but he says he owns me. Why doesn't he want to admit about his new girlfriend, why is he hiding her and why keep me? What's going on with him? How do I get away? Thx...
Maryanne Gustafson I wish somebody would help you or respond back to you your story is kind of like mine I'm kind of interested to know because I haven't been with mine that long just a year-and-a-half but when he left me he told me I was the most beautifulest woman I've ever met a lot of fear from the most have the most beautiful soul and I gave him hell that he could love somebody he said that he needs to work on himself so we can love somebody know he left me for another woman because he's very spiritual at least at least three to five times a week we were having sex and there's no way that he's going without it so my point is cuz I know he left me for somebody else in the same thing he's not admitting that he left me for somebody else is hiding her I don't know if it's protect for them to protect their relationship which I know eventually down the road with its 50 years and now he'll leave ER so I'm past all that I mean what she's getting off already got which really wasn't nothing sometimes I think I was just may be addicted to the sex if anything with him because he was boring and never one to do nothing and I had to do everything and they're not fun people and if you look at it is great sex really worth being with someone if you don't have other things going on too we had everything in common everything is just sad what happened between the two of us but he's saying for me to get my emotions in check and then in two or three months from now we can be friends that's what he saying and he wants to keep her around and try to triangulate me with her as friends I was with him a couple weeks ago he broke up with me on February 17th so it's been 6 weeks now since you said goodbye but I talked to him five times and I've even been around him and he's still denying it I'm going to tell you what I think is happening he wants to keep you and the new girl he wants to keep both of you would have you against each other and competing for his love I'm not going to fall for it though after the last time I slept with him which was a couple weeks ago and I was desperate and he said it would be the last time but then three weeks ago he invited me to come over to his house and have sex all night he even said that I pissed him off because I told him I was going to slap him when he said he didn't have he don't want for the caissons anymore and that he want to change his life around What a Sad ass excuse to get rid of somebody he might be a narcissist and you might be evil but he's also weak ass pathetic little punk who was 11 years younger than me I could have had my older son whoop his ass but I didn't so anyways I was in this desperation because I saw his new supply drop him off I didn't see her but I know it was a female I don't know if you met her in school because he's a registered nurse and he's trying to get more credits to get paid higher as a nurse I don't know if you met her at the club because we used to go to the club a lot and inside a crying 5 days later he discarded me which is now a month-and-a-half ago he was already seeing someone else even told me he wasn't going to get rid of me right away but now it was the best time but then you still wants to be friends I talked to him two weeks ago so to finish this long story up I apologize I told him I don't know if I wanted his friendship and usable if you call me make sure all your emotions are gone and then we can start being friends again I have heard from this guy right here and other narcissistic experts and on Coral and all the experts that being friends with them is only going to get me in trouble sex money whatever I would love to be friends with him because he doesn't deserve me I'd like to see how is life unfolds but if we stay a part of their life so keep destroying us a narcissist is not going to let you stay in their life unless you're benefiting them so if a narcissist says that they want to be friends they want to be friends all right they still want to suck
She not new she has always been there
Please help my to understand myself , I don't want to get back with the narcissist but why is it that im hurt seeing the narcissist happy with the new supply.
Neutrality, acceptance and reason are higher vibrationally than the emotions narcs have. Transcend. Vibe high.
Listen to Bob Marley “Positive Vibration” song.
Spot on. I got snagged by a couple Hoovers, phone and text only BUT then I was able to play along a bit.. let him get comfy and then drive the silver spike in, of course with plausible deniability. His confusion and rage were quite enjoyable. He'll call again- I'm going to be stuck in his craw forever because of what I was able to do to him 😈 He is enraged at my unfazed, yet polite demeanor that quietly screams lack of respect- he knows I'm laughing at him while behaving as if I care. My lack of response to his attempts to make me jealous is a real sore spot for him and he's positively furious that he has no power over this older, less attractive woman who was so easily able to call him on his sht. I went through the horrible shock & trauma and I was deeply hurt by him but I treated him like a vaccine and got better and better at using his tactics on him. I know his weakest spots 😊. The other thing his is SO enraged about is that he never got to take a free ride on my musical talent. That's what he wanted most. Shucky darn! Thanks HG
Excellent! Best video for sure
I feel absolutely nothing.
Miracles still happen.
Like ,"zero impact".
Thanks .You gave me a new idea :)
Your work Does work , Thank you .
Thank u...a great help indeed !
Thank you..control emotions ya right.
After 4 past hoovers spanning 6 months, I discarded him from the constant cycle of abuse and disrespect. I wounded him and now he moved house 80 miles away. (But we have a small town and he mentioned moving due to no one liking him and our town was against him)
I needed to break away from him. My question is will he move back someday and hoover to get revenge on me?
I think he is a lower middle.
He the cry baby victim type with a temper but has never hit me....however he gets mad quickly and is never content.
Thank you so much 🙏
Hi H.G,., Thank you for your work. I have listened to many of your videos. My ex Narcissist is a Greater, just like you. I feel like I am inside his head when listening to your videos. This last video describes my last 2 and 1/2 years exactly with him. He gathers a lot of fuel from his family and community. He is in professional and leadership positions. He has a new Primary Source. He threw her in my face with great pleasure 6 mos.ago. You said the Mid-Range and Lesser have that chasm and emptiness and are not happy and do not have joy. What about the Greater with all his fuel sources, especially his grand children? Is he happy without me? Does he have contentment because he has the new Primary, family and an intimate religious community? He has tried to hoover a few times since the discard. Nothing since 2 + mos. ago.
Narcissists never feel happiness. No matter where they lie on the spectrum. Remember that fact. They mirror. They fake. The void is still there and they always feel it. That's why they always seek attention somehow. It doesn't matter where they lie on the spectrum. Including psychopaths who lie at the top of the Narcissistic spectrum. Never happy. Always empty. Watch "American psycho" with Christian Bale.
You are the best around. I’m reaching out for private coaching from you
I live in a really small town. her family stays here and shes been hanging around ALOT at the place I use to work. She discarded me on Christmas day with a "I'm done" and disappeared. I've come a long way in 3 months and look better and moved on. She's seen me a few times in the last two weeks and when she sees me its like shes seen a ghost. She attempted a whatsapp message hoover on the 4th of April like nothing had happened - "I've been thinking about you and if you okay. I saw you drove past me this morning and I decided to message you. I know its a stupid thing to do and you don't have to respond if you don't want to". Honestly feels like shes become a stalker now. It's more frustrating than anything else.
My ex narc and I still work at the same company. She has new primary source which she makes sure that I see all the time. Have been applying no contact since 12/18. She has been glaring into my eyes since January and since February she has been able to be at the same place in the company as I am at. That could be at break room or outside in the alleyway towards company parking lot. I see this as if she is trying to make me break no contact. She seems happy with new source. Why should be hoovering me now?
It's a manipulation. Don't fall for her bullshit. She desires control over you again. It enforces her grandiose thinking. Stay NC.
They play games. They enjoy manipulation. Could just be that.
Nehemias Ruiz I think this is risk you take when dating people you work with, it’s messy when it doesn’t work out. I’m not sure if it’s just a narc thing.
She wants to be able to win. Dont give in until she gets to the point of where shes calling you and you know for sure she is hinting st wanting to be with you. Then if you wanna go all randy saaavage set up plans to meet at an old favorite restaurant and stand her up haha. 😂
There is nobody better than me, but I’m glad he thought so.....
Nope, he didn’t really think so, but I was like ‘take a lie detector test’ or GTF!
Thank you 😭
Gracias !
Thank you I cant get enough of that voice! Can you do a video on transgender narcissists?
Found out today he'll be home in 3 months... I'm not strong enough yet. Emotional thinking is fuking me up today😭💔
I really enjoy your videos but sometimes have a hard time hearing them ( this one is especially quiet). Could you please try to make the sound/volume better?
Thanks!
HG
Would you consider making a video dealing with the Super Nova Empath cheating on a Greater? I have watched numerous videos on narcissism and have only found one video dealing with cheating on a narcissist.... your video.
I enjoy your work. Thank you for sharing truth.
I love your videos, but there is something I must highlight. Unless your subconscious mind is healed, applying logic will only cover the wounds for some time, but these wounds will exist and deepen in time. Logic alone CANNOT HELP ANYONE, ON THE CONTRARY IT CAN PROVE DISASTROUS in the course of time. Divinity, Jesus Christ in other words, is the only way to find true healing. Your invaluable information which keeps us posted on narcissism is something that we should all be grateful for, but as an expert that you are, you must know that unless our subconscious mind is healed with the intervention of the divine, we are doomed to repeat the same same pattern in our next relationships.
Thanks
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Nice video.
Please upload more videos
Can you do videos on how to interact with the narc when you are divorcing or divorced with kids involved? Thank you! I can’t go grey rock/no contact with kids.
You should organise the Assistance Package - How To CoParent With A Narcissist or book an audio consultation - see narcsite.com and the menu bar
The grass is greener on the other side for another while hg
Mr Tudor why do they not appericate good looks good woman he is 48 she 26 young girl who like to be on Facebook and he tries to give me money I wanna leave him alone
I can't seem to not need n want my ex fiancee narc of 5yrs n I wana 4 sum reason wanna win his heart back bcuz I cheated n lied to him n he found out n I hurt him n broke his trust
Only reason 4 me doing all that tho is bcuz of consistent verbal n physical abuse
I’m going to share that when I had my ExN go to a retreat for abusive husbands that he wrote my positive traits were “ happy, funny and content.” So that’s what I know he wanted from me and also hated about me. See?
Hg what type are you? Lower, mid or greater?
Mine was mid ranger
HG is a Greater.
He's a greater.
HG is a greater...if you listen to his other vids this is something he had openly admitted. And he explains all types very clearly...
HG is a Most Elite Greater Narcissist. The rarest kind.
Do you even need to ask this question?
Can I plllzzzz speak with u somewhere some how @knowingthenarcissist